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Ok-LockenX/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 02:11 PM
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ConversationOk-LockenX/r/seduction13/04/22 09:53 PM
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Ok-LockenX/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 04:58 AM
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I been through this nearly same situation. We don’t have logically explanation why STBXW change their mind and give attitude. My best assumption her anger haven’t let go and can change their mind any time without a reason.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 12:21 AM
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It sounds accurate that my sbtx mention most of them and claims I’m an abusive husband. Only by yelling, and she considers it abusive. So, I let her have it and told her close friends I was a terrible person, which I am not. I move on
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 07:54 AM
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Recovered from COVID19 and mental Health. She doesn’t want to help me after I asked for help Lack of intimacy She work a lots Hang out male friends Communication
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 05:49 AM
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I’m lonely as well, and the kids are with the mother. I am trying to keep myself busy, but loneliness is still affecting me. Every time I took out the kids, they rather play with their friends on digital games than reality. So, Join the clubs, volunteer, pick up a new hobby, etc
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 01:46 AM
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Sound like their mother have the ability to GPS their children once the kid spends time with you. Plus, spoil the kids. You’re the father, you’re allowed to confiscate the phone, and they will turn against you. You need to set up boundaries between you and the children. That’s sucks that you and the children’s mother won’t communicate with you. My stbx does that to me the same thing. I have no problem communicating with my stbx, but she doesn’t. She still uses our children to communicate with me…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 05:00 AM
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I do want to move out from the city and move away more than 100 miles since my stbx made false accusations since she is little crazy after she had infidelity. I wish I could, but I have kids living with their mother.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 01:56 AM
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Tell me about! They have their expectation too high and still couldn’t make them happy.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 10:26 PM
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I’m a kind guy, and I want the kids to live comfortably. But my ex-wife is lived comfortable without me and rather to see me suffer. I didn’t give her a dime since day one of separation. I know in fact she had an affair which it hurt me the most and I move on. All she think about the money. I was thought about support her but since I read all the Reddit blogs telling us it a major NO! Lucky I haven’t say yes or no. I kept saying, let me see what I can do.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 06:30 PM
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You're correct, but I don't know why she mentions this instead of child support. I have a feeling she knows how to set a trap for me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:38 PM
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You're correct; this would be considered a gift. Oh! I'm saving the money, and that's why she asked me for this because she is aware I don't do finance recklessly, saving money, and she does.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:36 PM
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I have no desire to sign this. I'm pretty sure she doesn't want me to sign. Only help her with payments without my name. I'm sure she is still not aware that everything she owns is still part of the assets.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:33 PM
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I agree! I would rather pay child support so that way, in the future, the court will see I am responsible for not being financially reckless.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:31 PM
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It appears so! She wants to rob me to secure her income source.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:27 PM
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That is what I thoughts. Use it toward the child support and nothing else. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:26 PM
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I don't think she wants to spend money on lawyers. She rather spends money on herself, her secret boyfriend at the hotels, and her kids. All she wants civil and good terms so that way she wants to have more freedom without my presents. I did have the financial discipline to save up for a dream vacation fund, but she rather blows the money at the Target store and friends' socials.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:26 PM
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Yes, it sounds nice with her reasonable requests. But people can change their minds at anytime
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:21 PM
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Yes, we're both in California. This state of laws is more complex than I thoughts
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:19 PM
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I believe in marriage, and it is a blessing that my ex and I had a strong belief in faith. That changed everything when she hit her 40s, changed her looks, and strived for attention. I tried my best to be a better husband, and I couldn't make her happy anymore. I asked a pastor to save my marriage, and my pastor isn't helping me. All he said to me "Focus yourself" and "As for the divorce, it's your problem, and work it out with the state law" That hurt me when a pastor wasn't useful. So, religio…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 07:32 PM
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Suppose your ex-husband gave you flowers for mother's day without a catch or reconciliation. It sounds like he was showing a courtesy where you and your ex-husband have a son. It is a sign of respect for your son to set a good example. That is what I would do for my ex. Although I have a sad divorce, I am still civil to my children's mother, who is still on good terms. I'm doing my best to reinforce positive lives without getting ugly during separation and post-separation. It was not easy, but i…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 06:52 PM
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I can't comment about visitation rights. It is always up to the court and how determined you want. Everyone has a different way of divorcing men who want to move on with their lives or obsessing their old lives. My ex made a clear message that she didn't want me. It was hard for me after my ex was unhappy, kicked me out, had an affair, and had no counseling whatsoever! I had suffered from separation and anxiety; it took me less than a week to get help such as family, friends, and therapist suppo…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 08:25 PM
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It doesn’t like California state; Everything is split … so, what state are you in?
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 04:49 PM
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You'll be fine... I was thinking along the same lines as you. My life seemed to be over, yet that was not the case. Simply concentrate on yourself and do what you like. It is beneficial to see a therapist. Picking up a hobby and working out are the best things you can do. Don't date, don't blame, don't dispute, don't fight, and don't think adversely about anyone. It took me more than six months to get back on my feet. The outcome varies depending on how determined you are.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 08:50 AM
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Please show a courtesy not to mess around with a married woman. It might be fun to mess it around, but the thing will be caught with Karma if there is infidelity. 😀
/r/seduction19/04/22 06:51 PM
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During COVID19, I'm in a similar situation to you. I was having trouble finding work, had gained weight, had been a full-time father for over two years, lacked communication, married for 14 years, experienced depression, and so on. She was fed up with me and had an affair, so she abruptly requested a divorce. I want to work out the marriage and go to counseling, but she won't! Since that day, things haven't looked good, and I've gone to a therapist, worked out, spent time alone, gotten a new job…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 01:41 PM
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Thank you, it has been a while to think about the date.
/r/seduction14/04/22 03:57 PM
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Oh crap! I edit and thanks for the correction! I'm a little embarrassing 😀
/r/seduction13/04/22 10:51 PM
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I understand how you feel about getting better education for your child. But it appears she decided on everything was for the best for a child without being a co-parent. It should be 50/50. If one of the parents said no or couldn’t provide then tell her “No” I know setting up a boundaries isn’t easy, it need to build up what you can provide. If she want to pay extra service, let her! Don’t give her extra amount of money. It not fair if she didn’t bring up the discussion with you to compromise an…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 08:47 PM
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Please educate me; I want to be a better person next time if I meet a new lady.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 05:40 PM
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It's quite sad and true! What does the man can’t make wives happy anymore? Social media influences? Too much feminist supports? Need extra pay attention from a husband? There are too many questions I want to ask. It got harder to be Pleased a wife that day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 02:41 AM
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Correct, it is not healthy co-parents. She expects me to ask questions. The last time I asked, it was either “oh, I forgot to tell you,” “I thought you didn’t want to know,” or “Our kids told me you don’t want to visit today.” She would believe anything that our kids say; she doesn’t ask me questions from the kids to make this clear. I only had normal conversations, and she assumed everything that I didn’t want to be part of this.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 08:26 PM
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Will do, I made some contact with the lawyers and waiting for their return calls.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 07:44 PM
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She is a good mother but a horrible wife and playing victim. I still do want to spend time kids, and still working on changing my work schedule. I’m not worried about the affair anymore. The damage had been done, and moving forward. I am worried about the kids with their mental health and trying to get them outdoor than spending time on the screens. I still keep in touch in daily and kept saying “Everything is normal, ly, bye” or ingore my message. Last time I had deep meaning conversation with …
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 06:11 PM
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At this moment I couldn’t, I work in graveyard shifts, I sleep in daytime, weekends, kids are in school daytime. It hard to keep up the schedule. I will request to change my schedule for daytime.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 05:58 PM
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I’m not going back with her. I told her before I got married that I didn’t believe in cheating, and she did! As of right now, I don’t particularly appreciate looking at her face or acknowledging her. I still keep in communication with the children. For the first couple of months, I did miss her; after that evidence, I discovered, I didn’t want her anymore. All the confession in the videos that she makes to her lover, she doesn’t miss me, she is grateful that her lover give all her attention, and…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 05:56 PM
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No, she isn’t fighting for custody. All she cared about was that she was protecting them away from me. She does allow me to visit and take them out. She expects me to communicate with her if I want to take the kids out, and she doesn’t communicate with me if I can take care of the base on my availability or not. She expects to co-parent with the children, but she didn’t tell me anything about their injuries, grades, and activities. Every time I asked, they told me the same thing, “everything is …
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 05:42 PM
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Thanks! I contact lawyer last week and I’m waiting for return phone call. I know the lawyer know better than I do.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 04:43 PM
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I haven't told her I'm waiting for the right time. I will return to their community of hers and see from there. Plus, expose her lover. He is well respects the community. Both of them screw me over.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:51 PM
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Yes, I have kids, and it does have complicated. I have to think thoroughly and carefully. If she turns kids against me more than ever, I have no choice but to use the leverage and embarrass her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:49 PM
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She first asked for personal space while I was in depression, weight gain, mood swings, fragile, and my mind wasn't clear; there was no violence whatsoever. Plus, I need mental health professional helps because the pandemic took a toll. So I believed her because I loved her and did anything to protect the family. She took me surprised two weeks after I left home. So, there was never an argument, and she doesn't do arguments. She was scared of me when I had mood swings. So, YES, I DID FUCK UP by …
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:07 PM
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Oh wow! That hurt when I read this, but it is the truth! I know her lover; he is a womanizer, and they were friends. I know her lover's ex-girlfriends, and I can contact them. It took me weeks to think thoroughly.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 02:59 PM
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I applaud your courage to expose your wife. That would take lots of guts to do it
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 02:30 PM
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Yes, I have lost everything, and people think I'm evil. I didn't bother to defend. However, I feel if I do that, she might make the kids turn against me and make getting a divorce much uglier. I don't have the courage because I don't like people to get hurt. Even if they hurt me, I don't do retaliation
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 02:27 PM
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It takes time to heal. Eat fewer junk foods/drinks. Work out, socialize with new people, and pick up a hobby. Especially see a therapist; they help! I am still getting divorced five months after discovering her infidelity, and she won’t admit it. She blames me for everything. She is just trying to make an excuse to leave a marriage that is my fault. So the therapist helped me through, and it helped! I’m still not getting over her, and she got over me completely within two months.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 03:16 AM
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