FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda

christmasforoutlaws · 2020-10-23T20:19:44+00:00

It's not my job to care about you.
You don't have the right to complain about my bad habits.
My emotions are the only valid ones.
Tell me what you want and I'll decide if it's worth doing.
My judgement is the only thing that matters. I don't have to elaborate or explain my shitty words/behaviors/thoughts if I don't feel like it.
Don't make me do emotional labor. That's your job.
Don't call me on my past bullshit because I don't remember it anymore. I'll turn it around on you to cover my own ass.
Don't expect compliments. You're in my life because you're convenient for me.
I can say what I want and you're not allowed to be upset about it. If you do get hurt, I'll blame it on you for "misinterpreting" me.
I am only capable of doing the bare minimum.
My entertainment is more important than your presence in my life.
I will go out of my way to inconvenience you and others if you make me question my abilities.
Womanly interests or hobbies are stupid. They're not worth paying attention to.
I'll go out of my way to avoid conflict with you because it's inconvenient. I refuse to think about how my actions impact other people.
I reserve the right to demean you whenever I feel like it.
Your appearance isn't important (except when it is, of course).
Don't ask what I'm thinking about because you won't want to hear the answer.
Women's fashion is dumb.
Women's fashion is dumb and inconvenient.
Trying to look attractive for my partner requires too much effort and/or is "gay."
I don't care what you think of my blatant disrespect and abuse because you've been conditioned to accept it. I know you're not leaving me.

thatbitchfrom6C · 2020-10-23T19:40:38+00:00

I couldn't finish reading...my vagina was closing itself for ever.

theawkwardalli · 2020-10-23T19:17:26+00:00

I’ll make it easy

1)-21) I’m a misogynistic asshole

ulqui4nn4 · 2020-10-23T20:02:36+00:00

also notice how it says "men" and "girls"

myousername · 2020-10-23T19:01:52+00:00

I'll start.

1) men are not mind readers

Translation: "I have bad people skills so I don't pick up on body language or social cues like a normal person would. And even if I do, I choose to ignore it. And even if you tell me in plain language what you want, I'm still going to ignore it. Because I don't give a shit about you or your needs."

staywiththecrown · 2020-10-23T19:06:27+00:00

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headmatriarchkoko · 2020-10-23T19:33:37+00:00

This is actually a great red flag list. If any man does anything on the list you know it's time to drop him 🥰💅🏼❤

Accomplished_March97 · 2020-10-23T22:36:43+00:00

2: I don’t mind getting molecules of my piss and shit on everything In the bathroom, including towels and toothbrushes, and neither should you and don’t complain about it either.

I’m so sick of the toilet argument. SHUT THE FUCKING LID YOU NASTY ANIMAL!!

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-10-23T19:37:20+00:00

16) I'm self-centered enough to assume that when women put on clothes, it's for my viewing pleasure only. Women might not usually dress to look nice for me, but the few times they actually do I don't notice one bit.
I can and will point at other chicks and ask my girl why she doesn't doll herself up more often, she'd look stunning with the exact kind of clothes I never fail to ignore when she's the one wearing them. I will complain she no longer makes an effort for me, and point out it makes her look older. She should be more confident, wear something sexier.

creamtart_ · 2020-10-23T20:51:30+00:00

Yet if we mirrored all of the “rules” of male behaviour, we would be cold heartless bitches. Oh well, better to be a bitch than a pushover.

2020-10-23T19:43:36+00:00

I will not explain myself as I own you.
Women are for complaining to...free therapy.

18-19 "Stop spending money on what you like, so we can spend it on the expensive toys I like"

Samvanderkamp123 · 2020-10-23T19:40:02+00:00

Number 12.... Yo, Columbus was fucking lost.

Silverpool2018 · 2020-10-23T21:19:31+00:00

LOL this is so damn funny.

For number 5, men hardly accept NO for an answer. They'd rather get a brain aneurysm than accept a NO as a full sentence from women.

Also, whoever wrote number 21, that sleeping on the couch is like camping, it is just the saddest sentence that I've read today. You don't deserve camping bro, you definitely deserve to sleep on couch for saying that though.

jjlew922 · 2020-10-23T22:31:30+00:00

“21 Rules of the Toxic Man” ... bunch of immature toddler bullies....

7) Anything I gaslight you about 6 mos ago can’t me used against me once you figure out my idiotic and repulsive behavior. In fact, I’m so dumb I can’t remember anything past 7 days.

LMAO this was good 🤣🤣🤣

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-10-23T23:08:54+00:00

Damn and they have the audacity to end this with "I'm in shape, I'm round".

Your Honor, I'd like to submit this as article 1482 of evidence pointing to the fact that ugly men do not treat women better.

DrildoBagurren · 2020-10-23T19:33:28+00:00

Most of these make no sense- like 15?- and they wouldn't like to be told any of these "rules" by a woman they thought was theirs.

anotherdamnloser · 2020-10-23T23:40:13+00:00

If men don't need directions, why can't any of them find womens' clits?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-24T01:49:03+00:00

All I can hear is "nark abuser, narc abuser, narc abuser"

"I should never have to care about you or think about you in any way at all. I won't listen to anything that you say because I don't care. I'll never do anything for you because I don't care. I will only do the bare minimum of what you tell me directly to do because I don't care and that's just enough to get you to stay so I can continue raping you when I want. I don't need any directions which means I won't take any directions during sex or ever give you an orgasm. And I don't care.

That's where I stopped reading.

Yikes.

And then these men cry about toxic masculinity oppressing their gentle delicate loving nature.

Easymodelife · 2020-10-23T22:22:37+00:00

Just respond "TL;DR" and watch him lose his mind.

sunshine_factory · 2020-10-23T19:29:31+00:00

8) If you think you are fat, you probably are.

20) I am in shape, round is a shape!

Something's wrong, I can feel it..

BellaMob · 2020-10-24T00:54:29+00:00

12) Compares himself and all men to a mass murderer of indigenous people.

ItsFreezen · 2020-10-24T12:15:58+00:00

4) "Subtle hints do not work" Scrotes think the waitress is hitting on them when she is just doing her job.

atuan · 2020-10-23T22:45:57+00:00

I can’t even read all this it makes me mad. Half of what I just read is passive aggressive shit my (male) ex did to me and not anything I ever did.

atuan · 2020-10-23T22:49:15+00:00

Yeah also, don’t call me out on past behavior because I’m not responsible for my actions and whatever I said or did in the past was just BS to manipulate you and didn’t mean it anyway.

Less-Panic · 2020-10-24T01:24:22+00:00

5) “yes” and “no” are answers when I say it. When you say it, I’ll ignore you entirely.

2020-10-24T11:05:37+00:00

The toilet seat thing- EVERYONE SHOULD PUT THE LID DOWN. (Home toilets, not public ones). Households that leave the lid open gross me out. It exists for a reason, do you really want your shit and piss container to be open all the time?

I am stuck living with a scrote but at least we agree that leaving the lid up is disgusting.

Moonlit_Venus · 2020-10-24T13:36:43+00:00

I love how men are against hints and “mind reading” but when they want sex suddenly they’re experts at subtleties, social cues, reading between the lines and body language.

They should take some of their own advice, if all they want is sex, they should just say it. Oh wait, they won’t, because that shit doesn’t get them laid. :(

Dumb fucks.

2020-10-24T02:12:08+00:00

Do not ever try to understand LV men.

Chronox2040 · 2020-10-23T23:34:49+00:00

What's the deal with the toilet seat? I always leave it closed (both seat and lid down) and never found any issues with anyone. When you flush the toilet it kind of generates small droplets on most toilets, so I don't get people that leave the lid up.

thinksimasparetire · 2020-10-24T07:56:11+00:00

I’ve read enough and I’m only at #2

sillyceramics · 2020-10-24T00:31:32+00:00

Yikes

zombieggs · 2020-10-24T03:37:38+00:00

Hey everyone, look at me! I’m an asshole!

Lemon_Milk · 2020-10-24T04:53:21+00:00

Ok but I unironically love this idea of seeing past/translating the manipulation tactics. Thanks op for bringing this choice trash to be exposed for what it really is. I'd love to see more of it w real examples on this sub, it helps so much in helping identify it when usually im just so shocked/guilt tripped by it.

dingledangleboys · 2020-10-24T06:22:40+00:00

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Title	FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda
Author	myousername
Upvotes	187
Comments	89
Date	October 23, 2020 6:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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2: I don’t mind getting molecules of my piss and shit on everything In the bathroom, including towels and toothbrushes, and neither should you and don’t complain about it either.