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LOL yes ! wasn't gonna mention it but yup he had the biggest leg up in the industry and where has it led......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 09:50 PM
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he's such a narcissist like see how he sees everything as an extension of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:47 PM
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Same I crave the hair strokes and the closeness lol not the sexual aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:00 PM
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I don't get why "hoe phases" are advertised as appealing they make me nauseous lmao, It's weird how women hardcore encourage each other to do things that don't benefit us. Even if the friend is super shy not interested in hook ups the friends always will push this onto them. It's almost like they want company for their misery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:58 PM
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I hate parents who don't have boundaries with their children and get their whole filthy mess of lives all over them. No shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:40 PM
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Men have a really hard time coping when a woman they put in the object of desire section of their brain shatters the illusion. There is a certain tendency in these type of guys to project fantasies onto this women and when she burns them by being her own person with a life and a history and someone who is not available to them , they melt. they don't even consider reciprocity when they want someone, they just have to be selfish and deluded and get mad at a woman for being a person in her worklif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 01:29 AM
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Very true, women make just as many excuses about men's behaviour, it's almost like they both don't want to face it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:22 PM
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it's really common way of men thinking they always apply why did she deserve to all violent assaults on women, because they have the same psychology of the perpetrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:38 PM
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cmon babe stop being so frigid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 04:05 PM
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Sex has become largely performative and what I really envy is not the fake power exchanges but the genuine intimacy some partners have and a mutual pursuit of pleasure. Being 'kinky' does not make you sexually advanced or free you are absolutely right. Art of seduction and sensation are nearly lost behind all of that bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:57 PM
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Me to my lottery app before it draws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:02 AM
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What I can’t deal with is a man with audacity because it’s just too dangerous. LOL too real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:33 PM
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They always sexualize woman's suffering they always want to suggest we seek it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:21 PM
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My therapist got upset with me when I brought up opinions I was struggling with and made me feel like I had to fucking lie to him to make him not offended like what? he was appointed by the school too. Major Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:13 PM
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Marriage is hard when you marry a man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:47 PM
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That is like a fundamental base of lib fems " You can't say anything critical about me or my feminism because I am also a woman and anything I do is progressive." It's how they protect themselves from critically thinking about how exactly this is good or empowering for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:04 PM
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I ADORE THIS COMMENT !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:59 PM
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This suggestion is poison and I hate how they try and shove it in trauma victims face it's like " hey if you don't lock your doors ! Someone can't break in! " Liberal Feminism is so infuriating, all of this empowerment is ludicrous it's just signing your name on the dotted line. It just is retraumatizing yourself and living in a merry go round where you whole life is cyclical and defined by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:56 PM
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perfect reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:30 PM
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Congratulations, It is also worth noting that you are just stepping out of the sexual identity that scrote forced onto you through grooming. We are conditioned endlessly and I think women need to be more brazen about defying it. When you are young and endlessly sexualized in vulgar ways you lean into it and confuse yourself. Very few women actually challenge this fake "instinct" in themselves so happy you did !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:29 PM
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You'd think the 28th amendment is " No kink shaming, hard scrotes are more important than the dignity of women" .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:35 PM
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I love touring historic homes or mansions ! so gorgeous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:31 PM
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Here is my favourite autumn self-date: - Wake up and put on my favourite dress tights and boots, do hair & makeup etc. -take the bus downtown to my favourite restaurant for breakfast, eat there while listening to my fave music in headphones or reading a book or article I like. - Walk downtown through the park doing the same - go to my favourite thrift stores and I try and look for something to treat myself to - Having lunch alone and then going to the old movie theatre which is awesome cuz they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:29 PM
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sexpats spreading STD's and STI's, more important than ever is to eliminate or at least completely reduce any casual sex. It's so not worth it when you can pleasure yourself STI/STD free. This is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:25 PM
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I'm sorry what the hell.... the depravity in unparalleled that made me so sick to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:04 PM
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I love how her stating her boundary, Confronting him about the issue, Seeing a therapist with him and once again stating her boundary are all not seen as viable forms of communication by the commenters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:31 PM
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"Excellent advice. I think that on many occasions people try to blame external factors for the problems in their sexlife but in reality it is down to problems within the relationship itself and in this case I agree that it sounds as if she is putting too much pressure on her partner. She needs to ignore the porn and focus on trying to create a less confrontational way on improving their love life." - Of course blame on the women when a very clear boundary that has been set is crossed. She has we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:28 PM
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Thanks for sharing this take it articulates my feelings about BDSM that I could not quite nail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:10 PM
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It says a lot that when it comes to men it's considered shameful to pick on someone who is not your own size, yet between men and women the first thing they think about as equality is getting to beat us up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:41 PM
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They say " talk it out" like they are giving advice to a mother when their toddler just entered the hitting or biting stage. So tired of the coddling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:44 PM
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This! Men are physically more intimidating and stronger than women, a man slapping a woman in the face is immeasurably different than her slapping his phone out of his hand. This narrative they are trying to claim is dangerous, a man could slap the hell out of you and seriously hurt you but if you slap his arm and it hardly even feels like anything you are now equally dangerous and abusive. So stupid. No one should hit anyone but that being said the power and strength difference is inherent, men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:41 PM
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It would have but it would at least make her think about her childish behaviour and maybe re evaluate herself but given the outpour of support elsewhere probably would have just made her think you're jealous... cuz pickme logic lol. But I am all for coldly calling people out now. Be icy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:58 PM
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It's an epidemic amongst my friends as well, I do not understand this as the only form of validation and just makes me incredibly sad. But of course if you do anything other than play into this mess and validate her you are the villain of sex and freedom lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:08 PM
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This coming from a man of the sex who can't handle when a woman reveals skin claiming she is asking to be seen sexually, but an actual sexual organ that's normal don't make things sexual /s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:23 PM
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You can never be seen as a good friend by these people, when you are candid you are being unsupportive and bitchy. However if you are indifferent towards her relationships because you don't want to expend energy that won't be taken in, eventually she will blame you when something goes wrong for " not supporting or trying to help her out of a bad relationship". It is so ridiculous I hate offering advice to people who just ignore it again and again and just want your endless discourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:36 PM
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I have a friend like this too, ONLY messages me when she wants to talk about her boyfriend and never replies to anything I say and then goes "Oh my gosh Im so sorry about my replies *immediately skips to her and her bf*" yet never changes her behaviour. Just cut her out it is insanely disrespectful to treat a friend like that. I have lots of friends I do not talk to often but the difference is we respect each other and are not talking because we are both busy not because we are self centred pick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:33 PM
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They delude themselves and think they are the exception they literally take the "validation" so personally. In other words they do not realize how vast and cheap male attention is, so they genuinely are addicted to it for their self esteem. For instance if she sleeps with a married man, she sees herself as so desirable he cheated on his wife for her. All while failing to realize that what he sees in her is new. They will also see if they become wives ( bonus points if it's to the same man) how q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:27 PM
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They are very easily identifiable based on how they talk about male attention, they severely treat it as the most important to them. They will make it the whole focus of their identity, they make horrible friends because they tend to be self centred and think of their friends as background characters to themselves. If you are ever perceived by her as being prettier she will make passive jabs all of the time to try and make you feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:20 PM
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No you forgot only male evolutionary biology is reasonable and acceptable. but HYPERGAMY is pure evil, women are cruel & entitled. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:10 PM
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Spot on, they use it at as their be all end all to justify their shittiness. When men point to the biology thing all I hear is " I don't want to critically think about life or my behaviour but I also don't want to seem weak so I'm going to blame my stupidity on indisputable nature", very funny because its the same men who despise female biology. Our biology is evil in it's purest form but theirs is " natural and reasonable" I hate it .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:08 PM
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LOL !!!! that's the worst ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:20 PM
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Lmaooo I can't with his facial expressions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:44 PM
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Most women who "show off" this want validation from it and so do their partners it's why people in age gap relationships can't shut up about it, it's sort of like some kinky people instead of keeping it to themselves they think it's everyone's business to know. It depends on the personality of the person too , some may like showing off the clearly material assets she gains, other may like the 'taboo' of it and think it validates them a different , I find others like to talk like they are love gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:06 PM
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This is why I hate discussing the whole "false allegations" thing with men it just becomes so incredibly clear that they think a man being accused of rape is more horrific and evil than a woman actually being raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:32 AM
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Thank you for bringing this to my attention the media just wants to use her as something they can point at and go "look women do it too". She faces all of this harrowing abuse, and murders men who are inflicting it and it's seen as an equal tragic backstory to Ted Bundy who didn't know his mom and wasn't well liked. It's ridiculous how women are viewed. Reminds me of the court case of the French women who killed her father who pimped her out in self defence and some people were defending the fat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:31 AM
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Yeah I have only ever seen one good example of guy friend and he is my sisters friend who is gay. Not sure I believe the myth of men and women not being friends though. I've never had a purely clean friendship with a guy. A lot of my friends who do have guy friends have had one or two of them sexually harass them and now they are no longer friends. If they kept being friends Im sure it would eventually lead to assault. I cut men off at the first hint they might be physically dangerous to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:24 AM
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he did this stuff murders young girls souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:21 AM
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Grooming and abuse really when it comes to men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:17 AM
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he'll probably sexualize you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:14 AM
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40 years experience of abusing young women OH MY GOD HE'S GONE MULTI PLATINUM!!! Seriously though these BDSM guys scare me deeply. One guy who talked to me had his alias as Ted Bundy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:11 AM
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All of those words are just so icky like traumatic the rationalizations from men are so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:03 AM
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the Coolidge effect why'd I think this had anything to do with Jenifer Coolidge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:02 AM
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I am so tired of these stories , I am so tired of grown men treating girls this way it just makes me feel like everything should decay. The worst kind of human behaviour exploitive and disgusting. I hate this I hope she is getting through it okay. At least it's being brought against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:28 AM
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I wish he'd take another man's pain in the ass see how he likes it /s."Painal" is so fun now eh jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:14 AM
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I feel so sick about these comments, I used to see a man going to a brothel or paying for sex as uncommon or weird but not necessarily bad, now I cannot even stomach it. They're profiting off of women being seen as second class, it's so degrading to hear them talk about defiling women for an extra 100 bucks. Imagine having sex with these men day in day out and some onlyfans model has the audacity to speak over your voice and say sex work is liberating and most women should try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:10 AM
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I know I had the same visceral reaction she nails the grooming and how attention is used to make these young girls mystify themselves, I find because we are so sexualized whether we want to be or not it is so much easier for our minds to lean in to it rather than away. It was so intense and I really felt consumed by it the same way Vanessa did, it kills me how long it stayed with her and still impacted her everyday. What a horrible trap that seems like it happens to you because you are the "exce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:50 PM
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Yes I am familiar with excavation thank you for mentioning it I should have !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:23 PM
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I recently went back to all of my favourite movies as a child and all of them had this sexualized lens of girlhood and they made me romanticize my life and It literally almost killed me. Although I never cared for the mainstream depictions on pretty little liars and stuff, the obsession with teenage girls as sexual deviants is everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:07 PM
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I was really surprised by it when i first read it I was expecting it to really be another lolita tale but the author did a lot of research when she wrote this and was effected by the mystification of lolita when she was a teenager too, feels kind of like this sliver of truth lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:42 PM
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Hope you like it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:40 PM
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you should :) !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:40 PM
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hope you like it if you ever wanna talk about it after you're done , I love discussing it ! Was recommended to me by another redditor when I was dealing with similar emotions to the main character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:40 PM
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that line broke my heart and also just seeing the complete impact it had on her life , where even as a 32 year old woman she's constantly contemplating it. It honestly seemed like a nightmare to me, and ugh his behaviour was so manipulative but it is written so well that we can see how he played on the needs of a teenager wanting to feel special and desirable and understand why she did what she did. The emotions are just they are perfection, I like how it shows the direct mystifying men have of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:35 PM
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* My Dark Vanessa I am sorry I typed this quickly!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:46 PM
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They never even learn after they first learn the grass is never greener, they constantly do it, like really self awareness is a gift I don't know how they keep hitting their heads agaisnt the wall like this and then blaming woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:18 PM
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Men are so guilty of this they do it all the time , they are intensely focused on this fantasy woman they have projected in their mind. Then they never look inside themselves when it goes wrong and move on to romanticize another woman, and talk about how no women are virtuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:44 PM
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Men think open relationship means he gets to have sex with others and she doesn't. I hope she leaves him she's 24 she should say bye before she's guilted into accepting his crusty proposal. Major idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:41 PM
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Exactly that name is associated with sex work only in my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:41 PM
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The fact that they really only charge like 5 dollars a month for a whole collection of mostly vulgar nudes and videos. The markets too saturated for most women to make money off of tasteful ones( not that nudes for scrotes is ever tasteful), combined with the pornsick mentality of men you have to do more and more stuff to actually get income. It's actually very degrading when you really consider it. It also gives them the " sex worker" card which they believe puts them beyond criticism when femi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:37 PM
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they've turned them into their frontline, does not help that libfeminism has this rule like " if you are a woman you can't criticize my feminism because I am a woman." so they feel they are indestructible but fail to realize just because a woman does something does not mean it is benefiting feminism. Women absolutely have a hand in suppressing and hurting feminism ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:24 PM
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None of these proposals was grand or expensive or anything and still they were special to me and my friend. It's an important decision so everybody is allowed to wish for a special moment too Exactly !!!!! Proposals are personalized and not one size fits all but romantic and special are two important qualities it should have. I would rather die than get proposed to publicly but it's not like I don't want a nice romantic proposal. Grand needs to stop being associated with ostentatious, and if a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:20 PM
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They take it so personally, almost as an insult to themselves when another woman expects more. It's even worse when she gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:18 PM
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This is beyond ridiculous, they don't realize when they are making a new societal expectation where women are not allowed to expect anything. People talk about proposals framing it as " it's the love that counts" , well actions show love. If he takes time to thoughtfully propose to you in a way you like, it shows he was thinking about you while planning it, It's the love of your life they should be able to get it right. Everyone has different ideas of romantic, but this whole "you're vain if you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:15 PM
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That's exactly what it was just some absolute bs i am also betting he might have a girlfriend or something because he blocked her on social media not the dating app where they communicate. Either way shows me he does not value her at all. They really do dig their own graves and it's frustrating, especially because when he initially blocked her we had this conversation about how it's ridiculous men act like this and she won't ever entertain it. Yet he gives one flimsy apology and asks her to hang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:49 PM
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I know I also have been contemplating all the things I thought I desired in life like motherhood and have just decided for now I can not do that because the world is a horribly cruel place to women and children. I thought the complete sexualization of girls and women was lessening but now I see it is coming in full force I share the same distress and shame about it. I have no idea how to cope but I am so relieved I have FDS to not make me feel crazy about this horrible disturbance. Your comment …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:45 PM
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my friend recently forgave a guy who blocked her after they had sex on the first date, and i harshly told her doing stuff like that is how guys end up walking all over you. she went out with him again hiking ! told me he had serial killer vibes like no shit! The mood shifted slightly and i felt sort of bad, but i just can not play the lib fem friend anymore It's exhausting and i prefer to be candid. If someone has the same problem I can only tell them so many times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:37 PM
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sending you lots of love, that was a lot to read and i could feel the rightful rage in it, I'll never forgive people for being rape apologists who hold victims accountable and not the abuser. It's the cruelest thing ever. Im so glad to find a community of women who feel the same frustrations about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:05 PM
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LOL, paper plates instead of being too lazy for DISHES!!!! unparalleled selfishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 01:26 AM
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Shout out to the guy who told me FDS was an evil place, I just knew I had to see it then <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:48 AM
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it's actually killing me right now lmao imaging sending a dude 100 bucks for a video of him stroking it LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:51 AM
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Their role reversals are always hillarious because it is so normalized for them to already do the behaviours they are supposedly calling out in women that they don't even realize it before they open their mouth. But genuinely imagine the reverse where the majority of women subscribed to multiple men with huge dicks and abs and full hairlines, who actually made women cum. Lol its funny to even think about. Regardless of physical attraction that wouldn't even get women off because we aren't creeps…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:16 PM
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Honestly never thought about it this way but you are so right. That's also why they get so upset that women desire orgasms they see it as misandry against them for us requiring our partners to get us off equally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:13 PM
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The fact that it has become normal for your boyfriend to be subscribed to multiple women's only fans or nudes/videos, and it's just thought of as okay. Imagine if women as a majority did this men would lose their minds. If he does this he is just further supporting the idea that women's sexuality is to be commodified and he's benefiting from it. Beyond that imagine what it would do to intimacy in your relationship, although porn is terrible it is not as intimate as a platform like only fans or c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:52 PM
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I used to be a horrible kink meisha coping with trauma. this is all true I had a horrible and painful year of looking at myself where I realized what I wanted was affection and care but because of how i grew up I believed I had to tolerate abuse to get a sliver of genuine affection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:54 PM
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They are so mad about it, but they won't do anything about. If it's not all men, then all men must stop this behaviour in its tracks and never let it persist. Where's your outrage to all the CP or teen oriented subreddits, the jailbait tags, the disgusting perverted loli communities?? Where is all of that, oh you don't care? that's what I thought. I can not and will not tolerate this behaviour and if you are not actively against it you are with it, and Women have every right to condemn the colle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:17 PM
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What a wonderful thing to celebrate I love the ring! Congratulations, lovely success!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:00 PM
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To me it seems his rage is oriented at the sexuality of women being displayed hence why he hates kim's sex tape so much, instead of focusing on the obvious implications and disturbing parts of pornography. A sex tape is very different than what porn is ( i know that sounds stupid at first lol). This seems red flag to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:40 PM
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I don't believe the reply is from her , because he definitely wrote it to get "off the hook" by saying she likes the way he touched her lmao. It reads so fake and in defence of him, but whatever, this situation is sick and i don't get why he is painted as a hero pretty women style. Also sorry, Primary school and he "got over her" in Uni, I mean assuming they had no relationship LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:18 AM
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I don't have twitter but i am mentally giving them a follow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:07 PM
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I'm DYING lmao, I could not take that seriously. I am so happy you are leaving, what an actual horrifying person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:54 PM
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Not Jay from the inbetweeners lmao he's red pill personified edit: This is how redpill guys sound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:06 PM
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I hung out with my friend and her boyfriend who have been dating for about a year now and they already "cute argue" ( idk that thing where couples think its admirable for them to be annoyed with one another), they also like flick each other and act like siblings, its very weird. If that's being out of the honeymoon phase ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:50 AM
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Lol that's literally the bane of my existence one nail breaks and I immediately look for my glue, I am so wary of my hands to always keep my manicure and it never lasts longer than a month, with full length. So if I really need them I get acrylics like once a year or so lol. Men know virtually nothing about the world of beauty lol, This one guy tried to tell me the kardashians don't wear wigs or extensions lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:39 PM
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my bad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:32 PM
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girls like that are so insecure they cling to a comment made by a creepy liquor store man. I honestly find it a little tacky to make a fuss over someone's appearance when someone else is also right there, like I had a modelling scout come up to me when I was with my friends ( it's just cuz im tall) but we were all 13ish and it was off-putting how rude they were towards my friends. I hate that behaviour. Like don't do that to kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:29 PM
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Picasso is absolutely horrific, also Gauguin he frequented many islands of isolated people and slept with girls as young as 11 or 12 and bragged about it ! made art about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:49 PM
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As a huge fan of music from legit like the 20s-90s, most of the performers are scum, and little can be offset by the " it was a different time argument. Everyone would take note not to worship someone as a god simply because they made something you enjoy, the whole rockstar thing is fascinating to me in how people see them as untouchable. Here are some disturbing music facts for you: - jerry lee lewis married his 13 year old cousin - Serge Gainsbourg ( Jane Birkin's husband) wrote a song lemon i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:00 PM
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I always get so uncomfortable when some women come up to me and say some nasty thing about some other girl unprovoked. It is so weird, like no I am not going to make fun of that women's hair in line because you don't like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:59 PM
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My nails have a natural c shape and grow quite long but they break far more often than acrylics do so to keep them that way naturally they require a dramatic amount of attention. It literally kills me when men think being "natural" makes you less high maintenance like it actually makes the routines 10x more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:57 PM
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definitely its so embarassing for them, also the whole "c*ckblock" thing, like men do not believe when women do not want them and say no so they blame it on the friend. when like no 99.9 percent of the time the girl you are creeping out told her friend to stay with her. They really think we all hate each other and fight to the death for their lousy attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:37 PM
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Exactly that is gross, I would Never let someone have no tact or insult my friends like that its glaringly immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:34 PM
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Ahaha Adam Sandler movies are the worst , I had to sit through one and I just couldn't same with most action movies they are so gimmicky and male fantasy. I don't like romcoms and never have and not because im "not like other girls" and think yuck love, but I just hate how pandering they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:30 AM
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I am fed up with the media and literary narratives, I can't find anything that really truly feels progressive and is not just a feign to be #girlboss ( /s) . I feel way too serious but everything gives me headache drowns me in it's lack of intrigue and thoughtful Aim. I stopped watching TV , hardly watch movies and mostly read novels now instead but finding it still boring. Oddly enough, I find the more on the nose "offensive" novels and such to be more enjoyable because they are at least slight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:27 AM
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I've been so turned off of people lately by how their perspectives are in relationships, Im kind of tired of pretending like its all normal. I just think the incredible lack of respect is alarming it's like dating is broken. I know different things for different people but just how far that extends is crazy it's like we are gaslighted into accepting everything and for someone naive that deception is so dangerous. It's like if a woman has any standards for a man's behaviour she is controlling and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:16 AM
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A huge pet peeve of mine is when people try to compliment me at the expense of other women, someone tried to hit on me by telling me he found me the hottest out of my friends, the sad part is that some pickme would be terribly flattered by such a comment. So gross and lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:30 AM
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I have a hard time believing people accept this level of behaviour in a relationship. I wish people could see respecting themselves and leaving is worth so much more than this shit relationship that makes you feel on trial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:57 PM
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they like it for the ego points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:01 AM
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So disappointing , total scum if their dating pool is from their students just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:00 PM
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Not only is that disgusting for the girlfriend, it also is disturbing for the friend, I dont want some guy jacking off to me like its normal. This is why I don't have pictures of myself on the internet, of course this won't stop a real scrote from taking them if he needs to. The mass gaslighting that occurs to protect mens "natural" perversion is gross and I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:00 PM
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We have seen it time and time again the three most common things scrotes actively look for : - Agreeableness - Beauty ( they equate it with youth i.e. submissiveness, also god forbid you are too beautiful) - supportive/loyal/humble They say this proud and it always boils down to the fact they do not want to have their ego ever intimidated. Higher education rings that bell for them and they sulk or get offensive and try to drag you down. They don't want a partner they want a pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:35 PM
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Absolutely they always creep on students because they think you'll. be in awe of their "intelligence"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:29 PM
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Disgusting they absolutely know thats what they like about it. They like kids because they KNOW they are kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:58 PM
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I get so disturbed by this thought that I actually pray( I am not religious) for the little girls who aren't born yet and the bs they will have to deal with from the perverted men that will grow up with intense ped0 oriented porn and treat them even more like meat. It is going to be a disaster and I wish I could do something to stop it. I am gen z and I only know that it will be even more uncomfortable to bear especially because we will have the perspective of age to add to the disgust eventuall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:55 PM
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Yes!!! I had an incredibly traumatic relationship that I came out of at 17 with intense mental health issues was diagnosed with BPD, I have so far been processing alot of it and as I get more past that my BPD symptoms are almost non existent. They still flare up sometimes but I am much more in control, I'd go as far to say recovered borderline. BPD is loosely a result of lack of emotional validation. Don't even get me started on how men fetishize the hell out of BPD, some men actively get off to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:33 PM
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I have NEVER understood the morning shower preference without also taking one at night. Getting into bed DIRTY!!! whyyyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:56 PM
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I don't get the whole don't STD shame someone, I mean I get in the sense I am not going to judge someone's literal worth by them contracting an STD. However, I have every right not to sleep with someone who has one and expect that information to be shared with me prior. I get so uncomfortable when people act like it is solely their private information, don't sleep with someone if you have an STD, tell them and let them decide. Kink shaming an all of these 'shaming' words have literally become so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:28 AM
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I hate sharing this thought because I feel overly judgemental but I honestly can't stand this eternal childhood culture, I still cherish things from when I was a kid but it is compartmentalized, it is not my life and is not in constant engagement. I feel like it stunts a lot of people, I don't want to group everyone who engages in those activities as the same, because I am sure there are distinctions. But an Peter Pan type person is completely incompatible with me, I want and look forward to bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:15 AM
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Yeah I had excessive trauma and thought I liked it, I really just want to have a normal passionate moment that feels mutually satisfying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:02 PM
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Exactly its beyond ridiculous at this point , so adieu to lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:59 PM
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Men relegate any criticism between women to jealousy, It is so they can just dismiss our opinions of their ill intentions and lvm actions. And the fact that men think they do not age but woman turn into withering hags is hillarious lmao. Yeah sure, anyways go back to beating it in your moms basement to teen porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:06 PM
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I seriously don't get the vain in which they try to use it as an insult against woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:27 AM
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I loved this thanks for sharing I don't have til Tok so it's nice to still be able to see these things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:25 PM
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Bye Jared is now my energy for the rest of the year, good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:24 PM
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Im getting off reddit pedophilia seeps into every corner of it edit: what do they think making a distinction between a pedo and the other terminology does ( which I have always been very aware of they are not smart just semantics) sure they are attracted to different physical things but motivated by the same fixation and obsession, youth. they dehumanize their fixations and eventual victims to nothing more but a number. They argue their teenage obsession is biology no it is a taboo and cultural …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:05 PM
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LOL I kicked these 12 year old boys who were bothering 7 year old me In the balls and guess who got in trouble !!!! me , like I was 7 and defending myself from creepy older boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:28 AM
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I was sent to the principals office and not allowed to go on a trip until I changed my skirt ( it was a non see through lace basic skirt) , I refused and just sat with the principal until he called my mom and she told him the same thing I did, the French teacher ( a woman) called me a wh0re for this behind my back infront of other children. literally not even 13
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:26 AM
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there is no way this is not satire ..... what a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:22 AM
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me too ! I internalized so much of it I just want to protect my younger self so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:58 PM
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FDS is practically immune to pick up artistry all of these behaviours would result in instant block lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:57 PM
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I started to do this too, I am so hyperaware of all of the eyes now and I can't handle to be around grown men and younger girls it makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:46 PM
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Yes 12 was the worst age for me, Just constant sexual harassment on the streets could not walk a block without cat calls or invitations to hang out, or just like some trying to pay "earnest compliment" It is so creepy, I used to be flattered by strangers attention men and women, now I want to throw up what kind of an adult says such things to children. I also looked my age not that it would be an excuse if I looked a little older. They do this because they know we are kids and vulnerable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:44 PM
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this just made me cry I can't stand the sexualization
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:00 PM
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It really is I am hardly into adult hood and It weighs very heavy on me and makes me not want to be around men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 06:20 PM
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I absolutely agree men on reddit are depraved losers I can't stomach it and I want nothing to do with it , I have made a firm no children stance because of how disturbed I am by the sexualization of children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:54 PM
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I can't with this , What the hell reddit is the worst like I am so disappointed in humanity by it. This reminds me of the most recent A Star is Born everyone kept saying what a tragic romance all I could think was absolute assh0le
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:32 PM
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I am so scared for how more depraved it will get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:27 AM
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the biggest illusion is woman's agency it is the oldest trick in the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:24 PM
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You need to separate yourself from the 3rd person perspective where you are constantly evaluating yourself in the male gaze. Trust me I struggled hard with this and similar insecurities, we feel vindicated with attention it feels like we are doing something right. Best way I found the remedy is to realize how abundant and valueless a male glance or attention is, it means virtually nothing. All it is Is an internalized "good girl", zero in on being in first person perspective always, own goals, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:13 PM
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Nope Nope instant tears stream down my face this is my worst nightmare.I would be shattered and leave instantly I can only imagine the dismay she is feeling I hope she both reports and breaks up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:50 AM
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I was attracted to older men when I was very young, you know why? because I was mentally unstable and traumatized and was heavily brain washed. I got that sexual identity thrust onto me. I have been with older men and the ones who go after young women particularly are Not mature. So the chances of finding a quality man while you are young who is much older is just as slim as a young woman even being attracted to an older man in general. All of my none trauma informed friends, not even a Slight i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:24 AM
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Please lmao I can't with those Metoo comments, they are so beyond ridiculous and self centred like way to miss the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:25 AM
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I 90 percent bet they are underaged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:59 PM
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the virtuous delusion they have is unreal they have full blow good guy syndrome, always believe they are doing the right thing but they just warp their selfish actions to seem selfless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:56 PM
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Why do men thing they are always in the Clear for avoiding emotional weight, he says he does not want to be selfish but he is incredibly selfish. He just wasted 3 years of this woman time, completely disrespecting the commitment of their relationship, he is not a fit partner. He is the definition of spineless practically DO EMOTIONAL LABOUR, you are not noble for not. these are the men who think they are good people, when they are clearly shitty, I bet he believes himself to be a model boyfriend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:54 PM
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what are even the basis for men's rights all I hear is mental health, false accusations, divorce , & access to sex complaints.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:31 PM
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I had this man come up to me at a bar and tell me " you think you're better than me what's your problem, I see you judging me", This was the first time I noticed the man at all during the night so my nervous reaction was just to laugh thinking he was joking. Then I went and told the security guard he was being agressive towards me after coming up to me two more times and calling me a b!tch with my friends and making little gun gestures at us. he also stole my friends drink all while his friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:26 PM
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What they define as Misandry, its being called out on their own opressive bs so now because the attitude in the world is starting to see through and not tolerate it as much they call the misandry card and not all men. We hate misogyny not men, get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:17 PM
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Oh my god "Im impressed by you so far" what is this the hunger games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:49 PM
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exactly there are so many markers of youth around her and I just wish men would let her be that way and not take advantage of it. I dont get how men feel comfortable being with someone so young and. at that so clearly young and shows her age. I would feel so uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:55 PM
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side note I find male lecturers and professors can be some of the most narcissistic attention seeking scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:52 PM
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I am so over them talking about male misbehaviour like its their kryptonite. Its not my fault I am a man and constantly engage in abusive behaviour towards women, or condone it or if a woman crying gets me turned on when I watch porn. IMAGINE HOW I FEEL AS THE MAN WHO CANT CONTROL THIS, battling this inside me. /s It is ridiculous the narrative they try to spin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:42 PM
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I am so tired of the coddling expected to surround grown men. How has everything turned around to be about them, Oh it is so hard to be a respectable human being. My parents always get frustrated at me when I don't put up with my brothers NVM disrespect, make every excuse in the book. They want every consideration to be made for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:38 PM
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My friend who was on the Social Justice committee at our school ( made is a whole personality trait) , is dating a guy who frequently says homophobic and racist things and she just does not care anymore because? Because LOOOVEEE. Honestly turned me off of her character a lot. I hope your friend ends up seeing the light
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:34 PM
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This is a whole other level of shitty, yup she's sensitive because she's Black not because you are an offensive draining waste of space. He is very immature and racist, and rude. Getting pretty NVM. I hope your friend broke up with him this is awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:32 PM
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Wow, my god and that is supposed to make you want to sleep with him now. Any man who treats women like a game and with zero respect can take that energy to hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:28 PM
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Im tired of this being seen as the norm, it really depresses me. There is so much life experience between these ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:24 PM
8

Cheapness is such a turn off , it just shows me they value nothing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:15 PM
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This is absolutely why it a cultural fetish and not some bs biological fetish they always claim in defence. They like the symbolic age and they only want that control and taboo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:09 PM
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God the Olivia Rodrigo one is awful she legit just released a song about getting her drivers licence and you are 24 dude I mean cmon ....................... Like let's look at their main defences - age does not matter, anyone who is a slightly older age can see it does. Im billies age and can see that yes it does matter I would never date someone who was recently 17. - She is mature, Olivia is talented successful and inspiring but she is not mature and she does not have to be, she will shine muc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:04 PM
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I will never understand what is so funny about these jokes, besides the sick pleasure they get out of making them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:11 AM
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I hate men whining about false accusation this false accusation that, Justice is hardly ever served, false accusations aren' relevant to 90 percent of men! The only time it starts popping up is when they have public reputation etc. And even then it is a very small percent. Especially compared to the thousands unreported. Also rapists are more likely to lie about BEING R1PISTS, they deny everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:10 AM
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I am so glad I have never had male friends this makes me want to throw up how on earth is this harmless 'banter' this is horrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:07 AM
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I can't stand men who have money and are cheap, an engagement ring means something to alot of women, it shows commitment and investment, marriage is not light offer. I used to think I did not care and my mother actually married my father with no ring ( divorced and she deeply regretted it while they were married). No I really care about the ring. It's like my sisters husband golfing every week but getting annoyed with her buying herself a starbucks drink a week. A lot of men do not care if they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:35 AM
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are you joking Feminism is male led? Jesus they have infiltrated everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:01 PM
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to me it is more the illfitted suit I just don't understand if you are insanely wealthy why you would where that when your girlfriend looks like THAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:57 PM
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all of these are horrific but the love language one annoyed me so much looking at the messages what a child. it pisses me off when men dont want to do any of the emotional labour to end the relationship or dating stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:53 PM
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A lot of men will say responses that are so red flag that they don't even realize that while they are saying it first of all red flags - wants a clearly serious relationship with kids, yet sees women 27 and over who don't want them as a red flag ( thats not red thats a compatibility dealbreaker) , so he's 38 wants some 27 but also might be okay with someone under 27 ( if they dont want kids and he can waste their youth and or tricks them later). he is not as serious as he thinks he wants some wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:46 PM
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I adore rigorous beauty routines, not because of wanting to be beautiful but because it is a way I feel I am both taking time for myself and also in meditative energy refuelling state ( only when in a true relax pamper not maintenance. I have always been "high maintenance" but I do not understand the negative association with it, it is just another way someone chooses to spend their time. Key word is their time, MY time, I am not putting anything on someone else. Men who get upset by this I find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:49 AM
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I just want to understand why kinks have become this undefiable thing like why are they so protected from criticism and shame. Sexual behaviour should not be 100 percent always permissible, there is something not good about A LOT of kinks, especially because most of them are actually fetishes that dictate people's sexual life and force partners into uncomfortable situations because "DON'T KINK SHAME" You are not indebted to anyones every desire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:22 PM
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I actually low key judge what media people consume and why they consume it, not to sound like extra judgemental but to me it kind of reflects something in someone's character or interests. We all watch random things but if he is motivated into watching a movie simply because his celebrity crush is in it and no other reason its a orange flag to me, red if he only likes the person cuz they are hot. Same goes for women Im not really into watching a movie because Chris Hemsworth would be shirtless i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:21 PM
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Yes, I love this ! It is terrifying the social disproval you get from not following the script or having your own ambitions seems archaic but it creeps out in a myriad of situations! I am so happy lots of woman are changing this and taking an active role in their own life rather than a passing role in someone elses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:16 PM
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Definitely it a low value way to communicate or feign ' connectedness'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:33 PM
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Definitely, I am fascinated ironically enough with people's fascination with famous people. Particularily rock stars, they really are heiled as gods. I just feel really uncomfortable with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:32 PM
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I really enjoyed this thank you !!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:31 PM
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Exactly, it is natural for us to identify with people and things we admire, and fandoms are actually fun, but it is something you grow out of for the most part, It's apart of growing up. I still hold that love for those things and passions but it is not central to my life and I don't play a fan role I play an active role and do the things I admire. I have one friend who is obsessed with a certain actor and lots of women are, beyond reasonability, like it is a low-key hardcore obsession. I find i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:29 PM
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social media really can reduce someone's entire being to an image, inflating or devaluing their worth. I find the validation from it quite disturbing, I mean even thinking about the hundreds of thousands of comments from strangers what does that do? For female celebrities or I guess just "sex symbols" in general it must be rather pathetic feeling to see the people sexualizing them in the comments even though they know the person won't respond. I came across a youtube I used to watch the other da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:23 PM
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ugh that is the worst of the worst men who use women's bodies as aesthetics, tactless and gross. I find it sketchy when they have no social media, but also I don't so it is all about discernment. I really like people who are immersed in their own life, instead of the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:18 PM
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It really is bottomline unattractive, it makes me feel second hand embarassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:56 PM
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This is one of the most widely accepted points of insanity , they aren't even playing for christ sakes ( also a reason why sports players are more likely to abuse partners). Imagine if women that they make fun of for liking reality shows threw a national fit when their contestant of the bachelor is not picked ( ew wow just realized that show is LITERALLY PICK ME ) It genuinely scares me, I hate the rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:45 AM
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exactly, a waste! same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:19 PM
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Why is Netflix still making garbage like this. Call me a stick in the mud but I can't with modern TV it is awful, only thing I enjoyed recently was the Betty Broderick story. Reasons Why I hate the market right now for TV, film is slightly better but not by much. - I am sick of the romance & tropes portrayed, you do not have to tell a perfect story but how you go about telling an imperfect story is everything, the tone you take is what makes it eye roll inducing. When you have such a love endure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:13 PM
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It kills me that men are encouraged to have their youth for themselves and something societally they can easily evolve and move on from. For girls we get the opposite message, although it is changing slightly as of late. The underlying or sometimes overt tone is to protect your youth to find a man to marry, and if there is not an emphasis on virginity or at least modesty, there is still a tone about spending your youth for men. Also we have the ticking clock in eyes of the culture, it does not v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:25 PM
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Yes definitely, I prefer to live apart from my partners most of the time so I'd probably accept this before than but very specifically. I'm glad we can use the FDS rules, some of them non conformingly and harshly in vetting and others to our own discernment based FDS values, it really helps hone that skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:48 PM
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No this is actually a very valid point that gets overlooked. I pay very close attention to how guys ( especially older) react to older women, I find it hillarious when they try to draw a line between me and them. Even theirselves and them and cast them aside insultingly. My youth is not a fixed quality for me, so Interest from an older man has a big dependence on it. I do not understand why women are flattered by someone finding their youth attractive, it really is not ours sadly, don't waste it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:39 PM
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also the arrogance to think he knows how to actually pronounce it , more than yourself....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:24 PM
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and at the point you accept that, he should of already be vetted hard enough to discern the plan is for the sake of spontaneity and not for lack of respect. I like random plans but not in a way that has a casual unintended purpose, also some people just dont like surprises too so all comes down to your own boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:22 PM
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how do they jack off to a message .... that is a whole new low bar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:20 PM
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Oh my god No this is terrifying that poor girl The way he talks to her like he is her dad disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:07 PM
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Totally underrated everyone pokes fun about how rigorous the emphasis on posture was in the past, but it has purpose, even if it is strict. I work on my posture and alignment as much as possible I don't want back pain or to look slouchy. It's healthy and becomes second nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:36 AM
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Honestly because of porn I feel like men feel they are entitled to all female bodies in every type and shape, so they demand even the most micro of details in our bodies. They do not know how to actually view women holistically as people at that point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:54 PM
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haha he definitely does not own these
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:42 PM
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defensiveness is just your ego, set it aside and you will go so much further, Best lesson I have ever learned and am still learning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:00 AM
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I can't stand the idea of not having a supportive partner throughout pregnancy, It 100 percent is a responsibility to take care of their pregnant wife/girlfriend and make sure she is comfortable & relaxed as possible. It takes a toll on the body that a man will never understand, I am tired of men ignoring it and acting like they dont have an obligation to her & their child. Shows poor character , very poor character. I just want her to get the respect & dignity she deserves in this pregnancy & r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:34 PM
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Oh god for real that work is probably more draining than anything they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:20 PM
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for me it felt too 'serious' and I would feel guilty if it did not pan out. I have never been on a formal date but I look forward to it, now that I do not have the same mindset as I once did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:08 PM
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I never understood this argument because Men and Women are judged differently for what "beautiful" is, women are expected to have features that are exaggerated, hence why makeup is how makeup is. So even if you were to judge a man and a woman with no makeup it would not be by the same standard. So not comparable .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:25 PM
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I think what you stated about messaging directly and Kindly is what drew me in, or in general if we had a different attitude and energy surrounding the post that spared these girl's embarrassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:21 PM
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I was feeling the same way about the FDS rescue missions, I actually found FDS from someone posting something I posted on Reddit here, first I was incredibly upset and felt mocked, also people accused me of being a dude. I was in a dire groomed relationship. I want to help these women but that is not what they will respond too. Also love MARINA <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:37 PM
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yes I actually had a guy try to tell me it would be hot if I went down on him after him being sweaty and not showered for a week, I was very weirded out so I definitely think this is some gross porno sadist shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:46 PM
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Okay so he said he was going to r word her, yeah bye , he is gross, this is probably a depraved fetish. I just ew I can't even imagine the rancidness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:48 PM
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THE RECESSION I-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:47 AM
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Yeah what the actual hell a serious conversaition, yeah with the mf police!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:46 AM
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Of Cours the article is written by a dude, but also cosmo in general is the most PICK ME magazine, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:45 AM
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I AM SO HAPPY I HAVE NEVER BEEN ON BIRTH CONTROL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:45 AM
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Oh this is so gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:43 AM
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Honestly same there is really only one man I would currently have sex with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:41 AM
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ugh Im embarassed by the naivety, These words are so hollow lmao, Even I know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:30 AM
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Why is she still with him!!!!!! he got off to murdered & raped women, I am so over these mens feeling and shame being more important than everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:48 PM
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Yeah I don't know if they've really gone through Taylor's discography, I am not a certified swifty or anything but she has become quite the woman over the years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:55 AM
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this is a huge reason why I reject a lot of this, Why would I be on par with a man much older than me when I'm so young I hope to god I mature more in the next 10- 15 years, yet somehow you are telling me there is no growth difference in age gap relationships bs. I know when I am in my later years and look back at the age of men I was with when I was 15 and feel even more nauseous than I do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:52 AM
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honestly her latest album is entirely teenage oriented, which is fine cuz she's a teenager and its good she's very talented, but it makes it 90 times more disturbing she is dating a 25 year old ALSO she looks so young so the guy does not even have that "excuse". Like is the guy not even the slightest bit embarrassed he's dating a child who just sung about getting her drivers licence. You're 25 !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:46 AM
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What the f is this , the texts make me sick how can you hurt someone like this and act like its normal with a heart emoiji
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:14 PM
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Our response is not to "attack" back , I have never once attacked men in any of the ways they attack women, I criticize the common behaviours that go unnoticed and unchecked, trust me I check myself too. I understand the vain of her discussion but I can just see this being launched by some men to completely deter the valid concerns and arguments women have about their behaviour. I am protecting myself and making sure I stick to my values while navigating a relationship. this is just a think piec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:34 PM
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you know its a man because he used the HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA , like even in texts it scares me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:05 PM
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grown middle-aged married man said this to me when I was a young teenager
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:03 PM
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Ahahaha Nope thats not darkness that's narcissism. If someone genuinely said that to me I would laugh on the spot that's ridiculous who are you batman? the joker? ( probably who he idolizes) I had an ex from when I was very young, who was older try to convince me our romance was just in a darker shade then the rest and that's why we had to hide it. I am dying from embarrassment now, they are trying to come off as edgy 'bad' boy no you are just a creep and nothing is hot about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:20 PM
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That's it give the kidney back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:58 AM
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I have two opinions being mentally ill in that severe of a way do not date people, I was and still am a total mess and I hate feeling like I am draining people. So I have made a hard rule about 6 months ago to not put myself in the position to feel like Sh!t again. Some men will actively manipulate a woman with mental illness because they know it makes them dependent or at least clingy or fragile, know this and then turn it all around on the person. This is highly likely what this guy is doing (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:10 AM
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Me too, I don't think she was wrong in ANY conceivable way, she was failed in every facet of life shame on them for punishing her when they pushed her into the corner to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:56 PM
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I think it definitely will be liberating, It'll help in redefining what sex means to me lol! Yeah I did some pretty risky things before like embarrassingly risky so I am trying to change that response. It is a good thing that we all change and Im happy youre at this point too, glad you got out of a bad situation and your sex drive is returning!
/r/askFDS30/06/21 11:55 PM
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Honestly ! I could never put my finger on why but I feel like people who are fixated on someone from high school or when they were yknow a teenager, long past the time and also who they do not see anymore so the fantasy is frozen in time, weird. Your attraction should grow as you do too and a fixation is kind of a red flag for them not growing. I mean the pedophile in Lolita's pathology is that he never got over his first 'love' aka fixation when he was around 13, so now he is only interested in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:49 PM
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Good luck! I think if I was able to get myself off I would feel a lot less prone to casual sex, so far deterrence is working for me like STDS or thinking about what porn they watch lol. I am probably going to purchase a vibrtor for the first time kind of exciting !
/r/askFDS30/06/21 11:46 PM
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In regards to masturbation I don't have a fantastic body relationship with myself right now and Im working my way up towards redefining my sexuality with myself and re exploring all over again, but for now I am putting it on the backburner. I love the tips for when I do about making it romantic for myself. I will definitely be trying out exercise & cleaning too, for some reason music has the opposite effect haha but I do find if I play piano it can be a good outlet for concentration! Although im…
/r/askFDS30/06/21 11:16 PM
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Thank you ! I never considered exercise but that actually seems like a fantastic way to work out those emotions and distract myself, also the cold shower would help too!
/r/askFDS30/06/21 11:13 PM
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UGH EW the weird adultfication of babies is wack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:09 PM
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I am in utter shock, The Courts I have no faith in time and time again what BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:03 PM
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That's so awful for her, I definitely feel like that's an obstacle for exceptionally pretty women, guys who flock to her tend to see her as a prize and not in the valued way in the "look at my trophy" way, I hope she can meet a HVM who deserves her brain & companionship and admires her beauty rather than tries to capitalize off it for their ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:54 PM
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So true most men who care about not watching a porn just say " it gives me ED" like they dont give a damn about the rest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:17 PM
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Exactly they take a woman's beauty as something that extends to them , like a status symbol. It is sad to think they do not actually understand what a connection entails, and can't see past the vanity. So thats why they are so quick to throw away everything they have for falsely proceived better. I hate ball and chain jokes they are unamusing and just show contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:41 PM
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exactly why I enjoy having a larger vocabulary it is much more succinct to express yourself .It's just naturally acquired for some people through interests or family, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:37 PM
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I hate when people assume my vocabulary is intentional and proof I am trying to exert intelligence. I could use totally and a "fancy word" in the same sentence It's just how some people talk, making fun of how someone speaks is just immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:45 PM
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had a guy tell me my stomach was too flat and not in a 'concerned' way in a way he was trying to make me insecure about, like thanks yup I'll pick that struggle aha but for real guys will neg about anything my one friends bf did this and it is so gross to me, they can turn any trait into an insecurity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:37 PM
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Trust me the unfiltered access to the world kids have through the internet will be thought of as horrific in future generations when we finally realize how stupid that concept is, and how we let it go practically lawless and unmonitored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:54 PM
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yes same as a young girl it was a normal part of my life , trying to stop it was hard, and I never realized how much it actually informed my sexuality. Why do people not want to admit it is a problem, regardless if you are full on addicted or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:05 PM
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" I stopped for 40 days" yes I am totally sure that erased the years of consumption in your formative years! What is porn doing to men, I can only hope the comments are not telling him to ask his girlfriend to participate in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:49 PM
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THIS KILLED ME LOL, ugh the time he cheated on me and left me alone at a bar how tragically romantic!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:40 PM
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Lmao legit my first thought, this is not profound its embarassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:39 PM
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its two adults who are acting pathetically like their teenage "love" means anything lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:38 PM
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legit "envious" over a child's youth like. a legit probably 8 year old men are delusional , some think we are jealous of child brides, ever think we just hate pedos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:47 PM
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this throws me so off men who are fanatics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:45 PM
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it is horribly disturbing this man drove by me when I was 12 masturbating told mom and she LAUGHED, what the hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:43 PM
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LMFAOO, the way this man assumes this is how life works he clearly does not see he effort or talents his girlfriend has, nope just another pretty girl skating through life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:43 PM
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they value beauty and agreeableness, It is so gross, like these men are not capable of knowing what a fulfilling relationship is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:04 PM
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She did all of that for such a clown of a man, my god. I have friends with a few pick me qualities, I used to be one, honestly now that I have distanced myself and really solidified my values around relationships that behaviour is impossible for me to be around. It is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:01 PM
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junkie pride haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:51 AM
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No but this is understated a lot of men date young women because they want to feel youthful ironically all it does it point out their own age, he thinks of them or wants to think of them as equals to bring up his own ego of feeling youthful not because he respects her. same way how younger people think being in an age gap relationships makes them mature somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:06 AM
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I don't doubt this could be real, men are desensitized to women actually owning their body for themselves and that boyfriend does not equal rights to controlling it. I mean it is humiliating to have someone else accidentally see your nude body depending on who you are I can't imagine someone taking my nudes blowing them up and displaying them with zero permission, and telling me im being a b!tch about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:58 AM
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Oh my god, this enrages me our Bodies are not a damn object to hang on your wall in pride like totally the definition of objectification. This reminds me of the Em rata story and it makes me sad we don't have control of our images and cannot trust men because once they see a nude image of you they make claims to it like it is theirs. There are men who keep catalogs of their exes nudes and such, why.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:53 AM
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I am so looking forward to the moment I own my own home!!! Congratulations it looks lovely and I hope it becomes your independent haven! and most importantly celebrate this !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:50 AM
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Lmaoo based on his dating history could be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:53 AM
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Oh yeah youre right I kind of skim over the whole maureen and Sydney victim blaming thing but you're absolutely right, but I think the movie at least challenges that. I feel like cannibalism can be incorporated into horror but the shock value cannibalism does nothing but leave me queasy, most exploitive films sins are the fact they bring nothing to the table besides exploitation haha. I'll totally watch that thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:57 PM
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Yes definitely , I actually found FDS because someone crossposted my post from relationships in a similar style, and I went and am still going through a huge transformation , but I am so grateful for finding this sub! I just hate to take her agency away over her identity & experiences to tell her it is wrong, that is the main reason I became defensive because it felt like removing the only thing that kept me sane or 'okay' with what was going on because it was "my choice"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:03 PM
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this I used to be this girl, I was heavily traumatized and it made me really unhappy but I felt confused and had to compensate by pretending it was all my idea and I love it and was born for it. It is a horribly Messed up place to be, its complete devastation and desperation, I feel bad for this girl. I wish things were easier to be different, I got out of it I hope she can too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:51 PM
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Oh my gosh see this is how genuine moments happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:46 PM
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exploitive or more so sexploitive horror movies are mostly graphic and disturbing films that are gruesome for cheap shock value typical depicting SA, sadism, cannibalism, p3dos or other things like last house on the left, a Serbian film, I spit on your grave. They're basically sensationalized & sometimes eroticized violence for the sake of horror, they do nothing to push conversation on the subject matter they tackle besides exploit it's niche. Guy's who are into this is a red flag for me or at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:24 PM
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So true !!! I will never understand the coolness factor being equated with drugs, like yes sure there is mind altering "cool" factor or effect you get from a high but realistically most people can discern it. There is hardly any taboo around them now so im sure it is not from that but some people still seem to think it makes them interesting. I appreciate the honesty! I find a lot of former addicts sort of sensationalize or promote it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 09:24 PM
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I am kind of disappointed in myself for not allowing my self to have size preference. I mean I always felt it was shameful and weird to want. But like now you guys have me really enticed into trying it out. I've only been with average size and can't finish I wonder if that is part of the problem. Will be using these vetting techniques even though there is not actually a way to tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:56 PM
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Their focus and interest , overall disturbing fixation on what young girls(kids!) and women are doing sexually, is appalling. In what world is that normal so many of them have this hatred of female sexuality and genuinely value 'virginity' over everything and believe only women have it. Sadly I think it will get worse look. at what young boys are being exposed too the hardcore kink, how will they grow up to be good men? It is a miss I wish a porn prohibition would happen but it would just not wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:50 PM
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people who use drug use as their defining personality trait are so boring, like they literally have to use drugs to make themselves interesting. I am not anti recreational drug use but it definitely does not make you default cool lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:36 PM
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Fuck Off stop calling me josh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:32 PM
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Please the worst man of my entire life was named James, Jim to his friends. like horrific man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:30 PM
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I once had a chat with this man and all he could talk about was when he was 17 and in a band and looked like young Leonardo dicaprio, he was in his mid 40s...... My god it is embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:28 PM
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this is so creepy to me I don't find someone else hot or more sexually desirable because they have a certain accent or speak a certain language, thats a low bar lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:20 PM
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It is because they are more status driven and like to associate themselves with high society or whatever else they think that artist represents lol, they like to celebrate the perceived greatness of making good art rather than the art itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:11 PM
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ugh Rick is a huge one, I just dont get people's obsessions with identifying with characters beyond the initial viewing experience, people attach it too closely with their actual identity, please get a personality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:07 PM
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don't get me started how some men and particularly directors or artists equate violence against females with good or prestigious art
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:32 PM
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I do not understand why these men think the same thing will not happen with the new woman, he says it right there he feels like this new girl is how his wife was when they first met, this has nothing to do with the actual woman but completely with the shiny newness. These men fool themselves every time, also no talk about what makes the relationship wrong or not working out, no responsibility on his end, except he wants his cake and to fuck it too. It is gross, and I hope he divorces her she mov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:35 PM
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No more men who are obsessed with Quentin tarantino or exploitive horror films, or the shade black, refer to your age in days you have been alive, men who idolize James Bond or Henry Cavill, Men who fixate on the artist/writer/musician rather than the art, sole metal fans, Joe rogan bill burr or Jordan Peterson fanboys, no men who try to compliment me by insulting someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:42 PM
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so true it is a huge turn off there is no room for love if that is how you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:13 PM
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Worst part is they only win & lose in their own minds, and the prize is misery lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:30 AM
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the phrase " have some balls" in regards to a relationship is just have a rampant ego that does not allow you to foster a healthy relationship or care or consider anyone but yourself and view everything as competition to exert control. I'll be damned before I date a man who views a relationship as a chess match so unattractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:27 AM
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It bothers me so much that people refuse to make this distinction, a relationship requires boundaries and both individuals get to decide what they want and do not want and what they will tolerate and not tolerate. That is why compatibility is a thing, and most boundaries serve to keep the relationship safe, happy, healthy and built on respect. Whereas control is well to control lol. It is not controlling to say you want a relationship that is porn free it is more controlling on the other end to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:21 AM
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it drove me crazy that they committed all of woke sins lmao, like very POC checklist to appear diverse yet still centres around a white protagonist and her 'struggle' with the injustice around her. So eye roll inducing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:09 AM
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definitely agree bleh,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:59 PM
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Oh my god he looks like a man but talks like an insecure little boy what an ironic tragedy, Being a good man requires more than the illusion of strength and maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:26 PM
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Dude they are obsessed with Henry Cavill for some reason lmao They all want to become a caricature of masculinity and its sad. edit: oh apparently he used to be fat in high school so now he has become their "CHAD" Protoype success story. Why do they fixate on 'chad'(loathe that name) its weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:59 PM
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EXACTLY!!!! people who make money and generosity awkward are uncomfortable to be around. I like to spend money on people I love and enjoy to spend time with. It is so rude to make someone feel guilty because you spent money on them or making it very clear to them you dont want to. People who treat others and paying like this place more value on the transaction of the relationship, I don't like it at all. You asked me out, why would I pay !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:58 PM
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I never want to be in a relationship where money feels hostile and a point of tension, When a man is courting you he should be HAPPY to take you out and have a nice time which obviously requires money. Obviously people have different Ideas of what is a good time and acceptable but stinginess is an annoying and awkward quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:31 PM
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Honestly this has been terrifying for me to realize, I mean just thinking about the men I could have allowed to father by children oh my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:07 PM
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It is insanely frustrating because alot of people seem to think you can't hold someone accountable for being willfully ignorant, that puts all of the emotional labour on yourself. the only thing that seems to work for me also is the brick wall approach which I kind of hate lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:07 AM
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I honestly loathed this movie haha I found it too moralistic & although has some good rhetoric just leaned to awkward for me and film wise pretty rushed. I did enjoy how the characers looked & acted like real teenagers though and some of the arcs they just did not feel properly developed and check listy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:47 AM
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I have always hated how most forms of feminism does not allow room for criticizing ourselves or other women in valuable ways, It is grossly misjudged that as women our actions and presence can not do any harm to ourselves, others, or the cause in general. We all affect others. People shy away from this, but it is such an easy way out to assume you are not contributing to your problems or other women's collectively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:16 AM
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It is so telling that he blames your therapist that is not "for him" aka doing their job and supporting their clients best interests and not his. Sometimes I don't understand how they lack self reflexivity but apparently it is not that common based on how he expressed these feelings and did not stop to consider his own role in the relationship, nope it is the evil therapists fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:11 AM
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This disgusts me, It would be awful to do this to anyone never mind you girlfriend!!!! Equity is more important than equality, you do not have the same funds, in a relationship this should not be even 50/50, it should be equitable based on income. Especially if you are purposely choosing and seems like pressuring your girlfriend into financial commitments she can not afford, because she does not want to be embarrassed. This is the least hospitable thing to do ever, how pretentious, how can you w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:04 AM
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Honestly this is what has been my main take away and learning curve from FDS, as frustrating as it is you can only change yourself. This has challenged me to examine my behaviour in a more sincere & harsh way so that I can see how I am sabotaging myself and my life. it is tough not to fall back into old patterns but I actively try to be committed to myself and my values. It is inevitable that everyone contradicts themselves but at some point it happens too often that it turns into a jarring lack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:46 PM
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BECAUSE MAYBE WOMEN WANT OUR YOUTH FOR OURSELVES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:36 AM
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I told someone about a verbally abusive and manipulative stepfather from when I was 10, 11, & 12 and they had the audacity to ask me if I was being a disrespectful child after I told them how much it hurt me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:34 PM
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Thanks you I've been waiting for someone to talk about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:18 PM
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Ugh this why a HVM is so much more than what he can physically provide, it's what he can emotionally provide for the relationship, and the respect and dignity he has for it. So glad you have FDS get out before it gets uglier. also I hate the silent treatment it is so immature, passive aggression is just as abusive as assertive aggression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:09 PM
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Already breaking boundaries before they even talk to you ew typical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:31 PM
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Please lmao, why do they do this like will they not notice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:12 PM
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People underestimate there is just as much misogyny in the arts as there is in STEM, just in more covert ways. I find a lot of men can be very presumptuous and gatekeep women from being considered knowledgeable or talented in the arts. Men tend to take their interests and hobbies more seriously and act like others are not valid, there also is a lot of weird false god worships, tend to focus on status rather than music. Which in part could totally explain the underlying misogyny because it is mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:59 PM
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Where on earth is the justice for these things, she was in nearly all rights to do what she did why are women never allowed to fight back when we have everything taken from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:28 PM
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I struggle with this since I grew up with texting group chats everything, basically texting was a huge form of socialization. I am also a very I dont know conversational person, so I just enjoy sharing things with people and having conversations, so I love to talk about like any interesting topic. Loneliness is probably one of my bigger problems, I am an introvert so I am good at keeping myself occupied, but I still love to have conversation which is missing from my life. I realized however I go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:03 AM
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That story ripped my heart out, I literally felt the suffocation I saw for her. I am young so I do not have any experience with a married lvm husband who cheats, but I felt that pain communicated and I hope I can do every thing to avoid it. The unpaid labour of emotional and physical partnership is so strenuous yet you have nothing to point to when people ask for proof, no dumb degree or house. Fantastic Fantastic job I felt so hurt by it that I felt like I went through motions along side her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:33 PM
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maybe if guys our age are not very serious we shouldn't be either and be building our own lives but some how that seems tricky too as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:32 PM
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Im at this place too, like really the chances of finding a guy around our age who is HVM are so slim but so is finding someone slightly older who is not trying to creep on teenagers and barely adults
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:13 PM
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its okay im from gen z and I thought OLD meant literally old lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:11 PM
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future faking is so gross and shows very unhealthy mindset my friend had her baby names picked out with a guys she saw twice, like just stop playing house you are basing this relationship on the future when you haven't even had a present.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:09 PM
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yeah low-key even if they are friends after the breakup and she was supposed to help him with this one thing, her going into the house and drawers and folding shit into swans, is like invasive of boundaries. Not to mention how weird I'd feel as the girlfriend given she's still clearly trying to impress him. Psycho behaviour kind of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:35 AM
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Totally agree I would love to see more strategy heavy posts, let's not give most scrotes publicity unless it has a point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:47 PM
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Now I know this has gotta be a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:43 PM
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Honestly every art piece that focuses on the female form I am critical as hell about , like oh wow nudity, a nude woman! I have never seen anyone anywhere do such a daring thing. Not to mention it is also in an objectifying stance. If I read 'perky upturned breasts' one more time lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:55 PM
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even if you have the same interests they will automatically assume an air of superiority and slowly disrespect your opinions. this one man to this girl I follow told her he liked her poetry, she was really happy because she really loved his work , I could see the red flag the next sentence ( she posted this) something along the lines of " you like edie Sedgwick and make art like Warhol whats not to like" such bs flattery and immediately onto the grooming. Im curious about what happened after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:53 PM
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haha for real, Allen Ginsberg being in the man boy love association was so disturbing to me. if the guy cannot focus on the actual literature and rather likes the writer specifically and knows alot about his life and thinks he's the coolest thing, big red flag! He really most likely is a narcissist whose poetry is bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:39 PM
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Honestly though because they forget that the worst and most harmful mental illnesses to others often go unchecked, sooooo yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:39 AM
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this post actually makes me feel confident for when I get out there after I heal ! Thank you for sharing and I wish you a HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:20 AM
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they are the worst self insert authors lmao, Charles Bukowski namely lol don't really seem to be self reflexive and act as though their perspective is something that has not been shoved down our throats for centuries alike with their dicks. Boring and exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:34 PM
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Dito for the " tortured writer trope" hate to say it but they're mostly alcoholics who really think the true realness and gilded gold of life lays in misogynistic ramblings about prostitutes, whiskey, debased debauchery, and loneliness they swear is poetry. Listen to Norman fucking rockwell ( title track) by Lana Del Rey hits it on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:48 PM
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Slightly off topic but kind of connected, I can't stand when grown women write sexually suggestive stories about young women or teenagers, in a one dimensional 'idealized' and sensationalized way. It is disappointing , it is cliche, and Im over it they project fantasies and it is gross and misrepresents that dynamic. You can tell the difference in these works and others who include similar topics by they tone and difference in potrayals. My Dark Vanessa, decently honest reflection of trauma does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:56 PM
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You are not "punk rock" for abusing your girlfriend lmao why is them wanting to be edgy one of the most immature things about BDSM , please grow up !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:50 PM
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I was stuck watching an Adam Sandler movie with my dad "just go with it" I cannot believe the BS in that movie like it makes it unwatchable lmao. What is with the fever dream guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:41 PM
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Fiona Apple is so damn great from the start even criminal ooooh the sarcasm and critique that drips from her songs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:17 PM
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This is a pathetic and ungenuine way to live life, I can't imagine being in a relationship and wanting and feeling your partner to be beneath you. How is that in any way fulfilling , also narcissitic, these people need to realize they should not date simply to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:57 PM
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seconded I am appalled and terrified of this strategies needed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:52 PM
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Congratulations he seems like a huge breath of fresh air!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:25 PM
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My god do I dislike her she is so damn icky like I dont want women or FDS to be associated with her ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:25 PM
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No she is awful - she lies - she is a pedo ( prefers barely legal boys) - her advice is mostly trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:23 PM
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You know that's something I dont get about kinkmeishas, they say they have sex all the time and it's always always hardcore, but when you have very rough sex it takes a toll on your body like it HURTS after. So I seriously don't get how they can do it all of the time, like your vagina would be on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:08 PM
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I find I am much more comfortable with " mess" as in things like for example keys on a table or a magazine , clothes on the floor or out of place. I don't love it but I consider it easy to tidy and it is just signs of living in a space, and is fine for your personal space. I also have attention based issues and find routines HARD. I do not like 'dirty' mess, like dishes, soap or toothpaste scum, dirt, etc. It makes me feel weird, of course it happens I am no top tier clean person, but in general…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:36 AM
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I always say that I am antisexwork but pro sex worker, because I understand women's predicament. But at the same time I also dont thing we should completely ignore our own actions contributing to dehumanizing and objectifying women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:30 PM
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me too, I Just don't know what the best way I can be always supporting women is anymore. but this stuff is upsetting and nauseating and I just don't know what to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:19 PM
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I also was just talking about how I think we should not focus so much on men here , that sounds dumb but we know their depravity entirely, but I wish it was more HVW centred we are just giving them attention and I don't want to engage with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:00 PM
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why do they hate FDS I didn't even know that was a sub I'd rather not align with. anything that references MGTOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:52 PM
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I cannot Stand women in very mild forms of sex work who shout over women involved in more abusive forms of it about how it is not bad and empowering. Its the stupidest ego stroking wanna be not like the other girls thing ive seen in a long time. Like what the damn hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:57 PM
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I did my school report on this novel and the idea of cheating and woman in relation to each other through men in the 10th grade English class I was in not gonna brag but everyone loved it lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:51 PM
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I just saw someone Cross post this and say you were being unreasonable lmao, their reasoning for it was " I know girls love anal, initially she said no but after talking with me I assured her and she agreed to it" Like this is what we are saying lmao. Kinks being pressured on people is not healthy, and I dont think you change your mind completely after half a conversation. kink shaming is really damn stupid, what if my kink is kink shaming you huh, sorry I resorted to flipping the script like ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:25 PM
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role playing is so embarassing to me like why do you have to pretend to be someone else what's sexy about that lol! can't you get satisfaction from yourself and yknow real life romantic experiences. The only exception is halloween which is like not planned role-play lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:27 PM
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My old sex posi liberal feminist self would be floored about me saying this but me too Godman, well not really lol, but the pendulum has swung way too far left. I feel like most people who do BDSM in this age do it because they want to say they do it because they think it makes them look cool, so they want to be as public about it as possible, pick me pick me ( oh wait thats just voyeurism another kink). Sleepover & parlour private convos are now endlessly echoed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:24 PM
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Why are people posting this on Instagram. I PROMISE YOU YOUR FOLLOWERS DO NOT CARE YOU LIKE ANAL PLUGS. Like god people overshare their sex lives to an embarrassing amount. I get some. people are more open but does not mean I want to know your private kinks cuz we are in the same class. Off topic but low-key feel like BDSM is mostly performative Oops I misunderstood its an app lol, is there not just fetlife for that great another kink oriented dating site !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:02 PM
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oh yes being one in the millions of a nude female body for men to sexually exploit and abuse on camera for sexual pleasure is certaintly the land of opportunity !!!! you may even get a coke addiction out of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:43 PM
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hahahahah Boobs hahahaha shit hahahahaha compare women to appliance hahahaha make me a sandwich hahahahaha feminists They're riveting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:28 PM
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It's like they are so so so close to doing something great here. Yet it still falls into the unquestionable liberal feminist false empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:22 PM
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I really empathize with your position as a mother and she is really lucky to have you as a mother in her life. I had a similar moment like you just described with my older sister who when I was playing my dress rode up and my underwear was visible and she told me I couldn't do that. It felt weird as a kid but I am really happy she did that looking back. As much as we want young girls to be not sexualized and free from that disgusting gaze, it is just not logical and I think it is better to prote…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:52 PM
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It really is devastating Im having trouble feeling comfortable around family too. So many of my family members have been inappropriate with me to that fact I felt paraded around at family gatherings like " oh look at how womanly you are now" not in an endearing way like " you have grown into a lovely young woman/man", just really clearly creepy remarks. I even remember this guy who was the fiance of my cousin have the audacity to say in front of his girlfriend and family a horrific sexual remark…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:59 PM
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I also think some men get frustrated at supporting their wife emotionally & physically during pregnancy, they dont respect what she is doing and going through to have a baby with him. It's not just sex it's that they hate picking up slack, chores, helping her when she is sick, attending appointments, preparing for the baby, hell even driving to the hospital in labour. these are the lowest of low value men, despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:04 PM
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Exactly ! and people claim we don't live in a pornified culture, like we can't even go to a professional appointment without being sexualized for literally having a body. I despise how the chiropractors condone it like It's gross I even messaged one called Dr. Jason because his were becoming intentionally heinous and told him its unprofessional and degrading. But hey Money from scrotes right. Have to sexualize and pornify us everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:55 AM
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Thank you ! I just dont understand when women are flattered by men liking their youth It is not something personal to you it will fade and holding onto it or valuing it in partner does not make any sense. That's in a sense why its cradle robbing , youre taking away something from someone young and using it selfishly for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:24 AM
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probably her teacher would not be a shocker to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:18 AM
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My one friend would tell me directly bad character traits about her boyfriend and then expect me to still gush about him like I don't know what people want me to do here, she wants so much validation over her relationship and it is weird! I am over being the moralizing friend though, I will always be the open one who wont judge you and help you but Im not telling you what you want to hear for the sake of it. I'd rather celebrate you than your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:15 AM
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Men on youtube are so shameless honestly, I watch chiropractor videos because I find them interesting for ASMR, but I can never stomach the comment section they are full of horny lvm because they see a girl in a sports bra and won't shut up and think they are original and hillarious with comments like " had to double check I was on the right website at first" " looks like only hot women/Models get chiropractor adjustments" " I think she wanted you to adjust her pelvis in a different way' ' Johnn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:08 AM
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Unfortunately people turn their backs to these most important morality issues, similar to sweat shops or animal products ( shows how they value human life in comparison), it is insane, I just feel so dumb screaming into the void about it. People see me as traumatized and not logical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:07 AM
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I just did for a good 30 minutes thinking about my old kinkmeisha ways brought on about how my friend just told me she tried anal and hated it but he liked it so she still does it. I can't see sex the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:13 AM
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I find this a horribly underrated problem of age gap dating, I mean how do you mix circles enjoy things together, I feel like its not impossible but it is also not likely to be easy. My friends did not want to hangout with me and my older boyfriend at the time I did not get why but now I totally get it. It kind of really weird. Takes a unique circle and unique people not to be, they are different life stages especially when you are 18 or younger. I really wonder what the men get out of it surely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:08 AM
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Really don't either and what I gather from him her brothers seems like. genuine not creepy dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:02 PM
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Ironically they often have the WORST victim mentalities that they can't even consider another person's struggles because they feel it is not fair to them and want to be a victim too. Thats why they scream about mens rights over us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:02 PM
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What is with them telling on themselves about not wanting a woman who is disagreeable? Like you mean you don't want a woman who is their own person has their own system of beliefs and does not agree with you 100 percent of the time because she has a perspective of their own. They just want a woman they can echo too. I understand wanting to have similar values as your partner but I would never use the word disagreeable as a term for selecting a relationship. It sounds like they are talking about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:59 PM
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I have been plagued with this I can't stand Half the tv shows on Netflix or on tv they all cater to it. It's all the same and I just can't sit through it never mind get enjoyment from it. I watched one recently called "feel good" I just rolled my eyes thought I'd be spared because its main characters are lesbians but nope amped it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:04 PM
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Im her age, it's a common sense of "power" young women feel to be able to seduce because we perceive it as meaning anything. I do think those lyrics were ironic, but probably based on stereotypes Tumblr things the movie 'poison ivy' come to mind also Lana del rey who billie is a fan of and myself. Basically my theory for myself is to cope with being hypersexualized as a girl you lean in to it instead of away I mean it was so bad that when I was 13 I thought of myself as a self proclaimed 'nymphe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:04 PM
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I am really struggling to explain to people why porn is majority harmful. They don't realize that consuming content that makes sex one-dimensional as a viewing experience, based purely on the physical, their mind is still subconsciously objectifying women. Most women in porn are the object and they are filmed as such you can hardly see the man's face or anything really except for a few "big pornstars" they are not the object of gaze. Even in like femdom porn the women is still the object of gaze…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:41 PM
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This is relatable to my own life and I definitely understand her struggle, but it does make me sad she has all the tools in the world to avoid someone like this yet she is going for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:17 PM
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the performative sexuality and lingering male gaze in most imagery and videos is too much for me, like they dont even TRY to make it anything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:15 PM
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WHY would Billie be with him then, she's so smart & everything like theres got to be something redeeming she's a godamn millionaire for christ sakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:53 PM
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It is really tough for women of our generation, and I Don't blame them per say, I just find that it is Impossible to discern an older man from an older predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:52 PM
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Wow she just released a song called "your power" all about this too, I don't know how I feel about this because sometimes young women have to work with what we have to work with. I just do worry about it being normalized. because if I think about it from another perspective if my 30 year old sister started dating someone so young it would be gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:48 PM
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I am so ashamed I ever thought along these lines as a young teenager. I can't stand this, our culture is infantilizing to men if anyone. I mean and the older men we date are the most infantilizing to us out of everyone. It is just creepy that someone could happily date someone so in a different stage of life and know they are taking advantage and feel okay or normal with it. You should be Asking yourself how you've infantilized yourself if you feel the need to intentionally seek out severe age g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:59 AM
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this is one of the huge thing depresses me, it's so sad and scary, oldermen can practically be like a slaughterhouse, frazzling & devastating young women after young women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:55 AM
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Why don't men desire grown women its horrifically disturbing to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:45 AM
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her husbands acting different and it smells like infidelity icon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:59 PM
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Right lol reminds me of an FDS anthem, "and no I dont want no scrotes, a scrote is a guy who can't get no love from me , hanging out the passenger side of his best friends drive trying to holler at me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:47 PM
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They Had it coming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:12 PM
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ugh toilet humour is one of the worst, if my boyfriend thought it was funny to fart around me on purpose it'd be instant breakup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:10 PM
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Yes!!! It is truly bizarre and I find they are all attracted to the idea a woman can be born to suffer, and the tortured soul lens they view it through is incredibly empty. They really think they are misconstrued genius but in actuality they come across as shock value cliche, and if the violence and suffering does not have a purpose artistically to display beyond some dumb justification, it is not necessary to the art. I just find the fetish of broken young girl slave to male desire nauseating a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:16 PM
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Thank you for the insight I appreciate it, it's such a fine line and I tend to be hypercritical of the male voices of the past !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:11 PM
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Huge lightbulb moment, this is how rape culture persists, its not enough to not be, they need to actively be against it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:42 PM
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I always found his work so interesting for that very point, but im a little stumped on whether or not he falls into the category of exploiting female suffering for "art" , similar to a lot of male filmmakers who zero in on violence because they think it makes them deep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:34 PM
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I don't care if people think I lack a sense of humour I hate 80 percent of male humour. I dont think a single man has been able to make me genuinely laugh from my real life besides my baby nephew and my father. Stereotypical Male Humour is so dull, based off of nothing and makes me want to rip my insides out, some shows do it well, but for the most part its insufferable. I also hate the saying " women are like cars you dont want to own or ride in one that has high mileage" Like can you sound any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:29 PM
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De-centre relationships with men from your life, honestly what does it mean to be single or in a relationship. I think a lot of misery comes from the prospect that a relationship is the most fulfilling thing in life. Maybe im just a stranger to love but is it really the big sky fall moment lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:41 AM
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Awww you really mean it !!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:37 AM
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Girlhood was the most traumatic experience for me the self-objectification I developed has actually crippled me with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, I really have to work to be able to glimpse myself outside of the gaze. It's a complicated subject to communicate and even is called fake by a lot of men, but it is so traumatic. My god, is it tainted like wow it is a ride that's hard to recover from, and rising from it's ashes to still be motivated to be a HVW, lonely as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:33 AM
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ironic they say live and let live, but will not let this woman have her own standards. Like she did not ask you out, you don't have to go on a date with her. She is allowed to have expectations. " Too Judgemental" exscuse me this is a person you want a relationship with if anytime this is the time to judge someones perceived character. None of her requests are out of line my god what has people on fire about this. Apparently wanting a serious date, polite manners and compatibility is RUTHLESS Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:17 AM
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The parasocial delusion is real, porn Is integrated into society so much that men are attached fanatics like someone obsessed with a movie star. The really feel a false physical connection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:39 PM
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No please no please no please. Gonna vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:02 PM
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This is horrific did they find anything concrete connecting porn to the incidents or are they going to spin the good old "born evil" thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:20 PM
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I am so happy I have found FDS so early on , you queens are saving me I was the kinkmeisha of kinkmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:14 PM
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such a strong sign of narcissism , like why are you offended I really wish I understood the core of why psychologically its triggering to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:25 PM
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ME TOO , gosh I can't watch anything anymore because it is brutal. Not in an honest way not every character has to be likeable, but in a "Mary-sue" way its torture and ruins most TV for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:41 PM
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I noticed these things about lvm's reaction to women - they dont let women they deem fat live their own life its like if a fat girl walks in to any damn room a man has to comment as if it is not visually apparent. Every time I talk about my one friend my brothers say she's fat and for WHAT - they treat skinny girls like we need their validation and when we dont respond start saying flaws that aren't even there. Like being flat or curveless Bottomline it does not matter who the woman is they want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:32 PM
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I am so happy for you , it is really relieving to step out of the misogynistic messages we get everyday and FDS really helped me with that too, I found it because a post of mine on relationships got crossposted here. I asked a friend and he said this was a male hare subreddit then I actually went to look for myself and was so confused why everyone acts like it's the spawn of satan. I used to be a huge kinkmeisha it was awful now I am happy to be an aspiring FDS High value Woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:06 PM
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I never considered that I really hope that's what it is, still weird but god I can pray its that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:27 AM
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I am so sorry about that :( , my brothers dont seem isolated in that way they have girlfriends and such, it's really unsettling to have brothers be that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:26 AM
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He's not a child he's almost 18.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:25 AM
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I have a feeling if I told my parents it would just be gaslighting in the form of are you sure blah blah and I'd probably die from embarrassment. I think I am going to just take them back and keep close eyes, if it happens again I will confront.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:24 AM
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I know my brothers refuse to watch It because it makes them "uncomfortable" like thats the whole point I was depressed for like a month after it but it was so important to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:43 AM
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Yeah what does it mean lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:38 PM
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People being against standards is weird to me because when you are dating you are looking for a fulfilling relationship attraction plays a role in that. No it does not mean that anyone who is not peak physical hotness wont be able to have a relationship. It means Ideally two people who are attracted to each other end up together with chemistry. Objective beauty is different than what someone can find attractive and alot of factors change this including how someone acts. its comprised of a lot of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:43 PM
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This is so whack to me especially as a regular thing like.......... ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:35 PM
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I was recently watching promising young woman ( highly recommend) and they kind of inverted the go lucky harmless bachelor party trope, genuinely the movie was horrifying but if you take certain scenes it looks like it could be straight out of the hangover or any male comedian movie. It kind of made me examine the perspective I took on these sort of "traditions" and the kind of men your husband or whoever is probably surrounded by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:30 PM
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I can't express the idiotic ness of this dont they realize how oversaturated the market is and the chances of them successfully making the risk and benefit at least equal out is so low. Like why are we selling this lie to teenagers who barely even have explored their own identities are are predisposed to seeking external validation.... oh wait thats exactly why ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:01 PM
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I agree I don't think that it will "get better", and I also do not think it helps our cause in anyway really, beyond maybe having the illusion of more control. Alot of men actually believe eventually the world will be "free use" which is basically the kink that men should be allowed to have sex with women whenever wherever. Some men genuinely believe beyond individual kink and consent this is how the world should ideally work liberally...... what the damn hell has porn done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:26 PM
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I agree , My wish is for young women to really understand and consider themselves sexually , it is so easy to go through your sex life as the object believe you love it and never think about it, I am so happy I have come to this conclusion so early on. It is hard to articulate but really the realization is solid it is nothing more than vapid validation that's replaceable. I think my nature is more submissive so I was like double perceptive to being the object of the desire, but I hate how it is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:15 PM
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Do you think its possible any destigmatization of sex work will happen as a result and protest from these women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:07 PM
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Most men do not want a rich and fulfilling sex life they are not interested in the mutual pursuit of pleasure, in a dignifying way. I am young but I have a fairly strong opinion on the matter. Most people see "BDSM" as kinky, liberating and natural, it is consumed trafitioanly in porn that young men and women don't really bat an eye about it , this is how its "supposed" to be. I think "feeling slightly good" has become what women accept from sex. Or on the other hand I feel like what I convinced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:49 PM
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Yeah how would they like to get pegged huh? Most "kinky" men really mean they want an excuse to have an unhealthy and skewed power dynamic with a women that benefits them only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:05 PM
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Young women who have not even had sex confuse their "desire" for it with the misogyny that I mean LITERALLY is being shoved down our throats. The grooming is so obvious, They'll move past their kinkmeisha stage hopefully. After they realize the reality of such sex and how most sex is not fulfilling in the way you think it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:48 PM
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Pornsick creeps think all of their depravity is so normal they bring it up at increasingly inappropriate times. Like seriously stop making a woman feel uncomfortable around you because you cant help but constantly make disgusting porn jokes. Why has sex now become the most public part of some peoples life. Also most times its not even sex these NVM share about between friends its their porn habit. Which is embarrassing for them to realize thats not real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:44 PM
6

she totally is !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:34 PM
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Im not even flat chested and I had to endure years of the small boob jokes so yeah they're just Lucky their small pp is only visible through their personality lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:46 PM
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Ice Queen all the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:43 PM
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My brothers often say women are "flirting" with them and when I ask what they said its always some random friendly remark that was either relevant to the conversation or could only be considered flirty in a very specific tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:20 PM
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I find it so weird how some people evaluate and treat people based on how f*ckable they find them, I mean what a self centred way to go through life. If I was a cashier for instance I would not be rude to a man I found unattractive the thought probably would not go through my head ( unless he was being creepy towards me). Even if I find a man attractive I don't go haywire and be nicer to him especially if we are in a situation where attraction is not even relevant ( i.e. at work), I just it's su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:59 PM
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The mental empowerment of these things is really just twisted validation of the same misogyny every women feels indebted to. I dont blame them because it's put into us but like essentially all of this validation is just one big "Good Girl" nothing else. Its like you said a huge mess of emotions to go through and it will tear you down just as easily as you perceive it bringing your self esteem up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:08 PM
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The last line is my inspiration for the month lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:01 PM
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Why do we use words like "kills" and "body count" to describe sexual partners so gross to me, like what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:45 PM
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I was constantly made fun of for having good grades in school, so weird guys would act shocked when I had high grades because I presented really feminine, and also I just kind of have a naive bubblegum sorta personality. I hated it, so I know how you feel about it made all attraction to them 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:34 PM
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I don't think people realize how sinister and bitter that feeling of losing your youth to an old man is, I have no idea where the quote comes from pretty sure an older movie but " do not waste your youth on old" It's an important identity forming time do not get wrapped up in being an extension of someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:24 PM
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Nightshift_Owll Having this exact struggle right now, she expects me to just be a cheerleader and can't hold interest in anything other than her boyfriend, thinks hes god's gift to earth and they have not been dating for even a year. I dont want to be cynical but I've been noticing the red flags, keep in mind we have hardly entered our adulthood. - potential porn addiction - he's buying a house but "letting her life there " - does not take responsibility for his words - love and future bombing (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:05 PM
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Huge point here, Romance should be exciting and exhilarating I loathe it not being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:58 PM
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You've just articulated my ideas and reservations about "love" I could not quite verbalize in a way that did not make me sound cynical. There's a reason why people go " Oh young love" because it is just that it is this specific thing that's only experienced passionately in the moment or for a temporary time. Typically in youth, not quite the honeymoon stage but similar. I dont necessarily advise against it to truly understand it just do not commit to it. The point about older men and their abili…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:39 PM
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The way all these men think George Clooney or brad Pitt( who was good looking young) being hot in their 50s , somehow means something for them? Especially beyond cheap inspiration Hey I could pick any female celebrity that outnumbers the men and play the same game. But realistically one person of the same genders theorized "success" is not indicative of your own Yet they dont want to work on themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:22 PM
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The breath is particularly strong I feel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:19 PM
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Im going to admit something that embarrasses me, But in my mind I always felt this background shame in terms of masturbation like even typing that word I felt that background shame. Like I would think that somehow me making myself feel good was wrong and makes me not feminine, not exactly unladylike its hard to explain, just like it was weird to consider myself sexually present rather than passive for me. Since all of my life my personhood has NEVER been factored into my sexual encounters. It wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:13 AM
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You just summed up all of my feelings, Im very scared I can't escape it to the point I am incredibly uncomfortable around all of them because I have no idea what sick thoughts they are thinking. It is so isolating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:25 AM
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Yes honestly one for CSA should be made cuz it is intensely heavy to read this stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:21 AM
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Not the ovary heat, that is pure torture Lol , and every time I do something about it I deeply regret it later Lock yourself up your actual self will feel alot better later lmao. But notice how women actually care about controlling our urges lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:37 AM
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I think the thing that turns me off the most about being in a relationship with a man who follows Insta models, is how pathetic it is. I mean it is so different than following an attractive girl and a girl whose sole purpose online is to "be attractive" its all a dime a dozen and it does not logically make sense. What would a woman get out of following practically identical half naked men, even single I have zero desire to do that. Not to mention the extra delusional that goes into It like obses…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:48 PM
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This is so wack to me never in my life have I ever thought of taking something from someone why are people like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:21 PM
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I want to meet other aspiring HVW and I have no idea how to do this, I am looking for strong female friendship more than a HVM at this point lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:10 PM
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WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS! I love music a lot but I dont shove it in peoples face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:58 PM
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Free I threw up in my mouth a little bit, I purposely dont go to the beach because I feel sick at this behaviour, guaranteed some of the girls he was talking about were like 11 or 13 too. I wish I could feel safe and like men would not be creeps. They cannot handle being around the female form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:43 AM
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Yes you nailed it, so exhausting especially when they scoff at your interests like its little kid stuff. Like please you think I want to hear about the new superhero movie ( not dissing it in general) but When I talk about a cool song or place I want to visit Im the childish one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:40 AM
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men like this make me sick ive encountered to many of them. I was very aware of this when I was a young girl I could feel their eyes burning in to me that I hated wearing anything. Now from all of those past experiences I get a low gut feeling whenever I see young girls while also in the presence of an older man. Like I just cant stand this tension I feel as a result of knowing these men are ogling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:05 AM
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Ugh I do not get what men get out of these parasocial fixations. YOU ARE DELUSIONAL. that's like having idfk David Beckham posters half naked all over your room. Not to mention he thinks there is nothing wrong with it, leave the girl alone godamn you creepy f*ck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:00 AM
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Professional-Ad-457 I find a lot of the time it is hard for men to be reciprocal in interests, you don't need to have the same ones but I swear men will talk about like Pokemon for 3hours while you actively listen but you say something you are interested in and NOTHING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:05 AM
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This is something that is so scary to me I dont understand jealousy between partners in a relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:56 AM
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Anyone have a guy try to impress them by liking sonic youth...... Some men wear their music taste like they made the godamn albums themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:58 AM
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I went through this stage hard so hard that at 16 I thought the age of consent should be 14........ Ew I have a lot of sympathy for women or anyone who tries to justify their own abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:22 PM
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This one only fans girl did a LOLITA thing and she is around 27 it made me so mad, you are not lolita you are HUMBERT its not cute to contribute to that culture at that age, it is harmful and it makes you culpable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:45 PM
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That last paragraph holy, exactly !!! Also it will seep into your self esteem even if you dont realize it can make you feel empty and desolute not to mention once your exposed to the depravity those things can reach men and the world will not be the same anymore. You feel like an object because you are being one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:43 PM
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Please think twice about starting an only fans especially explicit, don't let 1% earners fool you its like a millionaire entrepreneur or wolf of Wall Street trying to sell college men the American dream. It feels cool fun and easy cash but if you get too far into it it is a harder way out not impossible but complicated. Then next thing you know you have to do more intense things and f yourself on camera. Lots of women in the industry advise to young girls not to do it unless they are at least 25…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:37 PM
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PLEASE you hit the nail on the head. I've been in those positions I just see how I was deluded into thinking this was liberating and so independent and stuff, and now I wish other women would not be tricked into this being sold as liberation when all it is, is house arrest instead of prison. I never want to intrude another women antonomy or control over her narrative so I dont want to speak for others who still do that, which is why I support sex workers not sex work if that makes sense. Men con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:31 AM
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We can't even fully Blame them, teenage girls worship any attractive guy I know I did. It is so gross and they are so arrogant and develop no personality and typically have huge entitlement issues. Especially if they don't have decent parents to help them navigate life. My brothers are the worst for this like I genuinely fear what they will turn in to. Because men stop being treated like hot shit after they are in their 20s and dont play high school or college sports or have no accomplishments t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:46 PM
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all to prove what point too? That is is so impossible for any man to buy a woman flowers as a congratulatory effort to celebrate her success , cuz no men do that it has to be fake? See scotes you are still the but of the joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:01 PM
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LOL oh nooooooo that's awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:03 AM
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I don't like how this is being packaged as empowerment to young women just so they can sell their body and soul to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:01 AM
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This is becoming a really tough pill to swallow for me, I love my family and definitely feel that "family" drive indebt but the only real reason I am letting my brothers "off" for now is because they are teenagers, I will disengage for now but I will most definitely not be sticking around to support and be there for my brothers if they turn in to the men I fear that they will. My heart goes out to you and all the betrayal youve experienced at the hands of people who are the ones who should never…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 05:56 AM
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I somehow missed this reply, I Really appreciate this advice, It will definitely be hard for me but ultimately think you are right the only way to "win" in this situation is to focus on me as much as I can.
/r/askFDS21/04/21 02:05 AM
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I am starting to realize that they are simply just not going to respect my opinion on the basis I am their sister, but hopefully they eventually will for someone else. Im trying to let go a little bit on the guilty aspect of it, and just accept it :)
/r/askFDS21/04/21 01:29 AM
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I am really hoping this is the case for us and as they go to university and college they grow up a little more, and get a better understanding of the world and they don't join the incel population. They have all the mental characteristics, except physically they have girlfriends and are "popular" but as life favours them less as it tends to do with most people I fear they will really become LVM and losers, makes me so heartbroken. ​ I am going to try the head down and isolated approach for awhil…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 12:12 AM
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I am only a couple years older than them, but unfortunately am not working right now because of mental health, I have tried to secure space from them ( taking one bathroom and them having the other but my father never steps in to enforce it ). They don't comprehend how they make most of their own mess, they think if parts of my room are messy ( depression sometimes although I DONT like it ) that I must be responsible for all the mess in the house even if they don't apply the same to themselves. …
/r/askFDS21/04/21 12:08 AM
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