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When you say validation leads to masturbation, do you mean essentially we cockblock ourselves when we validate/treat a girl special too early?
/r/seduction23/07/25 07:21 PM
1

What's your closing rate for sleeping on the second date? Juat curious
/r/seduction22/07/25 03:21 PM
3

Yeah, I remember once I had a meeting with a girl and I did everything right, like a textbook perfect seduction but she still didn't want to go out with me. It hit me at the end of the evening nothing I could ever do was going to change her mind and that was it. Meabwhile with another girl you could make a lot of mistakes and they may still choose you
/r/seduction22/07/25 03:01 PM
1

Do you guys still show noobs the ropes? Lol
/r/seduction21/07/25 10:47 PM
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I don't really see it as a lie though, the photo just shows I like animals and can be around them, which is true. I don't ever say it's mine.
/r/seduction21/07/25 07:18 AM
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I have a photo with a dog and that photo is quite popular and got me an uptick in matches. It's not my dog though, so I dont bring it up or just say it is my family's dog if they ask.
/r/seduction20/07/25 11:11 PM
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I get that and there is something to be said for having female friends that you are not attracted to but if you really, really like the girl and can't see her as just a friend, you need to cut it off before she clowns you. Having female friends doesn't garuntee you women either, seen plenty of guys who have lots of female friends and theyre alll like 'you'll make someone very happy one day' and yet none of them or others are picking him lmao
/r/seduction18/07/25 03:48 PM
9

It's only keeping away the women that aren't interested in him romantically, he isn't looking for friends right now
/r/seduction18/07/25 10:42 AM
3

WTF is ChatGPT smoking
/r/seduction17/07/25 04:07 PM
1

How advisable is it to do that in Oxford Street?
/r/seduction15/07/25 08:23 AM
3

So far on this seduction journey, I've noticed it's small wins building on each other over quite a long time rather than one, big giant transformation in 6 months or something. At least that has been my experience.
/r/seduction15/07/25 08:04 AM
10

Looks will only get your foot in the door, unless you are extremely, and I mean extremely good looking or you are exactly 100% her type she is instantly down to fuck with. Otherwise, you will need at least decent social skills to complete the seduction. Doesn't mean you can't date being autistic but you will have to work on social skills.
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:42 PM
9

I have more than a few times seen short, average or below average dudes pull girls at the club. They all had the same thing in common though - they dressed decently and they had charisma, confidence and were the life of the party.
/r/seduction08/07/25 11:02 PM
14

Insecurity. It can be eradicated and confidence can be built.
/r/seduction05/07/25 08:07 PM
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Interested in PDF pls
/r/seduction25/06/25 07:35 AM
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Already be on the self improvement grind by the time college starts. Be hitting the gym, nice clothes/fashion and nice hair cut. Gym will go a long way. Learn how to dance. Will go an even longer way. And of course, socialise as much as possible, join societies, go to parties etc. but be bold with women. Approach them, make the first moves, escalate etc. Work those social skills and get them better and better.
/r/seduction20/06/25 10:25 AM
1

Yeah, that girl must've made a mistake, the feminists told us otherwise!!!
/r/seduction14/06/25 09:47 AM
2

I'd say, 2 maybe 3. Dated one, fumbled the other (then got friendzoned) and the last had a boyfriend when I met her, so nothing happened.
/r/seduction13/06/25 06:03 PM
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Oh thanks bro, super helpful.
/r/seduction13/06/25 05:05 PM
2

You able to post your pics, blurring your face etc just to get an idea?
/r/seduction13/06/25 04:20 PM
3

I think Tinder is good when travelling LATAM/SEA.
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:03 PM
1

What are the mind traps/self fulfilling habits?
/r/seduction03/06/25 08:51 PM
6

I seen a lot of UK people with caribbean background do it like it's the most easy thing in the world all over the country and have gotten results, so I think it is just about skill and confidence. Ive only done 1 cold approach, turned out the girl was foreign but I got a good response to it. In the summer, Im seeing lots of oppurtunities for it.
/r/seduction01/06/25 04:33 PM
3

How do you pass this shit test?
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:19 PM
1

Status also would have played a big part for him.
/r/seduction29/05/25 02:10 PM
5

Yeah, it's called the cheerleader effect.
/r/seduction22/05/25 11:16 PM
3

I can confirm this helped me a lot.
/r/seduction16/05/25 08:29 PM
3

Also, was he going out solo 6 times a week?
/r/seduction16/05/25 06:42 PM
5

Agreed, especially to connect woth younger women, Instagram etc can be so key. Or even just keeping in contact with people in general who you would otherwise lose contact with.
/r/seduction12/05/25 02:26 PM
7

You're right. Even girls who like nerds admit being a nerd is lame, and normal woman outright will make fun of nerdy things. Even if it is just playful, this disdain towards nerdiness is real.
/r/seduction07/05/25 03:58 PM
1

You said you're trying to create depth but maybe it is too early in your initial interactions. You should just focus on fun, flirty, interesting and seductive initially, depth can come later.
/r/seduction05/05/25 08:22 PM
1

Yeah, I was just thinking of the closest possible example, I can't really think of any who didn't play at all.
/r/seduction04/05/25 12:12 PM
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I can think of some in football, at least coaches who did play but weren't legendary or particularly talented but then went on to become GOAT coaches/managers. Jurgen Klopp, Jose Mourinho, Arne Slot. There is probably more I haven't even thought of.
/r/seduction04/05/25 11:30 AM
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Lviv in the middle of a war?
/r/seduction01/05/25 05:01 PM
1

Im guessing he went from looking like Ben Whishaw to Brad Pitt in Ocean's Twelve.
/r/seduction01/05/25 02:39 PM
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It was letting go of one woman I was madly in love with, obsessed with. Accepting I might not win her over finally, accepting it may not be meant to be. It was difficult, took a long time and it still hurts at times but once I was able to manage that desire and see she was just a woman like any other, it changed my attitude to women forever. You have to treat them lightly and without getting attached because that is how they treat you.
/r/seduction29/04/25 02:21 PM
2

Why is it socially unacceptable in Germany?
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:33 PM
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Because being yourself for 90% of people is a lie that doesn't work. A lot of women talk about body positivity etc but it is just to make themselves feel good. A lot of fat women are very harsh to fat men and so is society.
/r/seduction16/04/25 12:11 PM
4

Out of curiosity, why is he wrong in his point?
/r/seduction16/04/25 12:00 PM
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That sounds like bullshit
/r/seduction13/04/25 01:14 PM
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You're right. The western world has slowly reduced the acceptable areas to date it, adding to the frutration many people have nowadays. Especially with maby people knowing lacking a third space.
/r/seduction07/04/25 09:48 PM
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A man having resources and money is attractive and will get her attention. But it will not ignite her passions or capture her heart.
/r/seduction06/04/25 02:23 PM
1

This is true. They only shit test you if there is some potential or some interest there or she questioning her interest but it is usually in an interaction or direct conversation than these long winded grand schemes guys imagine.
/r/seduction06/04/25 10:04 AM
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Interesting, seems that stereotype is not so true. Brazil has that latin lover stereotype as well I think.
/r/seduction01/04/25 10:50 AM
2

I thought game/approaching random women was more inate in Brazil's culture?
/r/seduction31/03/25 08:22 AM
2

You've done better than most in your ilk. If you're a shut in till you early 30s, the chance of becoming social and loaing your virginity is in my opinion, extremely low
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:38 PM
3

Saving this.
/r/seduction30/03/25 07:34 PM
5

He needs to sign and date the sex form, duh.
/r/seduction30/03/25 07:34 PM
3

I thought the potentness of pheromones in humans hadn't been proved?
/r/seduction27/03/25 03:25 PM
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One of the rules of influence and persuasion: a person's name is the sweetest word in existence to them, forgetting it is a big insult. You can forget it if you're a bad boy, otherwise it isn't a good look.
/r/seduction23/03/25 10:05 AM
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This movie really has been making the rounds recently, and watching it myself, really hit all the marks. Should be required viewing. Amazing soundtrack too. I would be interested in seeing similar movies.
/r/seduction22/03/25 01:12 PM
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I'm currently flirting with a 36 year old girl using those things and a playful demeanour. It definitely still works.
/r/seduction22/03/25 12:24 PM
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I think some of the naturals are genetically gifted, they have it from birth. What people are saying here is true, that your parents and socialisation play a part. However, I come from a poor background, a rough part of town, and while naturals are few as you say, many of the ones I knew where from single parent households or their parents were not that active in their lives. But these guys still had it, confidence, charisma, risk takers. There was resentment from not having parents around, so i…
/r/seduction22/03/25 10:43 AM
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I have noticed a lot naturals had fathers who were womanisers.
/r/seduction22/03/25 10:35 AM
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Yeah I agree with this, you don't want to be the guy hitting on everyone. That being said, I highly recommend this hobby as not only will it make you a better dancer, which you can put to use in other settings, it will also make you confident and assertive around women if you get good.
/r/seduction21/03/25 12:10 PM
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I don't think this is good advice. Social circles are traditionally how most couples met, and it is probably the most natural way to get to know new people. This is why some men are struggling to meet women, they can't do it at work, they can't do it in hobby groups, they can't do it with friends, so where can they do it? And so what if get it gets awkward if it goes wrong? That's life, you gotta go for what you want and not be worried about how other people perceive it.
/r/seduction18/03/25 07:02 PM
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Did you let yourself go?
/r/seduction18/03/25 12:59 AM
3

Club promoter. Pro sports star is amazingly good too but obviously that is a very high bar of entry.
/r/seduction13/03/25 05:39 PM
3

You just need to hang around a lot of male nerds and read who are the loyal/good ones, not the ones who are loyal because they have no options. I think setting up a friendship then turning it into more would work well, like the friend-zone where the guy gets attached but he actually gets the relationship at the end.
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:56 AM
5

Like Henry Kissenger said, power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
/r/seduction03/03/25 08:46 PM
1

To be fair, historically it would be difficult to obtain. Such food was nkt always easiliy available unless you were rich, not to mention time contraints.
/r/seduction03/03/25 08:44 PM
1

A player at my school used to do that back in the day, seemed effective. But he was generally very good with women.
/r/seduction26/02/25 09:04 AM
1

It seems no one wants paragons of virtue and justice. Although when I look for a wife, that may change
/r/seduction22/02/25 08:45 PM
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I use it to help think of opening pickup lines on online dating. But after that, I carry the conversation myself. I always suck at starters
/r/seduction21/02/25 12:48 PM
1

Yes, that is me for sure. I couldn't even approach or get the nerve to speak to a girl I like but now Im pretty relaxed and confident even around the most beautiful of girls.
/r/seduction16/02/25 09:52 PM
1

I just sene another message, that starts the conversation again or a pickup line. I say it works like 50% of the time, sometimes maybe the girl just doesn't know how to continue the conversation.
/r/seduction16/02/25 12:23 AM
5

I like this attitude. Learned a lesson.
/r/seduction15/02/25 10:02 AM
2

Yeah, I agree the style and make up and like you said the attitude plays a part. A lot of girls here are too masculine and crass, it isn't attractive, at least for a lot of men. If that was fixed, the reputation would be better.
/r/seduction13/02/25 08:12 PM
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It's about the proportions. Yeah there are some nice ones but there's far too many not nice ones in comparison. I woukd say lookswise not as good as many countries on the continent.
/r/seduction13/02/25 05:54 PM
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No, not including British women. We are the USA of Europe. Yes there are bangers here but they are in a sea of land whales.
/r/seduction13/02/25 03:31 PM
4

I was kinda thinking that. Men are a bit more resistant to age, but father time comes for us all - men and women. The game must surely get harder after a certain age.
/r/seduction07/02/25 09:46 AM
3

I guess it depends how seeiously you dedicate yourseld but you need to go all in, or if you find you are naturally adept at some things. I think socialising is the hardest one to learn (from personal experience) and may take the longest so I woukd focus on that.
/r/seduction01/02/25 09:34 PM
2

You know what you have to do. You have to reinvent yourself completely. You just have a shitload of work ahead of you. I'll be honest it's going to be incredibly hard, maybe years of work, but it's better you know because if you dedicate yourself, you won't give up on the way.
/r/seduction01/02/25 08:51 PM
1

Im 32 and still getting interest from 23 to 29. Decent amount of mid 20s especially I feel is open to dating older.
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:06 PM
10

Is NYC not good?
/r/seduction28/01/25 11:39 AM
47

There's a fantastic book I read that goes into depth about all he said, it's called the Evolution of Desire by David Buss.
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:41 AM
1

Ive also been guilty of the pedestal thing many times. Thinga go well when you take them off the pedestal.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:11 AM
15

That's terrible advice. You should mention Dota instead, women love Dota.
/r/seduction23/01/25 08:44 AM
3

This is super true. Self imrpovement and seduction can feed off each other but seduction is really an art that can be done totally independently, self improvement can just make it more potent.
/r/seduction22/01/25 09:35 PM
0

So you think it's unlikely most attractive women haven't had sex in months?
/r/seduction19/01/25 02:32 PM
1

Lol that is harsh
/r/seduction19/01/25 02:21 PM
4

Honestly, working on game would be so much easier without the stresses and time constraints of real life. It is why I believe so many playboys/womanisers and teh archetype is usually a trust fund baby, heir or a prince.
/r/seduction15/01/25 12:28 PM
2

What's the best or most reliable way to give orgasms you reckon?
/r/seduction13/01/25 05:01 PM
1

What if you dont find the girls that say hell yes too attractive? Still worth going for it just for experience?
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:09 PM
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You should try to build some rapport first, get her laughing and sharing about herself, then make a move. But you wanna make the move soon, not take too long or you will get friendzoned. Within the first month. Tread carefully though. Goinf for a girl in your work place can end ugly.
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:50 AM
1

I think that's only true for attractive guys or guys who have game. 20% are killing it, rest are struggling.
/r/seduction09/01/25 06:32 PM
13

Take the advice from here that worked for me - don't take online dating too sseiously and don't get too invested over a match. It means nothing. Girls are inundated with likes and attention and so many of them either go on there because they are bored or just want attention. Treat online dating as a way to meet new people but don't take anything that happens on there seriously until you actually know the person well. Everything before that stage is just fluff.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:41 PM
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As long as it works for you and you are happy with, that's true, you're right. Guess I was just checking it isn't something that was forced on you or youre unhappy with.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:36 PM
2

That's pretty brutal. You should hire a personal dating coach I guess. To be honest, I am assume you live in the west and it jusy goes to show how messed up the dating market is here.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:27 PM
4

Isn't the open marriage a bad thing?
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:24 PM
8

If you do it and she is receptive, make sure to go for the kiss. I've fumbled in the past by not leading it into a kiss.
/r/seduction08/01/25 11:14 AM
4

That's interesting. I wouldn't think a natural could lose it.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:27 PM
8

Yeah there really is. Another funny story I have is seeing these 2 15 year old girls at a club and they were getting SO MANY men to buy them food, drinks and everything. But they didn't get with anyone. Some guys even started a fight over them. They were just 15 and already knew how to play and control men. It was pretty wild.
/r/seduction02/01/25 11:38 PM
2

Happened to me at a club with a 17 year old. I just said 'You're too young I'm afraid' walked away and she smirked. Wasnt too awkward luckily
/r/seduction02/01/25 10:57 PM
3

I agree with you about women should have charm and charisma. I'm no casanova (sadly haha) but the women who have had me coming back the most or pull me in the most are women who are off course pretty but also witty, intelligent, sharp interested in the arts or other intellectual topics and have this femine comfidence about them. It's hard to describe, but they come off as women who know their worth and don't make themselved easy.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:20 PM
2

You just gotta appreciate the 6.5s. That's more attractice than average and as others have said, you doing a hella better than most men.
/r/seduction31/12/24 05:07 PM
6

Story of my life too
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:23 PM
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Everyone else is pretty much saying the same thing as you OP, or some variation of it. So yeah, I think things have changed. Im also in a similar position where not only am I arguably better looking now than I was then, but also way more financially secure and successful wheras pre COVID I was a bit of a loser. Despite that, was wayyy easier to get dates on dating apps before. Now it's a lot tougher.
/r/seduction30/12/24 10:13 AM
1

So that's approaching strangers. One the street, in a bar, cafes, libraries etc. Warm approach is approaching girls in your social/work circle.
/r/seduction29/12/24 04:09 PM
1

Maybe set yourself a target for number of approaches/cold approches you will do. I'm going to try and do at least 50 cold approaches next year.
/r/seduction29/12/24 03:24 PM
5

You ever dated a guy from cold approach?
/r/seduction27/12/24 10:01 AM
5

Looking good is a big part. Having some nice, maybe suggestive clothes or clothes that make you look sexy or exude or hint at sexiness. Then you probably want your makeup game to be on point, highlight your lips etc. Then interacting, you need to be feminine and playful, smile a lot and make strong eye contact. But don't give yourself away to easily, maybe push and pull a little, soft little touches here and there. I think there is an art to being a sexy and alluring woman.
/r/seduction26/12/24 09:10 PM
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You could go the Latin American route - love God but also love life. Life is too short to be so unadventorois and boring. Enjoy your self a little, within reason, and as long as you don't do any major unforgivable sins, you can grow in a healthy way as a person.
/r/seduction25/12/24 10:30 PM
1

Do you use them regularly?
/r/seduction24/12/24 09:22 AM
11

Don't base your major off of girls, pick something economically and long term viable for your future so you can make loadsa money. And to answer your question, 2 for me. I should have done better. That being said, one of my best friends in my first year was doing electrical engineering, a severly male-centric field. Despite that, he still pulled loads and loads of hot girls. Why? Because he was social and got himself involved in lot of parties. Be like him. Don't let your major limit you.
/r/seduction23/12/24 06:07 PM
1

Doing cold approach is extremely challenging. Going up to a random woman on the street is weird.
/r/seduction20/12/24 09:50 AM
1

I think the problem the other guy is pointing out is that when you treat when special/like they're special, it either backfires or you don't even get them. That seems to be the case in my experience.
/r/seduction19/12/24 11:57 AM
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Uh yeah that sounds counter to everything this place preaches lol
/r/seduction19/12/24 10:25 AM
1

Yeah, I totally agree. I think we are more bound by nature and natural selection than we like to think. I do believe society plays a role, but nature may be greater. It seems to be to me the theme of the 22st century, coming to terms with our limits and our biology, after the 20th century was so optimistic in thinking we had overcome then.
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:42 PM
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It's a famous study that was done, it was found by looking at our DNA: https://www.livescience.com/47976-more-mothers-in-human-history.html You don't even really need a study to figure this out imo, just look at animals. Usually, only the strongest or most successful males reproduce while most other males end up as genetic dead ends.
/r/seduction17/12/24 08:11 AM
2

This. There's a reason only 40% of all men who ever existed have reproudced succesfully, compared to 80% for women, and that reason ain't pretty.
/r/seduction16/12/24 11:25 PM
1

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I would say don't run to an escort just yet. You've waited this long so might as well try a bit longer. I think you need to relocate, either try somewhere friendly and more sociable in the US or ultimately, look into becoming a passport bro. I think that would be the best for you, women in more traditional countries will look past your social flaws, if you work on them, if you can provide financially and provide status. You should be trying in a wide range…
/r/seduction15/12/24 10:50 AM
1

How do you believe it works in Northern Europe/Asia then?
/r/seduction12/12/24 03:52 PM
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I think you should ask your brother what the dating scene is like over there or how to navigate it, good spots to meet girls etc but you don't have to tell him you don't have any experience, keep that to yourself if you want.
/r/seduction12/12/24 12:05 AM
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Oh yeah for sure. It was really great in the moment. I got a bit of post but clarity afterwards, feeling bad about being with someone I'm not really attracted to but I like sex a lot so it was still fun, no regrets. Im trying to keep a bit more of an open mind but however, I still mainly go for what I want which is 6 and above, preferrably in the 8 to 9 range.
/r/seduction06/12/24 01:00 AM
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4.5. She was a bit chubby but young and I guess kind of cute. I struggle to go for women I am not attracted to, which means less oppurtunities sadly.
/r/seduction06/12/24 12:41 AM
3

Do you still run that style of game then and did it get you a lot of success?
/r/seduction05/12/24 03:48 PM
9

Long distance for a time can work, so long as you see each other semi-regularly. Lets says long distnace for 6 months or a year. But it has to transition out of long distance eventually, it cannot stay like that forever.
/r/seduction04/12/24 01:13 PM
3

Your lucky you asked about this now, before you got in too deep. The earlier you leave, the easier and the better. You are too valuable to stick around.
/r/seduction04/12/24 09:56 AM
1

Do you just see a woman walking, stop her and say hi?
/r/seduction02/12/24 06:40 PM
2

Having a fresh cut is always a plus, In some cases, a huge plus. It is always much better to look put together, stylish and clean as a man. Can you pull girls looking like shit? Yes but you need mad game or that needs to be your 'style' and she's into that. But better overrall just to always be clean and presentable.
/r/seduction29/11/24 10:05 AM
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I think maybe there should be a different subreddit. This sub is already overwhelmingly male centric and to be honest, the dating startegy for men and women are totally different. I personally think the advice given to women before was much more in line with what women have to do to be succsesful (Be pretty, have, have grace, be demure, be feminine and pleasant but also knowledagble and worldy with interesting pursuits). But I am not an expert here, so would be good to have another sub to focs o…
/r/seduction26/11/24 04:11 PM
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I think you should just ignore her. Don't make any excuse to speak to her unless she initiates.
/r/seduction24/11/24 04:51 PM
1

Some people find it wasy to do cold approach bu hard to approach in social settings, which I was surprised by.
/r/seduction24/11/24 03:20 PM
5

If it makes you feel better, I have the same problem. Struggling to get into daygame. However, the salsa skills transferred into making me more fearless at social gatherings (bars,clubs etc), so maybe you could take that step next. I think cold approach is kinfa like the final frontier, at least for me. I heard of people with the opposite problem.
/r/seduction24/11/24 01:57 PM
2

Yes, I think this is true. In countries where women have economic parity with men, they now select for looks and game. Game can overcome this but it makes the game harder and for a lot of men who don't have game and would have traditionally relied on the economical attraction, well, many of them are screwed now unless they learn game.
/r/seduction24/11/24 10:03 AM
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Like most women, you have to focus on vetting your male rather than seducing them, as you'll get lots of attention. But with the standards youve set yourself, will be very hard to get one who is loyal or ready to settle down.
/r/seduction23/11/24 06:30 PM
2

'The most important thing is to not fumble the opportunities you have' Yeah, I really need to rectify this.
/r/seduction23/11/24 10:05 AM
3

Out of those, I've only been to Romania which seemes good for game. I heaed Morocco is mainly about escorts and Georgia is more about LTRs and the local men can be funny about foreigners trying to seduce local women, but I don't know how true either of those things are.
/r/seduction21/11/24 03:04 PM
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There are a lot of psychological and sociological studies on this, particularly on men being wary of a higher body count because it could point to infidelity which threatens a man's paternity.
/r/seduction20/11/24 05:03 PM
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Women are fickle and prone to change their mind at a drop of a hat. It's just how they are, work with it and accept it. Never take it personally. You can even use it to your advantage, that 'we'll never speak again' can change when you least expect it.
/r/seduction19/11/24 07:48 PM
2

Yeah, I think you're right. This is too good of a skill to pass on. Ill try again this weekend and hopefully won't end up aimlessly wandering around again. I counted the chances and each time there were like at least 10
/r/seduction18/11/24 02:32 PM
3

Respect, you have a lot of balls. I've only mustered to ask for the time or help woth directions. I've gone oit a few times but have ended up approaching no one. I can do it in a social setting but for some reason, cold approach feels so difficult.
/r/seduction17/11/24 08:58 PM
117

Do you guys really just walk around cities randomly and stop random girls to chat them up?
/r/seduction17/11/24 04:50 PM
3

Did you learn from a coach?
/r/seduction14/11/24 11:10 PM
4

I think only the most desirable of men are the prize, since they are at the top of the hierarchy. Only the most high valued women can challenege them as the prize. Otherwise, women are automatically the prize over the vast majority of men.
/r/seduction14/11/24 04:56 PM
3

At what age did she get married out of curiosity? Some people have all the luck
/r/seduction14/11/24 11:56 AM
1

Yeah I get what you mean, guess Ill have to see what needs improvement exactly.
/r/seduction13/11/24 04:56 PM
0

Interesting. So in buddhist mythology, misfortune is all down to luck?
/r/seduction13/11/24 01:58 PM
1

I see, but if they didnt find the photos attractive, why even matxh? Kind of related to this, but sometimes I have some girls who are very attractive and they have a sort of 'prove yourself' to me attitude and start asking a lot of questions or seem to take control and frame the conversation, making you try and impress. How do you deal with those scenarios?
/r/seduction13/11/24 12:21 PM
3

I don't care about feminism
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:33 PM
3

I've been doing it wrong so long. Crazy that the first path is what society, girls and your parents tell you to do.
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:27 AM
1

I kinda wish I could have a mentor to learn this skill. Shame dating coaches are so stupildy expensive.
/r/seduction10/11/24 06:56 PM
12

How do you get to this level of game?
/r/seduction10/11/24 01:14 PM
3

Are they very extremely attractive guys, looks wise?
/r/seduction09/11/24 11:09 PM
1

This is super useful, I had never considered Monaco before. Is it worth visiting in December?
/r/seduction09/11/24 12:02 PM
2

Even for tourists/one night stands/club game?
/r/seduction09/11/24 11:51 AM
9

Great post, completely agreed. Has inspired me to go out this weekend. Do you do daygame in winter when its dark after 4? And how are your friends still virgins are all this time?
/r/seduction09/11/24 11:23 AM
24

22 and no relationship to a woman is a huge shock. By 22, most girls have had a couplw of boyfriends, and all the attractive guys even more. I don't think you're exactly weird for it or means there is anything wrong, but it can be read as 'this guy gets no bitches' or he is weird.
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:33 PM
0

Agreed
/r/seduction07/11/24 03:56 PM
1

I would say yes. Dating apps dont work for most men unless you pay, although it depends on your location. If you live in the West, then most likely youll need a higher subscription to make it work.
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:39 PM
5

This is it. Outcome independance, non-relisnt confidence.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:59 AM
4

I have the same experience. And I think Im more attractive now than in 2018, as seen by my real life attention going up. I think the online game has just deteoriarated BUT it depends on your location. Im in the UK bht if I go to a less developed country, its like a million likes.
/r/seduction02/11/24 07:27 AM
9

I think that's just normal in night game, it's a pretty brutal environment. I seen that happen to a lot of good looking/well put together guys. Women are mlre defensive because they know exactly what youre approaching them for.
/r/seduction15/10/24 10:04 AM
1

Just about Doctor / Medical Professional. Your profession already is a pussy magnet, no need to potentially turn it into a negative if some people find that weird. Keep everything vague and mysterious like everyone else says.
/r/seduction14/10/24 04:42 PM
-1

You hit the nail ln the head OP.
/r/seduction13/10/24 09:48 PM
1

What resorts/countries would you recommend?
/r/seduction13/10/24 09:14 AM
6

Unfortunately you are 100% right about dating returning to a primal state, so much so we are seeing the return polygamy and the downfall of monogamy and marriage. A certain smaller percentage of men having access to the vast majority of women while many men go without.
/r/seduction13/10/24 08:38 AM
2

You got lucky
/r/seduction10/10/24 09:08 AM
16

Some girls wont be your wingwoman. They don't want you but they don't want anyone else to have your either. Or theyll recommend you some subpar options.
/r/seduction09/10/24 12:27 PM
2

If you have for example asked something already and you are waiting for a response though, most of the time OPs advice holds true no?
/r/seduction07/10/24 12:49 PM
2

I did similar. Read a lot of articles on psychology, youtube videos etc. Did a lot of self reflecting, relived past events, try to peocess them and see things that tramautised me/deeply impacted who I am etc. Basically tried to deconatruct myself and my psyche. Then I did things outside of my comfort zone that my trauma had made me fear or avoid. I am not done though, I need to sort out some resentment I hold towards certain people.
/r/seduction06/10/24 10:57 PM
2

Why at least three pillows?
/r/seduction06/10/24 07:32 AM
26

Ideally, yes in that age range. I think woman 25 to 30 can be ok but my experience with women 30+ is that they are difficult, demanding and often have unresolved traumas. But that is just my experience.
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:28 AM
3

I get Casey being a bit Toxic but I feel he is just being real at times, when it isnt extreme. (Like men should show interest, pursue to some degree imo, this is where I disagree with him)
/r/seduction30/09/24 02:13 PM
7

Loooooool, right? It's all too easy to post some generic advice, some actual cold hard examples would be useful.
/r/seduction29/09/24 08:50 PM
36

What are some examples of how to flirt sexually smoothly?
/r/seduction29/09/24 07:22 AM
92

You need to use your social skills. If she's interacting with you a lot and doing it a lot and there is a lot of space where she doesn't have to be doing that, grab her hips gently and start dancing with her. I saw a friend of mine recently fumble the bag exactly like this because he just stood there timidly and didn't do anything.
/r/seduction25/09/24 09:09 AM
8

Not directly but it has increased my confidence, being comfortable around women and dance skills massively. I think it has also made me more dominant because to be good, you have to be competent lead so now I can naturally take that role with women more. I can also reliably apply the dance skills in a club setting, which helps gets girls and it jas made approaching women so much easier in everyday life.
/r/seduction24/09/24 10:48 PM
1

This is what Casey Zander preaches. It is interesting because my most succesful relarionship or one night stand was were I was definitely less interestes than the girl.
/r/seduction22/09/24 02:28 PM
1

You have to be a good or enthusiastic dancer. If youre not good, you have to be loud and bold with your moves, the life of the party, but being a good dancer will change it night and day. If the floor is too busy, it will make it harder but if you can go there, shine a bit, you will even get women come to you or actively make eye contact with you. Otherwise, like others have said, make eye contact, try to break into the group. A lot of times the group will reject you but if youre accepted, dance…
/r/seduction21/09/24 02:44 PM
2

If you are physically attractive enough, you can bypass game altogther. Hell, you don't even have to be attractive to bypass game, sometimes a girl just likes you and she strips all the games and practically gives herself to you. This is called getting lucky, and it's called that for a reason. For most men, it doesn't happen often if ever. The more physically or socially attractive you are (status), the more this can happen, which is what happened to your 6'3 friend. However, game is not having …
/r/seduction18/09/24 09:42 PM
7

Most modern women have killed romance. If you try to be romantic as a guy, you get friend zoned or seen as a corny guy.
/r/seduction16/09/24 09:57 AM
8

I think you should work on maxxing your looks as much as possible. Men are very visual and usually we fall in love quicker/instantly. Second would be to develop a very feminine, friendly and humble personality, we like women who are mot arrogant or stuck up. Women who are pleasant or will give you the time of day or can inject that feminine pleastness and magice into life.
/r/seduction16/09/24 12:02 AM
2

What dating coaches are you considering OP?
/r/seduction13/09/24 01:18 PM
3

Seriously, that dialogue exchange was almost as nonsensical as an Oblivion NPC.
/r/seduction13/09/24 01:14 PM
2

It might sound really weird, and it might not be the best way to do it and I didn't do it intentionally, but what worked for me was getting my heart completely and utterly shatterred. There was this girl I did so much for, spent so much time with, just to try and get her to date me and when at the end of all that effort it was 100% not going to work, I forced myself to cut her off and never speak to her again. It hurt like hell but I persevered and stopped myself reaching out. I did affirmations…
/r/seduction12/09/24 10:42 PM
1

Most people are lazy or unmotivated or they are too blue pilled/romantic and dont want to accept the reality if women. Being good with women is hard, and it takes time and consistency, it is sad to say but it separates the wheat from the chaff. When you see in history, only 40% of men ever have passed on their genes, it makes sense why things still havent changed.
/r/seduction12/09/24 10:49 AM
5

Similar thing has happened to me. Recently Ive developed a true abudnace mentality. It is crazy how many cute, hot, young beautiful women there are in this world. Endless oppurtunities, can never ever put one on a pedestal. This one I had on a pedestal has now been thoroughly taken off and we might see each other soon - we'll see what happens.
/r/seduction12/09/24 09:24 AM
2

Moore was the quippy and lighthearted bond, sharp with the wit. He rarely ever broke under pressure and was always playful but firm when needed with women. He was also probably the most pretty boy James Bond. I think that archetype of the fun and childlike seducer is one of the most succesful, wheras Connery could be too cold, Moore had a warmth about him. In real life he was also a heart throb and had multiple wives and children.
/r/seduction12/09/24 07:38 AM
2

Kinda a copout answer, but Craig, Connery and Moore's bond. Moore was a notorious womaniser.
/r/seduction11/09/24 05:14 PM
60

That's the way it is bro. I once got suckered in by a girl, who I had a great rapport with, that 'I could never date you because we've never had a deep conversation. I then went for the deep conversqtion route on the next date and it dried up the atmosphere faster than the sahara desert and she was very clearly turned off and became very unreceptive aftee that. Best to keep it light, emotional highs, escalation and confident.
/r/seduction10/09/24 10:42 PM
3

Nothing but cold hard facts. Unfortunately the 'nice' wiring is still in my brain but I am unravelling it bit by bit the more I experience.
/r/seduction10/09/24 07:18 PM
1

The most expensive doesnt always qual the best. Id recommened building a list of recommened ones then smelling them yourself, try and teust your instincts which work best for you.
/r/seduction09/09/24 06:40 PM
0

I have no experience with femme boys nor do I want to. But it should be easier than with a woman, they will not have all the mental/biological guards a woman has.
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:24 AM
1

I find when talking to women, best way to attract them is to remain cool, calm and confident, while adding in some charm, then ignorning them a bit. Would you agree? Not getting 'giddy' as you said. And with women, it is one of the few things in life that the more effort you put in, the less you get out.
/r/seduction08/09/24 07:16 AM
2

Funny, I had a bad night out in Copenhagen as well last night solo travelling. But you know what? It wasnt all bad. Spoke to some cool dudes, at least I was brave enough to try and talk to some girls and while I got turned down to dance by a girl last night, the night before, I danced with 3 hot blonde girls all at the same time for the first time of my life. I didnt even feel too bad when the girl turned me down. Bad nights happen, I saw even worse happen to other guys. It is all part of the jo…
/r/seduction31/08/24 08:10 AM
1

It's always the tests
/r/seduction30/08/24 08:42 PM
1

Where are you based friend?
/r/seduction29/08/24 01:29 PM
1

Where are you based friend?
/r/seduction29/08/24 01:28 PM
2

I thunk that is part if bring a man Im afraid.
/r/seduction28/08/24 07:10 PM
1

Been my experience as well pretty much.
/r/seduction28/08/24 05:29 PM
3

I think he's right sadly lol
/r/seduction28/08/24 12:25 PM
1

The chads and don Juans give that advice because it is genuinely what they do - their self just happens to be attractive
/r/seduction26/08/24 04:08 PM
-2

Yes; that's true. To be honest, I need to take more action and get out there more.
/r/seduction22/08/24 12:56 PM
-4

I wish I had your problem
/r/seduction22/08/24 11:35 AM
7

Are glasses really that bad?
/r/seduction17/08/24 09:47 PM
15

Probably related to status. Nearly every society's rich people dress distinvtively or with elaborate and fibely decorated clothes. Traditionally, the higher your status, the nicer your clothes. Looking well dressed and nice conveys high social status to women. Another thing that may influence it is it signals you are competent. If you look fresh and put together, makes it look like you are a man, not a boy.
/r/seduction17/08/24 04:29 PM
2

Yeah I agree but then the guy has to be a bit of a unit
/r/seduction15/08/24 12:19 PM
-8

You are 100% correct. The only thing I'd add is women arguably have an even greater need to reproduce than men not only because it is much easier for them but also because 80% of women in history have reproducd. With such a high success rate, they know women who don't reproduce are biological 'losers'. Most men meanwhile never managed to pass on their seed.
/r/seduction14/08/24 04:51 PM
5

In my experience, it's very ineffective unless there are some other mitigating circunstances, like you live very far from each other or are dating other people and aren't singklle at the same time. Apart from this, from what I have seen, it just turns the girl off.
/r/seduction13/08/24 09:49 PM
1

Have you considered getting a hair transplant? It worked wonsers for me.
/r/seduction13/08/24 09:35 AM
2

This is incredible OP. Managed to get her to dance, I guess this reflect my real life as well - good at text but need to better IRL
/r/seduction12/08/24 09:33 AM
3

Yeah, I am speaking from experience. Being direct only ever worked once for me, maybe twice. On thise ocassions, I said I really liked them. Other times, when Ive told women this, beinh honest, it seems to turn them off. And yet the women I couldnt care less about or dont see in a romantic way always making advances And then if I go nonchalant or non-caring with girl I like, they switch.
/r/seduction11/08/24 12:37 PM
8

I think it depends on the woman. I'd say most don't like super direct but there are a few who do.
/r/seduction11/08/24 03:45 AM
23

Funny example how important looks can be lol
/r/seduction05/08/24 12:00 PM
6

I agree, I think the problem is having an actuall charismatic personality is very tough, you need to be like top 10 - 20% personality wise.
/r/seduction31/07/24 07:54 PM
5

Same for me. Curse me
/r/seduction31/07/24 06:30 PM
4

Same as me but was late teens. Havent put it into as much practice as I should have, I guess for a while I was aware of it but ignores it because I was a real romantic and game and PUA seemed unromantic to me....
/r/seduction27/07/24 08:44 PM
2

Latin America was colonised by Spain and Portugal, who were white and they basically set up a racial hierarchy. The highest in society were white Spanish or Portuguese people directly from the peninsula, then their descendants or other whote people were below and then you had mixed people (The result of the colonisers mixing withe local population), then black people, then natives. Your family could work its way up the hierarchy if it got whiter, the concept of whitening the blood was around for…
/r/seduction27/07/24 05:24 PM
5

The woman in the third world can also date her fellow men and usually they do, it's not like they don't have any options. But all women look to men to improve their circumstances. The fact many western women aren't even happy dating their equal and would prefer a disproportionate amount of materialism just paints them worse actually in my eyes, it's greed over necessity. You could argue the jump from western woman to billionnaire is the exact same as the jump from generational poverty to western…
/r/seduction27/07/24 12:33 PM
1

Where do you live OP?
/r/seduction27/07/24 11:21 AM
1

Why are commonalities and rapport bad in girl land?
/r/seduction27/07/24 11:13 AM
13

I am not a passport bro but this might just be the normal human dynamic of dating - women want men who are above them socially and economically. How is it different than a western girl wanting a billionnaire?
/r/seduction27/07/24 10:29 AM
11

Maybe it is just an economic reality. The dating market is a market like any other and market and economic forces can make that market less prosperous. The dating problem right now is at least partly an economic problem, and the forces of inflation and monopolies pricing out smaller 'buyers' is taking effect.
/r/seduction27/07/24 10:27 AM
3

As a latino, I would say yes. They like latin men but they like white maybe even just as much. Being white is always a positive thing in latin America, white latinos always have an advantage socially.
/r/seduction27/07/24 09:47 AM
5

Genius
/r/seduction26/07/24 10:54 PM
5

I think also women on some instinctual level are attracted to men if they need them. Take away they need to have a man and their attraction goes down.
/r/seduction26/07/24 08:33 PM
4

I agree with you in theory but I have the experience of being brave enough, funny and charming etc and a woman like the one you described still rejected me. Looking back, knowing game, I made some blunders but it just feels like you have to be damn near perfect or close to it or you are not good enough.
/r/seduction26/07/24 12:16 AM
112

Number 2 is definitely a thing. My sister is an examole, various girls at my work place etc. So maby women in the West now would rather be alone and single than go for what they would deem to be settling, happy to wait forever. Feels like this society is slowly dying to be honest.
/r/seduction25/07/24 11:59 PM
0

I think it's a lot what people have said here, college is easier. That being said, the game is different and harder in 2024.
/r/seduction25/07/24 04:07 PM
1

I think women are one of the few things in life that the more effort you put in, the less you get out.
/r/seduction20/07/24 10:22 PM
1

I unserstand what you mean, but you are looking in the wrong place for that. Your girlfriend is not your mother and she does not want to be that. You are her man and LEADER. You should look to fill that void from the love of your friends, your mother, your father and family.
/r/seduction18/07/24 06:18 PM
1

I think those relationships are incredibly rare. Part of being a man is always holding your frame, always being strong and dependable, the imovable rock. You can never, ever show weakness to most women, let alone dwell on it.
/r/seduction18/07/24 05:31 PM
3

Is he tall and fit or not?
/r/seduction17/07/24 04:41 PM
2

Have you considered becoming a passport bro? If you have money, I think you should take 6 weeks to 6 months in Latin America or South East Asia to gain more experiences and maybe even a girlfriend.
/r/seduction17/07/24 12:12 AM
1

They will never give you the correct advice needed for dating/socialising. It always has to be painted through the failed lens of modernity/equality.
/r/seduction17/07/24 12:11 AM
25

Honestly, I often wonder if life would be more simple and fufilling being gay sometimes
/r/seduction15/07/24 08:43 PM
3

Bro, that is a very black pill mindset. Yes, there are factors beyond your control that will fuck you, and some people, will be fucked worse tha others. Life isn't fair. That is just the way it is. You have two choices now, either keep wallowing in your sorrow and continue to live a life of desperation, or, take life by the horns and fight back and earn every inch of success you get. Which choice are you going to make? It is definitely, in no way too late for you.
/r/seduction14/07/24 10:46 PM
4

I'm latino, I have had a polish ex girlfriend and been on dates with many other slavic girls (Ukrainian, other poles, Russians, Czech). Im not exacly a casanova but very positive experience with slavic girls and have had very few issues when travelling in Eastern Europe. If you speak Spanish/say you're latino and can dance, a lot of girls will like you. I think in Poland they especially like latinos for some reason and in Russia because they prefer Latin America over the the USA (Think ties with…
/r/seduction13/07/24 08:35 PM
1

Even the bad boys/lone wolves still have social proof if you think about it. They have a 'reputation', are feared or admired and people know who they are. They stand out are respected in one to one conversations. Social proof is about having a high standing socially, not just popular or sociable.
/r/seduction09/07/24 01:07 PM
26

I think looks do play a huge part but life experience has shown me masculinity, confidence and social skils can be even more important than looks. A truly masculine man will attract women even more than looks in some cases. There are limita of course, being exceptionally ugly and suffering from dwarfism or other extremes would hinder that, but it would have to be an extreme.
/r/seduction07/07/24 07:40 AM
1

Out of curiosity, why shouldn't you criticise or try to solve their problems
/r/seduction05/07/24 02:24 PM
-4

Yeah, women are like permanent teenagers. They are like this throughout their entire lives.
/r/seduction03/07/24 03:08 PM
1

I would personally go for it, who cares if you're colleagues? Personally, I would not feel awkward if we broke up. That being said, I'm currently blanking a girl at my work because we got super close and thne she turned me down. So now work is a little akward, so bare that in mind. Also due to this, I really want to leave my job because I just don't want to be around her but it's not like this is my dream job.
/r/seduction27/06/24 05:05 PM
3

Facts
/r/seduction27/06/24 12:18 PM
1

I really like The Flow by Dan Bacon
/r/seduction19/06/24 05:43 PM
1

Just play it cool, don't chase her up. Let her reply in her own time. If she responds, cool you're good. If she doesn't, her loss.
/r/seduction18/06/24 10:24 PM
2

I am also a Colombian in Europe and do attract women, and have had girls but am questionable in closing and being direct, so my downfall is mostly not do with my ethnicity. That being said, I do think race affects dating. If you are shorter, darker and not as good looking, you will have a harder time than an average white guy. Being from a certain country or culture that is not seen as being attractive can also make it harder. You are lucky latinis are seen more favourably than not. However, if …
/r/seduction17/06/24 04:03 PM
10

I think is a veey interesting argument and you are probably correct. HOWEVER, I think realistically there will never be a time when lets say all men are above average or hit all the things women look for. There will always be a 10% or 20% above and an 80% of men or so who are below them because they are fat, or lazy or ugly or incompetent or a combination of those etc. Why? Because I think evolution does that on purpose. Men compared to women are way more variable in traits, in looks, athelticis…
/r/seduction16/06/24 12:05 PM
3

I understand, that is kinda similar to me. But I am one of the propenents of the dating has gotten worse/the dating market has collapsed (In the West anyway) theory. So getting a girl is much harder than is used to be. While 20 - 30 years ago, your personality and being a decent human being may have been enough, that is no longer the case. If there is one thing I have learned, it is that women are all largely the same and desire the same things in a mate. The dating market is primed such that th…
/r/seduction15/06/24 08:17 PM
11

That's understandable and everyone is different. It's ok and maybe even great to have asocial hobbies. But undortunately, it is a fact of the world in most cases social and confidently social guys are far more succesful with women. So you if you want to be succesful with women, I would suggest forcing yourself to have one social hobby. It will be good for you anyway, keeping you from your comfort zone.
/r/seduction15/06/24 07:39 PM
3

Same
/r/seduction10/06/24 09:26 AM
2

I had ab ex who was quite horny during her period too, although definitely around ovulation as well but definitely more forward on the period strangely enough
/r/seduction09/06/24 10:26 PM
2

Hair transplant if have lost hair.
/r/seduction08/06/24 05:57 PM
1

Where else would you recommend is a good place to buy necklaces/men's rings? Been lookimg to add these accessories to my wardrobe
/r/seduction08/06/24 05:51 PM
1

I second this
/r/seduction08/06/24 05:38 PM
2

Is it not an immerson, in-person bootcamp?
/r/seduction06/06/24 08:23 PM
5

You have to never let her beta-ize you. Stay wearing the pants in the relationship. Also keep things sexual and exciting, you can never truly let go of game, just have to adapt the game to relationship game. Make sure she is always subservient to you and you stay the boss and on top of your game. When guys are in the friend-zone, that is the woman beta-izing them. Never let youself be beta-ized.
/r/seduction06/06/24 05:43 PM
2

Do you do coaching?
/r/seduction05/06/24 08:30 AM
-2

Sorry to hear but maybe you just need to take a break and try again after some reflection and advice from here? Maybe you just need to try in a different country?
/r/seduction04/06/24 11:29 PM
2

Damn bro this is ice cold. You're killing it
/r/seduction04/06/24 10:15 PM
3

Yes, it 100% works. You're love interest doesn't have to share your same interests, hell I love video games and fins gamer girls obnoxious. There are plenty younger, hotter redheads out there.
/r/seduction04/06/24 10:09 PM
11

This 100%. Something I realised Ive been doing too, and I had the same feelings towards clingy girls to myself too.
/r/seduction04/06/24 10:37 AM
1

I would say 100% do it in person, not over text. Maybe at the end of some unrelated interaction.
/r/seduction03/06/24 10:42 PM
2

Success to me would be getting laid/FWB/Girlfriend. I guess that is part of my problem, I don't really have a playground right now. Don't have many oppurtunities to meet women. I really need to get over my fear of day game.
/r/seduction03/06/24 10:39 PM
2

My game is no where near good enough. I get attention and looks but struggle to close and escalate. Have gotten better with practice but very limited success so far.
/r/seduction03/06/24 10:08 PM
1

I read a book by Dan Bacon called the flow, who describes all the things you said. Do you think this is a good book or are there better resources?
/r/seduction03/06/24 09:52 PM
1

I'd like to do day game/night game immersion. There is one coach I really like but it's only 3 full days at $5000 - $4000
/r/seduction02/06/24 05:17 PM
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Yeah, 1500 ain't great either. Ideally I would pay $500 but the 5000 seems to be the baseline these days for most dating coaches, and most arent even a week, only like 3 days. So only in that sense is 1500 decent. Definitely a rip off...
/r/seduction02/06/24 05:16 PM
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Damn that is a great price. Would love to do it myself but everyone seems to charge $5000 now...
/r/seduction02/06/24 10:25 AM
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How much did you pay? Did you do immersions or just coaching sessions online?
/r/seduction01/06/24 11:42 PM
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That's understandable. Some people are more compatible than others. I think all you can do is accept life is a tradegy (at times) and just go for the next best thing. Think of it as going to France instead of Itaky because you can't afford the Italy trip. France is still great though, so why worry over something that isn't an option? If there is ever any chance of you being with her, it's forgetting her completely (I am literally going through the exact same thing lol)
/r/seduction01/06/24 11:20 PM
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How good looking was the shy mechanic? Surely 9/10 and tall?
/r/seduction30/05/24 11:24 PM
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I think it depends how ugly you. I think confidence AND being popular/having status can take away from ugly, but it is just my theory.
/r/seduction30/05/24 11:20 PM
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Would you say always being cool, calm and collected is very attractive to the opposite sex? For example, instead of reacting emotionally, confessing love to a girl, better to always play it cool and be cool in every converaation?
/r/seduction30/05/24 11:19 PM
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Everyone saying other superficial things are important, are not wrong, but confidence is still key. It means a high, high, high level of confidence. The more ugly you are, the higher your confidence has to be to compensate and conversley, the more good looking you are the less you have to have it. But basically you want a level of confidence where you are at ease, in control and cool and competent in all situations. Where you have a vibe about you that is infectious and when you interact with th…
/r/seduction30/05/24 08:00 PM
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Yeah; that's one thing Ive noticed here too! Even just trying to talk to normal, average women (never mind the hot ones), they give off the vibe you're not worth they're time and they can be very rude or shut you down without giving you a chance. It blew my mind when I went abroad, talked to 9/10s and they would be polite and welcoming and would even happily entertain you. There's something here like the US making things not right. Maybe heavy feminist brain washing. For reference, with Austen, …
/r/seduction29/05/24 09:11 AM
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I'm early 30s in London and pretty much exact same experience, down to having more success abroad. I guess in London, where I am based, the competition is fierce considering there is probably a bevvy of super succesful men here, but it is incredibly frustrating. In person it's a lot better but the girls generally aren't very attractive. I find too many English girls are very masculine or loud and obnoxious. For reference, I am not a native Brit, so many that also plays into the lack of success b…
/r/seduction28/05/24 11:15 PM
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Oh yeah for sure, 100%. I don't think that scenario fits into what OP is saying though, I don't think ANYONE should stay in the friendzone they've been put in. There is no winning. But having female acquaintances/friends you aren't in to? Totally.
/r/seduction25/05/24 07:16 AM
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Well I wasn't tryinfg to be friends with her, I was trying to seduce her and then she friend zoned me.
/r/seduction24/05/24 08:02 PM
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Bad advice. Many times the girls who friend zone you sabotage your relationships or try to keep you even if they don't want you. I straight up asked a girl I was friend zoned by to hook me up and she gave some bullshit excuses. Many times they want to keep you to theirselves just to prop their ego.
/r/seduction23/05/24 10:43 PM
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I agree with this guy. Ive had the same experienece with you, and whenever I dont go for the kiss/get physical, the dates always go nowhere
/r/seduction23/05/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah I agree it's not easy but it is possible. I dont it myself to some extent and read many other seducers/people did it because they wanted more out of life. You have to force yourself into very uncomfortable and social situations.
/r/seduction20/05/24 05:30 PM
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I agree with you, I think men in the past may have lied (anecdotal stories). But is it not even yet tougher today? Before in the UK, only ugly guys would go to places like Phillipines to find a wife, now, seems even normal/average men do it, passport bro thing is so real. Even in my rather admittedly small experience, I used to get dates way easier on apps 2019 and before but it is so tough now. Genuinely feels like it is even tougher now.
/r/seduction19/05/24 02:26 PM
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This is some great insight. I'd also like to add dating just seems to be harder these days in the western world, so many men are asking themselves the same thing. Social media and cultural shifts have changed the game to be in favour of women and the most attractive men.
/r/seduction19/05/24 02:15 PM
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You need to stop being an introvert, or force yourself to become as extraverted as possible. It's tough I know but the sad fact is your natural personality gives you many disadvantages in life and is not optimal for success or seducing women, unless you become some suoer succesful business man or something in your introverted time. Even then, I think being somewhat extraverted brings way too many benefits to ignore. You need to reinvent yourself completely.
/r/seduction19/05/24 02:10 PM
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Congrats on the pull, sounds like you got it down. How do you be a manly bad boy exactly, in your words? It is something I am working on
/r/seduction19/05/24 02:01 PM
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Yeah, that's true. Women are the same everywhere, I just want a spot abundant in women so I can practice abroad haha
/r/seduction15/05/24 06:56 PM
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Thanks for the recommendations. Didnt want something easy per se, just somewhere with lots of women to interact with easily.
/r/seduction14/05/24 11:55 PM
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Just wanted a holiday destination where there would be lots of oppurtunities to interact with women, although my local ones aren't as nice (London)
/r/seduction14/05/24 11:55 PM
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It's a careful balance. You took them like anyone else, i.e., don't put them on a pedestal, that get your foot in the door. But if you want to take things forward, you have to then make the interactions man to women unless you are so attractive, she will fall for you juat talking normally. Otherwise, yes, they will friend zone you
/r/seduction02/05/24 10:32 PM
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You've found the core of the problem, men and women find different things attractive. To a woman, attraction is less physical (though that is there too), it's more sbout the essence of a man, a prescence of strong masculinity that pervades the man and affects the world.
/r/seduction11/04/24 09:58 PM
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Underachieving and docile men is such a brutal description... that alone tells you why you can't be that if you want to get girls.
/r/seduction09/04/24 09:30 PM
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Do you think it's possible with out that? Undeniably being extroverted is a big part, but you really have to be the life of the party guy or does it just make it easier?
/r/seduction08/04/24 07:18 PM
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