"6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄

Jandi18 · 2021-07-03T12:04:40+00:00

According to this stupid article

“You don't have a crazy deviant boyfriend just because you stumbled upon something a little freakier than normal. (Unless it's something illegal, in which case it's time for a serious conversation.)"

Serious discussion? More like calling the police!!! Why have a serious discussion over something illegal? "Oh Kevin don’t do that again, it’s illegal Kevin, Kevin listen to me we are communicating 🙄🙄”

sleepysiri · 2021-07-03T10:38:37+00:00

Cosmopolitan once again publishes something disturbing that has the potential to ruin a woman’s life. Who the hell is in charge of this company???

MrAndMrsCremgroblin · 2021-07-03T10:52:46+00:00

I swear this basically sums up the arguments any pro-porn person comes to the table with. No thoughts at all to how it actually damages relationships and is bad for the consumer individually as well as society as a whole, oh and not to mention all the women and children being trafficked and raped for the production of it.

Nope, it all boils down to, “it makes my peepee feel good, so you can’t hold me accountable or responsible in any way, get back in your place you silly woman.”

HexyHag · 2021-07-03T12:24:02+00:00

Let's dissect this pile of garbage:

"Just because he once rubbed one out to anime porn or some fetish you're not into doesn't mean he needs that to get off." YET.

I could also say, just because a woman once had sex with a man, doesn't mean she needs a man to get off. But that's not a very constructive approach to take in a relationship, huh?

" - - you shouldn't sweat the fact that he's choosing to rub one out when you're not around." The issue is not masturbation. Don't change the subject, scrote.
"Watching porn and masturbating don't replace having sex with you. If you're planning a home-cooked meal for dinner, that doesn't mean he should abstain from eating lunch." First he implies porn and sex are not interchangable. Then he conjures up that lunch-dinner metaphore, which contradicts his former statement, since lunch and dinner are pretty much the same thing, just at different times of day. Also notice how he compares sexual release to an actual need, food?
"Everyone gets off in different ways. Maybe you read erotica, or just imagine someone hot going down on you, but not everyone has a great imagination." Not having a great imagination does NOT justify exploitation of others.
"He doesn't want to date the porn stars." OMG this scrote believes that having a madonna-whore complex and being a hypocrite is a GOOD thing!?
"It doesn't make him a deviant." If deriving sexual pleasure from depraved acts does not make someone a deviant, what does? That's like saying that alcohol dependency doesn't make someone an alcoholic.
"He's not measuring your sexual performance against porn. He's not wishing you were into anal sex or thinking about how you don't squirt when you come and this girl does. He's not thinking anything. He's just focusing on how good his penis feels." The first part is a BLATANT LIE. Porn absolutely has made men preassure women into anal and other things they see in porn. And again, how does this scrote think that it's a GOOD thing that a guy only thinks of his pee pee during sex?!?! (Also, if men can just concentrate on how their penis feels without thinking anything, doesn't that mean that they could do without porn?!)
"He doesn't think it's a big deal. You might not like porn (or even masturbating) but for him it's healthy and casual." Again, he somehow thinks that 'not thinking it's a big deal' makes him look BETTER. It actually just further highlights the weakness of character to not pay a thought for the victims of the industry. Also notice the sneaky negging hinting at the frigidity of the female audience in case they don't like porn.

thatjimmylove · 2021-07-03T10:45:24+00:00

Of Cours the article is written by a dude, but also cosmo in general is the most PICK ME magazine, bye.

melonmagellan · 2021-07-03T10:34:54+00:00

This is the number one post on Google when searching "why I shouldn't care about porn."

Shit is ridiculous. Although, they do very bravely tell you to "have a serious talk" about CP if you find any 🤢

NoGutsNoGlory2 · 2021-07-03T13:38:59+00:00

Why am i not surprised. I wouldn’t even wipe my ass with a cosmo rag. I haven’t read that shit since I was a foolish teenager. On the cover, there always is some emaciated, overly photoshopped, woman with headlines plastered all over. The titles consist of only sexual things and how you should please a man, because you aren’t doing enough in bed to satisfy him and his needs.

REAL COSMO HEADLINES: -Tease Him And Please Him!

“Please, No!”: The Shocking Murder of a Perfect Girl
Why You Should Be A Jealous Bitch: And 6 Other Relationship Secrets

-His Butt: What the Size, Shape, and Pinchability of Those Sweet Cheeks Reveal About His True Self

-Displaying This Emotion Can Endanger Your Life

-Foreplay Men Crave: Touch His Secret Erotic Spot (Surprise: It Doesn’t Rhyme With Shmenis)

-Meow!: Why Acting Just Like a Cat Will Get People to Come To You

-When Your Vagina Acts Weird After Sex

An Orgasm Almost Killed Her: We Not Kiddin
“Um, Vagina, Are You Okay Down There?”: Easy Fixes For Freaky Issues

Source:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/ted-pillow/2012/08/20-greatest-cosmo-headlines/

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-07-03T12:57:16+00:00

cosmo is trash. they should keep digital. we don't want any trees to be cut for that garbage

throwaway23er56uz · 2021-07-03T12:46:39+00:00

The main problem with porn is that porn treats women as objects. The writer of this "article" doesn't even get this point.

And depending on what kind of porn it is, it can certainly make someone deviant. Porn is like a drug, and the consumers will need more and more hardcore stuff to get the thrill they are seeking.

Lazy-Design1979 · 2021-07-03T14:29:04+00:00

This is all just lies. I don't know what person who wrote this article is smoking, but none of those points are absolutely true. I'm not sure there's such a thing as a "casual" porn user - everyone I've seen who's into it is into it to the point of dysfunction. There is no "I use a couple times a month" - one hit and it's all they can think about.

Repulsive-Ad1092 · 2021-07-03T19:17:45+00:00

He doesn’t want to date the pornstars

He just sees asses and breasts, not humans. Thanks for reminding me that my partner is a creep, girlboss💄

dolphiya_or_parateen · 2021-07-03T12:45:23+00:00

What the actual fuck is this shit? Porn causes widespread erectile dysfunction, escalatory sexual deviance and horrific body image issues - just look at the rise of young women getting huge fake lips and asses to try to compete with porn. Oh I guess Cosmo calls that “empowering” because they take advertising money from cosmetic surgeons. I cant believe a magazine that’s supposed to support women is propagating this kind of shit - presumably in the name of “sex positivity”. Irresponsible to the point of devastating.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-07-03T17:24:43+00:00

They suggested cOmUnIcAtInG if he watches illegal stuff online?????? Are they fucking joking???!!!! You call the police!!

Bbeautifulbitch · 2021-07-03T19:49:05+00:00

Funny how it’s not all men until it comes to porn… then it’s “all men watch porn, get used to it!”

ItsFreezen · 2021-07-03T16:19:18+00:00

Cosmo is another Pimp Magazine written by the grooming madam's who are working for the pimps.

LadyGrimes · 2021-07-03T19:26:18+00:00

How much did this person get paid to prop up the porn industry?

BlackJeepW1 · 2021-07-03T18:55:06+00:00

How much bullshit could they fit on one page? The answer may surprise you 🙄

K0rla · 2021-07-03T12:56:16+00:00

Porn is not necessary for masturbation. Again, needing images of explicit sex and being desensitised to them to the point of needing recordings of fake crimes (or real, sadly, knowing the industry) is NOT normal, and it’s in no way comparable to touching yourself while thinking about people or fantasies.

People have masturbated since forever and access to thousand violent sexual videos through our phones has not been around for that long, porn apologists need to stop pretending this is needed to have a healthy sex life.

ucompost · 2021-07-03T11:46:39+00:00

Ahh the same publication that said velvet gloves to fondle balls was a way to a mans heart. What garbage. And yet still so similar to VICE.

aenema46n2 · 2021-07-03T20:00:41+00:00

Article by 'Cosmo Frank'🤢

Can't believe I used to read this trash as a teen in the 90s, tho it's gotten so progressively worse over the years.

An article teaching women (and teens) to settle on men with porn addictions🤦‍♀️ Seriously infuriating. Do not settle or tolerate shit, you LEAVE.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-07-03T14:41:17+00:00

Number 7... 🤦🏾‍♀️

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-07-03T12:02:40+00:00

You can see it is a real issue when you think you have to convince women porn is good and beneficial. If it was, why are apperantly only men doing it and not women? Why do men get a free pass for being a pervert again, but women are conveniently not even expected to want to see it? 🤡

superderpina_ · 2021-07-03T12:39:23+00:00

Holy shit i have never read so many wrong things consecutively after each other. Grade A libfem propaganda.

FluffandRainclouds · 2021-07-03T18:52:21+00:00

Literally all of these are false, if you look at what porn addicts on Reddit say, as well as what their partners say.

Copy and paste of the drivel:

This isn't his ideal real-life sex. Porn is escapism the same way Once Upon a Time is escapism (except with way more close-ups of balls). Just because he once rubbed one out to anime porn or some fetish you're not into doesn't mean he needs that to get off.

Then why do so many men ask women to do freaky things or talk about it so much?

It's probably not taking time away from you or your relationship. Masturbation, for most people, is pretty casual. Unless he's actively choosing not to spend time with you so he can hole up in his room and watch porn, you shouldn't sweat the fact that he's choosing to rub one out when you're not around.

Tell that to all the women who are on a certain sub (deceased rooms with a bed in them) and complain about how their men have zero interest in sex but all the interest in their phone/computer.

Watching porn and masturbating don't replace having sex with you. If you're planning a home-cooked meal for dinner, that doesn't mean he should abstain from eating lunch. In fact, some guys masturbate more when they have a healthy sex life (because they're all horned up all the time).

See the response to #2. It is a way to avoid the emotional intimacy of sex. They often are very, very bad at sex (impatient, no foreplay, no kissing, rough/causing pain, no tenderness, horrible attitude) because they find their hand easier than the "work" of sex.

Everyone gets off in different ways. Maybe you read erotica, or just imagine someone hot going down on you, but not everyone has a great imagination. Not every guy needs visual stimulation to get off, but for the vast majority of guys it makes the process a lot faster.

That is not the same. Erotica, romantic movies/books, etc can help women idealize their current partners and use that imagination to translate into real life romance. According to the many horror stories of porn addicts' partners, these men tend to choose visuals the complete opposite of their partner, and often spend hours at a time on sites trying to jack off. 🙄

He doesn't want to date the porn stars. Sure, porn stars can be hot, but just because he happens to watch a lot of porn with women who have FF breasts doesn't mean he wants to take them home and have a loving relationship with them. Remember he's just touching himself, not thinking, "I could see myself having kids with this yoga teacher that's really into bukkake."

Then why do they keep asking us why we don't look like porn stars? Why do they ask us why our breasts don't defy gravity? Why do they ask us about stretch marks from puberty? Why do they say they prefer anime characters? Why do they act disgusted at any faint sign of public hair's existence? Why do they expect us to wake up in theorizing with a full face of makeup?

Not to mention, he probably wants a woman who looks like that but a "nice girl to take home to mum." Madonna-whore complex also leading to a deceased bedroom.

It doesn't make him a deviant. Every guy has thought, "What the fuck did I just have an orgasm to?" at least once. It happens when you're clicking around some porn site at random and you're so horny you can't even think straight. Don't judge him. You don't have a crazy deviant boyfriend just because you stumbled upon something a little freakier than normal. (Unless it's something illegal, in which case it's time for a serious conversation.)

"A sErIoUs conversaaaation!" AKA, "Ladies, don't get your self-esteem so high and uppity you can dump a dude when you see sex abuse on his computer! Coddle his feewings and don't report him to the police. You're lucky he even puts up with you, because he has all these options with porn. Porn doesn't ask for all the things you need, so let's say 'fuck your feelings' as part of the article without using those exact words 🙂"

Remember ladies, there are men out there into My Little Pony sexually. A cartoon for little girls!

He's not measuring your sexual performance against porn. He's not wishing you were into anal sex or thinking about how you don't squirt when you come and this girl does. He's not thinking anything. He's just focusing on how good his penis feels.

"Why won't you let me put it in your butt? Why can't you deepthroat further? Why do you need a vibrator? What do you mean I have to touch that for you to orgasm? What do you mean I can't slap/scratch you down there with long nasty nails? Gee, I just asked about a threesome. You didn't bleed-- are you sure you were a virgin? You didn't squirt and scream like a hyena-- you sure you're not lying about your orgasm? 🤔" - Way too many men

He doesn't think it's a big deal. You might not like porn (or even masturbating) but for him it's healthy and casual.

Of course it's not a "big deal." He's a NVM and it benefits him while bothering you. It lowers your self esteem and makes you work harder for some semblance of love, affection, or approval while his fantasy playground comes first. His gross sites, video games, and buddies come before your needs, having a job, cleaning, or doing anything remotely productive in his life. And if you ask for higher standards, he will use this exact line. "I can quit anytime I want" aka addicts denial.

This "article" was a disingenuous joke. Men can and do all these things. The more entitled ones reveal it sooner. Any man who has this mindset is a liability to your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial health. Abort mission.

ETA: I apologize for thr number formatting. It did not translate 1-8 for some reason.

ETA 2: I forgot the ED. All the ED and delayed ejaculation in men as early as their 20s!

AyemHerself · 2021-07-06T14:29:48+00:00

Thanks for the advice, "Cosmo Frank."

Also, the photo he chose is from a movie about a LITERAL PORN ADDICT. Coincidence? I think not.

DaisyDeadPetals123 · 2021-07-03T20:55:36+00:00

Is it so wrong to not want my significant other masturbating/fantasizing about other women?

Title	"6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄
Author	melonmagellan
Upvotes	163
Comments	74
Date	July 3, 2021 10:33 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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