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After my dad died my ex-wife told me "I am unwilling to wait for you to deal with you issues" among other things like "your dead dad would be ashamed of you" and "I'd rather you live on the street than with me." Shortly after, she became engaged to her coworker while we were still married. They were married two months after our divorce.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/12/21 05:23 PM
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For most of my life I was a very dependent person, whether it be my family, friends, or my ex-wife. What taught me to be more independent was getting my commercial driver's license, interestingly enough. I became an over the road truck driver and literally so nobody I knew for three and a half weeks at a time. I had to be satisfied with myself. I ate alone. I slept alone. I had to make my own decisions. I had no backup. It's impossible to be dependent when there's nobody to be dependent upon.
/r/MGTOW202/06/21 06:13 PM
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I have video proof, hours of audio, and extensive documentation. None of it was ever needed, for better or worse.
/r/MGTOW21/02/21 02:24 AM
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I had to call the police several times on my ex-wife. According to the police, she responded with abuse towards me out of fear. This was despite never being hostile towards her. Much of the time I was sitting down or not even facing her when she'd hit me with whatever heavy object she could find. Usually, they just told me to leave whenever she got aggressive. She never faced any repercussions. Thankfully, I eventually left that situation.
/r/MGTOW20/02/21 06:24 PM
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I definitely realize my current ease is likely temporary but I'm taking advantage of it.
/r/MGTOW217/02/21 11:08 AM
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When we were married, she made more than me. And she was married two months after our divorce. I do not expect her to ever communicate with me again. Though, what you speak of is why I do not make my employer known publically.
/r/MGTOW217/02/21 06:23 AM
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I live with my mom to help take care of her. I simultaneously help her financially and invest 60-75% of my income. I plan to retire in my 40s and living with my mom will enable that.
/r/MGTOW23/01/21 11:24 PM
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My savings rate married: -5%. My savings rate divorced: 70%.
/r/MGTOW217/01/21 12:44 AM
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Since trying to just do my own thing I have made some huge improvements to my life. However, becoming more religious, not less, was one of those improvements. But this is my path, not yours. We are each on a journey and it's not the same journey.
/r/MGTOW216/11/20 06:07 AM
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Awesome, my man. I have accomplished things since my divorce that never would have been possible prior, and it has been less than two years. Some say behind every good man is a good woman but that is not always true. Freedom can give a man the ability to be better than he would otherwise.
/r/MGTOW201/11/20 11:32 AM
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My ex-wife was from another country. Once she became a US citizen she no longer had any use for me.
/r/MGTOW229/10/20 12:57 AM
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That is great. Divorce can suck but it can often lead to a healthier life responded to appropriately.
/r/MGTOW227/10/20 10:12 PM
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Just because you are with someone romantically does not guarantee you will no longer feel lonely. Two things help prevent me from feeling lonely: learning how to enjoy being by myself and having quality friends.
/r/MGTOW226/10/20 01:03 PM
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Ha! I'd probably have to get a restraining order against her if she were to find that out.
/r/MGTOW226/10/20 12:58 PM
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I am not saying that I actively behave like an ass because I have the freedom to do so. However, I dress how I want to dress, I work where I want to work, and I spend time doing what I want to be doing.
/r/MGTOW230/09/20 11:53 PM
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I used to feel that way but that was when I sought to live according to the standards of the people, and notably, the women around me. Now that I seek to live only according to my own standard do I finally feel free.
/r/MGTOW230/09/20 05:28 PM
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Having gone through a divorce myself and still capable of becoming emotional over it, I refuse to see that movie. I don't think I can emotionally handle it.
/r/MGTOW230/09/20 02:50 PM
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Some are to make a business. Some are to work on a salary. Just do what you want. For me, I rather work with a salary while doing side gigs.
/r/MGTOW228/09/20 08:21 PM
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Ex-wife.
/r/MGTOW225/09/20 06:05 PM
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When I was married I planned a large birthday party for her. She said she didn't want me to do anything for her and yet, when the day came she was upset I had not done enough for her. We were strapped for cash at the time and I delegated tasks. Some bought the cake. Some made food. Some helped decorate. She was an hour late to her own party because she was mad I personally did not do enough of the work myself. Like, what else am I supposed to do? We literally have 30 people wanting to celebrate …
/r/MGTOW225/09/20 06:01 PM
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My personal response has been to read books that are less distinctly MGTOW and more about personal development, especially in areas related to finance, investing, leadership, and, as the odd one here, religion.
/r/MGTOW218/09/20 11:26 PM
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Thanks. Thankfully I have since worked through the majority of my issues. For one, I am trying to strike the proper, healthy balance between paranoia and naivety regarding my interaction with others.
/r/MGTOW218/09/20 11:12 PM
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I was introduced to the idea in the midst of the separation with my ex-wife. It initially fueled my bitterness towards my ex-wife but it eventually helped me to better understand why she did what she did. Through that understanding, I eventually came to pity her. Also, I learned how to better be content while single. These days I have put aside my resentment and simply wish to do my own thing.
/r/MGTOW218/09/20 09:15 PM
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I know for a fact that I was cheated on in every relationship I have been in. 2.5 year relationship: cheated on me with the guy who was my best friend. 6 month relationship: cheated on me with my best friend (different than the first guy). 5 day whatever: lied about why she had to postpone a second date so she could go on a road trip with another guy. 4 year marriage: she became engaged to someone else while we were still married. This is why I now have trust issues.
/r/MGTOW218/09/20 09:11 PM
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I grew up having a vary naive understanding of human nature having grown up in a very safe environment. My ex-wife decided to change that. In my grief, dealing with our separation in light of her abuse and infidelity, I wrote a post about my issues on my anniversary in r/rant. The most downvoted post was one mentioning MGTOW. Not being aware of it, I looked into it. So here we are.
/r/MGTOW214/09/20 02:09 AM
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Finished my Masters degree. Became debt-free. Officially began an intentional journey towards financial independence. For example, I made my first contributions towards a Roth-IRA Began a side-business doing woodworking. It's not profitable yet but that's fine. I'd rather try and fail than not try at all. I became a deacon at my church. Achieved greater mental stability after having gone through a divorce last year. The world is crazy this year but it's been a good year for achieving goals.
/r/MGTOW213/09/20 01:20 PM
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It did me too. It's an oversimplification. But eventually r/mgtow fueled bitterness within me that I needed to leave behind.
/r/MGTOW207/09/20 02:09 PM
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r/MGTOW = how to be a bitter man. r/MGTOW2 = how to be a better man.
/r/MGTOW207/09/20 05:25 AM
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For one, don't make it a thing questioning character or worth. All people have problems and society causes people to behave in particular ways. Stereotypes for age, race, class, and gender exist for a reason and culture reinforces those stereotypes. As a result of cultural reinforcement, expectations for romantic relationships have especially been affected. Men expect a physical relationship and are expected to perform in some way in order to receive it. A man's worth has largely been determined…
/r/MGTOW207/09/20 05:08 AM
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When I was 20 and in college, someone told me I should stay single for as long as I desire to stay in school. I resented him for it. Then I got married. It took me 11 years to finish my Master's degree and the only reason I ended up finishing was because of my divorce. It's easy to make sacrifices for yourself in order to better yourself. It's hard to make someone else make sacrifices in order to better yourself.
/r/MGTOW205/09/20 07:28 AM
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After my divorce, I had a life restart. When my separation began it was not uncommon for me to sleep in my car with no where to go. I responded by getting my CDL with training being provided for by my hiring company. The benefit of over the road trucking is that you do not need a place to live. I lived in my truck and saved my money. After I saved enough money I paid for my tuition and housing for my Master's degree up front. I never took out a student loan and finished my degree without even ne…
/r/MGTOW217/08/20 04:58 AM
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I had considered something similar after my divorce. I did the next closest thing, I became an OTR truck driver for a year, living in my truck, but with an income.
/r/MGTOW214/08/20 04:30 PM
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I can speak from experience. Simply put, I was in denial. I was content but she wanted more. While I was enjoying life, she was growing resentful. Eventually, she became both abusive and unfaithful. When we split I was absolutely broken. Thankfully, I have since healed.
/r/MGTOW202/08/20 03:01 PM
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To be honest, I have experienced loneliness in maybe 10 years. I enjoy my own company as much, or more, than the company of others. If I call a friend occasionally, see friends occasionally, and stay active in church then I find myself at my social limit.
/r/MGTOW228/07/20 01:35 PM
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Love your wife and do so by setting boundaries. Have set, clear expectations. She should know what she can and cannot do. You should as well. Lead her and lead her with grace. Be willing to sacrifice your life for her but don't let her walk all over you. Make her feel special and make her feel like she has the best. But do not be clingy. Make plans. Have hobbies. Be independent. Share burdens but you will likely need to hold back. Have friends for this. She should feel like she needs you more th…
/r/MGTOW227/07/20 06:45 PM
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My ex-wife was abusive. I became bloody numerous times. At some point I would just sleep in my car when she became physical, going home once she calmed down. I left with a form of PTSD and trust issues. The abuse didn't happen overnight. I slowly excused it and took the blame. I was made to think I was the problem, not her. Growing up, I was naive and assumed everyone had my best interest at heart. I went into my marriage believing the same about my wife. I was wrong. Slowly I came to see the er…
/r/MGTOW227/07/20 03:33 PM
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My ex wife was mad at me for not being mad at the guy she cheated on me with. I told her that he was not the one who made a commitment to stay faithful to me. So long, fair well.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/05/20 01:36 PM
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Ultimately, yes, but it could have gone the other way.
/r/MGTOW26/10/19 11:23 PM
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Interestingly, monkmode is almost literal for me as I'm soon to return to seminary to finish a degree.
/r/MGTOW26/10/19 10:19 PM
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I absolutely see what you are saying. I had my bitterness before ever coming here. MGTOW was a means of fueling the fire in ways that were sometimes good, sometimes less so.
/r/MGTOW26/10/19 10:14 PM
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Apparently I thought so much about it others jumped to it in the meantime. Thank you for telling me.
/r/MGTOW20/08/19 02:50 AM
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As a newly divorced guy, I feel his pain. My ex-wife was abusive and unfaithful. But I adored her. She decided she would be better without me. This crap sucks.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/04/19 01:58 AM
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I visit /r/MGTOW every day and have been for 6 months. I'm not going anywhere.
/r/MGTOW07/01/19 02:25 AM
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She has no clue.
/r/MGTOW07/01/19 12:36 AM
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Less than a year ago, after my wife decided to end our marriage, I had a similar set up in a single room I ended up renting. Thankfully, I'm now in a better situation financially but I still don't need more than what I had in that single room.
/r/MGTOW31/12/18 12:51 AM
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When I was still with my wife, we bought presents for about 30 people and spent time with around 80 during the holidays. This year I spent my Christmas with 4 others, got them each presents, and sent texts to a few others wishing them a Merry Christmas. Christmas is now a whole lot simpler.
/r/MGTOW27/12/18 01:59 AM
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I can't believe the alcohol isn't replaced with a full wine bottle in one picture and an empty wine bottle in the next.
/r/MGTOW26/12/18 08:44 PM
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I'm a company driver and so I literally pay for nothing. Eventually, I may become an owner-operator. With it, there is greater risk but greater reward. I'd then have to pay for my own fuel, insurance, etc.
/r/MGTOW21/12/18 08:22 AM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife has definitely burned food in a slow cooker.
/r/MGTOW20/12/18 10:24 PM
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Back when I was still with my soon-to-be-ex-wife, her dog brought me so much comfort during those last days. My wife would often become physical and vile in her speech. It would be normal for me to be waken up in the night by her yelling. So many times I'd get away to another part of the house and the dog would stay right there with me. I miss that little girl.
/r/MGTOW19/12/18 11:40 PM
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It has bothered me at times but I have come to accept that this is part of becoming red-pilled. The first part of becoming MGTOW is often bitterness. Bitterness towards particular women or women as a whole. And bitterness towards the society that has produced the type of women that exist today. Over time, that bitterness subsides when men realize that they'll be fine. In fact, they are likely to prosper without women. The bitterness is replaced with a positive outlook for the future. The rage, b…
/r/MGTOW18/12/18 12:31 PM
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I took my soon-to-be-ex-wife to Cuba. Can confirm, want neither.
/r/MGTOW17/12/18 06:49 PM
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I know the feeling, unfortunately. I've been the seminary, preached in a church for a while, and the whole jazz. My wife was right on board. Our honeymoon was a mission trip and, her knowing Spanish, she was my personal translator. Within a few days of us being married, I was preaching in a foreign country with her by my side. I saw so much potential for spreading the Gospel through my marriage. That first year married was beautiful serving in the church. Life was great. But then I ended up with…
/r/MGTOW17/12/18 12:28 PM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife was like that. She ended up destroying a portion of my games.
/r/MGTOW16/12/18 07:25 PM
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After my separation from from wife, one day I broke down and wept. It wasn't sadness. No. It was joy. I can now do what I want. I can dream what I want to dream. I can pursue what I want to pursue. And I won't be mocked along the way. I can change my mind. I can fail. And I won't be judged for it. I can fulfill my responsibilities but those are few. Enjoy occasional time with my mom and brother. And stay alive. That's it. I have my own permission to try new things and if I fail, so what. I can n…
/r/MGTOW16/12/18 01:40 AM
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On the last out of the country trip I took with my soon-to-be-ex-wife, she told me she regretted having married me. My ambition had been to take her out of the country once a year. My own effort towards the marriage was irrelevant for her. Now she's with an illegal immigrant. Goodbye out of the country trips for her.
/r/MGTOW13/12/18 03:23 AM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife told me I should support her grief at the firing of her coworker (now boyfriend) for being an illegal immigrant like she supported me when my dad and grandmother died. I didn't feel all that bad that he was fired. But she didn't feel all that bad when my family members died either. So I guess we are even.
/r/MGTOW13/12/18 03:10 AM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife was violently adamant about me not playing video games, often destroying my stuff. Now that we are separated, I still can't find a lot of my old classics. Lately I have been catching up on games I've missed over the last few years.
/r/MGTOW10/12/18 08:10 PM
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Before my wife and I separated I was fearful of driving with her in the car because I'd how often I was assaulted while driving. Once, I got out of the car at a red-light and took an Uber home. She was insane.
/r/MGTOW06/12/18 02:00 AM
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Back when I was married, if it was left to my wife then we would have been having cereal every night for supper.
/r/MGTOW05/12/18 02:11 AM
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19 out of 20 times it was me who cooked when I was still with my wife. At most, she'd find recipes for things she'd want me to make.
/r/MGTOW03/12/18 01:03 PM
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Completed three semesters of Greek. The answer was yes, so long as I have my resources handy.
/r/MGTOW03/12/18 02:12 AM
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If men stay where they are loved, that would explain why I became an OTR truck driver.
/r/MGTOW03/12/18 01:58 AM
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Your first point especially I agree with and relate with. My soon-to-be-ex-wife used to joke that I only ever said no to her twice before we got married. Over time her respect for me declined and she showed a side of herself I never had the slightest hint of before we got married.
/r/MGTOW02/12/18 01:24 AM
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I am definitely bitter towards my soon-to-be-ex-wife. She seemed perfect when we got married. No red flags. I adored her. Over time, she became physically abusive, manipulative, vindictive, and unfaithful. I have an answer to "Who hurt you?" She literally did, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
/r/MGTOW28/11/18 10:28 AM
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I remember seeing that post. FIRE was not something I considered possible until after my wife decided she wanted a divorce. Due to her spending habits, I can save significantly more money on my sole income than we could have done together.
/r/MGTOW28/11/18 10:17 AM
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In hindsight I see now my soon-to-be-ex-wife had a guy who was at minimum a standby for years. She would actively try to make me jealous and often wanted me to be confrontational with him. They are together now and, of course, to make me jealous.
/r/MGTOW28/11/18 10:09 AM
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Yes, this is often the case. However, generally, pastors don't say much different than this. I have often heard that marriage is the coming together of two sinners with a lot of baggage. Yet even with that so drilled into my head, I was shocked at how self-centered even the most supposedly devout woman can be in a marriage. Source: I went to seminary and got married, then my wife left me for someone else.
/r/MGTOW28/11/18 09:59 AM
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Most of the men in churches are the mama's boy types and therefore not their type. Source: Was a mama's boy brought up in church.
/r/MGTOW28/11/18 09:50 AM
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My mom has become red pilled herself. She sees the problems with the choices available and so she doesn't push me. That, and she has seen all of the drama I have been through with females in the past. While she wants me to add to her list of grandchildren, she knows I'm more content single than with what would likely end up being a needy, lazy, abusive, cheater.
/r/MGTOW24/11/18 03:04 PM
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It's like you know my story.
/r/MGTOW24/11/18 11:06 AM
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Growing up in a Baptist church, this was taught to me as a young boy. Do not even give the appearance that something could be going on. It made me (rightfully) paranoid about how I might be perseived when around work places like work. Never be alone with a female unless it is your immediate relative or spouse. I still live by this.
/r/MGTOW23/11/18 05:17 AM
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That I'm no longer with my abusive, unfaithful wife. She is making our divorce super simple. I have a new job that I enjoy that pays well. I am content being single again and look forward to staying single. I have amazing family and friends that support me. Happy Thanksgiving y'all.
/r/MGTOW21/11/18 11:59 PM
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My situation is this. I completed a BA in Christian Studies and almost completed an M.Div. in Christian Ministry. But I did it all debt free. I have no regrets about my education. Then I got married and preached for a time at a church as a substitute until they found a new pastor. When that was over, I struggled to find a job in my field. My wife then became resentful, hateful, abusive, and unfaithful. I wasn't making great money but it was enough. We are done and I'm waiting for the divorce to …
/r/MGTOW20/11/18 12:22 PM
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I have talked with my own mother about it. But she isn't upset about it as I'm coming out of an abusive marriage. She does still believe that I will one day change my mind and that I'm just going through a phase.
/r/MGTOW19/11/18 04:47 PM
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Technically speaking, it would have been emperor Constantine who made it more mainstream as he made it a legal religion. What Paul did was show that it was a faith for all people and not simply for the Hebrew people. Also, he provided a theological framework for the teachings of the early church. If Paul was mainstream then he wouldn't have been martyred.
/r/MGTOW18/11/18 06:33 PM
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Say you believe you can better serve the Lord while single. Like Paul. Like Jesus. Others have mentioned the passages. I'm a Christian myself and am going through a divorce after my wife became abusive and unfaithful. I, therefore, add that I'm too bitter and distrustful to enter into any kind of relationship.
/r/MGTOW16/11/18 01:39 PM
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I could have written your exact post a few months ago. You'll have some hard moments but you will be better off.
/r/MGTOW15/11/18 07:11 AM
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I used to work really hard in the hopes that I would have a good income to provide for a wife and family. Then I got married to someone who became abusive and unfaithful. And once I decided to GMOW during the divorce process, my income immediately doubled. My still-but-soon-to-be-ex-wife doesn't know.
/r/MGTOW13/11/18 10:27 AM
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She was upset about my small number of Facebook posts praising her actually. I'm done with that.
/r/MGTOW11/11/18 07:58 AM
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I didn't mind that so much. I enjoyed listening. At the least when she wasn't having a tantrum, I was fascinated by her to the end. But that didn't stop her from becoming abusive and unfaithful.
/r/MGTOW11/11/18 07:44 AM
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Nah, monk mode ftw.
/r/MGTOW11/11/18 02:30 AM
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Having received physical abuse in a marriage, this is personal for me. I initially felt guilty for having my marriage fall apart but I have less blood to clean up these days. Once, after she hit me in the back of the head causing me to bleed all over the place, she got mad at me for not cleaning up the blood well enough. Yeah, I'm done with that.
/r/MGTOW11/11/18 01:31 AM
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I agree. I'm working on an idea for that but have to make sure I can commit to it.
/r/MGTOW24/10/18 05:56 AM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife apologized to me for thinking I was worth marrying, if that counts. But her physical abuse, hateful words, and unfaithfulness, no. She somehow made it my fault. She wouldn't have had to resort to those things if I was a "real man." I thank God I got out in one piece.
/r/MGTOW24/10/18 05:10 AM
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Me too. Unfortunately she was physically abusive too. But I have since gone my own way.
/r/MGTOW21/10/18 08:29 PM
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I am on good terms with all of my ex-girlfriends. Oddly, the only one I'm estranged with would be my soon-to-be-ex-wife. She was the abusive, cheating type. I cannot emotionally handle any form of communication with her.
/r/MGTOW21/10/18 01:09 PM
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When I was with my wife I was happy to provide. My only expectation was that I was the receive respect and faithfulness in return. Unfortunately, that didn't work out all too well.
/r/MGTOW19/10/18 02:06 AM
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They are indeed quotes from the Bible. It's important to keep them in context however.
/r/MGTOW18/10/18 02:08 PM
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Recently was in Salt Lake City and saw a bunch of young Mormon women who were both attractive and modest. If I were not of belief that AWALT and various personal religious convictions, I would be very tempted for a chat.
/r/MGTOW18/10/18 01:15 PM
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On average I had a full breakfast made for my wife about once a week. I often brought it to her in bed. Within the hour she could be throwing stuff around the house, angry with me over something superficial. Did I ever have breakfast made for me? I think once when we were just dating. The admiration and respect was absolutely one sided.
/r/MGTOW17/10/18 02:45 PM
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You will find a lot of bitterness in my post history. I love carpentry and for a few months this year I survived on commissions alone. But it was not sustainable for the long term as a sole income. This year has been a time of figuring out my life after being given a restart of sorts. I'm now going my own way.
/r/MGTOW17/10/18 08:57 AM
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We rarely gave actual gifts but just did stuff together, often doing trips. Never once did she complain about how much stuff I gave her. She complained here more about my capabilities as an event coordinator (which I am not). The people at the party were all people important to her: family, friends, and co-workers.
/r/MGTOW15/10/18 07:01 AM
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I went to a funeral for a woman. Her and her husband had been married for over 70 years. He told me never once in their lives together did she raise her voice at him. I cannot comprehend the thought. At the time I was living in an abusive marriage. Such a woman is a relic of the past.
/r/MGTOW13/10/18 11:47 PM
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When I was with my soon-to-be-ex-wife I loved being at work. It was where I was the most respected, had the greatest peace of mind, and I faced the least abuse. Only until after we separated did I start dreading to go to work. I began actually enjoying my time away from work.
/r/MGTOW12/10/18 11:10 AM
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My soon-to-be-ex-wife has specifically told me "the cops will believe me before they believe you." She was the abusive type, often hitting me with objects and breaking my stuff. After that statement, I began recording and documenting everything.
/r/MGTOW11/10/18 06:27 AM
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My wife became a US citizen a year ago. Shortly after she left me for an illegal immigrant. While we were married, she confessed to me that after she came to the states she actively sought to marry an American.
/r/MGTOW11/10/18 12:11 AM
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MGTOW can mean different things for different people. For me, it gives hope and confidence. I know that I will be better off alone than with my abusive, cheating, soon to be ex wife. I will be better going my own way than with her - or anyone else.
/r/MGTOW07/10/18 02:02 AM
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I'm definitely glad I never attempted anything. I hate the concept of divorce but it's better than the alternatives of suicide or staying in an abusive marriage.
/r/MGTOW05/10/18 01:32 AM
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I'm content being alone. No longer can my soon-to-be-ex-wife hit me. No longer can she or anyone else I have dated cheat on me. No longer am I being manipulated by a woman. No longer do I have to abide by the forever changing expectations of a woman. Now I have control of my day, my money, and my contentment. Whether I have a good day or bad is not dependent upon the emotional whims of a woman. "Who hurt you?" they ask. My wife. Every female that cheated on me. Whether or not I am happy is irrel…
/r/MGTOW04/10/18 10:42 AM
2

I've been there. Know that you don't deserve to be treated this way. You may have high feelings for her and feel loyalty to her but this was no way to live. Live your life and do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of any longer. You are not to be used and abused. You must require respect.
/r/MGTOW03/10/18 01:10 PM
52

MGTOW doesn't have to be anti-normal. Just do what you want.
/r/MGTOW03/10/18 12:48 PM
3

I responded to the other guy but I wanted you to get the notification too: With complete support. It's to the point of still being asked to preach in occasion, teach Sunday School, etc. One church has even asked me to become their youth pastor. However, I have turned down most of it for the time being. People have been way more understanding than I expected and I have faced zero rebuke.
/r/MGTOW25/09/18 10:32 AM
2

With complete support. It's to the point of still being asked to preach in occasion, teach Sunday School, etc. One church has even asked me to become their youth pastor. However, I have turned down most of it for the time being. People have been way more understanding than I expected and I have faced zero rebuke.
/r/MGTOW25/09/18 10:30 AM
5

My dad is not my father and I am the result of an affair my mom had with her coworker. When I was four, my dad found out through rumors around town. They separated for a few months time but they got back together. When I was 12, my dad had my mom tell me that my dad is not my father. He thought it was time I knew. He was petrified that I would think less of him but it never made me think of him any differently. My older brother was adopted and, in a way, I was too. I know many of you would think…
/r/MGTOW20/09/18 10:58 PM
10

How is this a contradiction? "Be fruitful and multiply" was a command to Adam and Eve so that the human species could expand. Also, Eve did actually give Adam much trouble which reinforces this passage.
/r/MGTOW17/09/18 12:04 AM
2

I am sorry you had to go through this but congratulations on being free from the manipulation of a woman.
/r/MGTOW13/09/18 12:35 AM
3

No thanks.
/r/MGTOW10/09/18 02:26 AM
2

Woodworking and gaming. Due to me going to school for trucking, I am looking into getting into photography with both a camera and drone.
/r/MGTOW09/09/18 11:22 PM
3

/r/Christianity is known for being a moderate community at best, many being liberal and most conservatives not standing out. It has become more about acceptance despite sin than truth and holiness. What she should do is stop being on stage at church as she is not a role model for Christians. She should either stop having sex or she needs to get married. No debate. She says she loves Jesus but her actions say otherwise. Christians are referred to as the bride of Christ and right now she is cheati…
/r/MGTOW09/09/18 11:59 AM
1

I have told various people that I'd rather now stay single after my marriage fell apart. Some think I'm just going through a phase but many understand why I'd now rather stay single because of what I have been through.
/r/MGTOW07/09/18 12:47 PM
4

I'm a white dude and I speak with the experience of being a minority in a black community in the rural South, also as one who has dated one black girl. In other words, experience exists but I'm still ignorant. I literally have nothing I can argue against that you said. Of my black male friends, many were raised by single mothers and have become very effeminate. This is especially true for the ones that spent most of their time at home with their mother-led families. Of those with their biologica…
/r/MGTOW06/09/18 07:54 AM
2

My to be ex wife used to refer to the kitchen as her kitchen. She thought of it as her personal space and wanted everything to be set and organized in a very specific way. And yet I did +95% of the cooking.
/r/MGTOW06/09/18 07:34 AM
1

I'm my experience, if I did not praise her for her "selflessness" publicly then I do not appreciate her actions and I will face rebuke as a result.
/r/MGTOW03/09/18 04:46 PM
2

Woodworking Cooking Video games Studying Biblical Greek and Theology
/r/MGTOW03/09/18 04:19 AM
5

Monk mode is, in my view, the way to go. What I have done is work on getting rid of my bitterness yet continue to no trust any women. I will assume women have selfish intent. What has happened with me is that I am not lonely and desires for intimacy are fading. Women have been saying for some time that they don't need men. While I haven't seen that go actually be true, I am in a place where I no longer need a woman.
/r/MGTOW02/09/18 01:21 PM
2

I thought for a moment that my wife wrote this but it wasn't crude enough to be by her.
/r/MGTOW01/09/18 10:11 PM
1

That was never the issue.
/r/MGTOW31/08/18 12:59 PM
1

I had a short period in life where anxiety caused my chest to hurt, shortness of breath, and panic attacks. But I pushed forward, did what I needed to do, and got over it. I never let it become a hindrance. I didn't complain about it. No one would have even noticed. These days I have no problem with it.
/r/MGTOW31/08/18 10:51 AM
2

I used to think similar to that. The idea of having a wife and kids gave my life meaning. I wanted that. I got married. I tried and failed to have kids. Then my wife became vicious, abusive, and unfaithful. I tried to fix it. Nope, didn't work. It's now over. But somewhere along the way the idea of having a wife and kids lost its meaning for me. I don't need a wife to be happy. The most miserable I have ever been in my life had been the result of either death or women. I can't stop death from cl…
/r/MGTOW31/08/18 01:50 AM
30

That is my story but without kids thankfully. For the first part of the marriage we tried and failed to have kids. I wanted them and prayed for them. But then the abuse began. And more abuse. Then for the first time in my life I no longer wanted children. I didn't want children to face what I faced. Eventually she just threw my stuff out of the house and I have been on my own way since.
/r/MGTOW29/08/18 08:51 PM
2

Woodworking Video games Studying ancient Greek Reading theology, biographies, and fiction.
/r/MGTOW29/08/18 04:15 PM
10

Some year ago I went on a date with a girl. About 4 days later she said, "I love you." I laughed. She didn't seem to like that and 2 days later she went on a road trip with some other guy. I laughed about that too.
/r/MGTOW29/08/18 03:59 PM
1

I made a subreddit for that purpose. Once I figure out how to run it properly I will let you know.
/r/MGTOW27/08/18 08:02 PM
2

The guy labeled as a white knight is a pastor named Mark Driscoll. He's had some controversies over the years and was once called the "cursing preacher." While he is not a MGTOW, he has preached some of the more controversial passages of Scripture about women. He has a tendency to speak more directly towards men.
/r/MGTOW27/08/18 11:12 AM
2

That makes more sense. No worries.
/r/MGTOW27/08/18 01:40 AM
4

She knew. She professed to be a Christian for most of her life but she has not been living like a Christian ought for almost 3 years. My heart breaks for her and the life she is seeking to now live. But I can't control her. If she'd rather be a Jezebel, as you put it, then she has become the type of woman the Bible warns men to avoid. When we married we talked about being missionaries to other countries. Our honeymoon was a mission trip to her home country and she was even my translator when I p…
/r/MGTOW27/08/18 12:24 AM
2

She's complaining that the game is too hard and she wants the developers to make it easier for her? Poor thing.
/r/MGTOW24/08/18 10:56 PM
1

That me leaving the house until she calms down because she was being physically abusive does not make me a coward. That waking me up in the middle of the night to yell at me until morning is not necessary. That because she wakes up 3 hours later than me I cannot go to sleep her as late as her every night. That saying mean things about my late father is inappropriate. I could go on, but you get the picture.
/r/MGTOW24/08/18 03:22 PM
4

A year ago, that would have been me. But my wife was much more violent than that. I am proudly now a MGHOW.
/r/MGTOW23/08/18 11:25 PM
1

I do not doubt that it contributes. In my experience, I literally get along with everyone. Except my ex wife.
/r/MGTOW23/08/18 10:14 AM
6

I personally have received a lot of encouragement through this subreddit and I plan to stick around to help encourage others even if some of its content is off-putting.
/r/MGTOW23/08/18 01:37 AM
7

Awesome.
/r/MGTOW23/08/18 01:09 AM
4

I absolutely cannot wait.
/r/MGTOW23/08/18 12:31 AM
7

Once told someone about how I held a gender reveal party at my house for someone else. Before this conversation I thought they were stupid. The response I got was, "I do not believe parents should ascribe a gender to their child." Every since I have been totally in favor of gender reveal parties.
/r/MGTOW22/08/18 01:12 AM
6

My wife, before she forced our separation, wanted me to force myself on her when she was being physically abusive and hateful towards me. When I wouldn't, she'd call me a coward. I'm a classic nice guy and her dominate personality would overwhelm even the most A-type personalities. She wanted me to assert my dominance over her forceably in a rape-like manner. Sorry, I am just not willing to go there.
/r/MGTOW21/08/18 01:05 PM
5

I recently shaved my head. My reason was two fold: I disliked my hair and my former wife would have hated it.
/r/MGTOW20/08/18 04:01 PM
1

The last time I cried thinking about my failed marriage was when I thought about how I miss my wife's dog. I can't tell you how many times I got tired of my wife's yelling and went to sleep in the couch. Her dog would join me, keeping me company.
/r/MGTOW19/08/18 05:09 PM
15

My abusive, manipulative, and unfaithful soon-to-be-ex-wife would literally expect for me to say I'm sorry, ask for forgiveness, and make a written plan to make sure I never do it again. If I ever were to fail, I was not truly apologetic. It was never over anything substantial. It would be over things like having dirty dishes left over after cooking supper or wanting to not be near her when she is being abusive. She never had to do any of these things as she never actually does anything wrong, a…
/r/MGTOW15/08/18 10:12 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/MGTOW14/08/18 11:19 AM
2

According to a lawyer I spoke with, no.
/r/MGTOW14/08/18 02:47 AM
2

Yup. It sucks that it takes so long.
/r/MGTOW14/08/18 02:46 AM
1

Truth. Good times are possible but bad times are certain.
/r/MGTOW13/08/18 11:48 AM
1

It is unfortunate. As for the build, what I like about the school bus is its ability to move. It would be like a custom RV.
/r/MGTOW12/08/18 07:59 PM
3

Blue pilled people don't teach their children red pilled ideals. Edit: wrong word
/r/MGTOW12/08/18 06:54 PM
2

No kidding. She didn't like the idea of me having to pay for any of it even though we were capable of paying for it out of pocket. It was to be free or nothing. The funny thing is a year later she applied for loans for herself to go back to school without even consulting me. The last time I spoke to her about it she hadn't done 3 weeks worth of assignments.
/r/MGTOW12/08/18 05:15 PM
2

Absolutely. We can't let our pain go to waste. We've got to use it to encourage others going through the same crap.
/r/MGTOW12/08/18 08:06 AM
1

She's now an American citizen.
/r/MGTOW11/08/18 01:41 AM
5

Did my wife write that? Na, couldn't be. This person said she got fit.
/r/MGTOW11/08/18 01:39 AM
1

The stronger dose of the red pill you receive, the easier time you will have to go your own way. I'm past the stage of annoyance but in the stage of being incapable of trusting a woman again. Consider me intentionally celibate.
/r/MGTOW10/08/18 04:03 PM
1

Oh it was. It was worse than this, here I only described how it related to gaming.
/r/MGTOW10/08/18 10:16 AM
3

I would hate for this subreddit to disappear. It has been a safe place for me to vent about my abusive ex wife. The responses I get here are significantly better than the "you'll find someone who loves you" responses I get in the outside world. Most of my friends are married or have traditional conservative views of marriage. People don't understand why I now rather stay single. They think it's a phase.
/r/MGTOW08/08/18 04:16 AM
1

I am literally trained to be a preacher. I have spent years studying how to do it well and I have years of experience doing it. That said, there is a difference between MGTOW and a religion. A religion must be taught. MGTOW is self-evident. Religion must have proselytization to survive. MGTOW is a response movement. The greater feminism pervades the culture, the greater MGTOW will spread. Men do not need to proselytize, feminists are already doing that for us.
/r/MGTOW08/08/18 04:01 AM
3

Before our separation my wife and I had been married for 3.5 years. We tried to have kids and never did anything to stop it from happening. I so wanted kids. But she's became physically abusive and unfaithful. I thank God she never got pregnant. Jesus, thank you for not answering those prayers.
/r/MGTOW08/08/18 03:24 AM
12

I once planned a birthday party for my now soon-to-be-ex-wife for 40ish attendees. I delegated tasks for people and so I didn't actually have to do a lot of investment in time or money. I organized it and thought I did a fantastic job at that. A friend bought the cake, people brought food, etc. She wouldn't go to the party and I finally got her to go an hour late. Her issue? I didn't take it seriously enough because I should have put more personal time and money into it than I did. She continued…
/r/MGTOW08/08/18 03:18 AM
2

Pretty much.
/r/MGTOW07/08/18 01:02 PM
2

Since my wife decided to go after another dude I have intentionally been doing things I have always wanted to do that she wouldn't have wanted me to do. For example, I shaved my head, grew out my beard, built a pc, and bought some comics.
/r/MGTOW05/08/18 11:45 PM
3

Towards the end of my marriage I was doing anything I could to save it. She was physically abusive and incredibly hateful but I hadn't given up hope. Shortly after our separation we agreed to go to a counselor together. I had two sessions set up for the following month for us. At some point she became angry and told me she wasn't going, that I needed to go to the councilor by myself to fix my anger towards her (projection much?), and she wouldn't communicate to me for several weeks until then. D…
/r/MGTOW05/08/18 12:00 PM
4

Protestant here, can confirm.
/r/MGTOW04/08/18 11:57 PM
1

I very much expect that to be true.
/r/MGTOW04/08/18 11:15 AM
3

I am as traditional, conservative, and religious as they come. But my wife was physically abusive and unfaithful. She broke our God-ordained covenant and we are done. We even literally tied the knot at our wedding. Our wedding was based on our faith and a pun. She can't even treat a pun as sacred. I'm now GMOW. Unfortunately I'll now have to change my wifi name from "Husband and Wifi."
/r/MGTOW02/08/18 09:27 PM
1

Now in hindsight I see that my wife having been previously married only made it easier for her to divorce me. I'm halfway through my required year long separation before the divorce.
/r/MGTOW02/08/18 02:26 AM
1

I am a patient person to a fault. I learned my limits. If it's good or bad, I don't know, but my patience with people is much smaller now.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 11:41 PM
3

Indeed, and I have it on video too.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 11:58 AM
7

Don't forget "You don't deserve me!" That's right, I deserve better.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 02:37 AM
5

Ha! It seems you know my situation well.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 02:35 AM
9

Same. Mine is on multiple HHDs, the cloud, my phone, and my lawyer has copies of all of it that can be printed.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 01:12 AM
2

I'm a 31 year old and I'm going through a divorce now with my first and last wife. The red pill was a brick in the groin and I am incapable of trusting another woman, nor would I even want to trust one again. I'm better off going my own way.
/r/MGTOW30/07/18 12:58 AM
1

I am sorry to hear to hear how this position of spiritual authority was so used against you. I cannot imagine the experience. Hopefully they discover the error of their ways one day. But whatever happens, GYOW.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 09:12 PM
1

That sucks but know you will be okay. She'll try to persuade you to stay with her or somehow make it your fault. But you don't need her. She's being selfish and unfaithful. You can't trust her anymore and she can't get that trust back. You will be fine.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 08:12 PM
2

Hahaha
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 08:05 PM
1

Awesome and thank you.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 05:14 PM
3

On my anniversary I made a post on r/rant having self pity on myself. Someone responded saying I should check out r/MGTOW. It, of course, had the most down votes in the post. But it led me here.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 02:22 PM
2

I agree with much of what you are saying. However, I don't believe this has to stay true. My life's ambition has been to become a pastor myself and though I have it on hold for the moment, I hope that one day it will become a reality. Any place I may minister I will welcome the single person who seeks to remain single. I'm okay going against the feminist inspired norm that exists even on conservative churches.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 01:00 PM
1

I find that to be very true. The only women preachers I have heard that have been worth anything are ones that intentionally only minister to women. Women like Beth Moore and Priscilla Shirer.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 12:53 PM
3

Looking good isn't too high on my priority list. Haha
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 12:49 PM
2

Totally. I know for a fact I've done that with video games. I have played a lot the past several months. Granted, that is in part because I would be yelled at for doing so previously. As far as religion goes, I'm not going into it deeper than I was previously. I have a couple religion degrees and so this has been a part of my life since I was a teenager.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 12:40 PM
1

Thankfully the Bible gives more freedom in our living than many, even Christians, seem to give it credit.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 01:52 AM
2

This is such a huge thing. The moment I realized I didn't have to live up to the standard my wife placed on me I broke down. It was freeing.
/r/MGTOW29/07/18 01:19 AM
11

Thank you. Thankfully I have found that they are incredibly compatible.
/r/MGTOW28/07/18 09:59 PM
5

My standard in a woman is that she be a tolerable human being. I guess I'm staying single with my own impossible standards.
/r/MGTOW27/07/18 07:11 AM
4

I can't speak for Cuban girls but I can speak about ones from El Salvador. My wife was from El Salvador. As a whole, women I have meet from El Salvador are passionate and have big smiles. However, they are from a country torn by a now over civil war and gang violence. They are taught to take care of themselves and work very hard. Their diligence at work is uncomparable. But man, can they be feisty. For my wife and soon to be ex wife, that meant she became physically abusive when she didn't get h…
/r/MGTOW26/07/18 07:46 PM
10

Businesses were all government owned and the customer service was almost always horrible. The food was without taste as it was both horribly cooked and bad quality. None could not be trusted as you were just a dollar sign. And even then, for many that didnt even matter as your money was going to the government rather than to them. They couldn't improve their life situations easily. Advertisements existed but were all communist propaganda saying things like "the US embargo is the greatest genocid…
/r/MGTOW26/07/18 03:50 PM
2

Just to compare two states, I have to wait a year in North Carolina but in South Carolina, because if what's she's done, the divorce can be finalized within 3 months.
/r/MGTOW24/07/18 04:59 PM
3

I don't think it was much of a dodge. I received a few bullet holes before crawling away, metaphically speaking.
/r/MGTOW21/07/18 08:44 PM
14

Being that she was physically abusive, threatened my family, and started seeing someone else, I am now going my own way.
/r/MGTOW21/07/18 05:51 PM
3

I tried to make my marriage work but now that it's over I'm grateful I no longer have to constantly argue about how I don't want to give away any books or video games.
/r/MGTOW21/07/18 01:29 AM
3

My wife grew up in El Salvador and her dad was known to work from 7 a.m. until 10 p.m. everyday in order to properly provide for his home. She seemed to expect me to do the same thing. In other words, about my life was to revolve around making money and entertaining her.
/r/MGTOW18/07/18 07:52 PM
1

I say ex. I'm in a no fault divorce state and it takes a year of separation before the divorce can be finalized. We haven't spoken in months.
/r/MGTOW18/07/18 03:38 AM
1

I am in the middle of a divorce after a similar situation. My wife is from El Salvador and had become very abusive. The separation is hard but if she refuses to change then you need to get out of that situation. I know what it's like to feel like you should stay. But you'll be fine with her out of your life. It'll be hard. But it'll be worth it.
/r/MGTOW17/07/18 03:37 PM
2

I have recently been researching how to do a bus build myself. I do woodworking and have that as a priority over mobility. I'd want to live entirely on the road.
/r/MGTOW16/07/18 12:10 AM
2

Thanks! I have had moments of self-pity and bitterness but life keeps going.
/r/MGTOW14/07/18 07:39 PM
5

This was my experience with my soon-to-be-ex-wife. I'd wake up to her yelling, screaming, and throwing things at me. 1am to 5am was normal with me leaving for work at 6:15. At some point I put an air mattress in my car and sleep there when she started. I sleep better now that we've separated.
/r/MGTOW03/07/18 03:07 AM
2

I'm 31 and going through a divorce. I have only recently being introduced to the MGTOW philosophy and I definitely have a twist on it as I'm a conservative Christian who supports marriage and baby-making. "Monk mode," for me, is almost literal. That said, despite my emotional and spiritual struggles that I'm going through after a physically abusive marriage, I have no regrets. My mistakes, my trust in people who have failed me, and my struggles have made me who I am. That said, do what you think…
/r/MGTOW01/07/18 05:39 PM
2

Awesome, thanks
/r/MGTOW23/06/18 01:24 AM
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