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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 27 | Exs new dude | Not_an_Intrnet_Killr | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 03:26 AM | |
| 23 | Out with another guy | Not_an_Intrnet_Killr | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 08:36 PM |
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| 2 | Exs new dudeShe does get to be happy. So do I and I tell it to myself moreso recently than in the past. I do need to move on and let it go. You’re right. I just have moments where it feels like a hot knife in the chest. It makes it hard to let go when she was all I knew for nearly a decade and I have a naturally anxious attachment and nervous mindset. They are things I work on very hard with therapy. It will get better someday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 08:15 PM |
| 4 | Exs new dudeThey usually do but we were staying away last night so I stepped out for a while when they talked but still caught the end of it when I walked back in the room. Hearing them at dinner laughing and joking and whatever at what used to be our favorite restaurant killed me. Then I went down the rabbit hole because I know this guy is from out of town. So obviously he’s staying in what used to be my home in my bedroom. Sent me on a tailspin. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Exs new dudeShe didn’t cheat. He’s not an affair partner. I’m sorry that happened to you man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Exs new dudeThank you my man. I know deep down that it gets better. It’s getting to that point and navigating the pure anger that comes out that seems the most difficult. I browse this sub very often and it does help along with therapy but man am I just….. angry. And spinning thinking about what’s going on in a loop in my head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 04:42 AM |
| 3 | Exs new dudeYou’re right. Looking at it that way makes sense. I think it’s just hard to see and imagine the woman I loved since 7th grade and was married to for 13 years and together with for 17 years… just move on and do what she is doing and has been doing for the last 6 months with another guy. I’m sitting here after a great day with my kids and laying in bed and honestly just have tears streaming down my face just trying to figure out what to do with it all. Therapy works wonders but I hate the times in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 04:32 AM |
| 7 | Exs new dudeShe kept the house. She remodeled. Removed every piece of me and now she is taking this dude to our restaurant and fking this dude in what used to be my bed and my home and I’m spinning with anger and hurt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 04:12 AM |
| 8 | Exs new dudeThank you for that advice and you’re right. I knew it would happen. I’m angry and so spiteful and want it to stop. It shouldn’t matter and I shouldn’t care. It’s all over. She’s gone. It’s done and this is happening. I wish I could say I hate the guy but I don’t know him. I hate what he represents and always will. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 04:10 AM |
| 3 | Exs new dudeI hear you. I’m just so angry and want it to stop. The loop is so miserable. I’m just happy my kids are asleep right now and I don’t have to hide it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 04:07 AM |
| 4 | How much are you paying in alimony?It’s crazy sometimes man. A lot of people get royally f*cked. Men and women alike. It’s great you were with what I assume was a pretty equal earner? Between SS & CS I’m at 4k/month for 4 years then it drops to CS after. The income gap between us was ~140k so that was a major factor in it. But with the new job everything will be alright. It provides enough to pay that stuff and also provide well for my kids when they are with me. I’m sure I’ll get married again someday. My girlfriend is great and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 05:58 AM |
| 2 | How much are you paying in alimony?FWIW- I’m in Michigan and due to status quo I had zero % of my six figure salary for 9 months while the divorce was dragged out. I even got a better job within my company that involved commissions and couldn’t take any of that either. You would think I could right? Wrongo! The state says otherwise and she got every bit of that too even though it didn’t exist BEFORE she filed. It’s all good though. Now that it’s settled I owe her $1700/month for 4 years in spousal support. It has been a nightmare… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 12:09 AM |
| 2 | You know what’s worse than divorce?Are you me? Lolol. I’m going through a second round of mediation later this week for shit just like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/25 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Lawyer fees and how it works.It’s rough man. Really rough. If she took money and assets then she probably violated something. Some sort of status quo? I know that’s screwing me. I’ve had $0 of income for months and finally started taking the bare minimum (per my lawyers advice) just to live and pay bills and they are taking me to court for contempt now. Saying a whole bunch of nonsense. But she has my entire paycheck, the house, the kids (which she plays games with). You name it. I had to pull a personal loan just to pay my… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 01:03 AM |
| 4 | Lawyer fees and how it works.I’m at around 9K. 4K was used just filing responses and all that. The rest has been from fighting everything else under the sun thrown at me. Then there is meditation. That will be another 3-4K probably. When it goes to trial it will probably be at least another 5K. If it’s drags out I expect it to take a lot more $$$. Her parents are footing her bill and her and her lawyer are suing me to pay her legal fees and god knows what else. I see now why the suicide rates in men going through divorce ar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/25 11:03 PM |
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