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OP apparently lives in Australia, a round trip ticket to Vietnam is $235. Throw in $100 for hotels, taxis and food and it's like $330 altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 08:31 PM
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Go date in some country where you are a hot commodity. When you come back you will have a mild to moderate disdain for dating here and zero tolerance for disrespectful behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:47 AM
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what's the point of taking it PAST this Don't bother trying, just keep it where it is. It's her job to convince you that she's worth more.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/24 10:23 PM
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I was so confused by what happened honestly Talk is cheap, actions are expensive. When you are on a date and can observe that the person's behavior doesn't match their words it's a big red flag. Side note: From the guys perspective, a woman that's really into you will usually sleep with you. They all say they won't but I've seen firsthand how women behave and all those dumb rules go right out the window. Once a woman has slept with you, she's invested in you and getting to an LTR is easy. Before…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 04:31 PM
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Are you giving out a vibe of tolerating abusive behavior?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 08:23 AM
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Trust his actions, not his words.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 08:16 AM
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I'm 42 but I look younger and as I'm reentering the dating world after 13 years of being married so I'm seeing this scenario from the other side of the coin. There's a bunch of church girls I know in my town that are chronically single but in my social circle due to dancing. Lovely girls who are well behaved. Every one in a while I notice that one of them around 20-22 is catching some feelings. There's nothing wrong with them at all but I could never date them. I'm not going to go a year or two …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 08:02 AM
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Don't get him flowers. I'm male and I've been given flowers by a girlfriend and it's just weird. I'm not exactly stuck on gender roles or anything but it was just so unexpected that it was difficult to react properly. I don't feel as if the intent was to be emasculating, but the thought crossed my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 06:10 AM
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What did the guy mean that said he wanted someone "more solid" and was "not sure about your motivation?"
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 04:36 PM
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You are suffering from a common issue that faces women in modern dating - delusion. The dating apps are heavily skewed in favor of women. If you are lets say a 7 in SMV your matches are going to be guys who are 9s. Think about it from the man's perspective. I'm a guy and I'd guess around an 8 for my general age range. If I'm going on Hinge and swiping I'm not getting many matches and they are around a 6 at best, troll at worst. We'll just pretend I'm a guy without much game that can't pick up wo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 04:26 PM
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Yes, I started the leanFIRE subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 04:17 PM
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So coming from a guy (42) who is on the other side of this coin - I'm currently dating a woman I really like (46) who is holding out for a while as she's Christian. It caused me to think back over my dating history and realize all my past girlfriends were usually in bed with me on the first date, maybe the second. Probably not the healthiest way to date. On the positive side, it's good for weeding out guys who aren't really that into you. No guy who's not that interested in you is going to waste…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 11:12 PM
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The content of the video doesn't match the title of this post.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/11/20 08:00 PM
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Well at 1:45 she's talking on the phone to the cops and she says they are getting a divorce. It kinda puts the "cheating" in perspective, if you've been handed divorce papers then it's over besides the formalities. There's typically a six month waiting period anyways, people move on.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/11/20 04:06 AM
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If you lose a bunch and get mad in your relationship, why not sign off for a bit? Seriously, if your partner is being a pain in the ass, you don't need to stick around to be a punching bag. Just go somewhere else, let them work through their issue, come back when they've calmed down and can address the issue in a productive manner.
/r/PussyPassDenied09/10/20 05:53 AM
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I don't see any evidence that MacMillan Publishing at any point owned Conde Nast. Also her dad's publishing empire fell apart with his death in 1991, 14 years before Reddit was even founded.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/07/20 08:54 PM
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No, it's not. I mean practically speaking it's difficult to stop, but copyright laws and revenge porn laws forbid the distribution of images without the permission of the owner. You sure as shit can send a website a notice to remove unwanted nudes.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/06/20 04:08 PM
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Why? I knew jack shit about computers when I went to college to learn programming. I spend plenty of time learning, I just do it effectively and while on the clock. Most of those that are "passionate" about it get too emotionally invested in the job and burn out rather than maintaining healthy boundaries. Nobody insists that construction workers have a passion for building or that garbagemen love trash. It's a fucking job - be competent, show up, do the job, get paid. From an actual career persp…
/r/MGTOW06/03/20 06:36 PM
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That's just not true, the statistics they use to measure inequality are terribly flawed. They measure inequality using a static snapshot of income distribution, ignoring the fact that people move up and down that ladder. Consider that about ten percent of Americans will spend at least a year in the top one percent and more than half of all Americans will spent a year in the top ten percent. This is visibly not the same for the more static –but nominally more equal –Europe. For instance, only ten…
/r/PussyPassDenied10/02/20 05:02 PM
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Stop expecting sex to have meaning. Find some other way to get fulfillment.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/20 10:37 PM
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I'm telling you she wrote code, that's a verifiable fact. How you want to interpret that is up to you. Lots of places use a dev tasked to be the project manager which basically just means they organize and track the to-do list.
/r/MGTOW17/04/19 04:41 PM
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The whole project is on github. She made 90 commits and modified code. Your post is just inaccurate. She certainly wasn't the top contributor, but it's not like she was the manager.
/r/MGTOW11/04/19 08:20 PM
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How is that dangerous? If she is a prostitute, she's not going to be bothered. If she isn't, she'll get pissed off and go away. Seems win-win to me. Honestly, I think the readership here is just a little dense. Lots of prostitutes out there using Instagram and lots more women willing to trade sex for money than will ever admit it. I mean who sends a girl $200 for nothing anyways? Or nudes? I can't browse /r/all without seeing 5 naked women that are probably hotter than this chick. Naked pics are…
/r/PussyPassDenied08/11/18 11:22 PM
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I'd always thought these were thinly veiled prostitution offers. If a girl came up to me on the street and told me she really needed $200, I'd pretty much assume she was willing to have sex in exchange for that money without saying something that could get her into legal hot water.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/11/18 11:09 PM
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9 out of 10 of those things are caused by overeating and a sedentary lifestyle. Most people are on a slow decline because they don't do jack shit to maintain their health, not because of age. I'm 37 now and I'm in the best shape of my life. Sure it takes more time to recover from injury and to grow muscle, but it's not so severe that you can't be improving unless you are performing at elite levels of fitness.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/18 03:11 PM
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The game isn't really that difficult once you are in tune with it. As a guy, it's pretty easy to pretend to be oblivious while being observant until you understand all of the subtle maneuvering. That gives you a golden opportunity to wait for exactly the right moment and deliver a devastating but completely deniable nuke from orbit. I recommend doing it once and only once but in a way that everyone sees the fallout before going right back to your blissfully oblivious act. In fact you should pret…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 09:38 PM
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The one major thing that separates the successful from the unsuccessful is their belief in self-determination. If you feel that you can control the outcome, then you will take the steps necessary to end up in the place you want to be. If you feel that the outcome is the result of chance, your parents or other external factors, then you will give up. How do I stop feeling weak, inadequate and generally incapable & inexperienced You remind yourself that the President of the United States (pick ano…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 09:04 PM
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Not trying to rip on you really, I've been there when I was younger. Once my perspective changed from trying to get laid to trying to dance and have a fun time it became a lot more fun.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 11:41 PM
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If your an unattractive sperg with no self confidence and zero rhythm that showed up by yourself with the sole purpose of getting laid, then yeah you aren't going to have fun at a dance club. It's obvious to everyone around you. If that hits close to home then yeah avoid the dance club. Or maybe do whatever it is you need to do to learn to dance and find some friends to go with. I have never met a successful or rich man (excluding those who are dating coaches) who focused/cared so much on women.…
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 11:36 PM
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Doesn't matter. She can still get the judgement in US courts and probably collect with the help of a lawyer. In fact some woman you knocked up in Thailand can probably get child support out of the US court system with a decent lawyer.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/18 06:57 PM
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You have to act as if you were married. Like having a wedding and calling her your wife.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/18 06:55 PM
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Maybe. I'm not saying your wrong. I'm married anyways so I can't go to the club and test it, that's just playing with fire. I don't even get how you go talk to 100 girls without one dragging you out of the club to fuck anyways. This whole discussion reminds me of a rat in a cage pushing a button to get a treat. It turns out that if you want the rat to be really motivated to push the button you need to make the treats rare and random. Then he'll spend all day pushing the fucking button. If it kic…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 05:36 PM
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When you learn any skill, you start by learning the rules. As you get better, you start to understand the principles. Once you've mastered the principles, you know when you can break the rules.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/18 11:23 PM
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I didn't realize my post was directed towards a non-native speaker. "For the birds" means it sucks. I don't really recommend the numbers game, especially if it's going to hurt you socially when the girls get together to chat. I recommend that you focus on understanding the unspoken social relationships around you. If I were to walk into your class, you should be able to tell me who is attracted to who. The same goes for your circle of friends and your workplace. All that takes is sitting back, w…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/18 05:28 PM
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Maybe it's just because I'm older, but this PUA shotgun approach is for the birds. I see OP spent all morning to get 4 shaky at best prospects. More power to him for going out and doing it and I'm sure if he keeps enough girls in the pipeline, he'll eventually get to pay dirt. But it just strikes me as wasted time. Hell, it strikes me as me when I was 19. If he had good social skills, he could just go hang out doing something fun for the morning, spot the 1 girl that was really into him and have…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/18 12:21 AM
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What is she going to do, get stomping mad? So what? This is the life you get when you are faking outcome independence and a purpose driven life. You don't have to get into the argument, you don't have to work it out or apologize. You've got something more important to work on. If she's there and being unpleasant, ask her to leave. If she brings a fight to your doorstep, you just shut your door and go on with your day.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/18 10:21 PM
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This video by Elliot Hulse has a great response to a situation like that. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvBKC_8TTao
/r/TheRedPill08/08/18 05:33 PM
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What a stupid argument. Go out and try it. Report back on how it went.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 12:13 AM
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We've got complaints on one side that women aren't reliable with the birth control and then complaints that you don't want to get married to have kids. The solution seems obvious to me... combine your two problems to make a solution. Preselect your partners for ones that will make good mothers and make decent money, ask them to take birth control and then stop worrying if they've pulled the goalie. Your issue will probably solve itself within due time. Financial independence is really the lynch …
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 08:15 PM
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Ask yourself a simple question: How is she going to explain this to her friends tomorrow? She needs an explanation that doesn't mess up her social standing. Whatever that explanation is, she'll start to believe it the more she tells it. This is why Mattress Girl keeps doubling down - she's told the story enough times that it's actually her reality, even if the facts don't match. Her only other option would to be admit that she willingly did all the fucked up things that are now public and that w…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 07:39 PM
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That's not it at all. I read the entirety of the sidebar maybe 4 years ago? The anger phase has long come and gone. Maybe a better way to explain it would be that if you were fat and then fixed your diet and became healthy - why would you stick around the loseit community? The next step is just to move on to better things. Anyways, the state of the sub as it is right now is a lot better than it was when I stopped reading. I wanted to thank the mods for what must have been a long, tiresome proces…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 05:56 PM
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Did you guys clean this place up? I stopped reading a few years back mainly because reading it on a regular basis left me more upset than was really necessary. Once you get the concepts and they become part of your person, you really don't need the checklist or 10 ways to respond to a shit test. Sex isn't really difficult to get any more, mostly the reading I do is more oriented towards improving my life elsewhere and usually I'm using a more specific source. Looking around, it seems like you ha…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/18 01:14 AM
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Pick some other aspect to test then that's relevant to your personal situation. Dread game is for LTRs anyways, no point in having 50 LTRs for the sake of science. Find some aspect of your interactions with women that leaves you perplexed or some TRP advice that seems counter intuitive. Go find whatever the traditional advice is and try it, then compare to the results from the sidebar. My turning point was when I tried out the tactic of playing one girl off of another. From BP land, it seemed li…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 12:22 AM
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What is your definition of fucking a lot? If you are a typical attractive guy, you can keep a couple of decently attractive girls in the pipeline and attempt to set up a quick date each week and you should end up with a booty call sooner or later. That's probably 25 dates a year... if you just escalate a bit and stop calling the ones that don't respond almost anyone could end up in bed with 5 girls in a year. If you want to up your success rate there, tell all 25 that you had a fun time on the d…
/r/MGTOW11/07/18 11:50 PM
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some tools in the BP tool box are effective If they are, they'll become tools in the RP toolbox. This is a pragmatic place. You try your BP "communication" trope out vs "The 12 Levels of Dread" (you'll have to search for it, I can't link it) and let me know how it works out for you. I can really tell you haven't read the sidebar. Don't bother posting this drivel until you've fully understood and put it to the test in your own life. There's a lot of shit in there that you'll find deeply offensive…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 10:58 PM
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This theory bullshit is a waste of time. Go out and try your wishy washy purple pill idea against exactly what it recommends in the sidebar and report back which one is more effective. Tbh it sounds like you are choking on the pill. TRP is just a toolbox, nobody here is telling you what to build. You can decide that you don't want to use one of the tools without pretending that it doesn't work. I hope you're not insinuating there is no money to be made off appealing to people with a red pill min…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 10:39 PM
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You are over complicating this. TBP doesn't have a philosophy because society doesn't give a fuck if you are failing in the dating market. Unless someone can make money off your misery somehow you are unlikely to get any help. Women especially aren't going to be empathetic because they got launched into the dating market at their prime. They aren't really going to understand that most men have to claw their way up from a position near the bottom. TBP isn't a dating philosophy any more than athei…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 08:49 PM
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TBP contains no useful advice for men that are having difficulty dating. Until it does, there's no point in reading it. You can just read the sidebar, go out and do your own field tests and then decide for yourself. If that doesn't work, then go get some other dating advice that does work.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 08:06 PM
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I disagree completely. You seem very single track minded. There's lots of value in participating in situations where there are lots of opportunities for growth, social connections and women. OP probably had a lot of fun for starters. He met lots of people and got better at interacting with them. He got lots of pictures to stick on his Instagram and he met lots of people that might provide good connections to other social events. Most people go out and make money or build an empire so that they c…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 07:36 PM
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I met her in person at the gym, had no clue that she was internet famous. She lifts hard as fuck, was super approachable, friendly and positive. Not really sure what your rant is about. She's internet famous because she works that angle like a full time job. This realization can help those of you who are intimidated by women with a strong social media presence, especially you younger ones who seem to care. Don’t. Treat them just like any other person and you will be much better off. Well yeah, y…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 05:56 PM
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Well stop talking about it. Just go actually do it and then talk about the visible results. There's no point in giving her a heads up, she'll find out you are going to the gym when you are out the door with your gym bag.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 09:24 PM
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Maybe you should explain it to her with spreadsheets and a powerpoint presentation.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 11:03 PM
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Being financially independent doesn't even move the needle on your attractiveness. In fact it makes it worse because they can't spend your money and that's no fun. It's like those women who put a ton of effort into their career and then wonder why the guys they are interested in would rather date a hotter younger barista. What you've worked on my have value and be worth doing but don't confuse that for being attractive.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 01:28 AM
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The cheat code here for the clueless is to bring another woman around.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 12:32 AM
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In my limited experience, I find it's about calibration. You calibrate your public persona to match the environment to avoid becoming a target. Warren Buffet is a great example. He preaches raising taxes on the rich while avoiding taxes like the plague. The image you have of him is him living in a middle class house and driving a Lincoln Town car. These concessions to practicality cost him nothing. You probably never heard that he's had a girlfriend AND a wife for 40 years. He flies private jets…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 09:06 PM
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It's not just women that have a Plan B in a relationship. Most guys that are in a relationship have some fantasy of some other girl they could have been with - perhaps an ex, maybe a friend you hit if off with after you were with your girlfriend, etc. I know who mine is. Hell, I know who my wife's is. It's just a fantasy. That woman only seems great because distance has prevented you from seeing her flaws and imagination has increased her positives. When it comes time to cash in on it, you'll fi…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 08:48 PM
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Your SMV doesn't really drop over time. I mean your relative SMV compared to women your age. I'm not saying you'll be able to land a perfect looking 20 year old at age 55, but you'll probably be able to get a smoking hot 40 year old. Most guys around here are probably on an upward climb all the way through age 40, assuming you didn't learn about TRP until adulthood. You might lose a bit of SMV to age but you'll more than make up for it with increased experience and attainment of goals. Maybe 40-…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 08:33 PM
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That's just a girl's Plan B. There's really nothing wrong with being her Plan B unless you waste time on it. Really it should take very little effort to maintain Plan B status. It's a fantasy and the less you do to fuck it up, the better. A text every 6 months or year should do the trick. Bonus points if you have some surmountable reason why you can't be together. If she decides to ditch Plan A, then she'll probably try to branch swing to you. Let her. Why not? Get a solid week of "I've been fuc…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 07:43 PM
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I went through all of my activities and cut the ones that weren't a definite benefit to my life. MRP added a little, but it also took time and so I cut it out of my life without looking back. I don't do Facebook, I barely even use my cell phone any more. It all just failed to move the needle on my happiness so I stopped spending time on it. MRP seems to me like a giant case study in the sunk cost fallacy. Some time ago things in my brain finally clicked and I finally let go of my attachment to m…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 09:47 PM
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The National Labor Relations Act establishes protections for some speech at the workplace. https://www.nlrb.gov/rights-we-protect/whats-law/employers/interfering-employee-rights-section-7-8a1 The employer can't Threaten employees with adverse consequences if they engage in protected, concerted activity. (Activity is "concerted" if it is engaged in with or on the authority of other employees, not solely by and on behalf of the employee himself. It includes circumstances where a single employee se…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 05:05 PM
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In any event, if his case has any legal ground to stand on, Google will pay to make it go away. They don't want this new story floating on any more than it already is and court proceedings and the author talking just add to the circus. He could easily go ask for a check for a couple mil to shut up and walk away.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 04:55 PM
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You get to a point where your choices are A) Stay married and don't fuck other women, B) Get divorced and fuck other women and C) Stay married and fuck other women. The worst case for C is basically B and A isn't guaranteed to end up with you not divorced.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/17 04:58 AM
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The person that cares the least about the relationship has the power. You aren't going to have a marriage where you are both soft and caring and she's highly attracted to you. Unless of course the power dynamic is obviously tilted in your favor such as if you were significantly more attractive than her. At best you can moderate things so that when you do dole out affection it is well received. That's just the way it works, sorry marriage isn't what you expected and you can't be all lovey dubby a…
/r/TheRedPill01/08/17 06:57 PM
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If you've made it 22 years without landing a girlfriend, you probably have several things going wrong. Sit down as objectively as you can and figure out what those things are. Perhaps get someone with absolutely zero skin in the game (a perfect stranger perhaps) give you a once over to figure out what is obviously wrong. For each problem, create a plan to fix it and then execute immediately. The Married Man Sex Life Primer has a six month Male Action Plan that you can follow to improve how attra…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 12:26 AM
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Devils advocate here: Once a company gets to the point where CEO types are doing risk management exercises with consultants, the company is functionally dead for innovation. The company is doing it's best to still exist in 30 years, not take off like wildfire. The founders and innovators have moved on to the next hot idea while the engineering and marketing team turn it into cash. Risk management isn't about succeeding, it's about not failing. On a personal level, not being afraid to fail is wha…
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 10:22 PM
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Racial differences can change your perception in the dating market. I noticed this when dating Latina girls, my personal preference. In the US, it's hell for me to pick up a Latina girl because whatever I am is the opposite of what counts for Alpha in their culture. Cross the border and you are in a new world where skin color is social status and it's like shooting fish in a barrel. Most guys that "like Asian women" just like being in a dating environment where their skin color counts for some d…
/r/askTRP03/07/17 09:50 PM
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I imagine getting angry at a dog for following his instincts. If you cook bacon and leave it on the floor, he's going to eat it and the only person in the wrong would be yourself for expecting him not to eat it.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/17 08:07 PM
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The general misconception here is that you read Alpha as good and Beta as bad and see people as neatly fitting into one category or the other. Alpha is what makes a girl want to fuck you, Beta is what makes a girl want to stay with you. The goal is to have a balance of both qualities that works for your life goals. Most guys that find their way to TRP are leading with all Beta and have next to nothing going for them in Alpha qualities, so that's the focus. The tattooed drug dealer that treats wo…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/17 07:27 PM
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Spoilage is really just bacteria and mold growth. Immediately move food after cooking into clean containers before it cools and seal them. That starts your food out with very little bacteria and makes the ice bath a bit overkill. Be really careful with anything that might introduce bacteria, like licking a spoon and then using it to scoop leftovers. The ideal scenario is that you don't open it until you use it (mason jars can be pretty handy for this).
/r/TheRedPill29/06/17 06:06 PM
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I'm talking the secretary that can write a complicated list of rules that automatically kicks off jobs when emails come in from customers. The delivery truck driver that can snap a photo of some addresses and have scripts pull the text, punch it into a map program and create a route for him. A teacher that can do some basic data mining on last year's test results to figure out what they aren't covering well enough. All those things increase productivity, but they aren't large, complicated progra…
/r/MGTOW29/06/17 03:24 PM
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I would think that it's the female equivalent of a girl that's got massive tits and ass that obviously got there by plastic surgery. I mean sure you aren't going to take her home to mom, but it's not like she's struggling to find a date.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 09:56 PM
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Shaming tactics occur when biology stands in opposition to societal standards. That's really just evidence that supports the yoga women being attracted to muscled out guys.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 08:44 PM
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I'm talking overall society, where a BP guy that has hit 45 isn't going to have maintained his body or have the game to go younger. For him, picking up the girl he wouldn't have a chance with at 30 when she is desperate is going to be a huge win. If you are trying to optimize your personal life, I'd suggest be Chad , don't spend shit, retire by 35 and then find a girl that's marriage material and get a prenup to cover your assets if you can't convince her to do an LTR with kids rather than marri…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 08:15 PM
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You can always live frugally, save your money, retire early and then around 40 or so you can go pick up a post wall chick to have some kids. Since your earning years are behind you, a prenup will actually do some good.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 07:23 PM
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If you want an LTR, you'll have to accumulate some beta qualities. Tbh though, there's no pot at the gold at the end of the LTR rainbow either.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 06:46 PM
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I actually see more built guys struggling with women around here To get them into a relationship or into bed? The fallacy that every woman secretly prefers huge muscle bound guys is a male perpetuated myth that derives from repressed homosexual desires. Not even going to take the bait. That's just a textbook shaming tactic and has no basis in evidence. I'm not saying you are necessarily wrong, but that belief is due for some serious reexamining and being put to the test.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 05:55 PM
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I'd have to ask though - are women's actions and words aligned on it? Plenty of women will say they like skinnier guys or dad bods and then treat you completely differently when you show up with some muscle. At least that's been my experience, it's a lot easier to get attention at 180 lbs with higher bodyfat than it is at 150 lbs with a healthier body composition. Obviously the goal is to have the size and the body composition, but I decided that health > being sexy until I get down to a healthy…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 05:36 PM
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It's politically incorrect to tell a young woman that she should look to marry while at the peak of her SMV and have kids while she's still young. It's a message women in liberal areas just aren't getting. Instead they are getting a lot of cheer leading for career and party time. Medically, the risks are mostly the same < 30 and it's only really around 35 that things start getting significantly more risky. So plenty of women turn 25, realize that they are halfway from 20 to 30 and marriage isn't…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 03:51 PM
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I woke up one morning and decided that instead of leveling up in video games, I wanted to level up in life.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 03:36 PM
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It's just a thing I've noticed and it's mostly family rather than women. When I meet one side of the family it's all compliments if I've lost weight and the other side is like WTF you got smaller.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 03:25 PM
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Later you are going to kick yourself for missing all these obvious signs. When I was 18, I missed shit like this and I could have fucked a couple of girls that I thought were "out of my league." One day those memories are going to be interpreted by a brain with a lot more wisdom and you'll realize that she was making it fucking obvious.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 03:22 PM
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Different social classes react differently to men that lift weights. If you are chasing lower class women, then the bigger the better. No clue if the upper class women are just publicly shaming anyone larger while fucking them on the DL or if it's just a class indicator.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/17 11:33 PM
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Keep escalating until she tells you to stop. Pay some attention to her mental state, if she looks terrified you may want to deescalate for a while. If she tells you to stop, it means one of a few things. She might be not into it, she might need more work to be more turned on, or it might just be fun to watch you squirm. Go back to the last whatever you were doing, wait 10 minutes and escalate back to what you were doing again. If you get told to stop again, then that's her boundary and you'll ne…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/17 10:56 PM
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Text her at 9 PM, tell her she should come over and see what happens. Just the one text plus one response and that's the last bit of effort you put into it. From that point forward, it's on her. If she wants to fuck she'll come over and fuck you. If she doesn't, don't waste your effort.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/17 10:52 PM
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In more common terms you might call that "giving each other shit." A bit of friendly ribbing that's overtly negative but not designed to be powerful enough to crack your frame. Now perhaps you can see the purpose of how guys in groups are always ribbing on each other a bit - it's designed to test you a bit but also designed to help you build an unshakable frame for when a woman or a difficult situation hits you. You probably do it every day without even thinking about it. Women do it every day w…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 05:08 PM
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You are still stuck in this trap of analyzing the logic of the situation. That's like bringing a knife to a gun fight - this is a discussion about power and emotion. What you say does not need to make any logical sense. You could quite literally tell her that you were thinking of going to Disneyland tomorrow and that would be the end of the shit test. It makes no fucking sense and that's about the level of importance you've granted her statement. The shit test is not a genuine request. It's just…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 12:31 AM
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You don't have to A&A every shit test that comes your way. I'd reflect that one back right on her with "that's the pot calling the kettle black there princess." The key is to amplify it just to the point of absurdity. "Yeah my shrink keeps saying that, but what the hell does he know anyways." or "Somebody's gotta give Kayne a run for his money" It's supposed to be funny.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 11:35 PM
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Haven't really read all the PUA stuff because I never really needed it much, but they drill in build attraction, isolate, escalate. If you haven't built attraction when you escalate it's not going to go over well. Have you been through Models by Mark Manson yet? It seems that what you are missing is congruence. Alternatively you can try just keeping your mouth shut mostly and see if that gets you laid.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 10:13 PM
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Cognitive dissonance is the main reason why you experience this. Your family and friends have a core belief that being fat is not their fault and in fact an unchangeable quality. When confronted with evidence that their core belief is false, most will react with anger or grasp for any explanation that reconciles the two (he's on drugs, he's sick) no matter how farfetched it seems.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:39 PM
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Just a coincidence, for some reason I thought you were talking about work. If you are getting accusations of harassment more than once, you probably need some calibration on your approaches unless you are doing so many that it's just statistics. I'd guess that are you aren't so good at reading women, so I'd perhaps spend some time in a social situation trying to read the women around you and figure out what people's motives are without running deliberate pickup. When you can walk into a room, fi…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:32 PM
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Are there some good resources on making male friends? I need to put some effort into that.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:24 PM
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Yes, it goes away. Stop working with the logical side of your brain so much and try to pay attention to the emotions and interactions of the moment.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:23 PM
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Life isn't fair and you are just pissed that you had to work your ass off while they got it handed to them. You'll come around when you realise that you need difficulty to grow as a person.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:21 PM
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Tell her that if she wants to see it she can come over and look at it.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:12 PM
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Whatever got rid of her with the least amount of hassle is the correct answer. You'll probably want to make sure that you explicitly break up with her in person just to make sure it's clear. Don't give her a reason, that just gives her something to argue with. You don't need a reason.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:10 PM
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Honestly? Fabricate your resume, demonstrate results.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:07 PM
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Try technical writing. You can probably start now, it's often done freelance and the hours and location are usually 100% flexible so long as the documents get done on time. If you get that up and running and make enough money on it you may be able to skip college and go travel the world instead.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:06 PM
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See what sort of perverted things you can get her to do in bed? It may not get rid of her and you may be amazed at her lack of any limits, but it tends to cure oneitis.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 09:02 PM
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If you go through any risk management training, there's a phrase "accept no unnecessary risk." If there's a safer way to get to your objective and no downside to doing it, then use that. If your objective is to get your dick wet, then fucking someone at work is an unnecessary risk. It's just as easy to approach someone outside of work.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 08:55 PM
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Social groups loose cohesity if the pecking order is obvious. The most stable groups have a clear leader, a clear bottom of the pack, but the middle is deliberately unclear, so don't try to wreck that dynamic. You need both the top and the bottom so that everyone can be clear that it's not them. In your circumstance, there was no clear bottom of that pack so you assumed it was you. You've got two kinds of leader here. The first was a man that was just in his element and secure in his position. D…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 08:45 PM
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Providing value on it's own will not be a shortcut to success. As demonstrated by all those people above you on the totem pole that flap their gums in meetings all day, in large organizations productivity is often rewarded less than visibility. Those empty suits aren't stupid, they have just correctly identified where to apply the most effective work. Combining the two - productivity and visibility is really the fast track. Even if you don't like "playing politics" you should be keeping track of…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 06:19 PM
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Let's face it, you probably know what is wrong. There's just something preventing you from acting on it like ego, fear or just a plain lack of self motivation. The best cure for your own bullshit is to just take out the steps between figuring out what is wrong and action. Just start fixing it immediately and correct course later.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/17 01:55 AM
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If you can't get laid, why are you giving advice?
/r/TheRedPill03/06/17 11:47 PM
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Focus. Pick a single goal and work on it all day long every day until you are finished. Then pick another goal and get started. Take the big goal and then break it down into smaller goals, then set a weekly goal. If you've got a full 16 hours a day to work with, then you might even make that 3 day goals. Even large, difficult, complicated goals fall amazingly fast to this method. If you wanted to learn Spanish, for example, it takes most people years. However you can get a Pimsleur set at your l…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/17 08:24 PM
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It's really more a question of what you'd like to surround yourself with than whether or not it's accurate. I had to ditch a friend because he's just so deep into betadom that it's hard to watch him get fucked over.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/17 10:54 PM
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I am going to start lifting There are two types of people, the ones that are going to do something and the ones that already started. In the time it took you to write this post you could have found a gym, signed up and picked a beginner program. That would put you at this point driving to the gym to start your first workout.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/17 10:32 PM
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I prefer to compare it to a map. It's not a shitty map because it has Disneyland on it and you don't want to go there. If you don't want to go to Disneyland, then don't go there. Problem solved. The map doesn't have any thoughts on where you should go, it just tells you how to get there. Same goes for your road map being almost useless for taking a hike on a trail. It's a map for driving. It's probably better than nothing for hiking, but don't expect it to help much. TRP will probably solve your…
/r/TheRedPill01/06/17 08:12 PM
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Flip it and ask how you know they aren't going to just use you for your body.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/17 01:14 AM
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Just walk up and say Hi, my name is [____] and figure the rest out from there. You don't need a plan, it's just talking for fucks sake. You don't need to impress the girl, she needs to impress you. If the girl if fucking boring say it was nice meeting her and then walk. What is the worst that could happen? It's unlikely that she will physically assault you for introducing yourself. The worst is an awkward interaction in which case you just tell her you've got to run and bail.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/17 01:09 AM
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Here's a good start: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0163638300000321 The fact that boys and girls show gender differences one day out of the womb suggests that there are significant innate differences. You wouldn't hear people arguing that strength or height imbalances are a social construct. It defies reason to think that sexual dimorphism doesn't extend to our minds.
/r/MensRights18/04/17 07:05 PM
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The games give you a sense of achievement that's illusory. They are formulated to give you rewards at random intervals (fast at first, then more randomly for a while, but quickly at the end so you don't get frustrated). At the end of the day, after all those hours put in, you don't have anything real that's a success. All that you've achieved is some bits somewhere that mark you as having a fake item or marked for the next level. I decided to put that effort into real life endeavors. What's stop…
/r/TheRedPill25/02/17 01:07 AM
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Imagine a tennis game vs the local hot shot. If you suck, you are going to be pissed as he destroys you in the game. If you get better you can react to the game and play on his level and possibly win. However any observer will see you playing a serious game and you certainly won't make it look good. Now imagine that you are a world famous tennis pro. This game is now a joke - you might do things like letting your opponent get a huge lead on purpose, play with your non-dominant hand or just have …
/r/TheRedPill23/02/17 10:09 PM
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Let me explain how the college judicial process works. Most won't let you bring a lawyer. If you've been accused of a crime, your lawyer will advise you not to speak to anyone outside of your lawyer, a psychologist or a priest where your words are confidential. That includes speaking at a college hearing. The level of evidence required is a preponderance of evidence which basically means whichever story seems more likely. Since one side isn't speaking, you can guess which story seems more likely…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/17 07:53 PM
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The left has gotten lost in ivory tower logic. If everyone were only logical and equal then their policies would be spot on. They can't voice anything that violates the tenants of the liberal religion so it's ultimately doomed to reach false conclusions if the unquestionable tenants are flawed. It's logical, in a way, but it's not pragmatic. Humans are anything but equal and act in predictably irrational ways. Every traditional moral was put there for a reason. Force monogamy was some cultures s…
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 08:29 PM
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Try unbury.me to check the actual math. The extra $200 a month does make a difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:18 PM
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I'm just letting you know that you can't enter into a legal agreement about child support because in the eyes of the law, it doesn't belong to you so you can't give it up. The rest about denying a father his right to be a part of his child's life seems pretty fucked up to me, even if it's something you might get away with. I'd in general suggest either using birth control or not sleeping with degenerates if it's a big concern for you. If I had a kid with a woman I was no longer in a relationship…
/r/PussyPassDenied26/01/17 04:52 AM
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The child support belongs to your kid, not you so you can't sign away the right to it.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/01/17 03:28 AM
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Covert communication is used when overt communication could result in offense or be socially unacceptable. It's a technique to have a conversation about a difficult subject while retaining plausible deniability. As an example, when you drop a woman off she might ask if you would like to come up to her place for a drink. The act of being alone in her apartment implies that sex is likely to occur, but the words don't. It has a couple of benefits - you can turn her down without rejecting her and if…
/r/askMRP28/12/16 11:52 PM
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You should sit down and write down a list of priorities somewhere. At the top of the list should be "me" because if you aren't looking out for you, well nobody else is going to. After that you can put down "family" meaning your immediate family. Then can go "financial security" and after that "extended family." Your list might look a little different than mine, but those are probably going to be the first 4 priorities. If you burned all your vacation time on priority #4 and then don't have any v…
/r/askMRP28/12/16 06:05 PM
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The wife was just complaining about some stuff that's gone wrong and how her back is aching she feels jet lagged and the stuff she got for Christmas. She's just venting not really much of a response required.
/r/askMRP28/12/16 05:57 PM
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Doing that doesn't make any sense from a woman's point of view. The goal is a guy with good genetics that turns women on. That way your son will have the same genetics. If you have to teach him how to be attractive, it's pointless. Sidenote: This is why you don't take your woman to the gym. You spending hours pushing weights is you pretending to be the guy with great genetics that builds muscle without effort. If she sees that it's just hard work and time, well any guy could do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 02:11 AM
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Credit cards are a little more complicated. Generally you get a credit card as an individual and then add your wife as an authorized user. Technically, anything she charges is your debt but it's also pretty painless to remove her from the authorized users since it's your own account. Similarly, your wife can get her own credit cards and probably should to establish her own credit score. She can add you as an authorized user. In many states, she can list your income as her own for purposes of get…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 11:35 PM
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There are cleaner ways to go through this. OP kinda fired an opening salvo about divorce, which doesn't seem to be his intention. He could have opened a new checking account under some premise (I hear USAA is a great bank, Schwab reimburses your ATM fees) etc and then started depositing his checks there. Then he could have drained the old account over time by paying bills and it would all look pretty run of the mill. It also looks a bit malicious to restrict your spouse's access to money. What y…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 08:12 PM
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A) I just don't think about it. Thoughts that have no purpose and move you in a bad direction are just mental masturbation. You could choose to be happy in the worst of situations or make yourself miserable in the best of situations. Turn your brain off if it's causing you trouble. B) Once you stop blaming your wife, your free to analyze the real reasons holding you back. Are there laws against it? Will your wife leave you if you do it? Are you sure she'll leave if you do it? What's the worst ca…
/r/askMRP22/12/16 02:29 AM
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So, if you get raped you'd commit suicide because being dead would be an improvement? It's pretty clear that murder is worse, it's just that it doesn't have as instinctual of a reaction.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 01:54 AM
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You've got this fantasy of freedom. You move away to a different country, you leave your boring wife, you start spinning plates, you are free from all the responsibilities of married life. My brain likes to have these fantasies too, but I tell it to shut the fuck up. First, the reality isn't going to be the same. You aren't seeing the lonely nights spent solo in a bar trying to get your game off the ground in a country where you don't know the basics of the culture yet. Even if you are jacked an…
/r/askMRP21/12/16 07:19 PM
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actual rapists should be buried beneath the prison It's not worse than murder. Treating it as worse than murder gives every rapist the incentive to kill their victims instead of releasing them.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/16 06:44 PM
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Getting dating advice from women is like asking the fish what techniques work to catch them. Ask a fisherman.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 09:17 PM
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Well if you get skis for Christmas and that's how your wife got them home, then get ready to eat your hat.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 05:41 PM
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Gotcha. Was wondering if she perceived it as doing you a favor since you hated putting the ski rack up.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 03:26 PM
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Have you given agree and amplify a spin on this one?
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 08:28 AM
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It's not that complicated. There's a big gap between what women report as rape and what qualifies as rape in a questionnaire. If her otherwise worthwhile husband and father of her kids gets drunk one night and forces her to have sex, she's not going to run down to the police station the next day and ruin her own life. But she might check the yes box on an anonymous survey. If a college girl gets drunk and ends up waking up next to a hot guy the next morning, her brain will fill in the gaps for h…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 08:21 AM
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Why did she put the ski rack up?
/r/askMRP20/12/16 07:50 AM
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It's only effective if the threat is credible. The employees that have options will figure they can find a new job and might as well get working on it. The employees you can't live without will see it as a bluff. I don't take kindly to it. It's not even that I really care, it's just a ham handed attempt at management from a shitty leader. If he's that rattled by the situation, it's going to come out in other ways such as throwing subordinates under the bus, changing priorities every time managem…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 07:30 AM
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The other option is that you've just asked her an awkward question that's a minefield for your ego. The answer you get back is going to be whichever one is least likely to blow up in her face.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 07:18 AM
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Look over the lives of men married to powerful women. Merkel's husband is a quantum chemist. Yellen is married to a Nobel Prize winning economist and professor. The key is that these women can point to something that there husband excels in. The money can be overlooked if you are adding value in some other way. I'd focus on two things - add some money and status right now and have a plan with visible steps taken to improve the situation. As someone that works in IT, (and didn't finish my Compute…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 04:32 PM
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If she already treats you like shit, then there's no downside to pissing her off.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 03:25 AM
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if she after a couple of kids and seven years of marriage suddenly wakes up one morning, and start panicking over whether she's "missing out" Unless there's some evidence to back that up, there's no point in reacting to it. Women have a different mating strategy than men and panicking over missing out on sex with a bunch of partners is a manifestation of the male sexual strategy.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 08:15 PM
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You seem to be trying to use your RP awareness to fulfill your BP dream. Why not instead come up with a new RP dream? Let's take an objective look at the situation. Your SMV is on the rise and probably won't start to decline until 40. The fast track to sex and no bullshit is to exhibit exactly zero beta qualities You can invest money to buy your freedom from working What you earn before you get married can be covered by a prenup Your happiness isn't dependent on how much money you spend In your …
/r/askMRP14/12/16 05:51 PM
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Fuck this idea that if someone else has it worse, I should be satisfied with what I get. I don't give a flying fuck what the average guy gets, he's a chump that considers himself lucky to get his needs doled out like a trained rat. Meanwhile women with motivation (money) all of the sudden find the ability to fuck 12 dudes a day and plausibly fake enjoying it. Sex is free. Seriously, it's not that complicated. I like sex and I have lots of it.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 03:24 PM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048/ Even on the face of it, what does corporal punishment teach your kids? The lessons seem to be: if you don't get your way, use violence and might makes right. Is it applicable as an adult - I mean if someone takes your parking spot, are you going to hit them? Fuck no, it's dangerous and stupid. It also isn't any good at getting compliance - if your goal is not to get hit, you'll just learn not to get caught. Don't conflate the popular understa…
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:31 PM
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The great thing about the information age is that you can get access to the actual studies to see if you are convinced by the evidence.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 03:29 PM
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Honestly, sometimes your girlfriend just tees it up for you. How can you miss? Take her note, put it in the trash, say nothing. If she blows up about it, tell her your were throwing away a lot of other stuff and laugh. Don't make the mistake of getting in a fight. She wants a fight.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 06:11 AM
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If you are low value, then if you decide to fight for a hill you damn well better be willing to die on it. Because you might. Don't pick a shitty hill that's hard to defend either. Birthday card trash is a hard hill to defend. OP lost this one.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 06:08 AM
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You haven't given her a choice. Well actually you have - she can either comply or rebel, but there aren't any other decent options. If you want her to follow, give her two choices that are both acceptable to you. Then there won't be anything for her to rebel against and she's unlikely to realize that there are other options besides the ones presented. Plus, she'll get used to making choices that affect her future now, instead of as an adult. You'd rather have her skip studying now, fail a test a…
/r/askMRP05/12/16 06:02 AM
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The science on the subject is clear - physical punishment doesn't deliver better outcomes for compliance or mental health. You neglect to mention the flappers of the 20s or the hippies that probably got the snot beaten out of them by parents. The "no corporal punishment" doesn't mean weak boundaries or no punishments, it means reaching outside of the box of physical punishment to come up with discipline that is actually effective at changing behavior.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:57 AM
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TRP is a map. You don't get a map and complain that you don't want to go to Boise, Idaho. The map just tells you how to get there, if you don't want to go there then don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 05:06 AM
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Congrats OP on the opposite of a Victim Puke.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 06:11 PM
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Right, because all of her friends stop doing it or drop out and there's no more motivation. That's why you send her to some sort of social exercise program.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 12:40 AM
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You could watch the kids while she does her workout and then you could switch. I watch my kid 3 times a week while my wife hits the gym. Hell, you could probably bring the kids to the gym and cheer mom on while she works out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 07:17 PM
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You know I never really sat down to think about the desire to be needed after encountering TRP. My feelings on the subject of myself being needed are about the same as yours. Of course your kids are going to need you and that's just part and parcel of the deal. A strong purpose and direction tends to take care of that need to be needed for myself. I suppose there's also a fair bit of letting go of my attachment to controlling the outcome as well. It seems that being needed is the last refuge of …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 06:44 AM
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If leaving your woman is going to put you in a dry spell, then your one and only priority should be to fix whatever the hell is preventing you from getting laid. I guarantee you that you'll be singing a different tune when you know for a fact that you dick will be wet within 24 hours from giving her the boot. Hell, just you ignoring her and fixing yourself will probably fix half your problems.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 02:06 AM
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So she seems to get her motivation from some form of peer pressure or virtual signaling to friends. I'd suggest you sign her up for some sort of workout program that doubles as a social scene. I'm not a big fan of CrossFit, but I'm sure you can get her there by telling her you wanted to try it out and then she'll have to show up to work out if she wants to see her friends. If you are extremely careful with it and have a light touch, you might be able to channel some social competition energy int…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:56 AM
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Take away all her words (I don't care what her hamster thinks) and try analyzing it again based only on her actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:40 AM
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Most of us have a deep desire to feel necessary. I'm not talking feeling wanted (which is great too), but having someone that relies on you in some way can give you motivation. I know this because I once dated a woman who managed to scratch this itch in a non codependent way. If you've never experienced it, it can be hard to comprehend how powerful it is. Plenty of people all of the sudden find the motivation to get their shit together when they have a baby or spouse that relies on them. Perhaps…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:37 AM
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She needs to feel needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:10 AM
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do a program for 6 weeks, and then slack off with the same set of excuses. What changes after 6 weeks? Do you stop paying attention to it? Does she feel healthier and then no longer feel the need to work out? Does it stop being fun? If you could answer that question, you'd probably have the solution to your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:08 AM
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You don't have to act on every feeling. You can just have it, enjoy it and leave it at that.
/r/askMRP27/11/16 03:44 AM
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A woman's sexual strategy is to lock down the highest quality mate she can find. If the mate she can get isn't attractive, you get to the AF/BB dynamic but remember that the ideal is a guy that brings both to the table. Once you get to the point where you can successfully go out and get other women, your wife's sexual strategy is fulfilled and it's not likely that she'd agree to risk losing some of your provisioning ability to another women (her practical concerns will be you leaving her or knoc…
/r/askMRP22/11/16 12:16 AM
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I'm not going to live out my entire life pretending I'm not attracted to other women. My wife doesn't seem to get all that pissed about it because that's just the way I am. Is it alpha? I don't know, I don't care. It's me being me and the world around me can figure out a way to deal with it. I certainly don't have arguments over it. In fact, if my wife were to call me on it, I'd probably say something like "well she has a really nice ass" at which point my wife would probably laugh and agree.
/r/askMRP20/11/16 06:08 AM
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So read it again. Nowhere does it say to buy the sidebar books and tell your husband to get reading.
/r/askMRP20/11/16 12:03 AM
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Well that spiel didn't seem entirely useless, the part about self-awareness is pretty good. Coming to grips with the fact that you care more about getting your dick wet in some strange than you do about your marriage is probably a step you ought to reconcile yourself with before you decide to go down that path. It does moralize pretty heavily - "If cheaters can’t express their shitty values." I'm not sure if valuing your physical and emotional desires over a relationship is objectively wrong. A …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 10:03 PM
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There's also a difference between intentionally provoking a situation and just letting her stomp around the house if she doesn't get her way.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 06:26 AM
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Seems like you could go get a new 18 year old girl that's a 5 in SMV and she'd probably be down to fuck whenever. Who honestly believes she's only ever fucked one guy anyways. There are plenty of guys here making the most of a shitty situation because there's a significant downside to walking away. Many of them end up walking away in the end anyways. Don't take the ability to make the best of a bad situation as an excuse to endure a bad situation if you don't need to.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 10:37 PM
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Some things I've learned over the years that seem applicable to your situation. A relationship doesn't have to last forever to be worthwhile. I'd take a week long fling where I'm banging some hot girl like a screen door in a hurricane over a year long mediocre relationship. Which one do you think you are going to be remember fondly in 10 years? The first 3-6 months are the best ones in any relationship. Things will start going downhill after 1 year, by year 2 you'll be sick of fucking her. A qua…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:46 PM
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Your partner has a mental conundrum on her hands. On the one hand, rationally, she should be able to fuck you better. She wants you to stick around and not leave and this is obviously a problem. On the other hand she doesn't feel like fucking you better, which we all know is really a biological reaction she can't help. Of course her admitting that to herself dooms the relationship, so she's stuck in a pattern of cognitive dissonance where her rational mind will come up with some reason that reco…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 08:38 PM
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It seems to me that OP's wife would be out the door tomorrow if she had the financial means to do so. She hates being home so much that she stays late at work and then drinks herself into a coma when she gets home.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 06:30 PM
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Every time you commit to doing something, then don't follow through you are going to get shit tested.
/r/askMRP15/11/16 03:43 AM
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Mistakes you made: Making a commitment to No Shave November that you didn't have the balls to follow through on Changing your mind and shaving because your wife made you Passive aggressively using malicious compliance to piss off your wife by not shaving all the way Arguing a point that could have been made just as easily by not shaving and going to the photo op. Unless she can hold you down and shave you or prevent you from getting to the photo op, it's really out of her hands isn't it?
/r/askMRP15/11/16 02:49 AM
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I struggle with this myself. The answer to most of those questions is negative. I'm not really sure what benefit I get out of being married. I didn't sign up to come home every day to a stressed out, overweight wife who provides me with zero support. It's a constant drain and the fact that I'm strong enough to keep myself positive doesn't mean that it's an acceptable way to live my life long term. Maybe my leadership is shit, but I've been doing my best to move my wife in a productive direction …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 02:34 AM
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I've certainly been with women in the past that just let me do whatever the fuck I wanted whenever the fuck I wanted. I just simply didn't understand this stuff when I chose to get married years ago. I'm not quite willing to torch a marriage and fuck up my kid over some kind of sex my wife won't have with me. Hell, if it was really that important to my life I could call up an ex and be balls deep within 24 hours. So yes, this is a guide for getting out of a situation where you've already lost. O…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/16 09:14 AM
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My childhood was difficult too and I know exactly what you mean about the stoicism and self control. The difficulty is that you'll have trouble forming attachments to others and that can ultimately lead to less happiness. After all, we are social creatures and are biologically tuned to require meaningful human interaction.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/16 07:59 AM
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Most people will be attracted to someone of the opposite sex that's attractive with a generic style. Your punk rock girl or goth girl or hipster girl usually isn't going to turn down an attractive guy that isn't part of her scene. Joining a niche may help your chances in that particular niche, but overall you are going to be turning away more chances then you are generating. Cast a wide net and discard what you don't like.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/16 07:50 AM
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Every president we've had previously had gotten there through enormous amounts of wheeling and dealing and fundraising. The only way to win was to promise the farm to whoever was willing to write a check. I'm wondering what a candidate without those loyalties does. At this point, he doesn't even need money, his legacy will now be determined by his success or failure as president. In short, all the incentives are in the right place and he seems to be an intelligent man that's pretty politically c…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/16 07:28 AM
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http://www.spring.org.uk/2009/10/how-rewards-can-backfire-and-reduce-motivation.php
/r/askMRP11/11/16 07:04 AM
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There is a whole sidebar of info here. You are currently a weak person and it will take some time to change your frame of mind and position in this relationship. There's no point in giving you specific advice at the moment, there's no shortcut that will resolve this current situation. Just settle in for the long haul. Read, resist the urge to try challenging your wife and start rebuilding yourself from the ground up. Eventually you'll look back at this situation and realize that your situation i…
/r/askMRP11/11/16 05:15 AM
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If you are willing to sacrifice yourself for others, there's always going to be someone that's willing to collect on it. In some cases your sacrifice will be a worthwhile contribution to a cause greater than yourself, and at times it will be met with praise and some sort of reward. However, don't count on the praise and the reward - if the action is worthwhile on it's own then that's all the reward you need. Quite often you'll find that no one even appreciates your sacrifice, in fact over time i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 05:44 PM
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Now I'm not going to dismiss any of the value that comes out of the military. I was in myself and learned lessons in Stoicism that have stuck with me. The research and writing on leadership and teamwork under pressure are worthwhile, as well as the reals over feels focus on actual results. The organization as a whole is the baseline definition of white knighting. If you go in thinking the populace as a whole or women are going to recognize your sacrifice, well you are going to be sorely disappoi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:15 PM
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Well it's a weekend night and the gym was unexpectedly closed. Bit late to make plans really, so I cleaned out the garage some and worked on copying some Spanish lessons. I picked those two things because they are important to me (turning the garage into a gym/office/quiet space) and learning Spanish. The things you do don't have to be amazing. It just has to be something you enjoy. You could try astronomy or camping maybe.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 05:20 AM
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I'd hang out with you but honestly you sound like a bit of a downer.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 04:12 AM
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Get there first, then complain. If it's not working at that point you need to change your surroundings so that you have more opportunities to interact with quality guys.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/16 03:43 AM
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The military is the most beta organization in the world. The whole premise is the sacrifice of the work and lives of men for the good of society. Sure there are leaders within that exhibit alpha qualities, but they must do so from a completely BP frame. Otherwise, you'd analyze your personal situation, realize that the paycheck isn't worth risking your life or being deployed for months and move on at the next opportunity.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 09:41 PM
4

Link to the article: https://therationalmale.com/2016/11/04/blue-pill-alphas/
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 08:00 PM
1

At this point, does it even matter?
/r/askMRP02/11/16 04:34 AM
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If you are on mobile, there should be a link to "about this community." One of the books is When I Say No I Feel Guilty which should help you. Your wife's illness may be real, but you'll eventually come to resent it if you don't come to a healthy way to deal with it that doesn't ruin your life too. It's no surprise to me that she shits on you whenever you help her, that's pretty much the natural consequence.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 03:12 AM
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Playing sick and using you as a punching bag are two sides of the same coin. She's getting attention and keeping you invested. It's a game she plays and it requires two people. If she's playing sick, make yourself scarce. Empathize with her, tell her you are sure she'll feel better soon and then leave. The punching bag game is easily defeated using the techniques in When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Once you've taken away the reward, the games can stop. Expect one last desperate push to play the old …
/r/askMRP02/11/16 01:23 AM
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If you are staying for a few months on good advice from your lawyer, just play it beta and give up the chore sex if you have to. It's just sex. You'll survive. Just make sure she doesn't get pregnant.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 01:12 AM
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My wife is a piece of work - doesn't want to follow, doesn't want to lead. I don't really discuss much about the decisions. I certainly run it by her to try to catch some feedback, but that isn't usually a productive exercise. So mainly I just choose and tell her what she needs to do. If she wants to buck it, I just let her buck until she gets worn out and then we move on. I mean sure she wants to do XYZ, but will she actually take the steps to make it happen? Not yet anyways.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 05:55 AM
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She doesn't like the loss of control and doesn't trust your decisions blindly. It may be you, it may be her, but that is what this conversation is about. The idea of you just picking frightens her. There's no hard and fast rule that says you have to run the decisions by her, but it certainly builds good will if things aren't coming out of left field and her input seems like it counts for something. Certainly a good leader takes input and makes use of it, as well as making unpopular decisions whe…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 05:46 AM
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If you want advice on how to cheat on your wife, I don't know if this is the right place. Your handling was shit, you can't read between the lines and you can't decide what you want, even if it falls into your lap. I predict that you'll chicken out and reminisce for years about the one that got away or you'll actually do it, feel like shit and confess to relieve your guilt, setting off a shitstorm you are ill equipped to handle.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 03:17 AM
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How she reacts is unimportant. If you are done, all that is left is to quietly make arrangements to get a divorce while you keep up the act for the next few months. Get all your ducks in a row, get a new place, move your shit out and then tell her. I'm not going to try to convince you to stay, she's no great loss and marriage sucks. If you had kids or something it might be worth trying to turn the current marriage around, but you don't and it's not. Keep it simple - giving a reason gives somethi…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 12:24 AM
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If she wanted to fuck you, she'd find a way. You keep taking her words at face value when you should just ignore them and focus on her actions.
/r/askMRP29/10/16 12:53 AM
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If you sense that it's a power game, it probably is. Figure out what she's getting from it and then rewrite the script to deny her the reward. If she's having fun working you up and then withholding, deny it by not caring and moving on to something else. If it's validation she's looking for, don't give her an ounce of it until after you've fucked her. This sounds a lot like some of the PUA scripts from Bang to be honest - never let the women move you from one location to another or ditch one gir…
/r/askMRP28/10/16 08:15 PM
1

I want her to get a job by January Maybe break that down into a goal that's shorter term, more manageable and fully in her control. Examples - Apply for 1 job per day on the weekdays, spend an hour a day reading novels in English.
/r/askMRP28/10/16 07:34 PM
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The acne and resulting sensitivity are ultimately her issues. Just because she has a problem doesn't mean that you need to fix it for her. It sounds like she's already taking care of the problem herself for the most part. This captain-save-a-ho personality trait is something you need to train yourself out of. It's perfectly fine to see the problem, acknowledge the problem, and then express your confidence that she'll take care of it. Instead focus on your own problems - which in this case that y…
/r/askMRP28/10/16 07:10 PM
1

The sidebar is really, incredibly detailed. I had zero trouble following it. Are you stuck somewhere? Do you need a concrete first step?
/r/askMRP27/10/16 06:24 PM
1

Motorcycles and snowboarding can help you get a fix
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 04:21 AM
1

It's not really about money, it's about your time. I could drive a V8 truck around or an expensive car, but I'd rather spend less years sitting in an office. When it really sinks in that you are literally trading away a piece of your life for that object, you start to care more. You may still get it, but frugality is all about making wise trades of time for stuff that actually adds to your happiness. And if that's a V8 truck for you, then that sounds like a good choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 04:05 AM
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If natural consequences will enforce the lesson in a way that isn't unsafe without you needing to lift a finger, there's no point in arguing it. Let him make his choice and have cold legs. You also could try giving him two choices, both of which work for you. Would you like to bring your coat or a sweatshirt?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 03:54 AM
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This one is like peeling back layers on an onion. You assume that you don't want to be the guy you think represents alpha. It's an ego defense mechanism. In reality, when you look back at it, you'll wonder why you ever spent years neglecting your body. You aren't naturally thin and it's not impossible for you to gain weight. You just aren't eating enough. End of story. Go sub to /r/gainit and get on a reputable starting program and follow the advice in the FAQ. You'll build muscle, I guarantee i…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 11:42 PM
1

In my case, things eventually got better. For one, I stopped pushing my wife in a particular direction. She doesn't respond well to that due to issues with her dad. I also stopped any passive aggressive or subtle hints. I kept my personal progress moving. The other problem is that it takes time for your wife to wake up to the new reality. Self-improvement is a slow process. Her perception of you and herself is also slow changing. When you take that into account, she's probably reacting now to th…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 10:26 PM
2

I just got through the whole pregnancy/newborn ringer myself. Obviously there's a time period where sex is just medically impossible, but most women stretch that period for months. You have to realize that your needs aren't even on the radar for her. Biologically she's programmed to get pregnant and then prioritize her kids. If she can't or shouldn't get pregnant then sex is off the table. If you internalized the concept that she doesn't really love you, she loves what you do for her then you'll…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 09:34 PM
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Whenever an argument takes a major, illogical left turn towards a seemly unrelated subject, you'd hit the heart of the issue. There's no point wasting time on the original subject. Your wife wants to have a baby and she's not feeling secure in the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 09:10 PM
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I'd love for you to be wrong, but it's just the rational conclusion of all of this. Some combination of the sunk cost fallacy and cognitive dissonance seems to be to blame for everyone ignoring this fact.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 08:58 PM
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You can't bear silence because your conscious is running the show and the thought patterns aren't productive. The book "The Power of Now" discusses how to gain control over your mind so that you can turn it off to get some sleep or maintain a relaxed state of mind during stressful situations. Practiced and developed, it helps in a lot of categories from shit tests to job and test performance. It will even help you with this current problem you are having. The book "The Way of the Superior Man" a…
/r/askMRP20/10/16 07:02 PM
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Doubling down is incredibly effective. It's kinda similar to Agree and Amplify except you don't go to absurd levels. Every time she continues down the path, it gets a bit worse. She'll soon learn to let it slide or give up the first time you double down. Example in your case: Her: "I can't believe you hugged that girl that was flirting with you!" You: "Really, you think she was into me?" Now at this point she's really out of options. Continuing means making it worse, admitting she overreacted le…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 09:29 PM
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You are trying to be a decent guy that takes others feelings into account and I get it. It seems to make sense even. When I was 19, I would have been stuck doing the same thing because TRP didn't even exist and that's what Mommy raised me to do. Her feelings are her responsibility. If she gets feels and can't deal with it productively then it's not your issue. If you get really pissed off that it's raining - is it her problem? Can she stop the rain? No. You can't change the world into one that w…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 07:47 PM
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She can't make you reach into your wallet and pull out the money, so stop debating it.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 05:06 AM
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If I were your partner, I'd question the marriage. You are caught in a struggle between your potential husband, your career and your father. There are plenty of women out there that would have an easy time making that choice. I'd rather spend my life with one of them.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:44 AM
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It was dumb to agree to this. Next time the phrase you are looking for is "XYZ is inappropriate behavior for a married woman." That said, who gives a fuck. Don't be a try-hard. Go, have fun, be your regular awesome self. Any effort spent trying to impress anyone or compete with her ex will just make you look insecure. Definitely keep the drinking to a minimum though. Odds are good that he'll fuck up his own game without you needing to lift a finger. The reality of a person 20 years later is ofte…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:15 AM
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Best I got is kids that turn out well and love you. Perhaps there's also some happiness in having meaningful family connections even if you can't cry on your wife's shoulder. At the end of the day, probably about 75% of what you are "doing for your marriage" and making yourself into a martyr for is ultimately irrelevant to how much you get laid. Do with that as you will.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:59 AM
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Right. I do think that OP has foundational problems he should fix before trying to go head to head with the ol' battle axe though. The thing with dropping the foot is that you've got to be willing to follow it through till the bitter end. It's better done when you are sure of yourself and have picked a hill you aren't going to die on.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 02:54 PM
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I don't buy it. They aren't having sex because their fucking fat and have substituted entertainment for human interaction. If the average hippy boomer had a BMI of 28 they probably wouldn't have been having much sex either.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 12:43 AM
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I meant her usage of the church in your marriage Imagine yourself as having 5 giant buttons on your chest. One says "Church", one's got her dad's name on it, another has "For the Children!" on it, and you can probably tell me what's labeled on the other two. Now whenever your wife wants to win an argument, she just looks down on your chest, pushes the appropriate button and you go away.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 12:04 AM
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I second that book recommendation. He also wrote a version of that book for women that might be worth a read too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 11:30 PM
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The Church is a gigantic shit test. So is "her dad told her." Treat it as such.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 11:01 PM
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Right, so then her "traditional Catholic" beliefs are just a manipulation tactic to get what she wants. It's just a mere coincidence that God always agrees with her. These tactics are common - it's always God or the children that need XYZ, not her. In fact I'll even go out on a limb here and guess that some of the stuff coming from "Dad" is coming from her too. Have you actually witnessed him saying these things? I actually take back what I said earlier because I was operating under the assumpti…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 10:57 PM
2

Why do you waste your time arguing these things? Your wife clearly understands receiving commands and given the biblical tilt I doubt she'll willfully do something else. You just need some good, old fashioned putting your foot down. Make the decisions, then you tell your wife what they are. Stop asking for her approval. Input will be considered, approval is not needed. Go look at a few parochial schools, invite her to come along, ask for her opinion, then pick one and put your child on the list.…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 07:08 PM
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He entered into a contract to stay with her for the rest of his life and presumably having kids was discussed and agreed upon. Now he's backing out of that contract. If you signed a contract to deliver goods to a business, and then later found out you'd be unable to deliver the goods, you'd owe them a timely notification so that they could make other arrangements.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 01:38 AM
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When did I ask him to put it in front of his goals? If I had done that, I would have told him to get her pregnant and have kids. Instead I told him to identify his own priorities and then be proactive about making the choices. Not putting other people's desires in front of your own doesn't mean you need to just ignore them as having no consequence. Being a good leader means taking other's desires into account as well. Just in general, pointless stepping on others dreams and priorities isn't goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 09:07 PM
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Eh I thought about it when I wrote it and I stand by it. What are we without empathy and consideration for others? You should absolutely put yourself first, but that doesn't mean treating everyone else like garbage. You seem like the dog in the manger here - you don't eat the grain but don't let the oxen eat either.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 05:20 PM
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If you really don't want kids and dislike marriage, don't take it out on your wife. She's got a biological imperative to have kids and she needs to do it sooner than later. You at least owe it to her to figure out what the hell you want sooner rather than later and then follow through. If you don't want to be married and have kids, tell her that it would probably be better to get divorced so she can get started on finding another husband that does.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 09:47 PM
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So real life example, bought a 3 year old Prius for $12k. Which was on the expensive side, honestly I would typically go for a 5 year old Toyota Matrix or similar which should run $5k-$7k. In this case the per mile rate and presentability were crucial for a sales job. The car should last roughly 15 years, meaning I can reasonably draw down the cost over 12 years. That puts it at $1k per year. Gas runs $40 a month, oil changes, tires and brakes plus registration runs about $500 per year. Insuranc…
/r/askMRP15/10/16 05:39 PM
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I meant dropping their transportation cost from $20k to $5k, which will result in a 15% savings rate. $5k per year will easily buy you two quality but used vehicles. I actually spend far less, about $2k per year including gas, maintenance and replacement costs.
/r/askMRP15/10/16 04:38 PM
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Point one is just factually incorrect. The average family spends 20% of their income on transportation. Buying 5 year old, efficient, reliable vehicles with cash would give most people a 10-15% savings rate which would take care of retirement. You don't have to buy a beater, you can pick up a Honda or Toyota and keep it looking clean. OP would probably do well with a used Lexus that gets decent gas mileage.
/r/askMRP15/10/16 03:23 AM
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Stay single until you are at least 35. Work your ass off while living like you are poor and invest the difference until you are financially independent. You can keep the money off the table via prenup if you choose to marry and you can take care of the kids if you guys end up split or divorced which pretty much takes child support off the table.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 01:14 AM
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Men are good at overt communication. Have you tried "I'd like to have sex more often." It's a simple stating of your desire without an expectation attached. Then you let him fix it.
/r/askMRP13/10/16 12:05 AM
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Well in that case, she's just demonstrated that she controls this relationship. Full stop. Sit down and have a good think for a minute. Did she waste her time considering how you'd react? Does she care if you don't get your needs met? No, she knew that you'd have no choice but to deal with it. And you know what - no matter what words get said, she's right. Here you are attempting to rationalize it. You aren't dealing with a "bug" here - this is the operating system and this is how it operates. I…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 09:12 PM
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What do you want out of this relationship? Clearly she wants to get married and she's willing to use sex as a bargaining chip. If it works - what do you think she'll do next time she wants something? My response would be not to negotiate with a sexual terrorist and break up with her. Don't mention the lack of sex, just cite something vague like "going in different directions" and wish her the best in her life.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 06:14 PM
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I agree with your point, but haven't you at this point traded in your servitude of one type for another? Personally, I'd prefer a life where I don't have to run around every day like a worker bee until I drop dead. It may not be "badass" but the purpose of my life is not for others to be impressed.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 05:59 PM
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I just told her once that her requests were insulting and lazy and she'd have to go fetch her own stuff. I didn't really spend that long on the fetch requests before I realized it was just laziness and signed off from it while still in BP land. Otherwise you can take a page out of Parenting with Love and Logic - genuinely empathize with the problem, then express confidence that she can handle it. Example - "Good idea to drink some water, I'm sure you can grab some from the filter."
/r/askMRP11/10/16 03:34 PM
2

So here's a FR from the other side of the coin. Wifey (kid is 4 months old) reports back from her mommy clubs that she's the only one having sex. So it's not exactly unusual in BP world that you aren't getting laid at this point. It's really a result of biology (nature designed her not to get pregnant right after the child is born) and your complete lack of power in the relationship. The difference between me and the other chumps not getting laid is that I have the power to ask for what I want. …
/r/askMRP07/10/16 10:14 PM
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It took you 18 years to dig this hole, it's going to take you a lot longer than 3 months to get yourself out. The good news is that you can stop worrying about passing every little shit test and just focus on improving yourself. If you aren't successful, no one is going to want to follow your lead. Forget weighing the family, weigh yourself and make a chart to put on the wall to track your own weight. If it's obviously working well for you, the maybe she'll ask you to make a chart for her. Or ma…
/r/askMRP06/10/16 06:29 PM
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For black men in the US at least, I'd blame the systematic removal of their culture during the slave trade. The beta traits are hammered in by society to ensure the group's survival at the expense of the individual if necessary. If you lose the culture and no longer require men to cooperate for survival, you are going to end up with purely alpha behaviors.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/16 01:14 AM
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You pushed her to the breaking point. She's fucking stuck, she knows it and she hates it. By the sound of it, she hates you too. That's the way this works for stubborn partners - the pressure slowly but surely cranks up until your partner can either change or break. Your partner is going to break. Let it happen. Don't get involved in the war of words. You are already winning. When she's losing her shit in the middle of the night, don't engage. Just let her have her meltdown and don't give her an…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 12:44 AM
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Make sure interactions with your wife are sexual throughout the day, not just when you go to bed. You are aiming for playful, fun, sexually charged interactions, not humping her leg like a Chihuahua. Interact with women other than your wife. If you are successfully playing catch and release in the wild, you won't be so reliant on your wife to fulfill your desire to be desired. If you aren't there yet on your MAP, go ahead and wait until you do get there. Try varying your approach, maybe you'd ge…
/r/askMRP06/10/16 12:17 AM
1

Damn I was hoping for a copy. Nothing to get the wife more annoyed than excitedly jumping out of bed when you get rejected with "More data for the spreadsheet! I've almost got enough to make a pie graph. What's the barometer reading at?"
/r/askMRP06/10/16 12:03 AM
1

It's a lie. It's not really a deliberate lie and probably one that she believes herself. The source is generally some sort of cognitive dissonance - typically "I'm not into sex with my husband but I'm supposed to be" or "Good girls aren't sexual and I'm a good girl." There are surely other possible reasons and sometimes physical or psychological problems in the way, but generally it's one of those two things. I've been with women that have built up a whole image of themselves being a non-sexual …
/r/askMRP05/10/16 11:44 PM
2

Did you make a spreadsheet?
/r/askMRP05/10/16 11:31 PM
2

After reading the full story, it's a fight over who gets to wear the captain's hat. Never get into a fight over who gets to wear the captain's hat, if you really were the captain, everyone would know it. You had a plan that involved your wife driving that night, and she drank too much. Now I doubt it was entirely deliberate, but I'm sure that somewhere along the way to grab her third drink she thought to herself "no big deal, I'll just go get the car tomorrow" which would be 100% fine except for…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 01:47 AM
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Use that time to take stock of your life, to ponder how things got here, spending your evenings watching TV shows you don't like, with a woman who doesn't seem to like you very much. That one line alone is just pure gold.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 12:34 AM
1

Last weeks: Neglecting the gym - hit the gym as scheduled last week, feels great. This week should be fine too BF% - Didn't buy any beer but did manage to drink some. I wasn't really keeping track of weight loss, but I'll do a reality check to make sure I'm losing some weight. Budget - It's been pretty easy honestly. First month of being back on budget is almost over and we aren't robbing Peter to pay Paul so looks like it's working well. Decluttering - scheduled for a few weekends from now when…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 03:26 AM
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I'd say that 9/10 times the why is either obvious or unimportant. I mean there's certainly a point after repeated failure where you should step back and analyze the plan, but that still falls into the category of how. The type of person that ends up here usually spends too much time in the thought category and not nearly enough time in the action category. The type of person that's too much action and not enough thinking doesn't end up on Reddit posting about theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 10:16 PM
1

It's not that expensive to get a hotel room once a week or to rent a small studio near your work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:20 AM
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Honestly, it sounds like she's running out the clock to get to the possibility of life long alimony and more of your assets as she walks away. As a litmus test, why don't you suggest getting a divorce and just living together? Whoever doesn't own the house could pay rent to the other, you could pay child support and you don't even have to tell your friends and neighbors.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:19 AM
5

There's a certain point even for a disciplined man where biology and emotion takes over and you are going to make decisions that you'll regret logically. Alcohol makes it far easier. It's important that you keep your mind finely attuned to that and to do whatever you need to do if you get in over your head. If you need to just stop and walk out then do it. You should probably set boundaries that help you to accomplish this. As an example, I won't be in the same hotel room as a woman. There's rea…
/r/askMRP26/09/16 07:12 PM
3

Well any time you take her out, you are going to find guys that are better than you. At the gym, dancing, etc I'm rarely going to be the best in the room. However most guys that excel in one area often suck in the others. Sure she might run into a good dancer, but is he going to be stronger than you, dress better or be successful in the rest of his life? Most of the time the answer is no and if it isn't then your fiancées excitement will last until she sees the picture of his model girlfriend. I…
/r/askMRP26/09/16 01:20 AM
7

I enjoy salsa dancing too. It's normal and polite to dance with people other than your partner on a regular basis. When I go out with my wife, I dance with other partners all the time. It's not a big deal - dancing with just one partner is actively discouraged because it doesn't teach good leading/following skills. I've only met one guy that didn't allow his wife to dance with other men and it struck me as incredibly insecure. I'd read over Never Take a Woman Fishing and decide if you even reall…
/r/askMRP25/09/16 05:15 PM
3

This doesn't require action as there's no problem. A woman at work is attracted to you - who gives a shit? Situation 100% normal. Interact with Cindy on a normal level, but keep her at a safe distance. If you hang out with her too much, you are gong to end up sleeping with her. You should mention it to your wife at some point so it doesn't look like you are hiding it, but don't let your wife even catch a whiff of you trying to drag it in front of her to make her jealous. Just "Hey you remember t…
/r/askMRP23/09/16 09:22 PM
1

OYS - 9/22/2016 I haven't done OYS in ages. Fixing that is easy enough and so here it is. I've been neglecting the gym. I hit some goals, tooks some trips and my routine slipped. I'm basically doing a shitton of volume twice a week so it's not even hard to get it done. I went last night, I'll go again tomorrow and then hop back on my scheduled routine next week. BF% is still too high. I've made enough progress on building muscle that it's probably worthwhile to let it show. I was at 26% on my fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 11:25 PM
2

You don't know for sure that she wants to move back. She may actually prefer that she doesn't have to deal with that reality day in and day out. Beyond that, you've also got to consider what is overall the best for your family. Is it mentally healthy for your wife to be looking at her dying father every day, or would it be better for her to spend some time there and some time back home? If you live 10 hours away, no one can fault her for spending time at home, but if you live next door, escaping…
/r/askMRP22/09/16 08:28 PM
1

Doing your own laundry was launching a nuke. I don't know if your intent was to destroy all comfort by making her feel completely unnecessary, but you succeeded! Don't launch the nuke unless intend to and can deal with the meltdown. You should have just let her do the laundry.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 09:13 PM
1

Next time you are in this moment ask yourself: "What would I like to do?" Then do it. If I was in the middle of some unsalvageable shitty ice queen dinner with the wife, I'd text my friends to meet me at the bar, order an Uber and when it arrived I'd drop some money on the table and leave. Of course my wife doesn't give me shitty ice queen dinners, but that may have something to do with my willingness to just go do something else instead of putting up with it.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 07:37 PM
1

It was still your choice. You didn't have to go, you didn't have to stay. You could have gone and done something interesting that you wanted to do.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 07:18 PM
1

Just make it more work for the shoes to be on the floor than it is to put them away. Go put them in a box on the other side of the house or something. I think at IKEA if you know what you want already you can skip all the human cattle migration and go straight to the end to pick up your standard issue furniture.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 06:51 PM
2

Why go? I refuse to step into an IKEA.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 05:15 PM
2

Mini-FR: I hung out with my sister for the first time in years. She's coming back from another country and probably divorcing her husband but in the meantime I've changed a lot. It's an interesting opportunity to watch the old, highly BP world come crashing against the rocks of new RP me. The pressure to fall in line is just intense. She was busy railing against me keeping up with my hobbies after recently having a son which just rubbed me the wrong way. Like I'm supposed to just give up everyth…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 05:14 PM
3

I love watches and clothes, but why not treat myself. You live once. You go to work to trade time for money. When you spend money, you are trading away a part of your life. If you only live once, why would you waste your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 04:47 PM
3

The real empowerment will happen inside marriages. It doesn't take a genius to realize that if your wife "forgets" the pill there's no way to prove it and you'll be an asshole to leave. I'm really curious to see how that plays out on a societal level.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 04:34 PM
1

You've read the sidebar, implemented it, but it hasn't really sunk in. The new relationship euphoria part of this relationship will last about 6 months, and the first year will be OK. Then you'll start seeing the downsides and by year two you'll want out. By year five, you'll be sick of fucking her. The experience you are having right now isn't going to continue. It never does, it's just human nature. She's not going to treat you better if you ditch the plates or get married to her. That will ju…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 04:29 PM
1

I don't care why. It's irrelevant to planning for the future. Maybe his kid was sick, maybe there was some emergency, maybe he just didn't give a shit and went to the beach. If there's no overall problem with his performance than I'm not even going to ask - I just want to know when it will be done. If there is an overall problem with performance, then hearing the bullshit excuses isn't going to make it any better. I just don't want to spend 5 minutes discussing failure when we've all got better …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 12:41 AM
1

Maybe you are right. I really do hope that it goes from FDA approval to wide availability. On the plus side it's going to take a while for any social effects to be noticeable which should help prevent any funded opposition. I'm just not going to be shocked either if all the sudden it becomes an issue. You would hope that the FDA is neutral enough and the court rulings in favor of the right to contraception make it a non-issue even if does ruffle a few feathers.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/16 12:01 AM
1

It's the escape fantasy - you escape for a month, the whole thing is awesome, your wife decides she wants a divorce and now all of your problems are cured in one magic vacation without you needing to be responsible for it. It's normal to have an escape fantasy. It's your mind trying to resolve the conflict in a way that makes you feel not guilty. The fantasy just isn't accurate - in real life you are going to have to have the conflict in order to get what you want. Someone's toes are going to ge…
/r/askMRP19/09/16 11:41 PM
1

Beyond that, you'll save money on insurance and as soon as you pay off the loan you can drop the full coverage if you can recover from a $5000 loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 10:38 PM
3

It still matters - if you buy the car a few years used then you can get it for 1/2 the original price with 3/4 of it's useful lifespan left.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 10:35 PM
1

The women's movement is a political one, not a philosophical one. Currently it mostly seeks to move money from men's pockets to women's pockets especially if the government can get in on the action. There will always a plausible reason, but you'll notice that the end result is women getting something of value and men paying more with the government acting as referee. Something that makes it harder for women to fulfill their biological imperative and reduces the amount of revenue the state collec…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/16 10:19 PM
1

Either you need to get hotter, change your environment or change your technique. If everything is about social circles then you need to start working on expanding your social circle.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/16 09:57 PM
1

Look for women that are giving you IoIs before you approach.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/16 08:30 PM
4

It doesn't really matter. If your body language is on point, you are confident and you've correctly identified a woman that's into you then it will go fine. Stop trying to figure out what to say and just go say "Hi." As supporting evidence, I've done a cold approach from across the room, could barely speak the language and still pulled the girl. It just doesn't matter - you walking up and saying "hi" is a clear indicator that you are interested and she's already decided if she thinks you are hot…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/16 08:27 PM
2

Delivery matters. It's impossible to have good delivery with text, but your tone should be either clearly joking or deadpan if you've got coworkers that get the humor.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 05:06 PM
1

I've found the opposite. Of course the women giving me the best sex were ones that were given zero hope for a long term relationship. Is it possible that you just always happened to fall in the date him category even if you were aiming for the fuck him category? Maybe it's not starfish sex, but it's not exactly Bree Olsen quality begging for it with absolutely no limits? Personally, I had a hard time believing half the shit other guys were experiencing until it started happening to me so maybe y…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 04:30 PM
5

"No, I don't have a girlfriend, I just know a few girls that would be pissed to hear me say that." "Well I have some friends that happen to be girls... so sure I have lots of girl friends." "Last time I made friends with a girl she kept trying to get me into bed." "I'm saving myself for Mrs. Right" "Why? Who's asking?" "Not sure, haven't checked my relationship status on Facebook since Friday"
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 04:22 AM
1

Yes, the sex is a lot better if she's enjoying it.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 03:46 AM
1

You aren't wrong. It's human nature to believe that the future is doomed and things are getting worse, even in the face of overwhelming evidence. However, human behavior is quite adaptable and difficult situations make for resilient humans (and more conservative values). Easy situations make for less resilient humans (and more liberal values). It's glossing over the truth to assume that one is better than the other, the are both behaviors adapted to the circumstances. That bombshell with the Pra…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/16 11:15 PM
1

From a married guys perspective, you can certainly make your provider status non-guaranteed and you'll get more sex, but you won't necessarily get better sex. The more easily replaced the woman is, the more she'll keep fucking you to keep you around. The better sex comes from attraction. Not being able to take you for granted certainly builds some attraction, but it's the lifting and the other women hitting on you that gets you the hot sex. The first is based on logic (must fuck him or I'm gone)…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/16 10:56 PM
1

It compensates for hard water, making cheap laundry soap more effective. Not needed if you have soft water or a water softener.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/16 06:42 AM
66

Just tell your female friends to tell her that you are an asshole and not to sleep with you. Works like a charm.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/16 11:10 PM
17

I don't think it applies. Women have two basic categories for men: fuck him or date him and once you are in date him category you're toast. The real takeaway for married guys is that you can just go ahead and drop all the choreplay, making her feel secure and paying for her shit. It's not going to get you laid or keep her around either. It's all just a waste of time.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/16 11:09 PM
3

Just don't tell her what you do for a living. A bit of mystery never hurts.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 06:54 AM
19

It would be terrible for most men as well. The sexual marketplace in those countries is further skewed towards the top by polygamy and enforced restrictions on promiscuity creating a huge underclass of men that will never get laid. That's why they have all those restrictions on women, it's just not safe for women there.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/16 10:23 PM
1

The whole sport is about controlling a fight from the ground and keeping yourself from getting punched or bitten. If you can't handle defense only against an untrained, out of shape woman than you haven't even grasped the very basics of BJJ. In all seriousness after about 3 lessons you have all the skill needed to control that attack. The main mistake that teen made (who still didn't have much trouble) was to let her get within striking distance of his face and body when he could have just maint…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 05:48 PM
4

Why not serve her a soda water with lemon?
/r/TheRedPill23/08/16 11:45 PM
6

BJJ is pretty good for this sort of thing. Not throwing a punch makes you look less aggressive and more defensive to the untrained, plus there's a lot of focus on controlling the situation. Fighting an untrained woman like this guy was doing isn't even much of a challenge and he could have made it look like he was losing to a bystander. All he really had to do was lay on his back, hold her wrists and use his legs to maintain distance and wait for her to tire herself out. An example of how harmle…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/16 11:40 PM
17

You have nothing to gain from her You could absolutely play her off other girls to increase your own SMV. It's like LendingTree's commercial - When girls compete, you win.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/16 07:45 PM
7

You shouldn't have much trouble blending in with those circles. I generally prefer spending less and staying in hostels and to be honest most people that are bad with money can't conceive of having money and not spending it so you'll slip right under the radar. Just let them have their silly conversations about how the 1% is screwing them over or consumerism is ruining the world while playing with their iPhone. Just change the subject to something else and move on. Don't get sucked into their pr…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/16 07:37 PM
4

None of the above even requires women to be biologically different than men. If a man grew up in such an environment where he was sheltered from the consequences of his actions, you'd see similar behavior at least until he came into contact with society (see "affluenza teen" and try to find a female counterpart). Yes, it is true that women's brains mature earlier than men in the sense that the pathways get more fixed (and useful) sooner. Source However, men start out with more connections, finis…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/16 04:23 PM
2

This is the way social interactions work, there's no benefit to burying your head in the sand and ignoring it. Even if you don't want a girlfriend, it still impacts your every day life. It's in the sidebar: http://a.trp.red/13 Also: http://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-or-the-office-according-to-the-office/
/r/TheRedPill30/07/16 03:11 AM
1

Most people seem to take exercise and treat it like an add-on to their daily routine. It takes up hours and it's boring at best. I'm sure it works for some, but it's not surprising that other's don't stick with it. There are all sorts of ways to add some physical activity to your daily routine. If you lack willpower, then you can set up situations where you basically force yourself to get some exercise. If you have a tendency to take the easy way out, make the easy way the one that involves exer…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 07:48 PM
13

It's a dialog that happens over time. She's just giving you signals that she'd be ok with the relationship moving on, but of course she wants it to seem like your idea. You don't need to react that day or even that week. Avoid any situations where overt communication is used and rejection is a possibility. It makes for awkward rejections. As an example, do not ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" Instead, invite her to a social event where it's going to be obvious that she's your girlfriend…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 06:58 PM
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His mistake was taking covert communication and turning it into overt communication. her mother was going to love me and that her father would probably get on well with me because I was just like him Covert communication. She's saying that she sees a future with him where he meets her family. I chuckled and teasingly said, "So what, are we some kind of couple now?" Overt communication. Here is where she gets rejected and the hamster does the rest. A better response would just be to simply ignore…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 06:10 PM
19

Just change the 'r' in reddit to a 'c' and you can see the deleted comments. Mostly anecdotes and people that can't comprehend a marriage where your wife does the housework, even when the linked article clearly shows that it has no effect on divorce rates.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 01:29 AM
2

They care what the shareholders think
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 04:01 PM
7

You don't need to wait until 65 to retire. You can retire at 55, or even 45 or 35 or even 25. It's a simple function of your savings rate. It's quite seriously possible to retire after 5 years worth of work if you can live on 10% of your salary. Not possible you say? Here's the story of a guy that did it. The benefit of walking away from consumerism is that you get your time back.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 10:27 PM
2

Azure, Exchange, Office, Office 365, Sharepoint, Skype, Hyper-V, File Sharing? Microsoft dominates in a lot of enterprise applications beyond desktop and server OS.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 04:21 PM
12

If you were a good CEO, how much would they have to pay you to run a company that's headed down the tubes? It's not good for your career and it's shit for morale because your basic job is going to be cutting jobs, selling off what you can and trying to prepare what's left of your core value to be attractive to the highest bidder. When you are done making enemies, the news and board of directors will put all the blame on you and fire you publicly. Failing companies need good CEOs, perhaps more th…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 04:16 PM
3

making a family will reap larger rewards than all the other stuff a man can do, including fantastical hobbies. Thats why bother. Kinda preaching to the choir here, I'm married and we just had a kid. It's great, don't get me wrong, but there are also downsides. Although there's no real need to choose between fantastical hobbies and family, I do both. Who cares if these young men were SMP competitors? they're suffering and need a hand. I'm not suggesting they go die in a fire, but TRP just provide…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 09:34 PM
1

Well sign me up for the time machine then and I'll go fix it.
/r/MGTOW25/07/16 09:15 PM
1

That's a bit frightening. I mean in theory she owes you for the mortgage payments but good luck collecting. You might be able to sue and get a lien on the house since the court order should specify the responsibility for paying the mortgage, refinancing and selling the house. It definitely pushes me more towards accelerating the payoff of my mortgage.
/r/MGTOW25/07/16 09:08 PM
20

It seems perfectly rational to me. Historically, only 50% of men have managed to pass their genes along. As a rough estimate, you could say men that are SMV 5 and up have an opportunity to choose the Beta lifestyle. Men that are SMV 8 and up can use the Alpha mating strategy. You might not be the guy that gets your wife wet, but you've got a check and you will stick around and so you trade commitment for sex and end up fulfilling your biological imperative. These days you can even paternity test…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 08:32 PM
8

Let them get worse. Really, it won't hurt her to lose her shit, cry, get mad for a week and sulk around. You don't need to participate in it or save her from herself and you can always leave if it gets too annoying. Feel free to have a good laugh at how comical it is while you are at it.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 06:34 PM
5

Flip your question around and ask if there's anything to be learned in such a relationship. It seems like you were getting your ass kicked at chess so you chose to quit and play checkers. You could alternatively use it as an opportunity to play chess. Maybe my view is skewed as I'm married and I'm stuck playing chess, but all of those things are pretty easy to solve, but overt power moves aren't going to really work the same way. basically talked shit about me To you or to her friends? If she wa…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 06:39 PM
13

Soda water with a lemon looks like a drink and has no calories.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/16 12:34 AM
1

The average Joe has no concept of what becoming rich actually looks like. You, like many others, confuse high income with rich. Most people would agree that they want to be millionaires, but in reality what they want is the experience of spending a million dollars they didn't have to earn. Becoming a millionaire is the exact opposite of spending a million dollars - you need to make a million dollars more than you spend. Most of the people living lavish lifestyles are just as broke as you are, th…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/16 07:54 PM
1

Oh I already got married before TRP was even on my radar. Sure I can do whatever within reason, but without the baggage of family I could really push the envelope a lot harder in terms of my goals.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/16 11:46 PM
3

Jesus, you sound just like me. Still not sure if it's worth it.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/16 12:17 AM
3

I will say that around 90% of the time, an apology is the wrong choice. If you understood the consequences before you did it, and then did it anyways, you aren't sorry. If you actually cared, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. You only regret being caught or are being forced to apologize as part of some type of power struggle or shaming. If you keep finding yourself in situations where you need to apologize you either need to change your behavior or stop apologizing for doing what you…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/16 11:35 PM
1

What sort of videos did you find most helpful?
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 06:52 PM
2

It took me a lot longer than that to get past it.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 06:49 PM
1

Ask halfway through the dance if you've never danced with her before.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 05:30 PM
1

Maybe try a different location? I've never had a girl turn me down for a dance where I am. To be honest though the more experienced dancers are often kinder than the less experienced ones, they get the fact that you have to dance to get better.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 04:48 PM
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You'll soon find the real TRP truth in ballroom dancing - women only want to dance with partners that are at their level or better. Unfortunately, it can take a bit longer for the guys to improve since leading is just more complicated. At some point though when it starts becoming second nature you'll really take off. The Salsa Beginner Hell graph really nails the point. Get prepared for shit testing on the dance floor. The natural consequence of this is that a lot of guys get discouraged and qui…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 12:06 AM
1

I started at 155 and skinny-fat, which takes a surprisingly long time to work your way out of. Going to 180 and adding a bunch of muscle was a big improvement, cutting back down to 165 was hell. Now I actually ponied up for the DEXA scan to see where I'm at and getting down to 20% BF is the next step. It's certainly going to be a multiple year journey.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/16 05:48 PM
0

pull way more bitches being lean 185 then bulked 230 any day Thanks for that data point. My experience has been that people simply treat you better as become physically larger. Size is power to some extent and power is attractive. I'm wondering if that's a function of me starting from a lower weight. Currently 170lbs and 27% BF and if I was magically down to 10% BF I'd weigh 140 lbs.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/16 04:56 PM
55

My winning formula - I just do 30 minute first dates. Get a drink at a bar or boba or coffee. Don't waste time chatting on a dating site or texting, just tell her to come meet you for coffee or drink after work. If you get some resistance, say you learn more about a person in 5 minutes in person than you do in hours online and you don't have time to chat endlessly. If she won't meet up, just ignore her and move on. Meet her there, try to time it to be around 1-3 minutes late. Enough time that sh…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 11:22 PM
3

You keep your hands out of your pockets. I usually step outside, turn around and ask if she's ready which is generally the cue for her to grab on once she's sorted her coat/purse situation. I really think it's more about the timing than any signal. If she doesn't take your arm then just walk with her it's not a big deal.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 10:58 PM
29

Helping the girl get a drink seems pretty pointless to me. Better to walk past her, get your drink, and give her a look as you go back. It's rage inducing and honestly any emotional response is a win.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 10:46 PM
15

Yes, it's a regional/cultural thing. If that's not the culture where you are, it can get awkward fast.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 10:36 PM
2

Bad idea. It gives the government a convenient excuse to label him as a hatemonger and take away his speech.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 06:10 PM
1

It doesn't matter what she does because it's not his problem any more.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 06:08 PM
1

Realistically audio is a lot easier to hide, record and leave going 24 hours a day. The same goes for keeping a journal of each and every incident. The journal itself may not be much for evidence, but being able to accurately recount each incident in detail does a lot for your credibility.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 02:38 PM
1

Time for the Socratic method. You like to date hot girls right? And fat ones? Yeah not so much. Everyone likes dating hot girls correct? What advice would you give a girl friend if she couldn't get a date and was out of shape?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 02:27 PM
3

if stupid people weren't destroying the universe. If it's any consolation, the people that built everything around you weren't any brighter.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 05:15 AM
1

You'll have none of the marks of Alpha in her culture and you'll look like a walking wallet to her. Don't be surprised when you end up with a woman that considers you a useful idiot.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 07:10 PM
4

Married with a kid here. By all means have a kid, support your kid and even live with the mom. Not having a ring on your finger means two things: you can walk if you want and her quality of life is dependent on you choosing to stay. Both mean she'll treat you better. If you show both Alpha and Beta qualities and only sleep with women you think would make good moms, it's only a matter of time until one "accidentally" gets pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 07:06 PM
2

Good. Call her up and ask if you can come down for a week to job hunt. Who cares if she's a bitch? Keep your head down and stay out of her way. Seriously, make yourself invisible and canvas the whole fucking town looking for a job. Find a hostel in the town and see what their rates are and if they have any leads on employment. Look for a bedroom for rent they generally are less picky. Just tell potential landlords that you are turning your life around and have a job and will pay on time. Stop ta…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/16 01:22 AM
1

Like what? According to my calculations you'd need enough money for a bus ticket, one month's worth of rent and a job. If you can manage to find a friend to put you up for a month, then really you'd just need the bus ticket and the job.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/16 12:26 AM
23

Sex is like air. It's only important if you aren't getting any.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/16 11:11 PM
1

You can start fresh. There is literally nothing stopping you. Find a job in a different city, buy a one way bus ticket and just fucking leave. Get new friends, get a new place and just be a whole different person.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/16 10:58 PM
4

It's not really all that expensive. She'll probably go get a lawyer once she gets a letter from his and the lawyer will tell her to issue a public apology and admit she made it up in exchange for him dropping the lawsuit.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/16 12:56 AM
6

The money isn't the point, controlling the narrative is.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/16 12:19 AM
3

If he just lets it go, he looks weak and possibly in the wrong. If he strikes back, he makes it clear that he's not to be fucked with. As soon as she bitches about being sued, she loses the persuasion game - you don't get sued unless the other person can prove it in court. The public loves a show and righteous revenge, give it to them.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 09:07 PM
39

You aren't going to win much, in fact you'll probably spend more time and money than you'll ever get back, but you'll win the war of public opinion. It's almost inevitable that she'll go public with it as soon as she gets the notice and just the fact that she's getting sued should tip public opinion in your favor. If you are lucky, she'll go get a lawyer and the lawyer will tell her that she ought to settle by admitting she lied and making a public apology. If anyone brings it up later, you can …
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 09:00 PM
254

Sue for slander... seriously.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 05:22 PM
3

The louder a group yells about pride or power, the less of it they have.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 02:53 PM
16

Lol you actually buy that narrative? It's just more popular than telling the nation that he prefers fucking 3 new blondes each day.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 02:39 PM
0

Your study doesn't prove anything, if you are going to pick the subjects from a group of people selected partially by intelligence, the results aren't going to mean anything. The best results that I've seen are in competitive chess, but then again some of the gap is no doubt attributed to social choices. The missing piece to your puzzle is variance. Men have wider variances in outcomes so you can expect the top and bottom rungs of society to be dominated by men. It doesn't even require the avera…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 02:21 PM
10

She's got cognitive dissonance. Two conflicting ideas in her head and if ever the two should meet you are going to see sparks fly. She can't hold both the idea that she's a "good girlfriend" and flying to another country to cheat on her ex so her brain stitches together a useful lie that reconciles the two ideas - she's just going there to hang out. After she gets drunk and fucks him, she'll then move onto the next lie of "it was a drunken mistake" to free herself of blame. No one is ever the vi…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 12:12 AM
8

He just gave her enough rope to hang herself. It's a useful wisdom, works great at work too.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 12:05 AM
1

You eventually get over it. Try imagining she's a hooker and fuck her like you paid for it.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 04:36 PM
1

You know what, when I was your age I probably would have done the same thing. One day the things we've said will just click and you'll get it. In the meantime why not experiment? Flip a coin before you chat up a girl and alternate between direct game and just trying to enjoy the conversation. Then you can track the results.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 04:13 PM
1

My wife isn't going to go out, book plane tickets, choose a hotel and buy tickets. She talks about a lot of things, but then fails to do the necessary actions. So fights like OPs are just pointless in my house, we aren't going anywhere unless I book the tickets. I don't know OPs wife, maybe she has the balls to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:50 PM
3

It's like an over eager pit bull that tries to eat his kibble so fast that it scatters all over the floor. Oh well, best of luck with it.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 05:34 AM
10

Why not? I talk to lots of people, even guys. You are treating women like vending machines were you put conversation in and sex comes out. Flip the tables, sit in her shoes and think about how that comes across. You already decided you wanted to fuck her before she opened her mouth. You obviously are desperate for sex.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 05:05 AM
1

To be honest, I would just let it go. I don't know about OPs wife but the chances of my wife putting together a whole vacation are slim to none. So I just nod, give her the "OK dear" and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:51 AM
1

You are missing the power of the illusion of choice. Every 4 years we get to choose a president. Those 2 choices are carefully selected by the powers that be , but everyone feels like they have input because they get to choose. Give your wife two options that both work for you. She won't stop to think that there are more options out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:46 AM
1

So she can't stay home with her kids, she can't go have fun and she doesn't care to have sex. What value would you say you provide in this relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:40 AM
1

You shouldn't have continued the conversation beyond her snide comment. It was just bait to reel you in. Next time just don't mention anything about the game. Of course she'll be curious, but then she'll have to ask or stew over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:27 AM
1

Try showing genuine interest. Ask the other person a question about it.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 03:50 AM
2

Try showing genuine interest. Ask the other person a question about it.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 03:50 AM
8

you could waste alot of time just chatting to go for it later I'm trying to get you to a mental shift that really took my game to the next level. I started having conversations for the sake of conversation. I went to bars and clubs for the sake of just having a fun time. I took all the goals out and just sat back and observed and tried to enjoy myself. It takes off the pressure, it's like playing a sport in slow motion. You see things you never would have noticed, the playing field all of the su…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 03:42 AM
1

Address the emotion, not the content of her complaint. Girl I was dancing with was complaining about <content removed because who gives a shit> so I just move her around the dance floor, wiggle her around a bit and make her smile. Now she's having fun dancing again and both our problems are solved. Just distract her from it. Change the topic. Do something else. Make a joke. Escalate.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 03:17 AM
7

Yes it is. If you weren't in the same spot, they never would have found you. If you were practicing just talking then you could plausibly pretend that she was reading way more into it. Even game teaches you to get separation before you escalate. Doubly so for a girl with a huge ASD that will lose social standing for even the rumor of her being with you. That's why she threw you under the bus. Your phone game fails because the girls just don't have enough attraction to decide to meet up with a st…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 03:05 AM
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You are engaging in shallow conversations with the obvious goal of getting laid. The guys that are good at this make it seem natural so they get away with it. You aren't good at it and worse yet you are formulaic. Cracks me up that you use the same spot. Of course you'll never get good if you don't practice, but you can practice having genuine conversation without a specific goal in mind. It's actually more likely to pay off than specifically running pickup. Stop making your intentions so damn o…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 02:50 AM
1

You find a cute thing to follow you around. At that point, you won't even need to look, you'll just suddenly discover that you've attracted another follower.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 02:28 AM
1

A great book I read discussed becoming a Renaissance Man and broke it down to some areas of expertise. There's physical, intellectual, economic, emotional, social and technical areas to succeed in. We have a tendency to pick whichever one we are the best at as our personal yardstick. Maybe you are in the top 10% intellectually, but there are 5 other areas to succeed in. Once you are in the top 10% of all of those you can talk about it being lonely at the top. Stop looking for a partner. You just…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 02:25 AM
1

The Power of Now discusses that exact problem.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 02:17 AM
1

Imagine that we stuck you on a desert island with 100 randomly chosen women. You'd be treated like a king and you'd have a sexual marketplace that pretty much approximates what a girl in Sweden has - basically any girl will fuck you if you make yourself available. You'd spend your time fucking the 9s and 10s, the 7s and 8s you'd maybe let them hang around if they made themselves useful. The 5s and 6s wouldn't even really be worth bothering. Now imagine the 2s - fucking invisible to you. There's …
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 07:10 PM
0

Comfort is the enemy of progress. If you don't need or care to progress then it's mostly pointless to deny yourself simple pleasures. If you aren't happy with where you are, then cutting out the distractions will give you a laser focus on improving your situation.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/16 07:43 PM
1

There's a whole sidebar on /r/malefashionadvice for this.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 07:35 PM
1

I was really angry with my father when I left home 16 years ago. There was so much that pissed me off about living there and so many ways that I got fucked as a teenager. I guaranfuckingtee you that my adolescence was worse. Mainly I just didn't go home for years. Time helps a lot, it puts things into perspective. Difficulty taught me all sorts of shit, like nearly infinite amounts of patience, how to entertain myself without money and most of all a burning fire deep within me that drives me for…
/r/askTRP18/06/16 07:24 PM
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Most men go out into the world in the morning and spend a bunch of mental energy wrangling what they want out of the world. Then they go back home to face a constant drain on their energy from a wife. It's just the nature of women and it's why many men around here are opting out of marriage. That doesn't mean it can't be different. If your husband gets home and finds that his home life recharges his energy, then when he leaves the next morning he'll have more drive and ambition and that turns in…
/r/askTRP18/06/16 07:16 PM
0

No, I wouldn't trust me at all.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 07:05 PM
1

Well the online dating site is filtering your results based on how many women are clicking your picture so if you are getting all fatties then it's probably a reflection of your own profile.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 06:46 PM
23

Then you'll need to do a body weight routine while you work through those problems and hunt for a bargain on a barbell and weights. Buckets of water might do in a pinch. It's a shit sandwich, but not insurmountable.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 12:27 AM
1

Tell her to come over and talk about it then lead her straight to the bedroom.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 11:22 PM
28

Fuck your reasons. If I pointed a gun at your head and told you I'd kill you if you didn't lift, you'd all the sudden find the time and money. Make it a priority. Cut the time from something else.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 11:16 PM
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You should change that definition of Beta. Beta qualities are the ones that keep a woman around like being able to pay the bills. If you want an LTR or marriage, you'll want to pull from both Alpha and Beta qualities, erroring on the side of Alpha if in doubt. If all you've got is Beta qualities, then prepare to have to jump through hoops to get laid. If all you want is to get laid, then you have no need for Beta qualities. Alpha is what makes her want to fuck, beta is what makes you useful to r…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 10:55 PM
1

I see you've come to the conclusion yourself - there is no prize at the end of this road, so it's time to stop walking down it, no matter how far you've gone already. You've got a lot of you to work on. I'm serious with that, your problems are numerous but a year or two of working on them will bring you to a place where you've got a much better SMV and outlook on life. She's just a distraction and a waste of your time. Don't think of her again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 06:12 PM
1

Take a moment and think about what success looks like here. Let's say you improve yourself and get the girl and get married. I'd say that's the best case scenario. Congratulations, you just married a fat bitch that only married you because she had no better options and serves as a constant reminder of how pathetic you were. Break up with her and cut all contact. Don't ever look back, not even to check Facebook in 10 years. Just block her and close that chapter of your life. What happens to her i…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 02:40 AM
3

When the hamster comes out, it's more fun to just play with it. The best response is "What do you think he should have done?"
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 09:42 PM
2

If it really concerns you, you can go get a notarized agreement now that your wife won't seek alimony in the case of a divorce. Your wife can sign away alimony, but child support belongs to your kids and that's usually what costs money anyways. Permanent alimony is pretty rare these days. Most states have guidelines as to how long alimony can last and it's more about the time it takes to get back to a previously lost career. Keep in mind that you can probably move to a more favorable divorce sta…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 09:26 PM
4

If you want to have you cake and eat it too, just do multiple LTRs and ditch em after 6 months or a year. Let's face it, the first 3 months are the best ones anyways.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 07:12 PM
2

For fuck's sake, don't let her dress you. If your wife is picking out clothes for you at the mall, it's because you dress like shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 06:40 PM
9

The root of anger is that your expectations don't match reality. You can either change reality, or change your expectations, but generally changing your expectations is easier. I expect that living my life by my own rules is on occasion going to elicit anger or insults from people. The words of Arnold Schwarzenegger ring true: “You have to remember something: Everybody pities the weak; jealousy you have to earn.” I do my best to follow Rule 38: Think as you like, but behave like others. If someo…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 06:17 PM
11

When you go into a casino and put $200 on red, you are gambling. The casino on the other hand is not gambling. They are making many, many bets that have an expected positive return. Some bets may lose, but it's statistically unlikely for the casino to ever lose money. When you buy an S&P500 index fund, you are buying a small slice of 500 of the largest companies in the US. It's statistically unlikely that all of those companies will be unable to turn a profit for a significant period of time. Th…
/r/TheRedPill03/06/16 06:22 AM
2

If anyone's on the fence - you are right to be skeptical. When I first read the articles around here, I wasn't sure either. So I simply took the advice and field tested it. There are plenty of small things that articles talk about that you can test against your own theory of how the world works.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/16 01:25 AM
2

The problem with most financial advisor relationships is that the incentives for the advisor are directly at odds with your own best interest. The advisor gets paid more commission for pushing you towards high fee options and shuffling your money around to rack up fees. None of this activity is likely to increase your returns, in fact eliminating the fees and indexing instead would be practically guaranteed to increase your returns. Now if I showed up to a Toyota dealer tomorrow and found they h…
/r/TheRedPill01/06/16 01:17 AM
4

"Have you seen his girlfriend?" Shit test destroyed.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 06:15 AM
10

I don't need a wife. I just happened to have one when I discovered TRP. If she walks tomorrow, it's really no big deal. I'll have a new woman in to fuck in 24 hrs. She knows it, I know it, we don't even need to talk about it. If I want to do something that doesn't break my marriage vows, I just go ahead and do it. I'm headed out to do salsa lessons without her this month.. it's a goal of mine and she's free to join if she likes. If she can't keep up, then she can stay at home. Look, if I lead my…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 06:05 AM
13

I accomplish goals that don't include my wife all the time. She doesn't always like it, but that's her problem, not mine.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:55 AM
2

Lock eyes and then smile. If it's not working, you aren't attractive to her.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:51 AM
1

Take your biggest weakness and analyze the problem. Read a few books by experts in the area. Make a plan and deliver on it relentlessly for 6 months. Repeat with the next problem. It's not going to fix your problems overnight, but the cumulative effect of doing this for years is incredible.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:49 AM
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There is no end goal, the journey is the point. Don't expect that one day you'll be "done" and then you can sit on your ass and enjoy it. There will always be a project or pursuit, if you want to sit still then take some time to do it now. Getting married doesn't mean your life is over. Sure, some chumps get all the fun sucked out of their life, but it doesn't need to happen to you. Nowhere in your marriage vows does it say you can't pursue your dreams or you need to bend to the fears of your wi…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:43 AM
2

Treat picking your career field seriously. Interview at least 3 people who have the job and get their opinion on it. They may have tips and tricks that save you years of effort. Keep in mind that every year of school costs you not only tuition and books but also years of missed wages. If you go to a school that costs $20k a year and could make $40k a year working, a 4 year degree comes with a price tag of $240k and it's all early in your life where each dollar could be invested (or not borrowed)…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:26 AM
2

Sure it's part job, part investment, but some find it more enjoyable to do something for 10 hours per week rather than the same job for 40 hours.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 12:04 AM
2

If you are going to have a financial advisor, get one that is fee only and has a fiduciary duty from NAPFA. If you want to pay for advice you can find at the library, go ahead, but at least you won't have your wealth slowly bled out of your accounts with high fees or bullshit insurance policies.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/16 10:25 PM
5

I've seen integrated AC solar panel units. A bit expensive but at least it's a flat cost spread over the lifespan of the device.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 04:41 AM
1

A 4 plate deadlift is Powerlifting-Advanced for a person of 175 lbs. I'm at 3 plates right now just under two years. I could see hitting 4 plates before I finish my third year and I've switch up to GZCL instead of a linear program which is helping things along. Here's somewhat of an explanation based on research: https://www.t-nation.com/training/truth-about-bodybuilding-genetics It's much more than a 50% difference. While your success does depend on genetics, as a practical matter it's not real…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/16 01:46 AM
8

You keep using overt communication when covert communication will be far more effective. Wait an hour, reply back "I'm not sure what you are talking about, it's showing as uploaded on my end."
/r/TheRedPill13/05/16 01:14 AM
1

I read the whole book with plenty of review, did the program, saw a coach, the whole 9 yards. Hell, I've even read Practical Programming. I'm almost two years into lifting now and I can pull 3 plates on deadlift. A simple linear progression and 3x5 just isn't enough to push me to advance. Genetics and age play a role. That doesn't mean it doesn't work, it just means that an 18 year old with good genetics is going to hit a 4 plate deadlift a lot faster than a 35 year old with average genetics. Pl…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/16 08:19 PM
1

File your callouses down so they don't get pinched between your hand and the bar.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/16 12:54 AM
4

"I'll stop when I no longer fit through doorways."
/r/TheRedPill12/05/16 12:45 AM
1

In 2005 the DoD was doing Force Shaping and it was easy to leave if you didn't want to stick around. You'd just go tell your commander that you'd rather not be in the military and a few months later you'd be a civilian. This was combined with a push to get rid of the low performers and troublemakers, what had previously been forgivable became a one way ticket out of the military.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 12:30 AM
2

Thanks for that, it puts a new perspective on the deciding between staying and cutting loose.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 11:02 PM
7

Evolution doesn't have an end goal in mind, there is no design. There are plenty of biological quirks that no longer serve any purpose. Scientists don't really have an exact answer to what purpose it serves anyways. I wouldn't draw any strong conclusions about it. It's just as likely that gang rape was a more regular occurrence in the past, women were used by multiple men, or like bonobos used sex as a social tool.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 09:23 PM
1

It helps me to think of it this way - anger only punishes myself. If someone cuts you off in traffic, getting angry at them doesn't do them any harm. It just hurts you, so now you were harmed twice: once by the action, another time by your own emotions. Emotions are a choice. You can choose not to be angry. It takes time and training, but your can rewire your brain to feel a different emotion in reaction to a stimulus. Look up the general gist behind Cognitive Behavior Therapy which has it's roo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 09:10 PM
2

There's really no evidence that the women were willing participants in the sex.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 08:20 PM
3

That's definitely an improvement. If you read through your post you'll notice that the world tends to happen to you instead of you happening to the world. Switching that is a subtle change in your world view, but it's key. You might think of it like soldiers fighting on a battlefield. No matter how good you get at reacting to each situation, it's still not a winning strategy. In order to get to where you want to be, you have to act rather than react.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 09:44 PM
1

I just take off for the weekend to go camping by myself. I just focus on continual improvement. Pick an area that's week, come up with a plan, work on it for a while, make it a habit, then repeat with another area. The journey never ends so I've stopped expecting that the job will be done one day.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 09:10 PM
1

Dread only works when it's a credible threat. If she's hotter than you, don't expect a lot of motivation. When it becomes obvious that plenty of more attractive women would be willing to fuck you, then you'll have created motivation.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 08:45 PM
1

It didn't really click as well until I read The Power of Now which did a pretty good job of explaining what mindfulness means.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/16 05:22 PM
-1

Wow. Sidebar. Learn to STFU. I suggest you start with the Married Man Sex Life Primer and then go straight to the Sex God Method.
/r/askMRP13/03/16 04:46 PM
1

It would really depend on your tone. The delivery would need to be lighthearted and joking, like "I don't know why you think I'd want pictures of guys, send a picture of a girl next time." It's really hard to give someone else a one liner because obviously me and my wife have a history and a pattern of joking so what works for me might not work for you. It's meant more as an example.
/r/askMRP11/03/16 10:15 PM
2

Your response was just fine. You were busy and it defeated whatever the point was of her text. If she was actually in danger she wouldn't have been texting you. Just download it when you get home - "Why are you sending me pictures of dudes? If you are going to send pictures, make it a picture of something worth looking at."
/r/askMRP11/03/16 09:28 PM
1

You've been running passive dread and it's working to some extent. She's trying to compete by running dread against you while still controlling sex. It's likely that she hatched this plan in coordination with her mom or friends as a reaction to your actions. On the one hand it's evidence that your MAP is working, but on the other hand the fact that your wife is willing to go to overt power plays isn't a good sign. Too bad she couldn't put that effort into hitting the gym. I'd suggest that you ke…
/r/askMRP11/03/16 06:13 PM
3

First off, don't pay for credit repair. You can do all the things they will do for free by yourself. Your credit score will take time to build. Anything negative that's older than about 4-5 years, don't pay a dime on it. If it's older than 7 years it goes off your credit report, making a payment brings it current and starts the clock ticking. In between you should call your debtor up and arrange a payment. They will take far less than you owe - I'd expect them to accept 1/4 to 1/3 of your debt. …
/r/askMRP10/03/16 04:47 PM
2

My experience is that the less your wife knows, the better. She doesn't care to understand.
/r/askMRP10/03/16 02:02 AM
1

You made a decision that turned out to be a mistake, and now you are to proud to admit it. Sex shouldn't be a bargaining chip or a power play. Just say that you thought about her words, you agree that it's turned out to be a bad idea and come up with a new thing to give up for Lent. Being a leader means owning it when you are wrong, swallowing your ego and then fixing the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 01:53 AM
11

This is one of those situations that doesn't need a word of explanation. You can just say something noncommittal and let the hamster do all the work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 02:51 AM
5

If you ultimatum your girlfriend or wife into having kids, you aren't going to be happy with the results. Go have kids with someone that wants to have kids.
/r/askMRP03/03/16 12:54 AM
1

Yes, it will just look petty. Consider her attendance on anything in the future optional. Decide on something fun, invite her to join you, go do it whether or not she comes along.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 10:37 PM
1

There's this myth that being in love has to last forever to be worthwhile. You can enjoy the relationship for what it is and let it end on a good note when she leaves. Hell, you can even fly out for a few weeks every once in a while and enjoy a good fling.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 09:51 PM
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The bigger risk in my mind is that you are seemly willing to ditch whatever it is that is your life's purpose to chase this woman across the globe. You'll be in her country, she'll have backing from her family and you'll be the guy that would do anything for her. It's not an impossible situation, it's just a difficult one to pull off.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 09:08 PM
1

Don't respond to a shit test with comfort. She was in the shower, it's easy enough to just leave the room, throw on your clothes and be gone by the time she gets out. Trust me, if you let the hamster hamst for a while she's going to reflect on that interaction and regret it. You'll get a text message apology, some backpedaling and probably a giant emotion puke that night. Just let her get it out, take not of where her mind is going with all of that and then give her comfort.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 08:14 PM
1

You can't alternate between weak statements "I can't promise that" "I'm not making any promises 3 months out" and strong statements "I'm going to the retreat." Can you imagine if a politician did that? The media and opponents would eat him alive for being weak. The heart of this conversation isn't about a retreat, it's about who has power in your relationship. An ambiguous response is a supplicating demonstration and it's going to blow up in your face. You aren't fighting over whether or not you…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 07:39 PM
1

You need to come out and say what you are going to do and own it without DEERing. Anything in between looks like weakness and makes it seem negotiable. Instead of "I will make no such promise" try out "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm going to the retreat." Then just broken record the message on you going to the retreat. You need to read WISNIFG as soon as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 07:00 PM
2

There aren't any words that you can say that will change anything. At the end of the day, you invited your LTR somewhere and she found it boring, didn't care what you thought and ditched your ass to sulk at home. Those are the symptoms of your condition. Around here we focus on changing the condition, not the symptoms. The goal is to be hot, lots of fun to hang out with, and if your LTR ditches you, you'll go out and have fun anyways. At that point, your LTR probably won't even want to ditch you…
/r/askMRP02/03/16 05:53 PM
1

Don't go zero to sixty. Learn to use covert communication, you don't awkwardly jump to an extreme position. This is more like a slow fade or a brief cooling off. A better idea is just to have better things to do next week and decline to invite her. Remember - if it's a reaction to her actions, she's still leading. You aren't going to "get even" here.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 05:16 PM
4

You don't say anything. You call up a buddy and go out for drinks and have a great time and come home happy and a bit late.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 04:40 AM
1

I told her she was allowed back when we had family stay over and needed the space. Why were you afraid to let it escalate? That was your chance to play chicken and you lost. Your wife's face when you explain the situation with the truth: priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 11:53 PM
3

Just start dating other women. Get on Tinder, OkCupid, whatever and be running pick up in public. When you get a new girlfriend that blows you, just dump this one. And for the record, you are beta as fuck because you are 6'5", whine about going to the gym and can't even get a BJ from a girlfriend. It's pathetic.
/r/askMRP01/03/16 07:56 AM
2

no debt to worry about so there is no need for it It's pretty easy to turn money into more money and if you build enough income from investments you won't need to work. Everyone should have some sort of system that makes sure they get the most value out of the dollars they earn.
/r/askMRP27/02/16 02:10 AM
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This is exactly the kind of problem that solves itself. Just ignore it and let your wife figure it out. If directly asked to pay for it, tell her you don't want to pay for it and then STFU. You'll get 18 levels of hints, but just don't take the fucking bait and you'll be fine. It also sounds like there is some frustration there with your current "my money is my money and your money is our money" scheme. Either ask your wife to put some money towards the bills (maybe proportional to your relative…
/r/askMRP27/02/16 01:57 AM
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Close your eyes and imagine all the things you'd do if you were single. Write them down and make a big list. Then run through the list and ask: How many of those things are forbidden by the law or your marital vows? It's not your wife or your marriage that's keeping you from doing things. If you want to take to take off and go camping for the weekend, no one is going to stop you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 12:31 AM
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It's a big fucking question mark? Pay attention to both the overt message (for the idiots) and the covert communication (for the smart guys). If you look past the sound byte, it's about a million times more reasonable. I thought THE WALL sounded silly. After a while I started to think about it - it's just a wall, it's not like we don't have the technology or the resources. With candidates talking about free college and flat taxes, how expensive can a wall be? So I looked up how much it would cos…
/r/TheRedPill25/02/16 11:57 PM
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The book Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
/r/askMRP25/02/16 07:23 PM
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Maybe http://blog.dilbert.com/post/138990531696/the-thinking-filters might kinda help. Once I stopped believing the fiction of rational thinking, the world got a lot easier to understand.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 07:22 PM
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What result are you looking for out of talking to her on the phone?
/r/askMRP25/02/16 05:36 PM
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It's still hard though knowing I fucked up so bad when this girl cared about me so much and I couldn't realize it and grow up and be a real person. At some point your realize that you are just being emotionally manipulated. If she cared so much, she wouldn't have broken up with you. As you read the sidebar, you'll learn to play this game, but for right now your winning move is just not to play.
/r/askMRP25/02/16 05:34 PM
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I absolutely agree with you, but I don't expect others to react in a logical way. It's hard to convey this point in words, but in the same way that humans are constrained by instinct, you are constrained by trying to be logical. It's just one more level of fiction in your understanding of human behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 04:56 PM
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lacking in any depth or maturity of understanding of cheating. In fact, some of them have the moralistic fervor of some cult religious idiot. There are some topics that people just have an instinctual reaction to. Don't expect logic when dealing with anything that threatens the ability to guarantee paternity or raise healthy kids to adulthood. Cheating, rape, incest, spiders, any "protect the children" argument. We are biologically wired to freak the fuck out over those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 04:38 PM
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He means that if the concepts become widespread, lower value guys will learn to fake being beta bucks. Find a washed up slut ready to "settle down," run enough alpha game to be interesting, feed the hamster a bit, slowly dole out some commitment and then repeat with a new one in 6 months. Obviously, works better if contraception is in your own hands. I'd say we are already experiencing this to some extent. In LA at least, the serious dating game seems to be getting more difficult for women. A lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 01:12 AM
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The Pareto Principle doesn't apply here. It requires long tails - there must be extreme examples that greatly skew the average. For example, wealth has long tails - the top 100 wealthiest people own exponentially more than the average person. Height doesn't have long tails - you have the occasional example that's far from the norm, but you'll never find anyone that's 1000 times the average height or 1/1000th of it either. Sales can have long tails - getting picked up by a big retailer might inst…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 11:54 PM
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So some cliff notes to human (and primate) motivation: If someone is already motivated to do an activity, rewarding them for doing the activity will actually decrease their motivation. Ceasing to provide the reward to a previous paid for task will generally result in refusal, even if the task was previously done for free. Rewarding a behavior consistently is far less motivational than rewarding it infrequently and randomly. In general, consistently providing a desired reward to start, then rando…
/r/askMRP23/02/16 11:01 PM
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Defend, Evade, Explain, Rationalize It comes from the book When I Say No I Feel Guilty. There's no need to do any of those things when stating a position because you are free to be your own judge.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 10:32 PM
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The Way of the Superior Man has a few chapters dealing with fear. It's not just you, we all get afraid to one extent or another. The first step is really to just be able to admit you are afraid - far better than one that hides behind bullshit reasons. For the workout routine, I'll bet your fear goes beyond the new year's crowd or perfect form. Those are just the excuses that allow you to sleep at night without telling your ego that you are just a bitch that's scared of being attractive. Fear doe…
/r/askMRP22/02/16 04:54 AM
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For longer term dating you really need to have congruence. The attitude has to match the reality and the situation. A girl you barely know might be fooled, but a wife's spidey sense would be tingling.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 04:49 AM
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There's a third option - just to kinda check out of your marriage. I don't mean go get a girlfriend, just stop trying so damn hard to win and instead focus on what you want. If you want sex, go for it, if you get shot down, whatever. Reading through your replies, I'd suggest you slow the fuck down and keep working on you. When you push for control and it's not a slam dunk contest, you get a big fight. When it's painfully clear who has the most to lose, things change.
/r/askMRP22/02/16 03:16 AM
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Try not to direct your anger towards your wife specifically. Nobody ever handed you the missing manual to getting laid and you still managed to end up with a wife that adds value to your life. There are plenty of targets to get angry with, but at the end of the day you've got to take stock of your current situation and realize that it's not bad and you are free to fix it to your liking. Anger is mostly a useless emotion. If someone cuts you off in traffic and you get angry, you've only managed t…
/r/askMRP20/02/16 09:33 PM
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In your place, I found a lot of help from this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U5zrloYWwxw If your back/core is the spot where you are failing, then I'd do some accessory back extensions or good mornings before I ramped up the volume on squats. If you have access to a good coach (I found one by looking through the Starting Strength coaches) you can probably get a lot sorted out in a single session.
/r/askMRP18/02/16 11:18 PM
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You can get injured and admit it, just don't complain about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 11:11 PM
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If that were true, she'd be fucking your brains out and crying when you left.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 07:12 PM
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Ugh, I forgot that you are on the road 15 days a month. Does she miss you when you come back, or is she in a bad mood? Maybe you should just clean up the obvious failures and then come back around to this after you've gotten those things out of the way.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 06:55 PM
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I read the whole wall of text. You have some shit that needs fixing and you should fix it. I'm not going to address it, because the solution is obvious. The problem when it comes to your wife is that she's got too much comfort. Every day you are just there. Breathing up all the air. If she wants sex or comfort she just goes across the room and gets it. Actually, fuck that she just asks for it and you come running. Name one time your wife wanted you around for something and you just weren't there…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 06:34 PM
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Stop thinking about it. Just act. The plan is so easy a caveman could do it. You are just tripping yourself up. If she doesn't like your cologne, she can deal with it. She'll learn to love it because it's attached to memories of you. My wife doesn't like my cologne and that's her problem. I wear the cologne that I enjoy personally. The thing about the MRP plan is that it's simple, effective and unstoppable if you just stick your nose to the grindstone and ignore the noise. It's not about her, it…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 05:47 PM
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This is what negotiated desire looks like.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 05:12 PM
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Your entire post is about her. You are spending way to much time analyzing her behavior and wants when you should be analyzing your own. If your 10 second kiss is getting starfished and you aren't liking it, stop doing it. Then wait for the hamster to come up with the reason why she's not getting kissed any more.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 04:17 PM
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If you've been running your MAP for a year and her interest isn't increasing, it's probably time to reevaluate. It's next to impossible to tell what's going wrong because our view of you is filtered by your ego and sometimes your ego is blind to it's worst flaws. There's the off chance that you are ugly, socially inept, smell bad or are just plain annoying. Maybe what you consider progress could be best described as mediocrity. I'm just guessing here since I've got nothing to go on other than it…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 03:09 AM
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Your Money or Your Life - managing your money in a way that fits your life The Bogleheads Guide to Investing - turning money into more money The $100 Startup - It had some interesting ideas on connecting with customers The 4-Hour Workweek - if you were only spending 4 hours per week running your business, maybe you wouldn't mind that it doesn't pull in six figures.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 02:57 AM
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I think I actually meant darting. You pinch the sides using clothespins till it fits well, then sew down that line to trap some extra fabric on the inside. I've seen some guides online, I just never took the chance to do it with my old shirts.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 10:58 PM
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I would have given the award to Ben. In the matchup between what he wants, the reality of his life and how others see him, he's probably the closest. Steve didn't really get much of a caricature, but I'd worry that either the Marines, his wife or his church is going to let him down one day and leave him in an anger phase for the ages. He's dedicated his life to three institutions that don't have the same concept of loyalty.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 10:07 PM
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Never heard of the guy, just watched his news video. It's hilarious watching some hot reporter trying to shame him into feeling bad about it. He's not a dick, but he's not going to take the sunglasses off and doesn't feel the need to debate the obvious. It shouldn't be so hard to just stand up for yourself and say that you aren't sorry. There are all times in our lives when we've done something we got in trouble for, but aren't sorry. Honestly, if you were actually sorry, you wouldn't have done …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 09:59 PM
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I find Uniqlo jeans to be a good value. They are generally cut better than cheap jeans and you can usually find them on sale for around $30. I burn through about one pair per year, mainly because I wear them a lot and bike a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 08:23 PM
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If you have some old shirts and a sewing machine, it's not terribly difficult to take in the sides and you can practice on the old shirts. A $25 shirt plus $25 of alterations will look better than a $50 shirt in general. You can get made to measure shirts online if you are spending any more than that. If you are super broke, then thrift the shirt and tailor it yourself and you'll still have a better look than a new, off the rack shirt. Of course, maybe you can find a cheap brand that makes a shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 08:18 PM
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This is really going to be a lawyer question. I'd cut the budget down to just what you are looking to pay. Sell the house, move in somewhere cheap, get an organized and tracked budget going on. Stop working at unsustainable levels and make your expenses match your income instead of the other way around. For example, mowing your own lawn isn't included in the monthly expenses but paying a gardener is. Get creative with it - in source whatever you can like changing your own oil, etc. From what I u…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 11:59 PM
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Why are you even still around the house? You should be at the gym, playing sports, enjoying your hobbies, hanging out with friends. There's literally zero upside to being at your house right now - you can drop by to sleep and get your once a week duty sex. The real advantage you have is that things couldn't be worse. You can get not laid on your own without dealing with your wife moping around the house. There's just no incentive to putting effort into your relationship. You should be putting th…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 11:24 PM
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To an insecure person, a negative reaction is at least a reaction. You might be mad, but she knows you still care. If you read any parenting book it will tell you that negative reactions reward a behavior. If your kid wants attention and can't get it, they'll resort to bad behavior. The same is true of adults. If you woman is looking for a negative reaction, it's better to ignore and then guide her to how to get the positive reaction she craves. You can't control the behavior, but you can contro…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 10:52 PM
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Opting out of the game is less fun than learning to win the game. let's face it, women do these things because it works on other guys. When it doesn't work on you, she'll be intrigued. Let's think for a minute about her getting angry when you look at another woman. She knows that you are attracted and that you want to look. Yet she wants you to take that part of yourself and stuff it way down and pretend. I feel like that Patrice O'Neal quote "Shortcuts to pussy are long cuts to life." You also …
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 10:29 PM
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What do you get out of reacting? Um a date with Jodi from marketing? If my wife wanted that deal I'd have my soft harem assembled in a month. It works because it's a credible threat, not a theoretical one. If my wife wants to branch swing, I'm not going to stop her.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 09:39 PM
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It's the sort of situation where nuance is important. Your relationship with your woman should be a distinctly sexual one, but getting turned down shouldn't put you in a bad mood. There are a lot of ways to get there.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 09:32 PM
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I really don't understand these kinds of girls, like, if I stare at a hot blond girl for more than a second with her, they get mad, but they wanna talk to some random hot guy and not get dumped? I have yet to go and straight up start flirting with a hot girl in front of a current girl. Why can't they show the same respect? It's about power. Getting mad about the hot blond puts your balls back in her purse. Then she talks to some hot guy to get you riled up, fun reaction time. She yanks your chai…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 09:16 PM
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Don't reward crappy comfort tests. Give comfort in response to behavior you want, not behavior you don't want. Eventually when your wife/girlfriend wants some comfort she'll bring out the behavior that you enjoy. I'm not saying you shouldn't give comfort, but had you given your ex-gf comfort every time she gave you a BJ, she'd be calling you up asking if she could blow you instead of sending a cute card.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 09:06 PM
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We could speak to this on a number of levels. Biologically, men are programmed to protect the weak. If you stick a spear in my hand and tell me to kill a lion, I'm going to avoid the conflict. Throw my wife and a newborn behind me and you'll have a lion pelt in no time. At some level, the same goes for finding a job. From a psychological standpoint, if you want to take a person to take responsibility, you express genuine confidence in their ability and let them suffer the consequences of their a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 10:50 PM
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Guys should get their emotional support from their male friends and try to appear like what the woman wants There is no emotional support among men. Your backup roster is one deep and the nameplate reads "You." If you want something practical to do to actually support a man, just simply believe in him. You don't need to hear out his problems, but you can tell him that you are sure he can fix it and if he needs you to do something you'll do it without complaining. Men find a lot more fight in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 10:04 PM
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The concept I go for is "playing in the world." With money, with women, in social interactions. It's not exactly hard to succeed in the world, the plan is generally very simple and available at the library or online. If you simply execute on the plan for a while you'll be far beyond your peers. So I spend 50% of my salary, invest the rest and losing my job is no longer a worry. I go push weights 3 times a week and my body is looking good. If I managed to consistently deliver on MyFitnessPal I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:21 PM
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Take the kid with you and go do something fun. When you both come back after a Saturday at the zoo while she's been cleaning the house all day - Point, Set, Match.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 07:30 PM
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Unfortunately, your proposal plants him solidly within his wife's frame. He's of course more useful now, but upgrading from child to teenager still makes her the mom which isn't going to turn her on or build respect. If he wants something specific to do, he should pick an area and then take responsibility for it. Check the trash every morning and make sure it's empty. Put away the dishes each morning. Mow the lawn every Saturday. Fix something that's broken around the house. If he does get stuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 07:23 PM
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So the subtext here. Your wife is pitching herself as the martyr that "does all the chores while you sit on your ass" and then foists the kid on you to angrily clean while resenting you. Let me tell you what won't work. Doing the chores won't help your case. Trying to appeal to logic that you do X, Y and Z isn't going to help. She's pissed because you are low value and useless and trying to win her approval is just going to make you seem lower in value. You stop playing the game. It's not a game…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 07:15 PM
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It doesn't subtract from her SMV either. It's also nice in other ways, because let's face it, a wife that brings home some bacon can really improve your financial situation. Money doesn't add SMV for men either unless it's enough money to give you power.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:53 PM
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You need to have a mission, preferably one you are passionate about it and be successful in it. It doesn't have to make more money than your wife or have more social prestige. Take a look at Joachim Sauer who is married to Angela Merkel. He kicks ass at Chemistry while she does her most powerful woman in the world thing. He doesn't seem divorced yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 12:51 AM
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Your wife is just sharing with you. She has a thought, a feeling or sees something cute and she thinks of you. It's the adult version of "Daddy, look!" You make the mistake of thinking it requires action. "Look Daddy a butterfly" doesn't mean you need to go catch it. You can just acknowledge it and appreciate it and enjoy that one moment. It's her way of showing that she cares and seeking affection. If it's a hassle, you are busy or it's begging, then just ignore or respond like it's a shit test…
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:37 PM
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You've hit the "meltdown." You've been ramping up the pressure on a woman that's a facade of stability with a foundation of insecurity. A lot of the damage was done far before you came into the picture. It apparently all comes out when your wife gets drunk. The first step is some CYA. Sit down and write down a written account of everthing that happened as the best you can remember it. The number of drinks your wife had, every detail you can remember. Do the same for the time she threatened to co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 06:21 PM
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Honestly, just pack your shit and walk out the door. I'm all for saving a marriage, but this one had nothing going for it when it started and that was the high point of it's existence. It's not worth fixing. You could get a better wife if you selected her by throwing a dart into a crowd. She doesn't love you. At all. Just leave. In 3 months you'll have a hotter girlfriend that actually cares for you and your son won't be any more fucked than he already is.
/r/askMRP05/02/16 07:21 AM
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Tell her that you want to make your arms smaller so you are going to do lots of curls. When she points out that it will make them bigger, ask her what you should do if you want to make your waist smaller.
/r/askMRP05/02/16 02:00 AM
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Tell the person that you'll need to think about it or check your calendar and you'll get back to them. That will give you time to work through your response and come up with something appropriate.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 11:14 PM
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I have ADHD as well. It was a relief when I found out, but 90% of the battle is creating an environment and structure that plays to your strengths and covers for your weaknesses. You don't walk in, get a pill and then never have any problems. While medication helps and I wouldn't discourage anyone from using it, it still takes a lot of work and trial and error to turn your life into a success. Mainly, I've stopped trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I may bounce from hobby to hobby, but …
/r/askMRP04/02/16 10:36 PM
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Stop expecting anything to ever be complete. You imagine that your life will somehow be different after you paint a wall, but after you are done, it's exactly the same. You picture promotions and accolades and a feeling of success after you work hard at your job and fix all sorts of problems. Even if you made everything work perfectly and profit was up 1000%, you'd just be tired, your coworkers would resent you for it and you'd be insulted by the bonus. You could go out and make a million dollar…
/r/askMRP04/02/16 10:18 PM
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I'm seriously considering just checking into a hotel with reasonably priced room service the next time I'm sick. It's just pointless to be around the house.
/r/askMRP04/02/16 07:59 PM
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I haven't experienced that at all. My wife knows I'm gonna want to bang twice a day till I drop dead. It's almost a joke at this point - she points out a cute old couple and I tell her I'm still gonna be nailing her twice a day at that age. I keep up an atmosphere of sexuality - not that every moment is about sex, but it's constantly in the air in a playful way. Plus I've been good about making sure sex comes with comfort so it's as much about me getting sex as her knowing I'm sticking around. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 06:41 PM
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If you tell her what to do, she'll buck against it like a teenager. Model the desired behavior (mention every now and then something positive about squats applied to yourself only, maybe get excited about the before/after of one of your gym members), give her a choice between two options that are acceptable to you (Would you like to join me at the gym or do you have your own plans?) and ultimately learn to live with whatever her choice is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 01:48 AM
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I mean there's no reason to blame it on the "natural state of women." As a society, we've collectively created a system of incentives that delivers irresponsible women. Of course women have collectively attacked men for two generations because they kept getting rewarded for it. I can understand being upset at social movements, but there's no point in being upset with woman for executing obvious power plays to get what they want.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 12:10 AM
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There's no reason to blame women for the general lack of value we see today. They are in no way inferior, simply different, and the majority of the tactics you see endorsed on TRP and MRP would work just as well on men. Women are where they are today because that's the way our society has raised them. Little responsibility and accountability combined with a society that works to support you leads to adults that act like children. You can see it everywhere - the proverbial "man child" that doesn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 06:41 PM
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"I wasn't happy with the way I looked, so I'm in the gym changing it." "I want to be proud of what I see when I look in the mirror." "I decided that being married isn't an excuse to stop maintaing your appearance." All of those things are true, completely about you and reasonable enough on their own. Better yet, it's modeling the behavior you'd like to see out of your wife without pushing for it overtly.
/r/askMRP31/01/16 07:19 AM
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Forget about fixing your girlfriend and fix you first.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 05:54 PM
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Some have high drives, some none at all. I have serious doubts about that statement. Plenty of women with "low sex drives" all the sudden recover it with a new partner. There are plenty of guys in this sub that have dramatically ramped up their wives sex drives. I vote that statement 100% Grade A hamster. A telling sign is that you accept the opposite premise, it's pretty easy to explain behavior like a couple's sex life sliding over the years.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 09:11 PM
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Stop watching porn and jerking off. Nature will take care of the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 08:59 PM
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Keep plugging along. This all takes time. Your body is getting better, your attitude is getting better, and your wife's view of you is slowly changing. Soft dread is a wonderful thing. Do an inventory of your current state of being and pick the worst feature. It might be diet, friendships, passing shit tests or initiating sex. Put your focus on that for a few months. Once it's on autopilot, you pick another area and work on that. My general pattern is to pick a weak spot, read what experts say a…
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:14 PM
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The political establishment has no issue dealing with feels vs reals. They simply make a huge deal of some ultimately unimportant issue like health care plans paying for birth control, and then let everyone get their feels out while they deal with the reals quietly in the back room. The economic system is the same, it works around inefficiency pretty well. Sticking a few women on the board doesn't really do anything, particularly if nobody actually cares what they say. A few middle managers here…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:28 PM
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I wouldn't say that. The undesirable males will vote themselves out of the gene pool in a world of distraction with ever improving video games and weed. Far better than sending them all off to war. The betas will churn the economy harder in an ever more difficult game of trying to land a post-wall woman that's ready to settle down. The state will legislate the transfer of wealth to the women and kids via taxes, health care, maternity benefits and child support. The women will have a great time r…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 09:36 PM
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Dressing well doesn't mean dressing up. For some reason most men tend to confuse the two. Head to r/malefashionadvice and read the sidebar. The sub itself isn't necessary. This assumes that you live in a metropolitan area, if you live in the country you are going to need to tone it down but the principles still apply. It doesn't need to be expensive or brand name, your clothes need to fit well and match.
/r/askMRP26/01/16 02:55 AM
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A few weeks or a month with a relative isn't going to hurt. What do you think is going to happen when she pulls this game on a boyfriend or husband? She's probably going to get left permanently. Better to learn the lesson now while the stakes are small.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 04:46 AM
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It's more that you won't really feel any need to respond. You could if you wanted to, but it's kinda a waste of time. You already made your choice and your wife isn't really bringing any new information to the table. Of course, if she had a legitimate criticism that made sense, you might change your mind. A lot of women resort to emotional power plays. When she doesn't get what she wants, she'll develop emotions that seemingly need to be dealt with by you, try to induce guilt or take pot shots a…
/r/askMRP20/01/16 02:10 AM
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You keep trying to win the argument with logic. It doesn't matter if you come up with the perfect, most amazing argument about why her shit stinks and yours smells like roses. At the end of the day, what are you going to do about it? Nothing. You know it, she knows it, we know it. You have zero power and it doesn't matter what you think, what you know or what you feel. At the end of the day you'll stomp around for a while like a toddler having a tantrum and then go back to the status quo.
/r/askMRP19/01/16 10:31 PM
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It means that you determine your own actions and your own emotional state. You are your own judge and jury and you handle things in the way that you see fit. Under stress you are calm and make good decisions. It doesn't mean that you aren't concerned with others, it's just that you consider their needs and wants in context with your own judgement.
/r/askMRP19/01/16 10:13 PM
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She's made a mistake and she needs to suffer the natural consequences. Now it's no longer safe for you to house her yourself so you should send her off to live with a relative for a while. It's really the best all around solution. You can't get accused of violence, she gets a cause and effect punishment and everyone gets a bit of time to really think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 05:28 PM
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You are trying to analyze your wife to find the shit tests. I suggest you just take a step back and tune in to your own desires. Try to remain emotionally one step above the whole conversation, imagine yourself as an observer of your conversation if necessary. It will boil down to questions like - What do I want to do? Does that really impact anyone else? Why does it require explanation? Once you are in your own frame, the shit tests will be easily spotted and laughed at.
/r/askMRP19/01/16 01:09 AM
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New thought - Why not just use her desire to get back together to finalize the divorce? Tell her that you getting back together is conditional on her signing the divorce papers. If she wants you, she'll do it. If she just wants your money, she won't. The divorce and not staying with her are really two separate questions. You can get a divorce and then play house afterwards if you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 08:02 AM
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You've already paid the piper. The damage to the kids has been done, the lawyers have spent your money on coke and hookers and the relationship is trashed. Just wrap up the divorce as quick as you can and get it behind you. Then if you want to date your former wife, you can do it without a legal contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 03:24 AM
1

That situation is just fine for where you are headed. You'll go do your own thing, she won't even notice. All the other things you are doing to increase your SMV will be slowly building momentum and she won't be trying to tear your shit apart while you are trying to build yourself up. Under the radar is a great place to be. It's a long road to self improvement and it's going to be longer still until it changes your wife's view of you.
/r/askMRP16/01/16 12:31 AM
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You give her a responsibility that she can handle (let's say choosing whether or not she should bring a sweater). Then you don't help her at all with it. No reminders, no hints, no instructions, no lecturing, no telling her what the lesson is. If asked for input, you give her one consistent message - you are confident that she can make the right choice. Remember now, there's no wrong choice here. If she doesn't bring her sweater and it gets cold, she can figure out how to deal it. She's not goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/16 12:07 AM
2

It's not the same as being deployed. If you are being deployed it's because some "greater good" is at risk and women have an easier time accepting it and society reinforces the message. If you are just going away because that's where the money is, it's just an all around failure. She's thinking of leaving and the hamster has come up with the idea of staying "for possible kids." Now you took that off the table. I'm not really sure what either of you are getting out of this. She clearly wants chil…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 01:49 AM
2

Right, but both of us are further along. OP can't just flip the script overnight. He needs to master the art of covert communication and the key is that it's subtle. If he's going to react, it should be plausibly deniable. Plus, there's the off chance that his wife is going to think about it and actually change for next week. I feel you. Four hard no's and I'd be spending the week elsewhere. I don't think it's the right advice for OP.
/r/askMRP15/01/16 12:47 AM
1

There are multiple ways to budget. One of my favorite methods is detailed in the book Your Money or Your Life. It suggests a pretty flexible budgeting system that doesn't involve a bunch of math and actually tackles the root problem - your spending habits. If changing your behavior isn't an option and you are in an environment of zero self control, then the envelope budgeting system is for you. You withdraw cash on a regular basis and distribute it among envelopes marked with a category and doll…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 12:13 AM
2

Make it her responsibility, not yours. Tell her that you are sure she can handle it. Mention that you are proud of the way she did <some specific and actually worthwhile action>. When she has a problem, feel sad with her but then finish with the assertion that you aren't worried because you are sure she can handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 11:57 PM
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he end resolution she proposed was she's going to start calling me it out when she thinks I'm "being mean" so I can fix it and be given some B.S. good boy points, and I get to do the same to her. Woopie-dee-doo I'm going to go against the grain here. Do some googling around for the "Iterated Prisoner's Dilemma." It's basically the game you play every day in your relationship - you play a nice card, she plays a mean card, you play a mean card back, etc. What your wife wants to do is to make it ob…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 11:54 PM
1

For a girlfriend? If you won you'd just dump her and get a hotter one.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 11:04 PM
1

Right that's what happens when you internalize it. The reactions just flow from you.
/r/askMRP14/01/16 10:07 PM
2

Just continue on. There's nothing to be gained by rehashing the past, unless you really fucked up and have decided that it deserves an apology. Hold off on upping the dread. Wait a few weeks, then do it. Otherwise, it will look like a reaction rather than an action.
/r/askMRP14/01/16 10:02 PM
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In about a week or a month it's going to get old. One of you is going to want to buy something and you can't and it's going to seem like The Budget is what stands in between you and fun. Remind yourself and your wife that the budget is "a plan for spending our money." If conditions change, you can change the plan. There's no point in getting mad at the plan, you made it, you can make different choices next month, it just has to end up at less than you make.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 08:42 PM
1

Get a throwaway, use incognito mode, never put any personally identifing info, throw a false flag (I cheated on my wife with <some girl>) and then document secretly that it's a false flag (video of you making the post and saying it's bullshit?). If your wife does read it, she flip out over the false flag and give away her position and then you can prove it was an intentional device to uncover her snooping. The alternative is to just fucking own it. If she finds it and flips out, you tell her tha…
/r/askMRP14/01/16 08:03 PM
2

250 work days x $7 per lunch = $1,750 spent just on lunches. It adds up. I used to hit the grocery store near work once per week and pick up ingredients to make sandwiches and stock the fridge. I've also lived in places a block away from work, which is great for both saving time and money. Right now I've just ordered Soylent and I mix it up with a Blender Bottle at work. It's like $3.50 for a healthy, 750 calorie lunch and you can spend the extra 20 minutes you save on eating taking a walk to st…
/r/askMRP14/01/16 07:17 PM
1

Hide them in her car.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 01:19 AM
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I've been to those pueblos. They may get married a virgin but then it's game on for cheating. It's just AF/BB on a different level.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 10:57 PM
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It's getting downvoted because it's fighting like a girl. With a bit of observation and a better understanding of organizational dynamics it becomes pretty easy to kick the crab bucket in exactly the right spot and watch the whole thing attack. Most guys are fucking clueless and won't even understand what happened. Most women will assume you lack the social awareness to even pull it off. The few that see it and even comprehend it will just find it hilarious and probably even help you. If OP just…
/r/askMRP13/01/16 10:40 PM
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Easy. You just poison the well with some concern trolling. You cast doubt on his motivations. A few hints that he might be into her and a little feeling sorry for him for being so pathetic and he's toast. For even better measure, hint that it would suck if her sister figured it out. The key is to let her come to the conclusion on her own that he's trying to get into her pants. You never say it directly. It may or may not be true, but once the motivations are in doubt, he'll just proceed to sink …
/r/askMRP13/01/16 02:50 AM
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Pressure flip. You just redirect it towards her. "Well, somebody's got their panties in a bunch." "Why don't you try that again when you can deal with this like an adult." "Forgot to eat breakfast again I see." Make a catty noise, look surprised and walk away laughing.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 02:38 AM
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Thats why I thought 3x10 would be a decent compromise to build strength and burn at once. Just find a beginner all machine program on the internet and start doing that. Ignore all the supplement ads. Even if it's just some program off of bodybuilding.com, it's probably better than anything you'd come up with yourself. After you've been lifting 6 months and doing some research you'll have a better idea of what you need to work on and you can start thinking about customizing.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:39 AM
1

You'd be making faster progress to your goal if you were in a properly equipped gym or using a barbell in your garage. It doesn't seem like you are making lifting much of a priority. If it's Planet Fitness and you are broke as a joke, then that's what you've got to work with. Check to see if there is a YMCA in your area. Otherwise, don't let $50 a month and a 20 minute drive be what slows your progress. Better yet if you can find a powerlifting/oly lifting gym and surround yourself with people t…
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:33 AM
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Don't move a girlfriend across the country. It kills your options. What happens if she gets all shitty? Going to move her across the country and then dump her a week later? I did it in my BP days and it sucked. I'd feel bad if I dumped her, I resented that I couldn't live up the single life I had envisioned. It was just dumb, I should have left her ass in the city she was from. Keep in mind that what happened was pretty much the best case scenario. Clean breakup a year later, she wanted to be in…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 12:29 AM
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Just don't go quickly. If you've been dealing with it for years, a couple months of calm reading, analyzing, and just working on yourself won't hurt. You may be tempted to just flip the fucking chessboard and stomp on the game pieces but that doesn't teach you to play chess now does it?
/r/askMRP12/01/16 10:21 PM
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It doesn't really matter. Sex is a major part of your agreement in marriage and unless there are actual medical issues, it's a poor idea to take it off the table. A thought: Getting out of this is pretty easy. You just tell her "I thought about it and I realized that denying you sex isn't fair or conducive to staying married, so I'm no longer going to bother with the no sex for 3 months idea." Then you know, don't expand on it.
/r/askMRP12/01/16 10:15 PM
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I've read through your reasons and I can kinda see the logic behind it. The problem is that denying your wife sex isn't fair to her either. Instead of a 3 month break from sex, why not a 3 month break from caring about sex? If it happens it happens, if you feel like sex you'll initiate, if it doesn't happen you'll move on. The birth control pill isn't your problem, your problem is that you aren't attractive. It's going to take some time to get from here to there and there isn't a fast track. In …
/r/askMRP12/01/16 06:23 PM
1

Frame boils down to simply having your emotions, words and actions all pointing in the same direction - the direction you want. When those things match up and it's generally positive, people will be able to trust you. The Dalai Lama has frame for days. Frame doesn't mean that you have to be aggressive or not have any consideration for the needs and want for others. It means you aren't easily swayed from your good mood and direction in life. The life you've described is pretty much the opposite o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 11:21 PM
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You are obviously pretty inexperienced with women. There's some classic misunderstandings of the way the world works - "She has some religious characteristics so I expected that sex would be slow to come about." Next you actually buy the line "confessed to me that he was only person she had slept with." Then a girl gets into your bed, tells you she's a nympho and you can't catch a hint. She wants to have sex but she doesn't want to feel like a slut. It needs to "just happen" because your "connec…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:27 PM
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Linear in my post at least. It doesn't really matter, you need to get into the top 20% of available guys, which I would call 8-10. That's the level of attractive where women are a lot more willing to engage in relationships that have zero commitment. That in turn ups the dread in a committed relationship without faking it since there's obviously women willing to fuck you out there.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 05:59 PM
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Don't plate her. If she's desperate to have you back and it's not going anywhere, maybe she forgets to take her birth control a few times. Just go on with your life and date some other women. A new woman won't have all the emotional pitfalls of getting back with an ex.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 05:16 AM
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It's not the sort of thing that really has an effective short term solution. Rebellion just makes you look juvenile and is just a reaction to her actions. In general I'm just not really all that concerned with what my wife thinks of my actions or the job I'm doing. I'm more likely than not than to just put what I'm doing into words "I'm watching TV right now." and then ignore the rest. It sounds like a good answer, but it's reiterating the obvious. If my wife gets bitchy about it, I'd address he…
/r/askMRP08/01/16 08:38 PM
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Fucking divorce week at MRP. First of the year. Maybe some New Years resolutions to get it over with or some fortuitous tax planning. Either that or she figured she might as well wait until after the holidays.
/r/askMRP08/01/16 02:37 PM
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Well don't do anything you don't want to do. The general problem here is that you still don't have options. You are more or less ok with it not working out, which is a definite step up. It's not going to get fixed overnight either, but your whole entire frame revolves around this woman. Let's face it, you are working out, learning how to attract women, etc to get her back. If your wife tried the same game on the guys here that are further along, when she came crawling back we'd be spinning a few…
/r/askMRP08/01/16 02:35 PM
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I somewhat agree with you. Deliberately creating a situation that can be used to increase your SMV is a bit forced in my book. However it's easily enough accomplished by simply not hiding a woman's attraction (or your attraction) from your wife. Of course that's Dread level 8 which hopefully most guys never need to get to.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 01:41 AM
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no matter what happens you aren't going to fuck her that day. Well unless she agrees to do that one thing she never let you do.
/r/askMRP08/01/16 01:33 AM
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Fun game - my responses 1A) Reasonable request 1B) "Oh, I'm reading my book" <go back to it> 2A) Depends entirely on context. Is it your responsibility to clean that? Is it possible for her to do it? Is it just a gentle reminder? The solution is easy though either way. I decide if it needs to be done, if it's my job and what priority it has in my book. Then I tell my wife the results of that analysis. In general it's a situation to be avoided. If it is your responsibility you should just do it w…
/r/askMRP08/01/16 01:30 AM
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I'd just show up without much of an expectation. Refuse to have any long, philosophical conversations. There's a good chance she's going to tell you she wants a divorce. It's not really news at this point, tell her to deliver the paperwork to your lawyer and hand her his business card. Then move on to a different subject. This is roughly how I handled my first dates when I was in the dating game. Approaching it without expectation takes all the pressure off and allows you to think critically. Wh…
/r/askMRP08/01/16 01:02 AM
1

From what I understand, they'll build the content for you. You still would need a running LAMP stack to actually use it. The use case would be someone that wants to build their own blog without paying for hosting or making it public. Either that or someone that has an existing blog, but could make a test copy where they could fool around with styling, add content etc and then just publish the content to their public blog. Maybe even just install it on a Rasberry PI, put it in a cute case and sel…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 12:46 AM
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I'm thinking it's also a service that people would pay for, to have WordPress installed on a spare PC. It's kinda like selling Levi's to miners, there's probably more money to be made supporting bloggers than being a blogger.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 12:07 AM
1

The problem would come to light sooner If I ran family budget in past Well, running the family budget now found it and fixed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 12:01 AM
1

Have to look at what kind of short term project I can use to increase linux bash scripting knowledge. Install WordPress, do it all from the command line. Set up some cron jobs to push/pull content if you get past the first part. If it's for job purposes, I'd consider using CentOS instead of Ubuntu but it doesn't matter much.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 11:58 PM
2

Your user name is stargazer - why not join an astronomy club?
/r/askMRP07/01/16 06:51 PM
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This is really the thesis of 2 years to observation, interaction and evaluation. My first clue was when the standard advice didn't really work. The motivation was clearly there, but the actions it produced just weren't incredibly effective ones. I could up the dread, but really increasing the pressure on a person that actually can't perform doesn't get you anywhere. So I took a breather from that and tried to figure out what was going wrong. Second clue was the Women are Children post. It descri…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 06:32 PM
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Well I don't mean that as a bad thing. Getting her off is certainly going to help keep your wife around and she'll enjoy it. In a LTR you should be doing both alpha and beta traits. Women have sex for a lot of complex reasons and the orgasm is fairly down the list. That's why the author of the article kept banging the guy anyways and enjoying it even if she wasn't getting off.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 05:46 PM
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Lol I've been at this for 2 years now. SMV is through the roof, power dynamics have changed. I get to read articles like Women are Children but at the end the author just shrugs and tells us to learn to deal with it. For a plate, sure, but I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with an extra child running around. I need an adult. She already knows deep down what to do or not to do, because she is an adult. I'm not sure what makes you believe that adults magically know how to be responsible. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 01:41 AM
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Don't get me wrong the standard advice is pretty good at getting your wife not to do something. Simply walking away doesn't work if overused and can come across as an emotional reaction. I also doubt that it works in order to get your wife to actually do something. I'm fairly convinced that about 80% of this sub and most of the endorsed contributors have wives with at least some level of personal responsibility and some capability for introspection and adapting their own behavior. I'll call that…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 01:03 AM
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It's just the title of the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 12:30 AM
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Well it's just a simplistic example for the sake of having an example, my wife doesn't yell at me either. Have you ever considered that you are missing a learning opportunity? If you just nope out with zero interaction, where is the introspection on your wife's part? The key here is that you aren't doing the reasoning, your 3 year old or your wife has to do the reasoning. All you do is just empathize and occasionally throw out the right question. I'll give a better, real life example. I head dow…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 11:30 PM
1

Making your wife orgasm is a beta quality. I'm not suggesting you skip it, but realize that it's mostly orthogonal to the whole process of getting pregnant. Her husband made sure she got off each time. It didn't really do him much good since he failed to have the alpha qualities that turned her on.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 08:52 PM
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It's like building a house. Some guys spend a lot of time building the foundation (objective SMV) before they ever start working on the actual structure of the house. Others cobble together a foundation as fast as they can then start building the grandiose structure of their dreams. Then they come to ask what happened when their wives kick the corner post out and it collapses. You can't really spend too much time on the foundation if you ask me. While you are improving your SMV by lifting, bante…
/r/askMRP06/01/16 08:44 PM
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That's a pointless statement. 3 weeks ago you would have said you'd be together forever. 2 years from now you'll have a different perspective. Don't worry about that decision, just focus on making yourself the sort of guy that has options in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 07:56 PM
3

My wife does basically the same shit. It boils down to a lack of imagination, low motivation, inability to decide and crushing insecurity when you do things without her. Not really your problem, but it's not a quick fix either. Her parents built this mess, not you. It will take ages to train her out of it. In all honesty, you need to think about this from the perspective of raising a responsible child. Her parents never did it and it's basically what you are going to need to do if you want this …
/r/askMRP06/01/16 07:41 PM
4

Wipe your dick off and stick it back in.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 02:24 AM
1

First Mate is a job and not every wife has the qualifications to be there. Some are stuck in Most Responsible Teenager In The House or worse yet some sort of childish state before that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 08:18 PM
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You give her a choice between options, both of which are acceptable to you. If you driving home is unacceptable, you could tell her either you can stay sober or you can pay for an Uber or cab to drive us home. I'm sure you can come up with some appropriate options that don't seem punitive in nature. You getting into a car with a drunk driver isn't acceptable, nor is her regularly driving drunk and remaining in a relationship with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 11:55 PM
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Fear is the goal. People are afraid of powerful people. OP just demonstrated that he's also slightly unpredictable and solidified a notch above her in the power hierarchy. Overused, it would make him look weaker and wouldn't be productive. In a relationship, you don't want your wife operating out of fear, but an occasional reminder that the lion still has fangs isn't inappropriate.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/16 06:06 PM
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It's not a problem, it's just a shit test. A friendly, easily swatted one at that. Consider the underlying message: A) she's ready for sex and B) she values her time with you. I'd say situation healthy and normal. You can just ignore it or think up some funny responses "I was hoping to take it out of dishwashing time" or play around that she's your Secretary and is doing your schedule. Hell, make her dress up, pencil it in, then blow you under the desk. You are really missing the opportunity for…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 05:38 PM
2

You go home and you do whatever you would do normally. Go ahead and get pissed about the staying out, since not getting upset would be telling. You don't want her to sense that the gig is up. Find a lawyer back home and get his advice. You'll need to leave. No high paying job is worth fighting a divorce in an unfamiliar country. You just buy a plane ticket, you get on it and you get the fuck out. Then you initiate the divorce proceedings. With your new, lower paying job, inconvenience to her for…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 05:10 AM
1

Knees coming in isn't going to red light your squats. It's not going to cause an injury either, it's just a sign of form breakdown that may spell trouble.
/r/askMRP02/01/16 02:07 AM
1

The weightlifting subs don't care. My entire front page is pretty much MRP, weightlifting and frugality and I've never gotten crap about it. As for the squats, it's not cheating and it's not bad for you, but it is an indication that your form is breaking down. If you have the Starting Strength book, you might reread the chapter on squats to try and diagnose it. This video also helped a lot: https://youtu.be/U5zrloYWwxw If those don't work, video yourself to troubleshoot and post on form check Fr…
/r/askMRP01/01/16 10:32 PM
1

Keep doing the SL 5x5 until you hit the 3 deloads. Gains will never be this easy again, ever. The program you pick next really depends on your goals - what are your goals? Stronger? Bigger? Better looking? I checked the program and it looks like a pretty standard bodybuilding routine to me.
/r/askMRP01/01/16 03:17 AM
2

You start out by getting your sense of accomplishment from things that are completely within your control, not women. More lbs on the bar, more fat lost, another book read, whatever you male action plan dictates as your current priority. There are a lot of ways to interact with women without being tied to a specific outcome. Go to the event and focus on observing interpersonal relationships. Can you tell who wants to fuck who? It becomes a fun game, but it's useful too. You might try to simply s…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/15 08:50 PM
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New thought - if your woman isn't happy to see you, perhaps you weren't gone long enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 05:34 AM
3

How do you deal with diet advice from a fat person? Or money advice from a broke person? There's no point in making a big issue of it, just thank them for the information and move on with your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 11:38 PM
6

I'm sorry. Maybe I'm just drunk, but I'm truly sincerely sorry that your Christmas isn't the way you wanted it. No one else is going to be, but that's just the way it is. It's not stupid to sometimes make a sacrifice to make things work. It is stupid to always sacrifice all the time. There's no point in being angry at your wife who is just trying to make the best of what she's got. Enjoy Christmas really and truly for the day. Tomorrow you can figure out how you got here and work on it. Today, y…
/r/askMRP25/12/15 08:56 AM
1

Smashing this one is easy. If it's not logistics or and emergency, don't respond. Ever. "I was busy"
/r/askMRP25/12/15 08:06 AM
1

Lol $1M is pitifully easy under an early retirement plan. I'm already at 1/3 of it 4 years into my plan. Really around $10M is about the upper limit for wealth you can build in a lifetime with paid employment and index fund investments.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/15 08:22 AM
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I'm at about 10 years worth of fuck you money right now. It's a different world. A job loss wouldn't even really be a major problem. After a few years, I'd probably need to sell the house or something. Actually, unemployment would probably stretch that to 3 or 4 years. 1 month of FU money - no more worrying about timing the bills, expenses and paychecks 3 months - losing your job is something you can deal with. Major emergencies become road bumps. 6 months - not really worried about your job. Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 10:28 PM
2

You just need to be in the sidebar more. Nothing you've posted is really surprising. You are getting shit tested and your frame crumbles like wet sand. is generally angry with me running through the past ALL the time, as women do. No, as women do to you. It's just standard manipulative behavior - drag something out from the past, make you feel guilty, press until you cave. If you didn't care, it wouldn't work and she'd stop doing it. dread/lying and shitty boyfriend vibes created by improper app…
/r/askMRP23/12/15 07:26 PM
3

I told my wife "If you walk into the men's locker room, don't get upset when you see a bunch of swinging dicks and crass stories. It's not your place, you don't belong there and the best idea is to turn around and leave. If you can't do that, don't complain to me when you get offended"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 06:13 PM
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That's a "reasonable request." Not every demand from your wife is a shit test or comfort test. If it's reasonable request and you agree with it then just go ahead and do it.
/r/askMRP23/12/15 12:26 AM
1

Right, I use Mint to aggregate all the transactions and make sure they got into the budget. There's always a few that slip through the cracks. Personal Capital is probably better but wasn't available when I started. Personally using YNAB and loving it because the system (as taught in the training classes) is proactive where Mint/Personal Capital are more reactive. The downside is that it requires more work to add expenses and reconcile, but that can be a bonus for some. Really any system can wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 12:22 AM
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Warning: Comment graveyard below. Don't waste your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 11:59 PM
2

Pay attention to her actions, not her words. Her words are a reflection of how she feels right now. Address the emotion, not the message.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 11:55 PM
4

Build a 3 month emergency fund, pay off any debt over 5% then save up for this and pay for it with cash. Continually robbing your future to pay for things you don't need today is no way to live.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 11:38 PM
1

I'd start with values, priorities and goals. Your budget should be a reflection of those things. The nuts and bolts of it (payments, interest, etc) aren't the important points to discuss and just add to the stress. She's not likely to be interested in how big your emergency fund should be. Make sure the budget is easy to follow and the criteria for success is clear. If it's a game your wife can never win, she's not going to like it much. Whenever possible, make it self enforcing instead of relyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 11:33 PM
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Your wife isn't romantic and the candles and massage aren't turning her on. The orgasm isn't the most important part for sex. What turns her on is when a hot, strong guy gets so hot for her that he throws her on the bed and takes it. Read SGM for sure.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 10:18 PM
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After reviewing your money issues It's pretty clear to me that OP should look in the mirror if he'd like to see what is causing his money issues.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 09:53 PM
3

You have some major comfort issues with your sexuality. You need to get to a mental place where you consider yourself a sexual being that has no need to apologize for it. That doesn't mean you can't choose to skip the sex, but you no longer need to deny your need for sex. You can interact with women according to your principles but without denying your nature. Red pill and religion are absolutely compatible. Red pill is just a map to how human sexuality works. Don't complain if the map contains …
/r/askMRP22/12/15 07:37 PM
2

Captain Phasma is apparently a woman due to feminist backlash. I didn't really notice since she never leaves her suit. Also now that I dig through IMDB, there was also an evil mercenary with a bit part.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 06:51 PM
1

Interesting question - has there ever been an evil woman in the Star Wars universe? I can't think of one.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 03:42 AM
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I went through your post history, it seems like you've been at it for 4 months and your wife is on the lazy side. I'm going to assume that you are at least getting regular sex, even if it's low effort. At some point in the MRP process you'll get to a point where you realize that your life is already awesome with or without your wife. At that point, where keeping your wife is optional, is a good time to sit down and reevaluate things. You'll have let go of most of the anger and it will be easier …
/r/askMRP21/12/15 11:51 PM
1

If your son came home from school and told you that he had a ball at recess and then a bigger kid came and stole it from him, what would your reaction be? The first question out of your mouth would be "Well, what did you do about it?" When that happened to me in grade school, I was tiny and couldn't win a fight, but I just wouldn't let go of that fucking ball and guess what? I kept it and it never happened again. If your son told you that he did nothing afterwards and then asked you what he did …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/15 10:20 PM
2

How does this change anything? OP is backpedaling and making up silly excuses which makes it seem like he is guilty. "I added her because she was hot" would have worked better. At least he would have owned it. If OP wanted to slam dunk this one, he could do what I've done when this happens. I ask my wife if it's one of her friends or something, then I shrug and hit deny. I refuse to play a part in the Facebook attention whore games and it's not like rejecting the girl hurts your chances with her…
/r/askMRP21/12/15 08:30 PM
2

My mantra is one of continual self improvement. All you need to do is be a little bit better each day. Over months and years the progress will be unmistakable and eventually you'll basically be on autopilot. Edit: To expand a little, you don't have to "fake it" and you don't have to be picking up chicks tomorrow. You just need to make a little progress every day towards the new, better you. Handling it in small, concrete steps makes it seem much more manageable. You just pick an area you'd like …
/r/askMRP21/12/15 06:08 PM
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Hot girls orbiting you is an SMV boost. You orbiting hot girls on FB is an SMV loss. It's somewhat hard to differentiate the two. Why do you have her added?
/r/askMRP21/12/15 07:02 AM
5

No, you should deal with the emotion behind the soft no and stop taking her rejections at face value.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 03:55 PM
5

Stop bringing her with you on your birthday.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 05:06 AM
1

That's awesome. I'm currently reading The Power of Now and really enjoying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:06 PM
3

This relationship is over and you are in denial.
/r/askMRP18/12/15 04:31 AM
3

STFU is the reaction to a shit test or an attempt to draw you into an argument. Your wife was venting (at first) and you were right not to follow up on the problem solving angle. What you could have done is distract her from it, maybe making a joke or reminding her of something happy. It's not your job to fix her bad mood, but if you can, changing the mood is always welcome. Truthfully, you were going to be in an argument whether you liked it or not. Your wife was in a pissy mood and apparently …
/r/askMRP18/12/15 04:24 AM
4

The only method I've really seen work is The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing If you follow the steps in the book, you can get done in one weekend and be done for good. I did it with my own stuff and now I've got plenty of space. Your wife is obviously going to need to be on board and motivated, and probably going to need to read the book. It sounds as if she doesn't really care at the moment. You can certainly help by gathering the items to sort …
/r/askMRP17/12/15 09:53 PM
1

My understanding is that most Crossfit gyms don't have a programmed strength component. The main site programming doesn't include anything. I'm just suggesting that if your gym doesn't, you add one of your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 07:13 PM
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I'd point out that the majority of monogamous relationships end in spectacular disasters or slow moving trainwrecks. Neither relationship type lines up with what biology has programmed us to do. I find it hilarious how so many supposedly OI guys in the manosphere collectively lose their shit and type out 1000 word diatribes whenever poly or cuck is mentioned. I doubt it's a position deeply rooted in logic.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 06:24 PM
2

From what I understand only the WOD comes programmed from above. My gym certainly did skill work but it wasn't consistent enough to actually progress. Of course I haven't been back in a year and a half and they continue to improve so maybe they've fixed it. If your gym is doing that, then it would be much more effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 07:35 AM
1

The author doesn't really give it a fair shake. He sees it through the lens of a female inspired decision to allow for AF/BB in the open. Not every poly relationship has such an unbalanced power dynamic. At it's best, I could see poly allowing both partners to engage in their optimum mating strategies while still providing the stability of a family unit. Why not do "spinning plates" and "AF/BB" with a lifelong partner? The days of being unsure of who fathered your child are over. With birth cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 02:17 AM
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You use specific training to improve specific traits (such as strength). You use more random training to improve systematic traits (like metabolic conditioning). The problem with Crossfit is that it's mostly random training. If you did strength training and then pushed a sled for 10 minutes 3 times a week, your progress would crush someone that did WODs every day. It's fun, I get it. I'd recommend that anyone that does Crossfit supplement with at least weekly strength training using progressive …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 01:39 AM
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I wouldn't explicitly say it though. Never resort to overt communication when the covert communication in nailing the point home already.
/r/askMRP16/12/15 02:14 AM
1

If you handed RP knowledge to 9/10 guys they'd get nowhere with it. Sure, they complain about the current state of affairs, but it's not unbearable and change is hard. Maybe even half of the guys would agree with it and say they'd do it, but if you checked up six months later they wouldn't even be lifting weights. I read the book, I remembered back to other women, sighed to myself about how nice it would be to have a wife like that, then stuck it back on the shelf and went on with my life.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 11:58 PM
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My wife read it, nothing changed either.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 11:54 PM
3

Changing yourself requires self-realization and hard work and most women don't have the capacity for either.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 11:53 PM
3

I hate the word "trying." I couldn't be happier if I never heard the word again in my life. It shouldn't even be a concept. You can't be trying to dig a hole, either you are digging a hole or you aren't. Which one is it? Fuck trying. It's meaningless.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 10:01 PM
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It's really hard to argue feels with an empty envelope. It also doesn't require any math and really difficult to impulse buy something. I use YNAB. It's great. There's a series of training sessions that are a must watch, I'm not sure if you've been through them. If you haven't read a book on budgeting, I'd suggest Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover. One thing I've learned over the years is that simple and dumb tends to work better than complicated and smart. The real challenge is psychological, …
/r/askMRP15/12/15 07:13 PM
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Well since no one here can tell sarcasm - asking how to write a Red Pill Christmas card is about as useful as asking how to take a Red Pill shit. You don't have to insert MRP in every fucking interaction in your life. It's a Christmas card. It doesn't matter. Write a card, make it sweet, don't fill it full of BP oneitis bullshit. It's comfort time, it's not a shit test. Compliments that are specific in nature come across as more motivating and genuine. You can convey appreciation without going f…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 06:21 PM
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Use the Envelope budgeting system. Get a bunch of envelopes, label them with a category and amount. When you get paid, fill the envelopes with the amount of cash written on it. Take away all the credit and debit cards. Freeze them in a block of ice if needed. It's literally impossible to fuck this system up and spend too much. You can move money around in between envelopes all you want.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 06:55 AM
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Nope, just found this sub using the random reddit feature.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 01:12 AM
1

How do I ask about the lunch companion without her sensing my suspicion? Ask a coworker she doesn't know to drop by, check it out and just give you a general sense of what's going on. He doesn't need to spy or interrupt, just let you know if she's hanging out with friends, holding a guys hand, or just eating some lunch. My advice is to trust, but verify. Error on the side of not getting caught, it's a tremendous display of low value to be snooping. Is there simply not enough dread or SMV for her…
/r/askMRP14/12/15 10:15 PM
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Can you make that into a post and stick it on MRP? I'd also like to know what your recommendations are for Wife #3 which describes mine to a T. I've figured out quite a bit on my own, but it would be nice to hear a different angle on it.
/r/askMRP14/12/15 09:49 PM
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Expecting you to mate guard is a comfort test, not a shit test. Telling you some other guy hit on her is probably just a shitty comfort test. My response: "If I wanted a woman that no guy hit on, I'd just go get an ugly one." It's a bit comforting (I find her attractive) and it's a bit OI (no oneitis) and it's joking to boot (amused mastery).
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 08:10 PM
1

What is the advised MRP way to handle you wife going out (rarely) with friends and enjoying getting hit on? Be so awesome that she finds the guys hitting on her disappointing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 08:04 PM
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I never do controlling. I can't control her behavior, I can just choose my reaction to it. At some level you know that every woman out there has an imagined "backup" plan and sometimes it's an ex. I certainly know what my wife's backup plans are, but my continuous self improvement and high standards mean that any backup would be a serious downgrade. You'd be lying to yourself if you pretended you didn't have a backup woman somewhere in the back of your mind too. It's human nature. Telling your L…
/r/askMRP14/12/15 06:33 PM
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Write down some specific things that you appreciate about your wife. "Thank you for always having the time to take care of our kids" etc. You could add some hopeful stuff about your future. "I'm looking forward to raising our new son together next year."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 06:22 PM
3

So having read the full study, your summary is a bit off. Firstly, it was done on newlyweds so I'm not sure how applicable it is to those of us in 10 year marriages. The major conclusion is that if you value your wife sexually, it only makes her more satisfied with the relationship if she thinks you are committed. The follow on was that sexual frequency and marital happiness are only related if the wife perceives commitment. Also, interestingly enough, the correlation is a lot stronger if your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 04:46 PM
2

Have you been through "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" from the sidebar yet? It addresses quite a bit of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 02:57 PM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/gainit/wiki/index
/r/askMRP11/12/15 11:07 PM
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It doesn't matter what you say. You could give a speech worthy of an Emmy, you could say nothing and shrug, you could tell her to shut the fuck up and get out of your face or you could spend 3 hours rationally explaining exactly why you need the Captains hat and how great you've been doing. It makes zero difference really. Well some of those options take a lot less time and effort than the others. I'd personally delete it and say nothing, as those words change nothing and they are more about you…
/r/askMRP11/12/15 10:35 PM
3

It's a great FR. Not because I particularly agree with your steps, but because it shows us what is on the other side of blowing up your marriage. And it seems - not so bad and perhaps even an improvement. Just do your best to keep your kids in a drama free environment - you need a working relationship with their mother.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 09:17 PM
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No need to address it. Situation normal. Ignore the words, look at the actions. Also, for damn sure be lovey after you get some sex.
/r/askMRP11/12/15 02:11 AM
1

Sounds like you are moving too fast and too overtly. I'm not sure where you got the idea that you should withdraw affection if your wife says something you don't like. Dread Level 1 is working out and should take you about a month. Then you'd be moving to Dread Level 2 which is dealing with shit tests. Waayyy down the list is when you condition your response to your wife's actions. I just suggest you keep doing you, improving and keeping it quiet. If she tries to pick a fight, just don't engage.…
/r/askMRP11/12/15 02:01 AM
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What's driving the desire? Validation? Excitement? I found other ways to scratch the itch that didn't involve cheating. I'm pretty sure you realize that while the fantasy might be really exciting and fun the reality of it isn't really life changing. I'd recommend not dwelling on it extensively. That just tends to add fuel to the fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 01:39 AM
1

It's already getting annoying and the sex is fading one year in without a legally binding contract. Want the easy way to fix this? Move out. She can sit in her own clean, video game free house and bitch at the cat while she's not fucking you. I guarantee it's worth whatever you'd have to pay for on the lease. Look, every woman out there is a great girlfriend in the first six months. I'd recommend you change your girlfriends like you change the oil in your car. Three months is ideal, six months i…
/r/askMRP11/12/15 01:29 AM
2

You are correct that things are stable. She knows I am devoted to the kids and that is an additional security for her. Our marriage is pretty RP and I am already at dread level 3, its the level 4 where I want to make sure I am doing the right thing. When I tried withdrawing from her when she denied me bjs, it immediately resulted in <emotional manipulation> She is aware that <if she doesn't fuck me some girl might> so she <trickles me sex or I get bitchy> If I <actually shake the tree> then ther…
/r/askMRP10/12/15 06:25 AM
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whether I should use increased dread on her to make her give blowjobs It doesn't work like that. You make yourself into the sort of guy that gets blowjobs and maybe your wife starts giving you blowjobs. If she never does, you'll have lots of options if you choose to leave. Right now the apple cart is completely stable and boring and not going anywhere. It's no wonder she's not devoting any effort into guarding it and maintaining it. The goal here isn't to flip the damn thing over, it's to slowly…
/r/askMRP10/12/15 12:20 AM
1

The math is still a bit off. If you make $150K per year, the bank will approve a payment up to about $3500 a month (28% of net income). That should get you to around $560K of mortgage with some guesses for insurance and tax rates. I'd imagine that you are already spending $3000 a month in rent, so if you had $240k today and could cut your monthly budget by $500 then you'd be set. Those are just the guidelines for a loan, lenders aren't required to stick to them religiously and they often don't. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 06:20 PM
2

Amazingly enough, you are right.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 05:45 PM
1

My mind is always stuck in the future or in the past, running through imagined scenarios. Meanwhile I'm missing details in the present. I'm working this week and in the future on being in the present and turning down the noise from my mind. It's not really the sort of endeavor that can be specifically measured or planned for - those actions are themselves the problem. I'm just going to make an effort to keep my level of consciousness one level above my thinking mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 12:05 AM
1

Don't awkwardly ramp your way up from keeping your eyes averted to boldly picking up the waitress in front of your wife. Start by checking out other women, but not so much that it's pathetic. Get some IoIs back. Move up to friendly chatting. Then you can maybe get a little beyond that to flirting. It can't look forced and it certainly can't seem focused on her reaction. Women love competition, preselection and drama so you don't really have to worry about your wife being around. If you keep thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 11:54 PM
1

hookup/ sugar daddy website Seriously, it's just a website for prostitutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 11:22 PM
2

the houses are all $800K and up and I'm only going to make about $150K next year. So I need a second stream of income that's going to make me at least $500K after taxes over the next 18 months. This doesn't make any sense. It's like your financial boat is full of holes and your solution is to install jet engines. If you can make $500k over 18 months, why wouldn't you just do it for 28 months and buy the house cash? Wouldn't a 20% downpayment be enough to get into a house? Isn't it more feasible …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 11:18 PM
1

If you are looking for a guide, MFA sidebar is pretty good. You may need to tweak it if you aren't in a large city, don't worry about just picking up the "MFA uniform" because you'll be dressed better than 95% of guys and you'll never run into anyone that will recognize you just bought the basics.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 11:00 PM
1

The expectation is what makes the difference between a favor and a covert contract. All your examples lacked an expectation and they were not covert agreements. It's certainly true that women also engage in the same behavior, and the result is similarly disappointing. "If I hold the door open for pretty girls, they will like me." versus "I hold the door open for anyone that's behind me." Contrary to popular belief, if you do favors for people, it makes them like you less and if you ask them to d…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 10:37 PM
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It's obviously written by a woman: Apologize if you piss me off Don't pressure me for sex I'm automatically worthy of respect, don't question it Better get my money right 401k? You better have one cause I sure don't My family will encourage you to do whatever I want, don't bother hanging out with your friends If I can weasel a concession out of you, I'm entitled to it Don't worry, I'll tell you how to think You better stick around when I get fat
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 10:26 PM
2

Wolverine makes a 1000 Mile boot that looks great. They often go on sale during the Nordstrom Anniversary sale or near Christmas. Just beware that they have smooth soles, so they aren't appropriate for snow or difficult conditions.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 10:12 PM
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It's not really my experience either. I mean your shoes will get noticed all right, but the women that really get it seem to be 40+. The younger women either don't notice, don't care or shoebox you into serious, successful older guy territory. Perhaps OP is just visibly younger than me and the shoes bump him up into respectability. I seem to do my best in a Henley and Chucks to be honest. That outfit says fun but aware of fashion. For the women that do notice, it's a surprisingly big SMV boost. …
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 09:58 PM
2

http://rohitnair.net/pp/ The program picker was what I used which pointed me to Starting Strength (practically the same as SL 5x5). Seems like pretty reasonable. Mostly you don't have to overthink it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 08:52 PM
1

I just put mine in a gallon ziplock. If you don't want to make a mess, you can use liquid chalk.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 08:18 PM
2

If you are a beginner, don't make up your own program. Just get into one of the well recommended beginner programs and work on that for at least six months.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 08:17 PM
1

"That depends on what you've come up with" "I'd have to check my calendar" "Why, what did you have planned?" You can still say no even if you aren't busy. Why would you feel the need to have a reason?
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 03:46 PM
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There's more than one source of morality. For the most part it's a set of rules made for the convenience of society. Sometimes it's just whatever made the sheep the easiest to sheer. Monogamy keeps the betas laid and the kids with fathers. Murder, theft and rape being immoral makes for a world that's better to live in. Forty hour work weeks keep you tied to a single source of income and make it easier for you to control. You don't have to blindly accept morality, but don't blindly throw it all a…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 02:31 AM
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These school policies are a direct result of the federal government's action. The Civil Rights Act of 1964 states that a school that discriminates on the base of race will lose financial assistance - no more grants or student loans. Title IX stipulates the same for discrimination on basis of sex. In 2010 it was made clear that it extended to "peer harassment based on race, color, national origin, sex, or disability is sufficiently serious that it creates a hostile environment and such harassment…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 01:59 AM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3vri4k/you_got_a_stranger_pregnant_a_guide/ Just posted today, a good example of how calm, collected, thought out action makes all the difference in court. At the end of the day it will come down to credibility and maintaining your calm is incredibly important.
/r/askMRP08/12/15 01:26 AM
1

The return to baseline thing is completely normal. She's not the only one that's realized this and there are entire schools of religious practice devoted to it. The problem is not that she returns to baseline, it's that her baseline sucks. If she's the reading/introspective type give her "The Power of Now" which is basically a less religious summary of Buddhist/Hindu lines of thought. She's not depressed, she just rightfully understands that no major life accomplishment is going to move the need…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 01:03 AM
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Most anger is a result of reality not matching your expectations. You expect your wife to have cleaned the house, you expect your car not to break down, you expect the weather to be as predicted. When it's not, you get angry. If you find yourself angry, you have basically two choices - change reality to match your expectation or change your expectation to match reality. If it's out of your control, such as the weather or the nature of women, then changing your expectation is going to be a lot mo…
/r/askMRP08/12/15 12:14 AM
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This isn't the appropriate forum for most of these questions. There are legal implications and the laws differ so you'll need to get a good answer from your lawyer. What you can do is keep a journal of each incident. Write down the date and time, who said what, the specific attacks she did, your reaction, etc. Write it in pen and paper and keep it hidden. If you worry about it getting taken, snap a photo with your cellphone and keep it in Dropbox or similar. When asked you'll have specific examp…
/r/askMRP07/12/15 11:33 PM
0

Bullshit. Communicating your point effectively in a way your audience understands is a part of effective leadership. This is the same process you'd follow if your child had a giant tantrum. OP can make his point in a dick way or he can deliver it with the Socratic method, but one way is going to sink in a lot better than the other.
/r/askMRP05/12/15 05:39 PM
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Well so more thinking and here's how you deal with it. You sit her down tomorrow in a relaxed atmosphere. Try to keep it disarmed and as nonconfrontational as possible. Say something like this: "I been thinking and wanted to talk about what happened the other night. Before we start, I want you to do me a favor - just close your eyes and imagine a story. My friends are coming over for a BBQ and I'm super excited. I've prepped some steaks and I'm going to grill them. You go to the store and grab s…
/r/askMRP05/12/15 09:35 AM
1

Well seems like you need to be some sort of Stepford husband robot that can't forget the wine. Everyone in your house is entitled to feelings and to make mistakes without being made to feel guilty over it. It doesn't seem like your wife has the toolset to deal with conflict without resorting to indirect pressure (aka manipulation). The Surrendered Wife has some good examples of how she can get what she wants without making it into a power struggle. The truth is that getting what she wants is usu…
/r/askMRP05/12/15 08:47 AM
2

The first lesson is Acta Non Verba. Don't talk about it, demonstrate it in your actions. There's just nothing to be gained by putting it into words.
/r/askMRP05/12/15 01:45 AM
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The comfort test is about her, not about you. She's worried that you are just going to go leave and it's a sign that you haven't done enough beta. 9/10 times she just needs to feel loved, so put an arm around her, calm her down and redirect her attention to something else. You don't need to address the content of her complaint, just her feelings. So no point in arguing that she's got worth, just make her feel loved and it's handled.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 12:18 AM
1

You care too much. Let her stomp around, sleep on the couch and miss your workout session. It's only exhausting and difficult to handle because you care. "I'm not your personal trainer." "How's the tantrum going?" "Next time I'll pick you up and put you in the bed." (even better if she weighs too much to be carried)
/r/askMRP04/12/15 11:19 PM
1

act that she would reach for the divorce hammer shows how little she values the marriage Alternatively, it could mean that all of her other manipulations are now failing so she's falling back to the only power play she's got left. The divorce threat is probably about controlling you, not about actually leaving. It's working, isn't it? I don't think you are far off the beaten path here. It seems to go like follows: Shit tests Nuclear shit tests Threaten divorce Main event Realization that you are…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 10:27 PM
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You don't think your marriage is over. If you did, you wouldn't be busting your ass woodworking or coughing up fake apologies on threat of divorce. Work on your OI, shred the divorce papers, and stop living in fear of a divorce. If your wife threatens it, don't respond. It's probably just a bluff and you calling it will cut her last cord of control. Don't explicitly mention the divorce when you call her bluff. By all means go get a lawyer and start making preparations, but until she actually goe…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 08:19 PM
1

It's good reading, but I'd be wary of teaching your sons any of it. A victim mentality is nothing for a young boy to have - society may be tying one hand behind his back, but it's better to dwell on all the advantages. Of course his schooling is going to be completely sexist - but it's a crash course in Acta Non Verba within a woman dominated, sexist organization.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 08:01 PM
1

Nobody wakes up one day and decides they want to be a psychotic bitch. It's the sort of thing that happens because your childhood situation is terrible. Your girlfriend's mother learned this from her mother and it's impossible for your girlfriend to walk away unscathed. At the very least, this sort of behavior is going to seem normal to her and is leaving her emotionally stunted. At worst, it will become her way of dealing with you and your daughter. You've described a partner that is objectivel…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 07:23 PM
1

What happened to the first one?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:41 AM
1

She keeps asking me what is on my mind. "Just wondering how those tits would feel wrapped around my face"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:40 AM
2

You've asked for other's opinions so I'll give it. Lone wolf isn't a thing. You've just go shitty social skills. You can live your whole life with shitty social skills, but goals are a lot easier when you can convince other people to join your cause. The problem is you, not other people. When you can learn to enjoy other people for what they are, nothing more, you'll enjoy yourself socially.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:04 AM
3

Avoid feeding the thought process. There's nothing wrong with the idea, but the fantasy will always be better than the reality and it's not increasing your happiness to keep dwelling on it. Same goes for the ex, the one that got away, the relationship you fucked up, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 01:42 AM
2

Go get a good lawyer, see if you can get custody of your kids. It sounds like this one is over. Do not move out. You'll find that alimony and child support work both ways. Just play fair - do your best to get back to earning more and update your agreement when you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 01:34 AM
1

What would she do if you said something that was a complete turnoff? She'd just dial back the mood a few notches and wait for you to do something to bring her back into it. I suggest you do the same. If it turns into a complete power struggle, I suggest you just say "I'm not really feeling it right now" and just roll over or pull a page out of her playbook and starfish it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 12:03 AM
1

Let's translate this from womanese to your language. So last night wife gets a shower, comes to bed and says I didn't giver her a backrub "Let's have sex." After a bit I tell her to face-up and I initiate, she complied first but isn't too into it "I'm not really turned on yet you dumbass. If you really wanted it, you would have manhandled me over." complains that if she had asked to see something on TV I would have told her I didn't want to at that time, so why are we doing this then "Let's thro…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 05:40 PM
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You seem to be in about 10 stages of denial, so here's the idiot's guide to your situation: Your girlfriend is dumping you to go fuck other guys. This relationship is 100% over. Go get your shit back. You need heavy doses of iron - get the book Starting Strength and start doing the program. "Exercise and in good shape" means you are a skinny twat the runs around the neighborhood and does pushups. Go back to MMSLP, read the part about the MAP and start working on yours. Work on implementing the s…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 05:27 PM
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It's pretty normal. Once you take your wife down off the pedestal and start analyzing her behavior for what it is instead of what you want it to be you are bound to experience a loss of attraction. I doubt that it's really about her and more about your own poor choice in making a lifelong commitment to such a creature. Go ahead and check out completely. Just work on you for a while. After you've figured out how to make yourself happy, you can revisit the situation with the wife. You'll likely ha…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 05:19 PM
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Just go home, tell her that you thought about it and she's right and after reading some more you realized it was all completely misogynistic crap. Then go start implementing the sidebar and shut the fuck up about it.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/15 12:55 AM
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My wife does it when I let her, I think it's a grooming behavior seeing as Chimpanzees do the same thing. If it annoys you, tell her to stop.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 02:49 AM
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i doubt you said what you said to be intentionally hurtful He meant it to hurt. He aimed the nuke directly at where it hurt most and let it rip. I've done it, but I didn't make the mistake of apologizing for it because I wasn't sorry. That doesn't mean that I'd do it again. If your wife has a solid frame built on sand, perhaps she needs to be reminded of the fact from time to time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 01:16 AM
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What are you afraid of OP? What imagined scenario leaves you breathless with fear?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 12:45 AM
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she's very reserved, always has been..... She does enjoy sex she's just not willing to put in a lot of effort into, well, about anything. Shes likes things low key and is easily over whelmed. Literally none of that is true. Go ahead and save that comment for a comical laugh a year from now.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 12:21 AM
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It's latitude, not weather. Short days and long nights during the winter cause high rates of depression: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder
/r/TheRedPill24/11/15 12:01 AM
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Don't make life decisions solely based on whether or not women will find it attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 10:46 PM
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Your lifestyle is a choice. If you didn't actively pick it yourself, then it's a choice you've let other people make for you. I guarantee you that there are people living around you that get buy on 1/5th of what you make and live happy lives. Get yourself a copy of "Your Money or Your Life," read it with your wife and sort your way out of this financial mess. When your financial choices are clearly laid out and chosen, your wife will realize she's working for all those things she doesn't want to…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 10:31 PM
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Imagine sitting on a street corner arguing with a bum for 30 minutes to explain why you won't give him the change in your pockets. It's pointless! He has no power and you have better things to do so you don't waste your time explaining it. You simply state your position and move on or you just ignore him. Any attempt to explain your decision is an automatic failure. Address your wife's anxiety if you like, tell her no politely without giving a reason or just don't respond. You might succeed in j…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:59 PM
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If anxiety is the cause of <insert undesired behavior> then address the anxiety, not her complaint.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:45 PM
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Biking does the trick for me and is a major reason why I bike to work instead of driving or riding public transit.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:42 PM
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Maybe the best thing you could do for him would be simply to be his friend.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:39 PM
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What makes a woman attractive is relatively simple. Things like hip to waist ratio, clear skin, likeable personality are easy to figure out. Give a guy 5 minutes around a woman and he'll come up with an SMV that's pretty close to what other guys would agree with. Attractiveness in men is much more complicated. The physical attributes are pretty simple, but there's also things like social status that are more difficult to determine and somewhat easier to fake. It takes a lot of invested effort to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 09:30 PM
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1) The text messages aren't shit tests, they are just distractions. Answer them if you enjoy answering them. It's not a trap or a trick. 2) Never fight over the Captain's hat. Pick an area that needs doing and start doing it. Don't ask for permission or seek your wife's opinion or run to her with "Look Mommy at what I did." Just do it quietly for yourself because it needs to be done. Don't pick an area that she's already doing - maybe something like the yard or putting up Christmas lights. Slowl…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 11:02 PM
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What do you want out of this relationship? What you want will determine what you should do. It seems like your relationship is coming out of the honeymoon phase and your girlfriend is fishing for some security in the relationship. I don't honestly advise that you give her any. If you want to keep her around for a long time, then combine some unpredictability with some comfort. That will keep her feels going while not making her insecure. If you just want her to have lots of sex with you, the com…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 10:22 PM
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I've seen a lot of intelligent, religious people get hung up on picking apart individual scriptures until it says what they want to hear. The bible was written a very long time ago, the first parts were probably passed as spoken word long before they were written, and it's been copied a lot of times. Any exercise in diving to the root of the exact meaning of a verse is rather pointless. The wording may be a result of cultural or linguistic traditions that have long ago faded or purposefully alte…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 09:31 PM
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Good, that settles it and I'll delete it.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 08:49 PM
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You are all over the place. You clearly have all the skills to be an attractive husband but you vacillate between the extremes. If you itch for something exciting, I suggest you scratch it with your hobbies and not your life. I'd suggest a plan to moderate everything to some kind of normal range and then take stock of what you want after that. It's easy to sit back, evaluate and tweak when you've got a mostly reasonable base to work from. Examples: Mood - do what's necessary to keep your mood mo…
/r/askMRP20/11/15 07:32 PM
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Here's the thing. The words are just a distraction. You'll never win in the war of words with her so just don't bother. What happens if your wife "wins" the argument every day in words while you slowly reverse the power in your relationship by actions? There will come a point where the reality of your actions make any words pointless. Don't engage. Every minute you spend arguing is a minute you could spend enjoying yourself or doing something productive.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 07:09 PM
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Maybe the link below will help you. In that article it will explain exactly why your conversation went awry. Basically your girlfriend is one of the Clueless and you are one of the Losers (it's not an insult really) and your conversation's outcome is in fact predictable as your girlfriend reverted to infantile behavior when distorting reality failed and trumped your logic. Since neither of you have the skills or power to play for keeps anyways, your conversation of course didn't change anything.…
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 01:48 AM
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People want to be a part of something bigger than themselves.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 12:44 AM
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Try thinking of it as percentage of your income rather than a specific amount. Reducing your cost of living has a double bonus - the amount you need to be financially independent decreases and your rate of building savings increases. If you are saving 50%, you can take one month off for every month you work (even more after investment returns). I would include accelerated debt payments as part of your savings rate. Most recommend 3-6 months of expenses in a savings account, but beyond that you w…
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 12:39 AM
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It's a serious answer. How long would you spend explaining the concept to a squirrel before concluding that the squirrel has no interest in learning what is useless information to it and isn't capable of understanding even if it was so motivated. Don't waste your breath. The second point is that you are the only one ascribing importance to the literal words. You've brought logic to a fight that's about power and emotion and you'll find you've brought a knife to the gunfight. If you can't even en…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 04:29 PM
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I just wondered how I'm supposed to find the time to do all these RP activities with a busy schedule. Then I realized I was on Reddit a half an hour after I could have gone home. The solution seems obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 02:38 AM
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You can generally figure out the essentials by looking at her actions and her description of how other people handled the event. If she lost friends over it, it was probably her fault.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 01:46 AM
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financial advisor paid for by the company to help me develop a solid financial plan for the family Beware of wolves in sheep's clothing. Many "financial advisors" are just salesmen for financial products that aren't in your best interest. If they try to sell you any sort of life insurance besides term life, politely decline and leave the room. Calling the car salesman a "car advisor" doesn't remove the conflict of interest. The Boglehead's Guide to Investing covers all you need to know. You can …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 01:14 AM
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If you asked most people, they'd say they'd love to be a millionaire. If you ask them what they would do you'll get varying descriptions of how they'd spend the money. The reality is that people don't want to be a millionaire, they want to spend a million dollars. In truth, the only way to get a million dollars is to spend a million dollars less than you earn which is exactly the opposite. Women don't find frugality the least bit attractive. They live in the hear and now and they you to spend mo…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 01:08 AM
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Well then, she's entirely in your frame isn't she? Play with it. If the whole thing is predictable, then just flip the script and use her next response as your reply. Read the book When I Say No I Feel Guilty and you'll be unstoppable. For instance - Fogging - "I suppose it's not a very good answer." Negative Inquiry - "What about my answer do find unacceptable?" http://www.executivepsychology.com/workpsychology/2011/08/assertiveness-3-verbal-coping-skills/
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 12:35 AM
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How would you explain it to a squirrel?
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 12:21 AM
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it's always been a constant battle between myself and one of my more charismatic, albeit severely overweight friends. I suggest you let him win the battle. There's no point in making him an enemy and building him up instead of tearing him down increases your social standing. I am dead set on correcting my financial situation before December I've found it useful to declare a financial emergency and then address it head on by cutting spending drastically for a fixed period of time. Almost anything…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 12:06 AM
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It's not going to sink in until it's her own idea. If she gets up in the morning to berate you, just calmly and pleasantly go on with your morning while she does it. If she's following you around yelling while you calmly make your breakfast that's not a fight you are losing. You can even interrupt her, wait until she stops and then ask for something mundane that's not related to the fight. If the situation is really all that bad, I might suggest you start documenting it (keep a journal at least)…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:52 PM
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You've got too much analysis going on in your head. You are focused on specific goals and the end result and that fixation makes the whole thing awkward and forced. Just go, relax and focus on having a fun time. Practice being observant. Look at the people around you - are some of the girls/guys peacocking? Is one obviously interested in another? Is one girl twirling her hair so hard it's just comical? Taking yourself out of the equation a bit removes your ego and just lets you observe. You can …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:44 PM
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It can take quite a while for your wife to realize that her behavior is bad, decide it's her own fault, decide to change it then actually implement it. My wife has the tendency to let her mood be a reflection of her surroundings, pick a minor problem and then sit there in a bad mood. First I stopped rewarding it, then I stopped validating it and now I've just stopped being affected by it at all. She gets to sit around moody while I enjoy myself and finally last week it clicked in her head that t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:26 PM
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Seems like an invitation for some fun flirting. I mean see if you can get her to up the offer or imply that it doesn't really do you any good if she vacuums with her lingerie on. Maybe ask for a pic with it on so you can make up your mind. Maybe tell her you'll wear something sexy if she does a favor for you.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 10:49 PM
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I'd suggest you start with concepts that aren't too different from the norm and avoid using RP language. For example a 9 year old can understand "frame" in the context of understanding and avoiding being bullied. Your son can be taught to A&A, use amused mastery, etc and nothing about that will be controversial. What you don't want is for your son to parrot anything controversial back to an authority figure. A lot of these concepts require a nuanced understanding of the world and finesse in the …
/r/askMRP17/11/15 08:44 PM
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Did we all vote one day and agree that it was best to have marriage be a lifelong arrangement with one person? That decision was made many generations before us in some combination of biological success, religious edict and no doubt a reaction to the problems of the time. Other cultures made that decision differently and I'm sure we can all sit down and imagine many different versions of marriage that could work for a society. Hell, this version of marriage doesn't seem to be working out very we…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 02:29 AM
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Let's go through your options: 1) Testing the kid. Not testing would be dumb, but she's going to get upset if she finds out. Tell her you won't and then you do it anyways. It's your kid (supposedly) so it's not like you need her permission. If it isn't yours, there's a limited time period where you can get out of paying for it, so do the test soon after your child is born. 2) Getting married. It doesn't seem like marriage is really on the table and this would be a shitty start to a shitty marria…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:12 AM
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The doctor isn't going to give you a good answer unless he finds an actual problem. Telling you to keep going is all risk for him and zero reward so he'll advise you not to lift. Most doctors have little experience with powerlifting and "attractive" isn't a goal of the modern health care system so they'll point you towards some cardio. Still, if he can actually find an injury it might be well worth the $150. It's your back and your life, but if it's a one time pain that goes away in a reasonable…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 01:45 AM
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Sure. Just slow your roll. You haven't even managed to apply Dread Level 1 and you are talking about level 11. Your SMV needs major work. All you need to work on and worry about for right now is you. If all you did was learn to pass shit tests, lifted weights, got some hobbies and dressed well over the next year you'd be in a much better situation.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 01:02 AM
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other day she and my 5 year old were basically yelling at each other. Maybe redirect their attention to something else? I DON'T KNOW WHAT WE'RE YELLING ABOUT as a form of A&A? Just a complete topic change? Calmly pointing out that she's engaging in a shouting match with a 5 year old? There are other ways to defuse the situation. It may also have been easier to take your son outside to do something else as it doesn't involve any actions on the part of your wife.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 12:58 AM
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Get wife to reach her potential through diet, exercise and aforementioned boob job. TRP won't fix your wife. She has to fix herself.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 12:49 AM
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This is where all the "fun" responses to shit tests come into play. STFU works pretty well when you are on your own, but to your son it's you being used as a verbal punching bag. Make no mistake, if getting shit tested in front of your kids is the chink in your armor, your wife will be aiming directly for it. Try using a pressure flip, treating her as you would a disrespectful child, using an A&A response or amused mastery. The Shit Tests 101 post on TRP is a good place to get some examples. A p…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 11:43 PM
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have saved us tons of money by being mechanically inclined, however woman only value that for about 5 seconds. Every time I'm fix something my wife gets really turned on. In fact, it can make it difficult to get work projects done. Does she see you doing it?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 11:22 PM
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Moral actions are those that are most convenient for those in power. This revelation came to me in a discussion with a grade school teacher who described using an incredibly moralist system to run her classroom. She then proceeded to give me a demo, which quite honestly was a huge psychological test of frame which I was able to defend against using the techniques taught to me here. Guilt, manipulation, right vs wrong. It was hell to stand against and not feel guilty (even after reading WISNIFG).…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 10:55 PM
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I mean how attractive are the woman that are actively trying to game you? That woman that nervously strikes up an unprompted conversation in the elevator? The one that starts talking to you at the bar then asks if you want to dance? The coworker that's always dropping hints that she's available for you? The girl that keeps trying to wrap her legs around you in the hot tub? The woman that you hit on aren't really great indicators. Maybe she's bored, friendly, wants validation or could use a free …
/r/askMRP16/11/15 10:25 PM
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I believe that she'd have to go through 10 boyfriends to find a superior replacement to me. Oh don't worry, some guy that's attractive will be willing to swing by after the kids go to bed for some NSA sex. She may not be able to secure commitment, but she can get all the sex she wants and she's already got the resources and the kids, some hot younger guy to take her to pound town and she's set. Vasectomy gives me power. Right now your worth to her basically boils down to being a cash and kids ma…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 10:12 PM
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If the language is confusing, pay attention to the context and the delivery. You go out and do your own thing, now your wife is on the topic of sex. Honestly, after a year of no sex I don't see why you bother giving a shit at all. What's she gonna do, not fuck you more?
/r/askMRP16/11/15 10:00 PM
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How about this - what is the SMV of the women that actively hit on you or try to pick you up in social situations?
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:53 PM
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No woman chases after a guy that's a 5 in SMV. Any woman hotter than a 5 in SMV could be fucking a guy that's an 8 or better in the time it takes to put on makeup, drive to a bar, chat the guy up and drive back to his place. They also don't tend to fall in love with the ATM, no matter how much cash it spits out. If you leave, she'll drop 20 lbs in two months, develop a new love for the gym, dressing well and putting on makeup and be banging a hotter guy while spending your money. It's hard to se…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:40 PM
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I'll just speak about my own experience. I skipped a step or two in the MMSLP. I just skipped the activities based on picking up other women. I was married and not planning on leaving and I just couldn't see the point. Months later I came around and went through it. I practiced flirting and getting IOIs from other women all they way through a friendly chat. The results were something I never expected. The first was that I finally understood that it wasn't terribly difficult to get a woman into b…
/r/askMRP12/11/15 02:46 AM
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I wouldn't bring the other people involved into the conversation. Keeping it small, quiet and easily handled is key to this operation.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 02:35 AM
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So here's the deal with that statement - the "No" was necessary and everything else wasn't. Your actions drive the point home and the words are really pointless. You can "win" without rubbing it in and it's much less likely to result in resentment. As for your "intervention" I'd go with one of two tactics. A) I'd tell her that I don't need to run my decisions by a committee or B) Tell her that if she holds an intervention you'll tell them that you are bitter because she hasn't been having sex wi…
/r/askMRP12/11/15 01:09 AM
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She has three options: She can refrain from paying attention to the driving (shutting her eyes if necessary), she can ride in the back or she can drive. If she's riding up front and comments, pull over at the next safe location and put her in the back seat. Calmly sit there and don't move the car until she does it.
/r/askMRP12/11/15 12:48 AM
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You suck at this game. I mean you saw the trap - she took out the trash the night before to preemptively make herself the victim, but then you walked straight into it. She wants a fight and she wants to be the victim - so you don't give it to her. My reaction - with a chipper reaction and no hint of sarcasm "Oh thanks honey you took out the trash that was really thoughtful." and then hop in the shower and let it stew. Either that or you could just pretend not to notice and say nothing about it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 06:35 PM
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I agree with your analysis, but disagree with the solution. She wants a fight and he should stay out of it. She's desperately trying to drag him into an argument where she can play every dirty emotional trick in her book. The best way out is not to care and not to engage.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 06:21 PM
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If it's working, keep doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:39 AM
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Read The Way of The Superior Man from the sidebar. It has some chapters about dealing with attraction to women in a positive manner.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:24 AM
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Just from a time saving perspective, you get more bang for the buck with a compound lift. Adding in some pulling (pullups or rows) helps a lot as well. Most people add volume as they get to intermediate levels, but for the truly time-strapped you could add rest days instead. If you start by squatting three times a week, you can move to twice a week if the workload is too high, then once a week. I'm not exactly sure how long you can stretch the workouts before you can no longer progress but it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:18 AM
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Objectively, are you an ass? I mean 9 out of 10 times that's just a shit test, but this seems to be rather repeated.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 11:50 PM
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"Hard gainers" is just a myth. If you aren't gaining weight it's because you aren't eating enough. You might think you are eating enough, but if you track a week in MyFitnessPal you'll find that you aren't. Check the FAQ from /r/gainit. Most people in your situation add milk or peanut butter to supplement their calories. If you can't stand eating all the food, drinking the calories can help.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 11:43 PM
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I'd recommend you read the book So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love. I'd also recommend you read The $100 Startup and this article. The above have career advice that's substantially different from the norm of "follow your passion" or "get a stable career." There's more than one way to solve the problem of money without giving up your enjoyment.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 11:19 PM
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Let her know that I'm done with trying to earn her approval, that my job isn't to make her happy It would be pretty easy for his wife to twist that around in her mind. I'm not saying that laying down the cards is a bad thing, it just seems unnecessary at the moment. OP knows his wife better than we do, I'm sure he can take both points of view and make a good decision.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 09:15 PM
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The risk is that he's going to blow up his marriage by basically telling his wife that he doesn't give a shit about her. There's a time and a place to lay down the expectations, but that's either when she signals that she wants direction or if you are at the end of your rope and ready to walk. It seems like OP's prior actions are working, it seems like all he needs to do is keep down the same path and let her hamster do the work for him.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 08:19 PM
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I've said this before and I'll say it again. Buying a sexy outfit for your wife often backfires. A sexy outfit is a gift that she gives to you, and if her desire is high enough she'll go out shopping and surprise you with one she wants to wear. Compare it to buying flowers - if your wife tells you to go buy her flowers, it destroys the whole point of the gesture. It's also incredibly easy for it to become a covert contract - if you buy the lingerie you have the expectation that she's going to we…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 08:01 PM
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That's my language and I was referring to focusing on the long term (winning the war) not the short term (fighting the battle). Although that imagery really helped me in my path, to reduce the temptation to get sucked into a verbal fight when all I needed to do was STFU and act. War or not, OP is trying to change the balance of power in his relationship. He can expect that to be met with strong resistance and in all honesty he should just keep it under the radar for a while as he improves himsel…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 07:52 PM
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I wouldn't fuck someone's wife in the bathroom and come in and talk to her husband with a straight face. Neither would I. You are making the fundamental mistake as treating women as men with tits. If you were raised and lived in a world where you weren't held accountable for your actions and your feelings were considered beyond scrutiny and sex was available at every turn, you'd probably bang some girl in the bathroom too. Why not? It's fun and you are bored. It's not a daily occurrence and obvi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 07:43 PM
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I don't know how to put this politely, but you are starting worse off than most. Your wife is going alone because you are either an embarrassment or she's hoping to bang her ex boyfriend. Apparently you can't even manage to handle STFU yet. In my opinion, the ship has sailed for the reunion. In any event, this isn't about controlling the behavior of your wife. It's about fixing you. Forget all about what your wife does. In a month or two you can come back around to handling shit tests, but for n…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 04:52 PM
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You are fighting a long war here, it's OK to lose a battle. Old you might have crumpled into a nervous ball and apologized, new you doesn't see the point. Newbies sometimes get into this scenario where they are so focused on the short term that they force a main event when they aren't prepared. It sounds like she isn't going to the reunion anyways, so just let it drop. Your way out is to just be pleasant and invite her out. It gets really hard to be in a fight when only one of you is participati…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 04:04 AM
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You think she's just going to give up control? Maybe you'll read an article, become an instant alpha and then you'll get whatever you want? Maybe you'll learn to say the right words and then she'll turn around? Kill those fantasies with fire. Step 1 is to become a high value man and its done in months or years of hard work. Then you can have these fights. You were right to insist on going to the reunion, wrong to get involved in the why. If she won't bring you then she can't go and that's the en…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:58 AM
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I get tons of sex. If you were BB to begin with, the mate retention activities stop as soon as you aren't going anywhere. How hard would you work at a job you couldn't lose? Keep your SMV up and the dread going and you'll get sex. If you can't be replaced your woman will do whatever she needs to to keep you around. If the one right in front of you is perfectly good, don't toss it out looking for a better woman. My wife lied a bit while dating and kinda represented herself as things she wasn't. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 11:26 PM
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I thought this only happened in movies... are you serious? That's absurd... like a cartoon... Now you're making me have flashbacks to every time a girl took slightly longer than expected in the bathroom. No, that's spot on. Women will in fact go to the bathroom, fuck you, then return and pretend like nothing happened around your wife. The problem is that the experience of a man in the lower 80% of SMV is much different than one in the top 20% so you'll think we are making this shit up. I highly,…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 10:54 PM
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Seems like you aren't really OI about it. If your withdrawing was to other activities that are fun and you were having a great time, she'd be missing out. It would be really unimportant how long the cold war lasted from your end at least. Your wife can't hold an endless cold war against someone who isn't even noticing or caring. At some point most women will realize the only person being punished for their bad mood is themselves. For some women, you may need to drop the hint, but only after you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 03:50 PM
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This video may seem unrelated, but it's directly on point: https://youtu.be/h6TRCgJ2HkY
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 03:24 PM
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Cool if you want to get bigger without giving up the CrossFit, I can make some suggestions based on what I've learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 01:55 AM
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Politicians love meaningless issues that get people riled up but ultimately go nowhere. They can drag them out time and again to get their voters engaged. Then they take some meaningless action that changes nothing and everyone declares success until next election cycle. Abortion, feminism, gay rights. Don't make the mistake of thinking that those in power actually give two fucks about any of those things. They are just useful tools. In fact, they definitely don't want to "solve" them in any per…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 01:52 AM
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FFS, go to the grocery store and pick up some healthy food. Maybe some pastrami and provolone with some rye bread. Grab an onion and a bag of washed spinach, a bit of mayo and mustard (skip the mayo if fat). Go on Yelp and find a powerlifting gym that lets you pay by the day or a Groupon for a week at the gym or something. Anything. Hit those weights. Then go out to a bar afterwards and watch a game or something. Better yet, ask someone, anyone at the gym if they want to hit up the bar in an hou…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 11:11 PM
2

A little less than she'd want to see you would be a good amount to see her.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 10:03 PM
3

Or you could spend that time doing something enjoyable.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 10:01 PM
11

I went through a few stages: Stage 1: Holy shit this stuff works. Fun times. Stage 2: Well now I've improved my SMV, when is my wife going to catch up? Stage 3: My overweight, oldest teenager in the house wife is holding me back. I could be spinning plates and traveling the world. I never should have gotten married. Stage 4: A realization that the only thing holding me back was myself. I could go an awesome life of adventure married or not and there was no one to stop me. I could probably even s…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 09:55 PM
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Your are attacking the problem from the wrong angle. You are a rat in a cage pushing buttons for a treat and wondering if you'll get a better treat if you stop pushing the button for a while. The solution is to get out of the cage, not figure out how to best push the buttons. My point is this your plan still revolves around you getting sex next week, and it should be primarily concerned with you becoming a high value man. Whether or not you turn down the starfish sex doesn't really make much of …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 09:36 PM
1

It seems like the Anti-Slut Defense to me. She wants to do those things or doesn't mind doing those things, but she's afraid that you'll lose respect for her or she doesn't want to to verbalize it. Worse yet, she's afraid that you'll realize that she did all those slut things with Chad before you. Never ask, tell her what you are about to do. This gives her the chance to say no, but doesn't have the turn off of asking for permission. Don't bring these things up when she's cold. Get her really tu…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 07:27 PM
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Tell her that you don't want to have more kids right now and start using condoms. That will put your dread level through the roof. Don't get weak in the heat of the moment and take off the hat.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 07:05 PM
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Consider the quality of your source. Was there any benefit to telling you from the point of view of the messenger? What incentive is there for the other person to lie? Even if you go visit the guy and he tells you he didn't or you ask her and she convinces you that she didn't sleep with him, will you really believe it? Or will you still be stuck in limbo? If you force a confession, will you actually pack and leave? How is the rest of the relationship? What really happened with her ex? You mentio…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 07:01 PM
1

There's no telling. Some people get their shit together when subject to stress, others just fall apart. There's really no way for us to know how much of your wife's depression is legit and how much of it is just a method to control others or an excuse for shitty behavior. MRP isn't going to fix your wife, it's just going to fix you. It will add some stress to your marriage and that may force her to adapt or may leave her behind. It's not like this is going to happen overnight, you can adjust the…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 06:44 PM
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Maybe it's time to figure out how to get her into the mood.
/r/askMRP04/11/15 08:22 PM
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No, it's not too late. Even if it was, you should stay and figure out how to handle this woman while you run your MAP. By the time you are done, some woman will be willing to suck your dick even if she doesn't want to.
/r/askMRP04/11/15 07:27 PM
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My strategy for getting the truth is to just give her enough rope to hang herself. I have a pretty good memory for detail and my mind tends to pick up on contradiction so it's not incredibly difficult to piece most things together. Never reveal your hand unless you've got definitive proof. In all honesty, most liars aren't particularly good at it and the perception that they are getting away with it leads to slip ups. Pay attention to inconsistency, words that don't match actions, strange reacti…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:27 PM
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If you want power in a negotiation, you have to be willing to walk away. If walking away isn't an option, you'll basically have to accept whatever terms are given to you. When I first swallowed the pill, I skipped the parts about hitting on other women. It just really didn't make much sense since that wasn't the goal. I eventually figured I'd try it out and realized that it is indeed a part of increasing your SMV. I go to bed now every night knowing that I'll be having plenty of sex no matter wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:27 PM
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Well that really speaks to the problem doesn't it? You rely on someone else for housing, then they attach strings and you have to comply. You can't do your own thing with so many people having control over your life. You might want to think about the words of Thoreau - It's easier to acquire a farmer's tools than to be rid of them. Moving out is as easy as getting a new place. I'll tell you what you do. Forget about selling the house for now. Sit down and write yourself a plan of how you'll beco…
/r/askMRP04/11/15 03:15 PM
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Stop asking him for an opinion and stop caring what it is. What does my Dad think of the car I own? Fuck if I know because I never asked. Making a decision to spite someone is just as poor as making it for their approval - both decisions are a reflection of the other person rather than yourself. My father lived a different life with different priorities suited for a different time. Perhaps your dad succeeded at making money, but was he there for you when you needed it most? If you need to, move …
/r/askMRP04/11/15 02:51 AM
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The real movement for financial independence comes with cutting your spending. Your income is difficult to change, your spending level is entirely within your control. It's far easier to cut your budget 50% than it is to increase your income by 50% for most people. The exception would be that if you are making less than the median income for your area, some effort would be well placed in increasing your income by gaining a valuable skill with a reasonable training period (say less than a year). …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 12:29 AM
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I've been asleep at the wheel regarding finances. I stopped tracking the budget because I'd prefer to move to a self-regulating system. This sort of system works great for me since I have self control. My wife? Not so much. Quite predictably she's gone out and spent a bunch of money on food. I'm tracking the general trend on Mint now which is a lot less hassle than managing a bunch of categories and transactions. We'll just go over it once a month and review how last month went and where we want…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 08:42 PM
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"Can we just cuddle" turns into sex every time at my house. It's just a shit test to see if you can press through a bit of LMR. At this point, "Can we just cuddle" is my wife initiating sex.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 06:44 PM
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"I feel like you're just doing all these hobbies to get away from me/find someone else." "Yep, I'm gonna find me a blonde with a great rack." "Well my favorite hobby is getting blowjobs." "One girl takes up enough time, I'd never get to do anything fun with two." "Don't worry I keep telling all the girls that are hitting on me that I'm married." "I can't ever give you as much as you need, you'd be better off with someone else" "About all I need is a full stomach and a wet dick." "Tell me about t…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 06:41 PM
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I do something exciting almost every weekend. I know some people are content sitting around and watching some movies, but I find it boring and I prefer to hop from one adventure to the next and I don't have any plans to stop. Between hitting the gym three times a week, BJJ, Salsa and weekend adventures it gets to be a bit whirlwind but that's the way I enjoy it. I'll probably be out of town 2-3 times a month. I'm not spending a ton of money, I'm taking care of my responsibilities, and I certainl…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 06:28 PM
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CrossFit is exercise, a lot like playing a sport. If you go play basketball every day, you won't get much stronger, and your endurance and skill will improve to a point then level off. If you just play basketball every day you'll never end up in the NBA and you'll probably get an injury soon enough but it's about a million times better than sitting on the couch and it's a lot of fun. A training program like powerlifting, bodybuilding or weightlifting will be focused on a long term goal and invol…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 06:02 PM
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First step is to eliminate the obvious reasons why. Is she clean back there? Try when she's fresh out of the shower. Does it hurt? Do her knees get sore? I'd assume that you would have noticed at some point, perhaps you can try bending her over something like the side of the bed so that she's not on her knees. My best luck with pushing into taboo territory is bringing it up when immersion is really high and telling rather than asking. Get her all worked up and tell her something dirty that means…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 05:32 PM
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I'm pretty sure that if I had understood this concept before getting married, I would not have gotten married. I imagined that marriage would be less work - an idea that I find laughable now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 12:05 AM
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Getting married didn't help my career a ton, but growing a beard did. Whether you like it or not, image is important at work and you are best off managing it. You want to come across as responsible, dependable and pretty normal. The guy you'd have a beer with is the guy that get's promoted, not the guy that works the hardest. If unmarried guys aren't getting promoted, it's because they are perceived as more likely to leave than married men. Be likeable and a bit mysterious and don't mention a wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 12:04 AM
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If your SMV was at that level and you were willing to walk, there would be no way in hell she'd mention getting a side piece. My wife would never utter those words because she knows that I could be fucking someone hotter 2 hours after she said it. The threat of you leaving and getting someone better right now is nonexistent. There's no point in trying to negotiate right now since you've got nothing to work with. All you can do is to keep plugging away at your MAP and keep your SMV climbing.
/r/askMRP02/11/15 11:11 PM
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It's sounds like a combination of shit test and comfort test. It's just a pattern she's learned somewhere and the cause is her emotions, not really any action on the part of you. Apparently what she wants is attention and comfort and this behavior is the one that seems the most effective. In general, you need to give her an effective method to get attention and comfort when she wants it. I'd suggest rewarding sex or blowjobs with plenty of attention and comfort. You'll both get your needs met an…
/r/askMRP02/11/15 10:59 PM
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Honestly, who cares? Don't respond to the text, texting is for urgent matters and logistics and this is neither? If asked in person, say "Is there a reason you've developed a sudden interest in the details of our finances?" You can take it from there. What is of interest here is why she now cares. It could turn out to be a productive conversation.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 02:45 AM
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Wife works, but due to husband's job her income isn't needed to make ends meet. My evaluation is that you don't have a budget, finances are pretty loose and your financial health slips through the cracks while you aren't watching it. If you did have a budget and a plan, you'd have rather exact answers as to how your financial health would be. You'd probably do better with a reasonable budget and a SAHM than just guessing at it and both working. So a rare opportunity to have your cake and eat it …
/r/askMRP28/10/15 05:27 PM
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"I'm in the middle of doing this right now, can we talk later?"
/r/askMRP28/10/15 04:53 PM
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It's not your job to fix your friend's life and his wife being attracted to you is just par for the course. There's no need to act on it or make a big deal of it, just go on with your life and let him figure it out in time. Them "getting into a fight" is probably just a big shit test he's failing.
/r/askMRP16/10/15 02:08 PM
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You gave those presents with the expectation that she would love you more or appreciate it. In reality it had somewhat of the opposite affect since it really just shows her that you feel lesser than her and try to make up for it in gifts. The counterpoint would be that some people really appreciate and are comforted by gifts. However those gifts can just be of the everyday, cheap thoughtful kind. In the future, buy a gift if you want to and give it without expectations. If the rest of your life …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 02:16 AM
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Quite a few of the books from that era are rather dry reads that packed more information into its pages than the average human could absorb when reading it. How To Win Friends and Influence People is a similar story. Read it a chapter at a time, spend a week testing and implementing it. If it's still not sinking in, repeat. If you aren't really getting it still, just move on and come back to it later. You'll likely find value in repeating the process after you finish the book or 6 months later, …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 02:11 AM
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If you are poor, the Y offers discounted memberships. I realize broke doesn't mean poor, but it might be worth checking.
/r/askMRP07/10/15 09:58 PM
2

What's the critical difference between a roommate, a friend and a girlfriend? The sex. Once she stopped fucking you, was she really your girlfriend any more?
/r/askMRP06/10/15 12:41 AM
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You can have a alarm go off at random intervals during the day and stop to take note of how you are feeling and what you are doing. The random nature of it will make sure you are taking essentially random samples.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 05:32 PM
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I may have been the one that wrote that. A woman puts on lingerie and dresses sexy for you because she desires you and wants to please. It's something like you bringing home flowers for your wife - if your wife hands you a gift card for flowers, it pretty much defeats the whole purpose. I'm sure I'm not the only one that's experienced the fact that gifted lingerie is rarely used. And why would it be? She didn't care to pick it out, buy it and wear it because she just didn't care enough. Want to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 06:54 PM
1

This pretty much matches my own experience with my wife. Dread really doesn't work on lazy unless the problem is a lack of motivation.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 11:35 PM
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When I get out she is still naked in bed, so I join her and start to initiate again. She again says she doesn't want to have sex, and says we can cuddle instead. Sounds like a yes to me. You'll both be in bed, naked, cuddling and that won't lead to sex?
/r/askMRP29/09/15 11:26 PM
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It helps sometimes to put yourself in her shoes and see it from her angle. You called her to pick you up for your game, she sends you a text and you don't answer, she sits there and waits. You never come, she gets upset, she holds it together and comes into get you and avoids blowing up in front of your friends. Then you take your sweet ass time getting back to the car. She doesn't make the evening a mess by bringing it up and then the next day when she does you dismiss it. All you need to addre…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 11:24 PM
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Just work on you for a while. Work out, do the soft dread stuff, read the sidebar, hang out with your friends. Things like hiring the babysitter to make her jealous are likely to backfire on you if it doesn't work or seems obvious.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 11:16 PM
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What I do is just halt the conversation, identify what was wrong, then have her reframe the question. Her: "WE need to make some CHANGES around here" You: "Hold on. <pause 2 seconds> Just wait. <pause 3 seconds>" (What this does is suck all the steam out of the offense. She can't really bulldoze over you, and you haven't said anything that can be argued with. It also establishes that you are calm and this is an action, not a reaction.) You: "Your tone just now wasn't respectful or productive. Wo…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 11:11 PM
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The whole beauty of TRP is that it just doesn't really matter. She can yell and scream or cry all she wants but you don't need to participate in it. You can just go out and have a beer. Let her mind race through her options, she'll find that she really has none. Emotional manipulation won't work, she can't put the tiger back in the bag and leaving you will be giving up the best guy she can get.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 08:14 PM
1

Ready for the next revelation? Now that you've got two feet out the door she'll probably let you fuck her in the ass while the kids sleep 10 feet away.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 11:24 PM
1

I don't really understand why women ask for "emotionally available" when they clearly don't want it at any level. My best guess is that it's a psychobabble power play to bring you down to the emotional level where she can win the fight. I'm just not clear why any woman would cite that as the reason she's leaving.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 10:26 PM
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Well, I was angry at my parents for a rather long time. Hell, I'm still angry but I'm not really wasting an effort on it, because in the end it only hurts me. Diving deep down into the reasons why just isn't important. It doesn't matter if the reason was justified, you don't need to process it and you don't need to figure it all out in order to let it go. So long as you can recognize when it's happening and then choose to have a different reaction to it, you can leave it in the past. When you fi…
/r/askMRP28/09/15 10:13 PM
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I'm there right now, deciding if I should stay or if I should go. Still if you are making a lifelong decision without an obvious answer, some time spent contemplated and considering others opinions is probably worthwhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 08:02 AM
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A regular squat goes to parallel. I can't do regular squats in the shitty squat racks they put in globogyms either and I just wait for the power rack. The honest truth is that your gym is purposefully putting in shitty equipment to get rid of you because they'd rather have the type of person that comes and runs on a treadmill for a week and then forgets about it and keeps paying. I'd look for a YMCA, a Powerlifting gym or a CrossFit gym that will let you do your work on their equipment.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 08:08 PM
1

Do you realistically think the next woman will be any better?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 07:58 PM
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It's just a shit test, read the article on shit tests: http://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/ It's not a hard no, she's just putting up a little defense and probably would be more turned on if you can push through it instead of giving up. Obviously this doesn't mean keep going through a hard no where she flatly turns you down. The easiest method to past this is STFU, which is recommended for newbies (it's called Ignore in that article). Just keep going and ignore her wo…
/r/askMRP25/09/15 06:55 PM
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What are you going to do after you get divorced? You'll probably go onto at least a 6 month binge of improving yourself, dressing better, working on your game and putting yourself out there into the world. I'd recommend that you just do that right now without getting a divorce and then see what things are like in 6 months. For six months, just focus on making yourself a better person - basically monk mode (I mean you aren't getting laid anyways). Either way, in six months your relationship will …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 11:09 PM
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This whole post is like a grown man throwing a tantrum because he's not getting his way. Find a new gym, don't do A2G squats, don't do your squats to failure, do front squats instead, stick the gym in the garage, stick it in the boiler room, stick the rack in the finished basement, stick the rack in the goddamn living room for all I care. Adjust and adapt to the world or bend the world to your liking, but don't get upset about it.
/r/askMRP24/09/15 10:22 PM
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Oh don't worry you'll get results. A bodybuilding program might get you a better pump (which is nice but lasts for like an hour) but a strength focused beginner program will get you stronger pretty fast. In the beginning almost anything works, after you exhaust the programming in SL you'll have the knowledge you need to pick your next step. Be patient means don't make large jumps in weight just because you can. All those sets in between make you stronger, help you work on from and keep your line…
/r/askMRP24/09/15 04:37 PM
1

Indian girls still have sex before they get married If they are in India while they are doing it, they must be fucking somebody right? Why not be that guy? Premarital sex is frowned upon here especially in rural areas. Here we do arranged marriage. I've been to cultures where having sex before marriage renders a woman unmarriageable, but then after they get married it's game on for cheating. Such an environment would make marriage much less desirable. I have no idea what is tolerated in India. I…
/r/askMRP23/09/15 11:25 PM
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How did you miss the giant opportunity to say "hmm" and then walk off? That's game, set, match right there.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 01:06 AM
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"No, I'm not trying to have sex.... I want a blowjob." "Nope, not trying to have sex at all <while letting your hands wander making it's clear you are trying to have sex>" "Get your mind out of the gutter, why do you always have to make this about sex?" Then proceed to initiate. If she throws up her guard, it's mainly a symptom of her not being in the mood at the moment. Going with a funny/interesting/cocky response will usually get you past it. Giving up and then sulking about it is the worst r…
/r/askMRP23/09/15 12:56 AM
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You've won the genetic lottery at 6'7" and there's no downside. Yes, you will never look jacked but you'll still have a better SMV than a guy that does. I'd recommend this article: http://rippedbody.jp/how-to-bulk/ It does a pretty good job of explaining the ins and outs of gaining. /r/gainit is also a pretty good resource.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 12:45 AM
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Take everything I say with a big grain of salt since I'm not Indian. From what I understand, Indian girls still have sex before they get married, they are just pretty quiet about it. The Indian girls over here certainly are known to ride the CC with white guys before settling down for an Indian beta. I don't know if there's any social stigma associated with a guy not being a virgin over there, but I doubt it. Also, is AF/BB at least tacitly tolerated where you are? That would make marriage a tou…
/r/askMRP23/09/15 12:41 AM
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I agree with the above poster, but of course being more social and having more friends is going to increase your ability to meet new women, give more occasions for passive dread due to obviously interested women and make you more comfortable with the consequences of leaving your wife. Being a leader also increases your SMV and that requires the assistance of others. Sure, you can get everything you need on your own, but the ability to enlist others in your goals is useful and attractive. If you …
/r/askMRP22/09/15 06:16 PM
1

Well, are you getting what you want out of the relationship? Would you be laughed at if you asked for daily BJs? On the flip side, would you probably do it if she told you that daily back massages were important to her happiness? The thing is that reading through all of your posts, it's pretty clear what's going on. Once she had a child, her child is now her priority and now your needs can go get fucked. Stop bothering her with your pesky "needs" because hers are more important. There's a balanc…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 06:01 PM
1

Let's turn this on it's head. How do you feel? What do you want? Are you getting it? Her demands extend all the way to situations where she isn't even there, based on the feelings she might have while at home. However you have a feeling right now that you want to fuck and nobody gives a shit. Does she really give a shit about you, demonstrated by actions? You'd probably be content as fuck if she'd get down on her knees and blow you every day, but that's not even an option that's even considered.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 04:40 PM
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The writers of those books aren't flawless and the books themselves aren't gospel. This isn't a religion or even an ideology, it's a strategy and you are free to leave out parts if you don't like the morality or feel they don't apply to your situation. However you aren't free from the consequences of ignoring the advice so don't come crying if you didn't even lift and none of it's working. The general consensus around here is that cluing your wife in probably isn't the best idea. Keep in mind th…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 04:25 PM
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I'm all about frame, but here is where I think STFU just doesn't do the job. You and your wife are playing some sort of eternal game of the iterated prisoner's dilemma. If she snaps at you and you don't retaliate (in some fashion) then there's just no incentive not to snap at you. Holding frame doesn't mean sucking up abuse like a punching bag, although it can be a useful tactic for sucking the wind out of an argument that you are going to win via actions anyways. You don't want to come across a…
/r/askMRP18/09/15 04:51 PM
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Just say "Thank you" and show her a bit of love. It doesn't need to be complicated. If there's some sort of hidden agenda there, she'll eventually make it obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/15 04:24 AM
2

In the world of convenient lies, the man that speaks the truth is the enemy. Don't bother saying something when actions can demonstrate it just as well. Why didn't you call? "I was busy."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 11:29 PM
1

It's a waste of time, I mean I enjoy it If you enjoy it, it's not a waste of time. The big problem with gaming is that it gives you a false sense of accomplishment. If that in-game accomplishment is replacing the desire for real accomplishments or lulling you into mediocre complacency, then you'd be wise to quit playing. I haven't really played in years, I've just got too much going on in real life to have the time to devote to a game complicated enough for me to enjoy it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 11:27 PM
1

She isn't crazy, just fucking stubborn. She could teach MRP newbies how to hold frame like a champ (until she can't and you've got this). I'm just sick of paying for the sins of her father - at this point I don't think it has anything to do with me, and it's not going away anytime soon.
/r/askMRP16/09/15 06:09 PM
1

Her only issue is that she's overweight. The rest of her is really good looking. I could probably find a hotter girl without issue, but it wouldn't be overnight. I'm not really interested in spinning plates. I mean that's what I'd do if I was single again, but this arrangement where I'm getting laid every day isn't exactly the worst. I live my life, I enjoy the hell out of it and I've got sex and cooking on tap. If single, I'd probably spin plates until I found a younger, worthwhile girl and the…
/r/askMRP16/09/15 06:07 PM
1

I mean she's attractive, socially talented, loves sex and is usually fun to be around. It's just that she's also stubborn and willful and a terrible team player that gets stressed to the point of breaking when pushed to adapt.
/r/askMRP16/09/15 01:26 AM
2

She didn't actually get committed, the doctor just told her she needed to agree to go to a program the next week. They seem to want her on meds in the program, so I'm guessing it is fairly serious.
/r/askMRP15/09/15 10:27 PM
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You aren't going to be able to logic your wife out of kids. When millions of years of biology comes up against a unfortunate bit of logic, her unconscious (or conscious) mind will figure out a way to bridge the gap. She'll forget some birth control pills or start some martyr complex that leaves you a terrible person or find some guy that is just irresistibly attractive in order to fulfill her biological need. Your stated reasons for not wanting kids are bullshit - if you wanted kids and didn't l…
/r/askMRP15/09/15 09:43 PM
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Realistically, I'd just walk away. You aren't having kids or sex, so are you really even married at this point? What is the point of your family unit? You might give RP a try for 3-6 months with a hard deadline, but I'll be honest that having kids with the next woman is an easier plan of action here.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 10:18 PM
1

If you don't backpedal, you won't get blamed.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 08:48 PM
2

The problem is that you are basically living paycheck to paycheck here. You need to get a handle on it and guide your family out of this stressful and unproductive habit. In all seriousness, life is a lot easier to manage with $1000 in your account and much easier to manage with a year's worth of expenses or more saved up. You build a good foundation where you can make quality, long term financial decisions and that will further improve your financial situation. It's not rocket science, it's jus…
/r/askMRP10/09/15 07:18 PM
1

Why have this talk? Tell her that if she saves up the cash, you'll do the home improvement and then never mention it again. If she can't save, she won't and if she learns to save then that works too.
/r/askMRP10/09/15 07:07 PM
1

If a woman gets overly aggressive, I just let my wife deal with it. She gets to mate guard, it's kinda fun to watch and it usually gets resolved. I never, ever admit to having stirred the pot in the first place. Society and your wife will put all the blame on the woman anyways, all you need to do is shut up and act blameless.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 06:10 PM
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You: "Excuse me." pause Her: "Yes?" You: "I've got something else to do." leaves You are gonna do you and she can learn to deal with it. Or not. Whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 12:30 AM
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She'd be tripping over week old pizza boxes to fuck the guy that she's hot for. Dread level 3 is to get hobbies and activities and get out of the house - I suggest you do it. The day she asks you do to something and you have actual, exciting plans she isn't involved in is when she might want you back. In truth, it sounds like this relationship is over. I'd treat it as such and work on finding the next woman.
/r/askMRP10/09/15 12:25 AM
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You need to stop doing all beta and start working on the alpha angle. Stage 1-2 dread is nice, but it's not all that threatening and you need to get to Stage 3 and then start working through all the other stages of dread. Let me be clear that jumping to Stage 9 at this point won't be a credible threat and will backfire on you. Stop talking about the state of your relationship at all. The state of your relationship is whatever her actions are at the moment and making her try to put it into words …
/r/askMRP09/09/15 05:54 PM
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At some point you are trying to teach your cat to fetch and it's just never going to work out the way you hope it to. If you want her back, send her a text when she's been gone for 45 minutes and tell her that it's time to come home. If she's going to be gone for 3 hours, then have her take the kids with her. Realistically, she's probably tired of the kids and enjoying being by herself so she stretches it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 05:18 PM
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You might just change the subject. If she starts getting nitpicky, ask her about something unrelated or give her a job to do. What would you do if your 4 year old was complaining about water on the counter? Maybe hand her a towel?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 05:32 PM
1

On some levels your post makes sense. However she completely fucked up the family finances and he doesn't need any justification above "I want the lights on" to relieve her of her duties.
/r/askMRP03/09/15 05:02 AM
1

My neighbors partially home school their kids. Assuming you are intelligent, educated and motivated parents you can create a curriculum that is much more involved and designed for your child's interests. They are always working on fun and interesting projects and it's not like they are missing out on math or anything. As for the social experience, they are part of a club where all the home schooled kids get together for normal interaction. As of right now, I think their kids are back in a more n…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 08:38 PM
2

Stick it through, it gets better. Now that you've become actually OI you see your wife more objectively and understand that she isn't the prize. Now you need to learn to love your wife for what she is, not some bullshit version of her.
/r/askMRP31/08/15 02:27 AM
1

All this stuff about how you have to be so Alpha to prevent your woman from cheating or abusing you, I don't agree with. We all live a life where we balance biological programming against logical reasoning and social structure. The male version of AWALT (AMALT) would be that men's biological programming pushes them to have sex with any woman that is hot and new. Now sure, lots of men resist that urge and lots of men fail. Each and every man has that programming, there isn't one that works in a d…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/15 01:03 AM
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I think if I go to a shrink or sth they will want to involve my wife and do couples counseling That's a bullshit reason not to go to counseling. If you go to a counselor, they aren't going to ask you to do any couples therapy bullshit. They'll work on the problems you are having, nothing more. If they want to see your wife, tell them no. It's not that hard. If you are paying for it, you get to pick the counselor. Don't pick one that screams SJW. There are plenty of websites out there with tips f…
/r/askMRP28/08/15 10:35 PM
1

There's a lot of lag built into this whole process. First it takes time to actually raise your SMV. Some things like dressing better can be done quickly, but lifting and losing fat, learning how to deal with shit tests, and building game take time. At two months in, your SMV hasn't gone up that much and you don't get to measure it against your peer group, it gets measured against every guy in the potential dating pool. If we took a picture of you two months ago and a picture of you today, I doub…
/r/askMRP28/08/15 07:48 PM
1

See the Red Pill thing to do is to determine what is right, figure out what you need to do and then make it happen. The problem is that you picked the wrong course of action. Your list of priorities from most important to least important ought to look something like: necessities provided for, family, career, SMV and then fun. You, however seem to have bumped fun up to the top of the list for some inexplicable reason. Personally, I would have been booking tickets for my wife to go see her dying f…
/r/askMRP28/08/15 07:08 PM
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At night you shouldn't have felt compelled to justify yourself. Your wife was feeling bad, she got bitchy and you were the punching bag. Explaining why you were touching her is just a mistake - it doesn't matter why. In the morning, she managed to turn your own wants against you. How dare you not be satisfied! It's not carryover from a year ago, your wife is just being a bitch and you don't need to pretend like it's acceptable. "If you are going to roll around and be bitchy when I comfort you, g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 06:28 PM
1

You and me both. The problem is that there's no time machine that's going to take us back to rework or lives. Fantasizing about it doesn't help you improve your life today, it just makes you more dissatisfied with what you've got. By all means take your 30 seconds to think about it, but then move on. There's nothing preventing you from happiness right now in the situation you've got. You can do most of the things you'd like to do. If you hate the SUV, sell it and buy a Honda Fit. Do your errands…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 06:16 PM
3

"If jobs were enjoyable, they wouldn't have to pay you to show up."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 04:58 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ph9I-qPQ6FU
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 04:56 PM
1

Even quite a while in and pretty much over the anger phase, it's still good to reread that post and understand the parts that I missed on the first time through.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 06:25 AM
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I agree, which is why I posted it as my personal experience. My wife enjoys the gym and she's looking better, but it does have its downsides. I should make this a FR just so that other guys can roll it around in their heads. It would probably be much less of an issue at a globogym as I lift more than the average guy at this point.
/r/askMRP27/08/15 06:17 AM
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Your wife quits her job because there are zero consequences for doing so. Set a budget, split the necessary expenses relative to your income (if you make 70% of the income, you pay 70% of the mortgage) and make everything else optional. When she quits and the cable gets canceled and she can't afford a damn latte she'll get the picture. I wouldn't normally recommend this as I greatly prefer combined finances under sane leadership, but if you are at the end of your rope, this is how you fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 05:45 AM
1

The core concept behind any strength or bodybuilding program is the concept of progressive overload. That means you need to make the movement more difficult in small increments starting at a weight you can handle and increasing to a large weight. Barbell movements are about the best way to do this - the weight can be increased in small increments (as small as 1/2 lb if you have fractional weights) all the way up to very large weights in excess of 1000 lbs. Dumbbells and machines work too, but te…
/r/askMRP27/08/15 12:37 AM
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https://youtu.be/3c2KoWddKD4?t=25
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 12:26 AM
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Bring her to the gym with you Bringing my wife to the gym was a terrible idea. For one, it was basically my own private time to get away from her. Now I get interrupted every two minutes because she needs to borrow my belt, can't remember what weight she's supposed to be lifting or can't add up the weight on the bar right. Second, women distinctly don't want to see the hard work involved in building a good body. They want to maintain their illusion that you were just born sexy and by all means y…
/r/askMRP27/08/15 12:22 AM
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I haven't read Sex God Method but I just pretended I was a caveman To be honest, I didn't even really need to read past that line to diagnose your problem. Checking your history and the rest of your post confirmed it. This is a classic "two week alpha" scenario. Too little information, moving through the steps too fast and destroying any comfort in your marriage without building any power. You went from drunk captain to drunk, unpredictable captain and really do you expect your wife to be anythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 12:01 AM
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Your post is all about what's going on at the surface and you need to be focused on what's going on beneath it. If your life sucks and you turned beta then go out and fix it and see if the problems at the surface clear themselves up. What your wife did isn't even a shit test. She just ignored your ham handed attempts to schedule some sex like a beta would. It just screams "duty sex" and it's almost guaranteed to get the starfish. Go fix your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 11:48 PM
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In a month or two, tell her you are doing the annual credit report check and pull both of your reports. Either that or you could set up Mint to track her credit accounts as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:32 PM
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Once you stop caring about her words or emotions that will be 100% useless as weapons.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:30 PM
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When you get your kid paternity tested (as you should), do it quietly and don't bring it up to her or get caught. Don't mistake her belief in feminism for any sort of actual belief in any rights for men. For the record, I think the kid is probably yours, but it's just dumb not to check given the current state of the law regarding paternity.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:42 PM
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Sample boundaries: Feel free to express your feminist bullshit all over the interwebs and with your friends, but don't bring it back home. Around here the only standard is what works for both of us and "equality" isn't one of the goals. Do not take household arguments to Facebook or any other public forum. It's disrespectful and makes us both look bad. Poisoning the well by talking disrespectfully behind my back won't be tolerated either. Feel free to have a friend or two or your mother that you…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:28 PM
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Don't underestimate the power of good routines on your wife's mental health. Is she getting enough sleep? Eating nutritious food? Is she filling her mind with junk like TV and the news? Getting exercise? Taking time to have a mental break? You can't make your wife be mentally healthy any more than you can make a plant grow, but you can create conditions that are conducive to it. I'd suggest Yoga. It's close to meditation and if she starts her day out with it, the rest of the day should be calmer…
/r/askMRP26/08/15 08:06 PM
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Why do you even bother debating it? My wife says she's going to do lots of things but it's not like she has the patience or follow through to actually accomplish it. Does your wife have a realistic 10 year plan? I doubt it. I'd just encourage it (non sarcastically)- sounds great honey, let me know when you have enough saved up. You might as well let her have her dream.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:59 PM
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So once you become truly OI you tend to have this realization. Your mistake is to imagine that you'd be somehow happier single or that the next woman is going to be any more fulfilling than this one. OI means that you are already living the life of your dreams. Make your life meaningful and a hell of an exciting ride, with or without a woman. You'll find that its more enjoyable with someone to share it with and finding someone to join you will be a cakewalk.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:26 AM
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I need to figure out how to deal with someone who is known for talking "over" going on full tangents. I'm not a huge fan of Elliott but he's got a good video on how to deal with a person like that: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvBKC_8TTao
/r/askMRP25/08/15 09:16 PM
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You need to be the bad guy. Your wife can't enforce boundaries and her parents know how to push all her buttons. However they'll run smack dab into a brick wall when it comes to dealing with you. You dictate which topics are forbidden and then you tell your wife that she will tell her parents that you have banned that topic and if it's brought up again, you told her to just hang up (or tell them to leave the house). Your wife can just blame it on you and direct any disagreement to you. If need b…
/r/askMRP25/08/15 06:41 PM
1

Either that or she wants to completely crush his little insurgency but taking him to meet the alpha she could be fucking. Is this her response to dread? It's hard to tell without more context.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:22 PM
1

Turning money into income has never been easier than today. A simple but effective method is to just buy shares of a global index fund and forget about it. You'll be doing better than 90% of the "smart" people out there with complicated strategies that do no better.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 05:45 PM
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If all you've got for red flags is some graph a guy made on the internet, you are being paranoid. If her request was also accompanied by some new guy at work, general bitchiness, starfish sex, her sister's divorce and a newfound interest in doing her makeup you might postpone it for a few months to see where things go. However, this request seems pretty normal, the reasons make sense and I'm not seeing why not.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 05:25 PM
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If you don't think you can resist the temptation, you should bail on the flirtation. Same goes for a situation that would be likely to lead to trouble, such as your sister in law coming over when your wife isn't home. We'd all like to think that we have endless reserves of strength but our decisions made in the heat of the moment are frequently different than the ones we make when the situation isn't emotionally charged. The better part of valor is discretion. Remind yourself that you are going …
/r/askMRP24/08/15 05:18 PM
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Sometimes it means "I don't really feel like sex" which might get changed if you grab her into you, bite her on the neck, then roll over and go back to sleep. Or you know whatever gets your wife going and shows your desire.
/r/askMRP24/08/15 04:16 PM
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Whatever problems you are having right now aren't going to fade away after marriage. If you can't fix it now, before you get married then don't ask her to get married. At the heart of a situation like this is usually a lack of respect for you or a poor relationship with her father. The lack of respect just comes to the forefront when she's upset. All women are emotional creatures and will have moments where they are a pain, but if you can't handle it now, you won't be able to handle it later. Ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 07:00 PM
1

How old are you? 22? Let's fast forward 10 years. You married your 9 and the bitchy behavior got worse. You've been lifting and building wealth and doing interesting things for a decade now while she's been more concerned with makeup, purses and watching TV. Now she's down to an 8 (she did get older) and headed rather quickly for that 7 status. Your SMV has now bumped up to 9 and here you are stuck with a bitchy 7 while there's 9's flirting with you in the grocery store and tons of women 7 and b…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 06:46 PM
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The whole premise of that movie is deeply flawed. Average IQ continues to increase over time, population growth tends to be a reflection of a child's chances of living to adulthood and tends to drop off after a society obtains a higher standard of living. Besides that, I'd argue that the progress of the human race is mostly driven by the smartest and the average worker bee is becoming more and more expendable as time goes on. It's fun to look at RP concepts in movies, but I wouldn't draw any con…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 06:31 PM
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My thing is that I'm constantly escalating. My wife is a sexual being and we have a sexual relationship so that carries over into everyday life. Smacking her ass as she walks by, telling her she missed a spot when she's wiping the floor so I can see down her shirt - you get the idea. It's fun and it's playful and there's always a bit of full court press going on. So against that context LMR or hard no doesn't really matter. I'm always apply a bit of playful pressure and whether it's LMR or hard …
/r/askMRP23/08/15 06:16 PM
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You will need to keep your journal under lock and key in the future though.
/r/askMRP22/08/15 05:55 AM
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That wasn't what you were supposed to say. You were supposed to tell her that her friendship with the guy is inappropriate and over. Your wife never needs to see him again.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 04:12 PM
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I'd disagree. Continuous mate guarding and a lack of trust isn't a strong move. Neither is giving Chad a back rub while he picks up on your wife. It's best done with some sort of Amused Mastery like picking up a chihuahua that's humping your wife's leg, but OP has a much more direct, real world threat and he needs to stop pussyfooting around and come down hard with everything he's got to stop this affair in the making.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 04:10 PM
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End the relationship with the guy. Don't tell her about the snooping. Your instincts are right and mate guarding isn't beta, if done from a position of confidence and authority it's strong. The conversation should go something like this: "The relationship you have with X is inappropriate and dangerous. I want you to end it immediately." Then you just batten down the hatches, get ready for the storm, STFU and stick only to that exact point. It's a simple point and a powerful one and you don't nee…
/r/askMRP21/08/15 06:43 AM
1

Take a solo backpacking trip (or camping trip if that isn't possible) and take a few days to be by yourself with no responsibilities.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 04:08 AM
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I'm just reading this now and it was 6 days ago so I hope things are going better. The foundation of TRP is to increase your SMV. On top of that you start to act like the man with a high SMV. Eventually your wife should recognize it and come along, but of course it's going to take her a while to see it. When she does you assume your position as Captain and guide the ship - at this point she doesn't really have much of a choice but to fall in line or leave. It sounds as if you are trying to smash…
/r/askMRP21/08/15 03:56 AM
1

With that description I'd agree that you should just fade it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 03:15 AM
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You need to start with BROKEN RECORD. Each one of these reactions is some ploy to get you to capitulate on the budget process and drag you into a long talk about feelings where everything will be wishy washy. Better yet if she can gaslight you as a narcissist and drag you into counseling, which will of course blow the budget. You need a strong, simple message and then you just repeat the everliving fuck out of it until it clicks to her that it's not any more complicated than what you are stating…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 09:11 PM
2

comfort tests about how we never go on dates. This is meaningless. 100% meaningless. It's not attached to reality and addressing it with logic is a giant failure. You could be going on a date every day and she'd still say this. Case in point my wife said "we never have sex anymore" and my wife just looked baffled and confused when I mentioned that we'd had sex 4 times in the last 4 days. My point is the reality of the situation is irrelevant to the shit test you are getting. She's talking about …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 06:55 PM
2

I'm going to go the opposite direction on this. It's true that your friend kinda sucks and seems to enjoy feeling superior to you. However you don't exactly have other friends and getting out of the house, away from your wife and socializing is a big part of maintaining OI. Friends don't need to be held to the same requirements as a gf or wife, you can enjoy certain aspects of a friend and just find another friend that provides for other needs. Each friend doesn't need to be a well rounded packa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 06:39 PM
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I wouldn't hit the eject button quite yet on this. You've taken a look under the hood of what seemed like a nice car and what you found wasn't pretty. Yours isn't the only woman that collapses into a psychotic mess under too much pressure. I'd read a bit about self-harm to see what you are dealing with. She's not really crazy and if you haven't seen this behavior before, you can probably avoid it in the future. I also guarantee that your wife has been snooping around and read some of the materia…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 06:12 PM
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She was spending time thumbing her phone, and I told her to put it away and get naked. Take the phone, push her on her back, climb on top, start taking her clothes off. How would a caveman do it? Where is your desire for her? How is she supposed to be turned on if you ask her nicely for the sex? *Obvious disclaimer don't exert force over a hard no.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:45 PM
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You lost this battle by giving an inch and she's already steamrollered all over you and now you are trying to salvage it. It's important that you recognize that you've lost and you aren't going to come up with a magic statement that "fixes" it because what's broken is you not being able to stand up for yourself in the first place. In WISNIFG the book talks about "rights" of a person. One of them is: "You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior." You need to int…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:35 PM
1

It may take a bit longer, but there will come a point where even women will be forced to recognize the consequences of legislating their hubris. He makes the same mistake we've all made and attributes an actual, thought out strategy to women's actions. Women will never wake up one day and realize "Oh, we've collectively fucked up." It will just never, ever happen so take your dick out of your hand and stop fantasizing. What will happen is that the tenants of Red Pill will start becoming part of …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 06:14 PM
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First mistake was to take her accusations seriously. This conversation was a power struggle, not about abuse. If you want to deal with an argument you need to understand the underlying forces that are bringing it up and deal with those. If you look at actions, it's pretty damn clear. You increased your power, she picked a fight about it, she's now threatening you with leaving. So here you are in the middle of this power struggle and it sounds like your wife realizes at this point that you A) Don…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 05:25 PM
1

I was just commenting on the above poster's logic who sees red flags in pushing for sexual behavior but not actual violence (destroying a plate) on the part of a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 01:07 AM
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Pressuring your wife into doing stuff is abuse, but then he skips the part where his wife throws a plate at him. Plus, you can't really judge the character of the sub based on just the posts that are looking for advice, you need to look down below where actual advice is dispensed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 11:48 PM
1

Your wife doesn't want to know it works. Stop telling her. When a woman sees a built guy, she's impressed. If she watches him struggle pushing huge weights in the gym, it kills the attraction. "It's just hard work" she thinks, "anyone could do that." The mystery is gone, the guy is nothing special and the attraction is damaged. She doesn't want to know how her iPhone works, she doesn't want to understand how a car engine works, or the global economy or even the science behind her nail polish. Sh…
/r/askMRP17/08/15 06:23 PM
1

You stay because you want to have a family, your happiness isn't dependant on the woman next to you and the replacement woman isn't going to operate much differently than this one.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 06:06 PM
2

She took it out just before a 6 month deployment, not 6 months before the deployment. No point in using birth control if he's not going to be around.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 05:22 PM
1

Your wife isn't going to go zero to sixty on budgeting in the space of a month. She may like the budget better if she can internalize the fact that a budget is a plan for spending your money in the way that gives you the most enjoyment. Expect mistakes and even some intentional pushing of the envelope. Deliver your lessons on the budget one at a time and deliberately. I'd say the takeaway right now should be "We don't spend more than we've budgeted." If your wife goes over the budget, make her r…
/r/askMRP17/08/15 05:12 PM
1

For the budget, get some envelopes, write a category and weekly budget on it, fill them with cash each Monday.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 05:01 PM
3

Go buy a composition notebook and write it down there. You are wasting time trying to find an app for everything.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 09:40 PM
1

Wife failed to meet standards on her weekly weigh in for the second week in a row. The consequence will be that I'll make myself scarce around the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 05:45 PM
1

You and me both. You'll love doing it by yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:46 PM
1

I wouldn't hide it from your wife, but you don't need to volunteer the information either. If asked, just tell her that you prefer to learn Salsa without her there. She can't make you take her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:24 PM
3

At some point in your unplugging you realize that you are really, truly on your own when it comes to life. You can't bitch about things to your spouse and your friends won't respect a complainer either. Most don't even have RP friends they can chat with over a beer. Best you can do is to hire a psychologist to bitch about your problems or come to MRP and whine. I'm not sure that shutting down the complaining is the best option unless another place can be provided for that purpose. Being told to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:11 PM
2

It's not a set of tips. We won't teach you to act like a high value man. What is taught here is to actually be a high value man. It's about changing you, not your wife. You should see both the impossibility of doing it overnight and the unmistakable power of the method. When you are done here, its guaranteed that some woman will be willing to fuck you, and hopefully it will be your wife. The most immediate lessons to absorb are to cancel your meeting and learn the new power of STFU when it comes…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 02:09 PM
7

The Surrendered Wife is the book she's looking for. Hint: order it for her but don't read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 09:02 PM
1

In my experience (started at 5'8" 155 lbs with a belly and not much muscle) adding muscle made the fat less noticeable. I gained up to 185 and then cut down to 165 and now I'm going back up. If I could go back in time, I'd do a slower bulk (~200 calories excess per day). You'll find that you'll either hate how fat you are or how tiny you are, when I get sick of one or the other I switch. I did Intermittent Fasting for my diet - I stopped drinking soda and beer, ate a 500 calorie lunch and then h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:20 PM
1

Well I suppose he never did explain it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 06:30 PM
1

Your wife has boxed you into an emotionally manipulative corner. The only person here that is being bullied is you. If you want sex, you are wrong for being lustful. If you look at porn, it's infidelity. If you ask for sex from her, you are being a bully. If you dare get pissed about it, then that's somehow your fault to. Do you see how your needs are regarded as completely disregarded, but hers are paramount? You have zero control in this relationship. You need to be reading the sidebar materia…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 11:52 PM
2

I found RP after I was married. There were a lot of things I simply wasn't taught as a kid and it really tied together a lot of loose ends I could never put together on my own. I've since been working on improving my marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 11:07 PM
1

"I am tired of being the one who takes care of everything, I am supposed to be submissive to you, but I can't trust you to do anything because you are not consistent" So your wife is telling you to captain up. It doesn't work that way. The dynamic she's creating is "Mom has these expectations of you and these are your responsibilities and I will be the judge of whether or not it's acceptable." On some level her statement about your performance is no doubt true, but when you really take the Capta…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 07:13 PM
4

You haven't given your wife a path forward. While it may seem obvious that losing weight, quitting drinking, fucking you and not being a bitch is the path forward, she may not see it that way. I agree with the advice about the Come to Jesus meeting. Tell her that she's been messing things up royally and she needs to improve her behavior. Tomorrow marks the beginning of her fresh start. Close the business, cancel the credit cards, pay them off. Take all the alcohol in your house and pour it down …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 06:48 PM
3

I don't get it. Seriously, I don't understand you. If you were leaving, you wouldn't be posting here about it. Nobody that wants to do something and isn't afraid to do it talks about it. They just go out and do it and then tell people about it later. Haven't filed the paperwork yet? That's because you aren't going to. I'm not trying to push you over the edge here, I'm just saying you aren't leaving. If you aren't leaving, then your wife is making a huge fucking mess out of your life. Telling you…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 06:37 PM
1

She says, "that's not enough reddit, mister." While playful, its clear she is not ready. LMR. Press through. "In about 20 seconds my cock's going to be in you or on reddit. Your choice" with a grin. Getting a bit aggressive will turn most women on. Her blowjob offer was most likely "Oh shit, I fucked up, let me try to get this back on the right track." You should have let her, that's basically her apology. You were a participant in you getting to the point where you were in a bad mood. You didn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 05:32 PM
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Don't bring up the bossy in bed, it's not relevant to the argument at hand and I'm not sure what message you are trying to send with that. It's a standard shit test and you do not need to respond seriously. Use on of the reactions from Shit Tests 101 and move on. The fact that you didn't address the comment is all the answer she needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 04:52 PM
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What do you want out of this? You weren't in the picture before, her behavior was fairly normal and she's either going to get defensive or feel guilty. Neither outcome benefits you. I'm not suggesting you ignore the past, I'm suggesting that you not waste any time dragging out the past and rehashing it. Something tells me this is all about you. Your sense of regret over having made a choice that someone on the internet says was a mistake. All your wife's promiscuous past does is make her a littl…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 03:36 PM
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I agree with your assessment here. Seems like a low SMV guy with few options trying to slug it out over the captains wheel. When your wife thinks you might leave, knows you can easily get a better partner and actually cares if you leave, you'll get a whole new reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 05:09 AM
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No, for a beginner that program is pretty pointless. I don't mean that it won't work, it's just way more complication than is needed at this point. Strength and hypertrophy will go pretty much hand in hand for a beginner and the compound lifts are great for working multiple muscles at the same time. I highly recommend you start by building a base of strength and then branch out after you've done it for a while. There's also nothing wrong with adding a little vanity work to your program at the en…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 08:57 PM
1

The root problem here is that you are a little bitch. I don't mean that in an insulting way, but who gets yelled at like that? This doesn't happen to me. I'm simply not going to sit there and take it unless I'm in some sort of position where the other person has a lot of power over me. I just don't tolerate it. My reaction would have been to hang up once she started harping on the phone. If my wife yelled at me like your gf did, the reaction would have been "Shut the fuck up, this conversation i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 06:01 AM
2

The rule of thumb is don't reward nothing and especially don't reward bad behavior. Also, don't make the reward an if/then reward which is terrible for motivation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:15 PM
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First off, ballroom dancing is like RP in a nutshell. Weak, inconsistent or vague lead and you are getting shit tested in a heartbeat. If your wife went the wrong way, you probably led it wrong. Had you led it the right way, she would have followed without thinking. Many women will just follow the moves without a damn thought about it, I can lead a good follower into a move she's never done before without issue. The signal you are giving is probably vague, too late or wasn't preceded by another …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/15 11:27 PM
1

Try think of yourself as just if you were viewing the situation as an observer. What's he going to do? Is he going to be mad? What good will it do? Is there something else he could do instead?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/15 08:29 PM
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She's not wrong. Your relationship with the other girl is playing with fire and you should know it. Is it to get back at her for her orbiter? Can't you find a guy friend to bitch about her to?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/15 01:37 AM
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I can only speak to how I let anger out of my life. Most of the change was based on concepts from the book How to Practice: The Way to a Meaningful Life as well as some techniques learned through cognitive behavioral therapy. The gist of the whole idea is that anger is a choice. Something happens to you and you choose to be angry about it. At the moment anger seems inevitable, but that's really just a thought pattern in your mind. After some reflection, anger is generally a reaction that doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 11:03 PM
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then she climbed into bed she said "I'm tired" Just like the girl at the bar that says she's not going to sleep with you. You know your wife better than I do, but that's not a hard no to me. Better reaction: Say "Oh I'm so tired too," start cuddling and warming her up, "There's just no way we are having sex," start escalating. Her desire is responsive and she'll probably get turned on if you play your cards right and make her feel like you can't keep your hands off of her. You can run push pull …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:37 PM
1

Nice, walks are a great idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:11 PM
1

Well part of the problem here is that you approached the budget from a pretty typical, but somewhat flawed perspective. You took your current spending, drew up some pretty arbitrary guidelines where the math adds up and now you have a budget. Instead, approach it from the perspective of values and goals. Your values might be close friendships or vacations or financial stability. What you pick for values is between you and your wife, but don't feel the need to have it make sense. If you value fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:07 PM
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Sure, post how last week went and what this weeks plan is. Accountability makes it more likely that you will succeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 05:46 PM
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Time to post in this weeks' Own Your Own Shit!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 04:53 AM
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Although to be honest, I don't blame you. Married Red Pill basically has zero prescriptive advice when it comes to this scenario. Some guys don't really have to "break" their wives, just Captain up. Other guys do "break" their wives, but their wives are emotionally intelligent enough to figure out how to put the pieces back to together. This is why I keep seeing so many guys come here with a post like OPs, and half the comments are basically, fuck that bitch, this just proves it's working, keep …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 04:39 AM
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The key is to paint her as crazy and undermine her authority. Now it will look obvious if you do it, but if you confide in a few gossips it doesn't take much to dethrone someone.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 04:00 AM
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The response to the comfort test can be as simple as bringing her close to you and telling you love her. Or take her to the bedroom and have sex with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 11:03 PM
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Two things - first you justified your decision which makes it seem debatable. You could have said "I don't want to give you a ride, so I won't" and then there's nothing to argue with. Second you let the bitching go on for an hour and a half. You were under no obligation to sit there and listen to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 06:39 PM
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I'd agree with everything but the lingerie. If you want your wife to actually wear the lingerie she has to decide to buy it for you on her own.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 05:27 PM
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Only one line of this post was needed: "I don’t want to go" If you don't want to go, then don't go. You don't need to list a reason or get into an argument over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 05:23 PM
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The celebrity gossip and YouTube aren't serving a useful purpose. I'd just cut them out entirely. Once she's lost track for a month, she'd probably find the obsession silly. Get her a library card and do weekly trips to the library. However the gossip is feeling a need of some sort. It's likely that your wife is bored and lonely. Is she a SAHM? Perhaps you can instead have her call her mother more often or join a group of women that have decent values. A daily yoga class might help, or training …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 05:14 PM
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I am having trouble not appearing butthurt about this. Part of the reason is my generally sarcastic and cynical disposition. Is there a good method to mask this? To an outsider, your situation is a bit funny. Your wife ambushes you in the shower to demand you give her a ride then slams the door when you don't. It's a huge overreaction and there's some humor in it. If all the members of this sub were sitting there watching it in real time, we'd be chuckling and laughing over it. So focus on that …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 04:57 PM
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At the same time, I don't think he's dealing with a woman that's acting within the bounds of normal human behavior. She's: Deliberately undermined him to his daughter Threatened to leave him and take his daughter over minor events Refused to change her name to his Combine that with the implied context of an emotionally abusive family life growing up and I don't think his wife is playing this game in a way that's conducive to a healthy relationship. I don't have any particular advice here, but th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 02:05 AM
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You can let her put together the thought on her own and then bring it up. Hopefully she'll process that concept on her own and decide to just not mention it. Her: "So you are going to keep doing this even if it means divorce?" You: "I'm going to continue doing this." Her: "Even if we get a divorce over it?" You: "That would be your choice, not mine."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:28 AM
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Well went through your history. Your wife seems like a real piece of work and you don't seem to be advancing too quickly. Just keep heading down the path and keep it about you. You are probably going to endure some massive nukes along the way. Be sure to demonstrate by actions that you are still invested in the relationship. Under no circumstances mention initiating a divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:01 AM
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Right, I went through it too. Going through TRP doesn't guarantee your wife follows and a huge lag can be a major test of your relationship. It seems also to coordinate with the depression phase of unplugging. You just look over at the woman you are married to and realize that she's no prize, fixing her is hard work and after you truly have OI it doesn't really matter that much. I'm sure there are others that bypassed this stage, but I'm going to guess that they were married to a woman that took…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:49 PM
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Bringing up the past seems weak. Better to not give a reason or to say he wants alone time.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:37 PM
1

The limit to cardio will be your joints and tendons. Use more than one type of exercise to help the impact. Biking, rowing, swimming and the elliptical all have less impact than running. Lifting can be done at the same time, but I'd gradually ramp up the workload rather than jumping in to all at once to give your body some time to adjust to the workload. Caloric restriction or some form of diet will be where you major changes come from. It's a lot easier to skip 400 calories of eating then it is…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:27 AM
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I'd go with "Come back when you've calmed down and can speak to me in an appropriate manner."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 02:12 AM
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Do you not have the $150 to pay the doctor? Is the appointment a necessity? Just trying to understand the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 07:19 PM
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It's regret and it's about you, not your wife. It's OK to process the feelings, but you need to exit the cycle at some point. Otherwise you'll be stuck in the past and the choices you didn't make rather than the future and the choices you are making today.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 07:15 PM
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Plans to wake up earlier haven't been working out properly. Part of it is going to bed late for legitimate reasons, some of it's just laziness and not wanting to get out of bed. I've set the internet to turn off at 9PM, but I'm not really sure if it's actually working or not. For the next week I'll get up by 7 each day and then I'll move it earlier until I'm happy with the time I'm waking up at.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 07:05 PM
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If he admits fault, he's going to need to survive years of shit tests about him being abusive. If he tells her she's lucky she didn't get attacked, she'll figure it's her own fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 11:06 PM
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Well after reading TRP for a while a lightbulb went off in my head. I've had a few relationships where the woman was shockingly unconcerned about me dating other women. In other contexts I've always felt like I was missing something about all the women that knew their husband was cheating but didn't leave. Once we've taken woman off the pedestal we can start questioning whether or not the want monogamy or just security. However I don't want to get to far down this discussion and into territory t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 09:16 PM
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If she does it a little, let her run and tell her friends and vent. If she brings it back to you, tell her you don't give a fuck what her friends think. I don't need to run my decisions by my wife's friends or a marriage counselor for validation. If she keeps doing it, tell her that it's disrespectful, makes her look bad in front of friends and she needs to stop. It would also serve you well to subtly undermine her friend's husbands. When he gets bitched at by the wife and runs back to get whate…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 09:07 PM
2

I'll spell it out from the other point of view. Woman: Wants AF/BB. Man: Wants a stable family home and new pussy. Both: Want the excitement that comes with a new relationship but realize that the feeling of limerence will naturally fade with time. If the guy is hot enough to pull women on the regular and his SMV is high enough to be his wife's best option for commitment then the chances of her leaving are reduced. Paternity isn't the issue it once was, and if his wife makes around the same amou…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 08:57 PM
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One thing - don't apologize. Apologizing just validates her viewpoint that your reaction wasn't appropriate. Come at this from the frame of - if you don't want a bear to maul you, then going into it's cave and poking it with a sharp stick is really stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 08:18 PM
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No one really responded to the "What do I do?" part of your post. You download MyFitnessPal and you stick to your calories like a goddamn hawk. If your lifting program isn't something respectable and well known (i.e. something you came up with as a beginner or a plan that involves machines) then you get on a good program. You read the sidebar of /r/malefashionadvice and starting improving your wardrobe. You get a good haircut. If in doubt, go to an expensive salon, bring in some pictures for ins…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 05:20 PM
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Do you want to be with your wife? What does she do that adds value to your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 04:59 PM
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Well I read the whole thing (mostly). My only comment is that ego will be a stumbling block for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 06:55 AM
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To play devil's advocate, maybe it was your mom's behavior that needed correcting.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/15 06:57 AM
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Video her behavior, preferably on the sly. The next day you sit her down and tell her you want to discuss the behavior. She may not understand how bad it is until she's shown. I'm not going to automatically say AA is needed, but you need to decide something measurable for progress and what the consequences will be if she doesn't do it. How she behaves when drunk is certainly worrying as for her opinion of you, but is probably fixable.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:28 PM
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I'm sure we've all backed ourselves into a corner by making a line in the sand that's just unenforceable and then acting like a little bitch when our wives stomp all over it and laugh. At that point your only choice is to lob a nuke or back down. Neither option is one that's good for your position as Captain. Consider it a strategic mistake. How far into the process are you? How drunk was the captain before? I mean I set a line in the sand regarding my wife's weight but it was after a year of RP…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:42 AM
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Who cares if she ate a spoon of peanut butter. Well ideally, he clearly expressed a boundary and then he needs to enforce it. Note to OP: If you can't enforce the boundary, don't set it. If he's going to actually enforce this boundary, then he needs a more effective, action based punishment if she violates it. For the record, it's a pretty crappy boundary. It smacks of petty and is impossible to monitor.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:25 AM
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Well my first thought is that you should calm down. The words she says aren't set in stone, thought out explanations of a serious matter. They are how she feels at the moment, and responding to it in kind would be a mistake. Your response should be nonexistent - you told her your expectation, you didn't back down, the fight is now over. I'm going to guess your frame isn't unshakeable at this point, so in the heat of the moment I wouldn't bother escalating the conversation. She's been talking wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:21 AM
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Just tell everyone to hop in the car, you are going out for dinner. If they ask where, tell them it's a surprise. Drive there and trust me once everyone is at the restaurant they'll be fine with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 04:08 AM
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What will help people is a more accurate model of how strength training works behind the scenes. You apply a stress (your work sets) which lowers your strength at first due to being tired. Your body reacts by recovering and after a time period will recover to a point where your strength exceeds your prior level. At that point you apply another stress and you repeat that cycle. See http://www.nerdfitness.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Stress-Adaptation.jpg As you get stronger, the time to recover…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 10:27 PM
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Your wife is working on her girl game. You are working on your guy game. You don't need to understand her methods any more than yours methods would make any sense to her. The scarf thing is actually a pretty typical symbol of submission and was probably recommended by another woman when she was asked for advice. Your wife isn't fighting a battle or shit testing here, she's helping you out. Focus on giving her clear direction when it's asked for and show appreciation and affection when she defers…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:58 PM
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Just don't respond. When she comes back, pretend it never happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 05:56 AM
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MMSLP is good for the first one. Just start with your MAP from that book and lurk for a while. Learn the technique STFU to deal with shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 10:46 PM
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http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2011/05/law-30-make-your-accomplishments-seem.html Read over that lesson and think about it. Your wife doesn't want to see you reading a book to make you a man, she wants to believe that you naturally are that way. She doesn't want to see you killing yourself in the gym, she wants to believe that you were just born that way. Women don't want to see the sausage factory. They want to keep their magical thinking. Let them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 05:31 PM
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Yes, your sex life will change. If you actually do all the self improvement stuff, starting with lifting, then you will at some point in the future be having sex with a woman that is attracted to you. This is about changing you, not about changing your wife. We can't promise that it's going to be your wife. Most women seem to come along with the plan and adapt, some will resist and give up power kicking and screaming but eventually yield but a few will just refuse to do anything. If you've succe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 05:29 PM
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I did this, but me and my wife did meetings together like https://www.ted.com/talks/bruce_feiler_agile_programming_for_your_family?language=en It worked OK. For my wife you need to keep score (makes it a game) and rewards. Instead of penalties, you could steal a person's chores and get the rewards. That moved the focus from "this isn't done, let me get the other person to do it" to "this isn't done, I should do it." Still, you aren't going to chore yourself into getting laid or having a happy ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 05:53 AM
2

OK let's do a timeline. 8 weeks ago - your wife goes to the doctor and gets tested or treated (normal for her symptoms) 7 weeks ago - your wife ovulates and gets pregnant 5 weeks ago - your wife misses her period 4? weeks ago - you start having discussions about getting pregnant 2 weeks ago - your wife tells you she is pregnant
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 02:36 AM
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Just move slow and focus on yourself first. That will keep you from unnecessary blowing up your relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 01:56 AM
2

You can't negotiate desire. That means that there's not a way to make your wife want to fuck you more besides to become more attractive. It takes time. Be glad that your wife is willing to give you sex even when she isn't into it. If you turn her on with your desire for her, you will find that she ends up turned on by the end. What's going on now is healthy and normal. As you improve the sex will get hotter but it takes a lot of time. Introducing some level of dread is about the best you can do.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 05:56 AM
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http://measureofdoubt.com/2011/04/12/pulling-levers-killing-monsters-the-lure-of-unpredictable-rewards/
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 05:19 PM
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70s big is a similar type strength program that has more focus on the upper body. While it's a beginner program, the PDF itself doesn't have a whole bunch of the basic form lessons you'd need if you are starting from scratch, but you can probably make do with YouTube videos. What it makes up for that with is an excellent description of various set/rep schemes to continue improving once a basic 3x5 or 5x5 scheme stops delivering results. I'd say that program could take you well into the intermedi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 05:14 PM
1

I've also looked through the figures and the baby boomers are starting to hit the ages where their death rate will start to increase. It's kinda morbid, but I would expect the industry to grow substantially in the coming decade due to demographics. That being said, it does seem like a very necessary job and one that you would be excellent at.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 04:35 PM
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Sorry I should have addressed the specific example you mentioned. The poster that wrote that isn't angry. Do you think the Training Instructor in Full Metal Jacket was angry? Not at all. Why then does he yell at everyone and insult them? He does it because that's what they need to hear to become stronger men. If they can't take the abuse from him, they can't take the abuse when it comes to somebody else. Most women have never experienced this and quite frankly women require different sorts of mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/15 12:11 AM
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http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2012/01/13/the-shockingly-simple-math-behind-early-retirement/
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 11:56 PM
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Yep, working on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 11:51 PM
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Anger is a natural reaction to the feeling that you've been lied to. Many men have spent many years and incredible effort based on a broken premise that if they did all the "right" things a quality woman would come along and they'd have a loving relationship. When it turns out that most of that wasn't true, some feel used, angry, or just like they've wasted effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/15 11:50 PM
1

Not quite. Also Financially Independent / Early Retirement = FIER
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 11:41 PM
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Welcome to why I unsubbed it months ago. It's like asking why /r/personalfinance is full of broke people. They are there because they are trying to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/15 10:55 PM
1

My career advice is this. First, don't start with what you have to offer, start with what the world needs. Then see if you have skills that might match those needs. Some of the things you are looking for like being around good coworkers, being your own boss, not on the computer, light on administrative tasks may be difficult to achieve in a new career field with zero experience. Those are often the types of things that you get when you are really good at what you do. The best paying jobs are dif…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 10:06 PM
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You've taught your son a moral framework - cursing is wrong, bullying a smaller child is wrong (is bullying a larger child wrong?). Moral frameworks - right/wrong, good/evil, should/shouldn't are incredibly useful tools of control. It's all well and good when the framework ensures order, but it can also be used to cause people to subjugate their own best interest (see the feminine imperative). Getting caught up in right/wrong, shoulds and whether or not something is "fair" delivers a simplistic …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 06:02 PM
1

Just do that and come back in a week. No point responding here any more.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 05:03 PM
1

The last couple of times, it was a pack of girls picking on a boy for being too "girly" and making fun of him. It's just shit tests. All shit tests. If he can verbally respond to them he'll do just fine. I'd teach him all the techniques we use to pass shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 04:37 PM
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Take away their power. Your plans shouldn't be contingent on whether your MIL will watch the kids. If your wife cancels something without your approval, have her call back and tell the other person that she did not consult her husband and the plans are no longer canceled. If your MIL gives you a gift you don't want after you tell her not to, get rid of it. There will be crying.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 03:33 PM
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Nowhere in your post did you define any concrete actions that you were going to take this week to improve your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 12:30 AM
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