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It's really subtle. I'm blind to it. You won't catch a woman staring at you unless she wants you to, because they are either not as visual as men are, or they analyze it quicker than we. Body language, talking, very small things. Laughing, eye contact. Saw a few of those "signs" as I passed by coming out of the water yesterday from a couole of women at the beach. Too bad I'm taken.
/r/seduction09/09/21 07:47 AM
4

Go do something social, like dancing or a cooking class.. I could find a different date every week just from the dancing scene alone, if i was a manwhore.
/r/seduction31/08/21 08:04 PM
1

I've been asked about what I wear, and been told that mine stays on their clothes. I move that my bed smells like my gf, and that the clothes I gave her also smell of her perfume/conditioner. So, it's important.
/r/seduction31/08/21 11:09 AM
3

Not during sex or from a partner? It's a waste of energy.
/r/seduction30/08/21 05:10 PM
3

Probably should. Touch barrier is a bitch, break it with a hammer.
/r/seduction28/08/21 07:41 PM
728

Dont shit where you eat. One of the basics here.
/r/seduction27/08/21 07:12 AM
1

Take like, one class in some artsy BS that you take interest into?
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:48 AM
7

In my experience, being slightly taller than the woman IRL is enough. The 6' thing only applies to OLD.
/r/seduction26/08/21 04:34 PM
1

Add like 15lbs at least, you're too skinny. Im at 145-150 on 5'8 and am on the skinnier side, even though I have a decent musculature.
/r/seduction26/08/21 11:05 AM
5

Even if she wasnt, it would be wrong to get to know a person with a lie. You did good OP, but try not to be cringe on tinder ever again.
/r/seduction25/08/21 07:27 AM
2

Being busy, and maybe chasing another woman at the same time, in case she gets bored with you or someone better comes along. Edit: Being pursued by more than one woman also helps. But the best way is being busy and doing your own thing, not being phased by any woman who enters or exits your life.
/r/seduction25/08/21 06:40 AM
2

Imo its a waste if you cannot meet her.
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:33 AM
19

ABC. Always Be esCalating.
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:29 AM
12

Surprising study finds that there is a correlation between looking good, and pulling women! /S
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:27 AM
3

I've slept on your question, and I think I have my answer to your question, about how I can have an abundance mentality while knowing you have the power: I know you go for the same guys on the apps, I know what you will find, I saw that it's hard for women just as it is hard for men, because while you can withold sex, men withold the relationship - I've seen women who were on the apps for longer than I and are still active. I know my flaws on paper (mixed race in a little backwards place, and a …
/r/seduction24/08/21 07:10 AM
35

Will you go out with any of them? Or just use them for validation? Thats the kicker.. I can talk to women all I want there, but many flake, or ghost whenever they want to. Annonimity allows for shitty behavior. Men act like assholes, women act like entitled turds. Besides, it's what you're aiming to get out of it: a guy who has options, will probably not settle for you. And if you chose him, you can bet your sweet ass 20 other women chose him as well (top 5% strikes again). If it's validation an…
/r/seduction23/08/21 07:08 PM
4

Being the undisputed king of your arena. I flat out was called successful with women yesterday in my dancing scene by other guys, just because I dont hit on any woman there, look good, and dance with everyone. I get cornered every evening by at least one woman, and have to actively dodge invites to dances from women because I still suck, and because dancing is hard. At this point it kinda starts to resemble those stupid animes where the protagonist has multiple girls chase him. Am flattered tho.…
/r/seduction23/08/21 06:55 PM
2

I dont think it is a shit test. This girl you've been seeing.. were you sleeping? flirting? kissing? anything romantic? or just platonic? I think she friendzoned you and got to your friend through you. Also, why the heck did you repost this? we told you shes into him more than you.
/r/seduction23/08/21 03:48 PM
1

He doesn't have to be a male model, but getting fit is a huge plus.
/r/seduction23/08/21 10:01 AM
10

Find a different woman. If you dont do physical, it wont work. NEXT!
/r/seduction22/08/21 02:42 PM
6

Next! Seriously, have you ever been hugged by a woman who refused to let go? Don't you deserve it?
/r/seduction22/08/21 12:04 PM
11

Spine? Lemme go all white knight here and tell you its not spine. Some guys, if you tell them no, will flat out assault you. This is literally about survival. You as a man, whats the worst that could happen to you if you reject a woman? A woman can get attacked, raped, and murdered. It happens, occasionally.
/r/seduction22/08/21 09:34 AM
3

Women introduce me to their guy friends, tell me sometimes they were with a friend in an intimate setting (movie, camping), tell me about dates, ask about my guy friends.. Use womanese to answer back, flirt with her orbiter, tell her about some of your options nonchalantly as part of a larger story.. e.g. I had to help one of my (girl) friends to fix some stuff to the walls, so she invited me last weekend for ice cream, a movie and a lot of drilling.
/r/seduction18/08/21 08:28 PM
5

You should definitely show me X Y Z We should do X Y Z sometimes Huh, you like X too? We really need to do X Y Z. When in doubt, use womaneese. Or just write your number on her bill/order next time
/r/seduction18/08/21 04:10 PM
1

Hight is a make or break, but do you really want to be with someone for whom it is a really big deal? A friend of mine tried to set me up with one if his co-workers and confessed she didn't want to see me coz im shorter than her by an inch (5'9 vs 5'8). At this point, I'm close to ripped, and pretty confident, but honest to god I dont want a woman that is taller than me. And thats fine. No problems :)
/r/seduction18/08/21 04:06 PM
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Well today I got a message from a woman in one of my circles telling me while she saw the kissing both, I reminded her of the main guy. Going from ugly ass and boring to getting one of these, from a farily attractive woman.. is a good indicator of progress. Being fit, working hard, doing your own shit and quitting (mostly) po*n and other shitty habbits definitely helps. Recommend.
/r/seduction18/08/21 04:02 PM
3

Try not to total your car with her on the first date. I hear that helps.
/r/seduction18/08/21 11:29 AM
3

Not to mention women will actually notice you.. fact. I get hit upon pretty consistently by women (its always subtle which is annoying, but it happens). Cant remember when it happened when I wasnt fit.
/r/seduction17/08/21 06:20 PM
15

Go eat ice cream together and kiss her you dumbass. Shell find a different guy if you dont step up.
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:15 PM
2

Friendly, I look for rings on fingers and see if I can out-eye-contact them. If they break it in a shy way and look back at me, I take it as a maybe green light. Usually the eye contact is a sure sign. Then again, some people are weird. I had a girl who I am pretty sure was with her boyfriend next to me tell me to my face I have beautiful eyes in ER. Was she flirting? Was she friendly? Was she nuts? God knows. Shoot your shot.
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:13 PM
21

Jokes on you, I already dont fap and still suck at dating! I jest. Seriously guys, stop watching porn, itll force you to take action.
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:04 PM
3

If i dont have the balls or want to be less forward (due to me not being sure if I want to go out with her, or wanting to test the water) I go with "we should definitely do X sometimes" or "you have to take me to that restaurant". Works great, and once you injected that idea, if they are up for it they will validate you. It's less good for casual or for situations where you dont meet that person regularly.. like tinder or OLD or colds - there balls is what you need - you invite them straight out…
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:01 PM
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Love yourself, be awesome, be a leader, and show confidence. Women eat this shit up like crazy. Also, go for dancing - if you're good looking in comparison to others, youll notice them gravitate towards you.
/r/seduction15/08/21 08:58 PM
2

Im basic. Bleu de Channel, Dior sauvage, D&G the one.
/r/seduction14/08/21 07:34 PM
2

I mean, the biggest change should be the internal understanding that you're giving her the chance to win you, as well. Rejections used to be women who reject me. Now its women wh loose out on me.
/r/seduction14/08/21 05:21 AM
2

How do you make women who are interested in you but you not interested in them stop chasing you? I'm not playing the circle game, but found myself in the center of a large circle and recently been bombarded by 3-4 women to death, while Im not into them. I want to keep them as friends, but nothing more.
/r/seduction11/08/21 11:28 AM
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What you're saying to me seems as stupid as it gets. And I come from a place where dancing is perceived as feminine. But let me ask you this? What is gay about a guy dancing bachata with a woman? All that grinding? It looks like they're having sex instead of dancing. Dancing is foreplay.
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:52 PM
3

I found that being social + looking better than the competition helps. Get in shape, find a bunch of social hobbies, be a genuinely good person, or at least one who brings value, look like you have your shit together, and you will probably see some form of attention. I cannot say you will like being chased, nor that you will be chased by the ones you like, but any attention is better than none, right? I got my big break at dancing classes. I'm probably one of the most eligible bachelors in the s…
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:35 PM
4

This is the way.
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:17 PM
2

Depends on the situation. I've had one I recently met get herself invited to my place and stay for a couoke hours. Sadly all platonic because I'm depressed due to a car crash I was involved in, but maybe will try for round 2. Note, that "recently met" is important. After a while, attraction dies.
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:15 PM
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Find social hobbies.. dancing/volunteering/group sports/cooking classes/yoga. All your hobbies are isolated, and sausage dominated. Dich gaming, its a waste of time. Go out and make friends, women too, and after you have a social circle you can start using it.
/r/seduction10/08/21 08:22 AM
2

Practice next to a mirror, learn to smile, learn to maintain eye contact.
/r/seduction09/08/21 07:31 PM
5

Talk, enjoy the moment, make her laugh, steer the conversation to kissing/intimacy, plenty of eye contact and a slight smile goes a long way. Try not to crash your car while driving.
/r/seduction09/08/21 11:43 AM
5

My two cents: If you cant be her girlfriend, dont be in her life. If you cant be the friend of her boyfriend, dont be in her life.
/r/seduction09/08/21 09:29 AM
1

Im proud of you. I did something similar myself, and while things dont go that well, generally i see a large leap forward. So i confirm - be the best version of yourself, life, look good.
/r/seduction09/08/21 09:27 AM
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You have your guy friends for that. Not your women.
/r/seduction08/08/21 11:39 AM
1

Its all about funny stuff. I have a school of Ikea sharks at my place, and there is a woman in my dancing classes that constantly flirts with me and knows about them because I keep two smaller ones in my car. I'm guessing if we ever go out, I can invite her over to re-arrange them in a funny way..
/r/seduction08/08/21 05:25 AM
1

Idk, about the teacher.. maybe a picture of you explaining something to someone in a museum or class? Movies I'd say a picture in a famous movie location or in a film centered location? Just thinking out loud here..
/r/seduction07/08/21 11:31 AM
1

I got told in ER today by another girl i had beautiful eyes. She said it next to her boyfriend. So?
/r/seduction07/08/21 12:45 AM
1

Thanks, I hope you both got out without injuries. This one was a good crash. Good bang, just like the movies. Assessments are later, coz its the middle of the night here. Yea this was ok++ as far as im concerned with regards to a date, but there was no need to blow it up, you know? Im dealing with this the only way I know how - by laughing at it.
/r/seduction07/08/21 12:38 AM
3

Everyone is fine. Didnt work this time. Maybe next time.
/r/seduction07/08/21 12:03 AM
4

Sounds to me you and I know the answer, then.
/r/seduction04/08/21 09:22 PM
6

If shes not gaining anything by being with you - be it status, thrill, you being hot, you being courted by other women, whatever - she wont be with you. Make yourself a prize to be sought.
/r/seduction04/08/21 08:53 PM
1

It applies to gaming you moron. If you think of LTRing, then sure, go ahead. It's fine. If its another conquest, beware.
/r/seduction04/08/21 08:51 PM
2

Why did she want you to invite your friend? Is your friend a player? can this be nuked by talking to him? or will he bang her if she gives him signals? because everything you describe is screaming flirting. Depending on interaction i'd consider nexting. Edit: might be a shit test. Some women are like that.
/r/seduction04/08/21 08:49 PM
1

Its only creepy if you think its creepy, or are ugly. Otherwise, its not.
/r/seduction04/08/21 07:53 PM
1

Yup agree with 2/3 shots, depending on how you met. Today I got basically soft cancelled, so I fully cancelled and offered a reschedule - she got bummed (maybe didn't think ill pull the plug but oh well) and couldnt go with the reschedule, but countered with a different (closer) date. This is a good sign. A bad one would've been not suggesting definite plans. If you have to - next them. No woman is worth chasing if your'e not a prize yourself. This is a mutual dance. Not a chase.
/r/seduction04/08/21 07:04 PM
4

Why cock-block yourself? Take graduate level courses that are open to the public on a subject you are interested in - worst case youll meet some guy friends, best case youll meet a new woman to add to your life. I took up a language class and to my dismay it turned out to be a sausage fest, with the only hot girl not interested in anyone there. But I made two older guy friends with shit-tons of life experiences who kind of mentor me. Nothing wrong about it, and its a fun story.
/r/seduction04/08/21 06:57 PM
3

Search for painting classes? DJ classes? Languages? Cooking? Architecture? Design is definitely something dominated by women. Anything extra-curricular. Hell, even take a college class if its something your country has (mine does).
/r/seduction04/08/21 06:38 PM
14

Stop jacking it, go somewhere where women hang out or find a hobby YOU enjoy and that women might enjoy, be there for YOURSELF, and you'll be approached/see interest shown in you. Also, look good. If you're fat/out of shape - get in fucking shape. Or start cold approaching anything that has tits. That seems to work well for people here. What I wrote first, worked for me as far as dancing goes. Struggling to handle the attention (and not making an ass out of myself by multi-dating), the bar is re…
/r/seduction04/08/21 05:27 PM
1

Again, this is one sided. Suppose you are like me. I'm probably a bit older than the usual guy here. I've got all the stuff you wrote here. 6,6, (am short tho, so meh). I've got some status, I did good to the world. I did bad to the world. Currently doing way more good. No one gave a fuck about me until I started going out and socializing, working my fucking ass off to a low BF and good physique, and even then, now that I actually CAN turn heads, I dont know how to get rid of the attention I don…
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:50 PM
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Not true. My best friend's GF I would never wanna sleep with. Shes not my type. He on the other hand is smitten by her. We actually go on platonic dates where we discuss my horrible dating life and their problems.
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:41 PM
9

This. Don't be a woman who needs an excuse to text. You are a man. You want to talk to her? talk to her. She's not stupid, she knows you are interested. And you go from there forward.
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:36 PM
3

Hey I think we should get together for an ice-cream/go to the beach. If she thinks of that as a non romantic get together, shes so stupid you dont want anything to do with her. Or grow a pair and tell her I like your style/smile/attitude/whatever, lets go for a drink at time X location Y
/r/seduction03/08/21 07:57 PM
15

Be genuinely nice, not just to get sex. When needed, don't be nice. Put your needs above others' - your needs > their needs. Be fuckable - and flaunt it. Find a reason to take off that shirt and flex those pecs/abs/biceps. Be a catch. Have your shit pretty much figured out. Do a lot of stuff and be an interesting person. Flirt - look them in the eyes, smile, enjoy their company, suggest physical, escalate when its appropriate or when you have the green light. Simple, really.
/r/seduction03/08/21 07:53 PM
1

Ah its don Juan with the deadly keyboard. Listen to this guy, his posts are almost always golden. Also, thanks for giving me a mild boner reading this. Def utilizing it myself.
/r/seduction03/08/21 07:43 PM
2

Might be a sign of low confidence, or maybe she feels bad for "toying" with you? Either way, I'd attribute it to lower confidence, and decide if it bothers me or not.
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:10 PM
2

Yes its a sign from god. Wtf are you talking about? You either talk in real life, or not. What are you? 10?
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:09 PM
4

Only way to get out of the friend zone is sleeping with everyone around her.
/r/seduction03/08/21 12:59 PM
3

You dont ask her for casual. You offer it. Or are you so boring and lame that its not a good deal?
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:19 AM
-1

Do you loose anything for offering casual sex?
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:15 AM
3

Better get rejected than being a fucking pussy. You wasted 3 months of your time for this, when all it takes is suggeting a date.
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:08 AM
1

The last part is a bit weak. Don't let her know you're down. She gets that.
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:06 AM
25

Or maybe she is not sexually attracted to you? I told a date I met through OLD i didn't feel the chemistry, what I meant is I didn't have a boner while talking to her.
/r/seduction03/08/21 10:48 AM
2

Can get more IOIs in social settings where its more plausible, by going to social events where it is to be expected.. but I agree. Ask them out. Or be single and lonely forever. My 2 cents.
/r/seduction03/08/21 10:45 AM
1

Go dancing. If you are a catch, and dont harass women there, they will come at you themselves and youll be able to ask them out in a very chill way. Might take a month or two.
/r/seduction03/08/21 08:43 AM
1

2 caveats: I didn't reply once - left her on read, got double texted instead. Been a while since I didn't have to do the lifting. I'm just not interested in texting this gal at this point. I'm better in person, not over dumb texts. Was able to stop the exchange with a boring ass trivia fact I found out while working, but not sure it'll stick. She already necroed the convo twice before. This sub really ought to have a better way of handling this (I.e making her crave your attention and not giving…
/r/seduction02/08/21 02:22 PM
1

I fucking hate texting everyday, its boring and I've got enough shit to do anyway. I asked a buddy of mine, and he will send the occasional joke based on previous conversations once every couple of days. To me, it seems boring as well. If I need to hold her interest over more than a week and it's not because of some BS excuse she made up, I'll text a bit and move to a call, and probably try to ask fun things like did you get any compliments last week, or the most random thing that happened to yo…
/r/seduction02/08/21 01:38 PM
7

No. We do what we do to be great and have fun. Women are a nice addition to 'fun'. Also, nobody wants to bang a kid, besides pedos - who need to be cured by castration.
/r/seduction02/08/21 12:05 PM
1

No, I think your first was good, second is weaker. But its her responses that were dry. She might get more attention there, and you are not the top of the queue.
/r/seduction02/08/21 12:03 PM
2

Methinks you probably should be more fun/flirty in general. Instead you went for the boring interview. I don't judge you, even from text 1 she seemed so so interested, so resistance was heavy from the get-go. Edit: Need 2 people for a tango, some will make it hard for you, some not.
/r/seduction02/08/21 10:19 AM
1

Tell me you have a way to contact her.. or you got a number? or at least asked for one? I too got told I looked great, but in my case it was a pregnant married woman, so it was not flirting, but in your case.. you have the all clear.
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:37 AM
1

As someone who worked on himself enough to clearly see signs of interest, especially once women get to know him, to the point its hilarious for me, but is still shit at cold approaches, do both. Learn to flirt as well, its the difference between friends and more than friends.
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:10 AM
2

Now that I have your attention by scolding you, I suggest the following: Give her space, contact in 2-3 days if she doesn't before. You clearly have some chemistry because you knew each other, so meeting is plausible. Offer a definite date/meeting. Try to initiate chat in a non-boring way, about a joke only the two of you can relate based on the chat from day 1. Example: met a girl who got hurt and cant go to the gym for 2 weeks. Sent her a photo of myself at the gym telling her I remembered she…
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:50 AM
3

Your post is boring me, and im not stuck texting with you, unlike her. Why the fuck are you texting and not meeting?! For fucks sake.. ask her out and meet! If she can't, take the hint and move on. Edit: You're worried? Why? Gah its new to you, isnt it? You're way too needy.
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:22 AM
1

Nobody gave a fuck about me before I got in shape and got my shit together (aside from my friends, who called me grumpy behind my back and now laugh it off and feel bad for not helping me get over the multitude of issues and problems I had). It's because pussies like yourself who are unwilling to tell people to their faces (if you are a woman, it's because it's fucking detrimental to your survival because you can get hurt by being direct, and this is why I am not doing more than scolding you for…
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:50 AM
2

Your advice is great for women, and bullcrap for men. Stop giving shitty advice to guys. "Go there" works for a woman who only needs to look ok++ and bat her eyelashes at the guy she wants. We had an entire fucking thread here about go there and be yourself. Nothing happens to men unless they are great, and that requires for them to be great. If you are reading this message, and girls don't want to be with you, don't flirt with you, you dont see any attention from them in your workplace or outsi…
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:32 AM
2

Because if she tells to your face you ugly/boring/needy/weird/whatever you might flip on her and kill her, coz you have 10 more kilos of muscle. The "perks" of being the physically weaker sex. Ignore for a day or two. Text afterwards you had a great time and suggest a definite date - date, time, location. "Hey girl with pussy(cat), I had a great time. Theres this awesome icecream place I know, let's go grab some on day X, time Y. Ill pick you up/rundevouz with you" Gage her interest based on rea…
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:26 AM
2

Fit is king. 100%. I have like 8 diadora sports shirts that fit me really well and I always excerise with them. Same for polos. Ralph Lauren slim fitted sit really well on me, soulder, biceps, pecs. Get complimented on these at this point almost weekly. And not just by guys.
/r/seduction02/08/21 04:52 AM
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Who made it brief? You or her? Why did you text back? Who tf cares if you came home or not? Do you meet tomorrow or not? Walk the cat? What kind of BS is this? Grab her pussy(cat) and go for ice cream on the beach! Make the situation appropriate to kiss in the first place!
/r/seduction02/08/21 04:39 AM
5

Seeming like you have your shit together, being a social leader. Listening to their BS because no one else does and actually listening to that bs, and not blanking on it. Smiling and being somewhat happy on the outside. Having a lot of energy. Looking good, always (helps with seeming like you have your shit together). Waving off adversity. Decisive action. People seeing your improvement as time passes. Showing you do things because you want and love to.
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:52 AM
1

Hips moving back and forward (waking, just as they stand), dancing, smiling with lingering eye contact. Had a girl who I'm friends with comepte with me at pecs flexing (I can flex my pecs and usually do it as a joke and we laugh at how hilarious it is), so she just went ahead and jiggled herself. I'm attracted to other things, but some would be turned on by that, real bad, especially if youre C+.
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:46 AM
3

Do you not have lunch breaks? Come to him when he eats, break the physical barrier there. "Oh you've got to try this bs food i made for an excuse to touch you" touch him Maybe will need a few of these moves.
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:27 AM
2

One chick got hurt in her leg, so she put hers on mine, basically had me massage it and told me it felt good, and aliviated the pain. A different one remembered things I said a few days ago to the letter and asks me questions, and is more around me than ever before. Another one sent me mesages on social media A different one went for a light stomach touch (I'm somewhat in shape, about 14-15% bf)
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:17 AM
3

I'll tell it to ya in a less hurtful way. You're gunning for the best guys on the app. Like 80-90% of all other women. Why would any of them choose you in particular if he has 20 more to choose from, some of them probably lonely enough to **** on the first date? The sad, sad truth right there.. Edit: 5% right = the top 5%. It's math. Just so we are clear. And those guys? Thry know it. Lower your standards if you want an LTR, or keep shoveling through the dicks.
/r/seduction01/08/21 03:28 AM
4

Methinks you might be matching with the top 5%, who get enough action to not give a fuck. How many do you swipe right on? Just a thought...
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:50 PM
3

Funny, me and a friend were at a sea restaurant and the waitress was rather new, so we chatted her up to help her calm down. My friend wanted aome info so we played along, and also asked her about this. She said she gets hit on daily.
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:47 PM
7

She sees you as a friend. If you cannot see her in a non romantic way, don't see her at all.
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:22 AM
6

Put yourself in situations where you must interact with women. Go dancing. However, I'd say before you go dancing, make sure you look good. Allows you to act more aloof and make more small mistakes when interacting, and you'll get better interest shown to you that way.
/r/seduction30/07/21 08:16 AM
2

Fix your shit first. Maybe after youre done getting back at being slim/muscular and get your life together you can initiate "i just randomly ran into you, how you doin"
/r/seduction30/07/21 04:18 AM
2

I get told I look younger. This shoots me down in OLD, but allows me to flirt with women who are WAY younger than me in real life. Like I talked to one girl and she missed my age by 5 fucking years, while I got her spot on.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:38 PM
18

Well this tells her and me you lack options. Can you NOT answer her? Do you have nothing going on in life besides answering her shitty texts? I ignore texts from women when I am out dancing/studying and sometimes I dont bother texting when I work. I try to keep busy. Be too busy to text and give her the attention she wants, and shell want it more. Like her - she doesnt give you the sex you want, which makes you chase her. Key is, give enough attention to keep interest, but not enough for her to …
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:30 PM
4

Offer dates, talk about topics related to sex with you in context, but always subtle, and funny. I also try to flex muscles a bit, and of course, if I can get them to touch my muscles (pecs, biceps, stomach), preferably subtly, I know I get to them. Here's one for ya that I used on a date recently: A chick who constantly flirts with me told me my boobs are bigger than hers (Pecs. I have pecs.) we'll, I told her: Just so you know - they are real, and they're spectacular. Of course she didn't see …
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:27 PM
5

Severe oneites. This NEVER goes well my friend. But if you want the serial killer route, i'd say you have to play the hardcore movie role. Cut all contact for a year or two and go out with other women for lulz/bodycount/clearing of oneites, make something of yuorself through a career and find a way to enter this girl's life by storm. IDK, run over her high school bully, save her from a burning house or a very horrible situation.. Or, move on, she doesnt shit gold - shes just one girl, it could b…
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:19 PM
54

FFS, texting is for logistics and the occasional keep-alive. Meet the person, in person, alright? besides, if you dont text her all the time shell wonder what the fuck are you up to, and why arent you texting her. Which is good, keeps her on her toes.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:13 PM
2

Its what guys say here. Its a direct approach - hey, my name is schmuck, I really liked your style/tatoos/cologne/hairstyle/something that is not her physicality and in her control so I came to tell you that and say hi. Hi.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:11 PM
1

I flirt with her dad to make her jealous.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:08 PM
8

Find someone who looks great in real life and ask him where he got the outfit. People will 95% of the time will tell you and help you.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:06 PM
9

Acknowledge the hilarity of the situation, tease her once about agreeing to this, and never speak about it again. Do it.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:05 PM
2

Ill give you one that was done to me essentially not an hour ago. There a chick in one of the dancing scenes I go to who is a big flirt. With many guys, but I think she might have a thing for me, in particular. Anyway, today she's injured her leg. Well we sit to talk, and she shows me her injured leg, and then just puts it on me (of course its skin exposed..). Makes me rub her injury.. I do it while maintaining eye contact and a slight smile, and go for a light massage and trying to feel damage …
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:03 PM
2

She has the hots for you, ask her out.
/r/seduction29/07/21 12:12 PM
2

Ah shoot your shot. I got a number out of FB, and now a girl is trying to get mine.. but I met both IRL in the dancing scene.
/r/seduction29/07/21 11:41 AM
3

Watch less fucking porn. Your dick gets limp and your mind gets cloudy. These days I wake up with raging boners, and I am by no means 17..
/r/seduction29/07/21 07:53 AM
1

Theres this chick that has the hots for me in the dancing scene I am in, she constantly fiddles with her shirt trying to rearrange her cleavage when talking to me (bummed for her, because I'm an ass man). Try to get the guys attention to your assets (no pun intended) - Face, boobs, butt. Usually works. If you aint got the form, work on it. Being fit for a woman is huge compared for men. Almost like easy mode.
/r/seduction29/07/21 07:49 AM
3

Decide on an attire together - pajamas, formal, whatever. Send cocktails to her home and yours and mix them together.
/r/seduction28/07/21 04:03 PM
1

I hit on a woman 12 years my senior, and if she wasn't flaking on me, we'd bang. Its all about your looks. I look 5 years younger than my actual age, and so people much younger than I'd like to actually check me out... It is what it is.
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:48 PM
61

I find that you have to raise your own attractiveness in your own eyes, to be able to visualize her seeing you as attractive as well. If you think shes out of your leauge, shes out of your leauge. So make yourself as awesome as possible, and maybe you'll be attractive yourself to a pretty woman. Did a favor for a friend and picked up a mystery hichiker for a ride somewhere. Well lo and behold, its a pretty woman. Dumb as they go, but hot none the less. Back in the day I would've probably shat my…
/r/seduction28/07/21 12:43 PM
69

Cooking is cool, like kpop said. I do also dancing, DJing (they needed a DJ for the dancing and i literally just volunteered and got accepted), learning a language, photography and other small things..
/r/seduction28/07/21 10:44 AM
1

Do you have other venues? If yes, next her if you're unwilling to give her the attention she wants (you're the boss), if not, keep going with her and find more venues.
/r/seduction27/07/21 10:46 PM
3

Thats usually not the case for almost anyone. Just because you don't know how women show attraction (rarely staring at you or telling you they want your seed), doesn't mean that no one ever found you attractive. Be confident about the things you've achieved and go from there. If you're fat, lack style, and lack social skills - fix that shit. This is part of whats holding you back, and its fixable.
/r/seduction25/07/21 06:21 AM
7

Depends i suppose. A friend of mine is 6'4, and told me last two parties he was at, women came up to him to tell him their friend wants to dance with him. Never happened to me before, and I'm not an ugly mofo, far from it, not to mention I xan actually fucking dance. Height is a big deal. Not be all, end all, but it's big.
/r/seduction24/07/21 10:31 PM
1

Flakey - does she respond late? Gives you too little attention?
/r/seduction24/07/21 10:27 PM
4

This is where you use your women friends if you have any. Set up an event where you both will be for sure, and approach there (you sound young, so I'm guessing its relevant, if youre pqst college, disregard). Or you can go the looser way and slide into DMs.
/r/seduction24/07/21 10:24 PM
1

Imagine her punching a one-eyed miserable hobo in the groin. That b**ch!
/r/seduction24/07/21 07:49 PM
2

This - take a social hobby - learn to dance/paint, if you're doing photography, join a group, offer people to meet to collaborate. Learn a language with more people, do improv evenings.. anything that's not solo.
/r/seduction24/07/21 12:01 AM
4

Yup. Take interest, listen to people, remember what they say. Great book.
/r/seduction23/07/21 06:26 PM
7

Go dancing for sake of dancing, and maybe meet someone you fancy or fancies you. When I get asked why I started dancing I plainly say its to learn to dance and invigorate my social circles and because I can move very well, but never learned before. Made a bunch of friends, learned to dance and do other stuff, got flirted with and flirted with many women. Great experience, would recommend if you can just enjoy the show. Why do you think many singles go to dancing lessons? To learn thermodynamics?…
/r/seduction23/07/21 11:34 AM
20

"I don't meet women IRL, why can't I have women in my life" For fucks sake dude.. get a hobby where you'll meet women, then. Also, for the love of god drop the use of female when referring to women, it feels like were talking about aliens here. They're just people.
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:11 AM
2

When you meet, show her affection. Hug her, smile, look into her eyes and pierce her soul (with a smile, because you are actually happy to finally see her), drag her to your side (gently) through the hip, and keep going together to your class and keep chatting. Kiss her when you part ways if she looks up at you with puppy eyes (<-- this is the signal you want, if you get it and don't kiss her, she'll think you think shes ugly - it doesn't have to be the lips, but if she looks at your lips a lot,…
/r/seduction23/07/21 07:20 AM
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This is the type of attention you generally don't want. Drunk people are not themselves. Keep your distance, and be en guard. If a drunk idiot whos 80 pounds bigger than you comes at you, theres little you can do against him.
/r/seduction23/07/21 12:45 AM
2

Why not take a social hobby then? Why not dance?
/r/seduction22/07/21 08:06 PM
6

Its idiots like you that give this community bad rep. I just wanted to point that out - everything else was already said.
/r/seduction22/07/21 06:33 AM
3

I crushed on her all day during the dance, and managed to find her on FB. Chatted and flirted a bit. I asked her number. Didn't respond for 2 days. And here's an update: an hour ago she gave me her number. Shoot your shot.
/r/seduction21/07/21 05:07 PM
1

Weights + cardio to kill the fat. Honestly, being slim/muscular is 90% of the work, externally. Everything else, maybe besides cologne and caring for your nails (women have a better sense of smell, and notice small things), is fluff, to make you feel good and confident. Now inner game.. that's the thing that will get you what you want. I look more than ok, I've had strangers tell it to my face (men, naturally, because women will never do that), but more than getting the eyes from girls and some …
/r/seduction21/07/21 01:05 PM
8

Shoot your shot. I've flirted with a woman I danced with, and when I asked her number - she flaked. Better to have tried than to not know what could've been.
/r/seduction21/07/21 07:36 AM
3

Why the fuck not?
/r/seduction20/07/21 07:51 PM
2

Dancing, gardening, learning another language, djing, reading as part of a book club, cooking, bar hopping, working out, endurance running (half marathoner), mixing cocktails etc..
/r/seduction20/07/21 02:56 PM
1

I've got offered to collect leftover woods for woodworking by a woman in one of the creator chats I am in. So I took the opportunity, and she wrote with some wierd hearts and stuff, so i just wrote to her, "Im just here to get wood, and chew gum. And im all out of gum". She happily said its time for me to get wood and shell make sure that I do. When I collect the wood, Ill write to her thanks for giving me wood, its some really good wood she gave me... And maybe flirt some more. Mind you, this m…
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:54 PM
21

Approach her, before someone else does..
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:50 PM
1

Dont stare too much at womens asses or boobs. Try a slight smile, and dont hold intense eye contact unless its a dance, and even then, always, with a smile. I've felt the concerned look when i held too much eye contact, and didn't smile/look away.
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:05 PM
3

Well, it requires some work - if you're fat, literally work to loose it. Being good looking is very important. If your style is shit, improve it. Get a decent haircut, and stop jacking it. Now that you're a functioning adult, we can start working on finding more friends, and maybe get women interested. If you're not a functioning man, you'll be only able to pull low quality women.
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:03 PM
2

A. Im mixed blood, and until I open my mouth, you'll think I'm something else entirely. Once I do, it's plenty obvious where I was brought up. I deal eith it head on. It gets me rejected on OLD a lot, less so IRL, because I embraced it, and because its, quite frankly, a genetic advantage. If it bugs the other side, you don't want that person anyway. So move on to the next target. I REALLY think that if you're not slim/muscular, then you should do everything you can to get there. Its oh so import…
/r/seduction19/07/21 09:29 PM
3

Imma say that what you need first is a social circle. Of friends. Try to make more friends. How is this done? By being a good listener and by opening up to people in a non cringe way. We don't judge you here, but saying what you told us to some people might be a turn off. Start by trying to meet people from work, and by taking extra activities, like studing a skill, dancing, climbing, painting classes or whatever where you'll meet men and women. I think 6-10 good friends who you can meet twice-3…
/r/seduction19/07/21 09:24 PM
3

Well, I'll give you my cent. Ignoring me for 3 days gets you me leaving your life. Answering me instantly.. gets me wondering.. am I the only taker, and why? Maybe I'm not seeing something.. So there's a line. Also, don't take it personally, but if you sleep out of your leauge, the guy will leave (after he git what he wanted) coz he has other women chasing him. You allow sex - he allows the relationship.
/r/seduction19/07/21 07:46 AM
8

Accidentally running into you all the time if its a social setting, or accidentally touching you is a very strong indicator of interest. The more, the better, mind you.
/r/seduction19/07/21 04:30 AM
4

Most of the time they find a reason to approach, sometimes as part of a group, sometimes theyll isolate you, and depending on the type of woman theyll talk you to death, might flirt with you, might give you eyes... Still tho, this is the extra ordinary, so this is not something youll have just randomly happen to ya. It may be genuine curiosity, it might be chattiness, you never know - but you can test the waters back.
/r/seduction19/07/21 04:29 AM
1

A. Be prepared for racism from people and women. If you look good enough, you can laugh it off. I'm a bit of a novelty and this is the first thing I address if it comes up (it does almost always). B. Women and men who wear "revealing" clothes want to look good for themselves. Youth is a fleeting thing, and so thet flaunt it if they have it. To themselves, and the environment. C. Is this an open invitation? Sometimes, perhaps. You never know.
/r/seduction19/07/21 04:14 AM
2

Also, she had a lot of cleavage action going, and she kept trying to play with it by rearranging the shirt. Maybe it was annoying her that I didnt stare at her boobs but instead her face, or maybe its coz it was really an uncomfortable shirt, who knows. Yes, it's a more subtle way of talking to you. You don't just speak to randoms in the dancing scene unless you're interested in them. Same for the outside. You approach with an intent.
/r/seduction19/07/21 04:07 AM
4

Well then, it's a matter of time, then. When this wave ends, make sure to go out. You'll start noticing people noticing you if you look for it. And not just men. Enjoy your good looks and let a woman (or women, we dont judge if youre not an ass about it) enjoy it too.
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:46 PM
2

And I'm saying that women do notice, they just know better than saying to your face you look great. They'll say they like your shirt maybe. Or something like this. They wont say damn that shirt is about to get ripped because your tits(pecs) are huge. But not having the fit look is 100% worse than having it, and if you can, be fit. *Btw, I got told about my shirt not two hours ago. And its just a slim/fit green ralph lauren polo shirt. Complimented the shirt and the color, being her favorite, as …
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:42 PM
11

You have to get out to be seen by women. Cant show them those sweet forearms and pecs if you're high with the boys at home, my man.
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:33 PM
3

Hate this one, but have to go and do it. Was too hot to dance today. Sat at the side. After 3 minutes, suddenly I have 5 people around me. And one of the girls starts telling me the story of her people and I think qualifying herself to me? Anyway dragged me aside to talk, and then dragged me to a slow dance. Was she just nice? Was she flirting? Thats social calibration to ya. I know the answer - do you? And, tragically, Im not attracted back to her. Her friend who complimented me on my shirt tho…
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:30 PM
1

Well, I'll tell you I've seen women who I locked gazes with, who had a small concern when I held my gaze. Probably due to me usually not having an expression on my face. With this one, it was different, I was looking at how she danced, her face, smile, eyes - also her butt and body. The BS you see in movies. And I always had a slight smile on my face when she caught me looking. Mind you, looking, not staring. You look at this person as if you want to talk and kiss this person, and if this is mut…
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:15 PM
5

Talking about friends, co workers, people I meet through extra social activities.. Aslo, this drawtisem comics comes to mind. And this one about beards.
/r/seduction18/07/21 03:52 PM
8

It works way better if you're big - size to women is just about everything. I'm not tall, but being fit did improve my overall confidence and feeling. Besides I keep having men telling me I look stunning. Women? not to the face - only women friends who I am on very intimate terms with dare tell me this. At dances I have to actively dodge women sometimes because they hunt for me and sometimes I'm not feeling it, on the field I definitely have more IOIs thrown at me, and everything is way easier -…
/r/seduction18/07/21 03:31 PM
4

I met this chick during a dance lessons event very recently. We constantly switch partners there, and when we finally are together I notice she doesn't understand the teacher that well. Speaking four languages I start speaking on hers based on looks, flabbergasting her because I don't look like I'd know it (the curse of mixed blood). A lot of smiling, a lot of eye contact. I'm usually a smiley partner and while a new dancer, am a very passionate one. End of the lesson I go away to store some stu…
/r/seduction18/07/21 07:02 AM
3

Honestly? I plainly write I'm a busy man (I do lots of things every fucking day, and it's not personal, its part of the get to know game I play when we match) so they know I'm too fucking busy to play their stupid BS on OLD. If they match me I play a quick get to know competition and if I win, I get the number. Simple as that. Still refining it, but in 30-40 messages were usually done and out of this stupid setting and onto phone. It's all lighthearted to them of course, but I'm telling you how …
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:21 PM
32

My god social dancing is huge. Go learn to fucking dance. Cant tell you how much it changed my life.
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:35 PM
66

You care too much, and this might be the death of you. Be ready to break a dozen eggs before you get to eat one is my way of thinking about these things. Theres always another one.
/r/seduction16/07/21 01:43 PM
2

It brings status, also, these guys are not ugly to begin with. So we're going back to 30k bc.
/r/seduction15/07/21 11:39 AM
28

Do you watch porn? like, more than once a week? might be seeing the effects of PIED.. cut that shit out.
/r/seduction15/07/21 11:25 AM
1

I do this thing where I teach myself to read IOIs when passing strangers/seeing them outside. There is a night and day difference between interested women and non-interested women. Like, night and day.. Strong eye contact, playing with hair, even a slight smile.. When I see those and let them pass by I always hate myself for not doing anything about it, but oh well, at least Im learning to read them. This will probably help you get better results. I'm pretty sure yesterday I had one to whom I co…
/r/seduction15/07/21 07:47 AM
2

Here's one for ya: I went out yesterday after bitching here. Did a tour of a few bar spots around my place, ignored some IOI because I am a little bitch and eventually sat down with my mate. We sat and spoke and the general vibe was vanilla. 20 minutes later, a group of 3 dudes, with one of them on the larger side sat near us. The energy changed. I was looking for the hostess for the bill and bam - I notice two different tables look at this guy, in total about.. 10 girls. Mind you, as soon as I …
/r/seduction15/07/21 06:21 AM
1

If it's an excuse to bring you home to her, then you have your excuse to come over.. read between the lines. Answer "Only if I can come and feed them to you, as I would grapes, to make you feel better ;)" Edit: I misread it. It's a favor. Do if you want, but its not sexual.
/r/seduction14/07/21 03:22 PM
14

Good on you buddy, you're the extraordinary. The average redditor on sreddit is not like you, then. I've had things happen to me, too, but as you get older, they less happen to you if you don't make them happen. And it doesn't get easier as you get older.
/r/seduction14/07/21 03:15 PM
129

Having heard this my whole damn life, I can vouch for this being the lamest fucking piece of advice in the universe. No one is coming for you, no one gives a rats ass about if you if you're a regular dude. If you're a woman, sure people might want you (approach you, and then this shitty advice actually works, see?) but if you're a man you've got no value unless you're freaking adonis, and even then, youll need to do something to get somewhere in life. Learn to swim and make your own waves. Learn…
/r/seduction14/07/21 03:00 PM
42

BS - if you dont act, nothing will happen. This is advice for women, given by women, who not knowing any better, offer it to guys. If you're a woman, you will probably get approached, things happen around you because your'e a woman and some man will want it from you. As a man? Today? what woman will choose you over others? why? From my life's experience, nothing, and I mean NOTHING happens to you if you don't act. There isn't anyone coming to save you. You're on your own.
/r/seduction14/07/21 02:55 PM
1

Get to the point quickly. Ask for the number quickley and move for a date fast. If she filters you slowly, be ready to get rejected coz she has 10 more of you lined up. Edit: state your intention clearly. You're there to get to know the person IRL, so thats what you're doing. Everything else is fluf and boring bs.
/r/seduction14/07/21 01:33 PM
1

Trying to get him to mentor me a bit, met him through the class, he saw right through me. Very smart turd, can manipulate anyone if he wants to. Definitely not something you become easily. He thinks of himself as an antihero, and is very blunt and upfront. Told him in some aspects I aspire to be like him (confidence, independence etc) but his lifestyle is not for me, and since he knows I won't mooch off of him maybe hell help me a bit. The guy who asks here? Probably not that character.
/r/seduction14/07/21 11:10 AM
1

Shitty friends then. I hate myself for not gaming properly, but at least I dont cockblock my buddies.. also, if you get more than one on one, you need to take some of the heat off of your buddy and his mark, thats where I shine, and have had women chase me (a bit shy, but fucking accomplished, so it usually is quickly apparent I have some fucking value).
/r/seduction14/07/21 10:58 AM
4

If you hqve your shit together and have tons of charisma, maybe. I know a guy who is on that level, but you need to be pretty damn good to do that. High 7, lower 8 digits dollars on you, well built and in shape, reasonably tall/not short, natural flirt, confident as fuck. Most cant pull it off.
/r/seduction14/07/21 10:44 AM
3

Social anxiety and no career? Go for a sales job/something frontal where you must deal eith people. Bonuses and good service can earn a decent pay, and yoy might be able to squash the anxiety. Job first. Itll give you all the resources and preoccupie you enough to not be too needy. Stop beating your meat, start beating a punching bag Hit the gym When not in the gym, go for running with a running group Rekindle old friendships if you can Form new ones with co-workers Start being interesting by ha…
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:30 PM
3

Well i put both regular smiles when i regularly smile, and winkies/kisses when i am flirting. Why cant we do both?
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:23 PM
1

Social dancing helped me a lot, you have to do all the things you do in regular approaches when you look for a partner to dance (or, if you look better than 95% of the male dancers - you get approached yourself)
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:20 PM
2

It might take some time, but if you keep at it, youll make it. Im in your age range, and am only scared a bit of women in the sense of approaching at this point, that is all.
/r/seduction13/07/21 01:55 PM
1

It all depends on how far behind you are. If you're nearing your thirties and are scared of women, fat, without friends and poor, its going to be way fucking harder than if you are at least fit and have a decent job. Same for other things you might lack.. You dont need the whole package, but having it all increases your odds significantly.
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:40 AM
1

Thank god I am slim/fit then, and at 13-14% BF I guess. At this point this really is a must.. if you're on sreddit you need to be in fucking shape. Saw a brawless one today, took me a second to get what was going on.
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:26 PM
1

Take the easy way out if you're too much of a pussy to get some. The hard way is actually going out and getting some.
/r/seduction12/07/21 02:58 PM
54

I volunteer at a social dancing group, which is open to the general public. Recently took the lead role in setting all of it up (its sporadic and in the outdoors) and a few days ago, it was one of the best damn organized ones I've ever seen. I guess it comes with my particular experiences with sporadic deployments. It's a pain in the ass, but you tell people what to do and they do it, so you seem more confident? IDK, but I like that it all ticked like a clock finally. I guess seeming like manage…
/r/seduction12/07/21 12:59 PM
1

The hell you're talking about.. 200 on 6'3 is not skinny. This is an athletic build. I am wondering tho, why did you come to think that bulking some more will get you more tinder hoes? Also, before you do TrT, try actually taking a test to see how high/low your test is.. and do you eat enough to bulk enough? If not, reddit is not the place for steroids.. Its better found on telegram.
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:36 AM
1

As someone who is on, r/bigdickproblems this might be more appropriate there. Anyway, I'll give my cent on this.. I do cardio in men's leggings and being above average in that department it took some balls getting used to wearing only those for long runs, since you can see it... I must say, it's all about what you radiate: at the end of a workout session, had an awesome sea breeze, and at the same time saw a nice looking chick - due to those it got somewhat crowded in the pants. And so, as I go …
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:27 AM
2

The fitter the girl, the more options she has. You are not option A for them, so they dont go for you.
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:07 PM
2

I start off by not qualifying myself to women in my bio. I know my worth, and state it as such. I give only the bare minimum - I'm in very good shape, have a good job, live in a good location. When I match, I offer them to play a game to get to know each other with a prize of our choice. If I win, I ask for a number - if I loose, I suggest them bragging rights on our first date and ask them for their number. I go first, and usually take the lead. If I sense things go slowly/she looses interest I…
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:56 PM
1

Yea, either ask her out and get rejected (most likely) and get closure, or never talk to her again and move on. Source: did it myself, got rejected, moved fucking on.
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:49 AM
1

Probably should stop watching porn buddy, it ruins your self esteem and makes you view women in an unhealthy way.
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:45 AM
68

If she has shittons of attention, then youll be getting bits of it. Simple as that.
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:37 AM
7

I think what changed was your looks and your status, and thats what women find attractive.. Im in a somewhat similar boat - would they care for me if I was a hobo? maybe if I looked like adonis.. I am not tho (although I am by no means ugly or even average..) What is different is that I am somewhat proud, that I make decent pay and am in top shape, pretty well all around and so my confidence is way better, and thats what makes them come to you.. ​ Don't hate them, bask in your newly acquired sta…
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:21 PM
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Build rapport - sometimes I play with them a game where we give each other 2 facts about ourselves - one true, one false - trying to impress/break expectations/build rapport. Each one is supposed to guess what is true and what is false. We go till five and winner asks the loser out/decides whats next. Its fun, its different, it makes her commit and it gets you to know if shes boring or not. Plenty of ways to turn it flirty. Remember, you filter her too, you both get to know each other quickly ev…
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:16 PM
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How good do you look? I think that one full fluent convo is enough to move to phone\actual fucking date. But I have not managed to get someone to meet me within 2 minutes.. and I am by no means ugly.
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:10 PM
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Might I suggest social dancing? good to make quick friends and learn a useful seductive skill. So useful in fact, that I will be teaching a group of language learners I attend to dance as well, maybe to get them to join the clubs. Also, you seem to be able to make buddies in gyms/outdoors too if you talk to randoms. Same with bars/work. Recently went out with a co-worker and we might actually fly abroad for a dude-trip together. Also, probably shouldn't decline set-up dates when friends/co-worke…
/r/seduction09/07/21 01:56 PM
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Pass on the word, I got it off of sreddit myself :D
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:40 PM
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You did, and No_Load beat me to it. Still tho, as someone who got stood up today by one of his best friends of 10 years.. sometimes people forget, a kind funny reminder is awesome, akin to "Making sure you remember our awesome _____. Wear something nice ;)"
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:08 PM
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Women are shallow as fuck. Men are shallow as fuck. Men want to peg you, women want emotions and whatever the hell floats their boat (and to get pegged too). Men have it hard coz they have to chase. Women have it hard coz they have to not get pegged by the wrong guy. Both are screwed, who is more doesn't matter. Anyway, if anything its confidence that you need, not all of the superficial bs you wrote guys think they need. However, how to get said confidence? Theres the probelm.. you need all tha…
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:33 AM
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Gah don't not play games. Just chase 5 skirts at the same time, they love this shit, you'll get the attention you deserve, and mess with them as well since youll seem popular. Also, I'd say look good is a must. I cannot overstate how this is key - the difference in treatment i get now to a year ago is just annoying. Doors open much much easier, and I can get away with dumber crap than ever before due to looking fairely well. Start hitting the gym, stop hitting your dong.
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:03 PM
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This. I've had like 2 chicks flirt with me to the point of offering to sleep at my place, and both were not my type. The others youll never get this far..
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:00 PM
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I dance socially twice a week, try to chat up everyone and anyone at work (office, so the variety is limited, but I am known as one of the most social guys at the office, so I guess Im doing it right), work out at least once during the weekdays, stupid dating apps (at this point im doing it for text game hoping for nothing), trying to squeeze an outing during the week as well, since my game is still shit and I need the millage.
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:56 PM
3

Oh you're so funny light touch on arm Is it me, or is it cold in here? Offer hand so she feels you
/r/seduction05/07/21 06:33 PM
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You create chemistry. If its a new contract, assume attraction, go for the physical barrier, state your intention and go on a date. If its someone you know quite well, yoyre already in the zone. Breaking out of the zone is leaving that girl the fuck alone and going out with her friend. Maybe shell reconsider..
/r/seduction03/07/21 01:24 PM
1

Easy peasy, hit on the brother and make her chase you both
/r/seduction03/07/21 08:59 AM
5

9D chess right there. Will try for lolz.
/r/seduction03/07/21 07:49 AM
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I think they give this shitty advice because they don't want to tell you to your face you dont have balls, that youre ugly, that you are not their type, that they think you have issues because you said something, that you dont whatever they dont like... Would you tell the biggest, meanest kid in school he is a pussy? Now think for a second about power dynamics here, an average guy is way stronger, and can harm a gal very easily.. so she has to white lie to him to save her skin. The only validati…
/r/seduction02/07/21 02:53 PM
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The someone will come along is not something you suggest to a guy. This advice sucks donkey dong. I've stated this before, and Ill say it again. Nothing, nothing comes to a man. If you're a woman, things come your way - you may not like them, you may want other things, but things come your way. If youre a dude tho.. theres nothing. YOU HAVE to make it all.
/r/seduction02/07/21 02:48 PM
1

If it happens to you, you really REALLY must approach. If not, you can approach.
/r/seduction02/07/21 01:06 PM
1

See this is the thing, I don't judge you for this opinion, but you don't have to take an initiative here. You get approached, or you don't. If you don't, you can improve your appearance and you will get approached (probably) some more. Men don't work that way. He HAS to do the approaching, sure you can bat your eyelashes thinking this is a clear sign, but Im stupid enough to be told to my face that I am cute and not taking a hint (maybe she was just nice?), so it's the guys who do the lifting an…
/r/seduction02/07/21 12:44 PM
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Dude, you dont have to go full monk (but it helps), but if you do it more than once a week, it's probably not so good for your self esteem/body. This is a waste of energy basically. Hit the gym, don't leave yourself in a situation where you can have the time to do it.. if you used to jack it at night, make sure you return home late (gym, hobbies, work if its flexible, going out) etc..
/r/seduction02/07/21 07:31 AM
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My god, NO. Everything but the last phrase is fine, but be patient?! this is the classic woman advice you can give to your girls, but not to men. In fact, this is the WORST advice you can give to a man. NOTHING, and I mean, NOTHING happens to a man if he waits.. don't be passive. Dude, start working.. and things will NOT happen, unless you make them happen.
/r/seduction02/07/21 07:28 AM
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Imna say you have to come out of your shell. Go out more, speak to more people, and women.. eventually youll be social enough for this. Maybe read a couple of books.. But you MUST go out...
/r/seduction02/07/21 07:23 AM
1

This is like 5D chess WTF
/r/seduction01/07/21 03:02 PM
1

Are you husband material? You being a loyal dog doesn't make you one. You having your shit together - does.
/r/seduction01/07/21 02:05 PM
1

I don't do that, I come from the front, and offer a dance - which I usually get. In a club? make your way in front of her, smile with your eyes and join in :) Or do your thing and have them join you, groups of women dont usually wanna just dance all by themselves.. usually
/r/seduction01/07/21 01:39 PM
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I haven't actually done this in a regular club, but in social dancing you physically invite them to dance with you.. extending your arms as if inviting them to hug you.. requires both parties to dance the same style tho. Edit: you can invite her to grab your hand for a turn and keep contact from there too, I guess +1 for clubs, looking for more input
/r/seduction01/07/21 01:19 PM
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Yea it doesnt work that way..
/r/seduction01/07/21 01:01 PM
1

Why not expand your horizons to things women do as well so you can talk about that stuff? You dont have to go full woman, but stuff women and men do.. like? IDK? dancing? singing? wine tasting? art? fashion? general science? Your tech talk bores me and I am a software engineer..
/r/seduction01/07/21 11:41 AM
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Yes, by a bit. However, in my experience, how you act is WAY more important. Even if you look great, if you don't feel great yourself and radiate it outwards, no one will both with you. I always use my social dancing experience as an example - usually I am the most well dressed guy on the scene. Unlike 90% of the other guys in the place, women look at me, lock eyes, and sometimes flat out approach me to dance. Sometimes they small talk with me during/after. Why? 2 reasons: I look good (enough, I…
/r/seduction01/07/21 10:38 AM
1

This is not the problem. The problem is acting nice to get something. Are you nice if you act that way to get something? this is the altruism question all over again: Are you altruistic, or do you volunteer to feel like you are altruistic? If you are nice to a girl because shes pretty then youre a turd. If you are nice to the hot girl, to the fat girl, to the 35 yo married guy who is taller than you and is handsome, to the 55 yo single womanizer dude and to the 45 yo woman whos there just for fu…
/r/seduction01/07/21 08:55 AM
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Jeez just find another woman.. they are everywhere..
/r/seduction01/07/21 08:48 AM
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I am not very successful, but I took up salsa dancing. Aside from dancing with women of literally all ages, I sometimes get flirted with (dressing well, being fun and good at dancing, enjoying a dance with anybody), I even notice women my age who don't dance and stare at me (we gather at streets, so randoms just stare at us and don't have the guts to join), so I figure I tend to stand out, and will in the future start pulling people from the outside into the ruedas.
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:53 AM
2

Any journey starts with a first step. You did good.
/r/seduction29/06/21 08:33 PM
2

End of season = end of shift? Make a move TODAY!
/r/seduction29/06/21 08:01 PM
1

This is so important. No woman wants to lift you up. If anything, she wants to be left up by you. If you aren't awesome, who will want to be with you? Become awesome. Become the legend. Find a job (it will take much of you free BS time you may be wasting on social networks or other BS), start working out (it shows you take care of yourself) and become the awesome guy you are destined to be. THEN women will want a piece of you.
/r/seduction29/06/21 07:57 PM
1

My god.. this.. it's somewhere between horrible and beautiful.. this is one of the most manipulative fucking things I read on reddit.. and I am not sure if I hate it.. or like it.
/r/seduction29/06/21 07:53 PM
2

All of us carry some baggage. I'd say go to a general one, and from the get go ask him if he is the right address for this treatment. If he rubs you off wrong or you dont trust him, find another one.
/r/seduction29/06/21 07:45 PM
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I actually got into photography because I finally accepted the way I look (after getting fit, mind you). Got me a camera, did an online course.. now friend of mine keep bitching for me to do them photoshoots, because Im a free professional photographer for them.. they get me food and rides, I take some pics, make them take mine (Also learnt posing to make them less ugly) everyone wins.
/r/seduction29/06/21 07:41 PM
3

Move on, take the hint. Have other options. One door closes, another opens.
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:28 PM
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Be socially dominant, but welcoming. Talk to anything with a pair of eyes. Be charming. Have lots of shit going on in life. That kind of thing is key. I had a woman take interest in me because I dance socially, I had a woman take interest in me because I am a software engineer (at a social dance). If you can dance with a 60 year old woman like you dance with a 20 year old one, you think other women will be scared of you? seeing the older woman thank you for the dance? or do you think they might …
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:25 PM
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It's less don't be yourself, and more be the person you imitate. Be interesting, DO interesting things.. don't just text flirty BS. BE flirty. BE a drama queen. BE the clown, and BE the man. Drive your point to meet\get a number out of the convo. You think she needs you to bitch to about her day? she has 5 other orbiters sucking up to her hoping for some p**** breadcrums. Even if your'e starving, don't go boring/routine. Thats how you end up #6.
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:17 PM
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I also detest that crap because this brings the creep in me, whom I fucking hate. I tried looking up a chick in one of the classes I am taking, because I couldn't just not look her up (probably an 8, if not higher, common interests, my type). The teacher decided to keep pairing us to help me of her own volition, but I'm not sure it's helping. Anyway, no presence what so ever. I was shocked. It's one of those chicks, that if she started bikining she'd have 10k followers in a week. And there she i…
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:49 PM
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Have to sift through the crap to find the gem. If your goal is LTR, my advice would be to play the game, and not to sleep out of your league. A. Is important because otherwise you will be approached by shitty people/douches who don't care for signals and are just headstrong (might be your thing) B. Is important because you probably wont be able to keep him. Keep in mind, you might be the door to sex, but he is the door to the relationship. C. Again with the boobs. Men talk about boobs, ass, face…
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:43 PM
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Hey, this is what I am going with actually. Unless I start selling something, I will have occasionally uploaded something with a race or a half marathon I ran. Nothing else. The happy birthday to friends etc etc. If she insists on going through this channel, then deals off, even if she looks like higher or equal value to me, or I am deeply attracted to her. That's how we both loose - one of us becomes too needy.
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:37 PM
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You're a king in my books. Next ones the charm.
/r/seduction28/06/21 03:02 PM
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I'll try to give you something better. Where do they approach you? Where do you think you'll find the guy? Do you go out enough to be approachable, or do you hide? If you see a guy you are attracted to, do you say or do something? anything? I started listening to "get the guy" because I've seen some of the classic PUA stuff and Im reading this to try and see a different perspective. So far it's what I would've expected it to be and I can say that most of the tips there are good. Lastly notice th…
/r/seduction28/06/21 02:17 PM
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I like how we can give this shitty piece of advice to women and many times it works out fine for them, because the guys have to do the heavy lifting, at least at the beginning. God knows I fucking hate this one with a burning passion.
/r/seduction28/06/21 02:12 PM
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I agree, and I think my way of handling this if no better alternative is presented here will be take it or leave it. I'm just talking to a 9, who actually pushed back (due to her abundance no doubt) and it's been a while since I had to deal with this. I know I am high value NOW (probably 7-9), but I was lower before, and this is my problem here. I'm willing to go nuclear and blow this shit up, but I'm wondering if someone has a smarter way of handling this.
/r/seduction28/06/21 11:00 AM
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Go for the social dancing scene. You HAVE to approach there - make eye contact, lock gazes, smile and come over. Not to mention if you look decently enough and are generally positive, youll get approached there yourself. I call this Level 2. Level 1 is talking to staff (non-flirtingly) because they are there for you.
/r/seduction28/06/21 10:45 AM
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Dancing, taking classes, going out, making contact with randoms. Everyone is more willing to interact, probably because I look half decent like a functioning human being who has his shit togeter now. I get flirted and usually women ask me my name at the dances (and if I am not interested - I don't ask theirs back..), I notice more eye contact from people than before, I get offered by friends and co-workers to be set up with their extended family members.. This happened again today, a co-worker o…
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:13 PM
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IRL, doing social stuff like classes/dancing/learning something extra curricular. At the mall doing errands, in shops, markets, outside, beach, on the train (but don't linger if you get rejected), on holidays, on events. Anywhere. Edit: If you look decent++, have your shit together/good dame, and somewhat confident, you can meet women anywhere and they will be somewhat receptive to you.
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:12 AM
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Because this tells her you're not getting it anywhere else. And she's going to be your world. She does not want it. I was on a date with this gorgeous chick once. 5'8, blonde, blue eyes, good career, charming personality, and with some balls to boot. Since she was pretty extraordinary, I noticed we got stares, mostly from women btw, who were wondering how the hell that happened. They probably told themselves, he must have shit going on in his life (I do, but that's not how we met, and don't worr…
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:09 AM
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Its a lie. Women won't say it to your face but you are not a catch. If you were - you would've been taken. They don't want to hurt your feelings or don't want to confront you, because as a guy you are stronger and can physically harm them. Don't. I've heard this shit before as well. The difference? My friend's girlfriend told me this exact line about being a catch 3 years ago (we talked a bit about these things, non romantically obviously). Last month I went to eat with her so we can have her jo…
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:53 AM
5

Ah yes, the dreaded lets be friends rejection.
/r/seduction26/06/21 05:49 AM
2

Grow a pair and divorce your wife, or leave her if shes your girlfriend. Want to bang the woman next door? go ahead. I am not judging you for being selfish and being stuck in a shitty relationship, but end it if its that shitty. Everyone will suffer when, and I say WHEN the truth comes out.
/r/seduction25/06/21 10:45 PM
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Masturbating to porn.
/r/seduction25/06/21 10:37 PM
4

Can confirm. Look better now, actually occasionally get hit upon in social dancing. As a man. If you look like you have your shit together, maybe you DO have your shit together.
/r/seduction25/06/21 10:37 PM
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Lots of working out in the gym, getting rid of doing the deed, started taking some test supplements. Actually socializing, dancing etc etc. People want to be approached. Went to a 11 mile race yesterday in the fucking desert not knowing a single person there. Met like 6 new friends, older couples, randoms.. Sadly no women I could hit it off with, but anything is better than sitting on your ass.
/r/seduction25/06/21 04:52 PM
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God I hate you, it took me weeks to find my balls. Good on you buddy!
/r/seduction25/06/21 03:16 PM
8

Probably shouldn't tell her gay dudes hit on you.
/r/seduction25/06/21 03:08 PM
1

It's probably more between being alert if you come from the front, or frightened if you come from behind. Always approach from the front\side.
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:45 AM
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Funny you should say that, because I saw there a post about it. Their answer was they make eye contact + laugh at all the dumb shit men say.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:29 AM
1

I wear slim fitted polo shirts by.. ralph lauren. He's more realistic about your arms.. you fill it with about 14", which I have.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:21 AM
8

Thanks, currently boots\white sneakers, but trying to branch into other venues as well :)
/r/seduction24/06/21 11:10 AM
8

Caviat about designers - D&G and YSL for example are generally overkill and plain dumb. I also think that one ought to stay away from looking like a walking poster child of a brand - It's okay to like certain brands, but I don't want to go out wearing a shirt that says POLO all over it, unless I am getting paid for it.
/r/seduction24/06/21 10:34 AM
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I started wearing only polos to work. Now I am that polo shirt guy. They are all slim fitted (Apparently I am slim) and sit perfectly on my body - chest, hands, etc (I work my butt off to fill those nicely). I've gotten complements from guy and women co-workers. Also trying to branch out of jeans - they are just boring at this point.
/r/seduction24/06/21 10:32 AM
5

Agree when you actually agree. Disagree when you actually disagree. Show discontent when you are actually discontent. Don't go out of your way to please others. Say no when you want to say no. Don't be nice to get in bed. Me being nice to you doesn't get me in your pants. Stand your ground when needed. Demand what you are owed, if you are owed, be it service, money, respect or whatever.
/r/seduction24/06/21 08:35 AM
2

Best I had was "you're cute ;)" during a dance with a woman, which, judging by the responses people write here was a marriage proposal basically. Get used to it. Find a bunch of guy friends who will compliment you instead. It's what I did. Guys and co-workers who are also into fitness and improvement.
/r/seduction24/06/21 06:26 AM
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Oh god, they got you too? It happens to me once a month, and I usually steer clear of places where they hang out due to them flocking over me. It's a compliment, but dang sometimes it's disheartening..
/r/seduction23/06/21 07:49 PM
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Thats like.. 5D chess right there
/r/seduction20/06/21 09:32 PM
6

Both sexes have it rough. However, do note that while you are being served large amounts of sausage offers, many men get starved for attention, while IRL for some reason they are not. Me for example, who somewhat struggles in OLD (And I know people who have got it WAY worse), IRL things are way, WAY smoother. Cannot wrap my head around it.. IDK. You tell me what the fuck is wrong with OLD..
/r/seduction20/06/21 09:27 PM
2

Try it once, try it twice, if it doesnt work then it's no dice. I do it myself if someone who I am not interested in starts yammering to me or comes off to heavy onto me when I am social dancing.
/r/seduction18/06/21 07:00 PM
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NGL, I wrote to my bosses I want to work 4/5 days a week from office due to all the working from home destroying me socially. My opinion on the matter is that if you don't socialize enough, it hurts your soul, since people are social creatures. I am genuinely considering taking a second job as a bar man or some other service (I'm a software developer, pays good but you don't get to meet a lot of new people) just to stimulate my social muscle.
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:55 PM
1

I must say, this is something of a mystery for me. I wrote about it before, I get mistaken alot for a gay dude due to being very well groomed and rather happy go lucky, so I am wondering if I am projecting something. It's flattering either way, just.. odd. I've had a friend of a friend tell me that he thinks that I am channeling non-threateningness, whatever the hell this means, but honestly? Maybe it's cause I go cold turkey for long periods of time. In social dancing I am never mistaken for a …
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:36 PM
0

What about women? They guard sex, but men guard the relationships.. Even if she gets all the dick in the world, what guarantee does she have he will stay with her if he has options? Both sexes have it rough.
/r/seduction18/06/21 11:03 AM
1

Hey I am older than you, I've been assaulted as a child, I've had it as rough as you, if not more. My tips are as following: Work on your exterior - if you don't work out, start working out. It might take months, it might take a year, but you have to love yourself physically FIRST AND FOREMOST. I am still not a fan, but me being hit on by dudes (good looking ones at that) is an indicator to the opposite. Chicks are harder to read for me as I am an idiot, but I am told by friends I do get hit on,…
/r/seduction18/06/21 11:00 AM
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Don't over do it with becoming too pretty. People tell me pretty consistently that because I dress well and look groomed, they thought I was gay.. I get hit on by dudes sometimes in bars, and in fact it happened again yesterday. So if you want validation that you're pretty from guys - sure do the superficial stuff. Want it from women? Interact with them more. Intense eye contact, deep voice, a sly smile, determined look, strong posture, sure touch - then maybe you'll get called cute or get laid.
/r/seduction18/06/21 10:18 AM
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When I started running, I couldn't do a single kilometer. I suggesting starting running at 8.5 kph, and get to the point where you can run at that pace for like 1 hour (thats 8.5 kph). Get a pulse watch from garmin - you need to know you dont push your heart to failure and die from a heart attack - depending on age/gender/shape, you dont want to go beyond 220-age in pulse. So, if your'e 20, you shouldn't go past 200 bpm, or you will be in the heart attack zone. Mix in some interval training - If…
/r/seduction18/06/21 09:57 AM
1

Vitruvian physic does a lot of the basics, although he works on muscles for body building, you could benefit from his knowledge. What you describe is *severely* out of shape - If you cannot do 6 miles at 6 mph, you are out of shape! 6 by 6 is slow btw, but it's decent shape. I did yesterday 10km in 1 hr and felt like a slowpoke. The reps is really really low. For training that is not cardio I do like 3-4 hrs a week and again, we're talking intermediate levels here. I'm 5'8, 145~ lbs avg, about 1…
/r/seduction17/06/21 08:45 PM
1

If your friend cockblocks you, then he is no friend of your. My friends egg me on and try to snoop info on women I am interested in when they wing me, not cockblock me.
/r/seduction17/06/21 03:08 PM
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"Kevin might be incentivized to participate, but only in a duet with ______" God knows if she is, Kevin needs to find out. Kevin flirts back and finds out. Worst case Kevin gets rejected, and he is back @ square one. Best case Kevin gets to bang\a girlfriend. Either way, win win for Kevin.
/r/seduction17/06/21 01:53 PM
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I mean, wouldn't baby steps be better? asking for directions? going to social dancing and asking random strangers to dance with you? Its what I've been doing, and I feel better about it nowadays - far from 100%, and still quite far from 100% cold approaches, but still better than 3 months ago. Also "flirt" and make small talk with the guys you meet in lines\outside. Wanna kill off shyness in general, not just with women you know..
/r/seduction17/06/21 01:49 PM
1

Not having her be your only option for starters.. see thats the thing - if you are her only option - shell go out of her way to meet you/talk to you. If you are not (for example O.L.D) then her attention is fractured. Same for guys - if you only have one option, then youll channel that desperation outwards. You want her attention? find another woman, or preferably 3 you can give your attention to. People's minds are fucked up like that, but it makes sense. Also, she might not want anything to do…
/r/seduction17/06/21 01:31 PM
2

Do you stare at them? do you smile? make eye contact? wave at them? have a knife in your hand? Context! I walked like a badass today to get something from a shop nearby. I wore a slim fitted shirt and pants with black aviators. Saw a woman in a group looking at me as I passed. So what? Do you not look at strangers? Why would you look at a woman then avert your gaze then look back again? women are the same, with the safety caveat. Try not to overly stare at them, they get spooked easier because s…
/r/seduction16/06/21 08:51 PM
2

Race is a pain, you deal with it by being charming and interesting and confident despite it. You laugh at it at every fucking occasion. I'm not Indian, but I am not of a "desirable" race because I am an odd mix - that doesn't mean people don't light up when I speak to them. It's the fact that I look good almost always, I work my fucking ass off and I have a good job and know what I am doing with myself that makes me attractive very quickly.
/r/seduction16/06/21 08:45 PM
2

I don't know, I am assuming women remembering my name, being overly happy to dance with me in the rueda, calling me cute during the dance, demanding to know my name and then insisting on telling me the story of their people, guess incorrectly my race even although it's obvious, insisting on dancing with me even when I initially reject them = flirting. But IDK, maybe they were just nice. Again, being 100% comfortable or at least channeling that is big. I couldn't care less if I looked like a fool…
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:48 PM
1

I will support and exaggerate: Have options. If she sees other women see you as a dateable person, she will wonder if she should too. Now, she knows youre a pussy who is nice to her\friends with her hopefully just to be friends, and at worst to try and bed her. If you have options, she will ask herself why didn't she see you as a man. And if she won't? at least you stopped being a wuss and her friend just to get laid, and maybe find a woman to be with.
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:34 PM
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Well some of ours are: 1. Do mingle and go out later I get hit on by people who come and go, not weekly people. If they never saw me before, they flirt - after 2-3 times they usually cool off, unless we solo dance, then because I am always happy to dance with any woman - be it a 20 yo hottie or a 60 yo grandma, and try my best to be good at it (smile, posture, leading properly) they appreciate the effort and compliment me and this makes other women approach me (which again, turns out to be not w…
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:30 PM
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Do you want to be looked at as a probable friend? or as the possible boyfriend? State your intentions clearly - if you don't, you'll be labeled as friend.
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:08 PM
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Go to social dancing. Changed my life for the better, I literally get hit on almost always there because apparently I am not ugly and being fit and overdressing has its perks, and I actually learn and improve on my dancing which gives me even more confidence. DO IT!
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:00 PM
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I went through a lot of stuff from classic influencers on youtube.. While I cannot point precisely to the effect it had on me, the fun thing is now gay dudes hit on me and women arent 100% sure I am straight from the get go. Over grooming makes you look dandy.. If, however, you do it for yourself (I like to stand out and I couldn't care less if gay dudes try to pick me up), I suggest going with bright and non standard colors. I've been asked about it by random women before, and it's hilarious. I…
/r/seduction16/06/21 02:29 PM
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My take is you are young, maybe high school age. If shes around you, she likes you. Make a move. If you dont, youll be friends until she gives up on you, and then shell find someone else. ​ MAKE A MOVE!
/r/seduction16/06/21 09:11 AM
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Imma give my 2 cents and those of you who are more fluent in this correct me if I am wrong. You approached from behind = might've startled her. Always approach from side\front so she can see you and not be threatened. You went full physical. Could've gone with something more flirty like, I don't know what you did yesterday, but you hair looks stunning today. I personally try to compliment style\clothing\jewelry\smile\energy which are less something she's born with and more something she's in con…
/r/seduction15/06/21 08:28 PM
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Running, swimming, cycling. Anything aerobic.
/r/seduction15/06/21 06:23 PM
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Ok, more info then. Do you have a guy friend, who is not into you, who will give you the honest truth about your looks? I don't trust women on women when it comes to this. They won't tell it to your face. I am not saying this to offend - I am saying this because your environment might be too.. well.. dickless to say it. For men from the get-go, looks >> everything else. Sad, but true. Either that, or you talk to people about having their babies all the time, because I cannot think of why they wo…
/r/seduction15/06/21 05:12 AM
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Bodyweight, I lift and squad more than my own weight at this point quite easily. If gyms are closed and you're overweight, start cardio. You wont loose as much as compound effort (lifting + cardio) but it's something. Half the loss for me was a calorie deficit and 25 miles of tempo running a week.
/r/seduction15/06/21 05:00 AM
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How about not being an idiot? have you tried that? No? No wonder.
/r/seduction14/06/21 10:48 AM
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Brutality time: for me, there are 3 types of women: Those who I would really wanna bone. Those who I would probably wanna bone. Those who I would not. It's not standards. I'm just not attracted. For men, from my experience, from the get-go the looks are more important than confidence/character. You might've started at 3 but if I talked to you, I moved you to 2 due to your energy or you being into me, but usually it's predetermined, and very raw. If they don't respond to you, imna go and say it's…
/r/seduction14/06/21 10:24 AM
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Stop jacking it - Im serious, that shit is like 80% of the problem, next 20% is act as if you are surrounded by ass. Build body tolerance by doing activities with women around you. DONT go dancing and have boners left and right. DO go to the beach and talk to women, and men. Once you can go to a yoga class and NOT stare at ass - GO to yoga class and NOT stare at ass to improve resistance. Then, flirt with said ass. You might be under the impression that I value one particular body part more than…
/r/seduction14/06/21 09:04 AM
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Depends on the place. And how good you look/smell. Also, on her mood, mostly. You have eye contact - if you had it twice - go for it. If not, you can still go for it, but less of a chance. Examples: Was in a line, it got stuck. Two girls in front of me started talking how they dont see what happened. I leaned forward to them and told them "I'm a bit taller, lemme check" I checked - and saw nothing, so I tell them "We're stuck for no reason" with a smile looking one of them in the eyes. Then I tu…
/r/seduction14/06/21 08:55 AM
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Social dancing, talking to strangers in lines, going out with friends, trying new things, smiling a lot because you are actually happy. Not giving too much of a fuck.
/r/seduction13/06/21 09:15 PM
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Thats your dick.
/r/seduction13/06/21 01:47 PM
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A place where you can interact with women would be a good start. Or if you have a friend who is good at it.
/r/seduction13/06/21 01:32 PM
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How good looking are you? do men ask you out? if not - get to the point where gay dudes hit on you. This is a good indicator of you being good looking - women are more subtle about it, and you probably wont know hints or how hot you are prior. Do you fap? stop freaking watching porn and fapping. 50+ days of not jizzing and youll be climbing walls just to talk to anything with a pair of tits. And your energy, if you can hold it in, will be crazy. I have some fucking presence, despite being a bit …
/r/seduction13/06/21 01:29 PM
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Be casual about it? It's just a date :)
/r/seduction13/06/21 07:10 AM
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Its more like, know what you do, be busy, live an interesting life. When I talk to men (and women), I am the interesting person. I've done some pretty extreme shit in my life (work related), and seen some shit most don't. I work my butt off, I socialize, I look like a functioning human being. It's more than most do, and that's attractive.
/r/seduction13/06/21 06:31 AM
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Men and women notice if your'e well built. You will NEVER hear this from women, unless you coax them and they are comfortable with you in a non sexual way, then they will tell you you look great. Hit the gym, work out, look like a presentable human being.
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:44 PM
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No shit sherlock. I get away with stupid flirting only because I am so slim and toned people think I starve myself (I run and work out a lot, and eat whatever the hell I want, I just dont eat a lot). Also get hit upon. Flattering. I'd say go for proportions.. 1.6 CWR. 0.9 WHR. decent musculature on your arms, some form of showing off you veins..
/r/seduction12/06/21 08:00 AM
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I was yesterday social dancing. I go there to interact with new people, learn to actually fucking dance, and maybe meet women. After I was done practicing today's lesson, I sat on the bench besides a guy and a chick. Anyway, I think the guy made some stupid comment about her openable pant being sexy (she bragged to me and her other friend before about it allowing her to cool off faster, showing skin in the process to me and another girl) and one of them asked me for my opinion. ME having some fu…
/r/seduction11/06/21 10:37 AM
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Can we not call them females? whats wrong with women? Otherwise you are 100% correct. They want confidence and energy. YOU get those by either fucking a lot of women or achieving something in your damn life. Since clearly porking doesnt work out - go for B, for now, but dont stop chasing A.
/r/seduction11/06/21 10:27 AM
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Tell you what, even if you look good, they dont just fall down on to you. Granted, at 5"8 and 150 lbs I get attention, but its: a. Usually not the attention I am actively seeking b. Dudes So while it might help, its not the end all be all thing. I find that having shit going in your life makes you more interesting to interact with - and makes you much less inclined to make women run away because you're too needy. Should've seen to look on some of the girls I told yesterday I am not returning to …
/r/seduction11/06/21 10:16 AM
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The intentions part is hard. Hey I think you're cute, and I probably wanna pork you seems a bit too.. vulgar?
/r/seduction11/06/21 05:58 AM
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I've found that me being mixed race (and neither of them is considered particularly attractive) doesn't help my cause. Then again, who knows, maybe its all in my head. But thats something we need to deal with.
/r/seduction10/06/21 10:26 AM
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Social dancing.
/r/seduction10/06/21 10:23 AM
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Give her space probably, 2 dates in 2 days is very intense. Let her stew a bit. You can try to contact her again in a couple of days - if shes down, shell respond.
/r/seduction05/06/21 06:23 PM
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Work a full time job - preferable NOT FROM HOME! - It takes time and gives you the resources for everything that comes next Stop beating your meat, start beating a punching bag Hit the gym When not in the gym, go for running with a running group Rekindle old friendships if you can Form new ones with co-workers Start being interesting by having hobbies that you can talk about. Most people don't give a fuck about video games and TV shows - If you're busy living, you dont have time for that crap. A…
/r/seduction05/06/21 11:07 AM
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Next time maintain eye contact and smile a bit I guess. You never know. I feel ya, something like this happened to me not an hour ago as well :/
/r/seduction05/06/21 10:45 AM
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I cannot stress this enough - If you don't have a life - who the heck would want to share that with you? Especially today, when you have all the options in the world to enjoy life like never before..
/r/seduction03/06/21 02:04 PM
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Well, that depends to whom. Dance with her to see her vibe. Is she extra happy to see you and bothers talking to you? do you get extra attention? more eye playing? do you stand out in the crowd coz you look good? Maybe - there is no 100%. The way it's done (Have a friend who coupled up with a girl from a social dancing event, who are together 3 years now) is you tell her you like her scarf or her energy and ask her out for a drink. So this is funny. I'm in a similar position although a bit diffe…
/r/seduction03/06/21 11:55 AM
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Yea overtexting and over eager responses kill attraction. Its more of a how readily you give your attention to a woman.. If you give it very readily, this means you dont value it, or dont get a lot of traffic. Both are turn offs. Besides, all she needs to do to find another one is bat her eyelashes, usually. You will probably never be approached IRL if you're a dude, unless you're literally Adonis. Women will co-operate with you more tho if you're decent looking++, so you must be her taste, or e…
/r/seduction03/06/21 06:35 AM
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Lemme hijack this: what about asking people for what exercise they are doing and showing genuine interest in them? It's really hard starting talking to people there, I haven't hit on anyone but the few people i actually talk to are people with whom I did sets\ spotted for.
/r/seduction02/06/21 07:08 PM
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Youre talking to a girl who reads? ask/tell about one of the many books youve read, but dont talk about it too much. You're traveling a lot? tell a cool story about that time when you did 30 miles of walking in museums in one day. You're social dancing? tell her about the time you danced with a 6.5 ft. dude who pretended to be a girl, because he was teaching you. You're a photographer? tell her about that time you crashed into a cigar bar and ended up doing a random photoshoot with like 7 differ…
/r/seduction02/06/21 06:02 PM
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This. Text to get a vibe, don't overshare (It's for inperson or later) don't talk about boring/negative shit (It sucks), keep some of the cool stuff for yourself (Create interest), be playful (all's good) and get to the point (date).
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:57 AM
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I'll throw in my example of why I agree with just doing it anyway: social dancing event, many people go to the side, because they are bored, tired or didnt find someone they wanna dance with. I talk to some of them in search of victims to practice my beginner moves, and build connections (I've started very recently). Talked to this one chick near the end, very pretty, and she starts the convo by "I need to get going". We talk a bit, and a few minutes in I notice she's not going anywhere for some…
/r/seduction01/06/21 05:46 PM
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I've had this happen to me at this point more than a handful of times. Most keep minding their business, some of them stare (I hear this is good, had one that literally sat and looked at me dead on, not lowering her gaze at least 15 seconds), others play with their hair. I am a bit older than you and really unexperienced at this so I also have no idea wtf is going on. I've had one time I passed a great looking woman, and both of us were with earphones but I heard something weird. I turn back, an…
/r/seduction19/05/21 08:51 AM
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Want them to really flake on you? Ask them out. Get rejected. Move on.
/r/seduction10/05/21 08:57 PM
6

Yea we need to gild that ass. That's like the second coming of Shakespeare.
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:14 PM
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A person at work cannot in essence escape you. If you're struck by her, try to be polite and direct, but know that this is not the place for long small talk and they constantly get hit on by idiots as baristas or waitresses. Asking a woman's number in different settings tho, thats something else. Do that. Also, dont listen to women's dating advice. Its wrong at best, harmful at worst.
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:09 PM
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God the takeaway from this story is I need a dog. Also I am flirting tomorrow with every fucking dog I see just to get to the owner. Maybe put some ham in my shoe... But to the point, I'd do what Corey Wayne would've said. Give her space, contact after exam, a bit of small talk and set a date.
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:35 PM
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He would bang a goat if there was one there, but since there isnt one, hes going for her.
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:31 PM
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Its not mind games, its how they think. And you have to agree that there is logic there, if a bit skewed from our point of view. And why would she bother answering you if you called unannounced? A few might interpret that as balls, but most will probably not answer. If you wanna give us statistics for the sub, we're more than willing to take it, but this is my guess based on my humble experiences with women. If I contacted them quickly, attraction died. If I was too busy and didn't give them att…
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:26 PM
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She could be not into you, or she might think youre needy. I had a woman flee me after she flirted with me so hard I did not have it happen to me before (Told her Im going to the loire valley when the corona is done, and she just said, "take me with you"), got the number, contacted her 3 days later, and 4 days of back and forth (WAY TOO MUCH TEXTING) bam - Im not looking for anything right now. Right. IMO, you came off needy. If you get a number every day (like you can, if you can get a number i…
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:12 PM
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How quickly did you contact her? Should've waited a couple days.
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:06 PM
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So far I myself was usually dickless. I approached asking random dumb questions. I hope to try tomorrow something more concrete as I will be out all day doing my own shit (as an excuse for day game). I found the eye contact exercise to be an interesting eye opener(pun intended). Some will look at you, some will look at you then actively not look at you at all costs (I love this one, I find it hilarious, tho I am not sure if its complete dis-interest or an invitation to speak. I guess I need to s…
/r/seduction06/05/21 06:47 PM
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Not gonna be able to draw women to you if you're hurt inside. Treat yourself and find the root cause of the problems. If its physical, then you're in control. If it's mental, then you're going to have to treat it. And I am saying this as someone who had to, and still has to deal with BOTH. And It's much worse than my post history, trust me. Make a list of all that you aspire to be, and work towards that perfect self. Then you can advertise it properly.
/r/seduction06/05/21 06:38 PM
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Damn, Im a dude and i got hard from that speech. 10/10 It was glorious, def wanna try something so cheesy..
/r/seduction06/05/21 01:15 PM
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This is hilarious, Im trying this one out when i find my balls to do that. I'd like to attempt to elaborate this with giving similar names or variations of the same name and finally then give my real one at the end. Too try hard in your opinion?
/r/seduction01/05/21 06:08 AM
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Dude this is golden advice.. Holy heck. This is how its done. Seriously best damn comment I read today.
/r/seduction29/04/21 08:33 PM
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Dude your original comment made my day! I laughed at it myself. Laugh away, if we don't laugh at our mistakes, well just be sad all the time. Besides, I now have a story of how I torpedoed a casual night out of a pair with my "ranting".
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:58 PM
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You learn as you go, I've seen situations like this happen, the appropriate response when i make people guess my age and they inevitably fail (I look younger than i am, thanks baby face jesus!) They say something like "you look good for your age", and better yet, "I wouldve never guessed". You win some, you loose some. Hopefully they'll brush it off as newbie game. And you'll improve as you go.
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:04 PM
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Just to help you understand, I tried to engage them both, it was highly relevant for them due to more context I am not willing to share, we had enough in common, and they happen to meet somebody from my workplace, so its not like i was lying to them. And i didnt tell them anything I wasnt asked about :D I only answered questions and elaborated on their views. Didnt patronize or bullshit them. All 3 of us took a similar path in life, and i am a few steps forward due to my age, so i shared my expe…
/r/seduction29/04/21 01:36 PM
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It's more the realization that we are not passive - we don't wait for guys to talk to us. Like, I've been hit on by both women and men, but women will not, in most cases, make moves. The guys? straight up asked me if I was hot for sausage (unfortunately, I am not). ​ This is why the cards are ours - we make the first move, and they play what they get., if they want to.
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:21 AM
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God knows this is great advice. If youre a woman, life deals you cards - if youre a man, you take your own cards. Nothing will happen from itself, its what we do that makes everything happen.
/r/seduction28/04/21 05:55 PM
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So what makes someone attractive at all then? In your opinion? Since you say you arent attractive.. Genuinely asking, 29M
/r/seduction16/03/21 09:35 AM
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Work out till you look in the mirror and what looks back at you is something you can appreciate. Took me a year and a half, but now i am pretty content with what i see. And what i am not content about, i aim to rectify. Women and Men will notice you when you are content with yourself, and are physically attractive enough. Two months ago i was hit upon for the first time in my life so aggressively i actually noticed it when it was happening. She chatted me up, and threw signs so big even my dumb …
/r/seduction16/03/21 08:39 AM
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