How do you handle shit "texts"?

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February 9, 2016
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I'm at work, decide to check my phone and am greeted with a couple of what I would call shit texts.

For example:

Her: If I have to spend my own money this weekend I don't want to gamble. (She loves to gamble)

I planned a getaway this weekend to a casino, room and massages are paid for from a joint vacation account

An hour later.

Her: screenshot of dog I want this dog!!

My initial thoughts are don't even respond, these texts occur once or twice a week.

How do you MRPers handle these?


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Title How do you handle shit "texts"?
Author RPStruggle
Upvotes 6
Comments 24
Date 09 February 2016 04:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207677
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/44xk1p/how_do_you_handle_shit_texts/
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[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Machete don't text

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

How do you MRPers handle these?

I ignore them. Text for logistics or if you have something funny to say. YMMV on the text game advice in MMSLP. I suggest reading about it elsewhere in the red pill.

[–]mrpCamper2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. ignore.

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Text for logistics or if you have something funny to say look for validation.

FTFY.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (27 children) | Copy

She is just chatting with you because you are her girlfriend right now.

I used to think she meant all this shit.

She wants a dog? she reallly reallly wants a dog omg look at this puppy isnt he soooo cute??? Dont you just love him??!!!

This is a child talking. She wants daddy. Daddy doesnt say " No you cant have it because reasons" Daddy tells his kiddo that she is cute.

Trust me, if she wants a dog, she will tell you in person, and have a breed all picked out.

Ignore that. If you are not yet at ignore level, much later in the day type something like "cute"

casino thing... also do not take it seriously.

she is just typing what she feels in the moment. Its VERY SERIOUS at the moment, kinda like when a little girl loves this dress for ever and ever and ever.

if she actually doesn't want to gamble she won't gamble. Do not let her use your money for something she is not willing to spend her money on.

[–]RPStruggle[S] 1 point2 points  (26 children) | Copy

Trust me, if she wants a dog, she will tell you in person, and have a breed all picked out.

To add context, she has been passively but consistently pushing for a dog. I just got rid of our dog because I was the only one taking care of her and didn't have time for it(she complained about the dog and she's the one that had to have it), we got it when I was in the beta "yes you can have one" mode.

I've never not had a dog but with a new job it's not a logical choice.

Either way, I understand what you're saying and will only reply if it's logistics or adds value.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (25 children) | Copy

Don't get a dog, ration won't sway her,

I have three I buckled on before unplugging. Explaining we can't up and vacation all the time now is the discussion. Had I found here earlier, I would be in Europe right now.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (24 children) | Copy

Babe, this house has room for me, you, and cat , if you want a dog, let me know who is leaving. Hint , its not me or the cat"

Guess what that got me?

( hint: i liked it)

( i like cats, fuck you guys in advance)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (21 children) | Copy

I like leather furniture, so I hate cats on that fact alone

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (20 children) | Copy

eh, I like comfortable furniture. Leather is for show offices and cars

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (19 children) | Copy

It's bright white and 12 feet long. That sofa got me more Pussy and party time than you'll ever know.

I love that fucking thing

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (18 children) | Copy

like i said, show offices... and cars.

that sofa got you pussy? damn man , just sell ones "just like it" on the main sub. You could stop looking for a job. :-)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (17 children) | Copy

Lol, enjoy your Kirkland signature microfiber polyester love seat watching tampon commercials at superbowl then

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (16 children) | Copy

LOL.

Dude, sextionals. Non leather, non sticky, easy cleanup. No fucking polyester because ugh.

Superbowl was fun. We acted out the better cards from Cards Against Humanity.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

something something something

pussy

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tom actually

[–]blarggggggggggg2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Things like the dog are constant from my wife.

Ooooh look at this, I want this! We need 'X' for the house. I need 'Y' cause 'reasons'. My laptop is too slow I sure wish I had a new one. etc etc etc

I used to take this seriously and stress about all the things I needed to 'provide' to fulfill all these wants and check off all the checkboxes.

But there is always something else, never satisfaction for what has been achieved and acquired.

I learned the trap I was falling into. My preconceived notion about the husband's 'job'. It was bleeding me dry, stressing me out, leaving me nothing for myself.

Now I just validate. 'yeah that dog sure is cute', 'yeah I can see how the slow laptop can be frustrating', 'yeah it would be really cool if we could take a vacation to the beach'

She just spouts these things off, but me, as the only income to the household and the one who needs to act responsibly, I make the call on what is needed versus what is wanted. If she is unhappy with that, that's too bad. Usually she is just happy to be validated and that's the end of it.

[–]bsutansaltRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

But there is always something else, never satisfaction for what has been achieved and acquired.

This is an artifact of women being raised nowadays thoroughly spoiled and entitled.

[–]SexistFlyingPig1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've already answered your own question: don't respond.

[–]bsutansaltRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Don't joint account. That's ticking time bomb waiting to go off.

  2. She sounds like she's got self-control issues, but bounces stuff off of you because you're supposed to be the stoic rock that settles her emotional/impulsive ass down.

[–]MRPguy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to a first-hand view of a woman's solipsism. Nothing exists outside of their realm.

I can have a crazy day of surgery cases, big-time stuff where people can die if I don't have my shit together...and my wife is texting me about the desk we should buy or how she wants to paint one of the girl's rooms.

EDIT: To your question: Like most others here I completely ignore these. No response whatsoever. When I initially did this it felt awkward and I assumed she would be offended. Nope, she didn't even mention it. That's when I realized that she doesn't even care if I respond. It's a woman being a woman.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't respond to hers.

Later send her a picture of a sexy woman or a fancy car. Just title it; I want this! Then follow up later with; OK When?

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ignore them.



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