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Same here! As I started to level up in my career, these men always became angry that I was earning more money even when I was still making less than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 03:02 PM
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This is exactly what happens every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:59 PM
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You can still apply all the same FDS principles. Be intentional and clear about what you want and block and delete guys who aren’t on the same page. Also never underestimate how dating the wrong guy can change your life and be aware of the risks like pregnancy, stds (some aren’t on standard panels and can be spread even with condom use), violence from jealousy, etc. Also, don’t pursue men or date with no intention. You’ll likely end up in a situationship. A relationship is a relationship even if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:01 PM
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I’m in the same place with my life and honestly the risk/reward ratio just doesn’t seem worth it. As much as we like to say we’re keeping it casual, there is nothing casual about having sex. There are so many STIs that are out there that aren’t even on regular STD panels. I’ve seen friends who are like us that thought they could keep it casual with other professional men but ended up in bad places and recently had a friend undergo a hysterectomy because of something she contracted from having se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 05:21 PM
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This has been my experience too. I’m also able to easily orgasm and back in my pickme days where I was having casual sex, scrotes really got an ego boost from it which made the second type of man all the more dangerous. Since they wanted a relationship, they thought making me orgasm meant they owned me so while they wouldn’t ask for a relationship, they would still have some of the expectations of a relationship and get angry when I didn’t live up to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 04:39 PM
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I dated two porn addicts in my pickme days. Neither thought they were addicts although they both had PIED in their 20s. After both of them, my self esteem was terrible and I developed eating issues and severe anxiety because I knew that they were constantly comparing me to the porn they watched. It always started off with small comments about what was "wrong" with my body and they would push me to go to the gym or get plastic surgery. I kept trying to prove myself to them and tried all kinds of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:45 PM
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The breaking point that got me to delete bumble was one guy I matched with trying to pinpoint my location based on how many miles away the app said we were at any given time. He was a software engineer with an interest in security. Knowing that he could’ve possibly been able to do something like this is terrifying. Also a $2000 bounty for discovering this kind of major vulnerability feels incredibly low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:34 AM
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Perfect reaction 😂 I’m confused as to why this was posted since I read the first TikTok as glorifying casual sex and the guy agreeing that it’s “feminist”???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:07 AM
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One thing that is important to consider is the age that you are and the age that he is in addition to the life stage that you are both at. The gap between 20 and 27 is very different from the gap at 30 and 37 even though both are a difference of 7 years. It doesn’t matter how much you think you are getting out of the relationship (no offense to the other reply) because you’re likely to be blinded by your feelings and the difference in confidence, life experience, and wealth that comes with age. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:11 AM
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That's really scary!! 🤢 I'm so glad that you were able to cut her off before she pimped you too! Women like this are so scary. It's disgusting that she would be excited about flirting with a friend's husband and knowing that she's a self-help author when her advice will likely just make pickmes even more miserable is even grosser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:18 PM
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Had an ex-friend who was exactly like this. She almost exclusively tried to date men who were in “open” relationships (that they hid from the wife/gf) or be the other woman. At first, I felt bad for her and tried to be a supportive friend since she made it seem like she accidentally found her way into these relationships but I realized that she prided herself on getting picked over the wife/gf when she started to explain how it wasn’t “real” cheating and how her and the men couldn’t help themsel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:43 AM
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I’ve heard LVW repeat this same advice while saying things like other women want to “ruin their happiness” (because everyone wants their scrote 🙄 or they’re in denial about abuse). I’ve also had LV women tell me that I should cover up the things LVXs did when I was venting in past abusive relationships which made me question if I was overreacting to abusive behaviors. This advice is manipulative and isolating and only benefits LVM. I’ve never felt like I had to hide details about my partners in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:55 PM
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No, believing a LVM will change “for the right one” is what leads women to bend over backwards to “fix” a man and to blame women for LVM’s bad behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:07 PM
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You can get certifications but getting a degree is the easiest way to go about it. If you're interested in being a software engineer, I would suggest trying to learn a bit on your own before switching majors. Maybe try a course at your school or online first centered around programming. It can require a lot of self motivation and you're expected to be able to adapt to new frameworks and keep your skills up to date so if you don't like it, you'll be able to weed that path out quickly. There are s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:41 PM
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Just finished the first season and have no idea why it's praised. I watched hoping that the characters would grow out of their low value traits but it seemed as though they only got more lv as the show continued. I was shocked that Sasha would sleep with Billie's ex, especially once they revealed how he behaved after the miscarriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:13 AM
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Yes! All of the pictures are of guys who look 50 at the youngest and have taglines about being retired. IIRC most of them are for a site called ourtime or something similar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:17 PM
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I'm in my 20s and I've noticed that I've been getting a lot of these ads lately too. I didn't think anything of it but I've noticed a lot of 20s and 30s women around me saying that they've been seeing these ads lately :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:05 AM
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Cheers! 🥂 Same here! Cutting off these situations and friends is so freeing and rewarding! I cut off a close friend recently who I was already distancing myself a bit from after she accused me of being jealous and trying to ruin her relationship with her NVM so that I could "steal" him for myself. 🙄 I found myself distancing from some of my other friends who serial date NVM/LVM as well and pushing myself to take myself out and date myself more recently. I've been thinking of trying Bumble BFF or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:12 AM
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“When we allow men to disrespect us, we are also teaching them that it is acceptable to disrespect any other women they may meet after us. “ Thinking like this has helped me a lot especially when I was in the beginning of my journey of being a recovering people pleasing pickmeisha. I felt like I had to please guys who were disrespectful towards me and didn’t have the self esteem at the time to think that I deserved better so realizing that I was hurting other women and not only myself by accepti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:14 PM
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I've linked her here before and we've even talked about some of the posts here. She agrees with the posts here but she's not ready to implement FDS in her life which is fine but it's not good for my mental health to continue the relationship for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:39 PM
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I moved on. It showed that they didn't value my time and were going to try to lowball me throughout the rest of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:23 PM
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My pickme friend is "in love” with a guy she met through OLD a month ago who is 12 years older than us and lives with his pregnant forever "ex" girlfriend who is due to have the baby in 2 months. He claims that she tried to trap him with the baby since he wanted to be child free and my friend is making plans to spend the rest of her life with this guy already. 🙄 I’ve been slowly distancing myself from her because of her other pickme tendencies but I think it’s time to just move on completely. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:47 PM
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Glad you’re moving on from him and that you’re choosing yourself over some scrote who doesn’t value you! I love seeing FDS sisters leveling up and sticking to boundaries . 💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:10 PM
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This exactly! I remember guys from OLD would ask “what should we do?” and when I didn't quickly reply, they would suddenly know how to offer a coffee or "walk" date. When I would turn them down for those, they would instantly talk about how they would call restaurant A or restaurant B to make reservations or make a plan on the spot for an activity or event. Men know exactly what appropriate dates are but have no problem testing to see what the bare minimum is that will possibly get you into bed.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:24 AM
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So many men pretend to be women on the internet but can't even get close to emulating how we speak. They're always so violent with angry caps lock that never really makes sense or just generally speak in extremes of whatever stereotypical ideas they have of women- usually angry and emotional or sexy and pornified. They're so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:53 PM
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They're apps that will update you on if someone unfollowed or followed you. Some will give information on demographics and which posts the followers like, view, and comment on the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:16 PM
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“Every month this year, I have offered myself up to a random strange man to feel more confident in myself! I don’t care what he says because I’m doing it for MYSELF which is why I ask random strangers to spend time with me but I only make sure to offer myself to men I find attractive because it’s ~EmPoWErInG~ to feel uncomfortable approaching strange men if they are attractive !” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:08 PM
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I remember going on a date with a guy who kept bringing the topic of conversation back to my shoes and asking me questions about "the effects of running on my feet" It's so disgusting how they're shameless and don't think you will notice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:16 AM
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Words like "naughty" "bad" or anything that implies that they have to "correct" your behavior are the biggest red flags. 🤮 Signs of pornsickness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:45 AM
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This is very true. Setting boundaries has been difficult for me but since I've stopped being a free therapist, I've lost some "friends" who haven't been happy that they can no longer emotionally dump on me whenever they like but it's been necessary for me leveling up. I'm so much happier and can see how much negativity I was inviting into my life now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:25 AM
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He looks down on her for making 45k and thinks that he deserves better since he makes 150k without realizing that this woman he is looking down on is questioning his character. He's a 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:06 AM
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Those women don't want him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:02 AM
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His whole family was making it a point to show her they hated her and that she did not fit in by not offering to help when it was obvious she was struggling to afford the trip. They purposefully left her out of activities and noticed she was hungry yet completely ignored it. They're disgusting. I can't imagine treating a guest like this, especially on a vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:57 AM
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Thank you for this post. It can be hard to examine your own pick me behaviors but once you acknowledge them and put in the work to grow out of them, it's life changing and makes applying FDS principles so much easier. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:14 PM
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oh yes great scroteologist who only gets matches with bots every 3 months to keep you paying for that tinder gold subscription, please explain to us why we should date ugly insecure nice guys like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:39 PM
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I'm having the same issue here. I've started distancing myself a bit since I realized this is a sign that she values her relationships with these men over her relationships with herself and her friends. It's tiring constantly giving the same advice they ask for only to not be listened to. It really sucks but I also realized that she will only change when she is ready no matter what I say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:14 PM
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Yeah but I’ve never seen a woman take advantage of men in lower social standings in the same way men take advantage of women in lower social standings so I would definitely advise more caution for women looking to date up. The LVM will future fake and talk about these women like they’re just walking flesh lights at best while more of the women actually have some type of affectionate feelings towards the guys. The men know they can find women who will date them because of their social standing an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:01 PM
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Yeah I’ve seen more women seriously date men who weren’t as educated or as wealthy as they are too and it never ends well. That whole myth about women not willing to date men who have less wealth than them has to be projection from men. It’s scary to see how those type of men will use love to manipulate the women out of their money and from taking opportunities where she will further advance her career or social standing. LV wealthy men are truly the worst of the worst. Their money and connectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:47 PM
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If a man is willing to “date down” it is a red flag. He is either looking for a hookup or has been rejected by women who are in the same social standing. Men are not taught to compromise in the same way women are and while many women will give a guy a chance even if she is not attracted to him or doesn’t think he’s good enough, men aren’t like that but will have no problem using the women for sex or as a trophy. These type of men are aware of the difference in social class and will use it to man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:14 AM
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One of my favorite things is when scrotes say you look or seem "expensive to date" or "high maintenance" and then get upset when you don't disagree 😂 LVM love saying things like this without realizing that they're exposing that they don't take care of themselves half as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:40 AM
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This. When the bill comes, I pretend to not even notice it and continue sipping on my drink or eating my food. If he asks to split or expects me to pay, I always make sure to let him know that I'm confused that he would expect that and act like I've never been asked to do it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:58 PM
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I've noticed that so many men start having a mid-life crisis and get depressed and panicky as they start nearing 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:15 PM
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I have a friend who is the same with rushing into intense relationships with guys she met through OLD after a week or two too and I resonated with you completely when I read “it’ll only be helpful when she gets there on her own” I completely agree. My friend asks me for advice and I always tell her the guys are trashy but she refuses to block and delete them. She’s aware of FDS and other resources and has even read some of the posts. She even says she knows the guys are trashy but continues to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:49 AM
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This. In past relationships with LVM, the negging would always escalate if they noticed another man looking at me or if someone else complimented me. They hate knowing that you have other options and that you always have the option of leaving them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:36 AM
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Please read the handbook. This is one of the reasons age gaps are advised against.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:18 AM
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I agree. I hate seeing the clap back posts especially 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:41 AM
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I can't wait until they get shut down completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:06 AM
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I remember reading a thread on here about the secrets/behind the scenes of the porn industry and one of the posters commented about how they will let anything through because they have to constantly keep new content coming. The verification process was sketchy and nothing was ever properly checked because it was too expensive. It was just a picture of the person holding up an ID and most of the pictures would be blurry or have a finger over the birthyear. If anyone questioned the content that wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:00 AM
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I remember going on two first (and last) dates with guys like this. The first kept trying to pressure me into having sex with him because of some placement in birth charts. He was a "tortured soul" aka a complete creep and hobosexual who thought I would take care of him. The other was an "ex" drug addict PUA who bragged about his drug use and negged me throughout the date but claimed to be a feminist and thought I should worship him because we didn't split the bill. Both claimed to be "empaths" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:12 AM
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I've met a few men who do not watch porn either and are anti-porn and while I am suspicious of any man who says that they don't, I feel it's always reflective in their behavior. Just as porn addicts have their signs, 'pornfree' and anti-porn men do too. Of course, continuously vetting is important and is the only way you'll really know the truth. Asking why they are 'pornfree' or anti-porn and seeing if those reasons actually align with their values usually gives them away I've found. Checking t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:13 PM
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Firstly, all of the faces except erotic humiliation are of women.. I really hope no woman signs up for this app. Whatever they choose will be used against them to say that they deserved it when the horror stories about the app eventually come out. I can't imagine the customer service for the app would be helpful in those situations either. It will just be full of victim blaming women for "not communicating properly" when they experience abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:22 PM
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They had a great time. This was a behind the scenes video that was circulating on Twitter: https://twitter.com/XXL/status/1404108658607263745?s=20 I’m not sure how anyone can look at this video and think that it’s empowering that the camera is focused on only her butt/vaginal area while the other men on set record with their personal cell phones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:16 PM
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Glad to hear this update!! ❤️❤️ You’re moving on to so many better things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:02 AM
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Honestly even that isn’t worth it.. the rich guys who are looking for relationships like that tend to be even more controlling about your looks and the personality (“youthfulness”) that they want you to have. If your income doesn’t match theirs and they know that, they will take advantage of you even more so because of that. A creepy old scrote is a creepy of scrote regardless of income and him having more money only means he has more means to indulge himself than a broke scrote would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:40 AM
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I remember seeing a LVX on OLD a few months after we had broken up and it was hilarious to see that his profile was him trying to advertise all of these traits that I complained he did not have while we were together with pictures from when he was 5+ years younger. It was funny realizing that I would have fell for his profile if I hadn't known him or hadn't began my leveling up process. While we were together, we talked about marriage and I had that same realization that I was the cute emotional…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:41 AM
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You described the type of man that I always "dated" when using OLD apps. These men look great at first glance and benefit the most from using OLD as they have the bare minimum of attributes- good-looking, well educated, steady career, and reliable shelter. They realize that so many other men on the apps don't have a single one of these qualities and highlight these bare minimum things in their profiles to get dates. These were the men that I was "lucky" to find on the apps. It was this exact rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:52 PM
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She is literally a human fleshlight for him. This is sad at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:58 AM
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I hate how cheating is basically expected in relationships. Why get into a relationship just to cheat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:55 AM
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This! They're "nice" so that you will let your guard down and then start trying to push your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:46 AM
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No matter what she does, he's going to find a way to blame her for not living up to his pornified idea of what sex is supposed to be. She's a part of the performance for him and it all should be centered around him. Notice that he isn't listening to her when she tells him what would get her off bc it hurts his ego and that he doesn't care that she still likes the intimacy of sex even though she isn't orgasming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:41 AM
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I don’t judge based on who he has dated in the past unless it’s a pattern of age gaps or seemingly racial fetishization. I judge more based on how he speaks about them and why he says the relationship ended. If all his exes are “crazy”, ghosted, or he just “doesn’t understand” why the relationship didn’t work out, those are all major red flags. Also any breakup story/relationship story that is supposed to make you sympathetic or get your guard down 🚩 If he trashes or speaks poorly about them, mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:39 PM
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It’s a form of triangulation, isn’t it? I had an ex who would constantly try to point out how many women wanted him and it would eat him up when he realized it didn’t bother me. He was painfully insecure and tried to manipulate me into proving how much I loved him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:28 PM
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Thinking back to when I was OLD and had a thing going with a guy for a while. He asked if I wanted to go on a trip with him and then expected me to drive 8~ hours to the destination where he was already on a trip with some family and then got upset when I didn’t want to. 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:25 AM
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Yes, it’s painfully obvious there seems to be an influx of new users who have not read the handbook or any recommended reading as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:37 PM
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It's amazing how they tried to gaslight their own mothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:42 AM
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hahahaha this isn't surprising at all honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:32 AM
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It's diet bitches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:46 PM
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when they start messaging your friends and family...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:36 PM
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We've got to already be living in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:00 AM
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1.7k upvotes and multiple awards... I'm not even going to waste my braincells trying to understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:10 PM
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Sorry but Meg definitely has displayed pick-me behaviors. I'm saying this as someone who has been a fan of her music since 2018. She's said before that she would sleep with her ex-boyfriends, even if they were in relationships, if that meant she could keep her body count/"mileage" low. which really seems extra off considering she's also said she has never orgasmed from having sex with a man. On her new album, in Body one of her lines is "I'm a hot ebony, they gon' click it if it's me (If it's me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:07 PM
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I remember having experiences like this too. They would get even more excited knowing that I was a child. Some would even try to start conversations by asking me what grade I was in or what middle/high school I went to. They're absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:05 PM
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All of these memes about cooking, cleaning, listening to her, making sure she orgasms, aka all basic shit that should be done in any healthy relationship but they are now only doing to "earn" a ps5. When they treat you terribly, they know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:38 PM
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Thank you for this post. I'd love to see it get added to the handbook. It's scary to think about how much we've been conditioned to think of our bodies and sex as some type of reward or obligation we have to do. So many things are pushed to center around men "deserving" sex and in none of these instances is female pleasure ever considered. Don't forget about men pushing to try whatever fantasy he wants to try (most likely anal, a threesome, or open relationship) or else being labeled as insecure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:18 PM
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I learned this the hard way. I had an ex who COMPLETELY planned a wedding for us and would try to always talk to me about how I could improve myself so that things would go smoothly in our married life 🤮 when he knew that his family was actively trying to arrange a marriage for him during the duration of our 1 year relationship (which I found out later). He would be upset that I didn't do wifey shit and complained that he was the only one putting effort into the relationship because I didn't wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:22 PM
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Also, if you can find the testing company that your planned parenthood uses, you can register for an account with them and have access to your results!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:38 PM
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It really takes a lot of unlearning and you can fall into those patterns of thinking so easily. I've caught myself plenty of times being overly critical of my body. It just makes me mad seeing men take advantage of those thought patterns as a way to attract women though. I got a lot of comments on my body growing up about how I needed to lose weight because of my thighs and butt and now seeing how popular bbls are, it really made me realize that so many beauty standards are just trends and there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:05 PM
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Very true. I didn't want to specify any specific colors due to that as complete color blindness tends to be very rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:39 PM
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He sees it as an activity that he does to her rather than something they do together.. she's an object and anyone can take her place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:52 PM
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Everything about this is so sad and I hope she doesn't actually start posting pictures of herself just to look for validation that she is still sexy. Your fuckability should never be a basis for your self-esteem and I hate how much the idea that it is continues to be pushed on women. She should get out before his porn addiction makes itself fully known if it hasn't already. All it's going to do is destroy her self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:41 PM
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“evolutionarily visual creatures” but have bad haircuts, out of shape, poorly fitted clothes, mismatched and unclean apartments (if they have one), junky cars (once again, if they have one). Many men even brag about not being able to discern the differences between shades of different colors because they "all look the same" but we are really supposed to believe that men are “evolutionarily visual creatures” ? The jokes write themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:37 PM
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This makes me so sad. I hate how normal it is see beautiful women talk about how they need to fix something about their appearance. I've started seeing more posts on social media where men say things like "why would I buy her a bag when I can buy her an ass?" and so many women will reply like "king 😍" or "where can I find a man like that??" There is nothing cute about wanting to change your partner into a glorified pornified version of what you want them to be that also plays into the partners i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:44 PM
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Honestly I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Being on FDS and learning to put yourself first always is a big step but there are so many societal and cultural expectations on womanhood that are conditioned into us since birth that deviating from those standards in any way is seen akin to a crime. Many of those things we may participate in and not even be consciously aware of too. Also, just look at the vitriol FDS gets for telling women to not bend over backwards for any man. I think it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:00 PM
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When I was using OLD before, I would use their first name + company/university + location to find their linkedin page. If they're in uni, use the university directory. Some programs also post names and photos of current doctoral/masters students. Usually they have a picture up there as well so this verified that they were who they said they were and they have the position they said they have. Usually they have their full name on linkedin so from there I would do a full google search. If I couldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:02 PM
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Yeah, this is something that's been used for a while and even my friends and relatives who don't know FDS use the terminology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:31 PM
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Every guy who I've politely rejected has always popped back up later, once again trying to date or sleep with me. For whatever reason, they think "I'm not interested" has a silent today attached and that you being nice means that they still have a chance.🙄 I've even had guys who would try to message my friends once they realized I wasn't responding to them after making it known I had no interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:57 PM
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The way they go out of their way to construct new and completely senseless arguments in order to try to guilt women into dating them will never cease to amaze me 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:45 PM
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So she adopted a 26 year old man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:14 AM
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Love this so much. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:03 AM
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I honestly believe they're all copying and pasting from some shared google doc at this point lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:48 AM
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Congrats and good luck!!! I decided to no longer be on those apps as well and realized that I've been having a bit of difficulty since I think became somewhat addicted to the swiping process. It feels so much better not having LVM/NVM blowing up my phone and it's given me so much more time to focus on myself and leveling up. It's wild how you don't even realize how much time you waste on those apps until you get off of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:21 PM
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Back up plan. For OLD, likely one of his other options that he is more interested in is messaging him or he just wants validation from you being interested. Also sets the tone for the relationship where you're chasing him so no matter what happens, he doesn't have to take responsibility if the relationship turns sour. "I didn't mean to lead you on or anything! I don't understand why you're upset. You chased me!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:02 AM
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they always have pictures from 3+ years ago knowing they just don't look the same 👓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:55 AM
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superglued rhinestones..... jfc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:49 AM
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However, the men I have been with, even if they are good in bed, all seem to have a serious case of Madonna/Whore Complex. They say they want a passionate, adventurous woman, but when they get one it makes them uncomfortable. I've noticed this too. A lot of men claim to want a woman who is sexually free and willing to be adventurous and try new things but become very uncomfortable when you are willingly having sex with them or ask them for more sex. They even get uncomfortable if you have any fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:49 PM
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+1 on the he sounds like a narc. Also, always pay attention to your gut feeling. If you feel like something is off, it most likely is. Pay attention to his body language, tone of voice, general behaviors. It's something that you'll get a better feel for as you do it, but you start to recognize genuine reactions vs those that are rehearsed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:12 PM
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f porn in my experience have performance issues bc they’ve become dependent on the po ding ding ding Their porn induced ED, failure to actually understand how bodies work (Where is the clit?? The anus doesn't self lubricate???), and refusal to distinguish what actually feels good vs what looks good on camera all spell a recipe for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:47 PM
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is to block, ignore. These inept bastards see any form of engagement with them including blocking a Exactly! They love it and they'll use you for their next "crazy ex" story or "girls can't get enough of me" story regardless of what you do. Your witty comeback is not going to make them suddenly respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:59 PM
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He’s their dad... is he not supposed to feed them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:26 PM
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“Ridiculous jealousy” Wouldn’t be surprised if she’s already said something and he’s gaslighted her about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:29 PM
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I'm glad you were able to get out safely!♥️ Try not to take their words to heart at all and if you meet anyone else like this, run immediately. You deserve to be happy wearing whatever you want and being as beautiful as you want to be! Anyone lucky enough to be in your life will always appreciate you for being yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:59 PM
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These are all PUA lines to try to pick at your self esteem and make you insecure. These types are extremely insecure and either see you as a trophy or become jealous and resentful. None of the examples sound like compliments at all. They were attempts to manipulate. Keep being beautiful and ignore them. It’s a shame that they’d rather drag you to their level than try to climb to yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:00 PM
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That man is disgusting and I really hope he doesn’t have any children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:28 PM
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Unfortunately, there are plenty of men who have these types of shitty attitudes towards skin color. I’ve had plenty of men tell me that I get a pass for being darker skinned because of how pretty I am or whatever. Colorism is still a big issue. Google “colorism dating” or “skin color preferences dating” and there are many articles that come up regarding it. Even the recommended search suggestions are things like “what skin color do guys like” and “what skin color is the most attractive.” I just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:11 PM
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"I'm an empath" = I will project my emotions onto you and then gaslight you until you feel the emotion that I said you felt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:42 AM
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I don’t tell anymore. It tends to be a lose/lose situation. Either they ask for a threesome or get jealous that I’ve had/have access to women that they do not and become insecure in their ability to please me. I’m over being fetishized. I haven’t met many men who don’t automatically assume that my experiences with women means something for his penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:47 PM
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Yes!! I’ve seen this so much on Twitter lately. The second a woman (especially if she’s in/over mid 20s) says anything less that complete praise or is critical of something in some way, she’s automatically labeled as bitter or jealous no matter how valid her point is. All of the pickmeshas run out to say that then try to prove that they’re better than the woman who made the initial comment yet I never see men who are critical of things get the same treatment. They automatically assume that anoth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:59 PM
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👏👏👏 this is spot on!! So many men can cry on command and don’t even care about men mental health issues until it’s time to lie and manipulate but they don’t even realize that they are likely dealing with something themselves to even think to do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:46 PM
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The part about gaslighting is very true. I hate how much people try to push the idea that older women are jealous of younger women because I feel like a lot of older predatory men use that to their advantage to groom younger women. So many of these men also try to convince you that you're really mature/"mature for your age"/just as or more mature than women his age which further shows that they understand what they're doing is predatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:24 PM
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When I was younger, I dated a guy who would constantly repost porn of naked women on his Tumblr account and when I said something about it, I got the same "it doesn't mean anything" kind of excuses. When I started reposting naked men, he cried. 🥱 Suddenly, he understood why I wouldn't like him reposting that kind of content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:41 PM
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A HV person would clean it themselves if at home or if at a hotel, would leave a bigger tip for the cleaning staff. Either way, when a HV person decides to show their affection in this way, they make sure that you don't have to worry about any clean up involved and if another person has to clean it, they're going to be fairly compensated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:28 PM
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I used to really hate fingering until I met a partner who actually took their time trying to learn what my body is like and the specific type of fingering I liked :/ A lot of them just tried to replicate what they saw in porn- that jackhammer motion or some weird twist- with no actual consideration for me and my anatomy. Even when I tried to redirect them, they would just go back to that jackhammer bc obviously, porn would know what I liked more than I did myself 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:05 AM
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I was dating a guy who ended up ghosting me about two weeks ago and only realized it had been that long since one of my friends asked me about him earlier. I thought it had been way longer than that considering that even though I liked him, I hadn't really thought about him since then which is something the old me wouldn't have been able to do. In the past, I would question myself and overanalyze what I could have done wrong and just given him the the benefit of the doubt and reached out, but no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:45 AM
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I feel like some men use this to gauge interest for threesomes. Them pointing out another woman as hot and having their partner agree, in their mind, reads as "she would fuck her too!! This is great for my boner! I can arrange a threesome now!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:26 PM
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Don't date men who aren't your type. Don't give them a "chance." What do you gain by giving them a chance other than lowering your standards to be disappointed and disrespected by someone you wouldn't normally even give the time of day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:17 PM
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I once dated a guy whose friend was dating a girl like that. They would all talk, including the bf of the girl, about how she was crazy and how he had her whipped behind her back. They would also try to figure out more ways they could take advantage of her paying for stuff and eventually started negging me because I refused to spend my money on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:08 AM
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