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Just because you label it as not an excuse doesn’t mean it’s not an excuse. Nobody cares if you were in your whatever phase. And as for making one mistake and then brushing it off: I agree you shouldn’t let it negatively impact your identity, but it is a learning opportunity that you don’t seem to be taking. How many at-bats do you think you’re going to get with high-quality guys? They are not unlimited.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/26 04:12 PM
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Let’s remove the excuses, you started playing a game and he decided he didn’t want to play. You exhibited dysfunctional behavior and created drama right away. That tells a man that there will be no peace with you. And that was date #1. Can you imagine if he pursued you further? That’s nothing but a life of pure chaos and a man’s eyes. Respectfully, I think you should consider therapy with someone who’s qualified. The issue is absolutely not that you became emotionally invested too quickly. That …
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/26 02:24 PM
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The question is: which beliefs get you the best outcomes in life? Those are the beliefs you should hold. Making pussy a commodity saves men from many of the pitfalls leading to failed missions and eventually failed men. And even if the pussy tier system is a symbol of value to you, to your point, it is a lagging indicator of achievement already obtained.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/26 09:29 PM
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Careful what you wish for.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/26 09:05 PM
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I haven’t been here in a while, so I’m not sure what’s normal anymore. But I hope you’re trolling. In case you’re not, spoiler alert none of this gets any better and you are absolutely the problem. Don’t take that to mean this is salvageable with her, it’s not.
/r/askMRP27/05/26 09:03 PM
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One cannot hide what they have no understanding of.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/26 10:31 PM
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You’re also in the minority because you were successful. It’s not correlation. It’s causation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 03:36 PM
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All due respect, many of these comments are bad advice and they lack any red pill theory behind them whatsoever. If a successful marriage is what you want, then you are a wife before becoming a wife. I’m easily in the top 2-3% of men and here’s what I see when a girl is dating multiple men at once: - there’s a list of orbiters in her phone forever, trying to sleep with her - attention hungry over controlled and disciplined - started the relationship out with doubt and felt the need to diversify …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 01:52 PM
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From the outside looking in, yes, this isn’t going anywhere. The reasons actually don’t matter, unless you can learn from them. The advice I would give my own daughter would be to make sure the next man you emotionally invest in has the characteristics, life situation and capabilities to be the last man you have to invest in. Then invest yourself entirely.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 02:50 PM
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I’ve always found butt plugs send the correct message.
/r/askMRP06/12/25 12:39 AM
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Add 15k more mrr to my business Finish salsa class Finish Spanish class Stay single
/r/TheRedPill25/11/25 05:55 PM
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It’s a good yet difficult question and you show some self-awareness in asking it. I think the answer for you could really depend on the premise of your viewpoint. You seem to have an underlying assumption that to be alpha a man must have some level of being rebellious, manipulative, and/or emotionally unavailable (among other traits, such as dominance, which no one will disagree with here). Have you considered that there may be men that can inspire your attraction that don’t have those negative …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/25 01:07 PM
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Lol - 💯
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/25 05:58 PM
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I agree with you, and there are many great points you make. Going beyond red pill theory - or maybe redder than the current red pill - I’m not fully convinced us mammals were meant to be together for life. If we take away that fairytale and you just look at other mammals, it’s actually very rare that two mates will stay monogamous. Only 3 to 5% of all mammals species even make this a possibility (and who knows how many within those mammal species actually stick to it, it’s <100% for sure). So wh…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 04:51 PM
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Love is not enough. It’s not even close to being enough.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 12:48 PM
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I understand your frustration. You were sold a fantasy that doesn’t exist: there is not a perfect guy. And also jealousy is the enemy of joy. You will never be able to out-accomplish everyone, including your friends that are getting married currently. I previously was married for 16 years and I can tell you marriage is very much about compromise and embracing imperfections that are tolerable. I’ll add that as a man in the West, I am resolved never to get married again. Despite my best efforts, d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 11:50 PM
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We must discuss! hq young men play around and then want to settle down later - This is actually the woman’s arc at about 30, not usually the man’s. The man’s options don’t depend on looks or age as much at all. Things like status and competition anxiety have a much heavier weight, and that is directly in red pill theory / Rollos works. Older guys who were playboys when they were younger are not usually worried about becoming unattractive. They may have fewer options, but the real driver of commi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/25 11:37 PM
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Just for my own edification, how much of the side bar have you even glanced at? Are you aware that there is a sidebar that you are supposed to read? The amount of projection in your post is phenomenal. It’s clear you are not happy with your options and you’ve had bad experiences. Welcome to life - most of us have. I think you would benefit from asking yourself what baggage you are bringing yourself to your prospects. It’s not easy to self reflect, but it’s clear from your post above: You simply …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/25 07:46 PM
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I once read through his journal because I suspected he had narcissistic tendencies. I think you would benefit from taking a long hard look at that sentence. And then you later call what you read a red flag. Those thoughts were not for you and you violated his privacy by going there. You lack some self-awareness here. Your instincts are right however, the data says you will not find another man with this level of income, his willingness to treat you well and his height. He’s in some minuscule per…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/25 01:06 AM
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Can you give me more context how you found out about red pill? What was the form about and how was it brought up to you? red pill is essentially mainstream today although almost constantly misapplied. This stuff is over 15 years old and known by hundreds of millions of people or more now. So I’m always curious what pockets of the population don’t have it and what’s the characteristics of those pockets are.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/25 12:54 AM
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Could be. However, I assume women have become adept at detecting inauthenticity by now. With every other dude on a dating app trying to be a “pua”, I imagine women are inundated with pretenders all the time and get plenty of practice in discerning them. Am I wrong?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 08:07 PM
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Well, you live whatever story you tell yourself. Is it too late? Are you unable to pair bond? That’s really up to you. At 28 with 26 partners that basically means two partners per sexually active year of your life roughly. Not insane. Does that make it easy for you? probably not, but is it impossible to bond with someone in your case? I refuse to believe that. If you tell yourself the victim story, guess what your story will be? Guess how many people in the west have also suffered difficult trau…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/25 09:40 PM
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So now that you’ve received feedback on this post, do you think he’s trying to manipulate you or he genuinely lost interest in you?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 11:27 AM
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I don’t mean any disrespect by this at all but it’s almost like we’re reading two completely different stories. You have a guy that is clearly high value both financially and otherwise plus he’s religious and has strong beliefs, plus he’s made no moves to sleep with you. He made serious efforts to stay engaged over a multiple week trip. Yet that sounds like it’s still not enough for you. He’s still playing games in your opinion. Just because he goes three days without a text doesn’t necessarily …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 04:24 AM
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“But she’s the one!” - coming soon..
/r/askMRP23/08/25 09:59 PM
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You should consider if these “bad feelings” are all just your hunger for external validation? Eg. Showing other people and yourself all these great things you would be getting. And if so, how can you ever be happy with anyone when your sense worth comes from what you materially get from them? What I read here is a man that is providing for your needs well beyond the level of where your relationship is even at. You have a lot of wants but candidly those can’t be the top priority in a healthy rela…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 08:36 PM
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Yes, there is 100% a too late. I’ve been with many women who span these extremes. I think it’s better for women to look at this as ensuring there is continued forward momentum for showing passion on each date (assuming she even feels that for him to begin with). You don’t need to start with sex, but if you are attracted - you do need to show it. Otherwise he may friendzone YOU 😄 (truth). It’s not binary - you can be open to progressing sexually every date without having to have sex right away. B…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 10:43 AM
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But the question is what is too soon? And I’m raising the counter, what is too late?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/25 01:45 AM
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Yes, for 16 years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/25 01:44 AM
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Frankly, there’s a lot of borderline feminist advice here. The make him wait game does not work. That guy that you’re interested in is going to read this as a lack of genuine passion or you will succeed in betafying him and lose interest. I’m not saying you have to have sex, but making a game out of when you do starts things off on a very bad foot. You are not just training him that you’re going to make him wait and that you don’t have genuine passion for him - you are training yourself that you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/25 10:37 PM
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OP, this is the best perspective you’re going to get. You need to understand dating is a marketplace and you’re competing against many many other options. Candidly, without sex most women in your position probably don’t have enough chips to play here for the level of man they are likely after. Like any marketing challenge you should start by thinking what your niche is going to be. You’re skipping to finding your marketing channel without understanding your audience. Who would be interested in y…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/25 10:15 PM
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Zoom out here. What boundaries best advance your mission? I call people you’ve let into your inner most circle who, in time, no longer meet your standards, “stowaways.” They end up subtracting from your mission and your life. You may or may not have a stowaway, but you figuring that out is important. Leaving a stowaway on board leads to sabotage and mutiny.
/r/askMRP08/06/25 11:41 AM
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Just these simple tactics can open up a whole new world for guys. Girls aren’t as hard to engage as they seem at first. I’ve seen so many drop dead gorgeous girls genuinely laughing at a guys stupid lame joke, it’s astonishing at first. I’m talking terrible puns, dad jokes and worse… It’s all good because - and here’s where I’ve landed after years of some success but mostly failures: it’s your energy / vibe that draws people to you. Get that right and the words just don’t matter. I once heard it…
/r/TheRedPill09/04/25 08:29 PM
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Rule Zero. On top of that, who cares? How does this help get me laid? Let’s get back on topic for the sub’s sake: a woman’s “healing journey” is just another shit test more often than not. There is a point late in the seduction process where you can actually take her guard down and seed the lay by telling her you respect that she’s on her magical healing journey. Then proceed to escalate like you normally would. She’ll think it’s her making the decision to escalate because… you said you’re on bo…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/25 02:12 AM
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Great advice and insight here. I agree with most of it. Let me add that there is no risk-free path. You need to shoulder some significant risks just like he has to. That way you both have incentives to make it work when there are problems. Do everything you can to make it work and continue the ball draining even during troubled times. This will maximize your chances for success despite the risks.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 02:29 AM
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Single life seems like the easy button, but usually women find the single world very different at 40 than they did at 20, and not for the better. Then take into account your kids and I’d say it makes sense to do all you can to make your marriage work. RPW is a great resource for doing that. My summary is: it is centered around inspiring your man to want to care for and provide for you. Contrast that with the feminist view of entitlement and control and you’ll quickly see they are nearly polar op…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 11:12 PM
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It’s not that you slept with him too early. It’s that you failed to captivate his interest despite sleeping with him. That’s not his fault. Sometimes the connection just isn’t there and that’s the risk both of you take when you invest time together to find out. Your instincts seem to be that you pushed commitment too hard. That could have been part of the problem. Commitment is only an appealing topic to a man that is either naive or already smitten by you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 12:14 PM
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Glad it helped!
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 03:50 AM
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From what I’m reading, he may be brooding because he feels deprioritized. I don’t know your life or details, but he could be viewing it as you picking school over him. I think communication is one of the most overused trope pieces of advice these days, mainly because men are usually tone deaf to what most women consider to be clarity (ie. most men miss the subtleties). That said, in this case you may want to try or continue to try to talk to him. This isn’t some long drawn out exhausting talk th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 12:05 PM
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All accurate. This is where hysterical bonding comes in: IME, sometimes all of a sudden she’ll want to have sex with her partner again if she feels him pulling away. It’s an evolutionary instinct coming from the times when women were unlikely to survive alone. The problem is it’s usually not a long term fix on its own.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 11:47 AM
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Fair enough, and like I’be said every situation is unique to some degree. You could be punching too far above your smv/ rmv or maybe he had a different life vision entirely that didn’t involve being with anyone, etc. I will say sex and respect essentially encompass what is in the woman’s control to keep the relationship together. Sometimes it is out of your control, and you have to accept that you did everything you could.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 10:26 PM
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I think she overcommitted to a program and then realized towards the end that it wasn’t going to pay for itself. Lots of mental cycles I’m sure. Every situation is different but sex and respect will generally keep a man. I had neither from her at the end. Even saying “I’ll do whatever I need to fix this,” would have gone a long way. Instead it turned into entitlement, accusations then insults. Good riddance. Want to share why this piqued your curiosity?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 08:25 PM
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So cheat, who gaf? Lying is the bigger issue ime. It forces you to live in a weaker frame of falsehoods until you reset the narrative in the relationship back to your terms.
/r/askMRP06/12/24 05:14 PM
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Sure. It was because of neglect. Sex was taken off the table, she was always tired and crabby, for months. I ended up feeling deprioritized and taken for granted. Then I realized it was my fault for not acting on it. After several talks where her priorities became apparent, I ended it and was with two other women within the week. Easy fix. My point was she could have easily salvaged it had she wanted to. I don’t require much.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 04:57 PM
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I don’t mean to under-engineer this but.. just have sex? If you are tired, then at least always please him when he wants it. Yep, I’ve been in this situation and I’ve left a woman partly because of this. You are 100% correct to be concerned about your relationship. Remember sex and respect are how men feel loved. Focus on those and you’ll amazed by the man you’ll get in return.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 11:56 AM
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I’m glad it helped! But to clarify, I’m suggesting to get rid of the deadline completely, even in your head. You need to accept some level of risk just like he is. You can’t expect to re-risk yourself completely (such as through a marriage deadline rule) and still be likely to get the results of a happy marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/24 09:26 AM
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Making rules is what women do for betas. If you want a man with at least some regular alpha qualities, you can’t expect him to adhere to your made up deadlines. He can and may likely go elsewhere to other women where he doesn’t have to deal with the pressure that a beta would tolerate. Instead of a rule, I suggest: *Realize your rule would likely have led to divorce in your last relationship. *Evaluate each person individually. There are a unique mix of tradeoffs with any partner that could affe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 11:52 AM
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This is no big deal. Have him please you and then take care of him in the morning. Drop the negative talk, don’t allow that narrative into your relationship. I’m fairly HL but I’ve been with women who are even more HL. This happens sometimes and I always make sure to take care of them (and I still like doing that). Sometimes, while taking care of them, I get turned on and then we’re good to go.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 11:56 AM
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Serious question: what stops you from going out, picking up a girl and railing her right now?
/r/askMRP19/11/24 07:16 PM
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First realize you’re owed nothing. RP does not promise you marriage. Men today are smarter than 10 years ago about this. The perils of marriage are a lot to ask of a successful man. Second, change your approach to trying to INSPIRE the men you like to want to be around you more, make you a girlfriend and potentially marry you. Implants are not the answer and they don’t make you more feminine. It’s about your ability to BE feminine around him. Make him feel amazing. Submit to his leadership. If y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 02:47 AM
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Then every beta man would have no problem getting genuine desire from women. Online dating wouldn’t be warped where average men have almost no shot with average women. Couples involving beta men wouldn’t be so drastically mismatched. That is not reality. Reality is the top men get their pick. The rest take whoever they can get. I’m not sure why you are in a RP forum?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 05:57 PM
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Like it or not, it’s as RP as it gets: hypergamy means the top man, not men. It is monogamy for her but only because it’s in her best interest at the time. Another, better man becomes in reach for her, now the desire for monogamy shifts to him (not saying she has to act on it, but the instinct will be there). Women only get one egg at a time, so instinctively it has to be the best genetic shot available at that time. Men get nearly infinite shots, so spreading the seed across multiple women lead…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 04:42 PM
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Here’s some raw red pill on it: I’m not saying you can’t try for monogamy, many do and get it. But realize him cheating is not the same as you cheating. I think many women in your position despair because they do not understand the difference. “If a man cheats on his woman, she may be angry indeed, but if she was still attracted to him before he cheated, she still will be after, and the same is true of him to her. But if she ever cheats on him, that relationship is dead… because if it wasn’t, th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 01:25 PM
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This isn’t how cheating happens. Keep the honey treatment going and enjoy your life. Speaking only for myself, women who want money for sex are a zero probability for me. Some guys want genuine passion and they’re not willing to make a trade-off for it. I am one of those guys.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 03:13 PM
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Let’s add one more layer: you also don’t know if that baby was yours. I’m not saying anyone knows but her, however she was very quick to abort.. As much as I hate them these days, condoms FTW yet again.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 02:20 AM
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Unfortunately spot-on ime. My ex is more twisted than most women, but they all seem to do this in some form. They hamster like crazy as they realize the world isn’t as easy for them as when they were younger and single. Then they blame you for whatever and use the kids to “heal” themselves, which fucks the kids up in so many ways. Even my friends who waited until kids were in college to divorce experienced this. Those kids still attempted cutting themselves or other self-harm and had other probl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 12:32 PM
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Stop hamstering with your own insecurities. Shave that shit to the scalp, dgaf and get those reference experiences to prove it’s not your hair your women are fucking. Personal experience: I went from sex 7 days a week to sex 7 days a week after shaving my head.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/24 03:21 AM
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😂… that you know of
/r/askMRP10/09/24 05:27 PM
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u/dirtynuke - he was great to watch and dedicated af.
/r/askMRP09/09/24 06:08 PM
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Glad to. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 08:06 PM
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It sounds like your emotions have already decided this for you, now you are looking for help rationalizing it. When I read your profile and see the problems your son is having and how he may never be independent, as well as how taxing this is for you, I think you already have a very challenging road as it is. Speaking to the probabilities, are you ok caring for him by yourself 50-100% of the time for the rest of your life? Can you afford to do that? Run the financials. I do sympathize on having …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 06:21 PM
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OP, don’t lose sight of Jennepolis’s previous comment; if you leave, you need to understand and accept that your odds of finding a man better than the father of your children are tiny. IME they are near zero. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever seen a clear step up from the ex after this type of divorce for a woman, have you? Men look at the father of your child and compare themselves to that. If there is a big disparity in their favor, many men will start to question the social impact of bringing y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 12:17 PM
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Spoiler alert: You don’t have a soulmate, no one does. This is RPW not Disney. You do have a case of the grass is always greener. Assuming there are no real problems in the relationship, and from what you’ve written, I don’t see any, this issue comes from a lack of gratitude for what you have. The fear of settling for a man that “isn’t up to their standards” or “ doesn’t check all the boxes” has left many women utterly alone. This is especially true if you continue to think this way into your mi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 04:57 PM
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Not sure how you took that away. Based on your profile, I’d assume you are likely not a believer in RP women’s principles, which begs the question: what are you doing here?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 07:57 AM
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Mutiny is the right word for it. OP - Remember one of the most important points of value you can offer a man is peace at home. He cannot be fighting the world and you at once. Have the patience not to discuss this while drinking ever again. Use your feminine charms to put it off until both of you are sober. Then address him with honesty and respect. If the reality that he adds more value and expects more submission from you willingly sits poorly with you, then you have a self awareness problem. …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 02:17 PM
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Providing is a beta male trait that you must earn when dealing with a man who has options (aka the top 10-20%). It is not in his interest to provide too much by default. That’s one of the core tenets of red pill and even just anyone with value who has tried to date in the West - men are careful to provide only to those worthy of it. Understand, to do this, we are suppressing our instincts. So let’s flip this, how do you inspire him to want to provide? It’s a natural male instinct, so it shouldn’…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 10:58 AM
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Spend a great amount of time, thinking about my body looks, and how ugly I surely am. I truly hope this helps you in a profound way. I have some experience here personally and with family. I’ve never seen meds help overcome negative thinking. As you said, they just dampen those thoughts and resulting feelings. Meds do nothing to address the root cause, which is what we are interested in here. The answer is: you are going to have to do the work mentally yourself. Most people in the West don’t lik…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 10:35 PM
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Here’s what stands out to me, you seem to want to settle down but: - you have a large friend group - it includes guys and they are permitted to flirt with you (which negging is a part of) - you care about these guys’ opinions - nowhere is your boyfriend’s opinion considered above I subscribe to the theory that you need to be a wife BEFORE you get married, settle down, have kids, etc. if you want to beat the odds and have long term success.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 11:16 AM
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I know. Was trying to get you riled up like the old days.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 06:54 PM
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Handled perfectly. Now go fuck your ex.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 06:22 PM
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That’s great but stay aware of where your validation is coming from. Always remember.. The dancing monkey improvement programme
/r/askMRP07/06/24 05:27 PM
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act like she’s already dead We need more of this around here.
/r/askMRP07/06/24 02:12 AM
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Until you’ve established high enough value, and even after then most of the time, the only language you’re capable of speaking that women will choose to understand is Action. Action. That’s it. Not words. Words are a woman’s landscape - they are imprecise, malleable and ambiguous, just like women. STFU entirely about this. Grind out your plan every day. Eventually you’ll start getting opportunities to fuck women if you do things right. One of them could be your wife.
/r/askMRP06/06/24 10:49 PM
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This might be worth trying but OP, be careful with gaming the wife’s friends. That can majorly backfire and be used to justify further bad behavior from her. To do it right, you need strong plausible deniability. Everything you say and do needs to look like you are just being yourself and not trying to game at all. Have a very strong masculine presence (if you possess such skills), I’ve found that is the best way to game those you don’t want to look like you are gaming.
/r/askMRP02/06/24 08:37 PM
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What do you mean “go by the book”? You sure the rest of your relationship is “fucking awesome”? I highly doubt that. You sound deep in her frame and afraid to break out of it. What could a man not in her frame be doing?
/r/askMRP31/05/24 01:23 AM
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Who said walk away? That’s not what “it’s just your turn” means.
/r/askMRP20/05/24 04:59 AM
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All this means is all you guys haven’t swallowed the red pill yet. Once you do, none of this surprises you anymore and you can truly ngaf in peace. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Keep grinding.
/r/askMRP20/05/24 03:23 AM
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“I have to run but let’s get coffee sometime.” Said while handing your phone for to put her number in. Then call her there to ensure it’s real / there were no miskeys. It’s almost 100%, even on lukewarm interactions (if you want to bother closing those for some reason). The problem is I’d rather close on more unique plans based on our discussion so her and her woman parts get some tingles off it.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/24 08:18 PM
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For guys at home: 1 - This dude took action. That’s a win. 2 - You do not need so much technical analysis. Your vibe trumps all when you approach. Too much analysis will only get you trapped in your head more and make it harder to have a great vibe next time. 3 - The only thing missing here was closing. IMO the rest of the analysis is overkill. I usually try to find a common interest, then I close on doing that together. If I can’t find anything after a few attempts but I still like her, I’ll co…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/24 06:45 PM
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I’m a little preoccupied atm but will look for the Whisper post by eow. I’ve bookmarked nearly everything the man wrote, which unfortunately is almost like having bookmarked none of it. Good take on the value of this post. Put that way, these reminder posts can help, at the same time my view is we don’t want things to deteriorate into pointless complaining. There is enough “derp women suck” garbage out there and bitching isn’t going to get anyone laid or self actualized. Admittedly, I need to br…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/24 04:44 AM
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Re: alpha males, and donkeys for that matter, fair. I was intentionally extending beyond the literal here to make a point. As for the anger, maybe not a purpose of rp but I think it is something mods have allowed in this sub historically as a tool for improvement. I recall Whisper explaining his original approach to this effect years ago. Candidly, if we don’t make this discussion about either acting on or accepting the situation then what good is it? Are we just complaining about it with no pur…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/24 04:16 AM
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You are angry, that much is clear. That’s ok, it’s by design here, intended to get you to take action and eventually develop the knowledge, skills and wisdom needed to navigate life in contentment. But if you are angry, then you are also afraid. That’s a tell you shouldn’t ignore. It signifies a major opportunity. In all things you can either choose to take action or accept them. That’s it. Complaining is not the red pill way. Neither is wishing things were different. They aren’t, and to want an…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/24 03:32 AM
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sidebar complete 🤣
/r/askMRP01/05/24 09:08 AM
2

No worries, disagreeing with good intent is part of what makes this place great. It’s been a while since I’ve read LD, and I totally agree with the self care. The concern would be “self care” being weaponized and used as a tactic to change him instead of taking a feminine approach to the problem and inspiring him to be a better leader.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 02:19 PM
2

If this course of action sounds appealing, then I encourage you to think it through to its completion. Important questions that will help you understand the reality behind what you’re seeing: Why is he behaving like this? What makes him do it? Is it malice or a dark desire to “take advantage of you?” Or is this man weary from the day and needs his form of peace at home? Then, once you have all that hypothesized, ask yourself how he will view your sudden reduction in investment in him, what is he…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 11:05 AM
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Good stuff. Especially for young / new RP guys, I need to stress, don’t be the guy in pro tip #2. Another form of Captain Save A Hoe is to suddenly white knight for a girl you don’t know who dgaf about you and who probably had a whole lot to do with getting into the violent situation she finds herself in. There’s usually a white knight douchebag that stands up to pointlessly defend thy honorable hoe lady. Do not be that douchebag. You must suppress your protector / provider instincts with those …
/r/TheRedPill22/04/24 09:57 PM
3

I think those over-generalizations are dangerous. We should be using our own judgement to assess each situation, partially informed by RP, but mainly by life experience.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 04:59 PM
2

Who asked for your fucktard opinion? You’d be banned on the main sub for virtue signaling. The point of my comment was to inform that it’s possible, not judge someone who decides to do it.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 04:25 PM
0

https://alphamale20.com/2016/07/18/16297/amp/
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:45 AM
4

You know it can still be her baby carried by another woman, right?
/r/askMRP18/04/24 12:55 AM
4

First, determine what her real concern was. With no reaction or emotion, see if you can understand first. Maybe she has a point and it’s not some random magical shit test to see how enormous cock of an alpha you could be. If she has a valid concern then calmly and rationally address that with her. If she regulates her initial reaction and becomes rational (for a woman), then work out how to best parent the kid and what you and her can do better next time. On the other hand, if cuntyness continue…
/r/askMRP16/04/24 02:27 AM
4

Playing like the jersey was authentic would have also got er done. Girls love bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/24 09:11 PM
0

https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/thomas-friends-team-of-friends-adventures/images/4/4a/Grumpy_Old_Troll.png/revision/latest/thumbnail/width/360/height/360?cb=20200918170412
/r/askMRP12/04/24 07:18 PM
1

What is another great source of information you could search in?
/r/askMRP06/04/24 09:00 PM
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I can’t tell how big of a twat you are yet, no OYS’s. But if you’re not a twat anymore, go fuck some 20 something’s for a month. It’s like that.
/r/askMRP02/04/24 08:08 PM
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Just to offer a different perspective for you to consider: what did you do to make commitment appealing to him? Continuing to get some isn’t enough for guys with options. Getting some may not be an issue for him. That takes away a big chess piece women are used to having. But it also opens up other opportunities. From what I’ve seen, RPW is about triggering the man’s innate instincts to WANT to be with you, even beyond base companionship and sex. How did you put RPW principles in play to help ac…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 11:30 AM
11

So satisfied you made a post about it.
/r/askMRP31/03/24 10:03 PM
9

How’s that working for you?
/r/askMRP31/03/24 07:44 PM
17

Failed shit test. Try “I give you a place to put that mouth.”
/r/askMRP31/03/24 05:46 PM
2

Not that I need to ask, but age and culture please.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/24 03:08 PM
3

You are word-fucking yourself. It comes from too much study and not enough practice. “Be nice” doesn’t mean become the glover nice guy - it means keep your cool, try to give her a minute to calibrate before you deploy the soft next tactical nuke. She’ll fuck it up the first time and you’ll have to pull the trigger. But in the future, this gives her a chance to realize she’s giving drama, you are about to SN and she can still stop to avoid the outcome. They are women, like fluid. Give her a chanc…
/r/askMRP31/03/24 01:37 PM
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WTF is this whiny shit? This isn’t the Oprah Winfrey network. Have a shred of fucking dignity. Women are hard to get? You left out the “for me” part. Women are not hard to get. Men who don’t spend their lives bitching and instead spend it building can get women no problem, even by accident. Life is hard and pointless? Again, what you mean is YOUR life is hard and pointless. Whose fault is that? You sound like a crybaby libtard on msnbc. You are rationalizing away your lack of results. That is no…
/r/TheRedPill31/03/24 01:29 PM
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You are doing a lot right here. But the best way to handle drama is to be nice for a minute to see if she can work her way out of it. If not, give her one more chance with a nice response.. If that doesn’t work, soft next. Immediately just stop talking and leave or arrange logistics for her to leave. Then stay no contact. Good job never losing your temper. Keep that up. Instead just cut contact for a day and reboot tomorrow. If she wants to talk about it tomorrow, that’s ok, as long as she acts …
/r/askMRP31/03/24 10:36 AM
1

Look it up you lazy fuck.
/r/askMRP30/03/24 04:25 PM
1

Black Dragon has some great material on what to do here.
/r/askMRP29/03/24 11:11 AM
2

Also, now that I look at your profile - gtf back in OYS you twat. You are still the problem.
/r/askMRP29/03/24 03:29 AM
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10,000 cuts. I knew for years I didn’t want to be with her anymore. If you look at my old OYS’s and even my first post, you’ll see it was always on my mind. I had some work to do in order to be worthy of what I want from women. Once I got there, I realized after 4 years of RP, there was no 1000 ft rope with this one. Then it became a question of do I want to spend 50 more years in this situation. No thanks. If you do blow it up, mitigate the risks on the kids first and foremost. Still be a coope…
/r/askMRP29/03/24 03:26 AM
3

What you did well and what other guys need to learn from is you turned a shit test into an opportunity to fuck. Well done.
/r/askMRP28/03/24 11:42 PM
1

I don’t track conversion rates anymore but my guess would be F closes to approaches are 1/20 NG, 1/100 DG. I’m 6’2”, jacked and will talk to anyone, so that doesn’t hurt me. I’ve tried MM, LDG - I really liked Blake and Torero (rip) back in the day, but I sound like a gay autist if I go too direct. Instead I focus on getting my vibe right (“state”). I’ve been inspired by the vibes of Owen Cook, Israel Padella and that Noah dipshit dude. Basically I BS with the girl, take nothing seriously and es…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 04:49 PM
1

That’s the BD method. Good stuff, but OLD hasn’t been worth the time for me or anyone I know around here. Geo does matter, good point. I’m about an hour away from a major US city. Outside the West, I imagine OLD is a way better use of time. NG / DG is about 1 new bird / mo for me combined. But I only go out to NG about 1x per month and DG anytime I’m out during the day. I could be going a lot harder if this was a priority rn. Where are you located?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 02:08 PM
3

4 paragraphs about the gym, even though after 9 months of MRP your lifts are lower than my 13 yo’s. Stop talking and fucking around, just get it done. 5x5 Stronglifts. 70 paragraphs about what a shitty, autistic lay you are. Some of MRP will disagree here, but I’m in the camp of making women orgasm at least once every time we have sex. Why? Because most guys in her life didn’t. You want her lizard brain to associate fucking you with orgasming, not teaching a special needs child. Your wife is rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 11:58 AM
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So… you fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 11:43 AM
2

I lost a great girl. No, you didn’t. You gained the subtraction of someone who doesn’t want to be with you from your life. Wish her well, but it’s a win. how that env works. (Tinder) It doesn’t. Those days are gone. You’ll likely ignore this comment and see for yourself. It’s full of 3’s and OF scams now. It’s a lot of work for almost no results. DG and NG are literally all you need. Get good at those. As much as I hate staying up so damn late, NG is easy mode - girls are already warmed up and i…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 11:36 AM
2

That level of savings makes me a little hard. Good for you and, if you haven’t already, do the math on where you will be by 60 years old at a 15% compounded rate of return. You’re going to like that number.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/24 09:09 PM
2

^ Sensible. This is why side pieces exist. I wouldn’t bother being too discreet about it either. You have the right to fuck, even if it’s not her. Not sure I believe you’re as Rico Sauve as you claim to be but, if so, side pieces should be easy for you.
/r/askMRP10/03/24 03:39 PM
1

There was even a time 20 years ago when OLD was taboo. Couples lied about it all the time. That said, I don’t think OF will be vindicated of its rap anytime soon. OP, like Vas said, I’d suggest weighting the risks of being caught vs telling him. I’ll add that if the risk of being caught is phenomenally low, there’s something to be said about just letting it go. It’s not the popular narrative, but it’s a practical one.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 01:36 PM
1

Your insecurities are your opportunity. Good luck.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/24 12:13 PM
1

Your reasoning is illogical and contains fallacies that are attempting to cover up your insecurities. Where and how were you raised?
/r/TheRedPill20/02/24 12:56 PM
1

Tell me, what kind of man agrees to this? And also please do share, in all seriousness, where did you get the expectation that a women is self aware?
/r/TheRedPill20/02/24 06:19 AM
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Bro, that was an IOI. You should’ve hit it!
/r/askMRP18/02/24 09:48 AM
2

Are you any different? Have you had enough top shelf to know?
/r/TheRedPill17/02/24 08:45 PM
1

That level of mouthing off would warrant an attention withdrawal if it were me. I’d ignore her and remove myself from the situation for at least a day, more if it continues. Don’t reward pets that aren’t behaving. I save the AA tactics for minor offenses.
/r/askMRP03/01/24 01:09 AM
16

I have an issue with even plating these women that are one to three points beneath me. They are fun, but I think it’s like junk food and in the end slowing me down. I’m trying to get to the point where being hot means nothing to me in a woman. And the only way to get there is if the vast majority to all of the women you’re fucking are hot. For me I think that’s a 7+. Doing a clean out right now of my plates to rebalance the portfolio.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/23 01:45 AM
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From this post and comments, I think he can’t help it. We all have our ingrained thought patterns and his somehow ties to being turned off by regular underwear. It’s very likely that is just how he is. I don’t see any malice at all here. Keep that likelihood in mind when trying to protect yourself and going on a red flag fest. You have a guy that seems to genuinely care about you; is accommodating him on something he probably can’t control and had the maturity to discuss with you directly really…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 10:01 AM
4

Fuck that’s ugly. And true from my direct experience. Part of the appeal of having kids for women is the security that comes with it. In a way, it transfers some amount of freedom from the man to the woman.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/23 05:53 PM
3

My girl might like this too much. I always wonder if I’m creating a monster that misbehaves just to be punished. Same with spankings. That said, with a little withdrawal, I always notice and acknowledge her correcting her behavior eventually, then I do the same shit to her anyway. It’s more like a reward than a punishment I suppose.
/r/askMRP04/07/23 01:51 AM
3

Well, you already know what to do with ILYBINILWY. No questions there. Eventually you have to use this experience to advance yourself too though. Otherwise you are stuck in neutral. Are you “MRP’ing” too hard still? Has your frame evolved or is it the same when you arrived at your current plateau? Fuck any prior prescriptions, you already know everything you need to. How do you get and stay fulfilled from here?
/r/askMRP01/05/23 11:23 PM
2

I think you greatly misunderstand the male ego. Consider this, what do guys brag about? Do they say “I am the man, I met this girl, was friends with her for a year, then we went out and five dates where I spent a total of $500, then she slept with me. SHE is very special because she vetted me so hard and I finally passed all the tests!”? Or do they brag like this, “I met this fun hot girl, and there was an instant connection, we slept together on the first night. I am very special!”? Think of th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 03:28 AM
4

One thing you will learn the longer you are in this game is you eventually need to make your own rules. Red pill was founded on the basis of people sharing notes on what works for them. It sounds like you’re taking notes and theory over your real world experience. I suggest the opposite approach, only go to notes in theory when there is a problem in the real world that you don’t understand. You do not have a problem here! But since you brought up theory, let us explore that for a minute. Much ha…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 06:49 PM
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One of the best OYS 1’s I’ve read. AND you’ve already unfucked yourself. Agreed with the other commenter, just LIFT. There’s a 6’4” chad in there, you just have to find him.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 04:21 AM
4

Your gratitude is the key to your success. Good to see here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 04:13 AM
1

Your size and lifts are light for an OYS 57. Why? And you’re just approaching women now? Wtf.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 04:10 AM
3

Tate is not into traditional dating. Like I said, encourage your bf to look into better RP role models. Don’t focus on Tate, focus on what can be gained elsewhere. Ultimately your bf has to evolve here if he wants the things you say he does.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 01:58 AM
4

Agreed it’s controlling and unhealthy, but in an 18 year old boy, sadly this behavior is closer to normal than we’d all like. The red pill is hard even for older more developed men to wake up to. In an 18 year old former bp, there is bound to be an insecure overreaction - which is what this is. The boy still seeks validation from without and still feels scarcity, that’s why he’s being controlling. It’s to cover for his insecurities. OP - maybe encourage him to check out more developed RP sources…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 05:31 PM
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Right on. You need to internalize the MRP materials and then eventually learn to think for yourself, regardless of praxeology. I think I was more autistic for about a year after finding MRP just because, as you say, we are so fucking lost at that point. It all becomes easier to sort out and think more independently on overtime. Eventually, you realize there is no MRP frame, there is just your frame that you have built based on life experience and knowledge.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 07:13 PM
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On his part, he hasn’t learned yet that respect cannot be demanded. In fact, that often has the opposite effect. People do not need to be liked to be respected, and trust me, respect is far more important to men. But who respects a whiny baby crying that somebody didn’t treat him the way he thought he deserved? And then the butthurt punishments he attempts to impose on you just make it worse. He has not learned yet that when you are disrespected, you withdraw your attention; you do not feed nega…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 03:22 AM
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You left out the key points of what you think he wants that you aren’t giving to him and why you aren’t giving it to him. Men don’t leave randomly. They do leave when a drastic value imbalance is not corrected.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 06:13 PM
1

Read the material recommended in the sidebar of this sub. It’s all there.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:57 PM
4

I read in your history you are in therapy. That’s great and was going to be by first piece of advice. I also read that you say you had good parents, which seems to contradict your statements about your childhood home life above. I’m not sure what to make of that. Ultimately, it’s your job to make him want to spend his time and attention on you. That’s not owed to you as a default. How feminine are you with him? How pedantic and argumentative are you vs being pleasant and agreeable? You have to m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 10:47 AM
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Nuking the marriage isn’t a fuckup if it wasn’t worth it. That said, failing to mitigate the risks to your child can be, if she’s important to you. Consider looking into parental alienation and discussing your rights under the parenting agreement with a lawyer. You didn’t give her age, but it sounds like reunification therapy could help. You may need to get an order from the court for the ex to go along. PA doesn’t get better with time. You need to get in front of this now if you GAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 11:51 AM
3

Most of your post is giving yourself an attaboy for shit you should be doing anyway. Your 19% BF tells me you’ve been off course in the past even after you started OYS. That’s likely because you are not digging into the pain points enough. Re: your daughter: how old and what’s the real situation there? When / how did she grow cold? It has a decent chance of being more in your control than you think, depending on how badly you fucked up in the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 10:42 AM
1

It’s not rocket surgery: be hot, be pleasant to be around; once you find him keep his balls empty and his stomach full.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 11:30 PM
2

You have the wrong frame for me. Sounds like butthurt laziness. But if you’re happy then god bless.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 11:41 PM
1

Ever meet a hot girl you can’t stand? I have.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 11:15 PM
2

Where you may be stuck is mastery of cold approach isn’t about convincing her to like you. It’s about seeing if you like her.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 11:10 PM
3

So you only approach ioi’s. Still outbound, we call that “a warm lead.” Stay abundant my friend.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 10:30 PM
2

How do you mainly sourcing pussy now, after your injury? My impression was you were back in the have nots category (can’t claim that 0.00whstever % on campus). If you are still a star athlete, I get it. If not - How many girls are you currently fucking in rotation?
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 09:56 PM
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Bro, you ain’t Drake. That’s top 0.0001%. That’s a world of inbound none of us will likely ever know. Trying to get there is overkill, game is a far better payoff for time invested. So consider, at your 10% success rate for cold approach (which is high if you’re talking lays, but whatever), you’d fuck 1 out of every 10 girls you approach. Realistically, it takes 2 hours to have 10 sets. That means you could fuck / get numbers from / whatever 1+ hot young girls per day. Game is the only strategy …
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 09:42 PM
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In sales, you win through a combination of inbound, outbound, referrals and upsells. In the end, the color of the money you make is the same so it don’t matter. Also, I fully disagree cold approach (outbound) lowers your value. My experience has been the exact opposite.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/22 09:27 PM
1

Mine was basically a waste of time but I imagine it depends greatly on the therapist. Also, Gottman is gay.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 08:20 PM
1

True, but any of those are better than perpetually DEERing. At least the first two provide some practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 09:27 PM
2

Fair. The point is to AA it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 07:29 PM
3

Especially since you’ve wavered in the past, make sure you prioritize not being a fat fuck first. If you just achieve that, things like building a better frame will be way more in reach. Make it your full time job not to be fat, not matter fucking what. No excuses and don’t fuck it up this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 07:16 PM
6

You are playing the teenager’s game. Instead try something like “damn it, you’re right - guess I’ll have to substitute my veggies with your pussy.” Pat on ass. Then order more veggies anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 12:57 PM
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The red flag is your monogamy, not her.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/22 12:51 PM
10

Ahh, AskMRP is back. I was worried the main sub would turn into this for a while. As for OP, right on track my man. Flimsy boundaries, bunch of bad decisions, no frame - and you just smell like a guy that shaves his legs. Just hit reset on this game bro and go back to sidebar day 1.
/r/askMRP11/12/22 12:21 AM
87

What if the fridge turns into a fat cunt?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 05:49 AM
2

On the other hand, we didn’t have access to nearly as much knowledge back then. We all knew a few guys that weren’t top tier Chads but still “good with girls” - but how the fuck did they do it? Well many of us never cracked the code (me included) until other dudes started sharing notes online. With what is available in RP resources today, I’d argue it’s a fair trade, maybe even better (god bless the soft harem).
/r/TheRedPill05/12/22 02:12 AM
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You failed this shit test and you know it. Alternatives to failing: “Oh no! Looks like I need to fuck you now to reclaim my territory” - then fuck the shit out of her if you want to “Maybe he’s gay…”, then proceed to carry on doing something else” “He can have your <nationality or whatever you like to tease her about>ian ass” (laugh, then Move on to a different topic eg. Let’s get lunch) STFU - bears repeating from other comments. Just move on to something else and stop assigning importance to t…
/r/askMRP22/11/22 12:21 PM
5

Beware the Inspector!
/r/askMRP07/11/22 07:59 PM
3

Follow all prior advice here. But there is something about witchcraft bitches.. they need the demons exorcised out of them more than most women.
/r/askMRP04/11/22 11:44 AM
9

How’s your day gaming going? Shit I assume.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 11:23 AM
3

https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/772
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 10:34 PM
3

At least you’re doing something about it and reflecting on your results. Miles ahead of most of the desperate victims that come in here. That said, get off the dread levels - they have their use for the early novice but you are past that point and they will hurt you more than they’ll help you now.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 10:32 PM
7

Pay no attention to this Hawaiian asshole. I’m your friend. Now give me your money.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 10:51 PM
14

Ahhh, she couldn’t get away. My man.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 10:50 PM
3

More important than what label we give it is ensuring it is part of an overall mission. Are these men authoring their own lives the way they want or chasing a quick convulsion into a more willing hole to fill a void of self worth? The same action (going to latam or wherever) can add or subtract from a man’s life and worth depending on why he’s doing it. Did they hold frame with themselves or are they delusional and taking the seemingly easy yet still unfulfilling way out? For me, getting a 3 to …
/r/TheRedPill12/10/22 09:44 PM
3

There is a much-improved level of ownership, decisiveness and action in this post. Be careful with that dynamite though. You make your own choice but we generally recommend you take a while to improve yourself before seriously considering that step. Some wives will change along with you and if they don’t, it makes leaving them even easier. In the meantime, get more gaming reps with her too.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 05:42 PM
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The fact that you can view his comment that way despite there being zero moralizing in it actually makes it the most valuable feedback you’ll get here. You seem highly bothered by paying for sex and it likely goes against your view of yourself. That is your problem, and your opportunity. There’s nothing to moralize about, it’s a fact. However it’s also a fact that women can offer us much more than some holes for us to convulse into. If you are not getting genuine desire from her; it’s likely a s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/22 02:55 AM
1

You are also dryly interpreting MRP material with none of your own thought or instincts applied. You are doing nothing to make your frame appealing to her - because you don’t even have a frame that is appealing to you yet. Red pill doesn’t mean you turn into an autistic robot with horse blinders on. It is an underlying understanding of the nature of things, applied masterfully to make your life better in every way possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/22 02:27 AM
5

You control what you can control. https://markmanson.net/std-guide
/r/askMRP28/09/22 10:47 AM
2

… after a certain point, impossible.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:27 PM
8

Bear with me: Was Rational Male on one of the sidebars you read?
/r/askMRP26/09/22 12:29 AM
3

Yes but at what cost? The courts are already not in your favor; what you are doing now can also be weaponized. By not fighting for your daughter now, you risk a judge ruling for the status quo (which is your daughter is out of your life). Depends on what you ultimately want.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 02:37 PM
1

Corrected.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 12:24 PM
0

denying access to my daughter… no fucks given Really? If that’s true, then you are giving up as a father. If it’s not, you are Ramboing your divorce and there will be consequences.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 11:23 AM
15

At least take your bitch slap like a man.
/r/askMRP06/09/22 07:18 PM
5

Start with theredpill sidebar. Then mrp sidebar. Then post in oys in mrp. Then enjoy life.
/r/askMRP04/09/22 02:16 PM
6

The fact that you are “broken” after divorce is a YOU problem. It has nothing to do with women. I divorced last year and with maybe 2 exceptions, it has been everything I dreamed it could be. Similar to many posts lately (or maybe after a break it’s just more obvious to me now), too much formulaic approach has led you to autism. Who said you had to serve women? That works for one guy (in a D/s context btw), but what about just focusing on building your life without that yardstick?
/r/askMRP03/09/22 02:46 PM
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Not a main event, just her responding to a dancing monkey. Also, your inner narrative is torture, I can’t imagine having to listen to you all day. You are on the autistic path. None of this is as formulaic or difficult as you are making it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 02:38 PM
6

Yes OYS now. Up to you about cheating and lying to your wife. Your instincts are correct, it likely represents a crack in your frame, but most guys that show up here have bigger issues to address first.
/r/askMRP31/08/22 03:18 PM
2

I hope your shitpost was sarcasm too, for your sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 10:26 PM
1

I fight shit with shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 10:24 PM
-1

Yep, all makes sense and some realllly solid shit here bro. Like constipation solid. I’m blown away by your self awareness. One thing though that bothers me, really the only thing that bothers me here… who the fuck is Rich? The guy who has banged your wife enough to know her red flags for himself? Thanks for sharing your journey brother!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:02 AM
22

You sir need to renew your faith in true love. Have you ever seen The Notebook?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/22 05:52 PM
8

Mine cried my first night of martial arts years ago. It’s a shit test of course. You failed it. See my reply to Cam’s comment.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 07:00 PM
6

Focus is good, but blind focus is how autism happens. Once you have greater than 0 balls dangling between your legs, I find addressing the problem directly yields better results, eg: “I see you’re upset and I’d like to work with you on this. What is it about X that bothers you?” “I don’t know, I’m a woman this is what I do.” “Ok, well I’m going to do X and if you want to discuss a better way we can work together on this later, just let me know.” You can’t build frame through autistic STFU foreve…
/r/askMRP24/08/22 06:58 PM
6

I told her to do what’s best for her career That’s where you went wrong. What a weak, passive aggressive frame. That’s not what you wanted and you did nothing but show her the door. https://www.trp.red/b/humansockpuppet
/r/askMRP08/08/22 05:21 PM
14

Pause for a minute and realize what he’s really saying. You are the problem here because you cannot control other people yet you are acting like they should magically adhere to your fantasy world. You are showing symptoms of the deadly disease, ONEITIS. May the lord I don’t believe in watch over you 😂 Here you go. Get found son and enjoy the game: https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/3524/humansockpuppet_s_guide_to_managing_your_bitches
/r/askMRP07/08/22 08:26 PM
6

We call this a covert contract on the MRP side. Check it out. You may find more success making it an overt contract: What do you want from him? Ask him and give him a chance to fulfill it. What does he want from you? Ask him; the gaps and overlaps may be different from what you think they are.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/22 09:21 PM
2

Some suggestions: 1) Fast longer 2) Lift heavy weights more than doing cardio. Start with Stronglifts 5x5 3) Eat 1g - 1.5g of protein per pound of target body weight per day on average 4) Stay away from foods with no value (all grains, sweets - realize over 70% of the food out there is chronically poisonous: https://youtu.be/dBnniua6-oM) 5) Stay heavy on veggies, moderate on fruits 6) Weigh yourself daily as soon as you wake up right after going to the bathroom - track your 7 day moving average …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 03:16 AM
5

I was about to tell this guy to fuck off until I saw the BFF BIL part. Now I get it. 100% worth staying, foregoing logic and continuing a life with no integrity.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 10:50 PM
3

One of the best cures for oneitis is other pussy, preferably higher-quality, younger, more submissive pussy. You’ll find OLD is a waste of time for a middle aged guy with a younger target. Plus it’s far lower quality meat. Keep up the daygame efforts, even if your approach is indirect, and the gods of banging young thots shall reward thee.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/22 03:06 PM
3

She wants an oil check bro!
/r/askMRP14/06/22 09:50 PM
8

Let’s try this together: who had the frame?
/r/askMRP07/03/22 02:57 PM
0

You’re missing part of the point, nowhere did I say to fear it. Fix it, then go forth and conquer. And if you don’t acknowledge it, you cannot fix it. Also, this isn’t just about getting laid, it’s about getting everything you want from women, including getting laid.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/22 12:00 PM
17

Good god that’s long. Men with abundance have no problem with providing direct communication and, here’s the important part, reading indirect communication (watch what she does). The problem occurs when men without abundance try to communicate directly - that’s ugly. Then top it off with being tone def to woman’s native tongue (indirect) - and we have a special formula for autism.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/22 08:41 PM
6

AND what you expect from the people you decide to keep close in your life. Not naming names, but we are naming roles. Your time and attention are not effective here because (1) they are not valuable enough and (2) you are still giving both, even negative attention is still attention. On top of significant mindshare.. You know, I was just looking through your history as I wrote this to figure out if you actually have done any work. It just hit me that you are TrenGod37! My suggestion is to stop m…
/r/askMRP30/01/22 06:25 PM
4

This is not a remove time and attention play. What would you do if this was your daughter (sans the naked cuddling)? Kids need boundaries and consequences applied without anger.
/r/askMRP30/01/22 05:20 PM
7

“Things aren’t going well, let’s have a kid and get a new house.”
/r/askMRP18/12/21 02:57 PM
2

I had a similar problem. Much of what I went back to were things I enjoyed as a boy: martial arts, hiking, exploring, teasing girls, etc. As I unplugged, I also tried 20 somethings (still am). Even just number collecting with no further action really helped to open my eyes. Go slowly and deliberately. This is a 1% / day or even / week journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 12:41 AM
3

OYS 81 - still a dancing monkey, still very angry, now no plan. First things first, the skipper always knows what to do. It’s not as hard as you are making it. You don’t want to be as you are now - so define the man you want to be and make a plan to become him.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 01:35 AM
1

Don’t allow yourself to willingly write what would have been another R9 violation in a different place and time again. The point of the rule stands - your thinking revolves around her. Rewrite all this crap from YOUR perspective where you are the actor, author and commander of your own life. At your stage, you must build indifference to her behavior- bad behavior from her doesn’t matter much because it makes the space for you to focus on you even more. Make life fun and interesting for you, don’…
/r/askMRP10/09/21 04:12 PM
1

I don’t disagree. That was my point.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 10:00 PM
1

Frame and game can make up for a lot.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 05:12 PM
1

Or take steps to get it.. which is what I see OP doing.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 04:29 PM
1

We could tell ourselves that, but I think we both know that’s not the reason.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 04:23 PM
1

“Alpha”, got it. Have you done much pickup? If you had, then you would know how hard it is at first to hang in there while getting the vibe going. Sometimes the girl seems standoffish but is actually intimidated by you (a guy with the balls to randomly talk to her) and needs some time to open up. Once she opens up, you are able to build a real connection, which greatly reduces the chances of a flakey number or date… thus addressing OP’s question.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 01:37 PM
5

Go try it and report back. A normal distribution would be about 30 approaches.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 12:46 AM
1

How do you feel when approaching? Nervous? She feels what you feel. Smile, be playful and you’ll be giving her the room to do the same.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 12:45 AM
12

But there’s always that guy without all this stuff.. what does he have that you haven’t listed?
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 12:42 AM
0

Get her to invest. The way to do that is actually by just staying in your frame as a man would naturally do anyway. Outlast her. Don’t let her panic you or overtake your frame. Just keep interacting, talking about whatever you want and having fun. Pull out some PUA tricks like palm reading if it amuses you. Find other excuses to touch. Again, outlast her. If she leaves, she leaves (cue Rocky 4 “if he dies..”). If she stays, you are getting an invested # more than 50% of the time. Pickup is a bat…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 12:41 AM
4

While nursing your ego, some things that stood out to me not mentioned much yet in the comments today: A 7 that needs to commit to brushing his teeth 2x per day.. Got it. Delusional. So many she’s - you are a Rule 9 miracle. I already miss this rule and I was one of its first perpetrators. If you do nothing else this week, make sure you write OYS 2 for next week and don’t include a single she. See how it changes your internal narrative and thus your frame. Speaking of frame, other than brushing …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 12:37 AM
4

That was a complete lack of leadership and you are deep in the anger phase. This woman was just being a woman, following the code. What largely determines if you ever get out of the anger phase is your ability to see that and accept what is. You missed every shit test by just saying “no” and taking it personally instead of making it fun for you and probably her too. Revenge is to your detriment. It consumes your resources while bringing you no closer to accomplishing your missions.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/21 11:01 AM
4

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8dqf35/indifference_and_control_why_you_dont_wanna_be/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Give her the opportunity to follow your lead and lay out your plan including how she fits into it. You only flip on your indifference if you either don’t want her or she will not submit. Otherwise, control the ship Captain!
/r/askMRP22/08/21 02:15 AM
2

Not solving for that. I’m in my early 40’s, tall, on TRT and jacked. I’m from a previous wave of MRP guys that came in years ago and have made doing the work part of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 12:42 PM
1

OYS #49 I'm steering the ship but I'll admit, the deeper into unchartered waters I go, the more difficult it becomes to continue sailing into an empty sky - trusting my destination exists. I'm on the precipice of divorce, which I have guided to be amicable and fair. Received the usual hysterical bonding which has now faded back into a comfortable compliance and remained on great terms. Helped my STBX pick out a house yesterday, which will be locked in shortly. My bearings are off. I'm still at a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 10:55 AM
2

There’s a reason I chose this user name!
/r/TheRedPill28/07/21 02:48 AM
3

Autism happens here because RP truths seem fantastical at first, it makes a man question everything else that used to seem common sense. The thing is most of your common sense developed for good reason, based on your experiences and outcomes in life. Do not disregard your common sense where it continues to serve you well.
/r/askMRP08/07/21 05:55 PM
4

Look at Whisper’s posts on LTRs and Control vs Indifference. You have an abundance issue (how’s your day game, how hard would your gf be to replace? - be honest with yourself). You also are taking bad advice - LTRs are control game, not indifference. If she doesn’t want to be your subordinate, then you are either unworthy of such a leadership position or you have chosen the wrong companion. Either way, resolving the issue is fully within your control, not hers.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 12:25 PM
1

The Hans Solo “I know” is sufficient here.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 09:37 PM
121

How does this experience not align with RP theory? You manage your woman / women, have built your own life and now have the expected rewards. Should you stop doing those things well, you’ll see the other side of AWALT.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:26 PM
111

The wall is simply “the threshold at which most women realize their lessened capacity to sexually compete with the next generation of women in their ‘actualized’ sexual peak” - it doesn’t mean any vagina can’t still be a cum dumpster. See TRM
/r/TheRedPill29/03/21 11:56 AM
0

At 37 with 50 partners and let’s say 20 years of sexual activity, that’s 2.5 partners per year. Doesn’t seem too crazy to me. You’re better off asking yourself why this concerns you. What are your fears? Why does it matter if this is a mistake?
/r/askMRP20/03/21 02:43 PM
1

I do but make sure to pee and clean after.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 02:40 AM
6

Simple AA: Yes, I’ve been staring at the door for hours just hoping against hope you’d walk in. Yes, I brought a girlfriend for us this time. Of course, I’ve built a shrine in your honor here while praying for your return. Any DGAF response will do. Then stop being needy enough to go looking for “that special girl.” Time is better spent on seeding new crops and then you won’t have to be in this situation.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 02:37 AM
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don’t do things on her terms You know you have a frame problem already, that’s good. I talk about crazy far out shit with women, because that’s what I want to do. If I didn’t and they asked why not, I would say its because I don’t want to. She’s welcome to bring up any topic she wants, isn’t she? Remember your assertive rights (WISNIFG).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 06:54 PM
6

The biggest red flag is you. Search bitch management in TRP and read. There is no use in giving them a long leash, they will take it all and then some. That leash is always short af, you’re happy to let go if they don’t like it and you always have at least 2 in the kitty. Get there and you’ll never have this weak ass shit problem again.
/r/askMRP10/09/20 06:46 PM
3

Lots of autism here and I’m not sure why it’s subtitled “women”. I see no plural here. I see the same oneitis that probably drove you to MRP to begin with. Your dialogue sounds more like an AskTRP post, so I’ll give you the standard answer there: if you were spinning 3 plates, would any of this have been a problem?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:22 PM
5

The real problem is your lack of abundance. The other guys in the comments are right but nothing says you have to end it with her. See how she behaves and demote to plate if you prefer. Most importantly is to build your abundance and have options. You should give nearly zero fucks if this precious little LTR rose falls apart.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 05:19 PM
2

Use one of the specialized clinics for this. Most labs’ “normal” (which is a poor indicator) is 300-900. At 90, you are severely limiting your potential.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 11:17 AM
7

Read Bigger Leaner Stronger. None of these fag diets matter.
/r/askMRP14/08/20 10:23 PM
169

My math says you should go swim in some <40 year old pussy.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/20 07:10 PM
3

One of the hardest parts about raising kids is realizing they need to experience pain in order to grow, and to truly live. Parents can guide within reason but they cannot and should not expect otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 08:53 PM
2

I’d like to stress this is my fucking fault. And your fucked up past, which is very different from mine, is your fucking fault. You don’t get here without shitty captaining over many years. You get what you tolerate and that becomes the new normal for both partners. That said, it looks like since your first victim puke, you are actually doing some work. Keep looking forward. Many guys here would have loved a fresh start at 34.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 10:24 AM
3

Unless you want more kids, I recommend the vasectomy route. Either way, you need to control the birth control. No more asking permission. Iron Rule of Tomassi #5: NEVER allow a woman to be in control of the birth.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 10:58 AM
3

I put it this OYS here in part to see if it gets poked. It's good and appreciated. MGTOWs to me always seemed like faggot incels that, yes, are lazy and don't want to become otherwise. Sex with women is not a problem for me or for them and I 100% will continue to partake. I also think highly of women in some ways, they bring a balance to the world we all need. There is a lightness, an energy that only they can stir. Again, love em but don't want to marry or even LTR em. Logically, what's the act…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 09:54 PM
3

AA that shit! “Sorry, I have a disorder where I can only be nice after anal. Oh well.” She didn’t do you any favors, this is the new normal - that’s the frame. Make it your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 09:07 PM
2

but part of me just wonders if you're doing this to escape that which you've created. The bigger question is would this PillUpAss get married today? No. Absolutely not. In fact, I never wanted to. I did it basically on an ultimatum and, as mentioned, to get out of the SMP where I was clueless. Marriage never made sense to me. So then we get to... But how moldable is this woman you're with? Can I make her or any woman into a marriage partner that works for me? There are a lot of subtractions to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 08:57 PM
2

So when your opinion or decisions are challenged, it’s either a time to reconsider the new information from your own point of view and / or have some fun with it because it’s just someone else’s bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 12:53 PM
3

You got a BJ, congrats. It must have been the kettle bell work. nicer to me after Missed a golden opportunity to train her there.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 12:50 PM
2

You have a lot of focus on what other people think of you. Why isn’t your opinion #1?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 12:46 PM
8

OYS #48 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 218 lbs, 12% BF (Jackson Pollock method). 5x5: Squat: 310, Deads 360, Bench 260, OHP 180. RP 2.5 years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. Married 15 yrs. Overall progress over the past 2.5 years has been good. My body is where I want it (from 185 lbs of skinny faggotry to being jacked at 218 lbs today), my career is going great and I'm making 2x more in income, I have some game and regularly get IOIs and phone numbers - all normal progress if you just do the work. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 11:36 AM
11

So it’s your own fear and insecurities that bother you, not some website.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/20 01:54 AM
1

I know. But that’s just a heuristic. It is there to prevent Rambo from blowing it all up right away. Now that you are awakening, the journey only ends when you give up or die.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/20 02:39 AM
1

There is no halfway point.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/20 11:00 PM
6

Be doing something better and having more fun than watching another dude try to fuck your wife. Then do a drive by ass grab or put your arm around her throat in a dominant way while introducing yourself to the guy in a friendly, DNGAF way. Then be on your way again having fun elsewhere. Give near zero fucks here unless a boundary is truly crossed.
/r/askMRP12/07/20 12:44 PM
3

This is not success. The real success is when these things are normal for you and you get zero validation from a woman’s (or anyone’s) reactions, positive or negative.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/20 10:26 PM
10

Start by writing out what the man you want to be is like. What makes him tick? What would he do in various situations you struggled with? Sidebar, lift and STFU hard. Realize you have received the ILYBINILWY speech, which is an almost definite sign of cheating, and not just emotionally. Go look at u/hornsofapathy ‘s post on this. You’re not ready to do anything about it directly yet, but just focus on getting 1% better mentally, physically and socially each week. You’ll know when it’s time to ac…
/r/askMRP01/07/20 12:56 PM
2

Same questions, different intent. You are getting her to admit she’s your slut. Already be doing something dirty with her when you ask.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 01:01 AM
2

six months Once you’re HV enough say “speak for yourself” then walk away. God I love fucking with women and their bullshit ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 11:16 PM
3

Next time don’t pass up such an obvious invitation. If you are horny, just bend her over and fuck her. I like asking beta questions, similar to yours, while I’m doing something to clearly contrast them (like fingering her). It does wonders for polarity and gets her wondering wtf is going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 05:49 PM
3

I find journaling my faggotry and later doing root cause analysis helps me learn, take corrective action and drastically improve outcomes the next time around.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 05:35 PM
2

Own Your Shit - it’s a weekly thread in MRP. Join MRP and TRP - read both sidebars frequently.
/r/askMRP25/06/20 11:33 AM
4

Did those snowflake feefees get hurt by an internet stranger? You keep missing what I’m telling you. Too much ego. You are responsible for your life and its fuckups and your aren’t special. You are the reason your life sucks, the reason your relations with your ex are a disaster and the reason you still live at home under mommy’s loving protection. YOU. That’s what is taught here: a fuck load of ownership. Sidebar, OYS and I’ll add STFU (esp to your ex) - If you put in the work and do those thin…
/r/askMRP25/06/20 10:13 AM
8

It’s all the same shit with lazy faggots like you. You only follow the two Ask subs - not even the main subs - and you’ve made 10 helpless faggy what do I do posts in the past month. You know none of the sidebar and can’t even lift your dick yet alone some real weights. The internet is not your oracle or navigator - it doesn’t know where you should go, only you can know that. Sidebar and OYS every week if you’d like to break your shitty patterns. Otherwise just go back to leeching off mum’s tits…
/r/askMRP25/06/20 01:21 AM
10

You should ask your mom, in between teet sucks. She’ll know best!
/r/askMRP25/06/20 12:43 AM
4

It’s a shit test, AM / AA accordingly. “Sorry my legs are paralyzed” with a smile usually gets them going. After she bitches about you no longer being her slave, follow with “I think my dick still works though - let’s find out!” Begin scene..
/r/askMRP24/06/20 07:00 PM
3

Good. That’s why we are here, to call each other LARPIng faggots when necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 12:36 AM
3

OP, I’ll add that getting your BF tested has been in your OYS for quite a while. How hard is that to do? Calipers are $10 on Amazon and websites to do a somewhat accurate calc are free. That’s some LARPIng shit or you know your BF and aren’t sharing..
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 06:43 PM
6

RC absolutely fucking nailed all of it in that post. It’s not just about sex because I wasn’t sustainably satisfied with my life when I was getting anything I wanted. I put a lot of value in other things I do and I’ve decided I’m not reducing my time investment in them. The fact is I did marry because I was a beta turd happy for a sexual option as RC puts it. And I still may not stay married if I’m taking the ship where my wife cannot follow. But at the same time, an aging steak is still edible …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 04:58 PM
8

OYS #47 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 220 lbs, 12% BF (Jackson Pollock method). 5x5: Squat 310, Dead 350, Bench 260, OHP 170. RP 2.5 years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. My biggest development over the past month or so is I've decided to drop plating. Plating helped me realize a few things: (1) it's fun but takes way too much time, (2) you can fall behind on your missions as a result and (3) the sex is amazing but it's actually not worth it for me. I like having my shit together and will not compro…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 11:51 AM
14

I always liked “I’m ok, but my dick has something it needs to work out with you.” Many a BJ has followed.
/r/askMRP18/06/20 02:56 AM
1

What needs does having a relationship fulfill other than “you like it”? Is there a healthier way to fulfill those needs? Remember, unlike the feminine, the masculine can stand alone and find full contentment in simply pursuing its missions.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 01:44 AM
1

Why target a relationship as a goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 11:46 PM
1

This is the biggest change I’ve noticed in your recent OYS’s - zero regret or butt hurt from the past shown or dwelled on. Great to see my man! I’m 40 and have always liked how you never let up because of age. It motivated me at times to go even harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 10:44 PM
7

As you say, you still have all the same underlying issues as when you left. That reeks of LARPing as you should know by now. MRP is building a foundation piece by piece, slowly - over years. Try to get 1% better in each area each week and you’ll be a fearsome warrior a couple years from now. You currently have a weak foundation, which is why you cannot build anything. Start with realizing how much you are still in your wife’s and kid’s frames. Make getting out of their frames and building your o…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 12:05 PM
3

You still seek validation from without, which is why you feel empty. Having a “loving and fulfilling” relationship is a BP goal you were taught to have. How are your hobbies coming along?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 11:22 AM
2

Remember captains don’t overly concern themselves with FO feefees. You are not responsible for her emotional state, you do what you want without explanation and without autism. Also, calling yourself a faggot is about to get a lot easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:54 AM
2

This would work well as a 2 year update post.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:39 AM
10

He’s not going anywhere unless he gets permission.
/r/askMRP28/05/20 08:41 PM
2

I took some time to consider this, as your comments always warrant. I definitely see the risk and for me the biggest risk is in not fully appreciating the great things I've already set into motion. Having and raising kids was a desire of mine early in life, and I'm now living that. I've also found BJJ and building a startup business to be very rewarding and fulfilling. These are all activities that I can and do gain great satisfaction from and will continue to indefinitely. It's the bottomless p…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/20 12:14 AM
5

Vas is right, but here’s more info on the real risks: https://markmanson.net/std-guide
/r/TheRedPill13/05/20 07:59 PM
1

Nah, it’s about the social fun. Weekly parties, watching UFC fights, place for the kids to have friends over, etc. It’s for good times.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 03:56 PM
1

OYS #46 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 218 lbs, 12% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts +-10% Intermediate per Strength Standards, RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. Good shit I've been feeling that adventurous, masculine sense of drive stronger than ever lately. I want to travel the world, meet people of all different walks of life, succeed in exiting the startup I'm in with a nice payday, get my next BJJ belt and - a new one I feel strongly about - build a pool house for year round parties.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 11:16 AM
5

less like changing, more like remembering We’ve all been a boy, seeking adventure, steering our own course, dominating our playing field and building a path to a future we yearned after. In some ways I had more things figured out at 8 yo than at 35 yo. Much of unplugging is simply returning to the things your 8 yo self had right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/20 01:37 PM
1

Agreed on comfort and will be aware of it. I usually only provide it when it’s sought after - the result of and perhaps overreaction from years of over comforting as a FO. hoop I don’t have anything I want her to do she isn’t already doing. Sex is available but I’m not attracted to her anymore. I’m indifferent if she’s in the bed or not, I’ve never cared about that like some guys do. BTW, now we are on 5 nights in a row - it’s just odd.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 03:20 PM
1

OYS #45 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 220 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts +-10% Intermediate per Strength Standards, RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. I'm at 255 lbs in 5x5 bench now, knocking at the door of 185 lbs 5x5 OHP. Been more than religious about working out, especially since lockdown. I fill out every shirt I'm in, almost need to go a size up. I'm close to where I want to be physically, getting ready for a summer cut starting in May. Working more on style now, it's ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 02:57 AM
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let myself cum too fast I’ve been working in this for a while. The idea is to have full control over what you do and when.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 11:51 PM
1

Blarg, mostly unrelated - you might like this take on hormones and leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 11:40 PM
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It is a faggot projection as you guys say. I don't mean to hijack your OYS, I should just write my own instead. Women pick up all kinds of subtle details and mine has been extra sensitive lately too, more than I've ever seen in 16 years. Difference is I AM plating and making plans to leave, so I assume that's what's being subconsciously detected. In your case, HOA, you are not. Maybe it's your theory that she needs to feel more of the illusion of being the prize or more specifically being select…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 09:04 PM
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The fact that you are considering writing a post about why you are not spinning plates (for now) while at the same time your wife has been feeling insecure may be more telling than you realize. Is plate spinning of more interest lately? If so, what is the root cause?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 05:55 PM
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Tailoring is key, even for casual shirts. If your body fucking rocks, spend some money and show that shit!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/20 03:04 AM
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Solid, practical write-up with good examples. I was going to recommend The Appearance of Power, and it's worth a read if for no other reason than to internalize its underlying message of "clothing is communication" - but I like your approach better. It's much easier and probably a better use of time to simply emulate those you admire and adapt from there than get into finding out what your archetype is, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/20 03:20 PM
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It came from her! That’s perfect.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/20 12:49 PM
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she wanted my emotional monogamy I wanted her sexual monogamy. Great post and you’ve given me a lot to think about.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/20 12:41 PM
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That’s a good way to respond to a rejection. The blame is in realizing he wasn’t high value enough - THEN working on changing that as you say. That’s a healthier pattern than not realizing why the rejection happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 12:19 AM
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Good news: you are 27, with no kids and single. Fuck. Bad news: you are 5’5” and a tiny runt. u/hack3ge will tell you you need to get even bigger and more ripped than most fit dudes in order to have a commanding presence. To do this you need to get on a proven program, track and eat right (a LOT of food) and get your T levels checked. Being a badass in BJJ wouldn’t hurt as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 11:52 PM
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struggling with saying no So what you’re saying is... when you say no, you feel... gay?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 11:37 PM
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For most guys, starting out blaming themselves is a more optimal path. What first sold me on MRP was the fact that it held me accountable- unlike all the other advice out there that encourages you to look for answers externally.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 11:36 PM
2

That’s a lot of lacks in your narrative. Not the words of a man who is taking control yet. Pick one area to lock down in your ongoing processes each week/month and only focus on that. Look at the levels of dread for a starting point.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 11:32 PM
1

OYS 5 and still not doing any form of lifting. That’s not what winning looks like.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 11:29 PM
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Why didn’t you get anal on the first date then??
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 01:18 AM
1

Your relationship and sex plans are essentially “I’ll do this” then “I hope she does that.” That approach will fail because it’s still playing by Matrix rules instead of making your own. I suggest you rewrite both sections to have nothing to do with your wife. Share that version.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 06:33 PM
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Beware hysterical bonding and a big covert contract. “This MRP shit” doesn’t work if your wife starting to fuck you half way decently was the catalyst. A clear sign of guys being way over their skis is bragging about shit they did with or any other actions from their wives. Your wife doesn’t decide what works, you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:08 PM
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Interesting but not surprising when I think about it - one lacks a mission while the other lacks a mission to follow. In the end, both are incomplete and fall short of their potential in that regard.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/20 07:47 PM
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That's not leadership, that's being a task manager, which is a shitty life to have to live imo. Since this concept is not coming naturally to you, I'm giving you a reading assignment: Here's how I lead. Now as a leader, at work lets say, I do not manage my employees' tasks. That's suicide and those are their monkeys to deal with (go back and read the link now). And frankly I give almost no fucks what their tasks are. They could be masturbating to midget porn while having their dog lick peanut bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 07:06 PM
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Overall interesting read. However.. (marriage) does this by allowing the average man to find a woman to have sex with. While perhaps true in the past, today things like the entire existence of MRP or even deadbedrooms disproves this. In the West, feminism has turned marriage into a tool for women to extract resources at a lower cost. Some men use marriage to create a structure for raising a family. However they don't realize that in return for avoiding societal shame for having kids outside of m…
/r/TheRedPill19/04/20 06:25 PM
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Ensuring that people adhere to the basic agreements of ANY relationship is not emotional dependency. It depends on WHY you are doing it. Again, the problem here is if the consequence outweighs the value of the relationship, then you could find yourself in a TBV lifestyle, like yours. Then you have to ask yourself WHY the consequence is so great for you - that's where my emotional dependency observation on you comes from. Could be way off but the more you and I go back and forth, the more I'm see…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 01:54 AM
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I said you can drop that sack of bricks, I never said you HAD to. Only you can decide that. It sounds like you still have too much emotional dependency on being with your wife. That’s why you feel the need to investigate her so much and that’s the real reason you can’t assign less fucks here. If true, it’s a good thing. It shows you where to focus your efforts next. If not, then maybe you are already living the way you want to?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 11:45 PM
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This is officially Part 2 of the post. Modernized for TRP consumption.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 10:53 PM
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You have the script down perfectly, nice job! So what you're saying is the consequence of losing your marriage (money) is more important than that relationship itself. In that case, yes by all means, live a life of TBV. However... I'd assert that is not your real issue. Here's why: Assuming you are 40ish or younger (I forgot how old you actually are), the vast majority of your earning potential is still in front of you. You are far better off leaving the relationship today if money is truly your…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 09:11 PM
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Codependency works as long as both parties buy into it. Blarg, I'd like to know more about your views on this. What you say makes sense in a logical sense. But can a woman truly and sustainably respect and be attracted to a codependent man even if she herself is codependent? Codependence in men is unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:04 AM
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That crazy fucker was something.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 01:34 PM
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Brutal. I wish I could upvote it more than once.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 12:27 AM
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Before lockdown, I was experimenting with my plate on withholding orgasms. It drove her nuts and actually made lockdown worse. Now she’s complaining she cannot cum or even masturbate when not in my presence. She needs me there telling her what to do in order to feel any pleasure. It’s really driving her insane. Powerful stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/20 07:17 PM
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Do not focus on unsuccessful scenarios as part of this technique! You are using the right mechanism for the wrong reasons. Risk mitigation and scenario planning have their place, but they are not part of visualizing success. Change your focus to the outcome you DO want. Feel what that outcome is like. Relish in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/20 09:51 PM
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It depends on if the goal was one you truly wanted, how much discipline you had with visualizing achieving it aa a regular practice for a period of time and what actions you took as a result afterwards. For example, I used to be afraid of public speaking, which is a very necessary part of my job. Groups over about 5 people would terrify me. However by visualizing my success and more importantly how I would feel with success in these situations, I discovered and learned to control my nerves. Afte…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/20 02:26 PM
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Good for you but be careful out there. Have you had your T checked?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 08:57 PM
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No, only when that's the answer. Who should he blame, the kids? Or maybe people that give useless responses like "It's hard to put into words."
/r/askMRP11/04/20 04:32 AM
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Lazy post (big surprise) that is off topic for this forum, but as with nearly every problem - you only have yourself to blame. Look at your own words "I'm always picking up after them." They have no consequences, hence they do not change. Picking up your own shit isn't a punishment, it's a basic expectation of anyone that lives in my house (over the age of 4). Yes punish, yes praise - but you aren't even giving them basic structure and having them own their shit.
/r/askMRP11/04/20 01:42 AM
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Good move going to Models. I think you’ll find it of great use.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/20 11:41 AM
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She wanted to test your reaction. Probably has some idea subconsciously.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 05:27 PM
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I just don’t get why she doesn’t want to fuck you more.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 05:22 PM
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The potential upside depends on your current T levels. I was in the low 300’s and going on TRT has changed my life. I lift and diet religiously and with proper T levels now (~900), I’m looking and feeling amazing. This guy (OP) always had decent T levels but he lacked commitment to a routine, hence his lackluster results. Also, it takes me under 10 min / week to administer the shots - it can be very little time if you plan and manage the right protocol.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/20 08:27 PM
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Great reminders for all of us. In your own game, do you filter on Thousand Cock Stare or is it “a hole is a hole”? I’m in the former camp - I have to feel some connection, even with a plate, otherwise it’s just mechanics.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/20 05:46 PM
2

This chick Marla Singer did not have testicular cancer.
/r/askMRP03/04/20 12:15 AM
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With the kids, it's hard not to talk to them about her, especially since I know she is filling their heads with all sorts of notions of how bad I am. Don't. I can tell you are and just don't. STFU here unless they raise it to you, and then say the minimum and nothing disparaging about her. They are more than old enough to know what's really going on. Keep your dignity and focus on yourself first in all things. Also, since you'll be single soon, get lean. Read Bigger Leaner Stronger for the basic…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/20 03:06 AM
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I noticed in TUM a few times when he says his advice is for people younger than 60, or that after 60 its too late to apply what he's talking about. I've gotten basically that advice a lot here. It applies to you if you decide it does. Anyone else's rule or opinion is meaningless. So something along the lines of another run at building an IT consultancy? Where is your energy going? What inspires you to action at this moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 11:30 AM
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Lock-down has brought home I'm not happy with my relationship with my son, who's very much like I was at his age and quite reserved and withdrawn. Be a strong masculine presence around him with no covert contracts. Let him come to you. With kids like this it has to be on their terms and when they are ready - but they will open up.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 11:21 AM
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I've consistently been one-and-done on this topic - I want to be able to do things with my son and as a family without needing to have a backup plan for someone younger or less capable. I'm interested in exploring more about a vasectomy. She's got an IUD right now. Vasectomy was one of the best decisions I ever made. But I need to get organized. What can I do with that equipment over the next eight weeks, or eight months, or eight years to get good results? Home gym was one of the best decisions…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 11:02 AM
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That or think about if none of the Nice Guys are real. What if it's not a natural way for anyone to act and instead is 100% conditioning? Whether it's temporary or not depends on that individual - some people can be miserable their whole lives.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 10:56 AM
2

Recommended.
/r/askMRP01/04/20 10:37 AM
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Read 48 LOP many times; it’s a big part of what got me here. That doesn’t mean you’re wrong about the need for holding back, it’s just sub-optimal from a team perspective. I need to find my balance with that. I also own equity, so optimizing the team while protecting my position are both in my best interest. Bottom line, if we grow like crazy, I’m not going anywhere. If not, I’m in jeopardy.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 06:45 PM
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1 - What I've observed in the past is most sales leaders make minimal use of their CRM and instead keep a "secret spreadsheet" with all the real details in it. That's how they maintain the power to turn revenue on and off. I'm not a fan of that bullshit, archaic method. One of the changes I'm instituting is we are using the CRM to its fullest capacity, including dashboards, reports, all activities logged or they didn't happen, etc. So my power will come more through proven performance of the tea…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 01:25 PM
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OYS #44 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 215 lbs, 12.5% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts +-10% Intermediate per Strength Standards, RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. PHYSICAL Lifting is going well. Still hitting PRs over here in my basement while everyone else bitches about having no gym to go to. I'm weeks away from 5x5 squats at 315, which is a mental milestone of mine. Problem is I still can't gain any more weight. I've upped cals and will continue to (currently at 3400/day). Doing 200 c…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 12:04 PM
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I’d go with “it got ripped out from eating too much pussy.” Laugh with them. Agree with them “I am fucking bald.” Then continue having a great time. Read WISNIFG for a thorough analysis. We are all just talking monkeys, don’t take anything said by an external source too seriously.
/r/askTRP29/03/20 09:15 PM
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Is it really corny or do you simply lack the frame to say it? Telling a woman you intend to fuck her if she comes over one of the most dominant things you can say.
/r/askTRP26/03/20 11:28 PM
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To think about during your break: “you’re not affectionate enough” really means “could you fondle my ass while not talking, dear?”.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 10:22 AM
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Re: impatient / angry - don’t fool yourself, she knows. Work on the root cause.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 10:15 AM
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Fuck any response for now, you are too focused on that and her; let’s get to YOU. Why didn’t you have a plan for yourself? You worked and played caretaker all day with no intentions for the evening?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 09:53 AM
1

I preferred Bigger Leaner Stronger. LG had a good amount of bro science.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 02:51 AM
1

Fair, and I don’t have any immediate recourse if I don’t get what I want, it’s true. However my question is why wouldn’t they continue to offer commission to the head of sales? It’s a win-win. Worst case they stiff arm me and I work on a new plan. Best case I get us set up to double the company’s size a couple times over and make big money while doing it. In my head (not projecting externally), it is no biggie either way and for sure no hard ball will be overtly played.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 05:53 PM
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WOTSM bro, not WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 02:37 PM
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Key assumption you are making: his marriage is going great. But is it? And can it be great if he cannot appreciate its “greatness”? PON and ANE are deeply spiritual books that do not directly address the sexual strategy issues and resulting discontent I suspect he has (from this and many previous posts). The three sidebar books I suggest ultimately provide the tools for overcoming what I see are his underlying challenges: codependency, frame loss and lack of self-direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 02:17 PM
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I actively started fixing things in the house and this turns my wife on. Its like im addicted to virtualsex while i have real pussy everyday? Read 2 pages everyday (start small). Im going to set up a reminder because i forget it.. You are addicted to external validation like all monkey faggots are. That's why you have the mental focus of a toddler and can't read 2 pages - no one is there praising you and showing you attention. Pleasing mommy and wasting your time with old whores on SnapChat are …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 11:45 AM
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We're going to use some of that savings to do the pick-up / take-out from restaurants to try and help them out. Who's frame are we in? Who's ship are you on and who captains it? ​ Reading: Power of Now (PON) Will you stop with this shit? PON is a great book, which you seem to be masturbating to for months, but what you need my friend is more RM, WOTSM and especially Models. These are the books less focused on making it all work with the wifey and more focused on making you work as a man. You you…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 11:35 AM
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OYS #43 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 215 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts +-10% Intermediate per Strength Standards, RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. WORK WFH full-time like many others now due to a stay at home order from our gov. I work for a startup that isn't profitable yet, but has been growing rapidly. The business will be fine, fortunately we just raised a ton of money. My responsibilities have expanded (sales & marketing) due to some sudden exits (including the former …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 11:19 AM
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You can’t red knight but you can sure as fuck teach a willing student Kung Fu.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/20 07:43 PM
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I find I save many of your comments, for many different reasons.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 01:01 PM
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I still have some WISNIFG issues to address. First time through that book I was more focused on tactics and not the underlying principles. I carry guilt about wanting to leave my wife. It’s not her fault, but if I could go back I would never have been married to anyone. I have work to do on my mindset in this area before I can act on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 12:33 AM
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Eye contact. Intense, sexual eye contact with attractive females. That will take a seemingly normal interaction to the next level.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 01:18 PM
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I expect to screw up and be repeatedly humiliated. Will you just get out there? Be social with everyone. It's not a marriage proposal, it's you seeing what other people are made of. That's the goal. You are approaching out of your own curiosity. Do it with everyone, at every opportunity. Lighten up, Epictetus!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 11:23 AM
1

Finally, I’m fucking seeing it Maybe. Be careful, monkey. “Ok, if you don’t want to start, that’s fine. But from now own, you are responsible for changing his diaper EVERY time he wets it or shits himself. Even when I’m here, I won’t change his diaper as I will focus solely on getting him potty-trained.” I’m done changing fucking diapers. You are still playing on her scoreboard and you want to make sure mommy gives a point to her little boy. You are still in your childhood pattern of GAF about m…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 11:14 AM
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You are at the beginning of having some level of self-awareness. Don't just say the words, but really realize the deficiencies within yourself that have brought you to this point in life. Try to channel your Rambo energy into self-improvement, mainly lifting, reading and capitalizing on your ambitions. People can only take on so much at once; simplify what you are addressing each week and build on that, week by week, until you have arrived. And you'll know when you have arrived.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 10:57 AM
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OYS #42 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 215 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts (5x5, lbs): SQ 300, DL: 315, OHP: 165, BP: 250, Pull-Ups: +25. RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. WORK I'm in line for a big responsibility increase which could send my income deep into the 300's this year, possibly 400's next year. It's not official yet, but I'm getting close - just need to win over a few more key stakeholders on the board and I'll be golden. More than the money, I'm eager to take on a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 10:47 AM
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“Women love pragmatically” is demonstrated yet again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/20 06:55 PM
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I like your owning of your shit now. Huge progression. You can’t go back and you know it. You suffer from paralysis by analysis and you are aware of it. The next step is to force action, not another book. You cannot know how to course correct and progress to your target if you are not moving. Force action and use failure to guide your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 08:03 PM
1

So what would you have done differently?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 12:38 AM
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Re: lead her to accept me having plates - no. Keeping it from her is a holding pattern until: (1) it blows up or (2) I make a clear decision on what I want now in life for the next 50 years given my current constraints. Once I have decided, the rest of my decisions will be easy and what you refer to as full authenticity will follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 06:38 AM
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Both women are unrelated to the mission. They are like food, I need energy from them, they can be sourced from many places and it takes some time to consume them. The incongruity is in having a wife is not the lifestyle I would pick if given a clean slate today. Having plates is. It’s not the wife’s fault this is the case, but that doesn’t change the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 12:03 PM
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ALMOST had balls.. OP, that EA was a gift. Don’t try to stop her from doing it again! Are you fucking nuts? You can’t control her you silly beta. You shouldn’t even want to. How much clearer could her message be to you? Take this all as signs you have a fuckload of work to do. From now on, your mantra is “me”, “me me me” - do this until you truly don’t give a fuck, then you can chill out and get to your core missions. Until then, you are just building your vessel to take you where you’ll need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:18 AM
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As I said last week, sleep with another woman - destroy those wife goggles for good. Then decide how you plan to live your remaining years on your terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:03 AM
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The Myth of the Lonely Old Man “I know men in their 60s who’ve been trapped and emotionally blackmailed by their wives for 30 years. Marriage is no insulation from the sexual marketplace”
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:46 PM
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HA! Indeed. It’s likely to happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:53 PM
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OYS #41 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 212 lbs, 12% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts (5x5, lbs): SQ 290, DL: 310, OHP: 165, BP: 245, Pull-Ups: +20. RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. RELATIONSHIP SHIFT Last week, some posts and DMs with u/Blarg_Risen inspired me to consider leading my wife for her own sake and development more. Inevitably this includes unplugging at least some parts of her in order to be able to more fully live in my frame. I was previously pretty well disinterested in thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 12:20 PM
1

What is anyone’s success rate with red knighting? I’ve tried on a handful of guys (and a little on my wife), and my rate is 0%. Not a normalized distribution by any means but anecdotally it appears to be rare at best. And it didn’t matter if they were old or young, married or divorced. Now let’s take the matrix as it relates to women - most don’t want to break out of it. Why? Because it benefits them. That’s the whole reason why we unplugged, because it didn’t benefit us to such an extent that w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 03:43 PM
2

Yes, we are all safe from retard AIs for the time being.
/r/askMRP27/02/20 02:00 PM
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1 - recovering from an injury, both lifts have a ways to go. My squat is sexy. 2 - this one is a caveat, early 20’s, initially detached and great sex. She’s been starting to get love bubbles in her eyes lately though.. may be a plate that breaks itself eventually. 3 - I don’t think that’s it in this case. What did you end up doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 02:16 AM
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My man. HOA has some beast in him, even back then. Fine form imo.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 01:38 AM
1

OP, if you give it serious consideration, I suspect you are really not going to like your answer to this question.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 12:57 AM
1

Wanted to be on fewer drugs overall and see if I still needed it. May go back.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 11:18 PM
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If I'm not good enough to keep her from going after dweebs of that caliber, I have way more urgent matters to attend to than being jealous, mateguarding and snooping. Yes, lets see if you know what they are.. More non-sexual kino. "Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power." Give her orders and observe results This is not frame and you are inhibiting the development of yours by thinking it is. just grabbed her ass and nibbled at her ear. Not bad. Think through your verbal AM / AA o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 03:37 PM
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OYS #40 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 210 lbs, 12% BF (Jackson Pollock method). Lifts (5x5, lbs): SQ 285, DL: 305, OHP: 165, BP: 245, Pull-Ups: +20. RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. Took about one month off OYS to steer my course without MRP input for a while. As usual when I step away, I gain more insight about myself and come back knowing more about what I don't know. WORK Big changes are in progress in leadership, a lawsuit for financial fraud for our top leader (we'll call him Mr. Dip…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 12:48 PM
2

You don’t. You build the authentic you, cultivate your masculine and focus on your mission. The mission is more important than your relationship. Use her reactions as opportunities to learn, but you can’t directly change her. That is her decision. Re: the maze. It’s a good analogy for early on, but women aren’t retards (at least when it comes to this). They know what you want, especially when you are direct, authentic and unashamed about it. Check out u/itiswr1tten ‘s post on women having an att…
/r/askMRP22/02/20 05:28 PM
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Stick with the basics. Comfort doesn’t generate attraction. You need to find the balance of how much comfort you want to give, while knowing it won’t lead to more or better sex. Many guys only provide comfort when their partner seeks it; which is a good baseline to start with once you’re sure you’ve eliminated your covert contract.
/r/askMRP22/02/20 11:09 AM
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Are you open to plating and/or actually leaving her? If not, it is difficult not to have the undertone of scarcity you currently possess. You are trying to crack her code, beware the Dancing Monkey. Why do you even need these sexual acts done? Your OYS 10 days ago says it’s pretty much all good in this department. Is this post a knee jerk reaction to very recent challenges?
/r/askMRP22/02/20 01:18 AM
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Avoiding conflict is part of it but there’s also a SJWish feel to your motivation. Maybe Saul slept around, maybe he hit her first or maybe he did nothing and has decided to move on (a decision you apparently feel is yours not his). Who cares? That’s his world, not yours. NMMNG is the first book on your list. Given almost all of the problems in your post can be solved by it, I recommend you revisit. I also have a post I’m working on that I think will help guys in your situation. Look for it in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 11:14 AM
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Absolutely. You care about him so much you plan to avoid him for 3 months because you are afraid to tell him you know something. Mr. Nice Guy returns! And really, of all the work I did above, THAT’S what you come back with - fucking Jenny, who has no fucking bearing on your life at all? That’s the least important part of what I told you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 02:55 AM
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I noticed that as soon as I started doing traditional romantic stuff the shit tests immediately began as well. Was doing the traditional romantic shit authentic on your part? Is that really what you wanted to be doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 11:08 AM
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"stop, I think you leave now" It's just LMR. Which you couldn't push through because you GAF. "Of course I'm leaving, I have church tomorrow and I need to go pray to be forgiven for my many, many sins." OR "I do have to go. I have another date to get to <wink>". This is the shit that gets you laid, not constantly complementing her and telling her about your faggot, crying past. You are not giving her the experience she wants. It comes down to not enough push / pull dynamic. You lack the push and…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 11:02 AM
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My 8 year old told my wife her legs were fat this week LMAO. Your kid is fantastic. I’m feeling much less desire this last week. Keep working on yourself. Your wife is one of billions of women. Eventually she'll either sufficiently improve her SMV or be replaced. Either way it won't matter - you'll stay focused on your mission either way. If you do this right that is.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 10:46 AM
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I still have difficulty accepting wife's positivity (or apparent positivity). It has to be a trick, or she's faking it. I still lack outcome independence. I keep thinking inside of her frame. As quickly as I can catch it and break, I still find myself back in it. At least it is easier for me to recognize and stop it. But it still happens. ...DEER fails ...There's just nothing of interest on the night I would have time. ...Epictetus' Discourses *(your 2394th reading) I admire you are still here t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 10:26 AM
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Approach at least one HB that I'm attracted to for a random Day Bang Elderly Chat or other interaction. (Broken streak) This will always be hard. The key is finding the process to get yourself in the right state of mind. Approaching an HB cold is not fun and she feels that from you. She feels what you feel. What worked for me is to start with pussy indirect game, first on anyone, then on HB7+'s. At airports / bars / other public places, I'll just sit by someone I want to talk to and start chatti…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 10:00 AM
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Keep up your self-awareness. You need to provide yourself with some, but not an overwhelming amount, of negative feedback (e.g. "I'm off course") in order to continue to find your way. It's how a torpedo finds its target, tiny zig zags that course correct it continually along the way. Just keep moving forward with the target in sight. Also, be careful with TRM. THAT'S the Rambo book, esp for guys in a relationship as long as you've been and going from your teen years. You are going to feel robbe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 09:48 AM
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but in previous months I've had mixed feelings about our relationship and whether we were ready for the chaos of pregnancy and having a baby around. Now I feel like we're in a good place. You're not. More important, I'm confident that I'm going to be in an even stronger place 9 months from now than I am today. For your sake, I hope so. But don't count on it. You may be at this for years before you see results in your own transformation. YEARS. Or you'll quit like a faggot. There was a two-week s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 09:34 AM
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OYS 50 I love telling guys this so they realize how long MRP takes. No “weird cool tricks” to be had here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 02:11 AM
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Surely you see the danger in such logic. Wait for nothing because there will always be something. After the job it’ll be plating or your hunting lodge or doing something particular you’ve always wanted to do with your son, etc. There will always be a reason not to be happy now. You know how I know. It’s always easier to point out someone else’s shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 11:44 PM
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being happy You just have to do it. Now. From WOTSM: “It’s never going to be over, so stop waiting for the good stuff. As of now, spend a minimum of one hour a day doing whatever you are waiting to do until your finances are more secure, or until the children have grown and left home, or until you have finished your obligations and you feel free to do what you really want to do. Don’t wait any longer.” And: “Live completely. Know your deepest purpose. Give the gift you were born to give. Enjoy s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 09:10 PM
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Women cheat to end relationships, men cheat to stay in them.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 10:59 PM
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OYS #39 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 212 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from minor injury). RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. I'm at a crossroads in my career. The startup I work for just raised a crap load of money, yet is now in a crisis due to lack of leadership from the founders (both became delusional and enamored with their paper value after the last funding round). The BOD and employees have lost faith in the founder…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 02:28 PM
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I’m plating an EE woman right now. She’s as feminine as they come and AWALT applies as always. It’s an advantage though, she’s not poisoned by feminism and she’s easy to manage. I smash her puny shit tests and it drenches her panties. It’s that simple. She knows I have other women (and am married) and knows her place. Wonderful girlfriend material. Best I’ve seen. YMMV and apparently it has. Be careful you aren’t expecting more than any woman can offer. Hypergamy is there whether you like it or …
/r/TheRedPill26/01/20 03:30 PM
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Logically you know you should leave now, but you are still emotionally dependent on your wife and family structure so you are rationalizing. You are not as far along as you think you are. You are still highly invested in your wife, you have no game, no balls and no lifts beyond those of a small teenage boy. You are still at the bottom and have a ton of work to do. The only difference is now you have some visibility on what could be, if you climb out. Stop thanking anyone like you’ve made it and …
/r/askMRP21/01/20 12:10 PM
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These are the cards you were dealt, all you can do is play them as best as they can be played. Admittedly I know almost nothing about your ex other than what you’ve written, but if you drop your anger card, I think you have a chance at connecting with her amicably again. Picture yourself with no anger, no baggage from the past, totally out of your “echo chamber” and fully present. You meet her for coffee, look her in the eye and feel through her. Your words matter less but your intent and energy…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/20 04:15 PM
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Motherfucker you look good in the mirror naked or not? I'm not the mutant I want to be yet, but I'd do me. JP method is a semi-objective way to cue when I want to start cutting. 220#, 10%BF by eoy 2020 Good luck, let me know how that goes for you. It's been in my OYS for months and will remain until I get there. Unrelated, you ever miss plating two lesser jobs, assuming you could make the same amount as with one major job?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/20 03:26 PM
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Cool, lots of goals vomited out to dance to. It’s far more difficult to decide what not to do than what to do. What is your top goal / must-attain? What else did you actually do beyond mind fucking? What is your situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 02:56 PM
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You are at OYS 17. Have you done the work to visualize the man you want to be? Not circumstances like your wife fucking you more, but the man you want to be regardless of life’s circumstances? Would that man write the above, so deeply invested in his wife and her reactions, trying to “guide” her out of a maze she isn’t even in? No, you haven’t done that work yet and no that guy would never write something like what you did. This is your blind spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 12:52 PM
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OYS #38 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 211 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from minor injury). RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. 220#, 10%BF by eoy 2020. Been refining my program, diet mostly. Considering adding more meal planning vs tracking via apps. I may be able to hit my weight and BF goals way early this year. Bigger Leaner Stronger has refined much of what I already knew. Going to spend another week of adjusting my over…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 09:09 PM
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Fantastic. “Give me my money and let’s have a threesome” seems like a perfectly reasonable approach then.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 09:13 PM
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Your father can barely afford me. This is not an issue, it’s an opportunity to not be a butthurt faggot. In addition to ST’s suggestions, I also like “I actually can’t afford you. Oh well. I’ll help you pack your bags.” <walks away whistling> This is 101 shit. Stay on the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/20 02:51 AM
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OP, pay attention to MP’s response. It’s the spanking you need. I do >100 approaches / year when I’m not even trying to game. It becomes part of your everyday routine. See a cute girl? Game her. It’s on automatic. You are making too big of a deal about it. Lighten up and have fun. See what the most fucked up thing you can say to a hot girl is with a straight face. There’s nothing quite like it. Also I suggest staying off Tinder until you are proficient at day game. The latter is far more importa…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/20 02:18 AM
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Ok big brother. Keep your dick in your pants and see above.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 01:59 AM
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Thanks. It makes total sense actually - eventually pounding meat has to be more than pounding meat. You have RP knowledge but are at a different point in the cycle from me; I wanted to better understand your frame going back into what appears on the outside to be what most of us faggots fell into while still plugged in - the monogamy trap. For some reason I think it will be different for you this tome around. Being beta with balls is actually the alpha we are all looking for. Yeah, that faggot a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 01:57 AM
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I’d like to hear more in your thinking as well. Mr. Non-Monogamy, MGTOW setting up the fucking Brady Bunch - WTF is going on?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 12:18 PM
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No
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 01:59 AM
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It's not that I didn't know I could do it. I've turned down plenty of opportunities, even when I was a huge beta faggot. The normal realizing abundance on a new level, validation, pussy's like air concepts apply. But more importantly, I'm starting to think I don't want to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone. I don't see the benefit. Multi-threading women takes less time, gets you more pussy and lets you focus more on other areas of life.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:20 PM
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Seeing is believing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:39 PM
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It’s a fair warning on pussy and I appreciate it. This is the first non-wife pussy I’ve had in 16 years. It’s opened my eyes more than any RP book ever could have.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:35 PM
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like a fucking lion Fuck yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:09 PM
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The real reason is my underlying thought pattern is still locked in ONEitis. Correct. And you haven't fucked another woman in nearly a 1/2 century. Highly selective plating destroys oneitis and raises abundance mentality while mitigating the risks as much as possible. ​ Polarity, how to implement it, what it takes, etc. And how it works when one is only home a couple days a week? Would it work with a woman who was raised without a father? Is it worth trying with this woman? Stop mind fucking you…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:02 PM
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Become in control of your life enough to genuinely laugh in her face.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:42 PM
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OYS #37 BACKGROUND: Early 40s, 6' 2" 210 lbs, 12.5% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from minor injury). RP 2+ years. Tween kids. Wife early 40s. 220# 10% BF by end of 2020 - Gaining weight and what appears to be almost no fat most weeks - TRT effects I assume. Blood panel later this month to see whats really going on. Lifts keep going up nicely. Just PRed on OHP - fuck that felt good. Wasn't even that hard. Lots of room to grow. Reading Big…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:25 PM
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Hadn’t heard of shockwave therapy for ED, much appreciated. I can fuck alright most of the time, but it can take lots of concentration to keep wood. My expectations may be too high, but I took some black market serum in college that turned my dick into steel - I could fuck for hours no matter what. I want that superpower back. Was probably a T booster, which was easily available back then. Getting bloods done later this month so I should have more on the hormonal and physical parts soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 12:55 AM
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OYS #36 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 208 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from minor injury). RP 25 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41 220# 10% BF by end of 2020 - Right where I expect to be on this mission. Gaining weight but also lifts are going up. Will PR in OHP this week, PR bench likely in the next 2-3 weeks. Squat and Deads still have a ways to go but getting back to PRs likely within 2 months. I'm ripped and "vascular" - I've never looke…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 12:54 PM
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So basically you are a big, strong dude that has some self awareness and isn’t easily butthurt. With dedication, I think you get to where you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 02:42 AM
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Here’s one frame issue: Start posting your core lifts. The only lift you’ve posted in your last several+ OYS’s has been shrugs. Fucking shrugs! Also post BF. Your weight has been the same throughout OYS’s which tells me you’re either way on your game or not closely tracking what you eat and with no real goals (let’s face it, it’s not the former). If you can’t post stats because you give a fuck about what a bunch of assholes in an online forum think then you can’t really face anything in life, ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 12:45 AM
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Good start and welcome to the rabbit hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 11:16 PM
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I found it incredibly easy to maintain frame when spinning plates, but it seems like once I commit, I doubt a lot of things. Why commit then? It seems like frame would be one of the most important things never to give up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 03:58 PM
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W32, 5' 10" tall You list your wife's age before (I assume) your own height. I find that an odd tell about you. Wife fat Don't worry about that until you're no longer fat, at 19%, you're sloppy. She has nothing to be inspired, motivated or dreaded by. 5x5 Stronglifts - I'm sure you've been told this before. I don't know what kind of weird program you described, but how about doing what everyone else has had success with? Frame - You lack boundaries. Ex: wake up at 2 AM. For me, that better be do…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 03:40 PM
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Best Lifts All Time No one gives a fuck. I almost made a big mistake and thought you were strong. All that matters is what you can do today, which is nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 03:16 PM
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FITNESS Goal: Cut to 160 by March 2020 Why become such a skinny faggot? I'm 1" taller than you, almost 50lbs heavier and 6 points less BF with plenty of room to get bigger and more shredded. Your shitty lifts reflect your shitty goal. Also, I suggest looking into TRT. she just immediately shit on it You know what you did wrong here. Don't let it happen again. That's an immediate "well those are my plans, you are welcome to join or kindly step out of my car." My money says your dick would be drow…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 03:12 PM
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Green: Shit tests Disagree. You want shit tests from women you'd like to fuck. Then you can smash them and get that pussy wet so you can smash her. If you're not getting shit tests at all, you aren't even on her fuck radar. Red: Talked to a woman.. Disagree. This is a win and you can't even see it. I can tell you never did any PUA and had zero game your whole life. You are starting to flex muscles you didn't know you had - of course they are going to be weak. At least you are finding out they ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 02:45 PM
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You still reek of oneitis and are not conditioning your time based on her behavior. Instead you are looking at ponds 3 hours away, which is the only moisture your dry dick is ever going to see if you keep on like this. You should be way beyond these noob mistakes by now. Also, YOU HAVE NO KIDS. No wonder you don’t value your own time, you haven’t been forced to put it at a premium. You have nothing to do. With no kids, the real reason you couldn’t walk away from this woman right now is your code…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 01:49 PM
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OYS #35 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 206 lbs, 13% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10%. RP 25 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41. (1) 220 lbs, 10% BF by eoy 2020 - All is on-plan. Lifts are still going up but not at PRs yet. I've found a way to lift heavy despite still recovering from an ankle injury (lots of cold compression treatment before and after, started with light weights and worked my way back up). Abs are defined, but one side is more developed than the other. I'm t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 10:52 AM
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..wouldn’t mind a bit of that blissful ignorance again I believe we all have that Cypher temptation sometimes. The steak tastes delicious until you realize it’s really just slime that has been forced down your throat. You can’t unknow it but you can wish you did.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/19 03:25 AM
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Why? It’s tempting because the opportunity is always there but I have way too much to lose compared to her. I’d need some form of collateral or leverage over her for when that plate breaks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 11:18 AM
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Thanks to you and the other top guys here. Saved my ass more than once and I’m glad to be able to give back.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:55 PM
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Where am I failing There are still times where I am rejected ... Bedroom. I still have insecurities here that I need to abolish. It gives me so much more pleasure when she is having pleasure. ... This isn’t about her, this is about my enjoyment of sex. You say it isn't about her, but in reality you care about your wife's experience during sex quite a bit - likely more than your own. It's evident in your phrasing: SHE needs to have pleasure for you to have more pleasure. It's fine and expected to…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 09:18 PM
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My largest struggle here, and my biggest opportunity for improvement, is display more alpha traits early on. A common theme girls tell me is that I am "sweet, nice, etc". I clearly exude comfort and they sense it immediately. I have had multiple girls naked at my place and then hit the brakes. The 3rd date rule has been mentioned too many times to count. Too many fucks, not enough abundance, not enough SMV. Good for you for getting here before you fuck yourself in a marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:34 PM
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You have the wrong head up your wife's ass still.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:16 PM
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Sadly Tom took his stuff down a couple months ago. You can still get some of it through Archive and Soundcloud. He was the master at LDG. Daniel Blake is also top notch. young 20 somethings - I’m convinced that generation the girls are not used to face to face pick up so it spikes attraction. Agreed and same experience here - it's a cheat code for the hottest women. No fucking doubt what they have to pick from in their own generation is for the most part the worst dog shit desperate beta manboys…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 07:59 PM
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Probably both. Won’t know until I master it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 07:38 PM
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Nice work. On game, look into the London day game model. It works...reeeeally fucking well. Once you know the basics, practice gaming everyone even when it’s not a pickup. I game hot women, ugly women and dudes all the time. It’s free practice at being a good conversationalist. Apps are a passive investment at best - spend your time doing mostly day game - hotter women and more rapid self improvement all around will be your rewards.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 01:21 PM
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OYS #34 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 205 lbs, 13.4% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from ankle injury). RP 25 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41. (1) 220 lbs, 10% BF by eoy 2020 - Gaining weight and apparently fat along with muscle quickly now (went from 11.6 BF to 13.4 BF in a week - likely at least partially due to my measuring error). Need to look into more consistent ways of measuring BF on a weekly basis. I still look pretty cut. I only need BF wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 12:35 PM
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I assume you aren’t leaving because “it ain’t broke so don’t fix it” - yet she’s not what this version of you currently wants. Plus your kids are still in the house and I assume you value raising them in a family unit. Why not spin plates for now and reassess if/when things change?
/r/askMRP17/12/19 04:50 AM
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You reek of neediness and validation-seeking. Remember RP is a biological response, women have no control over it. You cannot negotiate desire. Ordering sex acts to placate your insecurities and against her will is not RP, it’s being a domineering faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 07:04 PM
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I went through most of my high school years this way. It is entirely your fault. You are likely not involved enough in the HS community, and instead you are expecting that community to be involved with you. What are your interests? What are you doing to better yourself as a man? What are your lifts? What books have you read it to improve yourself, to improve your social skills, to improve your confidence? What sports are you interested in and have tried playing? What other hobbies? If you are no…
/r/askTRP11/12/19 08:45 PM
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No, you suck and have no ability to navigate ASD and LMR. This is a fail.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 02:39 AM
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Nope. The correct response is no response. Treat her text as a next and build WAY more abundance into your life.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 12:24 AM
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OYS #33 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 203 lbs, 11.6% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - All core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from ankle injury). RP 25 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41. Lets all stop fucking around and get some real work done: (1) 220 lbs, 10% BF by eoy 2020 - Still recovering from an ankle injury, may require surgery. This goal is going to be hard to hit with that headwind but I'm not letting up. No squatting or deadlifiting until I get this right, which leaves me to focus o…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 06:28 PM
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Abundance.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 01:23 PM
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Read Sex God Method - the size of your dick is almost irrelevant. The dude that wrote that book has 4.5 inches - didn’t stop him from getting a life of constant, gratifying sex. She feels it’s big because you are making her feel dominated (which is your job, but don’t confuse this with domineering, which is a negative characteristic). Look into DEVI. Stay confident. Watch her actions not her words.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 01:22 PM
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Why do you want kids? It’s a terrible sexual strategy and I guarantee your life will be equally happy or miserable with or without them.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 01:15 PM
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You’re running a nice Dancing Monkey Improvement Programme plus your SMV is still way too low. Fix those and the rest of your life will fall into place, with or without the wife.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 03:49 PM
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Well you fucked up my analogy but compare it to squatting 315 now, which I’m sure is fairly easy for you but seemed impossible week 2. Passing shit tests, maintaining frame and working to achieve your missions all become natural. Winning is expected. TRT will help with fat loss too. Get your T levels checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 02:49 PM
1

They recently started video popup ads and location tracking. It’s turning shittier.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 01:36 PM
1

Why not MFP?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 10:48 AM
1

Could you squat 405 x 5-8 your second week of lifting? Probably easy for you now. BTW, fuck that’s a good squat. You on TRT or anything else?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 04:04 AM
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I don’t think of that, other than to rule it out. If I drop the old bird, a lot of new birds are getting slammed with no repercussions.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 02:00 AM
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What can you do? Nothing directly. My kids are around that age and all my shit is on lock down. But that’s what responsible parents do. You can’t save others, especially those that aren’t your kids. Don’t say a word to him about it - nothing you do will be effective. Your best bet is to live the example, let him see you with other women. Take him out and flirt with the waitress, talk about his dreams with him (“kid missions”), get him doing real things in the real world (sports, especially thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 04:41 AM
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Telling the guy thank you would have sufficed.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 04:20 AM
1

Yes, not sure about 3-4 years, but that’s the way. That shit foundation is currently you. It doesn’t matter if you slide different pussy on top of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 04:47 PM
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Most important and relatively unexamined from your two Recent OYS’s is why do you want to have kids? Without that desire / need, you’re all good as-is. Kids do not make you happier, they give you another channel to express happiness through. Something I read recently resonates here: the grass is always greener on the other side because you are not over there fucking it up. Unless you are 100% on kids, you should default to “no”. There are already too many / enough people in the world and you can…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 03:31 PM
1

Still anger phase. It doesn’t matter that you wasted time in the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 12:24 PM
1

100% yes. One of the best decisions I’ve made. When you are done having kids, close it off and fuck like crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 12:20 PM
2

You are gifting because YOU want to. You give the gift of your humor, stability and deep masculine presence freely. It is not to fix her, it is to take on her subconscious challenge to fix you. If you are in the right head space, giving freely and she cannot accept your gifts for an extended period of time, you may be with the wrong woman. That’s far down the road from where you probably are.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 02:09 PM
1

Fantastic - I theorize sailing is one of those activities with evolutionary ties that builds bonds between men. I have the same view on combat training.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 11:09 AM
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Think WOTSM, it’s challenging but you have to find ways to indirectly praise the things you want her to do more of. “Praise is literal food for feminine qualities. If you want your woman to grow in her radiance, health, happiness, love, beauty, power, and depth, praise these qualities. Praise them daily, a number of times. It is a difficult practice for most men to learn, but you must learn to praise the very qualities you feel are not yet praiseworthy in order for them to become so. In other wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:47 AM
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Rage - it’s normal at your phase. Use it to your advantage in the gym. When it gets old being angry all the time, check out A New Earth and look into some chakra exercises, then read WOTSM and your head will be in a much better place. Also, there is a tone of being out of control in your OYS - at least become aware of this. You are living life in the passengers seat.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:38 AM
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You’re killin’ it bro. Good to see. Check out the consolidated version of 48 LOP, esp after you get through the full version 1x. It’s a good summary of each law without all the history stuff behind it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:25 AM
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Problem with your CEO is “her”. I’ve seen very few competent female execs. They are out there but most genuinely lack the masculine traits required to lead and win. Keep this in mind while looking for a new position. Calluses - same issue here. I use a file then pumice stone 1x / week. The former may save you some time. Also, check the root cause (likely shoes that don’t fit right). Wife anxiety - check out HOA’s series on Depressed and Anxious Wives as well as WOTSM. Spoiler: it’s your fault. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:13 AM
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I’ve worked for one of these types of bosses for far too many years. There is no way to win. Don’t bother. The world is a big place OP, go find another tribe to hunt with.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:04 AM
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You’re likely already there but in case not, consider the time and attention you’d be expending on an MBA. That’s the biggest cost. It’s a lot of extra work and only pays back if you get the right contacts, which is unlikely in an online program. Mine opened some doors, but in light of the years of opportunity cost I gave up and where I took my career anyway (tech startups, where degrees mean little to nothing), I wouldn’t have gone down that path. Hindsight is 20/20 and YMMV of course. It’s goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:55 AM
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Agreed, and poor choice of words on my part. I’m not trying to play some stupid game with her. It’s part of my stepping up to lead my own sex life. I can’t do that to my satisfaction if I bust and I’m out all the time. That’s a powerless position. Saving nuts also saves energy and power for me to use elsewhere in life. Plus it’s shifted my mentality from working towards the goal of ejaculating all the time to being able to immerse myself in the experience more with no goal other than being in an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:32 AM
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Right now I just stop or change positions when I’m getting close. Deep breathing really helps and focusing on feeling through her while staying out of your head / old masturbation patterns of inward focus. Hoping to improve my ability to keep going and go beyond without ejaculating.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:06 PM
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By making it about your pleasure, you are making it about power.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:16 PM
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Haven’t read it yet but that’s what drew me to it - I want to be able to retain that energy for myself while still experiencing the pleasure.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 12:17 PM
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OYS #32 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 203 lbs 11.3% BF (Jackson Pollock method) - I should be a fat fuck from a long glutenous vacation but somehow I lost BF instead <sneezeTRT>, all core lifts are intermediate +/- 10% (pending recovery from ankle injury). RP 25 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. Life is fucking good right now. WOTSM has helped me see I'm in between layers of missions in life right now. Work is going alright, but I'm starting to see my energy…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 12:00 PM
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You’re wasting the opportunity then. Embrace her bad moods for what they are: your challenge and your opportunity to grow.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 08:03 PM
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It’s not a checklist, you need to go deeper: To crack that shell around her, you must first not care about the shell. You must be fearless. If it helps, assume you will fail every time with her, so you go into it as a sunk cost - nothing to be afraid of there. Now that you assume you won’t crack the shell, instead of being a dancing monkey clown, what is your energy? What would you do naturally to make light of the situation WITH her (not significantly at her expense)? Let that energy pour out f…
/r/askMRP02/12/19 11:39 AM
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Only thing I’ll add to the great advice and smack around you’ve already received: Look up AWALT. Any woman would be tempted to and probably would cheat on you. You are low SMV because you lack frame and game. You can’t be angry at her, it’s hardwired into how women work. Don’t waste your energy bring angry - unless it’s to get a PR at the gym or if it helps you in martial arts. Otherwise, realize this truth and become at peace with it. The great part about AWALT is women are interchangeable and …
/r/askMRP02/12/19 11:07 AM
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Not enough detail for me to help you much but how do you know you are failing? If it is legit physical pain, you are not going to be able to address that with these skills - only emotional pain. Chances are if there is the former, it is accompanied by the latter, so you still have work to do. Do you feel your own positive masculine energy as you provide humor or is this coming off as try-hard and annoying? If you are providing the best of yourself (which I doubt), and are unable to pierce her mo…
/r/askMRP02/12/19 10:50 AM
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You didn’t answer my questions. That’s ok, but you need to answer them for you.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 01:37 AM
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You can be a skinny little shit and still be alpha (which is what this behavior is), look at Corey Worthington. You can also be ripped af and failing these opportunities like a pussy (and like most men). How are you handling her moods? Give a recent example.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 01:31 AM
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Yes. I also found reading on Kindle with note taking through the app very effective at distilling the information into something that is easily referenced (hence how I got to the above quickly).
/r/askMRP02/12/19 01:28 AM
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What do you see as your lesson to learn here? What is she subconsciously trying to teach you? A few passages from WOTSM, which I suggest you read / reread immediately: “TOLERATING HER LEADS TO RESENTING HER A man gets resentful and frustrated with his woman when he is too afraid, weak, or unskilled to penetrate her moods and tests into love. He wishes she were easier to deal with. But it is not entirely her fault that she is bitchy and complaining. It is also a reflection of her lack of being pe…
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:13 PM
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3 reasons, 2 of which I’ll share: 1 - I was so fucked up when I found the red pill that I required more than the normal oral application. I needed a suppository to absorb it asap. 2 - It’s a reminder to get to work, for me and other guys here: “Pill up, ass” 3rd one would dox me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 03:52 PM
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Quick update on mobile while traveling: Mindset has remained strong. I am the prize, remaining present and in touch with the eternal nature of my being is priority #1. Almost through WOTSM for the second time. I suggest everyone read this book after the anger phase - it takes on new meaning at that point. It has me thinking of my layers of missions and covers the nature of “finding new and slaying old dragons” that many men speak of here. I can see I’m in between dragons right now. I’ve been con…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 05:00 PM
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Best day of your fucking life. Get to work.
/r/askMRP25/11/19 08:30 PM
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Emphasis was on the mindset shift but I like the head in the washer idea, give her a good cleansing. Maybe I graduate to that then anal training. Future FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 07:24 PM
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So you fucked your single plate like crazy. You get the gold star for today. What happens when that plate breaks? And she’s living with you? And now you have a connection with her kids too? You really think most of us couldn’t do all that with a plate? That’s easy mode. Hard mode is trying to get there with the woman that put up with your faggy shit for years and years. This isn’t a cock size comparison, it’s not even the same playing field as your life. Also, the food sounds amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 05:57 PM
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It's not that linear. I've been building SMV for years now. I think this was an energy / disposition change that women can sense. Got hit on hard the next day by a co-worker.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 03:41 PM
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Can confirm. I’ve had mouth and pussy readily offered up daily since this happened, from my wife and another woman I’m not even intimate with.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 12:14 PM
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One of my favourite side effects of this process is the impact i have had on my two boys - they look up to me anyway but now i am a better version. This is important. If your mission includes leaving your mark and making a difference in the world, your children are one of the most effective ways to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 04:36 AM
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Or just carry a 22 yo HB9 around while she’s wearing nothing but a gstring. Can do either.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 12:31 AM
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Get fixed, dummy. Do it now.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 11:02 PM
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Could be, not sure if it matters as long as the relationship remains worthy of my time. Passive dread was already high and the latest snot bubble event may have put her over the top.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:47 PM
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We need to examine your subconscious here. Did you pick “MountainCave” because that’s what your gf’s ass looks like? If so, possible* red flag. You obviously need to sidebar and lift. Make those things a way higher priority than your gf. You want to move to a new city for you? Wtf are you waiting for? Move now with no regard for what she does. Hold her loosely, if at all. DO NOT make the mistake of investing further with her. Your mantra is to divest in her, invest in yourself. Demote her to pla…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 12:30 PM
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Man you found the holes immediately. You are helping me see I need to get away from this checklist approach for a while and work more on the mindset I want to have underlying it. I have moments of clarity and confidence on this but it’s not 100% of the time. Without the right mindset, I don’t have the deeper foundation for actions to be truly effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 01:28 PM
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OYS #30 BACKGROUND: 39 yo, 6' 2" 200 lbs 11.9% BF (Jackson Pollock method), all core lifts are intermediate +/- 10%. RP 24 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. PHYSICAL Continuing to feel great on TRT, ~3 weeks in. Muscles already feel different, energy is way up, brain fog down, dick up (although still some ED during sex, libido is higher) - all the things they advertise about it are so far true and I think I'm only in the beginning of feeling the effe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 12:13 PM
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Thank you for your comment and I was actually thinking of your story post when I wrote this. Upon additional reflection, I see it as you are only in her frame if you require HER, that specific woman, to feel a certain way (e.g. desire / attraction). That's part of the oneitis that brought many of us to MRP. To require any from a number of women you could possibly be sexual partners with to feel a certain way is not being in any of their frames. Instead it's a qualification in order for them to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/19 04:27 PM
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You are 25 and just now figuring out you want to fuck everything?? Men and women both have plurality in their body’s sexual agenda. That’s why variety matters so much with repeat partners. Add some variety with her, SGM style.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 08:33 PM
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Dude, you're on OYS #2.. And where did I say go to a lawyer? You don't get it yet - it doesn't matter which woman you have, ANY of them would be highly tempted and probably would cheat on you at this point. You have low SMV, which as a "man" means no SMV. AWALT. Accept it. Changing out women will not change your results. Unless it's blatant cheating, chill out and use the in-house shit tester to improve yourself over the next year. Read BPP's 12 levels of dread (post and book). Read through and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 09:51 PM
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And how does my relationship fit into all of that? Am I in love with the idea of conquering a mountain, just to get to the top and say “Well, yeah. What the fuck now? There aren’t any more mountains? What the fuck? Why did I climb this shit in the first place? Man, you and and some other guys here, you've reached top of the mountain, formed the relationship you wanted, then you say "now what"? Human nature is a bitch. Check out Meditations by MA.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 06:28 PM
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I have been starved for real sexual enthusiasm and desire, and this is a real weak spot for me. Like all women, mine KNOWs this and she WILL use it to maintain control when she feels like it. Sadly a nice blowjob + reflecting on an MRP post made me realize how little frame I have, and I don’t really know what to do about it at in this area. Denials still get me a little butthurt. Not nearly as bad as it used to be, but not good enough. I want denials to mean absolutely nothing to me. It's all yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 03:34 PM
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the man of noble nature does not become noble of a sudden; he must train through the winter, and make ready, and not lightly leap to meet things that concern him not. That's MRP. You are coming into your own. Enjoy my turn, give up obsessing that my turn was last. That may or may not be true.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 03:09 PM
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Np. We all do sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 03:01 PM
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A girl approached me. She touched my bicep every chanced she got. Then she asked for my Facebook, I said I don’t have. Snapchat?... No, I’m not on snapchat. She went “ohh, Instagram” … well, I couldn’t remember my password… I downloaded snapchat and Instagram right in front of her. She gave me her snap. You're not leading. Get her PHONE NUMBER. Hand her your phone and say "put your number in." It's really advanced. You're not leading here or anywhere in your post. Or in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:59 PM
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Not initiating because you assume you will not get the sex you want is staying in her frame. It’s giving her control over when you have sex and the quality of that sex. I have a similar challenge but have recently realized I can’t let it stop me from leading. If you initiate like a barbarian because you’re horny and she is so starfish it turns you off, then by all means cancel. But don’t do it from a butthurt, validation-seeking standpoint. Do it with the frame that this is no longer the best th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:48 PM
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Stop vaping faggot. Stop. Today. Your mind is weak and fragile, fix that first. Then fix the lifts. Stay on program and be religious about diet. You are on track now with SL 5x5. I wouldn't worry about anything else until you get these two, simple as fuck, things down in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:13 PM
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Sex has been regular as usual, but the past week has been starfish. I’m thinking I wont initiate for a week to see if this affects anything. I feel I don’t need the validation that sex used to give me anymore, so I’m fine to do this... I don’t want more starfish sex, so I’ll withdraw for now… Your statements contradict. If you don't feel the need for validation, then why withdraw? You don't want starfish because SHE'S not feeling the way you want her to during sex. Who's frame are we in with thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:06 PM
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OYS #29 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 201 lbs, (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed. Most lifts deloaded due to minor injury): SQ 260, DL 300, BP 200, OHP 145, BR 205. RP 24 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. TRT A couple weeks into TRT now and feeling pretty good. Maybe all placebo effect but I'm noticing slight improvements in my energy, strength and libido. It's been easy enough to administer the meds once I got used to it (subq T cyp 200mg/ml 0.32m 2x/wk and…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 12:45 PM
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None of us here, including you, really believe that is your fear - you’re worried YOU will be less attracted to HER?? Yes I’m sure that’s your real concern, that or, with her newfound options, the other way around. One thing about this forum, it filters out your bullshit. And way to avoid the entire purpose of my post. When you are ready to OYS, go through the questions I asked with yourself. Visualize becoming the man that handles this better than you are. You can become him.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 09:01 PM
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Fake boob jobs, if done under the muscle at high quality, are the shit. They are great to play with while she blows you, you can nut on them and it’s hot to pull her back while fucking her doggie style in front of a mirror just to admire them in all their glory. These are all good things. The other good thing about this for you is, as others have pointed out, it has revealed your insecurity. You are likely worried she will get more male attention with a higher SMV now, which she will. You are li…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 01:26 PM
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Apps are a passive investment, expect ~1 lay every other month from them at most and only once you are high value. The rest of your lays will likely come from daygame. Look up the London Daygame Model and start doing approaches this week. You’ll be amazed how accessible high SMV women are in real life, even while you are still de-fagging yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 02:06 PM
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U/hack3ge will you post an origins story? I keep trying to figure out how you got here and can only piecemeal your history from a few posts, comments, one faggot post deleted (which would have been a gem to read given where you are now) and no OYS’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:47 PM
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If you really like her, use a baby wipe first. Or realize every woman has a history, they are more red pilled than most men.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 06:49 PM
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Every 3.5 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 09:24 PM
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Will check that site out. I’m self injecting so no problems anticipated there. I’ve never heard of guys having an issue traveling with T but good call on the dr note JIC.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 02:31 PM
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OYS #28 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 198 lbs, T:343, (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 185 (deloaded from 290 due to minor ankle injury), DL (185, deloaded from 320, ankle), BP 215, OHP 145, BR 200. RP 23 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. HORMONES Had consultation with a clinic. No concerns on my bloods and they claim I'm a perfect candidate for TRT. I've also been researching T-Nation and Illimitable Men among other resources on this topic. I highly r…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 11:20 AM
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52, 23, 20-27 JFC man, that’s true mastery. I’m two years in and am seldom surprised anymore. Thanks for the post and even more for the reminder of just how far a man can develop.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/19 12:29 PM
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half assing it This plus the fact you needed to ask a ridiculous question should tell you all you need to know.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 07:24 PM
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If she were fucking you like crazy every day and being sweet, would you still be asking this question?
/r/askMRP24/10/19 08:29 AM
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I’m sooo sorry you feel bad sweetheart xoxoxo
/r/askMRP24/10/19 12:57 AM
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Other thing you could be doing in parallel is network with the sort of people that would likely back you for such a venture. I picture the MeatEater, NRA, tradcon type with money. Join clubs, get intros and go hunting and fishing with those guys. As you get to know them, share the dream and see where it goes. Also, let me know once it opens!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:31 PM
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There are billions of women. Does the man you want to be plate an ex?
/r/askMRP23/10/19 07:21 PM
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As MiTW says in the comment, external factors may be taken into consideration but they cannot be used to plot or steer your course. Most/All of us come/remain here in MRP as huge BP faggots. It’s easy to overcorrect things once you realize how big of a faggot you were/are. Things like going from having your wife on a pedestal to seeing no value in her at all, or blabbing like an idiot to literal (and sub-optimal) STFU to redefine the word “autism”. Going full out anti-validation is another overc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 05:23 PM
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< I need capital right now < 5 years in Corp America You need personal cash flow not capital. It’s never been easier to raise capital. Look at Juicro. It was a shitty $400 machine that squeezed a bag of juice FFS - still raised $120M. If you are serious about starting a business, consider joining a startup as an interim step instead. Any executive job in Corporate America is just another pile of political feminist shit to sort through. In the end it’s all the same. Joining a startup will teach y…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:10 PM
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Meditation isn’t a checkbox. Despite what you say, you don’t seem to be in a good headspace, so you may need to do it more / differently. Are you really reaching a quiet mind state when you meditate or are you waiting for your allotted time to pass so you can move on to the next checkbox?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 05:10 PM
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When she returned I got a lot of ASD (“your language and behavior lately is degrading, I don’t like it”). I told her she was lying and that her mood wasn't fun to be around and left for work. Nice job pushing through that ASD!! Maybe you could have worked with that better than being butthurt and running away though? "You're right, I have been degrading. Guess I need to make it up to you. (kiss her and get her aroused, fuck her)" - Seems like a far superior ending.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:30 PM
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Breathe my man. Too many thoughts for anyone to remain sane. Do you ever try to sit and think of nothing? Focus on your breathing, let thoughts come and go but do not follow them and end up in the vastness of a still mind? Could be a good exercise on one of your hikes, alone. The more you do this, the more centered you will be, which is what you need right now. Think of it like an investment: you will build your overall "consciousness" by getting into this state for as long as you can every day.…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:15 PM
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My original plan (month per year of BP) was to switch to abundance after a year (this prior January), but the tear/surgery set me back Downloaded Bumble You don't need Bumble to feel abundance. In fact, I'd recommend a dude your age stay off all online dating. You're only going to get women around your age there, if any, and that's no bueno. Now if you have your shit together, you can try daygaming instead. It lets you interact with far younger and hotter women, build instant value and gain soci…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:43 PM
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I told myself it was to ‘push’ so that she would ‘pull’ If the lingerie returns, then likely there has been some progress made Covert contracts. Try to separate your ability to make progress on yourself from anything or anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:22 PM
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when you get to this point you’re heading towards a place where the sex becomes what the man wants it to be, or you realise she’s not the women for you/accept the reality you are in. MRP sexual comes down to this end state. Great to see all the progress you've made. I can relate to much of your post and am about to start TRT myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:07 PM
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OYS #27 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 197 lbs, T:343, (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 290, DL 320, BP 214, OHP 145, BR 195. RP 23 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. MISSION Turn these weaknesses into strengths (thanks MiTW) in order to truly have a life built separately from my wife: Develop a more authentic and congruent frame - I've made huge strides here, especially when I immerse myself in studies on frame (RP and otherwise). So the answer is simpl…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:46 AM
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Men should avoid irrevocable decisions about their relationships and marriage until they have owned their shit, developed their own authentic and congruent frame, become self-validating, and become emotionally self-sufficient and strong enough to be emotionally vulnerable. Before then, they neither know the values of the future self they are deciding for, nor the wife they are deciding about. Such a high density of raw truth is rare and applies to irrevocable decisions anywhere, beyond relations…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 08:13 PM
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So you're not lying or cheating. You wife knows but you are not rubbing it in her face. There are two different paradigms you could adopt here; you can't have both at the same time and still be congruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 06:27 PM
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Dude how did you dox me?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:24 PM
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What got your panties in a knot? Your big DQ Blizzard slamming arse can’t imagine a guy an inch taller and 45 lbs lighter than you bringing his shin to your gut with full force in week 2? It’s not that hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:01 PM
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OYS #26 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 196 lbs, T:343, (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 290, DL 320, BP 213, OHP 144, BR 190. RP 23 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. HORMONES Something is potentially out of whack with my hormones (see previous OYS). Getting it checked out by one specialist this week and another next week. Planning on going on TRT if I get answers and resolution on the other hormone problems. LIFTING Lifts still going up, slowly but maki…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:56 AM
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It was Free T4. Didn’t get T3 or T4 done yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 08:43 PM
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Yes, I need to get better on what I allow into my time and my life overall.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 07:41 PM
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I appreciate you flagging the TSH. I had T4 tested about 6 months ago and it was also on the high end of the normal range (which makes me think is not hypothyroidism). Getting it all checked out by an Endo and a T specialist.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 07:33 PM
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Got it. I hated trying to track and hold myself accountable to that shit anyway, for the same reason you stated in your messages to me - it's out of my control and victimizing. It had become a habit for me to measure my progress by other people's actions on a weekly basis in parts of my OYS. I am glad to have realized this.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 07:25 PM
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OYS #25 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 196 lbs, T:343, (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 285, DL 320, BP 212, OHP 143, BR 190. RP 23 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. TRT Got blood work done and reported on in last OYS. Now having a fuck of a time getting the other pre-consultation requirement: a physical. I already had my yearly a few months ago (too long to reuse). Went to a Minute Clinic and they got weird (TRT stigma, worried about being liable, my g…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:40 AM
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Don’t spend much time on cardio, RHR is still 45 bpm. Started Muay Thai. That’s not the issue. Need to get it checked out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 02:40 AM
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No, Rambo is long gone. Instead this was the turning point. Some interactions are overt but with no anger and 100% congruent. That’s what scares the shit out of her. More worried about IGF-1 being so high then T being low.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 02:01 AM
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big and scary Sounds like lil sis wants some unicorn dick
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 07:49 PM
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The higher you get your SMV, the less susceptible to regret you’ll be. Think about her / other people less and you more.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 06:22 PM
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Read U/jacktenhearts dread post. It’s about defining the exit. If a BJ is an acceptable exit for your wife’s hamster to escape the maze, then you have reached nirvana. If not, then you aren’t defining the exit well enough (which needs to be done covertly). The more specific your exit, the harder it will be for her to find. That’s the trade off you need to decide on, and the answer will vary across men.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 06:17 PM
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I gave Rational Male to a 54 yo faggot once after his wife of 30 years up and left him for another faggot. He read it that night and was real excited. Guess what? He's still an option-less faggot to this day. Finding RP on your own is part of RP. Very few successful Red Knight stories out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 03:40 AM
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You'll know when you are past the anger phase when you can feel love for her and still realize you must go your own way. No bad blood from your end, "all the best, hope 100 rich guys fuck you and take you in to live on their yachts - god bless." BTW, I read the same Jack10 post again last week and it made me realize my father's entire life had been ruined by being the Captain with a Constantly Complaining Passenger. Not worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 03:31 AM
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OYS #24 BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 195 lbs, BF <14%. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 285, DL 320, BP 212, OHP 142, BR 185. RP 23 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Recovering FO to Wife Captain. BLOOD TEST RESULTS Got the recommended blood tests from a well known T clinic. My symptoms are mainly low-energy crashes, some ED and inability to gain more muscle in the gym despite frequent lifting and strict control over my diet (IF with 1.5g protein / lb body weight, low cal / low carb…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:17 AM
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Some are out there. But look at red’s post history and tell me that.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 01:05 PM
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It’s Monday so I’ll help you out: Be the guy someone else’s wife wants to fuck.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 12:59 PM
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I keep some of my “fuck that’s so stupid” drafts that never get posted as baselines. The first OYS I ever wrote (and never posted) had endless she’s in it and was one big faggot negotiation with my mental image of my wife. It had endless, needless detail in it too, stemming from my inability to analyze and interpret basic patterns. I don’t think I could’ve made any meaningful progress without the exercise of having done that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 11:33 PM
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Thanks, really helpful. Among other things, you confirmed another subq benefit for me: reduces E2 in addition to not poking 1000's of holes in your muscles throughout a lifetime. > TRT is another area you need to OYS in I'm studying the r/Testosterone wiki. Any other good resources that got you up to speed?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 02:17 PM
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Keep OYS. It will expedite your progress and minimize faggotry.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 02:09 PM
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Also more importantly the reason your wife doesn’t submit to you is she knows you won’t leave. She’s doing the bare minimum and that will never change as long as you allow it. You've told me this more than once; I know you consistently see something here. I could get compliance from her out of fear, but not submission with desire behind it. I'm not interested in compliance out of fear. You need to try walking away from just good sex if you want great sex. Sometimes it’s not your SMV but rather y…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 02:03 PM
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I like to be the only one providing a creamy filling
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:16 PM
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You need to gauge where your SMV is and if you can use her to improve it faster than being on your own. Once you decide you're out however, see a lawyer and create a detailed plan. I wouldn't spend time on it until you are resolved to leave - otherwise you're taking time away from increasing your SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:23 PM
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Brilliant. Great opportunity, look forward to hearing about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:18 PM
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OYS every week you can and do it for yourself, not for others to "critique". Re: Wife's "LMR" - could be LMR but I think it's just the traditional shit testing of your frame and being playful, that's all. Look into AA combined with fogging and other WISNIFG methods, I think that will get you through it. E.g. "When did you eat the cookies?" - I'm eating them all the time in my mind. Lets see what you have for me to eat. “You’re such a jerk, you didn’t even apologize” - You're absolutely right. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:15 PM
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35, no kids Fuck yeah! Don't fuck this up by having kids. "Women cheat to get out of a relationship." Remember that. It is an SMV issue for you and you need to improve Frame and Game. A woman will never risk losing a man of superior SMV, especially by licking ice cream off his friend's dick. That said, your tolerance is way higher than mine. I like your no mate guarding approach, but why even keep her as a mate? Read SGM. That could be you motherfucker. With those lifts and some firming up of yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:56 PM
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Good callout Rocco. The quota for low-effort shit posts has already been met for today. OP, lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:46 PM
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Re: crazy - That can be overcome but it will take over-the-top, masterful planning from you. Involve a lawyer and make sure you have sufficient evidence to make the case you want beforehand - which shouldn't be hard to do if she's that crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:43 PM
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booked a 4 day sailing trip with 5 complete strangers Need to know more about this. Intrigued.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:40 PM
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The lack of effort in your OYS post and your approach to MRP overall both disgust me. Get on a decent lifting program. That's prereq dude. OYS 11... you are too far in for that bullshit "fitness" program you're running. Your fat faggot weight isn't even in your post. Get on StrongLifts until you aren't a physical embarrassment and expect no sex from anyone until you do so. I realise I may have not been STFU properly You can fix that TODAY. That's the great part about STFU, even an autist can do …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:26 PM
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OYS #23 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 194 lbs, T: 330. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 285, DL 315, BP 210, OHP 141, BR 185. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ROOT CAUSE ANALYSIS Broke my head open on two insights this week. I noticed the second post on r/FereallyRed is The Three Dysfunctional Captains and First Officers of Married TRP. Why is it one of the first posts FereallyRed thought of to put up there? It's one of the top all-time MRP posts and I had read it over 10x, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:06 PM
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Also, try to fuck the sister.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 03:02 PM
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I’m hoping this is elaborate trolling.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 03:21 PM
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The problem is with you, not your wife This is true, although I do not know why. I have seen enough guys take their wives from zero to freak here to know better. However I have not determined the root cause of my problems yet. One aspect I know I am missing is gratitude and rewarding with praise. She does a whole lot of things right that I overlook in a sort of post-Rambo, still-insecure but less-angry manner. I am still hanging on to and reacting to the past, when she was an entirely different …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 07:44 PM
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Weak frame 100%. Her mood affected me in this way: I don't tolerate cuntiness, she knows that, so if that's her mode, I'm out. That said I need a frame that withstands the human spectrum - she's not going to be perfect. She did come back after I wrote my post and apologized / realized she was angry instead of trying to understand what I was saying. I forgave her then she offered to blow me. I'm glad I left the situation when this issue happened but next time I agree I need to do so with better e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 10:55 AM
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OYS #22 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 194 lbs, T: 330. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 280, DL 310, BP 210 (deloaded), OHP 140, BR 185. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. The week flew by with work and other things, just getting to OYS now, late on Tuesday. Defy tried to cross-sell me a bunch of extra tests and shit this week - thanks for the heads up u/johneyapocalypse. Need to get the panels done, another physical then it'll be ~8 more days until the consultation. With work …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 01:41 AM
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I miss the anger phase sometimes - CRUSHED it in the gym back then. Then I cut and got control of myself, my life. Lifts haven’t been the same since. Maybe TRT will get me back there and beyond. Anyway, motivation? Are you 100% the man you could be today? Ha! That’s your motivation. Want revenge on the wife? Frame issue 100%. By wanting revenge and power over her in that way, you are robbing yourself of your frame. The real power is KNOWING YOU ARE AS GOOD OR BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER. Then resentm…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:51 AM
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There’s an exercise at the end of WISNIFG where no matter what words people say to you, you employ the tactics of the book never to lose frame. That was cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:13 AM
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1 - Yes, you’re in her frame and she’s firmly in control of your balls. Have some fucking dignity in this case and don’t be this case. 2 - I wouldn’t bother leaving her yet. Women change as your value increases, you have to max your value then see what sort of being appears where your wife used to be. Plus we’ve said it 1000x here, there’s no point in leaving if you are still low value. I’d extend that in most cases to you should be 95%+ of your potential before considering if leaving better fit…
/r/askMRP16/09/19 12:55 AM
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The best outcome for you is to assume she cheated and had a train run on her asshole for days. Now what? If you understand AWALT, realize it is YOU that created the situation for this to happen, not her. A woman will never risk losing a man she knows could be better off without her - it's not in their nature. So, that guy that could be better off without her... that's not you...yet. Will you just sidebar the shit out of the sidebar already? Don't become Inspector Faggot and try to figure out wha…
/r/askMRP15/09/19 06:55 PM
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That’s the clinic I’m working with. I appreciate the referral, it gives them a lot more credibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 10:22 AM
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imagine how appreciative your wife may be if you can do that more than once? That's the plan. She's happy that I'm happy. the equivalent of leering by a sweaty, ass-crack-showing, low-libido'd construction worker. LOL, I said "game" not "lame". I've been applying about 10% of my desired level of game with her last couple weeks, so 10x gets me where I need to be. Blood work that's been recommended by the clinic (still need to research much of this): Mandatory for TRT consultation: Comprehensive M…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 02:44 AM
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OYS #21 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 192.4 lbs, T: 330. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 275, DL 310, BP 210 (deloaded), OHP 140, BR 180. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Missed a week of OYS, had a couple bouts of minor depression (1-2 days) and been lacking energy (afternoon crashes almost every day) but overall doing well. Nearly at the point of going on TRT. Appt is scheduled with dr (specialized clinic), getting full blood work and thyroid panels done. It's one of those…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 04:14 PM
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OYS #20 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 192.4 lbs, BF 14% (navy) T: 330. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 265, DL 310, BP 220, OHP 144, BR 180. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Been struggling with bouts of deep depression over the past week. I had two different times where I was just shot, my mental processes broke down on me. The good news is these episodes helped me realize my frustration is at least in part from trying to make a decision I'm not ready for (to plate or not).…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:17 PM
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I’ve seen a documentary on him, will check this out too. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 02:44 AM
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First, it gives a fresh reminder that they all have something you'll hate about them. LMAO - that's raw truth from someone who knows firsthand. Demotion to babysitter is a decent idea, one I'd pursue before nuking the whole thing at this point. Although once kids are grown, one has no need of a babysitter. Getting plates wouldn't be a problem. I've prospected enough over the past year to confirm that. Tolerating and managing them would be the real skill set to develop. My approach is: 1 - Contin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 08:43 PM
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Never have done it but I have no moral issue with the act.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 04:44 PM
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did I stumble and lose some ground here? Yes. Major shit test, which you know you failed. When she asked when you used the swing, you say "last week." Wink, smile, then get on with something else, preferably away from her. Let her hamster that. As she tries to call you out over and over, she's shit testing your strength. Stay fun about it or find something else to focus on. By giving her attention, you are failing the shit test. Only exception is pushing through the ASD / LMR, bringing her upsta…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:13 PM
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I’ll explain that private school for two kids is going to be more or less impossible and we should at least start exploring the public school option. Do the research ahead of time, have what you want better-defined. Otherwise she'll just see you as a lazy fuck dumping a problem on her - which is 100% accurate. Btw, yesterday managed to persuade the son to eat his dinner without watching cartoons. Big win! He's 5, not a baby; YOU set the rules not him. There is no "persuading". The boundary-setti…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:26 PM
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That's what MRP is all about. Keep immersing yourself in sidebar, again and again, until you reach the truth within yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:14 PM
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I decorated as best I could, lots of balloons, a big bag of Sour Patch Kids If it's the true expression of what you want, I suggest doing nothing for anniversaries, wife birthdays, etc. Dig deep, do you really want to do all that shit? I don't and I solved a ton of problems by just dropping all of it. It has eliminated all conflicts around such events. I've never been asked why, but if she did ask, I'd tell her she gets the gift of ME everyday. She went bat shit crazy again last night over… me s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:56 PM
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It started with her kinda bringing up someone she used to fuck. It moved into me being jealous, and later on unloading my fucking insecurities on her. I don't fucking know why I fucking do this shit but I still fucking do it in the moment. Because you are still a faggot. Your internal monologue should be thanking her for showing you this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:33 PM
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its just comfort for the sake of comfort I've found being authentic, regardless of her reaction, is the best compass.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:21 PM
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OYS #19 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 194 lbs, BF 14% (navy) or whatever this is. T: 330. (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 255 (deloaded) , DL 319, BP 215, OHP 142 (deloaded), BR 170. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Two realizations this week: 1 - I'm pushing my son in sports for the wrong reasons and it is putting distance in our relationship. Kids can detect when you are inauthentic and he gets it at 10 years old, easily. He is a talented athlete, but doesn't put in the wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 12:24 PM
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This is literally the best day of your adult life and you are ruining it by being a fag on MRP. If you are as far along as you say you are, why are you asking us what to do? There is no right answer for you because you are not your own point of origin. You lack vision and frame. I’m willing to bet there are red flags everywhere in the relationship that you are too far in denial to see. The problem isn’t her. Remember that. The relationship is over, divorce or not, and you are the cause. Address …
/r/askMRP18/08/19 02:56 PM
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This one brought a tear to my eye. You’re a romantic bastard when you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/19 02:25 PM
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got bored Is this the endgame for you - piss on a woman, run out of ideas for new dopamine rushes with her and move on? Or were there other red flags and reasons to move on beyond sex?
/r/askMRP17/08/19 06:14 PM
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Can relate. I’ve recommended TRM a few times in can’t miss cases - they all missed. Fat friend gets divorce raped at 54 after 25 years of marriage. What caused it? Victim puke his pastor suggested he share with his wife “to be open and honest” (wtf?). It immediately killed any remaining attraction or even tolerance she had for him and away she went. Even after that, the dumb bastard still didn’t understand TRM and wrote it off as woman hating. I told him it actually teaches women are great once …
/r/askMRP16/08/19 01:39 AM
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Starting with Rational Male leads to Rambo many times - it did for me. So fucking angry until I realized it is foundational knowledge for success, valuable largely because most don’t know or believe it. It took me a good 6 months to get out of raw anger mode afterwards. I may have faired better had I read something softer like NMMNG first.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 11:36 PM
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DEVI helps all involved. You enjoying a new position is Variety, but also validation. The latter because you are validating you can get her to do it, you are valuable enough to receive it from her. Boredom in both our cases comes from the need for and lack of validation. As men, we are supposed to be leading and making it exciting for us. Perhaps only semi-related, we don’t talk much here about clit vs gspot women. The former are way less fun, more work and less sexual in my experience. I marrie…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 12:45 AM
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Read both alone. She's not ready, mainly because I'm not ready. I only introduced the part of D/s I'm 100% on (sex life), which got a lukewarm response at best ("I don't want to be submissive but will try to get there" is lukewarm right??). TiH was good, I liked seeing the dynamics of how those relationships work, what was in their contract, how they function, why they do maintenance spankings, etc. Didn't understand the parts on male submissiveness and her "service subs". She claims some men wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:43 PM
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Just finished TiH last week. Best D/s insights so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 07:21 PM
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Your sparring partner is way beyond your skill level. Get out of the ring and focus hard on the bag this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 03:02 PM
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OYS #18 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 193 lbs, BF 14% (navy). (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set lifts listed): SQ 270 , DL 305, BP 215, OHP 147, BR 170. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Lifting and diet have been going well. I'm pushing the limits every workout and can feel myself getting stronger. Taking it slow and steady while staying as lean as I can. No PRs yet, but they are in sight and this time I'm 20 lbs lighter. Things with wife are overall good. The relationship is much better in rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:33 PM
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making her say please She’s pregnant and you are unfit mentally - don’t bother with this for now. Just STFU. shower This and most other examples you give are 10+ steps away from where you are right now and faggy when you know you aren’t there yet. She knows it too. Again just STFU and don’t try moves you aren’t ready for. This is all a great opportunity to focus hard on yourself. Stop worrying about making all the right moves. The real move is to build value. Keep working on the sidebar and deta…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 01:51 PM
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This is some troll shit. Obviously you need to post the video here to prove otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 11:50 AM
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OP, Chuck just spanked your monkey ass with the best advice you could get at your phase. Gilligan’s Island I always figured they were all running a train on Ginger behind the scenes. Loved that slut.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 01:01 AM
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I struggle with the same. Agreed with other comments that you need to provide more details. BUT.. Kids learn at select moments based on the experiences they are having. If a woman / women hadn’t crushed you, you likely wouldn’t be able to truly internalize RP either. Boys haven’t been crushed yet, so many RP lessons make no sense to them. All you can do is: 1 - teach them the basics that aren’t so hard to believe (you are the prize, the need for continual improvement, the benefits of lifting, wh…
/r/askMRP07/08/19 04:29 PM
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OYS #17 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 192 lbs, BF 14% (navy). (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set weights listed): SQ 265 , DL 305, BP 215, OHP 147, BR 165. RP 22 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Wife continues to suck and swallow my dick on demand. It's still not pure passion from her but she enjoys pleasing me (and the sense of security it brings her). i've realized plausable deniability is an important part of getting her to the next sexual level. in the past, any good sex we've had as basically had…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 12:20 PM
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sorta hope RP isn’t true RP is a cheat code that allows you to play in the majors when you have zero natural ability. It’s fucking amazing, once you unplug.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/19 12:55 PM
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She’ll betafy you. Keep reading the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 12:44 AM
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Ok, you’re at least partially aware of the oneitis, that’s a start. It’s good you are living separately. Do not let her move in, keep shit at your house or get into any kind of comfortable routine. Build abundance out there - have 10 other girls you are “friends” with, do meetups and other activities to meet male friends, cold approach on your free time and realize you are at a critical point in life. She will do all she can to bring you down. It’s not her fault, AWALT. Keep posting your progres…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 06:18 PM
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My man, reread your faggot hamsering above on why it’s ok to go live with mommy. Pretend it was written by another faggot, what would you think of that manchild? What kind of man uproots for a woman? You are infected with Nice Guy. It’s a disease from your upbringing and it’s cursed you with the ability to rationalize actions that aren’t to your advantage. The only cure is to build and have 100% focus on yourself. YOU ARE THE PRIZE, DUMMY. You can’t become a man without abundance and true dedica…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:50 PM
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Home gym helps when you have kids. It is your failure for not working out either way. Some of your goals are too vague to act on, esp in 1 week: kill beta, stop being lazy, save time, push sexual boundaries, etc. - how? what specific actions are you taking by your OYS next week to improve? OYS is worthless without self accountability. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:38 PM
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I've decided I'm going to move to the other country for the next year Assess your chances of happiness in this highly disadvantaged situation with your LTR. Spoiler: low to none. Now assess why you need an LTR. Men who are RP, alphas, don't need LTRs. You are 23 and found RP - you should be the happiest, chadiest motherfucker in here. Get serious, build a man worth a shit and stop with this BP love / relationship infatuation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 09:13 PM
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I have not been back to the gym Come on man. Get a home gym set up. That was one of my best decisions. I haven't missed a workout in... ever. That's right, 21 months on structured lifting programs and not a single missed workout. Try breaking up your goals into things you can act on over the next week. Spend some more time analyzing the interactions with your wife that went sour. That's what they're there for - to teach you. Figure out how you could have handled better then be better for it next…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 06:03 PM
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I replied – if Daughter has finished dinner of course I’ll help out with the bath but if I have to wait I’ll be late for the gym so you’ll have to do it. That's a DEER brah. "You might be right" is one of the many possible correct answers.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 05:49 PM
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I just don’t have the frame. I hate that it’s true, but it is. You are self-aware though, which makes you dangerous. She also asked me "What made you flip the switch and change so drastically back in Jan?" I gave a vague answer and fogged Give the real answer or tell her you have decided not to share it with her. This is part of having frame - express your authentic self without fear or reservation of anyone's judgement. Fogging didn't give you the outcome you wanted, so learn from that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 05:41 PM
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Thank you, this is very helpful for where I'm at. "I'm a dirty little slut. I love being your dirty little slut. God I can't take it anymore, please fuck me. Please. I need your cock inside me. PLEASE." I'll venture to guess this week's contract is working alright for both of you and will be renewed..
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 04:36 PM
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The psychology of this is intriguing I still can't comprehend how consciously agreeing to a D/s relationship turns these women into the whores we've always wanted. It's like they were in a state of constant LMR for years and now have plausible deniability to be who they wanted to be all along.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 04:12 PM
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Yes. Maybe their frames are right for them, maybe not. Doesn't matter because you are in your frame and when that's right for you, that's all you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:31 PM
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Good advice for you in these comments. I'll add, I like the number of "I's" and "My's" in your OYS. Keep it focused on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:17 PM
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finally accepting that this may not work WITH HER It's all good. You can still love her and not be able to have a relationship with her. She can go fuck guys for a baby, you can go get your sexual needs met elsewhere - IT'S ALL GOOD. Society has fucked us up thinking it's not all good and you have to stay married if you love someone. They are totally independent. Once you realize that, you feel the liberation of not being stuck with this bitchy prude the rest of your life. Then, as Patrice O'Nea…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:05 PM
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if you or OP can't say something positive then STFU. Wrong forum you butthurt faggot. Did you even read the link?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:31 PM
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and often day dream about what my life would look like if I had never dumped my girl and quit my lucrative job Come on man... you're in a sexual strategy forum. Fucking sluts in your 20's was your best decision so far. I would try to speak to her as little as possible Careful not to Rambo. Focus on you and you only. I’m not really pissed anymore, I’m mainly just excited to start using my new set of MRP tools because I know how effective they will be Attaboy. I go to head out the door and she tri…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:20 PM
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STFU and you
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:52 PM
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Good, now you're more focused. You can easily get lost in the amount of shit to do in life. Stay focused on why you are here. 2 - Spend time analyzing why you do this. Get to the WHY so you are addressing the root cause of the problem. 7 - If you feel like a date night, do it. If you don't, cancel it. Don't go out if it's bound to be a waste of your time. Your time is the most valuable asset you'll ever have - get a good vibe going with her and make it worth your while. If she gets weird or tell…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:48 PM
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She knows I’ve been lifting more so I feel as though she’s trying to sabotage any progress I might make You got it. “Well that’s the last time I do anything nice for you” "Next time, listen to my answer." Draw the boundary calmly, then move on to something you wanted to do anyway. Don't let this shit hang without being addressed. It's all just an attempt for her to keep control over you. she texted me that she would like to talk about some stuff the next day. I said why not now (Probably me bein…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:23 PM
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I'd like you to concisely outline your fuckups and what you are going to do about them this week. Your "new to do this week" is full of shit that has no direct bearing on improving your sexual results. Unless "overnight with mates" is going to be a sexual result for you...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:07 PM
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OYS #16 BACKGROUND: 39, 6' 2" 194 lbs, BF 14.8% (new method: navy). (RPT 6/8/10, 1x6 set weights listed): SQ 250 , DL 300, BP 205, OHP 147, BR 160. RP 21 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. MRP has had phases for me: (1) De-Fagging - just stop doing gay shit. Figure out why you did gay shit and find better mental models that aren't subject to such lazy faggotry. (2) Building Value - Lifting heavy, building confidence, realizing your potential (although not yet achieved), realizing w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:04 PM
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For being new, you are getting a lot of things right. However, your reluctance to apply MRP as you learn it is faggotry. It’s an excuse to avoid risk taking and action. You can’t learn it just by reading, you need continual, practical application. There is no diploma, just lots of fuck ups. Maybe the only advantage to being married is there’s a woman there to shit test you to death until you master these concepts. Until then, it’s hard mode and you can’t not play, faggot. Secondly, nice lifts. K…
/r/askMRP30/07/19 02:13 AM
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So you talked to some people and didn’t get laid. Cool story billy! Wtf is the end I expected of a self-proclaimed “Chad”??- both girls should have been licking balls in the bathroom and you know you wanted that. Actually they probably were, just not yours.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/19 04:52 PM
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Boom - That’s it. She probably doesn’t even know that consciously.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 05:16 PM
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Makes sense and I have to get that vision right for me before I go back to her. In her feminine frame... That paragraph took me a few reads but I got it now. True power is in being what you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 09:50 PM
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You’re only angry because you aren’t being yourself (for real, not in a gay feminist sense). Young brunettes won’t fix that. You have your long term play: the 1:1 and subsequent reduction of investment as necessary. In the moment to maintain frame, and social cred, you CANNOT show any sign these comments phase you. The only way to truly do that is to have the comments not phase you. Get to that point and there will be nothing she can say or do to affect you. WISNIFG exercises at the end of that …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 12:35 PM
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No need to get mad in the moment or after. Regain your composure today, pull her aside 1:1, look her dead in the eye and tell her you’re not having that. Broken record. That’s it. She does it again, realize it’s because you are too invested. Then become less invested, less available and think hard why you’re staying with someone who doesn’t respect you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 11:25 AM
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OYS #15 ​ 39 yo, 6' 2" 193 lbs, BF < 10%. (RPT 6/8/10 - listing 6x set weights): SQ 245, DL 295, BP 200, OHP 145, BR 155. RP 20 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Had a breakthrough a couple weeks ago where I realized how great my life would be without marriage - I saw it with 100% clarity. It permeated my being and manifested in my actions. Wife immediately picked up on it without being told, freaked out, ended up submitting to whatever I want. Unfortunately, she's not giving me w…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 03:25 AM
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never stopping Whew.... close call man. Imagine if she’d stopped! Maybe she would have let him smell her some more! Or give some atm, who knows? All fun aside - Keep immersing yourself in the mental part of this journey, which is at least 2/3 of it, probably more. The more you read the sidebar, the more you lift and eat right, the more you lurk here - the more it all becomes part of you, or should I say exposes the real you like never before. Even though lifting makes you more attractive, the re…
/r/askMRP20/07/19 01:34 AM
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OYS #14 ​ 39, 6' 2" 193 lbs, BF < 10%. (SL 5x5 - static this week): SQ 240 , DL 295, BP 195, OHP 139, BR 160. RP 20 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ Grinding like fuck. Sex is back but not great. She's trying to "become less selfish and learn to enjoy sex." She orgasms but they are weak / average. Immersion is still the weakest link in DEVI. BJs are on tap. My sex drive is down overall. I've been feeling ILYBINILWY - as in, I'M not in love. Sucks actually. I still care about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 02:32 PM
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I’ve landed on this same conclusion and use these same phrases. They seem minor but they make a big difference when said within your frame. They also help when the primary WISNIFG tactics are overkill. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 11:16 AM
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OP, I’ll add to the above that your time is far more valuable than any pussy. Never forget that. If you’re horny, go for it. If pussy’s a no go, good - that’s more TIME you retain and can invest elsewhere. The more she rejects the more you have time to work on and improve yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 06:46 PM
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Re: #3 - literally every woman I’ve fucked, made out with, talked to, had friends who fucked, seen on the bus, known who goes to church, seen walking... loves their hair pulled and ass smacked. She WANTS it. That is the mindset for success.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 02:22 AM
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Didn’t have to read all this to tell you this: you fear divorce because you fear being alone. You can’t even conceptualize it. work on our relationship NO. You work on you, fuck the relationship. You need to disconnect your destructive thought patterns. Realize this relationship will end and you will be better for it. The only way forward for you is to immerse yourself in a different way of life. Study the ones who have achieved this, emulate them and most importantly VISUALIZE the man you want …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 07:57 PM
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Frame - Don't make new cute words, you are wasting your energy. Use the words we all use. Your struggles here stem from your dependence on being in a relationship with your wife. You probably love her and cannot disconnect that love from what you need in life to be content. Make that disconnection and you'll find your frame. Envision your life without your wife. What if you never are able to be happy with her? What does it look like if you have to leave? What would you do with your time (you alr…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:06 PM
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DMed you the book. For good frame posts, I suggest those linked in Steel's guide. These were very helpful as well: InChargeMan's Story Frame, you lack it
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:40 PM
1

Was trying to be realistic on T gains over 2 mo. Depends if I still have symptoms too. Can’t build shit for muscle is one of them now, even when I put in 2.5 hour workouts on core lifts. You ever stockpile TRT to mitigate the risk of not having access at some point?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:35 PM
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Thanks man, that’s an impressive jump in T. Will check out. Looking forward to Leangains, joined the subreddit and many people seem happy with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:11 PM
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OYS #13 ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 192.9 lbs, BF < 10%. (SL 5x5): SQ 240 , DL 295, BP 195, OHP 139, BR 160. RP 20 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ THE STATE OF MY SHIP After my previous OYS (Frame Week), PIV sex came back immediately, first time in 18+ mo. BJs went from 3x/week before last week to 6x this week and I know I could have had more of anything if I wanted it. In fact, her dread and fear were so high she told me she'd do anything I say. The thing is, it's all still 100% d…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 12:13 PM
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“My love language is ATM.”
/r/askMRP09/07/19 12:13 AM
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IF you have frame and are attractive, this is a good approach. Still may not work but has a chance.
/r/askMRP09/07/19 12:09 AM
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Thanks! Based on the last couple days, looks like next week’s OYS will be even more interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/19 04:15 AM
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DMed you. It’s unique, don’t want to get doxxed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 10:49 PM
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Mine bounced last week and I agree, a new reality is needed or you get reset back to square 1. I’ve been looking at the parts of D/s relationship contracts that I like (eg. defining how needs get met, priorities, rules, how conflict is handled, sex / safe words / etc.). Defining a path for the hamster is critical once it wakes up. Still trying to figure this part out atm.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 07:20 PM
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OYS #12 ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 193 lbs, BF < 10%. (SL 5x5): SQ 240 , DL 295, BP 195, OHP 139, BR 160. RP 20 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ FRAME WEEK Best week for RP progress since I started 20 months ago. I immersed myself in: (1) Studies on Frame - I reread all the classic posts, reviewed key parts of the side bar, watched youtube videos on how to develop frame, listened to Patrice O'Neal's radio show spots (BTW, holy shit he wasn't black, he was RED as they come) and hung…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 12:09 PM
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Thanks brother. On it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 06:07 PM
1

Nice lifts, are you on TRT or any hormone replacement? Your mission is among the best I’ve seen. You’re describing who you want to be. Your dedication and willpower in the gym shows through there. It IS 95% frame! That is the way to creating your happiness. When you are truly your mental point of origin, there is no first world event that can shake you. You got there faster than I did. Keep going.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 12:46 PM
1

Hmu anytime. It’s great to see young guys getting their shit together.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 03:23 AM
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You’re way ahead of yourself and seem like you are young. My advice is live life and around 35-40 yo consider kids. You’ll be a different man by then and hopefully won’t need advice from internet strangers.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 02:45 AM
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Be weary of these gains. They fade once she realizes you weren’t really ready to leave. Been there, still doing that. Solution? Stop worrying about tweaking your lifts and your appearance, instead GET READY TO LEAVE. Unless you know you’ll be as good or better without her, she’s going to relapse.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 04:25 PM
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OYS #11 ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 192.6 lbs, BF < 10%. (SL 5x5): SQ 235 , DL 295, BP 190, OHP 135, UR 155. RP 19 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ READING AND INSPIRATION Read MAP by Athol Kay; reeks of purple but took away a few good points. More impactful, u/InChargeMan's post on his story. Then "Frame you lack it" from u/ReddJive. Frame. The ability to walk away with confidence and control. I had another faggot OYS written up about how my relationship is going nowhere, hoping to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:35 AM
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The more I think about this, the more I realize it's not a power grab in the traditional sense, it's her feeling out of control / lack of leadership from me. She didn't know I was pursuing this, along with a lot of other changes lately. I need to keep my first mate better informed and feeling like she's part of the ship. Instead of addressing this directly at first, I'm going to try some WOSM style praise on the good things she's been doing for our son lately (which are many), then address the i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 10:02 PM
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Anger is fear disguised. You are still in her frame, of course you’ll be angry there. Your world and happiness is controlled by a child trapped in what is quickly becoming an old woman’s body. You want nothing to do with that frame. Start by getting out of her frame first, before you worry about “master plans” and eventually building your own. Read Saving a Low Sex Marriage by u/bluepillprofessor and organize your self improvement around his DLs - a lot of thought went into those. The anger will…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 02:49 AM
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Tom Torero
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:05 AM
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Good, self honesty is the only was to make true progress. Tom Torero has a great guide to day game that will help you get in the right state of mind to approach and how to lead the interaction from there. Daniel Blake has some killer infields using the same model. Study this, implement and report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 10:29 AM
1

My single biggest regret is not finding RP earlier. You are 20 and got that covered. Second biggest regret? Saying I’m not lowering my “standards” when I was just too lazy / scared / gameless / faggy / naive / gay (pick one for you) to slay pussy everywhere like a man is meant to. Any truth in there brah?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 11:40 PM
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You should try running Dread, I hear it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 11:33 PM
1

Running RP (basically Dread) while wife’s pregnant is difficult. Per u/bluepillprofessor ‘s book and post on the topic: Warning: Use of even mild Dread during pregnancy has been reported to be fatal to a marriage. Gtfo of her frame and focus on improving yourself while providing the comfort she’s going to need now. Also, we can’t assess your supposed shit tests without the actual details of what happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:55 PM
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weights delivered Lmao, I remember wife freaking out 18 months ago when I had mine delivered. Then came the “midlife crisis” shit tests. I remember it all fondly.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:17 PM
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OYS #10 ​ 39, 6' 2" 192 lbs, BF < 10%. (SL 5x): SQ 235 , DL 285, BP 192, OHP 140, UR 190. RP 19 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ OYS #9. Cut things off with the 22 yo at work; never slept with her and this forum basically saved my ass. After drawing the line, she understood but then dumped all this shit about childhood issues, abuse and feelz. Said she wishes I was either her lover or her father... RP is as real as it gets. This was a good lesson for me to: (1) get used to wome…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:56 AM
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Unfortunately we’re on the same page then. I was mad for a long time but wasn’t ready for DL9, which is where that confrontation will end up. I’m going to need to get to FMOFY if I’m ever going to continue to make progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:20 PM
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Ever coached or mentored someone? It’s that kind of rewarding plus a ton of work. Unless you are 100%, I’d default to no kids. As a man, you have a long window to make that decision, make sure you are all in before you do it.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 12:21 PM
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-DL6- Read Mystery Method, The Game, Speed Seduction, Practical Female Psychology. Listen to Tom Torero podcasts weekly. Studied the London Daygame Model. Applied to wife: 10 second kiss (fails, she breaks it off / doesn't get into it), ass smacking / ass play (works but is taken as comfort / having fun - doesn't turn her on), push pull when we do kiss - act like I'm going in with lots of sexual energy, then hold right before I touch her mouth and make her come to me to finish the kiss (works ok…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 02:54 AM
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Good point. DL 5-7 with the brief stint of considering 11 detailed above. 5 is a rework that became necessary after reading The Appearance of Power. 6 has been met with shutdowns or comfort but not horniness. 7 is hit or miss, sometimes I think I’m golden, sometimes I’m terrible - overall nowhere near proficient.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 11:25 PM
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All fair points. I'm thinking with the other head now. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:36 PM
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Biggest red flag: Not prioritizing my own best interests and self-improvement. Thanks brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:33 PM
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So is that what you did here? Did you get anything out of it other than the typical runaround/excuses from her? Yes, I was congruent. It ended up being two frames bouncing off each other. I got nothing new out of it except reps in holding ground while she tells me how she resents biology, hates the idea of giving up control to the man (reading between the lines: this man, me), and thinks society is screwed up. The only sex she says she ever has had is because she felt like she was supposed to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:28 PM
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You say 19 months of RP and you haven't figured this out? I know it and it gets parrotted around here all the time. But lets be honest, pussy is the mission that brought us all here. Without pussy, none of us will deem ourselves successful. It's not ALL there is and certainly way less important once you are getting it but... 18 mo. Feelz, leaving wife, etc. from 22 yo True and I already see feelz happening too much even prefuck. I'm calling it off tomorrow. It was great validation, but a stupid …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:10 PM
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No oneitis for the work girl at all but you may be right about the rest. I’m not used to the crazy shit she was saying to me, took me totally by surprise and I wasn’t ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 09:41 PM
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She meant people that love each other don’t sleep with other people. It’s another hamster trap that has no upside for me to engage in unless accompanied by an action (ie, “here’s what I’m doing from now on”)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 09:38 PM
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I’ve been in the startup world a while now. Will never go back to big corps. Check out paulgraham.com for some sage advice as well as the books Pitch Anything and Zero to One. You are already on the right path, these will help keep you there. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:49 PM
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No reason to get married. Ever. Just being married is beta: telling her you agree to eliminating almost all of your options so she can slack off on things like sex and get a payout if it doesn’t work out. 0/10 would never do it again. Kids, maybe. Parenting is hard but at least it can be rewarding. Been married over a decade.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 07:20 PM
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“You only decide if it’s acceptable” - this is the grey area I struggle with. I now have a higher SMV than my wife, not high enough to change her, but I would never date who she is today because of her aversion to sex. This is 100% my fault after so many years of allowing this / thinking I’m not deserving of anything better in my life. Fixed that and now I know it’s a requirement for me. Not fully fair to her given all the years of me acting beta, but at some point I have to decide it’s no longe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 03:45 PM
1

Remember comfort tests are about her, shit tests are about you. “Do you love me” is a shit test. Handle accordingly (eg. I love that ass bend over, or If only you didn’t talk so much <wink>).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:55 PM
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I’m snipped but yeah STDs would still be an issue. Might have her get tested. I’ve hinted at opening my side of the marriage with her before. “People that love each other don’t do that” are the noises I get back. In reality, she may go along with it. That’s probably going to be what my main event looks like unless the other parts of the relationship go to shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:07 PM
1

MISSION Get pussy again, then evolve to better missions. Don't die never having deviated from the status quo. ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 191 lbs (down 4 lbs), BF < 10%. (5x5): SQ 230 , DL 285, BP 190, OHP 140, UR 190. RP 19 months. Kids 9, 11. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ SEX 22 yo HB7 at work has come out and said she wants me bad, said I can basically do anything I want to her. Doesn't want anything more than FWB allegedly as I "don't align with her long term goals anyway." Huge danger area but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:00 AM
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1 - This is right. Damn you and your truth. 2 - I have the willpower not to fuck her. Every time in my life I’ve turned down what appeared to be a good lay, I’ve regretted it. Yet it seems the choice is which path will have less regret, not which has none. 3 - If I’m willing to make this trade off, it 100% has to be someone outside my work and family exposures. Thanks, this is the post I needed to get back to reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 02:59 AM
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At this level of intensity, yes. Got more cut in that time, better style, more cold approach reps under my belt but the results were mostly IOIs and phone #’s, which I chose not to pursue. Haven’t had anything this overt and surrendered since college.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 12:16 AM
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Yes. Unknown. Not sure. It was unexpected. Validation felt good but it also opened my eyes. It had been a while since I’d seen this raw of an RP truth first-hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 11:50 PM
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Sounds like she wants more praise and recognition from her captain. Up to you if you think she’s earned it.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 03:56 PM
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Oh my bad. Flowers, poetry and confess your undying love. Go that route, be an orbiter, wonder why she stays with bad boys and why you never get anywhere. Yes she likes you, you are a free emotional tampon to be used when needed and disposed of afterwards. What a great deal for her! After you hit bottom, come back and realize this all was your fault, not hers.
/r/seduction25/05/19 05:14 PM
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Look up oneitis- that’s you. You are her girlfriend. Let me save you some time: move on. Still be nice to her but stop wasting so much time on her. Instead, invest that time in yourself and in finding other girls to hookup with.
/r/seduction25/05/19 10:54 AM
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Check out Tom Toreros day game model on YouTube and adapt it accordingly to your situation. Also, Stronglifts 5x5s are the way to go early on. Add in some curl supersets 3 days a week, eat right and you are going to look good. Also, stop being a fucking victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/19 02:12 AM
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Way too much bullshit for 9 mo in my friend. Of course you need to work on yourself but also realize 99.999% of us were fucked the day we let a woman move in with us (which is basically marriage). It’s an investment with diminishing returns, then incremental losses until you free yourself from the madness (marriage). And this is from a guy who actually likes his wife of 10+ years but isn’t getting 1/2 the sex you probably are. If you don’t alter your course (i.e. get a course), the sex will dimi…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 11:24 PM
1

First off, your reply really made me think for a while - I appreciate that. Hey with similiar height, weight and lifts, I was inspired to comment. Hopefully our dicks are the same size too. Plates are good to fight oneitis, but it sounds like you really want your wife to be your slut. Yes I may be going on a limb here but it sounds like she wants to be your slut as well. In the beginning she did, but that faded once she didn’t need it to keep me. Now I don’t see any desire in her for that. She w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 04:03 AM
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Re: in her frame - I see it now thx for the spoon feeding. Try and if no go leave, been there. Need to get a better frame built for myself so it doesn’t matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:10 PM
5

This all clicked in my retard head. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:06 PM
1

“There's a word thrown around a lot in this subreddit...something about "frame"...” Like I said in the beginning, she’s not fully converted into my frame. One can do Phases 1 and 2, what are you suggesting I do about phase 3?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:46 PM
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OYS #8 ​ MISSION Per advice from SBIII, I'm rethinking my prior mission: Be a confident, sexually active, successful man that thoroughly enjoys every day and leads his family to achieve their full potential. ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 195.6 lbs, BF 10-12% est (scheduled test). Lifts are still coming back after a recent ~20lb weight loss. Plan is to stay lean and bulk on top of it. (5x5): SQ 195 , DL 225, BP 195, OHP 122, BR 175. Ass is a little hairier, dick still the same size. RP 17 months. Kids 9…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 10:58 AM
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OYS #7 ​ MISSION Be a confident, sexually active, successful man that thoroughly enjoys every day and leads his family to achieve their full potential. ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 196.5 lbs (down from 217), 9.6% BF (shitty gym tester) last week but probably higher now, weights still down too but I'm grinding hard (5x5): SQ 190 , DL 215, B 190, OHP 120, Row 175. RP 17 months. Kids 9, 11. Wife 41, together 15 years. ​ DISPOSITION Spent some time reflecting on if I am a Dancing Monkey seeking validation…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:59 AM
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You are in her frame, far too focused on her and with far too low an SMV to draw a “hard boundary.” Look at your post and your responses. They are 100% needy and focused on her. Think about your decision to let a plate move in with you and become an LTR. If she wasn’t where you wanted her, you should have vetted better (instead of operating from a position of scarcity). Work on yourself and consider plating to cure the case of oneitis you are developing. Have girls sending you snaps and wanting …
/r/askMRP14/04/19 08:36 PM
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You sound like more of an orbiter than he is. Sidebar like hell - if you had you’d see your move here. Give less fucks to her, get out of her shitty frame and build your own.
/r/askMRP14/04/19 06:31 PM
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This is the issue from what I read. OP, pay attention to what inspires you, what creates passion and emotion within you - and do this without judgement of yourself. This is only about you, but others are picking up on your incongruence as well and that accounts for your other troubles. “You don’t pick your passions, they pick you” - Jeff Bezos (btw, he’s nowhere near a worthy RP role model but he’s right in this case)
/r/seduction13/04/19 02:18 PM
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Thanks brother. You are right about the validation (dammit). Will dive deep in the MITW posts. Just finished SGM for the second time. My wife is crazy resolute against any sex for her pleasure. She acts almost like she has a history of abuse (but I don’t believe she actually does). It’s a huge barrier she’s put up. She ovulates soon and I do plan to try to capitalize with leading / initiating / caveman if necessary during that time. Will report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 04:07 PM
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OYS #6 ​ MISSION Be a confident, sexually active, successful man that thoroughly enjoys every day and leads his family to achieve their full potential. ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 197 lbs (lost 15+ lbs in past 2 weeks, half fat, half muscle), 9.6% BF (shitty gym BF tester). All weights are way down with the lost weight: 5x5: SQ 200 , DL 250, B 205, OHP 115, Row 170. RP 17 months. Kids 9, 11. Wife 41, together 15 years. Sex is all duty, 2-4 / wk. ​ EXERCISE / DIET Went Rambo on my diet after years of …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 12:16 PM
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This is the best reply. You need to push through the BF line. Tom likes to say “that’s nice, I have a dog” then move on with the pickup. Get her number and tell her you’ll send her one text msg and she can decide. You’d be absolutely AMAZED how much pussy you are leaving behind by failing the BF test. Try it out!
/r/seduction05/04/19 08:40 PM
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It’s already over, you both know it but you just can’t vocalize it yet (oneitis). Kindly but succinctly end it. Leave the door open, then work immediately on getting abundance. This might be one of the best things that ever happened to you, don’t ruin it by being weak.
/r/askMRP27/03/19 10:55 AM
1

Thanks P, good pointers as always. I believe you were working on opening up your side of your marriage at some point. How’d that end up?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 05:52 PM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/aiktnw/own\_your\_shit\_weekly\_january\_22\_2019/eeug9gc How'd you get there? See my OYS above.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 10:22 AM
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Reposting in OYS since I got crickets in askMRP. ​ MISSION Be a confident, sexually active, successful man that thoroughly enjoys every day and leads his family to achieve their full potential. ​ BACKGROUND 39, 6' 2" 210 lbs. 1RM: SQ 310 (deloaded for form recently), DL 365, B 270, OHP 175, Row 245. RP 16 months. Kids 10, 12. Wife 41, together 15 years. Read sidebar multiple times. Still cycling it. Like many of us, sex dwindled throughout marriage, had some early progress with RP. Now I've been…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 09:48 AM
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Some women can logically override their biological urge to have kids, independent of sex. It makes way more sense for them not to - kids screw up their body, take up their time and turn them into eternal worrying machines. Chances are she doesn’t want kids with anyone, not just you. Now let’s go to you... you aren’t ready for kids either, you’re still a kid yourself fcs. Get your shit majorly together, then consider why you fucked yourself up by getting married without even the kids excuse (spoi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/19 10:56 PM
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Every single problem in a man’s life comes back to giving the wrong amount of fucks. Could be too many or too few. In your case, it’s far too many. The correct amount of texts this situation was zero.
/r/askMRP03/03/19 02:39 PM
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I had the same thoughts while watching this movie with my kids. Afterwards, I asked my son what he thought of how Ralph handled himself, he says, “Ralph’s a wimp!” Then I asked, what would you have done, he says, “said whatever and gone on to do my own things!” These movies are good for one reason: with guidance, they give kids an example of what not to do without having to fuck things up irl like we all did.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 08:20 PM
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Some say your woman is your mirror. That’s true to a point but measuring your progress based on the reception you get from women in general is a more normalized distribution (therefore more accurate to your true SMV). Realize I may be biased here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 11:01 PM
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Agreed and I did not intend for her to find the book. I had it hidden. Almost all my lifts are about double what they were when this happened a year ago, but today 1x5: SQ 300, DL 315, BP 235, UR 205, OHP 150.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 05:23 PM
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Fair call out, especially if you measure progress just by her. Things like responses from other women and career progress have been much improved but I still have a shit load of work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:08 PM
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A recent stride for me was to realize my marriage is over. That’s what MRP is - the end of your marriage as it is. It may continue and survive in a different form, but it will never be what it was and you don’t care either way. You need to resolve that it will be so. U/Perseus had some a similar epiphany in his early posts. It’s not worth trying to control your wife and getting frustrated when it doesn’t work. Who cares? She either follows or doesn’t - but that’s NOT your problem. Your problem i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 04:47 AM
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For clarity - you started working on dread L3+ before attaining L1. That’s why it was a shit show. I’ve made similar mistakes. Go back to L1 and progress in order. Next time you’ll be ready for the fallout.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 10:03 PM
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And your sex life is where?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 09:55 PM
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It’s hard at first. Start by just looking them in the eye as they pass and say “hello” (and mean it). Then work up to “hello, you look nice today” or “you have good energy today”. The build into observations “the first thing I noticed about you were your boots, you look like you are on your way to a fashion show”, etc. See if discussion can naturally develop from there. Practice everyday everywhere. Basically, adapt your own HS version of the LDGM: https://youtu.be/Q-Sehh-yD-c Also, read “How to…
/r/seduction08/12/18 02:51 AM
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Right on. Arguing with women is the biggest waste of time. There is ALWAYS something better to be doing. They do not seek truth or progress - so it’s a no-win. Their brains are like the shitty computers from the 90’s when left on overnight: loud and stuck in recursive loops which depletes their already-fragmented memory. Some can be rebooted with a good fucking though.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 04:15 AM
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My bet is yes, even if it’s just for her to feel like she’s contributing to the relationship while his value rises. I stopped initiating and am still at every other day, same as before.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 03:51 AM
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You still haven’t internalized this stuff and your reading comprehension is shit. These problems are related. I said get better options, not go cheat. High value men don’t need LTRs. You are looking for a tactical solution to a major strategic flaw and you won’t find one.
/r/askMRP03/12/18 11:19 PM
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You are giving way too many fucks. If she cheats, she cheats. Stop thinking that’s your responsibility. Also, since you read Rollo, go back and review TRM and what he says about LTRs. If you had better options, you wouldn’t be doing this. Get better options.
/r/askMRP03/12/18 06:10 PM
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You know how I knew this place was for real? When the readings, experienced guys here and heightened level of observation irl made me realize all of my issues are MY fault and no one else’s. That rang true despite my head being deep in my ass at the time. Get your head out of your wife’s ass. This has nothing to do with her other than causing you to find RP. Whenever you get frustrated with her, blame her or feel like you are owed more, I want you to look in the mirror, call yourself a faggot an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 02:58 AM
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I appreciate the ideas. Rough is almost universal it seems and when it’s real sex, I give it that way. She cuts it off long before then though. I miss doing that shit; will be back at it soon enough either with her and/or someone else. Good to hear on your MAP, you are only as good as you tolerate.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 02:28 AM
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I was thinking professionally when I wrote those words nearly a year ago to myself. Since then, that has happened to a degree and now I like them as-is because* of their ambiguity. There’s always the next step for everything, you never arrive you just keep getting better.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 04:55 AM
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Thanks, maximum action is the plan - in all respects. As I mention above, jelqing is only good for getting your maximum boner - don’t expect any real size gains. That said, I can’t find the source I used for this but GLL will get you started: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.goodlookingloser.com/get-hung/ultimate-guide-to-jelqing%3Fformat%3Damp. Go slow and find what’s right for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 04:47 AM
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BF - could be. Will look into. Jelqing- I do it for better sex, not for size. It makes for a better erection / better blood flow. She has commented on the size increase but I just ignored her. I’ll be the first to say you can’t get meaningful gains this way - it’s just a natural alternative to drugs like Cialis.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 04:46 PM
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OYS #5 - MAP Clean-up Week Background: 39, 6'2", 213lbs, 12% BF. Kids 10 and 11. Wife is 40, HB7. Married 12 years together 16. Unplugged 1 year with decent results in me but only marginal improvements in my sex life. Wife is now submissive, respectful and will give duty sex nearly always if I push for it. Been backing off on this however since what I really want is higher quality first (i.e. her actually wanting to have sex and getting aroused). The problem isn't that I can't arouse her, it's t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 12:33 PM
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OYS #4 - Time to reset Background: 39, 6'2", 213 lbs, 12% BF. Kids 10 and 11. Wife is 40, HB7. Married 12 years together 16. After a year on RP with decent results in me but only marginal improvements in my sex life, I've reflected quite a bit on my previous OYS post/comments and have decided it's time to reset on a number of elements in my MAP. I think I've been surface-level on some of the steps of dread and need to spend time going back through each one in detail to assess if I've really inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 03:46 AM
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Yes, you nailed it again. Need to find a way to correct that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:39 PM
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Any program recommendations?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:38 PM
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You’re right on - need to find a way to unfuck that part of our relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:37 PM
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Some lifts are improved, some are back where they were with form correction. 5x5: SQ 300, BP 225, DL 315, UR 205, OHP 148 this week. 11.9% BF as of yesterday morning . Abs are visible, weight must be all in my bloated ballsack. None of this is the issue. Gaming the wife constantly. Was initiating all the time too but have backed off due to it being ineffective. No signs of her being a lesbian. It’s more her mentality around sex with people in general.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:35 PM
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You’re not wrong on the surface, but think of it this way: My wife is a castle, her mind a draw bridge and her sexuality the gate behind it. You’re saying open the gate and shoot the soldiers in. I know how to do that. Problem is, the actions required to get past the draw bridge will shut the gate and vice versa - so soldiers can’t get in either way. She has a resolute stubbornness that she should be enough without sex, at least for me - so when I do turn her on, she stops herself (bridge goes u…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 02:06 PM
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OYS #3 - Found "asexual wife's" vibrator 39, 6'2", 215lbs, 11.8% BF. Kids 10 and 11. Wife is 40, HB7 (this is a demotion from HB8 as both my perspective and options have changed). Been away awhile, not posting in OYS because I've just been grinding and haven't seen much change to report on until now. Reread the sidebar for a second time, learning entirely new things this time around. Lifting is on-point. I plateaued in most of my lifts, had some pain and form issues so I deloaded a couple times …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 12:37 PM
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You both already knew the roles which were assumed prior to your engagement. You shit tested him, he passed with flying colors. Now you should go fuck him and be thankful you have such stability in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 02:51 AM
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OYS #2 LEVERAGE - Finally got it Per /u/rocknrollchuck 's advice last week, I tried slowly removing the cuddles. I was careful to do this in the manner described (don't go whole hog like a clumsy shithead, but gradually replace the cuddle opportunities with more important things that don't involve your wife). HOLY SHIT this worked. I took it down maybe 30% and gave no hard evidence for her to call me out on. Wife couldn't verbalize it but she was devastated from the comfort withdrawal after 2 da…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 03:28 AM
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by always, do you mean ALWAYS like since the beginning? any history of abuse (your wife)? It's always been me iniatiing the process to take her from 0-100 98% of the time even 15 years ago. The difference over time is she became less willing to allow me to do the things that will get her horny (e.g. play with her clit, control when we have sex, etc.). Note, this excludes duty sex, which she'll initiate on her own (but is clear about not wanting anything for herself at these times). No history of…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 02:19 AM
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Know that you helped me greatly with this. The quality of this sub never ceases to amaze me. Much appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 01:50 AM
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No, much more minor.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 11:01 PM
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FIRST OYS *ME: 38 yo, 6'2", 205 lbs, <12% BF, RP for 6mo, previous beta with some hope. Once going RP it all clicked, started to get shit together quickly: read sidebar, 5x5 (now at BP: 225 / SQ: 225 / OHP: 145 / DL: 300 / UR: 185), worked on frame, successfully N closed HB7+ when I got chances to practice gaming other women. I have 2-3 (broken HB6 and 7) women I could call to fuck anytime but my game and frame still have a VERY long way to go. *MAP: Be a confident, sexually active, successful m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:00 PM
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