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Use straps when you need them. When you need them is when you can move more weight but your grip fails. You are FAR away from that, but I would never stop deadlifting at 500# because I couldn’t bond the bar. Sure, work on grip, but go ahead and strap up and deadlift that 515#.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/18 06:12 PM
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Read his text message. What a pussy!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/18 12:04 AM
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That’s one of the stupidest things I’ve ever read. You should have banged some heavy weights.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 09:46 PM
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Exactly. Basically nothing.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 07:43 PM
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Does it hit home? That’s cute. What are you going to DO about it?
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 02:57 PM
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So. Much. This. No way around lifting heavy weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 08:42 PM
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Bench your bodyweight. LOL. Is that some sort of metric? So weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 05:22 PM
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Of course you can. You aren’t packing a bag and leaving them for years, you are simply going about your business as a busy man who has limited time. Time is valuable. Your bitchy wife deserves none of it. A real win is to take the kids and do something with them. Something quality. Let the wife sulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 05:19 PM
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Best post ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 11:46 PM
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Really great post. Too many spend time walking on eggshells. Many weigh EVERY decision against their wife’s emotions; from where to eat dinner to what car to get to whether or not to take a new job. Go ahead, get her input and then make the appropriate decision regardless of what her emotional outburst may be.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 11:36 PM
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Restrict the time you give to her. Time is a valuable asset.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 03:29 AM
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Bingo. Good for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 09:45 PM
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“Estimated 1RM”?! How about you find out what your 1RM is. I love all this pussyfooting around that goes on with lifting. Shit. Lift some heavy weights. Test your 1RM so you know where you’ve been and know where you have to go. Do NOT test it every week or even every month. Test it quarterly at the most, but for fuck’s sake don’t ever quote estimated 1RM numbers. They are pointless and represent zero accomplishment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 06:00 PM
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This is amazing. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/17 02:48 AM
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Best part of your summary is the "need to make it uncomfortable." That's the motivator. If one is unemployed but eating out and playing video games, then there is little motivation to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 02:56 PM
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Sage advice. Everybody wants a complex answer to their problems. They neglect the simple answers. They do this because a complex answer gives them reason to avoid ever doing anything. If the real answer is to read and implement the sidebar books, to lift heavy weights, and to STFU, then they don't really have any excuses because all of that is simple. TLDR: pussies don't like the simple answer because they don't really want to fix themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 02:49 PM
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Yes, you are being you! When all is said and done, our wives may or may not follow and get on board, but at least we are having FUN. We are enjoying life, bettering ourselves, having a blast.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/16 10:13 PM
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This time the spin is that women will cheat on their husbands if they don’t do more chores. Yep, saw an article about this in a major newspaper last week. They said they conducted a scientific study. What a load of crock.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 08:43 PM
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Conflict averse I am not. This serves to raise the testosterone levels, creating a nice feedback loop.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 08:30 PM
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don't be afraid to ditch your old friends who fight against your progress as you look to increase your value or become a better man, because you will find yourself available to be welcomed into a new, better social circle, with people who support your desire to become a better man. Sage advice. It serves as a gentle reminder that those blue pill guys will try to pull you down and back into their blue pill world. Watching you take the red pill and escape reminds them of their pitiful existence.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 08:29 PM
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Some women are just terrible fucking human beings that will never improve themselves regardless of the leadership you provide. That's why he said "Whether you lead her out of that abyss or leave her there as a broken bitter woman, it's up to you." Some women are broken and bitter regardless of what a blue pill captain has done to them or failed to do for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 06:37 PM
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Yep, bravo.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 02:15 AM
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Haha. Oh, wait.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 05:30 PM
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Good report. My wife has the same sign; rubbing her feet up and down my legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 05:21 PM
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You are killing it. Keep it up!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 07:05 PM
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No, I'm not telling you that you should train at 80%. I'm saying that in order to get jacked, ripped, lose weight, and gain strength, we need to life heavy. If the weights feel light, then screw whatever the program says and try to get a PR. Those days are like gifts from the iron gods. But sometimes the weights feel really heavy. What do we do then? Our CNS recognizes anything over 80% to be heavy enough to cause the stimulus needed to build muscle. Should you always try to hit 80%? No, but on …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 01:17 AM
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I'm not happy with my body composition. I'm working on it, body fat is at 18% currently. Only upper abs are showing, etc. I love lifting though, and now that I'm on a linear progression again, I'm hesitant to cut too many calories. Constant battle for me. My 1RM squat (tested in June) was 345#. My 5RM is 285# (tested in September), so roughly 82%.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 10:49 PM
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Depends on the crowd and the context.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 09:28 PM
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LOL. Okay. Deadlift: 435#. Squat: 345#. Bench: 240#. Press: 152#. Power clean: 220#. I'm 5'9" and weigh 178. I'm running a strict linear progression right now because I believe I have left some strength gains on the table. 5/3/1 won't get me those gains I feel I haven't achieved. I squat twice a week, bench, power clean, deadlift, and press one time each week. I also spent 3 years as an intern/assistant strength coach for a college football team. EDIT: I also have several professional certificat…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 09:26 PM
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A single rep at 80%+ of your 5RM and 5 reps at 80%+ of your 5RM are very different. High intensity: 5 reps at 80% or greater of your 5RM 3 reps at 80% or greater of your 3RM A single at 80% or greater of your 1RM. These are textbook definitions of intensity based on necessary CNS recruitment needed to move the weight as well as adaptation required to build sarcoplamic hypertrophy. Edit: to your comment, if you can do 5 working sets at what you suppose is your 5RM (5x5), it isn't your 5RM.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 06:55 PM
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5RM is the heaviest 5 reps you can do on any given day. If you can hit a 6th rep, then that obviously wouldn't be your 5RM. Pretty self explanatory. EDIT: editing to note that 80% is the scientifically derived number to build strength hypertrophy. You can get hypertrophy through high intensity (muscle strength increases and you get some size increase as well) or through volume (muscle size increases and strength gains are minimal to non-existent).
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:10 PM
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80% of your 5RM for 5 reps is high intensity. 80% of your 5RM for 1 rep is low intensity. 65% of your 1RM for a single rep is also low intensity. Right you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:17 AM
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No thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 05:18 PM
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CrossFit here. I squat twice a week, and press, bench press, deadlift and power clean each once a week. All compound lifts are hit each week. Currently running a linear progression since it's been 3 years since I last did and I believe I have strength gains I left on the table. Don't lump everybody together.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 04:19 PM
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Heavy is anything above 80% of whatever rep scheme you are using. 80% of your 1RM, or 80% of your 5RM for 5 reps, etc. This is scientific based on adaptation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 04:16 PM
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Also, I'm not nor have I ever been fat, I'm a way too skinny type. Same effect as being fat. To the hamster brain, both say "this guy can't protect me and his sperm isn't worth anything either."
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:37 PM
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Good post. You can't control the actions of others or response of others to your actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 03:07 PM
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Alpha as wolf. WTF. That guy was a mess!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 11:26 PM
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Victim mentality leads one to believe that they cannot be successful. We play many victim roles in our lives. From getting cut off in traffic to being sexually molested, and e everything in between. Let it all go. Only YOU are responsible for your choices and actions. Sometimes things don't work out, there are things out of your control, but not handling everything you can is simply an excuse. This has been one thing that has greatly resonated with me in MRP. Marcus Aurelius has helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 08:31 PM
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Why does my pre-schooler ask me the same question, often minutes apart, multiple times throughout the day? Why does my teenager throw a tantrum? Why does my wife...?
/r/askMRP26/07/16 12:38 AM
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I was glad to see that I already do the majority of the things on TFA's list, in addition to other things. This makes me glad because it means I am tracking appropriately in my quest for masculinity in my marriage. The sex says I'm in the right direction, but other yardsticks for measuring are always beneficial.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 05:38 AM
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Our sphere of absolute control is limited to ourselves; what we think, what we, what we say. Our greatest secret is that our happiness is tied to how we react, not to what others do.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 02:26 AM
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Agree with that. Good if you are short on time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 09:04 PM
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Yep. Some nice final resistance to make sure he is a guy worthy of screwing. He failed.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 08:10 PM
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Amused mastery is the response you give to a 4 year old when they make a funny request. Amused mastery is the look you give to a 13 year old when they make a sassy comment to you. Amused mastery is the shrug and smirk you give to your 34 year old wife when she makes a comment that is just as naive as the 4 year old and as self-centered as the 13 year old.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 08:09 PM
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Don't dx BPD yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 12:16 AM
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No way. The two different types of hypertrophy are very different. You can hit both but won't be maximizing either. I have many professional bodybuilder friends who walk around at 6-8% body fat, are shredded with muscles most of us don't know we have, and they can't lift heavy weights for shit. Watching them attempt a press is pure comic relief.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 02:18 AM
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Stellar post.
/r/askMRP29/05/16 10:39 PM
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Ouch.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/16 09:38 PM
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That's what he wrote. Do you have a specific question about it or will you continue to be passive aggressive?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/16 09:36 PM
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Trap bar is no better than straps. It's simply moving the center of gravity underneath you. It's a fine bar and has a great purpose, but so do straps.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 09:39 PM
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I disagree with some of this post when it comes to SMV and women. It is entirely possible to build larger muscles and look jacked, but be relatively weak. One has to do with increasing the size of the muscle fibers, the other with increasing the number of muscle fibers. See sarcoplasmic hypertrophy vs myofibrillar hypertrophy. A lean body builder can be jacked and not capable of moving much weight in compound lifts. This may be due to poor CNS adaptation as well as focus on isolation movements. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 09:38 PM
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Nothing wrong with using straps when pushing for a new 1RM. Grip training is a different category and needs to be done to really milk the core lifts, but if grip strength is keeping somebody from DL 410# instead of 400#, then by all means use some straps.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 09:33 PM
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Different grip and widths as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 09:30 PM
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No, you can still press your body weight. Press is a vertical push, so it helps to get your CNS accustomed to vertically pushing higher weight. So try: push presses and push jerks/split jerks. Also develop some different muscle recruitment by doing the press, but with dumbbells instead of barbell. Running through a linear progression on other vertical presses, and then returning to the strict press, will see you moving more weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 09:30 PM
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He can rip an iPhone in half.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 11:04 PM
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Press is a bitch to advance on. When I started my 5RM was 110#. Now I can rep 140# on a day with good sleep. Feels amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 05:10 PM
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Side note: Many of my patients are children. They can undergo some painful stuff and they will NOT cry until the parents give them permission to/demand it. Example: placing an IV. Kid knows it hurt but is fine. Fist bump and a "nice job!" from me. No big deal. Kid looks at mom and mom says "that must have hurt, I'm so sorry," and kid starts the tears flowing immediately. Shitty parenting.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 05:06 PM
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An aside: LIFTING is what most urbanized men have to do to sculpt bodies and create muscle mass, but hard labor can also do the same thing. Working on be farm for 10 hours a day—digging holes for fence posts and hauling hay bales—will have the same affect as lifting. The sum is that it's about working your body hard. It's about physically pushing yourself so that you are exhausted and then coming back and doing it all over agin and again. It creates mental fortitude as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 05:00 PM
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A great answer is something very technical that she wouldn't understand. Something involving physics and math equations.
/r/askMRP27/05/16 03:58 AM
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You want me to tell you how I get maximum BJs from your wife?
/r/askMRP27/05/16 03:57 AM
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The female hamster is a powerful thing. She uses her anger about him having a hot piece of ass as evidence that he can no longer get a hot piece of ass. That's women in a nutshell. Ignore logic at all costs and operate on emotion.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 08:08 PM
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I vote for jackass.
/r/askMRP22/05/16 10:22 PM
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The two of them talk about girl shit while I can hardly pay attention. Good thing you guys are paying for that. Glad it's worked for you. It's worked for me as well. Remember, immerse yourself. Half-measures either don't work at all or yield results half of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 10:21 PM
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Regarding the visual, I think a much greater portion of the MGTOW should be outside of the "red pill" circle. Sure, some have probably swallowed the pill, but I think a large part of them are simply attempting to obtain repentance from women for the atrocities that women have committed against them in the past. That's not red pill at all. Red pill is about improving man so we can have improved relationship with women in the future. A red pill man will engage in conversation with women. A MGTOW g…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 10:16 PM
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Don't sweat the comments. Getting into an argument with these mods is pointless. These guys are, for the most part, stuck up their collective ass jerking each other off. Oh come on, this stuff works. Those who apply half-measures never get full results and always come around here bitching and moaning. I'm not saying you are one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 10:08 PM
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This is an amazing comment and if I had more than one up vote to give I would.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 10:05 PM
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Something that I couldn't let go unanswered was when /u/Adderallabuse said - "Third, let's be frank. This was an easy win. The concept of FAMILYALPHA is a pipe dream. He, you, and me.. Not alpha. More like learned alpha. Alphas in the wild don't play house" I haven't read all of the comment yet, but I do want to comment on the above. I think being a family alpha is much harder than a single alpha PUA. As a family alpha I always have somebody watching me. One of the 4 kids is watching me. My wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 10:02 PM
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Stone: glad you are around. Re: Ironwood, I wish he posted more. His blog is such a great read. I had an awesome date night with my wife (drove her to a empty field where I had previously laid out a blanket and picnic basket) as a result of his writings.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 09:57 PM
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There is a flip side to this field report, that is equally important. Well the only young, attractive teller call me over to the business line and within 30 seconds my GF is standing by my side. Sure, maybe the teller thought "this guy is looking muscular, I'll help him out" but perhaps not, perhaps her boss was sitting behind her and mentioned that the regular line was getting out of control so she should call somebody over to the business line to help them. It doesn't matter which it is. What …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 09:53 PM
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This. At a base level out animal brain knows that spreading our seed and propagating our genetic code is the goal. Our logical modern brain says that we should be doing that with the woman we are married to because that is the benefit of said marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 02:33 PM
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Part of the "thinking too much about every action" issue is because they are "faking it until they make it." This is okay for a period of time. If faking it got you a blowjob, then certainly a blowjob is better than no blowjob, but a transition must be made as a vital part of swallowing the pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 02:49 AM
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But I read the first chapter of NMMNG and bought a pair of 15# Dumbbells. My SMV is HIGH now!!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 02:52 AM
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Trump losing to Clinton. Ha. Hilarious.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/16 05:24 AM
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He's missing the point. He doesn't understand that the girls will completely overlook the fact that one is asking for the time, and instead focus on the fact that "this non-creepy guy is talking to me!" Women love to converse.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 10:49 PM
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The bar is starting to tear up my skin on my back That's a battle scar. I have it and wouldn't eliminate it for anything. Fractional weights are a no-brainer. Tough to progress on the press without them.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 10:48 PM
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borderline pregnant woman This is a new medical concept.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:46 PM
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LOL at OP's flair. I've read some crazy shit today, and seen/treated some batshit crazy patients in my clinic, but this one takes the cake.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 10:45 PM
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I'm currently reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius for the second time this year, Gregory Hays translation this time. So excellent. It really should be on the sidebar for reading (it's currently under BPP's advanced reading list but should be a course prerequisite). 5.20: The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 02:56 PM
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Not over the top or unattainable at all. I've done it and am still doing it. I work 7-4, have kids, spend time playing with them, read to them, grill dinner 2-3 nights a week, take the wife out 1-2 evenings a week, lift heavy twice a week, do conditioning 3-4 times, and also am a leader in a varsity scout troop. It's all possible. Prioritize and manage your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 02:34 AM
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Denny's has the grand slam BJ breakfast. Don't forget about that.
/r/askMRP11/05/16 05:54 PM
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My biggest eating weakness is evening appetite control. Leangains might not be the best for you. You'll be fasting and then eating all of your calories (you are still counting calories right!?) in a small window which will include evening (I'm assuming). Be careful not to overeat. You'll have to be meticulous with counting, especially after the great weight loss you've already had. It is somewhat parabolic. The first weight comes off easily due to any activity/diet change. The second round is mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:58 PM
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165 lbs 5rm squat. Squat needs some work; but being careful with lower back. Do you guys wear belts? Yes, when it gets heavy. Heavy for me is roughly 80%+ of my 5RM.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:55 PM
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I know she is a SJW feminist and I have my work cut out for me, but I am kind of getting fed up with her. Time to cut the cord and make your life great again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:54 PM
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It may still exist in the recesses of her mind but is likely buried beneath domestic tranquility. This is correct. She has the capability to act in this fashion, that is the pill that must be swallowed.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:47 PM
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She is. She is and she doesn't even try to hide it around her friends. Sorry dude, you've been lied to by society. Or she certainly may be, nothing is off the table. AWALT means that she has the capability, especially given the right situation. We only tell the truth here.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:46 PM
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This is an excellent response from TRP thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4ig3kh/alpha_type_females_a_new_trend_with_marriage_kids/d2xue9y Essentially no reason for women to not hop dicks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 05:30 PM
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She said, "I'm suppose to go to a running event with my friend. I'll let you know by the end of the night". She's not interested. A girl that is interested will do ANYTHING to spend time with you. That was Wednesday, I still haven't heard from her. She isn't interested in you either. However, I'm so desperate for pussy it's getting annoying now. Idk what to do anymore, I hate women smh. Try improving yourself. You get what you put in. Do you lift? Are you a fatass? Is your hygiene good?
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 05:29 PM
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Who cares? You have to develop a ZFG mentality and be a man. You have a life to live. She is welcome to enjoy portions of it with you, but you don't put it on hold for her to catch up.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 05:27 PM
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P.S. Beware of advice from strangers on the internet. lol. Some people say some weird things. A simple remedy to this would be not to post personal relationship information on the internet, specifically requesting advice from strangers. This is what we do. Caveat emptor.
/r/askMRP09/05/16 05:19 PM
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The one who holds the power in the relationship is the one who needs the relationship the least. In other words, zero fucks given means you wield the power. Stop catering to her and showing her that you need her. Do you need to be with her? No. Do you want to be with her? Only you can answer that.
/r/askMRP09/05/16 05:18 PM
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Took me a while to stop asking 'what would you like to do' Women don't want to make decisions. They will make them if pressed (or if their husband is an awkward fuck with no capacity for leading) but will despise the entire process and often sabotage everything with the decision they've made.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 05:16 PM
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Bro, do not come here asking us whether or not you should leave your wife. It's your fucking life! We don't know you. We are internet strangers. Could you leave her? Sure. It's always a possibility, always an option. Only you can make that call.
/r/askMRP08/05/16 04:27 AM
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I'm waiting for the blue pill brigade to catch wind of this. They seem to follow BPP around anyway. Are they his groupies?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/16 04:25 AM
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Keep fighting the good fight.
/r/askMRP07/05/16 11:36 PM
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Shitting in somebody's car is an aggressive act?! I learn something new every day. My med school education wasn't worth the loans.
/r/askMRP07/05/16 11:35 PM
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He's faking it until he makes it. Better than not faking it, but far from ZFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 11:31 PM
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We are the more romantic of the sexes. We want partnership and submission. As has been said, if it was just about an orgasm we would jerk off and be done with it. So yeah, a guy can have sex 5 times a week or once in 3 years and in both cases be lacking the submissive and feminine partner that his masculinity craves.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 08:36 PM
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Way too much talking. Way too much. The dialogue appeared to be a conversation between two women. When she denies, slap her on the ass, give her a smirk, and go be busy because as a MAN you have lots to be busy with (and if you don't then you need to find some shit–lifting is good but find more). I've been in your shoes. Once you let go of begging and rationalizing and explaining to your wife why you need and deserve and have earned sex, she will magically give it to you MORE frequently because …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 08:33 PM
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Take back your life by fixing yourself. You paying for a truck, working hard, doesn't matter to her. Eliminate the covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 04:26 PM
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200g of carbs a day is not low carbs (you mentioned you were doing high protein/low carbs). So now I'm also wondering what you consider "high protein" to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 05:33 AM
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Porn also eliminates the desire for many men to game their wives. They find themselves in a always fed state, and have no hunger that is necessary to game the wife every hour of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 05:58 PM
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Yet 100% of them do. Not 100% of the time, but they all have. And some of them do put up LMR 100% of the time due to prior conditioning (I'm a slut if I show him how turned on I am).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 05:56 PM
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Wow, solid comment. Enjoyed it. "Maybe next time you'll be better" is potent and true.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 05:53 PM
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"Fuck you or fuck me"
/r/askMRP05/05/16 02:24 PM
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I know you want only sex from me, but I need and expect more. Do NOT fall for this shit. This is a trap. It is YOU who should expect more from her. If what you only wanted was sex you would have an affair or find a prostitute.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 02:23 PM
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Also been asked if I'm ciswhitemalestrom three times. Not spastic enough. Also not enough ego.
/r/askMRP03/05/16 03:30 PM
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It doesn't take 5 minutes to explain. The understanding is woven between 20 different concepts. I'm a business owner, father of 4, married for 16 years, train with heavy weights for 40-90 minutes a day...and I highlight every damn book I can get my hands on. You are a weakling and deserve no knowledge because you have no thirst for it.
/r/askMRP01/05/16 06:09 PM
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You are an OAK TREE. You are not moved, your frame had deep roots (shit tests). The storms batter you but you provide shelter for your wife (comfort tests).
/r/askMRP30/04/16 10:47 PM
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You guys MUST get on the sidebar books and READ. This is beginner level stuff that is assumed you have an understanding of. Shit tests/comfort tests are MRP 101.
/r/askMRP30/04/16 10:46 PM
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White knights feel like it's easier to cater to women in hopes of getting pussy than it is making themselves legitimately attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 10:42 PM
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Remove emotion from your decisions and frame (see stoicism). Understand that your perspective changes the situation and adds unnecessary baggage to it. See things for what they really are; don't add your feelings on top of it. Adding your feelings to any situation, or allowing them to dictate your actions, will result in poor decisions and will stop any progress you are making. This applies to gaming your wife, lifting, diet, dress, shit tests, etc. Your feelings and emotions will hold you hosta…
/r/askMRP30/04/16 01:15 AM
2

Get on a damned estrogen blocker so that T does aromatize into estrogen. As was said above, most docs don't know much about TRT. Men's health clinics that specialize in it are a fair choice.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 05:44 AM
1

Rotisserie chicken for the win. I eat 3-4 a week (don't like dark meat and usually get 10-11oz of white meat off each bird). For lunch I eat 5-6oz of that and 2 cups of broccoli, 3-4 days a week. Like 40 grams of protein and 250 calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:31 AM
2

10 second kiss each day is amazing. I've found it does wonders for my sex life!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:28 AM
1

Women will weaponize sex and the fuel for them is emotion. Starve them of that emotion and they have no fuel to run on and the shit tests putter out and die. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Remember, no different than a 4 year old most of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 04:35 PM
1

I will need to put in more effort. I have cut out my nightly drinks and am hoping that I will see something in 3 weeks. Not good enough. Count the calories now.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:09 PM
2

This is the key. You were so fat that anything you did was an improvement. You've reached homeostasis now and won't lose the rest without being diligent. 3,500 calories = 1 pound.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:08 PM
3

Shit man, a 9 month cut is painful stuff. Good on you for losing all that weight! Check your protein powder. Is it true Whey Isolate? Mine has like 30g Protein/ 3g Carbs / 1g Fat. That's tough to beat. https://truenutrition.com/p-7411-whey-protein-isolate-microfiltrated-1lb-milk.aspx? 27 g protein, 0g carbs, 0g fat.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:54 PM
1

I actually cut that out after a trainer friend explained that it is filled with sugar and your body responds to it the same as it would with soda, because it doesn't matter if it is from a "natural" source or not. Sure, fruit will raise insulin, but nothing to the degree that soda or other processed sugars will. And if you are training hard, then carbs can be your friend. But none of that matters much, you have to be in a caloric deficit.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:54 PM
1

said that they think they athletic body genes of not having to workout is from that. I have a buddy who was a starter in the NFL for many years. He tells stories of players in the lockeroom eating nothing but chicken nuggets from McDonalds and fries. Guys were shredded all year long and had a terrible diet. We are all gifted with different attributes. He knew that if he ate like that he would blow up like a blimp.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:51 PM
2

I have oneitis for my barbell, that's for sure. We are banging the same woman.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:49 PM
2

Answer key for the test: LIFT READ SIDEBAR IMPLEMENT SIDEBAR LEARNINGS
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:41 PM
0

He meant only to say that it really is a nice phone. Then he should have said that. But he didn't. He said he was jealous. His words, not mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 04:49 PM
1

Yeah, or track the calories and eat it all. Nothing wrong with smaller cuts, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 08:18 PM
1

I have an Apple Watch, so my phone never comes out of my pocket to check calls or notifications, I do it from my wrist. Even then, I have my notifications mostly shut off. Only the most important notify me, and then it is only a tap on my wrist as the notification. I respond when I feel like it, if at all. Like OP, I couldn't tell you what my ringtone or text message sound are. No clue.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 08:14 PM
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Talk, no action. If you are jealous (which you say you are), then do something about it. Buy another phone, or get over your jealousy. And for what this entire topic is worth, saving money on a phone is a drop in a very deep bucket towards financial independence.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 08:05 PM
-3

This. And the ONLY opinions that carry any weight should be those of other masculine men. Use their opinions to fuel your fire for progress and change. Ultimately, each of us is our own final judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 02:15 PM
5

that's not how a good wife acts, do what you like hun. I want a book of [deleted] quotes. Something easy, like a book I can read in the bathroom.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 05:21 PM
1

Feels good to get it out, doesn't it? Make sure you are doing the exercises in NMMNG. Those involve having a trusted person you can speak with.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 03:27 PM
5

And we hope your hand never gets tired and brings you much happiness.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 03:19 PM
7

and she's still hesitant to fuck, saying she's not a hoe, "I've never done this before." This is where I was getting shocked at how everything I read was coming into play. Shocked that everything you've learned after swallowing the pill is true? Have faith. It is ALL true.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 03:17 PM
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To liken us to a abusive BF is exactly what the SJW want people to think. As he stated, they need to think this to give them a reason for existence. If not that, then they find something else to harp about. Nobody cares what the SJWs think about Red Pill. They don't exist to the Red Pill Man. We, however, do exist to them because it is our very existence that facilitates their purpose. Without red pill, blue pill does not exist.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 03:14 PM
1

I'm not saying they don't want or expect things--solipsism thrives on that--I'm saying the data shows that they simply don't want to be bothered with making decisions that will affect other people. Some are capable of making decisions but give zero factor to how it affects others. As long as they have the debit/credit card and can swipe it they are content; no thought given to who worked to keep the funds in the account.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 03:38 AM
1

I also have started doing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 03:35 AM
5

Those are both great examples. Again, notice that effeminate men can't make those decisions either. In my former blue pill life I fit this perfectly; always searching for a better parking spot. Never decisive. What a disaster. She would snicker and sneer at me as I struggled with the most retarded of decisions. Embarrassing to remember.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 10:34 PM
1

Really enjoyed reading this. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:53 PM
1

Doesn't matter a person's status or station, I usually end every interaction with "I'm glad you got to see me." This may change my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:50 PM
1

If you can see your abs, you're lean. If not, you're fat. This. And if it jiggles, it's fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:48 PM
2

Get out of here. Out. Out. OUT!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:46 PM
5

I'm much more motivated by reading TheFamilyAlpha's 'creating your slut' piece.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 05:57 PM
1

This is a really good post. It has often been said (and demonstrated) that you can walk around almost anywhere with a hardhat and a clipboard and if you act like you belong or act like you are running the show people will give you a wide berth and allow you to do nearly anything. Same concept. It's a mental battle because you might not know what you are doing, but nobody else knows that unless you tell them so. As a resident in a level-1 trauma hospital, I experienced this on a daily basis. I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 05:49 PM
2

True that. Recognized The Wall. The guy is a moron, he should go for some top shelf submissive women who is not a shade over age 20 and a virgin. Instead he has chosen Lohan, who has likely had as many cocks in her flabby vagina as she has had needles in her arm and warrants for her arrest.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 08:53 PM
4

Ha. Women will leave for Alpha Fucks but that isn't any one person. It may be a single person at any given point in time, but overall it's simply a state of emotion that they need. Therefore, they will not hesitate to cheat on beta bucks with alpha fucks...and they will not hesitate to move to a second alpha fucks when the emotion from the first becomes tiresome (either too much alpha non-stop OR showing that beta as the relationship progresses). From there it's on to alpha fucks #3, to be follo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 08:49 PM
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Lindsay Lohan doesn't have fuck me eyes, she's just high as a kite and drunk.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 03:52 PM
1

This is true. She is a mirror, yada yada. Truth.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 04:33 PM
1

It changes for me. I often lift to classical music. Often country. Often rock. Whatever suits the mood. But I can bust some crazy squats to that song.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 03:57 PM
1

I have put on a lot of muscle (girl told me the other day I looked "beefy") but I do still have a little bit of gut, so I would love to use this time to tighten up and get those abs showing. No bro, these two statements don't jive. Beefy is code for fat. 20% bodyfat is fat. Sit down with the family and have a leadership session. Get your back injury and recovery out and on the table. "Dad's back is healing, so this is what we are going to do..." Explain how others are going to help with certain …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 03:53 PM
1

this book has been on my To Read list for a while. You need to buy it. It's like $9 on Amazon. I highlight all of my non-fiction books. I spent so much time highlighting in this book that it was crazy. No way the audible version can do it justice. I know many guys use that commute time to listen, which is great, but this one really needs to be picked up and held and studied.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 03:46 PM
1

Deep down his wife is a good person Code for "she is a raging bitch 99% of the time"
/r/askMRP14/04/16 03:45 PM
1

I do not want to treat my wife disrespectfully in front of my children either. Let me guess, you allow her to corner the market on this shitty behavior, right?
/r/askMRP14/04/16 03:44 PM
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Give her some comfort. It's about push AND pull. So, continue to do things that she wouldn't expect but make sure that she is on the receiving end of some of them. Set the table and cook a dinner just for the two of you. Drag her outside to the local park and throw the frisbee and then have a snack on a blanket, etc. EDIT: I see below where you say you are short on comfort, so yes, more of it, but ON YOUR TERMS and PROVIDING VALUE TO HER.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 03:41 PM
1

It's great. I LIFT heavy weights to it.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 03:39 PM
1

IM MAXIM #75 – “Women scarcely appreciate and commonly expect.
/r/askMRP13/04/16 06:22 PM
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Bingo! Solipsism. The world is something that women experience. They believe it happens to them. As a man we know that we get what we give and we are responsible for our happiness. It must be frustrating to live as a woman—probably as frustrating as living as a blue pill schlub.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/16 06:05 PM
1

And the men buy into the mantra of "my wife wants me to be more emotional with them" and "she wants me to connect with her".
/r/askMRP12/04/16 06:14 PM
1

That means you need to eat (and that includes your drinks) max 1450 calories per day. Way too low for his activity level.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 05:42 PM
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Why do you say this is overtraining? Because it is pointless and not necessary. It will lead to lower motivation as well as injury. Lift HEAVY three times a week. Do nothing else on those days in terms of exercise. On the other days do something active for recovery. This can be a bike ride, a walk with your wife for 40 minutes, or playing with the kids. Count every calorie you eat, and eat at a deficit. That's it.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 05:42 PM
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My plan is lift M,W,F in the morning. On T and H, flexibility, pull-ups, pushups, and interval running. Every day in the afternoon I'll do p90x or insanity max 30 or T 25. On top of trying to get in 180 Gm of protein and eating veggies. I'm getting tired by the end of the week, but I'm ok with that as long as I see results. Problem is, I'm not. Tire remains. This is insane. Count calories. Lifting is good, all that other crap is not needed. It is much easier to simply not eat 300 calories than i…
/r/askMRP12/04/16 05:40 PM
2

What transition do you need? "I'm getting my things, we are done." That's it. No more. Block her cell phone, don't speak to her again. Easy.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 05:10 PM
1

tl;dr cad is going to have sex with OPs wife if he doesn't shape up.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 04:52 PM
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I want to plate her, but at the same time I just want to next and focus on myself for a while, what is the best way to break her hamster wheel? Fuck her one last time, break up with her in the morning and ghost? How about you just don't ever see her again?
/r/askMRP12/04/16 04:18 PM
2

Action, always action.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 04:11 PM
1

After getting back to some maintenance calories, what will you be walking around at when the dust settles? 10%?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 02:09 PM
1

How badly does getting to 8% suck? I know the payday is great, but...?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:27 PM
2

Nude photos? On the strength of your writing alone? No, it was because of his great hair (he doxed his hair for a period of an hour around a month ago). But really, great hair. Seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:23 PM
1

I don't feel that breeding distrust in a marriage, or any relationship, is wise. Do you really hide all your RP studies from her, and she doesn't feel like something nefarious is possibly going on? A women's entire sexual strategy is based on lying and being two-faced, and that's the good ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:21 PM
2

Women will furiously fuck their underemployed loser BF in a low rent apartment while maintaining attraction to the lifestyle you provide. However, Its her arousal that you are after. Why does his comment not have more upvotes? It's a gold mine, the crown jewel. FEELINGS are what she wants. She wants those tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:16 PM
1

“Trust me, you don’t want to be the captain,” I said. That comment and everything after it could have gone unspoken. She's had to put up with your sorry ass and be the captain, she knows she doesn't want to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:14 PM
1

We watch a soap opera together a few times a week as a family as with a house full of girls there are very few things we can all watch together and enjoy. Yeah - I enjoy it. Part of the whole RedPill is just admit it if you like something "unpopular" - if you like gay musicals then good for you ! Remember that when it comes to quality time with the wife and kids (even if they are older), there are often good, better, and best options. This may be a fine good option, but the question stands as to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:07 PM
1

Edit: Really great book on how television is a social problem "The use and abuse of Television by J Mallory Wober". Read it and it can be dry, but its highly informative. Adding this to my reading list because READING IS MENTAL FITNESS (h/t to /u/thefamilyalpha)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 10:04 PM
1

From a biological perspective it's all about passing on our DNA; getting our genes out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 09:47 PM
1

Agree that game is important. As was posted before, it's especially important to the married man. I found Day Bang to be extremely useless and boring. Reading field reports and top posts from MRP has been much more beneficial. Day Bang was a snoozefest.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 09:44 PM
1

Yes, mine was a general comment regarding the appropriate use of stoicism in marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/16 08:26 PM
2

"...all of us need to stand alone." Indeed. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, have your hobbies and stuff to do away from her and outside of the home, don't respond to her texts all day long, etc., etc. Stand alone physically, mentally, and emotionally.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/16 07:02 PM
1

So simple, so true.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 06:56 PM
2

Stoicism is helpful, but some take it too far and try to become men devoid of any emotion. That isn't right. They become a wall. Nobody wants to be married to a wall. Stoicism, or the simple reality that we control our emotions no matter what the outside stimulus, is most helpful to beginners because they have often been caught up in a shitstorm of emotions. Many have been allowing their wives to dictate their emotions and emotional response * for years*. If stoicism is us controlling our emotio…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/16 06:54 PM
1

Good post. I'm right there with you this week. PISSED OFF and angry as all hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/16 01:08 AM
1

Good comment. Sometimes we make things too complicated and get too deep—basics will fix a lot of problems. I'm speaking from experience.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 12:41 AM
0

No half-measures. Ever.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 12:40 AM
2

No half-measures. Ever.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 12:40 AM
1

It's not sad. For me, it's expected because men are raised to be pussies. It's the status quo, the norm, a simple statistical analysis. Beta is the baseline trend these days.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 02:26 PM
1

It's the adage that you always treat a gun as loaded. Sure, we do the same with women, but a loaded gun won't pull its own trigger. Even a loaded gun with a bullet in the chamber requires action by me to fire a round. Keep my finger off the trigger/continually improve myself and be a masculine man, and that gun is safe/my woman is a pleasure to be around.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 02:09 PM
2

This makes no sense. Isn't the type of flirting you witnessed exactly the type that women give to us when we are worthy of it? What is the complaint here? Dave gave her tingles. None of your business.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 06:20 PM
1

Some other select quotes from the book. Regarding operating from a viewpoint that you must improve yourself please women: "...if everything you do is designed to make you more appealing to women, you're an eager vibrator." Regarding being a practicing masculinity: "Manliness is a talent. Some males are more gifted than others, but like any talent, masculinity has to be pushed and developed to amount to anything impressive." Regarding being a Nice Guy: "There's nothing brave about giving women wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/16 10:06 PM
2

Really enjoyed reading this one. Some great points and some good understanding of basic principles. I am enjoying the little things. You are winning.
/r/askMRP28/03/16 02:38 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 04:38 PM
1

Ignore, STFU, and ignore some more. That's your outward task. Your inward task is to not be a pussy and recognize that sometimes we have to fulfill our responsiblilities even when we don't physically or mentally feel like it.
/r/askMRP27/03/16 04:25 PM
3

Yes, very much so. And I'm not happy because I'm married, per se, but happy and married.
/r/askMRP27/03/16 04:24 PM
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She’s a little uncertain, almost timid at times. Her confidence is one of the things I love about her, and seeing it wane is sometimes tough. There are 2 reasons for this. The first is that you are undergoing change, which throws the status quo a kilter. The second is that you aren't supremely confident in yourself (yet), so you can't buoy her up like you need to. Don't address her problem, only address your problem. As you continue to improve she will find comfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 04:23 PM
1

Both! I'm a doctor, but I have a BA in English and a minor in creative writing. I love romantic literature and poetry, as well as American Gothic.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 03:02 AM
2

Yes, I agree. Just yesterday I was showing my list to one of my daughters. The kids see me reading, but don't understand how much I read because I do the bulk of it at work or when they are asleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 09:00 PM
2

Love me some Milo.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 08:59 PM
2

Ok, fair enough. Try branching out a lot from what you would consider to be your normal interests. Maybe you are artificially limiting what you think you would enjoy. And, reading can certainly count as a hobby.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 07:47 PM
2

Not at all. He's a based homo. I enjoy his writings.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 06:26 PM
4

Multiple PRs with lifting and training. Everything from front squats to bench to press to 3RM box jump height. I've read 11 books so far this year and have taken to making a list (hat tip to u/TheFamilyAlpha for the idea). I purchased some v-neck t-shirts for the first time in my life, for the purpose of showing off more chest in casual situations. A great year so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 05:40 PM
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You get two different angles on how they would handle shit tests because they are two different guys. Alpha, high value...what you call it makes no difference. Every MAN is the judge of his own actions. You act to get the results that you desire. If I mimic Tyler I'm going to have a shitty time because I am not him. I'm a guy with a wife and 4 kids. But you know what? I can get the same outcomes with different behaviors because I'm leading my own ship. EDIT: and no, you cannot be a high value ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 05:26 PM
2

This won't work. You are trying too hard and turning "finding a hobby" into your hobby. Go do something you enjoy. It doesn't have to involve getting sweaty. She will question you and poke fun at you no matter what you choose because you doing something of your own accord and without her or her permission is against her rules and against the norm in your relationship. Zero fucks given.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 04:03 PM
2

You are right. More than a few guys, especially angry ones, blame our predicament on third-wave feminism. It is half of the problem, it is the seed that was planted, but it is the white-knight beta schlubs that have given the seed water and fertile soil, tended to it and demanded that it grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 03:58 PM
1

I'm having a great week. You have to become a nimble navigator.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 05:38 AM
3

Love the takeaway, and that message is what it is all about. Too many new guys struggle finding something to do AFTER the wife denies them with multiple hard no's. Instead, they should already have something to do. Have something planned. A great default is lifting. When the no's come just head out as you had already planned.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 05:35 AM
1

"I've found myself. I'm bettering myself. I deserve awesomeness. Wife is off a pedestal, she is the oldest teenager in the house. Is THIS what I really deserve/want?"
/r/askMRP24/03/16 08:56 PM
1

As you change your needs change. You horizons are expanded. Where you previously were seeking validation from her, you may find it elsewhere, hence it won't bother you if she doesn't verbally validate you. Perhaps you were expecting intriguing conversation from her. You'll now realize that she cannot provide that...but rather than being angry you will relish her childlike innocence and in addition you will find that conversation elsewhere; with a co-worker, with a masculine friend, etc. Imagine …
/r/askMRP24/03/16 08:40 PM
1

Is she going to become a more interesting person? Probably not. But YOU will change and as a result the value you find in her will change. It will either increase, or decrease. Both are fine because YOU have changed and can no longer accept the status quo.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 08:12 PM
1

This is a brilliant post that summarizes a lot of what I've been thinking about lately. We've been taught/programmed to have them on a pedestal and seek after them. When we knock them off the pedestal, the desire for them often wanes because our mental process hasn't processed the next step. No pedestal, so how can I possibly desire her?
/r/askMRP24/03/16 08:11 PM
1

I believe that those who present that world view actually believe in it. I just choose to view the world differently. Almost like a red pill vs blue pill type thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 08:04 PM
1

Welcome back.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 07:47 PM
1

I've been ruminating over it for a while and realized...wtf! I'm going to bust my ass and go out on a limb to get money for us to buy a house. I'm going to pay for the child's expenses. And I'm getting relegated to one room in my fucking house? Glad you came to your senses.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 07:34 PM
1

Thanks for your response, that was the stuff I was looking for.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:28 PM
1

mountaineering is harder if you're bulked up. So don't bulk up, just lift weights. Get stronger.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 05:39 PM
1

He weighs 1/3 of a barbell.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 05:38 PM
1

Yep. Hamster speak to rationalize her current and past decisions.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 05:37 PM
1

To make sure I am on the right track AND I don't go too far. Your marriage. We can't answer this question for you. EDIT: At this point I'm more interested in what you are doing outside of the bedroom. Reading? Lifting? Diet under control? Finances and earning potential? Hobbies outside of the home? Not even SGM will work if you are a schlub to begin with. You'll just be a creepy schlub.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 05:25 PM
1

See things as they really are, refrain from imposing your feelings onto reality. Everything is broken. If not now, then one day, in the future. From items we use to relationships we are in. By NOT recognizing this we are limiting the usefulness we can receive. For example, if you treat a car like a prize and never let it leave your garage, you are limiting its potential and usefulness. Recognize that it will one day get a scratch, but enjoy your time with it. Your wife isn't yours, she is only y…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 06:10 AM
1

but I would imagine if a man has been sufficiently beta its not possible to recover. This is correct. Not possible to recover in that existing relationship. As Athol Kay says, it works, but that doesn't mean it will work in your existing marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 06:06 AM
1

The Illimitable Men RP maxims are some of the deepest and most perfect writings out there. I browse them at least weekly, often times more. Edit: the real beauty in these comes in the truth, specifically the relationship between Masculine Man and Feminine Woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 06:03 AM
7

Nice Guys are just another version of a woman. They aren't women, but pretty close to it. They are manipulative (covert contracts). They engage in psychological warfare (whiny bitches). They don't care about the journey, only the outcome (just like women!). Rather than fix themselves they would rather place the blame on everybody around them (just like women!). Indeed, you can take almost any RP maxim you've come to know and replace "women" with "Nice Guys." ANGALT? It works! For example, an IM …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 06:01 AM
2

You are right, I am being a dick, Possibly better than being a beta schlub.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 06:00 PM
1

Fuck you guys are brutal. Honest.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 05:58 PM
2

10 second kiss is contrived. 10 second kiss is the single best indicator of me keeping my marriage on track and sex where I want it to be. If I can hit this several times a day she is willing whenever I am wanting. Without it my failure rate is much higher.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 05:54 PM
2

Tease her. Example: my wife was outside yesterday while I was watering the garden. I turned the hose on her for a second. She wasn't drenched but she got wet. She feigned anger. This is good.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 05:53 PM
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Considering we are both working full-time with 2 small kids, time is pretty rare. Excuse. You can't schedule desire.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 05:51 PM
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The more it resembles elementary school, the better. They love to be teased, and it started in elementary school.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 05:48 PM
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Zero fucks given is the pathway to happiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 05:47 PM
2

There is no finish line, no destination, no prolonged respite. Cheers. The finish is when you have perfected yourself, read all there is to read, discovered all there is to discover, made monuments to yourself, conquered all that need conquering, etc. It never ends, don't let your guard down. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 05:46 PM
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have my wife feeling Boom. That's it right there, isn't it? Women want FEELING. They want EMOTION that is tied to FEELINGS. They really don't care much for the reality of a situation. They commonly expect and seldom appreciate. Give them emotion and they will follow your leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 09:32 PM
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He has to knit a doll first.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 09:30 PM
1

You can do both at the same time, if you desire, by following a volume/intensity model. Get intensity by finding a 3RM or 5RM in a particular lift. Get 20-25 reps as you work up to finding it. Then, rest 5-10 minutes and do one set of max reps at 80% of your newly found 3/5RM to get volume. Works like a charm.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 05:04 AM
1

Nobody accepts their nature as a beta and then carries on with life. Discovery of beta will forever change a man. They either realize they are beta and attempt to make changes and 1) are successful or 2) fail and proceed to whine and bitch about RP, MRP, PUA, gym rats, slutty women, or any other number of things. Nobody acknowledges beta and is a-ok with it. If they say they are it is merely a cop-out and coping mechanism.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 04:58 AM
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OAK. Unwavering in her emotion. I have a steady job with excellent pay. I also lift heavy weights. So she feels emotionally, financially, and physically safe.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 03:54 PM
1

I don't have time to read all the comments, this may have been said. They will complain when a many does each step half-way and they announces that MRP sucks. No, MRP doesn't suck, you only took half-measures.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 03:52 PM
2

Agreed! I'd like to see some updates to the blog as well. I need more Ironwood.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 06:33 PM
1

The sighs and ooohs they were making were very disrespectful. Hurts when they have a visual orgasm with some other guy but she won't blow you, doesn't it? Fix your shit.
/r/askMRP07/03/16 05:54 PM
1

Men are fit and interesting until marriage, then they get soft and weaksauce thinking they got the girl. Think about how depressing it must be from the other side. Shit, my husband is getting fat. It's been 7 years and he still hasn't graduated. That part-time job while he goes to school isn't getting any better, the kids are getting older. I wish he would get a haircut. He wants to have sex but I'm so turned off my his complaining about work. Why isn't he motivated to fix things around the hous…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 05:50 PM
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Strive for #4 in all that you do: Unconscious incompetence: you don't know that you don't know how to do something. Conscious incompetence: you know that you don't know hos to do something and it bothers you. Conscious competenc: you know that you know how to do something and it takes effort. Unconscious competence: you know how to do something and it is second nature; you are excellent at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 04:57 PM
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It was actually written a couple of decades ago, long before this community and its concepts existed. I understand your point, but the concepts discussed here have always existed. Many of our grandfathers were masculine men. So were their fathers, etc. To the formula: yes, that works. In this day and age it is why we recommend STFU in person and via text/cell, as well as getting out of the house and pursuing other activities. Being available all of the time signals that you are low value. She re…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 04:54 PM
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Cardio is fine. None of this is new shit. Bodybuilders have been doing fasted cardio for decades and getting shredded in the process. A 30 minute fasted walk 2x a week is great for recovery from lifting as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 04:25 PM
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You'll have to trick your body into letting that last bit of fat go. 100% this. Been there, done that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 04:24 PM
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The husband; lets call him A, is not a PUA in any way, shape, or form. Good looking guy- works out like a savage. Highly engaged and engaging; recognized in the community. Good looking, lifts hard, is interesting, holds conversation. You don't have to read a book to be a PUA. Some have it naturally. To your question: do nothing. It doesn't affect you. Let the hamster work on your behalf.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 04:20 PM
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Abundance mentality is a key piece, and this is especially true if you don't have an abundance. It will help you get your foot in the door, so to speak. Pretend like you don't really need the loan, or that you are already in loan talks with several other banks, even if neither are true. This helps the banker but also helps you.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/16 10:25 PM
1

Search "can't stump the milo" on youtube.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 06:30 PM
1

Blue pill brigade is here. Every single comment here has been down voted since I last looked 20 minutes ago. Hilarious.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 06:28 PM
1

Real life example, just occurred: Wife purchased a router table that needed assembly, as well as having her router attached to it. Last I heard (3 days ago) her friend was going to help her with it. 15 minutes ago she says to me "I need help with my router table." My response was "Cool, I've got it." Assembled table, attached router, done. Nothing expected on my part, just doing stuff that needs to be done. When she mentioned needing help I was in the middle of planking a wall (really cool proje…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 06:27 PM
1

Yes! "I've got this" is an excellent phrase to use when she has initiated communication regarding something that need to be done. If no communication has been initiated by her, then a Man will simply get the task done. EXAMPLE: floor needs to be mopped. Don't go to her and tell her "I got this" and then proceed to mop the floor. Just mop the damn floor. Acta, non verba. If she says "the floor needs to be mopped" or says "the floor is dirty," THEN say "I've got this." Do it happily, do it well, d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 05:59 PM
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I'm also one of those guys...but I am thinking about the guy next to me lifting only the bar. Know what I'm thinking? "Good for him. He's awesome." Why am I thinking that? Because before I had years of training under my belt, before I started training others, I also took a first step. A distance of many miles begins with a first step.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 05:29 AM
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Yes, excellent free resource. Simple linear progression for those who have been lifting for less than 6 months or who have plateaued.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 05:27 AM
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Never had issues with this. I handle my responsibilities well. If there is something she needs to do that she hasn't done, I will often do it because I want it done and I'm not a lazy ass. I do it for me. At the same time I withdraw some attention and affection and she comes around quickly. EXAMPLE: This evening the dishwasher needed to be unloaded. It should have been done this afternoon, but for whatever reason she didn't do it or delegate it to the children. We drove to our oldest kid's socce…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 05:05 AM
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NIMBLE NAVIGATOR
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 04:56 AM
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I know there is good content here, lifting is my #1 activity and it was prior to my discovery of RP, but in having trouble picking it out. I feel like this could have been 3-4 unique posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 04:49 AM
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Ditto to what has been said. It absolutely works. It has become very apparent that most of the females have been in a dry spell where they haven't worked closely with a masculine male in a long time, if ever. This also applies to many of the males. They love it. How do I know? The same way we know with our wives. Constant kino, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 06:14 PM
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Second that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 06:12 PM
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I deleted my comment because I realized it was entitled whining and moaning over problems with me, not her. Should have left it up. That's how we learn. For everybody who comments there are dozens who read the post and think "holy shit, that's me."
/r/askMRP01/03/16 05:08 PM
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Namely that she envied people on fucking Facebook that always posted about being married to their best friend and that she felt she didn't have that. What she does, not what she says. No woman wants to be married to a best friend. All of her friends saying that is hamster speak to qualify their poor life decisions and their unhappiness with their marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 05:04 PM
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Besides, valentines day was great enough A man whose actions match his words. Solid oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 08:26 PM
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Good PSA. I've found sprinting to help with this. It will work the hip flexors through an good range of motion. I sprint once a week, twice if time allows. 10-15 minutes total. Often 40 yards, with 60 seconds rest. 6-10 trials depending on how fast I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:45 PM
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Some pussy down voted what is probably the best advice in this thread.
/r/askMRP29/02/16 07:14 PM
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nimbly navigating That's the key. Being a nimble navigator.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:13 PM
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Target, here in my neck of the woods.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:07 PM
1

They had 3 coaches who all acted like it was NCAA. They always run in packs. 2 or more. Makes them feel big and strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:02 PM
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Write a book.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 06:59 PM
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Great FR, enjoyed reading it. Lots of gems in it. It was the first time I went out purely for my own fun, instead of doing it to dread her. Nice, isn't it? The nicety comes because you are doing it for your enjoyment. Doing it for her (dread) is a pain in the ass. Lifting for somebody else is a pain in the ass. Following a diet for somebody else is a pain in the ass. You get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 06:56 PM
1

I've been ignoring, using AA or just "no" with demands and requests to buy her things but the previous I'm not sure about. Is this getting the results you want or not getting the results you want? And the answer doesn't have to be about sex. If you are happier, that is a good result.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:39 PM
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The only real sticking point is the lack of sex and affection. She was raised in a house where affection wasn't the norm at all and she "says" sex is great but not important to her because she just doesn't have the desire for "it" Not true. She doesn't have a desire for you. You are old hat. You are boring. You are fat. You are poor. Whatever it is, she doesn't want any part of it. Recognize this, and embrace it. Better yourself. How do I get past feeling the need for affection and love from her…
/r/askMRP24/02/16 09:33 PM
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I probably heard it from you in the first place.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 08:42 PM
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My happiness does not depend on their reaction to me, but my lack of reaction to them. Changed my life.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 06:53 PM
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But something tells me that deep inside even if I transformed the heck out of myself, Not doing this means that this... So co-parenting (and plates) here I come. ...isn't going to be the field of dreams you are hoping it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 06:49 PM
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Read it. Get through it. It will change your outlook on many things.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 06:43 PM
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One of the best weapons towards counteracting this behavior from wives is to study a women's solipsism. Rollo, of course, would be my preferred material. Once you are familiar with the subject matter the internal dialogue a Man has goes from "what the hell!?" to "of course," when presented with such scenarios.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 06:41 PM
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Yes, absolutely. The bar is set very low. EDIT: Improving oneself. Being the best you can. Some guys start at rung 1 and need to be reminded to not dress like they are homeless. Others start at rung 30. Either way the ladder is called improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 06:45 PM
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That quote from you was a watershed moment for me, wish I could thank you somehow. It was basically "I'm going to have sex, we are married so I'm giving you the first shot at it." It gets no simpler.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 06:18 PM
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Do you think AA/AM are useful for discussions about deeply held beliefs with people you care about? If those discussions are with women, then yes, absolutely. Stop putting her on a pedestal. She isn't that smart, she is operating without logic, she can't help herself. Her life is basically one long tantrum to get the men around her to do what she wants. She plays this game because it ties into her sexual strategy of stringing you along. Enough already.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 06:16 PM
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There's a reason why this would work given the status of your life and marriage, but almost definitely won't for OP. This steak example is merely the first in a long list of things that are really going to piss off his wife. He might as well start someplace. He has a long road ahead of him and should be prepared for the war. She will turn this into a battle, but she shouldn't trick him into thinking it's a battle. It isn't.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 06:14 PM
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Great comment. And certainly we each need to adapt our doseage of each depending on where she is in her monthly cycle. Some women need lots of beta for a day or two at a certain point, others respond to a higher degree of alpha. Clue app is recommended.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 06:07 PM
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you became an independent person, who started taking care of your responsibilities ... that has nothing to do with redpill That IS married red pill. That's the core of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:49 PM
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Extremely important to the field report. Good job, detective.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:48 PM
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That just seems like you were completely under her control. No shit. Did anybody read the first full paragraph where they were having only starfish sex and she was full of excuses about why she didn't want him and he stated he was blue pill through and through? Her not allowing a gym membership shouldn't be surprising in the least.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:48 PM
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I did pull-ups and dips on a rafter in the attic, used gallon jugs of water for curls and side raises, Beast mode. The Rocky montage of him training in Siberia is going through my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:45 PM
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I think (hope?) there comes a time in my life where I can lose the alpha/beta mindset and simply be "me." It is important that I didn't say "go back to being me," because I don't want to be who I was before the RP...but I do want to reach a point where I don't have to analyze everything as alpha or beta. I want to completely shun the Nice Guy, continue to improve myself, and kill the Alpha and Beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:43 PM
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Huge props to him for getting himself as far as he did. I also found deadbedrooms, which led me here. I don't think I would have figured much of this out without being introduced to the manosphere.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:41 PM
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Now to cross-examine myself, I guess I did treat her pretty badly. I mean, there was that time I took her for a weekend in Paris, no-expense spared hotel. The Sunday she got pissed off stating that all I wanted to do was get in her pants. I hadn't even broached the subject, I just wanted to do something nice. Stuff like this just makes me laugh now. He's being sarcastic but ignores the fact that she probably DID want him to get into her pants. We will never know, but we do know that she wanted s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 03:52 PM
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The most fascinating part is the guy is 6"1' and weighs 140#. No wonder he has to create fake email messages. Geez.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 02:44 PM
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You KNOW I have to upvote this!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 02:40 PM
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Can you elaborate more on why you don't go for numbers? A personal decision, obviously. I also don't, but I've never consciously thought about it. Part of me says it's because I'm fine in conversation and quite happy with my marriage and therefore there would be no point. But maybe I'm simply scared of rejection and NOT hot shit like I think I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 02:39 PM
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Hunter: Did you ever finish reading Day Bang? I'm struggling to make my way through it, it isn't captivating me. In regards to Kino, a year ago I knew nothing about kino. Never heard of it, wasn't aware of it. Now though, I can spend hours watching other couples and strangers interact with each other. Kino (or lack thereof) screams at me everywhere I go. I was in Vegas over the weekend and saw a magic show that used audience participation on the stage. One of the girls was all over the illusioni…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 02:33 PM
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Ha! Downvoted. Brigade has been here!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 02:29 AM
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They are EXTREMELY well founded given that many of the posts, including multiple in the "Own your shit" thread, say "haven't joined a gym yet" etc. It's the #1 rule because the greatest change occurs with it, which means those failing to follow it are losing the most. And no, 20# dumbbells are not sufficient for any compound lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 01:57 AM
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Excellent response. Well done, thanks for taking the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 09:01 PM
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Lifting and diet. I can't believe the transformation. I'm fucking ripped in 10 months. 5'10" 164 lbs was over 200 with no exercise last April. Great for me. You've had great success with this. Please speak more about what you did to reach this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:43 PM
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i have two links on my bookmark bar that lists all the events taking place in our local area. This is a reminder I needed. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:42 PM
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13 is unlucky so he had to one-up it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:32 PM
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Look buddy, everyone knows women will cheat at Cabo. Basically, what's happening is this. Stonepimple's wife just told him, "I'm going to cheat, honey." I disagree with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:31 PM
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It was simply a reminder for some guys (including myself) to not get our panties in a bunch if the wife turns me down, because I haven't arrived yet. Dude, I gotcha. My reminder (mostly to myself) was that if I'm not putting in max effort I won't ever arrive. It probably goes without saying that we as Men aren't simply trying to walk the marathon and say we crossed the line, we want to get a respectable time in doing so. I appreciate your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:09 PM
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What if you're boy isn't into sports but you recognize the kid is a really good athlete? Where is the line between encouraging and forcing? Maybe he isn't into sports that all the other kids are into. Maybe he simply isn't into team sports (and has no idea that individual sports exist). Maybe he can golf. Maybe he can bowl. There is more to sports that football and basketball. Hand-eye coordination and the ability to control oneself through several planes of motion, as well as separating the upp…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 07:05 PM
1

And a Glock.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:50 PM
1

Well, if I want a massage I tell her I want a massage. If I want sex I tell her I want sex. Don't over analyze this.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:31 PM
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like.. real deep "Use your vagina like you do..."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:30 PM
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More Maxims from IM: #52: “Society claims a woman shown your deepest fears will appreciate “your true essence.” This is a myth, a grandiose lie. The average man naively expects a woman to treasure his vulnerability in much the way he does hers. She cannot. Presented with such a burden, a woman will plan her exit. Your vulnerability will not be tolerated. Such a man’s error is conflating his innate attraction to female vulnerability with a reciprocal attitude. There is no reciprocal attraction. P…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:27 PM
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Love the spotting of Rollo in the wild. Hands-down changed my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:25 PM
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IM maxim #54: You think sharing your weakness demonstrates trust and love. You believe you can bond over your pain. You believe wrongly. All she sees is the repulsiveness of your weakness. She does not respect your weakness, your pain, or how difficult it was for you to share your pain with her. Women do not care. They can admire your persistence in the face of such, but not your need to express it.”
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:24 PM
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And who the fuck walks marathons for time? Really? A SHITLOAD of people, simply to say they've done it. A marathon is the only fucking "sport" where you can come in dead last and still get a medal and a juice box. It's the epitome of shittiness. Our messages are similar, but not the same. Don't expect results right away. Don't expect results EVER if you don't put forth the requisite effort. EDIT: Walking a marathon is unnecessary torture. Half-measures to improve oneself are as well. This includ…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:21 PM
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It's a marathon, but we'd better all be putting in the effort of a sprint. If we are walking this marathon we are screwed. An example would be: "The gym is too far away/too expensive/I'm too intimidated, so I'll just make due with these two 15# dumbbells and call that moving heavy weight." No. Fuck that. You are lying to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 04:45 PM
1

Read those sidebar books, you'll learn about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 04:43 PM
1

Love that guy!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 11:43 PM
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I wasn't very clear. Keto for bulking is a tough road and not a good choice. Keto for losing weight & improving body composition via lifting is excellent. Cyclic keto is amazing, especially for those with the necessary self-control.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 02:16 AM
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Absolutely, but it is still possible to build muscle without them. They aren't required. One of my stances is that it is easier to get a desired body type (lean and muscular) if carbs are largely eliminated from the diet. My exceptions would be immediately before and after training, and those carbs should not be a candy bar, etc. (because calorie counting). In my experience, with those I've trained, too many aren't able to follow this and the suggestion of pre/post training carbs devolves quickl…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 08:41 PM
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Gotcha. So will you lose clients if your personal lifts go down? Will you gain clients if your weight goes down? It's side money, so I'd cut the weight. I've been where you are. I worked tirelessly for almost 2 years on my clean. The more I ate the more it would go up. Cutting was scary for me but now I realize that nobody (except a very few) will attribute my value to how much I C&J.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:59 PM
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Probably because they've only just discovered the term and don't expect their Disney princess to be testing them. We expect it from our children but -- gasp -- could my wife be a child?!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:57 PM
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You need carbs to build muscle. Not necessarily, but you certainly need to have full glycogen stores to perform at your maximum potential, which can lead to greater muscle development.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:54 PM
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Abs are made in the kitchen. revealed in the kitchen. You work that core in the weightroom. Being skinny weak isn't attractive to women. EDIT: That Redneck beat me to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:53 PM
3

Low labido is when her labia hang low. It's a thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:49 PM
1

Newbies say: "when will the shit tests go away?" or "how should I handle this shit test?" They are missing the forest for the trees. The shit tests will always be there. Handling them in a creative manner (not following a fucking red pill checklist) is up to each of us. That is part of the ride, and it can be fun and glorious if we embrace our role. If we are looking for an out, or saying "why do I always have to initiate sex!?" then it will be a long ride to our death.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:20 PM
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Hunter: I shared the link your article with many of my friends who are on the fence about lifting or who just can't seem to "find the time," or who are convinced a pair of 35# dumbbells constitute lifting. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 06:14 PM
1

Hey man, congrats to you! Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:24 PM
1

I am an Olympic Weightlifter Are you actually an Olympic weightlifter (as in, you compete for a living?) or do you just do olympic lifts/follow an olympic lifting program solely/etc. If you are doing it for fun, then cut. Your numbers will go down, but big fucking deal. Time to kill that ego. You could drop 30# and if done properly your lifts won't suffer as much as you think they will. Would you being 230# and having a 260# C&J and 205# snatch really be a terrible thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:23 PM
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the "10-second kiss" from MMSLP As an aside: once I got my act together and improved my frame, the 10-second kiss is the #1 thing that has kept my sex life on the rails. For my wife I've found this is THE most important gaming thing I do. If I can hammer out several of those each day then we are all good.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:19 PM
1

OHP is a difficult lift to progress on...but your 175# is a very solid number. Everybody is right on all accounts about that being out of whack compared to your other numbers. You should be benching 235+ with a OHP like yours. When was the last time you found these 1RM numbers? Are they accurate or estimates?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:18 PM
1

Good insight, missed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 08:32 PM
1

its a combination of lack of control with not knowing what it is you are controlling in the first place. For me those played a role, but it was mostly the fact that I was in a car, going fast, and nobody believed that I was in a car going fast. That shit made me angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 08:28 PM
1

Nah, there is plenty of wisdom for them to read through. It's "STFU" working in real-time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:12 PM
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I can see how you could think it is the toughest book in the sidebar, but I'm not interested.
/r/askMRP15/02/16 04:06 PM
1

Although I personally think the 48 Laws of Power was intended as satire, just as Machiavelli's "The Prince," but that's an MRP comment for another day. Please comment on this. I'm locked, loaded, and ready to read.
/r/askMRP15/02/16 04:05 PM
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Look, you can do lots of things, but there are consequences for all of them. You certainly can laugh at her shit tests, but you might earn reprieve by simply not laughing at them. Laughing isn't always the right response (although sometimes it is fitting). Maybe you are exaggerating this point, I don't know. Nobody wants to be married to somebody who doesn't have a base level of respect for them. Your job is to be a leader, not a fuck-up. Laughing when she needs comfort could be a major fuck-up.…
/r/askMRP15/02/16 04:02 PM
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Yes! And to an extent we may not have control over when such an event occurs, which is probably why it looms as a great unknown for many. Then again, I'm convinced that many newbies push too hard, too fast, and bring it upon themselves. It's like losing weight, or getting strong. If something took you 15 years to screw it up, you won't be able to fix it in 15 days. Marriage is no different.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:59 PM
1

It's more than that. It's that what I do may not work for you, so don't copy me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:24 PM
1

As a recent example, if you like the ballet, you do you, and go get prime seats. Oh I did, and she loved it, but of course I didn't go for her, I went for me. We had excellent seats (I don't go to shit unless I have prime seats) and it was a great evening.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:22 PM
1

Therefore as you stated, you need a large group of moderators to cull out the shit, but also a fairly large user base of people who will actually vote. Can't comment until you've been subscribed to the sub for 30 days, and can't vote until you've made 10 comments over the same of 10 days. Not problem solved, but problem helped greatly.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:16 PM
1

Exact same for me, and my thinking was "how could it get any worse than my dead bedroom?"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:14 PM
1

Wonderful thought I saw yesterday: Hundreds of years from now we will measure time in before Trump (BT) and after Trump (AT). We are currently living in year 0.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:14 PM
1

Yes, a trick question, as there might not be a right answer. (What if she has been acting like a woman and you have been acting like a man? that was not a choice). Not a trick question because there is an answer, whether or not we want to hear it. One of the party is doing worse at fulfilling their masculine/feminine rolls. It is what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:04 PM
1

I'm glad that standing up to her was a goal, and not having your balls in a jar isn't a good thing. But standing up to a wee little girl shouldn't be the goal. Her being the focus of anything isn't a goal. See, the many of us who are new to RP and MRP have this huge fear of "The Main Event,". It is exhilarating and scary all rolled into one. Then it happens...and we've done it! What is it? Well, either we stood our ground and proved we were "man," or we wet ourselves and puked up many emotions..…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:01 PM
1

What do you want from this relationship? Do you want to stay together? Are you looking for us to give you an out?
/r/askMRP11/02/16 09:57 PM
2

Thanks for the link. I've read a lot of stuff in the past year. I've gone through many packs of highlighters. I've never read the article you linked until now. Really enjoyed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 09:12 PM
2

As /u/theultmatecad reminded me yesterday, Rollo has written extensively on this subject. One can be Hitler and be alpha, one can be a surfer bum and be alpha. Alpha is you doing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 09:11 PM
2

That's it. I'm loving this phrase. An alpha gets his stuff done. A family alpha handles his business. There is no addendum.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 09:07 PM
1

So good. The shirt and tie with khakis really cap it off.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 08:52 PM
2

more importantly she knows that if I were to leave, I would be the one better off as she isn't going to find a man like me. I've set the bar too high and made myself too valuable. The absolute best kind of dread. It is not heavy handed but it is always looming and never dissipates because you won't allow it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:13 PM
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Wifey wants to see some pre-selection. She wants to see some IOI towards you from other women. She wants to see some light kino while you chat up a group of her friends. Poon Commandment #3: You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:11 PM
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Brilliant stuff, I haven't seen much written here about mate guarding. It certainly is a worthy topic, especially for new guys who are applying RP principles but don't feel as though there wife is giving them any respect yet. Those gents will likely go off the rails trying to show how "alpha" they are, when in reality the mateguarding will mostly crush much of the near-term progress they've made with their new RP applications.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:07 PM
3

Alpha is a set of behaviours that make you attractive to women. Yes, and that set of behaviors is an outward demonstration of an inward belief. Some of us have to cultivate it, some of us are born with it. That belief is largely "I'm moving forward and I don't care what you think about it." Moving forwards to what could be anything. All I'm saying is that women have no capacity for it. I'm not saying that women will appreciate duty and loyalty and honor, only that we as Men are fulfilled ourselv…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 09:14 PM
3

Press is a tough lift. One of the toughest to progress on. A 175# strict press is a great feat. How much do you weigh?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 09:11 PM
1

Very nice. Excellent books. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 09:10 PM
1

I know you swing a pretty big stick around here. Your advice, on this, is beyond what OP can manage. What sidebar books have you read? Why do you post in /r/askwomen? These are not attacks. These are so we may understand your personal background and have better communication.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:52 PM
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Or build a home gym. I bang weights at 4:30 am, 8:00 pm, and all hours in between.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:44 PM
1

Just like banging heavy-ass weights. 3/10 sessions suck, 4/10 sessions are are typical, but the other 3/10 sessions are magic: you are lifting to failure and moving the weight fast. PRs are set and goals are achieved.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:41 PM
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Some guy was arguing with me the other day about how a masculine man should express no emotion. Nothing could be further from the truth. We express masculine emotion.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:39 PM
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I disagree. Alpha means being noble or loyal to something...some sort of cause or movement or to oneself. You can be selfish and be alpha, you can be evil and be alpha. Women, on the other hand, have no nobility to anything. They are blown by the winds (their peer group). They know nothing of loyalty to anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 08:36 PM
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I was worried that if she found it in my pocket later that night or the next dayand i didnt say something while we were out then she would throw a shit fit. Big fucking deal. Hint: your wife will throw shit fits many times over because that's how women operate. Put her in time-out and carry on with your day.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:19 PM
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Yeah, no. Why would the other guy's wife want to stoop down to have sex with this beta schmuck? They are probably having a threesome.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:17 PM
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Let's assume his wife does know and everything is on the up and up. His wife is enjoying the tingles she gets from knowing her guy can pull other hot chicks.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:16 PM
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load up with the weight for your 5RPM, and then go for 6, 7, 8, however many it takes to fail. If you can rep a 5RM more than 5 times, it isn't your 5RM! I tell my training clients this all the time. When I ask them to find a 3RM and it gets heavy, that doesn't mean they've found it. Keep adding weight until they can't get a 4th rep, that's the 3RM.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:14 PM
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She said she is going to her parents in the morning and she's done and wants to go our separate ways. From a little mate-guarding to her wanting to split from you? This synopsis isn't the problem, you've had bigger problems for much longer.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:13 PM
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Men value refining the process so that it allows us to reach our end goal (which involves said loyalty, duty, devotion, honesty). Women only care about the end goal and willfully ignore every step of the process that was used in achieving it. Women will trample all of those masculine traits under their feet to reach an end goal. Masculine Men will uphold those traits even in the face of adversity because to us there is no other way of acceptable behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:10 PM
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Doctor here. How was med school paid for? What finances did you have during residency in addition to her resident pay? I ask because you may have a shitload of student loans. After taxes and student loans, her disposable income won't be what you think it is. Point being: you can earn a solid income and be a major contributor no matter what she earns
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 01:55 AM
1

I'm sure there are hundreds, nay thousands of them, overwhelmed with happiness to see that "red pill" has "failed."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 10:43 PM
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I suppose we shouldn't assume, but he's asking if he should stay married to a lesbian who wants to divorce him. Shit, maybe that is what he wants.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:47 PM
1

Not keto, can't do.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 06:45 PM
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He cant cure her alcoholism with all the leadership in the world. No one can, and its a negative sum game each time someone tries. Correct, but leadership allows him to take the steps towards those who can cure her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 06:44 PM
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and I'm not sure why she would continue to tell me that I look good. Because she wants to have it all. She's like every woman. She wants to own everything regardless of the feelings she has for it. She wants you in her back pocket. Why should you be happy? Once you let her know that you are romantically moving on, be prepared for a shit storm of emotions. It will turn ugly.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:42 PM
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she told me she (thinks) she does want a divorce and that she feels she may be more gay versus straight then... if she can add value to my life and treat me like the prize I am You are confused, my friend. Your hamster is going very fast. She is playing you fast and furious and giving your hamster plenty to hamster about. She is drama overload. Let her go in terms of a involved relationship. Shitty part is you are chained to her through the kid, and you have a responsibility there. You do you, t…
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:34 PM
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Welcome to a first-hand view of a woman's solipsism. Nothing exists outside of their realm. I can have a crazy day of surgery cases, big-time stuff where people can die if I don't have my shit together...and my wife is texting me about the desk we should buy or how she wants to paint one of the girl's rooms. EDIT: To your question: Like most others here I completely ignore these. No response whatsoever. When I initially did this it felt awkward and I assumed she would be offended. Nope, she didn…
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:30 PM
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Prime shipping, it will be there quickly. PS order some glowsticks while you are at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:44 PM
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This would be reasonable if men had the power. He does have all the power. Look, you being a leader doesn't eliminate consequences, we all have to live with the laws of the land, but we can't go down the road of "all is lost" or we aren't any better than we were before RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:42 PM
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Lots of good advice here for you. I can't add to it except to say that my wife has grown accustomed to it. It's to the point now where when I walk behind her she will stop and stick her ass out so that I can slap it even harder. Such fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 03:26 PM
1

Very nice job, great contribution to the community.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 03:24 PM
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I can edit if you would like, as I am wrong. I'm an anonymous guy on an internet forum. I don't care if you edit it and bake a cake to celebrate or hunker down and drink a bottle of wine to wash away your sorrows. As long as we blame OTHER people they hold the key to our progress. Makes sense, right? If it's their fault then they need to change. Why give everybody around us the power over our lives?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 03:19 PM
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well tbp is gonna have a field day with this one. As TTB has pointed out, without RP and MRP, the blue pillers having nothing to fill their day with.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 01:57 PM
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Please don't blame him for her actions. Who should be blamed? Her? We are assuming that OP wants to be the leader in his family. Therefore, he assumes all responsibility for any failure of his team to perform. He is either an effective leader, or an ineffective leader. Do people make mistakes? Yes. Sometimes those cannot be prevented, but a good leader will instruct and guide to ensure the same mistake is not made again. His wife has been having problems for a long time, this is not a one-off. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 01:56 PM
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Good list. Every one of the 5 things involves...learning a measure of discipline and self-control. That self-control (aka self improvement) will overflow into other areas of your life. That's why lifting is so important. Sure you get strong, but you learn mental strength as well. Many indirect benefits in this list.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 01:35 AM
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It really is a good time for us. It's also something that shocks our friends and we always get the "oh, so you drug your husband to the ballet" lines from her friends, which is always amusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 01:32 AM
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I don't understand what you are talking about, but I appreciate you taking the time to comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 01:01 AM
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Do you. Ideally that involves something with your wife because she makes you happy and you find value in the relationship, when she is "sullen, grumpy, cold and withdrawn" then your plans probably don't involve her. My wife and I are going to the ballet on Thursday. I enjoy going to the ballet and we go twice a year. On the actual Valentine's day I have nothing planned. As you have stated, I don't need a holiday to tell me when to show affection.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 11:51 PM
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Really good advice. Probably 99% of IUDs placed are hormonal ones (Mirena, etc.) but copper ones eliminate the hormones and I highly recommend them. I'm not a gyno but every one of my patients that has had one has been very pleased with it and several have mentioned that they have done a 180 in terms of sexual response to their husbands.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 11:00 PM
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This is some MGTOW, butthurt type shit right here, not really seeing the mrp connection in the slightest. Why delete it? Look at all the great conversation it has caused. It would be a snoozefest around here today without. I'm glad your kid was in bed. 3 of mine were in bed at 7:30 like usual. Game was over at 8:30 my time. but you're a big boy and can decide if you want this to stand out here like an example of some issues you need to work through. Ahh yes, heaven forbid anybody who posts here …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 10:19 PM
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I ask MRP because my goal is healthy LTR(s), The health will come from your reaction to whatever response is given. You can't control what she has already done, but you can control your reaction to the answer she gives. And, if it isn't really important to you, then don't ask.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 09:43 PM
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I think you're digging for something that's not there. Not one single white kid out of the 50+ that were on stage. Not one. I'd say that's on purpose.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 09:38 PM
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Should I continue to be indifferent about sex until I garner more interest from her? No, don't downplay your interest in sex. That weakens any dread game you have going. She must know that you have a high interest in sex, and because she is your wife you are giving her the first dibs on having sex with you. After that there is a long line of women who would be happy to oblige...
/r/askMRP08/02/16 05:48 PM
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H: well I don't know if I want to do that again, you hurt me. Hamster translation: that was awesome. It hurt, but it was a phenomenal physical AND emotional roller coaster (pain coupled with orgasm). He'll think I'm a slut if I don't cover myself. Better mention how much he hurt me and let him know that I'm not sure about doing that again. This will solidify that I'm not a slut.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 05:47 PM
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My wife believes that if 7 of her close friends like something, it's great and if none of her close friends have heard of it, it sucks. Classic line. I'm writing that in my notebook I keep.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 05:29 PM
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Talking and communication is the most important thing, right? Communication is an important aspect of parenting. Neglecting it will lead to failure. It's one tool in the toolbox, and should be used sparingly. Pick your battles.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 05:27 PM
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Nope, doesn't make me angry at all. Very much focused lately on being the best father I can be. Always appreciate input from the folks here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 05:25 PM
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spreads the picture over social media, and within the week, all women are doing it, almost subconsciously. Fucking pintrest. My wife and I were looking for a couch or chairs to place at the foot of our bed. We went to several furniture stores to find something we liked...or so I thought. I was searching for something I liked, while she was simply searching for something that the internet liked. This was evidenced by her searching pintrest every time we saw a piece and checking to see if the heig…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 03:03 PM
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Good post. Two of my girls asked the same thing. They wanted to see how she is dressed and if she is beautiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:34 PM
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A lot of panties. A lot. It's tough. Lots of emotion. Later on in the evening my oldest daughter (12) was having girl drama with some of her friends. Typical psychological warfare that females engage in. My wife spoke to her privately for about 15 minutes trying to fix it. I think it just got her more riled up. It made it clear that another female probably isn't equipped to cure the emotional ailments of another female.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:32 PM
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Very nice. You do you and your family, that's the message. My son loves watching football with me. We had great conversations throughout. The goal is teaching your wife and children.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:18 PM
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I think OP needs to be more oak and quit getting all emotional about entertainment at its basic form. Ahh, the common mistake that being oak means not showing emotion. Wrong. Oak means being consistent and providing security in to the family in the storm of their emotions, while acting on your masculine emotion as you guide your family. Not sharing masculine emotion is a failure to lead and a failure to be an Oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:15 PM
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Do you realize how far over the edge you have to be to think that "Believe In Love" is a dangerous message Do you realize how far over the edge you have to be to think that "believe in love" is not simply a bluepill truth being pushed down the throats of society? It sit rights adjacent to "be yourself and women will respect you" and "open the car door and you'll get sex."
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:13 PM
-2

Even better, turned off the halftime show and had a good family discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:12 PM
-1

Isn't halftime for women anyways? Guys are usually getting beer and restocking food at that point. Yep, and I have a wife and 3 daughters.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:08 PM
1

I manscape every week. Not for everybody but it helps highlight my muscles.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 03:31 AM
1

Ha, those are actually the least of my worries.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 03:25 AM
3

Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:51 AM
1

Which is crazy—but even crazier is that if you were to give a questionnaire to blue pill guys, I'd guess at least 80% have been severely reprimanded at some point for getting he wrong ground beef or milk.
/r/askMRP06/02/16 09:10 PM
2

I have physical copies of all the sidebar books. We went on vacation and I left The Rational Male 1 on the counter. Wifey picked it up and opened to a random page I had highlighted. She read for 15 seconds and then put it down. She didn't understand it and therefore didn't care.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/16 09:07 PM
3

5000 pairs eyeballs (or however many read it) is many more than one pair. Refinement is a constant process.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/16 08:54 PM
1

Every song I hear, every movie I see, every commercial I pay attention to; I'm analyzing them all and recognizing the types being portrayed. The weak sauce beta fuck, and guy with the dad bod that works hard but is the butt of all jokes, the feminist who demands respect AND that she be given a pussy pass, the shrew wife who barters her dry vagina with her husband as a means to get him to do chores, the 40 year old female who crashed through The Wall and is complaining about men...all these are r…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/16 08:49 PM
0

Awesome. I had a great man-to-man conversation with my 14 year-old son yesterday. Had to share some principles with him, as well as some expectations I have, as well as give him a platform for asking questions. I reiterated that I am the King of the family, and he should continue to come to me when problems or issues arise. Let him know that I won't judge him and he won't be in trouble when he comes to me for advice. Also let him know that if he goes astray and doesn't come to me, then there wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/16 08:42 PM
-1

A fucking disaster. I have friends that have played in the NFL (10+ year starters). I cannot imagine them taking any advice or coaching from a woman. EDIT: partly because of ego and partly because those women have not played the sport themselves at an elite level.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/16 06:19 PM
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Yes, read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Read When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Read Married Man Sex Life Primer. Read the top threads in this sub. Good for you. You CAN have success and happiness for as long as you desire it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 06:13 PM
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Maybe. But knowing the theory is important and can be valuable. There are plenty of guys around here that were in great relationships, doing all of the above, and then things failed. Perhaps the answer is so easy that many aren't content with it and attribute success to something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 11:50 PM
2

We cannot help you here. The best motivator is lack of happiness. If you are happy and comfortable you will not change.
/r/askMRP04/02/16 05:33 PM
1

Do not ask random strangers on the internet if you should be doing something as benign as having your photo taken. You want the photos taken? Want to step outside of your box and do something new? Then go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 05:06 PM
2

Yes, I posted a comment about this moments ago without reading yours. His ship has survived the immediate squall but there are many more storms brewing on the horizon and in distant waters.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 05:04 PM
2

The deadbedroom OP says he has been on a roll for about two weeks now. I worry about him and wonder if he will intuitively figure out the next steps to take. We all know this is a constant work in progress and life-long pursuit. I think it's relatively easy to jump-start a sex life for a couple of weeks...but after that?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 05:02 PM
1

Really good. Love #5. As I've dished out more assertive alpha behaviors, people have responded overwhelmingly positive to me. I believe this is due to our biological conditioning. If somebody acts like they are King Dick...then they must be royalty!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 12:31 AM
1

Bench moves up slowly, increasing at 2.5 lbs v. 5 lb jumps can keep you progressing. Bench moves slow, press moves even slower. Sometimes I take .5 jumps on that. Good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:50 PM
1

I give selective fucks, but for everything that is out of my control IDGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:48 PM
2

Fun game to see just how long your iron will can overcome your thoughts to quit. That's the unseen benefit of the MRP rule of LIFT. Yeah, we get a hormone response that crafts our body into a masculine form. Yeah we get stronger physically and can do more. But how about that mental fortitude that carries over into every aspect of our lives!?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:40 PM
2

When they stop at the end of the workout, lose your fucking mind and just knock out rep after rep until you're completely drained and riding on fumes, then do a few more. Every time. No other way to do it. Milk it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:38 PM
2

We have two selves: our CURRENT self and our FUTURE self. A weak man will always use his CURRENT self to screw over his FUTURE self. Example: the alarm clock. A weak man will stay in bed and therefore let his future self deal with the mess he has created (in this case maybe being late for work, or not having the time to get everything done, etc.) The key is to recognize that CURRENT and FUTURE are both US. There is no other person in this equation. I'm a huge fan of using my current self to alle…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:31 PM
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Great summary, thanks. This was a good reminder that I need to read this book, just ordered and will begin it Friday. My 2016 book list is already 5 titles long. I've always been a reader but MRP has motivated me to push myself and I'm reading a book every week now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 08:21 PM
1

HAHAHAHA. Just found this thread and that was my laugh of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 09:43 PM
1

Yeah I like how this guy wants info on his married plate, you know, just to have it. Why? He can use it to fuel a push/pull when things get complacent. It's extra food for the hamster. A smart man gathers info when it is available.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 09:39 PM
1

IM Maxim #67: “The majority of women would rather improve their capacity to deceive than change anything non-superficial about themselves.”
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 09:29 PM
1

I'm 25 need all the help to learn to make money. Go to work and own it. RP isn't a magic pill, neither is "learn to make money."
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 09:26 PM
2

Your post was fine, what we are all waiting for is to see what happens on the rebound. A Man makes mistakes, the differentiation comes in how he responds to them. A weak man does nothing, a strong Man works to remedy them.
/r/askMRP02/02/16 09:04 PM
1

I just want her to be happier in general. With her body, with the house, with everything in general. This happens when she is happy with you. It's just that simple. All other issues fall by the wayside. I'm not saying they remedy themselves, but she finds happiness in knowing that she is being guarded by somebody who handles his business and can address any issues that arise.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 09:02 PM
2

why do all of you retards keep trying to change someone who you don't control? Yes! Nothing but misery down this path. If your happiness is resting in the way others act, then you'll always be let down and fall short. Why place something as valuable as happiness in the hands of another?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 09:00 PM
1

The CrossFit thing was just a nod that my fitness game is on point. Also, that access to fitness is very, very available. This may drive her away from the idea. Maybe she doesn't look the part of the "owner's wife" and therefore is ashamed and doesn't want to begin a fitness journey. Perhaps she is intimidated by your physique or passion for fitness, of which she shares little or no desire. Rework your leadership. A woman will do anything for a man who protects her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 08:59 PM
0

You are a mess. Your frame is weak. Read some stoic works and apply some simple principles. Recognize that no matter what she (or anybody else) does, you can have a phenomenal day each and every day. So I trip up instead. I drink too much gin. Jerk off to some porn. Hits me pretty hard to since I've been away from it for weeks now. And i finally go to bed, spent and butt hurt at about 3am. This post is really about you screwing up and wanting to hear that it's okay. It's not okay, but you can ke…
/r/askMRP02/02/16 06:09 PM
2

Tell these men there's a whole 'nother level of women that show interest at <10%. I'm actively working towards it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:07 PM
1

My diet: Hitting these macros well. CHO: 55g, PRO: 195g, FAT: 135g. This is 10% CHO, 25% PRO and 55% FAT. Works well for me. On my heavy days (finding a specific rep max with lots of volume on the low end as well) I'll eat an extra apple or 2 tbsp of honey to get some instant carbs. Calories below 2,250 every day. Looking to maintain my performance and cut body fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 02:04 PM
1

I hear you. Don't neglect the option of eating clean AND maintaining lean body mass. You won't get to the scale number you want but body composition could end up the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 02:01 PM
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All responsibility rests with you. Remember that "a woman's mistakes are never remembered, a man's are never forgotten." No matter what you have delegated, the ultimate blame will be placed on you. This is true because you are a Man and leading your family, and because your wife is a women and AWALT. Consider: you give your wife control of the finances and in 20 years you have no money for retirement. Guess who gets blamed? Hint: not your wife.
/r/askMRP02/02/16 01:53 PM
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210 1500cal/day for a period of 2 months. Ouch. Sounds like hell on earth. EDIT: I say this because I'm at 180#, 14% bodyfat, and currently on a cut at 2,250 cals/day. Dropping another 750 cals would crush my soul.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 08:28 PM
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This deals with FRAME. If we blame others or circumstances for our problems, then the answer to our problems also lies in the hands of others, and it is impossible for us to make any changes that will solve our problems. Others are fickle, and circumstances change; therefore we cannot place our future in those items, for we will get nowhere. The only person I can count on to make change is ME.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 07:56 PM
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If fapping is keeping you from pursuing your wife, and is lowering your interest in pursuing sex in general beyond the thought of having it, then you may want to go for it. That's my take on it also. Gaming my wife is a constant effort. If my efforts are spent elsewhere then I don't apply the game properly, which ruins the outcome I desire.
/r/askMRP01/02/16 07:53 PM
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Not a joke. Your wife thinks YOU are awful. Your wife is simply mirroring you and your failed lack of leadership, your lack of being a masculine male. If that paragraph offended you: read no further and carry on with your life as things are. If that paragraph intrigued you, then you need to read the sidebar books on r/marriedredpill and really discover why your wife feels the way she does. It will be a tough task, and it will take many months of reading, learning, and application. The Red Pill i…
/r/askMRP01/02/16 07:48 PM
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It's not about managing anger. You caught him. It's about how we should put women on a pedestal and treat them differently than we treat men.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 07:42 PM
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Women CAN have value. Men CAN have value. Do I care if I alienate people who have no value to me? Absolutely not.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 07:41 PM
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This place is a collection of ideas, theories, and questions. Some things are written in stone because they are proven by science. Others are hard facts because women have behaved in this way for thousands of years. But then we throw in our SMV, and the SMV of the wife, and the reading comprehension (or lack thereof) of the guy, and just how unplugged is he?, and she is an alpha widow, or maybe she is a religious zealot... the list goes on and ALL of these things affect the outcome. So men on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 11:17 PM
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Giving overt notice is a great way to ensure you're getting some later. What. The. Hell. Completely opposite. Overt notice does NOT excite your wife. Sexual tension has nothing to do with you stating "we are having sex later." Those things aren't even close to be equivalent. Do more reading.
/r/askMRP29/01/16 11:07 PM
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No, sorry. I've used my podcast time to branch out into areas other than Red Pill/Game theory. When it comes to that stuff this place, along with books and blogs, are my go-to for learning.
/r/askMRP29/01/16 11:04 PM
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It was fucking terrible and couldn't have been much worse. You actually said to her "you can say no if you want."
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:48 PM
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Here is how the conversation would have gone with me: HER: [she got the hint] yeah let's have sex but As long we can switch from tomorrow night to tonight. I want to leave at 8 Friday to ski. Me: started pounding her. No words spoken. Dude, seriously, WTF is with your posts? It's crazy, it's like you forget everything you've read in the moment. Stop arguing with your wife.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:47 PM
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Bad deal. Ignore what she says means just that. So she says "yes," you rub her back and then she suddenly has a headache, or needs to pick the kids up from school, or has dinner to make, or started her period. The list goes ON and ON and ON. DO NOT GIVE YOUR WIFE NOTICE FOR SEX. This only gives her more time to come up with excuses to say no to you. Edit: I rub my wife's back/shoulders WHILE we are having sex.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:43 PM
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Perfect line that I've stolen from CH: Wife: "Will you give me a backrub?" You: "I don't want to get you pregnant." The uses are endless. Wife: "Will you get me some water." You: "I don't want to get you pregnant."
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:41 PM
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Take a deep breath. You are new, it won't come all at once in terms of outcome. Eventually you will be what you desire (a Masculine Man). Having said that, listen to UEMcGill below. You need to apply effort in every single aspect even if you don't feel like it or don't believe you can. You must fake OI until you develop it. You must initiate sex and let your wife know that you are a high testosterone male even if you don't feel like it.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:37 PM
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You'll have to go outside of the box on this and listen to general Pick-up Artist/Game podcasts and find the gems and apply them to your marriage. Game for marriage isn't a category that gets a lot of attention. EDIT: but all Game is the same. It all applies.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 05:34 PM
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If someone is critical, agree and move on (fogging). Agree if there is truth to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 05:11 PM
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Now, I've read that another side effect of orthotricyclen is a lack of libido. Have any of you gentlemen experienced an uptick in sex after your spouse had gotten off of BC? Also, did you experience an increase in emotional volatility? Yes, hormones are hormones and many relationships suffer due to them. Every women is affected differently. I'd recommend an IUD, place it and leave it for 5 years with no worries. Some women have similar (but much less) sides from a hormonal IUD (such as mirena) s…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 04:20 PM
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Your premise is an important one. Those who aren't aware of it (or haven't read MMSLP as instructed to do before entering the deep end of the pool) aren't getting full value out of the knowledge available to us. However: Clue app (if you have an iOS device), along with reading subtle signs in your wife, makes it very easy to know what's up. Your post could be largely truncated and you could include a brief report of how understanding the cycle this has helped you personally. Such a post would be…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:50 PM
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Finished 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius yesterday. Profound wisdom written therein regarding changing our internal dialogue, and many of your posted questions relate directly to those writings. A stoic man should not be surprised by change, or by the inevitable happening. That doesn't mean we can't experience emotion (a Masucline man SHOULD), but it means that emotion doesn't guide our actions. So now I'm asking myself: am I responding in a way that benefits my path to being a Masculine Man or…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:48 PM
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She is into light domination but besides that she is fairly vanilla. She doesn't really have any fantasies. "Women lead double lives. She will project a strong outward good girl facade whilst engaging in acts of depravity in secret. We know whoring reduces a woman’s value. They know this too. But rather than simply not whore, they would prefer to deceive.”
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:40 PM
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Yes! But go deeper. What they think their SMV is doesn't even matter. They can estimate it to be too high, but even that is of no consequence. All that matters is what others place the SMV at.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:38 PM
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Some of the best, in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 03:57 PM
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Sound advice but no promises. Nothing is airtight. Contracts can be broken, prenups found invalid. The only sure way is to not get married (and then be careful inviting them to live with you).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 07:45 PM
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That's as it should be. The physical strength comes from rebuilding, not the tearing down.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 08:48 PM
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You are Dark Triad. You'll be fine.
/r/askMRP25/01/16 05:58 PM
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Food: I'm not losing more weight because I eat indulgent food. I'm already tracking but something is not working. Come on, own it. You know exactly what is not working.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:46 PM
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I think you nailed the crux of why HE is feeling poorly about this. He had them nailed down to a "type" and his cute and special wifey broke that "type." Diagnosis: He thought she was one thing and she demonstrated she is another. Prescription: swallow more RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:44 PM
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Re-read his post. You are going in circles. What she did is either acceptable based on your ground rules in your marriage (and this is your failure), or it is unacceptable based on the ground rules (and this is your failure), or you don't have any ground rules (and this is your failure).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:02 PM
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It is her money but the fact that she "forgot" to tell me is what upsets me. Why does it upset you? Analyze this and you will have the root of your problem. Make sure to look out for covert contracts as you analyze and be honest with yourself. If i "forget" to tell her something she will sometimes say that i lied to her because i withheld some information from her that might make her upset. She did the exact same thing to me. Women. AWALT. You should expect this and not be surprised. As a mascul…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:55 PM
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You are communicating in HER method less (TALKING) and communicating in the method of a Man more (DOING). Bravo.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:51 PM
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My girls now that mom will sugar coat something, but that I'll give them an honest answer. Read his other post on PC parenting. Might be some gems in there for you also.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:49 PM
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Strengthen that trunk (trunk not core because you are an OAK not a fucking apple). Nothing wrong with working the trunk in addition to doing compound lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:46 PM
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de-load Re-load. You are strong, you are fast. You don't deload, you take a break to reload and hit it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:42 PM
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Sure you will. Power cleaning is simply jumping as high as you can with the bar, shrugging, then pulling. We aren't Olympic athletes. The best cue I give my athletes when I train them on the power clean is to jump and then continue to pull after they think they should stop pulling.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:41 PM
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Nobody who is DT takes a test to determine if they are DT. Zero fucks given.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 06:33 PM
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Now that I'm starting to pass shit tests I need to be gaming her so she doesn't go all, "your an asshole" on me Don't shy away from that phrase. She says it because the status-quo is changing and it scares her. Also recall that her having feelings for you (love or hate) is better than no feelings at all.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 07:00 PM
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If she views you as another kid, you are screwed. If she views you as a Man and a nice distraction from the kids, you are winning the game. Don't be a kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 02:50 AM
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Paul Walker, back from the dead. Good comments. You're right, if you are spinning plates you meet them somewhere and then "seeya!". With our wives we meet them, take them home, listen to them fart and burp at times, watch them wash their faces and apply the most unsightly goop, look at their extremely unsexy sleeping clothes, listen to them complain about random crap...and then repeat the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 02:49 AM
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How do you think u/theultimatecad and u/Trainingthebrain are different? Should they be the same? I would say they are different in that they are not the same person, but that they have both taken the same principles and applied them to different situations to reach their different goals. I would also say that this is fine and well and as it should be. A common theme is LIFT and READ, but beyond that we are simply giving ideas of what has worked for us. Buyer beware on all of it. We know the gene…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 12:42 AM
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It is your duty to insure than your wife does not become enslaved to your children. Some women are better about this than others, but all women will trend toward prioritizing the children above the marriage. This is hard-wired into their being. IM Maxim #4: “Women love children how men love women.” To the rest of your post: I think you've overdone it a bit. A low-caliber wife will feel overwhelmed by children, but one that is on her game will at times be stressed, but able to handle it. Being a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 12:34 AM
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Since getting the coconut oil two weeks ago, the sex has been almost daily, with her requesting "coconut massages" (her way of initiating lately) You may not believe this, but it is a kernel of truth: Many women (and men) have an aversion to sex acts that was instilled in them as a child. Sex is dirty and words associated with sex are also dirty. This goes for "penis," "vagina," "orgasm," and many others. Sure, you created a fantasy, but you also gave your wife a way to ask for something that wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 12:26 AM
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By reading the books on the sidebar. Married Man Sex Life Primer, and The Rational Male Part 1 & 2, among others. EDIT: and the book OP is referencing about immersion is Sex God Method.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 12:20 AM
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Well, it isn't all about looks. A submissive quality certainly raises the SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 12:15 AM
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No judgement, just an observation that everything is relative. If you've been with a 3 then a 5 is dynamite and a refreshing glass of water. To a man with a 7 a 5 is disgusting.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 10:12 PM
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A small part of me feels badly that people get married, procreate, and then their relationship outcome is a constant battle of stupid shit like this. I would have either: 1. "Ok," and not shown the pictures because zero fucks given or 2. "Ok," and shown the pictures because zero fucks given or 3. "Thanks, Mom," and...well, you know the rest because zero fucks given. There has to be more to your life and relationship then this stupid minuscule bickering between two adults.
/r/askMRP20/01/16 06:54 PM
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This reads like two little girls fighting on the playground.
/r/askMRP20/01/16 06:50 PM
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We (or I) can't be the leader all the time. There are areas that wifey is naturally better at, and even if I could lead these I simply lack the time to plan and do everything (house, self improvement, job, kids etc..) Sure you can. A good Family Alpha KNOWS that he can't do everything, so he leads his family to ensure those items get taken care of. Delegate things. Work alongside your wife. When she is handling tasks, be present and make it a happy situation (emotion will generate TINGLES). Lead…
/r/askMRP20/01/16 06:47 PM
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Weights are all on the increase….in fact I am passing a Marine Corps Physical fitness test at the 18 year old level (I am 40 by the way). But I still fucking hate running. I don’t think that will ever change. Don't sweat it. The test you mention has nothing to do with weights, and running has nothing to do with a jacked and muscular body (except maybe to limit you from getting one). I plan on a hand job Thursday night. Covert contract. You are only harming yourself. Example: she took a shower ye…
/r/askMRP20/01/16 06:44 PM
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IM Maxim 54: “You think sharing your weakness demonstrates trust and love. You believe you can bond over your pain. You believe wrongly. All she sees is the repulsiveness of your weakness. She does not respect your weakness, your pain, or how difficult it was for you to share your pain with her. Women do not care. They can admire your persistence in the face of such, but not your need to express it.” and Maxim 63: “Always protect the core of your essence, should you choose to let her in, never l…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 06:38 PM
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"Yeah , too bad that'll have to remain in fantasy land. I have a severe phobia of getting hit by strange jizz with crossfire and it'd go from screwing to fighting." Stop having girl chat. Thread winner right here, both with laughs and solid advice. Lots of problems solved if guys would STFU and stop FUELING THE FEMALE EMOTIONAL FIRE.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 06:36 PM
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Sexually you moved on from your 300# wife and had a fling with a 200# woman? I guess everything is relative, isn't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 06:34 PM
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Excellent points!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 10:50 PM
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My thought was that I didn't want to appear that her behavior rattled me. A great answer would be "marriage," and then leave for the evening to do all those pressing things that you need to get done. Love the concept from our redneck friend that "I'm going to get my sexual needs met, I'm just giving you the first opportunity because we are married."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 08:37 PM
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a cold is a small obstacle for a woman to overcome in order to sleep with a man she really wants to fuck. This is entirely true in principle. I'm not negating the principle. But in reality, you have to look at the SMV and break it down. It just so happens that even if a man has a higher SMV than her, she may not want to have sex with him when she has a cold. There is a tipping point, to be sure, but who knows where it is for every woman. For example, a woman with a SMV of 5, who has a cold. Woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 08:35 PM
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I think most come here for the exact opposite reason: to save their marriage. Only when they switch to saving themselves have they really swallowed the pill. By doing this they realize that a drunk captain can't lead a ship, no matter how good his intentions are.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 08:31 PM
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My belief is that it works 100% of the time simply because x=x and 2=2, etc. If you do the work then the work gets done, type of thing. Have I had days where nothing worked? Yes, absolutely. Does that mean RP doesn't work? Not really because...when I lift I get stronger, when I read I get smarter, etc. I am perfected as I go through the process. Being fireproof doesn't mean fires don't happen, only that you can withstand the flames.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 08:30 PM
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You don't need to run dread per se, you just need to work on yourself and improve. The outcome is that she becomes more attracted to you, or that you lose her but you are a much better man. Statistically speaking, she probably isn't a 9 (or a 10 as you state below).
/r/askMRP19/01/16 04:54 PM
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They are fucking amazing. Mind blown each time. We could all spend a week discussing all 100 of them and learn something new at every turn. How can it be so clear and in writing yet for 37 years I was clueless. Why did no Man ever pull me aside and share the wisdom!?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 04:45 PM
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A man's successes are never remembered and his failures never forgotten. Buyer beware.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 04:43 PM
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What a great post. Sums up so many things that I've been thinking recently. RP is phenomenal, but there are thoughts that enter my mind from time-to-time that I still ponder and occasionally they limit what I could accomplish. For example (and I'm copying these bolded items from IM and Commandments of Poon because they are written better than I can write them). 1. “Women are followers, not leaders; they follow trends, status and power, not a sense of innate loyalty.” OF COURSE your wife will tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 04:39 PM
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You want to talk about song lyrics? There is so much RP and psychology of women/hypergamy/alpha fucks in the following lyrics that we could spend days discussing it. This is currently a popular song. I doubt many of the BP masses even think about the lyrics. "Make Up" by R. City. The first verse: I give you everything you want But all you talk about is everything I don't Yep, AWALT. These guys would do much better if they swallowed the pill. What this woman needs is FEELINGS, not more stuff. Stu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 04:25 PM
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Yes, that is what NMMNG suggests. Two specific items from the book regarding being born after WWII: boys were disconnected from their fathers and other healthy male role models and boys were forced to seek approval from women and accept a female definition of what it meant to be male.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 04:02 PM
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Chris points out that his father and grandfather didn't treat their wives as equals so were more naturally stoic From 48 Laws of Power: "You only have so much energy and time. Every moment wasted on the affairs of others subtracts from your strength."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 03:59 PM
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I simply said: "I thought you were the only one who could break my heart. With regards to your wife, you've showed too much of your hand here and possibly are setting yourself up for future problems. I'm wondering how this will translate with my son. If he is born with the masculine sense of sentiment and honor? I'm curious on you thoughts regarding a son's love. Honor, loyalty, respect, these are terms that your son will understand if they are cultivated in him. They are largely cultivated by a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 03:56 PM
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It works the same as when my 4 year old (or any of my children) complain and throw a tantrum about something. I can either spend all day with them, OR I can make some $ and take care of things that need to be handled. NOTE: these things that need to be handled are things that my children would never think of in a million years. Registering the cars? My kids don't understand that. Protecting the pipes from freezing? No understanding. Setting aside money for savings? Nope, they don't get it. Getti…
/r/askMRP18/01/16 09:35 PM
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If you are making progress, controlling your emotions, working on your career, serious about your body, and always growing your mind - she WILL notice and she WILL react to it. After all, what is a woman besides a highly evolved alpha-male detector? She is HARD WIRED to respond. Yes, but it all depends on what she thinks your SMV is, not what you think it is. This is where many guys get frustrated and blame RP. They envision themselves as an 8, when their wife views them as a 4. As Athol Kay say…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 09:32 PM
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Boneless chicken tenderloins and a bottle of your choice of marinade. Cook on low for 9 hours. Doesn't get any simpler. EDIT: and who are these peeps making throwaway accounts to ask shitty questions? Make an account and contribute to the community.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:31 PM
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I do nearly the same. If not grilling, then chicken in crockpot. Very easy. From OP: My body hasn't suffered because I still keep it mostly healthy Has suffered but hasn't benefited either.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:29 PM
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Killing it at work and as a parent. Please elaborate on this. Killing it in your terms OR giving your wife feelings? Because you can be doing some awesome stuff but if you aren't generating feelings then it doesn't really matter.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:10 PM
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Another response: "Wow, you are much tighter than my other girlfriends."
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:07 PM
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Context is everything. If this is a daily occurrence then a Game response is more appropriate using kino, A&A, AM, etc. If it is a once-a month thing then a solid "yes" can be appropriate given the situation, your frame, time of her monthly cycle, etc.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:05 PM
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Something doesn't sit right with me about all of this. Spidey-tingles. She travels every weekend skiing? She won't answer her phone? She leaves the house a mess? She says "we can have sex tonight" like she is granting you some favor? You are funding all of this shit show?
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:02 PM
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She is bitching at you and shit testing you because she knows she can. You probably have no other options, she has you backed into a corner. Do you have a 6-pack and have your wife's friends begging you to take your shirt off? If you did, she wouldn't criticize you in this manner.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 03:00 PM
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Congrats. Now keep with it. All problems are not solved (but you have the answer to solving them). There will still be work to do on a DAILY basis. Do not get discouraged, do not regress in your evolution of Manhood.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 02:47 PM
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I didn't have time to go further back than a week. Just kidding. Some people have too much free time AND they think we actually care about our vote count/karma. I couldn't care any less. I'm invested in ME and my marriage. One day I'll die and nobody around here will care because they won't even know.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 03:26 AM
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Visit /r/askmrp and read as many threads as you can IN CONJUNCTION with reading the sidebar material here.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 03:24 AM
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A good line is "if I was unhappy with you, you would know it." Remember, actions, not words. That's what she will respect. Don't become her BFF by sitting around a tub of ice cream and listening to her bitch. When she shares feelings, have a quick and decisive response, such as "of course you do," and then move on to a different subject or simply leave the situation to work on something that is urgent and pressing because as a MAN you have many urgent and pressing matters. BTW, get your elbow ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 07:28 PM
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I'm right there with you guys. Absolute freedom just by experiencing this mind shift. I'm the prize. I can handle whatever is thrown at me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 03:22 AM
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Hit legs, do accessory work. You won't be able to do compound barbell lifts but you can still do something. Don't settle, maximize your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 03:21 AM
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It's not the actual money you spend, but the frame that it connotes. Looking to win, getting lucky, spending something for nothing--those are the ways of women, not the ways of Men.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:19 PM
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Once your SMV is high enough and you are a leader of Men, your beard won't matter one iota. She won't care about it because you are heads and shoulders above any other man she could get. Keep working.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:13 PM
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Maybe it's the season, and there's some cabin fever going around, but women disrespecting their men seems to be the trend this week. She can't respect him in this scenario because they are talking about MAKE BELIEVE MONEY that will never happen. If he earned enough to splurge on the house and pay off their current car (which are both items that HE mentioned), then she would respect him. He dug his own grave on this one. Basically "if I made enough money we would do this...". No woman wants to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:45 PM
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If she's worth looking at, then yes, as a Man I am looking.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:42 PM
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Yes, and I believe they are constantly looking even when they don't now they are looking. It's innate, and always will be. They are looking with their senses, and they can sense weakness of any sort from a mile away. Why are they looking? Their biology is determining whether you are a good choice to conceive with. Being out of commission for 9 months isn't a choice their bodies take lightly. So even when her eyes aren't looking at you, her hamster is always watching and judging.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:41 PM
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This happened for a few minutes, then she asked me to go back to massaging her. My dick was hard and I started touching myself with one hand (which was not in the video). A few more minutes later she snapped at me and said I should be doing what's in the video. That killed my mood. I stopped. Covert contracts all over this. You have to put an end to them. I was not in the mood to receive an unenthusiastic blowjob, so I say "I'll just jerk off in the bathroom." That's all on you, man. If you were…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 04:29 PM
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Every month or so I'll dump a bucket of ice water on her when she is in the shower. It's an easy one, no cleanup necessary, and although she is cold for a moment she is able to get warm once again, no lasting damage but it's an emotional rollercoaster. I also stick my finger in her mouth every time she opens it wide to yawn.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 02:31 PM
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You are now earning your sleep. Also earning his carbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 02:29 PM
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Remember: Confident > Cocky & Dominant > Domineering Commandments of Poon: XI. Be irrationally self-confident No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog’s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don’t make it easy for them. Self-confidence, warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 12:52 PM
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Also, why would you pick this over amused mastery? Different tools to be utilized at different times. What works for one might not work for all of us. Agree & amplify, AM, fogging, etc. all have a place.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 10:22 PM
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My post on absence in a relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 10:21 PM
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I wasn't meaning to give that as an example of fogging.. just a response that is less validating of her analysis of the situation... I should have probably left that part out. Fogging is phenomenal and leaves her nothing to argue with because you are AGREEING with the general premise. You aren't admitting guilt, just acknowledging that she has the right to feel whatever she is feeling and think whatever she is thinking. The entire point of WISNIFG is that YOU are your own JUDGE. Who gives a flyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 10:18 PM
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Nice. My happiness does not depend on their reaction to me, but my lack of reaction to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 10:17 PM
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There was one problem, though. One day we were having sex, she was really into it and I was enjoying myself, but then suddenly about 20 minutes into it she just sort of went limp. Make sure to read SGM if you haven't. Possibly an immersion problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:50 PM
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"Were you looking at that girl?" You: "yep, but she's a little chunky. You can have her."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:37 PM
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Too much talking and not enough fucking around with your wife. Laugh about all of it. Don't get serious and apologize. She wants to be married to a Man. Tease her, poke her, etc. The one great thing that comes from all of this is you are making her feel emotions. Now you have to swing it back the other way and make her feel happy and satisfied. These swings will make your marriage last.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:36 PM
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Yeah, but he was another level. The type that asks for advice and then probably repeats what is written verbatim to his spouse (he thew his wife on the bed and she hit her leg on the bedframe, and he thought it was a shit test!). I imagine these guys have a playbook under a wristband like an NFL quarterback and mid shit-test they are probably looking at a flowchart to determine the appropriate response (AM? A&A? STFU? decisions, decisions). That never works. Like an animatronic loser husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 10:48 PM
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It never was about being an asshole. It never has been about that. Some people are so conditioned that not being a Nice Guy makes them think they are an asshole. It's all relative.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 10:32 PM
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He's a joke. Never saw anything through to the end. He somehow thought that life should be easy, that a Man should not have trials placed before him, that his wife should forgive his years of beta puke weaksauce leadership at the drop of a hat, blah, blah, blah. Good riddance. Gentlemen: if you don't "get it" then you simply don't "get it." Move on with your life and don't blame your problems on Red Pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 10:27 PM
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Now on a purposeful journey; destination unknown. Shit, that's your first paragraph, your TL;DR. Good luck on a purposeful journey to an unknown destination. You'd better get that worked out or you are in for a world of hurt. You talk about weak frame, shit tests, divorce lawyers (2!), you needing her and her not wanting you...figure out what YOU want, throw everything else by the wayside and be a MASCULINE MAN working directly towards that goal. Nothing will get in your way, nothing will sidetr…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 10:25 PM
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If you listen to others, you'll only be as good as they allow you to be (Crab bucket Mentality). Hence the importance of surrounding yourself with other successful masculine males. You won't take their advice blindly, but you will ponder it and see where it is applicable. Rising tide lifts all boats and yada, yada.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:21 PM
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Boom. Often physically accompanied on his journey, but always still truly alone. Nobody knows the burden or trials other than the ringbearer. Being a Man is like that. If our wives knew the amount of sacrifice that goes into maintaining their feminine reality, their heads would explode. Sacrifice, honor, loyalty...these are Masculine ideals.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:19 PM
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You MUST break this cycle. Not only is it leading to limited sex and lots of reasons why you can't have sex, but it is also leading to BORING and ROUTINE sex. That won't keep her interested for very long. She is tired after a long day and you are enticing her with the same sex, in the same place, as last time. Not interesting for her. You can do better.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 05:26 PM
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Another one from my files. Three days ago she went to bed angry at me. Her parting words before I fell asleep were "I don't know what you think you are doing. All this becoming more masculine just isn't nice. I don't like the way you treat me." That next day she was in the shower, called me in, and we had great shower sex. I did nothing different from one day to another. Watch actions, not words.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 05:17 PM
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I don't understand the fascination that some have with reading about blue pill stuff, or the BP sub. I don't care if it is entertaining. I'd much rather spend my time under a heavy barbell or with my dick inside my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 04:54 PM
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Any man who thinks women (RP or not) are on his team does not have a firm understanding of female psyche.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 05:18 AM
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Good post. Many of us, after taking the RP, recognize that it's time to ditch some friends, or at the least create some distance between us and those that are a drain on valuable time and resources. I've found having good masculine friends to be invaluable. Quality over quantity when it comes to friends. It's nice to have somebody who will call me on my bullshit when I need to be set straight rather than a buddy who is always a "yes man."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 05:15 AM
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Last night, as I was pulling off my wife's panties she said "You've changed the past few months, and I don't like it." She didn't stop me from eating her pussy and then banging her. So the question is: Do we listen to what they say or watch what they do? Ignore, ignore, ignore. Women are absolutely ridiculous, but after reading you have the the inside scoop. Now, maybe you are an asshole and need to be put in your place. My wife's ACTIONS tell me that she is okay with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 05:46 PM
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My plan is to date her and attract her. I'm not going to go all Rambo and fuck this thing up. Smart plan, just realize that it already is fucked up. This isn't you starting with a zero balance, you have a negative balance of some sort in her mind.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 10:23 PM
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No. I initiated, she just responded with a long delay. Ha! In that case many the blue pill guys initiated in October and their wives should be responding sometime this year. Seriously?
/r/askMRP07/01/16 10:07 PM
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or into the God Damn vents. Highlight of my day so far. Thanks for this.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 10:06 PM
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So I go for it, and go for her boobs. "Uh, wait, your hands are cold, warm them up" (she's generally very sensitive of cold). I ignore it and she grabs my hands and push them away. Yep, you're retarded. Nobody wants to be fondled with cold hands AND you already knew she was sensitive. What. The. Hell.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 09:57 PM
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Are you having lots of hot passionate sex with your wife? Are you all she thinks about? Would she murder another woman if she thought you were cheating on her? Because IF you were beating her, all of those above things would be TRUE. For the blue pill brigade: I in no way condone physically abusing anybody, and think men who do it are chicken shit. EDIT: just read your other post. Nevermind, you definitely aren't having lots of sex with her. She is probably lying (shocking I know!) to remind you…
/r/askMRP07/01/16 09:49 PM
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My wife has gone out of her way to make sure I get to be with my daughter on the weekends and Wednesday nights. So I'm not worried about a custody battle if divorce is on that table for my wife. Don't fall for that shit. Wife = woman = AWALT. Maybe she will make it easy on you, but treat the gun as if it is loaded, even if the chamber has been empty in the past.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 09:45 PM
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Has nothing to do with marriage, but could be retitled "5 Reasons Why Relationships Don't Work Anymore". The REAL reasons MARRIAGE doesn't work anymore is that it is Marriage 2.0. This article doesn't touch on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 09:41 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 04:57 PM
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So the question - Is it possible to generate a real sense of high value without an active social life outside of the marriage? and if not how do you guys fit it in around everything else? No, it is not possible. For a while you can fake it until you make it, but eventually you have to make it. You have to do hard things (socially). Better to step outside of your comfort zone and face fear and rejection than to never venture out. Be a better steward of your time. Wake up earlier and free yourself…
/r/askMRP07/01/16 03:20 PM
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"The most important thing we can teach our children is to respect their spouse" A huge lie. Respect is earned, not deserved.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 03:06 PM
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Eh..."somewhat understand" is needlessly callous. Then let's ignore my words and look at my actions. Didn't hold it against her, left her alone instead of initiating every night, took care of tasks that needed to be done, generated tingles. That better?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 02:55 PM
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And my point is that there is nothing new under the sun. TRP isn't new, it's a reawakening of masculinity that we need in the era of Marriage 2.0 and third wave feminism. Some are discovering, some are re-discovering, but all of our grandfathers and those older are nodding their heads along with our endeavors.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 01:25 AM
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Excellent point. We had done so many activities together that were an absolute blast over the holidays, in which we flirted, joked, laughed and genuinely had a fun, a typically "romantic" time. She's a fucking female. AWALT. She craves emotion and drama. It's her fuel. They can go from zero to bitch in 2 seconds flat. Do not fall into the trap of catering to her every desire. Her problems are not your problems. To your point about planning: yes, to an extent we plan each day. It isn't a written …
/r/askMRP06/01/16 04:47 PM
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Sucks more for you. It's your life you wasted. You aren't responsible for her decision to stick around. You aren't responsible for her moods. That's an impossible burden to carry. You are a judge of yourself and your actions only. Period.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 04:45 PM
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And? If she doesn't come around why would you want to still be married? Shed that blue pill mindset right now. She isn't yours. You only have for a period of time. That time is determined by the amount of feelings you can generate in her. For some of us that lasts 1 year. For some of us it lasts 70 years until death.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 04:43 PM
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What I appreciate about your post is your use of "I". There's lots of it. I do this and I did that. Good for you. This is all about you. Keep that in mind, when changes with your wife come slower than you expect (or perhaps don't even come at all). It doesn't matter, it's about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 04:13 PM
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We need to find joy in the application of the Red Pill and not just immerse ourselves in the discussion on the Red Pill. Boom. None of you know me. I could die tomorrow and nobody here would know, just water under the bridge. We (addressing this to everybody) cannot let red pill theory take the place of functional real relationships. I think many newbies go down that path.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 04:09 PM
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Shhh, you'll scare away the new blue pill guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 04:07 PM
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Yes, TRP is never wrong (or, doesn't fail people). But when faced with choices, TRP IS the difficult path. It isn't easy. Half-measures of TRP will fail. It's never wrong (or doesn't fail) because it hasn't been wrong for thousands of years. TRP is simply a throw-back to the way we were created, our natural roles as men and women. It's the sweet spot where everything flows. On a grander scale it's the sweet spot where society improves, innovation is made, progress is pursued. TRP is where relati…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 01:57 PM
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How would others in TRP/MRP-land have handled this? Say "I've made a mistake" and then lay out the steps I've taken so this will never happen again. Give her a big hug and say "this is a great learning experience for us." None of this punishing her bullshit.
/r/askMRP05/01/16 04:51 PM
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Just moving in the direction of the hottest guy in the room is usually enough to spark dramatic changes in a withdrawing wife. This works especially well if Chad is only a memory. In this instance she has the memories of him, but isn't certain she could still obtain him. Women are very calculated at doing risk/reward when it comes to SMV. Sure, she could leave you (or risk it all) by having a Chad fling, but why would she if you are moving in that direction already?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 04:46 PM
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Loving the posts. I cannot process all of this information quickly enough. Every paragraph yields 10 minutes of introspection on my part, followed by application and performance. It's taking a lot of time, but is time well spent. EDIT: and as for a comment on the post...GUYS, remember to GIVE her emotion. It doesn't always have to be pleasant. Scare her (pranks!), shock her (do the unexpected), bring about some remorse or sadness (in potent and well-timed doses). FEELINGS are all that matter and…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 02:41 AM
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No upgrades mean her charades continue as she believes she is prime pussy (simply by virtue of being female) and plenty men believe she is prime pussy (because she is all they can get), but that certainly doesn't last forever. Once it's discovered that the emperor has no clothes the party is over.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 02:08 AM
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Don't tie your self worth to whether or not your wife has sex with you. Cut that cord right now. IF you are really improving as you say you are, then there will come a time where she is foolish for saying "no," and that means that you get to laugh at it because it's funny. Really funny.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 10:47 PM
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Yes! This is especially true if a wife realizes she has hit The Wall. Think about how depressed a wife must be (ie, how shitty her leader husband is) to consider divorce at age 35-45 AND have children AND not have a job. Must be really bad to find that grass greener, yet we see it play out time and time again. Gentlemen: FIX YOUR SHIT.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 10:45 PM
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Yeah, both instances are about ultimate power and control. I have a buddy who is going to counseling with his wife (her idea). They go once very 6 weeks (WTF?), and it consists of the counselor telling him that he should express his feelings more to her. Good hell. He's obese (over 300#), has a crummy job, etc. Is the counselor just ignoring all of this? Who knows, but it's certainly the last exit on divorce highway. For most wives it's simply a place to pull over to pee.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 10:43 PM
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Just ordered it, thanks. My last read, The War Against Boys, has infuriated me, so I need something to take me off the edge.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 07:42 PM
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But NAWALT? OK. Every gun is loaded. It's a rule for our safety.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 07:41 PM
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Long story short been reading lifting and learning. after some discussion I tell her I have kissed her a very long time ago. Should I say I feel bad about it? And try to talk it out? Did you post the above? That easily answers the question.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 07:40 PM
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Women ask for counseling not to save marriages but to cure their hamster of any guilt about dissolving a marriage. By the time they ask for counseling they have already checked out. Sometimes they stick around after counseling, but it isn't because of any long-term fixes, just because it is facilitating her reality in the near-term. Here is how it plays out: Female Hamster: Sure, I had starfish sex with him once every 4-6 weeks, and spent most of the day laying on the couch while "taking care" o…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 05:58 PM
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This is just what I've observed. When I told women I was an engineer, they said, "oh, okay," and changed the subject. When I told women I was in medical school, they leaned in closer. It's not important enough to ever affect your career choices, but it's definitely real. Doctor also, and you are absolutely correct.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/16 04:47 PM
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This has got to be a troll account.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 04:42 PM
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Know yourself, know that you are weak in areas, know that you will make excuses and fight against improvement and change. Stop lying to yourself. Know that there is current you and future you, and current you will constantly screw over the future you if you let it. Know yourself. "Failure to observe what is in the mind of another has seldom made a man unhappy; but those who do not observe the movements of their own minds must of necessity be unhappy." -Marcus Aurelius
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 04:32 PM
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Man is disturbed not by things, but by the views he takes of them. -Epictetus
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 04:30 PM
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Never heard of that, but thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 03:02 AM
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I guess. The great thing is you can simply skip it if you desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 12:23 AM
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Doesn't matter. Why do you care? He has good content that is applicable and can be utilized. Good reminders.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 10:36 PM
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Never ceases to amaze me how guys have no clue what MRP is about. It isn't a magic wand. It's isn't a spell you cast. Fix yourself. You can't expect her to not drink. AWALT. No matter what she says she cannot hold that burden of responsibility. As a Man the safety of your family is in your hands. You can't delegate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 10:27 PM
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She is the oldest teenager in the house. Expect such behavior and respond to it as you would any teenager. She doesn't get "real life" in many aspects. Don't hold it against her, just recognize it for what it is.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 01:58 AM
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Being in a fighting unit and having a higher purpose is Alpha all the way Alpha isn't a way, alpha is success and beta is failure. If you play the game of life on your own terms you are alpha. http://illimitablemen.com/2013/12/26/success-is-alpha-failure-is-beta/
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 01:56 AM
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Your behavior should vary so that she cannot pin you down. This will give her tingles. It will keep her on edge. It means you are unpredictable. Just when she thinks she has you figured out...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/16 08:34 PM
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Excellent points. It's really a tough situation because you can only deliver so many tingles via Skype. Most can't deliver any tingles via Skype. Boundaries stated clearly are essential.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/16 08:32 PM
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The follow-up post is even worse. It's unnecessary, and the entire principle is blue-pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 10:50 PM
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Thanks, I added it to my blog list. Read the top post, looks promising.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 12:35 AM
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It is inlikely that 9s and 10s get married as 9s or 10s unless they have a deep understanding of alpha fucks, beta bux, and The Wall. If they are 9s/10s then getting married is the last thing on their minds. They are still milking their sexual strategy for all it is worth. My point: the importance it isn't so much their actual SMV, as much as the gap over your SMV. If you are a 4 and she is a 7, then she might as well be a 9 because she's above you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 12:30 AM
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Of course she fucked him. Women lie to protect their sexual interests. It's their game. She admitted to emotional affair which allows her hamster to say she was honest and she can sleep well at night. An affair is an affair, her hamster will say.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 12:27 AM
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Lean isn't skinny. Lean is jacked with minimal body fat. I love how everybody views their SMV as 8 or 9 around here. I love how guys whose wives are having emotional affairs, and physically affairs, are still viewing their own SMV as an 8 or 9. Time to bring out the sack of bricks and start knocking skulls. You aren't an 8 or 9. SMV isn't simply looks, it's your entire package. It's King Dick, Family Alpha. If you were 2 points away from a 10, your wife wouldn't be eye-fucking another guy in you…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 12:26 AM
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Yep, and if you do further introspection you'll find other things that you've just accepted because they've become habitual and comfortable. Dad bod? Fuck that, it isn't right. Shitty job? Screw it, you don't have to settle. Etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 12:18 AM
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Brilliant article. Thanks. By the way, you'd better write a book because I find your stuff just as excellent as Rollo's. From your article: Myself, along with two or three other guys on the Married Red Pill subreddit believe that all blame and responsibility lays with the husband I don't believe this. I think many (most?) of us believe this to be true. I think it's a sign of truly swallowing the pill, and if we were to take a poll and plot results we would see that time since swallowing the pill…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 02:21 PM
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Because it's much easier to rationalize "my wife just isn't into that" instead of internalizing the truth which is "my wife isn't into ME." Guys will kick and fight against that principle all day long. Half the posts on askmrp would never be posted if the posters would understand that their wives actually want to have hot sex multiple times each day...but not with them because they aren't being Kings and ruling over their kingdoms. A woman's solipsism says she is the most important thing in the …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 02:15 PM
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I had the privilege of a Navy Seal instructor explain to me for over an hour how those recruits in BUD/s who were successful were the ones who broke their goals down into manageable pieces. Many wouldn't enter BUD/s with the desire to be a badass killing machine...but that wouldn't get them through training. In fact, many of those routinely failed after 24 hours or even sooner. But those who committed to just making it to the next meal, were the ones who made it through Hell Week. Some had a goa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 08:24 PM
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The Target changing room thing is awesome. We've done it. Shortly thereafter they changed the policy so that only one person is allowed in the room. I'm not saying it was because of us, but I'd like to think so.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 08:19 PM
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So excellent. This has been one of the more difficult concepts for me to remember on a day-to-day basis. I know it, but I slip and forget it. She doesn't love me because she should. That loyalty that men understand is not comprehended by women. An IM Maxim sums it up nicely: "Women’s love is admiration built upon respect. Women are drawn to men of experience and power. Man’s love is respect built upon desire. Men are drawn to women of innocence and vulnerability. When a woman no longer admires, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 08:12 PM
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Debt isn't great, but there is bad and then worse. Much of my student loan debt is at 2.5%. I make double payments and leave it at that. I'm not in a hurry to pay that down, having the capital for new business ventures is much more important to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 09:00 PM
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You will always be trying to lead from a position of weakness. Second on the list would be having a body fat % over 25 and being a slob. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 08:57 PM
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Ignore her. She has to say this to lessen the slut potential at face value.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 03:01 AM
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AWALT = a baseline level of crazy due to a hamster and solipsism. Anything else (feminism, bi-polar, sexual trauma) is just another layer of shit on top of it. AWALT is the starting point for every women.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 02:59 AM
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Nice job on the 12%, seriously. Well done. That sets you apart immediately in this day and age of fat slobs. No, you can play video games, but when you are removing yourself from a sex situation it is best to remove yourself to do something that needs to be done in a timely fashion or needs to be done to prevent negative consequences. Video games and watching TV don't fall into either of those categories. Working in a project for work that is due in a week would fall into that. Lifting because i…
/r/askMRP22/12/15 08:27 PM
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If she gets the added attention from a new chest...well I don't think she'll cheat Not a given. If the attention from somebody else > the attention from you, then she'll make a move after her hamster performs a cost/benefit analysis.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 08:24 PM
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Sometimes, AWALT is taken too literally. If you don't want crazy (besides the usual AWALT behavior described by TRP), don't fucking marry crazy. It's got nothing to do with marriage. If you don't want crazy then don't interact with women. AWALT is like treating every gun as loaded. Every gun has the capability of destruction.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 08:21 PM
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My goal for tonight was to get her totally into it and make her orgasm. You'll never have success if that is your goal. She'll get into it when she is into you.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 07:47 PM
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For example tonight I set up candles in the room and then had oil ready to go. I had her come in after a shower and begin to rub her down and massage her, then had her massage me, then back to me massaging her front and then begin intercourse. Did you light candles, have oil ready, have her get in the shower, massage her, and have her massage you because you wanted all of that to happen or did you just want sex? Could be boatloads of covert contracts here. You are in NMMNG, so you'll know what t…
/r/askMRP22/12/15 07:47 PM
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100% correct. This guy's story mirrors mine very closely in terms of background.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 07:43 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3vswuf/on_absence_in_the_relationship/
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 07:42 PM
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Not even dating. Don't ever SPEAK to a woman if you don't like being deceived.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 01:49 AM
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Exactly. OP should read my post on absence (physical, emotional, mental).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 01:44 AM
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I would take her to the gym and absolutely fucking destroy her. Make sure she gets a heavy barbell on her back and is forced to hold posture and position under it. Make her move it quickly for sets and reps. Whip the bitch out of her with training. This will also get the hormones flowing. I think that in general your wife is a spoiled brat and is probably throwing an adult tantrum because it's your special day and not hers.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 05:41 AM
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I don't understand how this sub is so red pill but the standards are so low for the women here. What standards are you referring to? I'm already married. Thanks for looking out for us.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 05:37 AM
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Which is why I posed the question.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 05:34 AM
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I'm not married to her so IDGAF. If your wife was a bombshell 10, gave you BJs 3 times a week and hot sex 3 other times a week, loved your dominance and shit tests were few and far between, would a hyphenated name be a deal breaker?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 01:30 AM
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Yes! Agree totally. One of my greatest takeaways from RP is that words are cheap. From my wife, from me, from you, everybody. Actions require sacrifice and effort. Words require nothing. I rarely believe words anymore. *The flip side is that I understand why actions are so important to her. *
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:29 PM
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Ditto, and words mean nothing. I've had my wife send me gobs of naked selfies during the day and tell me we are humping like rabbits that night...and then that evening she shows zero interest. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:23 PM
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Lean gains works well for some, but he would probably cram all of those same calories into his 8 hour window, or "occasionally" increase the feeding window by a couple of hours. I've been there.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:21 PM
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Brilliant. You've put into words what I've thought for a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:12 PM
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The hamster is a crazy beast.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:05 PM
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I truly thought those days were over. I chuckled. I've been there, many times. Keep on trucking. You know it: the only action you can control is your reaction to her batshit craziness.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:05 PM
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This is why poor people get fat. They eat cheap high carb food, and get metabolic syndrome causing the body to store fat at the expense of health. Fat as in overweight or fat as in central obesity? One can be skinny fat and have a normal BMI. If those poor people counted calories they could still eat that cheap high carb food and lose weight. This has been proven scientifically time and time again. The most media known example being the professor who ate nothing but Hostess products and still lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 03:13 AM
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No you can't. It's impossible. Insulin spikes can result in less satiety and poor insulin sensitivity, but you can't gain weight on a deficit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 03:02 AM
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He doesn't. You can eliminate sugar completely and eat over your TDEE and you will gain weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 03:01 AM
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I do not. I lift heavy twice a week, do 10-12 minute conditioning with heavy implements twice a week, and build an aerobic base (40 minutes) once a week. Thanks for your response.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 10:45 PM
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Still doesn't matter. If you are at a caloric deficit you will lose scale weight no matter what you eat. It is SCIENTIFICALLY IMPOSSIBLE for anything else to occur. As I've always said, your body composition may be shit (which doesn't help with MRP) but you'll lose weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 10:41 PM
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I don't want to read more opinions. Just looking for scientific studies, which you didn't provide.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 08:07 PM
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I understand all of those hormones. I went into shit loads of debt to study them and be tested on them. Certain foods make you more satiated, some make you hungrier. Increasing insulin sensitivity is something that everybody should be doing, especially those with central obesity. Still, if you expend more than you consume, you will lose weight. You may not have lean muscle (you'll be skinny fat!) but you will weigh less.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 08:03 PM
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Great link to TRP. Thank you.
/r/askMRP17/12/15 06:45 PM
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To own: getting internally butthurt when she doesn't initiate. Success rate on my initiation is probably 90%, but she initiates once a month. I know, I know, it isn't her job to initiate. That's what I need to own right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 06:42 PM
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Go talk to your damned doctor instead of listening to a bunch of people jerk you around with their special circumstances. A doctor will give it to you straight, they're trained in the body and health. For all you know I could be a dog and iratemd could be 12. Go talk to your doctor about it. Doctor here, and I disagree with you. Doctors (in a broad sense) don't care about your calorie count or your fitness. We don't have the time to discuss it with you. Most doctors aren't current on nutrition l…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:20 PM
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Crossfit is too random, speed focused, prone too injury, promotes bad form, etc. Please list citations for these opinions. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:11 PM
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I'm not talking about skill work. I'm talking about a programmed strength component. I don't crossfit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:09 PM
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Ive cut sugar completely and do not eat at a deficit yet lose a half pound a week. My lifts continue to grow This means nothing. You don't have to eat at a caloric deficit to have a caloric deficit. Lifting burns calories. Eat at maintenance and let the lifting become the caloric deficit. Either way you will lose weight. A calorie is a calorie. As I said in the other thread, for body composition certain calories can be better than others. For standing on the scale, the body doesn't care.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:07 PM
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Sugar is not a macronutrient.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:05 PM
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Not advocating wife beating in any way (duh), but sometimes a good reminder is needed. Her being bored is terrible. Of course, see MMSLP for more.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 04:21 PM
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I prefer targeted weight training exercises. What are you talking about? The best exercises you can do are squat, deadlift, press, bench press. Please elaborate on your targeted exercises. I assume you are referring to single muscle accessory movements?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 04:07 AM
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3) Calories matter, but they are only part of your nutrition. 200 calories of broccoli and 200 calories of potato chips are not the same. One leaves you full with your body swimming in micronutrients while the other goes straight to belly fat and throws your metabolism into chaos. Make the calories you eat count and don’t kid yourself by staying within your calorie limit but eating junk food. Doesn't matter. A calorie is a calorie and you'll LOSE WEIGHT by staying at a deficit. Your body composi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 04:04 AM
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If you did strength training and then pushed a sled for 10 minutes 3 times a week, your progress would crush someone that did WODs every day. So you agree with all the Crossfit gyms that follow a strength linear progression each day and then follow it with 10-12 minutes of conditioning? Because that's the way all good gyms operate. The shitty ones don't, but there are plenty of great ones out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:56 AM
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Lifting still gets better results, faster, in less time, and with less risk of injury. Please cite evidence of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:54 AM
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Truth. I've been repeating this all week. The hamster does a cost analysis and when it finds somebody who gives it the same or greater level of feelings, for the same or cheaper cost (responsibilities), then the woman is gone. Bye-bye. Apathy is what to avoid. That's why inciting her emotions is so important. Pick up artists have known this and used it for a long time. It doesn't even have to be positive emotion, just emotion! Therefore, if you can make her feel sadness or shock or terror, she w…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:51 AM
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Yes. Most responsible teenager in the house and AWALT. She is getting a small glimpse of what a Man has to do to keep her feminine-centric reality afloat, and she can't handle it. This is to be expected, and nowhere near a main event.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:44 AM
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She still is the only women capable of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:40 AM
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Many wives tend to see a husband walking away from an argument as a win for her, whether it really is in the long run or not. No they don't. That's simply what society has conditioned you to believe. They woman may even verbalize that they have won (because they also follow this conditioning), but it isn't true. The hamster spins in your favor. I can promise you that when I walk away from my 4 year old because she is throwing a tantrum, or nagging me, there is no question who won the argument. Y…
/r/askMRP15/12/15 04:41 PM
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Do NOT give her any RP reading material. You wanting to do so is based on the assumption that she will 1) read it and 2) is logical. She may or may not read it, and she isn't logical. She is female. She operates on emotion and communicates covertly. She wants you to be awesome, but she does NOT want to know how you became awesome. She doesn't want to know your struggles or the weight on your shoulders. Partly because she doesn't care, and partly because she wants to believe that she is the one t…
/r/askMRP15/12/15 04:38 PM
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We don't say "I'm Sorry" because we aren't. We are simply learning to be Men and growing in many ways. This involves making mistakes because we are human. Taking chances and risk involves things that go awry. Our human nature means things go awry. Saying "I'm sorry" is typical female BS. It fixes nothing. What a Man does is recognize the problem and then take steps to fix it so it doesn't happen again. In doing so he assures his wife that actions have been taken that will prevent further issues.…
/r/askMRP15/12/15 02:10 AM
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Ha. Sorry, but her NOT having sex with me isn't a gift.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 02:05 AM
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This holiday season, as an experiment, see how disproportionate your gift to your LTR, GF, or SO is compared to what you get back. You'll be so pissed off that you'll laugh at how meager, thoughtless, and unimaginative her gift is compared to yours. We are more giving and romantic, without question. That's the shit that gets guys riled up. Especially those new to RP. They think they are okay, then something like this happens and they have a vivid reminder that their woman doesn't really care muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 04:57 PM
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Noted. Therefore, "your mother is the only woman who CAN love you for being yourself." Not that she will, but she is the only woman capable of doing so.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 04:56 PM
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I assume that this is because I've made this seem to her like that's the only safe option for her and her kids and I feel like I need to give her more comfort and security. But I know that reverting to beta compliance behaviors is worse. MAP doesn't exist to fix a relationship. It exists to fix you and hopefully that is enough to assist in fixing the relationship. But it isn't always, and the endgame is that you become a better Man. She would likely feel safe leaving you because you've been off …
/r/askMRP14/12/15 03:12 PM
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This is a topic that would do the community well to discuss. This is a real issue that is another brick in a shitty relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 03:05 PM
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Nope. That situation doesn't exist and it STILL wouldn't work. An asexual relationship by definition means there is no Disney princess involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 03:01 PM
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Your mother is the only woman who will love you for being yourself, for just being you. To your mother you can nearly do no wrong. To a LTR you can rarely do things right enough. No other woman will love you in the way you expect to be loved. They can't. It is impossible. They aren't romantic. They do not understand loyalty. The concept of relationship investment (ie, the Man did something amazing for her last week so this week she should remember and by loyal) is not in their playbook. These an…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 03:00 PM
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Don't women find it to be a sign on weakness, that you won't guard her sexual resource out of indifference? No, you have it backwards. Abundance mentality shows that you are a high value target. Of course, this works best if you actually are a high value target.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 02:52 PM
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Sage advice. Nobody wants to hear it, but she doesn't love him. She loves the feelings he gives her. When somebody else can provide the same or greater feelings, at a lower cost basis, then she moves on. This specific situation for OP is even more complicated, because they have had a LTR since she was 17, so she never had her opportunity to experience AF, and went straight to her BB. Could spell disaster.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 02:50 PM
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This year I’m going with “Merry Christmas Princess. I love you more than you will ever know.” What am I missing here? This is a shitty card. It's a joke, right? Above all, give her a card because you want to give her a card, not because you think it's a societal norm or the right thing to do. TTB gives great advice on giving a card because he wants to: it's all part of his master plan. It's another Game part of his game.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 02:44 PM
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Agree with this. We've said that MRP is excellent for long term relationships. Nobody ever promised it would be with your current partner.
/r/askMRP13/12/15 09:53 PM
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You may not be able to handle it. The relationship may never work how you or she want it to. That's simply a fact that needs to be on the table.
/r/askMRP13/12/15 09:51 PM
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Why are you still here? This is a safe space for males. You calling a man out means nothing to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 09:23 PM
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Do what you want to do. Just know the score and the playbook. RP is about making informed decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 09:14 PM
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She looked at me with this look like “I can’t believe you just asked me that” and proceeded to tell me “I don’t think you deserve a blowjob because of your attitude.” So I shrugged and told her “Ok, that’s fine” and stepped back into the bathroom to finish getting ready. She said “What do you mean?“ to which I replied “Well, I just thought you’d prefer to keep all this sexual energy here instead of me taking it with me to the Christmas party. But it’s ok.” A woman's solipsism never ceases to ama…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 02:49 PM
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I had the same thought regarding Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 04:30 AM
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Not OP, but she doesn't care one bit about your feelings no matter what she says. You have to talk to another bro about them, but never with her. It weakens you in her eyes. That's one part you don't ever share with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 01:00 AM
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It's a fairly ridiculous thing to write since I was home 10 minutes earlier and would soon be home again... Nah, AWALT. They like to engage emotion by presenting heavy topics when you can't possibly give a response that would do it justice. AM or STFU is the best response to these. EDIT: you know all this already.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 12:55 AM
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Amused mastery, amused mastery, amused mastery. Women OPERATE on emotion. When will we learn that cutting off the source of fuel causes the flame to burn lower? Stop engaging in logical conversation (and DEERing!) when ambushed. Amused mastery.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 02:11 PM
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Ha! He should just hyperlink everything to a page where we can buy the e-book.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 10:33 PM
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Agree with you. I make mistakes all of the time. I don't ever apologize. What am I apologizing for? For being human? For trying something new? For perfecting myself? Screw that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 10:22 PM
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IF you let her = if you let yourself go and don't keep improving. She doesn't love you. You are just able to provide the feelings that she needs for the cost she agrees with. If somebody else comes along that is cheaper (more Alpha) and provides the same feelings, she will weigh the cost/value and make a jump. Women don't love us. EDIT: And we aren't victims. We just know the playbook and take it at face value.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 10:09 PM
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She honors that b/c I nipped it in the bud quick when it first reared its ugly head It goes deeper than that. Take a random guy and have hiim "nip it in the bud" and his wife may not care. She may continue to do it even if he is placed in the exact same scenario and uses the same verbiage you did. Why? Because it's about value. A high value Man, a King Dick, a Family Alpha will have a wife that responds because he has value. A fat loser who is out of a job won't get the same response.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 10:07 PM
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I have stayed in shape, I am a triathlete and I have recently started to lift. You think your SMV is much higher than hers, but what really matters is what SHE thinks your SMV is. A triathlete body won't get many women wet any more than a chubby body will. It's better than obese, but may not hit those masculine eye triggers that a woman desires. This really comes down to tingles.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 06:16 PM
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I like the blue font and think /u/bluepillprofessor should utilize it to further his world takeover plans.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 06:13 PM
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This. That's the shift.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 06:09 PM
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I never deload either. I sometimes have a reload week, but not deload. I hit different stimulus with different rest periods, but there is never a week where I intentionally don't squat, deadlift, press, and bench press. To that end, I've found that volume crushes me, but not intensity. I can find a 1RM in any lift on back-to-back days and be fine. Ask me to squat 3x5 @ 80% of my 1RM and I'll be sore for several days. Sometimes life plans a period where I can't do those lifts (sick, on vacation w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 06:00 PM
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We all need to be smart enough to take the shit we are reading and USE IT in our own relationships. /u/theultmatecad is spinning plates while married. That isn't what I need to be doing right now. I'm not going to take anything I read, here or in the sidebar, implement it, and then blame the author for the outcome. That's the ultimate beta bitch. So yeah, we all must adjust our alpha/beta traits depending on the desired outcomes. We say that in general we need to work on our alpha traits because…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 05:19 PM
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This seems like a perfect time for no fucks and AM. I don't think that works well here. She spent the day READING multiple conversations he was having with other women. Amused mastery here shows her that he cares nothing about the marriage. That may be a play months ago, but probably not if she is actively working on improving things (ie panties in the suitcase).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 05:12 PM
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These chicks, even when they are among an all female group, will cater their message so as to fill their role and not make waves. Shit, every one of my wife's friends (all married) of course, know it is all a lie. They have a ferocious sex drive (maybe just not with their husbands). It's a strange thing where if they admit they like sex they'll be shunned as being dirty whores? In my neck of the woods this is due in large part religious upbringing.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 04:54 PM
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Ha. When I read the title I was thinking she was also on Tinder and was wondering if she swiped left or right on you. It's been a huge ego booster and a lot of fun, even though I've felt all along that it was wrong. Have you felt all along that it is wrong or felt that if your wife caught you it would be wrong? You need to have a stern talk with yourself. Delve back into NMMNG. Remind yourself that you have value. Delve back into WISNIFG. Remind yourself that only you are your judge (but that th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 04:42 PM
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Inside I am afraid I could not attract anyone else but my wife (who is disgusted by me). I am afraid of unknown after potential separation. That's why the #1 rule is LIFT. And all subsequent rules are DO YOU. Maybe this doesn't fix your marriage. Fine, at least you'll be a shredded dude who understands the female psyche when it cokes time to go hunting. I have o onetis with my wife. Nip this. You say she is disgusted by you. Become a high value man. Recognize that you have worth.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 09:06 PM
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Of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 08:57 PM
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My wife does that "mentally somewhere else" thing at times as well. I've always thought it is a last-step slut defense as in "this feels so good but if I let him know he will think I'm a slut so I'd better verbalize some non-sequitur shit."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 02:45 PM
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Summary: To give a woman tingles, be a Man (do Manly things). It sounds cursory and almost absurd but it is a simple truth. All the more relevant in this day-and-age of (as TTB says) "weak sauce beta fuck."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 02:11 PM
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No different than a dumbbell. You can get different kinds of hypertrophy depending on light weight/high reps or high weight/low reps. They make kettle bells that are 200#+. I use them for conditioning pieces. My heaviest is 70#. It certainly is a good workout and requires muscular endurance.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 04:40 AM
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One advantage is something you mentioned: swinging. With a DB you are holding the center of mass. With a KB the center of mass is below your hand, which requires stabilization for every movement. Everything Is more difficult: snatches, cleans, presses, curls, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:18 PM
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TGU are legit and can quickly become a metabolic disaster. Love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:16 PM
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Amen. One of my training coaches squats 630# for a triple. He hits 10s at 315# to get warmed up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:15 PM
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Mine is in a Tupperware. I have so many bricks, it lasts forever. $8 lasts 3+ years.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:10 PM
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The simplest advice is to make sure your clothing fits. Your jeans should not be 3 sizes too large. Your shirts should not be baggy. If you've been lifting (duh) your shirts should display that nice V taper you have going on. We can debate styles, but classic is classic. It doesn't have to be outlandish. Your dress should also fit the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:08 PM
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Women (everybody really) LOVE to talk about themselves. It's way too easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:06 PM
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and you'll develop some natural aloofness and IDGAF because you have nothing invested in any of the conversations leading to anything. This is key. It opens doors that your protected ego would never before allow you to access.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 09:05 PM
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I think size does matter, but also believe that banging a cervix doesn't feel great.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 07:54 PM
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But knowing what we know we shouldn't expect anything different, right? Once the actions from behind the bedroom door become public knowledge (in this case, pregnancy, which means she is having sex WITH A GUY SHE JUST MET) the defense systems have to go up to prevent the slut shaming. Her hamster knows that ruins her chance for any future beta provisioning when she approaches the wall.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 05:11 PM
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What blows my mind really is that he is 5'7" and nowhere near being jacked. Can we chalk his success up to preselection? The rolling stone has just kept rolling?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:56 PM
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Excellent posts over there by both of you guys. For me, when working with my daughters, I am constantly reminding myself that the tougher I am the more feminine I will allow them to become. I don't mean tougher as in abusive or demeaning, but OAK. We know the link between sluts and a lack of fathers in their lives, but a present father who is effeminate will also wreak havoc by forcing his daughters to be more masculine, which in turn will wreak havoc on their future relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:42 PM
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I no longer use active dread all that much. My presence and natural personality keep the consistent passive dread running through my wife's mind. That's the pinnacle (at least for me in terms of dread with the wife). I'm not there yet. But I will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:30 PM
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It sucks, in the best way possible. Your hands will be deformed like animal claws when you are done. Another favorite of mine is simply 150 swings for time, with 70#. Nice little conditioning piece.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:24 PM
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KBs are awesome. A favorite conditioning (and grip strength) workout of mine is done with a 70# (2 pood for you legit ballers) KB. 30 swings in a minute, then rest for 1 minute. Do this 5 times. If in any of the 5 rounds you don't reach 30 swings, you get a penalty. One penalty is 20 burpees at the end of the 10 minutes. A buddy I did it with had 3 penalties when all was said and done. 60 burpees hurt after those swings.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:44 PM
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The premise of all we have been taught (and should be learning) is to be awesome. Live life, enjoy it. Don't overthink it all, don't run down a red pill checklist, don't quickly flip to a chapter in Rational Male or MMSLP. It's all a continuum, but the goal is to reach a state where none of that matters because zero fucks given.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:42 PM
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Even better than seeing you deflect shit tests is seeing you deflect the desire to drop back into a blue pill frame. You mention is several times in the report. You can screw up a shit test and recover. If you go back to blue pill you've got a big hole to dig yourself out of.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:38 PM
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She is a piece of meat you're going to have fun with. That's what she's there for. Yes, and any time she denies you access your response should be that's it absurd and laughable. No big deal, just downright funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:36 PM
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It's never too late to avoid crazy. All those tells still apply in marriage. An even bigger red flag would be if your LTR begins demonstrating multiple traits listed in the post. A sudden change of behavior means DANGER. Now you've been warned.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:21 AM
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It's because she loves you for who you are and not for your power. But really, another great post with lots of insight.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 09:58 PM
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If you hold firm on #2, you will break the status quo and keep the ball in your court. You will establish that you will not be manipulated by sex in order to provide the emotional support she desires. Outcome independence. Sex is the card she holds and she will weaponize the hell outta that thing. OI removes the ammo and she is left with nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 05:37 PM
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Yes. Shit, I love the Illimitable Men maxims. They say it all so well. She doesn't need to know all about you and she will hate you if you tell her. Maxim #63: “Always protect the core of your essence, should you choose to let her in, never let her in completely. See yourself as a castle, let her into the castle, but do not give her the key to the heaviest door. She will notice the door is closed. She will ask you what’s behind the door and if “you can let her in?” Ignore her protests and manipu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 04:38 PM
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Quality > Quantity I like the point /u/IanIronwood brings up in one of his posts where he discusses that people don't 'miss' each other enough. Yes! And women really dislike a man who hangs around them and has nothing better to do than dote on them. Obviously, this is what most men have been conditioned to do and it works against them as a sexual strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 04:23 PM
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Great comment. Like Athol Kay says, this stuff works and can get you laid...but it may not be with your wife. For some that is the eventual outcome; the wife simply won't get on board. Maybe there have been too many years of drunk captain, but whatever the reason the marriages gets nuked.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 03:33 PM
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Also, get the "Clue" I-phone app. Women want us to think they are random. Pro tip: Women are not random- they are cyclical. Your wife probably loses it the same time every month. Let me guess this is the week before Shark week or the 1/2 week around ovulation. That was my first thought when I read this. Sounds like a normal woman following her normal cycle. My wife acts the exact same.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 03:31 PM
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My wife has started saying things like "you keep getting better and better-looking. I hope you don't leave me for some cute Japanese girl." I'm curious what your response is to this. Your response could tell you a lot about your frame. I said, "Do you hear how you're talking to me? What makes you think that's ok?" That's not part of the game plan. Play the card you have, withdraw affection and attention while she throws a tantrum. I've quit apologizing lately unless I really did screw up—I told …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 03:17 PM
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For many new guys this is the real rub: the dead bedroom is almost always their fault. That's a tough pill to swallow. But wait, there's more! They begin lifting and seeing some physical progress. They begin reading and gain a bit of better understanding into the female psyche and also why Nice Guys are doomed...and still nothing from the wife. Now THAT is a tough pill to swallow. What they forget is that it doesn't happen overnight. Just because they've lost 20# and now know what a shit test is…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 03:11 PM
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This post is awesome. Great point: they are shocked when they play the sex card, the ONLY card they have, and we don't respond. That means they are up shit creek without a paddle because if the sex card is played and we go do something else then they are plum out of options.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/15 05:25 AM
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A woman's hamster is so stupid. Seriously, they deny any logic and are fueled only by emotion. Her complaint is that when she says "no" to sex, you go do something else? WTF? Just think about it. What else would you do? Sit motionless? Of course you do something else. Life goes on (and for a Man it must because we continue to sacrifice our time and talents to provide for their feminine reality). AWALT but it never ceases to amaze.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/15 05:22 AM
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True words regarding the trend, but many new guys don't understand that it is their job to initiate. They view it as a burden. For that reason they don't initiate, and then they wonder why their sex trend line is going down. This causes them to withdraw even more and a terrible cycle is conceived. I also use a morning reset, in conjunction with other natural resets.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 05:11 AM
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Women have no understanding of logic. They operate on emotion. Law #9: Win through your Actions, Never through Argument "Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/15 01:24 AM
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What you say is true, but there are some key ingredients here in MRP that would valuable for a guy spinning plates to master. Really, if you can play the game on advanced hard mode, then regular mode doesn't require much thought process.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/15 11:41 PM
2

Funny, my son and I do guy stuff, the usual...and then my wife will nag that I'm being too harsh with him or too rough. It's then that I have to put my wife on time-out because its non of her business (or area of expertise) as to how I raise my son to be masculine.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/15 11:39 PM
1

IM Maxim #2: “A woman never wants you to need her, only to want her. The moment your want becomes need – she no longer wants you.” Fix yourself, ignore her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/15 11:23 PM
1

Saving this comment for posterity. Too good.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 06:57 PM
1

No sexy time for me last night. As soon as we got home I got the preemptive "I'm tired, I'm bloated, the dog ate my homework, blah blah blah" For most of the guys that are new to MRP, or the guys who still don't hold a consistent frame on a daily basis, sexting will have this same outcome. Really all you are doing in these cases is giving your wife many hours to come up with reasons to not have sex with you. She literally has all day to develop those reasons. Don't do this. Spare yourself. Remem…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 02:13 PM
3

She can finger Facebook or I can finger her. It's one or the other. She chooses.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:08 PM
1

Damn, I'm trying to read some of the top stuff over there...I'm slowly getting through it, but this post was a gem. Thanks for sharing it. I needed it. My "save" list is getting longer.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 06:30 PM
2

Excellent thoughts. A wise guru here once told me (ok, ok, it was like 3 weeks ago) that sometimes a comment is just a comment, a kiss is just a kiss, a burned dinner is just a burned dinner, etc., etc. Don't over analyze it. One occurrence doesn't make a trend. Sometimes things happen regardless of your frame or lack thereof.
/r/askMRP01/12/15 10:54 PM
1

Amy Schumer is an obese pig of a woman. She undoubtedly has mastered the art of nagging. That is all. Edit: that is not all. This is simply another display of our fem-centric world continuing to push the boundaries. We can no longer have bikini babes in a calendar, it is our duty to allow anybody to pose naked and we must think highly of it. What does it mean that this new tire calendar is full of rubbish and Playboy no longer publishes nude photos?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 10:46 PM
3

I like the use of "lift". We all need to lift (heavy weights), but we also need to lift in every aspect of our lives. The burden for a Man can be heavy but we can handle it. Nice job.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 10:44 PM
1

Yes, and interesting to consider three concepts: First, if you become more masculine, she will become more feminine. Secondly, men that are raised without fathers are more feminine, and women that are raised without fathers become more masculine. Thirdly, IM Maxim #1: “The tougher the men around her, the softer she is. The softer the men around her, the tougher she is. The toughest woman is the fatherless woman, for the fatherless woman seeks a surrogate by whoring herself.” This excellent IM po…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 12:35 AM
1

Congrats! What have you read in the past week? It's a long road, but a very fulfilling one.
/r/askMRP01/12/15 12:31 AM
3

Great post. This resonates with me. When I first discovered MRP and recognized all the ways I needed to improve, it felt overwhelming. Partly because there was a lot to do, and partly because I wasn't convinced that doing any of it, or even doing all of it, would help. But after a while the burden becomes a bit lighter. Things become clearer. Goals seem reachable. Attitudes and relationships change. Progress is made. This is past the anger stage and the grief; it's a stage of where the principle…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 09:54 PM
1

LOL. Okay. Interestingly, OP says he isn't wired to want plates and wants to maintain a LTR and you call him a lying faggot. Maybe OP is one of your beloved special statistics?
/r/askMRP30/11/15 07:44 PM
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A lot of it is presented by TRP evangelists as black and white. AWALT etc and supporters and detractors take it all a bit too literally. The other side of the coin is that much of it IS black and white. AWALT isn't a myth. Anybody who claims it is doesn't really understand it. The fundamental principles presented in red pill are the same principles applied here, with additional insights necessary because we are looking to continue marriages, rather than spin plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 06:22 PM
1

With the side business the last month really picking up cant get to the gym very often. But it is a work out in itself. Ill pick the gym back up in a couple weeks when on 6 weeks of holidays. That's fine. Drop the light/high rep days if you must and keep with the heavy intensity days (80%+ of your 1RM). You probably won't see any drop in aesthetics or performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 06:16 PM
3

You aren't special or different. Sorry. Friends has nothing to do with it.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 06:14 PM
3

Likely, its that ocassional blue pill is only for those who are full bore red pill and can afford this type of "slip." Red pill isn't just a way of action, it's a way of understanding. Red pill marriages are comprised of alpha AND beta actions, each in measure to elicit the desired outcome in our lives. My comment was directed at the fact that when you look at your wife now you are likely depressed and perhaps wish you could go back to your blue pill existence. At least that way you wouldn't kno…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 04:43 PM
3

You are still coming to understand what RP is. For a while many become saddened by the fact that this is the world we live in, or this is the "game" we need to play. Some wish they could give up their new knowledge and go back to the way things were (CYPHER!). You can't, it doesn't work. So your problem is not that you have taken too much pill, but that you haven't let it work and fully adhered to the principles. Living with one foot in a blue pill and red pill world makes for a miserable existe…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 04:12 PM
0

Now that's not a true statement.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 04:10 PM
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She says she's confused and feels numb. She says she has no interest in dating anyone else, just wants time to get her feelings back for me. You've read a lot. You'll recall that the above statement, especially her asking for space, is simply her hamster rationalizing a way for her to be with other men. This allows her to feel as though you stepped out of the relationship. It gives her coverage so she doesn't feel slutty. The odds are well in the favor of her already having multiple cocks other …
/r/askMRP30/11/15 04:09 PM
2

You don't get it. You probably are wishy-washy with your wife and cater to her every whim as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/15 10:07 PM
1

Yes!
/r/askMRP29/11/15 12:52 AM
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Her: ok, but we totally arent having sex! Ha! That means she is 100% having sex, but we all knew that. They have to verbalize that statement so their hamster will have evidence to tell them they aren't sluts. After sex she can think "I told him I wouldn't," and that means she isn't a slut.
/r/askMRP28/11/15 09:50 PM
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I hate blue pill. I hate bloopers because I was one and I nearly ruined my marriage and life. As Morpheus says, most of those guys aren't ready to unplug. Honestly, I feel most of the pain for their wives and children.
/r/askMRP28/11/15 03:39 AM
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how do I prevent her from riling up and not ignore her at the same time. You apply verbal absence. You are not ignoring her, you are simply not fueling the fire. You are still physically present (indeed, one of the best ways to get her to be calm and stop talking is the 10-second kiss from MMSLP), but refuse to become verbally engaged. When my 4 year old comes to me and tells me something about the My Little Ponies that she wants for Christmas, I say "that's nice" or "that would be fun" and then…
/r/askMRP27/11/15 11:23 PM
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You can't seek an alpha outcome to a problem by approaching it with a blue pill mindset. What makes you think that you and your wife should be doing the same activities together? That's not written anywhere. Do what you want to do. In some cases she will join you, not because she has any affinity for what you are doing, but because she wants to spend additional time in your frame. You are so awesome and fun and dominant that she craves it. Even with a Family Alpha frame, there will be times that…
/r/askMRP27/11/15 11:20 PM
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All day long. There is a pussy patrol around here recently that downvotes what they don't like even though it is clearly sound advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 03:47 AM
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But one way of acting IS effective on every women. This isn't made up shit. It works because it answers a biological call that needs to be met.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 01:07 AM
2

The standards. Illimitable Men, The Rationale Male, Dalrock, Chateau Heartiste.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 01:04 AM
2

Thanks! I've added it to my blog list. Can't wait to learn more from you and do some further introspection of my leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 07:18 PM
2

Don't be a clone and try to apply every single thing you're learning. [...]If you learn something and it seems like it won't work for you and your marriage, then don't do it. I'm really curious what things we shouldn't be applying and what things you've found don't work for your marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 07:16 PM
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Fully agree. ESPECIALLY when we consider the blue pill shitfest marriages that most new guys are in the middle of. These guys aren't in the kiddy pool, they are in the 9 foot deep end and flailing their arms around in the middle of the drowning process. They need to follow the sidebar and do the reading in order. They need to lift. Reading top posts here is great and quite fun...but if they can't fix themselves by ditching the Nice Guy, and being assertive, and putting themselves first...then th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 07:14 PM
1

MRP is not the same as MMSLP. MMSLP has excellent ideas, especially for those bloopers who are finally attempting to take back leadership of their ships...but it is a stepping stone. After it had been put to work, some of what is in MMSLP is simply too blue pill (purple?) to reap the benefits at the same rate. Further RP principles must be implemented. I believe this is why MRP has a higher success rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 07:07 PM
5

Wives love this. It keeps the dopamine flowing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 07:03 PM
1

When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Excellent book. Amazon has it for $5.00. It's required married red pill reading.
/r/askMRP26/11/15 07:02 PM
1

Time to read The Rational Male...after you've read NMMNG, WISNIFG and MMSLP. Then read Rational Male and gain a deep understanding of hypergamy and why your wife can NOT love you the way you love her. It's not depressing, it's life. Embrace it and use the knowledge.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 11:00 PM
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Athol. Peace be upon him. His words have saved many marriages. Look, either implement it or don't. The author's looks have nothing to do with your relationship with your wife. Read ALL of the sidebar, and then make it work for you.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 10:58 PM
1

Good report. Sex God Method for the win. Cover all your DEVI bases.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 10:54 PM
1

You are doing a great job. I enjoyed reading this. All of our lives are very different yet very much the same. Live it up and create happiness. Those around you will find value in you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 10:51 PM
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How I embrace it: Be awesome and always work to be better. Jesus never said: "be a crappy husband and father." It's that easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 10:43 PM
1

I'm pretty damn confident this does not describe me. Nor me. Remember, we are the more romantic of the sexes. Things like courage, truth, honor...they all have meaning to me. Vagina is way down the list.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:55 PM
1

I still think NMMNG is the first book that should be read. I finished it today for the 4th time, and I've recognized/learned something new each time. You must have a foundation to build upon.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:53 PM
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Wow. Something to aspire to. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 08:20 PM
1

She must "Seek" you out. Shit, I quoted Law #9 above so I might as well keep going, eh? Law #8: Make other people come to you--use bait if necessary. Summary: When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponents come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains--then attack. You hold the cards.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 08:18 PM
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It is. Can you share some backstory on this? Did you request that she do this and it stuck? Did you have to train her brain to do this? Was this of her own accord? Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 06:38 PM
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Even if you can prove your point with logic and reason, if you're body language tells her you're a weak bitch... Well said. In reality what you say to her doesn't even matter. She isn't listening anyway. You can't change her opinion (because opinions are deep beliefs and she probably hasn't ever examined why she believes it anyway). Law #9: Win through your actions, never through argument. Summary: "Any momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 06:37 PM
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Yes, as Rollo says, you can refuse to play the game but you can't remove yourself from the court. It will continue to be played around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 05:58 PM
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Illimitable Men Maxim #38: “Marriage is the only legal contract in existence that permits a person to violate contractual terms and then subsequently penalise the party who upheld said terms.”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 05:49 PM
3

I laughed it off but she remained grumpy. No worries. The opposite of love is apathy, not grumpiness or hate. All those middle-school girls feigned grumpiness when we teased them back in the day as well. We know what the real story is.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 02:23 PM
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She's shocked that I am not sticking around to force her to fuck me. I don't understand why you didn't have sex. You didn't even have to force her, she was showing interest. Too prideful? She's testing you to see if you are high value enough for her to spread her legs. That's how it will always be, for her one card she can play is sex, and her hamster wants to formulate some resemblance of control over it. Sometimes we can overthink this stuff to the point where it has no meaning. She specifical…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 02:19 PM
1

Whatever makes them feel good.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 04:12 AM
1

We are all like that. We are human. Women have optimized it though.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/15 04:08 AM
2

I don't know if this is funny or sad. Maybe a bit of both?
/r/askMRP24/11/15 04:07 AM
1

Yes. Illimitable Men maxim #56: “Money is more important than women. Chase money, not women. You are more likely to get women chasing money than you are to get money chasing women. Without money or godlike genetics, you’re playing on hard mode. Money makes everything better, the quality of woman you can get is the epitome of such, not the exception.”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 04:06 AM
1

WTH is up with everybody and their tendonitis? Nobody should be getting tendonitis from lifting heavy weights. Check your form.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:12 PM
2

No question. Her suggestion of location C was retarded and I really wanted to tell her she was a retard. Treat every encounter like you would a 4 year old child. You wouldn't tell a 4 year old they are retarded, but you certainly would make sure they know you are amused with their shenanigans.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:10 PM
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I conferred with my own family physician who is both a trustworthy friend and redpill as all get out. His being redpill has nothing to do with YOUR relationship and YOUR wife. To say she's in a foul fucking mood would be the understatement of the year... welcome to my main event. This isn't the main event the way you think it is. This has nothing to do with your needs or expectations or making yourself better. This is all about you being an asshole.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 08:18 PM
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(Knowing that all women are kids, I never expect more from her, so I treat her like I would a kid That simply isn't true. Every woman has the capability to behave like a child (dependent on numerous opportunistic factors) but they don't always behave in such a manner. In short, they will do so if you encourage it or if it is in their best interest. To a large extent society has dictated that women have the upper hand when behaving like children. I would love for my wife to have that feeling, tha…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 05:37 PM
2

No doubt. My husband is a leader, provides an excellent income, has 12% body fat, dresses well, is confident, other women love being around him, has many male friends, engages in masculine hobbies that he is passionate about, loves having sex with me. Yeah, RP done properly sounds terrible.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 05:32 PM
1

NMMNG is a must. It is mandatory.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 05:28 PM
2

We prefer when men dont like the current topics that are posted to create their own fucking content. LOL, so other butthurt guys can post shit like "good topic, you need to flesh it out some more". This guy, and those guys, are both at opposite ends of the spectrum. But it's the same spectrum, they don't really contribute.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:26 PM
1

I would never do it for the simple fact that I don't know what my future holds and I am open to having more children. That's me. I can't make a decision for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:24 PM
3

The entire divorce industry is set up for two purposes: Rape and pillage men for everything they have, no matter what the actual facts are. Drag things out as long as possible in order to pad the wallets of the attorneys involved. You'll often see a judge mandate "arbitration," which is a fancy way of him giving the attorneys more billable hours while he likely receives a financial kickback himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:23 PM
1

A plate will always have ambition for more than this. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 12:26 PM
1

Money is essential for a LTR. It's fundamental for MRP, but not for spinning a plate.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 02:38 AM
4

True, but a paycheck does fall under the category of "handling your shit."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 10:58 PM
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Once a woman is accustomed to a certain lifestyle, continuing to provide that same lifestyle doesn't earn a man any bonus points, it's simply something that is expected. Money can be an initial draw, but it won't provide perpetual tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 09:18 PM
1

Many people misunderstand the red pill as a force of destruction, but this was such a wonderful red pill moment - symbolic of the general increase in happiness my wife and I have both enjoyed since I swallowed the pill. We sometimes have to destroy things, occasionally down to the very foundation, in order to rebuild them properly and stronger.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 08:42 PM
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There is truth in this, however the degree to which this flies depends on where a woman is in her life cycle (see The Rational Male: Preventive Medicine book). If they are in the alpha fucks stage, then absolutely. Hypergamy dictates good genes and plenty of dopamine no matter the abuses they are subjected to (within reason, however that hypergamy will drive them to accept assaults that outsiders simply cannot understand). If they are past all of that (ages 35+) then it becomes a bit more comple…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 03:59 PM
1

Good response. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 03:53 PM
5

Does she know what your book is about (essentially a marriage self-help book for men)? If the answer to the above is "yes," then do you think that she views you as a complete idiot right now (because with smooth words like those how good could your book be)?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 04:26 AM
2

Sounds like ONEitis. She is so special. She is so different. She knows all of the moves. She knows the lingo. She can't be swayed by our silly MRP philosophies and strategies.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 03:12 PM
2

Yeah I mean I've skimmed through everything initially, then tried to determine which to read first. It's listed in order of what you should read. You didn't follow the rules. Not surprising that things aren't going the way you planned.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 03:10 PM
1

Just her vagina. It's very special.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 03:09 PM
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Once all was done and we got kids in bed, I confronted her on the general overreaction, with a focus on her disrespect by hanging up on me. All could have been prevented by not taking this step. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't confront, don't engage. By the way, not being a good captain has nothing to do with you misplacing keys or eating carbs for the first time in 2 years. Those are both non-events that normal people wouldn't give a fuck about. You are human. There is something else going on her…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 03:06 PM
1

Good job. I've dropped RP on two dudes in my social circle, without calling it RP. Both were, unsolicited, complaining about their sex lives. Same. One guy has read NMMNG and WISNIFG. He told me last night that he is on chapter 9 in MMSLP. After that we will have a conversation about some of the terms Kay mentions in passing in MMSLP but never expounds upon (red pill, manosphere, hypergamy) and then I'm pointing him to Rollo's books.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 03:04 PM
2

Absolutely they do. Children, wives, coworkers, whoever...it's all the same. People push boundaries because they want you to push back and define the terms. It leads to safety because they know exactly where the lines are drawn. Everybody enjoys the feeling of safety.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 03:02 PM
1

But here's the deal, she's starting to shit test me again. Little ones. Good. She cares enough to see if your frame is one she should invest in. No woman wants to have sex with a loser.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:25 PM
1

Its nothing but bad luck to get a fucking brain disease at 26. Yes I am angry as fuck about it. Talk about it here if you need. Own it then disown it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:18 PM
1

What do you fine gentlemen see as a viable solution? Build an aerobic base by doing an activity that you don't normally do. This is good because it consumes calories (which is really just a bonus), but it gets endorphins flowing (you'll feel great when you are done) and gets you out of the house with a purpose. It can be riding a bike, swimming, jogging, etc. Do it once a week (no more than that, we want to keep you interested in it, and it should not replace lifting heavy weights). Do it for a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:16 PM
1

The advisor is there solely to help me create a manageable budget, nothing more. Still be careful. The best budget in the world won't help your wife decrease spending if you don't enforce it. Above all, the budget and your financial situation is on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:07 PM
1

Is it the right course for my faith? I don't know. What good is faith if you are miserable? I'm a religious man, church every week. I do not believe I was placed on earth to be miserable.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:02 PM
1

I think the main thing is that she has convinced herself that my Christian faith will never permit me to dump her or cheat, no matter how shitty she acts. This is a tough nut to crack. How do you trick your wife into thinking you have abandoned your faith without actually doing it? Why trick her? Say it overtly. I'm a fan of this. I'm NOT a fan of discussion because that is when the blue pill tendencies return and it becomes an argument and you are back at square one where she holds your balls i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:02 PM
3

That's not a neg, just a negative comment. A neg is a compliment with a negative component.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 08:50 PM
1

I hit other women with " you used to be fun" all the time "You've changed" is my standard go-to.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 08:49 PM
1

Congrats on your successes. Be forewarned that lots of more testing is coming down the road. Be prepared. Right now your seas may seem (relatively) calm, but be assured that there are many large and small storms brewing in other parts of the ocean. You will encounter them eventually.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 08:08 PM
2

A quality woman would never have tolerated my shit. Quality as defined by whom? Simply a higher SMV than yours or something completely different?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 08:01 PM
2

Grandma-ish getting ready for bed behavior. Like slathering all sorts of magical "age defying homeopathic natural" oils on her face at night that smell like a wet elephant fart. Does she ever use this to block sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 05:32 PM
0

Great advice in this thread. Spot on. As /u/theultimatecad has said: "The hamster spins for the RP man, not against him." Let it do it's work and you continue on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 03:57 PM
5

A couple of things to avoid with Neg Hits in a marriage are especially sensitive areas Yeah, tough territory. Especially when viewed through the looking glass of somebody relatively new to RP/MRP. Their relationship is probably already shitty with their wife, they are a drunk captain, and they have no idea that women communicate covertly. A neg hit won't yield the appropriate response if she thinks you are a fool and you haven't had your shit together for years. This isn't a girl you are meeting…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 03:53 PM
1

Could be a good position for you to be in. She is recognizing that you hold the keys to commitment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 10:44 PM
12

WISNIFG. Bill of Assertive Rights #1: "You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 10:39 PM
2

Excellent.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 10:29 PM
2

MRP is such a freeing concept. At first blush it seems as though it isn't because all outcomes rest upon you, however that is exactly what makes it so amazing. When I am no longer dependent on the outcome, I have freedom because I am in complete control. Sure, there are situations and outcomes I cannot predict or eliminate, but at the root level I am still responsible for how I react. That is freedom. I am choosing to be happy, to work hard, to reach goals, no matter what is happening around me.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 06:28 PM
2

I'll throw in some scripture. In relation to being a Man and being the King Dick and being the Family Alpha: 1 Timothy 5:8 (King James version): But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. So own your shit and do your job as a provider.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 03:09 PM
0

I didn't ask for advice. From the beginning I said I knew what I was going to do.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 04:00 AM
1

Nice! Don't neglect a 1RM and a 3RM.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 03:58 AM
-4

Morons don't care because it doesn't fit their paradigm. Still blue pill I guess.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 03:14 AM
1

Too mix accessory work then. Go heavier. Ditch the linear progression and hit some intensity and volume. For example, squat to find a 3 rep max, and then after resting for 5 minutes do one set of max reps at 80% of that 3RM you just found.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 03:05 AM
-1

Top comments are so good. It's fundamental RP: a mix of NMMNG, WISNIFG and stoicism.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 03:01 AM
2

has anyone here experienced a girl who claimed to be a clit-orgasm only girl but was able to help her find a new way? My wife, by and large. My former self would spend the first 10 minutes of every session giving her oral sex. Those days are long gone. She cums hard now from PIV. Anecdotal, but true.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 07:28 PM
1

Awesome! I've scoured that thing and obviously completely missed it somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 07:21 PM
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Having a wife be flirty and suggestive like this is part of the goal for MRP right? And your plan is to ignore it? That's not flirting. That's rewarding me with sex for doing something. I don't play that game (and don't have any need to, which is why this text is strange).
/r/askMRP17/11/15 07:04 PM
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I think some spoken word is in order, in addition to action. Action alone can't counteract all of the time spent with their mother, much less the non-stop "women on a pedestal" training they get for 8 hours at school each day.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 05:51 PM
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Yes, I saw that yesterday. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 04:53 PM
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No specifics other than the recognition of what I said above: this is my role and there is no downtime. When I do it is easy. At times when I stop to think it feels heavy on my shoulders. EDIT: Sex life is greatly improved. You know this from my "resurrected bedroom" post. Great. But what I'm recognizing is for me that isn't a measure of success. It may be a sign, but the measure is me. The measure is the Man I am and the Man I can still become. That's all that matters to me now. Everything else…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:59 PM
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I played it cool, outcome independent, as I relaxed back on the bed. I said something like "That is always a sound bet." Now I could of handled this better. Use "of course," it's an amazing phrase that fits most any situation. she only gets off by clit stimulation Interesting. I know some here would say that this isn't true, it could lead to a good discussion. Good for you on your progress. I always enjoy reading these reports.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:57 PM
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I find it somewhat difficult. At the end of the day my wife is in bed with me. I have children that I am responsible for raising and educating to be productive members of society.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:53 PM
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No man should feel resentment for having to be on his A game all the time. It comes with the territory of marriage. Single guys can be complete fucks and sit around for a few days without anyone noticing. That's why MRP is TRP ON HARD MODE. I think this is one of the most difficult aspects of swallowing the pill. Rollo writes on this extensively. There is no downtime. New guys may do some reading and then decide that they "don't want to play the game," but it doesn't matter because they are stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:36 PM
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Then don't read it. Holy shit the amount of hand-holding needed here recently is bizarre. Who the fuck is here to mentor anybody!?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:14 PM
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Your lower back shouldn't be hurting when you squat (duh). Your upper back can be sore when you get high weights because it is supporting the weight. In fact the upper back can be a limiting factor in how much you can squat. I always prep with pull-ups before I squat for this very reason. It at least gets my back warmed up. You are probably doing a good morning with the weight instead of squatting it. That's the most likely cause.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:30 PM
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Just because you have taken the Red Pill doesn't mean you aren't operating in the Matrix every day. I would be worried if you didn't get pushback.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/15 06:44 PM
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I would posit many men would still end up content and wont divorce their new fat wife. You are correct. This is especially true if their fat wives are giving them an IV drip of sex every 3-4 weeks to keep them hanging around.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/15 06:41 PM
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Good thoughts. Certainly the primary theme of married RP is that we should do things because we want to do them, not because we think it will get us something in return or because it is the right thing to do or because we have been shamed into doing them. /u/UEMcGill had an excellent post 3 months ago that used the money concept as well, called "The balanced check book of the relationship". I'd encourage everybody to read it. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3ghbd4/the_balanced_c…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 06:36 PM
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Better yourself. If you look at your post, the entire "catalyst" portion is all on you. She told you that she didn't take the pill. You came inside her anyway. Was it a bitch move on her part? Yep. Was it maybe calculated to get her pregnant? Yep. But AWALT, so the onus is on you for being a shitty captain and not following the #1 rule which is to take care of yourself. So yeah, you want to apply more dread, but it has to come naturally. So the answer is the boring one but the right one: continu…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:52 PM
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I cannot answer this question for you. It would be dangerous to do so. All I can say is LIFT, read the sidebar material, and work hard. It will take time to undo what you have created. Set a goal and work towards whatever that may be.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:30 PM
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Note: I'm not saying that she is banging another guy. She might be. But I am saying that she is opening the door to do so. She will push you away so her hamster can rationalize a reason for cheating on you: you weren't there emotionally or physically for her. Never mind that SHE told you she needed space; that's what the hamster does. Takes the irrational and spins it so that a woman can live with herself.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:27 PM
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She is trying to demean you and rope you into submission. Her covert play here is that she must insinuate that you are failing at being witty, because you are a failure and nobody could possibly find you witty or attractive. Smile at her and say "of course" and continue on. Also: visit askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 04:02 PM
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So much to learn from this post. Nobody says you have to agree with the choices, but you can still learn. Learning involves gathering information, processing it, and then applying it as it might benefit you. Doesn't benefit you? Great, you still learned. Benefits you? Awesome, you've learned. Either way you win. Why deny yourself further knowledge?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 03:59 PM
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I know a man that employs many immigrants. Some are legal and some are illegal. His stand is that the immigrants work hard, and moreover that they do the work that nobody else wants to do. He is against any immigration reform, and feels the economy will collapse if immigrants are removed from the workforce. Who will do the gardening? Who will pick the crops? Who will work hard labor jobs for low pay? Betas are similar. We can't hate them, because 99.9% of men are betas. They don't know or unders…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 03:52 PM
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My current objective: Reinstate myself as co-captain before earning my way into the Captain's Chair. Do not do this. You will be happy with yourself and want a prize but you will literally be the only person who cares. The only thing your wife cares about is you being the King Dick. Either you are or you aren't. Co-King Dick means nothing to her. Stop setting limits for yourself. Shit tests are increasing. I read a post that pointed out that a lack of shit tests is a very bad thing, because it m…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:14 PM
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Yep. She'll get an alpha fuck on the side and keep this guy for her beta bucks.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:11 PM
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You need to tame that shrew. Have a main event. Embrace it. Why the hell would you want to go to Joann's for fabric when you could be at a pub and watch grown men pummel each other? Hint: your wife does not believe a word of what she has said to you. Actions, not words. Ignore this crap. EDIT: see you haven't had sex in a year. Time for the main event.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:10 PM
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All those saying "read WISNIFG" and "you don't have to answer" are correct. But none of that worked well for me and my marriage. We didn't have a discussion about it, but I did make a statement. My statement was "I am becoming a better Man for myself." That's it. There was no further explanation given or one needed. It's the truth. There isn't anything demeaning or covert about it. It's also nice because it lets her know that I'm doing it for myself. As with all things, your mileage may vary. Ag…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:02 PM
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Thanks! I'm in forex and over the last few minutes I made about $70k on a nice little EURUSD pip spread I saw on the other monitor. Ha. Sure you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 02:50 PM
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A woman's mistakes are never remembered and a man's are never forgotten. AWALT. You have work to do and it won't be quick or easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 03:54 AM
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Agreed. What's with this "I won't touch you" junk? Don't apologize for being a Man (but own your shit in every aspect of your life).
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:39 AM
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Her "needing space" is code for her to bang another guy. Your situation is very unique and different than any other posted here. Not. Advice for you is: lift, read the MRP sidebar, implement that reading. Problem solved.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 12:06 AM
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There is no such thing as a long distance relationship. As Rollo says, a long distance relationship doesn't even meet the criteria for a relationship. Essentially you are a long-distance orbiter. Read The Rational Male on this subject. http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/20/letting-go-of-invisible-friend/ EDIT: Shit, I see that /u/IASGame already posted the link. Nice!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/15 10:34 PM
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Might be wise to not ignore those tests completely. She doesn't get a pass for throwing tantrums and probably isn't feeling great during PMS. However, she might need more comfort. I've found that during PMS my wife needs a greater dose of beta than the rest of her cycle. Me giving that does wonders for our relationship. See my "Marriage Macros" post. Adjusting your macros doesn't make you a pussy, it makes you a perfectionist.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/15 10:33 PM
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I would respond with something along the lines of you will remember the good times too (not miss... just remember) and thanks for the pic without giving any validation of you wanting a continuing relationship in the future. short but not really giving any positive or negative emotion. This is terrible advice. Why should he respond at all? They are getting divorced. For you I'd recommend sidebar reading.
/r/askMRP14/11/15 11:18 PM
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You are already getting divorced. Who gives a flying fuck what she does? Shit. Do you still want to be with her or what?
/r/askMRP14/11/15 11:16 PM
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Yeah, and if your frame is a joke (i.e., you just swallowed the RP 3 days ago OR you've been "lurking" here and done partial readings and nothing else) then she will laugh at you. It's to be expected. A drunk captain can't lay down orders if he still has a hangover.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 11:06 PM
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The Alpha male is NOT a dick or an asshole. He is a cool, in charge, fun guy who makes people feel good. Bravo. Many (most?) men in our gyn-centric world will think you are a dick, however, so pay them no attention. The women will also say you are a dick, but you are really making them wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 11:04 PM
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Dude, glow sticks are the shit. Using them tonight. Handcuffing her to the bed, glow bracelets all over, and it's on.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 03:18 AM
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Entrepaneurs always say that each morning they get up they treat that day as if they don't have a cent to their name and they must find a way earn a living. Litz also starts his day with his wife this way. Love this. True for the marriage. Each day your "score" is set at zero. Acta, non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 02:27 AM
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As with all things MRP, we see that the wife is a mirror of the husband and stands a reminder of our own failures. Our wives want us to be awesome, alas some of us our drunk too often to run the ship. This is 100% your fault. Do not blame smoke show. Do not blame your wife. Do not blame the smoke show's husband (WTF are you thinking!?). Congrats, you've dumped your SMV way down. This goes for your the value your wife places on you as well as the value that everybody in that group has for you.
/r/askMRP13/11/15 10:15 PM
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Love your comment, it's true. We are here because this stuff works. Those posting field reports show that it works. But no half measures.
/r/askMRP12/11/15 10:21 PM
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I knew this would be an objection and I hate to break it to you- this IS the likely outcome of a nice, sweet, sexually submissive and adventurous wife who always brings the sunshine especially when paired with a MRP guy. It's half of the equation, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 10:19 PM
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It's a trap. I'm not falling for it. RP makes me the best person I can be. It tells me to cultivate my physical appearance and my mental abilities. RP principles but the outcome is that the husband will be "devoted to delighting [the wife]"? No thanks. Frankly, I don't need my wife to envelop me in a positive reality force. For MOST husbands, that's like earning a participation trophy in a race. Good job for participating (but you suck and are a loser). What better way to make sure your beta hus…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 06:54 PM
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RM is so good for helping you understand what you are up against.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 12:43 AM
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Waaaaaa. But all of that takes time. Can't somebody just summarize the books for me? They are so expensive and will take me two weeks to read each one. I have two 20# dumbbells, I can lift with those, right? Right? Joining a gym will cost me money. Besides, my wifey is special and not normal. She isn't like other women. She never shit tests me, she just doesn't want to have sex with me! I tried spanking my wife in the bedroom and she punched me in the face. This shit doesn't work! I probably jus…
/r/askMRP11/11/15 10:02 PM
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So what now? Here is the answer to my own question but seek your wisdom. We need to be prepared to get what we want, and do not slip back into the old ways. turn off the TV, go out, have friends, do awesome stuff. Work is better, life is better. Enjoy the ride and the discovery. What say you? That's it. As Athol says "The new marriage requirement is one of endless courtship. Spouses must, on an ongoing basis, display personality, behavior and appearance that increase the sexual and romantic inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 09:57 PM
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This. Wives have to have drama. It gives them that dopamine response that the beta male fails to give them. If there isn't something wrong in the moment (the trash) then they will bring up something from the past (the trash last week or last year) to argue about. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 05:59 PM
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Make no mistake, this isn't magical in any way. It's a series of steps that naturally lead to the place you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 05:57 PM
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As Athol says: "...try saying 'Thank you.' It's not that hard and much cheaper than a divorce. It shouldn't be every single time she is good either, just mix it up and be a little random with the praises as it's more effective that way."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 04:32 PM
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First of all, don't fail at your job. Is taking out the trash a huge deal? Of course not. But that's the point. It isn't a big deal but it's your deal. How can you be her Man if you can't even handle something so simple? You already recognize this, so that is good. Also, if you were displaying high value the majority of the time, she wouldn't care about the trash. This is merely a symptom of the beta/Drunk Captain disease. But really, who has to set a reminder to take out the trash? To your ques…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 04:27 PM
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We must lift weights. We must do it all. And, it takes constant effort. I assume that eventually all parts become second nature, but I find that if I focus too much on lifting, I lose sight of philosophy. When I switch to philosophy, I forget to Game my wife. When I focus on that, I lose some of the beta traits that are needed in my life. It goes on.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 04:23 PM
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Somebody in TRP made a great analogy a couple of weeks back about the Men's Right Movement and MRA. They essentially said that MRA/MRM is to RP what orbiters are to alpha males. MRM still thinks they can win the battle by having women as an equal partner in all ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 04:20 PM
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I squat every day in some fashion. Not always with a heavy barbell (that's 1-2 times a week for strength), but squatting is a primal movement and needs to be mastered. I do it as overhead squats, front squats (also incorporated while cleaning), box step-ups, high box jumps landing at parallel position, walking DB lunges, ball slams, etc). Lots of bilateral and unilateral hip opening.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:28 AM
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It is, my data agrees. My wife is also having vaginal orgasms.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 10:31 PM
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Love the update, thank you. Glad you are living your life. In regards to #1: you can make much greater progress using a barbell for compound lifts (squat, deadlift, bench, strict press, etc.). Machines cannot replicate the trunk stabilization and CNS coordination required for barbell lifts. Along with that, I'd encourage you to train your legs also. I don't care that your legs are toned. That's the most goddamn feminine thing I've read all day. My wife can squat more than you. The barbell squat …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 10:29 PM
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Why not leave your wife and then have a fling with Candy? What's the issue here? Once you get some you'll see that her pussy isn't magic.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 09:14 PM
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Good response. I think that the key to unlocking the slut in our wives is that what we do outside of the bedroom has a greater impact than what we do in the bedroom. This includes kino, sexual references, slapping her ass, amused mastery, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 08:59 PM
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The risk is that he's going to blow up his marriage by basically telling his wife that he doesn't give a shit about her. That's not it at all. He says that he DOES give a shit about her or he wouldn't be making the statement. He states what he needs from the relationship. That's NMMNG 101 stuff. Nothing covert, it's in the open and healthy to do so. Again, a statement, not a discussion with her.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 08:57 PM
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In short, yes, there is a time for ultimatums and the higher dread levels, but, the idea is that you ease slowly towards them, and not rush into them. Some things cannot be unsaid, and some actions cannot be undone. Agree, that's why I recommended MAP phase 4. He doesn't mention divorce, he doesn't mention him leaving, he simply lets her know that he cannot continue in the relationship this way and he has done all he can to work on it. Her turn to play ball.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 08:56 PM
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Thank you. Glad you read it, so you know exactly where I am coming from. For me, the statement I made to my wife that was crucial to our relationship survival was the "I won't me held emotionally hostage by your vagina anymore." After that, everything was on the table. I had taken her card from her, she had no hand to play.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 08:54 PM
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Talking, at this point, is more risky than its worth. What's the risk? In the current state of things he hates his relationship. Can it get worse? I agree with Acta, non verba and STFU, but there also has to be a time where the Man lays down expectations and then walks away. Not a discussion, but a statement. Why prolong the shitfest that is his marriage?
/r/askMRP10/11/15 07:06 PM
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and came to a decision that I was going to be a man again and stop playing games, trying to earn her approval, etc. Monday I felt a huge weight lifted, tons of energy, felt satisfied for the first time in a long time. I've felt it. We all have. It's amazing, isn't it? That moment when you decide to be what you are supposed to be, a Man. The fact that a simple decision is so liberating and invigorating tells us how beat-down we have become in this fem-centric world. She informed me just before sh…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 06:51 PM
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Thoughts, and feedback? Yes, the police are "looking." Nothing will come of this. I also don't know what this has to do with TRP.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/15 05:32 PM
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Starfish is not meeting halfway. It's spreading her legs to avoid conflict and keep you minimally satisfied. A woman meeting halfway is one with a mutual interest, attraction, and desire to fuck you or be fucked by you. Tell that to every poor soul in /r/deadbedroom. Starfish every 3-4 weeks is indeed a drip to keep you coming back and compliant. Starfish every time you have sex may mean you haven't taught her what to do. It doesn't always mean a lack of interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 05:29 PM
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You're not lifting, you're jerking off. So this stuff properly, or. Don't bother. Bingo, and it applies to all aspects of RP, not just the lifting. Read and study the sidebar stuff. Lift heavy items. Get your diet on point, etc. Pretending to do it or doing it halfway won't yield results.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:34 PM
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My understanding of MRP theory is if your wife acts out, you withdraw attention until she makes amends. Yeah, but it only works if you are a prize. If you don't have your shit together then you are doing her a favor by withdrawing.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:32 PM
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Christ almighty, my wife may be a social recluse who is quiet as a mouse at home, but she's a graphophile when a keyboard is involved. They always are. It takes no courage to type a stream of consciousness. Email/text are a convenience for logistics but a cowardly way to communicate intimate issues. Notice how you return home and she ignored the issue? That's typical. Can't be that big of an issue if she won't address it in person, can it? Agree with everybody who says hold frame and STFU. You c…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:29 PM
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If she is planning an intervention just say no. You do not have to explain yourself to others, least of all 'men' of her choosing. Ha. An awesomeness intervention. "We have serious concerns that you are becoming too awesome." Like Rollo says, crabs in a barrel. As soon as one starts to climb out to the RP the BPers have to pull him back down.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:20 PM
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She asked me if i would be interested in sitting down with other "men" to talk about my new attitude. I said, "Yes. I am open to hear what people believe." From my point of view, every man that is in my sphere of influence is a BB. Yes, be sure to listen to what they have to say. You'll have to schedule a time to meet with them when they aren't buying her flowers, doing the dishes, folding the laundry, making dinner, cleaning the cars, and doing various other chores in hopes of getting the morse…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 02:19 PM
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I'm glad to see sprints mentioned. They are a favorite of mine. I'm not doing them for body composition (although they do wonders for that) but for the sole reason that I believe one of the qualities of youth is the ability to run...and run fast. Moreover, I have pride that I can still beat my athletic 14 year old son in a footrace. The mantra "train fast, be fast" holds true with sprint work. I typically do 6-8 sets of max effort (30-80 yards). How do I know when to stop? When I get slow. Recov…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 02:16 PM
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AWALT doesn't mean that every woman is the same, nor is it an excuse. It simply means that at the biological/psychological level all women have the capability to be cunning and deceitful. It's an opportunity play. Given the proper circumstances...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 12:22 AM
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The party line is that most of us are married and found RP after the act, so we are applying it to make the best of what could be a bad situation. For me, I disagree. I wish I would have found RP prior to marriage, but I still would have married. I find a lot of fulfillment and joy in my relationship with my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 12:20 AM
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Thank you. I didn't down vote.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 08:26 PM
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Would your parents not watch the older 2 children also? Did you cum inside of her or not? Your wording isn't clear. You cum too early, how do you think your LTR feels about that? "...so get YOUR kids in line." She is your LTR, so either get committed or get out. The kids are part of the package deal. Get them in line and be the family alpha. Maybe she is actually not feeling well and doesn't have the energy to tend to the children all day? Everybody deserves a break in the action every now and t…
/r/askMRP09/11/15 07:13 PM
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Done.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 05:46 PM
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We should adjust our relationship macros based on what performance we are striving for from our wives.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 04:46 PM
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I'm sure he would advocate spinning plates and not keeping a mistress. That only sends you down the path of marriage once again. The goal when you are still married is not to find a girlfriend or another wife on the side.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 03:37 PM
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Excellent. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 02:17 PM
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Too much beta being provided. Way too much. You have her on a pedestal still. There is no dread because if there was the outcome would be different. Pull back at home and she will begin to hamster about the opportunities you have at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 04:42 PM
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Agree with every fiber of my being. Took the family away 2 hours from home for a mini vacation this weekend. Told the wife yesterday morning what to pack. Loaded into the car and off we went. Saw an awesome zoo that the kids loved. Animals were close up and all were awake. Checked into the resort hotel, got a grand suite (multiple bathrooms, kitchen, dining room table, fireplace, etc.). Went on a tour of a local canyon that focused on the flora and fauna. Kids ate it up. Eating breakfast right n…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 04:01 PM
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Good post. Be a man and let her be a woman. Not only that, but as you become a greater Man, she will become a greater woman. The more masculine you are the more feminine she is allowed to become. It's a wonderful thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 03:56 PM
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Let her hamster work. Don't respond to most texts. Don't call her. Don't share your emotions and dreams with her. Don't tell her what you are doing or where you are. She wants to believe that she is discovering you on her own. When you give her all the info you have cheapened the product. The product is you.
/r/askMRP08/11/15 01:53 AM
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Well said!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 10:36 PM
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If the bedroom wasn't dead these other issues wouldn't exist because she wouldn't treat you like crap. They aren't separate issues, they are all intertwined and hinge upon you being Captain, Alpha, King Dick.
/r/askMRP06/11/15 04:30 PM
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Yes, always improving ourselves. Still, there is some point where we feel we have accomplished something. For some that may be reading all the sidebar material. For others it is losing 40 pounds. For others it is sex 3x/week. All of those outcomes takes time. And, even if we reach those outcomes our wives may not care, may not notice, or may not respond. Therein lies the rub. None of it is about them.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 04:16 PM
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Great thread. Awesome post. And, when in doubt, say nothing. There is nothing wrong with being stoic and not speaking, especially if nothing needs to be said. It makes your words more valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 04:11 PM
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If you are a high value man it often does. I'm not saying do no chores, I'm saying be busy enough and awesome enough that you don't have time to do more than 30% of the chores. Work hard, play hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 11:51 PM
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You keep the attraction and mystery alive by creating mystery and an environment for attraction. That means you limit contact and don't place her on a pedestal. Don't respond to most texts. Be a busy man. Don't tell her everything, let her hamster try to figure it out. Women love this. Blue Pill men have ruined their marriages in part because they have shared every hope and dream and desire with their wives. There is nothing left for the wife to guess or dream about.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 10:27 PM
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Little update: still going strong. Twice again yesterday. Still reading, still lifting, still becoming a Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 10:24 PM
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"Take a moment to remember that you are the girl you hoped you would be and then go find that boy and remind him that he is the man you knew he could be." You know, that's all we are preaching around here. Become the Man you can be and are made to be. Really golden and simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 10:23 PM
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New guys (and some old ones): The stuff mentioned in the "Earning Good Sex, a.k.a. Passive Dread, a.k.a. Just Being Awesome" section does not happen in 1 week, 1 month, or even 1 year. It takes time. It took you x years to create a disaster of a marriage and it certainly will take x months to fix yourself and improve the marriage. EDIT: ha! A down vote. Some poor bitch of a man doesn't think that improving himself takes time. Now that's funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 10:05 PM
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If my wife is putting out starfish, would a better strategy be to go Monk Mode than to try to directly improve the starfish situation? Not always. Maybe she doesn't know any better? Are you leading her in the family as well as the bedroom? Starfish doesn't always = "she isn't into it," but it sure can. I see you say she offers duty sex every other day. Many guys (and many here in this very forum!) would kill for sex 4 times a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 09:45 PM
1

I don't do more of the household tasks than I used to do and >I'm certainly allot less nicer to my wife than I used to be a year ago, yet I'm getting way more sex and more respect now than I used to do then. A survey in the American Journal of Sociology revealed that men who do 40% or MORE of household chores get less sex than men whose wives do 100% of the household chores.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 04:29 PM
2

"Maybe you should fuck your husband because he's your husband?" I didn't break frame at any moment Those two statements are in direct contradiction. Your frame while having sex with your wife is to be a whiny little bitch? Women do NOT care about what you do. They cannot appreciate the sacrifices you have made in order to facilitate their reality. You working 50 hours? She doesn't care. Doing laundry, cleaning, cooking? She doesn't care. The ONLY thing she cares about is how you make her feel. s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 04:22 PM
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Your wife is a grown woman and as such you need to let her make her own decisions and choices. Leadership is not you telling her what to do all of the time. Leadership is you setting such a damn good example and being so damn successful and being so damn happy that she wants to follow you because it's an amazing adventure. Lots of talking about random and useless shit that doesn't really matter in life is what the female hamster does. Your wife thinks less of you every time you do that.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 03:04 PM
2

lots of girls give head on the first sexual encounter Only to alpha males who have incited a dopamine response in them. I turned my bedroom around (at this point). One blowjob our entire 16 years of marriage to having 8 last month. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3r4cku/fr_resurrected_bedroom/
/r/askMRP05/11/15 02:59 PM
5

What we have here is a unicorn vagina. Must be amazing and feel unlike any of the others.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 02:58 PM
2

I've been reading here a little bit, have anyone had a depressed SO, and improved your relationship on MRP? Yes, all of us. They were depressed because we were whiny babies and failed leaders. Maybe your wife is depressed because you suck?
/r/askMRP05/11/15 02:56 PM
1

You are suggesting that guys stay unhappily married and keep plates? That's insane.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 02:52 PM
1

How old are you? If you are doing things properly you shouldn't ever "feel an injury is coming on." Lots of variables to make sure you are training properly (sleep, nutrition, age, training program and goals).
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 02:31 PM
1

The 90 seconds is great for pushing conditioning, but not everybody needs that. When I attempt rep maxes (1RM or 3RM or 5RM) I'll wait longer (~5 minutes) between sets to make sure I'm getting good attempts. If I'm just doing a standard 6x3 @ 80% of my 3RM or a 3x5 or whatever, then I'll wait about 2 minutes. I don't judge it by my heart rate, I judge it by bar speed. I want the bar speed to increase as my mechanical advantage increases.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 02:29 PM
4

Good for you. Isometric exercises are overlooked but are deadly. Try ring holds or bar dip holds (hold at the top lock-out position), as well as hand-stand holds (with feet against the wall if you need to), pillar/plank holds, superman and iron man holds. All awesome for building a trunk. That's right, apples have cores but OAKs have TRUNKS. We are Oaks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 01:59 AM
1

I'd like to see a weekly stickied post at the top where we can "Own Our LIFTING Shit weekly". I think it's that important. A place where we can post PRs for the week and can rib each other on our lack of progress in other cases.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 01:57 AM
3

Eat dead animals. Yes. If it has a face, a soul, or a mother, I'm eating it. That is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 01:55 AM
1

But surely you did more than brush your teeth, wash your ass, and use deodorant. Maybe he did. Maybe he was a solid 2 and now he's a 5.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:16 PM
2

The damaging affects of ONEitis, from MMSLP and Athol Kay: "If your feelings for your wife overwhelm your ability to get into action, or you believe the good in your marriage outweighs the bad, your own Rationalization Hamster will always find a way to keep you locked in endless misery." Note what he is saying regarding good outweighing the bad. Fine, so our marriages (mine?) are more good than bad. That is NOT an excuse to stop improving (following The MAP in Kay's words). Having things be "goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:15 PM
2

Divorce must always be on the table as an option. This goes for both parties involved. If she denies sex she is breaking her marriage contract. That is a problem. If she is an unfit mother, that is a problem. If we are drunk captains or can't earn a living or are physically abusive...those are problems. Sometimes problems cannot be fixed and divorce is a way of fixing them. ONEitis makes us blind to the option of divorce. It blinds us to our faults AND to our wives' faults. It is unhealthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:56 PM
2

Children are not the true purpose of marriage. Maybe they are for you, maybe they are for me, but that doesn't make it a universal truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:06 PM
0

Yes! Sexless marriage and she climbs into the tub WHERE HE ALREADY WAS and then she proceeds to leave when she senses he likes seeing her naked. What a shrew.
/r/askMRP04/11/15 12:45 AM
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This is a brilliant post. Well said.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/15 07:38 PM
1

...and then you awoke from your dream. Ha.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/15 07:20 PM
3

We have separate accounts, now, after I separated my account from hers when I saw ALOT of frivolous spending and poor management of finances. This reads to me that rather than taking charge and being the leader, you simply took the path of least resistance and basically said "screw yourself over" to her. The problem with that is she is on your ship and SHOULD be your first officer. So in the long run you have only screwed yourself over. The other problem you have on your hands is that you aren't…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 05:39 PM
5

Good report. I know you are keying in on how happy your wife is at the end of this situation, but you can't neglect the fact that you are happy because you didn't have to worry about it. Why didn't you have to worry about it? Well, you allude to the fact that she is a great woman...but the real reason is that you have stoicism and only worry about things under your control. This is her ballgame, she is an adult, she can deal with it (or not deal with it). Let your wife vent and don't get riled u…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 04:27 PM
2

No, really. If you've been a blue pill guy your entire life, then suddenly understand that talking to other women is okay (and recommended due to preselection) then it becomes a lot of fun to captivate them.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 03:08 PM
1

"You only want me for sex" is met at my house with an "of course." That is all. Don't me ashamed of your masculinity, which is based on your deep desire to have sex. Don't be ashamed of your deep desire to have sex with the woman you are married to. You didn't force her hand in the contract, she is in violation of it. You are not in the wrong. Develop true OI and ignore her shit.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 02:39 PM
1

It is a lot of work. Having children is a lot of work. They require constant attention and diligence is required to ensure they are acting in a way that is appropriate. Our wives are the oldest teenager in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 02:38 PM
3

Actions, not words. Once you realize that her words are meaningless, you won't be offended by them (or a lack of them). They are jibberish and require no effort or sacrifice. Actions require effort so they are valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 08:59 PM
1

What. The. Hell. I need to go lift and wash my brain of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 08:56 PM
-1

Making panties wet.
/r/askMRP02/11/15 08:36 PM
7

I used to think that marriage was going to be this super power that would make me succeed at work and my woman was going to help me overcome all obstacles and become the shit. Haha. WTF. What a warped sense of reality, right? Who instills this crap in us. I'm a doctor. The harsh reality is that my wife couldn't give a crap what I do all day as long as there is money in the account. Had a bad day? She doesn't care. Saw 70 patients? She doesn't care. Surgery cases canceled? She doesn't care. I'm s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 08:35 PM
3

Many won't like you because they are harboring the jealousy that you are what they could (but they refuse to) become. What guy is going to like you when his wife is more attracted to you than she is to him? It's just how it is. Embrace it and enjoy life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 08:30 PM
2

How do you veteran RP guys handle being sick? Like a fucking Man. I may not be on the alpha offensive, but that doesn't mean I go full beta. Society would have you believe it is one or the other, but it isn't. The degree to which I'm sick also plays a role in my response. Honestly, if I have a head cold and feel generally miserable I still go to work because I'm a Man and it's my job.
/r/askMRP02/11/15 04:33 PM
2

Agree with bluepill professor. At your stage you don't have to say anything if you don't want to. STFU won't win you bonus points but it won't drain your account into the negative either. Also, if you truly embrace the IDGAF mentality and apply some stoic principles to your life, you will simply rise above all of the banter. I can't explain it, it just happens. If you really don't care then you really don't care. It's all frivolous nonsense.
/r/askMRP02/11/15 04:31 PM
1

We've all heard of the LGBT acronym. While reading an article last week I was made aware of a new addition to that acronym, the letter "Q". The new proper is LGBTQ. What does the "Q" stand for? It stands for "queer." Now ponder upon this. Not too long ago queer and gay were nearly synonyms. Now even transgendered as become so normal (albeit mainstream media tells us it should be normal) that "queer" is something entirely different. It's different than gay, it's not bisexual, and it's not transge…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 03:56 PM
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Ha. Yeah, I'm glad you caught that. In my mind that was me taking a stand verbally, and then showing her immediately that I could come and go as I please. It was a nice juxtaposition for me: I'm not going anywhere, as I leave to go out.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 03:51 PM
7

Nice TDLR, but the BJs are a side note. The takeaway is that I'm a prize and my wife knows it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 12:04 AM
4

Thanks, yes, constant work, little praise. Nobody cares about our feelings. That's a Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/15 10:18 PM
1

The Meditations by Marcus Aralius. Started it today. $1.99 from Amazon.
/r/askMRP01/11/15 08:32 PM
1

Here is my story. I read MMSLP first but the tactics didn't hold because my foundation was weak. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3r4cku/fr_resurrected_bedroom/
/r/askMRP01/11/15 08:31 PM
3

Do NOT sext your wife. Unless you've held alpha frame for a long time in the relationship, it simply will not work. All you are doing is giving her ample time to come up with an excuse for not having sex with you. At the best you are giving her time to come up with a way to have terrible sex with you. Certainly neither of those are things you desired. Your wife is irresponsible and must be treated like an irresponsible teenager. And yes, it is your fault because your leadership was poor. She got…
/r/askMRP01/11/15 08:30 PM
2

Great post, love all the parenting stuff. I led a conversation at dinner last night where I asked my four children who I love the most in our family? Some of them answered "mom." I taught them that I love myself the most, and told a story about a captain, a first officer, a ship with a crew and a mission. My children have no doubt about the pecking order. They also know that my relationship with their mother takes priority over my relationship with them. My wife also added "Daddy has to love him…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 08:57 PM
0

AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 08:46 PM
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