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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 101 | Lower text frequency and flirting frequency doesn’t necessarily mean dwindling interest | Escalation & Calibration | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 04:06 AM |
| 40 | Most rules don’t matter when you have confidence | Inner Game | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 03:40 PM |
| 22 | Anxious Attachment Types and Needy people Please Read | Inner Game | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 11:02 PM |
| 15 | Tips on behavior after closing the deal | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 12:00 AM | |
| 5 | Some thoughts on more specific situations you may encounter during texting/dating | Outer Game | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | When a woman changes date location or activity for a first date | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 05:43 PM | |
| 0 | If you can, double book your dates in the beginning | PackGod_5 | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 11:19 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | Tips on behavior after closing the dealYou let them stay over?!? 😂 | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 10:34 AM |
| 7 | Hundreds of first dates, here are my tipsI created a profile on all the main apps to maximize exposure. Then after I matched with someone, we’d message for a bit and I would ask them out quick. Then message just a bit more, ask their phone number and that’s it. I’d double book dates and cancel when necessary to always have a steady supply. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 08:08 PM |
| 7 | Hundreds of first dates, here are my tipsOh definitely, I think your points are useful. And yes I’m 40 now, although my girl is 31, and ex wife is 29. My dates were between 24-37 so a pretty good range. But yes point 5 is key in my opinion. I personally set my first dates the same and let the woman’s personality dictate how I go about it. I come from a place where I don’t need them; I’m the judge and let them try to impress me. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 27 | Hundreds of first dates, here are my tipsThis isn’t a bad list at all, but point #5 makes many other points irrelevant/contradictory. I haven’t gone on hundreds of first dates because I was married until last year, but I went on exactly 100 dates this past year, for the purpose of getting back out there and later to find a serious girlfriend. I completely disagree with having a first date anywhere other than at a restaurant/bar unless you’re broke. A drink or two makes most people relax and show their true selves. And this usually lead… | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Approaching women is incredibleIt’s actually very easy to do. And if 95% aren’t doing it no wonder I’m doing ok with women lol. In all seriousness, I’m just trying to say that the more you normalize it the more effective it is. | /r/seduction | 16/06/21 02:10 AM |
| 1 | What does true confidence look and feel like to you?Confidence is two key things. First, going for and doing what you want believing you will be good at it. Second, believing that if for whatever reason you don’t achieve what you were going for, you were still the best choice for it and will do it again with no doubt. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 07:34 PM |
| 0 | Approaching women is incredibleI have to respectfully disagree that approaching women is incredible. Honestly there’s nothing out of the ordinary about it. A lion doesn’t think hunting is incredible. You surely don’t think approaching a cashier is incredible. Approaching women, or anyone for that matter, is and should be normal. Attributing it too much meaning or emotion seems artificial and will likely lead to more failed approaches than successful ones. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 07:23 PM |
| 1 | The girl I like confuses me. Please help me understand.She only talks about herself and you get tired of her… are you sure you like this girl? I think that’s the question you should be asking yourself. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Where is she?If I had to guess I would say 90%+ of women love sex. They love sex just as much as men do. Just look at the female sex toy market, porn for women, etc. The only difference is that most men will plug any hole that’s empty because most men have less choices and they run zero risk of getting pregnant and very little risk of getting sexually assaulted. Most women won’t just have sex with anyone simply because they dress well, or are handsome, funny, rich, etc. Women run the risk of pregnancy, of se… | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 05:54 PM |
| 2 | If you can, double book your dates in the beginningYes most definitely! Even if it’s 25%. That’s 1 in 4 dates that you could double book and still have a good night! | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 11:51 PM |
| 2 | If you can, double book your dates in the beginningThat’s always an option, although if the bar is dry that night you risk going home with a 3 or fapping at home. If you double book a date, you’re guaranteed the possibility of a good night at least. Hey, airlines do it all the time and even the ones that get bumped off keep flying… | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 11:40 PM |
| 1 | If you can, double book your dates in the beginningFair enough bro | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 11:38 PM |
| 2 | I got rejected two times today 😄Ima be honest, immediate polarization isn’t always the way to go. Women might be attracted to confidence but they don’t live in a vacuum. A number of things could be going on in their heads and in their lives at the very moment in which you approach them that can make them reject you even if they’re attracted to you and your confidence. Imprint and a way to get in touch are much more important than being polarizing or too forward. The key is to leave an imprint in her, so that she’ll think about… | /r/seduction | 14/06/21 11:36 PM |
| 2 | The Attraction ParadoxThis paradox only exists if you want to be attractive for women. If you want to be attractive for yourself, the paradox doesn’t exist. It’s that simple. Become more attractive and healthier so that you can enjoy looking at yourself. Is it mildly narcissistic? Sure. Who cares? You do you. Think of Will Smith on Men In Black when he puts the suit on. He doesn’t say “ladies like me in this”; he says “I make this look good”. Big difference. | /r/seduction | 13/06/21 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Lower text frequency and flirting frequency doesn’t necessarily mean dwindling interestThat’s a great opportunity. When building stuff together you have lots of changes to laugh, goof around, and brush against him etc. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Lower text frequency and flirting frequency doesn’t necessarily mean dwindling interestBe careful though or he might think you’re not that into him and might pull back himself if he’s a confident man. I would pull back in that situation | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Lower text frequency and flirting frequency doesn’t necessarily mean dwindling interestIf the energy was good text him casually and at some point during the conversation ask him if he likes talking on the phone. Another thing you can do is send voice memos while texting, cause he might start doing the same. It’s a good happy medium. | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Lower text frequency and flirting frequency doesn’t necessarily mean dwindling interestYes if there’s stressful things going on in her life give her space. Think of yourself. If your parent was sick or you had a big presentation at work you’d want space, but it doesn’t mean you lost attraction for her. It could also be a shit test. Either way give her that space to show her that you’re not needy and when she needs space you’ll be fine with it. If you haven’t totally messed up in other areas you’ll be good in your next date. Good luck bro! | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Anxious Attachment Types and Needy people Please ReadIt might not always be culturally relevant, that much is true. Parents in different cultures parent in different ways and that might affect Attachment Theory’s universal applicability. As far as the PUA comment, that wasn’t directed towards you individually, but rather towards the fact that the majority of advice provided in this r/ seems to borrow heavily from it. There’s definitely a big difference between feeling angry and ACTING angry, just as I said there’s a big difference between being ne… | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 11:41 PM |
| 6 | Anxious Attachment Types and Needy people Please ReadI disagree that Attachment Theory is bollocks. It’s pretty well established and much more backed up than PUA psychobabble. I also think that identifying one’s attachment style does not mean adopting a victim mindset. In my opinion, it can serve as the opposite. If two people have the same condition and one refuses to acknowledge it while the other works hard to overcome it, I can almost guarantee that the one that works to overcome it will be the more successful story in the end. That’s not a vi… | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 11:21 PM |
| 5 | Some thoughts on more specific situations you may encounter during texting/datingThis is simply an absolute that is not helpful or accurate. Let’s say her last text was at 8pm when she said I’ll text you in a bit. You texted ok babe. And let’s say she has a child. She gave him a bath, put him to bed, and fell asleep with him. Woke up at 7, rushed him to daycare, drove to work, day started hectic. Sorry but objectively she wasn’t buried on her phone. These absolute platitudes need to stop in my opinion. And men thinking this way is why that same woman might now feel that she … | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 04:17 PM |
| 13 | Most rules don’t matter when you have confidenceI work on myself. I suffer from anxiety and depression sometimes, so I know what it’s like to be down, overweight, and with low self esteem. So I make a conscious effort now every day to work on myself. I exercise, I eat good, work hard to make good money, and make sure to dress well every day. Once self-care becomes a habit, you realize there’s nothing to fear, especially women. Women are just as insecure as men, even beautiful ones. You don’t need to fear rejection, or women at all. So I just … | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | For the older gentlemen on this subLmao. I just turned 40 and most of my dates are between 25-31 years old. Even at 32 I married a beautiful 21 year old. As long as you take good care of yourself, are ambitious, and keep a good job, you shouldn’t have any trouble dating well below your years until your 50s. If anything, I get higher quality dates now than I did in my teens and 20s. Enjoy the ride and chill bro 👍🏼 | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Decided not to pull on the first date - having regretsIf the sexual tension was high and you didn’t try to pull or even kiss, you probably disappointed her ngl. I personally don’t go on dates trying to pull the first night, but rather letting her attraction to me and the sexual tension tell me how to proceed. In this case I probably would’ve at least kissed. Just a 3 seconder and then keep talking, to build even more tension. If more tension is there after the kiss then I ask her to my place, or sometimes she’ll ask me to hers even before I ask. If… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 3 | How do I get girls?Dating apps are super simple and effective. I divorced from my ex wife in July 2020, and even with the Pandemic at its peak in these 10 months I’ve been on dates with about 40-50 different women. They don’t all lead to sex but more than enough do to keep me happy. But DO NOT SETTLE DOWN AT 21. I was married twice in my life and my first wife was at 21. I’ve had a ton more fun as an older man after two divorces than I ever did married. You’re probably going through that loneliness that hits when … | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Why does she take so long?If she takes 24 hours you gotta take at least 6-8. Because if you reply soonish every time she texts she’ll keep you as a backup. You gotta make her feel like if she texts you, she won’t know when or if you will reply. That will usually make her text more often instead of less. Men and women don’t want to chase each other; they want to be chased. But what we want and what our brains and hormones TELL US we want are two different things. | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | When a woman changes date location or activity for a first dateI thought of this as well. If anything my restaurant was much more expensive and nicer. Hers is more local and casual. But that’s actually a great point. She might actually want a more casual experience and not feel like if she has sex with me it was out of an imagined sense of obligation due to it being an expensive restaurant. In a more casual setting she might be more willing to go with the flow and have no qualms about what happens or doesn’t after the date. | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 6 | Why does she take so long?This is another example of the pull back method. She’s either pulling back because she got to know all of you too soon and is a bit bored and talking to someone else, or she’s pulling back because she likes you and wants to temper herself. Either way you have to match her energy. If she pulls back you don’t give in. That makes her less attracted to you. When she pulls back you match her energy. Even if it hurts deep down and you feel like you might lose her; the fact is she’s not even close to t… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I need help flirting over text.Then try to go at least 2 days without texting. Even if she texts, don’t reply. Then report back. | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | When a woman changes date location or activity for a first dateYes I’ve definitely considered this. Although from her texts she’s shown she definitely wants to have sex. But I tend to agree somewhat because we’ve only texted and my proposed date is in a part of town she’s not familiar with, so I’ll give her this bit of comfort. Nothing ruins a date faster than a woman that’s more worried about her surroundings or safety than about getting to know you. | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | When a woman changes date location or activity for a first dateI definitely thought that it could be a “shit test”, but I’m confident in my high value and can have a great date in a desert if need be. There’s also the possibility that she wants a bit of comfort, since we’ve only texted and my date proposal is in a part of town she’s not familiar with. It could also be a shit test as to how I date outside of my comfort zone, in which case going with her idea allows me the opportunity to pass her test. That’s why this whole situation is so fun. I like your in… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | I need help flirting over text.How often do you text? Every day? If so, don’t text for a whole day, maybe more depending on her. If she texts you during that day, ignore it. If she starts texting angry at you for ignoring her, you did your job. She’s now engaged once again and you interrupted the pattern with her. Anger is much better than indifference. That’s your in to reestablish your value with her. If she completely ignores the fact that you haven’t texted and doesn’t text back at all, let it go. She’s a validation leech… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 05:58 PM |
| 6 | I need help flirting over text.Infrequent texting from a girl, unless she’s a single mother, usually means her interest isn’t at its peak; especially since you already went out and she’s canceled future dates. Being busy isn’t usually a reason for canceling dates or infrequent texting when high interest is present. Women will make time. So I would say she’s probably in the “pulling back” phase. She knows what there is to know about you and it isn’t blowing her mind. My advice would be for you to pull back as well; match her e… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | When a woman changes date location or activity for a first dateI know right? | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 05:47 PM |
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