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Triggered and unhinged. Hopefully you are getting help.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 02:13 PM
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You sound unhinged. For real.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 06:39 AM
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A lot of words and rambling along with enough straw men to fill 13 farms full of scarecrows. California's divorce and family law is not the same as other states. It is much more punitive. Case closed. Call somebody in to tighten your straight jacket, we don't want you to hurt yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 05:09 AM
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California is a leftist dystopia. Nothing makes sense there.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 03:48 AM
4

It's over. You are both just delaying the inevitable because an uncertain future and starting over is scary. This is why most relationships go through a long painful and usually ugly limp to the finish line. As time passes she will become just another part of your past, like the other phases of your life where the memories get less fresh and more distant.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 06:28 AM
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There's this weird outdated societal pressure about a man being a provider, making her an honest woman and supporting her at play. People still subscribe to it. Every man has felt that pressure from family and friends when dating somebody.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 04:00 PM
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And a special advanced class for those that do it a little bit later and have accumulated assets prior to getting married. That's a special kind of no grease butt fuckin'.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 03:46 PM
88

You forgot the biggest piece of advice: If you haven't yet, don't ever get married.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 06:37 AM
3

Bank account? Yes. Heart? Not so much.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 07:46 PM
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Still talking about Trump non-stop after a year? Trump owns your little brain. Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 10:59 AM
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A year later and you post nonstop about Trump still. Trump owns your little brain. Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Trump Keep stalking me Trump boy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 10:57 AM
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Ok man, I'll leave you alone now. Feel better!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 01:23 AM
1

Jesus, lighten up kid. Life doesn't need to be that hard. I guess you are under 30 and self important though.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 01:19 AM
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Whaaah!! Cry in your craft beer. The guy's comment and post speaks (screams) to what his problem is. I used humor and satire to point it out. Sorry if you are easily butt-hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 01:15 AM
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She is probably trying to balance the life cycle of her fucking with you though. You should probably take it off-line and benchmark the paradigm. Be proactive and get granular on the pussy. You may find that this strategy brings the best R.O.I. and facilitates the most scalable orgasms for her. Touch base with you later. Cheers!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/21 09:44 PM
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"make nice salary and have hobbies i’m trying to scale" I agree with her, you may be a dork. Sounds like you are a living, breathing blog on Medium or Linkedin. Stop trying so hard to be something others think you should be and just relax.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/21 09:09 PM
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She won't get alimony if you don't want to give it to her, but you many have to give up something else. These are all things that you will negotiate. You will go back and forth with proposals through the attorneys. The attorneys will drag this process out and suck another month of retainer from you for as long as they can. This will go on for a few months minimum depending on how the negotiation goes and when the court date is. If you can't come to an agreement during this process that is when c…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 03:43 AM
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Alimony is rare and only part of the zeitgeist because of celebrity and TV movie divorces. They seem to make standard incomes that are very similar to each other. There will not be alimony if this is the case.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/21 01:27 AM
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This times 1000. No matter how long you were married you are not blood relatives. As soon as that connection is severed all bets are off. The passage of time will make you strangers and the times you shared will fade into distant memory.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/21 01:23 AM
2

Tens of thousands? For a dude that is probably 50? That's getting off easy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/21 01:20 AM
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The only time this will go to a judge is if you guys don't agree on what the split is going to be. It is a misconception that every divorce winds up in court. It will only wind up there if you do not come to terms. The back and forth while haggling over this gets expensive with the attorneys. If you agree on the terms of the settlement before the court date then you're done. Being through the process I can tell you that ancillary nonsense doesn't make a difference. This is nothing like what you …
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/21 08:01 PM
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Well good luck. It is a friggin jungle out there now with social media. Especially women and social media. It has really messed up their mental state. Things really went south in my marriage when my wife had her face in the phone 24/7 involved in the Facebook vortex. They all cry about how miserable their lives are and we all know how misery loves company.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 01:10 PM
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I thought asking someone to be your girlfriend stopped after high school. Doesn't it just sort of happen?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 04:12 AM
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great post (from a user named "adorable fecal spray". I guess these are the times we live in...
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 03:52 AM
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Welcome to 2021. Every woman has been given this weapon. They will use it too when the time comes.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/21 06:27 PM
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You are divorced. She is manipulating you most likely because she is lonely. I had a couple of text exchanges with my ex a couple of months ago but in the end it just keeps the wound open. For me I have decided to not encourage or participate in that anymore. I have even given up visits with my dog which were part of the divorce decree because it just keeps reopening old aggravations and wounds. You have a couple of things working for you here, you have distance and you have someone new to help …
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 11:45 PM
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Yes if the individual has issues and getting in the way of them being a good partner therapy can help. Sometimes it's not a matter of fixing oneself though. It's just that the two people don't share the same values or the relationship has run its course. Not every couple is meant to be together, there are mistakes that are made and you can marry the wrong person. We ignore our gut feeling too often thinking we can fix things or put patches on issues or that we can change the person. There are ti…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/20 03:32 AM
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To be honest with you this couples counseling and marriage counseling is a total racket. Answer a question for yourself, what do you feel in your gut? That's your answer right there.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/20 11:45 PM
2

Get out. You're young start again fresh. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/20 11:43 PM
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This sounds really insane I'm sorry. Why don't you just move out? Sounds like codependency.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/20 03:16 AM
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Yeah the whole "self-esteem" movement over the last 2O-30 years has been nothing but an excuse to absolve yourself of responsibility and being accountable. Responsibility and accountability are uncomfortable and kind of a bummer at times so hey screw it! Worry about yourself that's the ticket! l Let's dress up selfishness with fancy slogans and put them all over Instagram and pretend as though we are persecuted for just existing, and demand everybody recognize us and our flaws and accept them an…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:00 AM
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This FB crap is the key, they see this phony fantastic life that their friends are making pretend to live. Then when one of their pals is having relationship problems it becomes a soap opera that they become immersed in with moment by moment updates via text all night. Then of course there is the yoga classes and the dreaded coffee session afterwards where they sit and whine about what they "deserve" and how their husbands are "abusive" (new buzzword) for demanding accountability . Misery loves …
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 10:03 PM
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She is having a midlife crisis searching for something that she will not likely find partying and trying to relive a lost past. Take solace in the fact that soon she will crash out of this phase and wonder to herself "WTF have I done? ".
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 09:55 PM
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Yes to this, my wife didn't work. I had a house keeper and I would cook when I got home and she was already in the back yard 2 sheets to the wind drinking wine out of a mason jar and smoking weed while on the phone and playing music like she was in College again and it was the Coachella festival every night of the week. I remember telling her more than once while telling her to turn down the music out of respect for the neighbors that "It is Monday, it's not party time, people work for a living"…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 09:40 PM
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The gut never lies. I have learned the hard way more than once in many matters in life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 09:35 PM
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Read your own post. Then read it again. Then if you still can't figure it out, read your post again and you will have your answer as to whether or not you should get married. These feelings don't go away, they get worse.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 09:34 PM
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If you find it let me know I'm angry more than anything else about the amount of sacrifice and effort that I put into the marriage without ever having gotten any reciprocation. Ex-wife is a bulimic a heavy drinker and smokes pot daily, only child that has never grown up. She will be 50 years old this year, her parents who are divorced since she was six years old have always been there as enablers preventing her from ever having to take any real responsibility. I tried to get her to take responsi…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 08:23 PM
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your comment is negative and therefore will be most likely downvoted because this is Reddit but I have to agree with this somewhat. My experience has led me to believe that there's no point to marriage other than for the kids sake and I don't have any kids. My sister has been in a common-law relationship for 30 plus years, I now look like a fool having told her that marriage is" just different". I was with the wrong person and because of it I lost hundreds of thousands of dollars of my hard-earn…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/20 12:24 AM
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Well you definitely need to get an attorney because any advice here is just going to be pure speculation. The question is can he legally cut his spouse off the benefits? He is the one employed not you, so the employer really doesn't know you or care who you are. Your divorce is yours and your husband's business. He could simply say that she's getting insurance from her job now. Perhaps there is some type of injunction available to you. For me to remove her from my insurance with my insurance com…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 11:15 PM
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yeah I know but my ex wife never cared about how much stuff costs she signed up for it because she has a medical condition and didn't want any interruptions. I was to devastated from losing my job to deal immersing myself in the ins-and-outs of the health insurance market at the time. Little did I know that I would be stuck with it for almost a year during the divorce proceedings. Sounds like you don't have a problem then. The insurance was reinstated all's fine
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 10:51 PM
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It's got nothing to do with his employer. My wife's health and car insurance was costing me $800 a month out of pocket because I was on cobra. My attorney kept warning me about cutting her off, it's simply a court thing and how the judge will view this act. It could impact the financial judgment against him for what could be construed as a malicious act but has nothing to do with his employer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 10:33 PM
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I am listening to a book by the recently deceased Neil Peart from the band Rush. He wrote a book called Ghost Rider about what happened to him following the death of both his young daughter and wife within the span of 14 months in the late 1990's. It was about finding his way and rebuilding a life from scratch. Highly recommend for anyone going through upheaval in their life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 11:43 PM
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It's over man. My wife and I were hugging and crying the night before she moved out she said something who knows maybe in a couple of years things will change. Not too long after she was trying to gouge extra money from me and trying to prevent me from seeing my dog and dragging out the process to milk more health benefits out of me and cost me thousands and thousands in additional attorney fees. One thing I learned is that blood is thicker than water and no matter how long you've been with your…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/20 04:25 AM
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How would you possibly be responsible for spousal support making that income? It's almost poverty line. Stop worrying.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 12:36 PM
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What app or service are you using?
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/19 04:29 AM
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I live in a community property state All assets accrued as a couple during the marriage are community property so where you direct your deposit makes no difference. It's all trackable. If he opens an account in his name during the marriage it's still community property. I sold a house that I owned for 18 years prior to the marriage because it was sold during the marriage now it's community property and she's entitled to a cut of it. Those are just the facts. me putting that money into an account…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 04:52 PM
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My cunt ex wife ran to an attorney within her family while my father was in the hospital getting surgery for cancer. The attorney wind up costing me 25 Grand hers was pro bono of course. Still to this day she will claim that I didn't need to get an attorney. Ignorant f*** that she is. Easy come easy go that's the way they are.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 04:13 AM
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Separating finances isn't going to do you any good. Just put a freeze on credit cards and see what you can do about locking down join accounts. Moving money around into solo accounts is going to hurt you in the eyes of the Court, and you're not going to get away with it anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 01:47 AM
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Lot of similarities. I would say it depends on her and her dedication. Is she really into it? People don't really change much. We went to therapy, my wife seemed to treated as another night out, she was more interested in where we were going afterwards to have drinks . She loved being on stage and therapy was just another place to impress, I remember her being so stubborn with the therapist it would take 5 minutes for her to concede the most basic points, not in an argumentative way but just not…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/19 03:00 AM
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I'll attempt the last part. The values thing is really essential, the opposites attract thing worked for us for a while but it's always fleeting. We complemented each other personality wise but she wasn't able to compromise and respect things that I valued such as thrift delayed gratification and respecting things in general. This goes back to the values. Perhaps I thought she would come around but she never did. She was not appreciative or grateful and took everything for granted so eventually …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/19 01:01 AM
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We were never equals, very opposite. I am the very responsible, good head on their shoulders type where she's the very free-spirited, outgoing live for today type that never really grew up. She just really needs to be taken care of and that was my role. Her selfishness and psychiatric issues prevented her from ever coming around and growing into the wife role. A very me focused person very childish and spoiled. Yes I do regret marrying her because there were a number of decisions made that now p…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/19 12:30 AM
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Well I am. And you will be too. The system Fucks men with no grease.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 10:46 PM
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Not to bum you out but I'm approaching one year and I'm still very angry. The decision was mutual however I can't get over the resentment. I lost my job 3 months before my wife and I decided to divorce. She wasn't there for me in my time of need and I was there for her in so many different ways over the course of our marriage. It was such a mistake marrying her our values just do not match. The anger can consume you. I am still working on a path forward. I am farther along in life so it can add …
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 10:37 PM
4

Our whole culture revolves around going out to eat and drink
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 03:10 PM
2

Are there any marriages where the sex doesn't just dry up or doesn't get totally boring? Television and movies really Warp people's idea of what sex is like during a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 01:09 AM
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A separate bank account doesn't matter when you're married everything is community property. I sold a house during my marriage that I owned for 18 years before I even met my wife. Once I sold it during the marriage half the cash was hers.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 01:05 AM
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Yeah dating sucks but with all of the different ways you can connect with people now it's a lot easier than it used to be. There are plenty of women out there in a similar situation it's just weeding through all the fakeness and screwed up priorities people have now that can get frustrating.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/19 01:02 AM
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I'm confused.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/19 06:53 AM
1

Where is the ACLU or some other advocacy group on this s*** why is this still allowed especially now in this era where everybody's always rattling on and on about #metoo and equal pay, transgender rights and on and on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/19 05:49 AM
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It's over The reason these relationships that are doomed linger so long as that people have a hard time acclimating to the unknown of a new life without that person. Bite the bullet and walk away . Time heals all wounds.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/19 05:00 PM
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How old are you and your wife? Reason I ask is that it does factor in when it comes to deciding to cut your losses and move on. Your situation sounds pretty grim. One thing for sure that I learned is that if there big differences in your values and how you view things, it is not going to get better. For instance my ex was very unappreciative, didn't respect the value of things and was very self centered. All of these things are a 180 from my values. As time went on the resentment and frustration…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/19 05:10 AM
1

Money.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/19 11:25 PM
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To both of you guys welcome to the world of being a man during a divorce. they do get to dictate terms for some reason I don't know why. But it cost me probably in additional $2,000 of bickering with my lawyer about this point.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/19 12:49 AM
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Don't believe her when she says go for it. If you do it your relationship with her will never be the same.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/19 09:11 PM
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I'm older and will not put up with a chick that has her face in her phone on social media. It's just a recipe for disaster. Even without cheating most broads are such sheep that they tend to absorb their friends insecurities and insanity and all of a sudden you have to deal with it. Not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/19 05:17 PM
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This is pure and simple a case of too Young too soon,You guys hooked up when you were early 20's, Thankfully for you you have plenty of time to rebuild your life. I just got divorced I'm 51 years old I feel like I gave my wife the best years of my life, which she didn't deserve.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 11:59 PM
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But all she will remember is how you were "verbally abusive to her". The word abuse is getting thrown around real liberally these days. My wife was a stumbling drunk for the seven years that we were married. Your responses evolve over time so the empathy disappears and the anger takes over. like with any addict you can never say the right thing to them, until they get their own head straight they will point fingers and you will be to blame. do yourself a favor and don't make the same mistake for…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 06:35 PM
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I was thinking that a one-page document should be presented to every guy prior to getting married with all the things that he's going to get screwed on if he were to get divorced. Divorce would become extinct.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/19 01:01 AM
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My divorce was finalized in July. I've been angry for almost a year now and I'm still very pissed. Your situation is much worse, my advice is to get into a support group right away it will provide you with a place to vent the anger, keeping it bottled up is a bad thing and can lead to trouble. The laws are stacked against thei man it will blow your mind and it will make you even more pissed as time goes along and you get screwed at every turn. Don't send nasty text messages, they will come back …
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/19 05:58 AM
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There is no open and shut. You are a man and you are going in to a street fight with your arms tied behind your back
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/19 09:52 AM
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