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| 1 | Oneitis, neediness and forgiveness. How did you forgive yourself for it?Those with the strongest inner game are very used to picking themselves up after failure. It's a learning process, and unfortunately, a lot of times the only way to harden to that lesson is to redo it. I'm not saying try to fail. But, each one will hurt less if you just stay objective about it. You did A, B happened, sometimes there's bad luck involved, move on. It's not happening to you anymore, so stop dragging it around. | /r/seduction | 10/05/16 02:34 PM |
| -5 | How do you maintain a strong frame when another guy comes into the set?Isolate. "Let's go to another spot I know." Maintain that alone, face-to-face time. Also, if all it took was some rando coming up and interrupting you for her to become disinterested in you, you likely didn't have enough rapport to do anything anyway. | /r/seduction | 11/03/16 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Witnessed something amazing Friday in high schoolI go away for like, a year, and this has become text, Facebook, and twitter wanking. And high school students. So many high school students. | /r/seduction | 21/12/15 03:25 PM |
| -2 | I lack the sex drive to pursue a girl.I really need to boost my testosterone levels I think. Why? It's not like you get a prize for having lots of sex. It sounds like you don't even want to have a lot of sex. Unless you're lying to yourself, and by extension, lying to us. Do you really want to have sex, but are making up circuitous excuses to explain your behavior, which is likely just motivated by fear, like 99 percent of guys who have ever had issues talking to women? There are two possibilities here: You're telling the truth. In … | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 03:06 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/9/15What if I told you you don't need confidence to do anything, ever, and that confidence is something you build by putting yourself consistently out of your comfort zone? It's not like "having confidence" magically allows you to press x to "introduce self." Having confidence is doing the thing that you fear in spite of yourself. It is not some thing you start out with. So go talk to this girl. You don't need anything beforehand to do so. Even if you get rejected, you'll have gotten that much bette… | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I'm not about to keep buying drinks for these girls over and over. How to gracefully not pay, but maintain attraction?A lot of women say that until they meet a guy they find attractive. The only ones I find who REALLY stuck to the dogma of a guy paying are women who grew up in a culture where gender norms were much more strictly enforced - Eastern Europeans and Asian cultures come to mind. In any case, a woman explicitly telling you that her attraction to you is linked to dollar signs is not who you want to be going after unless money is really no object for you. | /r/seduction | 01/10/15 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Is there such a thing as overdoing it?Are you having too much fun for you? Are you having it at the expense of the things that make you happy? Are you doing things you normally wouldn't do just to keep up appearances or hit some arbitrary goals to make life the "way you think it should be" rather than the way you want it to be? Then yeah, you might be taking it too far. Are random people who you hang out with making jokes? That's something people do. Be authentic. Be you. If you're not hurting anyone, who cares? | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Text Game - How to provide value without asking questions?In person, padawan. If she's not up to meet with you, there's nothing you can say to change her mind via text. Maybe your profile needs work? 99 percent of texts when it comes to dating should be about when and where to meet up. Anything you would say to get to know her can be said in person, with calibration and kino to help. | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 07:50 PM |
| 16 | As a girl who's been on countless dates - great things guys have done to pick me up, and a few notes on when I've picked up girls.It doesn't matter whether women are self-aware or introspective. What matters is that men don't get into a pigeonhole of advice circlejerking. The way to understand women, ultimately, is to be around them. So, although it holds true that you'd ask a fisherman how to fish, rather than the fish, the only way YOU become an expert is by getting up every morning and spending time tossing out the line. That means spending time with the fishies. I dunno where the dogma of "ignore what women are trying … | /r/seduction | 21/08/15 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Guys on here that have slept with a lot of women, how did you do it?One or two at a time. All kidding aside, meeting lots of people, being open to sex but not always chasing sex (that paradigm shift has exploded results), appreciating people for who they are and respecting boundaries, being straight up. But, yeah, never hiding my intentions is also a big one. Every girl I find attractive knows I find her attractive within the first two minutes of meeting me. Not being afraid of rejection, and putting much less value on women who are withholding pretty much allow… | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 08:30 PM |
| 16 | I want to have abundance mentality but my gf won't let me...Dump jealous GF. Profit? I mean seriously. What kind of sane woman would make you stop hanging out with ALL of your female friends? She's got issues to sort out and you're not a therapist. And more importantly, what kinda guy would hang around in this situation? Don't be that guy. | /r/seduction | 12/08/15 03:59 PM |
| 8 | Tips to lay off overtextingPut down the phone. Find something to fill all the hours that you would otherwise spend texting because you had nothing better to do. Get awesome at that thing. Beers for all involved. | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Girl I'm around a lot flirts with other guys in front of me?I feel like we should all post this same answer to make sure OP gets it. | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 04:36 PM |
| 1 | how did you tell your crush you liked her and where?"Hey, I like you. Want to get coffee/a drink/whatever sometime?" The location is pretty much anywhere. I'll say one thing - even though I was a chump for the bigger part of my life, at least I was never afraid of approaching or expressing myself. Counting my blessings. | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 04:34 PM |
| 1 | How can I be seen as a "lover" and not a "provider" if I seem rich?But what if I have a nice home and a nice car but still wanna game? The problem with this post is that you start with "what if?" meaning nothing positive or negative has happened to you yet because of your money. What if nothing. Do you have hard evidence after hundreds of approaches that your wealth or means have had a negative effect on your game? Or are you just worried for the sake of being worried? I don't know if vast wealth affects game negatively. I'm inclined to think it's like any othe… | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 04:33 PM |
| 6 | What's the etiquette when standing in line with a girl on a first date?Just hold them down by your side. | /r/seduction | 01/04/15 08:44 PM |
| 5 | Suppose you became incredibly handsome and charming somehow. Why would an available woman ever decline you to go on a date?Why would she reject you? For any of a million reasons. Or for none of them. A woman doesn't need a reason to say no. Sometimes, she just says no. Thinking about "why" too hard eventually becomes pointless. It's unanswerable 99 percent of the time, and it doesn't actually help your game. Sometimes understanding women starts when you stop trying to explain all their behaviors like they're computer programs that you can debug and analyze. They're people, and, like you or I, sometimes they just cho… | /r/seduction | 12/03/15 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Dancing - a criminally underrated skill for your gameMight be due to the fact your guide doesn't teach you how to dance it only tells you to take lessons Written guides can't teach anyone how to dance. You learn to dance, and then the guides are about how to use it in field. | /r/seduction | 16/02/15 09:09 PM |
| 4 | Fantastic quote from the film "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" about how being outcome independent and not having an abundance mentality will make you more successful with women.did Mike Damone just describe outcome independence and abundence mentality in a movie made 33 years ago Abundance mentality and outcome independence were things before they had the names we gave them. Remember that - these aren't uncharted, new lands. They're ones that have always been there that many choose to ignore. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Need a Body language magic pill? Take latin dance class.I think it's pretty funny. | /r/seduction | 04/02/15 08:55 PM |
| 4 | Need a Body language magic pill? Take latin dance class.Can confirm. Learning social dancing rolls a lot of the confidence, posture, and nonverbals into it that are difficult to isolate and train elsewhere. Here's me doing my thing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQnKdmHKPuc | /r/seduction | 04/02/15 05:17 PM |
| 0 | Stop seeking, giving, and taking advice about being in the friendzoneYou faggots. Get a fucking grip and man up. Are you mad about the downvotes? | /r/seduction | 28/01/15 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Girl was recently walked out on by boyfriend of 5 years, I’ve been friends / collaborating with her for the last year. I want to escalate our relationship.Meaning that I am an adult and so is she, we can handle these issues with maturity. You are adults, and you will be as mature as possible with it. But, even if nothing goes really wrong, we're wired to feel weird around people we've had failed relations with. All I'm saying is to be aware of that possibility and accept it. Before you can succeed, you have to accept that you might fail. | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Girl was recently walked out on by boyfriend of 5 years, I’ve been friends / collaborating with her for the last year. I want to escalate our relationship.I like how I said "two things" and then wrote three. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Girl was recently walked out on by boyfriend of 5 years, I’ve been friends / collaborating with her for the last year. I want to escalate our relationship.Two things: Be aware that you risk your working relationship. Ask her out, or don't. If she says yes, escalate, and be the fun person who she already enjoyed spending time with, plus more. There aren't many tactics to asking a friend out aside from being open with your intentions. Again, be aware that you risk your working relationship. Only you can decide what's more important to you. | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 04:04 PM |
| -1 | Lost My Go-To Excuse to Get Her to My Place. What's Your Favorite?Like I said, they like having an excuse (a generalization of course, but generally true) I said myself I like being clever. But, again, no excuse really needed. Say whatever, just make the invitation. I never really think about it. If you think an "excuse" actually hides your intentions I don't think it hides your intentions that well, and women pick up on that. What they assume, if you're not being confident and clever, is that you're not confident enough to invite them outright. That's what I'… | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 03:39 PM |
| 0 | Lost My Go-To Excuse to Get Her to My Place. What's Your Favorite?Women like to have an innocent excuse to go to your place. I can tell you experimentally, no, they don't. Unless you're dating fundamentalist Christians or other people who think it's wrong to have sex. I have never, ever, in my years doing this, ever met a cool girl who was worth spending time with, that needed "an excuse" to go to my place. Now, you can be cute or whatever, and if you're like me, you take the opportunity to be clever or funny. "I have some laundry I'd like you to do" or someth… | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 03:26 PM |
| 10 | How do you deal with the "let's just be friends" bullshit?I usually just use the "I have enough friends" line and move on. People who feel the need to have the last word tend to have a lot of these types of problems, because of their need to have the last word. These kinds of "solutions" that everyone posts about the friendzone are, to me, the epitome of butt hurt "I'll show them what's what" mindsets. Stop caring so much. A girl has a right to not be into you. You only hurt your own game by getting mad about that. Seriously. Think about it. If a rando… | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Creating sexual tensionYou're not asking how to increase sexual tension. You're asking how to increase attraction. Kino. Eye contact. Flirting. Increasing intimacy through conversation. Escalation in general. Increase a girl's attraction to you, and any time you are not having sex, sexual tension increases automatically. | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 03:03 PM |
| 2 | You have to get fucking ANGRY with yourself.You can do that. If it works for you, fine. But, use the boat to cross the river - don't carry it on your back with you after you're done. Your anger might be a good vehicle for you for now - while you're in a place of doing little and getting little. But you're using it like a gun to your head. You're trying to trick yourself into thinking you need to get angry because there's no other way. Again, that can work fine for now. Use your anger. But, when you don't need it anymore, drop it like a bo… | /r/seduction | 15/01/15 03:48 PM |
| 2 | I've gone from "I kinda want to change" to "I need to change before shit hits the fan"You know, at the heart of all of this, there's a seed of low self-esteem that probably drives a lot of your stress. There's no cure-all for that. There are a lot of things you can do like self-improvement, and all that jazz that we teach here, but ultimately, you're going to have to find self-acceptance. Whatever it is that makes you think you're not good enough for what you want, you need to let that shit go. Not saying you can sit on your ass and tell everyone "deal with it," and expect good r… | /r/seduction | 13/01/15 04:05 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys feel about No Fap?The real issue is whether it's a distraction/crutch for you, or if you just bust one out because, hey, why not? If fapping is a distraction from you meeting people, then yes, removing that obstacle would help. Until you find your next distraction, like video games or whatever. The point is, fapping too much is a symptom of something greater. Nofap, or any other kind of challenge, has never been the full solution to one's social development. If you wanna try it, try it. But keep your eye on the b… | /r/seduction | 13/01/15 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone tried Cruises?Yep. Been on a couple of Carnival cruises. Hella fun, easy to meet single women looking to hook up. Bring a friend who is a lot of fun, and just dance and drink your ass off all day. It's like pick up on easy mode because the only people willing to spend five to seven days on a floating metal box are the kinds who are into all sorts of debauchery. | /r/seduction | 08/01/15 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Girl initiates sexts with me but shit tests me when I escalate by suggesting meetupfew yards from touch down Those few yards can be very very long when the defense shows no sign of giving them up. The football metaphor ends there, because you can't just stop playing and go play someone else in football. | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 05:50 PM |
| 2 | A blunt, socially retarded shit test that threw me off.Did you overreact or not? Nope. Just gave advice. Along the same lines as most of the other responses, actually. You argued those, too. | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Girl initiates sexts with me but shit tests me when I escalate by suggesting meetupAnd put her on the back burner? Yes. Damn, dude. Abundance. There's tons of women out there. One or two teases shouldn't hold you back from that. | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's possible to change this situation?Would it be possible (and worth it) to use some of my skills on previous 'friendships' and even girls I haven't spoken to. Yes. want to make the most of my last year both in terms of education and social circumstances. Is there a time limit? Do what you want, but not because you feel like there's a gun to your head. Also, is this high school or college? So would it be worth having a go at getting to know those old girls I was kind of friends with and then moving it forward to something? Theoreti… | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 03:56 PM |
| 3 | How do you mentally recover when you absolutely blew your chance?It's like missing your shot in Duck Hunt. There's always more Ducks. The more important issue is this: Since this happened, I've felt like the biggest failure ever and can't stop being upset at myself over it You think your worth as a person is tied to how many people you fuck. I used to think the same way, years ago. That does two things: Keeps your dick dry. Makes you VERY unhappy. It's tough to deprogram from that. Pretty much everything in your life until now has told you that same message. … | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 02:36 PM |
| 3 | A blunt, socially retarded shit test that threw me off.Or: you failed to interpret properly. This is how un-feminised men talk. You finally took a shot. Okay, guy. Did the ego bruise? Un-feminised men. Please. Says the OP who came in here crying about a woman "going off script." | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 12:00 AM |
| 7 | A Paradigm Shift (Are We in The Community Emotionally Unstable?)The answer to your question is to do whatever you want to do. If you want tons of women, do what you need to do to get that. If you want to settle down with one or none, do that. If you want something in between, there are ways to make that work, too. The final truth of getting great game is that you realize that it's a tool, not a drive. Having a hammer doesn't mean you have to become a carpenter for the rest of your life. It merely means you have the tools to do so, should you choose. | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 09:44 PM |
| 4 | A blunt, socially retarded shit test that threw me off.While I appreciate the detailed reply You really don't, because you try to follow it up here: I have to acknowledge the irony of your overreaction. You dramatically overestimate how much I care; Then choose your words more carefully next time. You're the one going off about cringing, cunty behavior, and "blunt, socially retarded shit tests." | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 09:36 PM |
| 4 | A blunt, socially retarded shit test that threw me off.Verbal ineptitude is the social equivalent of public sharting to me. It makes me cringe. I ask you again - where is the fire? You're making this a bigger problem than it is. It's not a problem at all. A girl said something you didn't like. You left. That's how it's supposed to work. From my perspective, you're blowing this whole thing out of proportion. None of what she did makes me cringe. If cringing were a thing that I did, and if it actually mattered, I'd cringe about your reaction to the wh… | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 06:17 PM |
| 5 | A blunt, socially retarded shit test that threw me off.Sometimes a socially dumb or rude chick can throw you off. In future, what do you think would be a good response to this? Why were you so upset with what she asked? Because she didn't follow some rule book that doesn't exist that you think other people need to subscribe to so that you can feel comfortable? Listen, I get that you were offended because you weren't trying to bang and you were just being friendly, but where is the damage here? Where was the crime? Was she actually being socially ine… | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Women suffer from this condition which is halting your from successRemember when you were a kid and when you wanted something, you would just do it? Find a way to return to that. Here's how a child's mind works: Desire -> Action I'm hungry. I will put this in my mouth. Of course, when you're a kid, you're an idiot with no experience or knowledge to inform your actions. However, the as a child, your learning process is the best it will ever be in your entire life. So occasionally, good things like this happen: I want to be warm. I cuddle in a blanket. I'm warm. … | /r/seduction | 09/12/14 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Generally speaking, when should I invite a girl over my house to watch a movie? (x-post /r/askseddit)If you've already established mutual sexual attraction (make outs, good rapport), whenever you want. If not, establish mutual sexual attraction - ask her out, escalate, see if she's game. | /r/seduction | 08/12/14 09:20 PM |
| 9 | Seddit, is there anything wrong with girls that say they only have guy friends because girls cause too much drama?Does she mention it once out of frustration, and then demonstrates herself to be cool, reliable, and fun for the rest of the time you know her? If that's the case, no problem. Does she mention this any chance she gets like it's her identity? If that's the case, she's tedious. Next. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Is anyone else as disillusioned about 'nice' dinner dates as I am?Stop taking out the ones who don't reciprocate. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Dancing - a criminally underrated skill for your gameDid you compete? | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:35 PM |
| 43 | Dancing - a criminally underrated skill for your gameIt's definitely underrated on Seddit. I've written like, three guides. Almost no one here wants to learn how to dance. Or maybe I just write shitty dance advice. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1qjqkx/dancing_what_do_my_guide_on_how_to_get_girls_to/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1ad32l/itsmevichets_bsfree_guide_to_dancing_in_a_club/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10y72t/learn_how_to_dance/ For reference, here is me dancing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7VG… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Smart Kid SyndromeHoly shit...as one of the smart kids you described this hit home pretty hard I was one of those smart kids up until I ended up at a University full of them that was designed to challenge them mentally to the very limit of their abilities. And, if I didn't learn to work hard at the things I wasn't good at naturally, I'd have flunked out. This is why I feel that going to Cornell was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I learned so many things there that I never thought I would be able… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Smart Kid SyndromeI teach competitive ballroom dancing at one of the best universities in the world. The kids who are my students are used to being able to look at something and learn it pretty instantly... if it's coming from a book or involves mental exercise. So, imagine their frustration when they come across something that is meant to LOOK easy - good dancing - and they constantly stumble around and barely pass for the first few months of training. Every week I have to remind them that this is what it was li… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Text game is killing meBut ive been with 17 other girls in the 7 weeks What you're not realizing is that this doesn't matter. Don Juan himself could catch oneitis really bad if he lets it happen. And why not? Women can be pretty fucking awesome. Awesome they may be, the bottom line is that oneitis will never help you get what you want. There's no easy way to fix oneitis - clearly being with other girls hasn't helped you. The only way is to get perspective. But, you have to WANT to get perspective. You don't want that.… | /r/seduction | 27/11/14 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Text game is killing meI totally do, but it's only because I've shared something so special that I'm still thinking about her Why do you think it's special? It's oneitis, definitely. But what does "special" mean to you? That no one else in your life will ever mean that much? I want you to think critically about it, and I want you to write down exactly what happened between you two MINUS your feelings and opinions about it. You'll find that the only thing that makes what happened "special" is how you've projected your … | /r/seduction | 26/11/14 03:52 PM |
| 2 | How do you transition from getting a drink to "more serious" stuff?Last time, I invited her for a drink at my place but she declined, she told me afterwards it was a bit too straightforward for her. And, that was her not-straightforward way of telling you she doesn't trust or like you enough yet. She might be on the fence about you, but the lower a woman's opinion of you, the harder it is to make any progress. You're overthinking it. My overall strategy is to always be escalating. If you're always escalating, you'll quickly be able to feel out the boundaries of… | /r/seduction | 26/11/14 03:48 PM |
| 1 | I have evaluated myself and identified areas of improvement. What are your opinions and experiences with the following topics?I have difficult times dealing with obstacles, namely headphones. What kinds of obstacles gave you trouble? How did you overcome them? If a woman is wearing headphones around you, doesn't make eye contact except out of politeness, and is basically ignoring everyone around her? Well, she's not interested in meeting you. Move onto someone who is in the mood to meet people. If you really must, just go up to her and introduce yourself after making "take off your headphones for a minute" gestures. I … | /r/seduction | 26/11/14 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Text game is killing meThis is just the first time I've been actually in love. Maybe true, but from where I'm standing, it's called oneitis. Look, you have two choices: Take action and move down there to pursue her. Don't take action and go on with your life. If you're hesitating on option number one, I think it's because you realize somewhere deep down that at least half of your "in love" story is something you made up in your brain. You barely know this girl. She sounds awesome, but how much can you really get to kn… | /r/seduction | 26/11/14 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Text game is killing meIs there also a text guide for the girl you like but lives across the sea in Brazil? No, because people can't bond without the right amount of physical interaction. Unless you're able to see her at least once a month, it's not going to work out. That's assuming that she likes you enough to even consider that. Does she? Are you sure? Why aren't you meeting tons of other girls? | /r/seduction | 26/11/14 02:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you efficiently use a wingwoman?Be seen having fun with her. Have her chat up girls and introduce them to you. After that, it's all you. | /r/seduction | 25/11/14 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Movie night: Easier to sexually escalate during Star Wars than Love actually?seriously mate, how were you unable to work out that this is largely satirical As a mod, it's his prerogative to make sure that noobs who actually have thoughts like "what movie should I put on" don't take satirical advice seriously. | /r/seduction | 25/11/14 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Movie night: Easier to sexually escalate during Star Wars than Love actually?Escalation isn't dependent on which movie you're watching. She's not there for the movie. And, if you find she's interested in the movie such that it's a major obstacle to you escalating, you haven't been doing your job right from the start, and it doesn't matter what movie you put on.. Don't get so much into the theory about social engineering. Just escalate. If she's game, she'll play too. | /r/seduction | 25/11/14 07:35 PM |
| 74 | Text game is killing me... why don't you just set up another date instead of trying to build attraction electronically? | /r/seduction | 25/11/14 07:27 PM |
| 9 | How to behave after her non respondingThey're low priority until they demonstrate more reliable interest. Go hang out with them along with your mate, continue to be social, fun, exciting, and whatever. But, I say you continue meeting other women. | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!I've got time to shoot shit now and again. | /r/seduction | 11/11/14 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!Nope. Work in UCity. Graduated from Cornell a while back. | /r/seduction | 11/11/14 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!UCity. | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Being Too Confident...becomes Cocky?Confidence is a lot less of a spectrum than other traits. I mean, you can categorize confidence in specific things - like confident with business, confident with people, confident with whatever skill. But, you're either confident or you're not. Now, I would say if your "confidence" is putting you into bad situations repeatedly, something else is going on. For example, if you're coming off as try-hard or arrogant, then it's probably because you're not confident that people are viewing you with re… | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Anyone here who *didn't* grow up being social and mingling with girls (i.e. hard-mode seduction)?Hardcore Asian upbringing where sex didn't exist and after the age of maybe 6, even socializing within the family became more or less split between gender lines (girls play with girls and boys play with boys). Arranged marriage was the way it was done, dating was considered very tacky, lust and passion are cardinal sins. I was also started in school a year early. That was awkward come grades 6-9, where I still had a Mickey Mouse voice and the frame of an 8 year old boy. At least it was because I… | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How to Have ThreesomesIt's far easier to have your girl pick up another girl. It's easier for a woman to pick up another woman, assuming she's got the approaching habits and confidence of a man who practices pick up. In all the MFF threesomes I've had, I was the one picking up both, and most of them I did outside of any kind of relationship. All it is is escalating with two girls who don't feel jealousy for one another, and who both find you attractive on some initial level. There's more of these women in the 18-35 r… | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 03:52 PM |
| 7 | How to Have ThreesomesThis is deeply personal, but whatever, I'll answer. In no particular order: Clear your schedule, it's gonna be a long night. Have lube, toys (rope? handcuffs? dirty dice? dildo?), washclothes/water, and lots of condoms ready. Spend a nice 15-20 minutes on foreplay. Get the ladies nice and warmed up before going into ONE of them. Being on bottom helps for the first girl, because then you can still kind of pay attention to the second while the first kind of does her thing. Let her finish, but don'… | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Creative first date ideas on a College campusDude, college is a time when you're SURROUNDED by things you've never tried, that would never fly in the real world, and that are bottom dollar priced to participate in. Look up events for various clubs. Look up what's going on any given weekend or weekday in your school. If you're at a state school, or any school with > 10000 undergrads, there will be fuck tons going on. Take her to a swing dance social and learn the intro lesson. Take her to a figure drawing class, and laugh about how terrible… | /r/seduction | 05/11/14 05:43 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?General physical and mental health. Testosterone affects quite a lot. Fertility, confidence, mood, stress, musculature, bone density, fat, etc. I get bloodwork and screening every year in my physical, have none of those problems. Never specifically asked for a hormone screening, but then I never had cause to because none of those symptoms are present. Pretty sure it's just that my sweat isn't perceived to smell bad. It smells like a person, but not like ass. I guess mentioning that must have str… | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 07:55 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?I would be extremely wary of somebody who told me their sweat doesnt smell. Just relaying what hundreds of people have told me. Also, I've done sports or heavy physical activity my whole adult life. I just don't smell like ass after a workout unless I let myself stew for a full day after without showering. I dunno man, just telling you my experience. I'm not trying to pass it off as normal. All I'm saying is that if you smell like cheese REGULARLY, there's something else going on besides just sw… | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 07:41 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?You can have all of those and still have a deficiency What would be the damage? | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 07:39 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?If your sweat doesn't smell at all you might have a testosterone deficiency... Maybe. Doctors never said anything. I just don't smell bad when I sweat. Testosterone deficiency wouldn't explain my hairiness, sex drive, large hands, or deep voice, though. | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 07:32 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?lol you didn't even mention what you use That's because I don't use anything anymore. Used to use Old Spice Red Zone. Can't recommend it because it definitely did make me sweat harder everywhere else on my body. As for cologne, I use Boss by Hugo Boss. But, that's only when I get dressed up. | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 04:27 PM |
| 1 | What deadorant do you use?I'm fortunate in the sense that my sweat doesn't smell. Most women who find me attractive actually enjoy the natural scent of my skin and sweat. Readers, if you have chronic BO, you might want to look into the possibility that you have a mild fungal infection or something. Not all fungal infections result in really obvious patchy, cracked, or even itchy skin. It helps to groom yourself (keep body hair relatively short - it absorbs and amplifies smells), and use antifungal products during the hot… | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Female "Atraction" spanThe only issue with this model is that it doesn't actually account for the dynamics of attraction, or show you how attraction works. For example, if a woman loses attraction for you past the critical point such that she wouldn't consider sleeping with you anymore, then it's EXTREMELY hard to recover from that. The scale, however, would just show that you went from 55 points to, say, 45 points. Doc Love used to use a similar system, but he stressed how to gain points, how to keep from losing them… | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Girl that I've been hanging out with put me in a weird position, and she gave a weird reason why. Help me out Seddit!I would've liked to escalate, but she kept pulling away and wasn't letting it happen Then she's either a tease, or not interested. I'm gonna go with not interested. Meet other women. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Two simple rulesAny thoughts? The better you get with people, the fewer rules there are. And even then, they're only guidelines. But, you gotta have the flight hours before you can really consider those possibilities. So, yeah, when I'm out, my process is: Talk to girls. Escalate. I don't need "chill the fuck out" because that's a baseline. It's already there. Don't need to grow a pair either. Don't know if that answers your question. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 04:53 PM |
| 2 | I need help making sense of this...Are you the kind of guy who walks into a room and assumes everyone must be talking about him because something they said might apply to him? And then, are you the kind of guy who sticks around these people even after weeks of being snubbed and slighted? Don't get me wrong, I don't think they're talking about you. I don't think you're even on their mind. If you were, it would have been because you were amazing in some way, and someone would have said "except for moh_money over here!" I think they… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 04:45 PM |
| 6 | How can I come off as a sexual person who likes sex without being creepy?The way to attract girls is to be attractive I'll assume that you're making a joke, but for any hard case newbies out there who use this kind of response as a lightning rod for their frustration, here's why we say things like "be attractive" without explaining: We don't explain in the space of one post because there's too fucking much to go over. That's why we have resources in the sidebar. If someone is a hard case newb, or even a regular newb, it will take a lot more than a shortlist of things… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 04:40 PM |
| 1 | I was terrified, but did 5 approaches anyway.You're doing better than 80 percent of the newbies on this sub who will never make a move. Turn that 5 approaches into 50. Then 100. Then 500. Then 1000. Then it's just the way that you are and you never think about it, because it's second nature. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:28 PM |
| 4 | Was reading the rules when I realized this was a genuine question I didn't know how to answer.Approaching a girl where she works is tricky, especially if she's in a service job, because she's required to be nice to you. You weren't the first or last person she smiled at that day, dude. That said, if you go to this place regularly, start by striking up short conversation. It can be about anything. The thing is, two people who are attracted to each other can talk about how big of a shit they took the previous day and it would still be more interested and fun for them than two people with t… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:27 PM |
| 10 | Newbie question to approaching and talking to girlsFor beginners like you: Do not do approaches in any place that you have to be in a lot, like work, class, etc. Do not approach women you will have to see or work with on a regular basis. Do not continue speaking to women if they are not maintaining eye contact with you and smiling occasionally. Taking into account the above, do your 1000 approaches. That means anytime you see someone you're interested in when you're out in a social environment, you go up to them, introduce yourself, and start a … | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:22 PM |
| 5 | How can I come off as a sexual person who likes sex without being creepy?By being desirable. Ugly truth: no one cares how much you like sex, unless they could see themselves having sex with you. So, become the kind of guy lots of women would like to have sex with. It's one part self development (read the sidebar), one part making good decisions (like not sticking it in crazy, being discrete with a woman's indiscretions, and overall just treating women well), and one part reputation (the fruits of good decision-making). If you're out and you're dressed well, and you h… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Girl that I've been hanging out with put me in a weird position, and she gave a weird reason why. Help me out Seddit!Is there a problem here? You don't want to date this girl. You said yourself you're not really into it. Unless you are, and you were just pretending not to be interested, in which case SHE picked up on mixed signals. Do whatever you want. Let me define that: don't wait for her to make a move on you again. If you want to FWB or date, or whatever, just ask her out or whatever the college equivalent of that is, and escalate instead of just letting her do her thing and sitting there like a dead fish… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!Philly! | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!Pennsylvania | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 03:14 PM |
| 3 | The pain period sucks, feeling like crap.You go through crippling awkwardness when you try to put half a lifetime of social learning into 30 days. You'll get over it man, just breathe, and remember that it's just meeting people. Be at peace that not everyone has to like you immediately, and realize that you're doing this to make yourself happier and more comfortable in your own skin. It's the same with people who are trying to get in shape or learn anything new for that matter. There's that period where you feel like you'll never get i… | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 03:09 PM |
| 2 | "You know I am going to try hooking up with you tonight?"It's a little theatrical. I wouldn't do it, because it's just words. Instead, I'd isolate, escalate, kino, and see how she responds to that. You don't need words, dude. You did enough of that over text. Take action. | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad thing to be known as a 'player'?Depends on what you want, and who you surround yourself with. I'm known as that by most of my female friends. They don't seem to mind. It's kind of like a playful thing with them. I get around, I'm never mean, and I'm usually fun, so the "player" label is secondary to all that. They even wing for me, shit. I mean, you should really only be asking yourself this question if you're at the status where you actually could be considered one. Are you? | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Girl walks up to me while leaving and tells me "I think you dropped something," it's her number.Set up a coffee date. Just meet up with her. If it sucks, hell, you got coffee and you got out. Go meet other people. The worst that happens is you meet up with a girl who's not so attractive, spend thirty minutes making small talk, and then bail to go meet other people. | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Difference between flirting and being friendly?Escalation and kino will pretty quickly tell you whether a girl is really interested. Flirts stick to words. Escalate and kino - she'll be like "oh you, I was just foolin' is all." Question answered. You only have to worry about teases if you escalate/kino. Teases exist. They like having a guy melt into putty chasing the V, and you know who is a tease by how heavily they reciprocate and then pull back last second. Don't be that guy. Meet women who aren't teases. | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 02:18 PM |
| 126 | Ever reject a girl after she rejected you?Did I play this right? Did you do what you wanted? Were you no longer interested? If not, sure, you played it right. If you were doing that just so you could "keep the score even," then no, you're doing it wrong. | /r/seduction | 30/10/14 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindi meet other women, though it's very rare...ie once a month Is this because you work 60+ hours per week or that you live in a town with less than 10,000 people? Because if it's not, and you're going out 2-3 nights a week, or trying group activities like sports leagues or adult art classes or something, I find it hard to believe that you're not meeting any women. What's the situation? | /r/seduction | 30/10/14 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Experienced players, do you guys still get oneitis?No. | /r/seduction | 30/10/14 01:19 PM |
| 0 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindI'd take that sweeping generalization with a grain of salt. I've casually dated a few people over the course of this year, ranging from all walks of life. One in particular was very timid with women, but I found it endearing. I suspect that he didn't get much attention from women, or if he did, he didn't know how to receive it. I think he took a liking to me more than he expected to, and perhaps that was overwhelming for him. Timing was also a factor, since it was likely he didn't have his shit … | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 07:50 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14short small talk she seemed friendly. I would say all she was being so far, was friendly. Based on glancing at you and saying hello, she may find you somewhat attractive, but the first thing you need to do is find a way to get to know her, and the gym isn't really the best place. That means either asking her out or continuing with the small talk-dance. I'd rather ask her out. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindAre you meeting other women? You might be thinking "of course not, she's on my mind and I can't meet other women like that." You've got it backwards. You get her off your mind by meeting other women. It doesn't matter how many times you ask her out. Oneitis is oneitis. Asking her out doesn't mean you don't have oneitis. Focus on meeting new people, bro. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 07:44 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14My question is, what happened? And what would you do with that information if we had it? Sometimes girls just aren't into it. Sometimes girls start seeing other guys. Sometimes they're crazy. Who knows? What I do know is that it's one experience in the bucket, and you need to not let this discourage you from getting other experiences. Forget about this girl. If you did something really wrong (no way for us to know without a good FR), then we could say "yeah, don't do that again," but that advice… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 03:05 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14Told her I wasn't so she said "Maybe we can go out sometime still". I wanna know why you weren't already seeing other people, but that's just me. If I had to guess, you've become (and have always been) one of her options - but not the top choice. There's space to play in that sandbox, but be careful you don't put her on the front burner and make her a priority. She's only calling you because other options ran dry - remember, she's already flaked once. That said, hang out with her if you want, bu… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:54 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14Im not afraid to approach her, im only afraid that she is part of the popular group and if things dont work out or I fck someting up I might will be the wierdo. Nah, man. You're just scared. So, do it anyway. I don't care if a bunch of women who barely know you start thinking "who was that guy?" If things go south, they will forget about it in a week as long as you're not hanging around trying to creep your way into the circle after being rejected. You're not a celebrity. No one is paying attent… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:50 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14Not for you OP because it already happened - post a FR sometime and let us know how it went. Anyway, for future reference, if she's cooking, you're bringing wine/beer. As for how you let your intentions be known? Escalate. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:48 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14"I know this is a shitty place to ask, but would you like to get a beer after this?" Finally, how was she responding with body language during your small talk about squatting? What you were talking about doesn't matter. What matters is whether she was smiling, comfortable standing close to you, etc. Did those things give you an indication that she could possibly find you attractive? | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:46 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/27/14Ask them out and find out. Not just that, but escalate, too. A woman who is attracted to you will respond well to good escalation. OP, read escalation ladder tips, etc. Also, get a base of experience. Everyone has positive and negative reactions, and all of those show a little differently. She could show eye contact, smile, or pull herself in a little closer. Or none of those things. Learn to pick up quickly on how someone responds positively, or negatively, and the only way to do that is to hav… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindNo. I'm thinking about commitmentphobes No one is afraid of commitment when they have options, and choose with clear mind and intention to be with someone instead of others. Also, if you're a woman, you can work on what we work on - building up the things that make you attractive so that people want to hang around. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindIt seems like the possibility of a relationship is viewed like a fucking prison sentence Nah. It's not the relationship that's a prison - scarcity mindsets and the oneitis they cause are the prison. Also, oneitis is by definition one-sided. The person who has oneitis literally thinks that the girl he's "attracted to" is the only girl in the world and no one else is more attractive or as well suited to him. This, of course, is bullshit, and that bullshit was laid by a cow called scarcity. I said … | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:36 PM |
| 1 | how can i stop coming off as boyfriend material when first meeting a girl?should I start off with so I can post data and what type of data Start off with saying hello. Let the conversation flow, and tell us what you're saying and how she's responding both verbally and physically. Is she comfortable sitting close to you? Is her body facing yours? Is her attention on you through the whole interaction? Furthermore, are you escalating? Are you being fun, and getting her to laugh and smile? This is the data you need to collect so that we can actually tell you whether you'r… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 01:36 PM |
| 5 | Oneitis - stop the bullshit and free your mindWhat do you think I should do? I'd appreciate anything. Let's be clear here: oneitis is not a deep feeling. It's not love. It's not true affection. Oneitis is someone starving for three days, and smelling a half-eaten cheeseburger in a locked dumpster. You're starving and you can't have it, and it makes you a little crazy. You live in scarcity. Oneitis has nothing to do with whether you "had the girl" at any point. It's about thinking there are no other options than her. You don't need to ditch … | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Got friend zoned because she thinks she is a "bad girl in rehab"yeah i am not sure i could pin point what i did... oh well, moving on. It can be tough, even in retrospect, to see where things go wrong (or even if they were ever right) early on in your development. This is why it's important to remember the facts of the case: how's she's reacting physically to you, whether she's keeping eye contact, whether she puts effort into the interaction or everything is driven by you, etc. Also, it's why having a base of experience is so important. 1000 approaches, man… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 08:28 PM |
| 22 | Got friend zoned because she thinks she is a "bad girl in rehab"You got friend zoned because she didn't find you attractive. In all cases, that's the root problem. If the woman is attracted to you, a LOT of things get forgiven. If you fucked up somewhere along the line, remember that fuck ups in dating happen, and the real damage isn't the fuck up, but what the fuck up does to the attraction level. If a girl is really attracted to you, she will be more forgiving of fuck ups. The bigger the fuck up, the bigger the hit to attraction. This is all stuff you know… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 03:14 PM |
| 3 | how can i stop coming off as boyfriend material when first meeting a girl?Anyone who is good with seduction is more or less boyfriend material, because what defines you as boyfriend material is women wanting you to be their boyfriend. Niceness is only a part of that equation. Being boyfriend material is not your issue. Not being attractive enough for anyone to actually care how nice you are is your problem. Attraction trumps everything. Things you need to do: Stop self-diagnosing and self-evaluating. You're a novice. You have little idea of what attraction really mean… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Is ONEITIS ever good?but like, isn't that what true love is? No. True love is knowing someone and choosing to love them. Oneitis is telling yourself a fairytale about someone and being confused and hurt when they don't conform to that mold. If two people develop mutual oneitis, that shit is a house of cards. First, that never happens, and second, two people lying to themselves about the other's flaws will never, ever work out in a healthy way. Oneitis is the act of lying to yourself about someone. If you're really c… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Seen as a bad boy from girls, and a goof from my friends.Your issue is that you give a fuck what one or two women who barely know you think about you based on five minutes. Now, we can talk about calibration, but we'd need FR data for that. If you're making friends regularly and having successes getting dates, relationships, etc, I'd say you have nothing to worry about. Unless it's like, 80 percent of women you meet saying this to you. | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:54 PM |
| 30 | Curse you OneitisI'm going to be mean. You LIKE oneitis, because it's easy. You don't have to do anything, you don't have to improve yourself, and the problem is always someone not liking you. And that means at least some people have to throw you a pity party and be nice to you, and you get to feel like you tried, and you never have to actually do any work to change. None of that will change until you stop venting and start changing. Thing about oneitis that people love while they're in it is that they get to be… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:51 PM |
| 2 | What to do about lacklustre friend group?but when it comes to going out and having fun on the weekends they can be lacking. Find some going-out friends. I do the same thing. That's just life. Not everyone you know is into everything you're into, and even if they are, they're not necessarily into it WITH you. That's fine. I have gamer friends who I play games with. I have dance friends who I dance with. I have drinking buddies who I drink with. And on, and on, and on. Those circles all intersect here or there, but the bottom line is tha… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:41 PM |
| 2 | How far do you have to go in a relationship for sexual jokes to be acceptable.I should have read the replies because I said essentially the same thing. | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:37 PM |
| 1 | How far do you have to go in a relationship for sexual jokes to be acceptable.Depends on the girl, but if she's not puritanical, you can start with sexual jokes after 2 minutes**. ** assuming you've built a level of rapport and comfort with the person. | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:37 PM |
| 1 | So a girl told me "People think you're attractive but don't like your personality"- should I be concerned?If she's to be believed, your personality is a bit off-putting. As to why that is, I have no idea because you haven't told us what you're like. | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Act like she already likes you.Assuming attraction, beyond giving a confidence boost, is just good strategy. The thing is, everyone knows that if a woman has written you off or feels ZERO physical attraction or possibility thereof before you approach, you won't be getting anywhere. But, you can't build strategy around women not wanting you, because if you assume they AREN'T attracted, you won't escalate. You don't escalate, you ALWAYS go nowhere. But say you approach someone and assume attraction? You'll be at ease to escalat… | /r/seduction | 28/10/14 02:34 PM |
| 18 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.If you are authentic in action and she's interested, she won't care what you call it. All this stuff about "women wanting this or that" might apply to the group as a whole from a statistical perspective, but doesn't mean jack shit to the woman in front of you who you want to ask out. If you are looking for FWB, the method is still the same. Meet lots of people, escalate, be authentic and up front about your desires, and cultivate value in the relationship. I don't care if you're not "dating," wh… | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 05:55 PM |
| 1 | How do I sexy up the title "computer programmer""Nothing you'd be interested in." Or you can just say computer programmer and move onto another topic, because it's not a big deal and is definitely not what is stopping you from getting numbers. | /r/seduction | 06/10/14 02:23 PM |
| 0 | Why do I see so many interesting and reasonably attractive older men with unnattractive women?The less attractive are the most loyal, and they have personalities, because their looks havent carried them through. That's a hypothesis. Where is the data, man? In a way, by focussing on the HB10 scale, TRP enables women with hot bodies to get it easier - we are the ones enabling them. I'll agree with this in principle - the overvaluation of a woman's looks, combined with the collective spinelessness of maybe 70 percent of the male population would create a situation like that. But, again, sta… | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Okay seriously, how do you ask a girl you met online for a date?You ask exactly how you did up in your original post, except you need to become the kind of guy that women say yes to. It's not like you're "asking wrong" - that is unless you spend 2 hours texting smilies and bullshit back and forth before you ask for a date. Tinder and online dating is a quick first impression. Get all the bullshit out of the way and just ask her out immediately when you match. You can get to know each other in person. Make the offer. If you're not in shape, get in shape. | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 03:40 PM |
| 0 | Why do I see so many interesting and reasonably attractive older men with unnattractive women?It's just that you notice it, and it doesn't mean anything to your life. Shoot, man, I don't know those guys' life stories. In fact, I've never bothered to make your observation. I get that you're intellectually curious about it, but without cold hard data, we've got nothing to talk about here. If you want to know the answer to your question, it's time to interview a whole bunch of cool older guys why they're tied up with modest ladies. | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Falling for a girl too quicklyYou're a storyteller. You can do that all you like. Just stop making it mean more than what it is: a fantasy you made up. I'm writing a novel right now about a pair of friends who have to endure the ravages of a totalitarian empire as they try to live normal lives but constantly get pulled back into the conflict. That shit is in my head, and on a bunch of pages of text. It's not real, and neither is whatever you fantasize about the girls you date. Live in the moment. Let it be what it is. Enjoy … | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Kino escalation outside of a "date" environment?There is no "date environment." Every moment you spend with a girl you're interested, outside of grave situations like funerals and hospital visits, are times that you are being fun and escalating. How do you do it? The same way you do any other time. It's not like you have to put on +2 kino gloves of seduction just because you're not at a restaurant. How do you let her know your intentions? Escalate. You're asking a question that's like "how do I turn left?" You just do it. If you've read the p… | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 03:20 PM |
| 1 | How do you become an interesting person in a conversation?If you're an interesting person, you just need practice speaking to people and engaging them. Don't forget to listen now and then. Talk to tons of people. Talk to them like old friends, who know your interests and share them. Obviously, pay attention to their reactions - if someone is bored, they don't want to be talking to you, or at least don't want to be talking about that topic. | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 01:52 PM |
| 1 | I understood the concept of seddit, but I always forgot those important points when I got the opportunity to execute my readings. Any tips how to ALWAYS remember doing what I've learnt from seddit, when I was actually dealing with a girl (or anyone)?Stop thinking so much. You have two jobs active jobs and one passive one: be fun, escalate, and pay attention to her reactions to your escalations. | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 01:47 PM |
| 25 | Is RSD Julien fucking insane?To get off of the topic of seduction for a moment, your "real persona" does not exist. It's a story you tell yourself about "who you are," and it doesn't matter until it actually affects your real, tangible behaviors. So, the only people I believe when they say "I am this" or "I tend to that" back that statement up with a lifetime of data and experience of being that way, or acting that way. They're not just saying "I think I'm the kind of guy who could do this or that." They know, because they … | /r/seduction | 16/09/14 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Seduction really is a game of thinking fast and speaking fast. How do you overcome days when you're tired?Things that put me in the zone usually happen too rarely That's why I asked "what good habits put you in the zone?" Not things that happen to you - things that you make happen. For me, it's dancing, exercise, eating right, writing, catching up with friends, and taking care of the nuts and bolts of my life (work, bills, etc). I do those things, and when I'm out I have energy and can focus on the moment instead of a laundry list of things that I feel like I'm not doing or should be doing. As for m… | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Is this even possible for a guy like me?The same with seduction. Sure, I guess I could go out and try my luck with every woman I meet. But trial and error is a difficult road to take Trial and error is the only road to take. We are here for guidance, but the learning happens inside of you, not on reddit. With a guitar, if you try and fail something there is no negative to it other than frustration. It's the same with women, you just give more value to it because you think it should be more important. You have to start somewhere. Talki… | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone else... tired of it?Well, it sounded really unhappy. If you're over it, good on you. | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Is this even possible for a guy like me?Well, with terrible self esteem and no motivation, it's impossible. Do you WANT to try? If you do, fix your self esteem and your possible depression. It's not a lack of women causing those. Actually, scratch that. I don't give a fuck whether you want to try or not. Tomorrow, you will either try, or you won't. And that decision will be made every day from now on. And if you start trying, you'll start asking the right questions, and even though you mess up you'll learn things and get better. Right… | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 06:50 PM |
| 14 | How many of you are not just going out with girls, but with hot ones? The head turners. The ones that give you "that feeling" in your gut just by looking at.Pure butterflies every time I see her. She is beautiful, but Her personality is just... amazing. Okay. Ask her out. Is there something I'm missing? Come on man. Pay attention to her. Your feelings aren't confusing or complex. They don't need your mental effort. Asking her out and getting to know her does. | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 06:46 PM |
| 0 | What are some responses to these classic shit test lines?You know what happens when a woman is really attracted to you? She doesn't say stupid shit like this, unless she's dense, or a psychopath. In which case, liability for you. I'll indulge anyway. "You're shorter than me/I'm taller than you" Find a girl who isn't horrendous, and have fun with her instead. "I don't know if you're worthy enough to have my number/go out with me" Find a girl who isn't a socially retarded princess, and have fun with her instead. "Sorry I can't go out with you this weeke… | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 04:25 PM |
| 4 | Young gun here with a couple of questions.When I'm dancing/talking to a girl and her friends pull her away I usually just approach someone else. Sometimes I see her later, sometimes I don't. What are some things I can do to avoid or 'defuse' the situation... because this type of shit is really fucking annoying. Game the group. Before she gets pulled away, introduce yourself to the friends. If they hate you, there's not much you can do about that. But sometimes, they're just going to another spot. Introduce yourself and get to know them … | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Is anyone else... tired of it?Maybe what you're discovering is that women can't make you happy or fulfilled. Take some time to reflect on what really makes you happy. It sounds to me like learning game has fulfilled a need for you, but maybe not the one you expected. Social/sexual, versus spiritual. If fulfillment is where you are lacking, and women aren't helping, you need to shift focus. You are winning the battle while ignoring the war, at this point. ... and then I read the rest of your post and you got one-itis bad. Tha… | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Seduction really is a game of thinking fast and speaking fast. How do you overcome days when you're tired?No one is in the zone ALL the time. You have to play the long game - what good habits put you in the zone two weeks from now? Is it eating right? Staying in touch with friends? Developing your artsy crap? Figure out what it is that puts you in the zone, and work at that a bit every day. Then figure out the things that kick you out of the zone. Is it procrastination? Anxiety? Social malaise? Lack of caring? What is it? Find ways to fix their causes, and work on those a little bit every day. I mea… | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 03:48 PM |
| 112 | How many of you are not just going out with girls, but with hot ones? The head turners. The ones that give you "that feeling" in your gut just by looking at.After a while, women don't give you "that feeling" in your gut because you've been with enough women to know it's just a feeling, and the true worth of a person is in getting to know them. They're just girls. If you were blind, you wouldn't have your problem. You're making it up. | /r/seduction | 10/09/14 03:45 PM |
| 1 | I literally just want to tell people they are attractive. No real intentions most of the time. If a conversation comes out of it, great. If not, whatever. I just want to say it. What's the right way to do this without coming off creepy?There's no guarantee that you won't come off creepy to any stranger at any given time, ever. If someone isn't attracted to you and you compliment them and let them know you find them attractive, even if you leave them alone after being turned down, they might think you're a creep. That's just the price you pay. Stop worrying about it. You do have to be a little bit "off" in that sense, to stop caring what people think and burst into their lives unannounced. Fortunately, if you get good at it, th… | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find themselves constantly comparing themselves to the other guys in the room? How do I stop doing this?Make it stop mattering. If you think it's about the other guys in the room, it's not. It's about you. So make the other guys stop mattering, and focus on you. What you want to improve, who you want to date, etc. Work on those things, and stop thinking so much. | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Confident but my situation holds me backLol cuz you're right, English isn't my second language Did you mean to say that English IS your second language? That makes me feel better, because there's something about the precision of your speech and the word combinations that made it seem like you were like, a robot pretending to be human or something. I have no other way to explain it. | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:33 PM |
| 1 | [Request] How to seduce at a house party?Seduce the group. Be the guy at the party that everyone wants to meet. You do this by socializing with tons of people, telling interesting stories, engaging everyone with games or fun, and overall being the life of the party. This is not something you learn by reading advice on the internet, or everyone would be the expert. After you establish yourself as a pretty cool guy, you just isolate whoever you want to get to know better and escalate. If you're no good with large groups, this won't work … | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:30 PM |
| 1 | First meeting someone from Tinder tonight, how should I approach?From my match's demeanor she's enthusiastic. Quick to respond and uses exclamation points quite a bit. Okay, I want you to take that information. Visualize it. Create expectations about how she's going to be. Then fucking throw it away because it's easy to be enthusiastic, or whatever, over text. I know people who say LOL every other word. They don't laugh for shit in real life. You will find out how interested she is in person. Your only jobs are to be fun, be interesting, and ESCALATE. So, for… | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How A Natural Handled A Shit TestSadly he has a gf so there's nothing more to the story. Plus we weren't looking to "sarge". I had work the next day and the logistics wouldn't have worked. Aha. Key details. Mention next time, or guys like me will be asking the hard questions like "why did he not bang?" | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:22 PM |
| 2 | How A Natural Handled A Shit TestNot all stories have to end with "and then i took her home and totally banged her, p in the v bros, upvotes to the left" Well, see, that's the thing. I don't consider anything a shit test unless the woman is actually interested. And if the woman's not interested, she's just being an asshole. I mean, shit testing IS being an asshole, but at least she's interested. Proof of interest is in the pudding. No pudding, no proof, no shit test, no story. Not to knock OP, but it's not even worth mentioning… | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:21 PM |
| 6 | How A Natural Handled A Shit Test... was that the end of the story? OP, you must deliver. | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Lets talk about text gameShould I shoot her a text here and there sometime tomorrow and weds or so to keep her interested? Do you need her to shoot you texts in order for you to stay interested? So, no, don't. You can send one a day or two before to remind her/confirm plans ("hey, we're meeting at 8pm on Thursday at the Twisted Sister. See you there!") but you don't need to try to "keep her interest." Know what you could be doing instead? Meeting more women, and making more dates. Even at my busiest, I can squeeze in tw… | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Confident but my situation holds me backAll of the words that came out of your mouth just now make sense, and they're grammatically correct, and they even tell a coherent story. But I'm still scratching my head, because you're 20, and your base assumptions about how people work, and the logical jumps you made from here to there, and even your word choice made me think that you're either not a native English speaker, you're completely out of touch with reality, or you're a troll. It was seriously like, some shit that Ron Burgundy would… | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 02:57 PM |
| 16 | Non Drinkers: What do you do when a girl forces a drink in your hand and wants you to drink it?What? Dude, if you don't drink, and someone buys you a drink, tell them you don't drink. You don't have to be a dick about it. But seriously, drinking just because some drunk "friend" wants you to is - and there's no other way for me to put this - the epitome of spineless. I don't care why you drink or why you don't, but don't make this about the woman. Stand up for yourself, man. | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Stagnating in pleasant/conversational mode instead of escalating to intimacySometimes I feel like I'm no longer escalating Then escalate. So that you're escalating. So that your intentions are clear. So that you can both make a choice about whether to go forward. Now, are you asking us WHY we think you're not escalating all the time? I have no idea. I'm not a shrink, and I don't know you. Finally, if you think escalation is about conversation, I have one word for you: kino. | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Lets talk about text gameThe thing about text is that, assuming everything is done as well as possible, 10 percent of the time it increases interest level, 40 percent of the time it keeps it neutral, and the other 50 percent of the time it stagnates and is just an interruption/annoyance in the woman's day. The key point is that the texting part doesn't matter - her interest level does, and texting is not the key to raising her interest level. You can build 50 times more interest in person in 5 minutes than you can in 5 … | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 02:41 PM |
| 1 | "If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you." Does this apply for great PUAs?Well, you know, given the choice between moral superiority and being socially competent, most people on the internet choose the former. I'm sorry you have to have these arguments, Throwaway. | /r/seduction | 02/09/14 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Any Asian dudes out there? This dating guide was made for you.Im interested to know, besides bullshit stereotypes, what sort of hardships do my Asian brothers face in the dating game? Nothing you'd become aware of unless you looked at a lot of numbers. The thing is, Asian has never been considered mainstream sexy. So, the challenge there would really just be that an Asian guy would not appear on the radar of most women. He's not in the running for their affection by default. At least it's not usually to a point where being Asian is polarizing - it's just t… | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Best bed sheets for sex? Any good recommendations?Darker colors, and any weave that allows the sheets to breath while not absorbing too much moisture (sweaty sheets suck).You want them soft, but not jersey cloth level of absorbant. | /r/seduction | 29/08/14 05:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you game a girl as a potentially fuckbuddy, NSA lay, etc., vs. as a boyfriend?You're saying it's not about the numbers, but then you say it's about meeting more people Not about the number of closes or possible closes when it's people who don't have what you want. The numbers come into play when it comes to finding who you want. Talking about different numbers here. | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 08:16 PM |
| 2 | How do you game a girl as a potentially fuckbuddy, NSA lay, etc., vs. as a boyfriend?I can't close more than 1-2 girls per week tops. Again, it's not about the numbers - you have to transition from a mindset of "how do I get the people I know to fit into my life in the way I would prefer" to "let's meet more people and find someone who is a good fit for my needs." Abundance. There is someone out there you're not meeting (because lukewarm girl is taking up time and mental space), who is just as cool and attractive, and is down to be FWB. | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Tiny questionIf you were experienced enough not to ask this question, you'd have come up with the same solution that I did: be a good, fun, engaging friend who isn't trying to get in her pants, and she can help wing for you, helping you meet scores of other girls. | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:54 PM |
| 8 | Is the amount of girls who "check you out" on the street an accurate measure of your attractiveness?I look for IoIs too much. If I don't get an IOI (Eye contact, noticing me, etc.), then I assume they're not interested in me engaging with them. I never look for IOIs. I just notice them. They are there or they are not - I don't go "looking." It's like walking into a room. You don't need to ACTIVELY look at the floor to know that it's wood, or carpet or whatever. You just notice it. It's there. You sense it. Stop focusing on the IOIs and allow yourself to be aware of them. Most of that awareness… | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you game a girl as a potentially fuckbuddy, NSA lay, etc., vs. as a boyfriend?The exact same way. Be open and honest about what you want. If you try to "dial down" your game because you're afraid a girl will get TOO attracted to you: There is no such thing as "too attracted" unless she's the type who would stab you or burn your shit, or you are not attracted to her and it would be leading her on. Even if she eventually got to a point where she "liked you too much to just be FWB" then let her make that choice and go find some other women who are more congruent in what you … | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:43 PM |
| 2 | What do I do when they break eye contact?You know, there's a few reasons why breaking eye contact happens: They stopped paying attention They're shy It's kind of weird to stare at each other for long periods of time without at least looking around now and again Eye contact is something that shouldn't be avoided or forced - it should just happen as a natural extension of you being able to look at people when you talk to them. So, the other person didn't realize you put THAT much value on it I swear, people mythologize eye contact. Yes i… | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:42 PM |
| 9 | Is the amount of girls who "check you out" on the street an accurate measure of your attractiveness?Let's consider for a moment that the world actually DOES revolve around you and that everyone notices you immediately, wherever you go, and makes negative judgments. Yes, in this case, you are screwed. Look, I get it - guys who are Adonis level of physical attraction get looks. Shit, sometimes even I get looks - I'm not bad looking, I may even be pretty good looking, and I get the up down now and again. But the bottom line is none of that means shit if you're not actually approaching women. Eye … | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:38 PM |
| 2 | How do you know when to move in for a kiss?How do you know? You don't. You never do. It's always a risk. Become a guy who can take risks and can accept failure with grace. Obviously, pay attention for positive signs - is she standing close to you? Is she comfortable around you? Does she maintain eye contact, and does that come with a smile? Does she let you put your arm around her, and does she push herself in closer and get comfy? You need to be going out and getting enough experiences where you can immediately feel and look for these s… | /r/seduction | 28/08/14 06:33 PM |
| 2 | How do you SHOW attraction?Kino. Kino, kino, kino. Did I mention kino yet? Eye contact doesn't hurt either. And don't just talk, listen - for two reasons: Women appreciate it. If she's an unbearable windbag, you find that out early. | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 02:05 PM |
| 3 | PUAs who have girlfriend now, how do you manage to retain them using seduction techniques ?I was gonna say I don't actively do anything. I just do all the shit that made me attractive to her in the first place because that's who I am at this point in my life. | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 02:03 PM |
| 10 | What does it mean when the girl tells you to stop looking at her 'that' way?Context, experience. Add a working brain, and you've got the solution to most of life's problems. | /r/seduction | 18/08/14 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Calling in the big guns, how to deal with this female AMOG?figuring out how to handle girls like her without losing my dignity or my temper. Why are you handling her at all? Leave the situation. Or do exactly what I told you up there. Either way, the stakes are non-existent. | /r/seduction | 16/08/14 12:04 AM |
| 0 | Calling in the big guns, how to deal with this female AMOG?how do I put a stop to her crap without showing the extent to which it offends/annoys me? You've already lost, young padawan. See, you're in a vulnerable position here because you think the opinion of someone you've met for about a week is somehow important enough to kowtow to. You're not trying to win her favor, so why bother? You're also leaving the company. It literally won't matter in a few days, and would be the equivalent of putting out fires on a sinking ship. Get off the boat, mate. I'm … | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 02:07 PM |
| 3 | My buddy approached two women THROUGH THE WINDOW while they were having drinks in a bar during the day. [pics]It's spelled "padawan." Source: I'm a fucking nerd. | /r/seduction | 08/08/14 10:49 PM |
| 3 | PSA: I overheard a guy on his first date ask the girl "Hey, do you think my armpit hair is weird? Here, touch it. It's super soft. Weird right?!" DO NOT DO THIS.I was gonna say, did she do it? If she did, maybe that was his "is she down?" test. | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 03:56 PM |
| 1 | [IG] Nice Guys Listen UpGiven the source, I was waiting for that to turn into some sort of elaborate trolling attempt so I skipped to the bottom. I can't tell if I was disappointed or not. | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Plate Spinning - Discussion and Looking for tips.When I'm single and dating around, I spin plates. Everyone I am in that situation with knows, and I have a reputation to begin with. So, I offer pretty much everything but monogamy in those cases. For most women I meet and date, that's enough, because they're not exactly looking to settle own either. Women who are open to this appreciate discretion, because they get judged for it a hell of a lot more than we do. Especially if they're considered attractive (usually physically). All sorts of peopl… | /r/seduction | 25/06/14 07:09 PM |
| 1 | What are your personal views on monogamy?Would you mind expanding on this? In no particular order: Not escalating - as an extrovert, I've always been good at getting people to hang out and talk, but until I started learning ballroom/latin dancing in college, I was always really shy about touching people. This brings me to my next point. Tons of hang ups about notions of "purity" with women, sexual double standards, thinking sex was bad from how I grew up. Took a while to work through the cognitive dissonance between my desire for women… | /r/seduction | 05/06/14 01:40 PM |
| 1 | What are your personal views on monogamy?I was wondering whether your current girlfriend is also of the same ethnicity? She's white (and some amount of native American) and as American as one can get. I've dated mostly white girls, but mostly from Europe. I dunno how or why I keep meeting them. Guess it's cause I like them. I started reading shit towards the end of high school. Doc Love's Dating Dictionary. Opened my eyes to a few things - particularly, the pragmatism you need to have in relationships, and to stop taking so many things… | /r/seduction | 05/06/14 05:30 AM |
| 2 | What are your personal views on monogamy?Haha you should try having that conversation with someone sometime Masturbating is more fun. | /r/seduction | 05/06/14 01:51 AM |
| 5 | [FR] did I respond correctly to this shit test?There was no shit test because you two aren't dating. So, you could have said whatever you wanted. It's not like the hand of god would have come down and given you a gold star because you came up with the right witty response. If a woman isn't interested in you or somehow involved in your life, every thought you have about her is wasting time. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 08:48 PM |
| 2 | What are your personal views on monogamy?I agree with most of it. Thanks. I'm not here to push an agenda though. I feel like anytime you talk about a lifestyle choice, someone always comes in and says "but your choice makes my choice look wrong!" I never talk about how I feel about monogamy in real life because a) I'm not trying to convince anyone, b) it's a personal thing, and c) it's not interesting to me because it's not something that requires other people's input. But, someone always asked and prods about it, and I answer, and som… | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 08:22 PM |
| 6 | What are your personal views on monogamy?Personally? Strict monogamy with no sexual variety is a prison for both people involved. Das jus me doe. Although I don't discount that for some people with a lower sex drive, this arrangement can work. More power too them, and in a way, they have my envy. No drive to meet lots of new people, perfectly content with one person for the rest of their lives. If that's what makes him or her happy, who's to argue? Certain experiences and cultural attitudes inform this opinion of mine. In no particular… | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 08:15 PM |
| 2 | I asked a girl to pay for herself on a first date. I didn't feel good about it, but felt I had to stand my ground.What I would have done, learning that she would be late and knowing that I wouldn't enjoy a movie date early on, would be to just reschedule, or not see her at all. Logistics, my friend. Also, for first dates, it's usually good to have a backup plan for something to do with friends or whatever if the woman flakes. When I'm single, I rarely have time to block out 2-3 hours to get to know someone, so I make damn sure that even if she flakes, I have something fun I've been looking forward to. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Why you should be very careful of certain types of people in the "community".I've read some of his other posts. He's not a troll, and I tend to agree with a lot of his stuff. Tends to pick fights online, though. Well, maybe not pick fights. But definitely goes to places where fights might start. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 07:10 PM |
| 4 | I asked a girl to pay for herself on a first date. I didn't feel good about it, but felt I had to stand my ground.I think it was pretty badass of him, actually I think you misunderstand me - being badass, and how he is perceived by this particular woman who is not interested in him has nothing to do with it. He got his money back. Good on him. My advice was not for this girl, though. It's for the future, and how he treats other girls. He either continues to pay for women, and then gets pissed when that doesn't translate to a meaningful connection, or he stops paying for women, and meaningful connections app… | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 06:17 PM |
| 26 | I asked a girl to pay for herself on a first date. I didn't feel good about it, but felt I had to stand my ground.With how western society is structured, most women will assume you're going to pay. If you want to change this expectation, do it early, not after the fact. You wouldn't have gotten anywhere anyway, from how you described the date, but just a pointer in the future, lay logistics out early and clearly. Like, when you guys ordered the tickets, you could just buy your own ticket and let her get her own. If she asks, you could say "I didn't realize I was paying for you, sorry." What you did was late… | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 03:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you do with girls that hang out with you whenever you ask then, but don't try to keep the conversation going or ask you anything?Fuck them, generally. :) There's plenty of room to escalate, with or without conversation. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 03:19 PM |
| 3 | What do you do with girls that hang out with you whenever you ask then, but don't try to keep the conversation going or ask you anything?Well if she doesn't want to talk, she is there for another reason I dunno man, I'm a pretty damn good cook. Ha. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 03:14 PM |
| 5 | Why you should be very careful of certain types of people in the "community".Important point of meta-discussion that I think gets largely ignored against the greater backdrop of gaining technique and experience - we all have to wrangle at some point with the kind of person we want to be as we develop our game. When it comes to game, there's two types of players: Those who lift themselves up, and those who tear others down. Most people start in the latter camp because they're coming from a place of bitterness and loneliness. They even justify it. "I'm a better guy than th… | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Why you should be very careful of certain types of people in the "community".Username: bitterposer Cannot tell if troll. | /r/seduction | 04/06/14 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Inner Game - What if it WAS you that made the mistake?If you made a mistake, apologize. If this it's something you can fix, fix it. Note the other person's capacity for forgiveness. Try not to make that particular mistake again. I find that it's easier to learn how to go with the flow and recover from mistakes than it is to try to be perfect. Perfection mindsets lead to inaction. If you're pragmatic and willing to correct yourself when you're wrong, you'll find people are generally more forgiving. And, if they're not, you can leave. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Do you think the most intelligent women require more than just game?However, in my experience, the game does not work well on most of these women, and in fact usually backfires This has never been the case with me. It's called calibrating. If you're of a similar level of education and worldliness, you shouldn't come across any major hang-ups. | /r/seduction | 25/05/14 01:49 AM |
| 13 | [FR] This girl threw me off my game when she told me her boyfriend died last month.From the story it sounds like she approached OP though, so it doesn't make sense for him to think she isn't interested in him. But it does make sense for him to calibrate for her boyfriend having died 2-4 paychecks ago. Am I the only one fixated on this? That's just basic human empathy. Even if she's attracted, there will be baggage, and the solution is STILL space. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 04:03 PM |
| 26 | [FR] This girl threw me off my game when she told me her boyfriend died last month.These are the only two options. OP's situation is what happens when people get so focused on game and details and minutiae and winning that they miss the big picture. And usually that picture is ugly. Damn. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 02:14 PM |
| 74 | [FR] This girl threw me off my game when she told me her boyfriend died last month.There's two options here: She doesn't actually like you, and is too spineless to straight up tell you and made some shit up about a dead boyfriend. Her boyfriend just died and goddamn it, give it some space. Are you dense? There are other women out there without massive fucking emotional baggage and you're asking questions about one who is dealing with some serious shit right now. It doesn't matter how attractive she finds you if she's not over someone's DEATH. So, yeah, your move, bro. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 01:41 PM |
| 7 | What are some good flirting games?I was gonna say Capcom vs SNK 2, but then I realized you were asking about flirting. If she's into video games, Capcom vs SNK 2 is a good flirting game. Play for massages. | /r/seduction | 09/05/14 01:28 PM |
| 2 | I got shot down after 4 dates. Here's how it happened and how I reacted.No, not a perfect way to handle it. I'm bringing more attention to the meta-game... less that you handled it "clumsily" and more that you seemed very concerned about how you should handle it, when really at that point in the interaction it wasn't really necessary. I mean, I'm not telling you not to care. But, you know, when a woman is showing signs of disinterest, you don't need to go out of your way to make her feel comfortable anymore. She's not your concern. I'm not saying to antagonize her -… | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 02:24 PM |
| 1 | I got shot down after 4 dates. Here's how it happened and how I reacted.The spirit is right (lack of negativity), but you could have said it all in a lot fewer words. If I had to guess, you were really concerned about what she thought of you - not in the "am I attracted to him" way, but in the "is he a good guy" way. Nothing wrong with being a good guy, but pushing that angle has little to do with attraction. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Dancing: what do? My guide on how to get girls to dance with you.I did hand of God from behind or side a girl and didn't even make eye contact Not saying that can't work, but it's not typical for most guys. | /r/seduction | 02/05/14 02:52 PM |
| 0 | At 23, I've just been handed my first breakup. I fucked up alot and I'm still in the shock stage. Can you guys recommend some things to me?Well, you can start deconstructing that pedestal, and realize that it's one girl, one relationship, and just a dot in the continuum of your life. Do whatever you gotta do. I get that your relationship was important to you, but it's over, dude. Putting it up as some sort of "peak" in your life that you fell from is a recipe for certain dissatisfaction. For practical advice that you can apply right away, most other people already said it - focus on other things for now like your hobbies and any lo… | /r/seduction | 14/04/14 02:13 PM |
| 2 | There's a point where you get sick of seeing things online like "The KEY to overcoming AA!" and all the fear just disappearsAnyone break their AA or EA by just overloading and exhausting whatever it is that keeps you from approaching? 1000 approaches. Also, when you stop acting like your emotions have any effect whatsoever on what you should be doing, you will be more effective. Sometimes, you have to put aside the feelings to be effective. Feelings are feelings, not decisions or actions - things go wrong when you try to mash them together. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 01:49 PM |
| 2 | How to break down the aloof barrier?What do you mean by status? The way others perceive your value. In public, there are a few ways to increase it: Dressing well Smelling good Good posture, not afraid of eye contact, calmness and deliberateness of movement (no fidgeting) Having friends with you, and all of you having fun. Attractive friends are a bonus That's not the entire list of things you can do to display value before an approach, but they all help. The idea is that you have all these things going for you before an approach. … | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 01:25 PM |
| 2 | How to break down the aloof barrier?If you did nothing wrong, ignore her. If you did something wrong, ignore her. This piece of advice is specific to your situation - basically if you DID do something wrong that you weren't aware of, and her response was not to bring it up or discuss it or anything, that's either a sign of low interest or bullshitting you. Neither is a good time, so ignore. | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Is this girl 'fishing' for compliments? Or am I missing some sort of signals?Here's what I think: you should ask her out. If she says yes, shows up, is receptive to your advances (you're making advances, right), laughs at your jokes, keeps eye contact, and you two end up banging like rabbits at the end of the night and for the next 2 months, then I'd say she's into you. Other than that, she's texting back and forth with some dude because that's literally the least amount of effort you can put into communicating with someone, and what the hell else are you supposed to do … | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 03:18 PM |
| 2 | I just ended a tinder three-peat, and she went a bit cray cray.Using dude instead of baby, friend words. I don't even do that. Girl's first name suffices. I only start calling someone pet names if I really like them. And even then, no guarantee of LTR. | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 03:15 PM |
| 5 | How to break down the aloof barrier?I've come across several women who put up this "I'm too good for you, your pathetic attempts are amusing to me." mantra. Do you otherwise have great success with women? If you do, this shouldn't be a problem for you because these women would either smell it on you, or you wouldn't care. Also, I've recently had a chick who was initially showing mad interest suddenly flip this switch on. If you did nothing wrong, ignore her. If you did something wrong, ignore her. I realized the other day that it'… | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 03:14 PM |
| 8 | I just ended a tinder three-peat, and she went a bit cray cray.Whats your gameplan for keeping a few good romps at arms length. building just enough attraction, and keeping it more friendly and casual, rather than romantic? SHE got attached to YOU. There's no way to control that aside from you becoming less attractive. That's not in any way a good idea. Words from her mouth: "I just want something casual." Just because she started to see something more doesn't oblige you to get into a relationship, dude. I wouldn't sweat it. These things happen. She's a big… | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 03:06 PM |
| 2 | How do I get an insanely hot girl interested and how do I get her to be herself? [m/20]Okay, now I can give advice. It's fine that you have a strong personality. But where you're slipping up is that you're trying to push it and sell it to the other person before they know they even want to buy. You have to let people discover things about you. You've gotta get your foot in the door, and starting with your quirks is not always so effective. Pull it back a bit. You don't have to hide who you are, but I generally don't talk about my love of video games within the first 20 minutes of … | /r/seduction | 28/03/14 01:28 AM |
| 3 | How do I get an insanely hot girl interested and how do I get her to be herself? [m/20]I'm extroverted but sometimes that makes me seem crazy I'm extroverted and I never seem crazy. That's something you should work on. I'd give pointers, but you didn't say anything specific. How can I be myself with out coming across as crazy? Again, you use this word crazy as if we're supposed to know what you're doing. Are you dressing up like a clown and running at people throwing pies? I have no idea what to tell you because I don't know what you're doing, other than NOT talking to the women y… | /r/seduction | 27/03/14 04:29 PM |
| 3 | How can I 'store' girls for later?Friendzone them. But, remember, attraction isn't something you can freeze and store. It has an expiration date that varies widely and there are no guarantees. Part of the game. Be okay with that, and it becomes a non-issue. | /r/seduction | 25/03/14 03:22 PM |
| 5 | How can I 'store' girls for later?Like lotion. | /r/seduction | 25/03/14 03:21 PM |
| 1 | When out on the prowl during a night of drinking should I expect a call/text back from girls?The goal of this subreddit is to get you to a place where that kind of thing will happen, and it will just be a part of your normal operating life. That's just how things go for you, when you really break through. In any case, if you find yourself developing oneitis, you need to get out more. There's no mental trick to getting rid of this feeling. Only the physical action of meeting new people and doing things that fulfill you will get you out of that headspace. | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 03:53 PM |
| 3 | This Subreddit sounds like a broken recordExactly. There's nothing new to seduction under the sun unless something else like Tinder comes out that presents a new avenue of meeting people, and even then the basics trump most situationally-aware game. Men have been bedding women since the beginning of human history. There's variance in how, but not to the extent that we have to reinvent the wheel. | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Did an approach on a beautiful girl at a bar, went from feeling alpha to feeling like a p*ssy. Help?Relieve the pressure. It's just a conversation. Relax bro. Can't win 'em all. | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Did an approach on a beautiful girl at a bar, went from feeling alpha to feeling like a p*ssy. Help?In the back of mind I was terrifed because she was such a beatuiful girl Did the last beautiful girl beat you up? Murder your parents? Steal your irreplaceable collection of GI Joe figurines and melt them in the microwave? No? Then you have nothing to be afraid of. Okay I get it. I've been there. I'm not going to logic you out of being afraid. Fear is an emotion - logic has no power there. At least, not directly. But, if you remind yourself when you get there that this isn't D-Day on Utah beach,… | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Im confused between "be confident, be yourself and do not be sorry for who you are" vs. "do these things to learn how to be attractive"Your journey in seduction will be to find the common ground between those two things. It will be your best self. We can give pointers, and advice that has worked for others. It's up to you to take it, run with it, see what makes you happen and what doesn't, see what gets results for you and what doesn't, and adjust accordingly. I think you think you're a total jerk. But, who knows if you could be happier not doing that? Or maybe you can find a way to be that, and not piss people off? I'm a loudm… | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 02:58 PM |
| 5 | What is the best response/reaction when you ask a woman out and she replies with something hesitant like "sounds good, but let me double check and let you know"?"Sure." And then let the dice fall where they may. Meet other women in the meantime. The takeaway here is that if you haven't convinced her by the time you go for the sale, no cleverness or "right response" will sway her. In some cases, if she's actually busy and such, her response itself is valid, in which case my original post ("sure" and then leaving it up to her while you go do other things) applies. In that case, she will reply and you will have a date, or not. Best not to overthink. | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 02:55 PM |
| 2 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?I'm basically at the point to where I'm going to just force myself eventually because it's a good skill to have. Do you have dancers you enjoy watching? It helps a lot. Watching dancing, and dancing, are two very closely related things. If you enjoy watching it, you'll find a way to enjoy the process. Here are the people I love watching: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=280sGC16jmA&t=177 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TGGPaVCLHA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgAGLcpJXo8 | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 05:32 PM |
| 2 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?How do you force yourself to like it. A big part of what kept me into it in the beginning was that I'm a competitive person by nature. Failures, for me, just give me reason to try harder next time. In that way, even though sucking at it was frustrating for a while, I never quit, and every gain was a big victory to celebrate. I can't answer this question for you because it's different for everyone. Also, my own relationship with dance has changed as I've done it. It's gone more and more in the di… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 05:12 PM |
| 3 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?Here's what I do: I dance. People watch. I go get a drink. Then walk back over and open whoever I want. Look at me, I just finished this awesome dance, aren't I so cool? You doubt yourself and don't assume attraction here, if you're thinking this. It's not that assuming attraction will make your results explode or jump, but you haven't fully committed to the approach if you're apprehensive about it. If you're going over there with the expectation that she'll just think you're a show-off, the who… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 04:52 PM |
| 2 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?So is busting into the middle of a dance circle your modus operandi Usually. This is why I usually hang at clubs and lounges that are popular but not packed to the gills, have the music I like (I gotta feel the music), and aren't so dark that you can barely see a person's face. After that, it's just social momentum. Again, having friends who like dancing will help with that. Even a guy like me needs some social momentum to "perform" impromptu in front of a bunch of strangers. When I'm feeling th… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 03:02 PM |
| 38 | Are any of your FWB sleeping with other guys? How do you feel about it?I don't think I'm doing this right...is this what dating is? There is no right or wrong as long as you're not willfully hurting anyone . Dating is whatever you want it to be. If you find yourself conflicted here, then maybe step it back to short spurts of dating monogamy. Usually, I say pushing your comfort zone is best. It took me a while to get used to sleeping with lots of women too, because of the social stigma against it. But, I wasn't hurting anyone, and it helped that my reputation was al… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:58 PM |
| 44 | What about the (best) friendzone?I don't understand why the first instinct, for people who have been in the friendzone, is to "tell the girl my feelings" and then expect her to do something with that. It should be instead "hey, let's go out." And kino. And making a move or something. And then escalating from there. If she asks you what's up, then you can tell her. "I always found you attractive. Figured we'd go well together." But then again if she asks you what's up in the middle of having fun and escalating, she's probably no… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:53 PM |
| 1 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?Dancing by itself doesn't help you meet women. Meeting women is easy, they're everywhere. Dancing helps you demonstrate high value. That's hard. So, I'd go with c-walking and street dancing if you're actually interested in it. Feel free to take partner dances too if you're truly interested in them. But, my original comment still applies to both. You gotta put in time. | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:33 PM |
| -1 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?That's bullshit. Dance is like artistic ability, musical talent and athleticism, there are TOTALLY people born with natural ability. Really? I consider a natural someone like Mozart, who looked at a piano, played a few notes, and immediately understood it and started composing symphonies. There are people who learn faster than others. But make no mistake, anyone who gets good enough at dancing for most people to consider them a "natural" spends at least 10-15 hours a week training in their forma… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:58 AM |
| 9 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?If they don't go into questions the assumption still stands and they thinking you're a cheating scumbag if you try to make a move on any other woman than the one you're seen with. This has never happened to me. I suppose it's because when I dance with my female friends, I keep kino more casual. Also, female friends plural - if you just bring one, that's kinda asking for people to assume you're a couple. Especially if you're grinding, and dancing with your faces in kiss range, then you would give… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:49 AM |
| 7 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?I'm gonna have to answer with a Bruce Lee quote: "Have no style." You can learn anything you want. For clubs etc, the most usable is definitely hip hop, but if you become a good dancer in any style, you can go to a club and just move however you want, and it'll be better than 90 percent of the people there. The dancing, confidence, grace, and everything just gets baked into you. That takes a while though. Having a "relevant style" like hip hop would give you the charisma and confidence boost you… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:43 AM |
| 2 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?If classes are not an option do you recommend any online resources for progressing/learning new moves? Preferably free ones. Where do you live that there's no one who runs jam sessions or anything like that? As for online stuff, look on youtube for actual guides. They exist. If you're into hip hop and street dance, find some people who are in your area that you enjoy watching, and ask them about how you can get started. The easiest way to stick to something is to make a bunch of friends who do t… | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:41 AM |
| 23 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?I'm an extremely good dancer What kind? If you have moves that can impress people, do exactly this: "busting into the middle of a dance circle and showing off" Your words. It can totally work. At least as often as cold approaches. Worst that happens is they think you're a try-hard. Which is the exact same thing that happens when a girl you approach blows you off. If we still approach anyway with the possibility of a blow-out, why not put our best foot forward, literally, on the dance floor. It's… | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:41 PM |
| 46 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?Not being able to see would make life so much more difficult than not being able to hear things But when he's blind, everyone's a hot girl. | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:34 PM |
| 6 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?Actually, I don't know that I would. If I can still masturbate, I think I might choose dance. Tough question because the sex is great, it's the best thing in the world. But, when the sex is average or bad, yeesh. Whereas dance is always consistently rewarding, and always has me smiling ear to ear. | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:31 PM |
| 16 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?Told you, tough question. It's like asking me whether I'd rather be blind or deaf. | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:12 PM |
| 6 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?People have been dancing for 140,000 years without taking a class twice a week I'll agree with you insofar as I believe all people have the built in capacity to learn how to dance. I'm not saying people can't be self taught. A lot of the greats were self taught in some respect. But if you're a professional dancer, I think it's irresponsible to write off the value of formal education in dance when someone like OP asks how to get where you are. You may have been completely self taught, but the vas… | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:11 PM |
| 2 | If you don't hear back for a couple days, always send a follow-up text.Dude. Why do you post so infrequently? Busy writing my novel, and dancing. Also, full time job to finance both of those things... something had to give. | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 11:04 PM |
| 171 | How the fuck do I learn to dance?I'm a semi-professional dancer. I started as a way to meet girls. Here is my advice. If you want to actually get respectable, you have to enjoy the process, because you will SUCK for a while before you catch on. It's like pick-up - sure you might do it for the girls, but you have to love being out there on the floor and enjoy moving if you want to learn anything. There are no quick fixes. Take class. It can be whatever class you want, but take it for at least twice a week for 6 months. That's th… | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 09:09 PM |
| 18 | If you don't hear back for a couple days, always send a follow-up text.Awful advice! If she doesn't text back move on I agree with you in the long run. But, one follow up text, especially if this is a girl you seem to have built rapport with, isn't unwarranted. Most of the guys who wonder about whether to send a follow up, in my experience, are actually guys who have already gone on a first date and gotten a make-out or better. So, it's not completely unfounded to entertain the possibility that a text could have gotten missed. I miss texts all the time. Plus, sendi… | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 07:10 PM |
| 4 | If you don't hear back for a couple days, always send a follow-up text.I actually liked this girl. Now I just want to seduce and fuck her for spite as a trophy win. That's called oneitis. Also, how did that sarcasm work out for you? | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 07:07 PM |
| 5 | If you don't hear back for a couple days, always send a follow-up text.What if you know she works 3 jobs and has issues getting back to you or just blows you off? What if you also know she's constantly adding guys on facebook. You know, a bullpen of men to choose from. How you do attack that? Text again. No reply? Not interested. Move on. Got a reply? She shows up at the date. Good times are had. Win. | /r/seduction | 06/03/14 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Can true charisma be learned?Yes and no. More like you can uncover and develop your charisma. Ultimately there has to be a bit of a spark there. The tools of charisma, like posture, body language, eloquence, life experience - those can be learned and developed like anything else, but they ultimately multiply something more intangible underneath. That said, the only way to find out how charismatic you are is to enable your charisma by developing exactly those things: posture, body language, eloquence, life experience and the… | /r/seduction | 05/03/14 03:15 PM |
| 7 | Every lurker of this subreddit needs to see this infield footage of RSDBrad. - Incredible escalationI thought it was interesting that his main competition was a cigarette. It's not always another guy that's blowing you out, gentlemen! | /r/seduction | 03/03/14 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that girls always behave differently on text, and differently in person?Well, there's a lot of ways to explain what you're experiencing here. I will say that only their reaction in person matters, because in person is where the magic happens. Sometimes you can do well over text. But none of that matters unless it translates into doing well in person so that you can actually escalate and produce something from the exchange. I would say if women give you a lot more leeway over text than in person, you need to investigate how you're presenting yourself. How are you dre… | /r/seduction | 03/03/14 05:09 PM |
| 8 | How to be upfront/forward in college?Okay. Let's make a distinction here. "Be bold" and "be sexual" don't mean for you to say "I want to bang you" being the first thing coming out of your mouth in broad daylight, regardless of context. Those are more about mindsets than overt actions. They mean for you to stop wondering whether it's okay to flirt with a girl and just flirt with her. They mean for you to be okay with kino and escalation. Being bold and sexual are not about going from 0-100 mph as quickly as possible - they're more a… | /r/seduction | 24/02/14 07:44 PM |
| 8 | Convential wisdom says don't approach in the gym; but are there exceptions?Best time to meets someone new at the gym: When that person isn't actively working on something When that person is taking a stretch break in a non-class setting, such as a steam room or general use area In line at the water fountain Any time where giving you attention wouldn't COST the person something that they need to spend elsewhere (their attention, time, etc). Approaching someone in a gym also works much better if you regularly see them there and have at least made regular eye contact and … | /r/seduction | 24/02/14 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Abundance mentality only with girls I'm not super intoAbundance mentality is tied to independence of outcomes. There is no abundance with outcome dependence. Part of becoming independent to outcomes is to develop a thick social skin. This is the 1000 approaches, the comfort with rejection that only experience can net you. Those times when you're stumbling over your words with girls you find attractive? You need to keep having those moments and figuring your own rhythm out of them, until you don't have them anymore. Just remember - for most people, … | /r/seduction | 24/02/14 04:20 PM |
| 8 | Gatsby's Most Beta Moment Ever - What's Yours?My most beta moments: Every time ever that I tried to be "too cool" to go after a girl. | /r/seduction | 06/02/14 03:35 PM |
| 5 | Worst Date. Of. All. Time. (Advice?)See those things that other guy did? Flirting, escalation, offering value, escalating, being funny, escalating. When did you escalate? You didn't. You tagged along. You let two strangers dictate what you were doing on your date. By the time the girl was his, it wouldn't have mattered what you did or said. Shitty thing is, if you made a move before the coke incident (not a morality choice, more because that was the point of no return at which she started ignoring you as a source of fun) I think t… | /r/seduction | 05/02/14 04:45 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl pulls out the "I have a bf" card after substantial flirtingSorry for the late response. I would love to not waste my time on such interactions The answer to your problem: ask her if she's single off the bat. If she's not, find a way to turn her into a wing, or excuse yourself from the conversation. turn it into a yes next time You can turn a neutral girl into a yes. Very rarely can you turn a "no" into a "yes." If a single girl says no after 20 minutes of interaction, regardless of how flirty you think it is, you either started neutral and slid into "no… | /r/seduction | 04/02/14 03:53 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl pulls out the "I have a bf" card after substantial flirtingWhy flirt like crazy with a guy at a bar at fucking 1am on friday night if you have a bf? Does it matter? Either way, regardless of what's going on in her mind, you escalated, asked for the number, and got shot down. Maybe she has a bf. Maybe she doesn't. What matters is that she said no. | /r/seduction | 01/02/14 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Any of you guys want to get close to girls and have regular casual sex but hate the culture around pickup and game?The thing is I'm (a) out of practice, (b) low on confidence, (c) don't want to practice or build myself up because I don't want to go back to the guy I was. So, you have a problem, but you don't want to do what's necessary to solve it? I already told you, you can go about this however you want. No one's telling you to put on a PUA hat and start selling shit for RSD or whatever. All I'm saying is that if you want this kind of relationship from women, you're the one who needs to go out and meet th… | /r/seduction | 01/02/14 09:27 PM |
| 157 | Any of you guys want to get close to girls and have regular casual sex but hate the culture around pickup and game?The grown up man's seduction manual: His own sense of direction, and his resolve to take risks. Don't look for hands to hold. There are none. If you've mastered "the basics" it's now time to do all that stuff you just asked about: I just want to fuck some pretty, not stupid girls and make some close friends I care about. I want to be able to approach a girl when I want and not get stuck in a relationship that's run its course because a girl's hot and it's comfortable. Meet pretty women. Get numb… | /r/seduction | 31/01/14 05:52 PM |
| 159 | Tinder Game: I get shitloads of matches but can't get a solid date? Anyone with some solid tips on this? [I'm in Melb, Aus btw]Let's meet up at Starbucks at 7 for some pizza He's so suave he can get pizza at Starbuck's. | /r/seduction | 28/01/14 06:13 PM |
| 2 | How do you get back your game after a break-up?You're in college. Continue life as usual. Ace your classes, stay in shape. With regard to game: meet new people. Always be meeting new people. Doesn't have to be at parties, doesn't have to be at 2AM on a Wednesday at Lucky Luke's tequila night. Just always be open to meeting new people. Have a short conversation with a stranger at the bus stop, or when you're waiting in line. Get used to being the kind of person who gets things rolling instead of waiting for them to happen. You'll meet a lot o… | /r/seduction | 22/01/14 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Is a direct approach ever the wrong choice?I just wanted to clarify that there was no negative connotation to the word "polarizing" Good... just makin' sure. | /r/seduction | 17/01/14 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Has Anyone Else Switched From the "1-10" Scale to the "0 or 1" Scale?Dude, I only ever think about a "scale" when I have to describe who I'm interacting with in a FR. When it's me on the ground out there, there are women I find attractive, and those I don't. Some are more than others, granted, but how many times do I have to choose between 3 or 4 girls, all of whom will not get down unless it's exclusive? When there are that many, just pull them all. You'd be surprised how many are up for group fun. | /r/seduction | 17/01/14 07:25 PM |
| 6 | Is a direct approach ever the wrong choice?the quickest way to polarizing a woman This is a good thing. You WANT to polarize people. You don't want wishy washy, gray area, pedestal building bullshit. Some women will hate you. You don't have to deal with them. You can say "well, sorry for taking your time," and leave. But if you want those women who are waiting for a guy like you, you need to be direct. If a woman doesn't feel attraction to you within the first 30 seconds, no amount of tiptoeing and "making the right moves" thereafter wil… | /r/seduction | 17/01/14 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Adapting for the Gay GameKino - physical touch. Can be used to gauge another person's interest in you (positive reactions to your touching) and also build attraction in those who find you potentially attractive. Look it up in the sidebar. Plenty o' guides on how to take the lead establishing physical comfort. | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 08:47 PM |
| 6 | Discussion: Talking about seduction with the girl you are seducing.Topics of conversation are only as good as the attraction and rapport between the people talking about them. Take for example that between you and your best friend, almost no subjects are taboo. But, talk to someone who doesn't like you, and it won't matter what you talk about. There is, of course, the case where two people who don't vibe in the chemistry department still find a common subject fascinating, but the shadow of anti-chemistry will always be there fucking up the conversation. So, rem… | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Adapting for the Gay GameI'm straight, but I would venture that if the dynamic between you and the person you're interested in has you in the active role and the other person in the passive role (in terms of who asks whom out), a lot of the advice involving kino and opening will apply directly. Of course, even in hetero relationships, these "roles" aren't set in stone. Techniques are techniques, and each has its use. It's up to you to practice them, learn what works for you in what situations, and continue improving. As… | /r/seduction | 06/01/14 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Why she went back to her ex.but it's not necessarily his fault I get what you're saying, but the subtle point I'm trying to make is that any guy who wants to get good at dating needs to remember first that a) she chose the other guy, and then the idea that b) MAYBE it's not his fault is secondary to that, and not always true. If you make rules about these exceptions where the girl goes back to her ex (I've never seen this happen with guys who knew their shit), and you say "well, it's not your fault," you might be right 5 o… | /r/seduction | 03/01/14 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Why she went back to her ex.In that case it hardly matters how awesome cardboard cut-out guy-in-the-middle is, he is never given serious consideration. What that means, is that she finds him less attractive than the other option. Call a spade a spade, brother. She may find him attractive enough to bang, but if she still finds the other guy even more attractive AND she hasn't gotten over him, like you said, it was over before it began. But, not for anything more complicated than "she liked one guy more than the other." I me… | /r/seduction | 03/01/14 04:54 AM |
| 11 | Why she went back to her ex.Let's make a clear distinction here: A woman ALWAYS chooses the man she's more attracted to. Always. That said, sometimes, for one or many of a million reasons, a woman is attracted to an asshat who treats her like dog shit. In my experience, the only women I've ever seen do this had a whole list of qualities that were very unattractive to me after discovering them. But, that's neither here nor there. The bottom line is that when a woman leaves you, she left because she's not attracted enough to… | /r/seduction | 02/01/14 07:33 PM |
| 3 | DAE find that women really don't have very good game at all?women who were immature, or didn't know how to handle themselves when dealing with other people in general (versus just in relationships) The women you mentioned fall into this category. You will do well to be careful around them. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 08:44 PM |
| 1 | My Inner Game has come a long way but has 2 major glitches that I can't reason out. Advice?You are not your penis size. Sex is not all about P in V. You need to learn how to pleasure a woman with more than just your dick. The only way to do this is practice. So, regardless of how afraid you are of how you might blow it the first couple, dozen, or hundred times, you need to just get out there and let it happen. Focus on her pleasure, but don't ignore your own. Sex is best when both people are enjoying it. If you get too far into your head telling yourself not to come too soon, or if yo… | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 07:35 PM |
| 19 | DAE find that women really don't have very good game at all?The whole premise of male to female seduction is based on the premise that the seducer (in this case the man) will take the lead, making any inexperience when it comes to the courtship kind of irrelevant. Now, if you're asking whether I've dated women who were immature, or didn't know how to handle themselves when dealing with other people in general (versus just in relationships), then yes. How a woman conducts herself with other people is how she conducts herself in a relationship. Remember th… | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Situation: You're on a pedestal. Now what?You're not on a pedestal. You're just interacting with girls that either don't like you, or have hang-ups. Pedestal syndrome is a sickness of low supply/lack of options. A guy pedestals a girl because he doesn't have a lot of options, and he wants to brainwash himself into thinking that this particular girl with whom he thinks he has a shot is the best girl ever who is worthy of having mountains moved. Otherwise, she's just some chick who tolerates him (depressing reality). Because of the dynami… | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 05:54 PM |
| 1 | "No More Mr. Nice Guy" vs "How to Win Friends and Influence People", two books often recommended on here. Has anyone else read these, and sees contradictions in following both of their advice at the same time?All advice anywhere will eventually contradict. This is because what works for one person, or a thousand people, will not always work for you. The idea is to give insight, not instruction. You have to make choices on how you behave and go about your life. Advice is informative in the sense that it can show you possibilities, less that it will tell you one singular, dogmatic, "right" way. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 05:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to really lame excuses?I have found that you don't actually have to get 20 numbers, but you have to have the mindset that the situation didn't impact your frame Exactly what I meant. The idea is that any single woman having a lame excuse is just one woman. If you've been outgoing and cultivating options, one woman being wishy washy is a blip on the radar. Honestly, even before I met my girl, I can't remember the last time a girl was flakey. Not because it didn't happen, but because it didn't matter. I just moved on to… | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 09:08 PM |
| 21 | How do you respond to really lame excuses?By getting 20 other numbers. | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Lady here: i have a question about approaching men in "unapproachable" situationsIf you're really on the upper end of physical attraction, and you aren't annoying, most guys would not mind you approaching them in 90 percent of cases. The only times it would not work is if they were clearly working on something that requires their concentration - if you're at the gym, don't interrupt his set. But, if he's resting between sets, feel free to walk up. An example for me is dance class. I'm social, and I like it when women introduce themselves. But when I'm in class, I need to foc… | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 03:20 PM |
| 2 | when i am not interested in a girl my game is better than when i am interested. how can i make my game better when i really like a girl.but how do you change your behavior? Behaviors are physical actions. You have conscious control over a lot of them. Sometimes, you let your brain take over and you start doing things automatically, but you can stop at any point and refocus. You might as well ask me "how do I walk? I know it's left-right-left-right, but I keep going left-left-right-left." You change your behaviors by changing them. Stop asking for a way to do it, because it's not the actions that you are having trouble with, it's… | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 09:51 PM |
| 1 | when i am not interested in a girl my game is better than when i am interested. how can i make my game better when i really like a girl.how can i make my game better when i really like a girl When you're less interested, you act a certain way. Continue to act that way when you are interested. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Girls ignoring you on purpose, shit test?She hasn't lost complete interest in me, I know this for sure. Do you really? Here's the thing, my friend. If the shit test isn't happening in person, ignore it. Just ignore it. Ignore her, for that matter, because fuck that noise, you got other women to be meeting. If a shit test is happening to you in person... well, discussing strategy will help to a certain point, but ultimately, you have to be the kind of guy who is wearing kevlar in a room full of Nerf guns: untouchable. That's not somethi… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Kissless virgin here, how do I stop that from keeping me down?Everyone starts out as someone that no one wants to kiss or bang. Even the popular guys you see who are "getting all the women" according to your imagination, started out that way. Some people catch a lucky break and learn what they need to know by just kind of stumbling through it and never experiencing low self-esteem or lack of confidence. YOU, on the other hand, will need to learn the hard way like 90 percent of other people, myself included. If you have to, remind yourself that everyone was… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Dancing: what do? My guide on how to get girls to dance with you.What will you do if a girl you like is in the club and she does not even know how to dance? This is a scarcity mindset. 90 percent of women in a club don't know how to dance and will dance anyway if they are attracted to a man. If a woman is attracted to you and insists on NOT dancing, then you isolate and escalate elsewhere. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Proper way to react to an ass grab?See, you thought escalation at that point was about being clever. Kino, my friend. She grabbed your ass, you can respond in kind and escalate. Eye contact and a smile is all you need. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Need help with texting.So I end up relying on text game That's the problem. 90 percent of building rapport is in person. You're trying to date girls, not type messages to them. Text is to facilitate dates - waiting by your phone to hear back from a person you like might be your idea of fun, but it's the last thing any attractive woman wants to be doing. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Lost my virginity last night! Just a couple questions,Sex, like any physical activity, requires practice. Even if you were consciously confident, your body knows that it's in a new situation, and new situations usually keep you from getting boners. The harder you get the more you feel. Take your time. Let your body get used to everything. Don't penetrate til you're good and ready. She'll help you get there. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 02:41 PM |
| 2 | What is Wrong With My Game?Well it's not as though I don't talk to girls lol. It's just that I don't approach randoms which is a seemingly big part of seduction. So... you just confirmed what I said up there. Also, even if you don't approach random girls, you need to do more than talk with the girls you do approach. Where's the escalation? Where's the clear intention? Where's the physical ease? Instead of finding reasons not to do all these things, get out there and meet people. You don't need a guide, you've got a year a… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Night Club Game: Making great progress needs some help closing the dealSo what happens is I end up being an amazing wingman. I bring the girls over in a very non threatening way, and then they can segway to one of my friends very easily, which is usually what happens. The women didn't turn you into a wingman. YOU did that. They came over for you. They didn't notice you dancing and then think "he has cute friends." They didn't even know you had friends. They noticed you and thought, "I'm gonna dance with this guy." And then you just let it fizzle out. So, stop cutti… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 03:38 PM |
| 2 | What is Wrong With My Game?I'll be honest, I am one of those dudes who has kind of only read the stuff and hasn't gotten the experience. I have read this stuff for 1.5 years now, but my success is just as rare as it was at the beginning. Then, that's exactly what's wrong with your game. I didn't even need to read the rest. It doesn't matter if you're handsome as shit, if you don't approach and you don't escalate and you don't meet tons of girls, it won't happen for you. So, do your 1000 approaches. Become the guy who is a… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 03:10 PM |
| 14 | College game vs. Adult gameBecause college game is generally easier and more casual, I won't say too much about it aside from this: you should work on keeping your social circle large and fun. Don't depend on other people to provide fun - be the guy who makes the party. One last thing to consider: not hearing back from f-closes could be a sign of you needing to work on your bed game. Practice is the key. Also, asking "do you like that?" in bed is a good thing to do. If the answer's yes, do exactly whatever it is you were … | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Why am i so fun to be with when i'm drunk but completely opposite when i'm sober? How can i fix this?If all that the alcohol is doing is removing your social anxiety, then you just have to figure out how to remove it without alcohol. I drink plenty myself, but I never need to be drunk to talk to anyone. I used to be shy like you, but I soldiered through it. Get used to being the social guy that you are when you're drunk, only while you're sober. Do your 1000 approaches. Talk to people even if you feel anxious about it. Get used to being in those situations, and put your skin in the game. You'll… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Tonight's the night!Good luck. Every day is the time for you to approach women. It's not like you're only allowed to approach people at the club. Just be careful at work (I rarely/never do that) and other places that discourage fraternization (like funerals and such). That said, don't forget about your actual life. Yeah. Don't contain yourself to 1 night a week. Start small if you have to, but never get it in your head that this is something you turn on and off. | /r/seduction | 22/11/13 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Out of place at a house party?and like the pro that I am I ignored it and paid minimal attention I didn't know that this was what pros did. Anyway, the whole "be cool and uninterested thing" spawns from the greater advice of having a backbone and not making strangers the coolest thing that ever happened to you before you actually get to know them. Part of getting to know them is flirting back, kino, escalating. If you were just ignoring, you were doing none of that. Lesson learned. | /r/seduction | 22/11/13 02:37 PM |
| 1 | PUA hateDon't get caught up in the drama. If you're not hurting anyone, you don't have to explain shit to anybody. That's how other people live their lives, always explaining, always afraid of stepping on toes, and never going for what they want. Don't be that, and fuck figuring out why people have a problem with it. They're not worried about you or your happiness. | /r/seduction | 22/11/13 02:27 PM |
| 56 | Going out with a "10" tonight.. Help lolYou're not going out with a 10, you're going out with a woman. Get her off that pedestal. Stop trying to win, and just be the fun guy who got the date in the first place. Women like excitement and anticipation. If you give off the vibe immediately that you're down to bone and would jump through hoops to do it, it kills the mystery. You become an option, instead of a prize. She should be wondering whether YOU think SHE'S good enough. Relax. Worst that happens is you go on a shitty date. Smile. Ey… | /r/seduction | 21/11/13 09:31 PM |
| 1 | She wants to hang out as friendsIf she is actually attracted to you, she's playing games. That's fine, as long as you don't actually try to date her. Anyway, assuming she's attracted to you, there's almost no expiration date on a woman being attracted to you, so don't worry about "not striking while the iron's hot." As long as you continue to be fun, a woman will be attracted to you. Take her at her word and make her a wing woman. If she's flirty with you, preselection will kick in and you will have that much more social weigh… | /r/seduction | 21/11/13 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Ira Glass on the process and being a beginnerI wrote my own thoughts on this a while back, and we repeat it often: to be good at pickup (and anything), you have to be in love with the process of learning it, and you have to accept the fact that you will suck for a while. This is why I stress to a lot of people that it's important to have one hobby that requires a lot of physical work and effort to maintain, because that hobby will always remind you of what it's like to be new at something, to always be learning about it, to get better at i… | /r/seduction | 21/11/13 06:17 PM |
| 1 | How to let go of your old, close friends that hold you back?You don't have to dump your friends. You just have to stop expecting their support in this particular endeavor. You don't have to talk to them about it. If they talk to you about it, you have nothing to say unless they're being genuine. I know it sucks because you have a long history with these guys, but you're all growing up. Part of that is setting boundaries. There's a ton of people who I trust with my life but would never live with in the same house - that's a boundary. Doesn't mean I cut th… | /r/seduction | 21/11/13 03:09 PM |
| 2 | How can I become less of a judgmental asshole and relate to people better? (LONG?)I don't know you, so take this with a grain of salt, but your judgmental behavior seems more like a symptom of you preserving your ego. You mentioned that you've been bullied a lot, and that you're kind of egotistical, and you're probably kind of guy who instinctively tries to be right about everything. Even if being right about something costs you effort and brings you no benefits, you got to be right, and that meant you were "better than" someone for a minute. If that's you, then I've been you… | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 03:08 PM |
| 1 | When a girl starts asking you about your placeIs that typically a sign that she's interested in going home with you? I don't know. Why don't you invite her to go over to your place? | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 03:08 PM |
| 2 | I'm really afraid to get intimate with girls because I don't want to hurt their feelings when I'm not as interested as they are. Any ideas on how to get over this?Be congruent, be genuine, make it known that you're not into relationships. Women can make their own sexual choices. If you feel like a woman in particular will give you drama, don't sleep with her. The vast majority are cool with a fling as long as you don't do anything crappy afterward. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 03:02 PM |
| 3 | How do you tell if a girl's into you?My go to is eye-contact, a smile, laughing, and most importantly: reciprocated kino. Of course, the only way to see if she stares and smiles back, laughs at your jokes, and touches you back, is to initiate and escalate with all of those first. So, make eye contact and smile. Is she doing the same back? Then talk to her. Get some kino in as soon as a natural opening appears (leading her through a crowd = hold the hand, opening a door = place hand on lower back, sitting next to her = arm around wa… | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 02:50 PM |
| 4 | I know how stupid I must sound, but can you explain kino to me like I'm five?I also want to add that kino is the quickest way to determine whether physical chemistry exists between two people. I use kino to build attraction, sure, but it's also great at letting you know whether there is some spark there to begin with. Without that initial attraction (even just a little), it can be tough to build anything more with kino by itself. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with social pressure to live a normal life (i.e. Settle Down / Get Married etc).My question is, what do you say to them? My question in return is why you need to say anything at all aside from "don't want to right now." Their approval won't bring you fulfillment. Your actions, whether you choose to eventually settle down or not, will (or will not). Are these people chewing you out or something? I'm not sure what the problem is here. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 02:39 PM |
| 9 | Dancing: what do? My guide on how to get girls to dance with you.One last thing: dancing is just your foot in the door. You still have to escalate and run good game off the dance floor. Clarification: a woman being sexually OPEN to you does not mean she actively WANTS to have sex with you at that moment. It means you're on a list of possibles. If your game is tight, you will turn that "maybe" into a yes. If your game is weak, it will quickly turn to a "no." | /r/seduction | 13/11/13 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Picked up cute girl. Turns out her cousin is a HB 9 that I see around campus every now and then. What now?Stop worrying so much about how this turns out, as if the HB9 is the only one on the planet. You can't win 'em all. But, you will LOSE them all if you don't take some kind of definitive action. Don't get stuck over-thinking this. You've already been talking to the first girl, but if you haven't made out or gone on a date yet, it's still salvageable. You could play it off as being a flirty guy friend. If you're not experienced in spinning plates (extra hard because they're cousins), then I wouldn… | /r/seduction | 13/11/13 04:44 PM |
| 6 | The benefits and limits of being clever.Being clever won't hurt. It just won't carry your game by itself. The bread and butter of sexual attraction is physical, not verbal. Escalate with action. | /r/seduction | 12/11/13 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Best way to handle/control negative emotionsThose emotions weaken a lot after maybe your 200th approach. There's no way around it. You either meditate about it, or you keep doing it until you get used to it. | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 06:27 PM |
| 10 | Girls that fail to mention they have a boyfriendWait, let me get this straight: You never even asked them out, and you're mad that they didn't mention they have a boyfriend? Like, the world is looking out for you, and when you walk into the room, girls are like "oh, it's handsaresweaty92! He crushes puss like a motherfucker! I better tell him I have a boyfriend so I don't waste his precious Facebook time!" Come on man. Be real. I know you're frustrated, but if you're not asking girls out, then why the fuck should they tell you anything? | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 06:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you flirt with a beautiful, hot girl that is obviously getting hit on by many other guys?beautiful human being, not a hot potential fuck. Those things aren't mutually exclusive. | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 06:06 PM |
| 2 | How do you flirt with a beautiful, hot girl that is obviously getting hit on by many other guys?You flirt with her as if you're the only interesting man in the room. It helps to be interesting, and confident enough to believe the truth (that the other guys don't matter). | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Good way to respond to compliments?"Thanks" is fine. Remember, though, that you are striving to become the kind of guy who gets complimented regularly on a variety of things. Part of that attitude that kind of guy has, is that he isn't surprised or embarrassed by compliments. Also, he knows how to handle one and either move on or leverage it. | /r/seduction | 07/11/13 03:06 PM |
| 3 | If you had to give someone the best tips for pick-up using a maximum of 5 bullet points, which tips would you give them?So are you saying in your daily life, just walkign along the pavement, down a flight of stairs etc and someone walks past you like the look of, you just say "hey" or something? This depends on if I'm doing something time sensitive, but yes. If I'm at work, and I'm working, I don't do this. But, if I'm at the gym, running errands, walking around downtown, at a bar, in a club, teaching dance, or even on lunch break, hell yes I do this. Why wouldn't you, unless you had obligations that had a real i… | /r/seduction | 07/11/13 02:26 PM |
| 1 | I can't get anything past a number - help?When you say "if she's interested, she'll show", do you suggest just telling her a time and place and showing up anyways in hopes that she does? You took it more literally than I intended, though if she's interested, she WILL show up. Thing is, you text her plans, she'll say "yes" and then show up, or she will flake, or she will come up with excuses, or she will say no. If she does ANYTHING aside from "yes and shows up," she's not interested. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 09:19 PM |
| 17 | If you had to give someone the best tips for pick-up using a maximum of 5 bullet points, which tips would you give them?Touching. Handshakes, pats on the back, massages. Non-verbal, contact based communication. If you're here, and you don't know what that is, I think you have some reading and experience gathering to do. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 08:14 PM |
| 5 | I can't get anything past a number - help?I'll say this: when you get a number, stop dicking around with text flirting and such and just ask them out. No beating around the bush anymore. You got her number. Set a date and time. If she's interested, she'll show. All the pussyfooting back and forth over email/text just makes girls bored. To you, it's an exciting interaction because you think "if I play my cards right I might get laid!" To her it's "god damnit, is this guy going to make a move or what? I'm starting to think he doesn't have… | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 07:49 PM |
| 3 | I can't get anything past a number - help?Solid classic post. I'm always telling people that my reputation amongst my friends as a rake (most importantly, a FUN rake) gets me laid more than anything else I could actively do. Women meet me, and if I've been introduced or spoken about by someone else, they already have the conception in their mind that if I find them attractive, I will make a move. After that, it's just sorting out the ones who are game (having a reputation boosts that number) and the ones who aren't. I can't tell people … | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 07:47 PM |
| 14 | Focusing on being "hot" (I mean, being attractive doing nothing). Is it possible? Is it worth the trouble?get lots of girls clicking "like" This doesn't fucking matter. Do they get numbers? Do they get dates? Do they get lays? What is the actual basis of your jealousy? Internet points? Come on man, be real. Focus on becoming cool. Focus on meeting lots of women (people in general, for that matter). Do both, all the time. Your problem isn't that this is a complex, existential issue. Your problem is that you're the kind of guy who does this: Maybe it's impossible to do "nothing" without being the luck… | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 07:42 PM |
| 75 | If you had to give someone the best tips for pick-up using a maximum of 5 bullet points, which tips would you give them?Always be approaching. Day, night, club, beach, library, gym. Doesn't matter. If you see someone you like, say hello. ALWAYS BE APPROACHING. I'm fucking serious. A smile, smelling nice, and eye contact go a long way. Kino. Forever and always. Kino builds attraction with women who are considering you, and also shows you when women are NOT interested in you. Either way, you're doing something constructive. Make an invitation, or make an exit. Either way, do it sooner than you think you should. The… | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 07:38 PM |
| 1 | 2 year dry spell. Help.My total approach count is less than 20 Get that to 200. Then we'll talk. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 07:21 PM |
| 3 | A rant, and a lesson all guys and girls need to know and understnadPedestals are actually at their worst when you're IN a relationship with the person who you put on there. ESPECIALLY if that person has a mean streak. See people as who they are, always. They're not static beings. Angels can become assholes and vice versa. If we didn't believe that people could change, then we wouldn't believe anything on this sub. | /r/seduction | 05/11/13 03:19 PM |
| 1 | I am ashamed of seduction (or rather, myself as a seducer)I am ashamed of seduction Then stop doing it. You know what you want in life, and what you don't. At least, I hope you do. If this is not your path, get off of it and find your own. I never feel like I'm cheating anyone when I run game. That's because I know I'm fun to be around, that I have interesting things going on, and that usually people want to know more about me than the other way around. I built myself up to that, not for game, but because life would be goddamn boring otherwise. Game ju… | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?I recommend you go smoke a joint and then masturbate. Seriously, right? People start taking to this stuff like it's a job. I mean, yeah, you gotta make changes, but becoming an tightass obsessed with win/loss records isn't one of them. OP - your mistake was that you let rejection get in the way of your goals. You got rejected, and that shit stuck with you like white on rice. Get over it. Approach again. And again. And again. If you let one rejection keep you from approaching for the rest of the … | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 02:07 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with someone trying to lower your value?You consider talking to him directly and asking if he has a problem with you? Tell him he's been kind of a dick to you lately and you're not digging it. He'll likely do one of two things - he'll admit he dislikes you and then it'll be out in the open, at which point everyone else in the circle will make a decision on whether they like you or him more, or he'll say "sorry dude, didn't mean it," and if he's not a fuckwit he'll ease up. Or, he could be a passive-aggressive pussy, nod and smile, and… | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Today I finally said fuck you to my AAGood job, dude. I know what it's like to be there. Just keep rolling with that momentum. You'll build up a ton of social confidence and practice every time you approach someone. After a while it's second nature. It doesn't even feel like approaching anymore. It's like watching a fish swim - something it was born to do. That's where you will get if you make sure you approach every time. | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Hey Everyone. First time poster. We created Failure Games for iPhone app to help people get over fear. Great way to approach too!Love the idea. Also, linking it to social networks and stuff so that you can record your "achievements" is a great way to keep people accountable to it. Good luck. EDIT: If you want to address this community directly, have you considered coding the same app with more of a social life-hacking focus? Challenges like "get three women's numbers today" or the like? | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 07:51 PM |
| 5 | /r/seddit, What are some of your tips for displaying Charisma?Smile. More importantly, have a reason to smile (a kickass life and good friends). You don't have to be cheesing your ass off, but let's put it this way - women who don't enjoy a man in a good mood tend to be pretty tedious. Have something to offer, whether it's your humor, your ability to get people to take their clothes off, your easy-going nature, your kickass parties, or what have you. People want to be around those things. Talk to people. The bartender, the people from out of town, the girl… | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Is sex a necessity?I had a friend that grew up in the same kind of home and he ended up having a one night stand and still regrets it to this day. I have a thousand friends who have done everything in between, but none of that has anything to do with me. I found my own path. That path happened to be more in line with what we discuss here. Think for yourself - it's your life and your experiences. Be accountable to them, and don't pin your choices on your religion or anyone else's experiences. If deep down as a pers… | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Is sex a necessity?I'm still a virgin so when I have sex for the first time I want to be in a relationship with a girl I truly love You know, I used to think the exact same way, but it was because it was an opinion drilled into my head for 17 years. I'm not saying your opinion isn't your own. But, I will say that 90 percent of the guys who end up frustrated and alone in their 30s start out with an opinion similar to this and are too stubborn to consider that change might be necessary. So, I'm asking you to reflect… | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 02:35 PM |
| 0 | RSD Tyler on Socially Conditioned "Narratives" As A Crutch For Your WorldviewI think this is one of Tyler's better videos. It's got something for beginners, intermediates, and advanced guys. Sometimes, when you're in the game too long you get tunnel vision, and you start telling yourself a lot of things about who you are, who other people are, and where you fit in. Sometimes it works out for you, but a lot of times, it limits you. Make sure you don't fall into the trap of telling yourself that you're a certain way (too fat, too short, too nervous, too ___). In the same v… | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 02:43 PM |
| 3 | The best way to cut off a oneitis / best friend?Don't get dramatic about it. Spend zero/a lot less time around the person. Date other people. Stop telling yourself that she's the one you want, because even if she is, she's got nothing for you. You might as well be chasing someone on another planet. That's literally it. See, part of the reason it's so hard for you to let go of this situation is that you've built an entire narrative around it, and you've defined your "role" in that narrative. Because that narrative isn't true to the situation, … | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 02:36 PM |
| 1 | 10 Commandments of Pick up10 is my favorite. Also, the mention of improvisation is so important. I'm trying to think of ways to help others with it, as it has come naturally to me over the years. My first instinct is to just tell people to do their 1000 approaches, but at the same time, there's gotta be some "think on your feet" exercises that can help people out there. | /r/seduction | 16/10/13 05:23 PM |
| 3 | I AM TIRED OF THE SHALLOWNESS OF THE GAME. I AM A SENSITIVE UNIQUE FLOWER AND I WANT REAL CONNECTIONS WITH WOMEN :'(If pick up was a product you could buy in the store of life, self-worth, determination, and a willingness to get out there and do those approaches are the money you'd use to pay for it. Some people are always coming up with reasons they can't afford something, yeah? | /r/seduction | 14/10/13 02:06 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a girl finding out you slept with one of her friends?Don't try to convince her of anything. Just be cool. You're getting laid by multiple girls and you're worried about a FWB? She doesn't wanna bang anymore, that's her decision. Say sorry if you really mean it. Otherwise, I don't think you did anything wrong considering it wasn't a relationship and you both discussed it explicitly beforehand. Her response, like attraction, is a gut response, and logic doesn't really work on those. The best you can do is continue being the attractive guy who she wa… | /r/seduction | 10/10/13 03:03 PM |
| 2 | What's your biggest personal negative from the seduction lifestyle?you play the game TOO well and they can sense that you're a player or that you lack interest Someone detecting that you're actively trying to game them is a huge indication that you're game, at least in that situation, was the opposite of tight. I get what you mean, but if you find that you're bending over backwards to keep a woman's interest, to the point that she readily recognizes it, you may want to reconsider what you're trying to get done with this woman. You may win the battle and lose th… | /r/seduction | 01/10/13 04:31 PM |
| 1 | What's your biggest personal negative from the seduction lifestyle?Becoming the guy that everyone thinks can solve their lady problems. "Giving advice" and "solving your problem" are two very different things. | /r/seduction | 01/10/13 04:29 PM |
| 1 | DAE feel really motivated when making plans to go out but feel completely out of it when that day comes around??You've associated a lot of negativity with the plans that you've been making, consciously or unconsciously. You've gotta soldier through it. Part of that is getting to a point where even a "bad night out" won't affect your mood and sense of self overall. Another part of that is just putting your time in and trying to meet new people. If it helps you, as a beginner, forget about goals for a minute when you meet new people. Just meet them to learn how to approach and talk to them without pressure … | /r/seduction | 30/09/13 02:04 PM |
| 8 | What do YOU say right after you kiss a HB?I escalate, and that's rarely done by talking. It's all body language and facial cues and eye contact. | /r/seduction | 24/09/13 01:59 PM |
| 2 | What do you guys do when the uninitiated bad mouth the community?Maintain frame. Don't talk about anything other people don't feel like talking about, unless it gets you somewhere good. Also, don't hang out with insufferable crusaders, and don't BE an insufferable crusader. "Commencing rage" is basically turning into the exact type of person who rags on things like seduction, only with an opposing viewpoint. All I see in that situation is a chump yelling about something unimportant, and the answer isn't to become a chump and start yelling myself. | /r/seduction | 20/09/13 01:54 PM |
| 1 | 3 things you need to have to keep most guys from even considering AMOGing youI don't advocate fighting, but it's more commendable to take a beating in my mind than to just slink away! I don't either. Somehow "knowing how to hold your own in a fight in case someone is an asshole to you" turned into a "put the fear of death in everyone around you" circle jerk. And then there was a counter-circle-jerk about how fighting is wrong, when it was never advocated in my original post in the first place. | /r/seduction | 19/09/13 05:26 PM |
| 1 | 3 things you need to have to keep most guys from even considering AMOGing youI thought the best way to deal with AMOGs was to befriend them? This can work if the guy you're befriending doesn't think he's above you, socially. In which case, he's not AMOGing you, he's just got a poor sense of boundaries. You can check him for that, and continue as normal. If the guy thinks he's gonna come over and shut you out of the conversation, he STARTED that move with the idea that you are not on his level and you don't deserve to be there. Even if you befriend him, you will be low ma… | /r/seduction | 19/09/13 05:17 PM |
| 1 | 3 things you need to have to keep most guys from even considering AMOGing youI don't necessarily agree with suggesting you are willing to get physical with them Trust me, you should be the last person to start a fight. And, in this post, I'm not talking about the guys who jump in and start joking around with you. I'm talking about guys who have the "I'm gonna walk all over this guy" mentality that people seem to be encountering (I can't even remember the last time someone did that to me). The main thing I try to show here is that there's a difference between not starting… | /r/seduction | 19/09/13 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Is being easy-going attractive?You're going to have to make a distinction here. I say that "being easy-going" means you prioritize in life - you know what matters and what doesn't. If something doesn't matter, like people being dicks to you now and again without actually being able to affect your life or your happiness, you don't pay it the attention that you would to things that do matter. You drop those people like a sack of bricks and move on. The things that matter are your passions, your true friends, the things that mak… | /r/seduction | 17/09/13 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, what does it mean?we never slept with each other, but spends lot of time together That's not complicated at all, because it's not a relationship. Have you kissed her? Held her hand? Has she grabbed your junk? If the answer to all those is "I've tried, but no," then she's not into you. | /r/seduction | 12/09/13 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Trust me, it's not about looks or: Confessions of a good looking guy with no gameWell shit, I'm [a guy] You have potential, lad. | /r/seduction | 11/09/13 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Trust me, it's not about looks or: Confessions of a good looking guy with no gameI'm not a bad looking dude, but I'm rarely the person that a girl looks at twice unless they're noticing a) my dancing, b) the way I dress, c) the energy of my social group, or d) my posture and vibe. All of those things are things I can control. My bone structure? It is what it is - I'm tall enough to not get blown out for height, and even that is surmountable. I'm also Asian, which isn't usually high on the list of classical male attractiveness. Know what a ton of girls have told me, gratefull… | /r/seduction | 10/09/13 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Spot The AlphaHeartiste has some good points about posture and poise in this post. But, let's be real: at no point should a photo of the leaders of two of the most powerful countries in the world be a reference for an AFC's budding one-up-manship. Let's not confuse "looking like a beta in an inopportune photo" with "the president is a beta male." He absolutely is fucking not, and to make any sort of self-comparison with him (unless your name is Vladimir Putin) is, at best, completely self-delusional. I don't … | /r/seduction | 06/09/13 05:58 PM |
| 2 | How to tactfully turn a friend on to self-improvement, game, and seduction?But is there a way I can casually set him in the right direction? In his mindset, no. But, you may become the guy about whom some AFC posts on here in a few months about how his friend stole a girl he was interested in at a concert. That's the only involvement I see you having, if any. If he's not cooled off from what happened yet, he will absolutely not take your advice. He has to come here of his own free will. | /r/seduction | 04/09/13 08:49 PM |
| 1 | What to do if a girl blatantly looks at you at the gym?Go talk to her. Most people go to the gym to work out and not do things within the category of "not working out." However, if you're getting eyes and a smile, there's no harm in striking up a conversation and seeing where it goes. Just don't be the loser who gets hung up if a woman rejects him. That will make you unpopular in the gym real fast. To me, gym etiquette for pickup pretty much follows day-game etiquette: if someone is concentrating on something, don't interrupt them unless you get a p… | /r/seduction | 04/09/13 06:41 PM |
| 3 | So, just got an erection while holding hands with a girl now what?Quit acting like a drama queen. Boners happen. If she digs you, she won't care. Shit, if she wants to fuck you, she'll be happy to know your equipment works, son. Just play it cool. You're going apeshit over having a boner. Chill out. | /r/seduction | 04/09/13 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldDepends on how bad/good you look. If you're real fucked up looking or celebrity level handsome then none of the rules will apply to you. This post doesn't apply to the bottom 10 or the top 10. It applies to the 80 percent of guys who don't realize that unless they're in the bottom or top 10, it doesn't matter. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 08:36 PM |
| -1 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldWomen tend to judge a good looking guy as someone who is already high value. In my experience, and the experience of my friends, false. Displayable talent, and fashion sense is a much better litmus for women's receptiveness. A man with looks is going to have a higher perceived value off the start before he even approaches the girl Compared to a fugly guy, yes, objectively. But this doesn't weigh heavily on a woman's mind. The confidence a man has to begin with, if it's linked to his looks, will … | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 08:32 PM |
| 5 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldOnce you've taken r/TheRedPill[1] , you are opened to a new world where confidence and social status are king. It's when you realize these important truths that WOMEN start approaching YOU. And it'd be great if I really believed that all the people over at RP actually buy that, and aren't just along for a ride on the "everyone agrees with the things that frustrate me" train. I started in a much more redpill oriented forum. A lot of what I preach and live is based of some of the basic truths of h… | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldYou can't bullshit looks. As long as you are within the "average" for looks, it doesn't matter. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 06:08 PM |
| 6 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldI would say looks is 60% more important upon initial meet/greet. This makes sense if you're talking about it as "the way you dress and present yourself." If we're talking bone structure, which I'd bet money most newbs are talking about, then women really don't notice that shit unless you've got model good looks. Women don't value looks the way men do. This isn't conjecture. This is data from the field, from my approaches, from my friends approaches, from FRs. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 05:36 PM |
| -1 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldThe real determinant of whether a woman will sleep with you is how well you sexually escalate. This is true. It's about your GAME. The way your bone structure is, unless you're really fugly, is not game. It's how you were born. You can dress it up. You can work out. You can slim down, but your bone structure itself is not accessible at a level your status and confidence are. Thing is, most guys think they get blown out because of their looks. Seriously. Look at how many guys start their posts wi… | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Newbies: your opinion of how physically attractive you are literally counts for ZERO in-fieldI'm not sure if you're being serious or not. Serious enough to post. In any case, the data doesn't lie. Most women have a far more critical opinion of how men look, and yet they're still meeting/dating/banging these men. Of course, all things equal except for looks, the better looking one has higher chances. But those higher chances are marginal and account for maybe 10 percent of your game at most, and that's if you look like Daniel Craig in the 007 movies. attractive dude vs. an ugly guy This … | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Got invited to a sleep over this weekend, where it will be just me and three girls. Any tips on getting a threesome going, or at least a sexy truth or dare?Sorry, I'm hungover from watching the Cowboys 3rd string lose to the Texans 3rd string, so my brain no work good. Gotta love the preseason. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 03:34 PM |
| 7 | Got invited to a sleep over this weekend, where it will be just me and three girls. Any tips on getting a threesome going, or at least a sexy truth or dare?Get pissed at you for boning, who cares? Say I have a girlfriend at the time (I do). She probably wouldn't like me banging all of our friends. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Got invited to a sleep over this weekend, where it will be just me and three girls. Any tips on getting a threesome going, or at least a sexy truth or dare?But do you still have sex with those girls When and if I want to. They know I'm clean, drama free, and fun. So, if there aren't any people who would get pissed at us for boning, we bone. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:47 PM |
| 0 | How To Get Younger Women (age 18-22)If you are successful at closing 22-35 year olds, 18-22 is like candy. The only issue is getting over that "creepy old guy" ("old guy" to them meaning anyone 24+) hump. Easily surmounted with any indication of status - if you have people around you who clearly hold you in high regard. I have to avoid 18-22 year olds because I spend a lot of time teaching dance on a college campus. It's like easy mode. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Got invited to a sleep over this weekend, where it will be just me and three girls. Any tips on getting a threesome going, or at least a sexy truth or dare?Sounds to me like you have been seriously friend zoned. If the two girls that invited you are very good friends. I dunno man. I get invited to go places all the time by girls I've had sex with and others who just like having me around. If OP is a fun guy, they very well could be open to the idea of banging. It's not a conscious thing - more of a "if I had to answer, yes" situation. If he's got his head on right, and he's fun enough for the girls to want him to be there, then he has every chance … | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:13 PM |
| 20 | Got invited to a sleep over this weekend, where it will be just me and three girls. Any tips on getting a threesome going, or at least a sexy truth or dare?Why go for just two? Why not all three? Take it from a guy who has been there. Anyway, be fun, all weekend. Focus slightly more attention on one of them (whoever gives best signals), but not to a point where you ignore the others. Make drinks. Get them to laugh. Play drinking games. Transition to strip games. Give massages. And then, abracadabra, escalate. Also, "Never have I ever." This is an awesome game. You find out some intimate shit about people, they discover intriguing things about you, … | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:11 PM |
| 7 | Something that always works for me as a college studentIf she says no to food, go make something anyway; What you learned is a key characteristic of an alpha male - no one's opinion dictates your plans or courses of action. You give invitations, rather than making demands. You give value, rather than taking it. Stay on that path. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:01 PM |
| 2 | How can you tell the difference between a girl being a poor conversationalist and her being generally disinterested?I would say there can be a few exceptions. Granted, but we don't make guidelines based on exceptions. If a girl is not contributing, she's either a) boring or b) not interested. Either way, escalation will tell you which category she falls into. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:49 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to girls praising other guys?I usually just end up giving them the "really" look and staying silent, which I'm sure isn't the best response. You're letting a random statement that a girl is making throw your whole game off. Your emotions hinge too much on her opinion of not just you, but of other people who literally do not figure into your life at all. Ignore it, or agree and amplify. If that kind of statement ruffles your feathers, get them unruffled and don't let little things like that trip you up again. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:45 PM |
| 8 | the book of pookhow would you rate the book? I haven't read the whole thing, to be honest. But, if I did, I doubt I'd find anything I didn't already "know" at this point. Knowledge of the game, beyond a certain point, is useless. You gotta get the practice in. It's fun, especially the 15 rules. Read it yourself and make your own opinion. If you think it sucks, stop reading it. The only thing I'll say is that it has a lot of solid info in it. Just don't go off the deep end like Pook did. If the book starts makin… | /r/seduction | 29/08/13 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Is the "he's just not that into you" explanation a hard and fast rule or merely an excuse to quit the pursuit?You could just ask him out. If he is always half-hearted about agreeing to go out with you, I'd say he's not into you. If he makes time, puts in effort, and devotes energy to you, I'd say he's into you. I feel like a lot of ladies back down quickly from pursuing a guy because they just think that he's not that into them and therefore will never be. I feel like a lot of ladies back down quickly from pursuing a guy because society has never expected them to, and thus they've never been prepared to… | /r/seduction | 29/08/13 02:28 PM |
| 18 | the book of pookHere Anyway, it's really long. And old. It's also a goldmine for a lot of information. You'll see the codifying of a lot of ideas we talk about here, and a lot of ideas that others talk about in red pill. The fifteen lessons are really good for deconstructing some of the social narratives that most people take for granted, like monogamy and "Disney movie" social contracts. Just, you know, look at the world around you once in a while and actually interact with it. Also there's a mystique about Po… | /r/seduction | 29/08/13 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Hey r/Seduction, I'm on crutches (broken ankle/leg). Am i more appealing? Approachable? Wimpy/Pathetic? How does this pan out in the eyes of a girl? Also, advice for body language while using three legs.Because it's a temporary issue, I'm not really sure how much more thought you should put into it. I definitely think that not being able to stand as tall as you would without the crutches puts you at a slight disadvantage from afar, and there are obvious logistical issues with having crutches when it comes to partying/etc. I think any issues you have will clear up. Unfortunately, there's no way to make your crutches convenient while you do anything, much less introduce yourself to people. Just f… | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 08:02 PM |
| 14 | I have a female wing(wo)man. How do I best use her in seduction?Go out. Be fun. Be seen being fun. Introduce yourself and your friend. See where escalation takes you. Repeat. Lead, and your wing will follow. Gaming with a wing, male or female, still follows the same basic structure - you just have someone helping you. In this case, you get a pre-selection boost from your female friend, because she'll tend to convince other women through her presence that you're not a creeper. | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 07:58 PM |
| 0 | Where to go from hereto pretty much go fuck herself. You're not mad at her. You're mad at your life, where you only have one option, and that option soured. I am a recently divorced, 29 year old You'll see on this board and in life that there are people who are able to get over this. Ask them how they did it. Anyways girl of my dreams hardcore best friend zoned No, she didn't do anything - she was never interested in the first place. You have to face these hard truths if you want to move on. just help me get over bu… | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 02:43 PM |
| 4 | Seddit for highschool teens?In high school, you should learn to be easygoing, fun, and social without fucking up your chances at remaining so in the future. The reason that there isn't much in the way of seduction advice for high schoolers is because none of it would be different from the advice we already give. The only difference is that you can't get into bars, and the people you will be asking out are less experienced in dating and life. Those two differences do make it play out differently, but the game isn't somethin… | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 02:38 PM |
| 1 | how do I text girls effectively that like me?Ah, high school. Quit bein' a nerd and ask her out. | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 02:28 PM |
| 0 | We need to retire the HB system.Trollololol. You, sir, are fucking with us. Too bad, because our chops are unbustable. | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 02:06 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/26/13Everything that has worked for you: speed it up. Profit. Nothing really changes about the game, whether you're going for an LTR or a SNL. It's just that if SNL is your game, you have to make sure logistics are always ready and laid out for you if a girl wants to hop on pop. If you get good at speeding things up, you'll start to have problems like "I have to make my bed EVERY day, and make sure there are no forgotten panties/clothes/jewelry/used condoms laying around." | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 01:58 PM |
| 56 | Girlfriend gave this to me during a mutual breakup, to me this is what seduction is all about.When you get good at this stuff, you become the standard by which subsequent men get judged. | /r/seduction | 25/08/13 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it weird to ask a girl from college out on a 'date'?Do what you want. Do what YOU want. Want to go on a date but it's against the "rules of college?" Fuck it, ask her out. On that note, in college, you should be learning how to steer your own life. Welcome to Seddit. | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 02:02 PM |
| 4 | How to get a girl to be more active in the conversation?i do believe i am quite entertaining That's a hypothesis. Are women going on 3rd, 4th, 5th dates with you and giving you handies under the table? If they are, you're probably entertaining. If not... time to reflect. so what ends up happening is I know everything about them, but they know very little about me. Has this been a problem? I don't see what the problem is. If she wants to know more about you, she'll ask, or discover it herself. A lot of people find this to be a fun process. It's not li… | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, how do you respond to a bitchy insult?I don't think that's a bitchy insult. I think it was tactless and in poor taste. There's a difference there. If she's actually out for blood, there's not much you can do aside from "winning so that everyone else sees you winning." The woman would be dead to you, if she's actually that bitchy. As for this situation, if the comment came out of left field, I don't think she meant for you to take it to heart. She insulted you, yes. But, again, she probably didn't mean to. Not many people have the ba… | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 01:53 PM |
| 5 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?you'd come off as a bit immature He's still trying to "win" with this girl. | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?Act like it's not a big deal, because it's not. You asked her out, you didn't ask her to marry you. Be polite. Don't orbit (she's got nothin' for you). Be the fun guy who people like to hang out with. | /r/seduction | 23/08/13 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Why I stopped using the traditional HB scaleI don't think that symbol means what you think it means. He just did it backwards, implying the subject of girls after the symbol, meaning 4 is greater than or equal to their score. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Why I stopped using the traditional HB scaleIf you value her highly, and she values herself highly, then she gets a higher number on the scale. As a corollary, her valuation of you also affects how she acts in the situation. If you're a high status guy, it drops most women's HB score around you by 1 to 2 points. This why status is one of the most powerful tools in the box. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 02:10 PM |
| 1 | People have fucked with me all my life. I am a complete beta guy. I really need help, can't take it anymore.Listen, dude. I've been you. All the way up through about your age, I've been you. I had a huge inferiority complex, because I grew up with an older brother who had more natural talent and charisma than I could ever dream of when I was little. That was when I started really believing that I wasn't good enough, and would never be good enough for anything. What that meant for other people was that I was hostile, edgy, and overall unpleasant to be around if I perceived we were in competition for so… | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 02:03 PM |
| 0 | What are some good "pet names" to call a girl over text?If this is the biggest issue you're having with getting girls, you are the top 1 percent and need to be contributing advice. Get a thesaurus or read more. You'll come up with something. | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 02:06 PM |
| 1 | I'm 27 an am sick of dwelling in the subreddits that only encourage my loser lifestyle. I've decided to make a change, and ask you guys: how can I change my life?You can't get women until you're at least an average level of fun guy, so start small. Make tangible changes, like eating well and getting fit, both of which are huge mood boosters. Then, get some hobbies you really like that require you to put in effort. Nothing that's based on instant gratification, like video games or movies/tv. You don't have to completely give up things like that, but you can't use all of your time doing it, because you won't be improving your life in any measurable way. Yo… | /r/seduction | 19/08/13 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on SUPER confident openers?It's not easy - that's the point. A noob has got to get out there and be okay with the fact that he will suck for a while, because the only way to get better is to actually do it. After there's a baseline of experience, we can talk technique. But it remains that in 90 percent of cases, it's not what was said but who was saying it, and how. | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 11:50 PM |
| 1 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.What sort of relationship do you prefer? The kind of relationship I prefer is the kind where the woman complements me. I don't like taking lead all the time about everything all the time. I've been in enough of those. So, it's nice to have a woman who knows me well enough and cares enough (and more importantly is capable enough) to put in her part. I don't actually view it as a rant Strictly speaking, I don't find it to be a rant, either. But it's an article that's largely about her personal fru… | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Is race a factor is seduction?Race is a factor in attraction. Like what you're wearing, how tall you are, your posture, and anything someone can see or hear about you without talking to you first, it gives an impression. It's not everything, though. You've just gotta be aware of it, and be prepared to handle people's preconceptions. | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you introduce someone to seduction and self-improvement?You either lead by example, or you don't introduce them at all. A student has to be ready to learn before anything can happen. When it comes to seduction that usually involves striking out 10 or 20 times. | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Any Sedditors from Philly?Right here. Have girlfriend, so the best I can do is hang out, wing. | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:09 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts on SUPER confident openers?There are no super confident openers. There are guys who are super confident, that open. So just open. Say "hello." Say "very nice." Eye her up and down. Do whatever you want. | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:07 PM |
| 31 | Dealing with racist girls?They started bragging about how they don't date Asian guys and it seemed like they were genuinely proud of the fact that they don't. Needless to say I didn't even bother. You could be like me, smile, and ask "why not?" Just don't do a song and dance to try to change their minds. You have less shitty women to be talking to. See, you think that their opinions somehow control you. They don't. Approach who you want to approach. They'll say yes or no, but they won't shoot you down before you take off… | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:06 PM |
| 1 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.Which relationship do you not suggest? Her involvement with Russians or her involvement with Americans? It's not my place to suggest anything for her. Her life is her life. She should do what makes her happy. However, as a guy, and knowing there are other guys like me, I can say based on my experience dating women from more traditionally feminine upbringings, is that in my lifestyle (lots of ambitions, no particular inclination towards getting married/settling down, etc), this is not the type of… | /r/seduction | 15/08/13 06:00 PM |
| 1 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.Was your solution open relationships or finding women who contribute more? One or the other as it suits me. My girlfriend right now makes me smile a whole lot (and gives me a boner), while at the same time she puts in a lot of her own effort to the relationship in terms of compromise and helping to come up with things we'd both enjoy. She gets me, so far, so for her I have no problem with monogamy. The really good sex helps. | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 11:45 PM |
| 5 | [FR] From strangers to F-close in an hourIn most of these FRs it seems the girl is already attracted without any seduction on the man's part. It's just a matter of not fucking it up. Before you build a fire, you have a have a spark. | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 07:57 PM |
| 19 | The Megabus Girl. (Another pretty long FR)How do I handle the situation since she has a boyfriend? Wing woman. Back burner. Stop thinking so much about her, before you start erecting a pedestal. She remains an acquaintance, feel free to meet her friends. Also, I live in UCity. Good to know Seddit is alive and well in Philly. | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 07:54 PM |
| 1 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.Personally, I do a lot of the things she finds awesome in russian men, without the downsides I learned a lot of those things, dating Eastern Europeans. Never hesitate. Always follow through - that kind of thing. However, I also learned a lot about myself. That, honestly, because monogamy isn't my natural state, I have to be in a relationship with a woman who contributes a lot more than just looks and loyalty. I've always had wandering eyes in those relationships, even when I was with stunning, l… | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 07:30 PM |
| 2 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.Seems big ego to take up half the title saying "I have my own opinions and I prefer a type of woman". It does read that way. I just wanted to make it clear in the title that the kind of relationship in the article is not the kind I suggest or give the best advice for. As always, thanks for the feedback. | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 07:24 PM |
| 3 | I don't agree with all of this, and it's not even about the kind of woman I personally prefer. But, it's an interesting look into the mind of a "traditionally feminine" woman. Also, Russians.I've dated Russians, Ukrainians, Czechs, Romanians, and other girls born/raised/first generation from the eastern bloc. This is pretty accurate for women who are "traditionally feminine." So, remember - if you're looking to date someone traditionally feminine, in a lot of ways you will have to be traditionally masculine. Meaning you take charge ALL of the time. Not most - all. And everything that goes wrong with the relationship will by definition be your fault. This is what the red pill folks a… | /r/seduction | 14/08/13 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Apocalypse In Action - Asking 100 Girls For SexIt's also good to remember how group dynamic plays into this. If one person in a group voices an opinion or makes a decision in front of others from that person's group, the other members will tend to either make the same decision, or stay quiet to avoid conflict within the group. This is why isolating is important. It allows a woman to make her decision about you as an individual. | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 02:57 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/12/13If you find an HB9's attitude distasteful, shes still an hb9 I didn't say anything about her attitude. I said her status. How she perceives her value - a woman who perceives herself to be of high value, and whose value is perceived to be high by those around her, will be 8+ on the scale. There's a strong correlation with looks, because of how much the average guy values it in a woman, but it's also about how she interacts within the situation. Different situation, different rating. An HB9 in the… | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 01:50 PM |
| 12 | How to make a girl choose you over another good-looking, funny and accomplished guy?you have absolutely zero control over it. And it doesn't matter. You either make a move, or you don't. If a girl is being shitty, you leave. Is there a problem? | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 01:29 AM |
| 7 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/12/13Re: HB scale, it has more to do with the woman's frame/status in the situation that she's in. A woman who is in a room full of people she's in charge of will be an HB9, almost regardless of looks, because she holds the social weight in that situation. HB scale is not just looks - it's status. | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 12:57 AM |
| 130 | How to make a girl choose you over another good-looking, funny and accomplished guy?You're asking the wrong question: if girls you like are hanging out with you and showing interest, why aren't you choosing them? Why have you waited so long, as to get to a point where another guy can swoop in? In 90 percent of cases, if you're already running good game with a girl, only a guy who literally has EVERYTHING on you, and even then only in the right situation, will be able to come in an interrupt/steal your set. In most of those cases, even if a girl can find a guy objectively attrac… | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 08:31 PM |
| 7 | How to "abort" in a good way when rejected?"Well, that's too bad. Cheers," and then leave. Someone else mentioned a freezeout situation where she's actively ignoring you and not even bothering with politeness. You don't have to work in that case if all you're saying is "bye." | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Oldschool pua! The most dangerous routine in the known Meta-Verse..."Insta-Girlfriend."Before anyone knocks this, realize that every tool in the box has its use. If you're in a situation where this can work (and it has worked for me before as a spontaneous, zany thing), it will work. Ultimately it goes back to you creating a fun environment, and tapping into a woman's idea of sex with you. See, any woman who is open to your approach can imagine a situation in which she'd have sex with you. If you can get that impression to the surface, you're in like Flynt. | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Where's the line between being persistent/showing interest and being desperate/creepy?Here's the line between being persistent and desperate: how attractive she finds you. This is something that a lot of people gloss over. Remember that the only reason we even discuss frames, routines, situations, and FRs is because each actionable topic is something that can potentially sway a girls opinion of you in the positive direction. So, if you have been swinging and missing, and you keep swinging, it will come off as desperate/creepy. If you're doing well with a girl, your persistence wi… | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 02:44 PM |
| 15 | Strategies to get more female FRIENDSGo out and meet women who you're not "I would go after her" level of attracted to. See which ones you click with in a way where you'd have fun hanging out. Invite them to things. The more the merrier. Actually hang out with them, if you want to keep them as friends. Yes, you can have REAL female friends. It's just very hard to do when you're sexually frustrated. | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 02:42 PM |
| 2 | [UPDATE] From virgin to intermediate to lack of chemistry in 1 year.it's hard to know what to apply in what situation The best way to learn what tools are for what situations is to use them. You need to experiment. We have guidelines for you, but ultimately you're the one who has to figure it out by trying this suggestion or that one, and seeing how it works out. | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 04:28 PM |
| 2 | [UPDATE] From virgin to intermediate to lack of chemistry in 1 year.Opinions on walking in the street, what kind of kino should I use then? Literally feel it out. It depends on her level of attraction to you (which kino can help or hurt depending on whether you use an appropriate amount or too little/too much). I usually have the girl put her arm in the nook of my elbow like this. Of course, if she's not comfortable and attracted to you enough to do this yet, it's going to feel awkward. So before that, I have to establish good touch. Get in close when you're bot… | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 03:08 PM |
| 2 | [UPDATE] From virgin to intermediate to lack of chemistry in 1 year.Thinking of the venue it'd be kind of hard to play that kind of thing off without forcing it pretty hard Change the venue. Come on, man, use your head. If there's nowhere that you can kino in the restaurant, have a plan for after. Even at the restaurant, if there's absolutely NO way you can sit 90 degrees or next to her, then you can offer your hand across the table. As a rule, restaurants aren't the best first date idea because of all the logistical issues. | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 03:00 PM |
| 3 | [UPDATE] From virgin to intermediate to lack of chemistry in 1 year.Could you describe in detail how you would kino a girl sitting diagonally opposite you Start conversation. Is she into it? "Let's get a table/booth." Sit next to her. Kino. Did you think it would be something elaborate? | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 02:42 PM |
| 12 | Long time lurker, new born practitioner. So my question is how do you get passed the "I have a boyfriend" response or do you?felt there was more I could've and should've done Maybe there was, but she already said "no." You can debate that "I have a boyfriend" was a shit test, but this line, 90 percent of the time, just means she's not interested in you. So, work on your game in general. You're asking about 1 girl in 1 bar in 1 situation. You should be looking at the big picture: out of the last 100 girls you talked to, how many were receptive? You haven't talked to 100 girls? Get your ass moving. | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 02:03 PM |
| 1 | How do I tell if a girl is genuinely interested in me?The best way to find out if a girl is into you: Kino If response is positive and flirty, escalate. Repeats steps 1 and 2. Seriously. I mean, there are a couple of ways to tell if a girl is into you before you approach, but fuck all that. You gotta approach. You have to be on the ground, listening with your own eyes and ears instead of a checklist of "behaviors to look for" you got from the internet. If you see a girl, approach. She'll let you know pretty quickly whether she's into you or not, if… | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Wow. Just had a completely game changing revelation. Hopefully it will help some of you get out and be comfortable in social situations, it certainly did for me.I appreciate your thoughts, and I'm not telling you what to do, but you mind telling us why you didn't approach? | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 01:57 PM |
| 5 | [UPDATE] From virgin to intermediate to lack of chemistry in 1 year.Basically my question is, what is the difference between a riveting, flowing conversation and "chemistry"? Chemistry: both of your are talking, but would rather be doing something else (each other). Does she seem like she wants you to touch her? Does she respond positively to your kino? NEVER forget kino. If she's hesitant with you when you put your arm around her, you gotta build up more chemistry. As to how you do that, it depends on the situation and the girl. Conversation won't always do it.… | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 01:52 PM |
| 7 | How do you ensure a huge turnout to your party and make it memorable and fun for everybody?Next, get your 3-4 closest friends Ye olde social pyramid scheme. Only it actually works. Good on you. | /r/seduction | 06/08/13 01:47 PM |
| 3 | what does it mean to give value?There are two types of people in the world: those who spend most of their time consuming, and those who spend most of their time producing. What I mean by that is that there's the guy who goes and watches movies, and there are the people who actually make the movies. In that equation, you could probably tell who gets more respect and appreciation from others. Being a value-giver is about having abundance, about filling your life with things that other people enjoy being a part of. It can be your… | /r/seduction | 02/08/13 01:43 PM |
| 2 | For the intermediates: get good at sex.Big cock. EoT Hope you don't mean that. Work on your game, cuz. | /r/seduction | 01/08/13 07:04 PM |
| 2 | What is the correct course of action if you are at a table with nothing to say while a guy is "holding court"?How do I obtain "higher value" than him in the eyes of girls at the table? Strictly speaking, you don't need to. If you capitalize properly, he's doing you a favor - he raises the energy of the group, and that includes you. Be a straight man - add to his jokes, give him something to work with, HELP him. You will be seen in just as high status. From there, you can isolate. And, if you have to ask how to one up the king of the moment, even if we told you how, it's unlikely that you'd have the chop… | /r/seduction | 01/08/13 06:13 PM |
| 1 | For the intermediates: get good at sex.it's difficult to flip my mindset from "charismatic and witty" to "primal and dominant" The difficulty is that you think for some reason you can't be both. I'm very reserved about expressing my feelings to people I don't know well, but I'm completely different with my close friends. It doesn't mean I'm a different person in each situation - I'm me. The context changes, and I act accordingly. You are dominant in bed. So be dominant in bed and stop trying to make that mean who you are outside of t… | /r/seduction | 01/08/13 04:14 PM |
| 1 | For the intermediates: get good at sex.I find it difficult to stay turned on unless I feel like I'm in a dominant position over her. How do I "flip the switch" mentally? Does she enjoy your dominance in bed? Do YOU enjoy your dominance in bed? If the answer to both 1 and 2 is yes, you don't need to flip anything. Just be dominant in bed. | /r/seduction | 01/08/13 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Warning! Rant ahead: I'm tired of seduction!Do you bite your thumb at ME, sir? | /r/seduction | 31/07/13 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Warning! Rant ahead: I'm tired of seduction!Of course, it's a farcry from days when I would hopelessly fall in love with girls No, it's not. It's because you're still clinging onto ideas about how your dating and personal life should be "romantic" or whatever. Let it go. You have choices now. Do you understand that? You literally have the ability to steer your dating life in whatever direction you want because you know what you know. So stop tying your hands behind your own back, get out there, and meet women you actually like. For refere… | /r/seduction | 31/07/13 01:36 PM |
| 8 | For the intermediates: get good at sex.Yes, indeed. | /r/seduction | 31/07/13 01:12 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys do to prepare your inner game before dates?The ultimate state of inner game is the state of being prepared, period. When you psyche yourself up, it's more about getting yourself to a place you're not fully comfortable with yet - the place of action. Strong inner game is about living in the place of action, all the time. As for answering for your specific situation: if you're a fun, cool, interesting guy normally, just be that during the date. Don't think of it like a "I have to make her like me" type situation. Think of it as a "I wonder… | /r/seduction | 30/07/13 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Is there a paradox in learning seduction?Life is paradox. Your effectiveness at being alive will be based on knowing when to give a shit, and when to let things slide. It seems like so long as a person is in "the game", so to speak, they would not be able to escape basing their entire validation on the opinions of women. That's like saying a star basketball player can't retire - and also is misunderstanding whether a star basketball player, if he loves what he does, would even WANT to retire. That's the thing about the game: when you'r… | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Keeping a girlI write my blog Table Theory as a framework to extend a lot of pick-up concepts to long term relationships. It's not the be-all end-all, but it will help you sort issues into "real problems that need addressing" and "shit that you and she can let slide." Be prepared to compromise, and expect compromise in return. If it becomes one-sided, you walk. Period. Also, she's a keeper SO FAR. Remember that phrase. "SO FAR." Being a keeper takes work - you should be one, and she should be one. Either of y… | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 06:54 PM |
| 7 | Be a fucking value giverI should also note that when we began hooking up on the beach, the first thing she said was "I've had sex in the ocean before. I'm not having sex with you though". I smirked and replied "Ok". I didn't push things too far in that hookup because a friend was waiting on us. However, after that meetup and a few texts exchanged, she texts me out of nowhere (completely irrelevant to the conversation): "I want to have sex with you". You have no idea how many times this has worked for me. When I'm singl… | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 06:52 PM |
| 3 | NY Magazine puts some PUAs with authors of The Rules for a discussion. Bonus: includes u/TofuTofu (Ken Hoinsky)Pretty balanced representation from all spheres, which I didn't expect in a mainstream article. The authors of "The Rules," though... ugh. Condescending as hell. Women deal with too much BS from society to be shaming each other about lifestyle choices. Though I do agree that the one chick's "long distance relationship" isn't exactly ideal. Whatever though - her choice. | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Are routines and DHV stories outdated?Demonstrating high value, as an extension of being high value, is never outdated. Be the male HB7. Or 8, or 9, or 10 (I see you, imaginary billionaire version of Brad Pitt) if you can manage. As for routines, if your routine is to go out, meet tons of girls, and have tons of fun, that never gets old either. | /r/seduction | 25/07/13 02:58 PM |
| 2 | A note to rising freshman in college: beware of the differences between college game and club/bar game.I want to be in a group but i'm not quite a follow the crowd kind of guy If you want to get more fulfillment out of social circles, you should contribute to them instead of just tagging along waiting for things to happen. Don't be the guy who consumes fun. Be a guy who produces fun. You don't even have to produce fun 80 percent of the time (though if you do, prepare for people to want to hang out with you all the time), but if you add to a group, your reputation builds and people begin to really… | /r/seduction | 25/07/13 01:26 PM |
| 1 | If you saw an afc ACTIVELY failing with the girl being unresponsive completely, would you move in?Depends. Were they on a date? No? Then all is fair. | /r/seduction | 24/07/13 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Why not just ask the person if they just want to have sex?Girls are always telling me I'm way more direct than most other guys. Probably because at this point, after I've built enough rapport for a girl to feel comfortable sitting on my lap, most of the time I just make the offer. I'd say so far for me, it's resulted in at least 3rd base about 2/3rds of the time. All the way slightly less than that. That is one difference: do not ask like it's something for you to receive and her to give, as if you have nothing to give in return. Offer something that i… | /r/seduction | 24/07/13 01:43 PM |
| 5 | A note to rising freshman in college: beware of the differences between college game and club/bar game.College = social circle and party game. You definitely have to be more audacious to get noticed in real life. But in college, if you work out every day, host a party or two every other week, make it a point to meet new people as much as you can, and handle your shit in college, you're pretty much golden. The guys who get the girls in college are the ones at or near the center of many social groups. | /r/seduction | 24/07/13 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Question: what's a good approach technique for European girls on the beach who usually don't speak English... and are often topless??You're going to have to work really hard at this. It's not as hard as you might think. I'm probably the most likely to stare out of anyone I know, but I keep it in check by reminding myself that because it's not anything "out of the ordinary," there's no reason to go out of my way. You kind of reframe the situation. | /r/seduction | 10/07/13 04:10 PM |
| 4 | Social Media GameThe absolute, most obnoxious, worst way to demonstrate value is to make people think you're saying "look, I'm demonstrating value!" If you have photos of you with cool people that pop up in your feed, or women writing all sorts of suggestive crap on your wall (though that's a double edged blade) because you're actually really fuckin' cool, just nurture that without being all like "hey guys, look at how cool I am!" Ways to be subtle: your profile picture, SHORT answers to profile questions, leavi… | /r/seduction | 10/07/13 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Question: what's a good approach technique for European girls on the beach who usually don't speak English... and are often topless??Really only one rule - don't stare at their breasts. That's a scarcity behavior. If you want to approach, approach. Just talk. Ask them what's fun around. If they're all smiles and laughs, invite them to do something you'd all enjoy. Escalate. The way you approach a person is largely the same in almost any context, my friend, calibrated to the norms of the environment. The norms at a topless beach is that women are topless. If you make a big deal out of that or make them feel awkward or weird ar… | /r/seduction | 10/07/13 01:48 PM |
| 1 | [Rant + Request for help] Women drive me crazy, here's why.I had a perfect relationship for 2 years and suddenly I got dumped for no reason at all. I guess it wasn't perfect for her. which one do I believe? Both? None of em? I'm sorry, I didn't realize that all of this stuff was supposed to be easy, and that at the end of the rainbow there's a pot of gold and a bunch of mufuckin' centaurs jousting for your amusement. Come on, man. I understand your frustration, but you're coming into this thinking that it's all supposed to be easy. Look, you have a lot … | /r/seduction | 03/07/13 03:44 PM |
| 2 | AFC to Ballroom Dancer: How learning to dance changed my gameAgnes Kazmierczak I was my school's competition manager back in 05, and I hired Urs and her to do a showcase for us. They were an awesome couple. My standard training is all over the place. I stopped competing it seriously around Gold level. Latin training is mostly Kaiser Dancesport lineage. A youth champion who was a contemporary of Karina Smirnoff and the Chmerkovskiy brothers went to my college and trained us, along with various other pro coaches. Good times. | /r/seduction | 02/07/13 03:28 PM |
| 3 | AFC to Ballroom Dancer: How learning to dance changed my gameFrequent contributor and competitive ballroom/latin dancer of 10 years here. Just here to say that all of the OP's post is true. Word of warning, you have to like dancing to get the benefits. You really won't be able to fake the work and dedication it takes to get good. It helps if you have a naturally competitive spirit - something that drives you to improve a little every day. Anyway, OP - What was the last competition you were at? Also, who's your coach? | /r/seduction | 02/07/13 02:20 PM |
| 80 | The #1 Reason You're Not Having SexDamnit Nick, I have an office boner now. Seriously, though, inspiring read. I know how tough it is to put up stories on the net when people know your name. Thanks for having the integrity and accountability to do so. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 03:03 PM |
| 19 | I fundamentally don't get why it's "Bold/ballsy" to approach a woman?It's "ballsy" because ballsy is a relative term. If no one else has the cojones to do it, it's ballsy by definition. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Why first impressions are so important.but the second time around, I did everything completely right and better, would I redeem myself? Nope. First impressions tend to be stronger than subsequent ones. By a factor of how much? Depends on a lot of things. So, if you fuck up the first impression, it will take X number of good ones after that to turn the girl's opinion around. Find X. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Why first impressions are so important.Play it cool. Keep your best foot forward. Try not to think of it as something that requires a ton of effort, because honestly, even if you give a bad first impression, as long as you're a cool guy it will shine through eventually. The only first impressions that are irrecoverable are the kinds where you get completely blown out like a bomb was dropped on you. Most of the time when you make a first impression where the girl doesn't find you romantically attractive because of something you said o… | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Why first impressions are so important.if you fuck it up you still have a shot, Absolutely true. I realized my post may have given guys the impression they should worry about these things actively while on the ground talking to a woman. Even if you stumble here and there, never let it faze you. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Why first impressions are so important.I always have trouble not looking like a total douche You'll have to explain what you mean by this - I can guess, but specifics can help. It might be your outfit, your vibe, or both. Try posting a picture of something you'd normally wear on a night out. Also, your age and location come into play - if you're out of college, dressing like a frat bro doesn't work anymore. If you're in college, dressing too stuffily might not work either (unless you're European, they get away with everything). | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Why first impressions are so important.walking up and pausing, continuing supposed to entail I meant walking up to a girl, stopping to assess the situation/pick your nose/etc, and then continuing is a bad thing. It's hesitation, and needless self-doubt. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:28 AM |
| 3 | Why first impressions are so important.noticing you initially if you drive a really expensive car or are a celebrity is kind of a stereotype. For me, personally, that would be a huge turn off. Haha, I hear you. I never said the response would be positive. Still there are lots of people who respond positively to that kind of "showboating," as long as the person doing it isn't trying to be all "I'm better than you, bow before me." A nice car and nice clothes are good bonuses if you're a stand up guy. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:27 AM |
| 3 | Why first impressions are so important.chances are she's hoping that you're a catch Remember - that's if you make a good first impression. My advice is not to obsess over how to make a good first impression, but rather to eliminate the things that knock 50 percent of guys out of the running within the first minute. | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:25 AM |
| 1 | I have an extremely negative view on women.I love women, it's a hobby, but shit if I am not rough at it. When it's 1 AM and 4 girls and 2 dudes are walking down the street being loud, how the FUCK do you stop one and convert that to SOMETHING? Your confidence is still fucked - nothing I tell you will work unless you fix your confidence first. Part of that may include getting out there, but it will definitely not ride on field experience alone. You need to get over your previous girl. They used to say the cure for oneitis was sleeping wit… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:58 PM |
| 1 | I have an extremely negative view on women.But let me ask you, if you can fake the opening, what difference will it make on the internal side if you can hide the neediness A needy person can fake it for maybe a day, a week, a month, a few years, but it will always be fake - at least until he fixes what made him needy in the first place. Thing is, the data shows that you're NOT faking it. Your friends can tell you're unhappy - not just because they know you better, but because of the way you are right now. The company of a woman isn't wha… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Solo Sarging -Tips from experienced PUA's?With that many hours, it'll be tough to meet people, period. So, have realistic expectations. That said, if you can, try to join some meetup groups. Or you can do my favorite: find a local bar that you like that will be your home away from home. Get in with the staff there. Hospitality workers are great for meeting people, giving you a good sense of what's fun around the area, and they'll likely give you free stuff now and then if you're loyal. I do that whenever I'm travelling. Knowing bartende… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:41 PM |
| 2 | I have an extremely negative view on women.What it sounds to me is like you need to fix your emotional issues (don't feel stigmatized, just find a way to get it done) more than your game. Keep going to a counselor. I would say start focusing more on your inner game and sense of satisfaction about your life. The strongest weapon a man has in his arsenal is strong emotional health. Also, stop trying to date college girls for a while, at least until you get a stronger emotional base where you're stable enough to walk away from a bad deal. I… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:35 PM |
| 2 | I have an extremely negative view on women.I genuinely LIKE them but have such low expectations now. I'm a lover, I love relationships, I love connecting with them, I appreciate their beauty, I genuinely desire them for even more than sex. But shit if it's hard to be positive when it's been hard this way. She gaslit me, indirectly blamed everything on me, had a diary about her first man who cheated on her years ago, wrote nothing about me in the diary, was texting him behind my back, lied to her girlfriends about it, called me out on eve… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:23 PM |
| 1 | I have an extremely negative view on women.had my college sweeheart of 3 years blame it on me I have no idea what she blamed on you. Also, you're like, 22? What's the rest of your life going to be like if you don't let that shit go? I would want to know what SPECIFICALLY attracts women, because if it is going up to them and saying, "Hi, I thought you were adorable, I want to introduce myself," well, it's not that, because that shit flat out doesn't work for me. Nothing will work unless you like women, dude. EDIT - make that 25. You're 25… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:12 PM |
| 1 | I have an extremely negative view on women.A few people who met me randomly say, "Dude, you should be pulling all day the way you look," Didn't I just tell you to get that out of your head? 1) Went up to one and said, "You know you're coming home with me, right?" 2) Just grabbed a chick and kissed her since I was blackout. 3) Pulled another onto the dance floor, done. How the hell is that not "confident?" We can get into more technical aspects later, but where is the guy who does that stuff? Somehow, I don't think he spends his time mopi… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 08:04 PM |
| 6 | I have an extremely negative view on women.Even guys who are 9s So, lemme get this straight - you think women, who have completely different criteria with which they judge attractiveness during first impressions and thereafter, should follow the same logic we do, as in "if a guy is good looking enough, she must be crazy not to bang him." Wake up, Nemo. Your shit is topsy turvy. You think you're a 7. You think your friends are 9s. If they're getting blown out consistently, I'd call them 4s. Your logic right now is like you got on the scal… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 07:49 PM |
| 5 | I have an extremely negative view on women.So... why are you here again? | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Seduction Techniques for a One Night Stand?All the advice is pretty universal. The key here will be finding girls who want what you have to offer. Meet more of them, and, if possible, bring more to the table yourself. "More to the table" could be your interests, your confidence, your wit, your experiences. You're the product. She's the buyer. Make sure you're making your best pitch. Also, the trouble here could be partly cultural - cultures in many countries outside the Western liberal sphere may frown on ONS situations. If you're workin… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:27 PM |
| 5 | You're sitting at home and decide to go out to find new women. What do you do exactly?I've noticed there's no real days where you just leave the house with the expressed purpose of meeting someone Bingo. That's a scarcity mindset in its most subtle form. The idea that game is something you have to build your life around. You build game into your life, not the other way. Partly because I'm an introvert, but I'm always ready to meet new people. Not necessarily for this or that, but it's not something I have to plan for aside from thinking "this event I heard about might be fun" - m… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Where do you draw the line between cocky and confident?Here's where the difference lies: If the way you carry yourself, treat other people, and go about your life is working for you, and you're happy and self-aware enough to realize that sometimes you might step over the line, you're confident. If there is no line and you're a jerkoff about it, I'd say you're cocky, and that you could probably do better. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I can't approach for the life of me..tips/suggestions please!Stop putting your goals before the actual approach. Hear me out. You're looking at a girl and thinking "man, she's hot, I wanna go talk to her." If that's where you stopped your brain, you'd have already walked up. That's not what happens, though. What happens to you is that you're thinking "what if she doesn't like me, what if this or that goes wrong, what if this is all a big mistake, what if...?" You turned walking up to a person and introducing yourself - something you've probably done thous… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Texting over summergoing in separate ways to college There's this whole new thing you may have heard about, called "making friends in college." That was friendly sarcasm. Don't sweat not meeting up. Don't feed the "scarcity mindset," where you're thinking you have a time limit with girls from your HS class you never made a move on, and that you have to "win" with them before you leave for school. That mindset is what's holding you back - you don't live in a world of possibility. You live in a world of limits, and … | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Texting over summerWhat if you aren't in school? Doesn't matter. What matters is whether you have the logistics to plan on meeting up. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:05 PM |
| 3 | Where is the line between courage and neediness?what makes an approach courageous Independence from theoretical outcomes. Success and failure are both acceptable. Success, obviously, is preferable, and the direction your self-improvement pushes you towards. , and what makes it needy Dependence on outcomes. You NEED these people to accept you. You NEED approval and emotional support from them. You're a consumer, and are coming to the table thinking it's a soup kitchen instead of a potluck. That's neediness. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Why first impressions are so important.That's a good point. My advice is more about not sabotaging oneself, but there's a fine line in between remembering to be presentable and being aware of a woman's response, versus obsessing about your appearance or what a woman thinks of you before you actually get a chance to talk to her. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 05:47 PM |
| 1 | The first thing you need to know about seduction.That's a base judgement, and easily swayed one way or the other. Only if they're in a fully rational mode. Judging someone's attractiveness is rarely that. knowing most women when being approached by a stranger, and me not being a chiseled Grecian God it's probably a negative one Not true in the field, based on tons of data by everyone on this sub. If I let that change my behavior then my behavior is conditional on other peoples opinions, I never said to let it change your behavior. The only thi… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 03:56 PM |
| 1 | The first thing you need to know about seduction."her type" for her to be curious. Women are pretty forgiving about type before you open your mouth. Be in shape (not even that necessary). Dress passably. Smell okay. Don't "look like a creeper." | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 03:29 PM |
| 17 | Why first impressions are so important.One more thing: I know this because I ask girls all the time what they first noticed about me (after closing), and whether they saw me approach. 9 out of 10 times I've been wildly successful, the girl had no impression of what I was like I was before I stood in front of her and introduced myself. Being a chill, confident, funny guy with lots of friends (with women who liked those things) in the first seconds and minutes had those women make a very early decision that they'd like to get to know m… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 03:28 PM |
| 1 | The first thing you need to know about seduction.How does someone like or dislike you before they meet you? How you look, who you're with, your posture, how you speak - and more. All of these things that a woman can tell about you from afar. Not saying a woman has to be ready to jump your bones before meeting you. But, if you think she doesn't have an opinion about what you're like before you open your mouth, you should open your eyes. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 03:02 PM |
| 1 | The first thing you need to know about seduction.Girls may be impressed you approached, but will almost certainly still shoot you down unless she likes you first. Almost. She doesn't have to like you yet - she just has to be curious about you. Basically, liking you has to be on the table as a possibility. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Abbreviations and terms Glossary?On the right, dude. Search page for "glossary." Honestly, don't read too much into the actual definitions until you get a concept for how the they're used. Generally, the glossary is just good for quickly relaying information a situation that everyone here can understand quickly and from the same perspective. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 02:58 PM |
| 8 | Hey seddit! Any tips on how to be happy with myself?Don't worry. Be happy. Wooooo, woo woo woo woo-woo-woo-woo woo-wee-woo Seriously though, you're still putting a ton of your self-worth onto your "success" (or lack thereof) with women. If you want to be happy, take stock of the things you really want in life. I'm not saying to ignore women, but you should be making progress in other things. If women are a band aid for your dissatisfaction with the rest of your life, you won't get anywhere with them... worse, you won't get anywhere with your life… | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 02:55 PM |
| 4 | What is exactly acting mature?It means they are attracted to immature assholes. Careful. This mode of thought puts you into that category. | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Girl says, "Are you gong to buy us drinks?" What is your response to that? Not much of a FR, but I came away from last night with some questions.but I feel like there can be more effort put in to alter a situation. There is: more rapport. Not saying you couldn't have gotten into these girls' good graces in another circumstance, but their minds were already set on leaving, and you didn't have enough credits with them at first glance to evoke more than what was at best a shit test, and at worst an indirect rejection. You can't win every time in every situation. Get that rapport and that fun club vibe going asap. | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Questions or topics to avoid to add mystery to yourself?The only way to have a meaningful "mysterious aura" about you is to have more to your personality and life than can be learned in 2 minutes of small talk with a stranger. It's about other people being eager to earn the privilege of learning about who you are, and the unique experiences that inform your worldview. So, you can be as mysterious as you want in choosing which "topics to avoid." Don't wanna talk about your dating past? Don't. Don't wanna talk about your lifelong friends and your trips… | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 07:52 PM |
| 2 | When I do a cold approach, girls seem to turn red when I start talking to them. That's a good thing, right?You need to ask yourself what that actually means. Are they comfortable with you? Are the actions they take after you approach positive towards you, or neutral/cold? How are they behaving after the initial approach? Not enough info, dawg. | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Girl says, "Are you gong to buy us drinks?" What is your response to that? Not much of a FR, but I came away from last night with some questions."I'll show you a magic trick where you buy me drinks and we all have a good time?" "No." "You ruined the trick!" Next set. I dunno, man. To me, you had few places to go aside from "something witty," which almost never works before you have rapport. It was ballsy opening the way you did, but I didn't see them bite. If they did, you'd be writing a full on FR right now. | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 07:06 PM |
| 1 | TofuTofu's book Above the Game just got removed from Kickstarter for violating termsIn the email it says the funds were already collected. I was already charged. I want to be charged because I want this book! Oh, hey. I guess I gotta dust up on the old reading comprehension. Well, who knows. We'll see soon enough. | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 06:26 PM |
| -1 | TofuTofu's book Above the Game just got removed from Kickstarter for violating termsPer the email, you won't be charged whatever you backed. As for whether this will still happen, we'll see. | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 06:23 PM |
| 1 | you and a lady are hooking up once every few weeks, and you go out to see a movie, you run into some of your mutual friends and they try to peg you as girlfriend and boyfriendHowever she reacts is how she reacts. How you react is your domain. If you're cool with the jokes, just play it cool. If you don't appreciate them, go "okay okay, enough," or shrug it off. What are you worried about, exactly? | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 02:41 PM |
| 4 | On looks, why they matter, and why that's okay."knowing your target demographic" Asian guy here. I'll say that it has more to do with who you're naturally drawn to at that point. I grew up going to school with almost no Asian people. I tended to like white girls. That's where my preferences are. That's where I get the most success. Asian girls who are into Asian guys tend to find me "different," which to an extent, is true, because my superficial characteristics, such as how I dress and speak in most circumstances, are "white." "you'll have … | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 02:11 PM |
| 3 | PUA Study House. Health, Wealth, Women. Anyone interested?Doesn't matter who you are, as long as everyone there knows and respects each other's boundaries. If you've had experience living in this situation successfully, be a leader and make it happen again. A key ingredient, in my mind, is to make sure that everyone there has something that will occupy them outside the house at least 6 hours a day. | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 08:27 PM |
| 1 | PUA Study House. Health, Wealth, Women. Anyone interested?However, I would caution against deciding to live with 5 other guys I would have just said that and been done with it. It takes a lot of boundaries to have 5 people living in the same house. That, or a huge fuckin' house where everyone has their own personal living room and bathroom. | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 07:28 PM |
| 0 | [xMODx] Recent Drama, Reporting and Message to those linked here from viral campaignsI am not talking about the "take out your cock" part Granted. But the other parts you have an issue with are written with similar bravado. And those assumptions still apply, where there are two people who are on a date, both are having fun, and the woman is explicitly enjoying and reciprocating a man's advances. | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Can you trust a good looking PUA's advice?Its like swimmers body fallacy. Some might think that swimmers have this great body because they are swimming so much, but actually it is other way around. They are great swimmers mosty because of their body. You must never have swum competitively, mate. Yeah, having a great body, or a great _____, or this or that will give you an advantage on a certain level. But if you want to be great at anything, it doesn't matter how "natural" you are: you've gotta get your time in the mud. 1000s of hours. … | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 06:07 PM |
| -3 | [xMODx] Recent Drama, Reporting and Message to those linked here from viral campaignsthe default assumption is that she's okay with whatever you're doing. The original post was written with the following assumptions in mind, built on the 1000 or so words that came before the quoted passages, and the 1000s from the sections of Tofu's advice before that. The assumptions in the article by the time you get to the quoted controversy was that there are two people who are on a date, having good conversation, no red flags as defined by either party, and that the woman has responded posi… | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Am I the biggest loser you've ever heard about?You're 15. If you're the biggest loser I've ever heard of, then it's mostly because you're 15 and have little to nothing to offer the world. Unless you're Mozart. Are you Mozart? No? Well, work on that. Seriously. I know you're going through your high school angst right now. And a lot of grownups are telling you to be motivated and all this bullshit that you don't wanna do. Well, they're telling you all that crap because they're not concerned about your happiness as a 15 year old - they're conce… | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 01:32 PM |
| 9 | Above The Game Part 9: Giving Back: Be a Value GiverIt's such a fine line between being a generous value giver and being a chump. That fine line is called "neediness." | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Advice on lifestyle change for a late 20's dudeYou could, you know, just start hanging out in college bar type places, instead of changing your whole career around a bunch of women who likely have little to offer someone in your stage of life aside from NSA fun. | /r/seduction | 05/06/13 02:39 PM |
| -1 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."No. My response before last was jumbled and poorly thought out. Anyway, the main thing is that I've found that the preselection reaction, as a special case of screening, can work in more ways than just showing up with women. You showing up with women causes gears to turn in her head - she may become sexually curious based on other women having chosen you before, yes. But, that same reaction could be elicited through other things that she perceives about you before you approach. The important thi… | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 11:47 PM |
| -2 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."I'm trying to say that a woman whose screens you pass is a woman who has preselected you, but based on criteria the doesn't necessarily involve other women. Same result, different stimuli. I want the definition to reflect that a woman can be screening you before you interact with her. If you pass those screens with DHV (in some cases by showing up with other women), I think it's still helpful to look at that as preselection because it's the same mechanism. | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 11:31 PM |
| -2 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."You can't use the definition of one word, to make it the new definition of another word I'm trying to do exactly that because preselection is a specific form of screening, and I think that screening is actually a more important idea. I take it further than that because I think it's important to realize that if a woman is spending any kind of time with you without brushing off your advances, she has screened/preselected you already - knowing this allows you to assume attraction. Problem is, scree… | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 10:58 PM |
| -2 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."Preselection has to do with the fact that the women you are with have already done the screening Is that not what I said up there? I said preselection is just that - a woman selecting you before you actually interact. I'm just expanding the definition to include screening for more than just being seen around other women, and also putting the emphasis on the fact that a woman is subconsciously rooting for any guy she preselects. | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Trouble dealing with the emotional pains that come with the game and balancing vulnerability and non neediness.Honestly, not too much, or so I think. I generally keep contact between dates to a minimum and primarily use texting as a means of setting up the day 2. I keep text frequency only every few days, so I don't get needy there. I'm not sure. I suppose there's some neediness leaking out into my outergame that I'm not aware of since I feel needy on the inside, perhaps I get too persistent? I'm generally very direct and blunt with my game. Even if you're not making "needy moves" like calling all the ti… | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Might be a weird question, but here goesI assure you that you could not come close to the nekulturny goobers and scholarly princelings around here, nor could you mix those properties no matter how you tried. I think that's a compliment, but I'm not sure because you're implying that I'm not as good as the "the nekulturny goobers and scholarly princelings" at being... well... "nekulturny goobers and scholarly princelings." The alpha in me cannot allow me to be second best to anyone! | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Might be a weird question, but here goesAround here they're either uncultured slobs or effete pseudo-intellectuals, As an uncultured, effete, pseudo-intellectual slob, I take offense with you, sir! | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."there is the very real possibility that a woman will change their mind. That's true. But the rate of occurrence for jumping from a woman having an initially negative opinion to a positive one post-approach is exceedingly small, and I'd say that's even the case for most veterans. If the door is locked and shut, sure, you can get in, but it's going to be quite a field report. What most people, possibly even you, think of when they think of a girl "changing her mind" is that she's going from a neut… | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Trouble dealing with the emotional pains that come with the game and balancing vulnerability and non neediness.Generally speaking, deciding you like someone doesn't drive that person away. Actions do. What are you changing when you start to feel for these women? As for feeling fucked up after being "left," that's a self-esteem and overall life-happiness thing that can't necessarily be fixed within the realm of dating. You'll have to find your fulfillment elsewhere and get that baseline of happiness. I think there are a web of issues here that we can't really work on without more concrete details. | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Expanding on Seddit's definition of "preselection."it just seems like a reactive inner state to be in, waiting for someone to give you a "single inch of wiggle room." Just saying. You have to approach and escalate to figure out where that wiggle room is. I didn't feel the need to reinforce that idea here - the mode of thought I want to put forth with the wiggle room thing is that if you find wiggle room, it's because she wants you to have it. | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 03:34 PM |
| 2 | I'm a 5'2" male. How important is height? What can I do about it?If you're familiar with the concept of preselection, height comes in mostly at that stage. It's something immediately visible, and adds to your score if you have it, and possibly takes from your score if you don't. Thing is, you're stuck at your height. Good news: a lot of girls are short, and if you're a social, well-liked guy who does interesting things, even taller girls will be totally cool with dating you. Shortness as an obstacle comes in two flavors: an obstacle to confidence, and an obst… | /r/seduction | 03/06/13 02:48 PM |
| 3 | What's a good summer job that is conducive to pick up?my record work week was 93 hours If you can work a 60-80 hour work week and still have energy to go out and party, more power to you. Most people can't handle that kind of stress, though, even for ridiculous pay. | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 02:02 PM |
| 1 | What's a good summer job that is conducive to pick up?Sales jobs really help with being able to cold approach and start conversations, all while pushing decision-making situations. Really, though, anything that gives you enough money to not have to worry about most logistical issues (club cover charges, drinks, food, movies, theme park trips, etc) is fine. | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 01:40 PM |
| 2 | What's a good summer job that is conducive to pick up?This, with the rider that the job shouldn't be something ridiculous like a 60 hour per week high pressure sales job. | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 01:40 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Daygame in Times Sq. "I love your hair" -> instadate -> SNL (x-post from GothamSeddit)People underestimate the power of karaoke. And, really, any shared activity where both people have fun and are required to cooperate. Also, I'll give you a shout when I head up to NYC. | /r/seduction | 30/05/13 07:51 PM |
| 18 | The Above The Game Book Kickstarter Project is now Live! Details inside.Backed. If you could tape a ball of your pubes in the copy you're gonna send me, that'd be awesome, dude. Lemme know if you wanna include an "ask the community" type section where you ask common questions to active seddit members. That might be pretty boss. But, your book, so feel free to ignore suggestion. | /r/seduction | 29/05/13 04:41 PM |
| -2 | Whats the etiquette on 99% completed Kino escalation?That or he's trolling. Seriously, OP, it's not a game of Starcraft. If you know enough to use those fancy words, you know enough to use your head and figure it out. | /r/seduction | 29/05/13 03:05 PM |
| 44 | You're sitting on your college cafeteria alone and you notice a small group of girls sitting on a table. You don't know them and they don't know you. How you would make an approach to one of them?lol i saw that episode of south park 11 years ago too Welcome to the internet. | /r/seduction | 24/05/13 04:40 PM |
| 293 | You're sitting on your college cafeteria alone and you notice a small group of girls sitting on a table. You don't know them and they don't know you. How you would make an approach to one of them?"Hi, I'm ______. Mind if I join you guys?" Then, if you're funny, be funny. If you're suave, be suave. If you're a loch-ness monster, god dammit, I ain't givin' you no tree fiddy! | /r/seduction | 24/05/13 04:14 PM |
| 3 | I was wondering how you guys felt about not actually wanting to sleep with most girls you meet, however not being against the idea.Sex and emotions to me aren't the same thing. They aren't for anyone who has matured enough to realize that sex isn't actually a huge deal. Now, sex and emotions can intersect - and they both become very powerful when they do. But, honestly, do you really think that you're capable of a deep emotional connection and longing with every girl who looks attractive enough to sleep with? Please. That's a fantasy that people have been trying to sell since forever. Everything regarding sex and love is mo… | /r/seduction | 21/05/13 06:51 PM |
| 8 | Tip Tuesday: The Power of TouchI gotta be honest, I don't like the DiCarlo Kino Ladder. It overcomplicates what should be a pretty simple progression. I like to think of her body as a map and my hands as the Fellowship of the Ring, headed for Mount Doom. You start at the shire, and then head off to Bree, make a stop in Rivendell, then enter the Mines of Moria. But then I get waylaid by fuckin' orcs. Seriously, fuck those guys. | /r/seduction | 21/05/13 06:46 PM |
| 3 | What is the one activity/hobby/habit that you think makes you most interesting/appealing to women other than Pick Up material?Pick up doesn't make you interesting unless you're active in its development and discussion. Rather, pick-up enables you to present the parts of you that make you interesting, quickly and effectively. So, everything that you do that makes you a person with your own unique life and story is what pick-up was developed to highlight. To answer your question: Dancing Writing Cooking To a certain extent, geek obsessions like video games and comic books - this is really only interesting to girls with g… | /r/seduction | 21/05/13 06:37 PM |
| 2 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.I can handle a group of 3 girls or so My rule is that each guy can VERBALLY win the confidence of 4 other people, 5 at the most, at one time. More than that, and the 6th, 7th, etc will feel left out. However, if you've been seen, and people are curious about you, and you offer a good time, a group large or small will be cool getting to know you, even if you can only talk to them 3 or 4 at a time. There's only so many people you can influence at a time, yes, but that doesn't mean the rest of the … | /r/seduction | 21/05/13 01:36 PM |
| 3 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Going salsa dancing tonight. The girlfriend isn't accompanying me, but damned if it isn't fun anyway. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 08:56 PM |
| 8 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Two girls dancing out on the dance floor and your approach is to go up and talk to them? I would think that wouldn't work (AFC here, tho) because you're opening a set on a loud dance floor, you're asking these girls to stop dancing and talk to you, etc. Who said you have to stop dancing? Who said you have to have a long conversation? Introduce yourself, brotha. There's tons of ways to approach those girls. "Maybe you two can help me out - do you think the DJ will play ____?" Make sure it's a rid… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 08:53 PM |
| 3 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Question: How do you get good at kissing when you haven't kissed that many girls before? Kiss more girls. Or kiss one girl more. Ask for feedback. Look up guides. Simple question, simple answer. The difficulty isn't in complexity. The difficulty is that the whole process takes time, and experience. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 08:41 PM |
| 1 | How to build attraction over text over long periods?I know people who are surgeons. I know people who are prima ballerinas and male dancers. I know people who willingly work 60-80 hours a week to do what they love to do, and want nothing more than to be remembered by it. They still have an hour to spend with someone who they want to know better. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 08:31 PM |
| 7 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.So I just go there and talk to both of the girls? Yes. Bet you didn't think it was that simple, did you? | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 08:09 PM |
| 3 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.when there is such a big group, how would you say a guy should most effectively approach them Depends if you're solo or with a group. For me, if I'm in a group, I still do the "send a recon team" type strategy, where one or two of us will go up to a group of girls, all smiles, and introduce ourselves. Ask them where all their attractive men are (this is a qualifying question). Do this with lots of different groups. As I said, keep your interactions short and sweet, and build on the ones that get… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 07:50 PM |
| 1 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.You should add dance floor is for dancing. I see too many guys trying to talk a girl up on the dance floor. I've had to explain that in multiple comments... haha. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 07:41 PM |
| 6 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Well, the only issue is to have the fucking confidence to do so! ;p You speak as if low-confidence is something incurable, that no one in this board has ever gotten over. ;p | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 07:34 PM |
| 5 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.go introduce myself cos they were dancing together and I was alone That's how. Get your confidence to a place where you can do that easily 9 times out of ten. It will involve a lot of failing and blowouts, but keep doing it until it's natural. Jump in. It's not like swimming - you won't drown. It helps to hold eye contact, smile, have something interesting to say, and be willing to dance. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 07:33 PM |
| 5 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Thanks again. Hadn't thought of it that way, since I actually don't have any reference experiences. Gotta go get some of those. There's a lot that you don't know about yourself until you have reference experience. All the things that will make up your life are things that, initially, you don't know about. So, theories about yourself are either limiting, or enabling. I'm not saying to ignore how you feel. I'm saying to ignore how you "think you would feel, in a theoretical situation that has yet … | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:48 PM |
| 5 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.But the Finnish, British, and German girls were all over it I was in Cambodia and everyone was all over me. Swiss, Germans, Brits, Dutch, Australians... you name it. Travelling game works much better on fellow travelers - you know they have a sense of adventure already. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:46 PM |
| 12 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Seven girls in the crew.... Dat pre-selection. Getting girls to go TO a club with you is the easiest part of the night. Getting a girl to GO HOME with you is the interesting part. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:44 PM |
| 4 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Moral of the story, don't bring friends who'll bring you down Totally. It sounds shitty, but if the guys want to approach, they have to learn some game, or be naturals about it. My Irish and Russian friends are all naturals. Put them in a pub or club, and they'll open ANYONE with you. Love those fuckers. But yes, anyone who has AA... you can only have one or two of them learning with your group at a time, and if you do, you better be sure everyone else is fucking pro. The toughest thing about ga… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:39 PM |
| 9 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.I'm also an introvert. If you are, that's fine. However, I used to think I was an introvert, when really I was just shy. That, and introverts aren't hopeless in quieter settings. They actually have the advantage there because they're more comfortable getting into longer interactions. And that's the thing for me. I like clubbing (with the right people) because I can dance with one girl, leave, find another, dance with her, have shots, dance some more on my own - it's like I have social ADHD, but … | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:37 PM |
| 5 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.I was curious more as to technique of approaching girls at the club when there shield is up and conversation is hindered. Same techniques as on home turf, just more challenging because you can't sweet talk as much. I said to someone else - if you can get a girl to smile and hold eye contact, you've got an invitation to escalate. How you get her to smile and look at you is the same you would on your home turf - offering fun, being funny, talking to her about whatever it is you might both find int… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:14 PM |
| 6 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Most hot girls have slut-shields up for that. My data says that a conversation isn't really all that necessary if you already introduced yourself, and you're building attraction on the dance floor by being fun, leading the girl, kino-ing, and pushing the envelope with her comfort zone. Again, she has to be vibing you. This rarely has to do with conversation in a club. It has more to do with preselection. If you can get her to smile and lock eyes with you, you're in. Escalate from there. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:11 PM |
| 7 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Shit, dude, I thought you were gonna say somewhere far out, like Mongolia. I've never been, but all my friends who have told me that Spain is hella fun. You just have to get out of your shell, be willing to learn local customs while at the same time being very you - part of the charm of a foreigner is that they have a different set of perspectives and habits... and it's charming as long as you don't use it as a point to be douchey or "better than" the people you're trying to hang out with. What … | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 06:07 PM |
| 11 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Learn a couple of good jokes, weird phrases (ask them how to say "my dick is huge" and say that to everyone), and drinking games. That, and dance a lot. When you're in a "foreign country," to the people living there, you're the equivalent of the "funny foreign guy" that we know and love. Also, ask someone who actually lives there and runs game. What country we talkin'? | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 05:56 PM |
| 13 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.so what would be the best way to verbally escalate? Don't bring a hammer to a place with no nails. On the dancefloor, you escalate with kino, with your eye contact, with leading her with your hands and your rhythm. You can seduce without words on the dancefloor. Hopefully, the message will get across that you're good at sex. Even better, you're actually good at sex. If you wanna talk, isolate. But, honestly, conversation, to me, has never gotten me in a girl's pants, aside from letting her know … | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 04:53 PM |
| 11 | How to build attraction over text over long periods?Are you really suggesting that unless I meet her in person soon to establish kino, I have no chance with this girl? Wait, you mean that she's not a hundred miles away and still isn't making time to see you? "I kind of want to, but I can't...." She means "no." She's not into you, dude. If a girl is interested in you, she'll make time, finals be damned. And if she doesn't have time until after finals, the advice would still be the same - get off her back and hit her up later. Women's feelings aren… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 03:15 PM |
| 28 | More club advice, and how a group of guys completely failed with my female friends.Accidents can make good openers as long as they're natural, even if they're not real accidents If it's not an accident, and it seems natural, it's acting. Most guys suck at acting... heh. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 03:09 PM |
| 9 | How to build attraction over text over long periods?If there's no physical contact for a while, why aren't you meeting other women? Is this your wife? Is this even your girlfriend? What's the hold-up? These rules seem kinda dumb to me. And I can't tell if you're trolling. But I don't know how to stop attraction from dwindling if there's no kino for a while. Sorry, buddy, but if you don't water plants, they die. Period. You can't text water to a plant. You can't text your way into attraction unless the girl is already strongly attracted to you fro… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 02:37 PM |
| 2 | If you're the younges and also smallest guy in a club, what are you supposed to do? Are you pretty much fucked?The same stuff that everyone who succeeds in the club does. Work on your confidence, open lots of sets, have lots of fun, escalate, dance your ass off, give energy to the atmosphere. There are fuck tons of guides on how to do all of this. Search "club game". However, you need to fix your lack of confidence. I don't know what your hangups are about being young or small, but if you can't change it, you need to work with it. | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 02:30 PM |
| 5 | Method Monday: How the Pros Learned the GameI wanna add to your spiel about field experience that any person's self-evaluation of their own abilities and potential is usually bullshit - and that poor self-evaluation is usually what leads to the pigeon-holed training you're talking about. Unless you're Mozart playing piano like a pro at 5 years old, you have no idea what you're good at, so people with no field experience saying "this or that doesn't work for me" need to shut up and do their 1000 approaches. In my view, if a guy hasn't gott… | /r/seduction | 20/05/13 01:48 PM |
| 39 | If you could give 5 tips on being more outcome independent what would be the highest ones on the list.Be happy with 80-90 percent of your life - the last 10-20 percent is women. There's only one outcome to life - death. You might as well do some interesting shit along the way. Find something to laugh about in every situation. It will usually help you keep perspective. Almost every person whom you're afraid of being judged by is afraid of being judged by someone else, or even you. It's called "game" for a reason - have fun. The process is always more fun than the result. Ask anyone who has done a… | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 05:06 PM |
| 2 | here's a magic tip that could really help you out that i don't see included in tips for guys developing their game. you ready? STAND UP STRAIGHT!The trick is being able to sustain that posture without making an effort to do it. To lengthen that way, you have to release most of your muscle groups except for the ones that align your torso around your spine. One of the most important things you have to learn in dance. If you try to approach posture with the idea that you're going to use more muscle rather than less, you will end up stiff, and with back problems. | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 05:01 PM |
| 1 | here's a magic tip that could really help you out that i don't see included in tips for guys developing their game. you ready? STAND UP STRAIGHT!Tips from a dancer: Good posture is about being relaxed. Specifically, the muscles in your core and back have to release so that you can lengthen your spine. Sticking your chest out makes you shorter because it accentuates the curve of your spine. Lifting your chin, to anyone who isn't directly in front of you, also tends to make you shorter, as it tends to compress the back of your neck. Try to lengthen your spine through the back of your head - this should make the back of your neck almost ver… | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Looks and what they mean to SeductionGood insight. What people lose sight of when we discuss "this technique" or "that technique" is that there's a big picture that all of this stuff fits into. If you ignore 80 percent of your game in favor of 20 percent, you won't see results. The guys who complain about how game is "all about looks" never get anywhere because they ignore 85 points they could be improving for the 15 that they can't. That said, there are parts of game that are experimentally worth more points, or at least have high… | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 04:43 PM |
| 2 | So many guys asking the wrong question - Stop trying to learn how to deal with specific shit tests! Start learning the little things that stop shit tests before they ever happenI tend to agree with a lot of the OP's post, in that most shit tests in a social setting (versus long term dominance shit tests) occur to guys with no game, or low status, or unknown status. That, and shit tests themselves are slanted - the woman already wants you to fail. No woman, consciously or unconsciously, shit tests a guy hoping that he'll surprise her. If he's got tight game, and he does, then hell yeah, he's in like Flynt. But the bottom line is that the shit tester's prequalification o… | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Serious question - men who cleaned up their life and became awesome, what were the biggest things that helped you?Your heart will tell you what you want. Your brain will tell you how to get it. | /r/seduction | 14/05/13 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Study confirms what Seddit has know foreverNewsflash - if links like this one throw you into an existential crisis, you probably suck with women. | /r/seduction | 14/05/13 02:47 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond when a friend devalues you?A lot of the tactical "what to do in the moment" advice here is pretty sound. But, also realize that your friend is a shitty wing man. No matter how well you do with a shitty wingman, it will still be a shitty situation. Think if Michael Jordan had shitty teammates his whole career - sure, he can always work on his own game. But, sometimes you gotta know when it's time to move to another team. So, while you're working on your game, remember to step back and look at the big picture. You need a be… | /r/seduction | 14/05/13 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Serious question - men who cleaned up their life and became awesome, what were the biggest things that helped you?Learning that emotions and actions don't have to be tied together, and honestly, are usually best kept separate. If I have a shitty day and want to stay in playing video games and eating junk food until I pass out, I recognize that I have such feelings, and then tell my brain to shut the fuck up as I continue doing the things that I know will make me feel better the next day, like eating well and exercising and spending time with my friends. Apply this to your relationships. No matter how compat… | /r/seduction | 14/05/13 02:32 PM |
| 0 | How should i go about calling a girl out on her texting while with me?The more they like you, the less they text. Source: a guy who keeps getting propositioned by 18 year old dance students. EDIT: Better phrasing: The more they like you, the more attention they pay you. | /r/seduction | 10/05/13 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Above The Game Part 7: Physical Escalation & SexJust to chime in - sex is like any other physical activity. It requires a certain level of fitness to be good at it, so make sure you take care of yourself. It also requires lots of practice, so be comfortable with being inexperienced - you'll be mediocre until you're good, and that's okay, because most guys are mediocre. A woman doesn't remember her mediocre bangs and think "I'd never do that again" - but if you get good at sex, she'll think back to it and think "I'd DEFINITELY do that again." … | /r/seduction | 08/05/13 12:42 AM |
| 1 | How do you respond when a girl complains that you've been blanking her lately?I was corrected before. | /r/seduction | 08/05/13 12:22 AM |
| 5 | The R Word: How do you deal with a girl that may have been previously raped?Do you know anyone who has been falsely accused? Or were you? Because I know a lot of women who were raped. And, apples to oranges, but it's honestly better to be falsely accused than to be actually raped. That's neither here nor there, so I won't talk about this anymore. But, you may want to consider that a lot more women than you know have been in situations where, if you were there in that same situation, you'd call it rape, too. There's no ambiguity about that, dude. | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 07:13 PM |
| 3 | The R Word: How do you deal with a girl that may have been previously raped?Her reasoning for saying it was "practically rape" was that we met through family friends so she wasn't comfortable turning me away due to our social ties. By that logic, your mutual friends are accomplices in her mind. | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 07:08 PM |
| 3 | The R Word: How do you deal with a girl that may have been previously raped?always be escalating, assume attraction, etc... Always be escalating in the interest of finding where the lines are drawn. Always escalating without reading her reactions or paying attention to what a woman is comfortable with is the "how" of rape, dude. Escalation isn't just about letting a woman know you're interested - it's about gauging her interest in you. So, you did what everyone's supposed to do, but doesn't - you felt out what her comfort level was, and you respected that. You didn't hi… | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 07:04 PM |
| 4 | How do you respond when a girl complains that you've been blanking her lately?Pandas are harsh mistresses. But, you are overthinking it. Remember: you're the one who wants to ramp down your contact with her. So, make that happen. She may complain, she may not. It sounds cold, but her complaints don't obligate you to do anything. | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 07:00 PM |
| 5 | Let's discuss threesome F/R's and see if we can't discern some common patterns and key elements.But c'mon man, you have to admit, while you don't HAVE to have alcohol, it definitely can't hurt when it comes to someone you've just met. I never said "no alcohol" - I just said you don't have to be drunk. There seems to be a pervasive "everyone gets blackout drunk for the crazy shit to happen" attitude that, at best, doesn't really help the development of your game, and at worst, results in people going to jail. I'm just saying that to have threesomes, orgies, or even just regular sex, you don… | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 03:17 PM |
| 9 | Let's discuss threesome F/R's and see if we can't discern some common patterns and key elements.For the most part, I'd say a threesome is something that occurs mostly on the behalf of being lucky or being rich as fuck. No. Not at all. I'm not rich, although I will say that there is a small element of luck - as in you have to be lucky enough to have two horny women in the same room. But, again, if you pay attention to body language, that's not hard. Women get horny. A lot. I find it's easiest to get into threesome/orgy territory after a party, or transitioning from a strip game/any game tha… | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 02:43 PM |
| 2 | A new thought on kinoIt's a funny thought, but I'm gonna go ahead and be the boring guy and say that in general, you should not elbow a girl in the tits, and if you find yourself comfortable enough to even consider doing that, there's a shit ton of other kino that's won't rupture an implant or bruise a girl's girls. | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 03:33 PM |
| 20 | [FR] Super Exciting Facebook Story (lie), Plus a Life Lesson For the Noobs (not lie)Do you think this is a good topic? The sarcasm was better than the actual topic. So be that. With some calibration. And, who knows, maybe she's a history buff with a role-playing streak. You tell me, dawg. | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 02:45 PM |
| 21 | [FR] Super Exciting Facebook Story (lie), Plus a Life Lesson For the Noobs (not lie)Good. Now be interesting and fun. | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 02:37 PM |
| 1 | What is the female equivalent to the alpha male? As a woman in the dating world, I would like to know what I can do, besides looking attractive, that will up my game.already been exhibiting IOIs (I don't bother otherwise), up to and including taking me out on a date. Being confident and friendly (and even talking about sex in general terms) are definitely bonuses, but there's something about making the first move that men seem to be scared of. This will sound blunt, but it's something to ponder: no guy in the top 20 percent of men is afraid or turned off by a woman offering him sex. Period. Just accept that right now. So, if that kind of guy took you on a da… | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Some bullet points for your MondayIt's the hardest thing you'll do in your life, and also one of the most important. | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 01:17 PM |
| 1 | What is the female equivalent to the alpha male? As a woman in the dating world, I would like to know what I can do, besides looking attractive, that will up my game.neither men nor women are monolithic in how they behave Granted they're not. But it's probably more monolithic than you might think. but typically jumping the gun and trying to initiate sex too early has the effect of turning men off, even if they were previously interested. What data set are you drawing from? If you're approaching top %20 guys, you should know that these guys have options. If they judge their options to be more attractive than you, they will turn you down. Other than that, ther… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 08:23 PM |
| 15 | Gaming Regulars: Social Circle Gamewhere failure could put one's reputation at risk? What kind of failure? I'm well known in my social circle as the guy who will sleep with you and not make a big deal out of it if you don't either. My female friends who are congruent to that stick around. The ones who aren't congruent just don't become my close friends. It's not like I have to hide who I am from them. The only place where you could come out looking shady is if a girl gets the impression you're trying to use friendship as a means … | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 08:08 PM |
| -6 | Above The Game Part 3: Body Language & How to ApproachNo one said you have to listen to it. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 06:17 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Karaoke! (Also an Advice Request).You should feel good about being a musician because music is fuckin' awesome. Take note: I wish I was a better singer because I love singing, not because it'd get me tons of women (which it would). | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 04:50 PM |
| 0 | Some bullet points for your MondayCome on, Tofu. Lingual's been practicing his cunning linguistics. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Some bullet points for your MondayI don't really understand what a "pretend friend" is. That's because you're no longer the type to make that mistake. The specific piece of advice I wanted to give up there relates purely to guys who aren't yet of a state of mind where they can interact genuinely with women they're sexually attracted to. Trying to be friends with that kind of woman when you're still the kind of guy who struggles with rejection and has anxiety approaching other women who are strangers is a safety net that becomes … | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 03:59 PM |
| 3 | How do you not take rejection personally?Too much of your happiness/mood depends on other people - in this case, women. Fill out your life. Focus a little more on your passions. Make sure you're doing something physical, too. There's something about physical exhaustion that a) raises your mood in general, b) keeps you healthy better, and c) makes the rest of the world quiet down. I've been shirking dance class because of my busy schedule lately. This is something I normally PAY to do hardcore, 6-8 hours per week. Guess who's been crazy… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:45 PM |
| 20 | What is the female equivalent to the alpha male? As a woman in the dating world, I would like to know what I can do, besides looking attractive, that will up my game.Most of the advice I find says to "play hard to get", that a man wants a chase Nope... most women want a chase. A man wants the capture. If women fell in our laps, most men would give up the chase. But that's neither here nor there. If you want to be more "alpha" about getting a man - in this case, more proactive - just ask a guy out if you like him. Don't forget to pay attention to chemistry, though. If you're a successful woman who takes care of herself and is halfway attractive, then any guy … | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Some bullet points for your MondayTrue, but that's for the intermediate/advanced people. I put that part in the beginner section because a lot of AFCs hear about advanced guys having that kind of entourage - we have it because these women actually want to hang around us because we're fun. An AFC will just supplicate and overextend himself trying to get high quality women hanging around with him - and instead of them being social proof, they will become his mental safety net. "I'm not gonna talk to other women because they're not… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Some bullet points for your MondayWell, poor wording is a consequence of hammering something like that out in 20 minutes. Sorry. I meant "women, and people in general." It is pretty funny though. I imagine someone at SRS will go apeshit thinking I don't consider women to be people. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 02:17 PM |
| 74 | Above The Game Part 3: Body Language & How to ApproachBut what about approach anxiety? Yes, it's real. Yes, it never goes away. Someone told me this a while back. "Don't wish it were easier. Wish you were better." It's powerful to realize that fear is fear is fear, and it's staying there regardless of what you decide to do... so you might as well do what you wanted to do before you realized you were afraid. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Some bullet points for your MondayIf I can explain, what he means is that you should never "settle" during a relationship and stop doing the things that made you attractive to your partner in the first place. You have to keep putting in the effort to make your girl (or guy) happy to have you - this means continuing to keep up your appearances, health, social connections, and continuing to do things like taking her on dates, flirting, and CHOOSING her (or him). Relationships die when people take each other for granted and stop do… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 12:17 AM |
| 6 | Some bullet points for your MondayHow did you fix those things, because that sounds like me A little bit, every day, over time. The thing you need to realize about (situational) depression is that you will never feel like, or see the point in doing, all the things you need to do to to eventually feel better. The first kicks I had to take on the road to getting out of that state was to a) ignore how I feel right now about something that I think will make me feel happier later and b) have faith in the positive things I'm doing, th… | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 12:14 AM |
| 3 | Some bullet points for your MondayI am a HUGE believer in friend-zoning smoking hot chicks (models, etc) I would say you're not actually being a friend with them in the way you are with your boys, though. To clarify (though we might still respectfully disagree), there is no room in a guy's life to be pretend friends with a girl he's sexually attracted to. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Some bullet points for your MondayHeh. I was just messin'. Dry humor Mondays. Seriously, though, David Duchovny, from what I heard, based Hank Moody on experiences from his own life. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 08:22 PM |
| 7 | Some bullet points for your MondayI think you're thinking of David Duchovny. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 08:07 PM |
| 1 | How to keep woman from thinking they are better than you. Or that you are not worthy of them?I already explained social proof in one my comments up there. You need to be seen as a high value person even before you speak. Sorry, but that's how the world works - not just with women. Why do you think there are so many stories and fables about inner worth? Because people are extremely quick to judge. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 07:13 PM |
| 12 | Some bullet points for your MondayCould be anything. For me, it was various degrees of depression, feelings of worthlessness, and lack of motivation to do anything that isn't sleeping or eating. So, yeah, getting those fixed was important. There's some other more personal stuff I'd rather not share now, but if there's stuff in your life you aren't happy with, or is making you unhappy with other things in your life, sort it out. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 07:04 PM |
| 1 | How to keep woman from thinking they are better than you. Or that you are not worthy of them?Believe it or not I've slept with over 50 woman Okay. Fine. But, if women are being dismissive of you all the time, either a) you're making up the problem and it doesn't really exist or b) you seem boring to them. Are the women you're sleeping with acting the same way as the women who "think they're better" than you? | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 06:46 PM |
| 1 | How to keep woman from thinking they are better than you. Or that you are not worthy of them?For example you go out to a bar and you see this smoking hot woman. And you go to dance or talk to her and she is very stand offish and acts like you aren't worth her time. If she's borderline rude, she probably doesn't like you. In fact, she took one look at you and before you even came over, she decided that she didn't want to get to know you. People do that. Have you ever looked at a girl you're not immediately attracted to and then think "well, maybe her personality will change my mind," and… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Fight with girl I'm hooking up withLet it be Yes. Let it be. You two don't like each other. Like I said, it probably doesn't matter what things, in particular, are starting the fights. You two just don't like each other. Thing is, you both like fucking more than you dislike each other. So, you're in a weird equilibrium. I see this happen all the time. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Playing along with women and maintaining the kind of alpha facade necessary to keep them interested [...]How many women are you pulling per week? Are you a beginner? Or advanced? Why does your attitude and happiness depend on something you need from women? Truth: Women are women. People are people. Some are better than others, but take em, or leave em. Your choice, and the world isn't going to turn around because you feel sad about it. EDIT: I just read that you have severe bipolar disorder. Game and women are not your problem. Get meds. Get therapy. There's nothing wrong with having diagnosed ment… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 04:26 PM |
| 1 | How to keep woman from thinking they are better than you. Or that you are not worthy of them?When you're at work, social dynamics are completely different because of established, explicit hierarchies. So, if a woman is a supervisor or manager, of course she's going to act above people she's managing - that's because she is. What I have to ask is in what situations are you talking to a woman and she's suggesting she's better than you? I don't know what you mean by "they either think they are above you or that you are just another guy hitting on them." What did they do, man? You're asking… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Fight with girl I'm hooking up with... nowhere in that did you actually mention what you're fighting about. Usually, it doesn't matter, but sometimes it does. In most cases that I find where two people fight all the time, it's because they don't actually like each other. Get that through your head: you can have two people attracted enough to each other to have sex, but they don't really like each other beyond that - meaning they annoy each other outside of sex. She might not be mad at what you did, dawg. She might just be mad abo… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 04:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Karaoke! (Also an Advice Request).I'm white guy that can sing like a 60s/70s black soul singer and it's my biggest point of value/attraction. But I have no clue how to use it to my advantage in seduction! You asshole. When I'm single I can pull at least a girl a week. If I could sing like you (I can hold a tune, but meh), I could triple that number. The best part about your singing is that you enjoy it. Never lose that. Keep doing it, even if it's just a hobby. Sing everywhere you go. If it makes you happy, it will help your gam… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Is there a way to be comforting and alpha at the same time? If so, how?Well, for one, stop thinking "being alpha" is one thing, or a set of hard and fast rules. A guy who's in control of his life gets to make his own decisions and deal with their consequences like a big boy. What happens next depends on him. Second, just be comforting if you want to be comforting. And, realize there's a difference between comforting someone and bending over backwards. There's literally infinite ways to comfort someone without sacrificing your own livelihood. Pick one. As a final no… | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 02:39 PM |
| 1 | How to throw a fun party, and how being a good host helps your gameI did a pizza party to celebrate the start of last Summer... was a huge hit. I just told everyone to bring some toppings and liquor. We had a good old fuckin time, people didn't leave til 4 in the morning. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 01:31 PM |
| 1 | How to throw a fun party, and how being a good host helps your gameDefinitely going to consider using some of your ideas for drinking games, such as the super mario Just remember, whatever theme you come up with should be fun for at least 80 percent of the people you invite. Thing is, after you get a rep for good parties, most people tend to just have faith in whatever you have in store, and they're bring others along for the ride. Social proof at its finest. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 01:30 PM |
| 2 | How to throw a fun party, and how being a good host helps your gamethey are all very interesting to talk to and fun to chill with... they're just not a partying crowd. You need to broaden what you consider to be a party. They sound introverted. That doesn't mean they can't be fun in a party. Not all parties are keggers. Some of the most fun parties I've had have been smaller get togethers where me, a few other guys and girls are playing poker over some nice music and good drinks. If your friends are fun, they're good to go. | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 01:27 PM |
| 4 | How to throw a fun party, and how being a good host helps your gameSo actually that can happen. Yeah, me too... I guess I just didn't want to get everyone's hopes up too much. You still gotta game, right? | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 02:09 AM |
| 2 | How to throw a fun party, and how being a good host helps your gameGood stuff, but don't you find yourself working your ass off next morning to clean everything up? Or even while the party is still on, so everyone is fine? It's about as hard as cleaning your place regularly every week. Every week you've gotta tidy, vacuum, take out trash, right? Just because there's more trash than usual and more tidying than usual, and occasionally a spill doesn't mean you'll somehow be going over more of your space than usual. If you make it easy for people to not make a mess… | /r/seduction | 25/04/13 02:08 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First date kiss turns into Buyer's Remorse and a LJBF textIt's possible she's just not into you that way. It's like you said - might be buyer's remorse. There may have been things you could have done better. I have no idea how nervous you were, but stop being nervous - get your confidence back, and all that jazz. As for THIS particular girl? You can continue to hang out with her to see where it goes, but I'd keep seeing other people as well. If she's not sure about you, there's no sense in you cutting off other possibilities with other people. | /r/seduction | 24/04/13 07:55 PM |
| 8 | DAE mostly attracts low self-esteem women?Considering I'm short (5'6") and Asian, I think my market is smaller than others here. Your low self-esteem limits you to others of lower self-esteem. Think about that. You can't change your height. You can't change your ethnicity. You can either love or hate yourself for them. Right now, you're sure that they're working against you - it might be true on some level, but I'd bet money you're fixated on it more than you should be. So, it doesn't surprise me that girls you end up with have the exac… | /r/seduction | 23/04/13 06:08 PM |
| 162 | What's the worst rejection you've ever gotten?While I was growing up, I told myself I wasn't good enough for anything or anyone. That is really the only rejection that matters. If you have that in your heart, get rid of it. | /r/seduction | 21/04/13 04:07 PM |
| 29 | Please don't quit seduction because you get in a relationship.Agreed. Honestly, if you feel you have to stop seducing your girl, you should probably end the relationship, unless you're completely retired from that kind of lifestyle. If you're not attracted enough to a girl to keep your game up, then she probably isn't for you. | /r/seduction | 19/04/13 07:40 PM |
| 2 | What's the deal with doing "cute" things in a relationship that you normally wouldn't do when trying to pickup girls?It's not that you should never buy someone a drink. It's just that when a girl is a stranger and you want to get to know her, buying her a drink won't do shit. If you're in a relationship, and your girl is treating you right, do whatever you want for her. Just make sure you're doing those things because they're coming from a place of self-esteem and genuine-ness (if that's a word). | /r/seduction | 15/04/13 04:50 PM |
| 1 | What are your absolute best closing techniques?So do you get regular cold sore outbreaks Nope. Haven't had one since I was like... 7 and caught the flu? Anyway, I guarantee you that you're a carrier for HSV1. Sorry to burst your bubble. You can get it from kissing someone. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 03:42 PM |
| 2 | What are your absolute best closing techniques?I'm personally not. Might be stupid to not be afraid, but I am vaccinated against the known types of cancer causing HPV, and almost everyone is a carrier for HSV1 (herpes that gives you oral cold sores). Also, IIRC, HSV2 has trouble infecting areas above the waist for whatever reason. Don't quote me on that, but I read that it's similar to HPV in that way - different strains cause trouble on different parts of the body. Maybe my luck will run out some day. But, I get tested regularly, and so far… | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 03:01 PM |
| 11 | What are your absolute best closing techniques?If you've managed to get her naked, get really good at eating out. Trust me. It's the best low calorie midnight snack that money can't always buy. Anyway, yeah. If a girl is letting you test the waters, that's your audition. You need to nail that. You can be awesome in bed without using your penis, and if you can do that, she'll let you do ANYTHING. Source: me and my scoreboard. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 02:14 PM |
| 3 | What are your absolute best closing techniques?Well, if you're rimming and she's into that... | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 02:09 PM |
| 15 | What does seddit do about F-buddies?What does seddit do about F-buddies? Well, we bang them. but I feel she might have other intentions If you're being clear with your intentions, not trying to date her in a relationship context, and she's a sane human being, nothing bad will come of this. Stop assuming drama. Drama happens with dramatic people, in any context. If your friend is level-headed, and you are too, this will be fine. Now I'm in this position where I might be handicapped when I go out sarging. I feel having this fuck bud… | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 01:58 PM |
| 2 | 21M going on my first date since high school tonight, any general advice to almost guarantee a good time?No one can guarantee a good time, but: Have a plan, but don't feel like you're shackled to it. If both of you decide in the middle of the date that you want to go ice skating or karaoke or whatever, be spontaneous. Smile a lot. Maintain eye contact. Don't force topics, but absolutely test out kino as soon as you can. A joke helps. Worst thing that happens is you don't get a second date. Don't sweat it. You're getting to know a girl, not trying to marry her. Keep it cool, dawg. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 05:27 PM |
| 7 | Playful neg to use: comment on the spelling of their nameI usually go with "your parents must hate you" if their name is spelled unusually. But, that's because I'm an asshole. Good times to be had by all. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 05:21 PM |
| 4 | Stop reading theory and go out NOWresearch The best research and data collection is done in field. No one who ever reads a scientific study will ever understand its results as well as the people who experimented and published the study. That said, general tips and doctrine help... but a guy can get through all of the major points in seduction material in about a week's reading. From there, it's practice. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 05:18 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."Apt username. You win this round! | /r/seduction | 10/04/13 01:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."Nope, and I haven't been in Ft. Lauderdale. Maybe you saw a much more talented doppleganger. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 11:29 PM |
| 5 | Trouble holding a real conversation that leads to more.Conversation by itself doesn't lead to more. Escalation, body language, and sexuality lead to more. Touch, young padawan. Be comfortable touching and being touched. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 07:55 PM |
| 0 | The Obsession with Getting Laid...I always say that sex is like food - you only notice when you're not getting enough of it. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 07:45 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."Thoroughly sketchy. I wouldn't bang him. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 07:31 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."What would you recommend I do in addition to Tango? Whatever you like - most formal dance training isn't directly applied to club game, except social dances in a social dance setting. However, the coordination, overall look, and sense of style you get from forms of dance that you really like will just translate into casual dancing over time. I will say that hip hop is the best fit for most clubs, though. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 07:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."I was REALLY surprised when I thought you competed with professors at talking in latin and shit. I lol'd. That would actually be pretty dope. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 02:21 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."What I'm always trying to tell guys. Club game is vastly non-verbal. You have to look the part, act the part, and be the part like it's a silent movie. You can bring out conversation after isolating. But honestly, actions are what makes a girl want you. "Speaking good" just icing on the cakes. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:36 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."Maybe he just has an itchy ass When you run out of Chipotle-Away, who doesn't? | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:35 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."You spend most of your life having your ass grabbed? Directly correlated to how casual I am with women. Me: "You should see me when I'm trying." If you ever wanna see me try, get me single, get me in a club with some equally shameless guys and girls, and I'll be king of the joint under 20 minutes. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:34 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."So you went to a club and talked to some girls Basically. Questions? | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:31 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."9 years of competitive latin, though I've only really gotten good in the last 4. 2 years ballet (squeeking through, stuff is hard), and 2 years modern. I train probably 10-12 hours per week - more for me than for pick up. It has wide applications, though, as you can see. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:30 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."No remorse for his own GFs feelings that he spanked a girl She knows how I am. Told her this whole story when I got home. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bachelorette parties, oh, bachelorette parties. File under "club game."Ha, thanks. I'd say I'm above average. Male HB 7 on looks. That's not where I shine, though. Also, wasn't born that way. Working out does wonders. | /r/seduction | 09/04/13 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Top 10 tips for a foreign fling?Be fun - the fact that you're from another country is automatically exciting and new, as long as you're fun. And, don't necessarily limit yourself to locals. If Madrid gets a lot of travelers around that time, feel free to hook up with some of them - they're likely to have a similar arrangement in mind than the locals would. | /r/seduction | 08/04/13 08:02 PM |
| 4 | Giving a girl options for the first date?I agree with you on being indecisive. Lack of a plan isn't a weakness, though. Most of the time, I only have a starting point set up for dates (and my house tidied and ready for visitors, of course) - the rest is wherever the night takes me. Of course, it's good to have a framework, like knowing what places are open at what times of night, what's good at those places, etc, etc. But, escalation depends on calibrating to both your moods, so that can't necessarily be planned for. If both of you sta… | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 03:05 PM |
| 1 | What are the logistics after a coffee date?Escalate. Start with coffee. If it's going well, graduate to something else. Be fluid. Be spontaneous. Not everything has to be pre-planned, and most things are more exciting when they're not. Escalate. | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Opinions, men?I'm not sure why this got downvoted, aside from maybe about your opinion on how it's the guy's "job" to initiate. Reality and statistics show that to be true, but turning that into a rule is not a helpful paradigm. You hit all the points on the head about the guy maybe having options, and also that being in an LDR with someone he'd just met would be a huge burden on his pre-existing REAL life. | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Opinions, men?Your logistics are all screwed up. I have a blog where I discuss the necessary ingredients for a long term relationship. Your main issue right now is proximity. I'm not saying things can't ever work out with this guy. But, in terms of communication with a girl he just met - even if she's awesome (you better be if you expect that kind of investment) - what's going to make this guy really want to spend time skyping with you when he barely has the time to actually go see you? Also, again, you two b… | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Seddits: let's talk about hygiene for both parties before f closing!"I need a shower. Wanna join me?" Unless you're shy about showering in front of someone because of your ass hair or whatever. In which case, get over it. | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Is this subreddit only for guys?The POINT is to make it look casual and nonchalant. The point is to actually be casual and non-chalant. And, the excitement you see in a lot of guys posting FRs is usually do to the excitement of being in a new situation - for a lot of beginners, getting anywhere with a girl is a new situation. Liken it to anytime you might be excited to tell your friends about a cool guy you started seeing. Anyway, the fact that I give dating advice is one of the first things people learn about me lately, becau… | /r/seduction | 04/04/13 02:41 PM |
| 18 | For guys that want multiple girlfriends: 9 things trial and error has taught me you MUST do for it not to blow up in your faceDude, I've been waiting for someone to post plate-spinning and open relationship methodology on here for a while. Great post. I generally post this kind of advice under my throwaway because there's too much identifying info on my current account, but it's totally true that there are great women out there willing to accept alternative arrangements. Thing is, it's a super advanced concept. If a guy can't handle himself with one girl, multiple is going to cause huge headaches. Also, you may want to… | /r/seduction | 03/04/13 05:44 PM |
| 2 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingPreach it, brotha. A lot of people in here are skeptical. The main thing that my post is trying to say up there is that a lot of guys already bring good analytical and decision making skills to the table, but are too afraid to use them because real life doesn't have quick-save. | /r/seduction | 03/04/13 05:29 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Sex with model. All text game.Also I don't know your stance on shit tests.. In your situation, I'd have just found another girl. Being a dancer, there's not a shortage of beautiful women if one is disagreeable. Don't get me wrong - I'm definitely not meek, and I dish out and take the kind of stuff you got into up there, but not knowing what her tone was like and what vibes you were getting off of her, I think I'd have left it alone. Plus, my statistics generally show that there's little correlation between how hard a woman m… | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 07:53 PM |
| -1 | [FR] Sex with model. All text game.We all know my stance on shit tests. That said, you did good, bro. You swam through that like you had lead boots on the whole time, and still came out on the other side swinging. I would be careful with this girl, of course, because even though she's a model and has had to develop those filters over a career of men hounding after her, those defense mechanisms take a LONG time to disarm. If (usually when) shit tests turn into full on crazy, you best leave. I get the sense you already know that. M… | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 03:27 PM |
| 3 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingGood ones. See? Now you can write your own article. | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 03:12 PM |
| 2 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingNo, you learned them, you just might not be applying them. That's why my article is about applying those things. | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 02:01 PM |
| 3 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to Datingthis requirement of being always "on" is something I've been becoming increasingly aware of, and kinda tired out by it It can be that way when you first become aware of it. But, have you considered that maybe it tires you out because there are parts of your life that you don't like, or parts of your life where you have to sell yourself out? I used to get tired out by it, too. But, over the last few years (and I'm still working on it), I've gotten a lot closer to the path of who I want to be. Whe… | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 02:01 PM |
| 1 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingCompile a list of things you learned from North Korea that can be applied to dating. Don't be a fat, belligerent asshole. | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 01:57 PM |
| 16 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingThat's for 2 player. | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 01:50 AM |
| 24 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingSperm rush! Skeet skeet skeet skeet skeet! | /r/seduction | 01/04/13 10:02 PM |
| 17 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingFraud or not, the shit storm that the hive dumped on only proved her point. A lot of guys plain hate women. In which case, number 5: put down the controller. EDIT: Turns out she's not a fraud. I looked into it. She released the first 22 minute video about a month ago. | /r/seduction | 01/04/13 08:06 PM |
| 5 | [FR] First SNL from Semi-Cold ApproachCongrats on the sex! I just had seeeeeeeex and it feels so good! | /r/seduction | 01/04/13 07:31 PM |
| 5 | 5 Useful Things You Learn From Video Games Applied to DatingAnother thing to think about is how the game of real life is never "off." You can meet people anywhere, any time, in any circumstances. If you choose not to be in state "just because," you miss a lot of those opportunities. | /r/seduction | 01/04/13 06:15 PM |
| 1 | How to maintain an open relationship with girl(s)?Just saw your edit. What situation do you think I'm in? I saw the situation as cut and dry, so your asking about it seemed like you were attached. If that's the situation you're in, you'll have to fake detachment until you actually become neutral about this girl, because any time you're invested in someone who isn't invested in you, you're gonna have a bad time. Not sure what your level of experience is, but in my experience, most guys who ask questions about your exact situation (more than you'… | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Tips for initiating kino when you're the one who has been approached?Critical attack "Ultimate Kino Storm!" It's super effective! | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Tips for initiating kino when you're the one who has been approached?Why is kino when you're the one approached different? If she approaches you, that's your license to test her interest, dude! Confidence boost +2, just get in there! I'm never caught off guard by women who approach me. I'm not saying it happens a ton, but I have a lot to offer, I dress well, and I'm always with cool friends. So, it happens. Don't be caught off guard like you don't know what you're worth. | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 03:30 PM |
| 2 | How to maintain an open relationship with girl(s)?Yes, she's banging me. Fair enough, guess I'll just be honest There's the alpha I'm looking for who's ready to just go for what he wants. Keep being that guy. Go find more plates. She can be an FTF (friend that fucks). Who cares who else she bangs as long as you're using a condom? It's not like she's your girl. | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 03:26 PM |
| 6 | How to maintain an open relationship with girl(s)?Important question: Is she banging you? I assume the answer is yes, because if it's not, why the hell are you even asking this question? Anyway, you can have an open relationship by either a) manipulating the girl into thinking she's the only one you're seeing or b) just saying "I date multiple people at a time, and I'm looking for anything serious/monogamous right now." When I'm single, I go with the latter. Mostly because lies are a) high maintenance and b) unbecoming of my integrity as a pers… | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 03:24 PM |
| 3 | What's your golden bullet(things you tell yourself/do) against oneitis and jealousy?She's ONE girl. Not THE one. Just one. One girl. | /r/seduction | 27/03/13 03:01 PM |
| 4 | Try this game now! Guaranteed positive results!Also, could lead to sexting if that's what you're into Creating sexual chemistry in person leads to that. I don't doubt you can convince a girl to send you nudies purely through text, but I would venture a guess that the girl doesn't think too hard about who she sends those pics to, if she doesn't see the guy much in person. | /r/seduction | 27/03/13 03:00 PM |
| 10 | Where do you take a girl that isn't 21?I don't think they get it. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Just starting out and finished "The Game" and some other materials. I have one serious question.Dude, I dunno. Maybe you're mildly autistic. Maybe you're this or that. Maybe nothing, and you're just anxious because you're anxious and this isn't something you're naturally good at. All I'm saying is that if this is something that's in the way of your life and has been for 25 years? Yeah... try therapy. At least a couple sessions. I've been to therapy and it helped. Luckily for me, my anxiety and depression was acquired, not innate. If you have an issue, do something about it, dawg. Take care… | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Just starting out and finished "The Game" and some other materials. I have one serious question.You don't have to tell me. I know it's the worst part. I obsess about my grades, I obsess about interactions with people, I obsess about things that happened years ago. It's nearly impossible for me to let myself be happy. As soon as I solve an inner problem, and I mean literally, within a minute, I start worrying about something else and it hits me like a ton of bricks. I am never not in a state of anxiety. I had an STD panel come back clean and all I could obsess about was if there was a false… | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Just starting out and finished "The Game" and some other materials. I have one serious question.Honestly, I'd like to but I have some very obsessive tendencies. If you really believe that you can't change those parts of your personality, you may have depression or some deeper issue. So, work on that. But, if you think you're in the clear for depression, then I think you're coming up with excuses not to make changes. Listen, it's no skin off my back if you don't want to dump the negative attitude. I can list for you every time I've been mistreated by anyone for being Asian. But I won't. Bec… | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Just starting out and finished "The Game" and some other materials. I have one serious question.The only issue is that I'm pretty sure being short is more than 5%. I know I can't change it I'm Asian, and that's worth more than 5 percent, too. I can't change that either. But you're still splitting hairs. You can't change your height, period. Stop worrying about how much it's worth, because you can't change it. We can argue all day about what's "worth more": height or race. We'd still be splitting hairs. There's still a ton of women shorter than you. Start with them if you're so self-conscio… | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Just starting out and finished "The Game" and some other materials. I have one serious question.Yes, looks matter, and being short is a disadvantage. But, none of it is a game killer. Looks matter. Personality matters. What you do in life and how other people perceive you matters. If you leave your house and start interacting with people it ALL matters. The problem is that you're fixating on 5 percent of the problem and thinking that that 5 percent is all that matters, and is causing all of your problems. Get over it. Regarding your height, you can't change that. Accept it. You don't have … | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Never get "comfortable" with your successesThe word you're looking for retard is complacent Was it? Enlighten us. | /r/seduction | 22/03/13 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Never get "comfortable" with your successesWhen and how much is the appropriate time to enjoy your rewards though? All the time is "when," and "how much" is however much you want, as long as you don't stagnate and lose sight of where you actually want to be in your life. when is the appropriate time to enjoy yourself? Again, all the time. While you're improving. Who says you can't enjoy life while you're improving? I'm not telling you to get down on yourself all the time and say "that wasn't good enough! I need more!" I'm telling you to … | /r/seduction | 21/03/13 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Dancing, What are the benefits?Unless you can actually dance well, don't do it If you don't dance well, take class. No one starts out dancing "well." They might be "good for a beginner," but that has no bearing how how good they are in an absolute sense, and is a poor predictor of how good they can get down the line. Me and a guy I know who started dancing in college were the two most uncoordinated guys in the group. He's dancing latin at the level of national champions, now, and I'm performing and teaching semi-professionall… | /r/seduction | 21/03/13 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Dancing, What are the benefits?I've been doing social and competitive dancing for 9 years, and I have to disagree, dawg. Dedication to something that you have to work on every week to improve is something that makes you a better and more valuable person. Women detect that, and are attracted to it. It's not necessarily the dancing, I admit. If you're dedicated to sports, or to crafts, or to art, it's the same benefit. The key is that you invest on something that improves you as a person, making you more valuable. | /r/seduction | 21/03/13 03:42 PM |
| 6 | Jumping into an LTR, thanks SedditThank us when you're in a verified, awesome relationship that's older than 2 weeks. I'm happy for you, bro. And, this can turn out to be a really great thing for you. That is, it can turn out great for you if you keep your head on straight and don't throw out all the shit you learned by turning into a needy guy who forgets about the rest of his life because some girl with legs up to her neck decided that you were worth spending time with. Don't become that guy. Keep working on yourself. Remember… | /r/seduction | 21/03/13 03:26 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)She's exceptional in the way she handles flirting and attention and game I saw nothing exceptional about how she handled anything, based on your description. What I saw was the way most women handle guys they're not really that interested in. I actually have 2 girls that want to be my girlfriend on the back burner. You can have 200 girls on back burner and still have one on a pedestal. Big picture, fella. Make a move, or don't make a move, but don't spend all your time trying to analyze this one… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 04:12 PM |
| 2 | What role does neediness play in our evolution?Procreation isn't about the quality of life that two people have together. It's about procreating. That said, neediness from both genders is the drive to "settle for what's in front of you" so that you're more likely to just procreate. Source: a complete non-expert in the field of evolutionary anything. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:45 PM |
| 146 | [FR] "They all have boyfriends"My new mentality when given the proper setting: "All the girls have boyfriends" and just have fun. One of the many benefits of outcome independence. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:32 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Doesnt really talk or show interest in him either. Doesn't matter. She said no to YOU, nothing to do with him. Not sure if she was interested initially, and then you did something, or if she just changed her mind. But an interested woman spends time with you. Period. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:30 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)What's a good way to respond to this? Stop making what people think of your major into a statement about how valuable you are as a person. Your job and how you put food on the table is your choice, not someone else's. It's not like you're torturing people or anything like that. You're the one who feels like your major makes you a target. Stop feeling that way, and you'll notice that you're targeted a lot less often. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:28 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)23 was one of my best years. I got healthy in both mind and body, had already been living on my own for a few months. Good times. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:26 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)How can I use my birthday to my advantage? By having fun. Seriously. It's YOUR birthday. And you're sitting here asking how you can impress some chicks you don't know? It's YOUR day, brotha. And your friends are along for the ride. What happens, happens. Talk to girls because you want to. Bring them in on the fun. If they're not into it, forget 'em, they'd be a drag on your celebrations anyway. Be a fun guy at the center of attention. Most women are into that. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:25 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)do you hold the eye contact and smile Yes. to keep it from getting creepy? I don't do it to keep from getting creepy. I do it because I wanted to smile and acknowledge the girl. If she thinks I'm creepy after that, whatever. Either way, you only find out by approaching and opening. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:23 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)If she starts to act disinterested, and/or leaves you by yourself, don't be afraid to walk away and go socialize with other people Especially this part. The OP is playing a huge game of pretend that he can't win because he likes the girl more than she likes him. To be honest, from every detail the OP mentioned, I got the feeling the girl is plain disinterested in him. In order for her to actually find him attractive, he'd have to have a whole new level of game, the likes of which would prevent h… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:22 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)There's this exceptional girl I know who's different from every girl I met Sorry, there isn't. There just isn't. Some women are exceptional, yes, the same as some men. But it has nothing to do with whether you think they are or not. What you have, sir, is called "oneitis." Good news for you is that it's not untreatable, and you don't have a huge case of it. You're building a pedestal. Recognize that, stop, and treat this girl like who she IS, not who you THINK she is or "should be." Because as s… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:19 PM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Don't skip steps, do progression Absolutely. Also, OP should learn how to kiss well. A good kiss can really get a girl going. Seriously. I dunno about you guys, but thinking back, 9 out of 10 girls I've k-closed I've been able to f-close the same night. A good kiss is the best free sample of "things to come" (ba-doom-ch) you can give to a girl, so be good at it. Of course, that requires a lot of in field practice, but there's no way around it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:13 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)I want to have fun with my boys, thats number one, but i want to make sure i'm not holding back because they are not comfortable with talking to randoms This will sound cold, but it will do you and your friends a huge favor. Before you go out every night, you need to decide what kind of night it's going to be. If it's gonna be a night of talking to lots of girls, getting numbers, hook ups, and maybe even sex/group sex, you absolutely need to have guys with you who are congruent to that scene. If… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:10 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)even if you get very physical (grinding) usually they "Just want to dance". ... really? It's true. They might just want to dance. But you'll know the difference when you escalate and they accept/reject. I've had hella good results dancing. Then again, that's my game, being a dancer and all. Dancing might not be your game, but if you have room to improve and are interested in learning more for the sake of dancing in itself, you should absolutely do that. Because dancing well gets guys hella laid,… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:05 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/18/13 (please upvote - zero karma)I was going to say exactly this. The picture I had in my head was of the OP being in a 3-4 dates deep situation, where his escalations are either rejected or not even present. If he was having fun and getting what he wanted (or at least closer to what he wanted), he probably wouldn't be asking. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 03:03 PM |
| 0 | The best advice I was ever told...Players aren't interested in the title. Too busy getting women. | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 02:59 PM |
| 24 | I just came back from an Improv class and heard a brilliant line from the instructor.Remember these two words: "Yes, and..." Tina Fey's book is pretty much how her success stems from using that phrase and concept as a lifestyle/mindset. Everything that life brings to you, accept it ("yes") and then escalate it in a direction that you like ("and..."). It's not always easy to see how to do this, but that's what you have to work on. Improv classes definitely helped me with relating to people I'd otherwise have nothing in common with. Improv helps to kill the defensive mechanism tha… | /r/seduction | 19/03/13 02:57 PM |
| 1 | An open letter to all emotional over thinkers; aka too smart for our own good.It's that simple. So, unless you have a genetic disorder, you'd be fucking up somewhere if you're not fit. -Someone who has been extremely unfit and got fit. | /r/seduction | 16/03/13 07:13 AM |
| 2 | itsmevichet's BS-free Guide to Dancing in a ClubIm 27, is that too old No. Tomorrow you will wish you started yesterday. I started at 17 and wished I'd started earlier. | /r/seduction | 16/03/13 04:53 AM |
| 1 | On Why You Should Never Take Dating Advice from WomenI still disagreed with him about asking 1000 women for their opinions I don't advocate asking 1000 women. I merely mean it's better than asking 1 woman. It's also immensely impractical, which is why I said "one of those things (asking the fisherman) is easier." | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Which dance style is best to learn to be able to dance in your everyday clubs?West coast is extremely popular in the United States I've gotta ask where you live where people are doing west coast in the largest number of dance venues. I just feel this isn't a reflection of the way things are in the field at large. I've been in the ballroom and latin game for a long time, and clubs like this are 1 per major metropolitan area. | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Which dance style is best to learn to be able to dance in your everyday clubs?I have to recommend against this. I've been doing ballroom and latin for 9 years, competitively... it's just not well suited for a club atmosphere unless they're having a salsa/ballroom night. During that time, sure, you're boss of the whole club if you have your moves down, especially if the place isn't regularly a latin club. But, ultimately, club dancing is more about projecting confidence and making the girls want to dance with you and feel comfortable/turned on dancing with you. Case in poi… | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 05:49 PM |
| 3 | advice, please: shift away from AFC while living w/ parent or no?I consider the fact that I live at home with my Mom to be soul-crushingly depressing, and it keeps my confidence low. Where you are NOW doesn't matter if your life-trajectory is headed up. Don't let your mood today sour your mood tomorrow. Keep doing the things that are helping you with your life - I hope going back to school was part of that for you. You should also keep yourself healthy, and continue to be social. But yeah, at some point, if you make good choices and keep at it, you'll be out … | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Being a guy who rarely initiates Kino, how do I use Kino to invite a girl to lunch?Pull her arm, sit her down, start feeding her. Just kidding. You don't use kino to invite someone anywhere, per se. You use kino to a) test whether they are comfortable with you touching them and b) raise that level of comfort. So, kino is the fancy packaging that sells your lunch deal to the girl. That said, let me clarify a few things for you: We talk on occasion and as far as I can tell, she is into me. If you've never tried touching her or getting into her comfort zone, you have no idea whet… | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 02:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with a girl taller than you?Ask her to get on her knees. Ha! Anyway, the prevailing, overwhelming data from the field says that height is a huge determining factor as to whether a woman will find you suitable as a mate. That said, pretend that data doesn't exist, and be your suave, awesome self. Trust me, 5 inches taller or shorter doesn't actually change who you are. It changes how you look, and that's enough for some people to reject you. But don't let it affect who you ARE, making you think you can't approach this girl … | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 02:24 PM |
| 5 | Female here. Men, I need your perspective.Just go talk to him. That's literally it. We appreciate that. We might not like you, but you can't control whether we do. Only thing you can do is approach, say hi, and get to know us. But, your fear of doing so is why Seddit exists, and we take the approach into our own hands. Anyway, here's a bigger question: why do you think you're not good enough to talk to this guy? Don't try to tell me that you think you're good enough - if you did, you'd have already talked to him. So, I want you to work … | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 02:08 PM |
| 12 | Which dance style is best to learn to be able to dance in your everyday clubs?UPDATE: I made a reply thread because I feel a lot of the advice in this one is WAY off mark. I think the best suited disciplines are hip-hop, jazz, and the more upbeat social dances (swing, latin dances, etc). As a partner dancer, I think that using the partner dances exactly as you've learned them will not always help you in the club (unless they have a partner dance night) - especially if she doesn't formally know any steps. You can use the principles, like spacing, rhythm, eye contact, verba… | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Friend introduced me to her friend via Facebook. Where do I go from here?Ask her out. Go out. Be fun. Escalate. Tips on how to do all of that are in the sidebar, holmes. I know it's not custom tailored for you, but if you're new to game, it's where you gotta start. Everyone learns the same way until they get good enough to start teaching themselves. | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 07:42 PM |
| 14 | On Why You Should Never Take Dating Advice from WomenSo really we all mean: "Either ask 1000s of fish, or ask a fisherman who's caught 1000s of fish." One of those things (asking the fisherman) is easier. The fisherman analogy conveniently leaves out that it's easy to be a fisherman - it's hard to be good at it. | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 06:59 PM |
| 4 | Being TOO alpha with a...different kind of woman?Do not change who you are for ONE woman. | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Tips for picking-up on a College Spring Break trip?(read) have a big dick Confidence is your inner dick. And yes, it has to be big. | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Approaching girls already with a guy.Most of the time I just out it like you did in the bar. "Is this guy your boyfriend?" and improvise from there. Then again, I'm a lot more direct than a lot of people tend to be (but I wasn't always, so remember folks, directness/indirectness is hugely cultural, and can be learned/unlearned). If the group is larger, I tend to game them a bit. I was planning on writing a post on how to game groups later. Basically, if you can provide value to the group (social leadership is a HUGE premium - will … | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 04:31 PM |
| 25 | On Why You Should Never Take Dating Advice from WomenWell said, dude. I always say that seduction advice is about attracting MANY kinds of women, or being attractive overall to more women in general - not any specific ONE woman. A single woman will only be able to tell you first hand how to attract her - one woman. That said, if you interview thousands of women (by dating/approaching/otherwise interacting with them) you get a much better picture. But again, that's first hand knowledge from tons of data in the field, not theory from a single point … | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 04:23 PM |
| 2 | What's the best first text after giving someone your number?"It's [your name] from [where we met]. Let's get a drink on [day] at [time]." Save your jokes for after you establish rapport in person. Sarcasm, tone, and personality don't translate well in text unless she already has a good sense of your humor and who you are. | /r/seduction | 14/03/13 04:21 PM |
| 1 | What's the problem with holding something (scarcely) for a girl?It's not a big deal. All I'd say is not to become a coat hanger, as you said yourself. However, there was a recent study that shows that getting other people to do small favors for you tends to get them to like you more. Forbes ran an article on the study, but I can't find a link to the full study itself. So, this girl asking you to hold something for her will tend to make you like her more. Regardless, it's an opportunity to flirt. "Maybe if you buy me a drink." As for this: but won't you seem … | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Girls are sexually attracted by me, but seems to be scared off by who i am.The only reason I could fathom for a woman brings up a player's reputation WHILE she's on a date with him is because she wants to see if it's true. If your reputation were really an issue, she wouldn't be on the date. At least, I hope. I know some guys who are willing to date women they can't stand, so I can only assume some women do the same. | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Girls are sexually attracted by me, but seems to be scared off by who i am.Are you treating the women poorly? No? Then fuck everyone's opinion. I've been through that. Some people will just not be able to compute that you can have as much sex as you do. Don't sweat it. I like that you keep to yourself about your personal life, and when these guys pry it out of you, all they do is judge. What I really think is that you could use some different kinds of friends. Not saying kick the current friends to the curb, but some of the rumors that are going around about you are fu… | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 06:58 PM |
| 5 | Advice on how to pick up girls while THEY are at work?If a girl finds you attractive, there are very few times when it's really a bad time to ask her out. The catch-22 is that you have to approach a girl and ask her out to know whether she's attracted to you. That said, if the girl is at work and isn't actively into something that requires all of her attention, and we're already talking, I just ask. KEY POINT Be much more careful about this if you BOTH are at work. If it's her place of work, it's no biggie for her to brush you off because she might… | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 06:51 PM |
| 5 | I have a tip for you. Before going, go to r/dirtypenpals and look at the female submissions there... Stay with me.Sorry, I didn't make that connection clear. I love dirty talk. Being a writer helped develop that. You get more in tune with the imaginative side of your brain. That said, being a good writer can in that way help you really get a girl going. And that is the only case where something written or texted can get a girl turned on. Of course, you already have to be hooking up with her. | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 06:35 PM |
| 2 | I've changed.analysis Analysis is important to a point - in my opinion, analysis is only useful to the point of demonstrating what's actually happening versus what we think is happening. Once analysis starts getting into theories about what COULD happen or what MIGHT have happened if OP did x y z, then I feel it often spirals out of control. I just like sticking to the facts, really. There's a balance, and the "facts only" approach has worked best for me out of what I've tried so far. | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 04:32 PM |
| 1 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsI don't believe the vulnerability has to be overcome, however. Just the fact that it exists can strengthen the dedication and devotion of the other person. It doesn't have to be, but the trust builds a lot more when the vulnerability is overcome. It's a product of both people having empathically invested in each other. Not saying you need to be going around solving other people's problems for them to trust you... just that with vulnerability, that's a key way to build trust (assuming the person … | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 03:53 PM |
| 3 | I've changed.Haha, I used to do that when I kept a writing journal after college. It's a good exercise of both your writing and your game. You get to actually see on paper what it is that's bothering you, and when you realize how small it is, you get back on the horse. | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 03:45 PM |
| 1 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsVulnerability can help build trust. Trust can improve relationships Yes, I mentioned that here: Vulnerability is acceptable, but it's rarely a positive, unless it results in a shared experience where the vulnerability gets worked out However, just because it CAN build trust doesn't mean it WILL. Vulnerability is called vulnerability because it's vulnerability. If you help someone get over a vulnerability, that's a huge bond, yes. A huge reward for a huge risk. The draw of vulnerability is the bo… | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 03:24 PM |
| 12 | I have a tip for you. Before going, go to r/dirtypenpals and look at the female submissions there... Stay with me.As a writer, I can tell you I've dated LOTS of girls with kinky sides no one ever detected or knew about. And whether they liked to talk like sailors in the bedroom while being tied up had almost nothing to do with whether they acted "loose" in bar settings or public. Don't judge a book by its cover, I guess. That said, yes, on the internet, they may be 60 year old guys. But in real life, a lot of girls are looking for good, kinky fun from someone awesome. You just have to be that someone awesom… | /r/seduction | 13/03/13 03:19 PM |
| 13 | [FR] Really think about what you want out of seduction. A short story.Sex with one person for longer periods of time has resulted and better feelings for me, so why change now? This is my pick up philosophy now, and I have a feeling it will be much more rewarding for me. That's fine. A lot of guys use this advice for more long term deals. It's adaptable. I have a different critique for you, though, because you seem to like writing: simplify your voice. You're trying too hard to present a picturesque scene. It reads more like "oh, flowers. Look at these lovely flow… | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl told me on date she recently started seeing someone? What should I have done?What should I have said to let her know that I'm not completely fine with this? Why aren't you fine with it? Is it because your mood depends on her for some reason? Come on, man. You can just leave. Or, better, if she's willing to hang out with you, and she's attractive, you can turn her into a female wing. However, you gotta get rid of your "I must have her" mindset. How should I play this thing out? Lay low, hope things go sour with the new guy and try for a third date? No! Abundance! When you… | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 06:27 PM |
| 13 | [FR] Agree & Amplify - Be SelectiveYou got shit-tested, that's for sure. You ignored it for the most part, that was good. You were a little shaky when you said "I tried to make it clear that I was just giving her shit." You don't have to make that clear. She's your friend, and has known you for years. To give you that kind of shit for making a comment like that... please. Good for you, passing the shit test took minimal effort on your part (that's the only time we should be partaking in any kind of shit test - when there's little… | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Do women prefer less sexually-threatening men?Sexually threatening, at face value, means the guy looks like he might rape you. Aside from aggression in bed with a guy she's already attracted to and trusts, I'd wager most women aren't into sexually threatening strangers. Being someone who looks socially powerful, who has no problem approaching people, and generally appears confident, and is ALSO not shy about kino is different than appearing "sexually threatening." Be sexual, not threatening. Is that not clear somewhere else? That a girl has… | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 05:10 PM |
| 8 | What are your ways to develop entitlement?Confidence. Work on your confidence. Entitlement as an attitude can be similarly effective when you're successful, but if you don't get what you want, you have the unwanted side-effects of "bitching about unfairness" and how you didn't get what you "deserved." Confidence, however, is just being about to go out and do what's necessary to get what you want. And, if you don't get it right away, confidence allows you to brush yourself off and move onto the next goal in life. Confidence overwhelmingl… | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Since writing our top post on relationships, “My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl,” I’ve helped a lot of Sedditors via PM. I’m now a professional dating coach specializing in relationships. AMA!Clarifying question: What I meant to ask is what got you on the road to seeking out the seduction community? I stumbled on it when my brother handed me Doc Love's Dating Dictionary. From there it was trial and error. | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Since writing our top post on relationships, “My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl,” I’ve helped a lot of Sedditors via PM. I’m now a professional dating coach specializing in relationships. AMA!When'd you get started, and what got you on the road to what you're doing? | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Non-hostile AMOGs?How do I deal with situations like this? Befriend him, become like him, or both. If you're not the social leader, befriend him. If he's a territorial douche, become the social leader that you want to be - get more friends, host more events, meet more people, etc. In most cases, the guy isn't as douchey as you might expect. Thing is, he might seem that way if he perceives you to be a hanger on. You have to present value to all of your social interactions - not just with women. He might seem cold … | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 02:53 PM |
| 3 | slap shit testplayfully slap my face If it's playful, she's just playing with you. Is it really playful? Why aren't you playing back? I know that sounds obvious, but I wouldn't consider any form of teasing a shit test. If she actually slapped the shit out of you just to see what you were gonna do, yeah... that's beyond a shit test. That's plain crazy. | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.So for me, a "shit test" is putting someone in an unusually shitty situation or saying something unusually shitty to another person to test how they handle it This is the distinction I've been trying to make. We don't need manuals and guides on how to handle teasing - just tease back - we already have a ton of stuff about frame, conversation, kino, posturing, etc. A manual or guide on how to spend more time with someone who was willing to shove you off a cliff to see how you'd react? Run. | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.That was long, and completely unnecessary, so thanks for putting in the effort to type it all out. Guess I hit a nerve. Anyway, I welcome you to exceed me in every way possible. If you think you're up to the task, the world could use more people helping out. So, what do you have to contribute? | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.having said that, i'm not looking to play guessing games, and there's tons of other beautiful women out there! Bingo. Plus, if you're the type who's physically playful like that, and the girl isn't, it's not much fun anyway. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.that none of us should take out any girl like that again. Maybe. Whether she was actually mad or pretending to be mad, the result is the same: lack of interest. I would say that you don't need to get rid of playful ass-slapping from your kino move-list. As a master ass-slapper myself, you should definitely keep an eye on the people-sense that's informing you when to ass-slap. I'd say in this case, it wasn't a shit test, but a case of her not being comfortable/attracted to you enough to be slappi… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.I think you should make it clear that you're not necessarily talking about the girl who might toss off a comment or two while having a first conversation with you Absolutely - that's what I call banter. And, it might be a passive "test," but not a mean-spirited one that turns the interaction into a zero-sum "she wins or I win" type situation. In the same way that kino and flirting is not just an attraction builder, but an attraction tester. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 06:35 PM |
| 15 | Turning the conversation sexual?I have a hard time turning things sexual I have a hard time turning things sexual, too. ... ... just kidding. Anyway, a part of it may be because you're not talking to the girl as if she's someone you could have sex with. You're likely talking to a lot of women like they're girls you're going to be polite to and never see again. I'm not saying that you should get invested as if "she's the one." I'm just saying that you should pursue the possibility of sex. Instead of being polite and even-keeled… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.People get into relationships thinking that the other person's behavior somehow changes who they are. Sorry, that's confusing wording. It's easier to understand with more specific pronouns: A guy gets into relationships thinking that the woman's behavior somehow changes or should change who he is. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Be a bastard and see multiple women at once Seeing multiple women at once doesn't make you a bastard, as long as you've got the balls to be congruent and open about it. To avoid oneitis, you have to have strong inner game - specifically the ability to be happy on your own - and an abundance mentality. After that, it's as easy as getting out there and meeting and dating lots of women. Which really is the easy part. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.You need to actually hook up with some 9s before you talk about this Been there. Done it. Still doing it. The only reason I don't write FRs under this handle is because it's easy to find out who I am in real life, along with the people I associate with. I'm okay throwing my own identity out there, but my friends are not so open. So, trust me when I say that my advice, though you might disagree with it, has come from years of field testing. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.i will find thee!! and love thee! I like your enthusiasm, but beware of oneitis. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.I like to stick to talking about the mating ritual I do, too. Fancy that. So, I get extra angry when I have to explain something as simple as not wasting your time with a woman who shit tests enough to annoy you, when you can be dating 5 who don't. You have a flawed understanding of what a shit test is Enlighten me. And don't use the "buy me a drink" example. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Men get into relationships expecting a woman to stay the same, and women get into relationships expecting to change the man The major flaw I see in most failed relationships is the following: People get into relationships thinking that the other person's behavior somehow changes who they are. There might not be an exact formula for success, but there's definitely a formula for failure. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Okay, maybe crazy is a strong word Remember how I said that, and then you escalated and defended what you do, when I originally didn't see a huge problem with it? The problem isn't what you're doing. What you're doing (as far as I know) is within the normal limits of what people can tolerate or even enjoy. The problem, if any, is how you see what you do. As long as you realize that you ARE trolling, and that if you were to escalate it too far it would be a bad thing, I'd say you're a normal huma… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.maybe we have different definitions here Probably. What you consider a shit test, I consider meaningless (sometimes fun) banter. Yeah, it could be considered a test. I'd actually be more likely to consider it flirting, and not analyze any meaning behind it. However, if that kind of thing progresses to where I get the keen sense she's trying to see how much she can get out of me, then it crosses into what I consider "shit test" territory, and she's out. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.If a woman you've been seeing for a year and has treated you really well over that entire year starts treating you worse, sure, give her the benefit of the doubt for a while, but you sure as hell should keep your eyes open as to why she's acting that way, and more importantly, whether the poor behavior is increasing or decreasing. That's the thing - most of the guys who go through a lot of shit tests are doing so with women that they've known for a week or a month. Search "shit test" on this sub… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Our experiences are different - I've dated tons of women who never do this. They just don't. I've also dated tons of women who did. And that's the thing - you free yourself from the belief that ALL women shit-test, and suddenly you're able to give up the ones who do for the ones who don't. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Is it purposeful tests set by your partner At its strictest definition, yes. It's an intentional test of your character by a certain kind of woman, meant to put a crack in your frame. Basically, if you fail, you're out. Or worse, you're in, but vulnerable to more manipulation and control over time. A lot of women don't do this, or only do it when they start losing interest in a guy. The few women who do this regularly become the stuff of legends, and usually are the types that kick guys on the r… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Some people don't mind being shit tested b a succubus-girlfriend And those people don't get high quality women. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.It's not normal to do things just to see how another person will respond There's a limit, dawg. If you don't have the people skills to sense what that limit is, and you get into the territory of making others suffer significantly, then I would say you're the one who's being weird about it. You don't wanna be all North Korea about it - or maybe you do, but that's your business. There's a difference between noticing how someone reacts in a situation, and creating a situation specifically to notice… | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Oneitis, at its core, has nothing to do with a belief in monogamy. It's about scarcity, risk aversion, and overall delusion about romance. Oneitis is why a guy will put up with shitty behavior. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.According to your article, this makes me crazy? Yep. Okay, maybe crazy is a strong word. But it's definitely manipulative. So, look at that however you will. If you're that kind of person, there's very little I could say that could make you want to change. Keep doing whatever. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Oneitis is by definition a type of delusion. And if you think oneitis is love, that's a pretty weird form of love. | /r/seduction | 11/03/13 01:07 AM |
| 6 | Whenever a girl is nice to me I mentally run through an entire life with her - marrying her, having kids with her, arguing with her, growing old with her, going through sickness with her and other crazy stuff. How do I stop this mental, insane, sick train of thought?You stop it by having an actual life so that you stop theorizing about lives you don't have. Get hobbies. Get goals. Get on the road to accomplishing those goals. It's not enough to be a dreamer. Be a doer. You'll be dead some day. I think you know what you'd like to hear about your life by whoever is eulogizing you. Your job is to give that person something good to talk about. It is like a concentrated, mental form of oneitis to the nth degree The trick of oneitis is that it makes you think you… | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 10:17 PM |
| 2 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsWomen enjoy their men to be a bit vulnerable I'll disagree with you there. Vulnerability is acceptable, but it's rarely a positive, unless it results in a shared experience where the vulnerability gets worked out. | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 10:15 PM |
| 12 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Many women use them, and I've noticed that many do seemingly involuntarily I'll agree with you in a sense, but only insofar as women are naturally more socially observant. Meaning, you do something, and they tag it as good, bad, or neutral. As you get with many women, you are going to have to accept shit tests as part of the game I'll say that you have to accept proving your worth as part of your game. A shit test is being forced into a situation you didn't ask for. Furthermore, women who consci… | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 10:10 PM |
| 39 | Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period.Most good seduction advice comes from good people advice. | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Favorite one-liners that always get a laughMy name's Dennis. Reynolds. You should come hurricane party. Bunker. We have bunker. For the good of the species. | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 07:03 PM |
| 4 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsInstead of shutting your mouth and letting her disrespect you again, after the party, you tell her calmly that she disrespected you and that you don't appreciate it, that it makes you look weak and makes you two not look like a couple. If she dismisses the behavior as minor and you don't have the balls to end it, then you will be dealing with games like this for the life of your relationship with her. From that point on, it's on you. Why is this even a discussion after a first date? A girl doesn… | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 06:44 PM |
| -1 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsYou could also... I dunno, get a girl who's more interested in you? I dunno why so many guys feel the need to try to "modify" a woman's behavior. If she's flirting with other guys, she finds them attractive or at least pleasant to talk to. And if she's doing it in front of YOU, then it means she don't like you much, dawg. So, again, why are you trying to hang onto a woman who don't like you too much? Best case scenario she's playing you, worst case scenario, you need to work on becoming someone … | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 06:40 PM |
| 4 | 4 Rules for RelationshipsThis isn't terrible advice at its core, but could do with better examples and context. Also, why do you keep putting quotes around "her" and "she" like she's not actually a woman? Anyway, I would rephrase number two as "Have a backbone and stand up for yourself" rather than "Never let 'her' disrespect you." Your original statement is reactive and depends on a specific situation coming up with the woman. If instead you're proactive, and you conduct your life in a way that exudes confidence and a … | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 06:23 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up everything you have learned here in one sentence what would it be?Seddit: Helping you become "you, two-point-oh (2.0)." | /r/seduction | 09/03/13 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Put down the phone and meet women in real lifehow to text "well" "Meet me at ____ at ____. Wear something nice." Bam. Done. It's not hard to "text well." You make plans. You get your point across. Done. Any meaningful or good interactions should be reserved for when you see the person. And if "being yourself" is the kind of guy who's too shy to approach a girl and talk to her in real life, but isn't too shy to text his ass off, he needs to transform into the social human being he was born to be. That's all I'm saying. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Put down the phone and meet women in real lifeIt shouldn't be so black-and-white It's not, for experienced, successful guys. For most people reading this sub who are LEARNING how to meet and interact with women, text is the LAST thing on the list to be focusing on. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 09:28 PM |
| 10 | Put down the phone and meet women in real lifeI just couldn't believe that post yesterday. 400 upvotes. /shudder/ | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Seddit, I'm a black guy, and I feel like its messing with my game.I am from time to time talking to a girl whom this may apply to. Only way to find out is to talk to them. I feel like many of these girls might actually find me attractive, sexually perhaps for some of them. However, it seems like there is still a small stigma they are afraid of. Only way to find out is to make a move. Don't let it stop you, brotha. The hurdles are there, yes, but they become ten times taller if you think about how hard it is to get over them. Just get over, and you're in the cl… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 07:11 PM |
| 4 | Seddit, I'm a black guy, and I feel like its messing with my game.I'm Asian too, and I have been shot down by non-Asian girls before for being Asian... none in recent memory, but I'm sure it's happened more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. Thing about OP, and I don't want to turn this into a pity party, but if you think being Asian in the dating world of college is tough, try being a black guy who's into white girls at any old-school rich kid northeast institution. I mean, you still have to get out there and meet lots of people, and there are pro… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 07:09 PM |
| 6 | How I seduced a girl without intending to & If you have a crush on someone, read this!Sometimes it's a shitty choice, but it IS a choice. And between you and me, I'd rather have the shitty things in my life be my fault than have them be "out of my hands" because of "circumstance." You let everything become circumstance, and suddenly you're powerless to make changes in your life. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 06:52 PM |
| 33 | How I seduced a girl without intending to & If you have a crush on someone, read this!A pedestal is any time you make a person better than he or she has demonstrated, simply because, and you basically make a "save point" at that high water mark, subconsciously thinking that the person can't become worse or somehow fall short of that new high point. Basically, if this guy says "I met a new girl and she helped me forget about the previous girl and is definitely a keeper," he'll start spending all of his mental energy to ensure that remains a "true" statement, even if it's not. Sudd… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 06:46 PM |
| 13 | Seddit, I'm a black guy, and I feel like its messing with my game.Are you attracted to close minded bigots? If you aren't then who cares if a girl won't date you because you are black. Absolutely. The unfortunate truth is, OP, that in the USA, every non-white has a group of people who are trained and already predetermined not to find them attractive. You can't do anything about that. There are, however, still plenty of good looking girls who will still go for you. You gotta keep getting out there. So, in spite of your AA, you still gotta get out there if you w… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 06:35 PM |
| 35 | How I seduced a girl without intending to & If you have a crush on someone, read this!She's definitely a keeper. Maybe, but whether or not she is has nothing to do with the pedestal you're starting to put her on. Listen to your own advice: no pedestals anywhere, ever. One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and a relationship is always be strong enough to stand on your own, and walk away from the table if you're being mistreated/underappreciated. So yeah, she may be a keeper. And yeah, you should work on yourself to be the kind of guy who this keeper feels lucky t… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Playlists for setting the moodTeddy Pendergrass, D'Angelo, Maxwell, Al Green, Marvin Gaye, and pretty much all other smooth R&B. Just the right rhythm for gettin' down. Extra points for Michael Jackson's "Lady in My Life." | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 05:57 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Top 20 Posts from February (please upvote, zero karma)The account behind the "A few things I've learned from reading Seddit" post is less than one day old. That's literally his only post. It's fine for newbies to post on Seddit, but I find it annoying that someone who's giving relatively useless seduction advice is currently on the frontpage. I didn't really see anything wrong with that post - it's kind of a summary of practical, "you can do this right now" inner game tips, and all things that build confidence. And, honestly, those things are the p… | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Breaking the fourth wall.I've used this just this one time, with great success, which is why I'm asking for your experience with this kind of line. If being okay with an awkward pause here or there while maintaining frame and confidence is the result, then yes, I've had great experience with that kind of line. Again, I always preach that in the long run, lines and techniques only work with a good frame and high level of confidence underneath them. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Breaking the fourth wall.That's not really breaking the fourth wall - there's no audience to address. It was more just pointing out that there was a pause in the conversation. You're lacking data, though. What was her response? What was the result of what you said - a noticeable shift in conversational tone? So basically, do you think this is something that's good, or have you done this multiple times before with notable success? That's an important distinction to make when you post advice. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.The only time I think texting can build attraction, is if you're already nailing the girl and you're sending her erotic lit to keep her mind running and her juices flowing until you can see her again. So even when you send that shit, there's a "see you at ____" at the bottom - the primary purpose! | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.Texting is the equivalent of "dipping your toes in the water." You don't learn how to swim by learning to dip your toes in the water. You don't get confident by avoiding the situations that require confidence. You've gotta start small, yes. Regular, non-sexual social interactions. Graduate to group interactions of mixed sex. Graduate to one-on-one having fun with a friend. Graduate to one-on-one having fun with a stranger. And so on, and so forth. But you don't get confident until you pass throu… | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.Is that Khmer? | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.It's also a risk-free way to test the waters. Your risk aversion is the reason so many of us post about confidence. You may want to consider letting your real personality come out in person. | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 06:20 PM |
| 0 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.You are the only sane person in this thread. It's like the twilight zone in here. I replied too. It's not like I don't think texting can be useful for building attraction. But it's like that one tool in your toolbox that isn't useful for ANYTHING but that ONE thing, and you can't throw it away because it's useful for that ONE thing, but at the same time it isn't worth talking about how you can use the tool "better." | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.If a girl is interested enough to give you her number, and then start sexting you, it's because of what you did in person, and what she's imagining you will do the next time she sees you, in person. Look, I'm not saying that text game doesn't exist. But, it's really only useful for communication in good faith - communication where rapport is already established. With good rapport, and a basis of positive in-person experience to draw from, you can text almost anything to a girl and have her attra… | /r/seduction | 05/03/13 06:11 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a player reputation?By being genuine, and not straight up lying to a woman who thinks you might be a liar. They have no problem with you being a player. They have a problem with you being a liar. The perception of players is that you're a liar, out to take someone for all she's worth without offering anything worthwhile in return. If you don't say or do those things, but if you're still clearly sexual and confident, you're not a player anymore - you're a winner. | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 07:17 PM |
| 0 | Tip on how to know if she has a real BFWell, I can tell you that if she says she has a boyfriend, she's not interested in you right now. You can spend lots of effort convincing her to like you then and there, but if there's one thing I've learned, the hardest thing you can ever do is convince a person of the contrary to their initial impression. I find that preventing this situation by having social proof works better in the field. Being surrounded by fun, attractive people in your social circle (if you don't have these, work on it) … | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 04:15 PM |
| 0 | My Unofficial Seddit Achievements listI have parents who have been through war, and concentration camps. Anyone who uses anything that is neither war, or a concentration camp, as a reason to not be happy just isn't going to get my attention. I'll make concessions for people with depression and mental disorders. | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 04:06 PM |
| 10 | [FR] Friend and I F-Close 2 teachers. Same-night lay.Good on you, OP. Especially for the teamwork. For serious. Not a lot of wings are willing to hang dong in front of their friends. Anyways, if anyone gives you shit about "only HB6 and HB7? Lololol so ugly wtf amirite," fuck 'em. I'm betting the more experienced women (based on my experience) were really fun lays. Also next time, you should offer to swap partners, if one of the girls isn't up for a foursome. Because why not? | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 04:05 PM |
| 2 | My Unofficial Seddit Achievements listNot so much scumbaggery as just anger. Meh. | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 03:59 PM |
| 1 | My Unofficial Seddit Achievements listADVANCED THE VICHET SPECIAL: Successfully set-up and execute a naked party with at least 4 participants. | /r/seduction | 04/03/13 03:58 PM |
| 1 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsMaybe. If they said no, I didn't ask why. I just let up. It's not like someone is "hey, I don't want to participate because I think my dick is too small" without being asked, and I'm not gonna ask. So, it's a consideration. I already said in my guide to make sure no one has obvious body/confidence issues. | /r/seduction | 03/03/13 06:36 AM |
| 1 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groups27, cuz. You'd be surprised how many people are cool getting naked around you if you can provide them fun and comfort. | /r/seduction | 02/03/13 05:01 PM |
| 9 | You just have to try -- that's it.Me. | /r/seduction | 01/03/13 06:30 PM |
| 2 | You just have to try -- that's it.Like, I just read a post by a guy who knows how to create naked parties. That's pretty fucking cool, and I wish I could do that. I can't do that yet. Thank you for the shout out, good sir. You'll get there. Here's a post from my blog that speaks to your point. Remember that the Seddit "rock stars" started where everyone starts. With no experience, little knowledge, and debatable advantages and disadvantages. Everyone starts Super Mario Bros from the same place - level one. EDIT Yes, I'm the nake… | /r/seduction | 01/03/13 04:54 PM |
| 7 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsWell, I find that when I'm in the zone with a specific activity, I don't usually get boners until I get distracted and kicked out of the zone. That's why I say once the girls are naked, don't immediately drop everything to size them up. It's still possible to be creepy and over-eager in this situation. Focus on the task at hand (having fun, winning the game, witty banter), stay in state, and Mr. Happy won't wake up before he's needed. Though, if you're a grower, I don't see a problem with you ha… | /r/seduction | 01/03/13 05:44 AM |
| 2 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsHave you ever had an orgy Done a fourway before a while back. Many threesomes, both MMF (teamwork!) and FFM (teamwork!). Been naked in the room with 8-10 people, also all naked and doing a variety of things. I'm always kind of hesitant to post this kind of thing online, but then again, I'm not gonna hide from who I am. I just keep the identities of participants who aren't me anonymous. If you need to know, most of the FRs for those nights would read something like the "how to" I made. I don't wa… | /r/seduction | 01/03/13 05:41 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with alpha female types?Stop being the indecisive guy who's so desperate for puss he can't figure out how to have fun with a girl he's been friends with forever. You're not that guy, so don't turn into him now. Whatever you do, just have fun. Kino. See where it goes. It's not like you have to build rapport. You just have to be fun. You already have rapport (even if only as a friend). There's really not much to this. Just escalate. Doesn't matter if it's out at a bar, your place, her place, or a back alley. Escalate. I … | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Spring Break Cruise. What is the best way to make the best of the situation and maximize results?serenaded women from the hot tub with some Righteous Brothers Been on a couple cruises myself. The song and dance combination is a panty disintegrator. I'm not single at the moment, but you bet your ass I'm going on another cruise if/when I am single again. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 09:15 PM |
| 5 | Spring Break Cruise. What is the best way to make the best of the situation and maximize results?Oh my god there is so much puss to crush on a boat. You won't even believe it. Be having fun ALL THE TIME. Quickly make cruise buddies who are also having fun ALL THE TIME, are easygoing, and contribute to the group with ideas and action. Talk to EVERYONE. Old folks, guys, girls, married couples, etc. You will get a reputation for being really friendly and an overall good time. Social proof works WONDERS on a boat. Be VERY friendly with the crew. Tip well. Ask them about their lives - not just t… | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 09:13 PM |
| 3 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsStrip chicken sounds awesome. You drive two tractors towards each other, slowly removing clothes until one of you bails, and that person has to spend the rest of the night naked in his or her shame. At my house, it's always shirtless o'clock. One time, we were in the middle of a game, and my roommate who was away came home. He ran upstairs, grabbed a bottle of Maker's Mark, and joined in. I can't stress how important it is to have fun friends. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 08:58 PM |
| 4 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsRight? | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 08:56 PM |
| 14 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsIf you're serious, remember that you're throwing a FUN PARTY that might turn into a strip party - if you have willing people and make the right moves. Throwing a party thinking "I'm totally gonna get these people naked" is equivalent to outcome dependence, and will keep you from attaining the frame you need to have to make this happen. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 08:37 PM |
| 4 | How to get everyone in the room naked by applying one-on-one seduction techniques to mixed gender groupsFor me, at least a dozen. With all different kinds of people, too. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Pick-up lines for an orgy?Seriously, there are people who would make ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in a sexually charged environment You can tell who those people are before inviting them. So... don't invite them. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 05:06 PM |
| 0 | What Would You Do if ‘The Seduction Community’ Did Not Exist?You still need to meet a sex partner or a girlfriend or lover. Biological urges are the same. But now its just you and girls. Take this seriously. What does your heart tell you to do? Figure out how to get better with women. Oops. I recreated the seduction community. Womp womp. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Some guy used that "phone trick" on my girlfriend and failed horribly a few days ago.Alpha's don't. They don't even remember, because it wasn't important I said exactly this. So, I'm not really sure where we disagree, unless you care to elaborate. Beta philosophy. I don't need your explanation, but I'd like to hear it. I don't think you're actually reading what I'm saying so much as assuming I'm wrong. Quite alpha of you. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Some guy used that "phone trick" on my girlfriend and failed horribly a few days ago.If you're "being," you've already done. | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 02:54 PM |
| 3 | Some guy used that "phone trick" on my girlfriend and failed horribly a few days ago.But part of being an alpha kind of guy is not having to deal with rejection Doesn't matter how good you are. Someone, somewhere is going to reject or disregard you - how you react to that (or not at all) is how you are in your whole life. I'll quote Cartman: Sure, it's easy to be a ninja when everything's going your way, but it's times like these, when the chips are down, that a ninja shows his true character. So when you get rejected is when your true self shines through - are you the needy guy… | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 02:53 PM |
| 35 | Some guy used that "phone trick" on my girlfriend and failed horribly a few days ago.just told her to put her number in his phone Boss. She obviously declined and then he kept following her around the hall for a little while Not boss. Part of being a successful, "alpha" kind of guy is how you deal with rejection. This guy has got a LOT to learn. Guys, if you ever do this trick, be sure you at least get to know the girl a little bit before just handing her your phone. Not necessarily. A ballsy move is just that. It can work. Not saying it works great all the time. What really mad… | /r/seduction | 27/02/13 07:50 PM |
| 15 | What early warning signs have you picked up on to avoid "sticking dick in crazy"?See what you did, cuz? The negative energy from her shit talking made YOU shit talk HER. Don't prolong the circle! Everyone chill! | /r/seduction | 26/02/13 04:09 AM |
| 2 | What early warning signs have you picked up on to avoid "sticking dick in crazy"?Most people do this, though. They don't. Maybe you should get some new friends, cuz! | /r/seduction | 26/02/13 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Damage reduction, is it ever appropriate to be rude to a girl? Is it ever appropriate to point out her 'games' are stupid or to explicitly make clear your knowledge of attraction?I know at this point you're probably thinking "this guy is just beating a dead horse." Stop running into her. You don't have to be the places that she is. You don't have to go to the parties that she'll likely turn up. You don't have to hang out with people you're both friends with. I'm not saying this is necessarily the right path for you. If this means dropping ALL of your current friends, you'd have to think about that. But I find it hard to believe that you're running into this girl enough t… | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Damage reduction, is it ever appropriate to be rude to a girl? Is it ever appropriate to point out her 'games' are stupid or to explicitly make clear your knowledge of attraction?Or, you know, meet new people so that you're not always at the same parties with the same people. Again... why are you hanging out with a girl that's causing you so many problems? | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Damage reduction, is it ever appropriate to be rude to a girl? Is it ever appropriate to point out her 'games' are stupid or to explicitly make clear your knowledge of attraction?how do I not "deal with (her) bullshit" when I am around her? Does she get in your face? Just don't go up to her and talk to her all the time. Or even half the time. Say "hi," be polite. Talk to other people. Of, you know, meet new people so that you're not always at the same parties with the same people. | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Dynamics of fraternity game with sorority girls / college game threadGood list. I've never been been in a frat, but for all my friends who were in one, the status worked best on girls who were outside the Greek system, especially girls visiting from other colleges. Basically, being a brother is a huge logistical boon that gives you a) a place to party b) a place to bring a girl back to and c) a place that potentially has some new people in it every weekend. It's the college equivalent of being a VIP patron of a popular club. That status works best on girls who ar… | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 08:32 PM |
| 8 | Damage reduction, is it ever appropriate to be rude to a girl? Is it ever appropriate to point out her 'games' are stupid or to explicitly make clear your knowledge of attraction?her games are ridiculous because it assumes I care But you do care. You care so much that you think about it enough to post online to ask for a solution to your problem. The solution is that your problem doesn't exist. You literally don't have to do ANYTHING about this girl. And if you're not into her, stop putting effort into seeing her. Thing is, you ARE into her and you ARE trying to sleep with her. I'm assuming that, because if you didn't want to see/sleep with her, you wouldn't be asking th… | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 08:20 PM |
| 184 | What early warning signs have you picked up on to avoid "sticking dick in crazy"?Pay a LOT of attention to how much a girl shit-talks, and whether she's rude to people that she thinks she's better than. Actually, pay a lot of attention to how much people shit talk in general. I guarantee you that being "friends" with that kind of person will not go well. UPDATE: One more thing about shit talkers - if they shit talk others in front of you, I can guarantee that they shit talk you in front of others. | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Sex isn't the goal. Attraction is the goal, and sex is the reward.Your goal should be to: Stop doing and thinking the stupid shit that's been holding you back. Start doing the things that will help you improve with your game both inside and outside the dating world. Some asshole will say "be attractive, don't be unattractive." To be fair, it really is that simple. No one said simple is easy. The simplicity of game is what separates the winners from the losers. The losers make excuses for themselves, saying that this or that "wasn't in their favor," or that som… | /r/seduction | 25/02/13 04:21 PM |
| 1 | My life is in a new place right now and now I can't help but wonder; Is there a right and wrong time in your life to practice seduction?Honestly, I am happy. Social shortcomings aside, i'm happy with how things are going. I read, play instruments, and I'm preparing myself for my career / future. Not everything is ideal, but I'm proud of what I've accomplished with my personal goals and where I am. Then now is a good time to practice seduction. | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Improving my conversation skillsWhat would y'all have done in that situation? Well, see, conversation is a bridge to something else. Isolating, number closing, asking for a date, whatever you want. Conversation for conversation's sake is nice, but it can be tough with a stranger because a lot of the interesting things about that person haven't revealed themselves yet, and you don't have as many conversational anchors. You can always ask them what they like to do for fun and invite them out to an activity. That yields more conv… | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 06:31 PM |
| 1 | As a college student it's hard to start up a conversation. I've read some tips but wanted some things more specific and advice on an idea.That's clever, and I like it, but it's also unnecessary, and doesn't really get her to like you. "Mind if I sit here?" is more direct. If she says no, whatever. | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How to get the quiet girl?a quiet girl at my school Ask her out. How would a first date go? I dunno. You tell us. It might involve less talking. If she likes you, it'll involve kino, smiles, and fun. | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 03:42 PM |
| 15 | My life is in a new place right now and now I can't help but wonder; Is there a right and wrong time in your life to practice seduction?Right time: when your life as a whole is good, you have a roof over your head and food to eat, you're fulfilled in your pursuits outside of romance, and you're happy 90 percent of the time. Wrong time: when you're unhappy more than 20 percent of the time and you think it's because you lack women. It's not. You lack women because you're unhappy, and you're unhappy because there's something in your life that is missing. Find it. Capture it. | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 02:48 PM |
| 2 | The only line I use, and it's magic.I know seddit jikes about this all the time but it's starting to be the truth The truth is a lot simpler than most people think. Just because it's simple doesn't imply that it's easy. Walking 1000 miles barefoot is simple. That's what the journey to becoming attractive is like. | /r/seduction | 20/02/13 08:40 PM |
| 1 | The only line I use, and it's magic.This only works if you're a relatively confident and attractive guy True, but nothing works if you're not a relatively confident and attractive guy. So... if you're not there yet, work on it. | /r/seduction | 20/02/13 08:39 PM |
| 1 | As a woman with a mediocre appearance, how to do I attract and seduce men who are appearance based?I still don't understand why I'd be the slut in the scenario and the guy would still just be some guy. You weren't asking me, but you seem overly concerned by that double-standard. Anyone who has a healthy amount of self-esteem will literally not care how you choose to live your life - in this case, who you decide to bang. So, again, you should probably not concern yourself with the ongoing debate as to what random people in the world consider "appropriate female behavior." This whole subreddit … | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 04:51 PM |
| 1 | As a woman with a mediocre appearance, how to do I attract and seduce men who are appearance based?Other people's opinions. Why should you care? Depends on how many of those people's opinions you value. Because shit, sometimes - just sometimes - other people's opinions are important, because they can detect when you're being an asshole a lot more easily than you can. That said, when it comes to a woman being a slut, I really only consider her one if she fucks for attention and lack of self-esteem, rather than for the joy of fucking. And even then, who cares? It's not like I'm out to label peo… | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 04:38 PM |
| -1 | As a woman with a mediocre appearance, how to do I attract and seduce men who are appearance based?Get fit - regardless of your natural shape (curvy versus skinny versus whatever), I guarantee you that a fitter version of that shape is hotter. Dress well, and wear a nice, subtle perfume - smelling and dressing nicely counts for a lot. Become interesting. Intelligence and humor is a good pathway to becoming interesting - thing is, you have to have accomplished something cool with your intelligence and humor. Maybe you're a writer. Maybe you've published a short story. Maybe you're well-travele… | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Hello Seddit ! After reading quite a lot about pick up, I feel everything tends towards not using canned techniques or openers and about just being yourself. But, if it's that simple, why isn't everybody doing it...? Isn't it too good to be true...?It seems to me that you're absolutely right, so long as being 'yourself' means being a ripped, well-dressed, ruthlessly confident, socially outgoing alpha male with stacks of social proof. And all of those things are achievable by about 50 percent of the male population. Whether they will actually do it... well... yeah. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Hello Seddit ! After reading quite a lot about pick up, I feel everything tends towards not using canned techniques or openers and about just being yourself. But, if it's that simple, why isn't everybody doing it...? Isn't it too good to be true...?Step 1) Be yourself. Step 0) "Yourself" henceforth refers to the best version of you that is always improving, day after day, through deliberate effort and razor focus. "Yourself" today may not be much, but tomorrow it will be better, and the next week better yet, and years from now "yourself" will be be almost unrecognizable, and yet somehow the same at the core. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:50 PM |
| 1 | DeathPeople have a psychological bias when it comes to picking up information that they perceive is about them or someone like them - something about minimizing cognitive dissonance. That said, most people's reasons for being on Seddit are a series of similar experiences. You could probably have a "holy crap that was me" moment about every other hour on here. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:44 PM |
| 21 | the only response to getting blown offGolden rule of first dates: always have a backup plan or some other thing you can be going to. Cause you never know if it's going to be a shitty date. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice. Either got a bad shit test, mind fucked or did something I shouldn't have.Overthinking - you're doing it. On a long enough timeline, if you don't seal the deal, someone else will. This doesn't mean that you necessarily did anything wrong. You just didn't seal the deal. If you're considering hindsight and are wondering whether you should have sealed the deal, then you're getting into overthinking territory. As for whether you want to contact her, well, you tell me, cuz. Do you? Yes? Then do it. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:34 PM |
| 3 | What is the etiquette for dance floors at parties?So? You can't succeed if you're not willing to fail. Some of the girls I approach -- dance floor or otherwise -- will inevitably view my attempt as "creepy". Who cares? This is all true. But then, we do have guides and techniques that are field-tested, and most of them will recommend against a cold-approach "grind up on a girl before she knows who you are" kind of approach unless a) you're really good at dancing and b) you have a good reputation, or at least appear high value in the place that y… | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:29 PM |
| 2 | What is the etiquette for dance floors at parties?Are you an expert dancer and really good at cold-approaching? No? Then don't start off by grinding up behind a girl who has never seen your face before. Get good at opening. Get respectable at dancing. Tell a girl you want to dance with her. Learn a couple things about her. "Let's dance." Go. If, however, you can get really GOOD at dancing, a lot of times you won't even need to approach. Good dancing really is a chick magnet, especially if you bring some good looking female friends with you to t… | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:26 PM |
| 2 | I'm a freshman in college and I've become the campus creeper. How can I change my reputation to a positive one?The problem isn't that you "came on too strong" in most of those cases. You're pretty good at getting your foot in the door and you shouldn't stop. Thing is, you quickly become less impressive. One concrete reason is the clinginess - that's a huge turn-off. There could be other things, like a lack of interesting things going on in your life. Who knows? All I can really say is improve the product, and making the sale gets easier. Finally, you have to stop thinking like you need to do a specific t… | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 03:22 PM |
| 1 | How to be a fun date and escalate at a formal dance?By being a fun date and escalating. Seriously, it's not hard. Being fun: Make jokes, introduce people to each other, dance your face off, make toasts, take a picture with everyone, DANCE with EVERYONE. Be the guy who helps everyone else have a ton of fun. Escalating: Eye contact, body contact, smiling while touching, etc - ESPECIALLY while dancing. Finally, don't do all of this ONLY with your date. Be comfortable with fun physical contact, period, in any situation - whether it's a handshake with… | /r/seduction | 15/02/13 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Need advice. What should I say after I sneak in a kiss during a goodbye hug and the kiss turns into a quite a long kiss.You don't say anything. Be a good kisser instead. | /r/seduction | 14/02/13 03:23 PM |
| 2 | I have fallen on hard times. Need to vent for a bit.It's funny how even if you're "successful" in the sense of bedding women, you can still be an insecure guy who takes girls, other people's opinions, and some arbitrary series of numbers like how many girls you got in a week and put it all up on a pedestal. You've got talent, my friend, but as you said - inner game is where you're lacking. The sex and female attention by itself won't make you happy. You need to pay attention to yourself more. You need to find out what you actually want out of lif… | /r/seduction | 14/02/13 03:21 PM |
| 3 | what to do when a girl keeps messaging you?Invite her out. Get her used to meeting in person versus trying to get to know you over the phone. | /r/seduction | 13/02/13 05:00 PM |
| 2 | The problem with sex as a goal in and of itselfI think the problem is that OP doesn't really understand the mindset of some of the members of this subreddit I was the anxious dude you are talking about. You still end up having sex. Sex, by itself, isn't a great milestone, because that didn't make the anxiety go away, did it? You have to push above and beyond. | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 08:05 PM |
| 2 | So, I'm a newbie that thought he was making some headway, today proved me wrong, kinda feel bad about it, but will continue with journey. [nFR]why the fuck did I act this way Because it's the way you've been for your whole life. The key is to change that little by little over time. It won't happen right away. Knowing where you are going does not mean you are already there. Take the steps. Every day, do something that improves who you are. Something that gives you more competence, confidence, or value as a person. Record it. Keep a journal if you have to, so you can mark how far you've come, because when the journey is inward, it's toug… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Wild HB appears... and opens you!! What would you do? (Elevator Game)"Hey, I'd love to continue this later. What's your number?" | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Choose my vacation. Only one condition: it has to make me better with women.Travel to another country - one that's cheap and has a reasonable number of people who speak your language. Meet new people - all kinds, not just women. You have to understand that being good with women is just a subset of the larger skill of being good with people. The better you are with people, and the more casually you bring that same charisma and ease to women, the more success you will have with women. Bring a sense of urgency with you. This is vacation, but you have things you want to see… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:46 PM |
| 1 | How to change your mindset to not be infatuated or too much focus on one girl ?People's mindsets and overall psychological approach to life don't change suddenly (except in the case of severe trauma). The only thing that will change your mindset about the perceived "scarcity of women" is your ongoing, increasing success with women over a long period of time. I started this crap back when I was a senior in high school cause I was tired of getting nowhere with girls. Almost 10 years later, I'm only finally starting to understand how much my mindset has changed in response to… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:41 PM |
| 2 | How much kino can I use when we're "friendly"?Who the fuck cares what you call it? Tell her a time and place, and see if she either a) agrees or b) offers another time to meet and actually follows through. 9 out of 10 girls who have jumped my bones (more than 10, if that's unclear) never uttered or heard the word "date" before we hit it. We just wanted to see each other. Period. Call it what you want to call it. If a girl wants to spend time with you, she will. Who cares what yours or her expectations are? If something's good, it's good. It… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Valentine's day and weekly girl rotationvalentine's day I have a girlfriend, and she's totally cool that we are doing nothing special that day. I'm not one for waiting too long for a reservation in my favorite restaurants because everyone had the same idea on the same day. It's just a day like any other. You don't need a holiday to tell you when you get to go out and have a nice dinner/date/dancing/bangathon. If you're really set on picking one of your plates for V-Day, pick the one you actually like best. Though, be warned, because o… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:33 PM |
| 2 | What books should I recommendDoc Love's Dating Dictionary, though up there in years, has a pretty good framework for how you should conduct yourself with not just women, but your life in general. It's all about setting priorities and knowing the difference between what you should bring to the table, and what you should expect from a girl. There's a lot of dogma in it, like in most self-help books, but I find a lot of it to hold up pretty well. | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Guys I feel like I am stalling. What can I do to push myself beyond my current plateau?!Escalate. Escalate, escalate, escalate. Talking is talking. That's good, but it's your foot in the door. After that, you gotta make the sale. What are you bringing to the table? Are you exciting? Are you making her laugh? Are you making her comfortable with your body language, your touch, your eye contact? You're right, you do have to do more. More than step 1. More than step 2. See, steps imply that you get to stop at some point because you're "done." When it comes to game, there is no end dest… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 07:27 PM |
| 3 | The problem with sex as a goal in and of itselfMaybe my problem is that I sabotage myself by showing the girl I fear her and fear sex in some way (I'm sure they can sense this). That's gotta be a major turn off. And that's why I say you will get laid eventually if you do almost nothing. You're not doing "almost nothing." You're actively sabotaging yourself with fear, the same as 90 percent of the guys who come here and think the problem is something external. You're going into a race with shackles on your feet. I can't tell you "how" to get … | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 04:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I express sexual interest in conversation?Flirting. But, to mirror the top responses, it takes a lot more skill to learn to flirt effectively than it does to reach out and touch someone. As long as the touching doesn't turn you into stiff-as-a-board nervous wreck, anyway. | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 03:14 PM |
| 3 | The problem with sex as a goal in and of itselfYou're 21. And I have to disagree. Most people don't even think about getting with girls the way that Seddit does. They just do. It's natural. It's instinct. The only thing holding you back is shame, or perceived societal pressure. In fact, most of what Seddit is about is tuning into that instinct and tuning out the made-up societal pressure. That said, I would argue that only 10 percent of the men getting laid in the world right now will have read or practiced any seduction material, unless the… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 03:04 PM |
| 2 | What is a good first date location / activity and what advantages does it have over other places?Then you're fine. I said "if you're more than a year out of college" you should make moving out a priority. You're in college. Your priority is to learn employable skills, and figure out your life passions so that when you DO graduate, you can move out on your own. For now, her place. | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 04:57 AM |
| 2 | What is a good first date location / activity and what advantages does it have over other places?How? Rent is so expensive here that the kind of jobs I could get wouldn't pay enough. Where do you live? How old are you? What education/experience do you have? What kind of jobs could you get. If there are baristas managing to make a living in New York City, I have trouble believing there are no jobs you could take that would allow you to move out. Sure, they might have roommates. But their roommates aren't their parents. A steady, modest service job while looking for better jobs is better than… | /r/seduction | 12/02/13 04:44 AM |
| 3 | The problem with sex as a goal in and of itselfIt is statistically impossible for you to exist in Western civilization and not get laid at some point. Statistically. But yeah. I wasn't meaning to touch on outcome independence (though it's very important) as much as big picture thinking. Getting laid is such a small thing, in the grand scheme of seduction. It sounds counterintuitive, but it's really true when you think about it. It's not like you get laid and then that's all there is. It's more like a game of Tetris. You get that first ten li… | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Can we get something straight? Most women don't have men 'literally lining up to court them'I still generally try to hook up with hotter girls, and they definitely have more abundance. True. But a lot of those guys pining after them are guys who would have no chance seducing a jar of mayonnaise... so... yeah. Now, if there were 40 frogmas for every HB8, I'd say women had an abnormal level of abundance. | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 08:06 PM |
| 3 | What causes girls to lose interest so quickly?Finding out that the guy isn't who she wants. She. Doesn't. Want. You. Sorry, dude. There's nothing special about that. Just get over it. Remember, just because a woman bangs you today doesn't mean she'll like you tomorrow. | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 05:07 PM |
| 3 | What is a good first date location / activity and what advantages does it have over other places?I live with my parents If you're more than a year out of college and live in a western country, you should make moving out a top priority. I specify western because in eastern cultures, multiple generations living in the same house is par for course. | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 05:05 PM |
| 19 | F-close on HB8 with a sad endingI'm sorry. I just had to laugh that you did that again expecting different results. On the other hand, she finds you attractive enough to sleep with sober. So, don't sweat it. You're an attractive guy to her. I wouldn't get caught up in the rebound drama though. | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 04:02 PM |
| 1 | F-close on HB8 with a sad endingYou were a gentleman about it. Good on ya. But yeah, that kinda thing can happen sometimes. | /r/seduction | 11/02/13 04:01 PM |
| 1 | I royally screwed up my weekend and now recognize my AFC status. Acceptance and starting new.I picture gym gossip "did you hear?? so and so went on a date!" Most fear is not fear of failure, but rather fear of success. Success is hard. It's uncomfortable. Failure is neither of those things. So, most people accept the silent failures in their lives. Don't be one of those. | /r/seduction | 31/01/13 08:29 PM |
| 9 | What if I told you that *seduction* was not about dating/GL.I read Doc Love's dating dictionary when I was like, 18. It's been 9 years, and it took most of that time for me to realize that, at least in my case, my dissatisfaction with my love life was actually just an extension of my dissatisfaction with my life as a whole. So, I changed that. Actually, a non-seduction book my mom got me helped - Larry Winget's "Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life: A Kick-Butt Approach to a Better Life" gave me a bit of direction on that path. Basically, the realizatio… | /r/seduction | 31/01/13 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Help! Dancing with a (much) taller girl?!Just dance how you would with a girl shorter than you. It's not like you're doing salsa or partner dancing where it actually matters because you can't get your hands over her head. She's got knees. She can go low when she needs to. Question is, can you give her a good reason to? | /r/seduction | 31/01/13 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Mature, alpha way to respond to "just friends"?"Okay." Move on. Or at least be dating other women. No problem having friends, dawg. | /r/seduction | 31/01/13 08:15 PM |
| 5 | [FR] What turned out to be the wildest night of my life. (The following weekend/Update)It was completely and utterly in tents Camping? | /r/seduction | 30/01/13 07:27 PM |
| 2 | What do you do or say when a girl tells you she is engaged or in a relationship?Think of all the single girls who I could be meeting that won't have added drama for having slept with/dated them. Get those girls. | /r/seduction | 28/01/13 05:47 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to deal with an alpha male?Become more interesting - travel, learn languages, get hobbies, meet more people, try new things. Your confidence will build up as you become more interesting. As your confidence builds, your need to "out-do" other people lessens, because you're already cooler than 70 percent of the people in the room. You will wonder why you ever thought it was a competition. Again, since you're a beginner, there literally nothing I can tell you that will work. It's like trying to instruct a beginner gymnast in… | /r/seduction | 28/01/13 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Losing interest in girls after you have sex with them - does anyone else have this problem and how do they get around it?Meet more women. Ones that are more interesting to you, genuinely. Don't try to tell me you don't know when you're actually interested in a girl, versus just interested in sleeping with her. I don't have a problem with either of those situations, but you know when you find a girl interesting (beyond sex) and when you don't. | /r/seduction | 28/01/13 05:24 AM |
| 1 | What's the best way to deal with an alpha male?I tried to stop him by being more alpha then he was, but that wasn't working. What makes you think you can compete with anyone having "just started?" Furthermore, you should get rid of the notion that it's a competition in the first place. Be better than you were yesterday, every day. Period. That'll solve all your problems. | /r/seduction | 28/01/13 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, how do you improve your wit?Watching standup, talking to lots of people smarter than me, reading a lot, and being well-informed. | /r/seduction | 27/01/13 06:06 AM |
| 2 | Girl checking me out. I look up; our gazes meet, and we both smile. I walk up and... get blown out. Why?Everyone gets blown out. Unless it's for the same reason 9 times out of 10, and there's something obvious you can do about it, you can probably just move on and not think too hard about it. There's not enough information here to really know what's going on in her head, so all we can do is guess. Someone smiling doesn't mean they want to talk to you. Someone looking at you doesn't mean they want to talk to you. It's a good enough excuse to find out, though. You did the right thing by finding out … | /r/seduction | 25/01/13 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Does Seddit do AMA's? After all the RSD video posts it'd be fantastic to have an AMA with Owen CookSo, kind of related - I always thought he shared a lot of mannerisms, and the overall tone of voice as the guy who plays Rickety Cricket in Always Sunny (David Hornsby). Meaning I find the guy fuckin' hilarious. Also, insightful. | /r/seduction | 25/01/13 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?If she does something you like let her know. Make her feel sexy and she will return the favor. But the key, just like in Sarging is to be fluid, mix it up and have fun. See, that's what I'm talking about - we spend a ton of time giving people advice about how their attitude and frame should be leading up to sex, but almost never about how to maintain that frame during or after. Props. | /r/seduction | 25/01/13 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?Is it? Now, would you be okay with being able to get a ton of chicks, and then leaving them all disappointed? I mean, it's fine if you are - but girls talk, and that's a really dumb way to be disqualified from social circles. That, and seduction material is HUGELY helpful with long term relationships. | /r/seduction | 25/01/13 04:02 AM |
| 6 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?I guess now's the perfect time to apply kino. | /r/seduction | 25/01/13 03:58 AM |
| 9 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?All good stuff - this is the kind of discussion that I think we could use more of here - sex as it relates to continuing to seduce a woman. Seduction doesn't stop at the first lay, is what I say. She should ALWAYS be getting more attracted to you, and sex is a huge part of that phase of the game. Your points are still congruent with Seddit's message as a whole: be cool, be fun, and test your limits. | /r/seduction | 24/01/13 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?Sex is fun, and not a big deal. Sex is not a guarantee of anything. It's okay to talk about what you do, just don't mention specific names and places - women appreciate and respect discretion when it comes to their reputations. ... that said, a satisfied woman will tell her friends. Even if she's the "keep the secret 'til I'm in my grave" type. It's a weird thing. I suppose a lot of women out there aren't getting good sex. If you, as a guy, are competent at it, you get a lot of brownie points af… | /r/seduction | 24/01/13 08:23 PM |
| 5 | Why do we never talk about sex, Seddit?I understand that part, but I didn't mean talking about the "how" of sex. More of the "what you should consider about sex as part of game and life as a whole." I mean, we literally talk about EVERYTHING else. Just no sex. I'm just thinking the whole time, sex has been a huge part of my game. No because I do this or that in bed, but because I view sex a certain way, and women feel comfortable having sex with me because of these views, and my congruence with them. Plus, the whole reputation thing.… | /r/seduction | 24/01/13 07:52 PM |
| 15 | Anybody know any quick and easy games to escalate kino?... cut a hole in the box? | /r/seduction | 24/01/13 01:33 AM |
| 43 | The Process, a guide for newbiesThis is one of the few catch-all summaries that I'd actually get behind as the trifecta of informative, practical, and compact. Kudos to you, OP. | /r/seduction | 23/01/13 06:01 PM |
| 7 | Anybody know any quick and easy games to escalate kino?Start with a game. Turn it into a drinking game. Change stakes to kino - massages, kisses on the cheek, etc. Profit. | /r/seduction | 23/01/13 03:20 PM |
| 1 | How to become the guy that women chase?Inner game and outer game. A good product and a good salesman. You can have one or the other down really good, but you'll be king of the marketplace with both. | /r/seduction | 23/01/13 03:03 PM |
| -1 | Do you guys have a "girl " friend?I know, right? | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 07:51 PM |
| 5 | Do you guys have a "girl " friend?Night of partying ends with drinks at my place or theirs. Get bored of what's on TV. I'm game, and I can tell she is. I make a move/suggestion. The rest is fun time. I mean, the stuff you learn here about being fun, charming, etc etc can be applied in any appropriate situation. Sometimes, a night where your female friend wasn't able to find any guy she likes, and you weren't able to pull either is the right situation. I'll say this though - every time it has happened (this has happened with a lo… | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 07:41 PM |
| 6 | Do you guys have a "girl " friend?Valid experience and points. I just feel that the tone of the question, and also the tone of most people who come to Seddit for advice, comes from a set of experiences that leads a lot of guys to think there's no way to be friends with a girl. So, if a guy is the type who clings onto the first girl who pays attention to him, he isn't the type who can be friends with women. I know that one from experience. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 07:21 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?ASU and UofA always show up at the Ohio Star Ball. And I have to agree. Also, I'll hit you up if I'm ever in Chi-town. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 06:17 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?Where in the midwest? I go to Columbus, OH almost every year to hang out at a huge ballroom dance competition. Hot chick party-central, right there. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 06:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?Oh, sweet. You said "mate" at some point - I assumed things. Anyway, turn that frown upside down, dude. We're fuckin' American! Just go somewhere third world to appreciate how fuckin' sweet this place is. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?I had a shit ton of fun with Aussie's when I was down in Cambodia this past December. Holy shit, dude. Your people are alright. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 05:38 PM |
| 1 | First few days of spring semesterWhat part of what country are you going to school in? | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 05:17 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?Yup. USA born and raised. Parents were culturally conservative, though, and dating isn't something that exists in Khmer culture. So, didn't learn that from them. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 05:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?Oh shit, really? I didn't know that about the OP. I would say if he lives in the West Bank, he needs to find out how to get the fuck outta the West Bank. Girls? Shit, man. My parents went through the Cambodian Civil War, and my mom went through 4 years in labor and death camps. Relationships weren't on their mind. They met after they got out, in America. Anyway, sheltered upbringings definitely bring a lot of insecurities, the most relevant being that we're behind the curve on socializing. So, t… | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 04:44 PM |
| 38 | One solid tip to sealing the deal with a girl and winning her over.I dunno why, but this reminded me of that scene in Beauty and the Beast where Beast shows Belle his library. Luckily, it doesn't remind me of the deleted scene after that where he beats the shit out of her. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 04:19 PM |
| 1 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?For serious. There's always a way to do anything - the question is sometimes whether it's even worth it. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 04:17 PM |
| 53 | Do you guys have a "girl " friend?Oh, yeah. Tons. I've even had sex with some of them, totally casually. Our friendships are so strong that they would help me move into a new house, invite me to parties (even weddings in some cases), etc etc etc, like any male buddy would. The only difference is that in some cases, we've banged because we both knew it'd be fun, and there wouldn't be any ridiculous dramatic fallout from it because we're not 16 year old emo high schoolers (which I used to be, from the ages of 13-20). I mean, if bo… | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 04:12 PM |
| 2 | What to do after introducing yourself?I literally just wrote something about this the other day. There are two things you need to do: Be good at speaking with people in general. Have interesting things to talk about because you're well-informed, experienced in living life awesomely, and an overall cool guy to hear about. There are lots of people who are one or the other, but you become REALLY good with people when you're both. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 04:08 PM |
| 5 | How do you change your tactics when you know you are dealing with someone that does not have high self-esteem?I want to add that if the woman is actually an outlier on the low end of that self-esteem scale, it's generally better to avoid her. Any guy here who has broken through to the other side of self esteem will tell you that low self-worth will make you do LOTS of crazy shit. If you're spending any significant time with a girl like that, batten down the hatches and prepare for the storm. Otherwise, it's like frogma says. Everyone has something that they're insecure about. So, calibrate. Don't push t… | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 03:58 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else get really depressed by /r/seduction?If I'm ever where you are, sir, you're getting a good beer, or beverage of your choice, on me. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else get really depressed by /r/seduction?But yeah...my sneaking suspicion is that the guys who are successful at this never really had a problem getting girls to begin with, and are just honing and perfecting their skills. Everyone has that suspicion. It's valid for maybe 1 percent of the male population, who are just all around good with women from the beginning. The rest of us had to work. I'm being selected out of the gene pool, because I don't have attractive qualities. See, the depressing part of Seddit is people with your attitud… | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 03:48 PM |
| -6 | 5 Ways You Can Avoid Sounding Like A Talentless DickweedBut... but I am 13. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 09:59 PM |
| 0 | Too much confidence?You're never over-confident if you have enough relevant skill. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 06:09 PM |
| 4 | An interesting read about the end of "dating" for the younger generations. I feel sorry for you, kidsI wasn't impressed with that article. It's just a lot of moaning and whining and defeatist attitude that ultimately leads to the situation that the article bemoans in the first place. There are a fuck ton of guys out there who know how to handle themselves. If the women who were dissatisfied with their love lives in that article put in the work to find better people and become better people, the whole problem wouldn't exist. I say the same to any guy who comes to Seddit. If you're dissatisfied w… | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Why 50 Shades' Christian Grey Turns Women OnThey still exist. They just don't get popular like smut does. Welcome to the internet, the closest thing to the id. It runs on porn. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 04:54 PM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)Stop being a victim. If no one's hanging out with you, accept that it might be you. It's likely you. You can change that. Who do you want to be and what do you want to have accomplished before you die? Start on that. NOW. Not tomorrow. Not after breakfast. NOW. Become awesome, during your journey. Congratulations! You're now worth spending time with! I condensed all of this into a guide on my blog. Start at step 0. Also, learn to write properly. You might know how, but it doesn't look like it. W… | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Sedditors, 2 Questions. 1) Do you call or text after number closing? 2) What is your first message/phone call after number closing?I text or call, depending on how I feel, whenever I feel like it. Key point - have a plan, make the date. However you choose to do that (text, call), do it with as little flourishing as possible. Save the bulk of your game for game time, not phone time. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Got flaked in a very dirty way. Lots of mutual/common friends. How to interact with her at gatherings?I don't know why this got downvoted. | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Got flaked in a very dirty way. Lots of mutual/common friends. How to interact with her at gatherings?How do you deal with her? Don't. What, do you have to have a conversation with her about your life and doings just because you both know the same people? Being in the same room as someone means nothing. It's only a problem because you're making it one. | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 04:28 PM |
| 1 | In my 30's and returning to college. Any advice/tips for us older guys going back to school?Here's a tip: don't forget about the school part. If you're going back to school at your age, I'm assuming it's for an awesome plan that you have to make you more awesome. So, yeah. There's that. Other than that... I dunno man, you're 33. If you've accomplished some cool stuff, just be yourself, and be more social than you're used to. | /r/seduction | 11/01/13 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Tip on becoming a pro story tellerSeriously. Public speaking is a hugely essential skill, and trickles down into personal reactions. I suggest it all the time. | /r/seduction | 11/01/13 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Tip on becoming a pro story tellerI'm a writer. When I write, it's a lot easier to be compelling because if I write too much, I can patch it up before showing it to people. I was never a natural spoken word storyteller, because even though the underlying stuff is the same as written storytelling, you have the performative aspect to worry about. Specifically, with speech, you have to tell stuff on the fly. So, here are some general tips for a telling a good story out loud, that have helped me. There has to be a beginning (charact… | /r/seduction | 11/01/13 02:46 PM |
| 3 | tl;dr for key things to rememberI dunno why you got downvoted. The only thing you might not have mentioned is that newbies have to force themselves to focus, and get comfortable with touch because it's not natural for them yet. Everything we do should become natural, over time. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 11:12 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome AA if I AM a selfish douchebag?Psychological problems can't be changed without medication Well, if those would be positive changes for you, you should probably find a way to get whatever medical help/medication you need. Period. You figure that out. Because honestly, guy, in your current state, you have bigger problems than your lack of women. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 11:05 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome AA if I AM a selfish douchebag?It doesn't matter what you want or how much you want it. What are you willing to do and change about yourself? | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 10:53 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome AA if I AM a selfish douchebag?Nah dude. That's just fear. And pride getting in the way of you doing anything. If that's the way you really feel, then why are you here? | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 09:55 PM |
| 2 | [FR] UPDATE To that Cold/Mean Girl and the first (maybe last) date.All aboard the overanalysis train! Next stop, "let's focus on who's right about this situation instead of bailing the OP out of a terrible second date!" | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 09:12 PM |
| 1 | A fun twist on games you probably used to play as a kidI was gonna say, Twister, and Connect Four. Also Jenga. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 09:10 PM |
| 19 | Naturals or "Pros" at pick-up, how often should I suspect to be "successful" when going out?You should have no expectations. You should go out. You should have fun. You should not make your life hinge on whether or not you get laid x percent of the time you go out. Remember, kid. It's about fun. So, if something's not fun, and not working for you, drop it. Also, you've been at this for 3 months. Slumps happen. Your whole life up until now may have been a slump. You may still BE in a slump. Who cares, though? Just make sure you're moving up. It's not where you are right now that matters… | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 08:59 PM |
| 5 | Reminder: "Text Game" is almost always an oxymoronIn your experience. I'm not knocking that. But you gotta understand, in the vast majority of people's experiences, texting by itself does not build attraction. Countless field reports and mountains of data would show that you're an outlier. A guy can spend 10 hours working on text game every week for minimal results, or 10 hours on a kickass hobby that will make him attractive to more women in general. When I give advice, it's not just stuff that's worked for me. It's stuff that has worked for 8… | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 08:55 PM |
| 5 | Does seddit know how I can become a better texter?You could have your conversation in person. Texting is for making plans, and at most a joke or two. Get that face time in, and make your clever jokes there, where you can add kino! | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 02:38 PM |
| 3 | What's the right way for a woman to turn a guy down?"I'm not interested in talking to you." | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 02:23 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome AA if I AM a selfish douchebag?Oh, another one? Welcome to the club of people who are a certain way and can't change. Well, enjoy the rest of your life. ... seriously, get off the high horse. Your problem isn't selfishness. It's that you think you're too good to get in the mud and risk anything. You scared, dawg. It has nothing to do with your selfishness. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 02:20 PM |
| 2 | [FR] UPDATE To that Cold/Mean Girl and the first (maybe last) date.I want a 2nd date. Abort! Abort! Abort! Still, I have to at least hand it to you for putting yourself in this situation for science. You did as well as any man could do with such a woman. Told you before she'd be boring, dawg. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 02:15 PM |
| 20 | [FR] UPDATE To that Cold/Mean Girl and the first (maybe last) date.Based on your last post, your primary goal should be to find out if a) she cray-cray, and b) is even any fun. She sounded like kind of a drag how you described her. I know too many good looking girls who are also fun to be running these kinds of experiments anymore. Good luck, OP. May the suave be with you. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 02:02 AM |
| 1 | [FR] From platonic "date" to F-Close. Guys, take a girl dancing.Take it from the dancer - dancing is fucking awesome in and of itself, and also happens to make you awesome. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 01:57 AM |
| -2 | After date, she texts me "im home now", do I reply?What would be the benefit, if any, of a reply? Yeah. Nothing. So... no. | /r/seduction | 10/01/13 01:56 AM |
| 9 | Approaching a "mean" or "cold" girl..it's like the whole interaction was a stream of shit tests.It wasn't really crazy. | /r/seduction | 06/01/13 11:47 PM |
| 7 | Approaching a "mean" or "cold" girl..it's like the whole interaction was a stream of shit tests.If you can ask this question, you've never banged crazy. | /r/seduction | 06/01/13 11:38 PM |
| 2 | Approaching a "mean" or "cold" girl..it's like the whole interaction was a stream of shit tests.Seddit, what are your experiences with girls like this? Boring. | /r/seduction | 06/01/13 11:37 PM |
| 0 | Tell me about your Moral CodeMorality must deal in absolutes or it is of no use I would argue the complete opposite. Inflexible ethics and morals lead to a lot of strange behaviors. Like honor killings. Also, morality is a human invention. You won't see storm clouds thinking about how moral it is to rain. | /r/seduction | 02/01/13 03:15 AM |
| 12 | Tell me about your Moral Code"Minimize harm." I won't say "do no harm" because living that way is just fucking impossible. The fact that you exist harms someone, somewhere. | /r/seduction | 01/01/13 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it important to kick the girl out in the morning (by politely letting her know you have things to do) before she decides to leave?It's important to have things to do. As for letting her stay the night, it's your room, dude. Make a decision. You know. Like an adult. Sorry for the dry tone, I've been out of the country for a month having too much fun. Re-adjusting to regular daily life will take a few more days. | /r/seduction | 01/01/13 02:36 PM |
| 5 | how does seddit feel about sandwich_witch comment that made the front post?Makes sense. But, you know, doesn't really help you talk to women. How they grow up is how they grow up. And, in spite of that, they will like you, or not like you. So, yeah. Be awesome. | /r/seduction | 29/12/12 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Need to learn how to defuse these "Are you a player?" situations.I'm sorry that happened to you, too. But, do you believe your experience is the norm? | /r/seduction | 15/12/12 03:22 AM |
| 17 | Need to learn how to defuse these "Are you a player?" situations."I smile and blush or say "oh, no, no" Don't you mean "Ya damn right I'm a player, and I'm going for the high score?" Yeah. Congruence. If you don't embrace that some people will judge you, you will get nowhere with women. Or in life, really. You want the number. You want the girl. Go for it. Face the judgment, accusations, and whatever. They're literally words. Vibrations in the air picked up by your eardrums. Unless someone pulls a knife on you (for talking to a girl?), it literally doesn't ma… | /r/seduction | 14/12/12 08:30 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you are interested in her sexually, without looking like a perv?Be valuable as a person. Flirt, kino, and ESCALATE. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Wow... this is why you don't stick in your dick in crazyI was gonna say, this is why I don't read or participate in drama. Cautionary tale: maybe. Someone else's business: definitely. | /r/seduction | 30/11/12 06:28 PM |
| 70 | A little something I use on female friends and ex's. Might work for you.This is kind of how I carry myself. Women can sniff out a guy's casual attitude towards sex. The fun ones (in my opinion) stick around. There's the caveat, though - if you don't have a lot of social proof going for you wherever you are, you absolutely have to have a good sense of humor to pull this off. Being casual about sex with girls you just met CAN work, and can work swimmingly, but they have to believe you. Humor, for whatever reason, helps build people's trust in you. OP, even better news… | /r/seduction | 30/11/12 03:34 PM |
| 2 | When can you start being yourself?why waste your time (and hers?) Desperation. | /r/seduction | 29/11/12 06:04 AM |
| 6 | Hardest place to pick up women?Prison. | /r/seduction | 29/11/12 06:01 AM |
| 9 | How do you approach hooking up with girls you aren't very attracted to (or that you know other girls may not find attractive)I like how you don't have a good enough reputation or list of accomplishments to be getting high quality women, and yet you are still worried about tarnishing that same reputation. Work on yourself. Become the attractive guy that girls want to date. Then your reputation will build - in the POSITIVE direction. | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 08:22 PM |
| 24 | What if you're not interested in casual sex?Seriously. The problem of the inexperienced is that they think they know exactly what they want, without ever having experienced it. OP's gotta get his hands dirty. To me, "standards" just translates to "cop-out" at this point. | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 03:02 PM |
| 17 | What if you're not interested in casual sex?waiting around in vain for somebody to come along Why are you waiting around? You've missed the point of this subreddit. The point of this place is to give you social mass, and the social grace to move it. What you do with it after that - whether you're adventuring with a different girl every week, or just being awesome enough to keep the one you want, is up to you. See, your problem here isn't that you don't want casual sex. It's that you're passive, and you think the world should flip around f… | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 03:00 PM |
| 4 | What will this do to me?which from what I understand is a series of psychological tricks Nope. I'm worried that learning such a skill will negatively distort my view on women If you really believe deep down that all women can be manipulated with a secret Konami code, you didn't have a great view of them to begin with. My long term goal is to find a good wife To be honest, bro, you have no idea what your long term goal is. And, even if it DOES end up being something as simple as a wife, how would you know? I guess you'd… | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 07:53 PM |
| 2 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?Swing dance (there's a ton of different styles of which a few might suit you), ballroom dance, etc etc. If you live near any large colleges/universities, a lot of them offer really cheap social lessons compared to studios. Check it out. | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 05:46 PM |
| 17 | Is it fair to assume that a 'movie night' is something more if there's been sexual tension for a long while?How about you just escalate, make a field report, and then tell us how it went? Come on, bro. If a woman is interested, she'll want to spend time with you and want you to make a move. Your job is to take a risk and make a move. | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 05:42 PM |
| 2 | I'm Asian and find non-Asian women intimidating. Asian sedditors, how did you over come this?But it's a pain in the ass when guys in general are passive Fixed that for you. | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 03:55 PM |
| 3 | I'm Asian and find non-Asian women intimidating. Asian sedditors, how did you over come this?Repeat after me: women are women are women. But no two are the same. So, get out there and be awesome. | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 03:54 PM |
| 2 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?A big part of me becoming "good looking" was dance. More than good looking, it made me attractive. There's a difference between being attractive, and being good looking. It's easier to work on being attractive. | /r/seduction | 16/11/12 02:35 PM |
| 1 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?Exactly this for me, too. | /r/seduction | 15/11/12 08:48 PM |
| 2 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?I was terrible my first year, and I loved it. I disliked that it was difficult all that time, and I disliked that I wasn't as good as I wanted to be, but I loved it. If you don't want to be a dancer, and you don't think it's that cool, there's no point in trying. It really is one of those things where no matter how good you get, if you're not feeling it then people can tell. | /r/seduction | 15/11/12 08:41 PM |
| 2 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?I didn't start to love dancing until... well, until I started learning how to dance. It was something I always thought was cool, but not anything I thought I'd like... again, until I tried it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/12 08:24 PM |
| 13 | does anyone else use dancing to pick up women?Well, this is me: http://tabletheory.wordpress.com/2012/10/04/quick-dating-tips-learn-to-dance/ The whole dancing thing has worked out well for me - not just with women, but with life. Some pics as proof, like this, this, and this. Also, you can meet a ton of people through it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/12 08:23 PM |
| 6 | What sort of tricks do you guys use to get women to be more comfortable with initiating physical contact with you?Truth is, I don't have any "chips". You say that, but you mad. I'm not saying you don't have a point (sometimes). I'm not even saying you're wrong, though I disagree with your overall outlook about pretty much everything. What I am saying is that you, who are hopelessly angry at the world, women, and what you perceive to be a social system that's out to get you, are picking fights with other people who you perceive to be the exact same way. So, in short... u mad, bro. Go have a beer. Stop thinki… | /r/seduction | 14/11/12 04:15 PM |
| 8 | What sort of tricks do you guys use to get women to be more comfortable with initiating physical contact with you?Nice chip on your shoulder there, bud. Since you've got all the answers, lay it out for us. What's the difference? | /r/seduction | 14/11/12 03:23 PM |
| -1 | When is the best time to call after getting a number?This should probably go into r/askseddit, but I'll answer anyway in case a deep discussion about doctrine occurs. You call when you have a solid plan as to what you two are going to do. Could be a day later. Could be five days later. Depends on how busy you are. Now, I generally don't call within the first couple of days because I'm a) too busy and b) I haven't had time to think of something fun to do. I'm not pretending to be busy, or "intentionally ignoring a girl." I'm just putting proper pri… | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 08:51 PM |
| 2 | " I tell you on behalf of women: there is not one of us who does not prefer a little rough handling to too much consideration." Letters of Ninon de L'Enclos, Celebrated Beauty of the Seventeenth Century (crtl+f to find the letter, XVI)If you're going to act like a man, expect to be treated like one How many guys you know go around slapping people? | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 04:10 PM |
| 1 | What are the easiest tricks of PUA that give the best returns?Being awesome. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Seddit, what do I do with those numbers that nothing ever came from it?Keep a clean house - delete. | /r/seduction | 12/11/12 06:47 AM |
| 8 | One more thing about confidencegotta cut em down a little bit The fact that you'd even be able to do that means they have to be insecure about something. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 11:13 PM |
| 2 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenTrue, but for hard case newbies - the ones with confidence problems - the balance between game and priorities in real life can be difficult to achieve without a strong emphasis on living well. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming speech impedimentsDon't have much advice on getting around the speech impediment really, but at least it's a temporary problem. You don't have to sweat it. I would say see a speech therapist, but again - temporary problem. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with bad breathTIL that tonsil stones are a thing. Didn't know that happens to people. That would freak me the hell out, having a calcified pellet grow out of my tonsils. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Leaving for basic/tech school, How do I break up with my girlfriend."This was fun, but it's not going to work with me being away." That's literally it. You don't need to know what to say - you already know what you need to say. What you need is the integrity to do it. So, make a choice. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Nightgame: "Buy me a drink?"I'll be honest - the only time a woman has ever asked me to buy her a drink, I was at a titty bar and she was working the crowd for tips. Most of the time, it's "let's get a drink," and we pay for our own. More likely, we both already have a drink, and we're just talkin'. The OP's post is a good shit test for the kind of woman who would walk up to you and actually ask you to buy her a drink, though. Shoot, entitlement much? | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 03:51 PM |
| 1 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenGood stuff! | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 03:13 PM |
| 3 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenMake sure you're eating right. If you're eating crappily, it will affect your mood and function for the whole day - and if you eat crappily every day, it will get worse and worse. You can look up basic nutrition guides online. You don't have to be a nazi about it, but be consistent, and at least make a few improvements over a period of time. Write a journal about how you feel physically every day, based on it, and you'll be surprised how much your mood changes for the better. Exercise is also gr… | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 03:12 PM |
| 1 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenTry to meet them through your passions. What activities and goals are you passionate about? You can probably meet a lot of people who have achieved what you want to achieve, and you might vibe with some of them. My mentors are all people who have helped me in specific activities, like dance or writing, and have stuck with me for a long time. They also click with me on a social level - the important part, in my opinion, is that your mentor needs to be invested with you in your success in life. So… | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 03:07 PM |
| 5 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenRemember, it's not always about that. Good things in your life spread to other areas of your life - the same way bad things in your life spread out as well. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 02:33 PM |
| 8 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenThat mindset is crucial - I mention in the full article that sometimes, our strengths can make us weak, because we're afraid of trying anything outside of them. I've got the exact same story you just told - I was always really good with math and science growing up, so I was afraid to pursue my creative passions like writing, and I would never dare try something like dance (even though I'd wanted to do it since I first saw Michael Jackson perform on TV). I spent 17 years like that, thinking I'd n… | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 02:35 AM |
| 2 | 5 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence With WomenJust anyone who knows you well, and can act as a compass for you when you're feeling lost. Can be a friend, can be an actual coach, can be your dad/mom, whatever. Just have a good friend like that who you can work with. And, you know, be that friend for someone else. | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 02:27 AM |
| 4 | Going from kissing to making out is a sticking point for many of us here at seddit. What're some tips you'd like to give to this less experienced? (What to do with your tongue, when to kiss her, etc.)Doesn't matter why, and knowing why wouldn't change anything about why she reacted that way. By your account, you didn't do anything that I'd call a mistake. So, there's nothing really actionable from what happened to you. Sometimes life just works that way. And some girls just lose interest. Meh. As you become more and more attractive, fewer girls will lose interest. I don't think you have oneitis, but this IS just one girl. If 20 girls did this to you over the course of a few months, then I'd … | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 10:02 PM |
| 22 | Going from kissing to making out is a sticking point for many of us here at seddit. What're some tips you'd like to give to this less experienced? (What to do with your tongue, when to kiss her, etc.)What? If you're already kissing her, just escalate. Kino, kino, kino. And as for Frenching, just start small, and relax your lips. I didn't realize that many men here were having trouble going from "kissing" to "kissing and touching." If you got the kiss, I'd say you're doing pretty well. Just keep escalating, but pay attention to your pace. She'll let you know how fast you can go. Shoot, a lot of times I don't even start with a kiss. Usually, taking a deep breath through my nose on the part of … | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 03:19 PM |
| 4 | I have a girlfriend. Should I keep sarging?Well, whatever you do, be congruent, and accept consequences for your actions. Will she get pissed if you tell her what you plan on doing, or if she finds out? Is that worth your relationship? Would you get pissed if she did the same thing? Answer those questions, and you tell US whether you should still sarge. When I'm in relationships, I still have guys night. And, I still talk to girls. But, I tend not to kino, or flirt as much in general. Basically, I rein in my natural instincts. Why would … | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 09:43 PM |
| 14 | How do you guys deal with last minute resistance?Stop for the night. Try again later. Not 5 minutes later. Later, as in, another day. I mean, is this a race? Think about it. Are you not getting laid enough, where if you don't get laid one particular night it throws everything off for you? Also, don't become an accidental sex offender. | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 09:38 PM |
| 8 | Recovered from depression, am now a new person. Is it worth it to try game some girls I encountered while I was down?Step 0) Is your life right? Keep it right. Step 1) Become attractive. Step 2) Start making your own decisions in life. Step 3) Realize that your life can't be boiled down to one thing that you need to get right. Stay balanced, and keep all of your affairs in order - not just one or two (like women). Step 4) Be okay with failing now and then. This is my Dating Doctrine as it's written thus far. Do right for yourself, and you'll find that a lot of things start to go right in your life. As for your… | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 04:58 PM |
| 4 | How and what are the steps to improve my life?Here's an article I wrote about 10 things pretty much anyone can do to improve their daily life and become more attractive. | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Negs only work if you're funny.Just remember the last part - you can become the funny guy if there's a sliver of "I want to be a funny guy" hidden somewhere inside of you! | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Negs only work if you're funny.CurveBall, I'm confused by your post as a whole. All the pieces make sense, but in a greater picture, you seem to dislike the concept of negging, while at the same time arguing that my post muddles the water rather than clarifying it. My position is that successful "negging" as it's shown by those in the field is much more akin to teasing than it is to the formalized definition of a neg. You bring up the strategic point of "why are you talking to that kind of shrew in the first place?" Totally v… | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Negs only work if you're funny.I suppose you could do that. But, personally, I've never come across a single situation where saying something (unless it was a joke... which can SOMETIMES be a neg) actually demonstrates any kind of value. My posture, ease with which I approach people, the number of people in the room who are friends with me... value is something you are, not something you do. In my opinion, anyway. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Negs only work if you're funny.Squarehouse don't like me. Or maybe he does and he's trying to neg me. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 06:54 PM |
| 8 | Negs only work if you're funny.There is a reason that both terms exist There's a reason people overanalyze, too. Doesn't always make it a good idea though... | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 06:53 PM |
| 7 | Negs only work if you're funny.Negging is just teasing Which I agree with. When it's done well, anyway. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 04:59 PM |
| 25 | Negs only work if you're funny.Yup. I tease all the time. But not because I'm sitting there thinking "oh man, I need her to get more interested in me. I'm going to neg her!" It just happens because I'm a joker. With everyone - not just girls. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 04:16 PM |
| 3 | seems to happen to me A LOT. girls taking a really long time to respond. what is seddit's advice on handling this kind of texting issue?Stop worrying about it. What are you doing between contact? Aren't you busy? Don't you have shit going on? Hobbies, friends, adventures? Another thing - if a woman is really into you, she'll take the time to be in touch to make plans, regardless of how busy she is. Shit, I just reread the post. An hour to respond? A day to respond? That's a pretty high expectation for a first contact. What kind of women are you dating where you expect them to be sitting around on their asses waiting for texts so… | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 03:06 PM |
| 14 | Need help filtering out the smart women.It's called irony, Throwaway. He worded his title poorly on purpose, to demonstrate his intelligence. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Need help filtering out the smart women.deep conversation about nuclear fusion Yeah, bro, those are some deep conversations. Nothing says intimacy like the strong force. In all seriousness, just meet more women, but in places where they're more likely to coincide with your interests/preferences. Meet them at things only people of your preferred intelligence would be at. Like museums, galleries, public lectures, or even intellectual societies. You could also afford to go to professional networking events that mix people from top tier g… | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 02:48 PM |
| 5 | ITT: Men taking dating advice from women - why it's not a good thingYeah... I didn't really see any bad advice... or even really any advice in that thread. More like just gripes. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Quick Tip: Forget Attraction and focus on ArousalFor some reason I read the title post and thought it said "focus on Anal." And I was thinking "yes sir." | /r/seduction | 02/11/12 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Ok. I'm new, I'm above average looks wise, and I want to get better at picking up girls... but I DO NOT want to learn anything scripted. Where do I start?I'll just go ahead and self-promote Dating Doctrine. Again. Start at "Step 0." | /r/seduction | 02/11/12 05:35 PM |
| 4 | A Question for both gendersI dunno. I meet lots of people, talk to them. Stop hanging with the ones I don't like. Keep hanging with the ones I do. Put myself out there. You know, the usual. All the while, I make sure I'm getting done what I really want out of life: dancing and writing. | /r/seduction | 02/11/12 03:55 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Sorority party #2. Comments/Insight would be greatly appreciated.What is it with you guys in Philly, and sorority parties? If you're out of college, and live in Philly, a sorority mixer is really the last place you wanna be meeting women. Shit, I have a fuck ton of friends in Penn and Drexel (on account of teaching and performing dance... not really going out of my way to meet people still in college, more like I can't avoid it - anyone I keep around is cool, though). I don't go to almost ANY of their parties. I only go to college parties if I know there's pe… | /r/seduction | 02/11/12 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice here gentlemenYou gotta ask what's next? Come on, you know what's next. Invite her out, bro. Inviting out the girl you like is a good thing to do in any situation when she shows concrete interest in you. Just do it. YOU tell US how it goes, not the other way around. | /r/seduction | 01/11/12 02:52 PM |
| 1 | So, I have some sort of special case of Oneitis (aka Super-Oneitis).I love you, too, bro! cries The worst thing about oneitis is that when all you're thinking about is the girl, you forget how many friends you have, and how many people care about you. Anytime I see oneitis, I have to reach out. I might sound harsh, but I'm just tryin' to snap you guys out of it. | /r/seduction | 01/11/12 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Took me a while to get this - progress comes from experienceCollect the data! Hypotheses mean nothing without data! Good call, OP. | /r/seduction | 01/11/12 02:32 PM |
| 1 | So, I have some sort of special case of Oneitis (aka Super-Oneitis).You know, before I even read your reply, I wanted to tell you that thinking your situation with ____ girl is somehow unique or different from others' is exactly called oneitis. Not oneitis 2.0. I still feel that way after reading your post. And, oneitis, at its heart, is just a cop-out. As long as you have your oneitis, you don't have to strike out on your own to get what you want. It's not your responsibility to get what you want, because it's "out of your control." Here's the thing: what you'v… | /r/seduction | 01/11/12 02:21 PM |
| 1 | How can a male acquire a trait known as "piercing eyes"?Steady eye contact. That's about the only thing regarding your eyes you can really work on. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Putting a girl in MY friend zone.So... let me get this straight... you talk to a girl with a bf all the time, your friends tease you about how they think you have a crush on her, and you need to prove them wrong by putting her in the "friendzone..." What is this, 5th grade? Come on, OP. Where is the problem here? You never even hooked up with this girl. And for that matter, I see no evidence of her wanting to jump your bones. There's no friendzone to be placing anyone in. I'll answer the question anyway: with regard to this gir… | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 06:11 PM |
| 3 | How do I break it off with a girl that I have had sex with 3 times in like 2 weeks?Option 3 sometimes backfires full of awesome. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 04:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I break it off with a girl that I have had sex with 3 times in like 2 weeks?In person: "Hey, <<girl's name here>>." "Hey, OP." "I wanted to let you know that it's been fun these past couple weeks, but I'm not really feelin' it." "<<Her response here>>." "Yeah, <<something relevant to her response>>. Well, bye." Or, you could just do the disappearing act that you said you didn't want to do. I would go with the method I described, because it puts your ass and your integrity on the line to do what you want to do. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Master Class.Find the right party. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Hey Seddit! This girl is awesome, Im just not sure she is 100% interested. What are some hacks to test for interest?How about you ask her out? How about you have fun with her? How about you see if it's easy to get her to spend time with you? How about you escalate? How about you keep doing that for as long as you can and tell us whether she's 100 percent interested? Those are the questions YOU should be answering, OP. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.It's not as simple as just going, and saying hello, then what? It kind of is, actually. What do you talk to your friends about? Do you have a script for when you talk to them? See, your problem is you think you need a plan. Do you literally have so little to talk about that you can't come up with something unless someone tells you what to say and when to make jokes? I highly doubt that. You have hobbies. You have passions. You have a life. Talk about that. Ask about the other person's. See if yo… | /r/seduction | 28/10/12 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Memories of girls for ages?Chemistry. It's just something that draws you to the person that you can't explain, only justify. Even if that person is horrible for you. I have one or two that my mind will wander to if I'm just sitting around. Your mind will wander to those girls less if you keep up with your passions in life. | /r/seduction | 27/10/12 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.I have no problem with starting conversation, yet i'm not sure if this doesn't seem too creepy. If you think walking up to someone and introducing yourself is creepy, then you have problems starting conversations. How do you think people meet each other? Sure, you try to find something in common. But you need to realize that you have at least one thing in common with everyone, everywhere, at every time, and that's all you need to start a conversation. If you are a person in the same place as ano… | /r/seduction | 27/10/12 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Do it again, different lady! | /r/seduction | 27/10/12 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Opinions on using a wingwomanThanks! If you liked it, share it wit yo friends. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 08:53 PM |
| 4 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Also, tuxedo t-shirts. Because they're kinda like you wanna be formal, but also show that you like to party. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 08:31 PM |
| 1 | What are some good 'canned' openers?I'll remember next time - I hammered this out the original post in 5 minutes while at work because I keep getting PMs about r/askseddit type things. Let's stop the Asian on Asian internet violence! | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 08:27 PM |
| -5 | What are some good 'canned' openers?I agree with all of that. And you're observant - I write primarily for people who have been doing routines for more than a few years. Basically, transitioning outer game to natural game. But that's the thing. I write my articles to answer the questions I get through email, PM, and in person. Guys who have been doing routines for anywhere up to two years, and they ask "what's a good new thing to say?" or "how do I know if she'll dig me?" Basically, the same questions they asked before they learne… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 08:19 PM |
| 4 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Indicator of interest. A lot of guys wait for a girl to look at them and smile, or a sign from the gods, or whatever, before they approach. I say approach. And approach. And approach. Try it, and see what you learn. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 07:52 PM |
| -6 | What are some good 'canned' openers?You know, I get the idea you just plain don't like me. Anyway, as with anything in life, unless someone is pushing you to be a certain way (no one pushes anyone to learn seduction - if anything, they push against it), you are largely on your own to get yourself into the water. Routines, like training wheels, are a start. What I'm getting people to realize is that the routine isn't what was necessary, aside from using it to get them into the situation where they learn. A coach tells you to do som… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 07:48 PM |
| -7 | What are some good 'canned' openers?People are naturally good at things and naturally bad at things Yeah. They are. And no one knows what they're naturally good or bad at until they try it, holmes. Isn't it funny how noobs who have never approached, or tried to approach, are experts in knowing what they're good at and what they're not? "I'm shy. I'm not good at talking to people." There was a time that Michael Jordan sucked at basketball. So, instead of telling people that they "might be good at this" or "might be good at that," w… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.he got IOIs in the beginning but never acted. Thus got thrust in the friendzone. Don't you think if he focused on approaching, instead of on watching the IOIs, that something could have happened? | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed - I asked her to be my girlfriend and...Didn't you know that relationships are a zero sum game? Someone has to win! In case the sarcasm wasn't evident, that was, in fact, sarcasm. And all of that was dry humor. This has been a comment by Vichet. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:21 PM |
| 0 | Advice needed - I asked her to be my girlfriend and...I dunno what it is, besides she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. It is what it is. Stop analyzing this so much. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Holla. This coming week is show week, but after that I definitely have time for that beer (or two, or three). I feel for you - we've been through this. I'm glad you're going through the ropes in spite of all that. Still, if I were to help you with anything, it would be to realize that the way you were, the way you are, and the way you will be are not always as immovable as many people think. You might have a condition, you might have a disadvantage, but those are just obstacles. They don't chang… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:18 PM |
| 4 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Who waits for an IOI before you even approach? Too many people. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.A noob might disregard IOIs completely by this advice I can show you thousands of posts of guys who don't approach girls because they're sitting back analyzing a whole bunch of things she's doing, when they could just walk up and talk to her. Show me a post where a guy ignored IOIs, and somehow was at a disadvantage. Seriously. If a girl is INTERESTED in you, and shows it, and you don't notice her "twirling her hair," but you're gaming her anyway and she's letting you, what difference does it ma… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:09 PM |
| -6 | What are some good 'canned' openers?No one is a naturally socially awkward creature. That's something society gives you. Think what you want. A canned opener, as I said, is a training wheel. It has a purpose, but it's never what you should rely on long term. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 06:07 PM |
| 0 | What are some good 'canned' openers?I made it up on the spot. I used to use canned openers myself. What I learned to do is just talk to people, listen to them, and relate to them. The canned openers were training wheels. After I let them go, I could ride anywhere I wanted. There's also higher risk of falling, but the rewards outstretch that so much that it's not even an afterthought. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 04:04 PM |
| 9 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Absolutely. IOIs are only to be observed in response to jokes, kino, escalation - interACTION. Action is right in the word, there. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.You obviously do not have the same social sensitivity that I do! Not anymore. I promise you that I used to. So, take it from me. Approaching is the baby step. It feels impossible at first. But you "thinking" or "feeling" like something is impossible doesn't make it so. You have to take away the notions of your limitations, especially for things as simple as walking up to someone, saying hello, and introducing yourself. That's literally all it is. There's nothing physically stopping you from doin… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 04:01 PM |
| 8 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Approaching is the baby step. The thing that makes you look at it like a huge task (it's not) is outcome dependence. You think you can somehow fail by approaching someone. There is no failure. Just an approach. Get out there! | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 03:29 PM |
| 9 | What are some good 'canned' openers?"Hi." There are no good canned openers. If you aren't clever enough to make a joke, just say hello. If you lack confidence, get some hobbies or important stuff in your life so you're not so invested in these unimportant details. You need to learn how to fly, not how to auto-pilot. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Opinions on using a wingwomanYou can have a table full of the most suave, attractive, masters of the game. Add an attractive, fun woman to their group, and they become unstoppable. I wrote about this in my article, "Becoming Attractive." Being surrounded by cool women gives you social proof that you just can't get anywhere else. You still have to do all the approaching, but hey - now the other ladies in the bar are curious about you. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:35 PM |
| 8 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.I was looking for an inspirational quote or something to fill me with confidence but your post was golden I'm glad I could help, but what you did there was the same mindset as the type of guy who looks for IOIs before he does something. You had the ability and confidence in you already - you just weren't using it. I didn't do anything to you, or change anything about you. If anything, all I helped you with was realizing what you already had. Now, don't get me wrong - I'm sure there are things yo… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:31 PM |
| 13 | Stop looking for IOIs and just approach.Do it. Today. Tell us how it goes. If it goes nowhere, that's okay. You're still developing as a person. But you'll never get what you want unless you learn to put yourself in the situations you need to be in. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:27 PM |
| 2 | How mainstream is seduction now?If you think about it... aren't we all the male equivalent of attention whores? I mean, I dunno about you guys, but I'm getting lots of attention. I thought that's why you're all here? | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:23 PM |
| 2 | What is she saying when she plays with her hair?If she's playing with her hair, she's playing with her hair. What I want to know is why you're watching her play with her hair, instead of just talking to her? Get her to play with you, OP. | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:02 PM |
| 5 | You don't 'vibe' with everyone, right?Nope, you don't vibe with everyone. But, as you get more interesting, more active in your life, and more passionate about being alive, you will find you at least start to vibe with much cooler people. And, lots of people that you find uninteresting will vibe you. Keep your head on straight. And, in the end, it's not a numbers game - in the end, you're just dead. So, stop thinking like there's some sort of arbitrary point you're supposed to get to in life, and just do what you want to do as best … | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 02:01 PM |
| 1 | 20 Ways to Be More Assertive and Get What You WantAnd don't forget, fellas - video games are hip now! ... in moderation. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 07:17 PM |
| 1 | What ONE change gave you the biggest improvement?I eat when I'm stressed. As part of taking control back, I'm going to force myself to say that I choose to eat when I feel stressed. I'm at least thankful I got pretty much got rid of (regular) soda, sugary drinks, and candy from my diet a few years back - I used to drink 2-3 liters of soda per day in college. Developed hepatitis (hepatitis by itself means liver inflammation - in my case, the cause was too much sugar) from it. Now I drink beer/wine/cocktails 3-4 nights a week and my liver's heal… | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Music to set the mood?OP - you are classy as hell for listening to THAT to set the mood. I go more for lounge/jazz/R&B/Soul for creating a relaxing atmosphere. Cocktails are a good thing to add to that. Create a Pandora station seeded with "Me And Those Dreamin' Eyes Of Mine" by D'Angelo. You'll have some solid gold tracks flowing from that. When it's on, listen to this song, especially after the 2:30 mark: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2S3RgEmy1A&t=150 | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 05:21 PM |
| 1 | [FR] The best rejection I've ever gotten.Social proof. BAM! Dancing accomplishes this pretty well. Especially teaching. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Anyone have any tips or tricks for initiating kino immediately after meeting someone new?I would say make sure you do that, regardless of women. Swamp mouth is just unpleasant feeling. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 05:02 PM |
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