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Failure is just a part of getting better. I'd also try out /r/howtonotgiveafuck and apocalypse openers are always fun once you get more confident. Honestly it doesn't matter what you do, just take every opportunity you can to practice and keep pushing your comfort zone. You can either start doing it today or regret not starting sooner later in life.
/r/seduction13/08/13 07:17 PM
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Approaching a girl who's not attracted to me is just near impossible There's so much wrong with this. Are you saying you only want to involve yourself with women that find you physically attractive right off the bat? If so you're going to end up with a lot of shallow women and meaningless connections. Attraction is something that can be built and destroyed, it isn't a static thing. If I were you I would stop worrying about picking up women and work on getting more comfortable with your interacti…
/r/seduction13/08/13 07:04 PM
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You build attraction through kino, you don't wait for signs of attraction to start. Look up the kino escalation ladder; kissing a girl who isn't into you is hard, but escalating from handshake to the claw should be obtainable with every woman you meet. Always assume attraction Yeah there will be some awkward moments, but it isn't the actions it's the way you are doing them. Once you gain enough confidence and the right frame control you can pull off almost anything.
/r/seduction13/08/13 06:27 PM
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The guy gets punched in the face and leaves alone. What exactly about this commercial speaks to being in state? "State- Literally, your mental state at a given time. Being "in state" means your mental state is at the optimum level for social interaction, especially with women." Getting punched in the face and leaving alone doesn't sound like "the optimum level for social interaction"
/r/seduction27/01/13 06:52 AM
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I didn't understand your reply earlier. You said "You're just trying to save women from the fact that women truly dig jerks." in reference to what nice guys are doing. I just pointed out that a man who thinks he's "saving" a woman from her own choices by acting a certain way is moronic and insulting to women. Okay...you're very lost in this discussion. I don't know why you think I'm talking about Seddit in particular, or how it's relevant to "chicks dig jerks". Idk maybe because you mention "the…
/r/seduction14/11/12 08:28 PM
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Or she thinks you're really not that interested in her, because you didn't bother to ask? I invited her out on a date, if she doesn't get that I'm interested from that she's probably too dense for us to get along anyway.
/r/seduction14/11/12 07:49 PM
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No they don't, which is why you white knights need to stop with the "nice guys are manipulative" crap! This response doesn't even make sense. I never said "nice guys are manipulative" and you clearly said "You're just trying to save women from the fact that women truly dig jerks." about nice guys. So you are disagreeing with yourself and criticizing me for a comment I didn't make? You haven't been paying attention to 80% of seduction techniques have you? Or here, check it out: http://www.mentalh…
/r/seduction14/11/12 04:49 PM
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You're just trying to save women from the fact that women truly dig jerks. This is AFC thinking at it's finest. Do you have any idea how insulting this type of thinking is to women? Women don't need you to "save" them, they are fully autonomous beings capable of making their own decisions. Just because you are incapable of understanding her attraction doesn't mean she's attracted to jerks. Go out there and try picking up women by being a complete asshole, you won't have very much success.
/r/seduction14/11/12 03:32 PM
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I really think people have to realize that not all women will give you another time they are free. Nobody is saying all women will give you another time, but if she is really into you she will find another way to make the hang out happen. If she doesn't then she probably wasn't that interested in/attracted to you.
/r/seduction14/11/12 03:20 AM
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This. Plus get a tongue scraper and eat/drink less sugar. EDIT: Also carry gum.
/r/seduction09/11/12 03:36 AM
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I always start conversations with them, and though they seem like they "don't mind talking to me" (in the words of one of my female friends). A lot of people simply don't like talking over digital medium all the time. I prefer to interact face to face otherwise I just use texts and messaging to set up hang outs. though they seem like they "don't mind talking to me" (in the words of one of my female friends). Your conversations probably aren't that entertaining then. If you're just talking about …
/r/seduction06/11/12 07:35 AM
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Probably a common question, but do you ever worry about the future? Not really. For two reasons: I'm a big Eckhart Tolle fan. His ideas about psychological time vs. clock time really helped me understand why worrying about the future is pointless. If I focus on making myself the most attractive person I can, I won't have to worry about that in the future. My life plan doesn't involve a long term relationship. If I were to have kids I would adopt, but I seriously doubt that I want kids. I spent m…
/r/seduction02/11/12 04:08 AM
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You can still casually date, be FWB or plain fuck buddies. I meet multiple women every day and if I want to see them again we usually end up as friends or FWB. Not every relationship has to become a bf/gf deal.
/r/seduction01/11/12 10:18 PM
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I'd like to offer an alternate perspective, but first I'd like to answer one of your questions. If you go out to clubs on Saturday Night, and you score all the women that you say you score, how come you are back alone i those clubs on Saturday Night? And every night? For some people the goal isn't to obtain a woman and become her boyfriend, or even to close a woman; for me personally the game is the goal. I'd much rather go out and meet new women every week than to be tied down to any one woman.…
/r/seduction01/11/12 09:35 PM
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I always felt that if my friend circle knew that I take advices from here. Or that I follow some sort of rule from seddit they would not approve because they are not so open-mind. Who cares if they approve, they aren't the ones living your life. That aside, if this guy found the community on his own chances are he's probably a more open-minded about it. But I can be wrong and maybe they need help has well like, I do. But I don't think I am at a level to teach others yet. You don't have to be "be…
/r/seduction31/10/12 01:08 AM
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The whole reason the community works is because we're all here to help each other. Why wouldn't you want your friend to get the same help? Seems pretty selfish. I love to coach guys. There's nothing like helping someone do something they probably would have never been able to do without you. EDIT: You can't be a master until you teach the craft to someone else.
/r/seduction31/10/12 12:10 AM
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Thanks for the great read. That's some really good stuff. Just thought I'd share my perspective on a couple of things. "I know this is a little strange..." I feel like strange carries a pretty negative connotation, do you have any more examples? What I like to do after we shake hands is slowly bring her hand down while I continue the conversation just to build some more tension, and let go slowsly, so you are actually holding her hand for an extra few seconds. I do the same thing except I let he…
/r/seduction29/10/12 09:00 AM
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Conversational Threading I usually take something situational and elaborate from there. For example last night I met a cute girl wearing a Black Swan costume. I introduced myself, guessed her costume and then we started talking about ballet. I brought up the only ballet move I know the name of, "Pirouette", asked her to show me it, and then we talked about other dance moves. Transitioned to talking about how bad ballet is for your feet after that we talked about the Black Swan movie and other mo…
/r/seduction29/10/12 04:01 AM
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"Come over" would be logistics and I doubt that's what got you laid. My point is that you have to meet up in person to have sex, so it doesn't matter how good a person's "text game" is if they can't back it up with real game.
/r/seduction29/10/12 03:06 AM
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The two texts I send to women I'm interested in: "Hey (girls name) when are you free next week?" "I'll pick you up at (time)." 60% of the time it works every time.
/r/seduction28/10/12 08:03 PM
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Seriously! Wtf is wrong with people nowadays? Texting is for logistics only. Even the best text message can't get you laid.
/r/seduction28/10/12 08:01 PM
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Dude.... your title was very misleading. I thought this was going to involve clown sex or something. mine being that I want multiple girlfriends who are open about their sexuality. Multiple GFs? or Multiple FWBs? Multiple gfs is incredibly hard and time consuming. Multiple FWBs are fun. It's all about picking the right targets. Some people simply aren't open about their sexuality; you can try to fix that or you can look for people who are open about their sexual experiences.
/r/seduction26/10/12 08:36 AM
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That's a pretty good summary. I like his perspective on psychological time vs. clock time; I'm writing a piece on that idea about how you can balance outcome independence with having goals.
/r/seduction25/10/12 10:10 PM
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This.
/r/seduction24/10/12 08:05 AM
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Thanks for the words of encouragement.
/r/seduction24/10/12 08:04 AM
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Check out The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. It completely changed the way I view things.
/r/seduction24/10/12 04:55 AM
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does your library not let people use fb? It's not blocked, but technically you are only supposed to use the computer commons for actual work. You're right though usually it's at least 50% on fb or reddit. Also, how did the girl in approach 4 seem to take your direct opener? She was receptive (smiling, eye contact, extend handshake), but she left fairly quickly so I didn't have a lot to go on. I've used this a good amount in day game; it does really well in the right context. This probably wasn't…
/r/seduction24/10/12 02:39 AM
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Start doing more things and talk about them. If you go out a lot you should be able to pick up stories along the way. "Last weekend we were at this club and...." Talk about the things you're passionate about. Bring the things you love doing or thinking about into the conversation. Have material to talk about before hand. Get interesting facts and stories from /r/todayilearned. Pick up some discussion topics in /r/askwomen or /r/askmen and get out there and talk about them.
/r/seduction20/10/12 10:20 PM
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Man bro these girls are crazy why don't they just reject you instead of leading you on Because most guys are AFCs and they don't handle rejection well. Do you have any tips on how I can build more attraction. I'd need more info to go into specifics, but you're probably lacking in flirting, teasing, or kino. If you're doing those well I'd say you either aren't spending enough time with these women or they can tell you're just looking to get laid.
/r/seduction17/10/12 02:22 AM
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You aren't building enough attraction during the initial meeting or you're texting/calling without the purpose being a date setup.
/r/seduction17/10/12 02:08 AM
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People like you just make it harder for yourself to get laid in the long run. Half the reason women put up LMR is because of what you did. I'm not always up front, but if she's upfront about what she wants and you just use her anyway that's a pretty shitty thing to do. She's going out on a limb making her intentions clear and you don't even have the balls to reciprocate? It's a shame that some guys get this desperate to get laid.
/r/seduction14/10/12 11:30 PM
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This was my first thought. It's like "Hey seddit, I found a really good opener. 'Hi, how are you?' Every time I've used it people have been really receptive." How does something like this get 60+ upvotes?
/r/seduction14/10/12 11:24 PM
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Lol you are clearly mistaken my friend. The Alpha male is much more than simply being dominant; that's called a dominant male. You can be dominant and still not be alpha. For example take the "fake it til you make it crowd" some of those guys tend to be dominant guys in most of their social interactions, but you would hardly call them alpha with their lack of confidence, lack of total leadership and control over the situation. Take another situation, there's a large group of guys who are great a…
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:14 PM
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Even going back as far as when "The Game" was published, AMOG (alpha male of [the] group) referred to aggressive, pushy bro's far more than successful to go getters. AMOG is simply the Alpha Male of the Group or other competition. If you want to affix this alternative meaning to what being an alpha is that's ok, but that isn't what it means to everyone else. Since Tyler Durden is credited with coining the term it's no wonder that Style portrays it negatively. A lot of "douchebaggy" behavior come…
/r/seduction12/10/12 07:47 AM
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For example, things that are often referred to as "Alpha" behavior are, very often, pretty douchebaggy. Yeah, it gets attention, but from what kind of woman? I don't really want anything to do women who are turned on by immature behavior. I don't think you know what an alpha male really is. Just because someone claims that a douchebag move is alpha doesn't make it so. If you really look at the subject you'll realize that there's nothing about being an alpha that would make a person do "douchebag…
/r/seduction12/10/12 07:09 AM
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Well that's why you have so many flakes man! haha I have less than a 10% flake ratio because I put an end to that shit real quick. I meet at least 10-20 women a week and number close 3-7. I barely have enough time to spend with the ones I really like so I try to avoid the women who flake early on. I have to admit you do have some serious patience though.
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:50 AM
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Should I stop seeing other girls? Not until you're in a committed relationship. Should I hedge my bets? Yes, there's a very good chance this won't work out. Even 50% of marriages end in divorce. Would that make me a horrible person? No. You have no obligation to be exclusive unless it's been agreed upon. Should I hold out for her (Christian virgin)? Keep dating her, but keep your options open. Even if it means sacrificing other sure things in hopes of something that's not certain at all? You don…
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:23 AM
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Start by reading the sidebar.
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:07 AM
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So do you mean if she blows you off as in, flakes on you, or doesn't respond when you ask to hang, or.. just says "I can't that day sorry"? Blow me off probably was a poor choice of words I meant if she flakes twice on plans we made I simply freeze her out. I find that when you blow off a chick, instead of ignoring her just say, "alright lol... I'm pretty busy so whenever you decide to hang out, text me" - and the ball's in her court. The first time I say something like that; the second time I'm…
/r/seduction10/10/12 10:25 PM
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All those suggestions are good. I really like this one in particular. "hey, im busy most of the week but im free tues and wed... lets grab a drink" It all really comes down to you personal style and what you feel comfortable saying. Also I only give a woman 2 chances if she blows me off twice I just freeze her out. Happy Hunting out there!
/r/seduction10/10/12 08:59 PM
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Super well meaning we had good conversation, and maybe some high fives or a hug, laughs etc. Sounds good. So when you make plans with a girl, do you ever text to confirm.. or do you just text a couple hours before the date and be like "running late, be there at 830 instead of 8. Cool?" When I set up the date I usually ask the address of where I'm going to pick them up. Then the day of I say something like "That's the (address) next to (landmark), right?" If I already know where I'm going I usual…
/r/seduction10/10/12 06:49 PM
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when I meet these women we hit it off super well. Define super well. How far as your escalating the kino? Usually when guys have high flake rates they either don't build enough comfort, attraction, or both. "just seeing if we're on for tomorrow". I wouldn't do this it comes across as unconfident. It's almost like you're expecting them to flake, at least that's how I read it. I'm experimenting with literally not making plans until the day before. "Lets grab a coffee tomorrow night" - and leave it…
/r/seduction10/10/12 06:30 AM
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Can you please elaborate on this? Depending on the quality of the bar it's pretty common to fill top-shelf bottles with cheap liquor. (Someone else down there mentioned this too) So if you're ordering a $9 shot of Grey Goose, you're probably just getting a $.50 shot of Wolfschmidt. I'm constantly finding that even those ridiculously overpriced drinks are watered down. Some bartenders compensate for spillage and their over pouring by putting less in sweet drinks. Not to mention most bartenders do…
/r/seduction09/10/12 08:03 PM
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Haha I might have to steal that one from you.
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:31 PM
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I have to disagree. It's all really a matter of personal preference. Personally I don't really care for any whiskey, but I will always drink scotch if it's offered. Thanks for the suggestions I'll have to try them out.
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:31 PM
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How much do you pay for crystal head? In my local club it costs £600. Just under $1000. Here it's $40-50 a bottle, sounds like we need to smuggle you some bottles. I mostly use it because the bottle is cool. Either way, a 6l bottle of goose or belvedere looks a bit more impressive :) A magnum bottle would be awesome, but I don't think anybody would believe for a second that I actually bought it. haha
/r/seduction09/10/12 04:00 PM
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Dude, these aren't even that good... Lol Johnny Walker Blue and Grand Patron Platinum aren't good? I think you're the one who needs to learn more about liquor my friend. Kraken is the cheap rum where it's I live, $15/bottle. I never said it was expensive. In fact I said, "The Kraken, simply so I can yell "RELEASE THE KRAKEN!" Every chance I get." Not to mention that I explicitly stated that I try to keep the bottles within a reasonable price range. Hendricks is mid range gin, nothing fancy or un…
/r/seduction09/10/12 03:54 PM
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Thanks for this reply. I've tried the "I'm tired" approach before, but that shit rarely flies because women usually get insistent when you say that. "you'll have to try harder" This is pure fucking genius. Bonus: No refractory period, so you'll be good to go next time. I'm one of the lucky guys who has no refractory period. I just found out what that was a year or two ago. Seriously thank you for that idea. I really appreciate it.
/r/seduction09/10/12 12:53 PM
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It just seems very disingenuous. Hence the title of the post. It might impress some people, but anyone with knowledge of the subject will simply label you a poseur. Lol a poseur? What is this a 90's teen movie? Considering no one has called me out or "labeled me a poser" I would say most people that consider themselves liquor aficionados rarely can tell the difference between quality liquor and cheap liquor when they're drunk. And what's the point, really? The point is that people believe they a…
/r/seduction09/10/12 12:07 PM
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I phrased it as an open ended question that would hopefully start a discussion. No one talks like that in real life and I can't help feel annoyed to read this post on seddit. Good thing this isn't real life... EDIT: I recommend you learn the differences between /r/seduction and /r/askseddit before you start dictating where things should be.
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:30 AM
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Shit man, I have to fake bust when I get bored. At least you have an excuse. haha
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:20 AM
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How would you react if someone noticed? "This isn't (insert top shelf liquor)!" Me: "Well I guess you better take that up with the manufacturer then!" If they kept nagging me about it I would AMOG the shit out of them until they stopped asking questions. I don't like doing this, but I'm not afraid to bully a bully. I used to have a lot of friends who were bartenders and/or foodies. My recommendation is to either save the good shit for them, or just tell them what's up. I usually don't have peopl…
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:03 AM
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I'm not proud of my taste in liquor. (Hence the title) Feel free to be embarrassed for me, my friend. I haven't experienced embarrassment since I peed my pants in the 1st grade. If you aren't Kirk, does that make you Pike, Picard, Sisko, Janeway, or Archer? =)
/r/seduction09/10/12 06:40 AM
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You have to realize that most women in college don't have the palette that you do. Most men have far more experience drinking top shelf liquor so the difference is far more obvious. i feel like you're making a gamble. I agree, it is a gamble; but I feel like I could handle any person potentially calling me out. For example, "This isn't (insert top shelf liquor)!" Me: "Well I guess you better take that up with the manufacturer then." How many people have you ever met that are suspicious of this k…
/r/seduction09/10/12 06:08 AM
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Touche.
/r/seduction09/10/12 05:38 AM
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Maker's mark isn't bad, but it's only a notch or two above Jack Daniel's in my book. The problem with whiskey is that it has so much variety (whiskey, scotch, bourbon, irish whiskey). Maker's marker is nowhere near bottom of the barrel, but compared to a good scotch it's dirty brown water trash.
/r/seduction09/10/12 05:35 AM
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You sir are a God damn genius.
/r/seduction09/10/12 03:41 AM
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That's actually a really good idea. I used to use Maker's Mark because the bottle is pretty cool, but that's not very good whiskey. Thanks.
/r/seduction09/10/12 03:07 AM
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I gave you an upvote friend. You're right it's quite possible that people do notice, but no one has ever called me out on it. Plus when we go back to my place for drinks everyone's pretty intoxicated so I doubt they really question it. EDIT: Nice name btw.
/r/seduction09/10/12 02:57 AM
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I know it's not a just a whiskey, but I have yet to meet a woman who knows the difference. I agree though it's not the best bottle to use, but all the best whiskeys are scotchs. Other than that the usual scotch drinker has a much more refined palette, something most people in college don't have. Only men ever ask for scotch, and usually if the group ends up back at my place everybody is so wasted they could drink a glass of milk and wouldn't taste a difference.
/r/seduction09/10/12 02:12 AM
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Tequila: Grand Patron Platinum Gin: Hendricks Whiskey: Johnny Walker Blue Vodka: Crystal Head Vodka (for obvious reasons) Rum: The Kraken, simply so I can yell "RELEASE THE KRAKEN!" Every chance I get. I got the first three from a fine dining restaurant I used to work at. The other 2 are ones that I bought, but think are awesome. I try to keep them somewhat realistic price wise because obviously I can't afford a $2,000 dollar bottle of vodka every weekend. I also don't keep the same bottles for …
/r/seduction08/10/12 11:45 PM
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Haha nice. Next time I'm in the Bay Area I'll have to buy you a beer so I can give you a proper thank you for everything you do for this community.
/r/seduction08/10/12 09:59 PM
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you dont have the time to read it all. DON'T TELL ME WHAT I DO OR DON'T HAVE TIME FOR!!! But seriously great job man! Good luck on winning the moped.
/r/seduction07/10/12 07:55 PM
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Good work! is this helping or should I escalate in other ways I'd say once the make out commences it's time to drop the negs unless they are honest. What negs were you dropping? Although there was obviously nothing wrong with what you did, I would try to escalate in other ways. Fuck Sasha.
/r/seduction07/10/12 09:31 AM
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It's ok if you can only make eye contact at first; baby steps. By the way, just a hypothetical question, if a girl does try to befriend a guy will he automatically think she must be interested? Honestly most guys probably will assume you're interested, but that's why they invented the "let's just be friends" talk. Don't let that possibility hold you back. And in your opinion can guys and girls really be friends? Absolutely, I have many female friends; including some of my best friends. I wouldn'…
/r/seduction07/10/12 01:52 AM
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I also forgot to suggest dating underclassmen. They probably won't know anything about your reputation. Good luck man!
/r/seduction06/10/12 11:42 PM
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I'm not sure whether to chalk up failures to something I did wrong, or to my reputation, or something else. Forget your reputation. It's only going to hurt you if you're self conscious about it. I feel like I've fallen behind in this 'race' to develop socially. I see alphas all around me and envy them for the experience they got earlier in adolescence that let them be that way. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Besides from what you're saying it sounds like you're ahead of half the guys o…
/r/seduction06/10/12 11:24 PM
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Look into conversational threading Then grab a few interesting facts and stories from /r/todayilearned. Another good idea is to head over to /r/AskWomen and grab some topics that are proven to interest women. Good luck and have fun!
/r/seduction06/10/12 09:08 PM
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Chateau Saint Michelle. I usually get wine for free from my friend.
/r/seduction06/10/12 08:57 PM
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You sir have made my day.
/r/seduction06/10/12 05:48 PM
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How does a woman cheating on her bf with me make me a douchebag? I'm not the one in a committed relationship. =)
/r/seduction06/10/12 04:49 PM
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I finally got around to posting part 2
/r/seduction06/10/12 04:47 PM
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True, but why did that one situation turn into love? Because they were right for each other. How can I get that!? Keep looking.
/r/seduction06/10/12 02:41 AM
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Haha I'm not offended. I just wanted to point out that there isn't a one size fits all solution for life. When that happens, you will truly respect yourself and you will find what it is that you really want: love. Not every one is looking for love, nor does everyone want it. I know you probably think I'm "misguided" or that I "don't really know what I want." but I assure you that simply isn't true. Maybe later in life I'll change my mind, but right now love is one of the last things I'm looking …
/r/seduction04/10/12 10:52 PM
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Everyone, even those who get crazy amounts of girls, meet success often, and have perfected the art of hitting on girls, has low self esteem. If everyone had low self esteem, there would only be self-esteem... It's cool you found "love", but coming on here to tell us all that it's the answer and meaning of life is pretty ignorant. People are different and thinking that one path is for everybody is just stupid. Some girl who you won by being witty and charming, until the next guy comes along who …
/r/seduction04/10/12 10:36 PM
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Will do. Although I probably won't end up taking the caretaker out. She's cute, but she seems really boring and has the potential to be a stage 5 clinger.
/r/seduction04/10/12 07:06 PM
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FR = Field report HB = hot babe/honey bunny followed by her rating 1-10 Also don't forget to use /r/askseddit there's a glossary of some need-to-know terms on the sidebar.
/r/seduction04/10/12 07:03 PM
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If she asks for your help it's a DHV, but if you are constantly offering to help her despite her refusals it's showing too much interest.
/r/seduction04/10/12 02:44 PM
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Should I try to actually teach them the material Always. It provides a challenge where they are constantly qualifying themselves for you and there's no better way to show your understanding the material than by teaching it to someone else. (Huge DHV) give them the answers and hope they get how I arrived there If this is what a woman wants, she's probably using you. I offer these girls tutoring (they rarely accept), but there's no way I'm going to do work for some lazy bitch. or just dick around …
/r/seduction04/10/12 04:26 AM
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The other girl just laughs when he brings it up but doesn't really object or agree with him. I would escalate with this one more and play the triangle game. One of the girls said that "it would only happen if she was really drunk" This girl is clearly DTF the "only if I'm drunk" stipulation is an ASD or something related. Flirt with both of them but you always want to have the one that's into you more, be the one working for your attention. Be careful because it can flip-flop; don't leave anyone…
/r/seduction04/10/12 03:47 AM
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Typically if you ask a woman that isn't a long time friend to do something one on one the implication is that it is a date. I don't want to ask a girl to lunch or to get a drink or whatever and her think it's just as friends. You shouldn't even take a woman you are dating to do these things. They are the run of the mill dates she probably gets all the time. Do something fun, unique, and low-pressure that doesn't put the burden on you to be the sole source of entertainment. if I asked a friend of…
/r/seduction04/10/12 12:33 AM
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How do I "build on my strengths? I would take one trait that you like about yourself. Whether it be that you are good at school or a hard worker, you should embrace it. Don't just be a hard worker, be the best worker. Push yourself. For example the trait I'm most proud of is that I'm funny; even if no one else laughs I can crack myself up. I work on my delivery, think of new jokes, and try new things every day. Also, I'm a bit of a perfectionist so I can't help but wanna improve on/fix my weakne…
/r/seduction03/10/12 04:49 PM
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I would focus on one thing at a time and don't try to do too much. Try to focus on one mental aspect and one "physical" aspect every week. I'd start with self-esteem and eye contact. To build confidence you should start focusing on your positive qualities; then you want to build on your strengths instead of trying to "fix" your weaknesses. Stop comparing yourself to other people, I find people with low self-esteem do this far too much. The only way you're going to get over your fears of things l…
/r/seduction03/10/12 04:13 AM
1

Thanks for all the great stuff you write and do for the community! Two questions: How did you find guys to coach when you were first starting? How do you help guys who have extreme self-esteem issues?
/r/seduction03/10/12 03:56 AM
1

A FTC instantly make people more receptive because they know you aren't going to stick around for a long time, plus it gives you the perfect reason to number close. Until your 15 minutes expires and you're forced to leave or risk blowing any success with the girl...? Yeah, you crack a few jokes and #-close then eject. And staying doesn't "risk blowing any success with a girl". If the both of you are truly engaged you can just simply say that you chose not go to class or something similar.
/r/seduction02/10/12 02:14 AM
7

Don't just stick to the mouth! You want to kiss and lightly bite her neck then nibble on her ear lobe. Use your hands. No, this doesnt mean go for the boobs. Run you hands up and down her arms, legs, and back. Massage her neck while you're kissing her. Hit her erogenous zones, particularly the ones on her hips. Have fun and don't stick to doing any one thing too long.
/r/seduction01/10/12 03:18 AM
20

False time constraint. "I have to get to class in 15 minutes." "I'm meeting someone in the cafeteria in a little bit." "My ride should be here any minute."
/r/seduction01/10/12 02:47 AM
3

I didn't know so many women "love" to study. haha Besides who are you to decide what someone else wants or doesn't want? If you don't want to be distracted it takes less than a second to say "I'm busy."
/r/seduction01/10/12 02:33 AM
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I'm a guy who lives off campus so I spend a lot of time in the library between class "studying" unnecessarily. I've found there are many women in similar situations. The key is to use a FTC, keep things short, don't overstay your welcome, and know when to eject. If she really is busy, she'll shut you down pretty quick.
/r/seduction01/10/12 02:30 AM
6

Wow what a mega-douche. He's a dumbass.
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:21 PM
1

I was just wondering what a "clearly romantic way" was? Usually something that is clear to women is not even on men's radar. In general, women are far better at subtlety.
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:03 PM
2

It takes people years of practicing meditation to achieve a state of complete thoughtlessness or "emptiness" so I doubt you have nothing going through your head. If that's really the case try playing some word association games with a friend; they will help you think on your feet. Stop spending so much time in /r/Nofap and go read a book or subscribe to /r/todayilearned so you have interesting facts on hand. Find something that you're passionate about and talk about it. Start discussions; you ca…
/r/seduction30/09/12 06:38 PM
2

i've been reading up here on seddit for a while now but i've hit a major bump, i can't keep a conversation running. here i've always been a loner and didn't do anything interesting Start doing interesting things. i can't really contribute to many topics so a short while after a conversation starts my mind just goes blank I seriously doubt this is true. A lot of people with your problem are just afraid to say what's actually on their mind out of a fear of upsetting people/getting rejected/being "…
/r/seduction30/09/12 05:31 PM
1

"Logistics" is just a weak rationalization for men to explain their anxiety. I see it on these very forums all the time, "I had to wake up early so the logisitics wouldn't work." "I couldn't go back to my place because my roommate was awake." It's all bullshit. People have sex in bar bathrooms, cars, alleys. Shit I've even had sex in some random person's car in a parking lot. If you build enough attraction, "logistics" are just an excuse not to have sex. I'm perfectly educated about this. Appare…
/r/seduction30/09/12 04:25 PM
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What I've learned from this incident: in order to get a SNL, it is very important to screen for logistics and how DTF girls are. False. He doesn't possess any great game (though I'd describe him as aggressive afc, meaning that he is going to escalate but doesn't know the best way to do it That's called cavemaning. She wouldn't let him fuck her because "she doesn't do that on the first date" (=she isnt a slut). That is just stupid. If she was that horny she wasn't looking to just give a handjob. …
/r/seduction30/09/12 04:34 AM
2

Well shit, in California it costs $5 just to take a piss. The cost of living where I'm from is much more reasonable.
/r/seduction30/09/12 02:19 AM
5

No wonder my friends were so disappointed when I left right after The Phantom Menace. =P
/r/seduction29/09/12 09:38 PM
6

Go one at a time or in the same cage. The place I go doesn't really have anyone watching so even though it's against the rules I like to "show her my form." Going one at a time is what I do most of the time; then you get to tease each other and talk. When we're walking up I usually just say "Ok you go first so you can show me what you got." This already has her qualifying herself for you and then I usually give her a little shit. Take my turn, and then proceed from there.
/r/seduction29/09/12 09:36 PM
5

At best they glance for a second and put their heads down Typically this is an sign of submission, in your case I would say you are intimidating these women somehow. Are you a physically imposing guy? Another reason might be the way you dress; the better you dress the more receptive people typically are. What do you typically wear? Most people simply can't maintain eye contact. How often do we see posts on here about guys who make quick eye contact then look away? Do they think the people they a…
/r/seduction29/09/12 09:04 PM
1

My bad I thought I put it in there. I'd say she's an HB8.5. I've only seen a few women that I would call 10's and they are mostly extremely talented women with toned bodies.
/r/seduction29/09/12 08:32 PM
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I usually limit dates to less than $20. I like bowling, mini-golf, coffee, batting cages, stargazing, going to a barcade, and maybe hiking depending on the woman. You can even just go for a walk. The key is to know when places have specials and use sites like groupon and livingsocial to help you find good deals on shit you normally wouldn't pay that much for. Subsequent dates usually cost even less because you do the same things as list above, but for less time. By the second date you should be …
/r/seduction29/09/12 07:13 PM
3

Ahhhhh nothing like the fresh smell of AFC in the morning.
/r/seduction29/09/12 12:52 PM
5

Less study, more practice. A book isn't going to teach you how to deal with the anxiety you feel. Exposure therapy is your only answer; always escalate. Do it 1,000 times and you'll get it down. Also, you should always assume attraction and escalate from the beginning. I seize up. There's nothing physically wrong with you so the only answer is to gradually acclimate yourself so the idea isn't so foreign to you psychologically.
/r/seduction29/09/12 12:51 PM
1

Relevant
/r/seduction29/09/12 12:39 PM
4

It is a gift. Free drinks plus a brand new obstacle to mock? That sound like Christmas. =D
/r/seduction29/09/12 06:00 AM
4

I love that a random dude bought your whole set drinks. That guy was the ultimate AFC, he was just jealous that he was sitting by himself while you were entertaining 4 women.
/r/seduction29/09/12 03:26 AM
8

Yeah who knew you could just be an honest and interesting person and meet people..... hahah
/r/seduction26/09/12 03:52 PM
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I seriously laughed for 5+ minutes at this comment. THANK YOU. You made my life. haha
/r/seduction26/09/12 05:27 AM
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I creeped your previous comments and I think you are an extremely interesting person. (Based on very limited information I concede, but PM me if you want to talk.) I love meeting new, interesting people. =)
/r/seduction26/09/12 05:08 AM
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I almost always use shit like that. Here's an example when I'm confirming a date/location/time. Me: Ok. Wear something sexy! Her: You too! Me: Only if you promise to keep your hands off me/to yourself. (or some variation) Works like a charm. I think it oozes confidence. EDIT: Forgot to say: Great job man! Happy hunting!
/r/seduction26/09/12 04:29 AM
10

I think you did an excellent job, but I would have been more assertive. Instead of: You wanna join? You should join me! Cool, pick you up around 7:30? Cool, I'll pick you up around 7:30. I'll just check in with you tomorrow and see what works Check in with me tomorrow to tell me when you get off. Otherwise it was flawless. Have fun! =)
/r/seduction24/09/12 10:52 PM
5

This sounds pretty accurate. I'd say 1's are more rare than 10's. Let's take a 10 to be a Marilyn Monroe type, by that standard a 1 is paraplegic grandma that is socially awkward. To be honest the 1-10 rating system is an illusion, there's really only one rating system 0-1.
/r/seduction24/09/12 07:06 AM
1

It's a subjective rating system. If I think she's a 9 she's a 9 no matter what you think. Plus I agree with what yoyo89 said. I'm not really attracted to < 8 so I tend to gravitate towards those women that are 8's or 9's. If you're hanging out with a bunch of 3's and 4's feel free to post some field reports, but I think most people only need help with/want to brag about their interactions with incredibly attractive women. =) EDIT: I can't find any [FR]'s on the front page right now that talk abo…
/r/seduction24/09/12 06:32 AM
5

You already lost the girl. You need to move on before your oneitis consumes you. Also you said you wanted a response more personalized to your situation, but you gave one of the most generic scenarios I've ever read.
/r/seduction24/09/12 01:14 AM
4

I agree, this seriously has nothing to do with attraction. I pull everybody in when the pictures are being taken. If I'm drunk, someone is getting kissed; man or woman. haha
/r/seduction23/09/12 06:19 AM
6

Be honest upfront. Escalate kino. If you really are outwardly confident it should be that easy to just get laid. Although, women are really intuitive so they'll probably be able to tell you're only after sex so beware.
/r/seduction23/09/12 04:06 AM
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I have a picture of two of my friends from high school at a bar with a woman. They both have an arm on each other's shoulder and the woman is standing off to the side. It cracks me up every time.
/r/seduction23/09/12 04:01 AM
2

Good luck! =)
/r/seduction21/09/12 01:57 AM
2

So after a drunk night of partying with a PUA she's really attracted to, you think she's going to say "Hey wait a second I need to call my bf and break up with him real quick." She probably wouldn't cheat vindictively, but if she is only dating you she's going to be horny as hell. 2x(Horny + drunk) = sex 100% of the time. Plus she doesn't have to worry about getting caught. In an LDR you can't maintain the most important part of a relationship, kino. Everyday she's away from you she will subcons…
/r/seduction21/09/12 12:58 AM
4

In that case I'd say you are contacting her way too much. She should be initiating the conversation almost every time unless you have something really important or relevant to say. You want to leave her wanting more, just because she's receptive to your conversations (1-1.5 hour responses doesn't sound too receptive imo) doesn't mean you should keep initiating them. I'd say only initiate maybe 1-2 conversations a week. Right now she has good memories of her time with you, don't ruin that by acci…
/r/seduction21/09/12 12:26 AM
3

This whole situation was "blown" as soon as she left for college. If you couldn't develop things into a relationship while you were physically with her, how do you expect to have a chance at a relationship through text messages? She's going to be gone for the better part of 4 years at college. There's absolutely no way this is going to work unless you plan on going to that college next semester, even then it's incredibly iffy. I can't really answer your question about how much to stay in contact…
/r/seduction20/09/12 11:58 PM
2

Game is like riding a bike, you never forget; but you might get a little rusty. Keep it up and you'll be back in form in no time. I always say there's nothing like the thrill of the hunt!
/r/seduction20/09/12 10:20 PM
12

How do you make new friends when you're in a relationship, especially female ones? The same as you do when you're not in a relationship. As far as making friends goes, nothing has changed. How do you practice game when you are in a relationship? Go out with your friends and practice. How can I avoid feeling like this? Stop going out with her and her friends... You shouldn't be tagging along during her friend time, that's ridiculous. How do I fake it till I make it with her friends and convince/m…
/r/seduction20/09/12 08:03 PM
2

Sounds like heaven. hahah Props on the jello pool. =) One of my friends is one of those obsessive coupons cutters, so she let's me know about all the good deals. She's one of those people that can walk out of a store with a huge cart full of shit and only pay $20. It's ridiculous.
/r/seduction16/09/12 08:40 PM
1

Haha my bad. Nice, we usually keep it around 50 to maintain an even ratio; 250 is very impressive. I only said 100 because typically $50 of liquor will last about 2 parties with ~50 people.
/r/seduction16/09/12 08:28 PM
1

At my local grocery store you can get handles of the "shitty" stuff for $10 at retail, $50 = 5 handles right there. Costco and similar stores sell in bulk and at a cheaper price; plus there are manufacturers coupons/rebates. Also, One of the local giant liquor stores offers 20% off for signing up for their membership.
/r/seduction16/09/12 08:10 PM
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That's your problem right there you're buying "decent" bottles at full price, of course you can't get 100 people drunk. Just go to walmart I can get 5 handles of the cheapest liquor for $50, and that's without any coupons or rebates. My personal fridge is stocked with top shelf, but I'm not buying grey goose for 100 people I don't know...
/r/seduction16/09/12 08:06 PM
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Between sales, coupons, rebates, and shopping at either a store like costco, sam's club, or one of those large liquor stores it's easy to get 6+ handles and mixers. If you don't pay retail at walmart and shop smart you can easily get enough alcohol for 100+ people for $50. We usually just buy really good deals as they come along and stock pile the liquor. Plus we know a guy who can get liquor at whole sale prices as overflow from weddings sometimes. Get creative and you can get a lot of liquor f…
/r/seduction16/09/12 07:57 PM
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All I can say is go to better parties; that sounds like the high school parties we used to throw. It takes about 40-50$ to build a decently stocked bar that can serve around 100 people to drunkenness. We can turn a fairly decent profit when we throw a party by charging a couple of bucks to all the guys.
/r/seduction16/09/12 06:36 PM
1

Where I live house parties tend to have a bar like setup in the kitchen; it's a huge party foul to take the drinks out of the kitchen area so it rarely happens. Usually the "bar" has vodka, tequila, rum, whiskey, and mixers. For instance the OP said there was a "shots table" I would have headed there and started playing drinking games or making shooters. In your case I would recommend doing what I put below. One thing I do when crashing parties where I don't know anyone is show up with something…
/r/seduction16/09/12 06:31 PM
29

I came here to say something along these lines, but you beat me to it. I'd just like to add that you shouldn't get discouraged, and I would never start opening at a party by having isolated conversations (just my style). Like ranniskurast said set yourself up doing something fun. I recommend learning to make drinks, when I go to a party I make a beeline for the drinks and start mixing. It always draws a crowd plus you get to meet everyone because they have to go through you for their drinks. You…
/r/seduction16/09/12 11:45 AM
4

It's not like men are the only one's who lie... Dating is about risk, you're putting yourself out there and there's a good chance your going to get hurt; that's what makes dating/relationships/love so exciting. In my experience the women who claim I "used" them are women with whom things simply didn't work out (Not everyone is compatible) or women who NEVER stated their intentions. I'm not a mind reader, if we hook up one night and you never call how am I supposed to know you wanted to start dat…
/r/seduction15/09/12 09:34 PM
2

We all do some crazy shit some times. I didn't mean to come off as an asshole, but sometimes I do that. haha Despite the gf thing I still don't think you should have moved in on his girl unless it was clear that he wasn't gaming her. You're definitely right though it's his problem not yours. Good luck out there man!
/r/seduction15/09/12 04:58 AM
10

I laughed way too hard at this.
/r/seduction14/09/12 10:32 PM
12

You are an ass. If my wing did this I would be pretty livid and I'll explain why. You are completely right in saying: I feel as if I deserve to choose the girl, since I opened. If he had opened, I would take whatever was available, only after my mate had his chosen. The problem is you did choose first. They laugh and tell me I'm right blah blah and I start talking to one of the twins specifically, while my friend talks to the other. Your friend did what a good wingman does and took the other one…
/r/seduction14/09/12 10:04 PM
1

Leave the DTR talk (Determine the relationship) to the girl. As long as you play it cool, but still show interest the "relationship" will evolve naturally. Keep pushing the kino and take a genuine interest in the girl and you are on your way to relationship land; but don't overwhelm her, it's ideal to leave her wanting more.
/r/seduction14/09/12 06:01 AM
1

Imo bars and clubs are for having fun with your friends; picking up women there is just an added bonus. I prefer meeting people through my social circle or through my daily encounters.
/r/seduction14/09/12 04:28 AM
3

I personally like bowling, barcade, batting cages or coffee for a first date, they are low pressure places that most guys (outside of this community) don't think of. If things are going well I venue change to either my place, hers, or one of my favorite nearby bars. I went bowling and barcading last week on 2 first dates and closed both times. I prefer bowling and barcade because there's lots of room for competition and kino; plus it's easier to make wagers which I really like to do. Batting cag…
/r/seduction13/09/12 11:58 PM
0

Why would you? For example I'm FWB with a girl who has 3 friendzoned guys chasing after her; the problem is they want a relationship and she doesn't. A lot of girls enjoy being single so why should I feel bad for showing her a good time?
/r/seduction13/09/12 10:08 PM
3

While I do agree with using sexual dialogue to an extent it's not really my style to toe the boundary with it; I prefer teasing and interesting light conversation. I like to push with my words and pull with my actions because I believe even the lightest kino is more effective than the best dialogue, sexual or otherwise.
/r/seduction13/09/12 05:29 PM
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Kino. Kino. Kino. My guess is you aren't escalating so things never really go anywhere. If you were a little more specific about what you mean by "small talk" because you shouldn't be talking about the weather and you shouldn't be asking interview questions.
/r/seduction13/09/12 06:20 AM
6

For text game, keep it short and no boring talk. ("Hey, what's up?") I really don't like "asking" girls out to bars; I'd say, "I'll be at xyz Saturday, you should come!" Also give more than 24 hours notice because it's too easy for her to flake if you invite her to something the next day. On a side note excellent job! There's only one little part I thought you could have done differently. When this happened: Sally told me what she did for her job and said "if you ever need ____ call me" I said, …
/r/seduction12/09/12 08:11 PM
3

"The Dude abides."
/r/seduction12/09/12 03:42 AM
2

I don't think it should work against you. Ask her out for coffee with confidence and if she asks why it took so long, just tell her you only recently became available.
/r/seduction11/09/12 10:50 PM
3

Small town girls are more susceptible to the "I'm going to be a slut if I do this!" IMO because the social circles are more tightly knit and we all know word travels fast. Stress the fact that you are discrete, and if possible don't tell anyone about your sexual encounters. Women really appreciate the adage, "a gentleman never kisses and tells."
/r/seduction11/09/12 03:14 AM
4

When I encounter LMR I simply say Ok and ask her if she wants a massage. A good massage has always escalated to sex for me. As for giving a great massage, I recommend getting one and having the masseuse explain things as she goes along. Pay special attention to the neck and invest in one of these. Once you start getting her to moan throw in a light kiss on the neck and an occasional nibble of the earlobe. Eventually when you're kissing her neck she will turn around and I'm sure you know where to…
/r/seduction11/09/12 02:52 AM
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