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Today was my dad’s birthday, we had a birthday dinner. The whole time I’m just thinking of the things she would say, the jokes she would make, the looks we would give each other, even laughing at the idea of her. I missed her today, she should have been there.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 03:31 AM
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Milanesa and spaghetti + guacamole and chips.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 03:07 AM
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It really feels like that, I’m often at all the places we built our life around, and it’s like I can remember all our moments together. Time is passing and those places are changing, and there’s a sadness to it. But yeah new memories.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 02:49 AM
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That’s the problem. I can’t go no contact, we share a kid. If it was no contact I think it would have been easier to move on, but I don’t have that privilege.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 09:42 PM
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Yeah I need to leave denial, I’m stuck in there, it’s honestly hard to believe it ended, and she actually left.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 09:40 PM
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Thanks, trying. Those 10 steps back are overwhelming.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 09:39 PM
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I was doing the gym thing, I was also doing tennis, soccer, and diving into work. And yeah it did help, but then I got sick and going back to it has been hard. Then tennis and soccer rely on friends, and being adults everyone is busy and they don’t all have the flexibility that I have. But also it just feels like ignoring the problem, and just getting through the days, weeks, and months, and not actually finishing the stages of grief, and if thats what it is, then cool, I’ll exhaust myself every…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 03:23 AM
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Yeah, that’s the thing, we have no choice, my kid is my anchor. I want to move on but moving on feels like I’m not keeping my promise. It feels like I’m cheating, she might not be here, but my feelings are. I was lucky today, I had my kid on Father’s Day, but as you can see, that comes with some many feelings, she should be here with me, “I’m so lucky that I got to do this with you, I wouldn’t have chosen anyone else to do this with” 2 years ago Father’s Day card, thats what she said. And now we…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 03:10 AM
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Thanks, I really appreciate that. Not being alone really helps, but it is really sad that we’re all going through this, and some are still experiencing it for multiple years. And many of us got kids, we have to keep seeing them, and the fucking heart gets so excited, because we didn’t end badly. Her ghost is here, and it’s telling me not to let her go, and I can’t ignore her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 03:02 AM
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How do I accept it? How did you? It’s hard when we’ve fought and we’ve “broken up”. We came back, and history tells me that it’s not over. And I’m holding to that. And as much as I may understand and know that, I don’t know how to say fuck it. Other than me doing something that she would never take me back for, or finding out she did something I couldn’t forgive
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:59 AM
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Do you still see her or is it just a memory? Having the kid makes it so much harder when I need to pass my kid over, and see her. Even above that, everything just remind me about her, I see posts and I want to share with her, i think of a joke and i want to tell her, work gets annoying I want to share with her, I get sad I want to lay with her. And she’s not there. But almost a year since we officially separated but 4 months since she left, and she’s always there, in my dreams, in my every day. …
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:57 AM
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Yeah definitely, that’s all I ever wanted, to be a father and to have a family, work and anything else is just what I needed to maintain that. And now I have that, and don’t have a family, I don’t know what else to do, when work is where I want it to be, but what I wanted is gone. I don’t know what else I am. How do I find that?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:53 AM
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Thanks, I’m trying as hard as I can for my kid. And a bit for myself, but as much as I understand that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I can’t see it or don’t truly believe it’s there.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:51 AM
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Thanks, I know its supposed to get better, and a lot of the stories tell me that, but what’s scary is how long some of them take to get better, and scared as more life changes happen, how it will restart the healing process. It’s almost a year since the breakup and 4 months since she moved out. While she was here, I suffered, but felt better. She left, and now it was real, the whole house being empty, and her having “her place” and not ours, destroyed me again. What about when her 6-month lease …
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 02:48 AM
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Hobbies not really, many of them were because we didn’t have money at the time, but we still made it work. She was incredibly supportive of how many hobbies I had. She did try and that’s what makes it so hard. Was she perfect? No, she really hurt me, and day by day, we were stuck in this cycle, that when I tried to break it, she made me feel like crap. But she wasn’t actively evil, at least I didn’t see it that way. Just someone who grew up with me in this shit cycle, that neither of us knew how…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 01:44 AM
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Thanks for the check-in. Doing okay. Had my first meet with a therapist, and that went well. Tired, but we’ll get through it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 08:44 PM
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Yeah that’s part of why it’s so hard. I feel like I’m doing everything right. I’m exercising, hanging out with friends, talking about it, letting myself feel the pain, and whatever else is recommended, and I’m still here 10 months later. Just keep on surviving, I guess. Thank man I appreciate it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 03:20 PM
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It’s been 10 months since we ended it. And 3 since she moved out. I’m wishing to get there. Really. Thank you. This week has been rough, was sick and shit at work, and the person who’s supposed to be there for me wasn’t. It’s hard not to feel betrayed, I needed her and she wasn’t there. Times like these just bring everything back. No matter how good I think I’m doing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 05:33 AM
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Yeah, that’s the other part. Dreams go hard for me. And us being happy, and I wake up crying, missing her, realizing that no, she’s not next to me, and no, she’s not at our home. She actually left… I talk to “her” on voice memos, or in my journal, or at night close my eyes and imagine she’s lying next to me again. Tell “her” about my day and wish her a good day and a goodnight.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 01:53 AM
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Yeah that’s why I’m still trying, why I’m even talking about it, my kid. I got plans for next steps and how to keep moving forward, I would be lying if I said she wasn’t in my mind as I made those plans. She’s always had one foot out, but this time it felt different. It felt like we would fight together. And I guess that also hurts, the fact that she didn’t. And every weekend, and now that she has more time off and so do I, we don’t get to spend that together, when we barely had time together, w…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 01:34 AM
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Yeah it’s recent, it’s been 7 months since we broke it up, and about month since she moved out
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 02:45 AM
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Yeah it probably is, it’s just sad right now. Yeah I’ve thought about it, and slightly acted towards it, but idk, I’m just trying to be better, and let this go before I look for anyone else, I don’t think it would be fair to them or myself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 02:39 AM
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Oh definitely, going to gym, playing tennis, joined soccer league, but the Saturday hits, and I got nothing but chores and I fall apart. Gotta fill that day in somehow.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 05:29 PM
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Work, diving back into it, until I get my kid back, then cycle again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 06:16 AM
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I know, it feels close, I have moments where I’m feeling happy, but randomly hit these low moments, and they hit harder since they’re much more random now
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 05:36 AM
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Same here, so many different rom coms or moments, and she asks me why im crying, hugs me and gives me a kiss. I’m so lucky to have her. It just hurts that I can’t have my kid for 100% of the time, in her room. There’s a small part in me that still can’t comprehend that. We were never supposed to split time, but share it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 05:33 AM
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I know, I’m looking to leave, just not the priority with work and kid logistics.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 05:30 AM
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