How do you handle shit "texts"?

stonepimpletilists · 2016-02-09T17:58:39+00:00

Machete don't text

irateMD · 2016-02-09T17:05:36+00:00

How do you MRPers handle these?

I ignore them. Text for logistics or if you have something funny to say. YMMV on the text game advice in MMSLP. I suggest reading about it elsewhere in the red pill.

Scurvemuch · 2016-02-09T17:33:24+00:00

She is just chatting with you because you are her girlfriend right now.

I used to think she meant all this shit.

She wants a dog? she reallly reallly wants a dog omg look at this puppy isnt he soooo cute??? Dont you just love him??!!!

This is a child talking. She wants daddy. Daddy doesnt say " No you cant have it because reasons" Daddy tells his kiddo that she is cute.

Trust me, if she wants a dog, she will tell you in person, and have a breed all picked out.

Ignore that. If you are not yet at ignore level, much later in the day type something like "cute"

casino thing... also do not take it seriously.

she is just typing what she feels in the moment. Its VERY SERIOUS at the moment, kinda like when a little girl loves this dress for ever and ever and ever.

if she actually doesn't want to gamble she won't gamble. Do not let her use your money for something she is not willing to spend her money on.

enfier · 2016-02-09T18:37:55+00:00

Your wife is just sharing with you. She has a thought, a feeling or sees something cute and she thinks of you. It's the adult version of "Daddy, look!"

You make the mistake of thinking it requires action. "Look Daddy a butterfly" doesn't mean you need to go catch it. You can just acknowledge it and appreciate it and enjoy that one moment. It's her way of showing that she cares and seeking affection. If it's a hassle, you are busy or it's begging, then just ignore or respond like it's a shit test. "If you want my money in Vegas, I'm gonna use your body like I paid for it."

If she enjoys sending those type of "sharing" texts, she'd probably appreciate getting them. If she's treating you well, than an occasional "I saw this though you'd like it" might go over well.

blarggggggggggg · 2016-02-09T18:03:33+00:00

Things like the dog are constant from my wife.

Ooooh look at this, I want this! We need 'X' for the house. I need 'Y' cause 'reasons'. My laptop is too slow I sure wish I had a new one. etc etc etc

I used to take this seriously and stress about all the things I needed to 'provide' to fulfill all these wants and check off all the checkboxes.

But there is always something else, never satisfaction for what has been achieved and acquired.

I learned the trap I was falling into. My preconceived notion about the husband's 'job'. It was bleeding me dry, stressing me out, leaving me nothing for myself.

Now I just validate. 'yeah that dog sure is cute', 'yeah I can see how the slow laptop can be frustrating', 'yeah it would be really cool if we could take a vacation to the beach'

She just spouts these things off, but me, as the only income to the household and the one who needs to act responsibly, I make the call on what is needed versus what is wanted. If she is unhappy with that, that's too bad. Usually she is just happy to be validated and that's the end of it.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-02-09T17:51:14+00:00

You've already answered your own question: don't respond.

bsutansalt · 2016-02-09T18:22:57+00:00

Don't joint account. That's ticking time bomb waiting to go off.
She sounds like she's got self-control issues, but bounces stuff off of you because you're supposed to be the stoic rock that settles her emotional/impulsive ass down.

MRPguy · 2016-02-09T18:30:30+00:00

Welcome to a first-hand view of a woman's solipsism. Nothing exists outside of their realm.

I can have a crazy day of surgery cases, big-time stuff where people can die if I don't have my shit together...and my wife is texting me about the desk we should buy or how she wants to paint one of the girl's rooms.

EDIT: To your question: Like most others here I completely ignore these. No response whatsoever. When I initially did this it felt awkward and I assumed she would be offended. Nope, she didn't even mention it. That's when I realized that she doesn't even care if I respond. It's a woman being a woman.

simpleshadow · 2016-02-09T20:49:00+00:00

Don't.

over60_stupid_loner · 2016-02-09T22:37:44+00:00

Don't respond to hers.

Later send her a picture of a sexy woman or a fancy car. Just title it; I want this! Then follow up later with; OK When?

bogeyd6 · 2016-02-10T21:20:07+00:00

Ignore them.

How do you handle shit "texts"?

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Title	How do you handle shit "texts"?
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Date	February 9, 2016 4:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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