How the fuck do I learn to dance?

itsmevichet · 2014-03-06T21:09:38+00:00

I'm a semi-professional dancer. I started as a way to meet girls. Here is my advice.

If you want to actually get respectable, you have to enjoy the process, because you will SUCK for a while before you catch on. It's like pick-up - sure you might do it for the girls, but you have to love being out there on the floor and enjoy moving if you want to learn anything. There are no quick fixes.
Take class. It can be whatever class you want, but take it for at least twice a week for 6 months. That's the only way you'll learn anything, and that's how everyone starts. Again, IN DANCE THERE ARE NO NATURALS.
Force yourself to practice. Watch videos of people you enjoy, and try to look how they look. After a while, you may find that some of your own personality bleeds into your dancing. Never lose that. It's what will ultimately give you charisma from your dancing.
Just feel it out. Don't worry about looking like a fool for a while. And trust me, it will take a while.
Anyone who says that dancing won't get you laid doesn't know what he's talking about. It absolutely will. However, you will get your best results if you discover that you LOVE dancing, and aren't just in it for the women. Case in point, I loooooove sex. But if I had to choose between it and dance, I'd actually have a hard time choosing. Again, I didn't discover that until I actually got into it.

I cover some other stuff regarding this on my blog, Table Theory.

Darkerstrife · 2014-03-06T23:13:03+00:00

MDMA

SWEsof · 2014-03-06T21:36:54+00:00

This, this is how you dance...

fallschirmjaeger · 2014-03-07T16:24:34+00:00

Open the door
Get on the floor
Do the dinosaur

RRAAARRL · 2014-03-07T02:09:51+00:00

/r/dancetutorials

jdepps113 · 2014-03-06T22:16:01+00:00

How did Napoleon Dynamite learn?

I'm not saying necessarily order whatever tape he did, but dance at home in front of your TV. You can at least develop some level of comfort attempting to dance this way.

andyfrank · 2014-03-06T22:38:40+00:00

dance dance revolution

Dannah573 · 2014-03-06T22:40:00+00:00

So "how do I learn to dance" is a really good question but it's super open ended. There lots of ways to learn to dance and there are lots of styles but considering it's on seddit, let's just look at the styles of dance that are most suited to clubs. So we have the social dances. Social dancing is a pretty loose grouping of categories, some people would put ballroom in there and some wouldn't but now isn't the time for that.

Basically my recommendations for learning to dance with a partner who doesn't dance (as in doesn't actively practice dance or just does it in a really casual way) is salsa, hustle and swing. These are partner dances and when you learn to lead well, you can put your arms around any woman and basically do the dance for her. You put her in a position where even without knowing steps, she performs basic footwork and moves with you. This can be a super fun way to make girls feel better about being physical with you and it boosts her confidence too which is great.

If you wanna learn to dance to show off to attract women. To be honest, you can try and just emulate what you think is cool and what is depicted in music videos and dance movies etc. But as /u/itsmevichet said it's better if you love it. There are lots of guys who dance to show off in clubs, but if a woman who can dance sees you, you are an instant write off. It's also an awkward game to play in terms of other guys who might also dance to show off trying to be better than you and then you have to deal with that shit too because 9/10 you both look like dickheads.

Edit: Learning to meet girls THROUGH learning dance is a really good thing to do by the way. Once again, the social dances are best for this, but you don't have to limit yourself to partner dances. House for example is great because of the importance placed on dancing with people within the culture. It's all good for learning to dance with women. It's all in the hips!

bigang99 · 2014-03-06T22:11:37+00:00

Watch music videos, not like some Michael Jackson but like a schoolboy q video. If you dont know how to dance, dance like a rapper cuz they dont either.

Classy_Debauchery · 2014-03-06T22:33:06+00:00

One of those video chat sites will give you an audience that doesn't really care. Put some jams on and go ham.

Malicepoint · 2014-03-06T21:48:54+00:00

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dashzed · 2014-03-06T23:22:40+00:00

Pick a dance that's actually fun and not too much pressure. I recommend West Coast Swing! Look it up, it's really fun and you don't have to do anything crazy to start with.

Malicepoint · 2014-03-06T23:59:24+00:00

Amazing its like this reddit reads my min... I just this morning was considering on learning how to dance. And this just seals the deal. It will be done.

wirelezz · 2014-03-07T01:54:00+00:00

As a Latin American -and I speak for salsa, merengue, etc- I think the best way to learn is to sign up for a class. As some people have stated, you WILL suck at the beginning, but once you get the idea you'll do fine.

Don't try to be SUPER good at it, part of the idea is to have fun. So don't overcomplicate moves, choreographies and stuff. Just have fun.

citizensounds · 2014-03-07T05:47:46+00:00

This dude taught himself in a year. If you want it enough it will happen in time. Read the description he wrote, it's inspiring.

gwutenfwee · 2014-03-07T06:34:36+00:00

Here is my thoughts on dancing. At least for in the club/parties.

The human body is about 70% water. Music and sound are vibrations that I believe the human body can channel. Visualize yourself activating your nervous system and have the bass vibrations and music flowing through your body like some sort of energy bolt.

It helps if you are on drugs or drinking. I came to this revelation in such a way.

If you dance in this fashion and are basically the visual representation/channeling the sound that is music, you are truly dancing.

This makes you attractive because it shows off your bio electricity and vibrations that women just cannot resist!

In hospitals they encourage people to speak loud and upliftingly to people in comas. Because even if they are not conscious they can still receive the vibrations which may cause some stimuli.

TLDR: ACTIVATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM! LET THE BASS AND ENERGY FLOW THROUGH YOUR LIQUID BODY AND LET YOURSELF BE AFFECTED BY IT!

deathlux · 2014-03-07T01:47:04+00:00

Like you, I have next to no experience. Since I go to community college, I decided to enroll in Social Dance this semester and it's amazing how much I've learned in the past few weeks. If that idea appeals to you, I'd recommend giving it a shot.

grimm22 · 2014-03-07T03:53:57+00:00

Honestly just have fun with it, and don't worry about what people think. Just move with the beat. Even if you aren't great it shows confidence

MadmanPoet · 2014-03-07T04:00:41+00:00

This may or my not help, but just write your name in the air with your booty. Seriously. Try it to some music.

What, you got a better idea?

AnUnknown · 2014-03-07T04:08:07+00:00

Your female friends are telling you what you need to do - loosen up. This is some of the most frustrating advice to hear until you figure out what's on the other side - what they're really saying is to further elaborate your movements. You appear "tight" because you're not moving very much - even if in your head you might feel like you are. Get in to it, picture yourself in a movie rocking the joint and be that person. You don't really need to be any good to have a good time, and having a good time is more attractive than being any good.

Biggie_Smaltese · 2014-03-07T04:10:13+00:00

If you're in the Houston area I can get you lessons. Dancing is awesome.

ChillBroSwagginz · 2014-03-07T04:33:23+00:00

Practice. Practice in your room, practice in the shower. Practice while you're cleaning. Start with a simple two step: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3QrP1kiRko

once you get the 2 step - and it's natural - everything else will come naturally because your feet will be moving on their own

also, it takes courage, but try and enjoy yourself. Don't worry about what others are thinking or if you're "doing it right". Just get the 2 step down because you can literally 2 step to every single song.

BiggerLongerAndUncut · 2014-03-07T04:59:42+00:00

Find a large mirror and just rock out infront of it. Learn what you really look like and then you'll know if what you think looks good really does look good.

Gothic90 · 2014-03-07T06:12:40+00:00

Forget about regular clubs/bars. They are bad places to use dance alone to impress strangers. Most of the time if you want to dance with a girl, you need to either know her before, or already had a good chat with her. Get the rest of your game together before you pull a dance move in regular bars and clubs.
Go to classes. That's a no brainer. You do need to enjoy dancing to get the full benefit however. There are usually latin dance classes everywhere. Practice at home as well.
Go to Latin clubs; there is usually a club that your studio regularly go to, check it out. Latin clubs are much better than regular clubs because all dances are partnered, people don't dance alone, or in a circle. Dance with your classmates first--that's how you get better, and then strangers when you have enough confidence and skills.
Latin clubs are great because you can get to know the girls pretty easily, you can dance first and then have a nice chat, and no one will tell you to fuck off unless you are being a dick. Many girls are also hot, and often well educated. Downside, imo, is many girls you chat and dance with may not be single, but this may depend on your area and other things.
I said forget about regular clubs did I? Well, if that is your thing, dance class helps a lot too. Latin dance outfits look pretty hot on men (unless you are obese, in that case, lose weight first, dance helps too); also, dance definitely helps your posture and body language. Some ppl report being approached more, and that's where this comes from.

Crisis88 · 2014-03-07T06:23:22+00:00

This man is a life saver Start with the basics man, it's just like talking to woman; the more you do it, the more natural it feels.

Ignasty · 2014-03-07T06:52:20+00:00

As a dancer, I will say when starting off try finding the groove. Step on the beat. Once you have it, there's so much you can do with it.

Now that you have the groove, just freestyle it out. It doesnt matter what you do as long as you stay on beat.

Awesome tip: JUST OWN YOUR MOVES. You don't actually have to learn how to dance, just be confident about your moves. If you shake your ass, then SHAKE THAT ASS! I promise you'll get smiles and laughter from everyone once you lose yourself to dance.

JohnCooperWrites · 2014-03-07T08:45:14+00:00

Youtube. Go to rnb hip hop clubs. The music is almost always about sex and picking up chicks. The vibe is there. Avoid techno. Harder to escalate.

Fcoya · 2014-03-07T09:49:58+00:00

Do you watch SpongeBob? That little dude taught me how to move. All you need to do is get in front of a mirror, and "bring it around town!" See those things moving in that ridiculous dance? Those are your hips, and all you need to do is swing em. Practice moving your hips and eventually, you'll just "loosen up". Cheers.

knicca · 2014-03-07T14:04:35+00:00

it's as easy as moving to the beat. People just want to see you have fun, they don't care if you're good or not. Just look up on youtube basic dancing steps.

definez · 2014-03-07T14:24:55+00:00

I don't dance I 'balter'.

Balter. ~ (v.) to dance artlessly, without particular grace or skill but usually with enjoyment.

Just give an effort and enjoy yourself doing what you do and its all good.

nobody2000 · 2014-03-07T16:19:29+00:00

Easy:

Watch YouTube Videos and ask friends.
Get out and practice
Are you good or are you bad? The answer is irrelevant
Are you having fun dancing, and do you look like you're having fun?
If the answer to either part of the previous question is "no" then don't bother dancing. At least you tried to learn.

Dancing doesn't make you more attractive - always looking like you're charismatic and fun does. I've seen guys just plop down at a hightop and attract women left and right. If you hate dancing, and can't look like you're having fun, learning to dance will get you nowhere.

blazeitfiggot · 2014-03-07T16:25:31+00:00

I had to go to a winter dance at my girlfriends school and holy shit did I suck at dancing. She didn't seem to mind too much though.

Naa2078 · 2014-03-07T16:37:13+00:00

Learn a partner dance that has instructions. Try salsa or swing. These have classes in most areas and can be broken down for even the most left footed people.

Also, there's nothing like being a strong, good lead to start the process of seduction.

legendoflink3 · 2014-03-07T17:12:09+00:00

Im a great dancer but I never used to like dancing when I went out clubbing or anything. The moment I got over it and hit the dance floor. It worked wonders. The ladies love it. I always tell my friends who can't dance to learn to catch the beat. It doesn't come natural to everyone but if you can bob your head to the beat and be on beat you will figure it out in no time.

SheltererOfCats · 2014-03-09T00:14:45+00:00

View dancing and gaming as two seperate passions. Devote time to each.

Fuck waving your arms around and grinding in a club. You want to learn to dance? Learn to dance. I found this guy's site a good place to start but that's just housing and that's just footwork. Popping and liquid are other points of interest but the kicker is, if you become a skilled dancer it won't help you much with girls unless they view dancing as a hobby as well, then you can dance with them as an exchange of phrases using a personal vocabulary of moves.

That isn't dancing in a club it's a public performance. Drink more. Learning to do these things is a passion well worth investing a few years into for a payoff of person satisfaction on a job well done. I recomend it, strongly if you actually care.

pskoc · 2014-03-06T23:41:16+00:00

The title had me in stiches because i can relate too well.

kungfutitties · 2014-03-06T23:33:27+00:00

step 1: Step on dance floor

step 2: move around

step 3: go to bar

step 4: drink

step 5: repeat until you are confused as to where you are and you whip out your dick in the middle of the dance floor and start pissing.

watermelons666 · 2014-03-06T22:56:50+00:00

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CodyMullet · 2014-03-07T00:18:15+00:00

its all in the hips and the nips

crispy3 · 2014-03-07T00:40:05+00:00

will smith covers this in "hitch"

cdimeo · 2014-03-07T01:33:23+00:00

"Look homie I don't dance all I do is this...it's the same two-step with a little twist"

Don't overthink. You only look dumb if you feel dumb.

deamus9 · 2014-03-07T01:51:49+00:00

As long as you can keep a beat your golden. get one of the dance video games out for the xbox or playstation and learn the steps by playing the game. The michael jackson one is good. it will teach you syncopation (being able to do different things with each of you limbs at the same time.) The dancer's routine are great to start with. pretty soon you'll be able to improvise. Girls love a guy that can dance and if you can dance really well you'll have to beat them off you with a stick. trust me i know.

If your talking about with a girl that's easy. just grind one leg into their crotch and sway back with the beat of the music

EDIT: Don't forget to move your arms as well as your feet.

OrionSC2 · 2014-03-06T20:56:24+00:00

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ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-03-06T21:28:09+00:00

Is this for a club? No one knows how to dance in a club lol. Just throw your arms around and bounce to the beat. If you're dancing with a girl start off by just grinding. If she's really getting into it she may even start shaking her hips and twirling them around in a circular motion against your crotch. This happened to me last week, girl was literally making circles with her hips so I just followed through with it to the beat.

TailoredSuccess · 2014-03-06T21:56:48+00:00

Be yourself

That makes it funny.

Watch videos of Neyo or look up "2 step"

That makes you look like you might be able to dance.

joshsway · 2014-03-06T22:35:59+00:00

The movie HITCH.

tael89 · 2014-03-06T22:55:38+00:00

Learn some partner dancing. As for solo: repetition is key; if it feels goofy, do it again, and if you have any semblance of musicality (almost everyone does), you will know when to change your repetition.

chillmonkey88 · 2014-03-07T02:51:50+00:00

Dance class... my #1 go to date idea. It's a blast

KwestBeats · 2014-03-07T04:10:39+00:00

The best way to learn is to watch music videos and imitate. I suggest focusing on Michael Jackson's footwork and other artists like Usher, Neyo, and Justin Timberlake

ChanceIT · 2014-03-07T07:39:34+00:00

Don't really know your opinion on drug use, but I know if you pop a couple ecstasy tabs and go to a total of 3 raves rolling balls you will learn how to dance,and probably how to make out, gauranteed.

blindwombat · 2014-03-07T13:19:11+00:00

I have no idea how to dance, but this is how I got better.

The most awkward bit of dancing I find is what to do with your feet. In terms of foot co-ordiantion you probably do very little with your feet other than walking. So the easiest thing to do with your feet is to learn to two step.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yca6UsllwYs

Open that link up it's Around the World by Daft Punk, it's around 120 BPM and in 4/4 which is practically every song in the world. More useful for this is that the bass drum/bass is going to give you your beats (this becomes a bit clearer around 0:33).

So start by counting along with the beat: 1. 2. 3. 4. 1. 2. 3. 4. until you get used to the pattern.

Then start applying the pattern to your feet. On 1 bring your left foot forward half a step, on 2 bring your right foot forward half a step, then on 3 return the left foot back to it's original position, then on 4 return the right foot back.

Once you get the hang on that change where you put your feet and where you move them back to.

If you can find the beat and move your feet to it, you should be fine.

KallistiEngel · 2014-03-06T22:53:25+00:00

In all honesty, I don't know. At this point I just do it. What helped when I was first getting comfortable dancing was to look around at what motions other people were doing and copy a little of that, but never copy from one person for more than a minute at a time. After a while I guess it became internalized. Doesn't matter what's playing, you'll find me on the dance floor.

WeAreAllClimbing · 2014-03-07T01:04:08+00:00

Watch the ending dance sequence of Napoleon Dynamite. All will be well after that.

nobic · 2014-03-07T02:30:49+00:00

Take fucking dance lessons. duh.

psycho-logical · 2014-03-07T07:48:33+00:00

Spell your name with your butt. Dancing solved. Next problem?

Title	How the fuck do I learn to dance?
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Date	March 6, 2014 8:46 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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