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I've lived with men who don't shower or brush their teeth (dad and brother) for days so I totally get it. She's not just leaving because he smells, what happens when they don't shower often is the body odor clings so the entire house starts to smell like them. Also, people with low standards of hygiene apply the same behavior to other aspects of life. They tend to also have low standards of behavior and how to treat others. Oh and their living area is usually as filthy. My dad would pee in bottl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:38 AM
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I told a guy I was out on a date with that I'm a software developer and he said "Wow, I always thought coding was hard but I guess it's not since you are doing it and you are a woman. Maybe I should try it too". Same guy, when I praised the chef and said the food was delicious and I could never have made something so delicious told me that I should be ashamed that a man can cook better than me. And he was suprised when I blocked him and called me from another number asking me to unblock him. Ano…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:50 PM
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I never really understood this. I'm a Nigerian immigrant and somehow fellow immigrant men will still find a fellow Nigerian immigrant woman to marry, even the ones that were born here still often marry Nigerian ladies born here (At least the ones I know). We are all black. In fact Africans both male and female tend to even be darker skinned than our AA brothers and sisters but when it comes to marriage, we are each other's preferences, so I never understood AA men having "preferences" that were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:31 AM
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Exactly! I keep seeing this nonsense all over reddit and hope young ladies are not falling for it. Men in the real world who are interested in a relationship don't expect sex as a way for you to show your interest. You show your interest by being interested in being around them, going on dates, talking on the phone etc. Even the lvm who I dated all followed my lead when it comes to intimacy. It's the really degenerate men that think that women should use sex to show interest. Don't let them fool…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:48 AM
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The difference between hv fathers and lv ones is stark. Many of my Uncles are hvm and when I talk with them about their kids, they always tend to have "future plans" in the works, all the time. For example one is already planning the ways he will support his daughter through getting settled and thriving in high school, another one is already planning how to speed up his son's reading comprehension so he's ahead when he gets to the next grade. They talk a lot about their kids. My dad on the other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:11 PM
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Dated a guy who said he only had women friends because men are too competitive. Was a huge whiner who couldn't handle real life. Not having male friends or being able to flow naturally with men is a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:28 AM
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If she were liking guy's shirtless pics how would it look?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 06:39 PM
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Take adult swim lessons at a ymca.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:56 AM
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Cowardly? I don't think so. You were brave enough to answer the call of your higher self asking for a better environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:38 PM
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Most people can't but there's that small percentage of guys who can and you never know so don't stop vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:11 PM
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Hmm, this one is a bit odd. Unless you have a partner that is cool with this (God knows what he said before they got married) travelling internationally every two months doesn't make sense for many full time employees, regardless of how much they make and it doesn't sound like his job is fully remote right now. I think she is better off not being married, save her money and live her travelling dreams alone or find a partner that wants the same lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:24 PM
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This is really good advice. I've been saved from entering dangerous relationships thanks to my friendship with older women. One saved me by me plainly that one guy was too old for me, another saved me by telling me the other guy made money in dishonest ways, another saved me by telling me the guy approaching me had also approached her sister and all her sister's friends (at the same time). The sad thing about all these scenarios is that other people knew these things but they didn't bother to te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:22 PM
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The question shows extreme laziness and that the person doesn't know what they want on a personal level. What someone brings to the table is for you to quietly evaluate (both parties should be doing this) as you get to know them and compare it with your values and what you want in a partner. Then you decide if they are the kind of person you want. But people who don't have the ability to introspect and set personal values just want you to do the work for them and basically audition for a role in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:21 PM
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I haven't found a guy who has offered me something better than what I have now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:44 PM
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Spitting on the lady is something they do in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:46 AM
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Mine is simple, requested to follow on IG, I deleted the request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:05 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:58 PM
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I had this conversation with a male coworker. He was talking about waiting till his 40s to marry because there's no reason to settle down before then and he can marry a 20 something year old, I was like that's fine, the only issue is the possibility birth defects/developmental challenges because of the higher age of the father and he because crestfalled. He hadn't even considered that at all. Seems like people are really ignorant about this. The chances are also slightly higher when the mother i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:53 PM
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Not suprised at all. Porn use can warp normal thinking. My dad was a heavy porn user, and he didn't even bother to hide it from his children. Then we became teenagers and we noticed him looking at our breasts instead of face when talking with us. Even as adults he still does it, and my sister even admitted that when she goes over to visit she still makes sure not to pack tight fitting shirts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:07 PM
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A woman at my church tried to set me up for marriage with her 35 year old son. I was 21, so I'm not suprised those older women didn't think anything was wrong. Some just don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:51 PM
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This is an important conversation for women to have. I also wonder why some women will get extremely defensive when you even suggest that there are ways to spot potentially abusive men, almost as if women should just always have faith in men's goodness and be helpless when the it turns out that is not the case, like a vow a helplessness. I don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:43 PM
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Hmm. This is something I've always done since I was a teenager. I learned that the chance of random men stopping me in the street/coming into my space to force conversations reduces a lot when you don't allow for eye contact. Honestly I thought every woman already did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:09 PM
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Red tarp 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:28 PM
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Sometimes I put on full make up just to take pictures of my face to admire my handiwork. I don't do social media and have no interest sharing the pics with anyone. I just get in the mood sometimes to play with my makeup and doll myself up and watch tv. I've been doing this since my teen years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:27 PM
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I'm a full stack developer and our ux designer is part of our team and is expected to give updates everyday even when he's working on stuff that is not for our team perse, or even the current sprint. Besides what sense does it make to call someone for a scrum call and not have them speak? The idiocy is beyond me. Also, the work of the ux designer affects developers very much so it's ridiculous he suggested otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:47 PM
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And in another part of the country someone got proposed to with 5 rings to choose from or even have all. The irony of life lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:16 PM
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I also had my first relationship at 25 and when he started taking me for granted, it wasn't much effort to dump him quickly because I had been peacefully single for long enough to know that it was wayyyyy better than putting up with lvm behavior. Like you mentioned never having to deal with relationship drama early in life makes it easier to not tolerate it when it shows up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:55 PM
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Buy an adalock. That way no one can come in without you opening your door. Its like $15 on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Portable-Security-Additional-Traveling-Apartment/dp/B08L7DNXT9/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?dchild=1&keywords=addalock&qid=1618652032&sprefix=adaloc&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&smid=A5MI14WE0WGQZ&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUExV05CV1dMRzdIS0I3JmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMDQzMDQxM1A1UFNZMzMxOFNaOCZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwOTYxNjE3TkNOTkU4UU5LR0JLJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfcGhvbmVfc2VhcmNoX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:33 AM
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Block him on LinkedIn so he can't find you there anymore. Then make your stuff private so he can't access your contacts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:05 PM
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This is precisely why I moved out after college despite my parents refusals. I hated living with them. My Aunty kept telling me I'll move out when I get married, an elder at church said if I move out men will think I'm wayward lol. I signed a lease, furnished my place and told them that I was leaving. I'm forever done with asking for permission to live my life as I like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:54 PM
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You sure he wasn't demon possessed? Sounds like demon possession to me lol. Thank God he's an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:39 PM
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I had a video call date with a guy who seemed decent and the first thing he said was "what kind of phone are you using?" Then he actually asked when did I buy it 2001? I've never had issues video calling with my s8 before so I'm sure he was just negging and it was so off putting. Why does anyone think such a strategy would work? Are they filtering for women with low self esteem? Shouldn't you want someone with high self esteem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:10 AM
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It happens a lot in cultures where marriage is a must for a woman to be seen as valid. I've experienced it myself, especially from newly married women. And yeah, I agree this poster is likely not a woman. I've never heard a woman call herself/other women girl/female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:44 AM
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Honestly, I've never once felt a need to be "empowered". I am already powerful as a human being and as a woman, and what I want is for that power to not be taken from me by lv boyfriends, husbands, family members, colleagues, harmful societal norms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:41 AM
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Once a guy starts talking about mental or emotional problems to me, I ask how they are taking care of themselves. Are you seeing a therapist? If the answer is no therapist and no clear system of taking care of themselves, that's it for me. If you have a problem that you don't try to find solutions/ways to cope, that's a sign of irresponsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:23 PM
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Bride price is part of the marriage rites. It's weird but it's a good cultural reminder that marriage is a huge and life changing step for women. Some families will even charge the equivalent of a $1 dollar just to show that they are respecting traditional not trying to make money. The marriage is not legal without paying bride price so if the guy can't respect tradition for your sake then it's a big no. Tradition is important and so long as its not harmful to you, there's no good reason other t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:28 PM
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I wasn't ready for number 20. What???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:34 PM
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What do you want? That's most important. Do you want a guy with that kind of lifestyle or not? He may be completely fine with the way he lives, it's up to you to decide if you are. If you plan on being married/long term, really imagine life with this guy the way he is now, like the day to day and decide if it will add to or remove from your current state of happiness now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:13 AM
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How's she planning on making his life profitable? I really want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:47 PM
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What's the point of watching things that affect you mentally? I even shamelessly block my eyes or fast forward when there is a gruesome murder scene in what I'm watching. If something is disturbing to you and you still press on to watch it when you know it will affect you mentally, what could you possibly gain?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:24 PM
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African here. I turned 25 this year and I've already systematically started cutting off from all the lvm and pickme women in the family that might put pressure on me to settle for any kind of guy. I'm at the point where I'm almost giving up dating African guys all together. The lack of respect even from the first date is unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:44 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I've definitely been overly nice, accommodating, and courteous and it's really not doing any favors at all.
/r/askFDS26/02/21 09:42 PM
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My Dad is a narcissist for sure. I don't know what to say about my mum. She let a lot of unacceptable things happen to us as kids. I sympathize with her because I know she herself is a victim of his abuse but she doesn't agree to leave no matter what he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:31 PM
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I've always known even as a kid which is just sad. My dad used to make us wash his underwear, I hated it and complained to my mum but she claimed it was normal for a father to make his daughters wash his underwear, so me and my sis had to wash the underwear with skid marks on it. And of course if they weren't washed well enough, we got blamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:24 AM
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Butt floss!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:05 PM
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How does not dating men anymore mean you are in a negative place? Are all the women dating men in a 'positive' place?. No offense but your friend is thinking like a simpleton. Since when did dating people signify that someone is not unhappy? I just can't lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:30 AM
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Congratulations in advance for the MD/PHD!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:32 PM
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It's like some men never really grow up mentally past the age of 4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:19 PM
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My mum is a nurse so I guess she can handle those things better but seeing her empty the bottles into the toilet for the first time was immensely disgusting and disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:39 PM
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Oh this is so true. Me and my Sister figured out this behavior in my brother even as kids. He would spend hours sweeping the floor to the point where someone would get frustrated and just do it. He clogger the sink many times when he had to do dishes so my mum decided he should never do dishes again. My dad has never done his own dishes before because it's wrong to ask the "man of the house" to do his dishes. My brother, like many men simply figured out what works for him. But now that me and my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:32 PM
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Many lvm are like this. Lack of empathy and needing to feel important/get attention will lead to doing things to get a rise out of women. My ex actually said he does things just to mess with me and somehow expected me to find it funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:47 PM
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My dad is exactly like this, just add in also not flushing the toilet after he uses it. What kind of person doesn't flush the toilet?. He also pees in bottles and leaves them all over his room until my mum empties them for him. Our entire downstairs area has a bad smell you can smell from the hallway because his room has a lot of smell and filter that spreads to the whole downstairs area. He also doesn't care to lock the door when using the bathroom which really made us uncomfortable as kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:40 PM
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Another silly reason is to have children to show him Love. But usually they have no plans of being there for the difficult parts of the parent child dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:41 PM
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Porn sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:27 PM
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My Aunty did the equivalent of this. They got married. 18 years after she still has go beg money from her younger siblings 10 years younger than her so that her children don't starve. Her husband also asks them for money. Funny enough my Aunty and the children are so skinny and malnourished but he is really fat 🤔.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:03 AM
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Preach girl! Our Nigerian sis has spoken!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:59 AM
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They are so beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:34 AM
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I've had men in their 30s and 40s pursue me since I was a teenager. Even though I didn't know anything about fds then I knew something was off about it. In a way you are right to pity women my age because all those men were dangerously low value and immediately tried to establish dominance over me even just in the dating phase. One of them even straight up told me that the most important thing to men is sex and food and really good women know this and make sure their man is not lacking any of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:20 PM
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Someone mentioned her earlier and I went to check her out. Something is just off about her. Some of the stuff she says makes sense but something about her is just off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:57 PM
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I'm lucky to still have my best friend from high school and college in my life. Although one is in another state and another is in another country, we remain close friends and confidants to each other, celebrating our achievements and grieving our failures together and have even made huge sacrifices for each other. The reality is no man can ever offer that sister bond we have and neither of us care if we ever get married or have kids, were just okay with living out our respective life stories an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:46 AM
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I'm 3 mins in and I still don't get the point. Edit:::: 4 mins in: Looks like he's encouraging people to give up if they can't get women to sleep with. Edit:::::I've given up after 5 mins. Seems like another whiner who thinks the world owes him female attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:17 PM
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Wow that just says it all. This guy probably also forgets birthdays and important events. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:58 PM
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It's LVM that do this. I've seen many hvm getting married and they don't act aloof at all, they are very involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:55 PM
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There's nothing unpopular about this. My Dad cheats on my mum and I know he doesn't love or even like us. We've known all our lives but my mum choses to live in delusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:21 PM
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The delusion is bad. I've had cane using old men ask me out and act suprised when I said no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:08 AM
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Flattery/unearned praise is the usual give away for love bombers and lvm who don't have any value they plan to add to your life. Women who grew up in abusive/emotionally neglectful homes are more susceptible to this because we hardly received praise for anything. Flattery is never innocent. Regular people not seeking anything from you will present their compliment/admiration at the appropriate time and appropriate occasion and go about their day. They also usually will complement a specific thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:06 AM
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Oh wow didn't know kids did that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:43 AM
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Being played? I've never seen a child lie about being hungry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:10 PM
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Take men's advice with a serving spoon of salt not a grain lol. A lot of guys don't have the ability to perspective shift so they have no idea what a good life is for a woman other than what fantasy they have, even when they mean well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:24 AM
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-Cheating. -Anti social behavior -Disrespect -Abuse of any form -Immaturity ( covers bad hygiene, financial irresponsibility, inability to take care of oneself) -Inconsistency -Non provider mentality -Misogyny of any kind -Vices eg drug habit, gambling, porn addiction -Shorter than me. -Unpacked life baggage - Children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:53 PM
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I don't take relationship advice from men. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:48 PM
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Well said!! I would go to your church if you had one 😂. You are preaching the word!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:25 PM
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Fellow Software engineer doing a victory church dance for you 💃💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:08 PM
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I never understood the marriage system in India. I'm my west Africa culture the man and his family pay bride price. Not exactly better because the reason is also misogynistic-- they are compensating the family for how much they invested in the girl and all the investment they are losing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:16 AM
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My strategies are: 1.Visit my Aunty ( we always hug welcome and goodbye). Go to church (although I've lost my beliefs in organized religion, I still have a lot of solid friendships/acquaintances with a couple of people there and we hug when we see each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:16 AM
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Especially since even one month's rent is a lot. Most cities in the us have 1 bedrooms going for at least 1k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:01 AM
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Why do women always try to work with wierd situations that don't work for them instead of trying to figure out how to manage it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:34 AM
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I was at the cash register at a dollar store on the line to pay and two guys, both at least in their 40s told me they were here to buy a present for a 10 year old boy and asked what kind of present would a 10 year old boy like. I was wearing a nice dress so they definitely did mistake me for someone who worked there. Personally, I would never walk into a store without thinking about what present I want to buy and surely would not go randomly people what I should buy. It's like some men assume al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:27 AM
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What do you do for fun? I don't do anything for fun. Everything I do has a purpose, it's either for my entertainment/general enjoyment, my education/knowledge building, service to others, it's my responsibility etc. I know it doesn't make me sound like fun to be around but that's just the truth. Not everyone looks out for thing to thrill themselves with. Regular life works fine for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:53 PM
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Block block block. Think about it, of all the things to say to a woman you really like and have good intentions for, why pick the things that are insulting and disempowering? Besides the guy seems like one of those men that enjoy riling women up while they act calm and reinforce their theory of women being "irrational" even though it's all a deliberate ploy. Please run. He knows what he is doing. He will deny it if course and try to act cool, basically training you to accept being insulted. Agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:51 AM
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Oh please God let this not become a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:06 PM
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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me you are joking. A man moderating feminist subs? I always took it for granted it was women mods on very women focused sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:57 PM
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Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:36 PM
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Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm gonna stop going over there and just keep a relationship with my mum over the phone. I've thought about confronting him but judging from his past narcissistic behavior, I KNOW he will angrily deny and my mum will be in danger because he blames her for everything that he does wrong.
/r/askFDS06/12/20 09:36 PM
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There's really nothing to handle. You worth is for you to define, nobody else gets a say. Usually the judgment single moms get is based on ignorance and projection. This is your life story not someone else's and you, as a good woman and mother have decided that this man is not good for you and your kids. Period. That's all there is to say. You dont need to explain or justify yourself to the world especially not to men who don't have clue of the reality that women face. Also your family members a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:18 PM
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This is true. Especially in a world where men have advantages that women don't. "Potential" is something you recognize in children and teenagers but once someone is a full grown adult, you have to place more weight on what you are seeing in front of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:09 PM
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Yep, you described it perfectly. The religion is christianity, the very fundamentalist kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:47 PM
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I almost can't remember anything from who I was at 20. I'm 25 next year. The difference in maturity and reality is HUGE. This is time for you to start solidifying your adult womanhood foundation. I have aunties in their late 40s too and hearing them being criticized by LVM Uncles made me rush into a LV relationship with an idiot. It did not feel good and it was my one HVM Uncle that opened my eyes and made me realize I was not dating my equal at all. He advised me to date basically the fds way (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:20 PM
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My heart hurts for my mother. She still stays because she can't see a way out, is too religious for her own good and has settled into a cycle of learned helplessness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:34 PM
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Request to comment
/r/askFDS29/11/20 02:40 AM
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Ridiculous. As if women are born therapist. Also notice how the man is not the skin tone as the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:30 PM
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Actually, I think you won, even though he did break up with you the fact is that you are no longer dating a man who cheats and lies. His behavior is not about you and he will keep doing stuff like this to other women. Where you lose is if you take him back if he comes back. Take heart, stuff like this can hurt you deep into your soul. Go on a journey to heal and get yourself feeling better. You will be okay, I promise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:47 AM
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24 year old virgin here, I regularly use vibrators and toys so it's not that I'm lacking sexual desire. Even in past relationships I never thought of having sex just because I was in a relationship and frankly none of my relationships got to the point where full trust was established enough to have sex. Intimacy (kissing, even hugging) with men is progressive for me and only happens when I feel like it's the right time. I don't even kiss a guy until my feelings get to that point and If a guy tri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:17 PM
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I watched this with my mouth wide open all through. Unbelievable. Is there a shortage of men? Also 10 days? How desperate is she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:45 PM
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No, even if he thinks he is helping, he's not. He just doesn't want the men in the church going to prison or being deported. Usually it ends up with the woman being advised to be more submissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:53 PM
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I've found that men who insist and announce that they have a quality (like my ex who kept saying he's a good listener) usually don't have it at all. The best case scenario is that he this is a manifestation of emotional immaturity like the other commenter said, worst case is that he's using this to hide a very jealous possessive personality both from himself and from you. It's also really wierd. Why not just say "I'm disappointed our date isn't going to happen but it's okay, I understand you're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:27 PM
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A woman in my church called the police during a domestic violence incident at church. The guy got deported. The next Sunday my Pastor announced in church that women shouldn't call the police when such things are happening, they should call him. After some months he said no one should call him anymore because he is now "overwhelmed " with women calling him. I've I've never been more disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:22 PM
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Ikr? The degree is impressive and then a business like that? Girl you are killing it!!! I'm proud you exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:38 AM
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I unfollowed my ex after breaking up and took my ig private. He sent a follow request when he discovered. Kept texting everyday to check up on me and would call if I didn't respond. I told him I wanted space. He then asked if I could help him on his coding project since I'm a developer and he wants to get into coding. I said no, I don't have time. Then he said he was feeling sick maybe he has the coronavirus. I said yeah maybe, it could also just be a cold. Feel better. He finally left me alone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:15 AM
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This has never happened to me. This guy is a special kind of annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:04 AM
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Add church member!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:59 AM
10

It's when I joined fds that I finally began to see myself as a human being, not just a female body with utilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:51 PM
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Searches for teens are really high among men. That's disturbing and creepy. Teenagers are children to me. I guess not everyone thinks like that. Also notice how high milf searches are for men despite the cultural narrative of "the wall" that women hit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 04:12 PM
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I'm 24 and literally would look at a 21 year old as a child. Because my maturity at 21 is NO where near where I am now. When I was 22 a 34 year old asked me out and within 3 days said he wanted to be in a relationship with me. He was suprised anytime I said a straight up no or questioned his ideas. He literally did not expect that I would do be sensible even though he would constantly praise me for being more mature than my age. When I showed the maturity he praised he would tell me how shocked …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:00 PM
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Some guy from my church that I didn't know added me on LinkedIn and started bothering me. I didn't recognize him at all and I told him off on LinkedIn. He then approached me in church. He wouldn't take no for an answer and it took our Pastor to get him to leave me alone. Quality men don't go asking for dates on LinkedIn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:18 PM
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That last sentence should be on every marriage counselors wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:31 PM
12

This is a THING. A guy who cannot hold his own among his own gender is a red flag. My ex told me he has few male friends because they usually lose interest in him and that men are too competitive. Desperate me didn't take this as a red flag. He even didn't like his own father for some ridiculous reasons. I realized that he's basically a chronic extremely clingy and directionless mummy's boy who was an only child for 10 years and expects the world to cater to and nurture him like his mother. Oh a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:27 PM
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I'm grateful for this question. It's not discussed enough because of obvious reasons but personal religious beliefs shape peoples lives like nothing else. I grew up evangelical Christian, with a lot of added cultural aspects. I've long since dropped a lot of the beliefs preached by christianity and organized religion and moved on to pursuing spirituality because there are a lot of harmful christain beliefs that I think can stand in the way of any human beings well being, particularly women. Some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:55 PM
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I completely feel your pain. I'm also 24 and from a religious minority group that expects women to be married basically as soon as they hit their 20s. Being single is a problem to be prayed away as far as they are concerned. You need to find a way to live on your terms and really see yourself, not just the person you should be. If you didn't have a masters degree, good job or were not part of that religion, who would you be? Strip away all you identities for a moment and get to know that person …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:59 PM
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I just want to cry for this girl. It's actually really sad what she is going through. That guy is using her as a sex toy and degrading her and she's so conditioned to be nice that she can't see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:46 AM
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He actually said people who are successfully in dating don't post on reddit? So what about all the posts on relationships or relationship advice? Aren't they "successfully" dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:34 PM
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Yep that's it. There's many of them i churches. When I finally got my first big girl software developer jobs, my mum told EVERYONE in her womens prayer group. On Sunday one of the women, a Pastors wife came to congratulate me, and then asked me "but how will you cope with finding a husband since men are scared of very successful women" with a lot of concern on her face like this was a serious problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:50 PM
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I have a theory. It could be that the guy has a fantasy in his head where he gets married and everything is just wonderful and stress free and the woman is 100% his, her only purpose in life is to be his caretaker/cheerleader. Pregnancy and children change a womans life and priorities and also the marriage so the fantasy is easily destroyed. Even when the guy wanted the child the reality of life with kids is unexpected and the resentment starts. It also don't help that men are not faced with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:18 AM
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The Superlatives Swindle-- reminds me of an ex who used to say that Jesus Christ is the only guy who is a better listener than him. In reality he's a worse listener than the general population.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:23 PM
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You only get one life. No do overs, when you're dead your are dead. So I think it's better to live that one life on your terms. Also I cannot understand how using a sperm bank makes someone a whore. Also marrying do divorce....where are your people getting these ideas from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:37 AM
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It's a mentality that I could never understand. My mum, whose husband has beat her, cheated on her, emotionally abused, financially abused her and threatened to kill her and himself before continues to pressure my Aunty who is in her 40s to just marry anybody. Even the one's that are already showing red flags just so that the family won't have an unmarried sister. I've also found that the family members that really love and care about you not your role in the family structure don't pressure you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:37 PM
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Yes!!!! I love this!! Congratulations on the company. I'm happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:36 PM
6

It's not. I liked her channel at first but after she posted on her site about "feminine careers" paths for women who wanted a hypergamous lifestyle, I realized something was off. Some of the paths she suggested were low paying and some laughable and unrealistic. Married or not a woman should be able to take pride in her accomplishments as a human being. I don't like it when people make femininity seem like something you have to work hard to maintain otherwise "masculine" men won't want you. It t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:47 PM
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Me neither 🤣. The women on this sub are really funny and creative. Love you all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:54 PM
68

I was dating a LVM once who drove so fast I was scared. He thought it was fine since he never got a ticket. I was stupidly in love and didn't have any self respect then, but my spirit was constantly vexed anytime we went out and he drove. One week into dating my friend who lives in another state called me that she had a dream where she was crying that I had died in a car wreck with some guy she didn't know. I had not told anyone about the relationship yet so I just took it as a sign from God tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:09 PM
2

Of all the people he knows it's someone he barely talks to he's going to ask for money? No, you don't want to go down that road. I'd say you did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:28 PM
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Number 13-- I had an LVM ex who messaged me a few hours to my exam when he knew I was studying and preparing to tell me he had been fired (for a very stupid mistake that was his fault). He could have waited for my exam to be over but he kept messaging over and over until I told him I had to study and would call him after the exam. He still kept messaging me. I didn't do as good as I could have in the exam because I was rattled. Thank God I passed the exam. When I told him that I did pass, he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:56 AM
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My dad is the same. Just add in pornography and physical abuse. He's blocked now from my phone and I feel so free and happy. Like I am now an actual human being. Start enforcing boundaries and you will feel more confidence which will help cure pickmesha tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:25 PM
1

Too many adultified black girls. It's so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:31 AM
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