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I assume you'll be at grad school at a major university. A few thoughts beyond basic theory (talk to everyone, bring good energy, escalate when there are opportunities): Tread carefully when hooking up within your own program. This isn't to say you shouldn't, but understand you will see a lot of these people, so when it happens you wanna do it right and be sure she walks away with very positive feelings. Within your own program you probably will only get one hook-up. If you're not weird about th…
/r/seduction15/12/13 10:29 PM
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If you're just looking to get laid, it's not rocket science. I'm assuming you are at least average looking. Pick your target and isolate him. "Can you give me a ride home/walk me home" is easy and classic. Or if you want to hook up with the host, just don't leave when everyone else goes home. These guys are your friends so you should know who is single and open to hooking up and almost certainly know which guys want to bang you.
/r/seduction03/03/13 05:20 PM
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You are way underrating the value of maintaining your exes as a harem of FWB. If nothing else, having a steady source of sex can help stave off AFC desperation to get laid.
/r/seduction03/03/13 05:15 PM
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This is one of those questions you don't give a straight answer to until you're naked together in bed and her buying temperature is so high nothing is going to derail things. One way to divert is to admit "Technically, yes, I am still a virgin." This will then make her wonder why it's technical, which you can then just say "Wouldn't you like to know?" Like always, just keep it playful, but dodge giving a straight answer until you have established a relationship.
/r/seduction03/03/13 05:10 PM
2

Do you have a career? Are you of a reasonable fitness level? Congrats! The world is your oyster! If you're balding you may need to shave your head, and if you're graying it might be time to buy some dye/get it dyed professionally. But at your age you can date anywhere from 25 year olds who are still just looking to have fun (and who will appreciate the presumed financial stability you have) to 30-somethings who no longer have the strict criteria they did in their youth.
/r/seduction30/01/13 03:04 AM
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Your goal is to get this douche fired. Step 1 is a scathing yelp review where you call him out by name. This may not work, but some owners and managers monitor their reviews closely. Step two is to call during the day and ask to speak to the manager. Usually the higher ups don't want to be awake at a loud bar at 2 am. They deal with the business side, suppliers and such. State your case in a "I just wanted to let you know about a negative experience I had at your establishment. Step 3 is to bran…
/r/seduction19/01/13 06:49 PM
1

I agree, with one nuance: Assuming her friend zones her, if there is an opening with 1-2 months left on the lease, he should go for it. At that point if it doesn't work they can just move out and move on.
/r/seduction17/11/12 03:54 AM
1

I assume you are talking about a girlfriend who you are actually in love with. You need to decide if her value is great enough to put up with shit tests in a relationship. Just some chick you're seeing? Just ignore or blow it off.
/r/seduction29/10/12 03:56 AM
1

Typically I like the third date to be the date where I cook dinner for her at my place after making sure the roommate is willing to spend that night at his gf's place. Cooking dinner together is fun, intimate, fairly cheap and a great way to show off the one fancy dish you've learned how to make. From there it's pretty easy to move to the couch, heavy make-out and clothes coming off, move to the bedroom and minimally BJ-close. I can only think of a handful of cases that didn't happen; in two cas…
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:07 AM
1

If she is the type to ramble and rant without asking what you think, she better be exceptionally attractive. Usually a conversation will have natural points to interject your thoughts.
/r/seduction17/10/12 04:41 AM
1

Passive dating only works if you are extroverted and very patient. Most guys who achieve success with it aren't interested in seduction.
/r/seduction17/10/12 04:38 AM
3

If it was a guy making the same request, would you say yes? Students tend to help each other out. Keep it reasonable, but this kind of contact can be an in... You're not just that one guy in class, you become more of a person. Still have to game, of course
/r/seduction07/10/12 08:16 PM
7

Statistically, two of these girls will break up by thanksgiving, the third will make it til new years, maybe valentines. If they chase you, fine. You're not gonna be an ass and tell them to sit elsewhere. And if they text you, you can text back, with time delay. NO discussing their relationship issues. By all means, roll with them to parties where you can mingle and use them as social proof. But nothing "dateish". No movie nights in her dorm. Keep it casual and in group events.
/r/seduction27/09/12 03:43 AM
67

What's funny is this drives most girls crazy. They want to be wanted and not have the guy say "ok, I respect that".
/r/seduction27/09/12 03:37 AM
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This isn't game per say, but typically you want to followup a question with additional info, or ask her a question. So for tennis, you could ask if she plays sports, or suggest "we should totally play sometime." For photography, I would say something like "I've captured a few images I really like. One is of...". This actually gives you a great excuse to get her back to your room if she shows interest.
/r/seduction22/09/12 03:23 AM
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2/3 flaked? That seems a tad high. 3 commitments for 10 numbers sounds pretty typical.
/r/seduction22/09/12 01:20 AM
2

Talk to her?
/r/seduction21/09/12 04:37 PM
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Sometimes you do everything right and don't get the outcome you want. Specifics: the "date" before hanging out with friends was logistically difficult. Great that you kissed her, but hanging out for hours after with no escalation was not ideal. Sometimes logistics get on the way. Never text "I'll take that as a no". You should have left the ball in her court.
/r/seduction19/09/12 06:18 PM
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His photography is a great example of where talent, or at least practice, counts. He makes a lot of novice mistakes with light and framing his shots. Picking an interesting subject is only part of the process. Oh, is this not r/photography?
/r/seduction18/09/12 02:58 AM
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Is this the same girl, ir different ones? Geographic norms vary. Here 10 minutes late isn't even late. Traffic and parking can easily add that. For a first date I wouldn't make a thing of it.
/r/seduction17/09/12 07:45 PM
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Totally with you on not explicitly stating you are fwb or fuck-buddies. Actions speak louder than words anyways.
/r/seduction17/09/12 07:38 PM
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200 is a lot of girls to go through without finding one you really connect with. Sounds like its time to take a break from gaming and focus on yourself. You've proved you can get plenty of girls, so obviously it would be by choice.
/r/seduction15/09/12 03:03 AM
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Divorce, I assume.
/r/seduction12/09/12 11:46 PM
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I think every guy needs to have a period in his life where he has nsa sex with a few different girls. You learn what you truly need from a partner and what you can't stand. You learn your true market value, so when someone great does come along, you're less likely to think the grass is greener elsewhere. Nsa sex can be awesome, but so can real intimacy. I think a lot of guys would love to have their cake (steady gf) but eat it too (casual sex). But the women cool with that sort of arrangement ar…
/r/seduction11/09/12 03:12 AM
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It kinda sounds like your father was physically abusive. You may want to seek professional therapy. That much rage and anger is not healthy to carry around.
/r/seduction03/09/12 08:33 PM
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They do love it, but it really is critical not to be too available by text. Texting should either be about setting up a date or flurtatious and sexual. No "how is your day?" No "Omg my roomie is so annoying!"
/r/seduction03/09/12 06:54 PM
1

Overall fitness is one piece of the puzzle. Most women don't go for guys that look like overinflated balloons. Olympic swimmers seem to be pretty well regarded in terms of fitness; lean and firm.
/r/seduction03/09/12 12:42 AM
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True alpha female. They are out there (but rare) and tough to game. Either they want you or they don't.
/r/seduction26/08/12 09:53 PM
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Yeah, she's setting an escape hatch for herself. If she's into the date, suddenly she will decide "oh, I can postpone that meeting". Or she legitimately is busy but will apologize.
/r/seduction23/08/12 10:18 PM
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I'm a fan of third date, cook her dinner at my place and f-close.
/r/seduction22/08/12 07:20 AM
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Make sure you invite enough girls. They tend to roam in packs, so ideally get some hard yes answers. Don't worry too much about activities. If there is booze, conversation should be sufficient. Consider inviting his neighbors. An invite is sometimes the difference between calling the cops at midnight vs. cutting some slack. Oh, and if there is no a/c make sure you have plenty of ice and fans. It's summer and people put off body heat.
/r/seduction17/08/12 12:07 AM
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Go out and see her. Kino, go for the k close. She seems kind of boring, but if she's game could make a fun occasional fwb.
/r/seduction16/08/12 06:00 PM
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Hank moody is depressed and has bad oneitis for his ex wife. He's also really attractive and successful, so the ladies flock to him.
/r/seduction16/08/12 05:58 PM
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I like this because it says "I'm not your bitch" in a fun, playful way.
/r/seduction16/08/12 05:46 PM
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I was with you until the last paragraph, where you started flirting with hating women. The problem isn't women. They act in their self interest in the sexual marketplace, we act in ours. The whole point of abundance mentality is the realization women vary and you don't have to put up with crap from one chick because there are plenty of attractive, cool chicks out there.
/r/seduction15/08/12 05:20 PM
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You drank too much for your dick to function . You are better than that. Her need to be in control is a yellow flag. You are right to let her come to you while pursuing other options. My guess is she doesn't know what she wants. The correct reply to "I'm not having sex with you" is "ok". One step back, two steps forward. Make her want it so bad she almost begs. This is why I'm not the biggest fan of nofap... I feel it can make a guy desparate. Bottom line, pursue other options. This one may come…
/r/seduction13/08/12 08:25 PM
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Does she suck your dick regularly? If yes, give her the damn backrub. If no, you need a new SO.
/r/seduction13/08/12 06:11 PM
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Awesome you posted the actual messages. Good work.
/r/seduction12/08/12 03:37 AM
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She goes on bar dates rather than insisting on dinner, offers to pay for the second round and is open to sex on the first date. Not sure that is chode-using. I would let her get the second round or abort if I wasn't feeling it. But I guarantee if Adam had been more alpha, cocky and funny, she would have felt chemistry. Third date should be cook at home, not fancy dinner. Save the fancy dinners for after sex when you know there is strong, mutual attraction.
/r/seduction06/08/12 06:19 PM
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Upvoted for interesting discussion, although I disagree with 80% of what you said. Not using names protects anonymity. I actually find the girlblogger style of nicknaming guys more demeaning. Talking about how to win a specific girl is useless, but women in general have a lot of common traits. Identifying differences between genders is not sexist
/r/seduction01/08/12 08:56 PM
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Text doesn't carry tone. Adding :) makes it clear the tone is positive . ;) is typically playful. Men should not overuse it though. :p is trickier. It can show genuine disgust, but also can just be mild discomfort. As a man, its safer not to use emoticons at all. Keep her guessing, and try to make your words clear.
/r/seduction01/08/12 06:01 PM
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I guess I'll amend that a lot of self improvement material is universal. Confidence is hot, but so is a nice body, so hitting the gym never hurts.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:56 PM
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Cleavage shirt or short skirt. Eye contact. Smile. It's that easy for girls. If not, you are going to the wrong venues. She can approach too. Most guys are really nice to girls who approach.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:53 PM
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Fight club is an overused analogy, but probably accurate. Most women don't understand the need for male spaces, some even feel threatened by it. The other point is no one wants to see how the sausage is made. Most women like being seduced, but they want it to feel "natural" as if it was predestined. Breaking the game down shines a light on it and can make it seem less romantic.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:49 PM
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I picture a huge wealth of gold or ore buried beneath the earth. If you have the right tools and knowledge, there is an abundance. But if you don't, you can't get to it.
/r/seduction27/07/12 11:33 PM
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Girls want good sex too. Don't lie to get them in bed. Otherwise, if you're good, you are helping them out!
/r/seduction27/07/12 11:32 PM
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Are you trying to date, or get laid? If you are looking for something casual, control the conversation more. Divert in a funny way. If you're hoping for something more serious I would run the "good dad gambit". Never talk trash on your ex, simply say you married too young and stress how much you love your kid. Good dad, good provider is attractive to a lot of women, and the ones it is a turn off for wouldn't be worth it for you.
/r/seduction27/07/12 11:30 PM
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ASD us just part of the game. She gets you to accept she's not "slutty" in order for her to enjoy doing something a lot of girls would call "slutty". "I never do this" has become my favorite phrase to hear. It is always followed by awesome times.
/r/seduction27/07/12 06:20 PM
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Assume attraction. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:16 PM
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Sack up, man. You're not gonna get too much sympathy around here with your "problems". Your approach was inconsistent. You didn't know what you wanted with girl #2. You failed to create a strong reality for her. You either needed to date her or make it clear you couldn't be tied down. Waffling is not attractive. Move on, go out, approach, date. Learn from your mistakes.
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:13 PM
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Just try to have fun. Talk to girls you are attracted to physically without judging their gf potential right away. Take your time to get to know a girl well before becoming emotionally invested.
/r/seduction10/07/12 09:12 PM
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Sorry. Want a beer?
/r/seduction10/07/12 08:29 PM
3

Online dating. If you have a good job, you can be upfront that "I'm new in town and work a lot and want to meet new people." Good jobs and ambition are catnip for girls. Go out Saturday night. Always. Talk to everyone. Be open and friendly. Eventually you'll find at least a good wing.
/r/seduction10/07/12 08:28 PM
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She's not over her ex. Keep gaming her, but don't catch oneitis. Going on a date with someone else would increase your value to her. You did a good job being clear you aren't interested in the friend zone. Still, chase other targets, friendzone HER, and see how she responds.
/r/seduction09/07/12 06:08 PM
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I would make it a beer, but yeah. Go in with low expectations, but worst case they can reminisce. And as we all know, girls as friends can provide social proof to their friends.
/r/seduction09/07/12 06:02 PM
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Move up a "weight class". It sounds like you have no trouble getting girls interested. Great, now hold out for someone special, a 10 in your mind.
/r/seduction09/07/12 02:49 AM
2

Steer the convo. Cocky and funny. And some girls are just boring.
/r/seduction09/07/12 12:31 AM
1

Seriously, approaching is not a marriage proposal. If the ioi are there and you are attracted, approach. If she decides you're too old? Bug whoop. If she actually is mid 30s? Still hot, and older ladies fuck in bed.
/r/seduction09/07/12 12:28 AM
2

I feel like she can remove whatever she wants, in any order. So if she wants you naked before she takes anything off, that's fine. But I would typically remove her shirt before my own.
/r/seduction08/07/12 07:49 PM
1

This. There are tons of tips regarding mechanics online. And erotica is great to learn what most women want out of a sexual encounter.
/r/seduction06/07/12 12:11 AM
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Sometimes shy girls can seem uninterested or even aloof. Reading the ioi may be tricky, and you always have to Calibrate kino. But every girl likes confident and funny.
/r/seduction05/07/12 10:48 PM
1

Like anything, there's a place for theory and a place for practice. It's easy to read and discuss too much and go out in the field too little.
/r/seduction05/07/12 10:46 PM
1

I will play devils advocate. If you read fr on major seduction sites, most make seddit look quite g-rated. Bragging is part of the game. I agree there is little value posting a FR where the approach is saying hi to a drunk girl who thinks you are cute and not fucking it up. I've personally started writing reports like that when I realized I merely got lucky. I also have seen plenty of questions around here regarding what I will call f-close etiquette. She's at your place. You both know it will h…
/r/seduction05/07/12 10:44 PM
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Women typically just want their feelings validated. Unless they ask for specific "what would you do?" feedback, they just want to feel understood. I'm not a fan of hugging unless this is your gf or someone you are definitely not pursuing. Listen to her vent, agree "that sucks", then try to cheer her up. Otherwise, its her issue.
/r/seduction28/06/12 08:07 PM
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I have found most girls will at least consider the occasional facial. Many asses are exit only, no matter what.
/r/seduction28/06/12 07:44 AM
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Look at those fucking hipsters. Protip: that first girl is waaay casual about anal.
/r/seduction28/06/12 02:05 AM
1

As a local you know which bars are fun, which restaurants are worth the money. She will be new in town and only know her employers. I would offer to show her around when she arrives, in general terms. Don't message much for a week until her arrival date nears, then make specific plans. Keep her guessing how interested you are until you can meet irl and kino.
/r/seduction27/06/12 05:28 AM
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Sounds a bit like oneitis. Go out, have fun, meet new people.
/r/seduction27/06/12 03:27 AM
1

Do you have a job, or a career? If you work at a restaurant to retail store , by all means go ahead bang the hostess . if and when things go bad odds are 1 of you won't work there anymore anyway . But if this is a place you want to move up and be there for years, you may want to maintain a professional image and avoid gossip.
/r/seduction23/06/12 04:09 AM
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Flirting is not a marriage proposal. But if you want, just focus 51% of your attention on the friend, in a purely platonic way.
/r/seduction17/06/12 06:26 PM
5

Here's the thing, it didn't come from your target, it came from her much less hot friend. I guarantee that girl always feels totally invisible to guys around the hb9. It was a cockblock, you could have deflected.
/r/seduction17/06/12 06:22 PM
1

Move on. Or at least act like you have. Either nudging her away will make her chase you, or will let you know she's just not into you.
/r/seduction08/06/12 09:21 PM
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You're 21. Just have fun. Try to get to know a lot of different girls. A big part of the abundance mentality is you can hold out for someone truly special rather than rushing into a relationship with the first girl willing to have you. When things work, they work.
/r/seduction08/06/12 07:08 PM
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Sounds like this FB may be more trouble than she's worth. She basically sent you a very strong signal she doesn't want you hooking up with other girls. I'm guessing she's a FB for a reason, not gf material. Reading between the lines, she showed up at your band's show expecting to hook up with you. You clearly weren't feeling it. The irony is that sort of attempted cock-blocking by girls rarely works, as evidenced by your make out with Jewish girl. Jewish girl almost certainly knew FB wanted you,…
/r/seduction03/06/12 03:21 AM
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You don't own her, she doesn't own you. Sometimes it's hard for FWB to witness "their" person hooking up with someone else. But it comes with the territory if you want a "laid back relationship". Either go out and game and find a few new "friends", or think about if you want to enter bf/gf territory with this girl.
/r/seduction03/06/12 03:13 AM
2

There are literally hundreds if not thousands of free articles and videos on working out online. But personal trainers still do ok. Some people can teach themselves guitar with just free info. Most people learn faster with a good teacher. With anything, you're paying more for personalized feedback. You're also paying for a little handholding.
/r/seduction14/05/12 05:45 AM
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What you did is what most of us call "kino". You shouldn't (normally) be grabbing a girl's ass until you've got her isolated and usually not until she's at your place. Outcome indifference is very zen, and usually leads to the best results. Asking to kiss a girl is very beta. You lucked out that she liked you enough to say yes. She was sending the signals, you knew she wanted you to kiss her, but you asked her anyway. Good, you set up a day 2. You're right that there's a "middle way" between bei…
/r/seduction19/04/12 02:07 AM
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If it makes you uncomfortable, there's no need to close. That's part of the joy of abundance mentality: there will always be other options to get some, so you don't have to jump at every chance that presents itself. However, you probably made your co-worker feel rejected and may have made things more awkward by not sleeping with her. She basically offered you sex, and you essentially rejected her offer. If you weren't feeling it you probably shouldn't have gotten into her bed.
/r/seduction15/04/12 01:17 AM
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I feel that most shy girls really want you to take the aggressor role. In this case it really sounds like her lack of kino back was her shyness/fear kicking in. It doesn't sound like any of your advances were unwelcome. But it doesn't sound like you had that much fun with her. Assuming you're still interested, this may be a time for the blunt direct approach. Being too direct often comes across as needy to most girls, but to the especially shy it might be helpful. She may not be worth the troubl…
/r/seduction06/04/12 05:50 AM
2

"It depends. How much are you selling her for?" It's obviously not a serious question, so the point is to take it one step further with something funny. Really though, this chick was obviously recently dumped, and her friend was trying to cheer her up. You could have earned some karma helping her feel better, but you weren't gonna get a #-close from that situation.
/r/seduction04/04/12 05:28 AM
2

You were with your friends. Even if you didn't really chat up a single interesting girl, you should have had a good time. Someone who is having fun before talking to a girl is going to seem more fun and interesting to her. What were you doing in those other 2 hours? Talking to people? Talking to your friends? It's totally ok to crash and burn as long as you were approaching, we learn from our mistakes. But if you weren't approaching it's not a shock you didn't have fun. Life isn't about the mist…
/r/seduction24/03/12 09:31 AM
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Yes, and no. There are aspects of seduction that are pretty universal: Be Alpha, talk to everyone, put yourself out there, approach, look for IOI, use kino. HS can be a sort of weird, closed pool where people have reputations and social proof that extends way beyond the real world and is very specific to HS. I'd also say that F-closing is a much bigger deal for high schoolers and even K-closing often has more meaning for younger ladies. HS dating and relationships often move much slower than col…
/r/seduction24/03/12 09:09 AM
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"Her 7:54pm - "Your [reluctance] to answer any questions I ask you is driving me insane"" This is just perfect. She's asking you questions over text that are "first date" kind of questions, and you clearly are doing a great job deflecting and maintaining some mystery. My take is she's probably shopping around. I don't personally like that sort of behavior, but considering the only reason you think she has a bf is facebook stalking, it's not really your job to worry about that. It does mean she'd…
/r/seduction16/03/12 12:52 AM
1

Ture, although the kind of girls who think that probably aren't going to be the kind of girls who are game for a threesome.
/r/seduction16/03/12 12:40 AM
1

Many European women wear their wedding ring on their right hand.
/r/seduction07/03/12 01:25 AM
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First off, well played pulling away when she hit you with LJBF. You sent a clear message you weren't interested in her as a friend, didn't fall into a friendzone/oneitis kind of trap. Your time is valuable, so don't spend too much effort on her, but if she wants to get together again in person it could be worth it. No more long conversations that aren't face-to-face, with kino, building attraction. If she's not responsive then I wouldn't waste your time.
/r/seduction07/03/12 01:19 AM
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I think most women prefer to date guys that are taller than them. As always, women have a lot of preferences, but that doesn't mean they can't be overcome. That said, all other things being equal, I think tall women often put a lower value on themselves unless they look like a model. I'm 6'3" and I have found that if there are two women of equal overall attractiveness and one is 5'11" and the other is 5'6", the 5'11" girl is much more likely to show obvious interest. All other things being equal…
/r/seduction07/03/12 01:12 AM
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This chick sounds like a real piece of work. The most likely scenario I can come up with is the other guy and her had some sort of "it's complicated/FWB/on and off" thing that her friends didn't approve of. With alcohol involved, her friends pushed her onto the first guy she admitted she found attractive, but her mixed feelings about the other guy made her some combination of shy and holding back. You're going to meet a lot of girls that are messes. I wouldn't waste too much time thinking about …
/r/seduction04/03/12 11:56 PM
1

I do tend to be verbose in my writing. Maintaining intimacy without jumping instantly into commitment is definitely a challenge. There's a lot more material out there about picking up and closing than managing various casual "relationships". It seems to be a learn as we go process.
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:12 PM
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Haha, thanks. If nothing else I've learned there are plenty of attractive women out there for everyone willing to do the work!
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:08 PM
1

Things are definitely going well right now! I certainly recommend diversifying your strategy. Going out and having an active social life is extremely important, but online can be useful especially when school or work keeps you busy. I do know that online dating can be a little more superficial than meeting in person. If a girl doesn't like your picture, she's probably not going to let you charm her with your wit. Still, it's free and doesn't really hurt to make a profile, right?
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:06 PM
1

LOL. I wish they paid me! Grad student stipends are pretty pathetic. Like any dating site the women tend to get way more messages than the men. Personally I have had better luck online, but part of that is just my own style. I personally have a hard time having fun at clubs which makes it hard for me to be fun and engaging. I've done much better at parties or outings where I have built in social proof. I can #-close at bars but haven't had any luck converting those to anything beyond one date/k-…
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:04 PM
1

Nice FR. Interesting that she picked up the tab. Bankrolled by her parents, perhaps? You didn't state ages. I'm surprised you didn't end up just splitting the tab. Still, obviously she knew what she wanted and you were happy to give it to her.
/r/seduction24/02/12 01:11 AM
1

The best way to think of K-closing is to remember she probably wants you to do it once you've read the IOI and kinoed her. If you don't try to kiss her she's going to wonder why you haven't, and that's going to make it harder for her to just relax and have fun. For me a huge part of relaxing socially is putting my focus on the girl. Helping her relax and have fun makes it easier for me not to worry about my own inner insecurities and doubts.
/r/seduction22/02/12 03:18 AM
1

LOL. Ok, I admit it, it was a vegetarian burrito, no beans. I split a veggie burrito with a girl in order to get into her pants. Happy?
/r/seduction22/02/12 03:12 AM
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My advice to you is focus on your non-dating areas of life for a while. Be a good friend, the one who is always planning events and inviting people over. Hit the gym. Develop your hobbies, improve your career, take advantage of all the free time you currently have. I tell my unhappily single female friends "you can't be happy in a relationship until you are happy alone". You're putting her on a pedestal she doesn't deserve to be on. There will be other women. Don't focus on trying to find a gf a…
/r/seduction22/02/12 02:53 AM
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I'm not sure what you want from this woman? From my experience and observation the sort of ages you're talking about are great for a casual/sexual thing but not so good for a LTR. 28 is a tough age to stereotype women in general though. At 30 most single women aren't going to waste time with a guy that doesn't have long term potential (unless he's REALLY good in bed). 25 and younger, most women are more open to casual relationships. I wouldn't change your game significantly.
/r/seduction22/02/12 01:51 AM
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Eh. It doesn't really mean anything in itself. It could mean she's not interested in you. It also could mean she doesn't want to seem too easy or available. Don't invest too much energy, but it doesn't hurt to go out with her once (drinks, not dinner). See if the IOI are there. Who knows, maybe she's got a hot friend she wants to set you up with?
/r/seduction22/02/12 01:42 AM
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Congrats on the date. Balanced expectations are probably best. Having a plan is always best. I'm not sure what time your friend's band goes on. If it's too late you do run the risk of her getting tired. Keep the kino up during the show, since you're not going to be able to talk. And remember, clean your apartment and make sure you have condoms on hand!
/r/seduction21/02/12 06:12 AM
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Well, she certainly seemed really open to sexual escalation in text form. I feel like double entendres work well. It's a little cheesy, but she wrote one text "I'm ok, had a hard day at work" and I texted back "Hehe, you said "hard"." The key thing was she hit the ball back when I wrote something suggestive. I've certainly had girls who ignored suggestive comments or even wrote back "ew" or "your (sic) perverted". That is often a good sign the girl is less open to having fun.
/r/seduction21/02/12 02:48 AM
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You're too kind. I admit that I've screwed plenty up in the past, which is part of how I was able to do things right this time.
/r/seduction21/02/12 02:43 AM
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