MRP, long time lurker, first time poster. Thanks for helping me this past year. Thought I would share my thoughts with this post:

A common meme perpetuated from an equalist definition of gender, is that men should embrace their emotions to better relate to women. The idea is that if gender is a social construct only, then it’s otherwise unhealthy for boys and eventually men to not freely express their emotions. Now you see young men constantly trying to use their emotions to attract a woman. The idea is that “like attracts like,” and the hope that she will ultimately appreciate his efforts that are so different then her douchebag boyfriend.

Showing your “emotional” side is a one way ticket to either her repulsion or a LJBF rejection. The reason that being more emotional is a waste of time for men, is that relating with women on an emotional level instinctively makes her feel like you’re one of her girlfriends. Gender is not a social construct, otherwise she would be able to turn that perception of you off, and you’ll sail into a Blue Pill relationship bliss. Her perception with a man that uses emotion to relate to her is that of another female. Often a woman’s perception of you as a primary candidate for intimacy relies on how she feels. If she “feels” that you’re a good friend that can talk about how Chad won’t call her back, that’s exactly the relationship you will have with her. You’re a man that still does not get it, a man that acts more as a woman, which will firmly place you in a friend category.

Our differences create attraction, not our similarities. Having a stoic, stronger then oak, emotionally unavailable nature makes you more attractive than trying to display your emotional intelligence as a sexual strategy.

Controlled Emotion

I’m not advocating that men need to be like Spock or Buddha. Men do have emotions as that makes us human. What I’m against, is men trying to out-emote one another as a sexual strategy, in the hope that a woman will appreciate the effort. She won’t.

Obviously, men have emotions, but it’s important to remember how to express them without coming off as Beta. Controlled expression of emotions is crucial, as it serves to make an endearing image of men. Don’t buy into the “he’s not sharing his feelings” gripe; this same gripe is an advocacy to try and get you to abandon your frame, and enter into hers. This is a disaster waiting to happen. You need to be the wall that separates her willingness to lose control to her emotions, and your incessant drive to not give into them. What’s endearing to women, is a man that is emotionally unavailable who occasionally shows a semblance of emotion. It’s the difference between a man giggling and a man that cheekily smirks. Think of Don Draper. Having control of your emotional expressions makes each small act, an event unto itself.

Anger is a good example. Out of all the “toxic” emotions men are taught not express, I’m all for occasional flashes of anger. This demonstrates to her that you’re to be respected, and you can at any time go from calm-like state, to a force to be reckoned with. These flashes of anger, or as Rollo called them, Flashes of Alpha, make her question her hypergamic valuation of you. What’s better then completely losing it every time you’re angry, is having a slight grasp on the leash of your carnal fury. This leaves more to the imagination, as it’s scary to see a otherwise calm person become angry, but also note that he has control of it. The shot of a single gun in a movie is more profound then a whole movie filled with persistent explosions — you get used to it.

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