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RPStruggle/r/askMRP04/05/16 03:38 PM
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Field ReportRPStruggle/r/askMRP08/06/16 06:26 PM
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RPStruggle/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:48 PM
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RPStruggle/r/askMRP25/03/16 05:10 PM
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RPStruggle/r/askMRP13/02/16 11:33 PM
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Victim PukeRPStruggle/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:15 PM
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RPStruggle/r/askMRP05/04/16 12:04 AM
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RPStruggle/r/askMRP29/03/16 12:58 PM
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That's very similar to what I have experienced. Have you made any strides with your frame against hers?
/r/askMRP18/06/16 01:45 AM
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Thanks Drugan, helpful advice. Had a large event earlier today, where she was in tears.
/r/askMRP17/06/16 11:25 PM
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Missed an opportunity here and now she thinks you are a little boy throwing a fit, with sensitive feet. Is this not a compliance test though? She asked me to do something she was equally capable of doing. Let alone closer to the door to go outside.
/r/askMRP09/06/16 06:20 PM
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How was your relationship in the beginning? The most sex we both have ever had for six months, she did anything and everything I wanted. Very strong chemistry in and out of the bedroom. I noticed a fall off after she went off the pill and see the connection between mate choice and pill hormones.
/r/askMRP09/06/16 02:58 PM
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No, I've been lots of fun. She's always laughing and has come into my frame of making stupid sexual innuendos at everything. We had sex last night albeit nothing special, we had fun. I usually don't even withdraw very hard, just more gradually with every rejection for 24 hours. And I stopped texting her so much, one thing she is obsessed with.
/r/askMRP07/05/16 01:31 PM
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"I don't want my girlfriend to find out about us." with an added smirk. I would ignore, it's unimportant.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 04:30 PM
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About an hour after the email she texts me making plans for next weekend with the family that effect the long term. We are moving soon. Anyways, that right there tells me the entire email is manipulation BS, considering she's interested in continuing forward, eager about it nonetheless.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 06:27 PM
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1 with her and 1 of mine. She's very close to them and my family.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 05:07 PM
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Surprisingly, she's fun and flirty most of the time. Outbursts aren't common with her.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 05:06 PM
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What level of dread do you think you're at? 5, but Dread Level 1 needs much more mastery.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 04:37 PM
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Is this true? If so, then you're doing it wrong. You need to inject some fun, positive energy and emotional connection into the marriage... at least until you get to a high dread level and you're not there yet. You, won't be until you kill the butt hurt and start actually passing the shit/comfort tests. I'm pretty upbeat but I need to bring more positivity. Does she initiate any affection/attention independently, on her own accord? If not, then she's still trying to control the relationship and …
/r/askMRP04/05/16 04:34 PM
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H:32 M:28 Nah just jabs at my masculinity, haven't taken them serious but it seems as if she does it to bring me down. Pretty good on OI at this point.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 04:29 PM
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Other than NMMNG, do you have any audiobook recommendations? I've got Meditations but it's been difficult to follow while driving.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 07:40 PM
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Good post. I have an hour long commute and find myself listening to self improvement resources every single trip for the last 3 months but I've found that has seemingly become an addiction and I'm not sure it's actually helping anymore because I'll start obsessing and overthinking. I believe I'm now using it as a distraction to being alone with my thoughts. Turning off the radio on the way home today.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 07:27 PM
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I get caught off guard most of the time. I can AA shit tests that don't involve people pleasing pretty decently.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 12:53 AM
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In the other car I wasn't about to take to be exact, she was on the couch watching Scandal.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 12:51 AM
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I ignored the text. I'm all fun until I say "no" to a compliance test, I get anxious.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 12:20 AM
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Man that clears up a lot. So it's a more subtle withdrawal than obvious. That's a clear point you made and now that I'm reflecting on this morning I'm kicking myself for creating a negative vibe in response to denial. I've got much to learn. I think a key for me is to foster a positive attitude even after rejection, while being able to pull back on the giving part.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 05:41 PM
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She's not a SAHM, works full time. I went from 20/80% housework in the "beta slob era" to 65/35% in the "beta fix the marriage era" where I enabled her to watch tv and be lazy and now I am slowly transitioning back to respectable levels.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 04:16 PM
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Haha. How do you think I should proceed? I'm starting to think I might need to pull back on the reins. But I'm torn, because I want to withdraw myself. There's a balance I'm not finding, seems like.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 03:32 PM
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Gotcha. Be direct with my expectations and handle my business as a leader and have fun doing it. My intentions were for her to participate more without me carrying the entire load. Maybe I should feel a little guilty about this morning. I'm trying too hard not to get manipulated.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:25 PM
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Sure didn't feel passive aggressive at the time but that's why I ask you guys. Noted, be direct.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:11 PM
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Thanks for the thought out reply. I feel like it's a giant power struggle right now. I am just going to keep working on the thoughts between my ears and build my self worth. That's how this all started anyway.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:10 PM
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To add more context, she likes to complain that his clothes aren't matching when I dress him, they do. My solution was for her to lay out what she wanted him to wear.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:01 PM
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She's starting to consider what her bottom lines are for leaving you. Tread carefully. Can you expand on that comment for me?
/r/askMRP29/03/16 01:57 PM
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I've been gradually implementing my assertiveness. While still offering comfort, probably too much. There has been divorce talk, she was having an emotional affair about four months ago and that's how my RP journey started. She begged and begged me not to leave her, she asked me last week if I was going to divorce her. It may sound like I've been cold to her but I've never been more flirty. I had thanked her last night for her hard work and told her I appreciated it. So much context that I didn'…
/r/askMRP29/03/16 01:43 PM
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To add context, yesterday she didn't lay out his clothes and I mentioned it to her and she said she'd lay them out for today and didn't correct the issue so that's what led to that this morning.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 01:39 PM
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How would you go about nuking it? I see it happening again.
/r/askMRP28/03/16 12:42 AM
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Thanks BPP, you've got me motivated. I get too hard on myself when I run into setbacks and pull back.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 11:05 PM
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Great insight. Her mom is very PA and will go crying apeshit randomly towards my wife if she's doesn't feel like she's getting her way.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 07:51 PM
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I was breaking the logistics only(texting less in general though) rule previous to the "I'm going fishing" text but it's interesting how her and I are teasing each other through text until I tell her I'm going fishing. I bring that up due to your comment about her being passive aggressive. Thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 07:31 PM
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That's a great way to look at it, considering my daughter is that age I'll think of it as I'm interacting with her.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 06:32 PM
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Those links are very helpful. Thanks.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 06:31 PM
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Good post, thanks.
/r/askMRP11/03/16 06:51 PM
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I've been initiating conversation with women daily, I set a goal of I'm going to talk to "insert number" women today. The wife is starting give me the "who are you texting?". What's the point of a jealousy ploy?
/r/askMRP11/03/16 04:40 PM
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She seems pretty happy, I'm not satisfied with the lack of sex but I understand that's not going to change overnight. Granted I didn't initiate during period week and the days leading up to, and I was rejected last night. So I guess I'm not getting the results I want (yet) but she is giving me more IOIs.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:54 PM
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I get IOI's fairly often from attractive women. I was even told that I am more attractive than my wife by a woman recently. I just don't live with that mindset. Hell her sister in law this weekend told my wife jokingly that we need to do a wife swap, as I'm finishing cooking my breakfast and heading out to lift.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:11 PM
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No, cut the bullshit. If she wants attention, she should get it from you. If you are not hot enough/Alpha enough to garner her respect/attention, you have to fix YOUR SHIT. Dont make excuses for your woman. Okay so I'm going to show my ignorance, I have learned that gaming a woman requires being less available and having a busy life. How do you balance giving attention without being always present? She texts me throughout the day about random things, sometimes trying to tease me. I feel like I'm…
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:08 PM
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write down somewhere what it is that SHE has that you CAN NOT find anywhere else. That's a good idea. There is nothing that I cannot find somewhere else.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:02 PM
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Irrelevant, what's your ht/wt 6'7 228, pretty skinny though. Currently bulking. So she is responding. Yeah, she is responding me, rejected me last night claiming she was still on her period (she wasn't), played it off as no big deal, went to other room and I think she saw it as butthurt although I really wasn't. I still haven't been leaving the house to do much though, I used to fish 2 days a week and am in the process of rebuilding that hobby and reconnecting with my male friends. In December, …
/r/askMRP24/02/16 08:45 PM
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Are you fat? If so, are you doing anything about that? No, lost 70 lbs over last year, I lift 3-4 days a week. Dress better than ever. But I'm a nice guy and I'm trying to remove that. Since I'm not getting much sex (what I want), then I need to remove doing things for her, right? She's been in a good mood towards me, just rejects me sexually most of the time. Looks like I need to go back to NMMNG. Thanks
/r/askMRP24/02/16 07:20 PM
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This is me, too. I blatantly grab my wife's ass all the time, rarely do I just run my hand by her and there's never a subtle move about what I do. I think it's time to change my approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 06:38 PM
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I did. I felt real guilty for a little while but had fun anyway.
/r/askMRP18/02/16 01:12 PM
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If you eat enough protein and a small deficit you'd probably fare well.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:37 PM
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I'm 6'7 and a 225 lb twig now after being a 280 lb marshmallow for years. With that said, I would rather be 260 and strong as an ox. But if you're doing it for your wife(which you shouldn't), I'm sure she'd prefer the aesthetic look. You may lose muscle on a cut but you're a big dude, if you cut down to abs with your muscle mass you'd have panties thrown at you every time you flex.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:09 PM
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I want another dog but not right now. She knows this.
/r/askMRP15/02/16 03:29 PM
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We've always had a dog, and just recently gave away a dog that my wife "had to have" around this time last year. She didn't take care of it, or bother to give attention to it. But I think you're on to something that there's an underlying reason why she wants a dog, she's passively hinted at wanting a dog, but yesterday really went all in on wanting a dog(a specific dog on facebook that was very expensive). I don't know if it coincides with the fact that I've been less available and she's needing…
/r/askMRP14/02/16 08:45 PM
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Got ya. Hindsight it was kinda lame not to let her know.
/r/askMRP14/02/16 03:03 AM
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I should add context. I came home after work and saw my son and gave him medicine and actually offered to take him with me to see my dad. MIL objected.
/r/askMRP13/02/16 11:47 PM
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Do you routinely have a guys night out or hobby that takes you out of the house weekly? <start here> Not at all, I pretty much abandoned all male relationships and have been attempting to rebuild them in the last few weeks. Are you upping your physique and wardrobe? Greatly improved over the last year, could pull women more attractive than my wife, but don't have that mentality. I think the key for me that you hit on is I always wait until sleep time to initiate, I've got to cut that out.
/r/askMRP11/02/16 03:29 PM
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I like what you said. What would say about the fact that she never wants to cuddle? And I'm in a DB situation. She does passively touch me on the back and arms and rubs her legs against me while in bed every night as if to make sure I'm still there, but she doesn't overtly want to cuddle and I don't want to willingly give her that for free, but I did like that she came to me for it. Maybe I should stop going to bed at the same time as her? i know I'm going off track
/r/askMRP11/02/16 03:13 PM
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Trust me, if she wants a dog, she will tell you in person, and have a breed all picked out. To add context, she has been passively but consistently pushing for a dog. I just got rid of our dog because I was the only one taking care of her and didn't have time for it(she complained about the dog and she's the one that had to have it), we got it when I was in the beta "yes you can have one" mode. I've never not had a dog but with a new job it's not a logical choice. Either way, I understand what y…
/r/askMRP09/02/16 05:39 PM
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Honestly I don't know. Maybe she's lying.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 02:19 AM
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You absolutely just hit the nail on the head. I've got to internalize this. I'm rereading NMMNG right now. I've got to beat the validation seeking out of me and stop being scared of what she thinks.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:22 PM
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Common theme with "soft touch and finger(s) on the g spot". I'll study up on what you've said.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 08:34 PM
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Good tips. Will watch that vid and take notes.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 08:29 PM
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That makes perfect sense. The last few years I've avoided the sex agenda and she hasn't wanted me. If she knows I'm attractive AND want sex, there's the element that he's going to want to get it somewhere.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 06:44 PM
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Actually, with my mouth, not with my teeth. Just hard pressure getting in deep.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 06:42 PM
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I feel you man. I'm 6'7, went from a fluffy 285 down to 215(without lifting, awful results). I'm skinny fat and am bulking through it with 3800 calories a day. Didn't gain on 3500. I plan on hitting 245(227 now) while lifting hard to build a nice base and then cut down to 14% bf. Then do bulk/cut cycles forever. I'd like to see how your journey goes.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 06:00 PM
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My big question is "how many times have you sent her a text and told her to come and suck you off, to completion?" I've been so focused on her that this never actually came into my mind. I can see where I'll have some approach anxiety, she's been rather put off at my attempts to have sex with her, there is no begging at all but not smooth about it and a few OI fails. I feel as if I shouldn't jump into that because yesterday is the first I've seen her actually be interested. Should I continue to …
/r/askMRP08/02/16 05:27 PM
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FAILED. So you eat her out, have sex and get stuck with a chore? Seems to me like you are the one making her a sandwich. She also asked me if I could cook some meat for her, in which I responded that I don't have time. You are a busy man. If you are not busy, GET BUSY. You should not be resting. I like this comment, I've noticed since I started to unplug that I hate watching TV because it feels like wasted time. I'll continue to find productive things to do, although sometimes when it's an hour …
/r/askMRP08/02/16 05:00 PM
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Noted. I'll definitely start working on planning. I've set goals, but I need to define how I'm going to reach those goals.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 04:43 PM
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Plan is to continue to read, defeat my codependency, work hard, get new hobbies and become an iron wall(mentally and physically). Yup, lift 4 days a week. Have lost 70 lbs, now trying to build a physical frame of a man. I agree with the oneitis comment and I find me constantly reminding myself that I need to be doing this for me. Internalizing that attitude is a hell of a process and I'm a lot closer than I was a month ago, but still a million miles away.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 03:57 PM
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Been patiently waiting for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 03:05 AM
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NOTE: Frame is NOT going to happen overnight. You are literally doing a personality shift. It will take time to rejigger your wiring. In the meantime, enjoy life, lift, OI and dont be a bitch :). I think this is something I MUST understand, I'm not being patient. I'm expecting sudden changes. And like BPP said previously, it takes at minimum a month of change per year of beta. Thanks for reinforcing that in a way that resonates, I'll be sure to drop the threats and STFU.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 09:35 PM
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Good shit, that's what I'm thinking. No more crying wolf on the divorce front. Time to fix the frame, live an enjoyable life, be fun and consistent and let things play out. You've got me ignited, time to go lift.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 09:19 PM
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Good stuff. I have picked back up today as the confident joking husband and she's been pretty receptive. I'm going to make it a habit to pause and divert my words when the feels come up to my mouth. I fell off, now I'm going to get my sad sack back on, man up and take off. One thing, when the feels come. How does one resolve them before they build up too much steam internally?
/r/askMRP18/01/16 08:48 PM
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Worrying about job - stop being a pussy and enjoy the excitement of a challenge. Worry is what women do. Men think of solutions, implement them and learn from the outcome to try something else if they fail. Thanks for this.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:16 PM
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The thing about it is, I didn't even want to go jerk off and watch porn. I just wanted to see her reaction and that's obviously a dumb move in hindsight.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:15 PM
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Be 100% honest, were you below her SMV wise when you got together. When we started dating we were pretty equal SMV, when we married I had dropped a half a point or so. I had bottomed out after she had the baby to about 2 points below her. You didn't mention the relative SMV of the emotional affair partners. Are they well above you or just different from you? They are just different, I'd say I'm on the upper side of the range.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:12 PM
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Where exactly do you think you fucked up? When I spilled my feels all over the place in front of her. So it looks like I just need to be patient and continue the course and fake it til I make it? I also have found myself trying to initiate even when I'm really not in the mood. I think I'm just trying to validate myself with getting sex with her to know that I'm improving in her eyes. Thanks for taking the time to write out your opinion, I'm working on digesting it.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:09 PM
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Noted. I'll work on rewriting a better summation of events.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:44 PM
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