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THIS.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 11:22 AM
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🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:03 PM
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Looking back, I don't know why I put in so much effort for him when I was getting nothing in return. Me too sister - plus about 5 million+ other sisters have endured this as well. I know you know this, but just sending a shout out - you are NOT alone! 🤗 I was so desperate to be loved by him. Never was. 🤡 This is me too, 💯 EDIT: Thanks for the upvotes ladies, I love seeing them, it reminds me of how we have all been through it, and we are all trying to improve our situations in SISTERHOOD! ☺️🤗❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:26 AM
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Same here girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:18 PM
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Ah yes, the ever so common stereotype of the nagging wife, who complains and always has a “headache” whenever the suffering husband wants to “love” his wife with sex.. And the odd part is that the older we get, the more this stereotype gets applied! And this type of stereotype kills the fact that you pointed out, regarding older women enjoying sex more. Of course they label us as “cougars” if we openly enjoy sex with men of all ages. Media influences the mindset of men dominating women in bed so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:48 AM
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Wow, that’s a very good point, never thought about that kind of possibility! It makes me think of the days of old, when whore houses were a norm in the US. And imagine if a subsidy like this did come into play sometime in the future. It would be so disappointing to see the masses of men that would trample on others to get their subsidy. It would be disappointing, but not too much of a surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:18 AM
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I know this is obvious, but I’m still gonna say it: The truth is that men would LOVE to have prostitutes always available to get them off, any place, anytime. They would love to shout out to their homies and the world that they love sex workers. But modern society morals - which were also created by MEN - forbids a “decent man” to openly visit prostitutes and get “needs met.” So in turn they forcibly turn their loving wife or girlfriend into the “cute little whore” they always wanted, always ava…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:26 AM
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Wow, your ex was a total ass. Glad you have a real prince now. ☺️ ...but “baby dick” cracked me up, haven’t heard that since Always Sunny in Philadelphia!! 😆😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:18 PM
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100% true, even tall men prefer shorter women mostly. Check out this article showing Shaq and his shorter girlfriend(hopefully the link shows) - i really hope he prefers her for her beauty and personality, and not for their unbelievable height difference height difference. Scroll down to see the pic of them together, it’s crazy: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/shaq-hoopz-picture-2011-8%3famp It’s a sick “dominance” turn on they have. They want to control women, so a lot of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:39 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:14 PM
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LOL, you’re absolutely RIGHT!!! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:13 PM
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Seriously, you are SO right! From a lot of rough experiences with men online And Offline, I feel like only 10% of them make the actual “cut!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:09 AM
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👍🏾 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:07 AM
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On a prior FDS post, a fellow Sis shared her horrid experience that she had from a post on another subreddit(or forum) a few months back. On that post she had talked about how she prefers a certain kind of “penis.” The aftermath was HUGE piles of hateful messages, DMs and replies from different men that were totally butthurt that she had the “audacity” to have a preference! They were so damned insecure. But if they post their preference it’s okay, right? 😡 I think she said she was doing a “study…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:07 AM
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OMG, are you SERIOUS?! That’s some real nerve - sounds like tall dude had a “short man complex!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:57 AM
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LOL, yep - but truly, it is a shame 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:46 PM
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So you see, that LVM isn’t abusing you. You’re just his Harley Quinn. Damn, I felt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:06 PM
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LOL Exactly! Back when I was 19, I thought this guy was just a low IQ’d idiot that had a mental issue or something. Fast forward forward 21 years, and now at 40 I gained enough experience in relationships to see that 90%+ of men have the ignorant and privileged mindset to think like this ALL THE TIME!!!! 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:17 PM
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Thanks Sis - you ladies are my extended family! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:57 AM
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When i was 19, I helped my first boyfriend (20, but he prolly was lying and was older) get his first job. I supported his success and made him lunch on his first day to show him support and encouragement 🙄 When he came to my house to pick it up, I gave him a kiss goodbye and his breath was totally STANK. I asked him if he brushed his teeth and he said, “No, I didn’t have time because I had to rush out of the house for work!” (BTW, he actually thought that from that day forward I would make his l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:56 AM
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Seriously...if you go too long without washing yourself you can get damn infections, rashes and shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:44 AM
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Her HUSBAND?! Seriously heck no, I would have left him as SOON as this happened - provided that he wasn’t sick or something, and he did this shit(literally) while having a healthy body and sound mind 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:43 AM
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Oh f*ck that and his literal "mini me" too, LOL...my ex boyfriend would fart around me too, until I couldn't be "cute girl polite" anymore checked him with, "Babe, was that your ASS just now?!" LOL it's like are you SERIOUS DUDES? REALLY? Ever since I was a teenager, I had to literally wipe my Dad's piss oFf the toilet EVERY TIME I had to go. I get grossed out touching germy stuff, so this really got to me everytime I had to do it. Oh what a lovely "hygienic" childhood, LOL... Us siblings are al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:58 PM
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This is one of the reasons why I married my ex-husband. Yes, he was an asshole in the end, but one thing I was really pleased with was that he did not piss all over the toilet seat like my DAD did! And no pee drops on the floor either, AND he washed his hands after going to the restroom 😱 Mom would nag and nag about this, until she gave up. I would nag too but dad got defensive. These men are f**king nasty by nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:22 PM
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Eh, I don’t like bald guys either. And not all of them can pull off a bald head - ‘course The Rock can 😍 but he’s an exception to me LOL. But hey, if they can’t afford transplant , or just too lazy to make an effort, then shave it off! 🤷‍♀️ At least they won’t look “patchy” 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:40 PM
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My major turn off is men with receding hairlines, or when they are balding but REFUSE to give up that one hair patch on the top of his head. Its SO UNATTRACTIVE! The problem is that society doesn't push them to take care of this really, REALLY unattractive problem. Like it's okay, but alot of us women are totally turned off by a dude that's sporting a "monkish" hairstyle. Even our own president tries to hide his balding with a HORRIBLE combover. He's super rich enough to get a million transplant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:57 PM
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The last time I saw my ex, who was actively trying to win me back, he came over wearing an old, worn t-shirt with TONS OF HOLES. When I criticized him about his appearance, he told me that this was the way he dressed FOR WORK! I was so disgusted that I went to my room, grabbed one of his old shirts that I still had, and, made him put that on before I even gave him a chance to talk. Yeesh, only the guys in movies actually care how they look, outside of events which force them to look their best. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:47 PM
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I am a PhD student with two full time masters degree and 12 years of experience with investment banking. I don't think it has mattered that much to men so far. Yes, I totally agree. During my career I had worked at a popular Hollywood movie studio for 5 years, and have had my name on a few movie titles. When i tell folks this, there’s always a “oh, that’s cool! What did you do there?” type of response. I don’t brag about it or anything, but sometimes I share stories. Anyways, you would think tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:44 PM
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AWESOME, AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME!!!! 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:58 PM
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Yes, and we have to gain the strength to see those red flags and RUN! Too bad a lot of us ignore the red flags until we’re knee deep in relationships with them. I’m guilty of that, but I’ve learned to see one and run to the hills, after being burned way too many times. “Live and learn is definitely a true statement. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:53 AM
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My ex-guy’s threat was “inconvenience because no sex” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:48 AM
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Better to have wasted a few years than a few years+1 day..they are not worth it and never will be I like this saying. Makes me feel like it’s not too late, y’know? I spent 15 years with my ex husband, and almost 6 years with my ex boyfriend. They were both LVM but My ex boyfriend was the worst for me. The longer we were together, the more he would show me how much of a train wreck he was. We were always “on again” and “off again” because I would get fed up with his lack of fulfilling my needs. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:37 AM
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I do agree 100%. Even the ladies who are just starting to “get out more” will make attempts to do something as simple as going for a daily walk for fresh air before a man would! A lot of “female empowerment” media push the idea on us to go out there and “bring color to your life,” which is good. But you don’t see these ideas pushed on men. For men the most ultimate “going out” promoted is going to a bar or club to catch some “tail,” or going to Vegas to get drunk and get “laid” (the default medi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:16 AM
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GOD yes, I can’t wait to feel this 100% 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:20 PM
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Damn, you’re right. Having a big heart leads to big disappointments when it comes to loving a man. Believe me, I know from personal experiences 😩💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:47 AM
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I work as an applications developer. At my last job, my pay was $68,000, but my coworker, an Indian woman NOT from America, with a big and gentle heart, had the same job as me but received only $45,000 a year. She never argued that the pay was too low, she just took it unfortunately. I mean I already knew that I received lower pay because I was a woman, but to pay that lower amount to her, because she’s a woman AND from another country, is just downright conniving, sexist, and shows how much we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:57 PM
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Geez my dude, that’s only the price of TWO BIG MAC MEALS! 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:49 AM
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Thanks so much! Today I’m making him a big all American breakfast, pancakes and all :) I’ve been doing lots of special things for him this weekend, I’m so proud of him, and he deserves to know that he is special to me always ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:44 PM
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I’m so sorry this happened to you and your children. Your babies were brainwashed by a psychopath, and you were so loyal and all he did was pay you back with abuse and no appreciation. I hope that he gets what he deserves. But even if his life doesn’t get hit hard, he WILL suffer in the end. I also feel your pain - my ex married his younger mistress. She’s 5 years younger than i am, but that might make a difference to him being attracted to her, i dunno 🤷‍♀️ Anyways, this happened after years of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:13 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I totally feel your pain. Something similar happened to me and my ex husband, only on a lower scale - I think I’ll post it on this thread. Anyways, I too have emotional scars that are so hard to heal. Not to mention finding another partner after the storm is very hard and disenchanting, especially since men get more conniving and damaging to women as they get older. I hope you find your healing and peace someday 🙏❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:25 AM
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OMG, this is a AWESOME IDEA!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:03 AM
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LOL @ “missing a testicle and wanted to make up for it....” I know it wasn’t Meant to be laughable, but this was funny as heck!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:01 AM
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My ex was jealous too - he always had penis insecurity issues. But I would stop that shit every time - told him that I deserved to get off too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:57 AM
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There’s a Reddit post on how a husband locked his wife’s dildo up until he ALLOWED her to use it. That was the last straw for her, so she left 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:54 AM
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Are you serious?! Insecure x 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:53 AM
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This one Youtuber gave this same advice. He aid that if a guy asks, “So, what are you looking for?” the. The guy just wants to know so he can learn to “fake” what you want, so you will fall for him and give him sex. He recommended to just respond with something like, “I like to just get to know a person, and see if we mesh.” This Youtuber is a guy that’s admits to having been an LVM in the past, but now has a “no nonsense” wife who has “schooled him” real quick and now he’s turned into a religio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:39 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:26 AM
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Sure no problem! It always helps to find fellow women that go through the same thing. FDS has been a major comfort to me in that right. I’ll feel like the only woman in the world that went through “x” but then 5+ others will say “me too!” And then I’ll feel more “normal” again, LOL...yeah, I’m sure we’ll level up, and with what FDS has taught us we’ll be patient and choose men to our liking. I wish there was an OLD platform that would at least filter out the broke guys or the less ambitious ones…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:12 PM
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Wait a minute OP, am I right when I say that your original post was in OUR FDS forum, and yet you got tons of comments from men that are stalking our subreddit, and lurking in the shadows?! If I’m right than OHMIGOD, these dudes are even CREEPIER than I can ever imagine!!! 😱😱😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:04 PM
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Yeah, I tried doing that myself. I first tried OLD(online dating) full throttle last year -nothing but weirdos and some ghosting. Then my ex boyfriend, who was also an OLD scrote, f’d up my life over jealousy(that’s another story) so for my mental health I had to take a major break from it...fast forward to quarantine time. I’m 30 pounds overweight due to PTSD after my last ex boyfriend, and normally i try to wait until I lose my excess fat to start any dating, but I was extremely lonely and des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:34 AM
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LOL 😂 😆 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:39 AM
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And don’t get me started on their ugly ass, no effort OLD PROFILE PICS!!! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:36 AM
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Oh yeah, ALL THE TIME. The girls would just casually talk about their “boyfriend.” One girl told me and my friends in choir class her boyfriend was I think 23 and she was 17. She must have saw the look of shock on our faces because she then said “I know he’s a lot older but he’s really sweet and...” The word “sweet” was always used when a girl described a grotesque or abusive trait of their loser boyfriends... Another girl I knew that was 16 had a 21+ “fiancée” while in high school. The poor gir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:04 AM
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My “Ewww” factor is when guys always ask for full body pics as soon as you have the first convo! It is so CREEPY to me when they ask for them. Alot of the guys are scrubby and shabby looking, and sloppy/ gross looking, yet they have the nerve to ask me to show them every nook and cranny for their “approval.” The other day, one guy the other day kept asking me, even after I told him that his vibe was too “sexually charged” and weirding me out. He also kept pressuring me to meet him the same day w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:49 AM
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Me four, seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:28 AM
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Times were tough...tried to pawn my diamond engagement ring after divorce...turns out it was CUBIC ZIRCONIA...after 15 years together...”fake” engagement ring = Not Cute/romantic + I HATE IT! 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:33 AM
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Raising my hand too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:02 PM
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EXACTLY!!! This is why I made a decision a week ago to always keep protection on my person, whenever ANY man is around...even around male family members!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:55 PM
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You are so right...I was thinking something like this as well. Whenever I discuss tragic stories of women getting abused or manipulated, my Mom pauses and says that “not all men” line. And the sad thing is that she was almost assaulted when she was younger as well. So i know she denies it so she won’t have to re-live her past trauma. IMO, The reality is that approx 90% of men are total LVM/NVM. It’s horrible that it’s this way, but the quicker we accept this, the quicker we can arm ourselves wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:29 AM
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YEAH YUH!!! 😎 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:20 AM
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I get tired of women saying to other women, “Well, it isn’t ALL men...” My Mom and Sister say that every time I bring up how men oppress women. Yes I KNOW it’s not all men, but can you stop acting like an advocate FOR men and just focus on speaking on solidarity with ME?! Just the other day, I was on r/datingafterforty. A woman had made a post about her getaway with her boyfriend. She had said that whole time he treated her, which should be celebrated, right? Well instead she got a HUGE amount o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:09 PM
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“You saw ANKLE BONE ?” -Key and Peele 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:52 PM
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LOL, I’ve gotta seen that article 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:29 PM
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Damn, this is SO TRUE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:28 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:00 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate that :) I was saying most of my reply from experience. I’m close to 5’9 and was always taller than the other kids. However I was very timid and meek, thus got bullied a lot and had to defend myself. Unfortunately, I spent time in all day detention right along with the bullies, since i was swinging right back at them. Later I realized I was in a sense “lucky,” because the outcome could have been suspension or eventually expulsion. But still, those damned schools... And oh yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:41 PM
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I agree with the martial arts, but it would be dangerous for him to physically defend girls that are being bullied with violence. And when I say dangerous, I mean mainly dangerous to his school record, not so much amongst other boys(though he also has to be careful of posible gang members or guys sneaking in weapons). I mean i guess if the girl is getting bullied by a bunch of guys, and he says “leave her alone” and they start pushing him, etc. I can see that scenario, but only if she’s bullied …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:12 PM
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Just don’t get pulled over while you’re wearing a nightie, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:59 AM
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I’d LOVE a 6’3 man. Then I can feel more confident wearing heels on a date 👠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:40 AM
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HURRAH, tall Sis here too 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:39 AM
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Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:05 AM
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Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:18 PM
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Yep, and I’m glad you didn’t let his mess up Marc change your mindset. All a girl has to do is look her best, take care of herself inside and out, and in the right time and place you’ll have guys flock all over you. All the while he’ll struggle finding chicks...screw him!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:58 PM
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I LOVE reading sh*t like this! Freakin’ HILARIOUS, and even made me feel like I even got some kind of “revenge satisfaction” for all the crap guys put me through over the years!!! Guys getting a taste of their own medicine - YEAH!!!!!!😁👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:55 PM
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YEAH - YEAH! I think someone on FDS shared one post where the husband kept pressuring the wife to have an open marriage, and the wife finally caved in. However, he couldn’t find one partner to sleep with, while the wife had multiple partners she slept with. He was jealous and felt inadequate, of course ☺️ They agreed to only do it for a few months, and when he told her that it was time to end it, she said that she wanted to continue with it for longer since they had some Interruption that forced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:47 PM
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My Dad is the ONLY male i know that doesn’t talk a whole lot. Everyone else always talks over people and swear they’re the expert in everything! “See what you need to do is...” 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:41 PM
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Hell yes he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:39 PM
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No problem at all Sis...and that's a good approach with the kids. I never had a chance to do call any kids out yet, but I have a 10 year old and try to watch out for him - the apple don't fall too far from the tree ;) But nowadays it seems like kids are more "accepting" of this kind of black youth. So here's for hoping that the "white accusations" have curbed alot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:58 PM
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Well, I know that for me it didn’t help my mental health growing up, so along with other trauma I’ve experienced, it’s a layer that needs to be addressed. I’m close to 40 now and that stereotypical crap doesn’t happen that much, but I still need to work on mending those past wounds. I’m coming to terms with it my own way, so to each her own! 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:33 AM
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EXTREMELY infuriating. I got this “proper” and “talking white” like this my entire childhood. It was so bad it’s included in my therapy visits, and I REFUSE to go back to my high school reunions! Oh, and don’t forget the “Oreo” line, that ones a classic 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:08 PM
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“She’s so ARTICÚLATE!” All my life 😡 I even had a television interview, and I heard this local older white woman say in the background the all so famous “articulate” line. UGH!!! 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:05 PM
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I totally get where you’re coming from my fellow sister. I’m genuinely speaking from my heart when I say that I SO wish I didn’t have to think this way. That there was some man that was actually 100% loving and respectful, and sent to me by God. But there never were, and in my case, I don’t think there ever will be :( I think it also depends on the LVM/NVM. For example my ex husband, who was a narcissist, was at first mad at me because I left him for not giving up his mistress, but once I was go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:39 AM
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Tbh women get villianized for “getting under someone to get over someone” but men do it like it’s nothing. They will jump from person to person without any time truly being single...it’s something common that men do. This happened to me 2 TIMES.. My ex-husband married his mistress one month after our divorce Next I dated this guy for 4 years and broke up with him...later I found out that he slept with another woman a WEEK after we broke up! I thank you for pointing out this heartbreaking fact: T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:19 AM
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Thanks for the reply, I read every word :) I love it, despite the adversity that both of you have faced in your life, you have found each other and are creating a beautiful life together. What’s really unique is that you gave him love, and he actually appreciated what you gave him, and gave it right back to you! In my experience, I gave my ALL to the men that I dated, ans the man i eventually married. And not ONE of them appreciated it. I think for me my path will be years of practicing self-lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:41 AM
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Me too sister, me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:30 AM
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This gives me hope, after a long period of suffering, heartache and pain. Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful experience! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:18 AM
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Yep, from the rich to the poor, all men get away with this crap. And society does nothing to fix it because it’s RULED by men who do not want to change it because they’re the same damned way! 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:12 AM
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Surely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:11 PM
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“Special Bench...”. 😂😂😂😂😂😂 OMG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:10 PM
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“Grey area” my ass 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:37 AM
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I greatly appreciate your sentiment fellow Sis ❤️ I’m just saying that putting each other down when we share is not the way to go, if a fellow asks is trying to get your point across, or share a testimony, that’s all 😊thanks for the well wishes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:40 PM
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Thanks so much :) Yes, you are right. I normally don’t post my story on FDS for fear of “girl, you’re stupid to have stayed so long” back lash, but here goes, so please be kind: The thing is he went psycho on me out of jealousy - we were getting together again after a breakup, and we had agreed that casually dating was okay. But he went crazy when he found out i was actually doing it. I only told him i was dating other people because he kept bragging to me about the girls he was dating while we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:46 PM
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You’re preaching to the choir! I’ve done everything you’ve listed in my relatjonships, ALL of Them. I remember my first boyfriend, i encouraged him to get a job, even made his lunch for his first day! Today I just let go with a man that refused to sacrifice for me, to the extent that i would for him. He is so selfish, I’ve been struggling financially for months BECAUSE of him, and it turns out that he lead me on with false promises and lies. After me interrogating him, he admitted that he put of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:54 AM
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Girl him, Kevin Hart, Jay-Z, Bill Clinton, John F Kennedy, Donald Trump, etc...basically 99% of men cheat. Celebrities are just more in the limelight so it's more visual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:29 AM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through this! This type of denial is so damned common it's extremely disturbing. And it's doubly painful when it's your sibling because you expect to have an ally with them, but often times that's not the case. Old traditions of denial go through generations of families, even with our resources of reporting abuse and harassment these days. It's amazing to me how human behavior doesn't change. We never seem to evolve from victim blaming :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:20 AM
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Yep, very, very sad...so now I'm focusing as much as I can on building a life without any grown men to hold me back. The idea is still fresh in my head, and I'm still trying to recover since I'm still pretty bad off mentally from all the trauma, but this is the end goal since any positive reality with a man seems damned near impossible anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:16 AM
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Wow, this is very similar to my friend's situation - that's just crazy! I am very, VERY glad you have an ally in your father, and that you ended up living with him. I thought I used to have an ally with my Father against my Mother's ways, but as I got older he sided with her more and more. And my sister ALWAYS sides with my parents when I vent to her, and it reminded me of how she blamed me in the past for her husband coming on to me when I was only 19, gullible and naive. So now I see that patt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:11 AM
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So did I girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:21 PM
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I’ll be praying for you sister. We go through so much damn pain as women, and the culprits are often our own family members and close friends. Your case is of course extremely horrible and unjust, and I’m so sorry this happened to you. I have a friend who also went through having a horrible narcissistic mother. She and her sister ran away to her fathers house when they were both under 18, and her mother hated her for that for years. They have since reconciled but she keeps her distance for her o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:35 AM
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I’ve already talked about my experience in a past post, but when I confessed that my brother in law came on to me and tried to see how far I would go when I was an innocent 19 year old, my whole family turned on me because I “ruined everything.” I confessed 7 years after it happened during an argument with my sister, so my sister used how long I waited as an excuse to blame me for ruining everything. My Sister never left him and stood by him. What’s messed up is that me and my sister are close n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:24 PM
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HECK YEAH!!! This, 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:06 PM
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Damn, yeah, all that is really fucked up. So sorry you went through all that. I hope you’re in therapy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:05 PM
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My parents didn’t teach me to accept abuse, in fact they were quite the opposite when it came to men. But they taught me to be codependent, and the culture/media taught me to accept abuse from men. The original “princess stories” teach us to be submissive. The music videos teach us to be sexual playthings. The teenybopper shows also taught us to look cute and be submissive to teenage boys early on. And the list goes on... ...I personally was more influenced by the “princess culture” since I real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:52 AM
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This means that no man I've ever had a relationship has really cared that much about me. It's the hard f**kng truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:27 AM
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Thank you! Happy birthday month to you too Sis! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:25 AM
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Whoa, that’s deep. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:14 PM
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For me I had really horrible experiences with my ex husband, my Dad who tormented me when i moved back in after my separation, an insane ex boyfriend, and a narcissistic super mean boss before I found FDS. All this sequentially happened within a 19 year span of dealing with LVM’s(NOTE: my Dad’s not a LVM but he can be a big jerk at times). I had already started questioning men when i separated from my ex husband 5 years ago, and doing research then on the lack of empathy that men have. But after…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:23 AM
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Good for you, and Jordan Peterson is AWESOME!!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/20 07:18 AM
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Well actually I got a mix of both - some women sent me the FDS link directly in the comments, while others DM’d me. You’re definitely smart for being careful about where you would post the link. IMO i would do DM, that’s what I do at times. We definitely do have to protect this sub Reddit. It’s still baffles me when I get a response from the male trolls that have found out about FSS, then visit and start to harass us with hateful replies. Even though the moderators here at FDS are AWESOME and de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:05 AM
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I read that earlier too. It pissed me off so much and left me speechless! I sent her a PM to give advice on that, hopefully she read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:57 AM
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...y'know I actually expect to see some women being awful but almost everything had men being objectively the immoral asshole. That’s because they are the “asshole” 90% of the time. In my experience, at first I thought that each individual guy I’ve been in a relationship with were their own individual monsters, as they all did their own “unique” shit to me across the “jerk spectrum,” but then I saw similar repeated asshole behavior patterns in all of them - emotional manipulation, disregarding m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:55 AM
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It’s funny, I put some of my relationship drama in a reply on there, and I got a TON of ladies that sent me Reddit links to FDS! 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:41 AM
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I’m turning 40 next month 🎂 🎁 and it took me this long too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:40 AM
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Girl, you just saved years of your life. Congratulations! 🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:08 PM
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About 95% of us women have fell in love with potential. So yes, we feel that way, dear sister. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:07 PM
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LOL, the "shit crust" remark was BLECH!!! :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:44 AM
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Omigod, you're like the 4th woman on Reddit that had also said this happened to them as well! Wow, how many times does this happen to people, namely us women?! I appreciate your testimony for sure, as you I don't feel so alone anymore. But I am also very unhappy that this misfortune happened to you as well. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Yes, a few years later his sister confessed that no one in the family knew my ex was planning the wedding. In a sense that gave me a little closure, because up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:40 AM
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Damn, I wanna be like you when I grow up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:39 AM
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I feel your pain sister, but I gotta say I love your Cards Against Humanity reference 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:37 AM
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Oh hell yeah, when i didn’t desire sex as much anymore, my ex husband let his true colors out and totally ditched me for his mistress, married her a month after our divorce was final. Nobody knew he was capable of doing this, not even his Sis and Mom. I mean WHO DOES THAT?! I knew my ex was a sarcastic asshole, but i never thought he would do me like that. He loved me intensely for many years but as soon as I wasn’t putting out at his desired frequency, Mr. Hyde came out. He’s back to his Dr. Je…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:36 AM
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There was this one tweet that displayed a young gay man thanking the women in his life for being there for him and loving him, when he had NO male figures EVER in his life growing up. I mentioned that he was gay because i think this triggered a lot of straight guys’ “alpha/reptilian” hormones, because what then followed was a large number of male replies with the argument, “Well, if mothers ALLOWED the fathers to be in their kids’ lives, then most of these kids would have men in their lives!” I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:27 AM
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I think so too, there are touching WAY too many issues that we ladies deal with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:03 PM
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This is the most horrible thing I have ever read. Ohmigod. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:33 PM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I too am stuck in a very uncomfortable situation with my ex. Like me, you just have to take the steps to get out of these situations from hell. Until then, try to work on self love and peace of mind. God bless, and your not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:50 AM
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Same here sister, you’re not alone. ❤️🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:51 AM
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SAME HERE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:50 AM
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Damn, this is so REAL. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:50 AM
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THIS. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:49 AM
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Seriously, we are NOT the problem. Congrats OP, but your comment made me think of my past... This morning i thought about all the men I’ve dated. There’s only been 4 men that I’ve dated from 19-39 years old, and each one did me dirty and was the cause of our dating or relationship ending: -#1 wanted me to change religions, I said no and we broke up. -#2 was initially a friend i ended up dating. I really liked him, but he dumped me for his best girlfriend “fuck buddy” because i wouldn’t have sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:30 PM
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SAME HERE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:19 PM
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Honestly, I think it’s good that you post these messages. You shouldn’t let a few people in this forum who don’t like seeing these messages stop you from posting them, just because there’s a man in the pic. I know we’ve all been treated like crap and hurt by men, but it’s not like the pics have a subliminal message that start making us believe the “men are superior” rhetoric. I see these pics regularly in the mental health forums on Reddit, and they honestly do help hundreds that need to see som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:52 PM
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I’m so sorry that you’re only 19 and have already experienced man’s wrath. I’ve known many teens as well who have had boyfriends that were grown men, so you’re definitely not alone. The fact that you said that these teenage chasing men lose interest after you turn 20 shows that these men are true pedophiles. I got married early, so it wasn’t until i was in my mid 30’s when I first got a taste of men’s true cruelty. I’m turning 40 next month and After 5 years of dealing with having my eyes opened…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:54 PM
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It’s made me realize that all 90-95% of men are HORRIBLE. I say 90-95% because I have a 10 year old who is absolutely a sweetheart and a brother who is a stand up guy, but they are the diamonds in the rough. I honestly fear even taking a chance with dating men because 9 out of 10 times they either hurt you, or have a creepy secret or perversion. Nothing is worse than a dick pic being forced on you after a short chat session, or a dude setting up a date with you and NOT MENTIONING that he’s in a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:16 PM
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Yes, mental health is KEY. And I see a helluvalot more women than man that work on self love and being happy single. I give a man a few things to google about self love or codependency, and they just either scoff or say “ok thanks” then don’t do shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:36 PM
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Good for you! I'm really glad that you have already joined r/CPTSD, and I'm glad to have introduced you to r/Codependency! The book Codependent No More has a plethora of chapters and activities to help you get on the right path. I'm still reading it but I'm almost done and am looking forward to continue working on myself :) I have to look up emotional eating myself. Seems like I'm doing that moreso with the pandemic isolation going on. Take care!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:18 AM
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That's wonderful to hear. I'm glad of your present awareness and present relationship! Good luck! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:09 AM
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No problem, happy to share it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:39 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:36 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:34 PM
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I was one of those married women. My ex husband started cheating on me because I was on antidepressants(Prozac) and lost my sex drive. I didn’t want to have sex that much anymore. We agreed on once a week but i would cringe during the act. Eventually I told him I couldn’t handle weekly sex and as a result he got frustrated with me and started to loathe me and become super emotionally distant. For months he barely talked to me, didn’t want to do family activities and was extremely distant. For hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:35 PM
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Yes, what you described pretty much sums up you being codependent. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of the book Codependent No More, but you should definitely check it out. Also there is a Reddit r/codependency. I belong to it and it’s a great support group. I’m so sorry this happened to you, and IF you’re finally ready to do so(because i know it sometimes takes time for us women to muster up courage), you need to block this creep that did this to you out of your life. God bless you dear. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:15 PM
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Ohmigod, I’m so sorry too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:11 PM
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I was afraid your response would contain the same sad truths I’ve heard over and over...I’ve heard horror stories from women who as girls tell their families that they got pregnant by a clergyman assaulting them and then get exiled because their families don’t want to deal with the “shame” or the “mark” on their “social reputation.” How is THAT love?! 😡 I just hate so much that this stuff is still going on! It’s like the nation went wild with the Catholic priest accusations, but failed the Bible…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 04:44 PM
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Fun fact: Disney actually makes their kid actors and singers wear chastity rings once they join the “mouse clique.” I was FLOORED once I found this out. Wow, an abstinence vow at 12? I wanna ask how your sect handles child predators in the Bible community, or young girls who get pregnant due to statutory rape, but that would be too heavy to get into.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 04:18 PM
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Damn, that’s basically accepting the status who, but even in a worse way because you’re enhancing the pain of it al by adding more painful experiences to it 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:15 PM
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Wow, that’s opposite of where I’m at - i live in one of the more popular west coast states, and pretty much there are tons of people that are single 4+ years in a relationship. My Mom is the only super conservative person I know, and she’s only that way because her mom was even more strict and conservative than her. However my aunts and uncles have had long term relationships up the yin-yang. Heck, my brother and his girlfriend have been together for 10 years, living together and all, and don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 11:47 AM
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Exactly what I said in my post too girl, regarding losing friends as soon as you act like this - but yep, like u said, you’ll also get the “villain” label when it comes to dating, and even with family relationships you’ll be pointed out as the black sheep, or even disowned if someone is particularly sensitive! Family folk will call you disrespectful since you’re not “respecting your elders” by not letting them walk all over you. Yeesh, you just can’t win sometimes when you form healthy boundarie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:07 AM
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Wow, what a difference! And these photoshopped pics are what we STRIVE for on a daily basis?! SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:49 AM
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I do see that as helpful - questioning them, thereby making them really think about it before they jump into it. Especially because when you’re broke and in desperate need for money, you often don’t do enough research and instead see a “big opportunity” for “easy money” and just want to start immediately. As far as SW, I think that we grasp onto the perception that we are always told via the media: That SW pays really awesome, and how the money just rolls in if you’re willing to do just a few “a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:47 AM
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I remember when porn star Jenna Jameson talked about how when she was in high school, she was gang raped by the football team and didn’t tell anyone. So when she eventually got into porn, she said she felt “empowered” like never before because SHE was in control. Hence her always being “dominant” in her sex roles. But IMO this is a mindset that performers convince themselves to accept so that they don’t have to deal with the pain of what they’re doing, and the pain of their past experiences and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:35 AM
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She’s saying it because she’s being real. Some women do what they have to do, when they’re out of options. I know because I’ve been there, and I attempted that path, but couldn’t do it due to not being able to withstand it...but she’s not trying to groom anyone into the SW industry or encourage it, it’s just that she knows that while it’s not the most desired work for sure, some of these ladies will do it anyway, despite her warnings, so she’s giving a disclaimer of sorts in case someone ignores…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:30 AM
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Exactly, it’s THE MEN WE INTERACT WITH DAILY. Yet I tell my Mom and Sister these things, and they’re in denial all the time. But this is REAL, most men are creeps in some way. It hurts for me to say that when i think about males that are loved ones, but I’ve seen a sick secret or two when I find male relative X’s search history on the net. And yes, it has been more than one, some of which I’ve helped raise from a babe to an adult 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:23 AM
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Oh yeah, even on the subreddits that are for SW’s, women feel intimidated to only talk about the good stuff and not the bad. I’ve done a little SW online, and have had many DM’s with ladies that confess how they really feel but are too afraid to say it in on a thread because they don’t want to tarnish their reputations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:39 PM
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I just want to say that I really am thankful for all of you ladies that opened up and shared their experience doing this type of SW. I’ve also tried to do this kind of work online, but this really helps others who haven’t done it get a feel for the effort that it takes, plus it really helps other ladies see how it is. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:30 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:16 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:15 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:15 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:15 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:15 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:14 AM
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I’ll add 💯 X INFINITY!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:46 PM
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Thanks for the best wishes! Yes it is hard to find good friends, I hope to find a group of women that are up to saving money for nice little mini-vacations every few months, and maybe some "Cougartown" BBQ's every few weeks - without the men co-stars of course ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:21 AM
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Yeah, you're totally right about that. I always make sure I've got the BCP's or more! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:20 AM
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Yes, saw your DM, thank you so much! And Yes, I just started Codependents Anonymous too last week via a Skype meeting! Whatever I can use to get out of this horrid cycle, thanks so much for the condolences and looking out for me! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:35 PM
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Yeah I’m working on my codependency issues to get out of a situationship like this now. My “situationship guy” just turned 50, and has went majorly downhill since I first met him. He’s 10 years older than me, so initially I thought he’d be ideally mature, right? WRONG!!! After my nasty divorce from a heartless narcissist, I was vulnerable and met this current guy. We were a couple at first, and it had been me pulling tooth and nail for 4 years with him, making him introduce me to his parents, ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:37 PM
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Honestly, I have never been able to keep friends continuously my whole life because of this, and I’m about to turn 40! Now mind you, I’m very codependent in relationships and have my issues with letting LVM go, but when it comes to friends, mainly girl-friends, after awhile if i see a pattern of them flaking out, using me, treating me as a “second banana” or just inviting me so I can be the “sober driver,” as soon as I confront them, they get butthurt, and the friendship is OVER. No compromises,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:19 PM
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Heck yeah! But the “good ol’ boys” that rule over the medicine industry wouldn’t invest in it because it wouldn’t benefit men 👎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:54 PM
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My ex boyfriend did something like this to me too. I’ve wrote a little about this in prior comments but here’s the meat of the story: He slithered into my life again, and I caved in out of loneliness and agreed to see him, but only to do casual dating. He agreed, or so i thought. One day, after he started bragged about his dating encounters during our breakup time, showing me pics and all, i let him know that i was dating other people and showed him pics too. It was at that point that he changed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:22 AM
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OMG, what's WRONG with people?! I'm so sorry you had to go through this. We females suffer so much at the hands of society!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:22 AM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Hearing experiences like yours really ticks me off. And then she clings to you when he CHEATS?! I know it's hard to break away from all that family drama too. All you can do is keep as much distance as possible. I hate the fact that bad things seem to always happy to the truly good and innocent. God bless you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:20 AM
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I am very glad and greatful that my post reached out to your heart! It really helps me as well when a fellow redditor says "me too," because often I do feel alone when I think of the rejecting and humiliating things I've went through as a kind hearted but passive woman. I'm still working through getting stronger though, which is why FDS is in my pocket of weapons ;) I'm sorry for any related hardship you went through, from the bottom of my heart. *hugs* Thanks for the reply, and take care! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:33 PM
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Yes, that's pretty much how we are. People pleasers all around. I'm working on my codependency though that has stemmed from it. Thanks for your sympathy friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:31 PM
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Easier said than done, especially right now since I'm a single Mom who's now unemployed and may be losing my place in a few months, so I may have to stay with my parents as a last resort...actually I'm quite glad you brought this up because the thought of moving back home, knowing how they were quick to turn on me when all this happened, will push me even MORE to get another job as quickly as possible! There's also alot of abuse and neglect that both my parents went through that also solidifies …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:28 PM
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Sadly, this is one of those problems that society REFUSES to fix. It's out there, passed from generation to generation. I've always said time and time again that the government needs to incorporate sensitivity training to stop this type of sexism. But even looking at the COVID situation right now shows just how little the US prioritizes important, detrimental life issues. This is why when sexual assaults happen, a large amount of the time we have waves of denial from either family members, autho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:59 AM
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I was 19 when my brother in law decided to start flirting with me one night when he picked me up from my local junior college. I was so innocent I never got kissed before or anything, and this hairy grown man decides to ask me inappropriate questions and asks to touch my stomach. I gave in to some of the stuff at first because he really was a “brother” in my mind. My sister had dated him since I was 11 years old. I told my Dad about it the next day, and instead of directly kicking his ass, he co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:19 AM
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Damn that’s evil. God bless those kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:52 AM
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Also the Olsen twins: the minute they turned 18, men were salivating and openly talking about their “hotness”. They just didn’t wait until the girls turned 18, hey were listing after these girls WAY before this. Britney Spears is a great example too. Her first video Hit Me Baby One More Time solidified the “schoolgirl Lolita” fantasy that helped boost her career, with these older men fantasizing about her being so young and “sexy.” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:51 AM
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FACTS. My ex has a best friend that at one point told us that his girlfriend at the time broke a beer bottle over her head, talking about how crazy she was one night. Years later, I found out that he used to hit a lot of his girlfriends in the past. Alot of emotional and verbal abuse coming from him too. Saw it with my own eyes when he called his first baby momma “stupid” in front of all of us t the beach. She told me he hit her sometimes too. Anyways, all that made me realize that whether or no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 07:33 PM
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I can’t believe someone downvoted this. Whoever did must be a troll or incel. Anyways... Wow, that point u made about questioning them about why they pursued you while you were underage, and then turning it around on YOU, shows how GROSS AND PREDATORY men can be! And you questioned them while you were STILL underage, yet they respond with a “it was you’re fault too?!” UGH, men are so piggish, it’s like their main purpose is to use, abuse and take advantage of women most of the time. 😡 My ex boyf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:20 PM
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Wow this is GROSS. I try to tell my Mom and Sister that men are like this, but they just won’t listen, or REFUSE to want to listen to the truth! They’re both married 20+ years by the way, so i guess they figure they turn a blind eye since they already got their “men”...but their men also have these tendencies too, believe me I know. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:10 PM
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Sorry, late reply...the breadwinner ideology is only good if it's not mixed with narcissistic qualities, which is often NOT the case. One pastor had said to never trust the whole "Hey, I'll pay for everything, you just take care of the house and be my wife." He said that unless your man is a diamond in the rough, this is normally the "prison" trap men use to lure and control women. That's a damn shame because this was how it always was back in the day, but I know our fellow sisters had major pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:32 AM
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This is EXACTLY one of the things I'm trying to start doing in order to stop my codependency. Great job, and your pieces are BEAUTIFUL!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:48 PM
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Wow, you’re career sounds amazing! I’m a computer programmer myself. There’s an ongoing trend of women with great careers and “mega mind potential” being magnets for stray LVM’s. Happened to me twice over a 20 year span and I’m still recovering. It’s really sad, and I can’t wrap my head around why this happens a lot. That said, I really admire you turning this around into something positive for your ongoing success! Virtual hugs your way 🤗🤗🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:20 PM
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Thanks so much love, I appreciate it 🤗🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:16 PM
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I think it makes sense, because guys will go as far as marrying you, and yet STILL, despite the holy vows and the ultimate gesture of true commitment that is marriage, treat the “‘till death do us part” the same as as a low value relationship. That’s why so many men get “bored” with their life partners and feel that they have a right to “jump ship,” even if they have kids, a “fused with by God wife” and other serious stuff they are responsible for. ...and yes,in case you’re wondering, it happene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:35 PM
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😂😆😂😆😂😆 SPOT ON!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:50 PM
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I’m glad that you mentioned finishing schools! I often try and think, in what way could the US actually incorporate these teachings to boys throughout the nation? This would be a good way to really enforce “gentlemanly skills.” We also need classes for girls too so they won’t turn out to be pickmeishas. Our Mommas don’t pass down enough lessons to us about men and a lot of us end up being screwed(literally and figuratively). Lastly, I also think that engaged couples need to go through a general …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:45 PM
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OH YEAH, 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:55 AM
39

EXACTLY. This is what we have to realize. And since the government isn’t pushing schools or communities to train our boys to be considerate, empathetic and “socially civil,” I think the only thing we can do is continue setting personal boundaries, and force our lonely hearts to be attain self love, so that we can weather the single times until we find a man of good character, responsibility and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:55 AM
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Sorry I just saw this, but thank you so much. I really appreciate your encouragement ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:07 PM
2

THIS.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 11:46 PM
12

I’m going thru a mess of a “situationship” too girl. Just know that you are most likely codependent to some degree, and because of this it’s definitely not easy to let go because the “loneliness fear” sometimes feels like you’ll die without that romantic companionship. This is something deeply rooted within us, so we have to do the necessary and challenging MENTAL WORK to gain enough self love and strength to finally leave. Just know this: As long as you’re working on the mental healing that wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:00 PM
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I know you’re trying to be helpful, but like I said, I know this already. I could say “i realize this” a bunch of times but i know I’d get “you’re stronger than that” from you or my mom or my sister, etc. My Mom and Sister have been married for 25 years so they haven’t dealt with this crap, so i just take what they say with a grain of salt. Sometimes i struggle on if i should even share my stories in the FDS subreddit because of the “MMMPH GIRL, you need to be better than that” response. It ain’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 08:30 PM
2

Check out my reply to r/MommaGypsy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:33 PM
11

Oh, don’t think I’m making excuses for him. Actually I’m dealing with a borderline personality disorder guy so he has the horrible trait of saying and acting on impulse then thinks about the sh*t that he’s done later. Not that this explanation is an excuse AT ALL. He’s even doing therapy now but it doesn’t make me feel any different about him since he’s still not living his best life, or doing right by me with the right “actions” - but that’s a long story. I’ll admit, I’m not an FDS diva yet and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:32 PM
42

OH. MY. GOD. I’m SO SORRY you had to go through that! That is REPULSIVE!!!!!! The guy I’m trying to shake off is so “proud” that he’s dating me, for different reasons but one of the biggest is that I’m 10 years younger than him. He says he’s so privileged to be able to be with “young meat.” UGH, I HATE that sh*t! I always yell at him when he says that, but even though he apologizes, i know that he never “ gets how disrespectful and offensive that is. Sorry, I know that’s TMI, but I just wanted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:13 PM
21

LOL, THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:08 PM
44

R Kelly did this same shit - hanging out at high schools, malls, etc. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:50 AM
89

He was a TOTAL jealous asshole. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:48 AM
2

Exactly, look at the way he said “I’ve taught her...” 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:48 AM
6

But if she breaks up with him, watch him beg for her back because he wants to have full access and control of her p*ssy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:46 AM
3

I honestly don’t expect romantic stuff from men. This guy’s a total sociopathic jackass of course, but I’ve went through two LVM men in my lifetime, and both men acted like a nervous jackass when i tried to get us to do a simple romantic dance when we were alone. They both turned the moment into an awkward “jiggling legs” situation. Not a romantic bone IN THEIR BODIES. To me, finding an actual romantic man is a rarity, and these Rom Coms and Disneylike productions have brainwashed us women to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:43 AM
2

I get so tired of that whole “not all men“ crap from my family too. It’s actually my sister and mother that keep telling me the whole “not all men“ thing. I think it’s because they have husbands that they have been with for 20+ years, and they choose to ignore the asinine stuff they have both done. My brother in law came on to me once when i was 19 and naive, and once i told my sister everyone in the family got mad at me and chose to ignore it. Yep, sweep it under the rug, right? I would also sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:34 AM
2

That is a very positive scenario, one that most of us wish we could attain. Sadly, most men at least want you to stay in their lives for the sex, while they work on getting “The right job,” sort out their financial issues so y’all can just Netflix and chill until they do, or try to see if they will go to jail from that last fight, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:23 AM
5

I swear, tears are welling up in my eyes, this is so heartwarming!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:00 PM
9

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:39 PM
2

RARE, exactly. 💯👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:57 PM
13

SERIOUSLY. When I saw that it made me think of some adult work scenario or something...🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:57 PM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:05 PM
24

Totally feel you on the whole “love bombing” after rejection thing. I recently had a guy I was starting to date a few months ago. He seemed very interested and did the whole “online love bombing” thing: Video messages, cute emojis, compliments, etc. But when it came time to coming through on promises to actually call me to confirm dates we planned, he would always flake out. I would check him in it and he would apologize but would never have a real valid excuse for it. After the second time of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:25 AM
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So sorry you went through this for so many years! I really appreciate your message. Personally, I feel very ashamed to admit the amount of years I’ve wasted my time with men that have treated me poorly. For me it’s been 20 years of “smart assness,” disappointments and games. 14 years total with my narcissistic ex husband who discarded me when i was sick, then 5 years with a mentally ill ex boyfriend that recently gave my life chaos and caused major damage to it. WOW, it feels good to get that of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:01 AM
6

Huh? Did you have an autocorrect typo? #1 I’m not a man - why would u say that when I asked u the original question? #2, never heard of “larping” before. I thanked you, don’t know why you would say something like this 🤷‍♀️ EDIT: I just looked up “larping,” this is the weirdest insult ever one would say to another woman. Wow, just WOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:29 AM
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Thanks Sis...Detail to a “T,” that’s what us FDS women need. It’s gonna take some time and MAJOR refining to get there, but the journey is definitely worth it. I’d rather work on myself for years, and if an HVM comes my way give him a chance. That’s much better than years withering away my energy and beauty on multiple LVM’s, and dealing with constant waves of disappointment 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:30 AM
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Well, that sums up the true definition of “leveling up.” You answered a lot of questions, thanks...yep, a lot of us have TONS of work to do. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:10 PM
10

Are you saying that it will take time for us to get to “beast mode” state? That it will take lots of work on prior steps, for us to get to this point? I’m a newbie and not very aggressive, which sucks when it comes to a lot of journeys to success, so I’m genuinely asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:20 PM
1

TRUTH!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:58 AM
5

He gon' ask you for gas money in a minute....:P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:57 AM
1

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:55 AM
4

You stayed because that’s we women love too much. That’s not a bad thing, but unfortunately this world can’t handle it, because men use their aggression to rule. I had a boyfriend after my divorce and gave this LVM 4 years of my life too. I had a medical bout then too and he wasn’t all there for me neither. He took off the day of to take care of me, but that’s because of guilt(LONG story). But no extra days OF TLC, even when I felt vulnerable and said I needed him. Girl u ain’t alone by a long s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:57 AM
2

Thank you so much for your sincerity! My family and friends stuck by me throughout the whole time. It really shocked me because all these romance and family movies show men standing by your side, thrift thick and thin. I know better now...but SCREW ‘EM! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:53 AM
2

You take care Sis, I appreciate you too ❤️ yeah, my Mom needs therapy too, I feel ya
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:51 AM
3

Same here 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:49 AM
2

LOL, same here - I’ve got too much karma and now I’m stuck with “PooPooMeeks” 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:58 PM
2

Girl, ME TOO! I bet about 1000+ in this group ALONE can testify to having your same story. Wow I hate that we as women keep going through this crap, because men become LVM moreso as they do more and more “life fuckups.” But in truth, I’m glad to know that I’m not alone. I have tons of female fingers pointing at me, making me feel shame. They don’t try to make me feel bad on purpose, but they do. But I knew, I KNEW that a lot of women are going through this. Unfortunately we love too much, WAY to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:56 PM
5

Yep, totally 💯 agree with you. Like i said, my ex had no male influences except for a Sensei when he was a teen for a few months. I even thought he was slightly gay when we went out at first (yeah, that’s how needy and desperate i was, to still date him regardless LOL). Boy was I wrong! He had other loser guy friends telling him how to play women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:42 PM
2

😂 😂 😂 imagine seeing these on XZibit if he grew back his hair 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:49 PM
7

Girl I’m SO SORRY you went through that! I truly HATE that you went through that. When it happens, the abusive treatment of being the darkest child is so crippling. Your home is supposed to be your safe haven, dammit! My Father was one of the darkest too in his family and was treated lower than most of his siblings. It caused him to become a huge people pleaser and he tries to cater to his friends so much, and will even throw us under the bus for it at times, it’s very sad. My Mom is like you ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:11 PM
3

Burundi? Wow! That’s awesome, i so wish i could trace the exact country where my ancestors derived - well then again, many countries did the slave trade and mixed up different peoples per plantation, so i wouldn’t know a specific country to pinpoint 🤔 UGH X 💯!!! I can’t believe those French men. We had that happen here too, I don’t know if you saw the video of I think three basketball players, saying that they were part of the “white wives club “or something like that. Not that I am biased again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:24 PM
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No problem, I know that I’m also speaking from a somewhat bias standard as well due to my experiences. I respect your opinion as well, you e made some food points :) and thanks for the comments about my son, I know you’re also a great aunt, we just want the best for our little ones! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:17 PM
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Thanks for adding in this perspective as well! Totally agree with your points, I’d also say that other nationalities deal with this type of influential behavior to some degree 👍🏾 If you don’t mind me asking, where is your home country?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:12 PM
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That’s great, and I’m sure her husband had a good influence at some time in his life to promote his good nature - I’m talking about if a man doesn’t have any good influences to TEACH him to act like this. My ex husband never had a Dad, his Mom was never around since she was constantly working to pay the bills. So in the end i realized that no one taught him how to be a proper man. No excuses for him of course, but when the chips were down, or was easier for him to ignore me rather than face the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:07 PM
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I wish I could believe you, but I’ve met so many different men and heard so many selfish and inhumane stories of how they’ve abandoned and tested women, even when they don’t have fathers to learn from or hardly any male influences. And they all do the exact same things. Just like polygamy, when men do this it reflects the wild animal kingdom so much, it’s their natural instinct to wanna “dip their wick,” regardless of the consequences. If anything, I feel we have to ingrained proper “civilized” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:45 PM
24

TOTAL ASSHOLE. Honestly I’ve considered going Bi because these men are so cold and heartless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:07 PM
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EXACTLY! My ex got disgusted with me after my brain tumor surgery, and my friend’s ex cheated on her right after her first Lupus surgery. And it’s not like we’re even wearing diapers or anything, it’s just an evil “survival of the fittest” instinct. EVIL, pure evil. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:03 PM
8

LOL all these dudes seem to be following a “Baby Boy” trend, with the same old school little girl hairstyles: We got “Dababy,” “A$AP Rocky,” they’re all wearing the same hairstyle I had when i was a little girl - even with the BEADS, LOL! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:59 PM
3

Thanks my sister in the fight ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:15 PM
7

At first I thought it said “Dababy”...LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:19 AM
10

Hell yeah! A girl’s gotta drop that shit ASAP. I was talking to one brother a few months ago, and his ignorant crap came out slowly...but once I finally saw the patterns and lack of potential I blocked his ass...honestly in the end I added up many signs that equaled that he was on PROBATION, LOL 😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:19 AM
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r/princessTiaraLove has many good points, but I’ll just backup one: As a culture, slavery has ingrained different degrees of self-hatred as a collective whole within our culture. So Black mothers in general don’t pass down principles of “hatred.” Now don’t get me wrong, Colorism is REAL, and principles of that are easily passed down through some Black mothers, but not all. I’ve seen both sides myself: My own somewhat lighter-skinned mother would scold us if my siblings and I (who were darker) wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:14 AM
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Wow...just WOW. He really, REALLY thought he was giving a compliment! Or maybe not...maybe he just treats OLD(online dating) like it’s a game to insult women...doubt it though. I’m Black myself, and from all of my OLD encounters I’ve learned that most men in general will throw an insult at you in the beginning, then you have to drop them...okay, I accept that, but As a Black woman, this “cultural damage” is yet ANOTHER whack scenario you have to filter out when chatting with a black man for OLD.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:00 AM
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I’m so sorry u had to go through that. It kinda reminds me of me at 19 - one night, my brother in law decided to “try me” that night, see how far I would go. I was heavily sheltered by my Mom, still hadn’t kissed a guy ever yet, and he knew that. He picked me up from my community college that night, touched my navel many times, said it looked sexy, asked me about if I had any sexual fantasies, Gave me weird sexual compliments - I was so confused because before this he was like a good big brother…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:17 AM
14

And then once the younger woman BECOMES 25 and older and starts to recognize the B.S., the “man child” then drops her or GETS dropped and then moves on to the next victim, Aka “younger prey!” 🦁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:01 AM
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No way should she have to be stuck there if she’s a grown woman. I REALLY think she should talk with her parents again. Even checking out potential women shelters in the area would be a good idea. Call 211 and see if there are some resources out there she could go to. She could work Instacart or something to make Enough money to look for a room. Something, anything, geez...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:56 PM
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The thing is, we women have to have a “safety net” when these guys leave us high and dry, or fuck up our lives. Lifetime sure didn’t have an “after show” for this movie, showing the “dreamboat syrup man” cheating on his love “Miss lonely businesswoman” with the sexy and sultry neighborhood “Candlestick Maker,” or depleting his newfound love’s savings account after buttering her up to pay off his late child support payments, LOL...And they wonder why a lot of us become bitter! 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:57 PM
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💯 sister, for reals. This behavior of his can also reflect risk to the child as well, as it can support any neglectful behavior or abuse he may do to the child(God forbid), as a result of not getting his “Turkish delights” from her. UGH, these men 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:50 PM
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Thanks so much, I’m hanging in there - while these guys still suck, at least the government is finally coming through for us unemployed(at least a little) 😉 I appreciate your support and we’re always here for you - we’re all in this together! 🤗❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:14 PM
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THIS. Quite possibly if a judge saw this crap included in evidence during the time of “Corona,” while they may not count this as actual evidence, it will emotionally get them on her side a bit I bet (especially if it’s a female judge, though they can be assholes too 🤔)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:11 PM
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Because she has a kid with him. All sorts of legal calamity would hit her if she blocked him. You never know what these selfish idiots have up their sleeve. One wrong move and they’ll involve some higher power to take you down. Drama makes these guys’ dicks hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:09 PM
13

First, to the OP: I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this type of utter crap and nonsense! These losers just don’t stop... Secondly, my opinion: Honestly, I think that ANY man would try this type of crap on their ex’s at some point, so long as they have some sort of “tie” with them. They think since they’ve passed the sexual hurdles with a woman, and have SOME kind of involvement with them - whether it be coparenting or even financial ties to an ex, that it’s fair game. It’s like if they thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:03 PM
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This point was already made, but I had to write this to vent... I mean seriously, we women put SO much more effort into looking good, as opposed to these men. And honestly, if a man does put effort into his looks, he's labeled by other men as either being "gay" or a player - but then again, if they're not gay and are keeping themselves looking stylish and savvy, most of the time it's because they want either sex galore or want their women to put their dick on a pedestal. I swear, this society ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:40 AM
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Yes, exactly. And it’s really hard when they say they’ll be “waiting,” plus the longer you’re with them they become so ingrained in your heart! I think I’m time and isolation from the dating game, we can heal eventually. Praying that we can someday SOON take that step. 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:55 AM
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Yes, I’m in a situationship too, but it’s breaking down to nothing day by day. I don’t even sleep with him anymore because I realize I’ve gotten so little for way too long. I’m lonely for it, and i miss him, but it was pretty bad before, so I just have to accept no affection anymore and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:58 PM
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I ironed my dad’s shirt once as a preteen, and got yelled at extremely for not being 200% perfect. I never ironed for him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:22 AM
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This happened to me four years ago - my ex husband ended up marrying his mistress only a MONTH after our divorce papers were final. He was working on replacing me for probably a year before i left him, and I never knew because of his constant and convenient “overtime” at work - i guess his overtime was spent fornicating with his coworker! Also I had NO IDEA he was seeing her through our divorce proceedings because he lied and said he was seeing someone else - he even had our 4 year old son call …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:18 AM
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