If he’s stagnant in his career or not where other people his age are career-wise, just know that it means he spent all his evenings and weekends, for several years, sinking his time into meaningless pursuits. Most likely trying to hookup with women and leading them on, or even playing video games and porn.

The career gap between LVM and HVM catches up in their 30s where you see players struggling to advance because their priorities were out of order.

If he tells you he’s been meaning to get another degree or do something career-related, remember, if he wanted to, he would have already.