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It's been 9 years since I told her to go because I found out she had been cheating for the last decade including a 7 year relationship. She also treated my pretty bad, but my eyes weren't open to that until the cheating. Our oldest kid will be an adult or damn near close to it by the time this is all settled, I don't want that to be the end of his childhood. I initially stayed because I found out she was pregnant the day after I told her she needed to go. After the youngest came, I just couldn't…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 09:34 PM
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You already don't have much of a relationship with your kids and both of you have high incomes. I'm sure there will be a lot of work involved in splitting your assets since you likely have a lot of them, but it doesn't seem like much will change as far as money or time with kids, which are the two things most people agonize over in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 08:32 PM
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I've been considering it. I let it change me too much.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 01:50 AM
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I'm 9 years out and it's still the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning and the last thing I think about before I fall asleep at night. She cheated for 10 YEARS!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 08:47 PM
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Yep. In addition to cheating, mine would always say "maybe we should get a divorce" any time we had a disagreement and I didn't give in. She never viewed it as a permanent thing. Never saw it as something she would also have to work for. It was only about her own convenience.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 06:10 PM
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It wasn't a lie for everybody.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 02:50 AM
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I took mine off 10 years ago. Still not divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 01:11 PM
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Where can be I sign up for just $1000/month in child support?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 11:11 AM
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I stumbled because of the olive branch. She now treats me worse than she ever has.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 01:11 PM
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4 months is way early. One of my biggest concerns is that my TBX will introduce them to ever man she's been dating for a few months. I could see maybe casually as a friend with a lot of people around, but not like "hey, here's a person I'm in a serious relationship and a new potential father figure for you."
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 10:11 AM
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Mine used couples therapy as another tool for manipulation. She made things up on the spot. It's where I learned she just says the first thing to come to mind that makes things not her fault. It's also where I learned she was crazy. Turned out she was cheating the whole time she was dragging me there. She also used individual therapy as a weapon. She decided she was so well versed in mental health and so emotionally mature that she was qualified to lecture me about everything.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 04:06 AM
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If you live in a location where they will penalize her for cheating, now is the time to find out if she is. Don't let her know you're suspicious. Get hard evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 01:19 AM
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The second I found out she had spent the past 10 years cheating on me. 8 years later and we're still not divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 02:14 PM
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The cameras' IR lights will show up on your phone's camera.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 04:43 AM
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This is one of the things I remember when she makes me feel like I'm the crazy one. She has been in fights to the point of being on non-speaking terms for an extended time with EVERY. SINGLE. close friend except one, who she gets annoyed by frequently. Some people have gone no contact with her. Of course she was going to turn on me at some point. I was always surprised by how rude or pushy she gets with some family members. Of course she was going to turn on me at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 12:22 PM
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And growing up we were taught it was shameful to expect our wives to do anything for us and that we're lazy if we relax. And also taught that we would be expected to take care of them. Hell even now that my marriage is essentially over and we have nothing but a "business" and co-parenting arrangement in the same house right now, I would still never to so much as ask her to move my laundry from the washer to the dryer even though she was a stray at home wife before we had kids, still is even thou…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 01:32 AM
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It is. Most people have to do the same amount of work after work instead of during the day. In my case, she's "off duty" by the time I get done with work every day. Meanwhile, I've always got a few hours of stuff left to do. A good bit of the time, I don't even start until the kids are in bed and it cuts into my sleep. I bet that for most stay at home spouses who cheated and are working on a divorce, the most upsetting thing to them other than the effect it will have on the kids is that they hav…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 11:06 PM
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Only while the kids weren't all in school. Granted, it's not an easy job during the first 5 years of each kid's life, especially with multiple children. Stay at home parents definitely deserve all the credit they get during that phase of their lives. What about the time before kids though? What about after the kids were all in school and old enough to entertain themselves some of the time when they aren't at school? During those times, she had the luxury of being able to get her share of the hou…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 06:45 PM
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If she's a bum and taking child support and alimony from you, don't pay for it since she's already getting your money. If you're a bum and taking child support and alimony from her, you should pay the money since it's really her money. If neither of you are bums, I would pay it only if my kids were really excited about this trip. If their like meh about it, I would spend the money taking them on a different trip later. I also would request that she gives up two of her weeks instead of using one …
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 07:32 PM
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You should look into whether she's cheating before she knows you suspect it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 05:50 PM
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I smashed mine in a vice the day I found out she had been cheating on me for the previous 10 years. I did it before I even talked to her. I think it's still on the garage floor under one of my shelves 8 years later.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 01:57 PM
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Missing details: Why are you getting divorced? If somebody cheated, was it him or you? Why isn't the custody 50/50? Why is his income 5x what yours is? These are all details the court doesn't care about, but many men think they should. Also, are you getting alimony and how will your assets be split?
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 12:29 AM
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Sounds about how marriage counseling went for me. Plenty of the things that got brought up were exaggerations, intentionally distorted details, or outright lies. Even given the opportunity in therapy, I would have never come at her that way. I had plenty of things I could have brought up, but I wasn't comfortable with a tattling session. She would write down things I did wrong that week and come in with a list It turns out the reason she dragged me there was because she had been cheating for the…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 06:29 AM
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Men's groups tend to be more about self improvement than trashing women that they know. There is some toxicity in many of them, but the focus is more on yourself than others.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 02:49 AM
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People will claim their conservative/liberal beliefs make them a moral person, but it turns out that's a completely different spectrum.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 02:37 AM
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Nobody other than stbx and kids will know about my divorce until they find out on their own. I understand now that finishing a divorce is a great accomplishment for people. It will probably be the biggest milestone of my life, but not something I would celebrate. Divorce party is just weird. Maybe it would be different if I were a whore getting alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 04:40 AM
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I'm not sure anybody will believe me when the time comes. She talks so much shit in small ways to a lot of people. She bases it on things that are real but exaggerates or twists details, so it never comes across as something out of the blue to them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 02:16 PM
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I'm not sure about that for myself. I'll take an L just so at least the money goes to one of us instead of the lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 07:57 PM
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No, because she would just come up with something that would make me look bad and say it to my parents.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 11:37 AM
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You can never let your wife know when you're having a hard time with something or a bad day.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 11:32 AM
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That's exactly what happened to me when I found out my wife had been cheating on me for 10 years with multiple people. It started when we had only been dating a couple years. She can say what she wants, but I put a lot more effort into our relationship than she ever did. I'm not sure what her deal is but I was set up to fail. I would provide what she said she needed and she would then say she needed the opposite thing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 06:24 PM
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You have no shared assets from your perspective, but depending on where you live the court may consider them to be shared assets.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 06:43 PM
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That depends on his age. If he's in his 20s, has no kids, and his wife doesn't sue for alimony, it's pretty much the same as being single. It's along the same lines as somebody who cohabitated with a long term partner and then split up.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 06:41 PM
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If the court completely listens to the kid, they may pick the "fun" parent aka the one who doesn't do much actual parenting.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 11:54 AM
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I got similar reactions when I was being cheated on. Then when she was trying to get me to stay in the relationship, she suddenly allowed affection and said how amazing it was that I was finally showing affection. Boiled my blood.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 03:22 AM
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You did ok at least. Alimony is where it gets really expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 12:51 AM
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My cheating ass no job getting wife is suing the shit out of me. The whole concept of "martial assets" needs to go away. Fuck the "equal share" concept. People should keep what they earned in a divorce. OP's wife is also a terrible person if she would do the same if the roles are reversed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 10:51 PM
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I don't think you should sue for her assets unless she cheated or was hiding major spending habits from you. If she does anything ridiculous with the lawyer, you should have her pay both lawyer fees. I don't think it's right to take some of the money she saved just because you can though.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 03:39 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 12:26 PM
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I was told by an attorney that even changing the investments in my retirement account that I started before marriage after marriage may have made it into martial property. You should pay an attorney to get info, that's a lot of money.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 10:31 PM
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I talked to 3 lawyers. They all told me this.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 11:13 AM
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I used to think it was hormones in my situation and I let a lot slide that I shouldn't have because of that. Turns out it wasn't hormones, it was lots and lots of cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 09:54 PM
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Nope, didn't do that either. Mostly she just cheated. But I was cooking and cleaning and doing our oil changes. And she's the one getting paid after the fact.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 01:56 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 07:12 PM
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Your situation is one of my biggest fears about divorce and one of the reasons I'm not divorced yet.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 03:03 PM
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Introducing your kids to a new partner just SIX MONTHS after divorce is reckless.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 02:16 PM
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What's causing it to cost so much and take so long? I'm hoping we can come to an agreement without excessive use of lawyers, but it's hard to know that will happen. I'm hoping we can both understand it's better for one of us to get the money than an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 01:19 PM
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She could definitely be using that because she's jealous. Using the kids as rationale for manipulation is an easy thing to do. It's been used on me quite a bit. I think it's reasonable to be concerned about kids being around everybody their parents get into a relationship with after divorce. If I get into a relationship, I'm going to be very cautious with when I introduce a new partner to my kids and I really hope my wife is too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 02:02 AM
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This is the kind of stuff that scares me into staying. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 09:13 PM
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I wish that were true in my state. They should all have to pay her alimony, not me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 01:15 AM
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Yes, but do it nicely even though you'd rather throw it all into the middle of the street. That wouldn't reflect on you too well in court. Also, might as well record everything you're packing up in case you need to estimate it's value. Take a picture on anything that might be worth a lot or keep it for now.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 12:02 AM
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Be cautious. Mine pretended to feel bad and showed major "improvement" for about a year to the point where I decided to stay for my son and at the time unborn daughter. 6 years later, she's back to being just as nasty as she ever was.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 01:47 PM
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Inceldom.
/r/RPChristians29/12/21 07:29 PM
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If she makes more than you, she would be paying you child support unless you don't split custody equally.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:21 AM
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Can you imagine how try-hard and douchey everybody would be?
/r/askTRP06/03/21 06:00 PM
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Yes, you'll still need lawyers. And they can still influence either of you to be unreasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/20 07:18 PM
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If you're looking for claims backed up by scientific data, you've come to the wrong place.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 05:06 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 12:41 PM
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Posts like this are why I read this subreddit.
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