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Kept contacting me and my mother for two years, just making sure everything was spaced out enough there were no grounds to report him but he could still feel in control. Thing is even after breaking up I didn't harbour ill will, I just wanted nothing to do with him anymore. I was fine with separate lives. Then he started acting like he wanted to make sure I hated him. Some people would rather be hated than forgotten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:21 PM
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Men who complain about their crazy exes chose to date them but that's somehow still framed as women's responsibility. If a man has a string of crazy exes, the problem is women. If a woman has even one negative experience, the problem is women. Yet people don't see how this doesn't compute and when this is pointed out will find all sorts of excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:02 PM
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Didn't they use to say women who'd just lost a lot of weight suddenly thought themselves 10s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:07 PM
5

Ask her why she thinks she doesn't deserve to be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:35 PM
72

Why do people thank men for being honest like it's a rare event? They're always saying what's on their mind no matter how inappropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:29 PM
90

Selfishness and loneliness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:55 PM
10

Hoping to catch you when you're less presentable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:44 PM
39

It did in the past until I realised that shitty people cast a wide net and go for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:43 PM
6

No, but I'm intrigued. That's incredibly weird even for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:17 AM
51

Best part is when roles are reversed they can't stand it and are quick to lash out or hope you'll think "ok mum" is as much of a sick burn as they envision in their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:00 PM
19

Came here to ask that. Never seen that in Europe and I don't think people would be so lenient with the groom if that happened. There seems to be an incredible amount of misogyny in the US that is just casually normalised; it makes no sense since women seem to have more opportunities there at least professionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:21 AM
51

bet they're part of the "at least he's not hitting her" crowd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:16 AM
17

It's honestly just guys trying to impress you by showcasing wealth, independence, spontaneity, and risk-taking behaviour. They hope you'll see them as more masculine. That's why when they hear of a woman who goes on the same kind of unplanned trips they react negatively and consider it reckless or stupid or even childish/immature. I understand certain things seem riskier for woman (*), but they react like that even in safe situations. (*) Are they though? Most victims of physical assault and vio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:05 AM
34

Middle school. I was taken aback at how as a girl I kept being nagged about all the things I would have to put up with in order to have a man. When I asked why anyone would want that it was laughed off. "It's not something women want, it's just something women do". I'm not even straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:56 AM
21

Please don't assume ill-intent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:39 PM
87

Women are outearning men. What's he smoking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:40 PM
71

Cut them some slack, they've never interacted with an adult human female
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:04 PM
30

Second picture: replace the vibrator with a fleshlight and cats with a blow-up doll and it's actually a fairly accurate representation of most single men on reddit/4chan/returnofkings. Very few single women would live like in that starter pack as most women are socialised to cook and clean no matter what; female slobs do exist, but they're atypical- as a society we make sure they are. ​ Also technically everyone that's single is like that by choice, whether one's own or other people's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:02 PM
2

He picked them. It's on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:10 AM
110

Three possible reasons: he's not that into you he got caught cheating he found someone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 11:37 PM
15

I hope she finds her peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:30 PM
3

Thank you for the link!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:19 PM
3

He's also shooting himself in the foot by claiming he's 12 years younger, 'cause at best he's just going to pass as a 34yo who looks like crap for his age. If he owned his age at least he'd look about right for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:12 PM
18

What else was he expecting? He chose this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:25 PM
28

The ones with the worst tempers are the quickest to accuse others of overreacting. He just couldn't handle being called out. Also as a man he has no reason to want to pass as younger. Age is still prized in a man (within limits).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:23 PM
4

A lot of self-censorship tactics that are encouraged in women for us to not come across as bossy or needy just end up making one sound manipulative or insufferably cowardly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:51 PM
2

Ngl I just don't ask for help, I hate the idea of doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:47 PM
14

I have a friend like your friend XD She and this guy she met on Tinder (I know, already a red flag) bonded over having shitty exes against whom they're battling for custody of their kids. He described his ex like some kind of villain from a thriller and couldn't stop talking about her. Turns out he's the crazy stalker, not her. After men date someone who's actually crazy/evil, they don't want to talk about it with another prospective partner and if they do talk about it they don't do it at lengt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:30 PM
3

Some can't stand it when people (especially women) don't need sex. The sex positivity movement should consider switching to sex neutrality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:08 AM
9

You don't need to stop liking him because you've never even started. You simply enjoy the idea of him. Talk to him and you'll find out the difference between that idea and the actual execution. You'll be over him before you know it.
/r/askFDS17/01/22 03:52 AM
9

Same guy that gets pissed you took x minutes to get back to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:28 PM
5

You're right and that's precisely how it's interpreted by men, who btw have zero qualms blocking and moving on. It's women who are constantly gaslighting themselves into doing what men wanted them to do all along anyway. Besides, if things get ugly and the law is involved, not having blocked someone is taken as proof his interactions weren't true harassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:26 PM
1

Megan, no Megan, please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:23 PM
5

Gold, silver, and platinum also have antibacterial (antimicrobial in general) properties. They're just not cheap - unlike that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:15 PM
4

Never thought I'd read that kind of headline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:09 PM
13

I'm in cs and a lot of the guys are exhaustingly catty. I would almost prefer a bro-grammer. Not defending bro-grammers though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:08 PM
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It's so weird that all it took to mess with that teenager's peace was you preferring to block people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:01 PM
2

lol he doesn't even know what that means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:39 PM
70

Grateful to live in a country (not saying which) where it's customary for women to keep their own name even after marriage. It's wild to me how in supposedly more "progressive" countries women are fully expected to give up their legal identity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:04 PM
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It means she has no dignity and neither does he.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:01 AM
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I think it's normal: many women if not most would prefer meeting a life partner spontaneously irl. OLD mostly works for hookups, so not something that usually benefits women. It's also easier to vet someone you met unexpectedly irl as opposed to someone who carefully crafted an online persona he's trying to project into the real world.
/r/askFDS04/12/21 11:10 AM
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He needs a men's mental health year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:47 AM
146

That's cause men dgaf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:46 AM
3

I'd definitely excuse disabled and neurodivergent people. I'm nd myself and my dyspraxia can definitely get in the way. However, I just can't take seriously the able-bodied, neurotypical people who claim to be unable to cook just to get out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:56 AM
15

Walk dates, chore dates, now errand dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:46 AM
1

"Unless you plan on never having a partner" why's it always the desperate ones that act like they're their target audience's only option?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:45 PM
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A lot of men ditch their partners and "get an upgrade" after they've become successful enough; that usually means they leave you for someone younger and hotter. This sub has screenshots of men lamenting being stuck with their partners after accumulating enough wealth/success that they could easily pull someone hotter if they were single. "I look at my wife and I could've done so much better"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:46 PM
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A lot of them should be on Grindr. No shade. They don't strike me as what straight women usually go for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:53 PM
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Feminine urge? I've only known guys that do this. I understand my experience isn't universal though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:46 PM
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Dare you to do 1 or 4 to any man and see how well he takes it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:38 PM
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Sounds like women stop replying to his messages around 7-8 PM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:37 PM
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The guys that block you instantly are those who keep bitching about how unfair and immature it is for women to ghost them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:13 PM
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The kind of guy who says that unironically can't go two days without women and sees himself as every woman's only option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:33 PM
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I don't consider them friends, just acquaintances. I'm not too attached and just stick to being decent without trying to save them from their own ways. If they need help with something and I can do something about it, I'll give it a shot. If they ask for my opinion, I won't censor myself. I won't seek them out or go out my way for them. They're just part of the background and I'm not going down with their ship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:42 PM
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I'd be relieved, he sounds like a gentleman.
/r/askFDS30/11/21 12:37 PM
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All that letter proves is how much he's convinced he's never going to find anyone like you, that's why he keeps focusing on the good times you two supposedly had. Don't see what he's doing as a power move, because it's not. If he had the power, you'd be the one writing him a letter. You didn't even need to abuse him to live rent-free in his mind, he's the one who needed to go down that road because without it he'd be utterly forgettable. Whenever a guy sends you something reminding you of the "g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:34 PM
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Say something along the lines of "I hope he finds his peace" (*), then shrug it off and change the subject. Don't talk at length with the acquaintances you have in common; I'm glad in a way they're looking out for you but they're just acquaintances and aren't supposed to play owl post between your ex and you. (*) Maybe mention you've started seeing someone else. That way your ex might back off since there isn't as much of a change of getting back together. ​ You don't handle that kind of ex beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:26 PM
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What happened to "men know how to be friends, women can't be friends"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:36 PM
10

5'8 isn't even that short, ffs. His height isn't the reason he can't get laid, or we wouldn't have made it to this point as a species. Some guys on reddit act like only 6'+ men are allowed to reproduce, smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:32 PM
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I'm glad I moved back to a country (not revealing it) where there is no concept of demisexuality because it's considered a woman's standard mindset as opposed to a separate orientation. Note: I respect those who identify as demisexual themselves. I just don't like the people who can only accept asexuality or demisexuality as a reason for a woman not to participate in hookup culture. Also lmfao scrotacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:24 PM
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Prostitution literally is selling your body. That's the whole concept. Prostituere = to offer for sale. Guess what prostitutes are offering for sale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:31 PM
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Your sister's misery loves company. Don't internalize someone else's negativity. You raise good points and are giving some food for thought, but don't let your sister's bitterness about her own circumstances make you feel like you have to justify yourself in any way. You're nurturing a pet by choice, she has no choice but to nurture kids sired by deadbeats. Neither judging her nor defending her, it is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:28 PM
15

"Don't worry, I thought so. Went ahead and forwarded it for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:07 PM
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Reveal dealbreakers early on for both your sake and that of the women you date. My personal preference is knowing each other's deal-breakers by the third date, because by then you've gauged your level of interest. Being a virgin isn't necessarily shameful. People don't have to worry you've got STDs or knocked someone up. If a woman mocks you over having waited to have sex, good riddance. Your decision to get your financial life together first and foremost was smart and responsible and more peopl…
/r/askFDS06/11/21 10:02 PM
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Abstain from dating until you get to a better place mentally. 1) Many men are good at spotting, targeting, and exploiting women who are struggling in that department. Vulnerability makes you a prey, and that's one of the reasons men don't usually share much about their own issues. ​ 2) Being in a bad place also makes you more likely to inflict yourself on others and poison your relationship. ​ 3) It's not that you keep attracting the same people over and over, and I'm not saying this to invalida…
/r/askFDS01/11/21 06:52 PM
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Experienced this by proxy. My mother's graying and some men feel compelled to lecture her on that. So much for guys not caring about this kind of stuff. Note: all the guys that do that are either balding or have gone fully gray long ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:22 PM
8

I use their tactics against them. Does that make me better? No. Do I give a shit? Also no. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:41 PM
13

Fun fact: that doesn't actually work. Also chess basics are fairly simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:35 PM
47

When they do acknowledge it, they find a way to blame women for that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:26 PM
3

Men usually respond better to gratitude than compliments - especially when it comes to reinforcing good behaviour.
/r/askFDS11/10/21 03:55 PM
3

Wouldn't consider it a red flag, you did say you parked close by and maybe he didn't want to seem creepy or overdo it. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now, but next time do ask him if he can walk you to your car if it's important to you.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 08:24 PM
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Vague, semi-plausible praise meant to get you hooked and make them sound like great observers. They tell you what they think you want to hear. The manosphere views women as addicted to men's praise and constantly wanting to prove themselves worthy of it (it's the entire reasoning behind negging). Pair it with the fact that, as hard as women can be on themselves, it's difficult to find one who genuinely thinks she's a bad person. LVM calling you a good person think your reaction to it will be: "O…
/r/askFDS10/10/21 08:21 PM
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It means he's a clown.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 08:03 PM
5

That's awesome! Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:31 PM
5

From what you described there is no point - at least for now. Take two years off dating, there's little difference between a 23 and 25 year old. Make the most of these two years focusing on yourself and continuing to build yourself up as it sounds like you're already doing. You're in a really good place right now, so make the most of it. Don't compromise it for a man that 1) you don't even really want and 2) is likely not going to be all that great. The "but I want a relationship" mindset is mos…
/r/askFDS28/09/21 03:32 PM
3

Thing is when you do it to them they get real irked real fast. "Are you sure?" "YES WOMAN THAT'S WHY I SAID IT WHY WOULDN'T I BE THAT'S JUST A STUPID QUESTION". I bet they act like that in the hopes they won't ever be asked again. You know when guys have explosive reactions to make you regret you ever asked or told them something? That's how little they can handle discomfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:07 PM
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I had to drop a few people who'd become dead weight, but other than that I've actually strengthened some pre-existing friendships and reconnected with some people. More and more women in my social circle have been burned badly by their pickme tendencies and the NVM/LVM they dated and have woken up to the fact I was right all along. Some of them are gradually learning and their lives are improving, others... not so much. I stopped taking that personally though, I hope things get better for them b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:25 PM
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"Are you sure?" For some reason only ever asked right after you've spoken in an assertive tone. If confronted about it, they'd 100% say "well maybe you're just not as assertive as you think you are" - as if not being assertive is in any way opposed in a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:14 PM
9

"We want to be safe" if women used that line they'd be accused of paranoia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:14 PM
13

I've never changed my appearance for a guy. I have leaned into what my partner already liked about my appearance when our relationship was going well. If the guy in question is already your partner, well he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like what he sees. Men aren't likely to compromise on their partner's looks.If the guy in question is a stranger, that guy's no one so I don't see why his potential preference should influence your life to that extent. Do it for you, not for rando #5873. You'…
/r/askFDS25/09/21 12:33 AM
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Most men in the Anglosphere seem like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:08 AM
7

The leap from yearbooks to home address from utilities was a big one. He doesn't actually know how to find you. Did he mean to sound threatening? I just got bored - and I'm saying this as someone who did get stalked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:07 AM
1

His shorts left by the bed bother her so little she posts that on social media instead of talking to him directly. Honestly people who gloat about not nagging as if they're One Of The Good Ones(TM) are more insufferable than actual naggers. I say this as someone who hates being nagged. At least when someone nags me I know what the problem is. People that pretend there is no problem until they explode are the reasons you see posts like "she divorced me over dirty dishes".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:56 AM
20

She looks stunning and I like how outspoken on feminist issues she has been in the past, but dressing like that is in no way an act of "woke" defiance - especially for a woman in showbiz, even more so in this day and age. The sexualization of women is so commonplace it's almost boring; I can't buy that it's supposed to be in any way shocking or a feminist declaration of war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:45 PM
15

First walk dates, then gym dates, then chore dates. Straight dates are starting to sound more and more like just hanging out with your gay buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:30 PM
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"I shouldn't feel like a bad person" then he shouldn't, he's responsible for his own feelings ​ So much for men being less emotional and more in control of themselves. He's being extremely dramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:26 PM
24

She's trying to frame it as an equal exchange but it's not equal, it's still rigged against women. Dinner costs more than lunch and a quality suit is a lot more expensive than a quality pair of shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:22 PM
3

Intj-a for what it's worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:18 PM
18

Scrotes ask for advice and then when they don't hear what they wanted they dismiss you with some variation of "That's what women say, not what they mean" or "Why should I listen to a fish on how to catch fish?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:09 PM
20

His existence is peak comedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:29 AM
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You can turn off chat and message options in your settings - but yeah I'd report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:28 AM
16

Men don't have "the one that got away" either; they have the one they actively drove away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:27 AM
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I saw in one of his Reddit posts how he's scared of seeing me outside so I'm really doubting my own sanity? Is this a narc behaviour from me? Men like him have a really low threshold for describing women as "scary" and "crazy". If he was really scared of you he wouldn't have barged into your home announced. He would've wanted to meet in a public place. If you really were a narc abuser, you wouldn't have dumped him; narc abusers don't get rid of a supply before they've found another. If you reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:40 PM
22

She posted that she would love to see the role of stay at home dads normalized. Men don't want to see this normalized because if it becomes normal they're no longer praised as heroes for miraculously managing to wipe a baby's ass. "Omg he's such a good dad, he didn't even put the baby in the oven by mistake". Yeah, look at what Timmy can do. ​ ​ She then told me she would love to see men “have the freedom” to pursue this role if they want to. Men already have the freedom to pursue whatever role …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:27 PM
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That guy's a meme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:28 AM
18

"Some people recreated the scene as memes, and posted it on social media 'just for laughs'". The "memes" in the article all show men doing that. Women don't do this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:26 AM
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"Please don't commit mass murder, hyper incel vibes coming from you" This is a female-only subreddit, he can unclench now. Considering the missing verbs and punctuation, he must have written that in a fit of anger. Ironic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:19 AM
7

He's batshit. Lock him up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:29 PM
2

100%. It surprised me he didn't even try to go for the "she just looked hot" line that guy assume justifies watching incest porn, he didn't even try to cover that up. After he revealed that I realized just how much he'd misinterpreted me and my mom being close, 'cause he no longer hid the fact he kept hoping something would happen between us. They have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:26 PM
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When I was the only woman in my social circle that wasn't stuck in shitty relationship dynamics and didn't keep making excuses for crappy men. When all the women in my life kept telling me I "thought like a man" because I easily figured guys out. When I turned out to be right about all the terrible men the women in my life were into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:34 PM
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Sis my ex didn't go to that length on social media but he still managed to frame me as the abuser, and he even managed to briefly pit my mom against me - my mom, who lived for me. Not one-upping you, just saying it's sadly a common tactic from abusers; a woman did this to me too, but by then I was ready. You know how they say all villains are the heroes of their own stories in their minds? Well, all abusers are victims in their minds. This isn't to say you're actually the abuser, I know how that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:29 PM
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Liking incest porn for the incest part, not for the porn part. I didn't even react beyond "aren't you a special little snowflake?" because by that time I was already pretty desensitized to his bs and assumed he was saying it as a shit test for the shock value. He knew it was a particularly shameful thing too, and would pretty much whisper whenever he spoke about it even if we were home alone. When I broke up with him he begged me to stay because he'd "always imagined us with a daughter" and I to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 05:04 AM
6

That explains a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:17 AM
2

My response is going to be underwhelming because I've grown hyposensitive to rejection of any kind from a very young age. I don't expect to be universally liked, for the simple reason I can't say I like (or click with) everyone and anyone. When someone prefers someone else over me, it's not so different from when I prefer someone else over another person. If you're not for them, they're not for you. Also sometimes people who reject you are really doing you a favor; that man certainly is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:07 PM
1

Hey Just wanted to say there's an option to turn off messages and chats in your settings. You're not going to miss out on any pearls of wisdom, trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:03 PM
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If beauty pageants were empowering for women as a class, most participants would be men and they'd be actively trying to keep women out. I can see why they can be fun, but empowering? In general no; maybe they can at an individual level. "Toss a coin to the most fuckable piece of meat" isn't the progressive celebration of femininity that libfems are trying to make it out to be. On top of what you already mentioned, it's a pay-to-win competition. If you can afford the best gown, the best coaches,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:15 PM
2

You're not crazy, he was either playing dumb or being genuinely (and hopelessly) dumb.I can guarantee you if a man's friend asked him "yo should I get a tattoo on my dick?" said man would find it fucking weird and would likely go "idk dude I'm not gay or anything". If a female "friend" asked him if she should get a tattoo in her nether regions he'd probably find it kind of titillating, but still pretty weird. He'd probably assume she was just flirting with him/teasing him. Also lmfao the human b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:00 AM
2

Someone on another sub said something along the lines of "John Mulaney isn't John Mulaney. It's a persona interpreted by a dude named John Mulaney." Every celebrity/public figure is just a persona, as committedly convincing as the interpretation may be. I normally live by that and yet I still let myself get fooled this time 'cause I used to find him relatable and refreshing - and frankly one of the very few male comics I could stand. ​ In hindsight his comedic person was a little too good to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:21 AM
1

Oh John Mulaney has always been desperately codependent when it comes to relationships with women, though he's quick to form vitriolic-best-buds bonds with men. People thought he was some kind of illuminated feminist, but he was just a doormat with no sense of identity. He didn't date assertive women 'cause he was "woke", he dated them because that meant he had to put in less effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:54 PM
2

Might be going against the grain here for liking shy guys and finding them refreshing compared to wannabe PUAs, but I draw the line at guys who will do absolutely nothing to contribute to the conversation. I'm not talkative irl, but when talking to that kind of guy I'm the one expected to cave in and fill the gaps in the awkward silence. That's low effort (or zero effort) on his part. Even people with a socially awkward disposition can make an effort when they're interested in someone. They migh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:04 PM
1

They assume insecure women are easier to control. Insecure people can be absolute nightmares in relationships and play all kinds of mind-games, plus they're often jealous and controlling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:03 AM
41

Lmao I love Chris Fleming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:25 PM
6

Dude's already backed them up to the cloud. He can't release those videos without his act becoming a crime, but the only barrier to him keeping those videos for his own viewing pleasure is decency and I wouldn't count too much on that. I don't mean to crap on your best friend, believe me, someone took an "incriminating" picture without my consent and I'm 99% sure he still has it somewhere; for the longest time I was afraid he'd send it to my mother 'cause he had her email address. I had to shrug…
/r/askFDS05/09/21 09:17 PM
163

I only partly agree. I do agree they want to consume porn without guilt. I disagree they want to believe porn is empowering to women: I believe they simply don't care whether or not it is, they just care about getting something out of it. At best they may want others to believe they're woke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:10 AM
12

I do love that those guys have to discard/swipe left on every other guy who also changed his gender to female on the same app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:06 AM
22

when all the lesbian subreddits become more for transbians than anyone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:05 AM
3

You're most welcome! I look forward to you taking good care of yourself and feeling a whole lot better.
/r/askFDS02/09/21 10:38 PM
96

Negative feelings after one-night stands are more common than many people care to admit. You have to allow yourself to let them go and stop caring about what he thinks. You had a drunken night with a meat dildo, don't punish yourself for it. What you're feeling is coming back from an oxytocin high; that's what keeps you thinking about that night. There are plenty of things other than sex you can use to boost oxytocin. Spend more time with your friends and show them you care, bond with them over …
/r/askFDS01/09/21 11:26 PM
2

It is. Depending on where you live, it's not only possible but likely - be it due to brainwashing or crabs-in-a-bucket mentality or whatever. ​ Time passes for everyone and there's a good chance your mother has outlived the age bracket where men could have considered her pretty. Does she truly believe that makes her worthless?
/r/askFDS01/09/21 04:08 PM
22

He looks like a horcrux that can only be destroyed with soap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:34 PM
8

There seem to be far more many pedos than I could fathom. This dude gets outraged at some joke from a girl that's 19 years younger than him but women are the dramatic ones lol. Seriously, she's a kid. Imagine being a grown ass man crying over a kid's joke. "I generally seem to say the wrong thing often" that's because you're walking on eggshells "I probably unintentionally guilt-trip him with my crying" the mental gymnastics to blame herself for something that's his fault. Also guilt trips are i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:12 PM
6

Beasts beat each other up. Women have plenty of consequences to fear from men, physical and otherwise. Women got murdered for going out their way to politely turn men down. ​ When you purposely match men's tone, you're suddenly deemed hysterical and too emotionally invested in the topic of discussion to have an objective approach or make a valid point - even though all you're doing is stating facts instead of opinions. ​ I can't see I've seen many women being disrespectful in debates. Men are mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:05 PM
55

It was a poor attempt at a neg. Also a massive reach since she simply said she took a risk, not that it was the biggest risk she'd ever taken. I doubt he's even involved in either of the activities he mentioned, he just wants to make himself sound cool.
/r/askFDS30/08/21 07:22 PM
11

Straight men pushing their gfs to accept open/poly relationships but then backpedaling real fast when their gfs are having more fun than them. "I was so happy when my wife finally said yes, but I hate the fact she's seeing other guys". I bet they just wanted their own harem without having to provide for women and thought they'd found a loophole. a butch woman with seven femme gfs that she treated like trash but then she got jealous of if they dated anyone else Oof, I hope her gfs get out real fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:38 PM
2

There are no "cutesy"/pseudo-inspirational social media posts about men saving women from the streets, catering to their every need, and building them up ​ curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:25 PM
3

Translation: "so when are you going to give me ammo I can use against you at some point?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:22 PM
10

Early in the relationship: "Wow it's great you don't wear makeup and you dress so simple and practical, I like that you're not frilly" Later on: "So... why don't you wear makeup? Most women do. You think you're better than them?" and/or "I never see you in skirts or dresses or heels, are you insecure? I think you'd look sexy in them. Do you think you don't look good enough to pull them off?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:19 PM
17

Lmfao my ex used that on me and it was very much not the romantic statement he assumed it was "I feel like I can tell you anything" please don't "even things I'd never tell my friends" because you see them as people and actually care about what they think of you "you're the only one who knows my true colors" that's why I can no longer stand you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:16 PM
6

I hate that for the backhanded way it's used. "I usually paint all women with a misogynistic brush, but idk I guess I kind of perceive you as a person first" "I'm incapable of saying something positive about you without throwing all other women under the bus because I have to keep you females on your toes" "Other girls avoid me - with good reason. But you... you actually let your guard down" ​ It's not the compliment they think it is, especially when you actually don't fit in and have to pay the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:07 PM
1

"The figment of my imagination was so accepting of my depravity" I hope she's his imaginary gf and not just a woman with extreme levels of self-hatred and denial - for her own good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:46 PM
71

Your ex sounds unbearable and has a level of insecurity about his height that's inconceivable in someone over 6'. It's also creepy that the height difference between him and all his exes was over a foot. It's one thing if it just happens coincidentally, but I do find it very predatory when tall guys only date women that much shorter than them (speaking as someone who has very much been fetishized for being smaller).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:34 PM
45

Reddit guys suddenly fell in love with the concept of communicating when they figured out they could weaponize it against women as a unilateral demand. Notice how it's only ever used against women, despite women being socialized from a young age to communicate and mediate during every interaction - particularly with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:07 PM
10

Kids and legal benefits of marriage aside, I don't have much of an answer save for social conditioning and the desire for status and stability. What I mean is I believe very few women would desire marriage if it wasn't ingrained in their minds from a young age that Marriage(TM) is supposed to validate their existence as women and grant them a proper place/status in society - or simply protect them from being derided outcasts. Even in supposedly progressive countries in the Anglosphere there are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:25 PM
33

I'm not poly but even I know that actual polyamorous people are all about transparency and consent in their relationships. "Secret side chick" is not polyamory. Guys like him aren't nearly as "woke"/progressive/open-minded as they try to sound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:55 PM
6

The fact she's Greek and calls feminism man hating and blames women for their oppression... Greek society can be very misogynistic to this day. She should know better, and she probably would if not for her social class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:46 PM
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Women get called shallow over the same things for which men are defended as "visual creatures". Many men like the power aspect of towering over a woman, but actually find taller women hotter (longer legs and all). Many guys drool over tall women but then go "wouldn't date her though" because they wouldn't look as tall/big next to one - but then have the audacity of saying women's tastes are incoherent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:37 PM
3

lmfao true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:12 PM
1

That supposed elegance coach makes men sound incredibly dumb. Men seem to understand "complicated words" just fine when spoken by other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:31 PM
2

I fully believe many of them don't see women as people - despite being women themselves. They might consider themselves people, and they do consider men people, but other women to them are simply disposable objects/tools that serve a function (usually free therapy, validation, or filling a void until they latch onto their next man). Even LVM seem to value male friendships because even the lowest of men considers other men people. The person a man respects, appreciates, looks up to, and wants to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:23 PM
3

His behavior wouldn't be cute or romantic. I've met attractive men who were creeps and they were absolute nightmares; it's somehow even sicker 'cause they can be a lot more entitled and relentless 'cause they know they're attractive and think it means you owe them shit. Also men find out real fast the difference between mutual interest and creepy stalking when they're the ones being stalked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:25 PM
3

"Men suffer the most in this" from the objectification of women and commodification of their bodies? Nah. It's primarily guys shaming other guys for their (real or perceived) lack of sexual experience and/or ability to "pull". It's boys making up stories about their conquests to impress their male peers. Didn't fathers used to bring their sons to brothels so they could "become real men" and not "embarrass themselves"? Not saying no girl or woman ever joins in, just saying it stems from machismo …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:02 PM
153

I'm not attracted to this man's postpartum mindset. Dude will fuck a shaved goat or a dirty, sweaty sock - but not his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:28 PM
7

"That's how you keep a man" so she admits that many men can only see relationships with women in a transactional way and that "only men, children and dogs get unconditional love" is bs. So she admits she doesn't actually like doing those things but rather is doing them out of obligation and terror she'll be dumped. Look, it's nice to be nice. It's nice to do nice things for your partner - but if the only reason you're doing something nice is to obtain something in return (in this case the contin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:25 PM
25

Ever noticed how supposedly 50/50 marriages end up being more like 80/20 - especially when the woman is pregnant/looking after kids? There's 50/50 and then there's not doing anything for nothing. He's probably never heard of going "hey I got you this time, you'll pay next time". Does he never experience spontaneous reciprocity with people in his life? I'll say this: dudes (people?) who are obsessed about doing everything 50/50 for the sake of a mythical concept of "fairness" (that strangely ends…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:17 PM
5

I spit on libfems who want to abolish prisons. The only people who'd gain anything from that would be scum like that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:33 PM
74

"Just means he supports sex work" yet he'd never support his gf being a sex worker, he'd leave or he'd be the guy who commented "nah I'd totally date a girl who has an OnlyFans, that's OUR money now" ​ Men(*) wake up to sex work being degrading only when they'd be expected to objectify themselves for people to whom they're not attracted OR when they consider the hypothesis of their mother/sister/daughter/partner being a sex worker. "I totally support sex work, but I'll be damned before I let my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:18 PM
20

The irony of men calling women dramatic. "You ruined an intimate moment uwu" Also the irony of men saying women don't communicate and expect them to be mind-readers. "You could just politely direct him." we do, this is the result
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:00 PM
36

"If you're a good man" you're more concerned with the fact actual hateful subs portraying and encouraging the abuse of women are multiplying. "There are shitty people of both genders" but violence against women perpetrated by men is normalized even in first world countries. Actual violence, not your partner that's a good foot shorter swatting your shoulder. "There are shitty people of both genders" but the main threat to both men and women is, you guessed it, a particularly vicious subset of men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:12 AM
6

If you're anything like I was, you like the idea of older men - the execution is very different. Men a decade older than you won't date you for any reason other than you're fresh meat. It's not just about looks, it's about the fact the less experienced you are the more pliable they think you are (and sometimes they're correct). You don't have much to compare and contrast with and you don't know enough about their bs just yet. You're around the age I started dating too and frankly I wish I'd wait…
/r/askFDS11/08/21 10:10 PM
4

What kind of fucked up kink is he into that he's in that much of a hurry to test for "sexual compatibility"? That said, I waited 3 months to have sex with a guy (not that uncommon in my area unless you want a bad reputation). When we did have sex, it was spectacularly bad due to what I now understand was death-grip syndrome. We tried and tried and communicated and everything, but it was just hopeless and a huge waste of time. Waited a month or so for the second guy and the first time with him wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:01 PM
12

"You women are doing even worse things to us" - I wish. I admire some men, but sometimes I wish men as a class had a reason to be afraid of women's violence. Many guys like saying women are crazy, but deep down they don't believe it - otherwise they'd walk on eggshells and be scared shitless they might set a woman off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:46 PM
5

That "calculator" is nonsensical because if you select any age (default 18-85), not married, any race, any height, not obese, any income the result is 26.3% (delusion score 2/5). That makes no sense for a variety of reasons: This search was far less selective than the previous one yet the probability of finding a match was lower. It states that you have less than 3/10 chances of finding an unmarried man that isn't obese in the United States. That would mean over 70% of unmarried men in the US ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:29 PM
8

A lot of girls don't report either, especially in a victim-blaming society where girls are raised with the idea that if something happens to them it must be their fault, they must have invited/provoked their own abuse/assault, they must have been too naive or reckless etc. Girl are repeatedly shamed for things other people inflict on them. A lot of girls don't get to report because their families and/or friends gaslight them into keeping their mouth shut. A lot of girls don't get to report becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:32 PM
1

Hey just commenting on this because it seems that bots marked this as spam and got it deleted for some reason! I'm also neurodivergent and came here super fast when I read the title because I feel the same way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:42 PM
8

Exactly, no one gossips more than men. Instead of only telling their inner circle at best, men tell everyone they know. They only police gossip when it comes from a woman. What makes a woman gossipy makes them "knowledgeable" in their opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:29 AM
18

There was one dude who was disappointed I was 23. "Oh... I thought you were like... 18 at most..." I laughed in his face because I didn't expect that reaction at all. 1) at most? lol why was he looking for minors? (*) 2) it wasn't even in the usual "damn you look younger than your age, good for you - you're gonna like that when you're older" kind of way ​ (*) no but for real, I'm so used to being mistaken for a minor that I immediately assume a man who shows interest must be a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:16 AM
2

Peak clownery too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:53 AM
2

men: "women need more sleep than men, haha so weak" also men: "babe wake up, pp go brr"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:51 AM
10

That's the most adorable thing I've read in a long time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:48 AM
11

This didn't go where I was expecting lol I'm never inviting a dude over so early on though, sorry, not if it's just the two of us. Most may not be dangerous/violent, but all it takes is one. I lift, but I'm like 5'4 on a good day and got XX chromosomes. I got too many holes and too little strength for that kind of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:44 AM
330

Random men will tell you to smile but I guess they'll also stab you if you dare look happy now, I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:09 AM
1

Why's he so mad he's lost his chance if he really think she has a pancake ass? lol "Women read too much into things" but this dumbass reads "every indication" she wanted him in the long term during one date. She was so nice and worded her first message so politely and was still honest/straightforward about her feelings and he still felt entitled to act like an asshole and overreact. Honestly, don't bother protecting men's feelings. If someone's an asshole, they'll just be an asshole no matter wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:08 AM
4

women ghosting is cOwArDlY apparently because you don't tAke ReSpOnSiBiLitY as in you're not giving a scrote the chance to hurl shit at you and tell himself he won whatever pissing contest he thought was going on because wasting your time to let a guy go off on you is so much more responsible, peak conflict resolution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:49 AM
3

Oh definitely, those people were dropped the second they showed their true colors. It's weird as hell there are still guys who think that way, it just doesn't compute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:10 AM
11

A couple years ago I dressed very feminine and got compliments on my appearance everyday. I was considered canonically attractive and still didn't get asked out anywhere near the amount of times those guys assume. I frankly got a lot more men approaching me online in places like italki than I ever got offline - and the majority of guys who approached me in person were people to avoid anyway. I don't get why they assume we got an endless supply of palatable prospects who just throw themselves at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:41 AM
8

Don't worry about having an astronomically high body count: even if you didn't they'd assume it anyway. I had sex with a total of two men in the span of a decade, but no guy would ever believe that (especially on OLD) because he'd multiply it by whatever number he chose. If he believed that he'd pull the good ol' "well what's wrong with you then?". Just like being assumed a virgin by the guys who met me irl (for dressing "modestly" and not wearing makeup? lol) was a double-edged sword 'cause the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:29 AM
3

"Two new men talk to her everyday" lol Even if 2+ men approached you everyday, regardless of their intentions they probably wouldn't even get to the part where they shoot their shot because real life isn't Tinder. Offline, people (unless they're openly sleazy) more often than not try to build rapport (or pretend to) before asking someone out to lessen their chances of rejection/avoid wasting their time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:04 AM
9

I've always functioned better when I wasn't in a relationship, and that's actually one of the main reasons that ended my previous relationships and are straining my current one. It was always other people who kept trying to pressure me into getting in new relationships/"finding someone new" and couldn't fathom I might be content. When I tried to explain myself they'd go "maybe you just met someone bad" ok but why do you insist I should play Russian roulette with strangers? They made it about per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:39 AM
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I agree from lived experience. I live in a small town where most girls are a certain type (and it's hammered into them they must). That does create an environment where if you're not exactly that type it's not going to be easy to find women to genuinely bond with and you are effectively different. Never had to announce I wasn't like other girls 'cause other people constantly did it for me and used that against me. I think I'm like plenty of other girls though, it's just convenient for people to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:25 AM
4

Renegade dude has the same energy as those male redditors commenting how all the lesbians they meet irl are angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:47 AM
36

Why does she care so much if another person wears makeup? Why does it matter who's present?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:32 AM
46

An astounding number of men would have a lot fewer problems dating if they just washed their ass and saw women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:14 AM
2

"Keeping a husband" lmfao keeping him where, he's not a pet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:14 AM
1

Your man is a treasure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:25 AM
10

Women are statistically more crazy than men because too many men are ruled by shame and avoid professional help like the plague, to the detriment of both themselves and others. Also, where does he live? 'Cause I'd be moving there in a heartbeat if having an ego was actually accepted in a woman and I'd be no longer expected to downplay myself at every turn and be passive and deferential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:22 AM
47

"Have no expectations" from the man who expects you to put out no matter what I think too many men mistake wanting for expecting, just like they mistake wanting for needing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:12 AM
16

Same here. Frankly the only people who brought up this stuff to me were men that couldn't believe I didn't because "women in porn did". They kept insisting I gave it a try. Imagine a guy's reaction if I ever lectured him on how to masturbate; not only that but if I kept pressing on something that wouldn't get him to orgasm anyway. "Hey maybe instead of jerking off you should lick your palm and pat your balls, you'd feel more pleasure and it'd be hotter"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:08 AM
8

I swear some guys type like they're bots stringing together randomly generated sentences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:00 AM
42

I got no makeup on. He still ugly af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:31 PM
19

Men on board with this until they realize it means they'd have to afford providing for multiple women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:35 PM
15

Yes she's a former Christian and recently converted Shia Muslim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:33 PM
8

I'm petite and have been told I "look Asian" because of my eyes (I've legit been called c**nk). I also look very young and am mistaken for a minor on a daily basis despite the fact I'm not devoid of curves. So far every single man who's asked me out has been nuts. Very predatory. They all assumed I'd be a super submissive, naive virgin (no shade to virgins or anything). A guy once was really disappointed to find out I was 23. "Damn I thought you were like... 18 at most." At most? Lmfao. What you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:24 PM
25

Check out his innately risk-taking, decisive, confident behavior. Born leader right there. Special skills: peeing on cars and doing the helicopter. Greatest weaknesses: death-grip syndrome and choosing restaurants. Bonus action: asks what you bring to the table 'cause he has "options"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:28 PM
74

Deadass read "looking for a man who can match my vibrator" at first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:01 PM
8

Been very wary of nerds ever since, 'cause if they do something to you it's very likely people won't believe you; they'd rather believe you were cheating and got hurt having kinky sex with another guy that's more successful with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:36 PM
12

I really don't understand what else he's trying to get from sex other than his nut like most guys his age (or any age). Sex always ends up in an orgasm for him and that's still somehow not enough for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:08 PM
27

I saw someone did tell him that 40 days is in no way long enough to get rid of a porn addiction. Restored a crumb of faith in humanity. This boy reminded me of a picture I saw floating around of a 13 year old girl who wrote "His Whore <3" all over her arms. I'd be scared shitless if I had a teenage daughter in this day and age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:15 AM
50

This. I only dated the meekest, nerdiest looking men you can imagine just so I'd be on the safe side and they turned out to be pretty fucked up. Their friends and family would describe them as angels that wouldn't hurt a fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:04 AM
27

Men avoid that 'cause, even though fatherhood benefits men professionally in the long run (more promotions etc.), they know that mentioning family at work like a priority usually makes people sound less committed to their job. The men I've heard mention they're husbands and fathers are usually on their way to retirement, and so don't have to worry about people being concerned about just how much they might be "distracted" by family on the job. ​ I'd just avoid family identifiers at work the same…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:48 AM
65

Ah yes expecting people to have basic decency means flattering yourself, and being nice means sucking up to rude scrotes. Also damn my autistic ass is more socially competent than him. If he's a neurotypical dude... yikes. It's clear he's following scripts without adapting to the social context so it doesn't come across as confident but rather jarring and out of place. Like do they seriously think women are going to think “oh nooo, he’s not paying attention to me! I must be ugly” This is legit w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:25 AM
48

What a garbage world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:51 PM
3

I'm sorry you're struggling with that. Have you checked if you have hypoplastic/tuberous breasts? ​ Want to say that I've never had big breasts but guys didn't mind; who minded was a subset of other women that didn't understand tits are tits. They can be smaller or bigger, sit lower or higher, be more or less dense - but at the end of the day boobs are boobs. Seriously. I've heard a lot more complaints from people with big breasts than small breasts; the only advantage of big breasts is aestheti…
/r/askFDS30/06/21 10:47 PM
1

It most likely is steroids for Henry Cavill, he admitted that getting into shape and staying there was and is extremely difficult for him and he hates exercising. Can't see someone like that looking like him without steroids. Jason Momoa has been very physically active since he was a kid and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:04 PM
2

I don't get what they're mad about. They're mad about a space that encourages women to become a high value person and only enter relationships with high value people if they want to date. I don't get how that's offensive. "Hey work on self-improvement and don't date people that would waste your time, energy, and wellbeing" isn't offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:00 PM
2

The fact he's a lot into gaming and built his own gaming computer adds to that. They see him as basically the formerly fat giga-nerd that got an upgrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:55 PM
20

My ex was like that. I'd reply "Yeah." and he would go "Just checking...". That and saying "You seem really unsure." when the word he was looking for was "unimpressed". It had become some kind of catchphrase for him. Started doing it back and it made him real mad; just goes to show how he had never been second-guessed before and it was unbelievable for him that someone would. I stopped dating his kind, but just not humoring that kind of question or reframing it as him being too tentative does he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:46 PM
11

Why are people calling this wholesome? Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:36 PM
5

"IT IS FOR ME" - cope harder. Also... "I can't tell you how much this has increased my confidence and I don't even do it for the man." That's such a self-burn, admitting her confidence is usually tied to doing things for a man she doesn't even know. It shouldn't be a revelation that doing things for yourself increases confidence. It wouldn't be if she was raised with the idea she was, idk, a person. ​ Male attention isn't rare, and it's not like no woman has ever asked men out (though it's admit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:33 PM
7

"She knows what she wants and goes for it and it ends up working out for her. I can't stand it. She should be unmotivated and crippled by self-doubt and never take risks. Motivation, confidence, and risk-taking behavior are for men 'cause high testosterone; I'd congratulate a guy for all she did but she just makes me look like a wimp if I can't control all her life decisions. I've earned it, I've dated her for FOUR FULL MONTHS!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:09 PM
1

Uhm people (especially women) look away from flashers and streakers - what in the blue cheese was he on about? Lmao dude would stare at some flasher's junk just 'cause it's on display. I don't look at what I don't want to see. It's that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:18 PM
44

The same guys that cry about that also admit to preferring big boobs for better tit-fucks; thought they'd consider big dicks a fair preference. Never been with a big guy but I'm not going to tell women who like big dicks they're wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:06 PM
45

Not too long ago someone here posted a link to a study saying that a lot of guys start showing their true colors and being abusive around or after their partner's pregnancy because by then she can't leave so easily (if at all).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:58 PM
10

Motherhood can be a wonderful thing, but I don't like how it's pushed as an expectation of subservience that ties you to a man - and at the same time the only true fulfilment a woman's supposed to have or wish for. Fatherhood is not pushed the same way, it's seen as a bonus; if it happens, great - if it doesn't you're still a man and your own person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:56 PM
11

Not too shy for clownery, I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:46 PM
22

In the rare occasion they do ask for help, they most likely ask other men so as not to give the wrong impression. We've seen how guys are afraid women will think men are making a move on them when they're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:45 PM
38

Yeah honestly they'd find it weird from a woman too, it'd get her labeled clingy and crazy real soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:40 PM
20

Every single guy a straight friend of mine tells me about messages her like this (first page) and is 10-15 years older than her. Every. Single. One. I keep having to ask if she's talking about the same guy. A stranger using the good morning routine and the cheesy "highlight of my day" after 3 days just comes across as desperate/having no life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:33 PM
34

Their excuse for this kind of behavior is always "no man would do this if it didn't work" - but I've yet to see that line of "reasoning" applied to women's behavior. Hoping something will work and having proof it might are two very different things. I'm surprised they still post this kind of stuff because those are all very obviously low effort impersonal messages. ​ The first message is just three unrelated sentences squished together. "You seem really interesting" - *gives no indication of wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:25 PM
59

Bet he was trying to shame you into buying sexy lingerie you'd wear "for him". Honestly the underwear you described sounds really cute. I'm glad you bled on him and his bed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:31 AM
3

I never asked my ex, but I remember he told me unprompted "I love you so much, you put up with all my nonsense. I don't know how." It dawned on me. I really didn't know either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:25 AM
7

That analogy's pretty handy, makes a lot of sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:12 PM
18

This for all the guys who claim it's a woman's fault for "not communicating enough" or "not giving feedback". Women are constantly communicating and giving feedback lmfao, some dudes just won't listen and need to be avoided like the plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:01 PM
18

When my ex had most of these lol. Not since the start or I'd never have dated him in the first place. It was kind of like a slow build up (except for trying to speed up the relationship/getting serious too quickly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:30 AM
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She looks like a goddess and she's 100% right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:22 AM
6

Lol it must be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:20 AM
22

For a second I thought that was a sex position, then I switched on my brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:04 AM
21

Ironically if you were down for them they'd leave you claiming you're "too masculine for me, it's like dating a guy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:30 AM
10

They want a homie they can fuck when they wanna bust a nut inside a woman with little effort. The rest of the time they want someone they can show off to their friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:30 AM
5

Ah sorry, I get it now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:26 AM
25

That mindset (not yours) is wild to me because I've almost always been fairly tomboyish, but it's not nearly as popular with guys as some people assume. If anything I've turned it up when I wanted to distance myself from guys the most and signal "best I can do is friends, dude". A lot of guys want someone who acts tomboyish (as in makes things easier for them) but still looks fairly conventionally feminine - for obvious reasons. They do want a homie they can fuck, but only if said homie looks a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:25 AM
15

I don't understand why she pressed many bi guys prefer dating other men. Many bi women are pretty vocal about preferring women. It's far from unheard of to prefer dating your same gender if you have the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:11 AM
10

Big fan. Another reason to love tiger sharks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:56 AM
8

Some of that is status shaming, some of that is hoping to get you to reveal some critical flaw. I don't get why women are seen as the ones that are chosen; it usually goes the other way around. A woman's main problem in dating is having to vet, a man's is lack of options (real or perceived). Yet when a man isn't in a relationship people tend to assume he's still fucking so "it's ok". When I was still single I just answered sincerely. "Because I'm not currently in a relationship." When they asked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:52 AM
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"I was a POS the whole time and she had been socially conditioned to put up with that or else uwu"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:30 AM
214

I don't see why they feel so attacked when they can just rely on the old "it's not the size of the boat that matters, it's the motion in the ocean". There's no equivalent for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:29 AM
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Misogyny's so rampant it's ridiculous. They're so focused on harming women they don't even bother thinking of the consequences even for themselves. What were they going to do after putting a woman in the hospital? This from the same group of people who seems terrified of being falsely accused of rape - but they're ok committing an actual crime?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:27 AM
5

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:25 AM
4

I'm very sorry that happened, that sounds like a frightening and enraging experience at the same time. It's beyond me how ok he was with the idea of seriously endangering your health. Ffs so many dudes seem to see women as experiments or something. The dehumanization is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:24 AM
19

Wonderful illustration, love the inclusivity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:49 PM
140

I misread "my boyfriend is a butt guy" as "my boyfriend is butt ugly" at first - but ngl I'm probably still right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:46 PM
3

PICK HER, CHOOSE HER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:41 PM
27

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:37 PM
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It's a control thing. Some men also like putting you in situations where no matter what you do you're technically proving them "right" in their mind. "Won't eat seafood? That's because nothing will happen and I know you've lied to me about being allergic." They think you're trying to be cute and that they know better. Some men are also constantly trying to get past your boundaries, no matter how minimal. Yet to meet a woman who pulls that crap. I know they're out there, but they seem fewer. At m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:37 PM
8

Putting men on a pedestal is also a quick way to build resentment when they don't deliver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:16 PM
12

Most men are socialized to be straightforward. When they are vague in informal contexts, more often than not it's because they don't take their interlocutor seriously. Being vague = bullshitting you. They rarely pull that with another man because it would lower their status; with a woman, it's a power move.
/r/askFDS12/06/21 04:52 PM
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When you wrote perky tit years, I felt that lol. It's really sad that stalking you and mocking you is the highlight of those "people's" lives. I would create alternate ig and fb accounts and only let trusted people know as u/ASeaOfQuotes mentioned, but also keep your previous ones running for a while. Just fill them with boring shit or even stuff that makes them think those accounts got hacked.
/r/askFDS11/06/21 11:43 PM
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A lot of queer women also think they don't need to practice safe sex; a woman can't get you pregnant, but she can still very much transmit STDs - and so many people forget that (or choose to forget).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:30 PM
24

Thank you for posting this, it restores some faith in humanity - and I actually downloaded this post as an html page. Society often treats porn almost like a rite of passage or mark of manhood for many guys (or "sex-positive, empowering outlet" for many women) and glosses over how absolutely toxic and addictive it can be. ​ Nobody deserves being addicted. I'm looking forward to you fixing your flat and finding work again, as well as becoming the person you want and deserve to be. We owe it to ou…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 07:08 PM
6

Awesome, saving this! Thank you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:04 PM
3

Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:18 PM
1

Not taking periods into account, in a world where hygiene wasn't a foreign concept for many men tp use should be about even across genders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:18 PM
17

If that's what those guys really think about women... They already have no personality, they can work on becoming hot guys. They just don't want to. I don't see the point of their posts. "Hot and with no personality" actually describes those guys' ideal lay. They assume the same goes for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:00 PM
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In the unlikely chance that's not a pickme LARPing as man, he should know attractive men are already desired and don't need to beg online. Respect is earned? So is desire. Heterosexual porn is more popular because there's more of it: lesbian porn more often than not features straight actresses that get paid extra to perform with another woman. You don't need to pay a man as much to get him to have sex with a woman; many would do it for free lol. No need to be an expert to figure that one out. St…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:50 PM
13

I hope that tweet is satire. He's not asking for nudes, he's asking for something to use against you. If all he wanted was truly just seeing a naked woman, he'd just browse porn sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:31 PM
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Because they have no idea what it's like. They got to make that shit up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:13 PM
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Advocating for men is a waste of time 'cause the good ones already know and the bad ones will never believe you. Notice the circlejerks on reddit where some guys complain they can't get laid 'cause they're short and see what happens when: an ever shorter dude says he has no trouble in that department a woman says height isn't nearly as important as he thinks and she has no trouble dating short guys Both will be called liars despite the fact they're trying to show there's hope. Actions never lie.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:12 PM
72

When you spend a lifetime showing your son you and your needs are irrelevant, he believes you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:40 PM
24

When those guys ask what you bring to the table, they're admitting to bringing nothing themselves. They wouldn't even react well to being on the receiving end of that question, they'd just call you entitled. All that question does is 1) shift attention from the fact they have nothing, and 2) put you on the spotlight in the hopes you'll scramble to prove yourself to them. That way they can sit back and relax because the onus of proving themselves to a mate is no longer on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:37 PM
28

They can't even get to the bare minimum though. She's already out their league - at least for a lot of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:17 PM
58

That redditor's last sentence makes no sense; might want to phrase it as "with their extreme hypocrisy and lack of self awareness". Can't even hate right. Whenever I see stuff like that post I'm reminded that haters don't read the handbook or any post here either. I can respect actual criticism, but I can't take seriously people who chose to hate on their own fantasy version of FDS. It does show when someone has done their homework.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:13 PM
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Those guys brought it on themselves. Their thirst is the determining factor in making sure women get lots of matches. The more men go after one woman, the more that woman has to vet - so the vast majority are going to be ignored. Some guys will go for literally anyone as long as your gender is vaguely recognizable as female, even outside dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:04 PM
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Thank you so very much for all you are and all you do, Lilith, I'm very sorry it got to this point. Can't blame you for your decision; it sucks that Reddit's TOS aren't applied equally. I admire you a lot for putting up with all that and for not letting it ruin you. Been loving the podcast and I'm very much looking forward to the newsletter. Thank you once again, keep rocking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:49 PM
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Same scrotes who ask what you bring to the table are the same that claim men are easy to please and are content with having their bellies full and their balls empty; if that was really the case "what do you bring to the table?" wouldn't even be a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:59 AM
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Ingrown hair lmfao When they do find it, they don't know wth to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:22 AM
16

DUCY - lmao I love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:21 AM
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Never faked but still had guys convinced I'd actually orgasmed just because of the level of wetness (which had nothing to do with them, vaginal dryness is just very much not a problem of mine). For all the porn they watch I would've expected them to not think I'd had an orgasm unless I thrashed and screamed or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:18 AM
7

Plus most guys got horrid feet and do nothing about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:02 PM
9

For a moment I thought you were joking 'cause all I see is pretty feet; I'm fairly particular about feet, even though I know they're body parts that tend to look wacky. I've seen my fair share of ugly feet. Yours are very much not something I'd be ashamed of. Edit: the world is a strange place, 'cause women with pretty feet are insecure about them whereas I got pointy ass feet and love them like they were my children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:55 PM
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Was honestly about to ask!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:49 PM
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Thank you so much <3 Removing him from my life was one of the most satisfying things I've ever done. Used to be someone who bonded more easily with guys due to similar interests, but then I grew up and saw their true colors. Very few men are capable of being genuine friends with women, and most those men aren't straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:02 PM
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They don't even do it out of solidarity like they claim. They're just hoping some other dude will return the favor when the time comes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:17 PM
19

They act like being autistic or depressed automatically means you're not accountable for your own actions. Yet to see that card pulled to justify women's behavior in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:09 PM
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Yeah it's constant policing. They frame it like you making a point is inherently judging other women per se as opposed to being against the root cause of certain expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:02 PM
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They do that because they don't consider women people: they see women as men's accessories at best. They can't imagine there can be any other kind of fulfillment in life and even having a terrible man at your side is better than being single. That and often they can't stand you're doing well on your own. Your acquaintances and supposed friends sound about as funny and charming as a 3am colic. Please keep in mind that no one satisfied with their lives says the kind of things they said. It's a sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:39 PM
53

My former roommate was devastated because everyone she knew our age was settling down. We were 23... She was already planning on marrying her bff if she wasn't married by 35; they were both straight women. I asked her why she considered being unmarried at 23 shameful but had no problem with a fake, loveless, sexless marriage and she called me a judgmental misogynist like she wasn't just playing herself lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:50 AM
82

When it's men asking that they mean "Are you a crazy bitch? What's so wrong with you that you're hot and available?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:49 AM
88

Also most nudes men take don't include their faces, so it's harder to identify them. Dick picks are so much more common than full body nudes (despite the fact they insist on "seeing your pretty face" when they request anything). No nudes is the best course of action. There's a completely different standard for women. Nudes don't end a man's career unless he's fucking (raping, rather) a child in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:45 AM
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Cherry on top was this happening in public in broad daylight, since it was by a fairly frequented beach and there were passersby around. It's the reason at first I brushed it off as a weird and profoundly unfunny "joke", but then he got handsy and kept casually mentioning the whole rape thing. "No seriously, I'm glad you trust me because I could really rape you." Ok dude, I get it, congrats. This was a person that I'd known for 8 months and seen pretty much everyday and he was super friendly wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:37 AM
3

They're really out there reaching like that lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:02 AM
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The vast majority of men attracted to women? No, by their own admission and even studies: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/ ​ Some are capable of being platonic friends if they're not attracted to you in any way - although many automatically discard you and don't even see you as a human being if they're not attracted to you because you serve no purpose to them. ​ I will say it doesn't have to do with attraction alone, but with socialization. I'm not s…
/r/askFDS07/06/21 11:51 PM
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Lol anecdotal but the guy who kept going on and on about how I was "like a sister" to him one day candidly told me he was thankful I'd agreed to see him by ourselves because he could just rape me anytime - and then he tried to kiss me. With tongue. Idk that doesn't sound like sibling stuff to me. Edit: he also knew I had a boyfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:38 PM
9

I hate that and how many women don't see anything wrong with it, as if I'm a paranoid prude for not wanting to enable a complete stranger who can easily overpower me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:33 PM
2

Sometimes it's not even their stance on victim blaming, it's their stance against common sense. Getting drunk in public is dangerous for everyone - especially women. Evidence of "provocative clothing" has been used against women in court and got their rapists acquitted. Being out at night alone in isolated areas is objectively dangerous - and often the whole reason more men get mugged than women as they tend to be less careful. Not saying common sense to shame victims. I can't think of anyone wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:20 PM
9

Yeah I don't even bother - and they say women are complicated lol. I'm in a male-dominated field and most my interests are more common among males, but I keep interactions to a minimum. If context and energy allow, I shut them down. Sometimes giving them a taste of their own medicine works too. Otherwise ignoring them cuts pretty deep - and it shows ("NEVERMIND I DON'T CARE!!!!" sure Greg).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:40 PM
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IME men take everything I say, even angry things overly lightly. They sit right up there with stupid smug smiles, almost holding back giggles, that signify- I can manipulate you and your concern down. I know how to bend and twist you...teeheehee. I treat those guys the same way and they absolutely implode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:12 PM
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I think men care more about reading other men's body language because other men are their biggest threat. That's why the StrangerNod(TM) exists, they reflexively reassure one another they mean no harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:08 PM
1

I'm very sorry you had to deal with that, a lot of that sounds like the classic "punching up" sort of bullying where people sabotage those with more potential. They must've hated the fact your attitude to life gave you a chance of elevating yourself above those limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:52 PM
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Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:32 PM
2

I'm just thinking this guy hasn't even gotten up yet and he's in for a monstrous stream of piss already. I thought men liked solid food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:31 PM
3

I would full on think they're compensating for something bad they've done lol. Her after doing all this: "Ok so uhmmmm don't get mad, but-"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:29 PM
5

Why do pickmes treat their men like crippled dying dogs? No disrespect for crippled dying dogs. Also I'm not against doing something special once in a while in a healthy relationship, but if you treat that like a daily duty it stops being special. Especially if she posts to flex that on others with a full on to-do list. That stops being about showing appreciation for one's and starts being about patting oneself on the back for being a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:28 PM
1

Thank you for expressing this so clearly, I've always struggled with that. It can be fairly alienating. Some people act like I must hate other women if I don't bond like that. I just don't identify as subhuman and don't see the point of hobbling ourselves that way. There's more to life than making drudgery and misery one's whole identity. "I'm such a good doggie, I brought master his newspaper and he only spat on me twice today. Does master spit on you too? Then we're going to be best friends." …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:11 PM
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The same scrotes shrieking "fucking gold diggers" are those who consider women past 25 who are unmarried and childless dumb hoes. Doesn't compute. Can't settle down and have kids by that age if you're with a broke man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:55 AM
4

Tell me you're coping with being used as a cum-dumpster without telling me you're coping with being used as a cum-dumpster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:47 AM
61

They have 2+ subs grumbling about us (sorry there's maledatingstrategy too apparently), at least one sub grumbling about us making fun of their grumbling, and now a sub for LARPing as us. For being so much against FDS and want this sub banned, they're sure putting a lot of effort into promoting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:16 AM
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They thrive on other women being at least as miserable as they are. When things are going well for you, they take it as a personal attack and try to shut your happiness down by trying to instill doubt. Crab bucket mentality at its finest lowest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:40 AM
2

Peak liberal feminism was a blue-haired lesbian telling me American men are oppressed while cis women are the most privileged category. Nothing against hair dye or other LGBT+ folks, it's just that the stereotypical image of "hardcore feminists" that redpillers picture was also the one taking the biggest dump on women while having absolutely nothing to reap from men. Not that it would've excused her, just makes it all the more absurd. It's just so stupid that even a woman married to another woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:26 AM
6

Impregnation fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:21 AM
5

Sounds like you're a lesbian or a febfem. I know I'm not much help, sorry. I've had similar experiences to you, in that I now date women exclusively but between the ages of 18 and 23 only dated men. To this day I don't know how to label myself because in hindsight that was partly curiosity but mostly forcing myself to conform with the expectation of being straight.My fiancée is bi and now firmly febfem although she used to date mostly men; she was genuinely attracted to the men she dated, wherea…
/r/askFDS05/06/21 01:29 AM
2

Thank you so much, sending you a big hug back! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:14 AM
1

I believe most men who consider themselves heterosexual are just sexual in general, and that women are simply socially acceptable sexual targets in the minds of those guys. A woman in her natural state is a 3 to them, and after you start dating them they come up with stuff they want you to change about the way you look."Why don't you wear makeup? So many other women do.", "I can't remember seeing you in a skirt." when before that they praised you for being low-maintenance. When they want you to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:50 PM
2

This. Plus men are biologically inclined to gain muscle mass more easily, whereas a woman's body stores fat more easily on average. I'm petite and I've never attracted more men than when I was bordering on underweight 'cause I had to ration food. I was never even fat, yet the difference was like night and day. I had almost no curves at that point save for my hips, and all that fit me were clothes from middle school. What those guys were attracted to was me looking weak af and childlike. The only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:12 PM
1

I'm WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:30 PM
10

Wants a woman with physics-defying knockers that are at once perky and gigantic. If you have big boobs, he'll be disappointed they don't "stand up on their own" when you take off your bra because nobody explained him how gravity works. If your boobs are smaller, he'll make it a point to try to make it awkward by giving you weird tests on what you "can still do" with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:28 PM
3

I see both of you have met my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:22 PM
13

How can a guy look 15 and 65 at the same time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:05 PM
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If sex work was empowering, women's access to it would be deliberately hindered and there would be a lot more demand for male sex workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:55 PM
29

It horrifies me cosmetic labiaplasty is even a thing. Pussy's pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:59 PM
15

I usually like when women are able to genuinely joke about themselves; keyword genuinely. Other people get to make fun of us all the time, and the times guys do go for self-deprecating humor nobody bats an eye. Not criticizing you. You do make good points and frankly most plastic surgeon creep me out. I was raised to embrace your flaws while always working to be the best version of yourself, while they profit off enforcing the opposite ideals. I notice when some guys joke about their appearance …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:56 PM
17

Even if she got a breast augmentation, she'd be bound to stumble upon men who discard her on the basis her boobs aren't natural. Wouldn't encourage plastic surgery. Just saying if you really must do it let your reason not be a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:45 PM
3

Keeping you on your toes and collecting numbers.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 04:56 PM
252

"I got knocked up by another man. If you want to lea- oh he's gone."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:53 PM
7

This from the same guys that shout at you if you take pics of their dogs with your phone without asking. Also photographers ask people if they consent to being photographed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:46 PM
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Can't thank you enough for this episode! Seriously, it's so important to me as a neurodivergent woman. I'm autistic and was recently diagnosed. Weirdly enough, the vast majority of my autistic traits fall in the more typically known presentation (male) - yet they were still overlooked for most of my life (even by professionals).They kept being mistaken for unruly, defiant behavior and for wanting to be a know-it-all. They earned me constant punishment as opposed to a timely diagnosis and adequat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:46 PM
7

Hope they enjoy living with the rats infesting their parents' basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:56 AM
54

This. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:25 AM
20

No way he's 5'9. "Dashing, athletic, lovable rogue" nope, I already want to drink bleach. "Cassonova" it's not hard to spell Casanova or even just look it up one sec. So he's made his entire bio about traveling, being an adventurous hustler, and cooking but his picture is him at a restaurant not even dressed to impress. I want to say his mates wrote this pamphlet as a parody, but I've actually met someone like that. I honestly prefer people who admit to being self-conscious to those who overcomp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:11 AM
6

When you take "I'm paying her to leave" to the next level. Also is he that ugly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:54 PM
11

I love how straight men criticize non-issues and still claim women are too picky. Saying this as someone who dates women too; lip size has never been a deterrent, whether upstairs or downstairs. I'm just happy to be there. People who like women are just happy to be there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:29 PM
4

I'm frankly horrified - and people still say women have it easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:33 AM
115

Remember when Terry Crews said many men don't even see women as all the way human? Yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:29 AM
18

I don't. I don't entertain that kind of behavior. Words do nothing to prove intelligence - actions do, and I don't have to prove myself to that kind of man. Those guys aren't actually interested in knowing just how smart you are, and they're not actually questioning your intelligence: they're questioning their own. I stopped explaining things to those men, because that's not "showing them", they don't register they're being corrected; they register they're being handed power over like you're scr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:25 AM
73

They might be trying to neg, but they just end up sounding like sassy gay friends at best. That is not what you want to sound like if you want a woman to be interested in you in a non-platonic way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:13 AM
6

You're welcome, I want to spare you the pain of trusting men who just want to take advantage of you under the guise of friendship. I'm sorry you had that experience - 6 months in he was treating you like a side piece, what a douchebag
/r/askFDS26/05/21 12:07 AM
6

When you confront them about it they go "well most girls I know base their idea of reality on what they see on tv" nah dude it's called entertainment
/r/askFDS26/05/21 12:00 AM
22

No man is on an online dating app to make friends. Lurk in male-dominated spaces, they ridicule women looking for friendship there as naive. When they say they're looking for friendship or something casual, they're telling you they're going to put in zero effort. They're telling you going out with them means lowering your expectations. They're telling you they're fucking around (or hope to be). The most you can expect from them is having your contact saved with an actual name.
/r/askFDS25/05/21 07:13 PM
7

If she cheated on you, instead of leaving her just understand the fact that you lack something which the guy he cheated on you with doesn't. Find out the error in yourself, apologize to her. Say sorry to her. Accept it, be a better man. She's innocent, and you are not. ^ Dare you to find a man that would ever even consider accepting anything remotely similar to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:48 PM
89

Yeah it's exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:40 PM
28

Just wanted to add that sometimes there's an overuse of "you're not like other girls". It's like girls or even grown women aren't allowed to be individuals. I'm talking about the people who assume you're trying to be special or distance yourself from womanhood when you're just being yourself and are in fact like plenty of other girls, just not the ones they're used to seeing around you. For a girl, both conforming and not conforming are spun as negative. You're girly? You get called basic and a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:40 PM
27

They say a man should never tolerate cheating but they never say that about women, with women there's always the expectation we should give them a chance - and keep on giving them chances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:21 PM
2

It's their delusion for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:37 PM
8

For real, most men get away with being disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:07 PM
1

Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:02 PM
13

I used the "your grandma has good taste" with a guy some time ago and he exploded on me lol He was like "WELL THAT'S VERY CONCEITED" like dude if I thought I had bad taste I'd obviously change it, do you expect me to say she has bad taste?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:01 PM
42

My exact same experience. "I just respect you so much, we're equals" my dude, your actions haven't aligned with your words the second I allowed you to do anything remotely sexual. Dude over there being a skinny 5'4 with death-grip syndrome acting like he's a Chad 'cause someone touched him. This for all the guys who claim we don't give "the nice ones" a chance. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:42 PM
98

Marry an ugly guy and he'll treat you like you're the ugly one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:34 PM
19

In my early 20s I was considered a prude by libfems 'cause I didn't sleep around. I don't consider myself special for not being into hookup culture, that's doing the bare minimum to protect my own interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:23 PM
13

I'm supposed to be an Aries so R.I.P. me I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:05 PM
9

I already liked her but I became an even bigger fan of hers after this. She rocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:44 PM
45

Him in April 2020: "My greatest fear is not being with Anna" also him: *ditches the woman who was with him since before his popularity exploded for someone else*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:42 PM
14

Yeah I'm kind of disappointed; thought he was "one of the good ones" and his relationship with Anna Marie Tendler seemed so wholesome. A lot of things he said about his personal life that sounded funny and/or wholesome now seem sketchy in hindsight and make him sound codependent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:38 PM
5

Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:06 PM
25

This. So much this. When I moved to English-speaking countries, I was surprised women seemed to have a lot more freedom at surface level but at the same time were expected to not display any emotion that wasn't agreeable contentment. There was a lot more cattiness/passive aggression (from men too) and calling out that stuff directly immediately made me the bad person. Every response or lack thereof was deemed an overreaction - despite the fact I was in the most doormat-like phase of my life. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:00 PM
91

I fully agree, also because women aren't granted the same lenience. I never once heard "I wouldn't call that a woman, that's girl shit".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:33 AM
2

Some guys will pick apart the weirdest shit about women that I expected no one to care about, quite frankly. They're far pickier about women's bodies than I thought possible. Sometimes I wonder if they're actually attracted to women, 'cause to me pussy's pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:29 AM
6

For real. Plenty of assumptions about how I "think like a man" since I'm attracted to women. I'm very much not a discount fuckboy, I actually like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:40 PM
6

Can confirm, 100% this. The sheer audacity... Those guys don't want advice, they want their own misguided opinion in a higher pitched voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:28 PM
5

I'm as wary of self-proclaimed low maintenance women as I am of self-proclaimed nice guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:25 PM
10

Classist? Body shaming? This further convinces me that most critics of FDS don't even read the handbook. They don't even know what this sub's about. I'll never get why we're compared to incels. Incels are involuntarily celibate, it's in the name - and they admit they'd throw themselves at just about any woman. FDS is all about vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:52 PM
18

Was expecting the worst from the title before I read the flair and the rest of the post lol This was very refreshing to read though, it's great you found a guy that celebrates your accomplishments/victories instead of resenting them or downplaying them. More than that, I'm real proud because I know how hard it is to be able to afford such a nice place. You earned it all and it's good he acknowledges that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:45 PM
62

Peak clownery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:39 PM
3

Hello to you too! And sorry for just seeing this, haven't been on reddit for some time but it's always cool to meet other autistic women into cybersecurity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:19 PM
1

Hey there! Sorry I'm just seeing this, haven't been on reddit for a while - shall DM you my alt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:18 PM
2

Do it back and see how quickly they blow up.
/r/askFDS08/03/21 12:38 AM
263

They talk as if having female genitalia somehow protects women from a dire fate. It doesn't. Have they never read the news in their entire lives?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:35 AM
17

lmfao I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:31 AM
17

Your niece is everything I wanted to be at her age, hope this doesn't come on too strong but I'm very happy and proud that she's succeeding. I hope I can hear of more young women living their best lives, sometimes I have very little faith left in humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:30 AM
36

As a European, this is how you know he's never fucked anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:20 AM
50

Just wanted to say it's a good thing if you don't agree with everything here. A degree of critical skepticism is always more beneficial than blindly embracing any ideology in full without ever questioning any of its points. I think I saw the post you were referring to and I had the exact same reaction. People think they're being woke by defending men who fake cluelessness to get away with disrespecting and hurting women. That and they're too quick to blame women for poor communication. Fuck, 90%…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:03 AM
20

They're also incorrect because women don't have it easier in terms of easy sex. Women are punished for being easy. Access to sex is easier, but the consequences of taking men up on that offer are way worse. Just the way things are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:58 PM
15

Even many gay guys are unimpressed by dick picks and no one likes dick more than a gay guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:54 PM
2

I honestly assumed they were a gay couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:53 PM
35

Men: if you put out there's something wrong with you also men: if you don't put out there's something wrong with you. Why are you still a virgin? That's weird as fuck. You're probably crazy. Are you saving yourself for the right guy? You're delusional and believe in fairytales. Oh you've only been with one guy? I don't believe you. You're probably a whore. Actually you're a bitch 'cause you'd fuck anyone but me. Whatever, you're ugly anyway. ​ wut ​ I'm with a woman now, but frankly I've tried d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:45 PM
36

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's awesome you're a professional pianist, I admire that; it seems like too many men absolutely loathe women's success and revert to little children because of that. Also lmfao "I can stretch my hand on piano soooo far" sounds like a 6'5 dude fapping to himself in front of a 5'11 dude. ​ As for my experience, I work in cybersecurity - a field that has been my special interest for years (I'm autistic) and the whole reason I went back to school. A guy in my p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:30 PM
3

"being romantic" lol just say sex ​ Also, turns out when you actually are the woman that simply keeps his belly full and his balls empty he starts demanding more. And more. And more. And more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:00 AM
2

Because they're entitled and can't fathom they're unattractive. They think they can somehow exhaust you into giving them another chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:55 PM
3

Interesting he doesn't send one first. He's 5'4 tops and has no chin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:24 PM
8

"Fellas is it gay to not be ashy?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:21 AM
9

Lol what was the lesson they were trying to teach? That they're still pornsick? Boring, we know that already. Nothing shocking about a man being a slave to his instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:25 AM
17

You know what else is science? The average man is less smart than the average woman. There are more recognized male geniuses (men are also more likely to seek glory, almost like they have fewer barriers to success...) than female ones, but there are also way more male idiots than female ones. "It's science but I don't personally believe it" is the biggest cop-out, especially if he keeps bringing that up. It's easy for him to remain calm and collected because he doesn't have to walk the line of s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:21 AM
4

Ty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:25 AM
5

roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:25 AM
4

This. My first bf was 19 and already had ED because of porn. Found out his own mom regularly bought him hentai manga too, yikes. Especially when they're that young and already got ED, they will never do anything about it. They'll pretend they don't have issues and they'll have the audacity to try to spin that on you like you're the problem. Don't bother sticking around. Throw the whole man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:24 AM
2

Can confirm. Nothing good comes out from coming out to a straight man. He'll just assume you'll lessen his effort to pick up side chicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:17 PM
26

Epic lmfao They don't want to admit that to themselves. They want to believe men are a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:16 PM
5

Ain't he a sweet potato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:13 PM
10

He's cute when he's angry, but he'd be so much prettier if he smiled more; that way he'd be able to actually find someone else and move on instead of letting you live rent-free in his mind but hey, choices <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:11 PM
149

Men cover each other's asses even (if not especially) when they do something utterly despicable and then have the nerve to claim they got some kind of moral high ground compared to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:10 PM
1

Is he afraid he'll have to hibernate alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:08 PM
16

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:53 AM
19

"Annoying nagging mom voice" is just common sense, something her husband is sorely lacking. Why are men like him allowed to reproduce? ​ "And because I know my husband, I’m sure that he laughed at me and rolled his eyes before tightening the car seat and fixing the chest clip." What a keeper. ​ "I'm so thankful that my husband took the extra one minute" - to do what? That's not an extra anything, it's the least one can do and if it took him a whole minute he's even dumber than I thought. The fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:53 AM
25

Oof "slightly longer leash" hits hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:42 AM
4

I get what you mean, but men and even many libfems are quick to play the hate card when a woman is simply standing up for herself (and in much tamer ways than a man would) as if speaking up is somehow a personal attack. Women more often than not do take the moral high road, we're socialized to do it and we tend to face brutal consequences if we don't. Socialized femininity is being groomed for abuse and accepting it with a smile lest we inconvenience others. Women are seldom allowed to express a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:57 PM
125

Definitely. The (outwardly) nicest guy I've ever met was into incest porn and kept wanting for something to happen between me and my mother just because she and I are close. Other people who didn't know about his kinks saw him like an angel who could do no wrong, an "old-fashioned gentleman". He was also into hentai and other crazy shit. And this is the one who seemed like an upgrade compared to his competition...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:15 AM
17

My ex came to encompass all of that, big yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:32 AM
5

Same in Italian ("Uomini che odiano le donne") curiously enough. Maybe they assumed European audiences were less touchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:31 AM
15

Divorce him and pull up those screenshots in court. He belongs 6' under as far as I'm concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:59 PM
32

Guess he's taking himself out the dating pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:58 PM
15

Why's his mind always in the gutter? Also lmfao doesn't want a woman who fucks but doesn't want one who doesn't fuck either ​ "Men are simple" my ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:48 PM
40

Many sperm banks don't let you "deposit" after you turn 34. Men's sperm quality takes a nose dive in their early 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:45 PM
62

Exactly. "Don't fight hate with hate" kinda sounds like "no no you're supposed to just take it, not fight back"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:43 PM
5

Grey rocking is indeed a life-saver with narcissists, particularly those you can't avoid like colleagues. I'm sorry you have a narcissistic colleague, I know it can be exhausting to deal with. I do hope your other colleagues can be more receptive. It takes a while, but I found that some people little by little do start to understand and re-evaluate.
/r/askFDS07/12/20 08:40 PM
15

lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:49 PM
8

Nothing is more relieving than hearing a dude I'm not interested in has no intention of fucking me. They claim they're the more logical gender, but fail to understand the simplest of concepts like this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:48 PM
9

Something men (especially straight ones) are too limited to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:47 PM
5

Fun fact: he thinks he's being smooth and romantic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:46 PM
4

This. This is really the quickest strategy to filter out idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:45 PM
11

I remind them 90-99% of the times they mention their partners to me it's to complain about their relationship and they're making it sound like misery wants company. I explain how I'd take their solicitude more seriously if they didn't appear to be in that relationship solely out of social pressure and inability to function single. I underline how I'd never want to find myself in their situation 'cause that's no way to live. I make sure to point out their partner's shitty behavior each time they …
/r/askFDS07/12/20 01:45 PM
11

It is. He's trying to test if you're into kinky stuff. I do use the term kinky liberally because 50 Shades of Gray has been condemned as terribly toxic even by the BDSM community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:37 PM
14

Because it's wishful thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:33 PM
11

Don't embarrass "someone's daughter" by trying to manipulate her into a lifetime commitment in front of a bunch of strangers blissfully unaware of the crustiness of your ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:29 PM
5

Because someone just rejected them or dumped them, and they think they're more likely to get a yes from someone they've already won over once than from someone new.
/r/askFDS06/12/20 09:26 PM
2

I thought my ex was the dumbest man alive, but I think this one definitely surpassed him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:08 PM
1

lol Gentleman Jack was on my watch list but now I'm not so sure I'm looking forward to it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:54 AM
5

He was right when he said not to expect something intellectually relevant. ​ My chat and dms are closed so I'm missing out on his gems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:48 AM
11

Men don't differentiate between being interested in seeing where something can go and genuinely liking him. There is no safe line to use on him. It's black or white to him, and his insecurity and clinginess are only going to get worse. Trust me, I've been with a guy like that. You don't want to have to constantly reassure him on every single little thing and frankly he would never want to do that for you either. Also guys like that are jealous as fuck. I'd drop him based on prior experience.
/r/askFDS06/12/20 02:46 AM
3

You're most welcome, I'm glad he's out of your life even though I'm sorry he had to act so shitty :\ Like he has room to talk about anything. Surprised he doesn't live in a bucket. 20 years in IT and he's living like someone 3 months into the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:18 AM
10

Excellent advice, saving this faster than lightning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:13 AM
2

lmfao I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:13 AM
4

Helpdesk is a newbie job, it's the easiest way to get into the field. Usually you work at helpdesk a couple years tops before moving up the ladder. All due respect to helpdesk as I've been in that position, but it's bottom of the barrel. It's not good money. You don't raise a family on helpdesk money. ​ Usually networking is the one way to get around certain qualifications, but if he's neither upskilling nor networking he's going to stay in helpdesk forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:08 AM
9

He's 100% not trying, especially considering certain training sessions and exams for certifications that could have helped him advanced were offered for free this year due to the whole covid situation. If someone's really trying and knows where to look, a lot of training is cheap and you can get discounted exam sessions. Even just having worked X years in the same field should be working in his favor but nope. If he's not moving up the ladder, it's 100% his lack of effort - especially considerin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:04 AM
17

Fucking hell I'm in cybesersec too and system support was my first part time job in tech lmfao, he could literally level up just by taking a cert or two. He's hogging an entry level job that younger people desperately need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:03 PM
14

This the same clown who calls women manipulative bitches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:00 PM
14

Women rock, your exes blow and I'm grateful they're no longer in your life. Your friend is wonderful and I hope you ladies can have an amazing time during the holidays <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:57 PM
39

As someone who works in tech, can confirm. Couldn't pay me to date one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:47 PM
2

"Just sit and be happy" is precisely what my dog does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:41 PM
4

If he has to announce to the world he's "happy", he's likely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:41 PM
15

Ironically he also plays the OnlyFans card (and the sex card in general) to shame women he disagrees with. Exhibit A He also seems really trigger-happy when it comes to accusing other people of shaming him. Wonder why... ​ Cherry on top is him deciding that his receding hairline, crows feet, and bags under his eyes are his best features.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:38 PM
38

This. Finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:12 AM
8

Like a dog cleaning its bowl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:32 AM
7

They are. Kissing women is about a billion times better. A woman kisses you the way she wants to be kissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:31 AM
23

"Marry me" as a last resort while I was dumping him. I laughed in his face, dropped his ass, and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:28 AM
6

Also Depp has admitted before a judge that he was routinely high on cocaine in the time frame of the alleged abuse he claims to have received from Amber Heard. He got high with Paul Bettany on multiple occasions, and talked about wanting to drown and burn Amber and taking turns with him fucking her charred corpse to make sure she was dead. They were laughing during the phone call, this wasn't a distraught abuse victim crying for revenge. We're supposed to trust this man's word and believe he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:55 PM
21

Countless times men have lied about not raping. ​ Funny how we should automatically believe men when they're victims but God forbid we believe a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:54 PM
14

Heterowhatnow? ​ Nothing is more ridiculous to me than people believing straight men are somehow oppressed for their sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:22 PM
17

Took the words right out of my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:05 AM
39

Didn't you know that real feminism is sucking up to men? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:05 AM
53

I would. Remember that the effort he puts in the first stages is the most effort you're ever going to get. If he's tired of planning by the fourth date, yikes. Try to meet in the middle, maybe suggest something but don't plan out the entire date yourself.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 02:34 AM
47

That sub is just the same 3-5 reposts on rotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:32 AM
24

They think success is a zero sum game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:30 AM
1

Super grateful I have gym equipment at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:28 AM
3

Awww he doesn't need to wear sunglasses in his profile picture, I'm sure he'd be just as pretty without.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:25 AM
5

Now I'm scared to check that sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:16 AM
5

As someone who proposed to a woman, there is no excuse. Engagement rings can be paid in instalments. They're expensive because they need to be made with durable material due to the expectation they're going to be worn every day. Engagement rings need to resist damage and oxidation and gain heirloom value. Look at the state of that fucking ring; it tells you all you need to know about how much he cares about her. 14 years and he couldn't get her a decent ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:13 AM
4

lmfao precisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:58 PM
9

Refreshing to see an honest dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:42 AM
100

They want a homie they can fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:34 AM
11

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:33 AM
74

This. They win when women respond. They don't care about how witty we can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:33 AM
33

Sure, trust the dude who apparently got into law school without being able to spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:32 AM
10

Seriously, the mods rock. I'm so grateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:07 PM
20

And then guys make fun of attractive men as a way to keep the bar low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:06 PM
26

This. It's exhausting. I've done me my whole life and yet people have never given up on trying to hound me into looking like they wanted, whereas they just easily accept a guy doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:05 PM
27

I'm annoyed he's allowed to be. I'm annoyed the average man can be crusty and greasy af and still give me grief over having a slight bump on my face that I can't even notice and then have the audacity of saying men "don't care about this shallow shit". I'm annoyed the average man can roll out of bed without combing or brushing his hair and go around in unwashed sweats and the wrong size shirt and he's just fine to people, but when I dress sporty I must be lazy or letting myself go and that must …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:03 PM
15

Somewhere in the world right now, there's a scrote adding "astrophysicst" to his bio after watching a short youtube video on space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:45 PM
25

True. Most women apply when they meet 100% of the requirements; most men when they hit 60%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:42 PM
3

Sane plant lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:37 PM
14

They need bite-sized info they can read under 5 seconds before they start thinking of humping something again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:29 PM
13

Men when you had bad past experiences: "You're either crazy or have shit taste in men" ​ Men when you tell them if all their exes were crazy he must be the crazy one or have shit taste in women: "Why would you judge other women so harshly?" I'm judging you, boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:23 PM
5

Roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:20 PM
2

"das gay bruh" block delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:19 PM
11

First of all, I'm genuinely sorry you're in this situation no matter how harsh I may sound. ​ I do believe you when you say you still don't know how to feel about marriage; I think what might've hurt more was him deciding for you and answering for the both of you, as well as his refusal to actually talk things out like adults. He shouldn't get to decide for you. Whatever discussion you had at the beginning of your relationship doesn't count, because that's a honeymoon phase when men feel like th…
/r/askFDS28/11/20 12:05 AM
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Big mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:10 PM
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An ancient Japanese legend says hookers pay him to leave. ​ I think men on average are biologically uglier than women because of natural selection. Men are "visual creatures", which translates to shallow as fuck and ensures they're always aiming out their league. For most of history, men have been chosen as mates over factors other than their looks (like the ability to provide) and so they never had to evolve to look better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:30 PM
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Destiny 2 is free to play and thus very popular with kids. He's probably grooming kids on Discord, in case he wasn't already enough of a steaming pile of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:16 PM
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Of course he's down for most things except for an actual date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:10 PM
8

"Fellas is it gay to wash my ass?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:08 PM
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Ironically when we use that line on a man we get called ungrateful bitches and often even threatened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:07 PM
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That's an excellent way to weed out the crazy ones, like the dudes that take 3 hours to reply but then send messages saying "why's it been almost 15 minutes and you haven't answered me, what are you doing". Having a life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:58 AM
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80% of the guys who agree with her would still call her damaged behind her back 'cause that's what redpillers and incels say about women with dyed hair, piercings, fake lashes, makeup on the heavy side, chokers to go with a pseudo Goth style, and a shirt proudly stating Crazy Cat Lady. She's simping for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:25 AM
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But men good and women bad for the internet, remember
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:18 AM
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I tend to want to give opposing views the benefit of the doubt, but I noticed that most of FDS' scathing critics have pretty much never read the handbook. They end up cherrypicking what they need to paint the most hostile picture they can 'cause dog bites man is more exciting than man bites dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:15 AM
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PreCumLegend got so many options he can't even get to finish judging by his username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:12 AM
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Happy Thanksgiving! FDS saves lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:10 AM
9

His pocket money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:05 AM
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You gotta understand he's shy. You'd be shy too if you looked like a month-old drowning victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:04 AM
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roflmao I'm sorry, you got under his skin so much he had to... lmfao pay actual money to let you be a spectator to his mental breakdown? ​ please award me too Saint Patron of Receding Hairlines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:03 AM
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Saving this, thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:42 PM
2

First I thought she was the mother of all pickmeishas or simply a guy. Judging by her post history though it seems like that was mostly karma-whoring to set her reddit record straight. It's still a disgusting post that's simping hard. Most those issues are either self-inflicted or primarily caused by other men. ​ People shame women for taking longer and being "too complicated even in bed" Men shame each other over penis size, and shame women for having small boobs, but also for having big boobs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:40 PM
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Oh yes! The same actually happened to me too. Had constant infections with this guy and his mother blamed me and said I was sleeping around and endangering her son. Was hoping he was an outlier but damn, piss poor hygiene seems so common among straight men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:56 PM
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Men insist to cum inside but then complain it reeks like they were expecting that to smell like roses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:54 PM
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Sad but true! If he wanted to be convincing, he should've said dick picks. Unless gay men think he has bottom energy; which is fine, just doubt that's what he wanted to portray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:53 PM
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His "sexy ass" lmfao doubt that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:55 AM
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So she did get under his skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:52 AM
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I date women too; never once met any woman who smelled like fish down there. Idk what's wrong with guys' noses. Find me a bisexual woman or a lesbian that complains about the smell. What makes female genitalia smell bad are usually infections or the presence of sperm or severe lack of hygiene. Whom are those guys sleeping with, and why are they so ok with that they assume it's our default scent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:46 AM
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Lmao is he trying to be intimidating? 'Cause that's adorable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:39 AM
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Bold of him to post him on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:17 AM
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75% of your class blamed the girl, and 95% would've still blamed her if this story had been about a boy struggling to reach the girl he loved. I blame the young man. Unless the choice of having a "lovely young girl" and a "handsome young man" is mere sexism, it indicates she's younger than her lover. That means homeboy's older and still won't haul ass to see her, fakes an illness, blames the girl for being coerced into sex and rejects her for being used goods and then pretty much forgets her. No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:25 PM
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You're most welcome, and thank you so much for telling us of your compelling research! I think the example of Daenerys Targaryen is a particularly poignant one, because a lot of fans of the series would have had no problem with her had she just been a man. Also, I'm very glad that ex is now indeed your ex. I'm sorry he tried to force you into a sick fantasy of his 'cause he was too weak to handle a woman that isn't a doormat. I wonder how men can pressure someone into sex and/or submission and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 06:06 PM
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The women who did that did it to very willing men. Men are happier to be used for their money than they care to admit. Only broke men seem to complain by proxy, 'cause they wish they could flaunt the kind of wealth they can be "used" for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:52 AM
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Why would he so proudly showcase being needy as inherent to his gender?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:43 AM
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That sounds like such an interesting thesis! Excellent observations btw, I never thought about the fact those characters can't fight back - and if a woman fights back on their behalf that guy can just say something along the lines of "chill, it's just a show lol". I will add a caveat: if he can only talk positively about fictional women and has nothing good to say about women irl it's still a massive red flag that too many people dismiss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:12 AM
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Me too, it sounds like a captivating topic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:08 AM
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The average guy thinks calling women dumb is scathing Oscar Wildesque wit, when it's in fact so low effort I feel sorry for him rather than offended. Anyway, some men are resentful of college educated women for a variety of reasons. You have the men who resent the women who went into higher education because they themselves never could. You have the men that want to ensure the women they date can't challenge them intellectually. Then you have the redpillers that believe college taints women: it'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:06 AM
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Unless they're HVM, they seem to mean "confident" as in: - she makes him look good in public (\)) - she spares him the burden of taking the initiative - she's sexually uninhibited - she won't ask for reassurance, expect compliments or flattering gestures, or come to him with personal problems ​ They don't seem to like too much actually confident women who know what they want, assert their boundaries, and have a spine and a sense of dignity.Notice how many men claim they want a woman who "can cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:56 PM
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Few people find healthy relationships because they either have no idea of what they entail or they are unwilling to do what it takes to get there. Also, remember that while romance is mostly targeted to women, most of us seem to settle for mediocre men regardless of our own age. Most men seem to have no incentive to find or even want a healthy relationship. Porn strengthens their view of women as a service to them. It's easier for a man to pump and dump than to work on himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:43 PM
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Is she trying to admit she has no personality or she only dates boring guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:25 PM
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I struggle to consider Elon Musk high value. I think usually the obsession with sons has to do with carrying on the family name and legacy, and also with the fact many fathers see sons as extensions of themselves - and often as a do-over. Not sure if it's most men that feel this way now. Might surprise you, but some are obsessed with the idea of having a daughter and it can get fairly creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:23 PM
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I think what gets me is the fact that commenters are infinitely meaner to female posters than male posters there, and they get oddly specific like they've been saving up their bile for a long time. ​ edit: I often wonder if the women posting on that sub do so because pressured by their bf. I don't want to excuse women's behavior, just saying I can see some dude going "bet you don't have the guts". Honestly a woman doesn't even need to post her picture online to be called a fat whore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:15 PM
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He's responsible for levels of instant vaginal dryness never achieved before. Though he probably likes that since it's the only way he can provide friction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:26 AM
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Men are pack animals, so this is ironic coming from them. Waiting for them to make up their minds on whether women are "too individualistic and prone to solipsism" or "too susceptible to herd think".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:03 PM
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Sounds like he was playing hard to want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:53 PM
1

Damn Dobby really is free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:04 AM
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"Suicide is attempted more by women but men are more successful at it" what a sad brag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:59 PM
3

This. Every reaction from a woman is an overreaction to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:57 PM
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SHOW BOBS AND VAGENE U HOAR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:45 PM
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I couldn't agree more on every single thing you said in this post. Also, if you're a single woman, society says there's something wrong with you; if you're a single man, society says there's something wrong with women and their standards. I think it's telling that male depression is typically manifested through outward aggression, whereas female depression is a lot more internalized. Male depression has on average more to do with behavioral issues and destructiveness, female depression is mostly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:33 PM
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She was, thankfully, she has thicker skin than that kind of guy wishes. It's an embarrassing level of stupidity, and he pretty much showed his cards 'cause someone that clueless has watched way too much porn and not spent nearly enough time with women irl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:20 PM
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My former roommate had a natural G cup and her boyfriend had the audacity of being disappointed once she took off her bra they didn't "stand up on their own".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:22 PM
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Exactly. They do it 'cause they know. It's a subtle "fuck you" their sons will never be able to pick up on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:17 PM
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But then if you're the brutally honest one you're a raging bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:10 PM
3

He could've shortened it to "broke asshole".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:10 PM
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I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. What I've been trying to do is be there for them and show them what's wrong with the shitty guys they keep going for, but they keep making excuses for grown ass men and are way too stuck in their fantasy world to want help. They don't want advice, they want to hear their own opinion in a different voice. I can't lead by example because, while they admire me, they would never want to be me and pay the social price for that. I took myself off the dati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:08 PM
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Thought I'd score pretty low, then I realized I did reach the "removal of autonomy" tier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:36 PM
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Yeah I've been reported as male. Probably because they recognized in themselves the bullshit I exposed. Also if people don't like this sub they can just... leave. No one is forcing them to read our posts, I don't get what their problem is. First they paint women as trivial, then they shit their pants over a women-only subreddit lmao. I don't see women going on murder sprees over not finding a man, they don't need to worry about us being "incels".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:11 PM
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Agree 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:04 AM
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It is. Wishing someone a happy birthday is free and he didn't even bother to do that despite know when it was. Bet he's trying to show he doesn't care too much so you don't expect more.
/r/askFDS19/11/20 04:13 AM
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A neg and not even a well executed one, he sounds majorly awkward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:32 PM
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Nah, my DMs and chat are closed. I do want to point out he's created his account today and never posted or commented anything on reddit. Block that troll, don't engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:28 PM
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100% true. If they leave you without having already secured someone else, they have to go back to rejection hell and actually make an effort. Notice the amount of men that go "It's because you found someone else, right?" when it dawns on them you're 100% serious about breaking up. It's because they're the first ones to do that shit and can't fathom leaving someone to end up empty-handed - even at the risk of staying in the shittiest of relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:24 PM
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Same here, dating my now-fiancée was from day one an enormously better experience than dating guys. She's such a wonderful woman, but no guy ever treated her as such. We'd both been avoiding guys when we met, and I wish she had for longer 'cause they fucked up her self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:19 PM
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Words cannot describe how intensely I agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:56 PM
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A penis was too rough. The females didn’t like it, so they stopped having sex with the males, causing them to literally lose their genitalia. ​ Lowkey hoping this happens to scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:44 PM
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Sweet, congratulations! Also that's a hell of a beautiful ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:39 PM
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In case I was wondering what the guy I left in 2014 was up to. Those fucking nails and socks, R.I.P. my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:28 PM
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Same here. What a fucking descent into the abyss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:26 PM
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The kind of dude that thinks it's gay to have an Apple product is the same kind of dude that thinks it's gay to wash his ass; that may be why. ​ coming from someone owning zero Apple products
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:23 PM
1

This. I took for granted it was more about him having an old phone than a Samsung specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:19 PM
1

roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:17 PM
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"never intrinsically lovable, only worth something because I have a job and a stable income" Makes me think he believes Chris Rock's joke about how only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. We're not. To a lot of men, women are only worth something if we're fuckable and add to their status. This is regardless of what else you personally have to offer. If he feels "dehumanized" for being expected to be an adult, well boo-hoo. He doesn't have to tick "everyone's arbitrary boxes" wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:59 PM
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- Being hard around you all day long but going limp the second it's time to get down to business. - Being unable to believe a woman can be kind to another woman without being attracted to her. - Trying to get you to do sexual things in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:51 PM
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I'm very sorry this happened to you. This is why I don't bother being polite with my rejections anymore. Go to the police with your friend as a witness, give them the license plate and everything. Report, be kind to yourself but please report. I wish I did. Shutting myself in my own home did nothing, just made me feel more like a victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:01 PM
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I hate "you're not like other girls". For some reason, so far it's always come from men with little to no experience with women - so it's more a wild guess from them than an actually founded comparison. It's often equivalent to "you're not like the walking caricatures I picture in my mind", and it shows they've never really engaged with an adult human female and saw her as that: an adult human. Also, it puts me in an embarrassing position where I either have to accept the compliment and indirect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:00 PM
5

him when you don't praise him every moment of his existence: "you make me feel like dead weight"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:34 PM
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Saving this for when I have the energy to release the Kraken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:27 PM
7

Say no more fam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:25 PM
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Ironically when they speak of real violence it's about how "men get raped too, you know?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:21 PM
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Interesting how he leaves out the fact that it's poverty levels that account for underperforming children of single mothers. A single mother is going to earn less than a single father in the vast majority of cases. Single father households are usually wealthier. It's almost like the less poor you are, the more opportunities your kids will have...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:19 PM
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2 words: marital rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:16 PM
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Also ffs she couldn't be in less revealing clothes and she's still being treated like a piece of meat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:13 PM
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I see where you're coming from. WAP's not my kind of song, but it's true that more men are willing to go "well can't complain about being sexualized if you do this to yourselves" than acknowledge the very real tragedy of the countless women being raped, abused, and even murdered every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:12 PM
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For real though. The men most vocal about "gold diggers" are consistently broke as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:08 PM
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So negging really is deader than his sperm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:05 PM
4

I want to know how fine he would be with the idea of gay friends masturbating to his pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:24 PM
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I felt the same when leaving my longest relationship, it seemed pretty much like wasting 4 years and be good for nothing. The whole reason I stayed so long was actually the whole sunk cost fallacy, as well being convinced I couldn't expect anything more from a guy. We hear that a lot, don't we? "It's just how men are." No, that mentality is exactly what allows LVM to be low value and pretty much inflict themselves on us. I'm very happy you could find a great husbands after all those disappointme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:23 PM
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<333
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:10 PM
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Red flag, he doesn't even know you and he's already calling you "honey"; he's trying to lure you into a sense of familiarity and it spares him the effort of actually having to memorize your name. Makes me laugh when men do that because throwing "honey" around makes them sound like the most flamboyant stereotype of gay men nowadays. It's not hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:12 PM
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A man's idea of friendship is you being his free therapist and the hot chick he can parade around while he pretends to give a shit about anything other than your orifices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:08 PM
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Hmmm I've attracted mostly men on the short side because I'm "less intimidating" (interesting choice of words), and only a few taller men who were really into the size difference. What they had in common was assuming I was a lot younger and being put off I wasn't a teenager. This was regardless of their own height.I guess it's more dangerous when a taller man's involved because he can overpower me more easily and he knows that. ​ edit: I can confirm there's a lot of being infantilized involved w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:02 PM
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Should've let this know to the morbidly obese Scottish lady troll who treated me like I was a midget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:57 PM
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Every time men are terrified of something it's because they don't want to be treated like they treat women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:48 PM
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Also the relationship's a lot more equal. It's hard to have a truly equal relationship with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:42 PM
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Women all the way. My fiancée's the first woman I dated and the first partner to love me for who I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:42 PM
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"but it's fine" now say it without tearing up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:36 PM
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Wanted to add they'll treat you like this even if they assume you're insecure. Most guys seem to assume women are insecure. You can be a confident woman but give off different vibes for whatever reason and they'll still try to pull this shit on you. Just like you can be the most self-centered woman in the world and many guys will still assume you base your worth on pleasing others and getting their approval. ​ Idk if I can say I'm confident, 'cause confidence is more a "show don't tell" kind of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:08 PM
2

I used to desperately want to be straight lol, I had no idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:37 PM
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"No man will want you" - cool then I don't need to fear them going berserk over a rejection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:29 PM
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I agree with you. It's actually proven single women are on average happier than those in straight marriages. For all the "game over" memes, marriage statistically benefits men instead of women for the most part. ​ I think without societal pressure most women would be perfectly content being single and free. This isn't to say most women are weak-minded, it's not that; some are, but for the most part I just think there's a disproportionate amount of pressure from the outside. There's still this pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:28 PM
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Oof this, this is the shit my ex always pulled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:20 PM
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"Horniness has no limits" = he's a slave to his hormones I'm attracted to women too. I don't feel compelled to masturbate to pictures of my friends. They're friends for a reason. I can only see them in a platonic way. Guys are mostly incapable of forming platonic friendships with women (or unwilling to). All the guy friends I had growing up stopped being friends of mine once they ruled me out as viable pussy option. Guy friends of a friend started talking about her in extremely lewd terms as soo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:17 PM
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It's funny how men blame those stats on women. 80% of women on dating apps are attractive because making an effort is not only normalized among us, but pretty much socially mandated. Women are mostly attracted to the top 20% of men because only 20% of men on those apps make an actual effort. Most men seem to assume that rolling out of bed and only combing their hair on special occasions is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:22 PM
5

I couldn't have phrased it better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:10 PM
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Yes. I agree with other commenters on the fact it's a PUA tactic and all they know is your appearance. I will add that HVM are concerned with quality over quantity, it's LVM that need to cast a wide net by approaching random women on the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:09 PM
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No truly chill person feels compelled to announce it. I agree with your thought process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:01 PM
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"Stay toxic" like they need any encouragement or reminder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:32 PM
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Option 1: he doesn't give a shit about you in the slightest, it's all about him Option 2: he's purposely taking bad pics to embarrass you Option 3: he's purposely taking bad pics so that if he posts them to social media his gf doesn't look too desirable/intimidating to other women who could become his side piece ​ Women are more likely to take flattering pictures of their boyfriends because for many the man we snag is a status symbol and something we're heavily judged on. For men, it's having a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:01 PM
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My ex told me he had only ever dated one girl, let's call her Sarah, and that she had broken up with him via text after he was the only one to put effort into the relationship. Turns out Sarah was just this girl who used to go to school with him, and he hounded her all night at their high school reunion until she gave him her number just so he'd crawl out her ass. They went out one night and that was the only date they had because she wanted nothing to do with him. She texted him as much once sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:54 PM
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Yes officer, this man right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:42 PM
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Request to comment
/r/askFDS11/11/20 04:15 PM
2

Scrote's raw nerve was touched or he'd have never bothered. Also, he sounds like he has zero sense of humour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:16 PM
9

Men: "hOw Do YoU kNow" ​ They only celebrate men's achievements and cry about being oppressed to put women down. They don't care about men as a whole, outside online communities it's every man for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:51 PM
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Lol I'm autistic too. Should I go around killing men? Also wtf does "difficulty understanding non-verbal social cues" have to do with getting into a van and mowing down pedestrians? ​ He's the poster boy for the hypocrisy of incels claiming men are the only ones that are held accountable while women "can get away with everything". "To have a woman first you take a man and take away reason and accountability" - how come he had none to begin with then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:39 PM
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I'd be curious to know what she has to offer, 'cause it seems like she's bending and spreading for men. That's if she even is a woman, sounds more like a man roleplaying poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:30 PM
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Precisely, men are each other's greatest enemies and the cause of their own undoing. They can't expect compassion from me, 'cause I have none for them. They made their bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:18 PM
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Glad he recognizes female contributions to society are kept on the hush when it comes to mainstream history books so one has to go the extra mile /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:16 PM
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I'm trying to save two, but I'm close to giving up because they don't seem to want to be helped. They're too brainwashed by society and helping them directly seems like a waste of time at this point. The best I can do is live my own life on my own terms and set a good example.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 12:14 PM
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For some it's just that you were their last minute rebound. Others think they're getting a soft rejection and want to move on to a more certain option. When they're actually interested in pursuing you, they just ask you to let them know when you're sure you're available.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 12:08 PM
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I was very surprised to learn that myself. Their reasoning is "women don't need to masturbate, that's something men do" and I suspect they wouldn't know where to start. Every time they speak of their sexual encounters it's in terms of men jackhammering them for a couple minutes, so I don't think they know what a clit is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:05 PM
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He was also very pleased with himself as if that was the single sexiest thing he could think of. I'm still baffled to this day. I hope someone laughed him out the bedroom after our relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:59 AM
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Exactly! They very much do act as if their penises sully the other person. They put their genitalia on a pedestal as some kind of invincible wand of power, but they still act like it's the dirtiest thing they can fathom. They won't let a woman nowhere near them after she's touched or sucked their dick, but they're happy to slobber her juices on her face kissing right after oral. They look forward to sex on the first date, but if you do put out they're disappointed and lose interest because they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:04 PM
28

Sad but true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:36 PM
47

I want to know why they consider FDS a hate sub but they don't ban people for participating in incel and redpill subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:36 PM
59

That sub might as well be renamed r/wymynbad. That and most posts seem to be wildly popular opinions that most men don't exactly have a problem with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:22 PM
30

Probably this one. Saw that r/askfeminists or r/askfeministwomen doesn't accept comments from people who participate in FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:20 PM
2

Oof 100%. I love how their stance is "women aren't physically capable of empathy" but they keep demanding it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:09 AM
11

roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:05 AM
8

This is so accurate it's not even funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:05 AM
37

Sausage tits? That's a first. If only he put as much effort into his relationship as he puts into crafting demented nicknames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:54 AM
156

Men fetishize pregnant women because it's "proof of fertility hurr hurr", but after you pop kids for them they don't even see you as a human anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:53 AM
53

Notice how men are just called analytical and careful of all options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:51 AM
4

Thank you for defending women, seriously. I'm disgusted by what those scrotes say - especially because men just loooove reminding women of a physical weakness we didn't exactly choose. They need to make up their mind. The average woman would not be able to scare off a rapist, let alone fight him (yes, him) off, and most rape victims are physically vulnerable people anyway. An overwhelming amount of elderly women gets raped and no one fucking talks about it. Think about being an 80 year old woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:48 AM
3

Male lurkers are adorable when they're angry - and they're easily angered by the truth. They come here because they're the ones terribly lonely. Men have no true support system, they made sure of it - so they just angrily look at what women are up to. Confident men that are satisfied with their lives don't need to lurk here. Turn off both chat and DMs if they're not entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:10 AM
3

People who want to be hospitalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:53 AM
41

Seems innate in men since even in the gay community tops often slut-shame bottoms. I'll never understand this, and I don't think I want to. They're out there shaming people over the one thing they want from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:45 AM
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"Male mental health around the world is a disgrace" maybe stop killing each other, raping each other, beating each other up, upholding toxic standards of supposed masculinity, and calling your "bros" fags or pussies the second they choose something other than violence to express their emotions or wear something less macho than usual. ​ There's no greater threat to a man's wellbeing than another man. They don't even trust each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:35 AM
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Guess he felt personally attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:52 PM
91

Men that aren't predatory don't live in constant fear of rape allegations. Cmv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:05 PM
12

I rarely compliment men. You'll find online they claim to crave genuine compliments, but irl in my experience they tend to dismiss them, react negatively ("I'm a man, I don't need this"), or take that as a sign you want to hop on their cocks. ​ Bfs rarely ever taking pictures of their gfs sound very suspicious. Makes me think they want to appear available, whereas their gfs pride themselves on "being taken".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:04 PM
4

TIL you're me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:11 PM
3

lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:21 PM
5

Men: women aren't funny and they just answer questions with other questions or deflect ​ Also men:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:09 PM
12

It's funny 'cause his haircut's trying to hide the fact he started balding a long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:08 PM
1

It is, they're too easily radicalized. That black/white thinking brings them comfort and it shifts the blame on women (often for a system men created anyway).MRA and incel ideologies lure them into thinking they finally got society all figured out and that it's other people (read: women) who are out of touch with reality. ​ Look, being autistic means I'm incompatible with many people; idk how hard it is for them to accept they're likely in the same boat. It's not discrimination, it's just the wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:02 PM
3

Exactly, they see us as living fleshlights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:42 PM
3

It's hard for parents to accept autism because it's genetic and they don't want to face the possibility someone else in the family might have it. I'm fairly sure my dad was autistic and people around him were in denial, like they were about other men in the family who exhibited signs of autism. I'm only in contact with my mother now and she seems to have accepted my diagnosis thankfully. I've only told a couple of friends because for some of them it's a tricky subject to understand. I do hope pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:41 PM
5

Hmm it's difficult for me to define a feminine man. Physically speaking, I've dated feminine-looking men in the past for their unthreatening nature; I still ended up with permanent physical damage and now I kind of regret I didn't just go for a hulking lumberjack. They also acted like the stereotypes they had about women, in that they were fairly petty, whiny, gossipy, and insecure. I was technically more of a man they could ever dream of being, and they grew resentful of that. ​ I'm not against…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:20 AM
19

I swear if it's relationship_advice most of the posts can be answered with "why on Earth are you still with this person?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:06 AM
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True dat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:04 AM
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That's true. It's an incredibly valuable question more people should ask themselves. It's a godsend for avoiding/getting unstuck from toxic relationships of any kind. Too many people would rather keep a shitty person in their lives simply to avoid rocking the boat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:04 AM
38

Also men: "what is she bringing to the table???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:01 AM
86

Oof this hit real hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:59 AM
3

For all their woe-is-me mentality, they don't realize that a man with a great personality (funny/smart/reliable) but mediocre looks still has a lot more chances with the opposite sex than his female counterpart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:58 AM
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100%. I hope we can move on as a society and teach girls self-respect first and foremost instead of grooming them for abuse - because that's what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:48 AM
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We often do, and I wish it wasn't necessary. Many of them seem to assume we owe them a chance because we're also neurodivergent. Others are practicing on a captive audience of vulnerable women that are statistically easier to manipulate and coerce than neurotypical ones on average. Also, many autistic men are prone to being brainwashed by redpill and incel ideology and be obsessed with PUA tactics they think hold the key to social competence and sexual success. That's not a nice combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:45 AM
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Women can pretty much do it all, men have way too many convenient "hangups". That's why I lost interest in most men: I'm pretty much the man I was told I should want for a husband. I was also the woman men claim is the perfect wife - and that was never enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:44 PM
1

First date? Terrible idea. Established relationship? Could be romantic but 9/10 times it'll be the woman arranging all this. I still remember a colleague telling me he was all embarrassed that a girl had put a lot of effort into a romantic picnic when he just wanted to see her to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:28 PM
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Thank you for your support seriously, I'm sorry your own mother doesn't see things for what they are and I do hope things can get much better for you. I know it's a struggle. He's way too aware of his predatory behavior for it not to be deliberate. Aware, but unapologetic means malicious intent; otherwise he'd be mortified. It's disgusting the principal sided with that guy. Authority figures do nothing against bullying and harassment and more often than not gang up on the victim. I have zero fai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:24 PM
7

He is 100% trash - that's indisputable. What I'm saying is he's exhibit A of physically attractive men loving the hell out of being overly sexualized. The only men that ever complain are those that don't get objectified but wish they were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:18 PM
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TIL I should read Nightwing. ​ Also lmfao love how they're acting all offended like they're not all over being sexualized irl. It's the ugly ones that have a problem 'cause it's other men getting ogled. Men who are physically attractive put an effort in showing off and welcome being sexualized. Just look at Henry Cavill for a good example. The new Witcher armor that shows off his pecs and abs was his idea, he specifically requested it. He wanted to put his feet up in the bathtub scenes, but he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:20 PM
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They terrorize us into compliance. More than terror, for me it was simply the desire to be left alone - but masking can be so poisonous, it wrecked my mental health and I've only masked for a few years compared to women who do it for decades. I'm very wary of autistic guys. Too many guys use neurodivergence to get a pass on predatory behavior. There are already too many cards men play to avoid being held accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:12 PM
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Thank you for your support <333 I really wish you and your daughter all the best. Society keeps telling women we should stand up for ourselves but when we do it's us against the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:10 PM
8

It's not that he doesn't like fighting, he doesn't like being called out. For every red flag you find, he's usually hiding 2-3 more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:09 PM
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I'm very sorry that happened, I'm proud she stuck to her guns but it's disgusting people went against her for doing the right thing. People like that guy set us all back. Many of us are terrified of inconveniencing others. I hate autism being used as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:06 PM
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It's also one of the reasons why many people don't believe women can be autistic. It's mostly guys that tend to act out - 'cause people just let them and don't hold them accountable. Many girls don't seem autistic 'cause we learn to mask early on due to the disproportionate retribution from society. We don't get a pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:02 PM
20

I looked it up and it's a "seduction technique" for some because they get to touch you and "direct you" like you're some kind of dog; others admit it's simply cheap. People out there trying to frame them as more comfortable. Nah sis, men aren't comfortable with women's silence no matter what they say and I hate talking when I'm walking. ​ Look, walking dates were pretty much the only dates I ever went on with my ex when I was a 19 year-old pickmeisha and he was broke as hell. Guys who weren't br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:58 PM
4

roflmao ​ "We were happy" - you sure were buddy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:48 PM
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I'm autistic too. Rest assured I don't touch people's faces like that, or know any autistic woman that's just allowed like that's a thing. Anecdotal, but I have noticed growing up that autistic boys were allowed to openly ogle and grope. I got my thighs and ass groped on the regular by this autistic guy in middle school and high school; people laughed it off and told me I should show him some skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:46 PM
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"You can take a shower" lol nah he can take a hike
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:42 PM
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You're welcome, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. He was deflecting, wanted to accuse you before you could accuse him. Many guys play that card to put you on the spot 'cause then you become the one needing to defend yourself.
/r/askFDS05/11/20 08:39 PM
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He has two kids but writes like a 13 year old who has just discovered gateway drugs. Lists having a job and his shit together like that's special instead of the least he could do - especially considering he has a family to provide for. "I'm funny" - debatable. All men think they're funny. I thought his likes were supposed to be about activities or things he enjoys and not the living porn category he's looking for. "Lil sarcastic" = enough to laugh at his putdowns, not enough to retaliate. "Mean …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:09 PM
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It's cheating. Reverse the genders and he'd consider it cheating. Some men kill their partners over stuff like this. Divorce him.
/r/askFDS04/11/20 02:07 PM
3

Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:28 PM
10

This. Engaged to a woman and don't miss men one bit, I'm just bummed I still have to deal with them. Mostly here for the precious wisdom. Wish I'd found this sub when I was trying to fit in with compulsory heterosexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:12 AM
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"Pregnant people" lmfao this tells me all I need to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:32 PM
7

"But why, with so many drag queens, is it always the same type of woman? Like, why is it always like, a big and brassy woman? With like, a beehive hairdo and alligator skin shoes? It's like, what is your notion of a woman based on? A housewife in a Far Side cartoon? Why is that what you think femininity is? [...] You went through all the trouble to put on a nice dress, and now you're gonna be rude and bossy to people? It's like, do you know what your version of a lady is a lot like? A guy. You c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:30 PM
2

Also so many guys don't even wash their ass 'cause "that's gay", it's embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:25 PM
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I think it just means a spine. Only men are allowed to have a spine apparently. Women are demonized for having any shred of self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:22 PM
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Lmfao and they're so consumed by it they can't see how one couldn't possibly see the appeal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:21 PM
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When a woman does a tenth of that he calls her a crazy bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:15 PM
2

A blind 3-year-old with no arms could do better in half the time; with all due respect to blind kids with no arms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:23 PM
6

Even George Clooney had work done on him: https://smarteyesexplained.wordpress.com/2009/10/01/george-clooney-admits-that-blepharoplasty-has-improved-his-looks/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:16 PM
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Plot twist: when you do downplay your own attractiveness he's going to tell you you're just fishing for compliments anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:11 PM
9

"We could go for a walk or watch a movie and snuggle" interesting how both options cost him nothing. Dude can't even invest on a decent first date, smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:49 PM
10

Power move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:33 PM
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That's true. Most male-dominated subs have countless petty arguments that can go on for quite a while. I noticed women posters usually know when to make their exit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:33 PM
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Can relate. Honestly most subreddits targeted towards women tend to get invaded by ill-intentioned male-posters. Some subs do a good job moderating, but most just receive too many comments. Hell, look at the difference between the AskWomen and AskMen subs. Men will regularly answer questions meant for women mostly without facing consequences; try answering a question meant for men or chiming in with a different perspective on male dominated subs and folks will bark at you until you leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:31 PM
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Bet you anything you want he's one of those that claim no guy complains about girls being all sexy on Halloween and only other girls judge them negatively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:23 PM
6

I feel bad for the girl that supposedly went on that pathetic excuse for a "date" with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:48 PM
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It rarely if ever ends well, I agree. Speaking from experience. If I'm attracted to someone, I approach them first - men or women. I shoot almost all my shots. Truth is women on average are far more receptive to being approached. ​ Some men reject you just because now they can. They never thought they'd be in the position of rejecting women. Some guys will start playing games because now they can. Ball's in their court. The same men that would normally be ruled by thirst and have no standards wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:33 PM
3

Reverse the genders and I guarantee you a man would comment something like "define genuine..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:18 PM
3

I'd wish something upon him but I swear he sounds like his own worst punishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:09 PM
3

Here for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:25 PM
3

Oof this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:25 PM
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Men hate women for saying the same shit about men that men themselves say all the fucking time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:20 PM
3

Lmfao words to live by
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:15 PM
4

I'd have cackled like a witch during that call. He sounds like the most pitiful "man" in the world. I bet he farts himself to sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:14 PM
4

I agree, plenty of tall girls are smoking hot. One of my #1 girl crushes is Elizabeth Debicki and she's fucking 6'3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:04 PM
11

Power move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:02 PM
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It's funny 'cause plenty of women go for short men but they are usually met with disbelief, suspicion, or even mockery when they're open about it. It's funny 'cause it's not height that's the problem, it's short man syndrome/Napoleon complex. It's funny 'cause when I buy high heels even guys that aren't dating me feel compelled to tell me they can't be seen with me because I make them feel like less of a man - and I'm a fucking midget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:01 PM
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Wish I'd seen this when I was 19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:53 PM
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I'm sorry about your experience and I couldn't be happier you're no longer involved with that scrote. Men tend to inflict their mental illness upon others, especially the women they date. Plus men are the first to say stuff like "don't stick your dick in crazy" anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:04 PM
12

Dude probably wanted you to come over to his place and help him tie his shoelaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:54 PM
8

Those guys would happily go for a shaved goat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:47 PM
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Love that he immediately jumped to serial killer. Scrote's spiraling. Overemotional porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:41 PM
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They can't stand the fact your life rocks as it is. Crab bucket mentality - especially coming from her. "Live-in girlfriend of 5 years" means single woman that got herself stuck babysitting a man-child. Girl got played hard and misery loves company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:39 PM
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If they really cared, they wouldn't leave in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:58 AM
13

She was his mom all along and gets absolutely nothing out of it. So EmPoWeReD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:56 AM
3

"You know what we are" but then you're the one who ends up being blamed for not communicating in a straightforward manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:48 AM
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They claim they want a woman to be feminine, but when she is they deem her shallow, vapid, and ultimately trivial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:47 AM
1

Truer words were never spoken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:45 AM
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"So, long story short" - too late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:27 AM
2

I don't get why Dickie can't just, you know, exercise. ​ Also, most women are pear-shaped (that's why it's also called gynoid shape...). The appeal of the hourglass figure is that it sticks out because it's not as common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:21 AM
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"If someone made fun-" like guys already don't make fun of that kind of stuff. ​ Also, it is different. At least guys with small dicks get to play the card that it's not about the size of the boat, it's about the motion in the ocean. Also, they get to hide the fact they have a small dick until the moment of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:12 AM
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How dare she have an ass?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:37 PM
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I hate that they openly admit they're driven by lust "because tEsToStErOnE, biology duh" and yet women are the ones considered unaccountable, hormonal, and slaves to their instincts/emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:36 PM
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Wholesome! Thank you for sharing this, this is such a sweet story and I hope my friends are able to find someone like your husband! Also ngl it's my dream to raise a little family of dogs, you guys are so lucky!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:26 PM
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"You don't understand male sexuality" How? Their sexuality is all they talk about. They're not exactly mysterious creatures. Also (if she is indeed a woman) that's a lot of bile from someone supposedly okay with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:23 PM
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Exactly. When we acknowledge an asshole, we're making his day. He wins. Men admit they crave a reaction from women, good or bad doesn't matter, and nothing hurts them like being ignored. Also, wit is wasted on a misogynist. We deserve better than wasting time and energy on trying to prove something to someone we don't even respect in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:19 PM
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Men's lowest efforts are treated like heroic feats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:07 PM
14

You know the informed attribute trope? Men have informed authority and until they actually do gain it (if they ever do) it's all fake it till you make it. Notice how they implode when you flip the script on them and treat them with the same level of condescension; it's suddenly unacceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:01 PM
2

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:53 PM
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16) I'm self-centered enough to assume that when women put on clothes, it's for my viewing pleasure only. Women might not usually dress to look nice for me, but the few times they actually do I don't notice one bit. I can and will point at other chicks and ask my girl why she doesn't doll herself up more often, she'd look stunning with the exact kind of clothes I never fail to ignore when she's the one wearing them. I will complain she no longer makes an effort for me, and point out it makes her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:37 PM
12

I love that the picture admits dating as a black man in 2020 means approaching women as if you're browsing products on a shelf and somehow be disappointed no matter how many choices you have. That the one viable option he's willing to contemplate is coincidentally the one with the lightest skin. That it admits that 25 is already old for them. That it admits that the more likely you are to have accumulated experience with men, the more miserable you look. That picture is shaming someone, but it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:03 PM
6

Precisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:55 PM
8

Oof this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:53 PM
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I tracked down the thread on twitter and he later admitted he hadn't slept with a woman in years (read: at all*) and that no one was interested in dating him. It was based on "years of observation and listening to other people's experience" = either all his friends are awful in bed or he lives in a fantasy world where he's interesting and worthwhile. ​ (*) not shaming virgins on principle, I just can't fathom one pretending to be an unquestionable expert. At least be honest. You don't see me cor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:51 PM
5

Enthusiastic consent makes him go limp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:36 PM
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What's sad is this doesn't even surprise me. This is stuff that happens for real. This dude used craigslist to arrange his ex gf's rape ​ I will spit on the grave of every man that claims men are equally at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:34 PM
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Ignore them. There are few things you can do to a LVM that are as painful as silently reminding him he might as well be invisible in our society. Their immediate reaction may not say it, but look at what men cry about online the most. It's not male homelessness, male victims of domestic violence or abuse or rape, or suicide rates. Their most frequent complaint is about being ignored or rejected by women; that's how easy the average man has it - and that's how easy it is for you to hurt his feeli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:02 PM
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Guy's a whole joke and a half. First of all, no human woman would go "just watch porn"; porn makes men terrible in bed and sometimes outright dangerous - especially now with the normalization of violent porn. Second of all, onlyfans lmfao. Third of all, I mostly stumble upon the experiences of women who very much did speak up only to not be listened to until they just gave up. What's it called, the husband trick or something? When a man keeps doing something terribly without listening to your di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:44 PM
5

"Just as a high up" immediately followed by "outside the hierarchy by choice" lol. Nah. A man that chooses to place himself outside a social hierarchy (real or imaginary) doesn't need to remark he's exactly on the same level as the dude at the top of the pyramid. Let me guess, he could totally take on Terry Crews and just "chooses" not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:36 PM
4

I approve wholeheartedly of this message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:24 PM
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That was a great way to put it in terms he could finally understand. I'm glad you managed to get through to him and that you didn't get brushed off with a "that doesn't happen" gem just 'cause he's far less likely to experience that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:23 PM
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It's even more disturbing that they often can't (or won't) empathize even then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:20 PM
9

He's either broke or wants to lower expectations hoping to find someone willing to put up with his cheap ass. "Into investing" comes across as money-smart, not "Walmart" or "free food".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:18 PM
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Sex work empowers only the men benefiting from it. Coming from someone who used to be all "sEx WoRk Is JuSt WoRk"; sure, then being a drug mule is also "just work" - just work I wouldn't encourage or support. ​ People out there being A-ok with sex work until it's their daughter doing it (or someone else they love and care about); then they suddenly realize the stakes involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:09 PM
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Lmfao an ex blamed me for making him feel like dead weight in the relationship. He was dead weight and he came to that realization all on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:50 PM
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Surviving Narcissism is awesome! I think Dr. Les Carter has another, eponymous channel on youtube on emotional health in general. Could the lady you mentioned be Lisa Romano, or perhaps Jill from The Enlightened Target?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:32 PM
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In the process of getting an autism diagnosis. I do think being neurodivergent might have contributed to certain misadventures with LVM in the past, although I'm definitely still 100% accountable for how good or bad I handled them. I'm very happy you finally got out of that awful relationship! I hope you can only continue to thrive from here and that this community can always be there to help you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:48 PM
7

*chokes on tea*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:36 PM
13

This guy gets it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:33 PM
21

Lmfao this is epic, saving this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:32 PM
9

LVM: women are so wasteful also LVM: ew you finished your plate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:31 PM
98

Men can be very decisive about the things that actually interest them. If a man's indecisive about a woman, he's just not that interested. Many people don't want to hear that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:30 PM
25

Dr Ramani rocks, her channel helped me figure out so many things I was blind to. Wish I'd watched her videos before I started dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:23 PM
1

I fully agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:50 PM
2

This was legit my ex. Had hordes of female friends, but couldn't seem to keep a genuine male friend for long at all. He also used that to constantly try and lecture me on stuff about women, or shame me for not acting like his friends (= make terrible decisions like his pickmeisha friends). Going all "I would know, many of my friends are female. X and Y said-" boy idgaf. I got female friends too, and I am a woman. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:48 PM
2

What's his idea of a good first date? Grab a quick coffee together like he was meeting a friend or his sister?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:41 PM
11

Same here, I much prefer working out in the safety and privacy of my own home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:26 PM
7

Thank you so much, saving this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:24 PM
8

Men in general are much more shallow with their physical requirements, and them constantly saying women are the shallow ones is mere projection. This. They like claiming that men are "visual creatures because of evolutionary biology", but we all know what that's code for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:14 PM
10

I've never once met a brave man. Only time I saw men stepping up to the plate was to stop me after I'd already started taking matters in my own hands, like it somehow diminished them or made them look bad. "What's a woman doing with that?" What you certainly didn't volunteer for until your ego was bruised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:11 PM
7

They blame women for a system they created and in which they pride themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:07 PM
1

Couldn't agree more. You said everything I might have to say on the matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:03 PM
37

True for me, but I wish it applied to more of my friends. Most of them are still willing to put up with absolute garbage from guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:02 PM
1

Legit thought this wasn't a thing anymore. He sounds like my grandma's dad: he didn't speak to her for three months after she cut her hair short. Dude's stuck in the 50s. Bet he's the kind of guy who demands you to have long hair but puts you down for "taking ages to get ready".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:57 PM
7

LinkedIn, language exchange sites, the Slack for my university course. I'm nowhere near special in the looks department, wear glasses and no make-up in all my photos and I have a haircut that's supposed to turn off the vast majority of straight men. It's not about looks, it's a number's game. If you're female, they're shooting their shot. They got nothing to lose, they're safe behind their screens. I can't even block people on Slack, so my solution there was removing my picture and shortening my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:51 PM
4

They gotta make it about them somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:30 AM
5

Can confirm. Been looking at rings for my fiancée, all those under $2k look pretty much like glass and they're not that durable. I'm not going to go bankrupt over a ring, but honestly this stuff can be paid for in instalments - there is no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:02 AM
2

She hates the ring lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:58 PM
1

Always busy but the second you got shit to do yourself it's suddenly unacceptable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:50 PM
11

A quality man won't use that kind of petty tactic. Resentment is for weak men. A man that has his shit together will appreciate owning up to your mistake. Accountability is the best way to earn back his trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:48 PM
1

lol and that's the highlight of his existence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:46 PM
16

We should switch. I'll take being slightly uncomfortable for being perceived as a threat over having to be careful someone twice as strong as me on average doesn't decide to inflict permanent physical and psychological damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:20 PM
6

Seems like the default setting for too many guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:31 PM
3

Finally someone said this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:30 PM
2

If she was really fine with all that, that question wouldn't bother her. I'd respect all this if it wasn't for the detail about them being engaged for 8 years. Engaged. Means they're promised to be married - but she's ok about that promise never being fulfilled? I don't believe that. She got played, and she got played hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:29 PM
2

A shut-up ring is really the perfect definition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:28 PM
5

This. "Someday" means never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:26 PM
1

Used to love her and really enjoy her content, but stopped watching once the cool girl narrative became overpowering. She needs to rethink either her attitude or the women she goes for, or both. Coming from someone who dates women too. I can understand the bill thing, 'cause if I'm asking you out I'm obviously paying, but that's as far as I can go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:22 PM
2

"So Ben picks up the slack, even though he's the breadwinner" - Ben is now the average woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:59 PM
3

Agreed. They keep doing it because someone falls for it. My life's gotten a lot better ever since I stopped even acknowledging them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:54 PM
2

Oh yeah. Don't get me wrong, sometimes a canonically hot guy will harass the one girl that's not as into him - but that's not as frequent. There are lower stakes for attractive men. If you're not into him, the next one will be. The stakes are higher for unattractive men. They've bet everything on the one woman that gave them the time of the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:49 PM
1

Does he know many plumbers and electricians would still out-earn me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:42 PM
2

I want to say yes, due to an ex trying to play it cool like we were going to be fwb after I broke up with him (lol) - but at the same time I think all men who ever approached me did it with sex in mind, not romance. Romance is seen more as something to put up with and exchange for sex. The only person who approached me with romance in mind as opposed to sex was a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:31 PM
6

So he's 5'5'' and 55.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:18 PM
15

"How do you do, fellow kids?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:17 PM
3

roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:17 PM
2

That's true - or they ask if you got the joke. I got both the joke and the second-hand embarrassment. I refuse to fake laughter; insincere laughter is worse than crickets, and I know from personal experience as not all my jokes land either - I just don't take it out on my audience. ​ If a woman tells a joke unsuccessfully, women aren't funny; if a man tells a joke unsuccessfully, you must have no sense of humor. At least that's how that kind of guy frames it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:08 PM
1

lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:43 PM
18

Never spending that kind of money on a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:25 PM
11

Lol that's probably my first boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:18 PM
7

Was about to say, interesting a black man would choose the picture of a black woman for his article (more like a lengthy brain fart) on supposedly unattractive women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:57 PM
13

Can confirm. At my most attractive by men's standards I received the shittiest treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:55 PM
6

That's just revenge for the bullying he had to face as a black guy with a girl's name (yes, in this century it's a girl's name). Also, no one's a "former" incel. He wants to sound like he pulls, but it's clear he doesn't. ​ Most women are attractive to men, they're wired that way, it's not a feat - but all women that prove a fool wrong become instantly unattractive to him. ​ His advice isn't sound, no one can stop time and being submissive and putting up with bs isn't going to help anyone. I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:52 PM
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It's hilarious that they need to feel needed. They're hyperaware of how disposable they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:12 PM
17

Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:02 PM
41

It came from pity laughs being mistaken for genuine approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:01 PM
28

That's fucked up, your ex was disgusting. I'm sorry he tried that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:22 PM
19

No truly straight man is obsessed with anal. Cmv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:15 PM
8

Precisely! Reddit loves the phrase "play stupid games, win stupid prizes" but only when it applies to a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:47 PM
70

My first relationship with a male was literally this. If after a year there's no real intention of sharing an actual future together, ditch him and move on to greener pastures. There's no "we'll just see what happens" that's valid. No HVM pulls that bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:16 PM
50

Same here, only it was 4 years. I'm only happy I used him too and we barely ever had sex (limp dick from porn addiction).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:10 PM
6

Don't forget the sunglasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:04 PM
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Most people who've questioned me about wearing make-up were guys, and they wouldn't let go. "Most women wear make-up" ... and? "Why don't you wear it?" I don't need it on a daily basis, I only wear it occasionally, and I like my face. "But most women-" can do whatever the fuck they want without my behavior being a reflection on theirs. Scrotes say they don't care about this stuff and prefer natural women, but they're lying. It's kind of like they were asking how dared I not make myself more pres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:03 PM
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This. Confirmed by studies. They may not know what they're looking at, but they're sure drawn to it. When you point this out, they say something like "so you admit women wear make-up for men" - boy bye. Your attention is an inevitable byproduct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:00 PM
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It's 100% like that. My ex was laying face down and as he saw I was behind him he covered himself and timidly went "let's not do anything to my ass" with this sort of scared grimace. "Cool let's not do anything to my ass either." "You said you'd try." "You said this relationship was equal and that you cared about me, and yet you're scared to be on the receiving end of something you're very eager to do to me." And that's how we never tried anal. This was the same guy who said he wouldn't do anal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:55 AM
37

Finally someone has an epic way to shut down that kind of gross insistence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:49 AM
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Love how on another sub there are bitter comments about her being "salty" and a fool for acknowledging an obvious troll. Salty? She's in complete control, and they should be happy since she's giving that troll the only female attention he'll ever receive. Probably out of pity. Ironically her detractors are far saltier and dumber. "Yeah but she didn't answer the question, how is she a captain if she's just a woman" because she got promoted. Unless we're questioning the basis on which the Navy, a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:48 AM
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This dude at 30 had a receding hairline, a limp dick, saggy balls, and gamer moobs but ok. Lol my fiancée (38) got dumped by a dude saying he needed "younger, hotter women" and then he came back desperate for intelligent conversation. Missed the train, dude. Men would rather fuck a 20 year old than settle down with her. Notice how most women don't get married that young; men tend to marry women older than that nowadays, the average marriage isn't what it used to be. ​ Also yuck, reminds me of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:41 AM
6

I would love that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:19 AM
13

Think it must've been a man, perfect set up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:19 AM
13

Kudos to him for acknowledging his dirtbag nature, but women already look out for this kind of stuff. Women already tell women about this stuff. We get called paranoid and men-hating for being well aware this kind of stuff happens and not wanting other women to go through the same shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:59 PM
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I'm sorry you had that experience, but congratulations on starting your own business! That's an awesome achievement and an important step. Fuck all those jealous little shits. LVM suck ass, what you described sounds a lot like my ex acted. Started out admiring me for my "strength and intelligence" and then reached a point where he was endlessly resentful about the very same traits and constantly tried to bring me down, downplay my achievements, or downright sabotage me. In the meantime he made s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:44 PM
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