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LibFem LogicSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:05 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMESunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:42 PM
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LIES MEN TELLSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:20 PM
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DISCUSSIONSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:35 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:58 AM
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LVM LOGICSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:15 PM
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SCROTES MADSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:32 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:12 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:15 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:27 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMESunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:55 PM
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SCROTES MADSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:27 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:45 PM
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SunflowerinVirgo0903/r/askFDS30/05/21 02:41 AM
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SunflowerinVirgo0903/r/askFDS29/07/21 11:08 PM
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STAY WOKESunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:02 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:33 PM
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QUEEN SH*TSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:01 AM
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SunflowerinVirgo0903/r/askFDS07/10/21 10:38 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:34 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:31 AM
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SunflowerinVirgo0903/r/askFDS25/06/21 06:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONSunflowerinVirgo0903/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:45 PM
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Because the average man thinks the bare minimum is enough. We can give ourselves that so we are looking for more. Like emotional intelligence (understanding women which you clearly don’t) and a whole list of other things that are pertinent for a healthy happy relationship and most of you just don’t cut it. We want empathy as well that seems to be the hardest one for men
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 04:57 AM
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You don’t understand women sir. Redpill is clueless about how women think and what we want so you goddamn right you’re struggling
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 03:45 PM
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Yassss
/r/ExRedPill13/12/23 05:20 PM
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You are so on point here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:33 PM
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More details how old is he? If this is an age gap relationship- first red flag. 2nd red flag- friends with someone he supposedly rejected. 3rd red flag- her saying she knows nothing of you.
/r/askFDS22/02/22 12:24 AM
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Edit: also “raise my upper lip”? what lips? this guy needs an entire lips transplant… twice. 😂😂😂🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 10:37 PM
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Ooorr. And listen this might sound crazy.. or he can date someone at his own attractiveness level. What a crazy thought!!! He's pissed bc he can't get the model type he wants. The irony. The jokes write themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:08 PM
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Omfg road trip 😂😂😂 literally what a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:43 PM
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Exactly. Ladies check your internalized misogyny please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:05 PM
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She's stunning I love her aqua colored eyes chocolate hair and olive skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:27 AM
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I am begging you to stop with only fans. That is not fds in anyway and isn't helping the cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 06:07 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:12 AM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:50 AM
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Genius
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:21 PM
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Block and motherfuckin' delete!! 🖕🖕🖕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:10 PM
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Desperate men 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:35 AM
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Selfish pricks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:39 AM
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Jesus!!! What was your mom's reaction to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:30 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:33 AM
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It's just so much work and I love my peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:10 AM
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Yes the thought of living with a man feels like modern slavery to me!! I don't know how women do it working full time and with multiple kids. I just simply don't want to cook and clean after someone constantly!!! I struggle with just me and my 1 child who is old enough to fend for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:01 AM
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He loved doing that stuff especially around holidays then paint me out to his family as being problematic when he would thinly veil insults and make me feel like utter shit before any family event. ( I would be too upset to go- I really wanted to go but he would beat me down before hand) then the family viewed me as the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:32 PM
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Happened to me all the time in my last relationship and he ended up with DV charges and is still serving probation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:18 PM
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I have also seen situations where they are attracted but can tell she wouldn't go for him so just negs and tries to destroy her self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:44 PM
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Can I asked what happened at work? I relate so much to what you are saying. Pls feel free to message me! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:41 PM
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😂😂😂😂😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:44 PM
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A Christmas story/nutcracker 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:54 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:54 AM
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Facts. Having this problem right now trying to filter all men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 10:24 PM
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Lmmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 06:03 PM
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I have even seen them start dressing like their man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:06 PM
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I hope she wakes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:37 PM
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So ridiculous 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:01 AM
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Show is hilarious and I love all th characters and Danny devito
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:52 PM
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I use covert aggressive now from the book in sheep's clothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:48 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:45 AM
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Me toooo!! I call myself goth at heart but I wear pink frilly things. Think of me like Alicia Silverstone in clueless but listening to joy division siouxsie and the banshees and metallica 😂😂 Edit: people are always confused by me. I just look them dead in the eye and say: Im what they call multidimensional. Crazy right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:29 PM
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Personally fuck being in a relationship with a guy who doesn't love my body or attracted to me but stays regardless bc he doesn't want to lose assets 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:15 AM
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Then he will just cheat or divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:57 AM
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Does this mean he didn't enjoy the sex???? If he loved the sex would he have stayed? Not that it matters the fact remains don't fuck them. But I am curious if they expect a specific experience and if it doesn't happen they bounce. It takes time to learn someones body. Edit: saw he didn't like her body 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:41 AM
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Fucking facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:05 PM
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Wtf. And he thinks he's Christian 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:55 AM
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What!! Where can I read this information?? That changes my whole look on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:31 AM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:41 AM
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Gail dines talks about this in the podcast. Porn and feminist is an oxymoron and doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:28 AM
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Saved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:40 AM
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I need to hear this story!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:24 PM
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Straight facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:57 PM
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You know what was ridiculous FDS members criticizing the podcast ladies during Gail dines' conference. That was simply embarrassing and I don't understand why this person has the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:05 PM
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I'm not a lesbian lol! I'm pansexual
/r/askFDS09/10/21 11:20 AM
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Why is the sub private now?? I'm confused.
/r/askFDS08/10/21 09:06 PM
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If you guys are looking for mods I have been here almost 3 years now and would love to help! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:14 PM
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The women in the comments infuriate me more than the men. Women will never support one another due to their internalized misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:48 PM
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https://youtu.be/HAP97IwOPco the way they talk about women needed to lower their standards pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:33 PM
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Preach is Abbas sycophant for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:27 PM
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I agree he lacks empathy he also shits on preach and he just takes it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:19 PM
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I low-key had a thing for abba thought he was hot until I realized he's a misogynistic narcissist. Fail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:18 PM
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He's literally a piece of shit who let's his wife know shes not that beautiful. Hes a total scumbag misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:46 PM
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Never experienced true love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:43 PM
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Love your profile pic indigenous is beautiful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:02 PM
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We live in a time of a pandemic it would be idiotic to not address this when it affects dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:55 PM
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FDS stays educated. You should try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:21 PM
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Women are beautiful at all ages so that's not a shocker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:15 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:42 PM
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My mom is around your age and I wish she understood FDS like you. She also was and is awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:44 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:44 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:44 PM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:26 PM
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That makes my stomach hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:25 PM
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I fucking love you all. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:09 AM
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Someone just tried to tell me this sub is only women "post wall" in their 40s and 30s. Such a cope and bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:17 PM
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Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:10 AM
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I love your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:01 PM
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Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:57 PM
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You spittin'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:56 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:53 PM
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Daaaamn. Date me? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:56 PM
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Yup lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:38 PM
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I second this because this very thing happened to me. I was brand new and he pegged me as an easy target. He told everyone we slept together and pretended it wasn't a big deal after love bombing the fuck out of me. I got demoted at work and every girl there hated me. The cherry on top is when he got his ex pregnant not 3 months after we stopped seeing each other so the new rumor then was that he and I cheated behind her back (absolutely false). Luckily, he got fired and my relationship with coll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:21 PM
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There are all ages. Lol I'm a member most are 20s. Even the podcast is very young women. You're delusional and full of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:59 PM
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Who keeps perpetuating this lie? FDS skews younger. That's a complete and total bullshit lie that I don't know who started.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:39 PM
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Really fucked up men are only "nice" to attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:17 PM
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That's a major wtf. 😂😂 It just proves that men like all women's looks and bodies no matter how attractive they are or their girlfriends. They like to pretend they have rigid standards but they do not. This is why women shouldn't fear the wall or not fitting conventional standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:23 PM
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I just turned 35. The majority of men hitting on me or wanting to take me out are in their 20s. It's shocking sometimes. Some of them are serious about being in a relationship with me! I feel I'm in my prime and look better than I ever have. Women are just beautiful. I rarely see men that are still attractive after 30 and it's actually depressing given my age 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:18 PM
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Security guard at my work has been with his gf 10 years. She is considerably younger than him. He says he's in no rush to get married. I told him he was stealing her youth and was selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:09 PM
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The dude didn't have a bedroom to cuddle in? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 10:51 PM
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They think any single woman is a harlot who wants their balls no matter how out of their league you are. I notice because I'm attractive any man I talk to, because I'm single, thinks I want them. They project their dirty thoughts and ways onto us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:16 PM
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As a single attractive woman I have noticed it is because they feel uncomfortable with an attractive single friend around their husband. It hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:13 PM
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My favorite angel number 😍😍😍🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:02 PM
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You are by far my favorite mod. Your words are always like gold to me. Thank you for everything you do in this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:59 PM
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Tell me I'm abusive and don't give a shit about his "depression" that deems him incapable of any household responsibility, personal hygiene, and gives him a free pass to verbally abuse me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:53 PM
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Nooooo what??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:13 PM
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Facts 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:06 PM
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Yaaaaass lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:32 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:29 AM
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If you need support let me know you can message me. It's blocked so I will need to message you first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:13 PM
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Omg you are so strong! Keep fighting and speaking up for yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:49 PM
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Please tell me he is in prison and I am so glad you survived and are alive to tell your story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:42 PM
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So fucking stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:35 PM
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Damn near cried
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:39 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 11:11 AM
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Beautifully said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:12 PM
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Lmmfao 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:26 PM
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I got it on Amazon Kindle I read the in sheep's clothing book and am now reading this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:07 PM
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Yayyyy. I ❤️ the podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:57 AM
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Daaaaammn 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:36 AM
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This literally sound like a girl my son is friends with in highschool. This is exactly how her family treats her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:20 AM
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I tried to find this book on Google play but no luck :( I will look elsewhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:27 PM
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Thank you for recommending!! I am dealing with this at work. I immediately bought it it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:27 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:20 PM
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This is deplorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:37 PM
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Thank you for saying this 🙌🏽🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:35 PM
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This happened to me. I didn't fully understand the patterns and why it was happening until 2 years ago. I'm 34. Even then I am having difficulty retraining my brain. Childhood trauma is a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:23 PM
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When she said 5 hours my gut told me he was waiting it out so he didn't have to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:26 AM
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The comments are pure shit with men justifying why men shouldn't pay ugh. Gross 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:24 AM
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Got into body building and have become extremely fit and know my way around a gym. About to graduate with my associates degree. Only 2 classes left. Started dancing and singing again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:16 AM
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Someone please for the love of god send her this thread so she can start waking up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:39 PM
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It's one thing to have society tell you this. It's another to have narcissistic parents who tell you this also from birth. My mother lacks complete and total empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:38 PM
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I'm biracial and yes i am attractive. I would say I don't fit in the box at all as far as personality and tastes. I also get a lot of male attention at the gym and there's this vibe that they think I'm a slut because of it. I feel very sexualized low key there. But no. I don't fit in.. Edit: the guy who I posted about is def a leader type and the dudes soak in his words like oxygen.
/r/askFDS30/07/21 06:22 PM
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Yes. Ages 19-34 mostly 20s
/r/askFDS30/07/21 06:07 PM
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He was lying. They all lie about their exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:00 PM
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He was lying. They all lie about their exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:59 PM
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No one of the girls that participated is black and she is also loved by everyone :(
/r/askFDS30/07/21 04:24 PM
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I was told several leads were told to watch me. Other employees hang out and have fun while I'm working. I started off as a lead but she demoted me claiming I was a bad employee and wrote me up for rubbish everyone does and actually does more than me. I don't get why she would feel threatened I could never take her job? The girls I work with love it as the guys tease them and joke with them while I get ignored and people pretend I don't exist. There is gossip about me as well. It's just weird bc…
/r/askFDS30/07/21 12:26 AM
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That's disgusting. I also feel like I'm low key sexually talked about behind my back. My gut tells me so many things. I have seen him scanning my body multiple times as well. He's engaged and has a seemingly nice life. I don't really have a lot of support right now and I'm starting to think something is wrong with me here.
/r/askFDS29/07/21 11:32 PM
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I'm so depressed over all this. I have caught him staring at me multiple times it feels like hes obsessed? I just feel gaslit and confused. Edit: it's at a local college. My boss hates me for reasons unknown
/r/askFDS29/07/21 11:26 PM
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But it feels it is more than just my boss why he does it. He actually has no reason to anymore. He isn't on the floor with us. It would be completely his choice. Also he makes sure I know about events I'm not invited to as well as other bullying actions that has nothing to do with my boss. He gets off on this for some reason. He is loved by everyone at work.
/r/askFDS29/07/21 11:24 PM
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Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:19 PM
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Yes!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:33 PM
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Where I live people have been killed because of road rage never react. Like people have been shot in the face. So you did well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:00 PM
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Your posts are my lifeline lately. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:35 AM
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That's blueface. He's famous and I think they live from his income.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:51 AM
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Lmmfao this has me rolling electro. ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:54 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:29 PM
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It's because they just want sex dolls they don't care about us past that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:59 PM
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I love how they shame women for choosing bad men so when we stop they are still mad. It's because it was never about our choice it's always about them projecting their faults onto us no matter how we conduct our selves. It's literally damned if we do damned if we don't so I stop playing the game. I'll do whats best for me and they can seriously fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:56 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:45 PM
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This made me laugh out loud. You spittin'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:43 PM
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I don't like abby. She's a trad but that is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:39 PM
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Precisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:38 PM
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Candace Owens is a sell out racist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:36 PM
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Facts on facts on facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:25 PM
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I'd have been called a cruel, selfish bitch no matter WHAT he'd done to deserve it, because the onus is always on women to be the bigger person for some reason??? (Lol we like demand women do better but no one will even pretend to lie to you that men can do better.) This is unbelievably true. my ex treated me like actual dog shit but had me walking on eggshells calling me the abuser. They know what they are doing it's sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:53 PM
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a Queen who knows her power, owns it and is unapologetic about enforcing her boundaries is villainised in society. Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:47 PM
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I saw the quiet doubts in my head out loud in this space as post titles and rants. I relate to this. Also said beautifully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:34 PM
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I think I googled about "the wall." After stumbling upon very misogynistic forums of men talking about women.The things they were saying was heartbreaking and evil. This was also after my very abusive ex (serving probation for domestic violence) he was very addicted to barely legal teen porn which fucked me up. A post came up on FDS about how the wall was a lie and we were being brainwashed. I then went through the handbook and everything made 100% sense. And, actually, it was things I felt for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:30 PM
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Puke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:18 PM
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She never did it for me. I never got the hype around her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:48 PM
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A guy told me my outfit was very beautiful yesterday before I even got out of my car. Then as I was trying to go into the store he asks to pet my dog requiring him to reach through my window. It came off so ingenuine and creepy. He was cute but the stoner type. I'm biracial black so I wouldn't say I hit conventional standards but I am attractive and guys come up with all sorts of excuses but they do it in a way that makes me cringe or feel unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:39 PM
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My god. So so smart of you to get the hell away from him. I literally marvel at the women on here doing things I never did. I ignored every gut feeling I ever had landing me in several abusive relationships. There really are a lot of people wearing masks out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:12 PM
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Omfg not only are you dead on that is depressing af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:43 PM
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Thank you for you comments I love them! 🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:37 PM
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What the living fuck!? Why aren't our history books crediting these women!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:31 PM
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I just did a midterm project on Nina Simone. She should have been a classical pianist but being a black woman didn't afford her that. I'm bitter and resentful of the way she was treated due to the double whammy of being black and a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:21 PM
43

Omg what the fuck?? Why does God hate women?? Everything that happened to her was terrible. The smallpox? Jesus Christ. It just went on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:11 PM
7

Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:46 AM
20

Not Einstein being a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:44 AM
13

Ugh facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:40 AM
69

Sounds mcshitty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:11 AM
2

When they say clingy run! It means they have an avoidant attachment style, and that can get gaslighty and abusive real quick. There's a post that talks about this will try to find it. I didn't even get past the title while typing this response.
/r/askFDS20/07/21 11:17 PM
2

This. And that means not even telling them what you want. Ask first or let them spill it. Then they can't pretend they want the same things as you because they will lie. Just let them know you are not compatible. If he acts like a douche.. block.
/r/askFDS20/07/21 11:14 PM
13

Low effort=lvm
/r/askFDS20/07/21 07:31 PM
39

Now I want to know which one of us in here wrote this 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:28 PM
4

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:27 PM
21

Right!!!??? But he had no problem accepting gifts from me Edit: actually I correct myself he would accept them bc I made him. He would actually complain and say I just wanted to do it for a power trip. He would sometimes act resentful. I think bc he felt it would then obligate him to get gifts for me. I mean maybe he can't fathom getting someone a gift just bc you want to do it no strings attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:15 PM
1

Yes he was it was freaking ridiculous!! Never see men that beautiful out in the wild. I'm crushed he smoked so much and ruined his looks even more so than natural aging would have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:56 AM
42

This is all fucking facts and you are describing my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:45 AM
4

Maybe so but I am just saying how it comes.off from my perspective as a woman in my early 30s. Regardless, I think we can at least agree the rating system is internalized misogyny. We can disagree here without getting nasty I don't get why people are going off on one another today. We are all here to learn. I have no problem changing my perspective but I at least would like it done respectfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:16 AM
6

I think of ville Vallo still makes me cry bc I'm in love with him ville Vallo beauty lost 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:00 AM
213

My ex who never once got me a gift, even tho I always got him gifts on holidays, attempted to make me a makeup box for my bday. He has no clue how to make anything so it was half finished and I couldn't even use it. He was angry that I never tried to use it or worshipped him for trying. The thing wasn't even finished! Just so so selfish and delusional. Edit: one time he got me nothing for my birthday and when I was upset he went online and vented to his online friends he never met in a group say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:38 PM
24

It's not about moms feeling attacked. Nor did I feel "attacked" by your post but simply when you outright came for me. We are pointing out the error with your logic. Correlation doesn't equal causation. Shit men don't come from single moms they come from a toxic patriarchal society built around them from birth and parents who feed into it. How about the shit fathers that abandoned their children that create single moms to begin with? What you said just isn't up to par with FDS standards and you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:11 PM
7

I am not going to read your comment while it is riddled with punctuation errors and doesn't make sense. Nothing I said was an attack on you. I was responding to someone's comment. why you have decided to make it personal and nasty is your problem. But sweetie I ain't the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:01 PM
18

Apparently I'm not the only one since I'm replying to someone else's comment. This post is about men who make effort in their lives which my son does. But since you bring it up he's aware of fds values and constantly stands up to men at his school with low value behavior. This issue with men isn't single moms. It's pickmes. Nor do I think this post is about me. Your response is honestly gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:52 PM
64

It sounds like red pill crap. Single moms constantly get blamed and shit on. My son has a 4.0, in the gifted and talented program, is in a college prep program this summer, and is highly motivated. I hold him accountable and he has major goals and aspirations. I get compliments by his teachers constantly. I'm so sick of single moms being thrown under the bus when most single moms I know are not only hardworking but some of the best moms I know. My ex hits every bullet point in this post and is l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:39 PM
9

That first paragraph you wrote perfectly describes it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:52 PM
7

Haha yes I can see that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:50 PM
72

Just like the 1-10 rating system I see women rating themselves on here and I cringe. I also hate it when I see women saying men are old after 40 bc that also perpetuates that women are old and worthless too around that age. It all covertly upholds the patriarchy and the people doing this are totally unconscious of that fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:12 PM
60

Not for me my psychopathic ex dragged me through court. I took care of our son mostly by myself while he collected taxes on him every year. He was a despicable person and finally killed himself after stalking his ex and telling her he was going to kill himself to traumatize her. He would also tell my son his sick fantasies about killing his ex wife's boyfriend. We are only free now bc he killed himself which we are both thankful for. He literally controlled us through the courts and didn't give …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:28 AM
4

You gotta be gen x or a millennial lol my dad used to say this shit 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:29 AM
482

Seriously! The sociopathy is unreal. Everything is transactional. I saved your life now you owe me sex and or a relationship. Any kindness from most men is simply because they want something. I can't fathom it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:24 AM
7

Unfortunate facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:57 PM
9

Guilty as charged :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:10 PM
45

You are too fucking awesome Medusa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:00 AM
3

Google Anna bey fraud. I love how I get downvoted when this has been discussed on FDS before she has screwed over many people including women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:50 PM
-1

If you Google her she's a total fraud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:48 PM
1

The last lvm I was with did this to me constantly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:40 PM
21

Porn definitely ruined society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:23 PM
2

You're hittin all the notes.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 04:09 AM
9

This is definitely bordering sexual harassment.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 04:03 AM
14

Sheeeeesh this is hit so very hard. This is my life. That last line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:24 PM
11

This is literally me right now. I just made 104% on my midterm project in my ethnic studies class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:16 PM
2

Lmmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:04 PM
3

I really hope so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:31 AM
3

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:31 AM
74

Exactly someone posted that we were mocking women having no empathy and I felt badly for a minute. But women need to take responsibility for this shit when they are staying with men that are literally dangerous to their own children. It is not ok!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:23 AM
67

It was me. I have been doing that on the sub lately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:00 AM
81

Whomever was saying we are parodying women it's not. Women who do this are putting their children's lives in danger and this should be called out. I have also protected an abusive man and I wish someone called me out instead of pandered to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:45 PM
85

A lot of these men don't care about us at all they want offspring and consider our bodies worthless after aging and children and seek side salads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:30 PM
42

My thoughts exactly thank God the sub she posted it to is a good one and people are telling her to leave but imagine if she posted this on relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:21 PM
118

Exactly and they will hide it. My ex hid all kinds of things on his computer with zero remorse. He was completely and totally porn sick to a disturbing degree! Had I never looked I wouldnt have known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:19 PM
181

She is in the comments and my gut says it's real. But you never know on Reddit. There are so many women who do stay after shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:01 PM
2

I always forget this bc it's the hardest for me to do. I psychoanalyze like a mf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:40 PM
14

Kills me how men claim to love women but only if their body still looks like a teenager's. how can you not love, respect, and find a mother's body beautiful after giving life???? I feel sorry for them that they don't feel the richness and passion of the human experience bc they are so concerned with getting off and the way a woman looks. They seriously lack depth and introspection. It's a huge turn off.
/r/askFDS15/07/21 01:18 AM
18

It was after my abusive ex did terrible things to me and I started waking up about 2 years ago. It was about a year before finding FDS but I knew my mental health and entire life was problematic. I started healing. I always second guessed myself but one day on fb I went to post a selfie and I felt anxiety when I saw a notification that she had commented on it. That was a red flag right there sure enough when I looked it was a sea of positive comments except hers (supposedly my bff) she said I lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:27 AM
12

Can y'all elaborate on why guys don't talk about their girlfriends and basically pretends she doesn't exist? This happened to me recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:31 PM
19

I laughed at this bc it's true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:04 PM
14

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:02 PM
29

It's not woo. I have noticed this especially since I have been levelling up. They will avoid you and chat up other girls in the area trying to make you feel small like you're not worthy of their attention but really they are intimidated by you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:47 PM
53

I had a friend set me up on a blind date with a dude who had cockroaches and told me he was severely schizophrenic. I believe she did this on purpose. She knows I'm very attractive and I'm pretty sure her husband was secretly into me. She constantly tried to make me lower my standards and played completely dumb when I told her how horrible this date went. The guy ended up committing suicide years later and was severely mentally ill and she tried to make me feel like that was the best I could get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:42 PM
10

Sheesh this post is straight gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:39 PM
8

Thank you for these posts lately. 🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:16 PM
29

I have had men also attempt to sabotage my job at work reporting me to management all the time. Wtf is that about!!? Why are men competing with women??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:54 PM
30

Goddamn girl yes! I am hated at my work especially by the women there. A new hire told me they are obsessed with me and know all kinds of things about me I did not tell them. They talk down to me even women a decade younger than me. (I'm in my early 30s) Some days I feel this but then others I feel like something is wrong with me that I have been kind and respectful but still treated like trash. I recently have been colder and setting boundaries which doesn't make them happy but either way I get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:50 PM
3

I just looked and it had 5 stars tho? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:41 PM
17

It died down for you in late 20s?? I still deal with it in my early 30s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:34 PM
549

I don't like the word simping to describe a man doing what is right and good to his partner. I feel like it's derogatory and discourages men from behavior like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:29 PM
14

I seriously think this guy is edging into the sociopathic spectrum. Please sir, put the roids down. Their version of what they think we want is disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:34 AM
5

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:32 AM
22

They focus on the wrong things. Can they just be decent humans first and foremost??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:34 PM
23

He was saying something about "average men" lying too. It's sad bc it doesn't even sound like they are talking about relationships but hookups. So let me get this straight you want to use women for sex but we are sluts if we have sex? Noted. Then understand why we don't want to have sex with men there is zero benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:05 PM
22

I couldn't figure out what he was so worried men would lie about that part confused me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:59 PM
285

His version of a high value male is laughable. Also, the fact he says women are hardwired to lie and have no honor is obvious projection. We are the delusional ones???? The misogyny on here is sickening. They are simply mad that they don't get to "fuck" as he so eloquently put it. Yes we deserve more than what you're offering. It's amazing how the guy on the right brags about pulling "hos." They literally need us to boost their self esteem. Yet when we have sex with them our value decreases? Do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:04 PM
68

For me I found out he got his ex pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 10:31 PM
11

If he's abusive I would find a way out and block no telling him bc he will manipulate you to stay in the relationship and you don't have the strength right now to overcome that. Edit: you absolutely CAN break up with him and you MUST
/r/askFDS10/07/21 07:16 PM
38

You're a "b*itch" Edit: you have an attitude problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:06 AM
1

It's really hard I'm hoping my brain let's go soon. Even if I try to think of something else it creeps back in
/r/askFDS09/07/21 11:15 PM
27

I have the same problem!! And it's a guy who hurt me so I usually cry after. This happens after every break up for at least a year then fades. It's like my brain won't stop it's very frustrating
/r/askFDS09/07/21 10:45 PM
3

She said they weren't worth it but it was the way she said it. I am not sure how it was worded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 11:05 PM
33

Daaaamn. The way you put that hit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:58 PM
161

That's why I wonder if it's even worth trying to be with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:40 PM
3

I agree. It's very depressing and why most women don't want to wake up. You are very empathetic and compassionate considering. I'm proud of you for choosing yourself though no matter how hard that was and the backlash you endured cutting her off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:35 PM
5

She's not a radfem. She's also an awful person and I'm infuriated reading your story. Did you cut her off? Jesus women are so lost. It's depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:32 PM
12

It's almost like rape is covertly idealized?? In that, you must have been too beautiful he couldn't help himself 💔 wtf another way of being picked?? That may be controversial to say but what the hell else should we think with this logic????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:24 PM
3

But yet when we say men are abusers we get "not all men' 🤦🏽‍♀️😹🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:31 PM
29

Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:00 AM
149

A friend of mine was on a forum and mentioned her rape and the issues with men around it and men and women were telling her she was too ugly to be raped. Disgusting. Edit: changed females to women. I don't like saying "female"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:48 AM
1

Love the way you put this bc it's so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:37 PM
3

The only man I have ever seen compare is Ville valo in his youth Edit: also maybe Ryan Phillipe but he's a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:15 PM
11

My fucking god. I was just talking about this. I couldn't understand why this male I know hated me for ZERO reason and tried to come for me. But yet always wants my attention and my instincts told me he was low key attracted to me and hated that. He's a Caucasian rich guy and I'm the complete opposite of everything he has ever known! I felt like he resents me bc of his attraction he doesn't understand. I swear you ladies are geniuses. It took me so long racking my brain bc I did not understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:51 PM
74

Exactly. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:36 PM
74

They will literally jump through hoops to justify their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:36 PM
3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:29 PM
5

She just asked this question and got several answers. What the hell? Several of us typed out really long answers to this and you ask it again? Confused did you think the answers would magically change?
/r/askFDS06/07/21 10:11 PM
4

Didn't you just post this here?? If not someone else just asked this question. Again, block and delete.
/r/askFDS06/07/21 10:09 PM
6

Omg I love it 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:41 PM
5

I felt this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:06 PM
25

I had a guy friend that fits this description and he hid it very well but he was extremely sexist misogynistic/incel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:46 PM
6

I think it's just a generalized standard. Most men spend no more than 5 bucks for you at a coffee shop here in the US
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:39 PM
36

I have fallen prey to this so many times. It feels so good. I think it happens to those or us who lacked validation and love growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:22 PM
16

How did you find out!? I need this tea 😹😹😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:19 PM
15

Omfg 😹😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:19 PM
8

Is your mom a radfem? My mom was the epitome of pick me and extremely toxic as well. Takes so many years to unlearn. How blessed you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:41 PM
7

Girl a lot of us have been there. Waking up is hard af. It's a process. Some people are able to find fds and immediately change and for others it takes time to unfuck our minds. Take it easy on yourself. So glad you found us. Fds saved my life 🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:07 PM
3

It's really hard to unfuck our minds. I just had to block someone I really didn't want to block myself. But as modernmedusa pointed out in her post sometimes having a strong character means having to do tough painful things :(
/r/askFDS06/07/21 12:47 PM
13

Read the handbook we are NOT therapists and here to give emotional labor to men. He needs a therapist and that is not you. Even if you were a therapist it's considered unethical to give treatment to our partners. Girl everything listed here you know FDS doesn't support. There are so many red flags and he is NOT over his ex. Stop making excuses face reality and move on. If you feel like it let him know why then BLOCK. just my past experiences he sounds mentally unstable so he is unpredictable wit…
/r/askFDS06/07/21 03:31 AM
1

This is so so beautiful and true. Thank you. 🙌🏾🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:53 PM
2

Then they act like they have a harder time than women. It's insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:17 PM
2

Thanks for all you do! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:18 PM
41

That's ridiculous smdh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:00 AM
18

Sheeeeesh 😹😹😹🤷🏽‍♀️ facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:22 PM
33

How are they using our languag without realizing what it REALLY means 😸😸 I saw a girl on fb saying a girl was a pickme for commenting she doesn't do casual sex?? Another instance of libfems hijacking real feminism and distorting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:48 PM
13

Exactly 🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:56 PM
50

Have you guys noticed people using pickme out of context lately? Libfems and fake male feminists? Wonder if they realize it is radfem vocab
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:57 PM
1

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:14 PM
13

Holy crap he would have escalated for sure glad you got out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:48 PM
41

Holy crap he would have escalated for sure glad you got out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:47 PM
14

LMMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:45 PM
9

Anyway they can tip the scales to screw us over and create misery in our lives is the goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:46 AM
7

Saaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:59 AM
21

I think they say this bc they know if we invest in ourselves, our career, and make that coin, we won't be as susceptible to their abuse and at their mercy for resources. It allows freedom of choice. Freedom to leave their dusty asses in the trash bc we no longer need them to survive. They hate the thought of us waking up to their bullshit and discarding them, due to independence, because they absolutely need us more than we need them. Especially now that women can literally continue to procreate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:23 AM
19

😹😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:18 AM
4

It's takes longer for some of us to wake up. I know for me it was severe childhood abuse and trauma to unpack. And it's still going to take years to do so. It is indeed a tragedy but understandable considering how th patriarchy brainwashes us and possible abuse. She needs therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:03 PM
5

I adore how empathetic and reflective you are ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:57 PM
2

As someone healing from this I concur this is the truth. She doesn't love herself and is unhappy with her life. It's a fantasy to escape which probably started in childhood due to an abusive home. That is my reason anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:47 PM
199

I want a traditional woman who does everything in the household but also must pay 50% and work full time 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:42 PM
41

Scrotes mad downvoting you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:40 PM
7

Also don't back track follow through and leave his ass!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:28 PM
9

Whoever attempted to respond to my message giving me crap for saying queen sh*t. Her comment is OBVIOUSLY sarcasm. it's to highlight to this awful guy his own behaviors. Im not sure if it was a scrote or actual fdser. But your strawman arguments aren't going to fly here. Also "jtripper" if you can't tell already fds doesn't give a shit if we have men. It's more beneficial to you than us to be in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:10 PM
17

Yaaaaasss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:13 PM
10

It's insanity. The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:02 PM
8

If it were the other way around we would be demonized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:56 PM
2

He's the epitome of creep. They seriously have zero self awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:56 PM
14

For real!! 😹😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:02 PM
40

Lol!!! Never apologize for your words and stories. Also fds is getting me through something right now. And I was telling a friend yesterday every time I go out there is some nvm trying to get my number. Doesn't matter if they are old look like a farmer or just plain disgusting they still have the audacity. It blows my mind I'm an attractive woman and get the male gaze (not like that means a damn thing but still) on a regular so why would I date a guy with no teeth?? They seriously think they are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:51 PM
6

Will you be my therapist?? Lol my ex was like this and was a porn addict but denied it until the end. He would pull this same crap making me seem like an awful person for expecting him to brush and shower!! I can't believe what I used to put up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:40 PM
4

Thank you !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:00 PM
10

Yes I will dm you asap! Edit: no option to dm you my dms are closed too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:43 PM
19

Ommggg so adorable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:40 PM
47

That's what I need 😭😭😭. I'm biracial/black queer and so over libfems. It's difficult to find therapists who aren't fucked up themselves or misguided. If they don't have somewhat matching values, especially women, they try to convince you to lower your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:37 PM
74

It is and I need therapy so badly. I refuse to see a male therapist ever again. I have a consultation with a therapist next Friday and she listed women's issues and is LGBTQ friendly. I'm hoping women's issues means she actually understands the patriarchy and isn't a libfem male apologist. I need someone who gets these things bc then therapy will be painted through her pickme lens. I legit need therapy so I am praying to Goddess I find one with more radfem values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:34 PM
92

Just had a guy try to hit on me by telling me that he was into blood magic based off his viking roots. This was his actual attempt to get me to "hit (him) up". NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:30 PM
21

Queen sh*t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:28 PM
101

So glad to see therapists in here! I am starting to look for a therapist and it's so hard to find women therapists who aren't libfems!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:27 PM
22

See? This is why fds exists. I had a lvm distract me for a good 9 months trying to move forward. Glad I'm back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:22 PM
26

You can still find other ways!!! Don't lose hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:29 AM
117

Right she is so glowing and beautiful while he looks like her father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:50 AM
217

The security guard at my work just told me he has had a 25 yr old gf for 9 years. He is in his early 30s. When I ask him why hasn't he married her he said he's not in a rush. This scrote stole her youth and has no problem continuing to do so. She was also underage by the math he gave me. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:49 AM
16

Exactly. I feel like this is less about empathy and caring for her but deep down an unconscious need to feel superior to an abuser in some way. Like somewhere in his brain he grapples with his own issues with taking advantage of young girls and this is his way to exonerate himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:41 AM
46

The playboy shirt is a nice little touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:47 AM
25

That's hilarious yet depressing at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:42 AM
71

Sometimes I beat myself up for these things in the past but I keep reminding myself we were literally brain washed to be this way. I try to be kind to myself for these mistakes but vow to never repeat them. I'm so grateful to fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:26 AM
17

Correct. That was something I noticed too she literally said she didn't want to come forward TWICE. yet he did it anyway without a single fucking clue he also contributed to her trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:21 AM
132

I will never date a man again that views my child as just an object in the room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:18 AM
95

I can't watch stuff like this without crying my eyes out 😭😭. I think bc it's so rare to see it, especially from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:17 AM
18

Seriously!! I didn't even think about that but you are totally right. The whole relationship and interaction was inappropriate and detrimental to her mental health from start to finish. He really thought he was doing something then and now posting this mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:15 AM
5

Facts!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:35 AM
13

Exactly!!!!! I didn't look at the comments under the post bc my gram is deactivated due to school but I can only presume he is getting praised in the comments for acknowledging how evil Cosby is. He may not be an outright rapist but he is still predatory dating very young naive girls 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:02 AM
8

Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:45 PM
49

I can't have sex with someone I'm not into to me that's a lack of attraction obviously it means something different for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:25 PM
81

This is why libfems stay in denial the truth is painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:29 PM
83

Why do men say they aren't into us but sleep with us? I will never understand them. I'm so grateful I like women and am resentful I'm attracted to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:23 PM
24

I like your username :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:18 PM
40

Right like what did this do for him? He never chose to speak up before but does now even after admitting she didn't wasn't to come forward? I mean really dude you were a 50 year old having sexual relations with a teenager. The way he wrote it was Uber creepy too calling her sweetheart and being there for her in such an emotional way felt like a daddy daughter scene. Just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:09 PM
66

Keeping down voting scrotes because "legal." A switch doesn't magically turn on after 17 that truly makes a person an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:13 PM
103

Right like dude, she had a breakdown after sex with you. She was probably triggered after your old man dick. It's called reliving trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:44 PM
186

Why does this bother me??? Because mickey is acting like such a savior while he himself was a predator. 20 years ago? Ok she was 18 just turned 19 he's 68 now.. meaning he was almost FIFTY YEARS OLD!!!! this girl had just gone through rape not a few months before at 18 and he was sleeping with her at 19. I'm sure a lot of people are praising him for pointing out that Cosby is indeed evil but he was also a predator. Like you couldn't even find a woman in her 30s?? You were sleeping with a teen ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:15 PM
15

Scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:51 PM
20

Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:51 PM
43

👏🏽👏🏽😭😭😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:07 PM
39

Lmmfao my ex did as well 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:04 PM
18

😹😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:23 PM
30

Can I hear one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:38 PM
18

Holy crap how long were you with him at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:37 PM
4

Yaaaas 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:33 PM
51

I love this sub for making me realize this. I look so young for my age and glow. Guys 5 years younger than me look older!! Then the dudes my age or older look so wrinkly old balding. Like they literally take zero care of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:31 PM
8

They were wannabe goth but actually emo 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:56 PM
21

As a gothy person in my early 30s I resent that you think goth music is evanescence! 😹😹 Yuck Edited: still hilarious tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:06 PM
10

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:20 PM
6

Is one or those Ivan's last name zhurbenko?? 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:14 PM
3

Don't mix it. Put moisturizer then tret. I have always been able to put it on directly! I think it's called the slug method
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:26 AM
8

You have to dilute if it affects your skin that way and your sunblock game has to be 120%. I am on the highest prescription and my skin is wrinkle free and glows. Tret shouldn't cause volume loss at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:23 AM
17

Retin a and tret are the same thing. You can get it to at curology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:25 PM
29

You gotta get on tretinoin. Retin a. Retinol is a step below that ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:19 PM
1

Thank you. I haven't looked at the reading list in over a year. Im slackin!
/r/askFDS25/06/21 06:45 PM
131

My current boss I thought was a very good looking 40 year old, but hes 31! LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:19 PM
26

I fucking love you all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:46 PM
29

Why are they like this? It makes me so depressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:37 PM
5

Thank you for your time and advice. I guess I just don't understand how it benefits him. I will read this! Thank you
/r/askFDS25/06/21 04:13 PM
4

He makes sure the texts spell out we are just friends by calling me my dude or friend or homie. So I felt like it was completely non romantic or sexual so I guess I'm just confused. We got very close just as friends even when we stopped sleeping together and before. It's just confusing and I'm emotionally attached and struggling to let go. It's really depressing :(
/r/askFDS25/06/21 02:22 PM
5

Ok I screenshotted this. I was friends with someone I ended up having a fling with (I know not fds standards trying to break these cycles) and he still texts me despite having a pregnant gf now. He always says "friend" "homie" and "my dude" in texts. We haven't hung out in awhile. I felt like he had feelings for me but didn't want to admit it (he went back to his ex less than a month after our last time seeing one another). I never message him but he always messages me and the whole thing is con…
/r/askFDS25/06/21 02:08 PM
3

What do you mean by lie to themselves? I have a similar situation and I think what you're saying is ringing true to what I have been feeling.
/r/askFDS25/06/21 01:20 PM
3

So brilliant. Please date me 😮😻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:03 PM
77

These were the titles my ex would watch. He would gaslight me and make me think I was crazy for being utterly disturbed by it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:50 PM
5

Of course. I still make them. Just hate how this one keeps coming up 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:35 PM
87

Lmao i literally just saw a post claiming to have a HVM after 2 months yet she doesn't like his communication and trauma issues 🤦🏽‍♀️. I almost responded but just fuck it. Someone else can tell her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:13 PM
5

Exactlyyyyy 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:48 PM
9

You're never done vetting. But it sure as hell isn't happening in less than 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:51 PM
18

Lmao it's ridiculous. They don't read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:22 AM
53

Also if I see one more post saying "I have been dating a HVM less than 6 months" I swear I'm gonna scream. Can't vet a man in less than 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:19 AM
19

My ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:42 PM
4

Lmmfao 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:35 PM
9

Facts 🥴😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:55 PM
7

It makes sense bc sex felt always burny with him but never anyone else I have been with since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:48 AM
7

My first bf was this way. I would find old t shirts and stuff that just smelled god awful. He was disgusting and very addicted to porn but wouldn't have sex with me despite the fact I was 19 younger and more attractive than him. Made me feel awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:34 AM
9

Why do the washcloths smell like bleach? Is this what I think you are referencing? 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:30 AM
1

You're welcome! Keep glowing up!🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:44 AM
6

Is he tren?? The same crap just happened to me with a mini famous YouTuber. He ended up going off and degrading me for not indulging his inappropriate comments and then for not responding to a text. Trust your gut! My gut said it was weird bc he was saying we were compatible and we hadn't even met yet. i was upset all day about how he went off on me over a missed text and told me to unsubscribe. I really liked his channel but he's just a creep
/r/askFDS04/06/21 11:51 AM
1

There is actually a new study proving a lot of sunscreens have a cancer causing chemical and they are being recalled. Something called bevene in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:40 PM
1

I used to only wear that but I'm biracial/black and none of them are clear enough for my tone 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:38 AM
8

Ill add to that tretinoin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:31 AM
28

She told me she wanted me to feel comfortable in a bathing suit when we go to Miami. I post pics of my weight loss progress and and been learning to love myself so it didn't even make sense. Anyway wasn't trying to hijack this just made me think of it. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:51 PM
27

I posted about it in ask fds. But under handed comments about my body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:44 PM
36

Can you elaborate on when women do it? I have a friend right now I'm on the fence about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:41 PM
5

I love this show 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:44 PM
2

Made me feel less than.
/r/askFDS31/05/21 05:51 PM
6

I'm in tears reading this. FUCK YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:51 PM
22

My ex who is serving probation for abusing me would tell me that at least once a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:07 PM
58

Wtf??? Lmmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:02 PM
3

Keep us posted on that plz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:20 AM
4

she's very attractive, and I am constantly uplifting her and making her feel good, but this is about the 3rd time she has said something that is suspect. I don't understand it and have even asked her up front if she is a secret hater before due to other comments and she denies it and we have been working on the friendship. I was honestly so hurt and felt sick over the comment. It felt like she was insinuating I just wasnt on her level for Miami. Even if I was 300 pounds I have a right to be on t…
/r/askFDS30/05/21 05:04 PM
13

But why would a true friend try to make you feel that way in such an underhanded way? I point blank told her why would I not be comfortable in a bathing suit? She was like oh bc most my friends don't feel comfortable getting in a bathing suit like me
/r/askFDS30/05/21 02:36 PM
71

You literally just cracked a code for me as to why a male coworker tries to get me fired and gossips about me with women at work after a dick joke (his joke my response) caused him to expose he had a small dick in front of everyone. He probably had sexual feelings for me before that had happened. Any other dude I work with would have laughed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:54 PM
4

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:23 PM
12

Shaming women for their age? Nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:17 AM
15

Damn that is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:31 PM
3

Yaaaas bih
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:14 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:39 PM
19

I love your name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:28 PM
68

No lies detected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:01 PM
29

Just happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:52 AM
1

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:32 PM
2

Exactly what I'm going to do at work today and hide out. Man fuck these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:27 PM
2

Yea 😢😿. I dont feel unworthy as a whole. Just all the thoughts that come in an out. I'm still processing this and accepting I got totally played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:09 PM
4

I dont consider it cheating since we weren't official
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:31 PM
3

😂😂 everything you said is 100% accurate. How depressing. I am not insisting on the body stuff I'm just processing and explaining what my brain is telling me due to this. I know deep down this shit is all on him.and you're right. It's just my brain beating me up. Not a matter of insisting it must be my body and not believing you guys. I def agree with you guys. But hard to force that brain to stop telling me its bc I'm worthless for xyz etc. Just processing all these emotions and still figuring i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:40 AM
7

I have body issues and keep thinking it was that. Men are insane when it comes to.their beauty standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:00 AM
20

I really was used wasnt I? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:04 AM
6

Even then I dont think they will realize their mistakes at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:39 AM
3

Do they realize they are doing this?? Or you think it's so ingrained its second nature at this point? 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:38 AM
5

I agree I didnt feel like it was the entire reason bc we did activities together regularly and also he would come and cuddle no sex. But yea.. either way. Bad idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:18 AM
6

That's so confusing wants my attention but ices me out? Wtf. And at work he still hangs around me and looks at me often but affection and anything romantic or deep is completely gone. Its honestly the most bizarre situation I have ever been in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:16 AM
3

Me too. Bc I know that's exactly what that was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:13 AM
6

I'm fucking annoyed too yo. Ugh. How embarrassing for me. He would have spared me the embarrassment had he been upfront! I mean I was totally up front and vulnerable with him. Like wtf? He also still texts me but if I text him its hours to respond if he does. And in person hes not affectionate. He used to sneak affection to me everyday at work. It's so fucking weird. Like was this just a sick game to fuck me up? I think that's what bothers me the most is I just dont get the point. Makes no sense…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:11 AM
7

Dude I do not know. But the way he stared into my eyes like that for the first time during sex I really thought we had hit another level. Imagine my surprise man! 😂😂 it could be they are also faking that move to fuck us up even more before discarding us for sick pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:05 AM
10

😂😂😂 yes that is what I did today. I interacted with him just fine and was unbothered. It's funny how we look bad for innocently trusting and they are praised and supported while leaving a trail of broken hearts. Its bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:02 AM
3

It's a gym at the local college. Bc of covid we are basically paid to do a whole lot of nothing. He will notice if I avoid him... but I'm still going to do it. Also he wont make an issue for me at work or me for him that is something I'm 100% on. However I can read and it's a fairly large gym with places I can hide out at. It's stupid the villain thing.. I view him as a villain now.. had he been honest I would have been grateful despite being disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:59 AM
16

Jesus that is so sick and sociopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:52 AM
8

I noticed distancing really kicked into high gear when we had sex with a long period of eye contact- several minutes. I felt it was the most intimate sex we had.. then poof he shifted by the end of that evening. By next day he was almost a completely different person to me. And he gave me those looks also. 😢 I really was giving him the benefit of the doubt. I really wanted to believe he was a decent person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:51 AM
13

Daaamn hit hard and is 100% truth. Fuck. I need to work on self love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:46 AM
7

Thank you so much. We spent so much time together and talked very deeply about things. So I just thought there was a connection. Its really sick how men fake it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:43 AM
3

Thank you so much for that. Why does he even give a shit if I hate him if hes done with me? I even told him there would be zero issues at work if he wanted to stop seeing me. I gave him the PERFECT out to be honest and respectful of me!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:41 AM
25

I think she posted to her story so that I could see it. I have suspicion she knows about me. He was probably triangulating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:33 AM
15

Thank you for validating me! He treated me so well it was honestly shocking he did that. And they clearly have an extremely toxic relationship. His fb still says single 🤷‍♀️ but who knows. And yes we weren't in a relationship but I asked him if he was sleeping with other people and he told me no that he didnt have time for that. I really would have done better with this had he been upfront and honest although the chemical withdrawal is a bitch right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:28 AM
30

A part of me thinks she posted that story knowing I would see it. I wonder if she knows about me. He has never shown me her I had to do some digging and figure it out.. which isnt a norm for me. But the itch wouldn't go away. She literally posted a pic of her sitting on his face on her insta Bush and all. As well as other videos of them being affectionate. I'm not jealous at all what bothers me is I gave him an out to tell me the truth and he didnt take it. He could have been honest and told me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:17 AM
10

Also you say the problem is him.. but I feel totally unworthy like I wasnt good enough for him 🤦‍♀️😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:12 AM
16

Thank you and he certainly "switched it up" on me so hard!! Like wtf. From totally hot to lukewarm/coldish. I thought we had a true connection. I just feel like he is disgusted by me now. That could be my own insecurity I'm not sure. Just feel like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:10 AM
44

You pointed out shes the opposite of me. I have been thinking that. Any clue what the significance of that is?? It baffles me as well. I am assuming I wasn't kinky enough for him? But he wouldn't always have sex with me. We would cuddle or go out. It's just so confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:07 AM
3

OMFG. With the baby in tow and everything. Shameless pos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:44 AM
2

Do they realize they do this? This is happening to me currently. I failed fds for the past 2 months 😿 feel awful now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:24 AM
3

Me 😿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:04 AM
6

Fucking facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:37 PM
6

Fucking predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:07 PM
5

I'm fucking dead 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:30 PM
3

🤦‍♀️😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:50 AM
8

Saying affair is misleading we are both single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:43 AM
10

😭😭😭 looked like a fetus?? 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:18 PM
35

Fuuuuck dude. This hit. Currently having a sexual relationship with a coworker. 😬 Edit: we are both single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:05 PM
104

Ooze out of their septic tanks 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:42 AM
10

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:07 AM
5

💀💀💀😂 I'm dead af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:46 PM
6

😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:44 PM
13

I actually cried watching this bc at the end when he was talking about us wanting to believe bc it hurts so bad. Yea. Felt that deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:05 PM
7

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:48 PM
4

Smgdh where the f* were these memes when my NVM ex screwed me over before I even started dating him?? He treated me like absolute shit from the very beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:48 PM
12

Oj all your words here were so beautiful to read. Thank you for your knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:32 PM
12

I was 32 as well. I turn 34 in a week or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:28 PM
4

I am watching it and its really disheartening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:48 PM
3

This is disgusting. Why are they like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:28 PM
11

Its just a transaction for them it's about sex and social status. They have zero depth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:42 PM
6

Me too I had a cry after watching this not bc of anything they said. But just thinking of men as a whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:12 PM
13

Why the fuck are they so delusional?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:03 PM
12

What concerns me are the women in the comments buying into these lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:59 PM
16

I believe 100% its the teen porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:54 PM
26

Exactly. I was surprised you went as high as size 8. My ex wanted size 4 or less and size 6 was pushing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:57 PM
15

Ha good point! They just want disposable fuck dolls I wish they would be "honest" about that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:44 PM
8

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:43 PM
21

He says they will have sex with fat women but not keep them for the long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:42 PM
2

Omg sooo true. I look totally different since my ex discarded me cruelly and abused me! I have never looked better in my life!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:41 PM
17

I'm 33 and look better than I ever have. Meanwhile men my age look 10 years older! I feel great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:55 PM
23

My ex told me bc that only matters for women. Men dont have to worry about looks. 🙄 The most misogynistic pos ever!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:29 PM
33

Same here I don't have large breasts but they are c cup and i have a HUGE behind and really curvy and I have gotten so much hate from women specifically in work spaces. I can't change my body and I cant hide my butt no matter what i wear! Its not fair I'm looked at as a Hussey no matter how conservatively i dress for something i was born with. Its annoying so now I just wear whatever the f I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:25 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:47 AM
7

Basically this means they want someone out of their league. More proof their accusations that we want cHAdS is just another projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:40 PM
6

Yea blocked a guy who told me something similar recently. He had no other red flags, but I thought it was so typical. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:20 PM
12

Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:21 AM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:45 PM
1

My ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:42 PM
9

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:35 PM
9

Yeeeesss lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:23 PM
10

I blocked a guy for making the blanket statement that its slim pickings out there to find women bc so many are lost. Um projection much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:12 PM
20

I agree she is not average by any means and it shows how high standards are. Without filters zendaya is already supermodel standard!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:24 PM
8

These men do realize ALL women will eventually reach 50 right??? I dont get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:41 PM
5

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:12 PM
48

OR because she looks super young. That was my ex- very young teen girls were his thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:06 PM
1

I looked it up its 96% of the time 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:02 PM
3

Facts on facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:26 PM
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What's sad is the topic at hand is about scrotes who built a website rampant with pedophilia and rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:25 PM
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Someone in this thread posted a link about "kinks" and how women enjoy rape play. How is this relevant?? He even admits he will be downvoted for posting it 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:51 AM
5

That is crazy!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:55 AM
7

Was it the mile highers??? They are local to where I live- I just watched that recently. And I do, I avoid the comments on those videos now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:04 AM
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White male privilege at its finest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:49 AM
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I'm watching Stephanie Harlowe right now. I binge watch the true crime youtubers. Men are afraid to look at the truth. But they LOOOOVE pointing out women who commit catastrophic crimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:48 AM
10

Also just bought that book. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:29 AM
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I agree completely and was just discussing this with someone today. Their behavior is catastrophic. It is killing the entire planet on not only a soul level but a physical level. They will beat our world into the ground if we don't dismantle this ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:26 AM
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I feel like it does, because they attempt to silence us when we mention it is a male problem by making sure we know "women do it too." Edit: He also mentions in one of the slides "it's not just men." Ok you mean the one woman out of 2000? Ok, Kyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:55 AM
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All "easy mode" is to incels is that we have p*ssy and they want it so that makes life easy right? Because the only thing they value is getting laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:38 AM
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The amount of awakenings I have ascertained joining FDS will never cease to amaze me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:23 AM
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I really try not to. lol you are 100% correct. This one got under my skin, and I slipped lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:21 AM
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It makes my head spin. They think we are illogical, but I don't see logic anywhere in sight when it comes to these issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:20 AM
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LMAO Oh man I wish I could say something like that without all the gossip that would ensue. Women should be allowed to set boundaries more. I do find myself with female friends getting into deep things quickly, but I have learned recently not to do that b/c I get hurt if the friendship ends up going no where. So I definitely need to find a happy medium and work up to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:18 AM
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Reread his definition of love. It's disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:14 AM
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This entire thread infuriated me. Particularly the part where they start trashing FDS and have the audacity to call us toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:05 AM
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I personally don't like small talk either. I have done a lot of administrative work where I was forced to talk about Jimmy's soccer practice more than I would like. So when people say this I'm like yay- me too. lol Welp guess I will not listen to this line anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:03 AM
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right!? I was just throwing arbitrary numbers. Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:59 AM
10

LMAO my cousin said the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:57 AM
42

Very true. A lot of these men are simply sleeping and stuck in some horrific matrix projecting all their short comings onto us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:50 AM
5

This comment is f*cking everything. The patriarchy is a problem for everyone. It needs to be dismantled now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:47 AM
5

Wow I didnt realize lundy is a man. I'm reading it right now. That brings me hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:44 AM
4

My ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:42 AM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:27 AM
17

And Kevin hart's wife is literally so beautiful. I would wife her up and take on her children 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:24 AM
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Yes!! Ex-f*cking-zactly. It's so rare that its sensational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:19 AM
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Exactly the topic of women being raped in the military was brought up in a conversation my cousin was having with someone and his response was "men get raped too in the military." Her response was "Yea, by other men."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:15 AM
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This is clearly a Male problem. Women committing these crimes are the exception not equal and CERTAINLY not the majority. And the website that is the topic of discussion is a rape and pedophilia site. Um you want to tell me these are women orchestrating this? Riiiight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:06 AM
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Someone pointed out in the post saying it's not all men is equivalent to all lives matter. And also saying it's not JUST men. You mean like the one woman out of 100 men committing these crimes? They are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:01 AM
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We need to make this happen 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:38 PM
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I feel like all of us in FDS who like women need to make our own dating app to meet each other 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:05 PM
9

I actually adore MJ. He understands and loves women- he is a gift!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:53 PM
10

So glad I permanently deleted facebook and never plan to return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:16 AM
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I know a person who has a similar story. She went through emotional incest with her father and he basically treated her like the mom to all 8 children and made her cook clean after he separated from his wife. She has one child and someone else.takes care of her bc it's just too much for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:37 PM
2

I agree!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:39 AM
1

You got a point there. But something tells me thats not the case here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:18 AM
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I am a mandatory reporter so, for me, thats no excuse not to report child abuse to the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:53 PM
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I am so incredibly sorry you went through those traumatizing events on top of the C-PTSD from sexual abuse among other things you were processing and probably still processing. They sounds like a family of sociopaths. It still shocks me how common the lack of empathy is. Please tell me you cut ties with these people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:13 PM
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Right and this is why our boys who are so sweet grow up to be scrotes. Because they are exposed to this abuse and behaviors!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:14 PM
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I joined this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:30 PM
12

Not even "I am sorry" lol he said "am sorry." Weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:14 PM
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No more responding block. They don't care what you say and they get it more when you just cut them off cold. That hurts them and shocks them more than anything. Block on every single thing. Block mutual friends (I know it sucks but he can't have any avenue to get to you) and block family members. You can make new friends outside of mutual now that you are about to level way the f*ck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:13 PM
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I know I am not nearly as active on there as I use to be. I really went to see the post about narcissists to help me get through my breakup the community for that is huge and really good, and I avoid most other communities. Something I have learned about being on the internet a lot is that men ALL sound the same. And its always dumb, faux logic, and flat. Yuck. I am going to exclusively date women I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:08 PM
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My family as well. My step grandmother stayed with her husband after he molested her own daughters starting at the age 8 until teen years. My whole family talks about him like he was King. I could go on and on as well! It is sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:06 PM
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I think it was a mistake saying "she."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:04 PM
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Social services need to get involved stat!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:08 PM
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The bar is so low we think we are. It's the chemicals tho not care. It's all an illusion and it needs to be broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:09 PM
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😂😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:05 PM
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I am so here for this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:04 PM
1

This right here. I literally had this epiphany last night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:03 PM
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And the universe confirms! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:01 PM
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Shit is genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:24 AM
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This is the type of sociopath who would leave his wife while she was sick because she can no longer have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:23 AM
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This is more than being a pick me. You probably have been dealing with narcissists and sociopaths. Lots of inner healing needs to occur. Read "why does he do that" and "the gift of fear." There is a difference between a common LVM and a straight up abuser who is more so NVM. look deep within at your past relationships growing up particularly with your parents. Time to do some shadow work. Possibly therapy as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:42 AM
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This was yeeeeears ago before I got woke. He was also 23 and his girlfriend at the time was like 16!! That should have been the first redflag. I was a couple years older than him. Guess he doesn't care as long as he feels some sort of power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:58 AM
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I remember you posting that in the chat. I don't know I get the sense she lacks empathy and isn't a good person deep down. That's why i googled to see if anyone agreed. My intuition just goes off libfem disagreements aside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:57 AM
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Absolutely!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:17 AM
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Yes!!! QUEEN sh*t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:16 AM
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Yea I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:14 AM
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Yes she is poly as well. OR claims to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:12 AM
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I just googled shan boodram narcissistic to see everyones opinions and of course FDS came up! lol I was expecting LSA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:02 AM
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Lol she is truly blessed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:09 PM
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It's at 5:55.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:08 PM
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I believe she does have the video on her IG, but here is the entire video: https://youtu.be/oI132_LZkTo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:06 PM
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Awesome!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:14 PM
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Thats exactly what I plan to do, and have said this for a long time now! If they get upset or insulted they are LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:46 PM
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Something similar happened to me once! Yes I see women on here talking about men with girlfriends and how we can be their friend. NO. I learned the hard way that they will still sexually harass you. I am so sorry you went through that! I also froze my coping is flight rather than fight. These men are deplorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:35 PM
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Yea when I was naive about this I had a friend who had a girlfriend (so thought we were legit friends) I had too much to drink and did not feel responsible driving and crashed on his couch... only to wake up to him fondling my breasts!!!! I pretended to be asleep ( I was scared and previous history of sex abuse) I snuck out early morning, blocked him, and messaged his girlfriend. He FLIPPED out on me for telling his girlfriend. She stayed with him of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:32 PM
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That split jump she did on the couch for her class of 2020 video had me shook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:20 PM
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Thank you for posting this. I am biracial, and black men are f*cking delusional. I had a guy add me on instagram who not only dm-ed me with this brainwashed crap he would post constantly to biracial women- specifically with messages talking about how "it's not fetishizing" us or discriminating against black women that they prefer mixed women's hair, features, and coloring. I was seriously disgusted with the cognitive dissonance and blocked him. Black men do not deserve the power and beauty that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:47 PM
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OMG. what a goddess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:03 PM
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This brings me joy. I'm so happy for you- I hope you realize how strong and amazing you are. Hes probably shitting his pants. They need us. We dont need them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:01 PM
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I had to unfollow a black man who was in my dms the other day telling me he wasnt fetishizing biracial women bc he liked their features and skin color. It was SO CREEPY. I explained to him he was brainwashed and blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:57 PM
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Men. Have. No. Honor. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:51 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:47 PM
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Sounds like an abuser. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that in a traumatic moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:46 PM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:40 PM
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Mine would tell me I'm a "grown adult" and bash me to his internet friends for wanting "special treatment"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:33 PM
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Disgusting how smug and proud of himself he is. Men support each other in treating us like shit for validation points from one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:15 PM
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I have been reading this book and thinking about all my abusive ex's excuses, the excuses the judge has allowed him to make, and his family enabling them. They know exactly what they are doing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:11 PM
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Read this last night and was infuriated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:04 PM
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Or an excuse when they want an easy out, because they have become fickle with you and want to "upgrade." Either way its deplorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:01 PM
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We are literally the gatekeepers to life. I feel like this is a spiritual war too. Like, damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:55 PM
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LMAO how embarrassing. Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:51 PM
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It's true, because they are the pornsick ones. Men getting laid in real life aren't going so far down the porn rabbit hole that they are desensitized to regular sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:49 PM
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Where's the lie? lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:42 PM
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YES QUEEN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:38 PM
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I have had people clap back at me in here too when my intentions were purely to help. I hope we can get to a place where we support each other and have respect even if we disagree. There is already so much division amongst women as it is due to the patriarchy. Sometimes we just gotta humble ourselves and say I'm sorry for the misunderstanding so that we can continue to prosper and grow!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:34 PM
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I always feel like it is cowardice for someone to remove their own comment and not stand by it. That speaks for itself. If I mess up on here, instead of delete my comment I would apologize and admit my wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:23 PM
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I really dislike it, because I feel it is really encouraged for girls still in high school (18) or right out of high school to do it. It's another way for men to exploit really young girls all in the name of "sexual freedom."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:13 PM
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In response to whoever this person who who deleted their comment ( i can only reply to you now) if you are reading this "nice guys" aren't always "nice guys." I gave one a chance and now he is serving probation for DV charges. NO he was not a "chad" he was a nerdy obese guy who I gave "a chance to" because I was told he was a "nice guy." The nice guy trope is bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:02 PM
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Love how he is cruisin for girls less than the age of 25 who play "mariokart" hmmm..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:41 PM
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Really sad men are so clueless about cooking that this is gourmet to him... ​ Edit: Oh yea and the eggs look crusty and old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:38 PM
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The media keeps trying to normalize pedophila. It has gotten so bad over the years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:36 PM
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There was a video of a little girl singing on instagram the other day but the tag on the post was for nudes. I reported it to instagram 3 times and each time they told me there wasn't a problem. How is it ok to have a little girl singing with porn tagged to the video???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:31 PM
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Tell me why so many men are predators?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:22 PM
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She says she has one because she is a "bad b*tch" I swear to gawd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:18 PM
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What a total malignant narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:01 PM
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post the link
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:00 PM
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Dude looks like Andy from Toy Story. I don’t see the “cute part”. He probably sang "You got a friend in me" while jackhammering her for 2 minutes. LMMFAO! I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:58 PM
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They project all their worst qualities onto us. That's why they say we are "manipulating" when we cry. They can't fathom true empathy, compassion, and any depth of feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:51 PM
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I just read this, and I am infuriated and holding back tears!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:12 AM
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My dog has been everything since my break up I adore and love her with every cell in my body. They are the kindest angels in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:29 AM
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Please tell me your friend not only left his ass but is HIV negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:27 AM
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"Women have honor." This. so much this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:26 AM
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I got teary eyed your dad is HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:24 AM
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I am so happy you left that old dusty behind and have found someone that treats you how you deserve. I am also so sorry you went through that b/c that sounds severely traumatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:23 AM
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Yea my ex discarded me when my dad was on his deathbed. I am always bringing him up but he fits every single toxic meme I see on here LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:21 AM
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Oh girl you don't even know. I have wondered if he sexually abused her once he was out of my life- the trauma bond between them is strong and his mom used to accuse him of it when he was a teen. When she was 12 if he was driving her somewhere (he is 6 years older than her) and she pissed him off he would abandon her on the street to scare her and pick her up later. He also almost killed his mother once while black out drunk. They clean up ALLLLL his messes. I don't understand why they don't reme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:05 AM
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Exactly! I started reading Why does he do that? this week and I burst out in tears this morning realizing how much abuse actually existed within the relationship. They depend on being so covert that even the victim can't quite put their finger on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:54 PM
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Exactly! I loved my ex's sister, we were really close, but when he was arrested for domestic violence charges she said, "well who called the police?" And looked at me like it was all my fault. I was really hurt and it is something I am still healing from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:56 PM
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I dont think it will guarantee that. But he does have the felonies on his record and a restraining order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:59 PM
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In my state the automatically enforce a restraining order! And he has felonies on his record now. He also flipped.on the police and resisted arrest. He feels above the law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:57 PM
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My ex has a court date for domestic violence charges coming up. He blames me and has never taken responsibility. Should I go to court or give a statement or let it go? I have been going back and forth about this. I also fear being subpoenaed. A part of me wants to let go and let God (and also never see him again b/c he scares me and other trauma bond reasons) but the other part of me knows he will blame me and everything else under the sun about the reasons why he acted out the way he did. I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:50 AM
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I think it also refers to men who complain about women only wanting "chads" (myth) but its actually a projection of themselves b/c they refuse to date females that aren't their ideal even if they are of similar attractiveness.
/r/askFDS31/07/20 04:48 AM
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Take it from me. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:18 AM
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This was years ago before they took texts seriously. We showed the judge 100s of harassing texts yet the judge STILL sympathized with him. It was insane. It bothers me men try to complain they get the short end of the stick in court, but this was not the case for me as well as many others. Basically I had majority of custody but had to travel with my son on a 4 hour trip twice a week to my ex. So child support went into gas- he also got to claim my son every year on taxes despite the fact I paid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:12 AM
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My son's father attempted this shit! The judges eat it right up too! Why? Because they are also male! ​ Edited to add: My comment was a knee jerk reaction of traumatizing flashbacks, but I am so sorry you went through this. My son's father killed himself this past year, and he was horribly abusive so it was a blessing for us. He controlled me through the courts as much as he could. It always baffled me how he got away with it when he was literally a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:07 AM
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Yep I ghosted a guy this week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:59 AM
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He could have sold that ring and invested in another one 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:29 PM
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What they are saying is so harmful and abusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:40 AM
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Yep that's why I gave my ex a chance I heard all those same comments. He now is serving probation for domestic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:11 AM
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Exactly!! It makes zero sense to me but they do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:51 AM
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That last line in the first paragraph describes my ex and his parents perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:49 AM
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Or in my case dating a straight up abuser. No matter how much abuse I took he viewed me as zero value. Because I put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:31 AM
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Dating a man who isn't as successful or as attractive as you to "give him a chance" thinking he will treat you better than someone on your attractiveness level. A lot of women do this thinking they will be treated better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:30 AM
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Exactly!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:48 AM
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100%! but I have seen so many ladies in here rating themselves by it. Its internalized misogyny! There is just no other way to put it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:34 AM
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It's just not helpful and upholds the patriarchal ideals of beauty. Its hurtful and we need to dismantle the entire system, and we can't do that if women are internalizing misogyny which is exactly what rating yourself is. Its internalized from childhood. I hope women can wake up to this especially if they are in FDS its so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:23 AM
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I made a post about this because I have seen some of us on here using this system. It's not to shade but to educate, because it's literally a rating system that is totally degrading to us that a lot of women have internalized. Edit: The post I just created has a link attached to it describing why its misogynistic. But i found articles written by men themselves admitting its misogyny and that it is a male concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:16 AM
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Ladies you are not a number- don't play into this rhetoric. It is created by the patriarchy and reduces us to objects just like everything else in their playbook does. There are no numbers it's simply silly. One person can view you as a 4 while another views you as an 8 undo this societal brainwashing. We do not enable any part of the patriarchy. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:13 AM
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I'm not being aggressive or rude to you at all. I'm just challenging your idea of attractiveness and the rating system- which is very much so a degrading tool used by misogynistic men. We are here to help others see this so there really is no need to act a type of way towards me for pointing out facts. It's by no means an attack on your character. Edited to add: to put bluntly the rating system was created by men. Mysogynistic ones. I mean, do what you will but dont come for me for putting facts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:24 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:21 AM
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😂😂😂 one of the biggest reasons why misogyny wont die is terrifyingly low IQ's
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:52 AM
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Same story. By the end of my relationship he had domestice violence charges and I still stayed. He ended up eventually blaming me and leaving me to try and get with another woman. He had zero respect for me for continously forgiving him. He told me himself I was a piece of shit scumbag. I will never downgrade or put up with one major mistake period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:36 AM
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I went through the same. Never again. Vet them like there is no tomorrow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:07 AM
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He was triangulating you two and he also sounds like a sociopath!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:04 AM
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"I cheated and I'm a piece of shit so you are too!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:39 AM
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No he gaslit you. Every addict does that- you did nothing wrong. Abusers never question if they are the abuser they dont care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:11 AM
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He sounds extremely porn sick!! Trust me this is a blessing you are going to level up and never attract one of these sickos again! Be excited this is only the beginning! The universe has been helping us shed toxic energy so we can transform into who we are meant to be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:06 AM
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Some narcs are super insidious and covert. A normal man would not out right discard his girlfriend over porn he would AT LEAST if he was low value hide it better. But this was one was like "meh. the porn means more to me." major red flag. Let him live in his parents basement with imaginary women- he'll never keep a relationship and if he does she will be doormat. You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:58 AM
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He is definitely a narc he literally chose porn over you and discarded you like nothing. I would definitely explore with your therapist the fact he was probably emotionally abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:49 AM
1

Yes once he gets his shit block. If he tries to make up before Saturday do not do it. Ignore any talk outside of him getting his things. He doesnt attribute any value to you and in his mind he is calling your bluff. Once he realizes you are serious he will Hoover. Block and maybe even change your number bc he will never change hes addicted and thinks there is nothing wrong with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:43 AM
1

He probably sprinkled gaslighting and abuse which created a trauma bond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:33 AM
1

You did the right thing!!!!! Block and never look back!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:27 AM
18

Except the rating system is a concept of the patriarchy and beauty is subjective to everyone individually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:26 AM
23

Dont rate yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:17 AM
3

Mine would search terms like "very very young teen" and some would be violent rape porn of young teens. Good for you leaving his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:12 AM
30

How old was the guy who asked that in the grocery store!? Why do men sexualize little girls?? 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:58 PM
1

lmao i remember this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:06 AM
77

Keep fighting the good fight with not watching porn! It's the porn that has made you struggle with the premature ejaculation! it is toxic on many levels!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:29 AM
2

Thank you for reminding me. Had a bad day of flashbacks today of his lies and abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:06 PM
5

That's his exact words too. It's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:04 PM
8

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:59 PM
16

And he will chase the woman of his dreams too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:54 PM
47

Yet every woman I know of who chased a man was rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:18 PM
7

My ex did this and is now serving probation and he blames me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:54 PM
11

Evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:15 PM
3

Give him no explanation block and never speak to him again. He will figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:07 AM
19

dump. Block. Delete. Never speak to him again if you stay he will do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:03 AM
15

I hate this guy. He has been around for awhile and is a total narcissist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:16 AM
1

Hes a man they dont think like us. He knows damn well what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:20 AM
9

When I said this I got so many comments coming after me saying he isnt racist and that they need to talk it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:16 AM
7

She owes him zero explanations. He will figure it out when he never hears from her again. This is how they learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:15 AM
2

Omg this brings back PTSD flashbacks of my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:43 AM
2

Disrespectful af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:16 PM
1

😂😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:15 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:14 PM
3

😭💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:07 PM
7

Read the handbook. Do not move in with a man again without marriage- especially with kids. You have to dump him. He will not change and if you stay he has zero reason to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 12:00 PM
3

Guys aren't friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:02 AM
9

Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:58 AM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:04 PM
2

She did. And I just really faced my entire life and saw her for who she is. Healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:04 PM
3

My dad was abusive as well but my mom was 31 and he was 16/17 when she got with him. He raised all her kids that weren't his but one. He also had remorse. He also died last year too before my mom of course. He wasnt my blood father but I respect him despite his anger growing up knowing what my mom did to him and who she was. Thank you for sharing. I'm so grateful for this group!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:12 PM
8

Catch me if you can? Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:10 PM
2

Did his name start with A? We have one of those here 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:08 PM
6

This just happened for me too. Thank you guys for sharing this bc you feel alone with it. It was very hard accepting this about my mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:02 PM
3

I thought of that as well when I typed that. I have seen that many times as well. They are the most shallow creatures in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:44 AM
3

Mine did the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:50 AM
4

Get a google number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:02 AM
6

Hes a psychopath with no self awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:01 AM
3

I already have a dude calling me I just started talking to today. Luckily i am using Google number!!! Create one through google voice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:52 AM
8

I have noticed men who attempt to get you at the beach or the pool first date do this so they can assess your body and trash you if your body doesn't meet their rigid standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:36 PM
3

I thought that too :( but last time i checked not a lot of activity on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:18 PM
8

Why does our pain and destroying our bodies get them off yet they are up in arms when we point out their sick and deluded rape mentality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:04 PM
2

Love your analysis and your beautiful writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:00 PM
28

Yep as more women discover FDS and dismantle the programming men will lose even more power. It is glorious. We are doing God's work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:46 PM
8

😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:09 PM
3

Just know they do it, because they get off on our disgust! They know we don't like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:43 PM
6

exactly issa trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:47 PM
6

My aunt is also like this. She believes women shouldn't be presidents, cops, or in any position of power. I no longer speak to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:58 PM
32

Really unattractive. I love how men want us to chase them and beg for them now. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:55 PM
3

I laughed out loud to this lmao smgdh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:52 PM
6

That honestly looks gross and is so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:35 PM
21

LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:21 PM
3

His language is the opposite of a "nice guy" is this a f*cking joke??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:20 PM
7

This is exactly how I view my trauma. And it's not a popular opinion- but I am grateful for every single thing, because it has made me into the most beautiful version of myself. And I wouldn't trade this body and soul for a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:18 PM
4

AOC is goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:16 PM
15

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:33 AM
7

Yea b/c they are pedophiles themselves. And also I had to block someone in here b/c she tried to debate with me that BLM was a sham. If you are in here and don't support BLM you need to reevaluate yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:32 AM
17

How is that even legal???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:26 PM
6

Same place I am in. I believe that FDS is.the awakening of the linchpins seth godin talked about. I am so privileged my spiritual guides brought me to this community, and I'm excited for my future as well as the posterity of the beautiful, talented, and innovative smorgisboard of women who were, and will be, guided here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:55 PM
9

This hit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:53 AM
7

😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:50 AM
12

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:48 AM
8

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:20 AM
8

I feel attacked 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:20 AM
7

And gorgeous af. She deserves all the fame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:10 PM
9

Kelly Stamps is my favorite right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:17 PM
10

Nicki is cancelled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:45 PM
3

Read the handbook. If you had read the handbook you would know why everyone is saying dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:22 PM
2

There are no male friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:19 PM
1

You're not encouraging shit you're comparing yourself to her and lowering her value by pointing out shes a single mom and looks like she works at hooters. Just let it go, because you will defend your ignorance until the end of time and I don't have time for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:22 PM
5

Right. She isn't making great decisions. (none of your business). But you pointed out specifically that she was a single mom and "hooters looking." it's harmful to continually paint single moms as worthless. EVALUATE your very first comment. Like seriously? This isn't rocket science why what you said wasn't ok for a literal feminist sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:19 PM
1

Defend it until the end of time. Your comment was no better than a misogynistic red piller. Level up. Self reflection is about that you have your own internalized misogyny you need to deal with. As far as I'm concerned youre unteachable and this conversation is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:16 PM
2

Why even put single mom on the list of qualities that denigrate her values at all? Have some self reflection and responsibility on why this is misogynistic instead of defending your ignorance. Learn and grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:10 PM
0

If you don't want people making assumptions don't use the fact that she is a single mom blatantly to degrade her value. Why even bring it up then? Your comment is just stupid and degrading. Evaluate it instead of being defensive. There's a reason it has to many downvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:09 PM
2

I am a single mom. I have one kid. My ex was a psychopath. You're no different than incels thinking single moms have no values. It's just disgusting associating single moms with being low value, because it sounds like Red pill talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:03 PM
5

exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:52 PM
18

Sounds like he was purposely triangulating you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:34 PM
13

Oh please. if women don't stop pandering to this bullshit i swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:30 AM
2

Love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:50 AM
3

It doesn't help i'm considerably more attractive than him which gave him an ego boost. In fact, he tried to trade up and failed miserably lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:41 AM
3

He feels entitled to attractive women and incredibly porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:40 AM
3

That happened in chat today with a girl who is 18 dating an 27 year old russian man online she has never met. We ALL told her he is a predator and she wasn't having it. So we basically wasted 2 hours of our lives for someone who wanted us to tell her an almost 30 year old man dating a girl right out of high school and living with her parents isn't a predator. Beyond frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:38 AM
2

Same in the chats there are random people who go in with obviously problematic men and then we spend sometimes hours going back and forth trying to show them why its a red flag situation and it gets old. I read that handbook in completion in 4 hours I could not get enough and honestly wish it were longer. It's an easy read and anyone who truly wants change is going to be glued to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:29 AM
5

Absolutely hes obese (but really tall so has that going) and also wants a girl stick thin. Says he is a man so doesn't have to worry about his looks- only women do. Total misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:25 AM
2

I'm dead laughing at all these comments lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:20 AM
1

I have this same problem. Let me know when you find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:18 AM
3

LMAO did you date my ex!! wtf I'm dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:05 AM
2

I never drink soda yet these few pounds will not go away. I only cook, i'm a dancer and I intermittent fast yet it still is so hard to keep weight off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:04 AM
3

It was a consistent fight with my ex. He only showered once a week, and I would have to force him in the shower. He has no self awareness about how this made him a horrible partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:01 AM
2

Proud of you and excited for your new journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:40 AM
10

Love how he is 38 and unwilling to date a woman over 35. ​ Edit: 18-35 when he is 38. Simply gross. ​ Edit again: all the men in the comments are saying how this great content. JC they are tone deaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:06 AM
15

I feel you. My body still twitches all over since my ex. It happened after an argument with him i didn't even realize that he pointed it out like it was something to be proud of- that he degraded my health!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:43 AM
1

My ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:07 AM
8

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:54 AM
14

Beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:53 AM
8

He was projecting and gaslighting you. Drunk venting is not an excuse. His ex ghosted him for a reason- hes abusive. Good job leveling up and knowing your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:51 AM
2

Today is the first day of your brand new life. Congratulations. ​ Edited to say: I'm so grateful for this community. We are in this together and we not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:47 AM
3

That last sentence is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:40 AM
2

Everytime I see your username i contemplate telling you how perfect it is. Secondly, yes queen. I concur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:36 AM
5

What's sad is you are spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:34 AM
23

GIRRRRRL why did you leave him!? lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:47 PM
5

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:41 PM
13

You would be surprised the amount of men also into much older women. Where there is a woman there is a man fetishizing her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:32 PM
44

I cry everytime I see that movie because the abuse she went through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:10 PM
44

Sounds like they just simply hate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:14 AM
2

Yes!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:02 PM
11

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:44 PM
18

You hit all the notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:07 PM
5

No clue 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:43 PM
82

I have really discovered some peoples inability to critically think and go beneath the surface to deeper waters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:20 PM
10

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:05 AM
5

It's the most beautiful song in the world to me right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:59 AM
1

Exactly 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:03 PM
14

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:38 PM
96

I don't know if I'll ever trust a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:18 PM
2

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:05 PM
1

He thinks we want a society without men. And without men we are fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:58 PM
1

Hes delusional and sexist. What's sad is he is in all the relationship and ask women groups giving advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:01 PM
6

Oh I bet he is!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:21 AM
15

He relates to the "labels"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:51 AM
34

They want to believe we need them. We really don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:50 AM
11

Right. Just labels. How about I am tired of being abused and accepting NVM LVM behavior so I finally decided to love myself and level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:50 AM
11

I'm so tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:49 AM
22

Right and calling what I said labels when it's just simply fact. Sorry I'm tired of abusive pornsick narcissistic men 🤷‍♀️. Considering my last one has domestic violence charges I have every right to be picky and high standards I learned my lesson about "just give him a chance.. hes a nice guy" lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:42 AM
2

Interesting considering that's exactly what they accuse us of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:35 AM
1

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:35 AM
5

He married Shan and they are having a child now Edit: this is not to say I agree with their relationship. I have been thinking about Shan a lot and how she is a total lost libfem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:23 AM
3

Yes. Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:10 AM
11

Looks like my ex except my ex doesnt have glasses 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:45 AM
2

Is that what Pickmeisha is about?? The mods give it to pickmes? I was wondering what each flair meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:38 PM
21

You are a fucking queen for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:46 PM
1

Me too it's been really difficult!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:44 AM
5

I always have fake arguments with people in my head 🤦‍♀️😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:42 AM
2

You may have to do it 500 times a day but it will get less and less as you redirect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:47 PM
9

Wants woman in early 20s with the brain of a 30 year old 😂🤦‍♀️ of course they are partying they are young!! Stop trying to snatch our youth you old delusional perv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:08 PM
48

The trauma bond is no joke. My brain keeps telling me I want him and to go back even tho he literally treated me like human garbage and told me repeatedly I was a piece of shit scumbag (exact words) with zero worth. Makes me want to throw hands with my damn brain 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:31 PM
80

Everytime my abuser comes into my head I say, "I let ****** go," or, "I reject ****** energy." Over and over to reprogram my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:18 PM
2

Exactly. I thought. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:16 PM
24

And also are women his age really sorority types? Or is he looking at women in college? Yuck man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:49 PM
11

lmao this hit the nail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:18 PM
12

my ex lol. It's easier to blame us for their problems and move on to the next repeating the same patterns. Boy bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:14 PM
10

Yes girl!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:13 PM
10

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:27 PM
15

Perfect 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:26 PM
8

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:12 PM
26

You are only 22! That was total projection- he knows he will be alone. Not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:42 AM
1

I got an email last night asking for my code and I also put the code given to me when I signed up but I still cant get in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:15 AM
2

Looks like my ex 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:12 AM
1

That's a stereotype. Virgos are still healers of the zodiac and that is a well known thing amongst spiritualists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:09 PM
6

She completely ignorant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:29 PM
12

My childs father was a psychopath who killed himself out of revenge to his wife and to traumatize her (he told her that was why he was going to kill himself) my kid knows. He deserves the truth especially since he saw the abuse himself. Hes 14.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:27 PM
5

Couldnt even finish. Cant stand her ignorant ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:24 PM
48

Na you dodged a bullet. Sounds like an excuse to get you in a bathing suit for free and assess if you meet his physical standards. So transparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:18 PM
4

Na sounds like it's difficult to find a good guy in general!! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:08 PM
5

See? Proof those dates dont work! 😂jk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:01 PM
3

Tell me you ended up together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:50 PM
1

Bengali 🤤🤤😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:33 PM
2

Beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:28 PM
4

I'm a virgo. Those are serious stereotypes. Virgos are the healers and caretakers of the zodiac. Girl dont come for us 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:03 PM
3

😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:58 PM
3

😂😂🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:57 PM
6

Exactly. Why are men so goddamn depraved????? Yet we are the evil ones. Just so disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:57 PM
6

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:55 PM
11

Happy cake day gorgeous! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:42 PM
8

I just love all of you. I'm thankful everyday I can come here and see.the comments and posts debunking the bullshit fed to us on a daily. Makes me feel less alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:41 PM
2

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:43 AM
5

My sister is so gone she was diagnosed when I was 9 and I'm 33 now and it got worse with time. We are still struggling through it. I feel your pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:01 AM
3

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:16 PM
2

I'm not making excuses for her or tolerating it. It made me uncomfortable. But you are free to have your opinion about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 07:14 PM
40

My mom tried and they literally will not do it. She even attacked my mom and ripped the hair out of her head. They live in carlsbad NM where it's a major problem there with a lack of mental health services
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:51 PM
2

She literally tore apart Melissa555 face accusing her of plastic surgery. She hasnt had surgery she looks that good for her age bc sunscreen and retin a is real phenomenon backed up by science. I dont have energy for someone zeroing in on another womens looks and then turned around and went for mine to prove a point. If I wont put up with it from men I'm certainly not going to with another woman. She also down voted me when I literally said it was cool. She was being petty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:47 PM
3

I agree with that but she is being aggressive and also challenging my own self view like I'm delusional I'm not. Retin a has thousands of studies and research over decades showing it does this. But it's too much energy to explain all this with someone looking to be aggressive. I blocked that shit. I was offering information and even said cool if you dont agree. Continuing it on is just looking to get a reaction out of me and her comment history is just the same. Not today satan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:38 PM
3

Thank you for sharing your story. My ex has domestic abuse charges, and I have had this same question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:13 PM
10

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:05 PM
21

Are you me? This sounds like my story. All too common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:59 PM
5

Yes I didnt believe him either. And I loved chuck. Now I shout to the rooftop hes a rapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:43 PM
4

Why are you going off about my looks and asking me to go into detail about how I look? Stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:30 PM
3

Go check it out he has allegations from multiple people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:27 PM
5

Oh geez. Lol It just makes my skin nice and scientifically proven to do so. I recommend it to everyone and if thats not your thing. That's cool. Personally, yes I still look in my 20s. But I'm also of African American descent as well. We look younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:25 PM
2

I agree. And all of my partners as well. I think also I attracted that because of my own trauma. But in my case they were violent as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:17 PM
4

Why are so many men abusing? I came out of an abusive relationship feeling like a freak. But coming to FDS there are so many of us with stories of crippling emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:19 PM
8

There are girls who say he raped them in real life too. Ruined chuck for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:55 PM
10

I prefer Blair to Serena 100x over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:54 PM
1

Shes my favorite that character is iconic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:53 PM
9

My ex would call it "the void."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:48 PM
7

He strikes me as the type to be very cold during sex. No eye contact, smile etc. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:42 PM
15

As a biracial woman, half black/half white, this is the biggest thing. Every partner I have had sexualizes my mixed race.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:37 PM
3

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:20 PM
18

I do this in r/niceguys and get cussed out too. I just block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:19 PM
3

Mine wanted me to fix him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:13 PM
11

That's what I use retin A (must be prescription not retinol) I'm almost 34 and look a decade younger. But you MUST use sunscreen (not sunscreen in your makeup actually sunscreen) daily and reapply when necessary. Yes it is a miracle!! Its the only thing next to sunscreen proven to scientifically work. Check out melissa555 on YouTube she is in her 60s never used botox or plastic surgery but has used retin a and sunscreen for 30 years and shes freaking stunning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:06 PM
1

I messaged on instagram and my messages were read and FDS added me but no response to my messages?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:51 PM
248

My sister is homeless and sleeps under a bridge she is severely schizophrenic and gets kicked out of every home. She attacked my mother so my mom cannot live with her. She sleeps under the bridge bc there is no shelter. She doesnt remember things and I worry she has been raped multiple times and cant even remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:47 PM
7

Next level shit!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:30 PM
7

That was him my ex and really all the males in his family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:57 PM
3

I did instagram as well and same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:56 PM
5

Your dad is a gem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:56 PM
1

So what I'm hearing is he realized you wouldn't fuck and discarded you. Smgdh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:10 PM
8

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:04 PM
20

Please leave this entitled abusive piece of shit you absolutely do not need him. Then block and never look back or allow him access to you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:01 PM
77

These are the same types who complain about black history month or BLM. Who say white lives matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:55 PM
4

I did thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:37 PM
6

I applied for this a week ago and not heard back do I need to make my Instagram public and reapply?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:56 PM
71

My ex's cousin who is a 24 year old virgin (to this day) used to look at models and say "I'm not impressed" and he was DEAD serious. Like how much porn are you watching that Miranda Kerr is average to you????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:54 PM
24

The last hoovering email my ex sent it was a huge paragraph saying I was there to make him happy and basically be his therapist (domestic violence charges and nasty behavior in general towards me) and I failed so it was all my fault. Like it was my responsibility to cure his sociopathy and make him happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:48 PM
13

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:46 PM
11

Also, amazing job. You took your power back. Just hold on dont allow him to see you speak to you see your social media nothing. Legit go black and never look back. Right now hes so disgusting he thinks you will come crawling back. When he realizes hes in the dark he will panic. Be no where to be found permanently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:40 PM
8

Wow. That's what my ex would do too when I would threaten. It seriously made me feel like I had zero value!! Never ever go back!!! Block on everything and go no contact. He will want you back then but dont go back!!! Once he has you again he will start the cycle all over again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:37 PM
2

How did he react? Did he give two fucks?? Or beg you to stay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:35 PM
2

Did you warn him.ahead of time or just go? And yes yes and yes again queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:21 AM
14

Right I thought I wasnt good enough thats what he told me to justify his mistreatment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:19 AM
23

I am so glad we are all waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:19 AM
5

It absolutely is. I'm glad I like women too. I would settle down with a woman before a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:09 AM
2

Thank you 😊😊❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:55 AM
16

Ok. I am staying single for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:53 AM
1

Yes mine was very similar!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:38 AM
10

extremely but I'm better for it. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:59 PM
18

Also I love it you called this meme out I see so many stupid memes that are harmful and justify abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:34 PM
17

Yea he had her believing I was the abuser (according to him) even tho he was the perpetrator and court ordered to take therapy due to that which was infuriating. When they start gaslighting its hard not to believe them when even professionals blame you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:21 PM
41

This is exactly what happened to me with my abusive ex who now has domestic violence charges. His therapist even believed he was the victim despite being charged with 3 abuse felonies!! Thank you for saying this. I also need to read that book already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:08 PM
19

Using you for emotional labor!!! I say cut all people out like that. He needs a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:44 PM
31

in r/niceguys someone told me it was toxic for us women to leave people "on read" i told him we are not required to respond to anyone!!! I don't know why people feel like they OWN our time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:23 PM
10

This is deep and actually very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:19 PM
10

All excuses!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:58 PM
8

Oh girl yes. He has domestic charges right now for his behavior he also resisted arrest when the police came and got mased and tased multiple times. He has like 3 felonies now he blames me for!! I STILL stayed with him after that (it was really bad) he ended up discarding me anyway and blaming me for the abuse. Then getting incensed when I went no contact after a string of incredibly abusive texts!! It will be a year in October the last time he tried to contact me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:29 PM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:58 PM
2

I'm an acquairius rising!! My cousin and best friend is an acquarius and she is the sweetest loving person. People who make these stereotypes dont have enough depth to truly get the zodiac!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:57 PM
17

Its satire lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:42 PM
51

And they stay EXACTLY the same. They know we will upgrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:40 PM
53

Yep he discarded me but when I called his bluff and cut off no contact- I was going to die alone and he kept contacting me for months!! They want us to take their abuse even when they dont technically want us anymore!! They want our self esteem so low we stay on the back burner for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:39 PM
39

My ex discarded me and treated my so terribly I finally went no contact. Guess who was sending messages letting me know he was fantasizing about the "slow painful death" I deserved once he realized he lost control??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:35 PM
2

Virgo sun AND moon and that is so true we are called cold bc we hide our emotions a lot and very practical but it isnt true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:33 PM
28

Does this seem sociopathic to anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:31 PM
38

And also being a "friend" for years. That abusive ex I told ya ll about I knew him for YEARS. men will wear a mask for as long as it takes to trap you!! But we get shamed and blamed not our abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:26 PM
16

Constantly moving the goal post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:24 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:23 PM
2

Definitely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:22 PM
3

It was for me too I used to be that super nice push over and they certainly took advantage of it!! You should have seen reactions when I finally flipped the script!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:21 PM
19

Keep going!!!!!! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:22 AM
2

My ex has domestic violence charges and I have severe cptsd. What do you think constant verbal abuse and or physical abuse and gaslighting does mixed with very very highs? It causes a trauma bond. Please research this bc this could easily re traumatize someone into blaming themselves for abuse. And also count your blessings you have never dealt with a psychopath before you judge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:18 AM
20

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:06 AM
38

Letting go of bad friends helped change my life. You are going to attract so much better now. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:02 AM
35

He sounds like a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:43 AM
24

Me too. I felt the need to save and rescue my ex and now he has felony charges for domestic abuse and blames me for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:36 AM
10

That would be hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:22 AM
35

I did not know about this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:20 AM
0

No I'm not. And I could give two fucks but thanks for the opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:54 AM
5

Exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:19 AM
15

Age gaps arent terrible but this is exactly why guys think they are entitled to younger women. Bc they see women preferring older men again and again. Just something to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:08 AM
17

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:56 AM
10

She is!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:50 AM
55

Queen shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:57 AM
19

totally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:56 AM
15

exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:56 AM
30

My mom's husband died she does ALL the manual labor by herself and she is in her 60s!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:55 AM
16

Fuck yes we were just talking about creating a women only commune in chat today!! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:54 AM
9

LMAO right? I am so glad I am pansexual so men are NOT my only options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:54 AM
18

just bought a bunny vibrator today lmao. Prepared to be single for the LOOOONG haul. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:53 AM
22

Exactly!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:44 AM
109

And also what he misses is that our issue is specifically with LVM not with HVM. I also think its funny he is stalking my comments and posts. They need us not.the other way around. Men want sex we can go without and do a better job pleasing ourselves!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:41 AM
23

Queen shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:33 AM
31

I have also heard it's not about their looks but that they have money by then and stable and young girls will still go for that bc women dont care about looks as much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:47 AM
18

Yeeeeeep. This is probably what he tells himself to justify his own sick fantasies or real abuse committed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:34 AM
13

Which is all manipulation bc they actually prefer little to none sexual experience so they can feel powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:30 AM
6

I could have wrote it better you are right but when I said they dont want real women i meant children as in teen girls. NOT grown ass thin women. My reference is to porn sick men. I dont feel that way at all. And I also said none of what you just said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:20 PM
4

When I say not real women I dont mean thin women arent real women i mean literally the number one searched term on porn is teen girls and they start looking at us as young as 11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:08 PM
8

I'm not shaming thin women. These men are looking at teenage girls. That is what I am shaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:08 PM
23

right really makes you side eye men and wonder what they truly think. Because when they are anonymous the things they say are literally rapist mentality, pedophilic, and downright abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:09 PM
5

My ex has domestic violence charges. Do I had this from a future partner? It was a huge part of my awakening and what changed me as a person. Or do I just keep that shit to myself and continue leveling up with no references to the past? I have debated this multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:59 PM
8

I'm half black. Courts will not take children from their mothers for no reason those are your own fears and it's an illusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:12 PM
30

One of the mods told me last night women are fed Disney stories. Men are fed rape porn. This is why- they are far from what we wished them to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:10 PM
15

I just bought a rabbit vibrator today lol I'm good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:09 PM
9

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:09 PM
22

My ex told me I guess I never really think of it, because flowers personally do nothing for me. He brought flowers to my job one time obviously just to keep me thinking he cared after i complained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:50 PM
7

Unless you are a severe drug addict, prostitute, or alcoholic courts don't just take children from their moms b/c its about the best interests of the child. If anything you get alimony and child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:45 PM
18

They don't take babies from mothers unless she is abusive. Not only have I been through custody I also work as a CASA volunteer. I have seen abusive moms keep their children. You will not lose your children thats one of the myths they tell you to keep you trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:44 PM
14

What it really is- is that they are obsessed with child like bodies. Not real women. What happens when their girlfriends age? They replace them- do they not see how disgusting this is?? Edit: my issue isnt that thin women are not real women or that there is something wrong with being thin. There is also nothing wrong with a man being attracted to a thin woman. The issue comes in when they are ONLY driven by incredibly thin women bc they are porn sick and actually prefer to date much much younger…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:14 PM
15

No no no honey. Leave this guy. We need to love ourselves enough to be alone and stop settling for this abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:07 PM
592

Yet somehow we hit the wall at 30?? I'm 33 and the men my age look easily 10 years older than me!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:48 PM
5

The beauty of this meme is so bright I can barely look at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:29 PM
21

I am so sorry this happened to you and I know that means shit and doesn't change anything but its just for lack of a better words to express my anger in regards to the depravity of these assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:57 PM
39

Exactly Jesus Christ men are clueless of their own depravity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:49 PM
3

No shit lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:44 PM
40

Makes you want to just give up on men. I am so thankful I am also attracted to women so I have more options than pornsick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:18 PM
49

Mine would delete the history of his dms so that he wouldn't have to look at all the terrible things he said to me and verbal abuse and admitted this. Serious cognitive dissonance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:05 PM
15

He was probably sleeping around during one of his hissy fit silent treatments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:04 PM
23

yep. mine too. Why is this so common??? it's like they are all covert abusers or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:02 PM
32

They don't really care about us. It's a lie in fact they are laughing at all the libfems buying into this. We are disposable sex dolls to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:01 PM
75

Also she talks about how it started when she was 16 pushed by her boyfriend who was 23.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:36 PM
32

And who cares anyway bc sex with you thots start early so you're disposable to me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:35 PM
101

I responded to another guy who had the nerve to call her sexy while also calling her a survivor. We dont fucking need to hear we are sexy recounting our sexual abuse!!!! He ended up deleting his comments after I shredded him. Sick of this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:23 PM
8

Genius
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:39 AM
55

I think the latter. They want to convince themselves they arent contributing to abuse. Its severe cognitive dissonance and a lack of empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:35 AM
10

I agree my son took the last name skinner which his family pressured me into. And he wasnt ever a father and also killed himself as revenge to his wife bc hes an abuser as well. If I wasn't a pick me then I would have said no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:30 AM
2

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:28 AM
54

I also looked at the time. He spent less than 2 hours with you. They really expect us to give them our bodies and trust them to penetrate us after LESS THAN 2 HOURS knowing them/meeting them? I just can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:00 AM
30

How really fucking sad he chatted you up and pretended to actually be interested in you as a person. These men are dangerously deceptive. I am glad you are ok, because his rage is very suspect. Also, totally disgusting he had the nerve to touch you like that!!!! on a first date!!!!!!! There is never an end to their depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:55 AM
110

LMAO this place is a godsend for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:46 AM
51

So done with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:45 AM
133

amazing how they dont see the connection that porn preys on vulnerable women and children!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:43 AM
116

She liked my comment that was supportive b/c there are a sea of incels and pickmes invalidating and victim blaming her. I really hope more women speak out- we need to stop being afraid of the judgement to expose the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:38 AM
7

Yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:27 AM
11

This made me feel like I wasn't good enough and she was better than me. He told me she thought I was "cute" and I should take that as a "compliment"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:59 AM
7

So many like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:30 AM
3

No**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:16 AM
8

Oh yes know I read that me and my friend were just talking about this 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:16 AM
5

I'm scared 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:16 AM
18

LMAO THAT IS LITERALLY MY EX he has domestic violence charges for abusing me 😂😂😂 lives in his parents basement and he is 28.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:13 AM
12

sounds like a classic narcissist desperate for supply and attempting a hoover. Do not respond issa trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:47 AM
46

Never thought of that before. Keep waking up to this bullshit every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:41 AM
29

When will women wake up? Until we unite we will never take down this sick patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:39 AM
10

I see I see!! Block him.and delete bc he doesnt deserve one iota of your time and he lacks empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:28 AM
7

Like bdsm??? Or...? Whatever this is sounds very traumatizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:24 AM
2

I have a similar story!!!! Looks about right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:21 AM
7

Lizzo too. They cant stand she loves herself bc shes not the perfect ideal for these mostly pedophilic men she should despise herself and starve herself to have worth despite being talented and successful. Fuck success our worth is based on our bodies only 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:01 AM
4

It so true 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:57 PM
2

Disgusting. How can we escape this lunacy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:56 PM
9

I love all of you. This group has helped me more than I can describe I'm not alone. Not one bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:51 PM
2

I couldnt help it I responded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:11 PM
1

So true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:34 AM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:07 PM
7

My ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:38 PM
3

I think she participated to please him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:59 PM
3

I'm literally crying since I found this sub. I had a very abusive ex and going online and seeing how men talk about women especially aging women (I'm 33) I was crying my eyes out this morning until I found this I seriously think it was a godsend I found this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:38 PM
3

I'm so happy I found this sub I was so depressed today about being 33 and single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:57 PM
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