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| 1 | This isn't a competition. If you're teasing a girl remember the point isn't to "win" but to have fun in the process.I wasn't upset at all. I actually said it in a really over the top, cocky way with a smile on my face. I mean I know who I am, trust me I've been called scrawny more than once. It's NBD. My initial reaction was to say, "So THAT'S how you flirt with a guy, tell him he's scrawny?" and walk off, but thought that would be a bit too much of a burn. Like I said it's fun to me to try and do that. I really like the girls who seem flat out insulting, they usually crack me up (I thought she was the kind o… | /r/seduction | 09/07/15 09:02 AM |
| 3 | Word to the wise: If you want to experience the highs, you have to be willing to experience the lows.The world is like a ride in an amusement park, and when you choose to go on it you think it's real because that's how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down, around and around, it has thrills and chills, and it's very brightly colored, and it's very loud, and it's fun...for a while. Many people have been on the ride a long time, and they begin to wonder, "Hey, is this real, or is this just a ride?" And other people have remembered, and they come back to us and say, "Hey, don't worry; … | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 09:27 PM |
| 1 | What to do when consistently crossing paths after being flaked? Advice needed.If there is one thing I could teach you it is that you will never, ever, ever, EVER successfully show someone they are "under" you without them rejecting both the idea and you. People will kill each other in order to not feel below others, and we absolutely destroy celebrities and peers who come across as "holier than thou." You're giving your manipulation skills way too much credit (because if you're trying to get her to think/feel a certain way without being interested in her that's the defini… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 08:18 PM |
| 1 | How can I be alpha if there are super alphas in the room ?I've found the people who seem aware of alphas and betas are usually way too transparent with their game. People probably see that you're trying to be alpha which is a total turn off. It's fucked up but everyone's trying to game everyone else but if you draw attention to it it freaks everyone out. You have to make it look like you're not trying too hard to make things happen a certain way. Just pimp yourself the best you can, ignore what others are doing (unless it inspires you or you think it w… | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to hook up with women without them developing feelings for you?I honestly want to be nice to them without them crushing on me for it. I feel like whenever I'm nice to guys everything goes well and is great but with girls it just gets messy and I can't be nice without them taking it as me wanting them. Truth be told at this point I haven't intentionally flirted with a girl in weeks, maybe a month. But even with me just being me I'm having issues with this. There's a couple of girls at work who I had to ignore so they'd stop flirting with me. They just take a… | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to hook up with women without them developing feelings for you?Because girls, even the ones surrounded by their friends, are really insecure a lot of times and really unsure about who they are and what they're doing...and I can see it. I know it's true cause I'll even say, "You seem like you are unsure of yourself," and they'll ask me how I can tell. I can see how a lot of people are unhappy and I just want to bring a little light into their life, help them feel special once in a while. Sometimes that involves hooking up with them if I think it would be fun… | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to hook up with women without them developing feelings for you?Tat's part of the problem I think. I'm a really sweet guy who gives a lot and I think some girls take that as me liking them. But it's not them personally, I do it for everyone. That being said I don't really do hardly any of that stuff with girls. I almost never call girls after hooking up with them (but they'll call me lol). I've been depressed a lot of my life and Buddhism really brought me out of it. It's given me this feeling of metta so I tend to be affectionate towards others (there's eno… | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 07:17 AM |
| 2 | Mark Manson - How to Attract WomenWhat do you do when you can't find girls who like what you like? For example my favorite thing is having a long, drawn out philosophical conversation. When a woman can keep me interested intellectually it turns me on like no other. But when I'm at a bar I can't really find girls who are in the mood for an existentialist argument lol. So what's a guy to do if the things he uses to determine a girl's attractiveness are a turn off to women? | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Great advice [x-post from /r/funny]I think we'll just agree to disagree here. You have your right to believe that (and I guess to remove my post because you do), but some people out there, a lot of people feel really weird when the only reason they feel that way is because they're not confident in the eccentricities that make them a unique person. Too many Sedditors IMO take the things on here and treat them as some sort of assimilation to a certain character (I MUST be Alpha!). And it can be confidence-building and reassuring to… | /r/seduction | 18/01/14 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Great advice [x-post from /r/funny]The whole point is you're probably not weird at all to the other person (just unique) and just feel that way in your head, so if you're confident about all your eccentricities you'll have better success. How is it terrible advice to remind a man it's okay to be himself, even if he feels weird and socially awkward? It may be overgeneral but honestly it's little things like this that I think about when I'm starting to feel out of state. | /r/seduction | 18/01/14 04:38 PM |
| 6 | How can we ever be secure in our LTR's?Holding a puking girlfriend's hair isn't beta at all. That's actually gonna be considered pretty alpha in the girl's eyes. Once you've dated a girl for a while the chase is over and both of you know it. So a good guy (and girl for that matter) will do things to make that chase feel like it's still on: say something you would have when you first met, fuck her like you did the first time you met her, do something for her so outrageously affectionate she can't resist it (or you), etc. Do random, sp… | /r/seduction | 12/01/14 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Overwhelming amount of things to keep in mind, how does everyone manage to keep tabs on all this stuff when in action?When you refer to it as the heat of the moment it implies you're feeling a lot of pressure? If so remember the first rule of this is to have fun. We hear it but it's so much harder to get laid when you're not having fun. In fact it's better to have fun and forget all other elements of pickup than it is to remember everything and be nervous, unhappy, etc. Next time you go out play a fun game and try to NOT game a hot girl and just talk to her. You'll realize you remember all the stuff you've been… | /r/seduction | 12/01/14 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Is there anyone in around around Philly? I will be moving there soon.West Philadelphia, born and raised. (I'll see myself out) | /r/seduction | 12/01/14 09:08 AM |
| 7 | How do you react to seductive/teasing snapchats?Is this a joke? Surely this is a joke, do women enjoy a photo of just a dick? | /r/seduction | 12/01/14 12:20 AM |
| 1 | I have no social value, should I just give up completely?It's not your place to determine your value, it's hers. If you do it for her you will fail. | /r/seduction | 31/12/13 10:27 PM |
| 2 | What's your best response to "Are you flirting with me?"?If a girl asked me that, I'd be thinking, "Is this high school?" | /r/seduction | 31/12/13 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Kissed a girl at the club, then freaked her out.She needs to trust you. IMO making out is fine because it's fun, affectionate and playful and doesn't imply anything else. But asking a girl to leave with you is way more serious because you're implying sex already, which is a mile away from kissing for a girl. Something that serious requires she know you, or at least be around you long enough to feel comfortable. On another note, kudos for having the balls to ask her what you want. The hardest part is over with, the rest is just tact. | /r/seduction | 31/12/13 07:14 PM |
| 8 | DAE find that women really don't have very good game at all?I've found different things happen to me. Like a girl will treat me like her friends until we hook up and then she acts totally different. A lot of times she'll pretend to not be as into me around her friends as she really is. Or she'll pretend she's not posessive at all in public, but in private tell you to stay away from her hottest friend because she doesn't trust her lol And there's different types of chases. A fun girl knows when to slow down her run to make the experience as fun as possibl… | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Do you guys run in to problems with girls going down on you the first time you hook up?Oral by far. Daughter can't get pregnant from oral. | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Do you guys run in to problems with girls going down on you the first time you hook up?Okay. Any thing to do about this? Is it just a form of LMR or is it just not going to happen? | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Greeting a group of girls with "Hey guys"I call them girls. And the older they are the more they like it. Source: Server. Call a table of 80-year old women "girls" and they will often times giggle with happiness. Call 40-year olds that and they'll sometimes say something. Anything lower than that and you don't really get much of a response (because it seems like a normal thing to say). | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 06:54 AM |
| 1 | When, if ever, is it appropriate to simply tell a girl that I have a crush/interest in her?After you've fucked her. And only then if you want a girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to seduce after giving off a beta impression?I've found admitting I'm nervous because I find her extremely beautiful works, but only later in the process, after you've gotten intimate with her (kissing at least). Usually the sheer vulnerability of the moment catches them off guard. I've gotten nothing but good reactions when I'm honest with them. I'll put their hand on my heart if they're a good kisser so they can hear my heart race. If I pop a boner from making out, I just say that I'm really getting into it and she's getting me really ho… | /r/seduction | 15/12/13 04:45 AM |
| 7 | Are good looking short guys at an advantage because of their looks??I'm 5'8" and about 130 with a baby face. I found getting girls to be comfortable around me is a lot easier than when other guys do, and I feel like part of it is because I'm not as threatening physically. | /r/seduction | 15/12/13 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?All I usually do is take a photo of us together then look at her pictures, but she doesn't know that so she has to trust me. I just do it to mess around with her and make her jump through a hoop and trust me. If she doesn't like me doing that I tell her, "Okay, show me your favorite photo of yourself." A girl will enjoy that 999/1000. Context, man. Edit: When in sales you do things that push people along. You find you can push people very well in certain situations when you convince them you are… | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?The weird thing is almost no one thinks it's rude in real life because it's all about how you do it and it's in context. The people in this thread have given me more resistance than I've gotten in the field doing this for the whole year or so. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 11:06 PM |
| 0 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?Just jaded... | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Any ideas for reawakening one's desire for seduction?Yeah. I find myself seeing how far I can go and how fast I can do it. It's always in a way both of us will enjoy but you start seeing how we all do the same thing in the same situation and it's like you can tell what's going to happen before it does which is...boring. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?Oh I have failed a lot lol and been rejected a lot but who cares? Plus When it works...OMG it works soo well. I sound rude and maybe I am but I don't understand why people are soo against being direct and doing those things no other guy does. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 03:25 AM |
| 0 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?First I never ask for passwords, I just try to look at their phone. And I'd be stupid to give out info online, that's called identity theft. But...if you were a girl at my place or on my phone is so you. wanted to. He'll my best friend knows the pin number to my bank account.If I'm afraid she might steal my credit card or money I shouldn't stick my dick in her. Is this really that hard to get? | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?Okay buddy, but if someone talking like this to you online makes you create a post with the sole purpose of telling them they're not being "chill" (instead of offering some sort of content/elaboration to maybe help others who aren't in the conversation gain insight) then you might want to tone down how sensitive you are to constructive criticism. Either that or you're trying to out-"cool" me over the internet which is pretty silly so I won't assume that. Edit: You don't have to take my advice, b… | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 10:15 PM |
| -1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?Chill will get you nowhere but jerking off to porn while half-drunk an hour after closing time. If you want to get laid forget being chill, wear your personality like a Armani suit and do things that throw girls off slightly. Fuck with them and let them entertain you. | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 10:05 PM |
| -1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?What? It's being pushy and doing shit like this that gets me handjobs and other things in bathrooms within hours of meeting girls. If a woman doesn't want to share her phone with you, she doesn't want to share her pussy either. And if it's hard for her to deal with, she'll nicely take her phone and show you what she wants to see before she freaks out. Just saying I think you need to come to terms with the fact no one is watching you, no one really cares about you all that much and you can get aw… | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:56 PM |
| -4 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?Oh yes, because if you don't like it it must be horrible for everyone, right? I mean, is that what you're implying? That if you don't do it or it doesn't make sense to you then it's "a horrible shit test?" You need to get over yourself a little, man. It's just a phone. Unless you're a fucking terrorist there's nothing on your phone that anyone else gives nearly as much of a fuck about as you do. Even a naked photo is no big deal, and half the time girls will SHOW YOU their naked photos, or at le… | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:53 PM |
| -2 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?So fucking her is fine but looking at her phone is too much? It's a shit test. If she gets uppity about it she fails. And if she doesn't she passes. This is the sort of thing I use to determine whether a girl is my type or not. | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Fear - Anxiety - Attraction. What do they have in Common? A study done in North Vancouver answered this question.Cool. I appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?People are interested in their own immediate gratification and excitement. If she's on a date with you that's fine, but what if the phone is even more exciting than you are (if only for a second or two)? The truth is it's human nature for people to be emotion junkies. And so she's probably trying to get some sort of joy out of her texts. | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:21 PM |
| -2 | Discussion: what to do when girls use their phones during interaction with them?When she's done I'll pick it up and start looking through it (if it's password locked I'll tell her to put in her password) If she doesn't like me doing this I'm probably not her type anyway because she's probably way too uppity for me if she's getting upset over someone looking at her phone. And if she does it opens up tons of conversations and it shows you she either trusts you or people in general (a good thing). For the record she can look at mine, too. No secrets = liberation | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Fear - Anxiety - Attraction. What do they have in Common? A study done in North Vancouver answered this question.So this kind of blew my mind because I just posted this and I feel like it could be similar. Would you mind answering it either here or on my thread? http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1s0spy/any_ideas_for_reawakening_ones_desire_for/ | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 09:12 PM |
| 0 | How to get INTO the Friendzone?I know this is going to sound crazy but I want you to do me a favor if you don't mind. If you would, please take this moment to gently close your eyes, take a deep breath in and out and do your best to try and get quiet and pay attention to whatever sound you hear in the room (even if it's no sound). It will only take like five seconds and I promise you'll feel better after you do it. And if you're ever so inclined you could string as many of those deep breaths you want in a row and it will mayb… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:42 AM |
| 0 | How far to escalate kino in public?This is one of those problems that only exists when there isn't a problem. If you do something and she's not down with it you'll know, trust me. Girls are great at helping you out in the seduction process if you let them. If she hadn't done anything to let you know you went too far there's a chance you could have kept going. She may have been the girl who is down for fingerbanging in public. Hell, she might have been down to suck you off in a bathroom. She may have gone way farther than you woul… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:31 AM |
| 2 | How to kino a girl when your sitting at a table, in front of each-other?A PUA would commend you not only for the kino but for making her reach for your hands. An excellent way to meet a woman indeed! | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:14 AM |
| 1 | How to kino a girl when your sitting at a table, in front of each-other?I learned a little bit about jewelry (like what stones are when I see them) so I can kind of start my way into a conversation about rings. This lets you know really quickly whether the girl you're into likes jewelry or not, and a lot of times if you don't know something they will and then they can teach you something :-). And you might pick up an appreciation for jewelry in the process. | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:12 AM |
| 2 | No problem talking to girls, but how do I be sexual in conversation?I know it's over played but "That's what she said" works really well. It lets people know you are a sexual being without anyone feeling like it's being pointed at them. You can even customize it to not sound like everyone else so if it's like a positive one (e.g. a girl at work* talking about a brochure I'm designing said), "I don't think it will fit there." So instead of saying, "That's what she said," I said, "Well maybe if we give the brochure a drink first, that always works for me." It made… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:00 AM |
| 1 | What are your guy's opinion on RSD and tyler's philosophies?After listening to a four day seminar he did I took the next logical step and started reading Eckhart Tolle. From there I became infatuated with Zen Buddhism and actually became celibate for awhile in order to focus on my meditation and Dharma (it was surprisingly easy, I craved Zen experience so much even my libido dropped). But I became so...complete feeling despite having no girl around me and having not been laid in six moths. I lost everything in this process and gained everything immediate… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 07:30 AM |
| 0 | What are your guy's opinion on RSD and tyler's philosophies?They give some permission to believe in themselves, because how fucked up it really is a lot of people actually trust Tyler more than they do their self. And these people need those people they look up to to tell them, "You don't need me, you have every answer you need." And so they do so in such an eloquent and persuasive way that it sinks in. And in hindsight you think, "Why did I need some PUA to tell me to trust myself?" It sounds crazy and it probably is but it's true and if you don't get t… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 07:19 AM |
| 0 | Q. What do you talk about in a loud night club?It boils down to this. You can compromise yourself to yield results and it will work, but at what cost? This is a personal choice everyone has to make, with no right or wrong answer. If you say, "Fuck that," and have a lifestyle that meets you 2 girls a month then that's fine if you're fine with that. If you constantly put yourself in situations where you absolutely can't stand the environment you're in (and a lot of the people you're meeting) but can bring home girls 2-3 times a week then that'… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 07:14 AM |
| 1 | So I'm basically a giant pussy when it comes to striking up convo with females I don't know. Last night at a bar my friend pretty much threw me in face first and I pretty much bombed it. Still have residual anxiety from last night thinking about it. Could use some advice.Keep going. You're over the worst part! Also force yourself to come up with a rational reason for your fear. What do you want from this person to make you afraid you won't get it? Is it validation? Sex? Why are you doing this to yourself? It's really a catch with social anxiety because if you're not coming from a place of fun it's really hard to give advice but you're not going to have any fun as long as you're afraid. For me I still have anxiety (I am an amazing opener but am afraid to close), … | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 07:07 AM |
| 0 | I know how stupid I must sound, but can you explain kino to me like I'm five?I resent your tone. You're not an idiot, and you don't sound stupid. Even Albert Einstein had to learn what algebra was. Don't be too hard on yourself, because it really gets you nowhere. :-) That being said I'll say the most important part is not what you do but how you do it. Touch a girl in an affectionate and playful way. If you're touching her to touch her it will usually seem creepy. Example, if I come up and start touching a girl without context she'll be all like WTF. But if you go up to… | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 07:01 AM |
| 1 | [Video] The REAL Secret of Confidence that Nobody Has Told You Yet.I know I'm not OP, let alone the expert he is, but basing this off my experience yes it is difficult. IMO this outward state takes practice to get into on command. Some religions consider the moment when a person enters a completely external state to be a state of ultimate enlightenment. So it's something that can be done, but it takes extreme self-support and patience. The truth of the matter is if you're like me you're probably going to feel that gut punch regardless of how good you get at thi… | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 04:15 AM |
| 1 | [Video] The REAL Secret of Confidence that Nobody Has Told You Yet.I found this concept to be very similar to the concept of "mindfulness" in Buddhism (in a good way). Anyone out there looking for some more details into methods for putting yourself in this state could try Googling books on mindfulness. You'd probably be pretty satisfied with the results. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 04:01 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/1/13 (please upvote - zero karma)How can I get over my self-limiting beliefs that being 5'7" and 125 lbs. makes me unattractive to women? I try to but then some girl will say something about how she's probably stronger than me and I lose my state. | /r/seduction | 02/07/13 03:18 AM |
| 2 | So in the last month or so I've had some crazy transformations happen to me that I'd like to share and maybe help someone out. Maybe I can get some help with where to go too?I hate to tell people what's best for them, but going to the doctor seems to be one of the better choices I have made. I got freaked out by horror stories but then I decided to overcome my fear of it and went ahead. I found what it did mostly was control my social anxiety. Like talking to people went from scary to exciting to fun to interesting. And now I can't get enough of girls. It just seems crazy easy when you aren't afraid anymore. Last side note I do have a side effect. When I hook up now… | /r/seduction | 28/06/13 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Where is the line between courage and neediness?what makes an approach courageous, and what makes it needy? Where your mindset is. Ask yourself why you are going up to this girl to talk to her. If it's to get laid, you're going to have problems. First off you'll feel pressure because you feel like you have to accomplish something with her, and second this intent to get something from her will be telegraphed in your mannerisms. Try this: Next time you go out don't try to get a number, kiss or anything. The reason I say this is because I feel l… | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 12:03 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/17/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Any tips for someone who isn't the best conversationalist? I have no approach anxiety opening or even in most other phases. I just have problems knowing how to get intimate with a woman, even if I get sexual with her. | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 06:57 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/14/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Is it possible to escalate too quickly? I feel like now that I've gotten over my fear of women I may be moving too fast. I escalate, but when I meet resistance it usually spoils the mood. Any tips on general rules to max kino in certain situations? | /r/seduction | 14/06/13 08:59 PM |
| 1 | What to do when one close watches you # close?This is tough. Part of the allure of attraction is feeling special, which she now no longer does. Just continue. If she has a problem with it then there's nothing you can do about it. If she doesn't have a problem, invite the other girl too. | /r/seduction | 13/06/13 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Guys of seddit! What can a girl do to get your attention without being obvious?Be obvious. It's cool, we won't think badly of you. | /r/seduction | 30/05/13 05:43 PM |
| 1 | This is one of my favorite pickups I've ever seen. I'm no expert in PUA, so what did he do right? wrong?That's because you didn't like it. One girl's hot is another girl's creepy. It feels weird when it's not you in the mix. | /r/seduction | 10/05/13 08:26 PM |
| 1 | How should i go about calling a girl out on her texting while with me?If you're eating just tell them, "No texting at the dinner table." | /r/seduction | 10/05/13 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Girls look down at their feet when they walk by me?Yeah, as a matter of fact, that's great. Say with a big smile on your face, "So, do you see anything interesting down there?" One of two things will happen: she'll either open up and start talking or she won't. You can't squeeze blood out of a turnip. If a girl isn't looking at you and doesn't want to talk then you can't really make her (nor would you want to, talking to these kinds of girls sucks). But, she might start talking to you which is how it always starts. | /r/seduction | 10/05/13 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on dealing with a girl who has a boyfriend?I'm not waiting. She's just in my social circle and I see her a lot (she's seen me hook up with other girls and all). I know she likes me but I don't fuck with that. But, I don't want to be just a friend to her if they break up in 2 months from now. I guess just wondering how to keep the tension if I can't escalate any farther with her having a boyfriend. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Trouble viewing myself as attractiveIt depends. A lot of colleges have doctor's offices on campus and/or connections to local, free mental health facilities. Any of it is worth a shot. I mean, think about how good it will feel when you can think you're good-looking. Why wouldn't you want to try it out? | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Trouble viewing myself as attractivehaving a negative body image is still an issue a psychologist can help with. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 03:01 AM |
| 1 | What are some ways to get woman who are stand offish because they get hit on all the time to open up?Talk to her like you would a girl you don't find attractive. Don't bring up that you don't find her attractive (cause that's just rude), but just don't bring it up period. On the other hand, get physical with her, look her in the eyes and stay playful. Act sexual, talk like a friend. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:46 AM |
| -1 | What do you do when you are teasing with a girl and she takes it wrong or is in a bad mood and totally snaps and causes a scene?Play it off. Whenever a girl does that to me my standard response is act playfully offended. Don't even say anything, just act like you're acting like you're hurt and move on (Maybe a sarcastic, "Ouch, that hurt!") If it really does hurt your feelings just say to yourself, "Fuck that cunt." Anyone who talks like that to other people is a horrible person, female or male, black or white, whoever. It's hard to think that way when the girl is hot but fuck that bitch, seriously. That was really rude … | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:40 AM |
| 6 | Having problems with Arrogance. I'm trying to be *Confident*, but instead I'm coming off as cocky and not fundamentally nice.This is a common side effect of someone trying to act confident when they aren't. It seems disgenuine so comments that would be considered the jokes of a confident man come across as rude and cocky. Next time you're out forget all of the stuff you've read on here and try playing a simple game. There's only one rule: do or say whatever the hell you want. This game worked absolute wonders for me. I started off playing it and doing absolutely nothing but sitting in my chair sipping beers with my gu… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Interactions with girls going nowhere.What are you thinking about whenever you are having a conversation with a girl? If you answer anything but "The conversation" that will be your answer. Girls require conversations to seem like they have no agenda other than to enjoy the moment. They can sense when you want something like sex or a number from them and it turns them off. If this is you the best bet is to distract yourself. Try thinking about the conversation. The moment you do this for the first time it'll feel scary but go with i… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:23 AM |
| 4 | Trouble viewing myself as attractiveDude, as a straight guy you're hot. You're tripping over something in your head, totally. On a superficial level you have nothing to worry about, but seeing how that answer may not satisfy you I'll explain why it doesn't matter. Not to be rude but you talk like you're depressed and if so that explains it. Keep in mind a lot of the thoughts you have are just ways to make sense out of how you feel. So when you become depressed (or maybe you have been for as long as you can remember), what happens?… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:10 AM |
| 3 | If I were a girl, I wouldn't want to date me. How do I start to like myself?I don't think anyone else can help you with this answer. Ultimately what you're looking for is going to be found deep within you. It sounds like maybe seeing a doctor/psychologist might help if you're experiencing any social anxiety or depression. That being said I will offer some insight. I found a lot of pressure left me when I started realizing women are people too. Sounds funny but I would always read how to be a "perfect alpha male" then psych myself out thinking I had to be James Bond just… | /r/seduction | 26/04/13 10:22 AM |
| 4 | How do I manage to keep the same frame/state throughout all my interactions with the same girl?Because the first night you meet her you're probably bringing a level of energy to the table that is unnatural for you. It's normal to do this, it's probably because you're excited to be talking to a hot girl. Two things I can suggest. One is to be okay with being quiet and mean once in a while. You're a human being who feels all sorts of feels so there's no reason to think you should be in a preferential mood 24-7. You're not here to entertain her, you're here to have a mutually good time. If s… | /r/seduction | 26/04/13 10:10 AM |
| 2 | When is giving considered being a "Nice Guy"?Ask yourself, "Would I still want to give if I knew ahead of time I would get absolutely nothing in return?" If so, then keep doing what you're doing. If not, then don't. As far as what other's think...fuck it. | /r/seduction | 26/04/13 05:26 AM |
| 1 | What is going through your head when you are talking to a girl?IMO meditation is difficult. Sometimes after 30 minutes my mind feels like I've been reading a really hard textbook. I compare it to learning a mental balance beam. It takes practice to learn how to find your center. The longer you do it the easier you can find and keep it. And finally, you'll learn how to do cool tricks like find your center in a crowded club. And that's pretty cool. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 11:10 PM |
| 1 | What are some topics you tend to focus on when first meeting a woman?Yeah I kind of just ignore them. Like I feel bad for them because they just CAN'T let go. Plus I'm not going to not be me for someone else either. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 11:00 PM |
| 1 | What are some topics you tend to focus on when first meeting a woman?I do this a lot, but I always get the vibe a lot of girls think I'm too weird for them when I talk like this (especially girls in groups), especially girls like sorority sisters and stuff. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Direct or indirect in this case?Show her it's a date with your actions. Do things that will not let her know 100% it's a date, but will give her all the clues she needs to know it is using her intuition. A big way to do this is kino escalation! | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:44 PM |
| 1 | General Advice for an awkward guy going into college.If you feel awkward then you need to learn how to talk to girls. So learn that first. Learn how to just have a normal conversation with a girl. I know initially you think that's silly and you're already good enough at just talking, but I promise you aren't as unflappable just having a normal conversation as you think you are. Try going up to a hot girl in a club and talking to her without an agenda. Don't ask for her number at first, just to prove that whatever happens doesn't matter. It's hard,… | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Here's a graph showing why you shouldn't waste time figuring out if it's a shit testSo I just started doing something where when people bust on me and I start to explain myself, I go and do the opposite and just agree with them and take it one step farther. I was at my friend's and accidentally dropped a glass. My friend said, "Jeez, Nebula," in a joking voice. My reaction was to explain why I accidentally dropped it but instead I was like, "I know, right? I'm just a cup killa." TL;DR: Make the shit test yours. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:26 PM |
| 0 | What's a good response to "you probably say that to every girl" or "do you say that to every girl?"I bet you say that to all the boys" | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Sedditors, if you're already out at a club/bar and you find yourself falling out of state, what do you do to get yourself back into state?I've just started doing this but number one is GET UP if you're sitting down. Then if they have a jukebox pick out something you want to hear. get interactive with the environment, basically. Become part of the bar instead of just in it. Something that's served me well is, "Don't be afraid to make a damn fool out of yourself." You shouldn't actively try to be weird, but do whatever it takes to start enjoying yourself, even if it's a freaking cartwheel. I also rub my face with my hands like I'm w… | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 10:03 PM |
| 1 | (Beginner) So it's finally happened...I'm fearless towards women. Now what?I don't know. Although I'm having fun I kind of feel like a little kid now who just doesn't know any better. Just trying gets me farther than before (not trying) but I still don't get a lot of girls or anything. Like a girl told me she was married and I asked her if that was a problem. She looked at me like, "WTF?" I guess I'm saying that now that I'm fearless I'm realizing I'm kind of tactless as well. Like if this was baseball I'm not afraid of the ball anymore but I still need to learn how to… | /r/seduction | 18/04/13 07:16 PM |
| 7 | I feel guilty when my AFC behaviors resurface.I wrote quite a bit. Didn't think you would mind. Some of this may seem kind of rough on you but it's tough love, bro. Understand what you may see as mean or rude I see as me trying to be as direct as possible. To start with the problem isn't the behaviors, it's the guilt. Let's cut the crap, you are pushing yourself to perfection because you don't think you're good enough now. But that doesn't work, as you can tell. Some trick themselves into thinking it will but it doesn't. With that attitude … | /r/seduction | 13/12/12 06:54 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First time out in forever--Kiss close. More importantly though I learned a lot about how to overcome my fears. If you too, have a problem with fear, you might want to give this a read (long).I'm not going to lie. Most of the time it doesn't feel like I have very good control of my avoidance. A lot of times it seems like my best isn't good enough. The way I wrote this probably made my internal struggle seem somewhat easy, but I assure you it's not easy at all (maybe simple, but not easy). In the interest of being totally transparent I'll say this: For every time I've been flirting with a girl and decided to just say, "Fuck it," and go for a kiss, there have been a lot more times wher… | /r/seduction | 08/12/12 08:34 PM |
| 8 | [FR] First time out in forever--Kiss close. More importantly though I learned a lot about how to overcome my fears. If you too, have a problem with fear, you might want to give this a read (long).LOL it's kind of weird how most people don't understand. Most people become more afraid when they don't know if a girl likes them or not, but for us it's scarier when we know they do want us cause that means we have to make a choice to either try and face our fear or run. I remind myself the irrationality of my thoughts. It's absurd to think that if a girl likes me she's going to automatically try and hurt me at some point. It's silly to think that just because someone disagrees with me once the… | /r/seduction | 08/12/12 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Confession: I've been lurking for over a year and still have not approached a girl. Can't get sustained motivation.I know this is over three weeks old, but Jesus, OP, quit being so hard on yourself. Even in the first few sentences of your post you're already anticipating others' criticism. And then you simply list a bunch of ways you feel inadequate and how you have to do all of these things to be good enough. And then, you finish by apologizing for your whole post. What's the deal, man? Why do you feel so inadequate? What's so wrong with who you are right now? Why do you not feel like you aren't good enough… | /r/seduction | 08/12/12 03:28 AM |
| 15 | [FR] First time out in forever--Kiss close. More importantly though I learned a lot about how to overcome my fears. If you too, have a problem with fear, you might want to give this a read (long).I didn't mean to give that impression. It didn't feel easy at all, and I definitely said and did some counterproductive things. A few times when I was just going with how I felt I said something that didn't seem to go over well, which made me worry that no one would like me because for some reason I always assume the worst :-(. There was another time too, later on in the night that I bailed completely. This frat guy she knew showed up and gave her a hug and started being really friendly with her… | /r/seduction | 08/12/12 02:28 AM |
| 2 | It seems the further I get into seduction, the worse I feel when there is a 'cold streak'I have some questions if you don't mind. You don't have to answer me (maybe better if you didn't) but do me a favor and answer them to yourself. The only requirement is to be honest with yourself, true honesty is the first step. Do you ever feel inadequate with who you are right here and right now? Do you ever feel insufficient, like you could be so much "better" than you are now? You may be, happy, but maybe not content or confident in who you are? Or do you ever feel like a work in progress? L… | /r/seduction | 06/12/12 03:32 AM |
| 5 | I always put the woman I'm attracted to most on a pedestalAsk her out. It's that simple. If you're nervous about it just tell yourself, "It may be awkward as fuck, but I will ask her out." Women are easier than we give them credit for. They kind of want the same thing we do so as long as she's on the market and likes you, you can pretty much ask her out however and she'll go along with it. You don't have to trick her into liking you or anything, she probably is already sold and you're just "signing paperwork." :-) | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:41 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid getting pity-sex while having Cancer?Alright so hear me out. The deal is you have to be honest. You do have cancer so don't lie, just don't bring it up and if it does go with it. As far as pity sex, I think that's bullshit. Pity is about the farthest thing from hot that there is. Did it ever occur to you that it takes a lot of strength to have the energy to go to a bar while undergoing treatment, and that keeping a positive outlook is difficult for many to do? I may be a straight male, but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figu… | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:27 AM |
| -1 | How do you fake confidence? (fake it till you make it)Dude, they're just girls. No need to be confident just to talk to a girl. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:20 AM |
| 7 | I always put the woman I'm attracted to most on a pedestalI'm going to let you in on a little secret. There isn't any non-sociopathic straight male on earth that hasn't met a few women who leaves him paralyzed with adoration. This is normal to a point. Just don't assume you should be completely emotionless around women. That's the best part about dating is letting go with someone and them being totally fine with you anyway. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:07 AM |
| 2 | How to make it clear you are interested in her sexually, without looking like a perv?This may seem off-topic but instead of worrying about what to do ask yourself why you would feel like a perv for being horny as fuck? Do you think it's wrong to want to have sex with a girl within seconds of meeting her? Do you want her to give you head in the bathroom stall? If so, be honest with yourself (I wouldn't tell her how you feel necessarily, unless you think she may be down) and tell yourself what you really want. The honesty will set you free and you won't feel like a perv anymore. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 05:55 AM |
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