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I can’t pinpoint any one key thing. It was a series of events not all of which were related.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/21 12:02 AM
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There’s a lot of angry men on this sub. The trick is, there is no trick. Humans are imperfect and 2 imperfect things doesn’t make perfection. Things can fail for a host of reasons, sometimes no reason . Life is a gamble.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 04:09 AM
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Jesus wtf
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 04:07 AM
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If you think couples counseling is negotiating then that explains why it wouldn’t work
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 04:01 AM
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If you found something you want, go for it. Maybe it’ll catch fire, maybe it’ll be great. Getting out of bed Is a gamble.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 03:59 AM
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I fell in love. Wanted to be with her forever.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 03:55 AM
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I said before he does to decide what he wants, I’m giving the same advice everyone did without typing 5 paragraphs to do it and I’m getting down voted lol.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/21 11:40 AM
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She’s cheating on you. Confront her about it. Before you do, assuming she confirms it, what do you want?
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/21 01:09 AM
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It sounds like you were putting your mothers needs above your wife’s.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/21 02:13 AM
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It’s possible the OP doesn’t give a hoot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/21 10:03 PM
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The pain will be bad for a long time if you're anything like me. I've now come to a place where I'm not really consumed by it. But, that took a long time (it's been almost 2 years now) and a lot of therapy and soul searching. It does get better though. The one piece of advice I can offer is that you need to stay away from her life if at all possible, if you have children together clearly that will be difficult. But try and focus on you, what you enjoy and what you want to do. Wish you all the be…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/21 02:36 AM
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I struggle with doing this I know. I tend to blame myself for the divorce even though she never told me she was unhappy. Even though I supported every decision she ever made and was faithful. I know I had my faults and made my mistakes but she ruined what we built over a decade so that she could run off with someone else. I need to remind myself of who she became and not who she was, and that, the person I still love no longer exists.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/21 12:47 AM
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You're a piece of shit that can't spell.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/21 03:34 PM
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I to struggle with the fear of being lonely/alone and, likewise, have taken it upon myself to try and learn to be fulfilled without someone else. That said, we are social animals. Connections are important. There is a danger in being co-dependent and there is a danger in being a shut-in.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/20 08:29 PM
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Wow, I had the exact same thing happen to me brother. Word for word the same. That makes me feel a little better I suppose. edit
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/20 07:38 PM
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It's like we're living the same lives man. I totally get it. My wife emotionally checked out on me and then blamed all of our problems in our marriage on me and is now living with another guy - all in under a year after our divorce. She told me she "needed to be alone" which was obviously just B.S. - all of her reasons were, her real reason was that she wanted to fuck this other guy. It hurts so bad because to me we were soul mates. Truly in love. Best friends. I'd of given a kidney and I'd like…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/20 03:09 PM
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This was hilarious, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/20 03:02 PM
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Listen. No matter how complacent you got, she should have communicated to you if your behavior wasn't what she wanted. It takes two. Don't put all the blame on you. She's already looking for other guys? Then it's time for you to move on. It's over. Good news is that, eventually, you'll be in a better place.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/20 10:11 PM
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Spousal support isn't just for kids.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 08:22 PM
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Define "recently"
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/20 02:12 PM
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My marriage was nothing like you described. All in all it was the best time of my life. We had issues and drifted apart and it ended. That doesn't mean marriage as an institution is bad or that women are bad. It means that two people agreed to do something that ultimately didn't work out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/20 03:48 PM
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Why are you responding like a dick? Did you read the OP? He is in counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 04:45 PM
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I know I'm a complete stranger but, I'll talk of you need someone. I'll listen if you need that.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/20 02:27 AM
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It's totally normal. It's normal to feel like shit and it's normal to be angry, sad, depressed - sometimes all at once. It's normal to have a good day followed by a really shitty day. It's normal to think you're past it only to be sobbing the next moment. You've experienced a trauma. Take it one day at a time. Avoid booze and drugs. Go for walks. Be around people if you can. Workout. Don't isolate (I know, it's tough in these times).
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/20 02:24 AM
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STFU
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/20 02:20 AM
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Not sure why you'd think you were attacking anyone. If you want out, leave. There is no " fighting a divorce" there isn't anything his family can do. If he is the breadwinner he'll need to pay support, if you want it. Particulars vary by state.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 09:53 AM
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All women aren't anything, just like all men. Generalizing a whole group is never a good idea. You got hurt by a woman, that hurt was caused by her, not her sex Wish you the best and you're free, of course, to feel and believe whatever you like.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 09:47 AM
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That's called living. If you spend your time doing something you love, you've already 'reached it'
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/20 10:20 AM
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Don't let anger and bitterness affect your opinion of other women. I know divorced women who would say: "all men want is a pretty face and once you get old or give them kids they'll drip you for a younger woman."
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/20 06:49 PM
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I am a month or so away from a year. The first months are brutal, but they pass. Stay strong .
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/20 12:54 AM
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I read what you wrote and, honestly, you've gotta man the hell up. You have a woman you love and you're going to shatter her life because things are tough and you need free time? Have your kid learn one day that they didn't outweigh your 'freedom' so you just ran? With the utmost respect. Grow up.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/20 07:51 PM
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Yeah, after I wrote this I had an epiphany. She just wanted it done for reasons that, though inane to me, were nonetheless valid for her. It's better to be alone than with someone like that and, the person I truly miss vanished years ago, the person I signed the divorce papers with was someone else entirely.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/20 07:05 PM
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Stuck no but it certainly is on my mind. I'm looking for a new therapist now and will look into stoicism.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 10:10 AM
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Thanks for this, I needed it. No she never gave me ultimatums or voiced her concerns. I honestly thought we were best friends and would be together for life. My friends compared their marriages to mine! When she dropped the bomb nobody believed it
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 10:09 AM
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I honestly don't but from what I read on here it seems likely. Physical cheating? No. Emotional? Likely.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 10:07 AM
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Then just don't read it and skip the part where you make an asshole comment.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 01:21 AM
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We met in college. When we graduated I had planned on going to grad school to study philosophy and teach. She got accepted into a master's program for a more promising profession and I chose to work in order to support her. She graduated and I ended up in a field I didn't like, I didn't handle it well and was depressed. She gave me opportunities to try and find something else, dabbled in programming but it didn't take. I went back to school for secondary education while she worked and, long stor…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 12:53 AM
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It only is if you keep it inside
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/20 01:36 AM
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Yikes
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/20 12:05 PM
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Why did you ask the question if you already decided to do it? Why do you think anyone cares? Why do you continue to post these inane questions on this thread? ​ ps - have you got your drugs back? Oh, also.. did you just have a birthday? 3 days ago you said you were 38 and needed a place to live, now you're 39 and getting on tiktok.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/20 11:06 AM
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To OP, please stop posting here. It's insulting.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/20 12:43 AM
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No offense but the info you provided sounds like it's for a dating app.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 10:43 AM
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I had bad Chinese food once, I don't sweat off all future Chinese food
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/20 10:58 PM
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I second this.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/20 02:19 PM
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A lot of angry men on here who like to mask their pain by lumping all women into a group and subscribing to (basically) women-hating theories - that's all this red pill thing is. Stay positive man. If you aren't ready to date than just work on yourself. Bracing for all the down-voted
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/20 02:19 PM
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Take the kids somewhere close and order it delivered there?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/20 12:58 AM
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Find out her hours. Order from door dash.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/20 12:48 AM
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This is true if you're 17.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/20 05:08 PM
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Asking if you should get married on a divorce thread is probably not the best idea.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/20 08:03 PM
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I understand completely. My wife became a different Pearson. Like a switch flipped and all the love was gone. But the woulda and shoulda's will kill you. Fact is I made mistakes and so did she. But she wasn't willing to try and fix it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/20 03:15 AM
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Thanks for all the support everyone
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/20 08:59 PM
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I'm interested in your views and would like to subscribe to your news letter. Seriously though. People cheat because they aren't happy. That's the reason. Barring some sort of actual condition. If your wife cheated, it's because she wanted that other guys dick. It doesn't mean all women cheat but, it does mean yours did. Also, pretty easy to play righteous without the ability act accordingly. I mean, it's super simple for any woman to get laid. It's not for most guys. If you had it as easy, mayb…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/20 01:51 AM
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Lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/19 12:55 AM
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Marriage is a vow between two people who love each other, those vows can be... Anything. Just depends on what that couple values. Not all ceremonies are religious in nature. I think God has more important things to worry about. But, you have me curious. I took your previous comments to imply you didn't believe in God. Is that incorrect?
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 11:47 PM
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I'm going to assume that any scenario I'd offer would be met with the same rebuttal. So, I get it, you don't like marriage. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 11:06 PM
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Well, my mother helped my father beat alcoholism and he was with her while she beat cancer. Marriage is a religious ceremony, but it doesn't have to be, it's about making a promise to someone and declaring your love for them. No idea why you're bringing up diamond rings friend.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 06:21 PM
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Rebuttal to what? That marriage is a joke or whatever you were rambling on about the Bible? Okay... I point to every marriage that has succeeded. Where couples actually improved one another and grew to become stronger individuals. If you don't have that example in your life than I'm sorry. People on this thread, like the OP, are in pain. Divorce is much like a death. To come on here and pore salt into someone's wounds only tells me that you're wholly immature and, most likely, not happy in your …
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 04:14 AM
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Bumble and Tinder. I get very few likes. I've always considered myself around a 6. But, I dunno, maybe I've been wrong lol. I've also read that if you're of average looks than most dating apps aren't going to go well due to the high percentage of men. I think I'm going to start using Meetup or a similar thing in order to get to meet people in more natural settings where my better qualities can shine.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/19 01:00 PM
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Then this isn't addressed to you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/19 03:31 PM
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True. But she's told me she doesn't want a fling. I dunno. So far, online dating has been a nightmare. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/19 03:30 PM
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Merry Christmas man. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/19 03:03 AM
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You seem to assume a lot about me friend. I just didn't like the book. Not sure what him having a wife and kid have to do with anything. Hitler was married too.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/19 01:01 AM
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I've read RM. It isn't good. The author fills it with words I think he thinks gives it an intellectual/academic air, but it doesn't. It portrays men as bring manipulated by women while ignoring the subordinate position of women, in nearly every society, for the entire length of human history. It struck me as little more as a rant, by a wounded man, who'd rather externalize his problems than deal with them. The author cites little if any proof to substantiate their claims.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 09:46 PM
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I'm a guy but... That type of dog. Good. Smart. All dogs? Knowing how to Vette good vs bad dogs. Good. Smart. Are all dogs bad? I never said you hated women either, just that the books you recommended seem to indicate that general philosophy.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 08:39 PM
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So some woman hurt you so all women are bad? Seems logical. Matter of fact, a dog bit me once so, obviously, they're all horrible animals. Don't believe me? Go read some books by people who hate dogs.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 04:56 PM
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I think you just need to deal with your anger friend. Lashing out at people you don't even know, anonymously, doesn't take any balls at all and doesn't do anyone any good. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/19 07:14 PM
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Nihilism is easy. It's an excuse. Meaning is found within by taking ownership of your life. You'll never find meaning by trying to get it from something external. Also, one woman hurt you so you're done with all of them? Really? I had bad Chinese food once but I didn't write off the industry. That redpill/blackpill/rainbowpill whatever is just BS from angry people wanting to find explanations for being involved with shitty individuals.
/r/MGTOW27/11/19 06:56 PM
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You never know. People handle things differently.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/19 12:50 PM
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He posted it for the same reason people post anything here. They're hurt, looking for help.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/19 12:49 PM
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I don't see any reason to fault all women simply because one decided to divorce me. Likewise, I didn't write off all Chinese food simply because the restaurant down the block wasn't tasty. I think marriage can be a beautiful thing. But nothing in life is without risks.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/19 12:22 AM
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Personally sir, I think a better attitude would be to let go of the anger. It doesn't help. Not trying to push any buttons here, just my 2 cents.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/19 11:10 PM
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wtf 'female nature'...
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/19 10:04 PM
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This is some truly crazy shit here man. Replace 'women' with 'Jews' or 'blacks'. Also, the great achievements in the world... good lord buy a history book. Want a scientist? Look at Curie, want an adventurer? Look at Earhart. Want world leaders? Plenty of them. Did you know Einstein's wife did a lot of his math? Do you also realize that men have been in power in most of the Western world for most of history and that women were delegated roles of child rearing? Just... my god man. I get it, a wom…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/19 10:04 PM
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I tell myself I won't die alone but...
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/19 11:42 AM
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my advice is to toss all of the notes and everything tied to her. It will be tough, but ask yourself... a few years from now, you're with another woman and building a new life, are you going to sit and read those notes? put out the knick knacks? I highly doubt it. She decided she didn't want to be with you. Her loss. Don't rent her any more space in your head than you need to.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/19 10:30 PM
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