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| 12 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living? | Not_A_Player_Nope | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 09:56 PM | |
| 4 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand? | Not_A_Player_Nope | /r/seduction | 29/03/14 09:16 PM | |
| 0 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girls | Not_A_Player_Nope | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 08:59 PM |
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| 12 | Seddit,what is your go to "excuse" for inviting a girl up to your apartment during or at the end of a date?I literally say, "Wanna come back to my place and make out?" They've never said no, surprisingly. Usually they think it's funny. | /r/seduction | 15/05/14 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Drunk girls? ErmI mean... no harm in going for a phone number. Who knows, maybe once they sober up they'll be cool. It's super easy to move quickly to a phone number in these situations. Like... all you have to do is pause for a beat, look them in the eyes, then say, "What's your phone number." I just have a policy of "never waste an opportunity," and there are other ways to play things than taking these girls home immediately. There's no harm in flirting a bit and pulling a little bit of kino. If you're the on… | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 07:37 AM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?Sorry. Don't check this account much sometimes. It's hard to ask the girls what happened because they just disappear. It's basically the same as if you go on an internet date and the girl doesn't ever respond - just that it happens after they sleep with me. So I really only have the date to go on, too. My main thought recently has been that it might have to do with alcohol being a part of the equation, too. I think sometimes girls go a little further than they expect to, then sober up and have a… | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 06:26 AM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?This is the only thing that I can tell you from my experience: I wouldn't be able to get women to take their clothes off and jump into bed with me on a first date if I wasn't doing something right physically leading up to that moment. Sex is more than a wink and a nod, then MAGICALLY NUDITY. There are things leading up to the moment, and amazingly the clothes-off portion is surprisingly similar to the clothes-on one, just with more skin and dangly parts (and yes, some preponderance of thrusting)… | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?I had kind of a negative initial reaction to this because of the "Girls are notoriously good at faking" line. I don't think most girls bother faking unless they get the sense that it means a lot to the guy. I don't put a lot of emphasis on it, so I honestly don't think most girls bother to fake. I feel like at this point I know the difference most of the time. To my knowledge girls have a pretty good time with me in and out of bed. When I went back to look at your post a second time I got more o… | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 09:45 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?Fair enough. Might just be a weird streak of dating, too. Sometimes a couple of things happen for random reasons outside your control and it starts to look like a trend. Just keep putting myself out there, I guess. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 07:11 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?I do the standard. Call or send them a text the next day saying I had a good time and reference some joke for the night. Tell them I hope their day is going well. As soon as I have a chance (usually within a couple of days) I'll give them a call and try to set something up for the upcoming week - try to keep pressure low. Lately girls haven't been responding to the text or picking up the phone. It's weird, because on the night of they often go on unsolicited about "you're so handsome..." etc., a… | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 06:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?Nope. Just going after girls that seem attractive/interesting to me. Not really super worried about the sex, but I'll take it if they're game. I've actually had fairly good luck with that. I'd say that in the past four months I've ended up having sex with probably 50% of the women I've been on dates with. I have a feeling that part of it is that I'm converting a lot more women who are open to a good time, but then feel guilty or get the buyer's remorse feeling afterwards and don't follow through… | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 12:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?Doubting it's the sex thing. Not trying to be self-aggrandizing, but they seem to have a good time, and more often than not I can get a girl to cum. The "friends first then fuckbuddy" thing is a little tough, because I prefer to date outside my circle of friends, and if you meet somebody new and set it in a friendship context, I've found that it's very difficult to change it into something else. People get comfortable with a specific set of roles, then changing it gets weird. | /r/seduction | 29/03/14 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn a one-night stand into a more-than-one-night stand?Seems to happen the most with people met through OKCupid. | /r/seduction | 29/03/14 09:36 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys feel about what I did?I think you kind of got yourself in trouble by going for conversation over trying for a kiss. The explicit way you brought up your attraction deflates a lot of the tension that could have been there. Now she knows explicitly, and knowing explicitly means she can put you on the back burner while she focuses on this other guy who she has more chance of losing. Effectively, you're her safety net now, and you're not a challenge. "Hang out during spring break" likely means "hang out" and not "get phy… | /r/seduction | 16/03/14 02:53 AM |
| 2 | I can never convert one-night stands to two-night stands and beyond. Advice?hint at another meet-to-fuck session Number 2, too, with that one. | /r/seduction | 14/02/14 06:53 AM |
| 4 | Success story about fear and the first kiss with a stranger girl.And if she rejects you, it's not that big of a deal. If I go in for a kiss and it doesn't happen, I usually play it off like I feel better afterwards, because honestly, I do. It's so much better to make the move and have it not work than it is to sit at home at night wondering "what if." It really seems to mess with girls, too, because I think that kind of a response proves to them that you're a good guy, and part of them starts thinking, "God... did I miss out on something?" If you take this ap… | /r/seduction | 10/02/14 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Literary fiction can help your social skills.How on earth do you talk about books then? All the girls I've met tend to be much more into reading than the guys I know. It only comes off as pretentious if you use reading as evidence that you're smart. If you just enjoy reading, it comes off as you talking about something you like to do. Something that's probably a shared activity you both have. As long as you don't bring an "I'm here to educate you" vibe to the conversation, and instead bring a, "Here's something neat I found that relates to… | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Social life based completely on drinking. How to quit?I had a similar situation. My solution was just to stop drinking entirely, but keep going out with people. I thought at first that everybody would be judging me if I didn't have a beer in my hand, but it turned out that nobody really cared that much. When people did ask me why I wasn't doing it, I just told them, "It's an experiment," or "I decided to try something new." That was usually enough. If your social circle is extremely big on drinking pressure, it can be kind of a difficult thing to d… | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Tips for Meeting Introverts?My solution to this has always been to try and have a huge social group. It's kind of ironic, but to meet a good number of introverted girls I think you have to be crazy extroverted. Know a lot of people that are in disconnected social groups, go to a lot of house parties and social events, and get face time with a lot of female friends. Introverted girls tend to go with their friends to things a lot more than to go out on their own. They also tend to avoid clubs and bars if they can. The more i… | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 10:41 PM |
| 0 | Literary fiction can help your social skills.I actually studied English Lit in college. People like having conversations about fictional characters. It's fun to talk about how a character somebody made up turns out to have problems that are a lot like your own. You get to talk about so much interesting stuff then. Did the character live in a different time period? How were things different then? What would your problems be like if you had to deal with all the extra shit from that time on top of your own stuff? The point of the conversation… | /r/seduction | 15/12/13 07:55 AM |
| 0 | Literary fiction can help your social skills.Reading fiction is good if you can figure out ways to relate it to the situation at hand. Like if a girl tells you she's having problems with a girlfriend or something, and you can throw out, "Actually, I was reading this book (insert name). It kind of reminds me of (character) and (other character)..." Then you can talk about it and how it is or is not like their problem. People love having things explained to them in parable. It's more engaging, and it sets up a bigger range of discussion that… | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Need Some Advice Getting Over My Sticking PointI know you're in school, so you probably don't have a ton of mental time, but read. Read a shitton. Read about as many interesting subjects as you can think of. Read about the history of your town. Read about how things work. Read about palm reading or werewolves or Jackie Chan's autobiography (that last one's actually pretty fun). The more stuff you read, the smarter and more interesting you'll seem. The trick is to be able to identify really interesting information and weave it into your conve… | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 05:55 AM |
| 7 | "Should I Be Friends With My Ex?" <--- no!Eh. I kind of agree with the guy after a recent breakup. Staying friends with the girl is fine if you're not the attached one. If you're staying friends with them hoping that you'll get back together or hoping that you'll be able to reignite some sort of spark, that's no good. Staying friends is only doable if you are truly, sincerely ready to move on. That means being okay with watching her date other people, marry other people, and have a life with somebody at the center of it that is not you.… | /r/seduction | 06/12/13 01:49 AM |
| 1 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?Just grab this book and read it a couple of times. The more readings you do, the more natural it gets. I focus on saying "this is just what it's supposed to mean" more than "this is what it means." I just come at it from the angle that it's an ancient art and that it's interesting to know, plus you can use it to start a conversation about how your personalities are or are not like the reading says they are. | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 08:24 AM |
| 1 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?I've actually done this before. Saying you're a professional psychic, while insanely cheesey, can be a great segway into getting a girl to play a game with you. I actually learned how to read palms when I was younger, and despite the very, very high cheese factor, girls will shoot their hands out at you if they've had a few drinks in them, especially if you know how to do it well. If you demonstrate on one girl that you can give an interesting reading, suddenly every girl in the room is going to… | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?"If you want me to give you a private lecture, you're going to at least have to buy me coffee. I can't give this stuff away for free." Might work. Plays up the status aspect of it - I've had girls tell me the whole "Doctor" thing gets them excited, even if you're not an MD. | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 02:08 AM |
| 1 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?It's just annoying because they feel like they HAVE to ask what you do, because they think it shows that they're smart and interested in you, but then when you explain it to them you can see their attention slowly... drifting... away... And even a rundown of my PhD area requires probably five minutes, since it's not one that a lot of people know. Also I do this conversation at least a dozen times a night, and that is toooooo much. It's true, though. I could spin it into something extremely simpl… | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 02:06 AM |
| 5 | For the average looking and ugly guysI heard something one time while listening to an old David D interview with a guy. He said, "You don't know what women find attractive. Guess what? Women find things totally different than you would expect attractive. If I want to know if a guy's attractive, I would never, ever ask a guy. And when I do ask girls, the things that men consider attractive in other men is not what they tell me they look for." Changed my perspective a lot. I don't bother trying to figure out whether I'm attractive, b… | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 01:57 AM |
| 1 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?If I was in my early 20s and had my PhD, I would be a lot smarter than I actually am. Another go to that I've used is to look at them really seriously and say, "I SAVE LIVES." Because technically it's true, but it saves me time explaining stuff to them. It helps for me that what I do is actually pretty lucrative, and it's not really a big deal for me to finally tell them what I do when I have time. I just really disagree that saying you do something boring for a living is a good way to go about … | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 11:25 PM |
| 2 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?Totally agree. People love to ask it as a shallow go-to question, though. 99% of the time they don't even really care, and then once you start explaining they feel obligated to pretend they're interested. I want to get away from fake emotions in my conversations and get to the stuff that makes people feel things. Opportunities where you can say things that make girls go "Oh my god. Did you really just say that to me!?" with wide eyes while laughing. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 11:16 PM |
| 2 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?Honestly? If a girl said something like that to me I would be ecstatic. Somebody giving you a goofy answer like that gives you a huge opportunity to make fun of them and drive them crazy. I would start out by saying, "OMG. That is so you. I walked in the door and I said to myself, I bet she makes tampons." I would start telling everybody at the party that was her job and try to convince them of it so that when they met her they would be like, "Do you seriously..." To me it's not about shutting t… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Gaming through Text?I just think people leave a lot on the table by totally discounting it. Ultimately, to me, seduction is about communication - but the right kind of communication. Anything that makes the girl feel all funny and stirred up inside and want to spend time with you more is good sexual communication. Being good at summoning that kind of communication out of thin air is a skill that definitely improves you as a person. It gets you thinking a certain way, and looking for certain ways of turning a conver… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 11:09 PM |
| 2 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?Like I said above, I really think saying that you do something boring for a living is the wrong way to go. Girls want guys who do exciting things that fit into their idea of what their storybook perfect mate would be. I think you want to avoid the topic with randoms, and only really "let them in" on the reality once you've already qualified them and ascertained that they're interested. At that point, they're invested, and you can take your time showing them why what you do is cool. Saying you ha… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 10:52 PM |
| 2 | How do I change the topic when people ask what I do for a living?I don't like telling people I'm boring, though. I don't find my job boring. Personally, I find it super interesting. It's just explaining it to other people over and over that's boring. Women like to believe that whatever you're devoting your life to is exciting and interesting, even if they don't understand it. I feel like saying what you do is boring is like admitting that you're not an interesting person, and it decreases their interest in you. My initial instinct is to just come up with some… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 10:48 PM |
| 3 | Gaming through Text?'Cuz it's fun. I just like flirting. Seeing how far you can push stuff is fun, and it's a good way to kill time and build an image of yourself. Plus you can experiment with new stories or new ways of telling stories you already have, and get better at it. It's like being able to have a mini date with somebody without having to bother putting your pants on. Plus, to a lot of girls, I think text messaging with a guy can be a lot like whispering a conversation in her ear. Nobody else gets to see he… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Gaming through Text?I hear this a lot, but I have a lot of attractive female friends that use Tindr, and I've seen that it's possible to build attraction over text. I do not have the skill, but it's one I'd really like to acquire. A hot female friend of mine was visiting, and she's a junky for Tindr. I started asking her questions and she ended up showing me all the guys that she's been talking to and their conversations. Guys that did things like make brash references and sent pictures of interesting things they h… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girlsI imagine that touch can go the opposite way, too. Like, you just act so touchy that girls assume that you're like that with everybody, and don't read into any of your gestures at all. The trick is to be able to make contact that doesn't feel forced, but that conveys a sexual meaning. In some ways, I imagine that you can be as touchy-feely around guys in a bro sort of way as you want, but then withhold it from girls, but leave the door open to using it as a way to be able to randomly pick them u… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girlsFor sure. If there was anything positive about this whole situation, at least I didn't act whiny and lose my cool. I may have seemed disinterested, but I didn't do anything that made me seem lower value. Friendzoning yourself is annoying, but it's way worse to make a scene that screams "I am insecure and possessive." The girl and I get along as friends, and honestly we might not have had enough in common to be romantic partners for longer than a couple months. Besides, I got one of the other guy… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girlsYeah - the thing with the show was sort of out of nowhere. She invited me along as an idea for us to do something together, but it turned out that this other guy (who she'd met briefly a couple of days before) was the one who had told her about it. So they were already acquainted, and if I'd have tried aggressively to "protect" her from him I'd have looked insecure. I don't think it looks good when you engage with other guys competing over a girl like a piece of meat. She gave me a solid chance … | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girlsIt's funny. I kind of want to yell "I AM IN A GLASS CASE OF EMOTION!" like Ron Burgundy, because, dammit, that's what it feels like. I want to reach out and be more touchy. I actually really like touching people. It's just the fear of offending them that keeps me from doing it, and I think I've lost a lot of my ability to read people's thresholds and expectations for when they're comfortable being touched because it's just an ON/OFF thing for me now where the people in the ON category are pretty… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Inability to make physical contact killing my ability to get girlsOh, let me recount my many failures... One problem is that with this particular girl, a lot of the time I was in groups with other people, and it was very hard to get her alone. If I was going to make physical contact, it had to be in front of other people. A lot of those people were close mutual friends or other interested guys. It just felt weird to start getting all handsy on her with those people watching - but, hey, this other guy pulled it off so clearly that's a problem with my frame. For… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 09:52 PM |
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