I'm really afraid to get intimate with girls because I don't want to hurt their feelings when I'm not as interested as they are. Any ideas on how to get over this?

RagingOrator · 2013-11-18T08:00:44+00:00

You just need to modify your approach.

I'm at a point in my life I have no interest in a regular relationship. I want casual fun, but I don't hide this fact either.

I'm very upfront with my intentions, and this does filter off a lot of girls off my radar. Then again you will be surprised with how many girls are ok with this, or want the same thing.

You don't need to choose between feeling bad, and not getting women. You just need to make your intentions clear from the get go.

patroldog · 2013-11-18T14:58:55+00:00

When you first get intimate with a girl, before you start screwing its worth stopping and saying "Listen, you're a sweet girl but you gotta know I'm not really a relationships guy." I have yet to meet the girl who didn't go through with it anyway.

MarkSBKK · 2013-11-18T10:03:03+00:00

Stop worrying so much about things you have little control over. Using "I don't want to hurt other peoples feelings" as a excuse for not getting intimate with them is lame.

itsmevichet · 2013-11-18T15:02:40+00:00

Be congruent, be genuine, make it known that you're not into relationships.

Women can make their own sexual choices. If you feel like a woman in particular will give you drama, don't sleep with her. The vast majority are cool with a fling as long as you don't do anything crappy afterward.

ChillBroSwagginz · 2013-11-18T19:53:02+00:00

Be blunt. Let them know what your expectations are before the deed (not right when you meet them... be tactful). I think it's important to note that even if you're blunt some women will say one thing, but think another. If they're into you, and they know you're non committal then it's really not your fault later on and they know it.

kingcal · 2013-11-19T03:40:12+00:00

Tell them straight up on the first date that you're not looking for a relationship. They'll decide on their own if they're okay with that.

joshsway · 2013-11-18T13:51:11+00:00

This is extremely common as generally, the bar for women to hook up is much higher emotionally than it is for men so this will happen to you a lot. I usually just let things fade away or just not call them afterwards. It sucks for them, but the only real alternative is to have much less sex (only with women you are interested in for a lot more) and I kinda just prefer to be an asshole than that option! And yes, I feel crappy about it, but I still am happy with my choice.

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