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PadlockHolmes/r/RPChristians21/03/19 08:31 PM
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Specifically, at minimum, you need to tell your boss that: You lied on your resume to get a better position. Specifically by inflating how well your website was doing. You lied about your school status, tell him which year you are actually in. You understand that you deserve to lose the job and are prepared to resign.
/r/RPChristians29/02/20 07:57 PM
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There are two things wrong here: You have a deeply ingrained habit of lying. You current career is based on lies. Option 3 fixes nothing and is clearly sinful. Option 2 seems to address the immediate problems. Your career is no longer based on lies. But you are reinforcing for yourself that there are no consequences for lying and allowing the habit to continue. Rest assured, you will find yourself lying again at your new position. You are telling yourself "I will be honest going forward, but I d…
/r/RPChristians29/02/20 07:53 PM
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Why are you letting yourself get so riled up at Whatever's comments? If you want to engage in a debate about religious extremism, that's fine, but I don't think this sub is the place for it. Also, why would you derail your own topic like this? Focus on applying the advice you've been given here.
/r/RPChristians29/02/20 07:47 PM
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In the sense that I think you're asking, "What's the logical point?" There really isn't one. Women tend to be more strongly swayed by their emotions and social pressure (i.e. not wanting to look rude). What really matters to us though, is that we understand women won't always say what they mean. You have to look at their actions, body language, etc. If you skip the words she says in your story, it goes more like this: I immediately run into her, tried to play nice with small-talk. She was lookin…
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 01:56 PM
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Great question, and great idea coming here to ask it. Put simply, you are in the very common pitfall of idolizing the opinion of others. Read and meditate on John 12:37-50. A pivotal and applicable verse in there is 12:43 they loved human praise more than praise from God. If you desire above all else to submit to God then you won't be able to submit to others. That doesn't mean you'll never please them or do things they like, but it will be from a different motivation. Also, don't idolize your o…
/r/RPChristians19/02/20 02:09 AM
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You're certainly not "overreacting," as most people would be similarly peeved. But do you want to be like most people or do you want to be an outcome-independent alpha? Really, try to remember that it didn't cost you anything to offer to reconnect. As others have pointed out, making that offer might not have been the best choice (being a tampon, orbiting, oneitis, etc). But even so, it didn't cost you anything. So she did what all women do and acted interested so she could let you down/ghost you…
/r/RPChristians19/02/20 02:01 AM
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All I've ever wanted was a stable job, a wife, and kids. Have you forgot about, like, eternal life? You're far too focused on temporal things. Take some time to contemplate the scale of the universe and the power and greatness of the God who made it. Your troubles are insignificant when viewed from the right perspective. All our troubles are petty before an infinite, eternal God. But it's not a bad thing to vent and express your hurt, pain, and confusion. The Bible is full of it and God welcomes…
/r/RPChristians25/01/20 07:04 PM
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God can control those factors. God can send hard times on us to test us and grow us, or even just to make an example of us to bring Himself glory.
/r/RPChristians25/01/20 07:02 PM
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Also, I especially agree with verse 20 but it doesn't seem to line up with what I've pointed out above. Why should we be trapped by immoral women? Is there even an option for most of us? I'm not saying it's impossible. Just unrealistic. Verse 20 is not referring to being enraptured with or embraced by an immoral wife. It's saying that any woman besides your wife would be immoral to sleep with you. Your wife should be moral. ​ Yes, there does appear to be a dirth of good women, but I'm currently …
/r/RPChristians05/06/19 04:17 AM
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Look forward to reading it!
/r/RPChristians17/04/19 08:43 PM
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That does help, thanks! We have talked over those three things in pretty good detail, I've told her my expectations and she says she's on board. So at the very least she shouldn't be surprised. ​ As to incorporating all that into our vows, I don't want to turn them into a sermon so I want to be succinct. Reordered it a bit. I don't mind saying "sex" in front of everyone. Gives more context to "give you my body" without beating it to death. I promise not to deprive you sexually, but to give you m…
/r/RPChristians11/04/19 06:03 PM
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Haha thanks :)
/r/RPChristians11/04/19 05:38 PM
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Not necessarily. God and Jesus lead perfectly but Israel and Christians still choose to rebel many times. Huh, true. I was thinking along the lines of extreme ownership/fixing myself first. But taking that attitude incorrectly could lead to blaming yourself for things that aren't your fault.
/r/RPChristians11/04/19 05:38 PM
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Thanks for the input! Considered and appropriately incorporated.
/r/RPChristians26/03/19 01:51 AM
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I'm not doing this to guard against her rebelling. That would be my fault for choosing her and/or leading her wrong. ​ This is because the moment of our vows is very deeply significant to me and I want the words that will bind me for the rest of my life to be as meaningful as possible.
/r/RPChristians26/03/19 01:50 AM
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Those are certainly good. However, they would have to be modified slightly in any case, since few would comprehend plighting a troth. Also, I want to be a more detailed/thorough in our pledge to cover more of what the Bible commands of husbands and wives.
/r/RPChristians26/03/19 01:47 AM
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I second what Red said. You're not in a position to be concerned about women at all right now. Right now is time to yourself out. You didn't put up your stats in this post, so there's only so much advice we can give. Those stats are designed to help get at the root of your problems. From what you did say in a comment, though: I derive actual physical/emotional pleasure from injuring opponents in martial arts, I cheat whenever I can to get an edge. I've done every sin in the book, cried after pre…
/r/RPChristians17/03/19 03:43 PM
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I think he means he has to be at his own church on Sunday so he physically can't attend other services. But other church events, Bible studies, anything not on Sunday? Why not!
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 05:16 AM
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Yeah, I definitely agree. I was trying to think of how to involve her - give her a space to share her imagination and wording. I was also curious to get some insight into which things I do she looks forward to the most. Didn't really work haha. What worked much better was telling her a couple things I would do and asking her what she would do next. She got into it more then.
/r/RPChristians13/03/19 02:48 PM
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There are aspects of who God is that cause us to want to pursue him. We get so excited about who our spiritual bride is bridegroom?
/r/RPChristians13/03/19 02:22 PM
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This is a versatile principle! After reading this I was inspired to try it with my fiancee. No, not sexting per-se. But an imagination game, visualizing the awesome kissing we'll do in a couple weeks. She's ~1000 miles out of town until summer (when we marry), but we're seeing each other in a couple weeks. So we were talking over video chat and starting to say goodbye. We finished chatting, but when I would normally say "goodnight", I gave a good pause to build some anticipation (and think of wh…
/r/RPChristians13/03/19 02:01 PM
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the fact that Amazon links this series in the "customers also bought..." section with the Five Love Languages book should tell you all you need to know. I've read it a time or two and I thought the concept of love languages holds some water. Different people certainly seem to respond more strongly to some forms of affection. Are you saying love languages don't exist or just that the book is written from a blue pill viewpoint?
/r/RPChristians07/02/19 01:58 AM
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Genesis 38 is often used as evidence that masturbating or birth control are wrong, but I've actually researched it somewhat and that wouldn't make sense as the reason God killed Onan. After all, Judah in the same chapter commits in-law incest (by accident) when he sleeps with a "prostitute" (on purpose). I think it's clear that Judah's sin is more serious than birth control could possibly be. God commanded that prostitutes be stoned, but doesn't mention family planning of any sort directly. The …
/r/RPChristians18/01/19 05:36 AM
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Yeah I've obviously never been exposed to it so I couldn't say whether it would gross me out... The OT reasons are worth considering. I'll pray/research that. I suppose it's not that big of a deal either way. ​ I'm 23, she's 22. Having kids in 3-5 years puts me at 44-46 when the first turns 18, which should be okay since I'll keep in shape, eat healthy, etc. Definitely want to start before I turn 30 though.
/r/RPChristians18/01/19 05:24 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for those links! Unfortunately it says they're revising the papers so those links are 404 errors ATM. The video pretty effectively talked me out of hormonal BC though. ​ I'll give condoms a shot, especially while I practice control. I'm not going to practice by masturbating before I'm married, but I did start doing Kegels. ​ Question: In the moment was it hard to make yourself pull out/did it take a lot of willpower? Or was …
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 07:49 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ She'll be going to an OBGYN before we're hitched, for sure.
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 07:32 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for the input!
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 07:22 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for the input!
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 07:12 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ That's a pretty solid basic plan, thanks! I'm also thinking of incorporating timing and pulling out/control. Either as a backup on top of condoms or down the road so we don't always have to use them.
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 07:00 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Children are a huge reason for marriage and should be exclusive to marriage, but they're not the only motivation. Another reason I'm marrying her is that I believe we'll be more effective in serving God by combining our resources and supporting each other. ​ Again though, I believe God definitely wants us to have kids. I simply think it would be wisest to set a solid foundation first. We're already graduating college, getting our f…
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 06:47 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for the reply - I'll definitely look into cycle tracking! ​ I'm not scared of having kids immediately. :) We will be in a situation where it would work out to have a kid immediately, but a few years down the road would be a much smoother operation. I was wondering what methods all of you sexually active Christians employ, and you gave some good ideas. I'm definitely leaning toward more natural methods at this point: timing, …
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 06:33 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Dang, Planned Parenthood doesn't advertise that on their website. :/ Thanks for the info!
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 06:03 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for the input!
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 05:51 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ To clarify, I'm not strongly considering artificial contraception. Much more leaning towards mechanical methods like pulling out or condoms. If you believe those are evil too, I'd be interested to hear your reasoning.
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 05:29 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ Thanks for the input!
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 05:00 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ We could and would gladly change plans if we had a child earlier than five years, so we are ready. But it seems more prudent to wait for a bit to get a more solid financial situation, and to spread out our life changes a bit. We're already graduating college, getting our first jobs, getting married, combining finances, etc. So it would be ideal to let things settle in a bit before having kids.
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 04:50 AM
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OP here (had to make a different username for privacy reasons) ​ From your link: In humans, copper ions released from Cu-IUDs enhance the inflammatory response and reach concentrations in the luminal fluids of the genital tract that are toxic for spermatozoa and embryos. That pretty much settles it for me. If it's toxic for embryos then it's unacceptable (since a stray sperm could always sneak by and fertilize). Also, inducing constant inflammation doesn't seem like a great idea. ​ Thank you for…
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 04:40 AM
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