I have my mind on the right place, and in every aspect of my life things are constantly improving. I stopped looking for women's validation and now I understand that I could live my whole life without getting to connect with someone, and it wouldn't be that bad.

But whenever I get back to try and improve ma "dating skills" I just fall back down. I realize that most of what I do is pointless and I'm just spending energy into something I won't anything out of it. I'm not searching a bunch of sexual partners, or even a girlfriend for that matter. What I really want is to transition from the guy that girls where never interested into to a man that they want, or at least one of them lol.

With philosophy I learn that wishing to be desired is being enslaved by those who you want to desire you, and that's how I live my life. But whenever I come back to trying, I come back to that feeling I had months ago. The amazing guy that everyone loves and respect but no one desires.

How did you deal with this on your path to becoming attractive?