How do you react or respond when someone hits/flirts with your wife?

BarracudaRP · 2020-07-12T12:45:41+00:00

It seems like you're describing a very specific scenario, and one that may have happened more than once. Is there more going on?

Regardless, there is a fine line between "mate guarding insecure faggot" and "present, aware and masculine husband" when dealing with these things. If there is truly no offense taking place, then you should react the same way you'd act if your wife were chatting with a woman: introduce yourself to your wife's new friend while they're talking, authentically and without jealousy or anger. A word of warning, though: if you're not able to do this naturally, you will come across as an insecure mate guarding faggot, in which case you'd have been better off doing nothing at all (stfu).

red-sfpplus · 2020-07-12T18:26:02+00:00

Its her job to mate guard not you.

Its your job to ensure you are worth mate guarding.

callmeanubermensch · 2020-07-12T14:06:17+00:00

If you're threatened at all by some random guy hitting on your wife then you definitely aren't in your own frame. I've never seen any guy hitting on my wife as a threat, and I really don't give a fuck about any guy's intentions. I trust my wife to ignore any advances, and if she doesn't then I now know that something's wrong that I either need to fix, or that I just need to move on.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2020-07-12T15:45:24+00:00

I flirt with the dude. Really weirds them out.

HornsOfApathy · 2020-07-12T17:33:36+00:00

Once again asking the wrong questions.

If this is an LTR and she isn't shutting it down when it might cross a boundary, what do you think that might say about you? Why do you give a fuck?

Because you are scared.

Taipanshimshon · 2020-07-12T13:22:29+00:00

If she's flirting back you know where you stand.

If she isn't ... It's not an issue

RStonePT · 2020-07-12T14:12:48+00:00

Poke fun at her.

And if she leads him on then that's a boundary

business---travel · 2020-07-12T17:01:23+00:00

If you really want help around this specific situation, you would have provided detailed information on what happened...

wheremyballsgo · 2020-07-12T21:11:30+00:00

I walked in on my wife sucking neighbors cocktail. Should I just act like no big deal or go lift weights?

screechhater · 2020-07-13T21:46:55+00:00

This is not a question or situation when your lifts, Mission and diet is dialed in.

It’s laughable. That is all. It’s her job to put the guy in check.

When she comments about it, I tell her to hurry up and call the guy back and he can have my 2020 Duramax and dog if they take her off my hands

dbayraktar · 2020-07-12T10:30:48+00:00

I don’t care. I flirt with someone else’s wife too. That doesn’t mean they will have sex with me, but if they do, it is because their husbands are stupid. If my wife will have sex with a guy she flirts with, it is because I am a stupid beta husband. My wife knows when to fuck another man. She is a smart girl.

MrTrizzles · 2020-07-12T13:57:32+00:00

Since she’s a grown adult, she will communicate to me if she’s uncomfortable or if I need to intervene.

PillUpAss · 2020-07-12T12:44:00+00:00

Be doing something better and having more fun than watching another dude try to fuck your wife. Then do a drive by ass grab or put your arm around her throat in a dominant way while introducing yourself to the guy in a friendly, DNGAF way. Then be on your way again having fun elsewhere. Give near zero fucks here unless a boundary is truly crossed.

2wo2wo3hree · 2020-07-13T20:17:07+00:00

You hit the gym harder so chad knows not to fuck with your wife.
Other men’s IOI toward her is her problem. Let her navigate that. You’ll see where you stand by how she handles it.
Navigate for her if she’s stuck.
Outcome independence if she’s not putting effort in handling it how she should.
Hit the gym harder.

LeskeyJeff39 · 2020-07-13T03:11:09+00:00

Hey, I love it. I would much rather then flirt with her then look at her and wonder what I was thinking marring her. But we have a very secure relationship so...

Tambamwham · 2020-07-15T20:44:56+00:00

I walk all over those situation and take back my girls attention. If hes flirting with her right in front of me, he’s getting told to fuck off. My girl is having my back and supporting exactly how I wanted to handle it or she knows where the door is. If she flirts back then she faces real consequences

JameisBong · 2020-07-17T06:12:14+00:00

Congratulate them on their new affair, she obviously has more backbone than you.

If she's not bothered, it's likely because she's not afraid to lose you.

macrian · 2020-10-12T08:30:13+00:00

You need to understand the difference between harmelss banter and actual flirt
You need to understand when it is a shit test and when it is not
You need to understand her cues and reactions.

I am no red pilled and this is not red pill specific advise.

But, when a guy is flirting with your LTR in front of you, you need to know where the boundary is and only care if that boundary is crossed.

By boundary I mean that sometimes random banter can be perceived as flirting by the insecure male.

Now, if that boundary is crossed, read your LTRs cues. There were times when my LTR was being flirted on while in a group setting (when I was talking to another girl but paying attention to the guy she was talking to as well) and as soon as I noticed him crossing a line my LTR just grabbed my hand and moved it on her leg showing subtly to the guy to back off. There are obviously cases where the guy does not back off (too dumb or he doesn't care). In those cases you may need to intervene, but not by mate guarding.

It's easy to push back a dude by talking to him about the subject he is talking about and shift focus from her to the subject. Or simply by responding to your LTRs cues and giving back (e.g. took my hand and put her on her leg, I caress her leg and give her a kiss).

Subtle movements without mate guarding.

Again, follow her cues

If she is actively engaging the dude and his flirting then do you really want to mate guard? She either is shit testing you, or actively interested in the other dude and enjoying his flirting. Either way, you should not intervene. Either let her go with the dude (as if you mate guard now, you will have to mate guard every damn time, that is no life brother) or she is shit testing your insecurities, which again, you shouldn't be having any. Yeah, you don't want to lose your LTR, that's why she is an LTR, but if you lose her, you move on, that's it

InChargeMan · 2020-07-12T21:49:41+00:00

You need to guard the shit out of her, mate.

Title	How do you react or respond when someone hits/flirts with your wife?
Author	ShiningShrine
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	July 12, 2020 8:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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