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RantNighthawk2824/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 12:57 PM
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Nighthawk2824/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 01:47 PM
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Nighthawk2824/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:44 AM
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I can relate to your traumatic experience talk. I was completely blindsided one night. Then the person she became after was something I’ve never seen or experienced in my life. I’ve never been so disrespected and manipulated ever. She was not the person she pretended to be and I was blind for so long. I did miss some red flags in the beginning now that I think about it but I was young and dumb then.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 10:11 PM
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Idk how fresh this is and I was once in your shoes but begging actually will push them further away. They will also know they have control over you and they feed off of that. Ik it’s hard but begging is not the answer. Your best bet is to act like you’re fine and to start working out some, even if it’s just doing push ups at home. Start eating better also. I am sorry you’re goin through this. It’s been 3 years for me now and I think about it every single day, what should have been and what could…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 08:42 PM
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This. Like I ask myself all the time if I could again but in reality it’s hard for me to even make eye contact with her and even hold a conversation with her. Any convo we have is mainly through text and usually about our daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 01:52 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 10:48 AM
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100 percent, I’ve saved so much money with just being me and my daughter. When she left I was like how the fuck am I gonna afford anything?? Then I realized after a bit how much she was draining my account.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 09:15 AM
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Try to be as civil as possible even tho ik it’s hard, and get a lawyer. I got lucky cuz my ex wanted nothing from me which is weird but I’ll take it. We had a 3 year old at the time and it was so hard for me to do because of her. I hate to break it to you but there’s more than likely someone else. Was here a few years ago and I think about it every single day. Don’t beg her and don’t give her the power over you cuz they feed off it. Start doing your push ups now or hit the gym. I’m sorry this is…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 11:44 AM
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I didn’t lose anything besides a lying cheating narcissist wife and my family. What are you disagreeing with? I made out, he asked if anyone came out not broke and i didn’t come out broke lol. If she told me she wanted this and that, I’m getting a lawyer, but she didn’t want anything and didn’t try keeping my child from me cuz then we would have had problems.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 04:39 PM
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Yup, used a mediator and my ex didn’t want shit from me for some reason. I actually have more money now than I did when we were together, crazy how that works, right.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 03:19 PM
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Idk if you do, I think about it every single day of my life and it’s been 2 years, we just learn to live with it I guess. She was NEVER who I thought she was for the 8 years we were together, it was all a fake. I always had my suspicions but was like nah. It’s not even just the cheating, it’s the manipulation, gaslighting, lying and down right evil bitch she turned into when she left. She treated me like I was just a pile of shit who didn’t just do what I could for 8 years. I honestly have never…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 07:51 PM
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Never again for me, I always said I never would and I should have stood on that. Ask yourself this, what can a wife do that a girlfriend can’t?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 07:44 PM
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This sounds so familiar
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 12:58 PM
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Shit, she put a good front on for 9 years. I saw some glimpses through out but was blind still and ik we all have our moments. The one who left our family and cheated is NOT the same as I saw in our relationship. She’s a complete narcissist and has issues.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 12:32 PM
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Jesus, this sounds just like my ex..
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/25 12:42 AM
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100 percent having an affair, just like mine did. All these actions are very very similar to what was happening to me. I’m sorry, it will get better with time man. It’s been 2 years for me and I’m a lot better than I was but I still think about it daily cuz I never would have imagined this is where I’d be. Start working out even if it’s just doing push ups at home.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 05:25 PM
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We are civil now cuz of our daughter but after I figured out her bullshit and blew up her spot to the other dudes and her parents about everything. Shit has changed but I’m better than I was 6 months ago cuz ik I can get other girls even tho I never wanted to cuz all I cared about was having my family. But after everything and realizing how much of a pos she was or is, I just dc anymore cuz all I know is our family split because of her, not me. She can live with that. Take your power back man an…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 02:59 PM
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Exactly what I say to myself as well about my wife. She will never find anyone cuz once she shows the real her and how she works they will be out. Go be someone else’s headache and problem.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 02:31 PM
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I feel/felt your pain man. My wife left almost 2 years ago and then I eventually ended up finding out the truth about a year after she left. I was absolutely fucked up mentally and emotionally when I found out everything. I will say it’s going to be tough for a couple years man but it WILL get better. Do not be surprised if there has been someone new this whole time cuz that was my case and a lot of others on here. Get yourself to therapy if you can afford it, workout some. Even if you can’t hit…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 06:11 PM
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I feel this man and it does get better, it’s going to be tough as hell and it might take a couple years but it WILL get better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 05:46 PM
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Man, I swear I read soooo many stories that are about the same, including mine. I feel this 100 percent. It will get better over time. It’s hard tho as we all know.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 12:59 AM
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Hell no, I did this for a bit and it was the most draining shit I ever encountered. Do not entertain her anymore as hard as it is. My life has been more peaceful since I cut her ass off.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 05:20 PM
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Sometimes the peace and quiet is what bothers me, along with other things but after my kid leaves everyday it’s depressing cuz this is not how it’s supposed to be and she knows this.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 11:07 PM
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This right here. 100 percent. It’s been a year and a half and I’m still like WTF happened? It’s like I don’t even know who she is. After she left she became mean as fuck had no care she was absolutely destroying me as she’s out fucking some dude that looks like he’s 57 and he’s 36.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 04:42 PM
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I second this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 01:54 PM
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I know the feeling man, been a year and a half here and still think about it constantly and have to see her everyday cuz we have a child together.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 11:42 AM
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Same man, cuz honestly it’s all I think about.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 07:14 AM
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There’s def someone else cuz this sounds so familiar, as my wife put it in therapy “I met someone else”
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 06:23 PM
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Still kinda rough at times. I go to therapy which may help some but I still see my wife everyday when my daughter goes back to her so that doesn’t help much. Hard accepting the fact this happened to me and it just seems like she could care less.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 12:18 PM
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How are you doing now?
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 09:07 PM
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Same, after my daughter leaves and I come home to nothing and an empty house. It starts to get to me, even tho my wife is a pos.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 11:30 AM
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That right there. Missing half of my daughter’s stuff really fucks with me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 01:52 PM
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Jesus, I swear every story I read of someone’s sounds so much like mine.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:06 AM
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Same here man, same here.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 04:07 PM
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She destroyed me and our family. We’re married 5 years and together for 10.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 03:49 PM
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Yeah dude I heard those exact words “don’t you feel we lost the spark” and then 16 months later I figured out she was cheating on me even tho I already suspected it. There is definitely someone else she’s entertaining.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:29 PM
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Ask yourself this, what can a wife do that a girlfriend can’t? I never wanted to get married cuz of the situation I am in right now. I come from a catholic family and I regret getting married man. Women will ruin most men look at all of us in this community.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:40 PM
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Dude I get it, ik of 3 ppl including the one she left me for and myself, she was still messing with me after months of leaving along with the others. Look at my previous posts and comments. It’s the worst shit I have been through.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 05:26 PM
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Man mine turned into a complete whore too after we separated.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 04:45 PM
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I think like this too. It hurts me still to think my daughter doesn’t have a family and that we have to share her. We are thinking like that cuz it’s the noble thing to do, to fight and try to keep the family together even tho we have been betrayed and disrespected. I think about all of this daily. I also think about wtf my wife has done to me tho and wonder why the fuck do I care about this woman? She legit tore our family apart and chose another guy(who is a cheater) over myself and our daught…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:15 AM
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YUP and she claims that’s why she is the way she is. The cheating, lying and left me for a cheater and just overall a shit fucking person. Well that’s the excuse one day and then it will change the next time I ask.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 09:45 AM
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Jesus, this sounds like my situation almost. It’s like we know what we NEED to do but it’s like we can’t, right? I feel your pain man. I was lied to, manipulated, cheated on, gaslighted..you name it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:21 PM
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We just confirmed today after a mess of a situation that we are getting a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:23 PM
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I know all of this and it’s hard to accept the fact that I wasted 10 years and 5 years of marriage. All I think about is my daughter and what else idk she has done. It’s a mess and I’m a mess.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 02:27 PM
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Dude, same shit here. Idt it clicks in my wife’s head what she did to me and our daughter. She lied to me for 16 months and I just figured it all out cuz I let her come back around and caught her lying to me when she went out with a kid 10 years younger than her and then after I caught her doing that I got the truth out as to why she left and it was cuz she met someone else at work(a diff guy) Everyday is a struggle for me cuz all I think about is what I’ve done for her and what she did to me, a…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 09:58 AM
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Dude, I am sorry. I have the toughest decision of my life to make on whether to walk away or try again but after what I know. I know what I need to do but it’s so god damn hard for some reason.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 12:26 AM
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We aren’t divorced yet, idk wtf we’re gonna do honestly. Ik we should be divorced based on what ik and how I was treated after we separated but I feel this cuz this is exactly how I’m gonna feel if and when we do and it hurts man. I think about this all the time as well. I hope you are okay.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 04:32 PM
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It’s fucking hard cuz she’s all I think about, even after all she has done to me and said to me. But now that I caught her lying to me a few weeks ago and exposed her to ppl. Now she wants to better herself and work on us. I always wonder wtf she is doing. Who she is with. It’s a mess man. We start couples therapy next week but ik I should just tell her I’m done. And when I have kinda said that she is just like okay pretty much. Idk man, I don’t understand her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 01:32 PM
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What do you mean emotionally cheated on? Cuz she has said that to me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 01:00 PM
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That’s the truth!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 12:59 PM
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That’s exactly what she did to me, blamed me for this and that. And every single time I asked why she left it was a diff reason every single time cuz she couldn’t remember what she said from the start and just 2 weeks ago i got the truth out of her cuz I caught her lying to me again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 06:30 PM
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Like actually slapping you? Nah I was cheated on and lied to for idk how long. She is an alcoholic who is now attending classes. Says she isn’t talking to anyone anymore which idfk if that’s true. We see each other every day cuz she has to get my daughter cuz of my work schedule. Said she wants to work on us and go to couples therapy. But I feel she is doing all of this now cuz I caught and exposed her to her parents and shit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 05:05 PM
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Funny you say that cuz that’s what I was doing and then I started letting her come back around and we were getting along but I was so confused to what was going on and then she lied to me and I caught her and now I’m back at square one except with her wanting to come back and work on herself cuz she said she fucked up and was selfish and made so many mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 04:49 PM
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I started last week and actually go again tmr.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 04:45 PM
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For sure, I’ve told her I fell in love with someone who never existed.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 04:39 PM
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It’s been 16 months, read my previous comments and posts. I’d be here all day telling you everything that has happened in that time. She was manipulating the shit out of me and others.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 01:54 PM
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Man I feel this one, very very similar to what I was dealing with and then she left me for some cheater that was separated from his wife I just found out. But I was finding hidden bottle of alcohol in her clothes, filling up my liquor bottle with water and when I asked it was “it wasn’t me” mind you we are the only ones that live here besides our 2 year old at the time. I could go on but just know I am dealing with the same thing and then some man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 09:26 AM
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No, what can a wife do that a girlfriend can’t? I’ll never get married again after this mess my wife caused me. Pretty much ruined my life. Do you wanna go to therapy? Do you wanna be cheated on? Do you wanna spend money on lawyers and court fees? Marriage is a joke and will ruin you imo. I wanted a family so bad and she knew that when she came around 10 years ago. I’ve been married 5 and I’d put all my money she was not faithful for any of it. We separated 15 months ago and she gave me every ex…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 09:39 AM
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I feel this and this is similar to mine. It’s been 15 months since we separated and she gave me every excuse in the book except for the real one and I just found out the truth, which was she left me to go hang out with a cheater who was separated from his wife. Now she wants to come back and work on us. There’s more to the story but I don’t feel like typing it all out. Moral of the story is that there is someone else. Ik it hurts man and it still hurts me until this day. Plus there’s been others…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 08:50 PM
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She is the issue man, I’ve been dealing with the same and it’s cuz she prob has something built up inside that she is not telling you or anyone. I need to do the same as you and tell my wife to fuck off after everything I’ve found out the past couple weeks but it’s hard. Do not let her belittle you, talk down to you. Stand your ground man. I was told the same shit until I figured things out and exposed her to ppl and now she wants to come back. Funny how all of this works.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 02:02 PM
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Man this story almost fits mine. Weird how just about all these twisted ass females are alike.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 07:39 PM
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Much easier said than done. Ik I need to tell her to fuck off for 1000th time but god damn all I think about is my daughter. But then I also think about all the lies right to my face and pretty much the abuse and pain I am suffering through right now.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 06:17 PM
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Right there with ya man on reconciling and trusting mine.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:08 PM
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Dude mine did too and I just got the truth after 16 months of separation and her blaming and belittling me. She was caught out with a diff guy. And after I showed her the proof and we had our argument for hours. She now wants to change and come back, go to counseling and AA etc. we have a 4 year old and this is the toughest decision of my life. Ik what I need to do but man is it hard.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:15 PM
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She will never be out of the picture completely, we have a 4 year old and we see each other every day for pick up and drop offs. This week she has been pretty good with me. I think she is just as confused as I am with everything.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 10:26 AM
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A counselor, the consultation is over the phone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:45 PM
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What’s a sliding scale? I’m just saying what he told me his price is. He also doesn’t take insurance. Idk if that’s why it not.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 08:10 PM
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I have my consultation scheduled, what’s a normal price? It’s 75 the first visit and 50 after that.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 01:50 PM
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Figure myself out, what do you mean? And I just feel like there’s still something there but she is afraid to say it and be honest but she feels she can’t because she left me and she did it in a fucked up way. She has shit communication, so she just avoids it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 10:34 PM
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It is for myself, she left 14 months ago. It’s just been rough with the mixed signals she sends me sometimes. I can’t figure her out and I need someone to help me do it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 07:12 PM
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I can’t figure anything out, been 14 months and I think I’m worse than I was in the beginning. She acts like none of this shit phases her. Even tho she did tell me before she missed me when we were drunk but it definitely doesn’t seem it the way she ignores my texts most the time and shit. Sometimes I think she cares and still has feelings but then is like “no I can’t let him know” it’s all fucking weird.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:30 PM
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Well now you got me questioning if I wanna even try it, but my ex will never even wanna talk about anything that has to do with what happened. What she has told me ik is not the fucking truth. We get along for the most part and still hang out on occasion but fuck this shit eats at me every single day.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 09:17 AM
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Can I ask what some of those flaws were?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:58 AM
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Yeah
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 08:53 PM
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I can’t find her page cuz she either deleted it or blocked me, the only friend I would know is mutual and she prob wouldn’t wanna tell me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 07:14 PM
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It’s cuz they’re all fucked in the head.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 01:00 AM
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I wished I could say the same, I’m assuming you divorced her?
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 04:09 PM
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It’s because ik something happened but she will not admit to anything. How are you guys nowadays?
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 02:17 AM
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I feel that women also like the feeling of cheating or something, especially narcissists. But I think about this shit on a daily basis. In my head I’m like okay when she told me she was doing this and that, she was really out cheating on me. And I hate that feeling that I get. Can I ask what you did to get over your wife?
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 05:24 PM
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They just lie in general, I trust nobody. This generation is fucked when it comes to relationships. They can look you dead in the eyes and lie and just not feel bad about it. Like how can you go 10 years with someone and then just want nothing to do with them? It’s been a year and I’m still stuck like bro, wtf happened? I literally did nothing wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 04:57 PM
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Oh I’ve heard rumors but of course none of them are true lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 04:48 PM
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Dude, same. I came downstairs one night and was fine and went to show some love and she said some bullshit and I was like uhhhh no? I almost thought she was messing with me. Never once did she discuss she was not happy. It was a complete blindside. She left for 2 weeks and then came back and “talked” and fed me the most bullshit stories and everything she said are not ones you leave someone for. Ik there’s something she didn’t tell me and still won’t til this day.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 02:32 PM
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I don’t ask cuz I don’t really wanna know and she don’t ask me about what I’m doing. She could be seeing someone and I’m sure she prob is but at the same time we still hang out sometimes. Idk this is all just a mess man, honestly. The only reason I still even kinda try is bc I love her and bc of our kid. She’s what I’ve known for 10 years and our marriage was fine, or so I thought.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 02:22 PM
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Already know but we hang out from time to time lol, sucks to be him then.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 01:17 PM
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I can relate to this, was with my wife for 9.5 years and married for 5 and she blind sided me with wanting to separate one night just out of the blue. It’s been a year and I’m still trying to figure out wtf happened. I didn’t get hardly any closure and what I did get ik was not the truth. This shit eats at me all the time. Sometimes she is nice to me and we get along and then it’s like a switch will flip and she’s like distant and just kinda weird. Idfk but this is the hardest shit I have ever d…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 09:07 PM
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We were using a mediator for the divorce but then we just never followed through with that. Have all the paper work and everything.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 03:58 PM
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We don’t have lawyer, we are pretty civil for the most part and co parent but anytime I bring anything up she just gets irritated with me and the convo. I am going the therapist route next week cuz I thought I could handle this myself but with her not talking to me about anything and just acting like she don’t give a shit, it eats at me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 03:36 PM
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And when does all this happen? Been a year for me and I’m still like WTF happened?? I feel she could care less and I’m over here beating myself up. I still don’t have any answers as to why? And the ones I did get I feel aren’t true.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 02:07 PM
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