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| 2 | How do you deal with "banter" when you're tired or having a bad day and not in the mood?What if it happens when you're waiting for something next to a group of people and before you know it someone tries to take the piss or banter in front of everyone, but you're not in the mood? And you can't just walk away suddenly | /r/askTRP | 30/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 1 | What do you do if someone gives you the silent treatment to get back at you?you should ask yourself why you feel the need to intentionally put down others who are only looking for help blocked | /r/askTRP | 29/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?and you're a bullyboy blocked | /r/askTRP | 29/05/21 03:23 PM |
| 0 | What do you do if someone gives you the silent treatment to get back at you?lol | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 0 | What do you do if someone gives you the silent treatment to get back at you?bore off | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 1 | What do you do if someone gives you the silent treatment to get back at you?Yeah that's what I've learned with these types of people | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 05:07 PM |
| -1 | What do you do if someone gives you the silent treatment to get back at you?If you think the silent treatment (covert abuse used by cowards) is warranted when someone makes a social mistake then that says a lot about how abusive you probably are yourself. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?lmao | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 02:00 PM |
| -2 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?You wanted to one up him when you had something on him. He did right by ghosting you. Now that you're a loser in the present day, you're making an account of how you got to this point. You deserve zero from him and from other men. No need for that nasty comment. You've shown you have low emotional empathy and are not a nice person | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?I've improved my life massively by going from obese to fit and an extremely socially anxious recluse to someone who can talk to most people but it doesn't get rid of the panic attacks, nightmares, fight or flight responses etc from the ptsd. Talking doesn't help for this stuff neither do self-help books. It's not like a little depression like you hear everyone with a victim mentality have nowadays. I had a counsellor 10 years ago send me to a fkn yoga class and told me I was essentially overreac… | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 01:00 AM |
| 1 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?How exactly can someone move on without closure? I'm looking for actual advice on how to move on without closure. I already know I won't get closure from him etc | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you move on without closure after betraying a friend years ago?I know I'm not owed closure but I'd appreciate it. I'm sure he wants nothing to do with me that's why I want to be able to move on without his closure. I already know the things yous said. I'm looking for actual advice on how to move on without closure. So how can someone actually move on without closure? Is there advice for that you can give? Like a guide or something specifically for it? I'm getting constant anxiety and that fight or flight panic response because of it and can't sleep. It piss… | /r/askTRP | 28/05/21 12:29 AM |
| 1 | How to treat a Tinder match who ghosted then got back in touch a month later asking where I'm from?Lol I know the situation and what she's doing. I haven't had any in like 6 months though | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 1 | How to treat a Tinder match who ghosted then got back in touch a month later asking where I'm from?I'll still be talking to her, having a laugh and getting to know each other at mine beforehand, it'll just be a date at mine. I just don't wanna go on a date at a bar or something | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 04:01 PM |
| 2 | How to treat a Tinder match who ghosted then got back in touch a month later asking where I'm from?Aye I think she does want attention but I've got like 80-90 tinder matches who I can try talking to in the meantime so I figure I may as well try, can't hurt. I don't wanna go to a bar or anything, just want her to come to mine and somehow then sleeping with her but not sure what to say to persuade her to come. | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 1 | How to treat a Tinder match who ghosted then got back in touch a month later asking where I'm from?I don't want a date tbh, I just want her to come to mine and it ending up with me sleeping with her. She looks slu**y so I don't think it's out of the possibility. Not sure what words to say though to get her round | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Afraid to take the next step with women after losing weight and getting signalsThanks for the comment and the advice, you're right about it not mattering tbh. It's just horrible knowing I'm in my late twenties and still shit at it lmao. Women are going to expect me to be great and there'll be a lot of disappointment. By getting girls I meant if I had more self-esteem and enough going on in my life to have the confidence to not care and just go for it. Atm I get the interest but I don't follow up because of the worry about it being awkward when it gets to the bedroom. But a… | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 06:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with people giving you the silent treatment? And how do you not let if affect you?I didn't realise it went into that stuff so thanks for letting me know. Will check out the audible 👍 | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 01:14 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with people giving you the silent treatment? And how do you not let if affect you?I had a family full of passive-aggressive abusive people who did things like the silent treatment | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 12:50 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with people giving you the silent treatment? And how do you not let if affect you?What if it doesn't end? Then you have to constantly focus on not looking like you care while you're not able to focus on living your life. I went through years of silent treatment growing up, that shit is debilitating for the victim and it takes no energy for the people who do it. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 12:49 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with people giving you the silent treatment? And how do you not let if affect you?Been waiting for delivery for couple months coincidentally, out of stock atm. Is there a jist to how it'd help to not be affected by passive-aggressiveness and the silent treatment? | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 12:47 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with people giving you the silent treatment? And how do you not let if affect you?I've read NMMNG already but not sure how those books relate to my problem about people being passive-aggressive | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 12:41 AM |
| 1 | How to move on without closure? Any of you been too kind/empathetic and gave closure only for it to work against you?You sound upset | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 07:35 PM |
| 1 | How do you move on from the injustice when an old friend steals from you and there's nothing you can do?I did get over it and was happier but then he came back into my life 4 years later only to make me affected again, probably to get some narcissistic supply from me which he succeeded in doing. Now it's like he's got a hold over me which he knows and gets fuel from. How can someone just forget about this and move on, especially as he also used to bully me for years pretending he was a "friend"? | /r/askTRP | 12/05/21 12:16 AM |
| 1 | How do you move on from the injustice when an old friend steals from you and there's nothing you can do?I know it's my ego but I can't do anything because I'm not dumb enough to risk it as I know logically it's not worth the negative consequences that can come from it, plus if I do something he would only be seen as (and make himself out to be) the victim and me the bad guy even though it's the opposite. It's so anger-inducing because I can't do anything to get past this and my ego won't let me drop it. This piece of work bullied me for years too so it's even worse wanting that feeling of justice. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/21 12:13 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with people (friends, work colleagues, family etc) trying to subtly push/pull manipulate you when your doubting if it's happening?Doubting if their manipulation is happening because it's covert (not able to be proven and they have plausible deniability) and if you ask them why they're intentionally being intense then cold for some reason, they'd only gaslight you by pretending nothing is happening and it's all in your head. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with people (friends, work colleagues, family etc) trying to subtly push/pull manipulate you when your doubting if it's happening?My frame and judgement is off tbh. How could frame help you with push/pull though with the other person giving you loads of attention for a while (getting you addicted to it) and then pulling back? It's very subtle and hard to tell what's happening | /r/askTRP | 08/05/21 09:42 AM |
| -1 | Does anyone “date down” because it’s easier?I obviously meant if you spend too much time with her and get addicted to the ego boosts. Not sure what you're shocked by but okay | /r/askTRP | 07/05/21 12:40 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone “date down” because it’s easier?Is it worth the ego hit if she leaves after you become too attached? | /r/askTRP | 07/05/21 09:22 AM |
| 2 | How do you make conversation if you don't explain some things (DEER)?Ah that makes sense thanks. Btw how would you end it in this situation? I only messaged and and matched with her for the ego boost, thinking she lived in a different town lmao. I didn't even want to meet up with her. But now I've found out she works in a shop I go to regularly so I don't know how to end it properly. Part of me doesn't want it to fully end as maybe in the future I'll regret it as I might want an easy bang, but if I'd get back in touch it'd be me chasing. Then my ego would be ruin… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/21 04:22 PM |
| 0 | How do you make conversation if you don't explain some things (DEER)?Isn't theredpill all about thinking about and analysing all situations though? Usually when I'm myself I'm too empathetic letting women know how I feel etc to not make them feel bad. This sometimes turns out shit so I've no clue what the happy medium is | /r/askTRP | 05/05/21 03:49 PM |
| 0 | What to do with Tinder matches when you lose frame?Tbh it's hard to accept a lower-SMV lass rejecting me so I want her to want me again so I can reject her lmao. I know this will just make it worse for me in the long run with becoming attached but I can't let it go. I wish I wasn't too nice at first when I didn't want to make her feel bad by ignoring her or giving short answers because I didn't care about her. It made her go cold. Is there a way to get her to come round mine so I can bang her? Even now she's gone cold? I'm not an expert in redpi… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/21 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Isn't it naive to be expecting her to initiate, when she has so much male attention right by her feet?What if you stop the pursuit and she never responds back? What if she'd respond if you start pursuing her again, so if you just stopped you might have wasted the opportunity with her? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Isn't it naive to be expecting her to initiate, when she has so much male attention right by her feet?Doesn't the fact that you're obsessed enough to "win the war" and create a long-term plan with show you're in another person's frame? Also how do you know she'd reply back after leaving you on read? Is there some way you knew she'd get back in touch or did you not care either way? It's hard to imagine I could not care either way as it'd hurt the self-esteem knowing she was the one doing the rejecting if she didn't reply | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 11:50 PM |
| 2 | I feel like the whole world is against meHi. Do you have a set of questions that somebody could ask their therapist to interview/screen them before investing their time seeing them? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 09:45 PM |
| 2 | I feel like the whole world is against meDo you have any video suggestions/links of his that you feel are the most helpful? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | If you know a "friend" is waiting a day to respond to your messages, how would you reply?lol thanks for the reality check, you're right. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 04:03 PM |
| 1 | If you know a "friend" is waiting a day to respond to your messages, how would you reply?Thanks I'll take a look at that mate. They're not avoiding me tho, they actually keep messaging me but weirdly take a day to open the message and them a bit to reply after they left it on "read", after months of just replying normally. I know for a fact they don't do anything to keep them that busy from talking before. It's so strange, if it was the same behavior from the get-go I wouldn't be that bothered. It's like the hot/cold stuff that is preached on here to do to sloots. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 04:00 PM |
| 1 | If you know a "friend" is waiting a day to respond to your messages, how would you reply?So if people (friends or women) see your msg in their phone notification bar but don't open it on purpose leaving it as a grey tick or on "seen" to play some weird mind game powerplay, how would you feel or react? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 03:47 PM |
| 1 | If you know a "friend" is waiting a day to respond to your messages, how would you reply?I think I'm acting like the narc friend I had all last year who fkd with my head. He made me so aware of this stuff due to projecting his fkd up issues and insecurities and always leaving doing weird powerplay stuff and now I'm anxious with everyone (friends and women) when it comes to messaging. It's like he gave me attachment issues. How would you get past this? I'd like to just reply normally saying thanks etc but this person will see my msg in his notification and not even bother opening it … | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 03:45 PM |
| 1 | If you know a "friend" is waiting a day to respond to your messages, how would you reply?maybe it's because I'm isolated and have no friends due to past stuff and cutting them out. How do I not care if people (friends or women) respond or not. I seem to care and get really anxious even when they haven't opened my reply on Messenger the more anxious when they leave me on "read" and wait for ages when I know they see it as a notification on their phone | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?How to make her want my attention again so I can then reject her and come out on top? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?I wish i wasn't just being nice and replying to her now. Now it'll look like I'm the one being rejected even if I tell her I'm not interested. The only reasons I wanna call her now are to see if I can still bang her cos she's sl*tty looking and might be filthy, and also so she tries to get my attention again so I can reject her haha How to get her to want my attention again so I can then reject her and come out on top? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?That's what I'm thinking. What do you recommend I do now? I wanna get her attached so it's me doing the rejecting now lol. I can't believe I even matched with her and others that are lower SMV that I'm regretting now too | /r/askTRP | 04/05/21 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?Lmao it's sick that isn't it, so twisted | /r/askTRP | 03/05/21 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?I'm pretty sure it was number 2. I had that feeling of it being a chore to talk because I didn't care that much (only for a bang) but I didn't want to leave her hanging as I'd have felt bad. So I soppily replied saying how I didn't realise she was such a sweetheart lmao and she gave a short answer the day after. Btw how do you deal with never fully knowing which it is? With having no closure etc, because this happened before I messaged her again last night for a phone call cos I wanted to bang h… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/21 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Why do lower-SMV women get in touch only to then not respond?Lmao. It was a few messages over the course of an hour or two, not an hour full of messages. Updated the OP to say it | /r/askTRP | 03/05/21 10:09 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Thanks mate, great comment with a lot of sense👍 | /r/askTRP | 01/05/21 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Lmao damn I know the feeling, it's madness how they can just ghost you straight after feeling as if they're in love with you, like a switch has been flipped and you're nothing to them anymore. I guess it's a lucky escape but it's still hard to bear for the ego. Sorry for the late reply btw mate 👍 Also there's another woman (a couple SMV points below me) who's doing this and has been messaging me and liking my tinder profile multiple times by creating new accounts (I see the likes via tinder gold… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/21 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Have any of you ever regretted giving closure to some who wronged you?Thanks for your comment mate, I appreciate it. You're definitely right about these types wanting to keep people down who they feel superior to. When I first started being friends with him years ago in school I was popular, well-loved etc and he seemed good but in time bit by bit he chipped away at me and I became a wreck who barely went out. He only got back in touch after I posted a pic of me having lost weight frkm hitting the gym and improving myself massively after being an obese social recl… | /r/askTRP | 30/04/21 08:40 AM |
| 2 | Do you leave women on "read" or sign off with something specific?Aye I'm just gonna leave her on read. You're right in your first comment about them doing the same to me in a heartbeat tbh. It happened to me before after I was nice to them and gave a lass closure lmao, fkin bishes. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Do you leave women on "read" or sign off with something specific?Wouldn't clicking "react" (even though it's not a text response) take power away from you as they'll know what you're thinking which won't get their hamster wheel turning? | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Do you leave women on "read" or sign off with something specific?lol I feel bad for it tbh but I'll give it a go. Usually I regret whatever action I take anyway. I'll end up wishing I said something tomorrow but it'll be too late lmao | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 1 | How should I get rid of this anger phaseStruggling with this sorta stuff myself :/ | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 08:09 AM |
| 2 | How should I get rid of this anger phaseIs there something special about martial arts? I've heard it recommended many times. Would boxing be put in that category? | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 08:07 AM |
| 1 | How should I get rid of this anger phaseHow do you meditate out of the rage and not want revenge? | /r/askTRP | 28/04/21 08:06 AM |
| 2 | How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?How do you decide if someone isn't an abuser though and is a real friend? I can't afford to open up to anyone else because I did that last year with a different friend who I thought was the best friend I could have and he turned out to be some covert narcissist and messed me up and destroyed my self-esteem even more. He pretended he was a friend but remembered and brought up every single vulnerability I had to make me think I was mentally not all there. If a new friend crosses a line and you set… | /r/askTRP | 27/04/21 08:10 AM |
| 1 | How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?I wish i did ignore them but i felt bad about not responding so I ended up replying to them thinking they would be like me and would talk normally but they were the same. I gave them closure and wish I never now as that's all they wanted. Yeah I'm 27 and similar in that I've been bullied or abused since I was little (for me it was hy family and friends too). I'm more in shape now but still as angry haha and still self-conscious. What parts of stoicism helps you with anger, bitterness, not wantin… | /r/askTRP | 26/04/21 11:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?When you wrote to not let narcissists know if you're empathetic or hurt by them, doesn't that mean you'd go through life just keeping all your emotions to yourself and staying distant from everyone. Because you can't fully tell who's a narcissist, especially with covert ones and there's always plausible deniability and the cycles when they're nice and not nice which causes confusion and gives you cognitive dissonance. After coming out of a narcissistic friendship late last year who I initially t… | /r/askTRP | 26/04/21 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?Even if these people you knew for years and you thought they were your friends? Looking back on it I didn't realise at the time that I was going through years of bullying which contributed to me becoming a recluse for the past 5 years until recently. It's just hard to forget, maybe if it was just one thing but these people all made my self-esteem to be nothing and I wasted years with them thinking I wasn't good enough for anything and couldn't do anything better. I avoided further education and … | /r/askTRP | 26/04/21 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Please make yourself aware of NPDI've read some of your comments in this thread and you seem to be knowledgeable about narcissists. Do you know if people can be "narcissists" but instead if having low empathy they have way more than average? Like is there a term for someone who had narcissistic traits but is empathetic instead? | /r/askTRP | 25/04/21 11:07 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with passive-aggressive people?Thanks for the advice but it was already over before I read it haha. I ended up not replying to her and haven't gone to the theme park with her bf and her kid. I feel bad tbh and don't want her to feel uneasy or something, but it's just too much stress having to worry if someone's giving the silent treatment or other stuff just to feed their ego and give them that sadistic feeling of power over someone, especially if it's my sister which is even more messed up. I'm not sure I could just carry on… | /r/askTRP | 25/04/21 03:46 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with passive-aggressive people?I dunno tbh. I'd feel bad for cutting her out as she's my sister. I'm never 100% sure whether she's abusive or not and if she is whether she's doing it intentionally, or is maybe just afraid of confrontation or something. Although her giving me the silent treatment (whether it was done malevolently or not) after I just told her how much I was affected from silent treatments from a friend recently doesn't sit right. She started this silent treatment due to me setting a boundary to not have my tim… | /r/askTRP | 24/04/21 11:23 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep your ego in check?How does it manifest in your behaviour? Are there any things you've done due to having a bigger ego? | /r/askTRP | 24/04/21 12:00 PM |
| 1 | I keep getting stares and smiles from people after losing weightNot fasting, eating about 2000 net calories a day. Not sure on bodyfat percentage, I can see loads of veins in my arms and my stomach is hard to press so under 20% | /r/askTRP | 23/04/21 12:05 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with passive-aggressive people?Thanks for your comment mate, I appreciate you taking the time to write it and it's very helpful. One thing that I'm stuck on is that wouldn't the best option for the silent treatment be to also just walk away from those people (even if they're family members who say they care for you and know you went through abuse before, but their actions suggest otherwise) just like you would with the people who gaslight? Because aren't those passive-aggressive tactics essentially just in the same ballpark a… | /r/askTRP | 21/04/21 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Yeah I felt like i hit the jackpot that a real woman (she was around 32) was interested in me lol. the first night she came to mine she asked me to go on a 4 hour car drive to pick something up which was strange because she didn't even know me yet and we hadn't even had a conversation before then so I remember being taken aback by it. Some things she said was like she was in love, telling me I had an aura about me and complimenting my body etc. Like she'd been obsessing over me before we'd even … | /r/askTRP | 14/04/21 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Yeah ano haha. She literary left the course we were on together too and didn't turn up. I felt a lot of shame afterwards as if I'd done something wrong and should avoid people and keep my head down even though she's the one who ghosted me. | /r/askTRP | 14/04/21 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?It's what brought me to theredpill tbh. Just didn't feel like a normal interaction with someone having not cared at first and suddenly a month later it was like I was addicted. Aye the triple texting was cringe haha | /r/askTRP | 14/04/21 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?The cheese in the mouse trap is the perfect analogy haha. That's exactly what happened to me. At the start she literally triple texted me and by the end of it a month later I was the one triple texting her after I didn't care much to start with. I feel like she's the one who showed intense interest in me, asked me out, came into my life love-bombing me to get me addicted to her and then fucked off as if I was the needy one which was the opposite of reality and I was manipulated into being that w… | /r/askTRP | 14/04/21 10:53 AM |
| 2 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?I dunno haha. I think I felt my SMV was lower than it actually was and I kept at it with her because I thought that she was out of my league but in reality she was probably lucky to get with me (from a looks perspective). But the fact she was so intense and then just fucked off without giving closure after I got drawn in is on my mind | /r/askTRP | 14/04/21 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Ah right. What do you think it could be? The first night she came round mine we didn't have sex but she texted straight after she left saying she had a good time. Then weeks later when we had sex she didn't text at all after. The sex was bad and rushed and I could barely get it up lol. Or could it just be the neediness in the end with the triple texts? The not knowing drives me mad | /r/askTRP | 13/04/21 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?What do you mean by "once you broken"? | /r/askTRP | 13/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Why am i still bothered by her ghosting me without closure?Yeah maybe. I had low self-esteem my entire life and always thought no girl romantically likes me until she came along after I lost weight and made me realise I'm actually desirable. And made me realise that when girls used to want to be around me all the time growing up it wasn't just for friends because I just made them laugh like I thought it was. She made me sorta flip the mental switch and now I realise if a woman smiles at me and wants to be around me I can get with them if I choose to. Bu… | /r/askTRP | 13/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?How did you go about learning more about social dynamics and pecking order, did you read any things in particular? I've learnt more recently about narcissism and these cluster b type people who bully, taunt and have little empathy but I feel I could learn more about people in the way you said. Also is there anything you did specifically to improve your life that maybe you could share please? | /r/askTRP | 21/03/21 06:38 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?Thanks for the comment. What would you suggest someone do to move past this stuff, forget them and lead a life of my own that would make be content/happy? Do you have any guide or tips for some genuine things I can do? | /r/askTRP | 21/03/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?What if these bullies gave you ptsd and other lasting mental effects like trust issues etc which make my L either permanent or at least so long they may as well be a permanent L? Also there are things like having to start from scratch with everything in my late twenties 10 years late and being far behind everyone else. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/21 06:15 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?It's hard to feel grateful because I still have ptsd over everything and no friends or family having cut out abusers/bullies. I'm still the pussy I was because I gave some of these fuckers closure by replying back being friendly and nice towards them as I felt too much empathy not to. I replied and gave one guy a load of advice the he didn't bother saying thanks and left me on 'read', like wtf is this shit, I would've at least said thanks but he had to have a petty one up on me smh. And now they… | /r/askTRP | 21/03/21 06:12 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?So would you just not even bother blocking them and just leave it as is? I've already muted them but I think this guy only got in touch to ease his conscience and leave me on 'read' in some petty victory as I didn't reply to him last time. Just makes me angry I still don't feel I have the right to not he so nice to people even those who relentlessly bullied me giving me so many lasting mental issues. How could you move on because I'm still so bitter and full of anger tbh because of the injustice… | /r/askTRP | 21/03/21 05:50 AM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?Thanks, hopefully that'll be true. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?Yeah you're right mate. I'm not really religious but the phrase "Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do" came to mind. What you say makes perfect sense but it's still so hard to not focus on them tbh. Do you yourself find it easy to forgive those who do you wrong? | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 01:07 PM |
| 3 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?Yeah I'm not sure if people change even as they grow into adults, they just get better at hiding their true selves. One of these friends who stole a load of money from me got back in touch 6 months ago after I finally got the confidence again to create a Facebook page and show my face to the world after years of being a recluse. He got back in touch to "apologise" but looking back at it his message was laced with things trying to make me feel guilty for him (like how he felt hurt that I didn't g… | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 12:30 PM |
| 4 | How would you treat old "friends" (who were in fact bullies) after you've stopped being a recluse and gained some confidence?It feels to me like the phrase "able to settle our disputes without violence and without revenge" is said by those who want to verbally/psychologically abuse others and get away with it with no real consequences, while taking the moral high ground so they feel superior to those "uncivilised" people lead by their "animal brain". Someone who psychologically abused me (just with words and covert actions) actually said something really similar. I remember seeing his face after he got his ass kicked … | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 11:50 AM |
| 2 | How to call out girls when they are lying?Avoid people who gaslight and try and manipulate you. That's some cluster b type shit | /r/askTRP | 04/02/21 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Aye, you're right | /r/askTRP | 14/01/21 08:11 PM |
| 5 | Being friendly/nice to low SMV people always backfiresLong story short: Stay away from low smv or toxic people. I ended up getting back in touch with a "low SMV" male friend a year back who told me he was going through some shit. I gave him so much of my time and good advice to try and help him but over the last year he ended up belittling me and gaslighting me constantly throughout with me thinking it was normal to be treated like shit and that I was just being too sensitive. In the end (few months ago) I end up reacting and calling him out and he… | /r/askTRP | 14/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?I ended up just leaving it for this one and she just replied then after 4 or 5 days since my last msg. Do you ever feel the need to reply back to give her closure? Or would you just be ghosting them after they made you wait that long for a reply? Think I have too much empathy tbh | /r/askTRP | 14/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Yeah you're probably right. Just the fact she left me on read is fkd up, especially after I could have done that to her and not given her closure but decided to do the good thing and reply. I thought the last one was a good person too until she ghosted me and gave me no closure after I sent one needy text smh | /r/askTRP | 13/01/21 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Okay thanks for the advice mate, I'll keep it in mind. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?I never talked to her on the phone, only via facebook messages and one night together irl but I knew her from school years back. Do you think one FB message saying something like: "Hey, just wanted to say I did actually enjoy the time together and we had a good laugh like you said. I never said I didn't like you like that. What are your thoughts?" I know it probs sounds bluepilled, but I'm not bothered atm with this one. Also tbh I want to send a message that will guarantee her sending one back … | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?I'm not sure tbh, probably not as much. I just don't want her to think I'm someone (a dickhead) that I'm not, or to give off the image to people and have it spread around that I play games and am a bad person. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?aye maybe some of that, it's getting easier the more confidence/self-esteem I gain tbh | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Yeah I understand, I'm getting better at spotting red flags in both women and friends. Gut instinct is a real thing that I wish I listened to in the past. I think I made a mistake with this girl, who hasn't messaged me back in four days now after she showed a lot of interest with her long messages etc. I'm not the type of person to want to naturally fuck with people's minds and play games so I want to let her know that I actually enjoyed her time and if she wants to hang out again or not that's … | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Thanks for the comment, some good advice and I'll keep it all in mind | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Shit that makes a lot sense mate, cheers I appreciate the advice. Glad to know it doesn't have to be so fkn stressful. How do you avoid/spot women who play mind games and who might take advantage of you if you're just being more yourself? | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Thanks for the comment, I've been too wrapped up in this trying to get the perfect outcome and stressing the fk out when things don't work out how I thought. What you say sounds a much better way to live tbh and more chance of happiness | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Yeah that's what it feels like a bit. When I'm face-to-face talking with a woman just being myself they seem to open up so easily and I get on well and have a laugh. But with messaging I think I'm playing a win/lose game with every msg sent, wanting to come out on top and not give power. I think it's because my first experience in ages with a woman constantly dread-gamed me then ghosted me after showing me intense affection for a couple of weeks, it fucked with my head. I'd rather just be myself… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Every time I shared vulnerabilities I usually get manipulated/gaslighted and mentally fucked up, that happened recently. I think I need to surround myself with good people tbh | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?I'm gonna check out that book, thanks. I've been thinking everything's a battlefield where you have to win every engagement | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 05:58 PM |
| -1 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?I said she sent the long needy texts not me, but okay... | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 0 | Got This Message From (Ex) PlateShe wants closure. Give her it and either move on or have her as a plate | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever changed your mind and opened up to a woman because you couldn't handle the manipulation on your conscience?Thanks for your comment mate, it's helped a lot actually. I was trying to be fake because I've been fucked over in the past and dealt with people who played mind games constantly. It was like I read some trp and game then tried to be someone else. I feel bad for trying to manipulate this girl tbh. It kinda backfired on me because even though I wasn't that interested in her originally, I did actually enjoy the night together and now I wish she'll reply. She ended up saying "if you didn't like me … | /r/askTRP | 12/01/21 10:49 AM |
| 2 | What's with this ONLY FANS shit?lmao I think it's overblown the amount of girls doing onlyfans tbh | /r/askTRP | 11/01/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | I’m legit an asshole what do I doI've done the same tbh lmao, especially after discovering trp and trying to beg but having poor calibration. Felt bad afterwards | /r/askTRP | 11/01/21 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Why do women go back to men that have physically and mentally abused them?Manipulation, gaslighting etc causes the woman to question her own reality and blame herself, among other reasons | /r/askTRP | 11/01/21 12:28 AM |
| 1 | why do girls early on open up quick?Wouldn't honing it feel unnatural and forced? Like you might start to overthink something that's naturally a part of your personality | /r/askTRP | 11/01/21 12:17 AM |
| 3 | why do girls early on open up quick?I've been told I'd be good in sales too for the same reasons you've just said, but I had low self-esteem and was a depressive recluse at that time so didn't understand why. Recently a woman actually said she felt like she knew me all her life after one conversation lmao. Can you elaborate on why you would recommended sales for those types of people and is there are certain kind/sector of sales would be best? | /r/askTRP | 11/01/21 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?Tried to share but it doesn't let you link to it. The title is "Narcissists, BPD, and You" in the main RedPill subreddit. | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 10:06 PM |
| 0 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?Nobody's saying they are mate | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 05:22 PM |
| 0 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?That's crazy, those people are vicious in how they treat others. I can relate to that as when I was at my lowest, they treat you like you're not even human. Now recently after losing weight and looking better I have had one of em trying to hit me up, fuck that shit again. I'd be interested in reading that post if ya can find it mate. Did you mentally get over the stuff they did to you? | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?Thanks I'll check him out | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 02:51 PM |
| 4 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?Cheers, will check it out. I knew of his Twitter but not really his site | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 02:46 PM |
| -2 | Is there a Red Pill guide on how narcissists operate and why they do the things they do?Tbh it's more to realise how and why my narcissistic ex-friend treated me so poorly and fucked with my head when I had low self-esteem, with me thinking it was normal to be treated that way. Part of me wants to make him feel how he treated me if I ever see him again. Plus I want to either avoid these types in the future, or know how to handle them if I have no choice | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Cooking as a hobby.I never understand how people can be bad cooks. All you have to do is follow a recipe, how hard can it be? | /r/askTRP | 10/01/21 04:49 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with insults?Yeah I guess I might have been projecting a little because I've been around some narcissistic fukkers who never let up, plus I never had another friend group and was around mine all the time, constantly being belittled. I can see the logic to dipping your toes into the water now and then to sharpen your tools when handling friendly assholes. Also only after he's improved his own frame for a little while by increasing his self-worth, maybe hitting the gym etc like I did which worked a lot. Althou… | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 08:41 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with insults?I understand what you're getting at but it's not in the same ball park. It can make you mentally worse than you first started hanging with them | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Should I get revenge on my so called “bro”?How do you not hate though? It's all well saying it but humans can't just switch off their emotions like a tap, especially if someone fucks you over. I struggle with this personally tbh. Is there some sort of method (consciously or otherwise) you use to do this? Do you think it's because your life is set up in a certain way, maybe you're fulfilled in other areas and have an abundance of friends, women, wealth and/or career options that means you don't care without even trying? Like how you can g… | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Should I get revenge on my so called “bro”?Do you speak from experience? | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 12:53 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with insults?I used to have that mindset and I stuck with people like that for years. It eroded my self-esteem and confidence bit by bit until I broke. You've got to realise that you don't have to have friends if those friends are toxic. There's no rule saying you can't go it alone until better options come along. Work on yourself and only ever be around positive people. I speak from experience. Jordan peterson has some good vids on YouTube somewhere about staying away from toxic ppl and only being around on… | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with insults?Not sure it'd be the best idea to hang out with the old guys who treat him poorly. The mental distress he'll experience, even if only seeing them for short periods, can wreck his self-esteem and confidence, then bring him down to their level. There are billions of people in the world, why waste it trying to toughen up with dickheads, when you can just avoid the bullies and be around positive people? | /r/askTRP | 08/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with insults?Listen to me when I say this: faze them out of your life and move on from them, try to surround yourself with positive people. Trust me, they will cause you mental distress that you don't need if you keep hanging around with them. You owe nobody your time, remember that mate. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/21 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Holy shit your childhood friend doesn't sound like a good person. They shouldn't put you in that position. I don't understand people like that, do they have no empathy or something? | /r/askTRP | 08/01/21 01:42 AM |
| 3 | I had basically 0 interaction with girls in 2 years, its eating at me every day and just getting worse and worse, what can I do?He's right with regards to drinking. I used to do it to avoid being anxious when on a night out. Now my mindset has changed. The only way to grow is to put yourself in uncomfortable situations and face your fears. Being sober in a social setting would tick these two boxes and you will improve as a person from the experience. Then it all becomes much easier the more you challenge yourself. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/21 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Will definitely remember this for the future | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Shit that's deep, have you just came up with that yourself? Great quote | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?I think "narcissist" sums him up. My brother is one I believe too and I cut him out as well. It was absolute hell growing up with him. Caused me to sink into a decade-long depression which I'm still recovering from. Both these people made me feel so shitty about myself then threw the blame back at me after. It's so weird how they do think they're so perfect and how everyone else is worse than them, and nothing you can say will ever change their mind or bring them into reality. How did it work ou… | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Was there a time before you were passive that you said something you regret? I've learnt to be passive now but I regret previously calling people out for their actions and slating them because it doesn't seem to bring you any closure or satisfaction at all. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?None taken. What makes you say that? | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?I made the mistake after he sent a message talking a lot of shit, of sending a long message back how I thought he was a toxic, bitter cunt and didn't want anything to do with him. I had a bluepilled mindset towards life in general even just a couple of months ago and didn't have the self-worth to know that I don't owe anybody an explanation or have to defend myself if I don't want to. I also naively assumed he would still be decent enough to acknowledge his shitty behavior and apologise. I was v… | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Tbh I have no other friends that I regularly hang out with, maybe I need to put myself out there and change this. Just like how going with other women helps get over a oneitis or toxic gf, does finding new friends help get over the effects of a toxic friend who is still in your head? | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Looking back I think having a low tolerance for bullshit would've meant this situation wouldn't have happened in the first place tbh. Yours is a good mentality to have because people will treat you how you allow them to treat you. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?How do you get rid of the covert contract? Is there a conscious thing you can do or does it go away naturally after focusing on self-improvement? My mind is always overthinking, especially at night in bed which is the worst, so my mind always thinks the worst. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Have you cut out toxic people from your life after growing in confidence?Yeah mate that's it. I just don't understand how someone can be so unapologetic and always believe they are the good ones, it's crazy. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 02:00 PM |
| 0 | Should I say I'm looking for serious LTR when dating to maximise bang count?okay I understand, thanks | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 10:40 AM |
| 0 | Should I say I'm looking for serious LTR when dating to maximise bang count?I just meant the part where you need to put on a front to not lose frame etc. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 10:26 AM |
| 0 | Should I say I'm looking for serious LTR when dating to maximise bang count?I will do but im wondering specifically how you can be honest with what you want and still practice the red pill, which involves manipulation to get a desire outcome. I'm not judging btw | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Should I say I'm looking for serious LTR when dating to maximise bang count?I'm new to the red pill but I thought it's generally all about deceiving isn't it? Like not sharing your true feelings as it comes across needy and things like that | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 03:01 AM |
| 0 | Should I say I'm looking for serious LTR when dating to maximise bang count?Doesn't that go against the red pill? | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 01:20 AM |
| 1 | First time using A&A"Go ask him out lmao" or something along those lines. Smirk/laugh if saying it irl and not over text | /r/askTRP | 06/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with higher status/smv males shit test?Don't hang around with annoying pieces of shit who try to belittle others to make themselves feel better. These people are toxic vampires who drain your energy. These males usually have rarely had their behaviour checked so never grow up and stop being c*nts. Also build muscle and learn martial arts so you're not t an easy target and just in case something happens and they keep insulting you. At least with a woman it's worth it as if she shit-tests you, you put up with it cos you can bang her af… | /r/askTRP | 05/01/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | What to do when she shit tests me after an argument?What if you're jokingly taking the piss outta them to build rapport before meeting and want to convey it's just banter? Without a "lmao" or "haha" won't they think you're just bitter? | /r/askTRP | 03/01/21 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Men dating downIt would be more like the top 20% of man is reproducing with the top 80% of women | /r/askTRP | 28/12/20 09:23 AM |
| 5 | Sharing personal struggles with GF. Keep it under wraps or open up?Reminds me of a male friend who I shared personal struggles with. Probs best to just share this stuff with a therapist who's required to keep stuff confidential | /r/askTRP | 27/12/20 09:47 AM |
| 4 | Well fuck it finally happened...Ppl who are saying they'd be okay with being with a woman who's doing an OnlyFans are either taking the piss or have zero self-respect. As for putting yourself on there, like wtf do yous not have any sense or ability to predict how it'd be a bad idea for your future? The reasons why are obvious lol I thought this was a redpill sub lmao? | /r/askTRP | 27/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 2 | I am the most sexual and forward person I know, but not within my LTR. We have good to great sex but I don't do a lot of mental foreplay, sexting, kino etc.Can you explain the ocean reference? Am I missing the obvious? | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:28 PM |
| 0 | What activities would you say have a lot of male betas and what activities scream beta?This sounds like cope | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Searching a niche to focus on and create some value for me and others. Any business ideas?How will this help you? It still won't be able to predict the future, only what products others are trying to sell. Unless there's a place you can scrape that gives you sales numbers for each product as well, but you never mentioned that | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:22 PM |
| 1 | What do I do if I don't know my purpose? I'm tired of trying so many hobbies just for me to drop them.Can "self-improvement" be a purpose even if it's not something with a fixed meaning or plan/actions within it, and if it doesn't have a predicted end goal? Like atm for me it's getting a better body by bodybuilding and eating better. I'm now also trying to get better with women now I've discovered TRP. But in the near future I want to add martial arts and sorting my career out. Wherever I see things that can be improved is added to my list of goals to achieve, like a game where I level up. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 09:33 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop failing shit tests where my girlfriend mentions us breaking upAsk her to stop as it's tiresome. If she says okay stops, she's a good person and you can be happy together. If she doesn't stop and/or puts the blame on you (says you're too sensitive etc) she is a toxic c*nt and you should leave/next her. Life's too short to be miserable mate, especially around people that are supposed to make you feel better when around. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Starting a career search at 27, any ideas?Awesome well done for getting in that position. People usually make their own luck by taking opportunities which come their way. My problem has always been trying to get everything perfect and wanting to know exactly what will happen in the future which usually ends up with me not knowing and thinking it'll all go to shit. It's reassuring to hear that there wasn't some great path set out and your opportunity came about through putting yourself out there by going to uni. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Is pressure flipping asking a question back?Lmao. How would you seriously reply to someone who responds with that? I never know what to say. Inb4 you tell me | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:55 AM |
| 1 | Starting a career search at 27, any ideas?Thanks for the input. I'd eventually like to work for myself if it works out, after gaining knowledge working for others. Did you go down the STEM route yourself? | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:31 AM |
| 2 | Starting a career search at 27, any ideas?I appreciate the comment mate. That sounds great tbh, travelling all over getting out of your comfort zone and meeting new people. Did you find out your chosen path while you were getting a degree? | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Effectiveness of condomsah right, fair enough if you already have kids and grandchildren. If you don't have any children it's a dumb idea imo. I've heard it lowers some people's testosterone also | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Starting a career search at 27, any ideas?Hi mate, I can't find the post you're referring to. Dya mind linking to it? | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Effectiveness of condomsProbs shouldn't have laughed so no offence mate but getting ya nuts fucked up with and becoming less of a man isn't my idea of redpill. Sounds like the type of thing a man who's under the thumb of his wife or gf would do. I just don't see how anyone would do it voluntarily unless there's a serious medical reason for it. | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Effectiveness of condomsVasectomies are the furthest thing from "redpill" you can get lmao | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Leaving best friends behindDon't let them bring you down and don't let others treat you badly, ever. I think you already know what to do tbh mate, you're just looking for encouragement here. I've cut toxic people out of my life and the only thing I'd do differently is doing it earlier as my self-improvement since has been massive. Unless they change their attitude just move on and find new people who are positive influences What industry do you work in, if you don't mind me asking? A career is something I'm focusing on ne… | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 09:14 AM |
| -1 | Well boys, I’m getting a vasectomy. Who else has gotten one?Oof | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 08:23 AM |
| 3 | hit a mental wallIt might just be a physical problem so check if you've been getting the right sleep, nutrition etc. Maybe get your test levels checked or something too. If it's just a mental thing take a short break without putting too much pressure on yourself to improve. Just go through the motions for a week or so, not focusing on too much. Then come back and work out new goals for yourself that you can put in place, change up your workout etc There can always be a purpose behind working out. What's your ide… | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Can't wait haha. Do you have some personal anecdotes to share? I literally can't get bored of reading before/after stories tbh | /r/askTRP | 25/12/20 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Well done mate, 100lbs is a massive achievement. Do you have any personal anecdotes you can share? | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Well done man. Do you have any times you remember where people treated you differently? I've noticed men saying sorry and moving out of my way, thinking they were in my way when I wasn't bothered. Also more men say "oryt" to me while passing and one brings up working out and fighting as he thinks I'm tough or something lmao. Women smile at me more. There's a neighbour who I could probably bang that beams every tie she sees me, but she's got a bf. Also an old bully I saw recently after I lose the… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Eventually you'll get used to it and realize they're all whores. Lol. lmfao I can't wait. I'm gonna enjoy the experiences with women that I never had growing up haha | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Thanks mate. Yeah I think imposter syndrome might sum it up | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?You'll get there mate (if you're not already there yet), never giving up is the best thing I've learned along the way | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Have any of you experience a big increase in your SMV?Awesome, are you speaking from experience? | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?I remember my mate used to only shit-talk women on tinder and did really well. The points you're making make a lot of sense I only have one photo (posted twice) with no bio haha so I'm surprised I get any matches tbh. Though I'm getting more matches (and higher quality) now than I did a few months and quite a few lbs ago. Her comment "you're not hot enough to talk to me like that, I think lol" says a lot about how good looking men can get away with so much more than everyone else, reminds me of … | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 06:22 PM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?I think she just couldn't believe I wasn't kissing her arse with the way she kept replying immediately lol. Really crazy the inflated egos women can get from social media, I never really experienced it until now. Next times I won't hammer it too much and be more normal with a few jabs thrown in, cheers | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?Thanks bro, will take it on board | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 09:36 AM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?Do you focus on making her laugh or just yourself when making it funny? I can do it, just usually I don't know which way to go about it lmao, think I'm an autist | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 07:34 AM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?Been left on read by another girl that I used to know for years cos I was too jerkish I think lol. My natural self is too nice tho and used to be taken advantage of so it's hard to know what's the right way | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 07:32 AM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?Do you make them the joke when joking about or just general stuff? Like in this case she instantly talked about how hot she is so I thought I'd take the pi$$ and make her the joke, but I ended up taking it too seriously trying to get a good outcome lol | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 07:29 AM |
| 1 | How much a$$hole is too much for tinder banter?Lmao probs came off as the latter. Do you know what style is the best way to go about things and if there's a guide or something? | /r/askTRP | 23/12/20 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever acted like a woman before discovering TRP?Nah mate you were right to post your comment as I meant women, friends and/or everyday life. No need to apologise I can relate to the dominating bit and you're definitely correct about it all. Recently I was with a woman and realised that she wanted me to take the lead and probs would have done anything I wanted. It was just all foreign to me and I didn't know how to dominate her (plus I was self-conscious) so had boring sex in the end. She ended up ghosting me not long after that for breaking f… | /r/askTRP | 22/12/20 04:01 PM |
| 10 | Have you ever acted like a woman before discovering TRP?Lmfao I have similar experiences acting like that smh. How did you end up changing to be more of a man? | /r/askTRP | 21/12/20 11:39 PM |
| 6 | Have you ever acted like a woman before discovering TRP?Lmao bask in the feels mate | /r/askTRP | 21/12/20 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT shame onlyfans creatorsWhy are people in this sub pushing for the normalisation of things like OnlyFans? Do they not know who is behind degeneracy like this being pushed? Any woman who uses or has used OnlyFans is tainted imo. Maybe worth a bang but nothing more | /r/TheRedPill | 20/12/20 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?It just makes me wanna go back to a recluse tbh lol. How do you go through life around people and always having to be on-guard waiting for some asshole to talk shit for no reason? Just too stressful being so hyper-vigilant 24/7 after years of it already | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Doesn't Agree & Amplify encourage people to continue insulting you?Sounds like way too much work tbh and the juice isn't worth the squeeze, I'd rather just avoid people again as I did for years. How do people go through life being around people constantly and always having to be vigilant/on-guard to defend against some asshole who talks crap to you? I just cba with the stress of it all | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?context is everything | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 08:14 PM |
| 7 | Doesn't Agree & Amplify encourage people to continue insulting you?You'd look like a fuckin moron dancing about lmao | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't Agree & Amplify encourage people to continue insulting you?Thanks, I'll take it on board. Does this method also work in general like with men and women at the office or bars etc when they try and shit on you? Or just mainly for women you're wanting to bang? | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't Agree & Amplify encourage people to continue insulting you?Tbh I think I'm referring more to when around males and when they insult you at work, a classroom or with friends hanging out. Would agreeing and amplifying still work? I've known some really cocky people who don't ever let up and continue with insults even if you play along. Those people have never really had their behaviour checked | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't Agree & Amplify encourage people to continue insulting you?I don't fully understand your comment. Do you mean a dumb person, as in never involve yourself with someone who is dumb and immature as they'll always win because being dumb and immature doesn't come naturally to you as it does them? I'm guessing going no contact and avoiding them in the future would be the best option? Would you be smiling/smirking when delivering that agree-and-amplify line, or just straight-faced wanting to move on to the reason why you're there? | /r/askTRP | 13/12/20 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?Going to reread that book. Thanks for the comment, you're right about the past affecting me. | /r/askTRP | 12/12/20 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?You make a lot of sense and completely right, now I'm thinking about this. Shit, it's hard not to take life so seriously and not to be on guard like how I had to be growing up with bullying etc. Does this get easier the more you raise your self-worth through stuff like hobbies/skills learnt or things like socialising and making more friends? My only "hobby" is the gym lol | /r/askTRP | 12/12/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?lol good responses tbh. I remember when I used to not give af for a period growing up and would say stuff like that. Does it come naturally the more self-esteem you gain? | /r/askTRP | 12/12/20 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Woman mocked me in front of everyone. How would've you reacted?I read NMMNG a few months ago, it helped a bit for some stuff like confronting people but instinctual things like what happened are still deep-rooted from years of childhood shit and part of my nature. Not sure how to get rid of it and losing over 70lbs and having a good body now hasn't improved it. Never heard of WISNIFG but will check it out. | /r/askTRP | 12/12/20 09:41 PM |
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