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Dating After DivorcePast-Swan238/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 12:16 AM
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Need SupportPast-Swan238/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 02:59 AM
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Hey and thanks for your response. Right now I'm not dating at all and don't really plan to for a while as I'm still pretty not over my wife and not really in the right space. So that's why I'm considering escorts despite what happened to me... And true, not good to have no drive or emotion. But I've been kind of like that anyway except also anxious
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 06:56 AM
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I have this problem too, with no real solution I have found so far :( Also about a year for me. Really miss her including physically. I hope like some others are saying that with time it will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 02:07 PM
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I visited several escorts (in a country where it is all legal) after separation (divorce pending for me now). Here are the pros and cons in my experience. Pros: -it’s fun sleeping with hot women and a real mood booster, at least temporarily -It’s therapeutic to have someone touch you and be able to touch someone sexually, I really miss doing that and my wife and I had a decent-to-good sex life, so to go from that to nothing is rough -cost isn’t usually that much for what you’re getting. As many …
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 04:14 PM
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Since my separation with divorce pending, I have struggled with this lack of purpose. Still can’t shake the feeling that life is pointless
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 12:34 AM
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HealthygamerGG has a video on YouTube about how divorce affects men vs women differently that goes into this a little Although I take his content with a grain of salt, this video was helpful I thought. Basically the reasons he says divorce often hits men harder is that for men it is a loss of greater identity rather than just a relationship (e.g. you often lose your home, family structure, purpose as a provider that society says men should have) vs women often “just” losing a relationship. Also …
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 10:28 PM
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Yes, it was my fault. I tried to retrain with postgrad study while we had young kids, which took all my time as I worked as well. Due to this I really neglected her and put much more of the burden of looking after kids and housework on her, while earning only around the same as her (I.e. not taking on more of the financial, household, or child raising responsibility). Then with all the stress, fighting, work, and young kids, I ended up failing out of the study (unusual for me), making all the st…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 10:44 PM
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I have in the past and honestly that doesn’t worry me too much- more the anxiety over STDs. But maybe you are right anyway
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 12:39 AM
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It is a struggle! Sorry to hear you are going through it too
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 12:24 AM
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I get that same grief listening to Circles by Post Malone for the same reason - we heard it a lot when we were expecting our first child, and it sort of became our anthem. I remember it playing while I drove my wife to the hospital. I am going on a year now and still get these waves of grief over little stuff like that - triggering memories. How I wish it would all end! It sucks to break down crying because I’m reminded of something just out and about. But maybe I am too soft or something. Anywa…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 11:25 PM
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Thanks and same to you!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 12:58 PM
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Thanks, that’s good advice. What have you been reading?
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 12:20 PM
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This resonates with me, despite only being together for 10 years not 20. How could I have been so neglectful to her? I did not mean to be but was anyways. Now there is no chance of return and I have very little left in my life I hope you can get past this and wish you luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 04:51 AM
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That’s a good point. Something to be said for having some minimum intimate touching. Thanks for your message
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 06:34 AM
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I try that, and for sure important to do. But hard to stop
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 05:58 AM
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I tried tinder with no luck haha! Maybe I need better profile pics or something. But that’s great you found her, sounds pretty hot
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 04:12 AM
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Yeah I sometimes talk to mine for help like that. But I feel it can be a bit limited in what it says
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 04:01 AM
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Thanks, that is good advice
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:23 AM
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Thanks, that is reassuring.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:23 AM
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Yes, no desire to do that with trafficked/impoverished people
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 02:27 AM
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I have one of those and it gets a workout haha. But for me it has not been enough
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 02:26 AM
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Thanks. I’ve started doing consistent exercise for the first time in my life in part due to this and it does help. But not enough for me I guess Also, lifting rocks ha ha. I wish I had started it sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:54 AM
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Thanks, that is probably true. But I have never been good with women, quite shy, never had a partner besides my wife, and now I suspect I am at my least attractive for those sorts of hookups, having moved back with my parents and now with kids. Do you have advice on how to meet people like you are saying?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:53 AM
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That’s true, but my thought these days is that all solutions are temporary…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:21 AM
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Thanks but I live in a place where it is legal. I was more considering the ethical and practical aspects, and that I am doing it because of distress and loneliness
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:21 AM
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I feel that I keep going to them because of distress & impulsivity with losing wife, so you are right, I have conflicting motivations and thoughts. But I don’t know if I want to find myself again, as I think I truly hate myself
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:08 AM
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Thanks, I will keep in mind. It feels like I will just not get over this but perhaps with time
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 12:59 AM
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You may be right, thank you for saying this. I am trying to work on myself, get therapy, etc. but I am very unmotivated because I feel like there is not much left in my life (besides kids) and nor do I want there to be any more honestly
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 12:52 AM
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Thanks brother, that is encouraging that it helped you. You hang in there too.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 12:36 AM
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Yeah I do use protection but of course there is still some risk involved. Idk, I feel so low most of the time and very hard to deal with everything
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 12:26 AM
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