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| – | There is nothing inherently wrong with men dating much younger womenNo it‘s all up to women. When we refuse they hit us with a Fred Feuerstein club over the head and drag us to their home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 05:35 AM |
| – | Do women actually want to take things slow?Insightful. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 05:10 PM |
| – | Do women actually want to take things slow?Yeah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 05:04 PM |
| – | Do women actually want to take things slow?I know that there are varying reasons. I‘m wondering if it‘s more prevalent that the women who want to take it slow do so out of their own accord or because of other motives that don‘t reflect how fast they would be willing to have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Since I was 19 numerous people asked me if I model or told me that I look like a model. I‘ve been even stopped on the street before for an offer for a photoshoot, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 08:21 AM |
| 1 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Because she does have a great personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 07:31 AM |
| 0 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Very true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:09 PM |
| 2 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?True | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:03 PM |
| 3 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Good analogy lol. Yeah true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:00 PM |
| 3 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?I did that for the last 6 years or so lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?True | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:47 PM |
| 9 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?True. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:44 PM |
| 20 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?I think I am jealous how easy gay men have sex too. But I guess it was brought closer to home when she told me about her experiences | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:43 PM |
| 9 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Yeah I guess I am jealous and I want to overcome that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:36 PM |
| 3 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?True. Thanks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:35 PM |
| 7 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?I don‘t think that makes me any happier, that just makes it worse 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:02 PM |
| 4 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?It‘s not that she has had sex with a number of men that bothers me, it‘s rather how easy it was for her. Though I was already aware that it was for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:01 PM |
| 4 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Sure, I am committed because of the dozen girls I‘ve met she‘s been my best match. I‘ve never been so enticed to want more than a hookup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Subreddit correlation to PPD and it's effects on discussion.intj lmao, why are so many of my people here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeWake up, realize that you don‘t actually have to wake up early because you could easily find a guy who would be ok with you being a stay-at-home wife/mom. Ah yes, to be financially dependent on some guy is certainly a safe place to be in. With threads like this guys are just telling on themselves that they have the empathy levels of a coconut and can’t place themselves in another person‘s shoes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/23 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?likely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?In my experience most guys in real life do not overly struggle with getting relationships and they usually have had a couple of relationships/casual sex encounters. You have to take into consideration that there can be a bias here. If these men are part of your social circle as a woman, they are likely not maladapted or struggling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | I am slowly starting to despise Andrew TateI don‘t think people just grow out of misogyny and toxic masculinity. That takes deliberate desire to educate yourself and change. What they might grow out of is their aimlessness and insecurity that made them resonate with someone like Andrew Tate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Do women prefer to give their number or to be given a number?I‘ve only given out my number this year and most women reached out. But I could tell they were already interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:43 AM |
| 9 | I am slowly starting to despise Andrew TateThat probably won‘t change their societal views though. It‘s just that their idol has so severely fallen off that even they can now recognize what a piece of shit he is. They will attach themselves to the next dude who says the same things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:30 AM |
| 3 | I am slowly starting to despise Andrew TateI‘m not a retarded SJW woketard who says Tate bad after millions criticize him for no reason. Imagine he was actually criticized by millions for good reasons but your perception of political affiliations made you blind to recognize the validity of the critique. I‘ve seen a handful of clips of him, watched a debate of him and an interview. The guy is clearly not intelligent and spouts the same regressive beliefs other right wing internet personalities that came before him have, just in a more obn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:28 AM |
| 15 | "just be a good person" and other stupid shit that people give as adviceThere are a lot of things that go into this. In one regard it‘s the just world fallacy. People just assume that when you are in a bad place you must have done something bad to deserve it and if you are doing good you must have done something good to deserve it. So if you struggle with women, you must be a bad person. Another point is that women seemingly don‘t understand the difficulty that goes into approaching women and being sexually successful as a guy. The traits that go into this are taken… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Anyone notice that in a lot of male-oriented space, the general consensus is that they hold themselves accountable for their self improvement, while in female-oriented spaces, they focus on placating their members?The onus will have to be on the majority. A small minority of people are autistic or queer. They can’t educate everyone on a person-to-person basis. It will be primarily up to neurotypicals and heterosexuals to educate themselves on their own accord. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, if you feel like you’ve dropped enough “hints,” but your man still isn’t making the move, then you need to be more direct. Many guys are gun-shy about misinterpreting “hints” due to getting burned/shamed/humiliated in the past.It‘s not the lack of understanding these cues. Men were just more blindly sexually aggressive back then. A lot of men are sexually timid and careful now, while men‘s ability to read and understand women‘s hints hasn‘t changed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 07:44 AM |
| 1 | How to keep going after cold approaching?You continue the conversation based on what is amusing or interesting to you. If you need content to talk about make observations and assumptions about her, you can draw off of random associations and if you ask a question, don‘t make it a yes-or-no question. You should aim for emotionally engaging topics like hobbies, traveling, goals. | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.I do daygame and I struggled with this as well. Simple answer is, do it anyway. You are just discouraging yourself with a non-issue. I know this because I had the same issue and approached in the same scenario often enough with the girl responding positively. Then I realized what an irrelevant concern it is. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?The man probably has or wants to have sex with many women, while expecting women to have a low or no body count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 07:21 AM |
| 1 | What makes a man "hookup material" versus "Boyfriend/Husband material"?What is „very hot“ to you? Is it just looks or some other traits as well? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Where are all the good looking people IRL?When I worked as a waiter I‘ve seen a lot of upper class highly attractive people that I also never see in my day to day life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 10:43 PM |
| 9 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?The gym is not the place for a direct approach like that. If you try to pull girls at the gym you have to treat it from a social circle perspective. Befriend a bunch of people at the gym you regularly talk to to display social proof. That aside, only indirect approach girls at the gym. Like start a conversation with them based on an observation or something. Leave it at. Then if you see them some other day you can start a casual conversation again. If you've talked to them a couple of times, per… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Do women you’re not attracted to you mean anything to you at all? Do you look up to or admire any women?Yes and yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/22 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Did my first cold approach todaySo you do believe that it‘s bad to show your intent? Because I don‘t. I make it no secret I am sexually attracted to her. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Did my first cold approach todayYes, and? Do you believe showing women romantic or sexual interest is somehow bad? The value you offer her is a fun time. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Did my first cold approach todayIt isn‘t actually since you offer value in return. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Do men find it unappealing when a woman is more upfront (ie less of a chase)?Differs from person to person of course and personally I wouldn‘t even be able to estimate how many men make up one side or the other. I think many men will say they like it if a woman is upfront, but that‘s because many men are sexually/romantically unsuccessful and chasing women is a chore to them. The two will be the most common reasons why they say they prefer women to make the move. I think women have to make themselves less available and offer intimacy only through a relationship to weed o… | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 08:42 AM |
| 6 | When discussing dating, men are only thinking of a small subset of women, which is why they think that women have it easier in datingYou are totally right. A lot of frustrations and resentment of men when it comes to dating primarily stem from not having sex and then they look over to attractive women who could easily have sex to fuel their resentment. Which also ignores that these women don't want to sleep with any loser who only wants to bust a nut and leave, but instead are looking for a healthy relationship with a good man. So to these women it's not even a relevant upside. Generally it is still easier for women to have o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Q4M On a Scale of 1-10, how attractive does a woman have to be for you to approach?6.5/10. And that is because her personality could give her some extra points. But I will only approach when circumstantially convenient. I might approach when it's inconvenient if she is an 8 to me. If I already swiped right on her I would generally message first, because why wait? I'm a guy who takes initiative. On my worst, a 7/10 if we are talking about looks. Much more than not taking the initiative, yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 11:54 AM |
| -4 | Approaching girls at the gym?First of all, you shouldn't speak for all women, because not all women think that way. I already know of women who stated otherwise and I've already had conversations with women at the gym who were really receptive. For example a girl I once approached at the gym invited me to do an exercise with her. | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 11:00 AM |
| 1 | How many of you men here are actually In shape?I‘ve been told several times now by people of both sexes that I look fit, so I guess I‘m well in shape. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | I can’t sleep with a woman because I feel like I’m doing something wrongWomen will ping off of you to assess the situation. If you are very uncomfortable making a move then "something must be wrong". If you do an unconfident move "then something must be wrong". Yet if you are chill and make a move confidently and comfortably "everything is fine". Doesn't mean she isn't making any judgement of her own, but a lot comes from how you feel about the situation. | /r/seduction | 13/05/22 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?The difference in what the two genders want and can provide creates an asymmetry in the outcome. And we can see the outcome. For example, more men are virgins than women. And historically more women managed to reproduce than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 04:01 PM |
| 6 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?It's also inaccurate to say that women have it easier, because having easy access to something that you do not want in the first place is not a benefit. No, if I have easy access to something then I have easy access to it, even if I don't want it. It's of no benefit, sure, but I still have easy access. Otherwise, I agree with everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?One very attractive man can have sex with a plural of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?Very interesting, I brought up the same proposal with the same reasoning in this sub a while ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Women don't have the right to judge men because they can't find a partnerInsightful. You did give me food for thought. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 11:52 AM |
| 1 | about to graduate college. i feel like i wasted my yearsI assume you are talking in terms of socializing and your sex life. It‘s crucial to use the first few days to approach a lot of people to collect contacts. That‘s when everyone is still lost and looking for friends to make. It‘s not impossible afterwards to meet a lot of great people, but it gets harder. Additionally, seek out the right kinds of people. You should socialize with everyone to get a good reputation, but place your focus on meeting people that have social value (extroverts who regul… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 06:52 AM |
| 6 | about to graduate college. i feel like i wasted my yearsThe same way you do regardless if you go to college or not. Online dating, daygame, nightgame or social circle game. | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Women don't have the right to judge men because they can't find a partnerIt‘s really not that deep. You see a guy with girls interested in him and subsequently he looks more attractive to you. There isn’t necessarily a thought behind it, it‘s instincts. Additionally, your questions are answered by other girls giving him the green light of approval, by being friends with him or wanting to fuck him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 06:37 AM |
| 0 | Women don't have the right to judge men because they can't find a partnerMaybe it‘s both! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Women don't have the right to judge men because they can't find a partnerNo, lol, it means the guy has enough attractive qualities for a woman to even want to be intimate with him. Women rely on social proof as a strong indicator to figure out a guy‘s social value. One of them being other girls desiring him. If he isn‘t getting any girls the assumption is he must suck at socializing/being confident/being sexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 07:25 PM |
| 30 | 10 Months of Successful Dating in New York City: A Summary and AnalysisRegarding your daygame anecdote. I see several problems in your reasoning. You compared the success of you going on a date with him cold approaching. That‘s a bad comparison. Him cold approaching on the street is akin to you building a profile and collecting matches. Not you going on a date with a woman who is already interested. That would be comparable to him getting a date through cold approaching. And him getting a rejection when cold approaching is akin to you not getting a match. When it c… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 10:35 PM |
| 10 | Here Is a Method To Practice Flirting AloneYes, you get 1 example (either a sentence, a word, or a photo) and given that example you come up with a flirt for each of the 7 types listed. If it‘s a word then I come up with a flirt in relationship to that word. Perhaps I pretend the imagined other person said that word in a sentence, or something around us happened in relation to that word or I use that word in my flirt. When I generate a random sentence I pretend the other person said it and I reply to it. If I pick a random photo I just w… | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | They all seem to want relationships instead of sex?Don‘t even know why this was downvoted so much. It gives oneself solid insight into what to do, while also not having to lie to women about one‘s intentions. It‘s probably just people triggered that girls treat the two differently. | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 09:35 PM |
| 5 | [FIELD REPORT] [29M] Approaching on college campuses Jan-MarVery convincing „university hound“ I‘m kidding by the way | /r/seduction | 01/04/22 08:55 PM |
| 5 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manApproaching and leading escalations are more difficult than you make it sound. Women underestimate how hard it is, which is evident by how bad the game of most women is once they try to pursue like men have to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/22 12:30 PM |
| 9 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manAll of that is the result of a patriarchal society | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 10:51 PM |
| 7 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manUh, it's not just "marginally" more dangerous. The shit I've heard my female friends experience, it's downright horrifying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 10:32 PM |
| 14 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manAh yes, the wisdom of the waiting for choosing signals desert. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 10:08 PM |
| 12 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manThe dude in the first video clearly is good looking, but he's struggling long before they know he is trans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manSure, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Almost every woman has a type of guy they'd be willing to make the first move on, so if you had to make the first move to get with your partner, odds are she finds a different type more attractive than youassertive virgin Lmaoo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Barney Stinson(HIMYM) and Howard Wolowitz(TBBT) are an example of how certain men are seen by women and society.Society upholds niceness as an ideal. But what we are fundamentally attracted to is power and success, even when completely lacking niceness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Value is determined by the marketDo you understand what a shit test is? Additionally, it is still better for a short guy to have unquestioned confidence in himself. A set of women still not being attracted to them doesn't as a whole invalidate the phenomena that women in fact do ping off of you to assess the situation/how to evaluate you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Got ignored multiple times cold approachingYou don't know how often women commend me for approaching them in a daygame setting. Just recently I was on a date with a woman I cold approached at the mall and she told me how brave it was and how she and her friends complain about how men most of the time don't approach them. Heard the same thing from a couple of women now. I do agree that it's surprising for women to be cold approached like that and not all of them want to be approached. Hence, you should read their body language and let the… | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 12:43 PM |
| 13 | Got ignored multiple times cold approachingThat's awesome dude, because this is a chance to build your emotional resilience. First of all, don't talk to them from behind. Catch up, walk next to them with an arm's length distance and make sure to speak loud and clearly enough. Additionally, from your stories it doesn't sound like you approach many girls per session. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 12:38 PM |
| 1 | How much is due to game?When going out for the night a girl can have made up her mind that she wants to go home with a guy and she can also want to have sex with a guy she's met, without him running game on her. | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 05:37 PM |
| 2 | How much is due to game?It does happen that girls have decided before that they want to have sex when they go out. The guy approaching simply has to be sufficient, which by far doesn't have to be superb game. | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Introverts are more likely to be involuntarily single. Thus confirming that you have to 'put yourself out there' in order to meet people and develop interactions that turn into relationships. This is a hard truth for manyIntroversion might be genetic though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 12:04 AM |
| 2 | I am destined to be a loserI see. Well in that case I can't think of anything else to help you. Best of luck. | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 11:57 AM |
| 1 | I am destined to be a loserI understand that from your perspective you have tried everything and I do believe that you have tried a lot probably, but perhaps by lacking a second opinion on your journey you had blind spots that were the reason why you didn't make as much progress as you liked. Did you have friends who had the same goal as you and then you worked on your game together? Did you go out with friends who would judge your performance? I also don't think you should go to a therapist. You should talk to good pick … | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Women want casual sex just as much as men - but only with partners that will probably give them an orgasmI think it's because being good at dancing points to other qualities that are also good for sex. You feel comfortable in your skin, you are not stiff and dancing with someone else requires coordination with that person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 08:53 AM |
| 3 | Women want casual sex just as much as men - but only with partners that will probably give them an orgasmA survey of 2,000 women has revealed that the way a man dances is a dead giveaway to his performance between the sheets. More than 80 per cent of the women questioned said there was a definite link, and that magic movers were certain to be able to perform more than a few tricks in the bedroom. More than half admitted to trying to get a man on to the dance floor to check out his technique before "taking the plunge". https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-179122/Good-dancers--good-lovers.html … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 06:09 PM |
| 4 | We’re all gonna make it bros. Got my first date tomorrow, please advise.Assume she will like you Give value without needing anything in return Focus on vibing Approach this from a buyers frame (Do I like her? If not I will eventually meet another girl.) | /r/seduction | 13/02/22 09:17 PM |
| – | Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romanceI thoroughly explained that actually. Both how they can be delusional and what exactly those delusional ideas are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romanceA male model, definitely. But even the male model doesn‘t get as many matches as a somewhat above average girl on Tinder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romanceNope. Women find many men physically unattractive, but what women are primarily attracted to in men isn‘t just their appearance, but how they behave, how they make her feel and his social proof. This yet again explains why men‘s dating advice is centered around working to change themselves from the ground up, to have substantial results with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romanceAs said, play the numbers game. Choose from the options you get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romanceI picked the CMV flair for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?In all honesty, if there are many women out there who keep it that vague, how can women blame men if they confuse friendliness with romantic interest? Liking a bunch of my photos is nothing. I would see it in my feed and not spend a second thinking about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 04:52 PM |
| 27 | What is the real reason most average men have a near impressive time finding a girlfriend?It's a mix of many men not even having the type of social life where they regularly meet new women, many men not even approaching to begin with and lastly being faced with how many women end up being taken or just not interested to which they might respond by giving up. The first two issues can have a myriad of reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Is There Anything You Can Do Or Say Which Can Determine If A Woman You're Talking To Is Interested Or Not?You gain certainty with escalation. She can give you signals, which gives you some certainty. You can flirt and she could reciprocate which gives you even more certainty. You keep escalating and when she reciprocates you have more certainty that she's into you. Unfortunately there are also the types that only flirt with you for fun, hence why flirting and her reciprocating isn't enough to be fully certain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 05:17 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are sexually unsuccessful because they are seen as not mature enough / not ready for sexual activityThat neglects the scenario where they aren't hooking up with a dude they see as bf/husband material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 09:24 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Men are sexually unsuccessful because they are seen as not mature enough / not ready for sexual activityIt's actually <=17% of men who are virgins by their 30s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It's a Just-World Fallacy that "misogynistic/sexist" men don't get laid. Ironically, they get laid just as much, if not more than the kind, agreeable men do.Eh, don't think so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 0 | CMV: It's a Just-World Fallacy that "misogynistic/sexist" men don't get laid. Ironically, they get laid just as much, if not more than the kind, agreeable men do.Sure, and I agree with your point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 12:11 AM |
| 24 | CMV: It's a Just-World Fallacy that "misogynistic/sexist" men don't get laid. Ironically, they get laid just as much, if not more than the kind, agreeable men do.Side note: A "kind, agreeable man" can still be misogynistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 09:54 PM |
| – | How far should the male population be reduced?:( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/22 07:51 PM |
| – | How far should the male population be reduced?No matter the „lack of men.“ I don‘t think so. There were studies on the dating habits of college students where it was examined how the male-to-female ratio impacts said dating habits. A higher ratio of women lead to more casual sex, presumably because men had the upper hand. A higher ratio of men lead to more long term relationships, presumably because women had the upper hand on the dating market. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Explanations for the high male to female ratio on dating appsInteresting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/22 06:49 PM |
| 0 | Anyone just accepted that night game isn’t for you?Yeah that was an obvious cope lol | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 09:10 PM |
| 12 | My inexperience with flirting makes dating so difficultWhen you work on your social skills or seduction skills it is normal that things that you previously haven‘t done feel unnatural, but if you do it often enough it will become natural to you. And I‘m saying this as someone who felt the same way about flirting. Imagine that the girl you are talking to is your friend‘s bratty little sister and treat her from that perspective. Makes teasing much easier. Additionally, this whole „saying the right thing at the right time“ tells me you have to work on … | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 09:18 AM |
| 1 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierActually, the orgasm point is very valid, I forgot about that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 5 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierIt‘s difficult to compare and decide whether or not it‘s equal. Both have their upsides and downsides. I wouldn‘t want to deal with periods, possibly getting pregnant, society scrutinizing your looks much more harshly, being more likely to be stalked or raped, many of the men who approach you only seeing you as an opportunity to get off while you want a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 10:00 PM |
| 3 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierI‘d expect the average person to socialize an average amount, which should be enough to regularly see people of the opposite gender and get their attention. I guess our definition of average diverges. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 09:48 PM |
| 4 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierNo, „constantly“ is clearly an exaggeration, but I do expect an average girl to regularly get male attention, provided she socializes regularly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 09:27 PM |
| 2 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierbelow average* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 09:14 PM |
| 7 | "both women and men struggle in dating" isnt an argument, men have to work harder or be luckierThere are various serious problems that women face. What makes men dismiss it is the fact that they want sex, it‘s their primary incentive, meanwhile women can easily get sex, which is why men think it is easier. As stated, women have various problems that I wouldn‘t want to deal with, but honestly, it will never seem like a real issue to me to have plenty of options to choose from after doing nothing besides existing and your issue is that your options aren‘t good enough. It‘s really comparable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How do most people just not have to self improve to not get a date?Sometimes people have been dealt worse cards, either through genetics or their environment. You can have specific few issues that lead you to not having dates/sex at all, that doesn‘t mean you are overall bad. Imagine you had an average car and a lambo. The lambo has a lot of value to offer, but perhaps there is an iron bolt between gears which is why it can‘t drive. The average car on the other hand is functional and can drive. The lambo is still a great car it just has to resolve this single i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Men do not glow up in their 30s. 60% of married couples are within a 3 year age gapIt doesn‘t seem reasonable to cite the age gaps of married couples as proof. Who man decide to date when it comes to casual relationships and „real“ ones is different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Only Date Women Who Worship YouThe issue is such women are usually far below what you want and another problem is that she doesn‘t challenge you and I think you need that for growth. I do like it when I have a girl who is wrapped around my finger, but they usually don‘t look good enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/22 02:55 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women that approach have a huge advantage to those that just sit around and wait to be approached.Sounds reasonable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/21 06:12 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women that approach have a huge advantage to those that just sit around and wait to be approached.No you don't need to be stunning. Very beautiful women get approached less often than somewhat pretty ones, because many men are intimidated by them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 8 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitYes, "in your experience" and people are making you aware that that's the flaw here. In regards to an 80 year old man calling someone 50 young, or implying they are inexperienced, it depends what we are talking about. It's reasonable to assume a 40 year old has significantly more knowledge on dating and relationships than a 20 year old. An 80 year old in comparison to a 50 year old, not so much, and that's because of how your life develops at those ages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 03:51 PM |
| 18 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitNo, 21 is pretty young to claim to have much dating experience, especially when behavior and attitude of women changes with age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 03:11 PM |
| 16 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitWouldn't cultured be a better term for the first kind rather than intelligence? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 03:09 PM |
| 2 | is it really harder to find a boyfriend or girlfriend if you're ugly*everyone is surprised* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/21 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman who approaches men low value?I‘m not making any prescriptive statements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/21 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman who approaches men low value?Because assuming women in general have options in a culture where men approach women, it suggests she might be low value if she felt the need to directly approach a dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/21 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Starting out as friends and then datingWeeks sounds plausible, but a span of several months doesn‘t to me. Just my estimation. And yeah I care about what women have to say, you can‘t ignore the source entirely, even if for some reason women sometimes do give unreliable input. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 2 | Starting out as friends and then datingThat contradicts what a lot of women said here though, that at some point, in part due to his unattractiveness and also because of time (putting him in the friend category), they won‘t see them romantically. Like, maybe you are talking about insane amounts of attractiveness when it comes to personality, but in that case I would be confused why it would take a long time to make her feel attracted even when you are physically unattractive. Like I agree that when a guy is physically unattractive, h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Starting out as friends and then datingInteresting. A lot of nuance here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Starting out as friends and then datingWhat do Jews have to do with this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Starting out as friends and then datingYour welcome. It‘s almost Christmas you know. So take it as an early gift and then we return to only asking the fellas about what women want muahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:29 AM |
| 8 | Starting out as friends and then datingAh, I see. So he vanished after the rejection. That‘s the problem I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Starting out as friends and then datingMake it clear early on in the friendship you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Men admitting they have ‘settled’ on social mediaThere is not contradiction. Women have an abundance of options, monkeybranch and keep wondering if they can do better. For men a high value woman slips out of his fingers or he didn‘t get far in making her his. It will be a lesser value woman who will stay with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/21 10:05 PM |
| 2 | PUAs or just those who have “game” what’s your go-to tactic to picking up a woman in a bar or party setting?I strongly agree with this. Do have fun, but actively approach as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | As a Bisexual Guy I think that men are FAR easier to date than women BUT too many guys just don't "get it" so I see why Women tend to be picky👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/21 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Racial reality of dating (in the West)I understand what you are saying, but I think you shouldn‘t use words like those to describe black women, because it re-enforces a societal image they suffer from. Even if the black women you met were masculine and „ratchet“. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Racial reality of dating (in the West)Oh no, I was speaking in regards to white women because they are the vast majority. I meet a black girl my age once every couple of years (literally). But sure, black women wouldn‘t reject me for being black, I presume. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 12:44 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men don't actually slut shame in real life. This is entirely a female construct that they direct at men to blame for their internalized guiltThat‘s some very dumb reasoning. I‘m a guy and I‘ve seen it numerous times how guys call women sluts or whores for having sex with guys or many guys. Even in the presence of girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Men, is it true that if you like someone you'll make an effort to plan a nicer date than usual?No, because I don‘t want to seem needy or put her on a pedestal, which might fuck it up for me. First date will always be a rather light get to know each other type of date. The only time I would change that is if there is a fun event and I take out date as an opportunity to go there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe that only a small percentage of men are having the majority of sexual encounters with women? Does this signal polygamy incoming?Women do NOT like to share a guy, no matter how much of a Chad he might be. Maybe one shouldn‘t make assumptions about the other riverside you haven‘t seen. They may not like it, but women might agree to sharing a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 02:04 AM |
| 1 | High value men would not date a McDonald's worker just because she is hotOutliar. It‘s not about people in general, there are clear differences in behavior based on sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 01:14 AM |
| 3 | What do you think are the worst and best dating platitudes?Sure, if we are talking about people who actually just fake a persona, then I agree with you. I've seen "be yourself" used so broadly that even changing yourself at all was criticized by some people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/21 05:44 PM |
| 12 | What do you think are the worst and best dating platitudes?I think a bad platitude is when men tell other men "Just work on yourself and women will come." I am not disagreeing with the idea of working on yourself at all, go ahead and do that and yes you will become more attractive, but this passive approach is not the way to go. What if you only or mainly have male friends? What if you have a life style where you meet few or no women? What if you aren't skilled at flirting? Do you have experience handling women or keeping women interested in a relations… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 7 | What do you think are the worst and best dating platitudes?This is very simplistic reasoning that always annoyed me. People's identity, personality and behavior is not static. The issue is that when people seek advice to improve their circumstances, going about things the same way is not going to produce better results, hence why responding with "be yourself" is just plain bad advice. To deliberately and consciously change yourself doesn't mean putting up an act either. Yet again this implies human beings having a static personality and that a deviation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/21 04:14 PM |
| – | If women acknowledge that they are the gatekeepers of sex then it would inadvertently follows that having sex is an accomplishment for men and not for women.The point was it‘s justified for men to be called studs. In the meantime women shouldn‘t be called names for it. Also for your example, men actually are ridiculed and called names for orgasming too quickly (two pump chump). As for why there isn‘t a commending term for women when they orgasm, it‘s probably because that‘s another accomplishment of the man when he manages to make her cum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/21 11:11 PM |
| – | If women acknowledge that they are the gatekeepers of sex then it would inadvertently follows that having sex is an accomplishment for men and not for women.As said, I am against calling women sluts for having sex with many men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/21 11:03 PM |
| 2 | If all men had guaranteed sex…I didn‘t say it would go away, just that it would drastically decrease. The guy married at the age of 71.. kind of confirms that the desire for a LTR drastically decreases for a man who can have casual sex often. Don‘t know whether or not he had LTR before that, since I don‘t know the guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 03:49 PM |
| -1 | If all men had guaranteed sex…Interesting point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 03:14 PM |
| 2 | "There is a difference between what women say they want and what actually works"A „weak soy boy feminist“ lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 08:33 PM |
| 5 | "There is a difference between what women say they want and what actually works"That‘s interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 08:15 PM |
| 5 | "There is a difference between what women say they want and what actually works"What if it‘s a girl in university who kept smiling at me when I walk past her in the hallway and she approached me in a lecture? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 8 | "There is a difference between what women say they want and what actually works"Bonus question: Just something that popped into my mind because several posters stated here „women can get casual sex easily so that‘s not what‘s on their mind“. So what if a girl cold approaches me, that I have never spoken to, and is giving me signals she‘s into me? Is she interested in me as a LTR prospect although she doesn‘t know me? Is she going off on a hinge what I’m like for that? Or is she interested in me based on something sexual after all? Since she only knows what I look like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 06:23 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about knowing that a lot of men will sleep with anything?Uhh, sure, I wasn‘t trying to turn this into a competition. Just saying women generally have lower self-esteem according to studies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/21 04:06 PM |
| 2 | If 80% of women are going after the top 20% of men, what are the remaining 20% of women doing?As someone who has struggled in a very similar manner, I am oddly happy for you. Nice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/21 08:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about knowing that a lot of men will sleep with anything?Actually, in general women have lower self-esteem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/21 08:28 PM |
| 10 | Society doesn't need more women as CEOs, politicians, and in positions of power over othersHere we have another instance of biological determinism being used to justify the oppression of a demographic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/21 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Most women don't deserve prince charming. Most women (like most men) are average and deserve average men. That western women waste their youth throwing themselves at high value men they don't deserve only to be pumped & dumped is why they end up bitter, alone or "settling".What is the standard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/21 03:20 AM |
| 1 | How is someone supposed to have a low N-count and be happy, if they have a bad time at finding lasting relationships ?I meant her explanation made sense when it comes to guys, but I think in case of women it will be motivated differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 10:30 PM |
| 1 | How is someone supposed to have a low N-count and be happy, if they have a bad time at finding lasting relationships ?I didn‘t say people were entitled to knowing someone‘s past, but it will be the business of people looking for a LTR to know about your past to figure out if you are incompatible or have red flags. Pretty reasonable actually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 10:27 PM |
| 1 | How is someone supposed to have a low N-count and be happy, if they have a bad time at finding lasting relationships ?It‘s the business of anyone who wants a LTR with you to know and evaluate your past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 08:46 PM |
| 1 | How is someone supposed to have a low N-count and be happy, if they have a bad time at finding lasting relationships ?I have the impression this explanation is the case for men, but not women who have and want a low n count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 08:45 PM |
| 5 | The average man is not doing bad with the average woman when it comes to sex.Then don't pay more for a product you believe is worth less? It's essentially your mistake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 05:00 PM |
| 2 | What are things you wish us women knew about men?Sensing some strong delusion and projection from this post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 02:54 AM |
| 48 | The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks.Male thirstiness is ruining it for all guys. It‘s ridiculous the kind of shit I see when you look at the amount and the kinds of messages women get. Turning down male thirstiness would probably solve a lot of issues, but that might not be a realistic endeavor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:32 PM |
| 9 | Do you believe your current personality would be enough to be sexually successful if you were transformed into a genetically unattractive male?Plus all the things you've listed aren't even that significant in making you more sexually attractive to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 11:24 AM |
| 6 | Do you believe your current personality would be enough to be sexually successful if you were transformed into a genetically unattractive male?If women have severely negative reactions when they get rejected by a man they cold approached, how are they going to make it as a gender that is expected to do the first moves and cold approaching? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 11:22 AM |
| 11 | Online dating really is for a small pool of menIt's relative and situational. With fewer men the less attractive men would still have more options in that scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Men get their nice guy ideas from high school movies and the anime harem genre.that's irrelevant to sexual attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/21 09:33 PM |
| 8 | Understanding Female Intrasexual CompetitionHappens all the time on this sub that somehow all or most female posters on here do not match and are above a certain behavior that men clearly often see. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/21 09:40 AM |
| 2 | "I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is?I knew it. The government has been genetically engineering cute anime cat girls FOR YEARS, but they kept us in the dark about it. No man will EVER go without his own genetically engineered anime cat girl. This will change dating for ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/21 11:37 AM |
| 2 | The attractiveness gap is a myth. Men are not less appealing than women because they take less care of themselves, women are just hypergamous.What exactly was he inexperienced about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | The biggest reason why average dudes have low n-counts is because they're too picky ...pickier than ur average manwhoreHm, no you don‘t quite understand me. There is also harm when you have an overblown sense of self-worth. Most obvious example would be narcissists, people with a god complex. Self love is fine. Everyone should have it. Self worth or self esteem should be tied to what you actually bring to the table. Another problem is when people have less self esteem than is reasonable. The problem with your comparison is that men as a whole aren‘t worthless. Every person has some base level of worth and everyo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | The biggest reason why average dudes have low n-counts is because they're too picky ...pickier than ur average manwhoreYour self esteem should match your actual worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 11:39 AM |
| 1 | How am I supposed to be confident with no actual success?Build self esteem as a foundation. I‘d recommend reading The Six Pillars of Self Esteem. It essentially boils down to doing the things that make you feel proud of yourself and like you have value. Such things should be independent from other people‘s approval. If you have good self esteem you don‘t feel like having to fake anything. Plus, have a dynamic mindset when it comes to who you are and not a static one. You don‘t have to be perfect now, you just should have the belief that you are growin… | /r/seduction | 19/11/20 01:01 PM |
| 3 | How on earth do girls flirt?My man really only came to watch Netflix and play mario til 1am hahaha Gotta love him. Send him a hug from me | /r/seduction | 14/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Dating coach open for questions!! I want to get better at my passion. Help me help you! 💕How do I learn to flirt better? I feel like flirting is like humor. It‘s just something that randomly arises like when you think of a good joke, but it‘s barely in ones control to just be funny if you want to. I feel like flirting is the same way. Either something flirtatious comes to mind or not, there‘s little control I have over it. So what can I do to come up with flirtatious things to say lore frequently? I don‘t have that many opportunities to flirt with women either. | /r/seduction | 14/11/20 07:54 PM |
| 16 | What is your best advice on cold approach?3 long minutes of endless suffering | /r/seduction | 14/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 1 | How to stop seeing approaching women as degrading?How is this related to confidence? | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 10:13 PM |
| 1 | How to stop seeing approaching women as degrading?Yeah, I couldn't go day gaming for a while because of exams. Miss that feel. Good on you bro. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 09:14 PM |
| 1 | How to stop seeing approaching women as degrading?Thank you. I like it when girls have your attitude. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 09:14 PM |
| 6 | Game Alone Won't Solve All Your Problems With Women.Some things in here are just plain wrong and I‘m going to point them out. Cold approach pick up doesn‘t make you more attractive. It makes you braver and better at flirting. That makes you more attractive. To be successful at pick-up you need to approach the girls that have the same or lower dating market value than you. The actual reason why I wanted to reply. COMPLETELY FALSE. This shit is debunked the moment you have a less attractive girl reject you but then a clearly more attractive girl is… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 05:11 PM |
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