Considering escort

mikemitch0785 · 2026-03-08T22:13:55+00:00

Look for women with history, you think it would be the opposite but actually it means that they are professional and they have been doing this safely for a long time without getting anything or else the person who got it would definitely have reported them to the website would have left comments but if they have a clean site with a lot of history of posts they are safe. It's their job to get you off, not get hurt and not get STD so they are more vested in it than even you are as not only with that crappy you would also ruin their only sorts of income. Stay away from anyone you see as a user as they are desperate enough to do whatever. But if you want the foolproof test simply ask them if you can if they're willing to go without a jimmy you pay extra, if they say yes then skip them.

huskycushion · 2026-03-07T00:07:19+00:00

Right there with you buddy. Why can we not get over these people who are so damaging to us?

No-Asparagus6937 · 2026-03-04T19:19:49+00:00

Yeah man go for it. Fashion model level and costs less than an expensive date these days. And best part? Goodbye and no nagging!

midnight_Caller74 · 2026-03-04T16:43:13+00:00

Find a girlfriend, both get std tests, problem solved

Gattsama · 2026-03-03T17:52:31+00:00

There is always a moral, ethical, religious, cultural, etc. Answer to these questions. The truth is is that consenting adults can do whatever they want, but are you willing to deal with the consequences of your choices .

Some people can engage in transactional sex and are perfectly fine with it. Some people cannot( usually due to the cultural and morals of their society that leave they've internalized ). If it works for you and it's not costing a lot of money, then you should just do what you feel is best.

There are some that will say you can get it for free by going on apps, or engaging hookup culture. But that's not 100% true. There might not be pay-to-play cash, but there's still a Time investment, screening, vetting, and no guarantees about what's going to happen to the end of the day .

Charlie Sheen said it best, you don't pay a prostitute for sex, you pay her to leave after sex. The goal is that you know exactly what you're getting and she knows exactly what she's getting. There's a term the GFE experience, for the girlfriend experience. The idea is that you're not just getting sex. You're also getting the touch, tenderness, appreciation, and interactions that would mirror an actual relationship. It's artificial, but for some guys that's good enough if they do it from time to time .

So once again, it really comes back to who are you as an individual. For me, the artificialness of it just doesn't work. Without some emotional connection I just don't get much out of sex, sometimes even with it. I know other guys that simply love engaging in pay-to-play services routinely, even if they could get a long-term relationship with a "normal woman." Because they just like the fun of it, The variety, The lack of drama, not having to court someone, etc etc.

You do you..

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2026-03-03T15:44:20+00:00

You’re using escorts to fill a hole in yourself that addictions and distractions can never fill. Just like alcohol, drugs, porn, food, shopping, screen time, adrenaline, etc. can’t ever satisfy you. For me, only figuring out who I am and God’s purpose for my life could fill that hole.

Mcjnbaker · 2026-03-03T13:58:34+00:00

I had a friend once that told me if it Flys,Floats, or Fu$&s ——-lease it !!!! it’s way cheaper in the long run

EitherBedroom2341 · 2026-03-03T13:05:42+00:00

Make sure she’s under 25. It cures heartbreak. You are a man. Your biology is wired that way.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-03-03T08:02:56+00:00

No way Jose

Imagine the post nut clarity after you’ve banged a hooker

Would be up there with post divorce trauma.

Just crack one off bro. It’s cheaper and you won’t feel as pathetic afterwards

smartalec-71 · 2026-03-03T06:23:42+00:00

In Australia, brothels are legal. Use a condom.

Alternative-- Get a "rub and tug" massage. And hey-- you also get a massage out of it!

Assuming it's not that frequent, it isn't that expensive, and it kept me sane-- I got what I'd consider the bare minimum intimate touching, so I didn't fall for the first chick that I met. And *that* has saved me quite a bit of heartbreak.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-03-03T05:52:15+00:00

I would say to first focus only on your kids and getting comfortable being by yourself alone.
Running to escorts for escaping the pain at this time is the same as giving in to alcohol and/or drugs.

probebeta · 2026-03-03T05:12:18+00:00

I'd say skip that and meet some women on hinge instead. Get in shape, gym, maybe get on retatrutide or something and build your body. Escorts are not going to give any type of fulfilling experience.

Prestigious_Ant8209 · 2026-03-03T05:04:13+00:00

I am in a similar situation right now and yes I felt the same urge because of fear I did not want to hire an escort as I don't want another pain (STDs) in my life and I bought a sex toy (flashlight) but somehow got a tear down on my penis and now I have a scar tissue and it's healing but glad I did not risk with escorts. I installed dating apps and it's working. Trust me there are so many of us out there you just need patience and focus on getting in shape with a good diet.

longblademotor · 2026-03-03T04:03:58+00:00

Get on tinder. I’ve been on for a week, I’m meeting a woman Friday and going to a hotel + concert. I am beating the freakiest women I’ve ever met in my life away with a stick. It’s a whole new world. You wouldn’t believe the things I’m being told / sent. Get back out there killer.

Wales4ever_n_ever · 2026-03-03T03:41:41+00:00

AI chatbots can also be healing.

swomismybitch · 2026-03-03T02:37:15+00:00

Dont worry too much a out STDs, professional escorts are strict about precautions, their business suffers if they catch something. STDs are far more likely from drunken casual hookups.

You can decide what you are in the mood for, a short time hookup and done or a nice evening with sex. Say what you are looking for and let the escort decide how to deliver it.

throwaway-someday-eh · 2026-03-03T02:23:41+00:00

Just find a well-reviewed girl on a legit site. Don't send a deposit, but you'll must likely have to get screened via I D beforehand which is all normal. Nothing bare, rub one out beforehand and go sober. You'll have fun!!

BuddhistChrist · 2026-03-03T02:19:42+00:00

Please don’t do sex vacations. Many of the girls (not women) are trafficked in those situations. Other than that, be safe and be legal.

1millionBURNINGsuns · 2026-03-03T02:13:18+00:00

I’d consider trying a fake vagina - like a latex one. Get that and some lube and it feels surprisingly decent. Look I’m not saying don’t see paid women at all but sounds like you may be uneasy with the fleeting nature of the companionship. Try something new. Nobody can judge you anymore.

Worked for me at least. Took care of myself and made me feel better. Getting over that first feeling of awkwardness of buying basically a male sex toy gave me more confidence to in time move on to other things. It’s like $30 and lasts a long time. Maybe give it a try.

Ok-Anything-3605 · 2026-03-03T01:45:23+00:00

I hit the gym for my release, but I crave touch here and there. Take care of yourself, in whatever way you’re comfortable!

redditrock56 · 2026-03-03T01:15:28+00:00

Be careful if you go the escort route. Local cops love to run stings out of no-tells and fuck up people's lives all the time in my area.

Koi_Fish_Mystic · 2026-03-03T00:50:54+00:00

Like above, use protection. I have found Nuru massages to cost less & still ‘satisfying’. Just a suggestion.

DarthDad25 · 2026-03-03T00:49:13+00:00

Don’t use escorts. It’s a cheap, disgusting, emasculating way to distract your healing and pain. You need to do real work on yourself. Not suppress and avoid it. There are healthier ways that will have more lasting impact. In the moment the meaningless sex may help you. But later you’ll regret it.

Minimum_Step5048 · 2026-03-03T00:21:38+00:00

You should always wear protection man. Obviously not worth the risk, and these women all lie so don’t trust them if they promise they are clean or haven’t seen other people. 90% of the time she’s following the same pattern with you that she does all the guys she sees

Title	Considering escort
Author	Past-Swan238
Upvotes	35
Comments	81
Date	March 3, 2026 12:16 AM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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