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NomadicBit/r/seduction14/05/12 09:15 PM
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Honestly there is no silver bullet for this. People will flake for a number of reasons. Maybe they were invited to something else that sounds way better to them, maybe they are truly busy, maybe they are horrible friends...etc. You can make a list a mile long and it won't explain why people behave in this fashion. After 27 years and living in over 40 places in the US I can say this is a common American issue. People suck, are self centered and generally don't deserve the time of day. I can't tel…
/r/seduction24/04/13 10:31 PM
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I see. Well at least you have the active part down. As far as inviting them to join you and your friends I don't see the issue really. I regularly see this scenario where I've decided to do something fun and friends are busy because of work, or prior engagements or general lameness on their part. So when I pick up the girl or she meets up with me, I just act like it's no big thing because it literally happens to me all the time. So I'm going to go about doing whatever I wanted to anyways, and if…
/r/seduction19/04/13 05:23 PM
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Interesting question. I'm glad you asked. Faking it til you make it is literally act the way you wish you were and eventually you will be that way. So the term is a bit off, because you aren't actually faking anything. Instead you are doing your best to look and act like the person you want to be until you become that person. So to answer your question, you can't fake it if you never intend to make it. If you want to have things to invite friends or girls to then you should probably start creati…
/r/seduction17/04/13 09:55 PM
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I work @ home most of the time as well. I take advantage of my flexible schedule to do whatever sounds fun as often as possible. This can include going to amusement parks, going on weekend vacations, hitting the beach, working on personal projects/hobbies, going out to eat, going to an aquarium. I mean the list is literally endless. You shouldn't need to be focusing on PUA stuff. Instead, focus on what you enjoy doing...do that and when opportunities arise you can practice. Being out doing what …
/r/seduction16/04/13 09:53 PM
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Honestly...there's no quick fix for this situation. My first suggestion is to stop second guessing yourself and to realize what makes you awesome. She must see something in you, but it's up to you to realize your own value. I suggest reading "No more Mr. Nice Guy", it should help correct the issues you might be having Some quick tips though: Don't be insecure about meaningless shit. If you are insecure about your size, do something about it or accept who you are. Don't second guess yourself. The…
/r/seduction07/03/13 12:03 AM
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I hear ya. Conversation can be a difficult art to master. The key is to not think about it too much, and don't get all deep and philosophical. Have fun, and don't take anything all too seriously. Joke around have fun and take a genuine interest in her or whoever it is you are talking to. All you have to do to keep a convo going is actively listen(don't just wait your turn to talk), and ask questions that indicate genuine interest. The questions should flow naturally if you are actively listening…
/r/seduction19/02/13 09:27 PM
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Everyone is saying it...but I want to one more time. It's all about confidence man. Do you have hobbies? Do you have interests that you are passionate about? Do you show off either of these? Do you maintain an even temperment at all times. Then you are probably close to being one confident mofo. If not, go out and find your interests, and passions and show them off to the world. Only then will you be on your way. Also while chicks may dig a well dressed guy, dressing well isn't necessary to pick…
/r/seduction18/02/13 09:57 PM
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I think you got it all wrong man. To be honest, I think she was interested. I know all kinds of girls that go to raves, and they tend to take one or two other chicks with them if they are worried about the rape thing. I don't know sunset but this is a pretty general thing regardless of where I'm going. So my general rule that I follow is, if a girl calls and asks me to go to a rave, concert, show at a park...any social event, I fucking go. The odds are stacked in your favor (especially since you…
/r/seduction18/02/13 09:41 PM
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Talk about her. Ask sincere questions and listen intently. People like the feeling of having someone actually take an interest in them. Don't get too serious about anything though. I try to avoid the regular small talk such as the whole what do you do, where are you from, blah blah blah. That stuff is boring and leads to even more boring conversation.
/r/seduction18/02/13 08:59 PM
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It doesn't much anymore. When I used to smoke I used to have that issue.
/r/seduction31/01/13 08:50 PM
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I have the same issue man. Honestly, I have found the best fix is to listen to yourself when you start speaking then calibrate, just like you do with everything else. The deep voice carries better and reduces to a growl when too low, which can cause aggravation. I had to have a friend work with me for a couple weeks to consistently tell me when they thought I was speaking unnecessarily loud. When they did I would calibrate, and if I went too far and started mumbling they would again tell me. The…
/r/seduction29/01/13 08:20 PM
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I know girls like this, I call them friends.
/r/seduction11/01/13 07:24 PM
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I don't want to be a dick here, but we may found your problem. He essentially asked "Who are you?", to which you replied In terms of women perception or in general In pickup and life there is no other perspective that matters other than your own. You need to know who you are(self actualized) first. Once you do, the women will come.
/r/seduction05/12/12 08:27 PM
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I'm talking about a real sale, not scamming people...which oddly enough is still shitty sales. A scam is exactly what you just described. You might as well be selling them unicorn semen because finding a Ferrari for $1 is never going to happen. Now when you want to talk about a real scenario, I'd be willing to talk. However, if you are able to pick up women that way and have them want to come back, because as a good salesman/PUA you eliminated buyers remorse...I'm all ears on how you did it. Oth…
/r/seduction30/10/12 08:18 PM
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I disagree in so many ways. I'll simply say that all salesman must sell themselves to the customer before they can even fathom making the sale. If the customer doesn't like you they won't buy from you. So all sales requires the salesman selling themselves. As a supposed professor, I'd think you would know that. God knows all real salesman know this fact.
/r/seduction30/10/12 08:04 PM
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I didn't even think of it like that. I usually don't see real AMOG's using a "dickhead" tone, unless you've done something to piss them off. But in the event that I do run into someone that feels the need to be a dick like that. I call them on it and usually say something like "What's wrong man? Did someone piss in your cheerios this morning?" then just move on in my convo with whoever.
/r/seduction30/10/12 07:37 PM
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Can't blame you there. I mostly pointed this out, because a very large part of being a great salesman is being able to influence others and read their body language. In other words human psychology plays a huge role in the career of a great salesman. When you break it down, all we are doing here in seddit is trying to be better salesman. We sell ourselves to the girl, by getting her to believe she is the one making the decision to by. If the product sucks, we make it better through self improvem…
/r/seduction30/10/12 07:30 PM
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I highly suggest How to Win Friends and Influence People along with his other suggested reads. I should note that these books are also widely used in the Sales industry to help salesman master their art.
/r/seduction30/10/12 07:14 PM
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I never even thought of this as an AMOG trait, just something I've always done. I honestly wouldn't view this as a conscious tactic. The people I know that do this, including myself, do it because as social people its impossible to remember everyone, but you absolutely want to remember the cool ones. So we will remember those names and who they are, while everyone else gets a nickname until they show they are worth committing to memory. You should also pay attention to how they address others. I…
/r/seduction30/10/12 07:02 PM
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There really is nothing wrong with being a slut, for male or female. Don't be a dick, don't slut-shame. People are who they are. If being a slut is what we want to be, who are you to shame us for being ourselves?
/r/seduction11/10/12 08:36 PM
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This is one topic that I'm not sure would be delivered well in an article, since cocky funny is making a cocky/arrogant statement with the proper tonality and body language to make it obvious that you are only half way serious. Obviously demonstrating tonality and body language in an article isn't exactly easy. Not sure that helps. To answer your other question though, cocky funny always works. My suggestion is to you is to go out there and experiment with it. Continue calibrating til it comes o…
/r/seduction11/10/12 08:20 PM
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Besides hitting the gym, dude capitalize on the fact that they think you are gay. I have a good friend who is regularly mistaken for being gay, and he pulls women like it was nobody's business. I asked him once how he handles it. All he said was "I don't give a shit. I'm not gay." He get's this because he is very "pretty" and dresses very well. Not saying this is the reason for you, but I'd say own it. Be yourself and stop caring how you are perceived.
/r/seduction11/10/12 08:11 PM
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I'll part with some of mine I guess. What I call the awkward opener works with groups larger than 3 in a club or house party. Walk up to a group of people with a smile and confident body language, while they are all talking among themselves. Don't say anything, just smile and wait for them to all give you that 'look' that says "why are you standing there? Wtf do you want?". Then look at them and say playfully, "oh come on guys, you aren't going to make this awkward are you?". This will usually g…
/r/seduction10/10/12 09:01 PM
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hahahaha. Ok I can see you missed what I was trying to say. All that I'm trying to say is that the rules of yours that I pointed out are for a lack of better word...dumb. Well actually all of them are, but I was trying to be constructive here. As far as your argument, while it may be correct in a sense, it's completely irrelevant to what I said. I also have no clue how you read what I said and concluded that I am a self proclaimed nice guy, lol.
/r/seduction02/10/12 04:06 PM
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You seem to have learned a lot about how to be less of a "nice guy". This term is something of a misnomer and I wish it weren't used to describe a push-over. But that's beside the point. I'd like to suggest a thing or two. NEVER continue to do favors until the person returns the favor in a equal or higher degree. If you do, then the person will get the impression that they are playing you and lose whatever respect they had for you. I strongly hold by that it doesn't matter if they return a favor…
/r/seduction01/10/12 10:01 PM
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I have to say that this is a decent routine in my opinion. Props man for putting this out there. I've never considered using it for an opener. Instead I usually use something like this when the chick is a little stiff in order to move rapport along. I'll often explain this while moving toward and away from her to make her feel the difference as well as hearing it. Doesn't always work, but then again what does have a 100% success rate?
/r/seduction01/10/12 09:19 PM
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That is true, they are. But that doesn't mean he should have to keep everything private just because some other closeted guy is. As far as the gay marriage rights...where do I start? I guess we can start with the cultural viewpoint and christian religion which persecutes gays. But let's dismiss that for a moment and say that perhaps the majority of people do support gay marriage, or are at least not offended by it. If they aren't gay, the chances of them caring, even though they should, is unlik…
/r/seduction28/09/12 09:39 PM
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On the contrary, I think it is you that doesn't understand. Studies have shown that men that display homophobia are also often aroused by homoerotic images. This implies that homophobic men are either closeted gay men or at the very least bi-curious. Also places that show the highest populations of homophobic men also seem to have the highest viewing rate of gay porn, crazy right? Also you are from LA and you know that "most" people are homophobic. If you are basing your "most" on this small sub…
/r/seduction28/09/12 08:12 PM
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I don't know why you jumped straight to the homo-phobic remark. Did you know most people that have an extreme aversion to gay people also have a tendency to harbor "gay" thoughts? So OP if they get all offended, ask them to just come out of the damned closet and get over themselves. My suggestion is to realize that you are who you are. You will offend some, you will make some smile, and some will just not care one way or the other. I understand that hitting on other guys can induce anxiety(just …
/r/seduction28/09/12 07:26 PM
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Skiing/snowboarding
/r/seduction27/09/12 08:20 PM
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Ok so you have a boring page...and this is an issue with pick-up how? Seriously dude, who cares. This sub is for pick-up questions. Facebook doesn't show DHV in any valuable way. You aren't walking up to girls saying "hi" and telling them to check you out on facebook to see how awesome you are before you walk away. If you are...STOP! So stop worrying about shit that doesn't matter, and go out and meet some women.
/r/seduction27/09/12 07:47 PM
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Here's the thing, and brace yourself for this, most people suck horribly at conversing. People are self-absorbed and even if they do think you might be cool, suck at actually holding a conversation. It's not so much using an opener to get them to do most of the talking, it's about using statements and questions that will get them to talk about themselves. Which is why I mentioned that you need to be listening for the "bait" in their statements. People liberally sprinkle bait all throughout every…
/r/seduction27/09/12 05:38 PM
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Kino is key if you aren't already doing it. If you are then great, You are on the right track. Once you have made introductions and got past the opener conversation, you want to segwey into another non-threatening question. Memitim901 makes some good suggestions. What you do after asking that question is key to the interaction. You must listen fully to what each of them says, and keep doing that for the remainder of the interaction. People unconsciously bait their statements to allow the other p…
/r/seduction26/09/12 10:18 PM
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My advice is do exactly what you said in your post. Go to concert. Dance like you do when you do, have fun. Make light fun conversation with anyone and everyone. When you meet a girl that you think is cool, let her know, get her group if she has one to join your group. Have an awesome time, and don't make it all about the womenz. My advice on dancing, if you can keep with the beat then you are fine. Confident goofy dancing is almost always better than looking like a pro anyway.
/r/seduction26/09/12 06:49 PM
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"Sorry I'm not your dancing monkey. However if you want to join me (and other person if applicable) for (activity) you are welcome to come."
/r/seduction26/09/12 06:15 PM
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Here's the thing, it has nothing to do with you being "nice". It's how you present yourself. Why didn't you just lead off with "Hey I'm going to qualify the shit out of myself to you, all while pointing out how different I am than your usual type" Don't do it. Next time you hear a statement like that simply say, "that's cool". Because you know what, maybe she doesn't know what a psycho bf is really. Maybe she is an attention whore looking for sympathy. Maybe she is trying to see if you will qual…
/r/seduction24/09/12 10:48 PM
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Here is my advice on how I would handle it. I would remember that I have balls and that I'm the man. Then I would remind them of this fact, by calling them on their shit and telling them to grow the fuck up. In my circle of friends, I have rules men must adhere to. If you are going to be near us you must be a man of your word, you must be awesome as fuck and you must never attempt to create drama. These are my rules. If I have a "scorned AMOG" in my circle, I will remove them from my circle. It'…
/r/seduction24/09/12 10:40 PM
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Here's what I do. I'll be chillaxin, when suddenly I hear/see/think of something that I think would be cool to know. Then I go and research the shit out of it until I've reached my hearts content. Also watch documentaries you haven't seen yet, read books that appeal to you, and talk with other people that know more about whatever it is you are interested in than you do.
/r/seduction24/09/12 09:50 PM
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I've never thought of carrying props, or even had it suggested. Can you make a good argument for why a prop would be needed?
/r/seduction24/09/12 09:33 PM
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Why is no one suggesting the obvious here for someone in school. Ask her to help you with hw, or studying for an exam, or studying for tomorrows quiz, or fuck...just studying. This is by far the most innocent way to get into a one on one situation other than asking if they want to get coffee. Oh and stop thinking so damned much. They won't remember what you say unless it's completely offensive or hilarious. Best to try to be hilarious instead of offensive. Let them know you are into them without…
/r/seduction19/09/12 10:23 PM
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Here's what you do next time you see him. Tell him you think he's kinda cool, and that you should totally hang out. Then exchange numbers, tell him you will call later. Then call him later. The coffee suggestion by sbaborn is also a valid one. As far as awkwardness if he isn't interested...don't be awkward and there won't be a problem.
/r/seduction19/09/12 09:57 PM
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What it sounds like to me is that you have done all this stuff to attract the opposite sex and you are no longer happy. You upgraded your wardrobe to impress the opposite sex. Is it possible you work out for the same reason? If the answer is yes then you have found your problem. Actually the fact you upgraded your wardrobe to impress the opposite sex, instead of make yourself feel good should have been your first sign that you have your priorities wrong. If you are working out for the same reaso…
/r/seduction19/09/12 09:46 PM
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This is the best bet. When they say "Hi", if they don't look to be in a huge hurry, stop them and open.
/r/seduction19/09/12 09:29 PM
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How did you find out they find you creepy? Is this something you have had brought to your attention or is it something you are assuming? If you assumed it my advice is as follows...STOP! It's that easy. Stop worrying about if they like you, instead know that they like you. Why wouldn't they? I'm sure you have a long list of qualities that make you awesome. Be flirty, joke with them, give them a hard time, have fun. Be confident about all that you do, and you will have little issue. Once they are…
/r/seduction18/09/12 08:21 PM
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Well first of all you give more details. What happens after you number close? Do you just throw away the number, or do you call her? How about trying to get a girl to go with you to wherever you are going? Ever tried inviting one of these girls on the spot to join you later at some event? It sounds to me like you are walking up to people saying hi and then leaving them be, unless you grabbing their number is something you "deem appropriate". I don't mean to be a douche about this man but trying …
/r/seduction18/09/12 08:13 PM
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Ok having just read an inspiration post about the fodder going on in here I'll try to be helpful. First off, if you haven't done so already read the side bar. That should help a little. If you really want to read on techniques, pick up a book on sales techniques. These are the exact techniques used in this community with the focus on selling yourself to a woman. Ok now we got past the material that you might want to read, let's talk college campus game. You being a freshman matters absolutely 0.…
/r/seduction18/09/12 07:42 PM
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You nailed it there. If they press it, I usually tell them that I create the future and that my job is so awesome that I'm not even allowed to talk about it, which is true. Then I move on. I find that girls would rather hear about places I've traveled recently, over what software I've been working on anyway.
/r/seduction12/09/12 03:51 PM
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Don't get me wrong being a software engineer is a big part of who I am. I practically came out of the womb spouting code and equations. And when I'm in the mood to watch their eyes gloss over from not understanding a word of what I'm saying, I'll tell them about the hobby projects that I work on. Over the years I've come to understand that most women not only don't know what a software engineer does but even hearing us speak about it is like listening to someone speak chinese when they clearly d…
/r/seduction12/09/12 03:41 PM
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In small towns the logistics change a bit. If you segregate her from the group and everyone notices, suddenly it no longer matters if you don't kiss and tell. Because everyone else will take the liberty of spreading the rumors. I'm not sure if this is your situation or not but it is something I learned from many years of living in small towns. If this is indeed your problem it's just a matter of altering the logistics. I wish I could offer more advice but this is a little too vague. Moar details…
/r/seduction11/09/12 09:20 PM
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Honestly I find social proof to be lame. It has zero value after she is talking to you. At that point it is up to her to make up her mind on how much she likes you, and if she will sleep with you. With that said, in a FWB situation I tell them forthright that that chick is a friend and I see her on occasion. It's just best to be honest. Keep in mind that there are a myriad of reasons that a woman would ask about the other girl. I find it best to not guess. I will usually ask why they are concern…
/r/seduction11/09/12 06:34 PM
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I'm a software engineer that works on next generation tech. Like everyone else in the industry. If I'm in the mood to re-frame I usually tell them that I make a bright future possible. If they ask for a title I tell them that I'm far too awesome to be pigeon holed. Plus talking about what you do for a paycheck is so narrow minded and utterly boring that I prefer to avoid it all together. I find that my hobbies are more than enough to keep them entertained.
/r/seduction11/09/12 06:12 PM
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I gotta agree with you aooke. You don't build confidence by sleeping around. Confidence comes from within. If you are picky own it man. I'm usually extremely picky. But I know what I like and I pick em accordingly. What it sounds like to me is that you don't know what you want. You are just demanding 10's with no other entrance fee. You need to have clearly defined standards for yourself and you won't be "getting very little". Instead you will be getting plenty of what you want. But first you ha…
/r/seduction07/09/12 06:03 PM
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Learn to actively listen my friend. So when you are having a conversation you aren't sitting there thinking what to talk about next or what you will say. When you actively listen to them all that matters at the moment is what they are saying. When there is a pause or a good point for you to add to the conversation, ask questions regarding one of the bread crumbs she left for you. People leave these all the time in their statements. For example: her: OMG I was walking my dog the other day and saw…
/r/seduction07/09/12 05:38 PM
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It really depends on the situation or rather the severity of his actions. So for something that's not all that offensive and comes off as a a pathetic attempt as an insult, laugh a little, and move on without acknowledging it. However if they cross the line you need to establish boundaries. Once they cross the line it's time you spoke a little more firmly, but don't be a dick. In my experience, crossing the line usually happens after they fail to get a rise out of you for a while. When this happ…
/r/seduction23/08/12 05:01 PM
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Wow dude. Seriously? Why don't you scream louder that you never get laid. There are plenty of us guys that aren't only about the sex. Not to mention that approaching never makes a girl look like a slut. It just makes you look like a jackass for thinking it. I'll be the first to say that I prefer a girl that is willing to approach. I also prefer that she be able to spit game, shit talk, and be all around fucking awesome.
/r/seduction21/08/12 07:00 PM
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His answer is a post of his from a couple days ago. Could have just referenced it paulwanka. In general, it's bad advice. Yes, venue matters in the way that going to a club that is dead isn't going to be a great place to do pick-up, whereas a packed club is much better. That's about all there is to say on that one. Don't pigeon hole yourself by taking the easy route and saying..."oh its just the venue", or "they are on a ladies night out". Do you know what women do during ladies nights out? They…
/r/seduction20/08/12 08:17 PM
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Great at programming, math, and pretty much dabble in all sciences. decent at snowboarding but better at skiing I scuba dive. Travelling is really my thing, and I've been to all 48 continental states, and I've lived in 10. I enjoy yoga and working out, as well as dabbling in dancing and gloving. I used to be a sous-chef, and have cooked for some really important people. I'm auto-didactic and obsessed with consistent growth and self-improvement
/r/seduction20/08/12 07:36 PM
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I disagree. I don't see his approach at all as giving her higher value than yourself, just higher value than she had. This almost always makes people respond well to you. Try it sometime. In my own experience, high value people show it through their actions more than their words. If you are sincerely giving away value to another, you likely have so much damned value that regardless of what value you give her it will never exceed yours.
/r/seduction17/08/12 08:23 PM
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I think you have your priorities backwards. Pick-up should be about having fun first and getting girls second. You're attitude is all wrong. But I'll entertain you anyways... Places you will never pull anywhere where all females are paired off with their SO Places you will always pull A brothel. Ok now that we got the ridiculous out of the way lets address your other issues. A "2 set" IMO is never ideal, the larger the group the better. Don't begin tying yourself down to rules that are plain stu…
/r/seduction17/08/12 08:13 PM
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I'll tell you what I used last weekend. As my friends began to ask where they could crash I quickly listed off everyone's spot except for hers. Once I was finished I paused for a moment gave her a sly smile and simply stated "as for you...Don't you worry. I have a comfortable spot for you to sleep.". The intent was stated...If she flirts back(isn't offended by your statement) then you are good. Proceed with the evening and pull her to your room when you feel like it. you could also tell her that…
/r/seduction17/08/12 07:20 PM
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You have a very vague problem here that didn't need so many bullet points. What I am getting is that you are having difficulty maintaining conversation(in both text and in person) and you believe you suck at flirting. Flirting is easy once you get the hang of it. Give back-handed compliments or be sarcastic in a joking fashion. Listen actively. Ask questions like you don't know anything about the topic but you are fascinated. Different majors/careers makes this real easy. Don't have long texting…
/r/seduction15/08/12 09:51 PM
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Honestly its a process and can take months, but always pays off. The key is having time, a little spending money, and being solid at connecting with people. I think this would fall into the category of advanced game. I don't really intend to describe my process in its entirety right now. What I can suggest though is to learn to have a constant abundance mentality about everything. Also learn to befriend bartenders, as in actually become their friends. Once you have those 2 down you will be ready…
/r/seduction13/08/12 04:18 PM
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Ok here's your issue, you are trying to roll yourself out and present all that is you. Stop it. First off, after presenting a dream or life goal of yours, don't present another one in the same night. It is also good to choose your main dream and make everything else an "I always thought it would be cool to <Insert thing here>" kind of statement. This creates congruence and focus. If you can't focus on one dream, how the hell are you going to keep focused on one girl? Secondly, when someone says …
/r/seduction10/08/12 08:26 PM
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Try some foreplay homie. Get them excited...so excited that they refuse to leave until they get off. If you think guys hate blue balls...you should see how girls respond to not getting off after they are turned on. Let's just say they don't like taking no for an answer. If you get her excited, you won't have to worry about her running off. My advice is learn how to excite a girl. If you are fingering her and she leaves mid-way...no offense man but you need to work on your skills. Maybe mix it up…
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:57 PM
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I used to follow this mantra and I have to whole heartedly agree that it is good shit. My problem is I move around a lot, and regularly desire change, so creating a "spot" isn't much my style. I now find it easier to befriend the promoters and bar owners. This takes less time to do, has more perks, and generally allows for flexibility when going out.
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:37 PM
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This is a difficult issue to work around. Believe me, I know. I used to talk way too much about myself in a way that was off putting. At one point I was even told that I sound arrogant or like a 1-upper. I don't consider myself either and took this as an insult, but what they were saying had value. I spoke too much about what I did and didn't do enough to spark the emotion they must have felt based on my own experiences. I rarely actually share what I did anymore, just the feelings. But this lea…
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:28 PM
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I think you are a little misinformed. Just because I showed initial interest doesn't obligate me to buy, and therefore it's still my choice, as much as it is hers. All opening is, is letting the other person know "hey I might be interested in you". It is on you to woo the girl and on her to prove that she deserves you. The choice is always yours, just as much as hers. As they say it takes two to tango.
/r/seduction10/08/12 06:30 PM
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I could bust on you dude but let me put this in perspective for you. I used to be in sales and that's how I got game. Believe it or not sales and picking up women are one in the same. You need to open, build a desire for what you are selling, and close. Now why am I telling you this. Because sales is a numbers game as well. Now let's talk depressing. In comparison to pick-up, in sales you actually have a need to close. No close = no paycheck. Simple as that. It is this simple fact alone that cau…
/r/seduction10/08/12 06:23 PM
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I find that nearly all women I interact with deal well with direct approach. They aren't stupid and they know when you are hitting on them. To act like they don't is pretty damned insulting IMO.
/r/seduction07/08/12 08:20 PM
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I like my girls to have red hair, piercings, tattoos, sexually open, bubbly/fun, a little nerdy.
/r/seduction06/08/12 05:17 PM
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Its not a paradox. A frame of abundance is a fact as well as wanting her. One doesn't affect the other. Just because you want that one girl, the others aren't going to just disappear. When people say come from a frame of abundance they really mean be outcome independent. A guy who has abundance isn't afraid to touch a girl, he isn't afraid to make his intentions known, he isn't afraid of rubbing her the wrong way. Why? Because he has a life of abundance. If things don't work out in set, then on …
/r/seduction06/08/12 05:00 PM
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It sounds to me like your problem is that you aren't actually developing a connection. If a girl isn't opening up because you are interrogating her and it might even feel like it to her to. Talk about something cool you did recently. Maybe ask if she has ever done anything like that, is into that...whatever. If not move on, talk about something else. You need to build a connection though. And the only way to do that is through shared experience, real or perceived. Don't just get to know them. le…
/r/seduction06/08/12 04:47 PM
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A gay male. They always have lots of females around they will want to introduce you to. They are great for meeting new women. You always get bonus points for being good friends with a gay guy and not caring, and you never have to worry about losing a target because of your wing cock-blocking due to wanting you for themselves.
/r/seduction06/08/12 04:35 PM
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Everyone has a different definition of what qualifies so mine may or may not be similar to yours. Think of a qualifier as a little thread with something of value to you on the end. You throw it out there and see if she responds in a way pleasing to you. For example I value self-esteem in a woman. I usually get them to tell me about themselves. Then address it if you notice its an issue. I was chilling with a girl this week that was telling me one story after another and I noticed that she was fu…
/r/seduction06/08/12 04:22 PM
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Dude I'm sorry that you feel that way. I too have friends that have 'helped' in situations but never actually did anything of substance to put me where I am today. Unlike you I actually did do it all on my own, and I still do. I give you props for having good friends that made it all possible. Bravo! But you didn't get those friends by waiting on life to give them to you. You had to do something that showed intent to be their friend...thus you in a sense just willed them into your life. I hope t…
/r/seduction06/08/12 03:56 PM
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At a spring weekend at my uni I walked up to a few girls while shooting the shit with my friends little brother. The girl asked us what we were up to. Me: "bored, looking for a cool girl to have earth shattering sex with. But my buddy here is only looking for some head. So which of you ladies likes having amazing sex?" Girl1: "she does!"(pointing at her friend) Me: "Oh good, and here I thought this was going to take a while. So what's your name"(to girl 2) We all ended up partying, having a grea…
/r/seduction03/08/12 09:07 PM
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No one here seems to be asking the crucial question. What kind of places is she meeting guys in? What kind of guy does she want? These are very important questions. It sounds to me like she has plenty of guys but not he one's she wants. Try looking elsewhere is the best advice I can give based on the few details provided.
/r/seduction03/08/12 08:11 PM
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I have one right here....Oh wait that's lint. Looks like I'm fresh out.
/r/seduction03/08/12 07:13 PM
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Yup. It's called qualifying. Not sure if this girl is worth your time? you get her to qualify herself. If she fails to do so she failed the test.
/r/seduction03/08/12 07:08 PM
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Here's the trick with a two-set. They are out together, as friends to have a good time. Now if you inject yourself into their evening to hit on one the other may be left feeling like a third wheel. Pick your target, and flirt with her, but also flirt with her friend. Be energetic, get them to do activities with you. If you approach them at the bar grab both of them and say "come on lets go dance" and dance with them. If dancing isn't your thing, I suggest learning a few moves. You can also intro…
/r/seduction03/08/12 04:01 PM
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Before you go to the club, go somewhere else first where you can "warm-up" and approach a few girls that you aren't crazy attracted to. Then go to the club and keep your momentum. Another thing to keep in mind is that girl are usually with friends at clubs. It isn't common for a girl to go clubbing alone, so you are going to have to force yourself to approach knowing that you may trip over your words or do any variety of things that make you look like an ass. That's the reality of the situation.…
/r/seduction03/08/12 03:46 PM
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These guys know how to throw a party. I suggest listening to them. Some other great themes, whiteout/highlighter(everyone wears white and writes/draws on each other. Great ice breaker). Pirates and ninjas is also good, mustache party, underwear party. So many ways to have an awesome time. The key no matter what is to remember that you are catering to the girls. Guys will come if there are women, this is a fact of the universe.
/r/seduction02/08/12 09:26 PM
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In my experience, the girl with take care of it. She may or may not blatantly tell the friend. usually they don't though, usually its more of a hint hint nudge nudge situation. Play it cool though and you should be gold.
/r/seduction02/08/12 05:05 PM
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I've got my solo game on lock. I can't quite claim yet to be a complete master, but I always get at least a K-close and about a dozen numbers. I have yet to meet an effective wing so I prefer solo game. I highly suggest it to any guys looking to get good at your game.
/r/seduction31/07/12 05:20 PM
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Dude I'm guessing you meet a lot of girls that give those 3 hobbies as what they do for fun. There isn't one person on earth who only has those 3 hobbies. Everyone has a secret hobby, or interest that they are self conscious about. I don't want to make a lot of assumptions so what I can say is being interested in someone because of their looks isn't being interested in someone. All people are at the very least slightly interesting if you take the time to get to know them. I'm assuming you aren't…
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:01 PM
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oooo facebook official. At this point I don't know much about your style or how you've been with her so far. I personally would tell her I have time to hang out today but I would set the time and say only for an hour or something like that. I would confront her about having a boyfriend, and proceed however you see fit. I myself don't hook up with girls that have bf's already. I had this situation once and when I found out from her friend while we were at a party, I told her flat out that it's to…
/r/seduction30/07/12 03:41 PM
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So let me get this straight, you met a girl a few days ago, that some other guy supposedly started dating the day before you met her? And you believe this story from your co-worker as valid and think their relationship is really serious? Come on. Either way they just started dating, call her out on the rumor you heard and see what she has to say. Proceed however you see fit. Its so simple.
/r/seduction30/07/12 03:26 PM
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There's your problem Epoh and TotallyHuman. You are just riddled with limiting beliefs. Everything in that comic is actually true aside from something so horrible happening to you that you are like Christopher Reeves, which may I mention is also covered in there because it is something that is beyond your control. Your reality is whatever you make it, because reality is merely how you perceive things. If you perceive your life as shitty and yourself a loser then guess what, your going to get exa…
/r/seduction30/07/12 02:50 PM
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I can't believe this is a question. But honestly follow what most everyone is saying have fun. I just got back from a festival and I was approached 50% of the time. I also enjoy gloving so that tends to bring people to you. Either way, have fun, enjoy the music say hi to girls that end up near you while you are doing your thing. The rest will take care of itself. Oh and Be Bold my friend. Chicks dig boldness.
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:19 PM
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Honestly, what you say in that situation doesn't much matter, as long as it isn't offensive. It can be innocent or dirty, but the words themselves don't much matter. When you pull a girl in close and invade her space in such a way, while whispering in her ear you are setting off a chemical chain reaction that will cause her mind to reframe even if temporarily. Bonus if you breath properly so that she can feel it on her neck. P.S. Most things girls say in response will be lame, that's just the re…
/r/seduction26/07/12 07:13 PM
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LOL it wasn't like she showed up and boom they were distracted. But that would have been incredible to witness. It pretty much involved her getting them off my lap by getting me to stand up to show me something. She then got the other 2 playing pong, then proceeded to sit me back down and take their place on my lap. By far one of the smoothest things I've ever seen a girl do.
/r/seduction25/07/12 09:27 PM
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You sound like a perfectly normal person to me. You're problem is you are thinking too far ahead. Before you can learn to walk you must learn to crawl. Same goes for conversations. The suggestion on saying "hi" to a stranger isn't meant to be necessarily followed by a conversation. If you can't get comfortable initiating one, how on earth are you going to maintain a conversation. Many guys start here with the same mentality of "I can't". Sure you can! You're awesome! Maybe even the most awesomis…
/r/seduction25/07/12 04:19 PM
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Lots of gold in the comments on this thread. I personally like it when a woman is capable of seducing me. Its not a trait I see in a lot of women these days and that's a huge turn-off IMO. Any girl that I've actually dated seriously did the dance...aka, played her part in the seduction. I have 2 different girls that did their part and they were good at it. Girl 1, ran up to me and stopped me on my way to a party and insisted she had seen me around and thought I was cute. While doing this she sto…
/r/seduction25/07/12 03:55 PM
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The only excuse anyone has for not meeting women is that they don't want to. I was a CS major with minors in Math and Computer Engineering, worked 2-3 jobs and still had time to party, meet girls and take spontaneous trips. So I'm calling Bullshit
/r/seduction24/07/12 07:12 PM
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Gaming in a club is fairly easy is you have confidence and aren't afraid to take chances. I myself prefer solo game when I'm going out, but having wings can also be beneficial as well, depending on your choice of wing. It really doesn't matter how many girls are in a set, if you like one then you should approach. Still make sure to pay attention to all of them just like any set. If you don't know how to dance, learn to, even if its just a couple of moves. If you can dance even slightly and have …
/r/seduction23/07/12 04:55 PM
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Dude you are thinking all wrong about this. Girls keep duffs(same as your "better by comparison" concept) because comparison in looks matter. For us guys that just some bs noise. You have real friends, hang out with them. In general have fun, and bring friends you would have fun with. Simple as that.
/r/seduction20/07/12 04:32 PM
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Honestly while I was in NYC I preferred the later hours. My trick is don't approach. Just use body language instead. My basic tactic was keep open relaxed body language, smile, make eye contact, wink, go back to what you are doing. I had about 80% of the women I did this to come over, start a convo and give me their number.
/r/seduction20/07/12 04:08 PM
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Dude, I realize this is a sticking point for you, but no one cares. No one is sitting there thinking, paki123 has a weird smile. That shit doesn't happen. I don't have the same issue but I do have a similar one. When I was a kid I used to get in a lot of fights. So much so that without me paying attention to it my right eye only naturally opens half way now without me making a point of opening it fully. I also can't smile fully. All of my smiles come off as smirks. For me to fully smile I have t…
/r/seduction06/07/12 07:36 PM
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Honestly bro, you convey it being interesting by projecting the emotion that said activity conjures in you. Women are emotional creatures, use that to your advantage. I honestly don't say a whole hell of a lot about myself during pickup. I project confidence, have fun, and talk about them. Its that simple. For example: I picked up a neurologist once because I was able to speak with her about the intricacies of the brain. also: I picked up a girl last weekend because I have met some of her favori…
/r/seduction06/07/12 06:44 PM
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Well first off, if you have a group of friends that you enjoy being around. Don't listen to anyone that tells you that you can't reframe and to just drop them. This is a cop out. In the end being a leader isn't about how much you say, it's about what you say. For example, I'm a decent conversationalist, but I don't speak a lot. I say what I mean and mean what I say. This forms respect and leads to you getting more credit from those around you. Secondly, when you are posed with the typical questi…
/r/seduction14/06/12 08:41 PM
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If you can't sit down thought don't sweat it. I myself suffered for the longest time with thinking certain things are awkward. In reality it is only awkward if you make it awkward. Keep open body language, smile and most of all have fun. Also do as TofuTofu says, Be BOLD!
/r/seduction07/06/12 08:26 PM
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works like a charm. Here have all the upvotes!
/r/seduction07/06/12 08:19 PM
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I disagree...some of my most most memorable fun experiences were way out of my comfort zone.
/r/seduction18/05/12 09:21 PM
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Definitely let me know how it works out for you man. I find this opener is great when I'm out but not in a hugely high energy mood. Let me know if you have any success with it!
/r/seduction18/05/12 04:33 PM
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Well, first off read the sidebar. Plenty of good stuff in there to get you on your way. Now to answer your questions: 1. I use what I call the "awkward opener". I inject myself into a group of people and wait for the stares. Then accuse them of making it awkward. This is hard to pull off, and body language is key. My other favorite opener is "Hey what's up?". Situational openers are good too. When having a conversation don't think of anything but what she is saying. Listen to her, process it, as…
/r/seduction17/05/12 06:10 PM
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"yeah, you're really confident, and I can see cocky, but not overly so." IMO if you are described like this, that is a big part of your problem. Tone down the cockiness, or make it more humorous. Funny cocky is good, actually cocky is bad.
/r/seduction17/05/12 05:53 PM
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It really depends on the guy. I honestly have a lot of respect for an 'alpha' female. My suggestions if you were trying to get my attention would be to walk over and ask for it by introducing yourself, making conversation, and generally being fun. The other suggestions on eye contact and a flirty smile don't hurt, but if this guy is like me he likely won't notice. Because we are doing our thing, not scoping the area for every attractive girl looking at us hoping to get our attention. To give an …
/r/seduction16/05/12 07:59 PM
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Whoa dude. A wingman should never hit on a girl who his wing has already claimed. He is to hit on her friends and conduct himself as a proper wing should, providing value to the situation and to the wing.
/r/seduction16/05/12 07:41 PM
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