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CourtProofConnect6521/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 04:02 PM
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Need SupportProofConnect6521/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 11:08 AM
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Grieve them like their dead…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 02:59 AM
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We all want to be loved. People need each other. Both women and men do better together than separately. There are a lot of caveats to that. “The heart wants what the heart wants” is usually the dynamic. There is nothing wrong with marriage just get a prenup…a “his, hers, and ours”; that mandates 50/50 custody of children and differential offset child support. If it’s in her name it’s hers, if it’s in his name it’s his, if it’s in both names it gets split 50/50. Some people like being parents and…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:32 PM
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Divorce is a last option after every other option has been exhausted twice…when you have children together. No one wins in divorce. No one is a better a person. It also affects the children. I don’t see enough here to validate you blowing up your life. Have tough conversations and get into counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:19 PM
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I usually don’t recommend divorce but in y’all’s case it makes sense. Just tell her and tell her why. Be prepared before you file
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:17 PM
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…you can’t enforce it
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:14 PM
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Same, I saw your comment after I replied
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:12 PM
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Go away lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:11 PM
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Brother…no…just no. You’re better than this. If you need someone to talk to pm me. On behalf of all men this plan of yours is rejected. Be close to your children, be involved, and do what’s right.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:12 PM
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Why would you care? You can’t enforce it anyways
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:06 PM
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Solid advice! You nailed it
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 02:40 PM
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You never protect them
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 02:39 PM
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A man doesn’t become a man until he’s been divorced…welcome to the club. We care.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 02:36 PM
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I have been through one divorce in Texas and am going through a second and I own multiple businesses. Typically each party pays for their own lawyers. You can be forced to pay but that is not the norm. You may have to allow her to open a credit card to pay and that would be a debt in her side of the spreadsheet that you will be responsible for helping cover. If you agree to her opening the credit card. Just drag your feet and only pay if a judge orders it. If it’s premarital property you can arg…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:00 AM
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She’s not entitled to his business if it was created before the marriage and they never used family funds in it. Don’t give bad advice
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 02:49 AM
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Never leave the house. It’s always harder than it needs to be. If it’s not then that couple needs to stay married…they work. Stop making mistakes brother and prepare for war. Hope for the best but prepare for war
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 05:16 PM
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That’s exactly the point…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:30 PM
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I didn’t read it all but the answer is…no
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 02:39 PM
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Hang in there a setback in the beginning doesn’t mean you can’t persevere successfully. They use this strategy because it is successful with many men. Don’t be that man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 05:00 PM
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You’re fine brother. Courts have to be overly cautious that’s why that strategy is used so much. Go no contact, handle everything through the lawyer, don’t believe that gas lighting. It shows her character and not yours. Just remember with the next relationship they will likely do the same thing. The Silver Bullet is a gut wrenching tactic but an extremely powerful lesson that you learn and can pass on to other men when they need advice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 09:02 PM
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The weight loss drugs are driving a spike in divorces. So maybe but there is that side of it also
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:59 PM
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I finished a bachelors and a masters with young kids and a wife that worked nights and I worked six days a week. Don’t let your kids be your excuse. Enforce bedtimes, routines, consistent schedule. The answer is not in her helping you. The answer is you managing your life
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:48 PM
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It’s over. You need to come to terms with that. That ship didn’t sail, it sunk. Pining after what was (speaking from experience) will do you no good. Time will help you, but help time by working on yourself and planning the future. That future no longer includes her. You’ll make it through this and the pain gets less. I’ve heard that a man does not become a man and know himself until he has gone through divorce. Everything before that was easy mode. You’ll be a wiser and better version of yourse…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:35 PM
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Stop drinking. If you don’t it will devour you. You will find a job keep looking. Things get better with time
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:28 PM
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Always exhaust all other options before divorcing. Save what can be saved. Divorce is painful, destructive, harmful to everyone, and ups the difficulty of life. If you walk away from the marriage walk away with a head held high and knowing you put that effort in until you were left with no other option. Good luck and if you file get a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:20 PM
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Falling on your sword is just going to lead to a sword in the stomach and a dagger planted deeply in the back. You don’t have the luxury of treating this situation the same way you handle other problems in life. Men are problem solvers and we like to get to resolution. My first divorce lawyer told me that it was always his male clients that fell on their sword during divorce. I’ve had multiple lawyers tell me that men’s and women handle divorce fundamentally differently. As far as you…brother yo…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:06 PM
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Yep, he’s falling on his sword and she will still slide a dagger into his back just to make sure the job gets done
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 01:46 PM
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There are some deal breakers there for sure. No one commented because there is not a lot of advice to give. I will say as far as abuse…don’t buy the gaslighting.During divorce the word “abuse” is abused. Abuse has police reports, abuse has family knowing about it, abuse has your partner bringing it up…before divorce. If the first time abuse has been brought up as the early stages of divorce don’t own it. It’s not your label. She can prove in court or stop claiming it. I tune out when abuse is me…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 04:47 AM
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I’m going to steal this. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 01:33 AM
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Sorry buddy it’s over. Time to come to terms with that and switch gears. You can hope for the best but prepare for war. Any empathy, sympathy, or attempts to reconcile will just be used against you
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 01:06 AM
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I regret both of my divorces. Only you can make that call. Divorce is a huge decision that adds numerous struggles for everyone involved. I would suggest exhausting all other resources first. Primarily therapy and working on yourself. Someone else will also become the father of your child or a series of men. Who knows…your child may end up liking them better. Would I want to compete with another man for parenting my own child…nope, but if it was forced on me have no doubt I will be the one my ch…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 10:57 PM
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Yes, she called out everything I did and not once owned a single action. She walked on water…at least from her view
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 12:05 AM
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I didn’t even know they had this. Thanks for the idea I’m stealing
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 11:35 PM
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Don’t throw mud at wall trying to fill the hole. There are 4 billion women out there. Take your time, heal, take nothing seriously
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 05:20 PM
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I regret both of my divorces. You better make sure…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 12:29 AM
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Yeah…my advice is divorce this poor woman and be completely honest with her. Tell her what you told us so she knows exactly what kind of person you are and doesn’t blame herself and knows she dodged a bullet. From one man to another…grow up
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 10:56 PM
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You fell in love…a gamble that can come with great pain. You’re not alone
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 09:33 PM
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The all the photos in the house away and moved the digital photos to a locked file on my phone
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 02:36 PM
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At that age be 90% honest. The thing about kids is they will eventually figure it out. But this is a coaching opportunity for future relationships. Boundaries in those relationship, self-protection, communication etc. it’s ok for you to make mistakes and own them. It will have a far bigger impact on them if you explain what you did wrong and own it. It’s also ok to be a bit vulnerable and share how you have been hurt. But don’t do it in a way that makes them own it. Pretend you’re a coach of a m…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 10:43 PM
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Hope for the best plan for a war. Don’t be naive going into divorce. War is more likely.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 01:27 AM
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Stay away from alcohol. Time and clarity are everything. Good job moving forward
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:39 PM
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Nope, ride it like you have a Fast Pass at Disneyland and leave when you are bored
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:35 PM
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The risks are too high to do pro se unless there are almost no assets and no children. Keep fighting. Unless you signed something at mediation it is not binding. You can always retain counsel and the court will have to give you time for your counsel to get up to speed. If you get in over your head hire an attorney!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 06:24 PM
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That just means they have a claim against the estate. If you’re not trying to write them out in the will then they have a claim on your estate anyways. If you get remarried they have a claim in that amount. I don’t think there is a requirement for life insurance. If the other party wants life insurance have them pay it
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 09:07 PM
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I don’t remember that being standard. Just because it is standard doesn’t mean you have to agree to it. Have her pay the life insurance policy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 08:46 PM
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Sorry brother. My heart hurts just reading this. I wish there was something that made this better
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 04:48 AM
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You need to talk to her not to us. Go talk to her
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:59 AM
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The financial costs, the emotional cost to the children, seeing my kids 50% of the time, the animosity, the pain on both sides, words that were said that cannot be taken back. The problems could have been worked on. The kids suffered more than they should have
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:41 AM
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I regret both my divorces
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:21 AM
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Take this stuff to a different sub. I think you’re lost. This isn’t a relationship advice sub for women
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:18 AM
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At the end of the day you chose this outcome. I would never choose less than 50%.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 08:07 PM
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What? Why would you want full custody. Buddy you need some therapy. You get kiddos for being honest so I am not going to bash you. Your wife is right. Are you even capable of full custody?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:53 PM
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The fact that’s you talk about a mediator looking at stuff validates that you have no idea what you are talking about. Mediators don’t care
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:31 PM
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No they don’t lol. I have been through two divorces and seen many more. Keep telling yourself that…maybe you will get what you want. No one cares buddy but you keep fighting your fight. I tell you what send them to your lawyer so they can happily charge you by the hours reading y’all’s nonsense
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:30 PM
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This is not Perry Mason. This may be your life but for a judge it will be another Tuesday and they will be thinking about what’s for lunch while reading the filings. Silver bullet tactics are only as successful as you let them be. You decide whether you get 50/50. No one else does
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:07 PM
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Why would you agree to less than 50/50? Good luck moving the needle now
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:04 PM
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Texts don’t matter dude unless she is threatening to harm you. This isn’t Perry Mason. This may be your life but for a judge it’s a Tuesday and what’s for lunch is on his mind. No one cares. As a CPA you should know they will use actually documents like pay stubs and tax returns and it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:03 PM
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Not an idiot just a man doing man things
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 01:11 PM
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You don’t say genius
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 02:37 AM
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Why are you in this group?
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 07:33 PM
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I never really noticed. I try to relate to them. I have daughters that range from 13-20 so I try and stay culturally up-to-date. You’re old do what old men do best…listen, tell jokes, make her laugh, ask lots and lots of questions. In a way it’s their world. You are a dominant male figure that feels secure in an insecure world. Just be that and you will be fine. Also, be active! My last advice is have them orgasm first. That alone will set you apart from guys their age. Also takes performance st…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 01:49 AM
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Things do get better with time. I was in a similar crisis mode and now I am not. Those feelings you are having are needed. Sit with them don’t fight them. Let tine do its work
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 01:45 AM
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I’m 48. Met my second wife at 44, she was 26. I have dated from 25-32. They are normal relationships. Women my age have a problem with me having a young son. I hang out at a cigar lounge a lot. It’s mostly men older than 35. Most of them date women 15-20 years younger. It’s becoming culturally more prevalent
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 01:40 AM
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You are absolutely going to regret this. It’s funny watching someone about to blow up their life…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 01:36 AM
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This is fine if you were horrendous man. It reads like a self-loathing man. I don’t empathize with this
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 01:02 AM
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Marriage a business contract that you did not really agree to. An entire system feeds off of divorce. I don’t think anyone can tell you much. You have to endure…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 01:55 AM
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I was going back and forth between sadness and anger. The last couple of days have been much better. Maybe I have turned a corner
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 01:00 AM
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AI is pretty decent to talk to. You can also ask it for summaries of how you felt from the beginning until now. You can have it track the change in yourself. Just give it some time stops. I try to tell it when a new day is being talked about. It can’t really track time
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 02:42 AM
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You were downvoted but that was funny
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 02:39 AM
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Does white knighting work as a strategy or is it just a manifestation in self-loathing?
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 02:38 AM
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You need to lower the stress. Stay off apps and just flirt in person. Stakes are lower that way because flirting is just fishing for some response back
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 02:44 AM
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This has to be a level of Dante’s Hell. Sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 10:18 PM
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Every man should get this tattoo
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 07:04 PM
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I am going through what you are going through. You will get through this. I know what it feels like and I know how hard it is
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 02:43 AM
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I am also a veteran with PTSD. I am barely holding on. I also have a teenagers and a young child. I could have written this post as it is me. Except the autism part. I am very angry and that comes and goes. If it’s any comfort you’re not the only one going through this
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 03:07 AM
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She is not the same person you thought she was. She was never that person. Someone who gave any kind of fk about you wouldn’t be bringing you divorce papers to sign…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:40 PM
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I take accusations with a grain of salt. When it comes to all of this what is the outcome you are wanting? Is it best for the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 06:44 PM
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You are right about stopping the glorifying. My wife blew up our family on our sons’s birthday. That’s not a good person
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 09:22 PM
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You will survive…I promise. Men are particularly skilled at adapting. We are also pretty good at taking blows and then moving forward. It may seem overwhelming. But you will survive. Life won’t be the same. But all this will end. You will get a new chapter. You will handle the challenges in that chapter of life
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:40 AM
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Brother you have to let things play out. Always be open to negotiating Always be open to getting it done Force nothing. Do not try and force timelines, This is not a game you win. You have no control. The rules of this game are when two timelines cross. The person filing divorce usually has months ahead of the other person as far as processing it. The respondent has to grieve and catch up. That puts people on two different time lines. When someone files they are excited, feel empowered, and are …
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:26 AM
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Well, divorce turns right and wrong upside down. I’m on my second divorce. You can be noble and learn that it’s like being noble to a hungry polar bear. It is very common for accusations to start flying. One false accusation and he is going to find out how painful this all becomes. He needs to fiercely defend his rights or be overprotective of himself and stay away
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:14 AM
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The bigger question is why is your intellectually challenged friend going over to trim a tree? Does he need a gray matter injection? He should have never move out without court orders telling him to She’s full of crap without court orders saying that If he feels like volunteering his time and effort have him go to the food bank not white knight with his ex She’s playing games with him and it will only escalate He lost when he moved out. If he has big testicles he moves back in immediately. Lacki…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:01 AM
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You don’t. Not in high conflict contentious divorces. Only the lawyers win and they will bleed you dry. Suck it up and plan for what’s next to rebuild
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 12:11 AM
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Why would you offer spousal support?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 12:04 AM
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You need therapy brother. You’re in a dark place but the good news is that this can be the worst is for you if you decide to take your life back. If you’re not happy do something to change your situation. There is a new you, there will be a new job. There are plenty of women across the world that would date you
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 11:46 PM
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That’s life. Your kid has to learn those lessons and learn from you. They likely will experience divorce and a family situation like that. That is the bell curve these days. Just do the best that you can
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 07:40 PM
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Congratulations on being sober!!! That is a huge accomplishment. You don’t need our confirmation brother. You’re at a fork in the road. The good thing is you know where one path leads and it is not good. She can always go sober, prove she is handling business and reconnect
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 06:43 PM
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You’re wasting your time and effort
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 03:50 PM
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Most likely she also gets your house
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 03:46 PM
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Yep I looked it up 1/3 of your income for five years for spousal support lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 03:43 PM
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She’s not gonna be on the streets buddy. She’s going to get at least 50% custody, child support, and possibly spousal support depending your states laws. She also gets half of whatever stuff you guys accumulated through the marriage. Also plan on possibly paying her legal fees for this divorce. If it is contentious which it likely will be…go ahead and plan for $50,000 between the two of you. Maybe you can get it done for $20,000 if the universe is kind to you. Maybe it costs $100,000 like it did…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 03:41 PM
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Welcome to the club. Most men will find their way into this club eventually. You don’t need to get married to have relationships. Just date single moms. Don’t get married.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 11:20 PM
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This is why you don’t do it. Do something for yourself
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:13 PM
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Women plan divorces sometimes years in advance. I just need to find myself self rationalizations are extremely common. Also, common to a lesser degree is the blame and abuse. Once divorce has been asked for there’s no going back. It’s not gonna happen. The problem with men is that we wrap our identities into relationships. We see ourselves first as husbands, fathers. They see themselves first as women fighting the struggle whatever that struggle is that they convince themselves of. You can try h…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:10 PM
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I tried in two different divorces to avoid lawyers, and use mediators. I don’t think its likely possible for most women
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:02 PM
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Nope, not my mother. Do they do that for you?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 06:27 PM
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It’s just a troll don’t feed it
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 04:03 PM
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Why is some woman coming here asking this question? The reason is you..,now bugger off
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 04:03 PM
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Then stop crying about it lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 04:01 PM
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Yeah…that doesn’t kill them lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:39 PM
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I have funded two ex wives lives. All I can say is be proud that you are the type of man that was able to do that. Neither of you can take it with you. Your egg donor needed you, could t be independent and is a leach. But you were the type of person that could do it and did it. You are a mountain of a man. She’s just a leach. Be proud of what you have accomplished. She couldn’t take your testicles and she can’t take your accomplishments. Fk everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:38 PM
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Remove them and throw them away
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:34 PM
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Ok..I don’t see the point. It won’t eat at her brother. They are not that deep and she definitely won’t care. Your girls really shouldn’t be aware of how y’all behave good or bad. Model for them moving on and not placating abusers. She sounds like an abuser. I would told her to choke on a dirty D with a smile and where the kids couldn’t hear. But that’s me.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:53 AM
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Time. The only answer is really time. Exercise, try and force yourself to do hobbies. Allow yourself to ruminate. Any feelings you feel embrace them. If something makes you sad let it sit with you. Feeling depressed just own it. Embrace all of those emotions. You will need to fill up the container that is you with these emotions before your brain starts thinking about things logically. The more you sit in these emotions the faster you will get to the next stage. You need a month for about every …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 04:01 PM
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In this house you have about 48 hours to eat it or hide it. You sure you want to divorce her. That kind of energy is way better than the burn your life down energy
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 03:08 PM
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Married too quickly. Didn’t heal from the first divorce. I told her too much was too vulnerable. I also made myself walk on eggshells around her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 02:34 PM
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There is no “fixing” it
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 12:27 PM
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You didn’t choose it but you can choose how you go through it. Don’t own things that are not your fault. Keep moving forward. The kids have brains and they will figure it out. Just do the best that you can
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 12:26 PM
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This is just how it works. When they don’t have to put any effort in who they are can just be free. This experience is not true in every situation but it is true enough in most situations. It is not you. It is them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 12:24 PM
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Cheaper to keep her
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 12:05 AM
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That is the truth. You have to grieve them like they are dead
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 04:30 PM
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Can you get an annulment? What you are feeling is normal. Try and realize it is emotions based around who you thought she was and the life you thought you would have together. In other words…you are distraught about a fantasy that never existed
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 04:28 PM
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No one wins in divorce. Only lawyers win. Is very true unless actual physical abuse is happening or abuse of children. As a man you have to pay women to go away. You have to pay to not see your children even though you want to see them. You get accused of things that you did not do. I have been to war on two continents and been through divorce twice. I would choose war every single time
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 02:05 PM
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It’s a tactic and extremely common for women. It is a way to duck responsibility and reinforce their decision to themselves and others. I have never hurt a woman in my life. My mom beat me with closed fists. My second wife would punch me randomly. I have never touched a woman in anger. I heard the same things. Don’t believe it. Don’t give in to gaslighting. Abuse is consistent and meant to tear the other person down and hurt them. The goal is to hurt them and make them feel less. Abuse is not…cr…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 08:25 PM
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Yep…men should all be gay. Their lives would be easier. The four people in my life that I have grievances with are women. Even my abusive father I came to terms with because I understood why he did what he did. For me…I don’t understand their actions so it is hard getting over the pain
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 03:28 PM
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You are comparing women to who you thought she was. You are comparing them to what you thought your future would be. I felt the same as you. Time helps a lot. Start looking at women not as sex. Start looking at very specific character traits. When you see a woman that you think you might be interested in do a full stop. Then pay attention to one or two character traits. What snapped me out of it was a single mom that loved her kids tremendously. Watching her parent became very attractive. My ex …
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 09:43 PM
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GLP-1 syndrome is real
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 07:00 PM
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Like what? Are you yelling? Cussing? What? You are allowed to have emotions. You are allowed to not get a long. You are allowed to argue. Courts care far less than people think. Don’t put hands on, don’t curse, don’t be excessive. My wife recorded everything and nothing came up in court and so have plenty of ammunition. Courts simply don’t care, there are time limits, there are priorities. It is not Perry Mason..,it is not a murder trial. Judges see drama every single day. The paranoia about stu…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 12:59 AM
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People have sex. Your takeaway is you should have divorced five years ago. That was your mistake. Don’t beat yourself over the rest of it. At ten in California you have the spousal support battle now. Give her nothing. Stand your ground, you are now enemies. You can be nice when the divorce is over if you want. Make her earn every dollar. Shit make her spend two to get one
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 09:30 PM
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Versus offing himself? Yes
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 04:27 PM
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Haha
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 04:02 PM
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This is exactly it. You said it very well.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 04:02 PM
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Someone has a big mad. Hit a little too close to home?
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 11:07 AM
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This is something I really have to think about. Thanks OP for posting it
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 11:09 PM
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I just started the journey through my second divorce. I know exactly what you are feeling. This time around I have a 1 year old and have to juggle a stbx that has mental health struggles. I can’t treat her like a peer because she is in a mental health crisis. I also have to look out for the best interest of my son. So I get to come third.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 06:16 PM
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The flags are there in every divorce. Not helpful
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 11:56 AM
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yeah that is what I have been told and what I also I think. She obviously wanted this even before the marriage which is strange and even disturbing. Thank you for sharing
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 11:35 AM
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