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They talk about that as well. They also have long ass novels of men falling back in love with their partners. They recognized the issue themselves, found a community/solution themselves and worked at it. I know there are other stories of boys/guys just concerned about their own orgasm or how they will be perceived by their partner, but usually that because their teenagers and don’t have those deeper long term sexual relationships with women yet. The community needs to exist, men helping other me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:55 AM
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There’s whole subreddits dedicated to it. No fap. So there are groups of men out there trying to pull other men out of it themselves. They say the same things we say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:33 AM
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The two times I gain what I consider significant weight for my frame was due to medical stuff. But my eating issue was not allowing myself to lose the weight even when I regained my activity. I was so comfortable being invisible for the first time ever, it was hard to let that comfort go. It was shit that I was in the position of “should I care for my body and get harassed or should I undermine my health to be safe?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:47 PM
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That’s what that is? It’s so weird walking into your “clones” they have no idea who I am. They stole my tattoos… gross. They also don’t get that freaky twin feel either because their always a few years behind me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:42 PM
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That’s what that is? It’s so weird walking into your “clones” they have no idea who I am. They stole my tattoos… gross. They also don’t get that freaky twin feel either because their always a few years behind me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:42 PM
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Unless they mean change the relationship like from fiancé to acquaintance lmfao. Or best friend to strategic friend. Everything is so heavily context it’s difficult to make things simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:33 PM
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I have hyperphantasia. My councillor all tried to convince me I have ptsd but in reality I just have an insanely vivid imagination. It sucked being reminded any good times with my ex because of that ultra HD techicolor smell-o vision, so I had to start taking memories I thought I loved and rewrite the files, and to do that I used songs. I’d have a a couple kinda edgy breakup songs, or those songs that make you wanna push a glass off a table. I just edit lyrics here and there to make it appropria…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:26 AM
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“Thank you Daniel that’s exactly what I was saying. I appreciate you introducing my idea and breaking it down for everyone here. Now if we can just get started…”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:45 AM
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Dogs are very good for stalkers. Depends on everyone’s situation, but soon as I move to my estate I’m getting like 3 dogs. I’m not in a place where I could take very good care of them yet. But even just to have the dogs with me when service men are coming over to fix something I don’t have to rely on my grandfather or someone to be my guard. Guys are also much nicer to you when you have a giant storm cloud with teeth watching over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:20 PM
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The test much like BMI isn’t really meant for assessing individual movies so much as showing trends overall. If 80% of movies don’t have a woman not talking about a man at all then yeah…. That’s just obviously not very good. On the other hand you can have movies pass technically but still be bad overall. Making a chitteria for individual or maybe genre dependant set of criteria to score media would be cool though. So far I’ve just had to watch so much media so that I know what my kid is seeing. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:46 PM
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That what my ex did to me! The cops are so internet illiterate they couldn’t get anything done about it apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:06 PM
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Exactly. They know. Until it no longer benefits them to play dumb then they will continue to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:10 AM
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Put them in a room with a bunch of gigantic gay guys that have educational/financial/political/educational power over him and says all those same things to him. He’ll be laughing right? It’s just jokes a bunch dudes being dudes. Or maybe serial killers would be more accurate. Wait nvm even better one of the 5 is in serial killer but he never gets to find out which one. Not all men right? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:15 PM
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I was a promo model for most of my adult life. There is no one size fits all in every situation. It’s about building up your tools and skills with them. Some guys are put off by being inhabited completely, some guys that makes them turn violent. Some guys need a death glare or some other dismissal, others take that as an invitation. See what I mean? When I was working I could tell by how they walked what “tools” I was going to have to use and sometimes I had enough to to be strategic (hide behin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:23 PM
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It doesn’t have to be that crazy. My daughter is 7 and does ability appropriate chores. I hired a house cleaner once a week to do surfaces. The catch being everything has to be tidy. So my daughter has to keep her room tidy if she want to benefit of the cleaner. Otherwise she has to do it herself. Same with Laundry. Full princess mode would never work for my daughters personality, she’d become spoiled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:43 PM
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Nearly every woman that has had a crush on me (that I know of) has been able to remain professional. If they go overt it’s still not that crazy “oh my god but your gorgeous! Or the very obvious blushing and giggling. But they still pull it together and I never feel degraded. Dudes it gets violent and gross immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:34 PM
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“I don’t know what happened to it?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:47 PM
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Where gonna have to stark wearing god damn body cams that stream to the cloud through our phones. Honestly with how small hidden cameras are these days it would fit in a purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:13 PM
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Maaaaan I want to see his face if she ever puts her foot down and calls him a gold digger to his face. Start calling out men on the same behaviour we get policed on. They just express things differently and I don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:48 PM
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Your gonna get Stephen Colbert turn on to FDS with write ups like this! Lmao love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:42 PM
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check this out I knew the patriarchy had a date in Europe and Asia and I found that article when I googled it. Like why the fuck would you just not move the men? That’s how it was done in the americas. The guys would travel to woe a woman and if she accepted him, he has to go home to mom and he has to make his “dowry” I guess and the mom travels to the village and talks to the mom and wife to be. If they all agree, they add on to the mansion and add an apartment for the new couple that the husba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:34 PM
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This is what aunties are for. Before the patriarchy broke apart the matriarchy, the mothers/grandmother/aunts would be the ones that saw the boy grow up and know what your database would hold because the girls would go to their matriarchs if something like that happened to them. They hold the archive of knowledge among them. Same reason you wouldn’t want your servants leaving your property, you need to keep them isolated so they wouldn’t talk and band together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 07:47 PM
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Her shit tracks a lot more than the other upper class/wealthy lifestyle YouTubers I’ve seen. But we shouldn’t be taking 100% of what anyone says as gospel anyway. It’s pick and chose what suits you. Learn the rules to break them type of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:03 PM
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Guys really like being told what to do and telling people what to do. Guys genuinely appreciate constructive criticism from someone they see as their peer or higher. From the bottom though? Insubordination! It’s just always about power. Unfortunately for everyone women aren’t considered peer or higher for most men. Since white men set themselves as default they had to other everything else and created a cast system (since they were completely in power at the time). TL;DR the patriarchy with a wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:43 PM
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I think they’re useful tools for self reflection. Not so much a prescription but a jumping off point. Their just different languages that help people describe themselves/other’s. Like any tool it can be used for better or worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:07 PM
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Dude I’ve been going through rabbit hole looking for a different thing, but I found a study that found a possible causal link between trauma and BPD (we knew this already) but also maternal stress during fetal development is also a huge component. Daughter born to mothers who were under stress are predisposed, an event can trigger it. This is obviously a sloppy synopsis but I just found is darkly humorous your mom is trying so hard to figure out what “wrong” with you when she might wanna look in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:42 PM
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Well that’s the difficulty with generalizations. Intent does mater. I’ve bought my partners lingerie before and it was definitely for them and not me. Wasn’t my style/taste. When guys get me lingerie they get me my fantasy, but I can see how a guy buying his fantasy and “gifting” it isn’t actually a gift. I have a lingerie person, just like I have a Jeweller and florist, every guy I date knows who to talk to if he wants to get me anything. I basically have a wish list with all of them plus they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:13 PM
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If a bunch of religions would just say “fuck this shit in particular” but keep all the awesome pro-social aspects that would be great. Just toss it into the archives for scholars and move on. But nah power is to sweet, and they have it already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 01:11 AM
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I have a branch of my tree like that. My response when I’m unfortunately found in that kind of conversation is “we’re your sisters also there for x,y,z?” When I know they know I know they were and everyone else around also knows. I just put that little data point back on their little conspiracy charts and the contrast speaks for itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:42 PM
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I’m allergic to my grandmothers cat some days and not others. If I’m tired or otherwise stressed my body will go full tantrum around my triggers but otherwise maybe a slight sniffle or a singular hive. Same with milk and gluten foods. Nobody handles this information well so I don’t tell anyone, or pile myself under a lot of white lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:15 PM
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Men are about projection. He would see a woman crying as manipulation if he himself would fake emotional expression as a means to manipulate someone. It’s a fear thing. Republicans also operate from a state of fear and projection is also the way they tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:44 PM
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I would love to do that. Unfortunately I have to do the more subtle “professional” version. “Oh that’s right I forgot!” I have to stand sort of overlapping him. So for him to be in my eye-line he’d have to walk completely around me. “But I mean honestly who would you chose?” While mildly gesturing to every other guy. It leaves the option to really grind it into wounds because I can dislike qualities in the other “suitors” I know the dude that asked has but I’m not supposed to know about so he ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:10 PM
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Even with my daughter and her future plans. “Ma when I have babies your gonna teach me how to take care of them right? “ “if you have babies I will help you and teach all that I know” “what do you mean if?” “You don’t HAVE to have kids, it’s up to you.” “Oh okay like (so-so)? “ I know it’s my voice vs all of culture I just need to solidify that she does in fact have options. Even if I think I would be a way better grandmothers than I have been as a single mom, I’m more of a behind the scenes kin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:35 AM
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Hysterical-testerical, whymen-weremen, looking back through the evolution of western language with a feminist lense is very interesting. It’s why I’m against the whole “womxn” type of activism. It linguistically undercuts the woman’s humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:15 PM
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Yup. My strategic and “polite” way of ignoring men that used to work is now triggering violence. Guys are circling in cars, pulling out in front of me (I’m walking), trying to herd me and corner me in stores etc… it’s to hot here now, I’m gonna have to wear shorts and honestly I’m worried it’s going to get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:44 PM
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Guys will get you to woe their next girlfriend for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:29 PM
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Add some big sunglasses 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:57 PM
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Are you me? just this past year I’ve gotten to the point I feel at home in my femininity, it’s been a long journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:05 PM
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It really depends on the formality. There was a thing quite a while ago about women wanting to wear sleeves shirts and dresses while working as a lawyer. I’d be on her side if the men would also be able to wear shorts and sleeveless dressshirts. The inverse of that was a private school that didn’t let the boys have a shorts option for their uniform while girls got to pick between a long skirt, pants or a shorter skirt. The boys started wearing the short skirts until the school caved and gave the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:02 PM
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Guys always make fun of woman’s purses, but they sure do appreciate what’s in it. They just don’t want the burden of providing for themselves so they tried to make it our jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:32 PM
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They want personal porn models that only they can control. I model occasionally(?) it’s not my main thing but there are tons of tastefull and even sensual photo shoots I’ve done for work. Like fuck a nude oil painting is floating around in museums but they still want me to send custom porn, fuuuuuck that. It’s just a power thing as always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:53 PM
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K but men did not “chose” smaller hips on women. Women got smaller hips because they started walking upright. It’s fucking hard to walk with only two legs and very wide hips. Look how bears and apes move. It’s not very efficient. When we started walking on two legs our brains were also growing like crazy. Smaller hips and big baby brains meant we give birth a little early. Other similar mammals are born being able to walk or cling on to their mothers at least. But that the trade off we have, it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:11 PM
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Umm have you never made out with a guy and done hand stuff? That’s not sexual assault. Idk how you came to that conclusion at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:45 PM
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Exactly. There’s also the inverse where women and men are perceived as less intelligent, competent, multidimensional because they do/wear/act more “feminine” (according to them). I don’t want a world without fashion and grooming. Kinda like how Vikings stealing your wives was a such a big thing. They had intricate hair, impeccable grooming and wore purfume. Women fell over themselves because their culture made them put up with slobs, the Vikings were dream come true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:37 PM
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Yeah the majority of my “beauty” routine is just grooming. I hold guys to the same standards of cleanliness. The rest of my style is usually not enough to hit the stands in any group. Not goth enough, not vintage enough, not editorial enough, not traditional enough, not modded enough for the body mod community, to over dressed, not androgynous enough etc... I like what I like and I’m finally at the point where I couldn’t care less. The only person’s opinion I care about is my own and maybe my mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:02 PM
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This times but in a different location had a similar deal without most of the draw backs. Women had houses and a community. Guys marked into the woman’s family and until he did he lived with his mom and dad. Women never lost their house or kids if the family kicked the guy out because he’s being disrespectful. If he’s the one that decides to leave instead he has to find his children a replacement father to make sure they are provided for or he’s have to basically make child support payments. Dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:02 PM
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Oh you can smell them. At least the experience I’ve had with a few people like that. Others mostly didn’t seam to notice though? I had to open up windows anytime they came around. From the normal distance away they looked clean and average. I froze when there was a maggot on their reusable mug, they drank the maggot. I ran away and heaved in the ditch by the road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:17 PM
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Eh I have that. I think “maybe it would be a good idea to let a man live with me in the same house/property” then we have sex and I’m like oh I was just horny nvm. But my libido is insane I have to set myself up for success otherwise I’d go weak. I feel no regret reneging on things I’ve said while under the spell though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:06 AM
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Also every time this is posted. It’s just not true. Crows don’t pass out from the height. The crow is protecting its family. The eagle doesn’t do anything because they just have to fly out of the area and the crow will fly back. Like why make stuff up? :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:00 AM
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Kloe? Omg I thought this was an influencer clone. Her FaceTuning is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:26 PM
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That’s what happened to me. He flipped when he thought I was vulnerable. He also realized my baby was the leverage he needed to get me in line and complaint. Idk how he managed to fake it for 7 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:38 AM
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Especially if you don’t know that she wasn’t aware of the situation. Like he’s trash why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:59 PM
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That’s the real answer. You give em the pat down. If he can’t get things going with kissing then it’s also a no from me. The only time I’ve up and left was when it became super obvious the guy was only educated by porn. It was A+ up to that point though, bummer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:41 PM
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This is the way. Plus the contrast between how I am with them and the people I know is severe. There is no mistaking its them, it’s an almost malicious complainer form of social interaction. If I have to interact with them that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:22 AM
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The part of the brain that finds other people genitals sexually attractive has swapped genitalia for feet. So other people’s feet. There’s literature on it. I’m obviously massively summarizing it. It can also develop later as other fetishes do without that crossing of wires but the former type has been studied. Edit: I mean can you imagine a male bear humping a female bears feet? Like that’s not supposed to work out and have genetics passed on lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:49 PM
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Foot fetishizes is the only one I don’t shame, more side eye unless they act inappropriately in public or pull people into it that aren’t willing. It’s definitely not a protected class. Its due to the feet region of the brain being right next to the genital region, wires got crossed. It’s embarrassing really, like those turtle humping a rock lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:59 PM
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I just want to write, that until you work through your childhood. Even if you think it was good, just take an inventory with an objective person like a councillor or therapist. You can try and pick the exact opposite of your father and later realize they are in fact not that different. Or you go after someone that you think reflects the good qualities of your father and it turns out the “good” things were actually rooted in something not so good. Can often happen when the father is a charming na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:13 PM
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He’s shit. But the idea of pairing beauty icons with serial killers is actually Scott putesky. Who went by Daisy Burkowitz and handled the majority of the sound and creative distraction of the band. Manson treated him like garbage and he ended up dying from cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:40 PM
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I haven’t looked into any books for myself*. It’s something I actually did because I have shit working memory even though my historical memory is very good. I made a road map of everything so when I went to my councillor I could get shit done. It’s just developed from that need. I use flow from moleskin on my iPad. *Idk what your particular focus would be, I just read a book for my dear friend. It’s called silently seduced by Kenith Adams. It’s about covert incest and how boundaries being crosse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:37 AM
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It was born out my “healing your inner child” work. I got good at creating diagrams and nested lists. I’d review then month to month to see what’s going on. My goals with regards to dating and relationships have both changed a lot and fortified themselves over time. Some “rules” I’d have would be on there but I’m not exactly sure why and it seems arbitrary. Example being they must want to go to a cat show with me. After a few month of mulling it over I found out why. I’m used to people trying to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:55 PM
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Same with having a written version of your goals, values, and expectations of a relationship with someone and yourself. I don’t thing I can keep track of everything personally. It’s good to sit down reflect like you mentioned. To see if you’ve genuinely evolved on something or if you’ve been setting yourself back, accepting less or expecting to much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:56 PM
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I have a complicated relationship with James. I’ve had horrible shit happen to me, I’ve also had incredibly nuanced allegations against me (she had a crush on me and didn’t take it well) I also have... idk how to word it, we’re not friends by any means but I’ve met James and due to circumstances got to hang out with him for quite a bit. I didn’t know who he was at the time, my friend had to inform me after the fact. Again complicated. Anthony the RHCP dude is an admired groomer and pedophile. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:59 PM
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Not sure if they count as an angsty teen band they were just part of my angsty teen music but rage against the machine. I haven’t heard anything bad.... yet :l also tool, but wow I fucking hate the fan base for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:44 AM
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For real. All the brilliant sex started of “meh” but fun. I think sex should be fun and exploratory you don’t get to the mind blowing Alex gray painting stuff without figuring each other out. My personal pitfall is accidentally doing something out of habit that one of my exes liked that my current person doesn’t enjoy or dislikes. It’s like a reflex and it takes time for new habits and go-to moves to form out of mutual interest. For reference my most recent ex loooved teeth and biting in general…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:29 PM
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I don’t take take MBTI seriously at all it’s honestly in a similar category as horoscopes for me. But... every time my friend make me do the test it is either INTJ or ENTJ it’s supposedly a very rare type. I figured the dude that lasted about it were just doing the dude version of “not like other girls” or reverse engineering the results. Anyway they are insufferable and obviously don’t actually fit the description since they care sooooo much. It’s in the same group of dude who like fight club f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:26 AM
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TL;DR He would note the houses he found attractive women and girls and would Acess the cameras to watch them changing and having sex. I say girls because some of the victims were young girls. 🤮🤮🤮 ADT itself is now being sued and there is reports of the victims being offered hush money payments. Please be safe out there and double check your system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:08 PM
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“DALLAS - A former ADT employee from North Texas is facing a prison sentence for repeatedly logging in to customer’s accounts to spy on them in their homes. The Office of U.S. Attorney Erin Nealy Cox said 35-year-old Telesforo Aviles pleaded guilty Thursday to computer fraud. According to his plea papers, he routinely added his personal email address to customers’ ADT Pulse accounts while installing security systems in their homes in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. That gave him real-time access to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:01 PM
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what their really worried about is women enjoying and getting used to the sensation of a certain size and them knowing damn well they can’t match that. So she’s “stretched out” when really he can hit what her toys can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:58 PM
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They are testerical that’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:39 PM
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That’s body neutrality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:37 PM
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I’m hoping since it was popular that they’ll get a better budget. Never read the books though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:16 AM
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God news everyone! She broke up with him and blocked him on everything. Excellent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:49 PM
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Yup. One of my ex tried that. To many conveniently inconvenient things were happening to my clothes, contacts, and beauty supplies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:44 PM
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It’s (for me) the historical fantasy version of that Orange County wives or whatever. Without the guilt of actual people. I used to love car racing and hockey when I was a kid. I genuinely thought it was fake like movies. I cried when I realized it wasn’t staged. I don’t watch it anymore, I basically stopped after that realization. I don’t care if they consented to the fight or knew the risks, I don’t like it. So as a genre I get the same entertainment of trash television and no real people get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:16 AM
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If you want a historical drama with no toxic romantic relationships there’s the young Victoria. It’s cute. But even that had issues. I honest know of zero shows that centre around relationships that are healthy. You need an antagonist, if it not an outside force then it has to come from inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:42 AM
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Valid but if there was no drama there would be no show. It’s the same with other historical dramas except this one breaks a lot of rules. When they talk about what happened in the garden it kind of summed it up. The whole premise is that they weren’t supposed to fall in love with each other but they did, it was mutual.“Why do you think I followed you into the garden?” “why do you think I went into the garden?” Is it healthy? No. Is it a good model to base your future relationships off of? No. Bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:55 PM
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Exactly. Sperm donors have some type of screening process. Genetic testing, STI testing, background checks and they clean the actual sample. Not to mention the legal protections with the paperwork and process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:10 PM
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It goes way back to Christianity’s war on paganism. Goddesses that represent women, Hecate is the Greek goddess of women witchcraft and is represented/turns into a black cat. Bastet is the Egyptian godess of women, childbirth, the home and protector of children. She’s the godess with a cat head, represented as a lion and kitty cat. There was an all out cultural war on cats because of their association of women’s power. It’s one of the weird reasons that cats in old painting look creepy AF. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:05 PM
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Video games don’t cause violence obviously, but violent people can be attracted to violent video games. Society as a whole is a lot less violent that it was before video games. A more recent example is when lead was is gasoline and everyone went crazy violent. That was an actual causal relationship, unfortunately lead is still a problem in certain places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:17 PM
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This belongs on r/ kids are fucking stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:57 PM
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Is there a wider shot with the stairs in frame? Kinda just remind me of my little sister screaming bloody murder that she’s drowning and we’d just tell her to stand up. They really need to go out of their way to make their lives a struggle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:24 PM
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Don’t forget to block that number or I guess in this case change it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:15 AM
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I wasn’t as scared as should have been at the time I just thought that’s how the world worked. I didn’t have a car or good phone because I was poor so I had to walk everywhere. I was away from my family and community. I look back in absolute horror now that I’m older, I can appreciate how close my life came to danger and all the elements at play that lead me to that edge. This community does not see the nuance we have and I continually butt heads even/especially with the mods. It reeks of privil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:44 PM
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Not at all what I said. Legalization is not decriminalization. You need struck definitions of pimps and John to get them thrown in jail as well as adequate protection for prostitutes so you don’t end up with child sex slaves being thrown into jails and barred from a chance at a future. Victims don’t need to be further victimized. It’s not their fault they got kidnapped and forced to do what they do. Leaving them no legal means of a safe escape will keep them where they are to be continually vict…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:30 PM
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Exactly throwing little girls into jail because she’s a “prostitute” is not the answer. In the real world as it is sex work and sex slavery will never go away it can only get more hidden. The only way to get rid of is by decriminalizing it, social programs to get girls out and structural changes so girls are never in “need” of that work or easy victims of pimps. I was 👌🏽this freaking close to being kidnapped when I was younger. You bet my daughter is freaking never out of my sight and she will n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:35 PM
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If your so can take good pictures of themselves and others but for some reason when it comes to photos of you they are inept... that’s what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:45 AM
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It looks like a tanzanite to me. It shifts with purple. Som sapphires can do that but they don’t have that duality the same way usually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:10 PM
2

I did in another comment on this thread. If you want to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:47 PM
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I have been masturbating since as long as I was alive. My mom has my ultrasounds to prove it lmao. But I also didn’t get the shame of it or the usual baggage, since my relationship with myself started before all that indoctrination. That natural tendency and later watching a documentary about a dude with a amputated penis learning to orgasm with his hand. By that I mean he orgasm by touching his hand/forearm. If there are nerves then they can orgasm. It’s not intrinsically different. The documen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:45 PM
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All of this. Orgasm control is and conditioning is great. A lot of it is the mind muscle connection. But training for full body orgasm and the hands/touch free one was the biggest help. I can get off from just making out and it makes it easier to just get up and leave because I’m not chasing anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:40 AM
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Does your mother matter in the grand scheme of things? Does your partner have to meet her? Does your partner want to meet her after you told them how she acts? If yes and yes. You’re partner would have to be on the same page as you in thinking all that is hella weird and be willing to step into it and build walls. Mom tries the money thing, partner hands it to you immediately “Starbucks on the way home your buying” or “for that X thing you wanted”. She’s flirting with your partner and they need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:18 AM
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Not op but I’ve seen similar styles on Etsy. You can go full gold and precious stones. But if your paranoid about losing it you can get a CZ ring and upgrade when your more comfortable with Jewelry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:44 PM
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Of the single fathers I know off only 2 did good. But they still had a lot of women in their lives helping (grandmothers, aunts, sisters). The others basically live the bachelor life and dump the kids wherever so as not to be inconvenienced. So studies will have to account for that as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:34 PM
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R/kibbie for clothes with an edge of actual body acceptance (helped me appreciate my shape and style it better, not waste money on off clothes) there’s also a sub for seasonal color analysis. Then for body I’d suggest strong curves (never did the program I just like the community). Not to sure about skincare on Reddit I use YouTube for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:48 AM
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More than anything else I thing this is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:52 PM
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Facebook is in the 10-100’s of millions of files of CP every time they do a cull. The first one I remember is from 2017 but they’ve had a scandal and cull like every year. They never seem to get in trouble. People find their violent attacks posted on Fb and when they try to flag it and get it taken down, And it’s not taken down. Sorry I can’t link to anything it just a bunch of news stories I’ve read over time. Scandal, cull, rinse and repeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:19 PM
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The next one your looking for is Facebook it’s leagues worse when it comes to CP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:59 PM
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As I was going through different phases I could definitely feel the difference. From easy prey, to invisible, back to easy prey, to untouchable. I do have social anxiety and I hate being stared at constantly but masks help a lot and it’s still preferable. I mainly interact with other women now and when I’m out and about. I can super easily ignore the men who try and get my attention by very strategically ignoring them. I can see them frustrated and embarrassed in my periphery lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:19 PM
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A lot of these questions can be volleyed with a version of “what do you mean?” Just ask to clarify. If he can’t clarify he might be lazy and not at all interested in you. Also gives him a chance to either redeem himself or dig himself further down. The are you wearing makeup one though? Like how dumb can you be to think my Smokey eye is natural? The hoe long does it take to get ready is so bullshit. The others have variability for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:21 AM
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That is exactly why I dress to the nines always now. I look like Dita going to pump my gas, going to the park, picking up groceries and other than people staring at me constantly nobody bothers me. It’s great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:09 AM
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Same, I’ve been sliced and diced up a lot and the nasal swab is still hell. Getting stabbed is easier, can’t wait for the vaccine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:33 AM
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If it’s “free” for you than you are the product.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:27 AM
9

If you google “unfortunate stained glass” it will pop up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:25 AM
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This is just looks like poor execution. They have stained glass windows depicting the same thing with children praying instead of women. Unless I’m wrong I see no dick and it surrounded by other general religious statues, this is just a bad artist rendering, really bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:57 AM
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They get threatened in the hospital when they’re weak after giving birth to sign the papers the way the guy wants. I know to many stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:22 AM
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Just wants to pick up where he left off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:46 AM
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Unfortunately in a lot places your are not legally allowed to do that. Yeah I had to look it up before lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:56 PM
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Yeah. Character actors/actresses would be considered average or ugly. Most stars roles aren’t characters though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:40 AM
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Yeah this is in no way healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:46 AM
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If you lose 10 men that’s bad but you lose 10 women it’s tragedy you might not recover from. The bottleneck is always women, societal survivability was depending on them. Once people become more individual or nuclear instead of communal they became more patriarchal. You can see the difference in different tribes. Once guys started hoarding wealth they started caring more about making sure their kid is their genetic offspring. Thus limiting women and purity and chastity cropping up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:11 AM
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I have that? Not the exact scenario but I have like a insanely high libido. I effectively have to have a lot of stops in dates/dating because I know I’m weak that way and I have to masturbate before dates. I’m not making good decisions horny, idk who can. I ended up messing around with people I wouldn’t have normally when I was younger because I didn’t do that and associated attraction with overall compatibility. Wish there was an undo button. Having rules and things in place to help me stay on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:56 AM
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I get that I’m the oldest of my sibling and have tons of younger cousins with a big gap and the opposite kind of happened to me. I got real fucking tired of parenting. Like it was some kind of finite resource I used up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:21 PM
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It did on tumblr for a while. They had blogs where couple worked together. But obviously tumblr had other problems as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:28 PM
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She said she as 14
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:44 PM
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They can’t just freaking read huh? They need it spoon fed to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:36 AM
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It’s supposed to be in order of importance but people think it’s all or nothing. It also changed depending on the relationship. Words are not meaningless to me, they just rank low, unless it’s my mom. Hugs are a no go unless it’s my kid, grandmother, partner. Physical Gifts are only accepted from my mom, my kid and my partner, everyone else can stick to cash or food. But across the board act of service is the #1 way for people to show me that they love/care about me. It also happens to be be my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:55 PM
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They did a version like what you said. There were I think 50 women. He swiped left or right as they cued up. The women he didn’t want left and the ones he did lined up side by side. They had them simultaneously swipe left/right on him and I think only 5 stayed? I just remember his face when they swiped on him all at once. I don’t think he was told that was going to happen. Sorry can’t remember where it’s from. It was years ago when tinder was becoming a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:02 PM
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They would have been sent to die in a war by the lords of the land. Kinda how it went.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:16 PM
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I’m living for the comments lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:35 AM
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Exactly there’s a lot of overlap. My group of friends guys/girls. Are all fit, educated, entrepreneurial, atheist-> non serious spiritual, very left leaning, cultured, no hard drugs/alcohol/cigarettes, weed is fine, we love animals, most of us lean vegetarian. The people we associate with are similar. You kinda have to find someone close to what your looking for. Of their associations they would have someone closer to the left, then bam you’d find a whole bunch clustered together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:30 AM
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Yup that makes total sense. I recommend hing. Of course I only know my region and I’m between two big cities and I curated my look to attract what I like. I had one “eh” date and a bunch of really nice dates. It didn’t work out because our future plans didn’t overlap enough but we were compatible otherwise and two turned into actual friends/networking friends because the sexual chemistry wasn’t there. The ones I kept in my rotation are just kind of on hold because of carona virus. I think about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:25 PM
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Wow. What site and general location did you do this? I’ve meet a bunch of good people on hinge where I am. The overt sexual or shit profiles reminds me of POF or okcupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:54 PM
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He didn’t know about the crumb coating. I fucked up a cake like that, cried, then YouTubed it, realized there wasn’t enough time and bought a nice one at the fancy place in town lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:44 PM
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John idarola from the damage report. Philip de Franco had a very interesting character arch. I hated him and he grew a lot as a person. Jimmy snow started off as a Mormon asshole and is now a stable atheist dismantling the fucked up abusive nature of religion. Hassan minhaj? Stephen Colbert absolutely adores his wife evie. I haven’t watched absolutely everything but any time it comes to his wife or women in general he seems HV. Apparently I watch a lot of news. I’m mainly getting the vibes based…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:58 AM
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You should have cropped out the usernames
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:45 PM
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You can definitely suggest that to her in the comments on her post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:22 PM
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Bisexual here. Love going down on penises and vulva/vaginas. It’s a dominant position if you do it the right way. Partner isn’t “allowed” to move, you can start and stop whenever. It’s fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:23 PM
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There is good advice in the comments thank god and she’s not completely out of the woods yet. I hope she keeps her bearing and can grow to look back and realize just how close she got to being sucked in by that LVM. Also shame on her parents and teachers for not protecting a child that trusts them. I hope she doesn’t take their advice into consideration anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:15 PM
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Yeah I get what the post is saying but resting___ face is a thing on both sides. My cousin has resting helpful face and he hates people, still gets asked for directions all the time. Other cousin has resting sad face, even her smile looks like she’s in pain (it’s upside down) people talk to her with the “are you okay sweety” voice and give her random pep talks. The resting happy face is my aunt and wow is that the totally wrong inside vs outside, she is fucking crazy. In a cool way if you know h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:47 PM
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Definitely traditional culture just Native American. From what I read from desi women they sort of have a similar system. It definitely is still considered “old fashioned” by my mom’s generation and I think my generation is going back to it more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:56 PM
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Yup my actual aunties. I guess the alternative is having good friends go through your online matches for you or recommend from their network.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:58 AM
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I have a ton of Aunts, I kinda picked my base group on my matrilineal side and asked them to make a list. Basically here are 20 guys your not related to and about your age. Here are the guys that are into the same things as you (career passion wise) and basically a rundown of what they have been up to, have they ever been married, how long their relationships have lasted and with who, do they have children, they even included a guy that was engaged to be married and they still included him becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:54 AM
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Sort of, I use the Aunty match making service. Going well so far, would probably be better if covid wasn’t a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:48 PM
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Can we get a report option along those lines or does “read the handbook” option cover those types? Especially when it’s just that and no other insight or analysis, just “look at me waste my own time by entertaining LMN. Isn’t he such a fool/creep/crazy person? Lol” No....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:00 AM
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I mentioned this in another post but check in on your regions common-law rules. If you have a significant other you maybe automatically have those same marriage benefits/liabilities. Especially if they live with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:41 AM
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Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice, it’s action and ritual. That’s what makes the magic. With every relationship not just marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:30 AM
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Wow Shé hasn’t even watched the tea video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:57 PM
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Definitely look into common-law rules are where you live. Some places are set up that even if you live in separate houses and have separate everything it can come down to “does the public see you and acknowledge you as a couple over x amount of time?” It’s crazy as fuck and I only know about it from people having to hide relationships because of disability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:10 PM
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TIL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:43 PM
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Exactly. I apply the “when people tell you who they are believe them” to these situations. He says he is unworthy? Okay. Thank you, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:28 AM
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You can still get up and leave from a restaurant? Am I missing something. Your already doing FaceTime, if your still feeling uneasy or not safe then don’t go. There is no commitment to a man you can’t walk away from when you need to. Just get up and leave. I’ve gotten up during the first quarter of sex because he was terrible at it and not listening to me. You can walk away form a dinner date. Your boundaries are there to protect you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:40 PM
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I’m not American and I’ve only seen her face and her name being mentioned. This is one of the few posts I’ve seen with them pictured. Everywhere else has her centered in the story. But now it’s shifting to trump because he gave the terrorist a wink and a nod, because of course he did. He sparked it with the calls to “free Michigan” now he’s stoking it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:26 PM
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Wow I guess it really depends on what news you watch, because it’s all anyone is talking about as far I knew. Also all Reddit has been talking about as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:33 PM
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For real I don’t give answers to people in my life unless I can tell they did some research on their own first. My little brother has this down now. If you can’t be bothered to google it why should I bother to tell you shit? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:56 AM
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You’d have to find her Achilles heel. Like the former pickme stories on here, a lot of them are driven by normalization but rooted in low self esteem. She may also genuinely believe she has no other options. It’s frustrating as hell for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:50 PM
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I sort of have experience with this. Friend was with a LVM, he was abusive and I called it out miles ahead. I told her basically “he is a piece of shit, has been and always will be. You deserve the world and he is incapable of giving you that. I will never EVER be nice or kind to him, I will merely tolerated because I am your friend and that’s what matters to me.” Then I made sure to show up for her, I was one of her last friends and the only healthy one. It’s hard not to blow up because it’s so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:54 PM
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All of them except that one time I tried a hook up when I was in college. Hated it and never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:19 PM
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Bodywash. Most 3 in 1’s are hella stripping but the everybody soap is really moisturizing. Hand soap, body wash, nurishing shampoo. You don’t need a conditioner if you have short hair, it will get greasy af. I draw the line at proper skin care spf mainly and face moisturizer/lotion. Also properly manicured hands and feet. Feet are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:40 PM
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Exactly! At the time it was way easier to hack the hormones of women since there was a longer cycle to interrupt. That and there’s a natural off switch in women, pregnancy (also somewhat breastfeeding). The only time a guy isn’t making sperm is pre-puberty, you’d have to make a stop button on allll the “man” stuff lmao. I can’t wait for that silicone/polymer injections guys can get to be fully developed. No hormones it’s like a vasectomy you can end whenever you want, everything is still intact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:30 AM
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I am absolutely covered in tattoos, but I also naturally dress really modestly so nobody ever sees them. I was noticing a disconnect between the guys I was attracting IRL vs online and in the end I scrubbed my social media of any tattoos showing and it balanced out. it can attract the wrong type of guy, they get weeded out really quickly, but it’s easier not having to deal. Nobody has had anything negative to say once they found out I have them though. Guys with scratch flash art will have soooo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:49 PM
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Reddit is full of a bunch of actual children. A lot of people interact with people assuming they are like themselves or very close to themselves when in reality they are all over the board. Or actually one thing and pretending to be another. Anonymity doesn’t make people more honest as a rule it can be an open playground to escape and be someone else. Why they want to be terrible is probably the karma feedback loop, any reaction is a good reaction. Being a good commentator takes effort while bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:11 PM
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More like guys are so hell bent on seeing me they will move heaven and earth to be with me any chance they get. That’s the minimum. The more mundane tasks they can help me with the more open my schedule is for more proper dates. Or did you miss the part where I said these were guys I was already dating and not randos off tinder? I am not uncomfortable being serviced by the men in my life and should I chose one more permanently I expect nothing less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:42 AM
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You would have me send a guy to the dmv with my papers and take my photo for my license renewal? Lmao ok. I was already doing what I was doing, I would rather be entertained and be waited on while doing it. Why lift a finger or exhaust myself If I don’t have to? Doesn’t make sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:32 AM
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I’ve semi accidentally dragged, no, baited men into going with me to do the most mundane tasks/things. They brought me food and coffee to the Laundry mat, joined me at ikea, the dmv, grocery shopping, came to me when my tire popped on a nail with coffee and car Jack then switched it out, drove me 3 hours out of the way to pick up something I forgot, to the mall where they inevitably buy me something I like without me asking. You ever see that picture of Dita von tease when she dropped her umbrel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:25 AM
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I have a long sleeve rash guard(?) I wear for swimming I only have to apply sunscreen on my face, part of my neck, hands, and half my calf down. It’s basically a catsuit. I love it 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:55 AM
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There was no aggression...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:32 PM
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If you were actually old school you would let men pay for dates. He offered, he asked you to take time away from your busy life to pay attention to him as he tries to impress you. If you believe it is buying time then does that mean you believe you are free? I won’t pay a man to waste my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:01 PM
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90% of women and 10% of men have cellulite. Like you said it’s just the way that fat cells are arranged (sort of). It have nothing to do with fertility or even a thing that is necessarily a secondary sex characteristic as babies can have it. It’s Kinda like cables holding the skin down, the older you get, the thinner your skin gets or the fatter you get the more obvious it can look. Like a tufted couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:46 PM
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He’s actually a 18-19 year old looking dude talking about small penis problems and how he’s lonely and ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:30 PM
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Yup. I get gawked at from very far away but that’s it. Before guys would be grabbing and cornering me. Side note idk is guys just have shit object permanence but I wear big dark sunglasses everywhere and they seem to think I’m never looking at them look at me. My peripheral vision and use of reflective surfaces is stellar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:09 AM
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This sub has a problem. But I honestly don’t know why the need to drag decent people down when there are trillions of real LV behavior. He honestly reminds me of Lucifer from netflix, Tom Ellis the actor had to do a call out to get his fans to stop degrading his wife on social media. So more like the “audacity of pick-mes”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:14 PM
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I have no what the other poster said but in my culture there’s more match making going on that could be defined as arranged marriage. My great aunts know the history of all the families and has watched all the men my age grow up from babies into adults. They also saw me do the same and know my history. They makes suggestions and the aunties conspire in a good way to see if two people would try it out. I’ve dated quite a few pure strangers and honestly now that I know what I want, I went back to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:03 AM
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They were making fun of colorist/racist pick-mes that were making mean comments about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:44 AM
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Dude they are so fucking cute! After watching it and the way the were goofing around with the mean comments the pic makes totally sense. Idk why people refuse to look Into anything or even manage a cursory google search before posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:42 AM
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Welcome to bird facts! Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:18 AM
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Oh god the wolf pack stuff kills me. Mostly the alpha bull crap. Like of course the other wolves are deferential to the “alpha” male and female. That’s their parents, that’s how that works. Ugh! Lmao. Don’t get me started on people that take the “man” out of “woman”. The etymology nerd in me seethes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:18 AM
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Don’t do anything you don’t want to do forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:47 PM
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I threw my kid up a tree while I got attacked by three giant ass German Shepard dogs. Still got PTSD from that but my kid can’t remember it and she was only confused why she was in a tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:45 PM
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Can’t get on board with the crow hate. Eagles are dumb jocks who let their young die because why not? Crows are incredible social creatures that raise and defend their chicks well into adulthood. They court and make art for their significant others. Very wolves of the sky types, even caring for injured family members. Crows will go toe to toe with eagles, huge ass herons, vultures and owls to protect their family. Like c’mon. Also the whole passing out thing is just regular BS. Eagles hang out a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:31 PM
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I get off on weird things like consent, respect and investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:12 AM
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Oh yeah then I’d definitely put more weight into them trying to neg you. Honestly do it right back lmao. “Huh? Why? Should I know you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:23 PM
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Not defending them but just want to point out that I’m face blind. Not totally, I’m in the mid range somewhere. Everyone looks the same to me, I have to go by how they react to me to gauge if we’ve met before and how. Or I just have to be familiar friendly to everyone just in case (exhausting). Having said that I tend to go after interesting people specifically because I can recognize them. A distinct walk, a distinct voice, mannerisms, tattoo, style etc. Obviously my experience is my own and if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:33 PM
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I thought they do that for attention? So I get a little notification or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:12 PM
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Happy cake day op!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:57 PM
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I’d recommend it, it’s a very good book. It was part of my mandatory reading for class. Idk how much you’d get out of it being a statistician already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:21 PM
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Yeah that book is showing you how statistics are manipulated. Unless op can remember the titles of the other ones it kinda just shows he probably has an education? Literally judging a book by its cover. But I guess I need to turn some books over now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:18 PM
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I don’t touch people, gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:57 AM
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I never fucking understand this! When I go out I get myself the nice shit. My drink itself is usually $7 (bloody Starbucks) and I get whatever food I want. If I went on a date and they tell me what I can’t have? What a waste of time, I could have just taken myself out to eat and I’d do it better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:55 AM
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Tell me how this isn’t a man child? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:33 AM
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Yeah I’m confused about this as well. Why the hell is he not blocked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:49 PM
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Your welcome to read his comments. But it’s more exasperation at how low the bar is and how pathetic others are for not managing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:18 PM
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Honestly not used to the comments not being a shit show. I figured this could be a pallet cleanser from the pickme post spewing garbage for male approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:20 PM
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Shit man I hope the other states do this and fuck make it retroactive lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:21 PM
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My page is full of my art and nature shots. My feed is full of cooking videos, fabric draping, cats, memes, and fashion. The algorithm shows you what your looking for, just tell it what you want. Or you can get off completely if you want, up to you obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:13 PM
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I really does just depend on your area. In my case tinder was full of guys in camo, with jacked up trucks and holding a dead animal. Hinge on the other hand was full of professionals that happened to fish/hike/hunt as a hobby. Also the race went from majorly white on tinder to reflection an accurate amount of POC present in the community and surrounding areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:30 AM
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I feel this. I also have a shallow vagina lmao. Even after an hour and a full body massage it top of at 5” if I’m being generous but I prefer positions that need more that that to reach. The 5.6” thick dude seems like it would work but honestly 6”-7” is it and that’s still slightly above average.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:39 AM
28

It’s fake. It’s just showing of a cute ring, somebody else added a story to it for likes I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:05 AM
1

I know the basic stuff I’m just saying that to illustrate the situation. I don’t know how to word that to not sound rude, not my intention. I can burn and kill a crush in 2 seconds, that’s not the issue. I’m just throwing that out there because I don’t need assistance on the basics it’s the other stuff like you mentioned. The last few paragraphs was exactly what I’m looking for, thank you. I don’t know anyone that has been in this particular situation that is also aligned with FDS. The last para…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:01 AM
1

We’ve never been single at the same time. We’ve been just missing each other nearly our entire lives. I’m uncomfortably comfortable around him and his brothers. It’s just a situation I’ve never encountered before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:05 PM
5

They are amazing. I love stones with “flaws” I think their so much more interesting to look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:08 PM
2

He treats me like a HVW because he’s a HVM. I just don’t know how far to back up from our closeness to be formally dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:18 AM
11

Oh my standards for him are higher because I know how HV he is. I expect most guys to be disappointing, I’m pleasantly surprised if they’re actually able to jump the bar. He’s also never treated me with the outmost respect. He was raised correctly, his mom is awesome. When he asked me out and I paused to think he apologized because he forgot to offer to pay for my babysitter. He said he didn’t want me having to worry about money when I’m with him. That’s just how he is, he’s just that considerat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:15 AM
6

Oh going romantic will not be the problem. You could power a small city from the nuclear fusion in the space between us it’s all the other stuff I’ve never had to navigate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:31 AM
37

I did this! I have a giant white gold onyx and diamond ring. I put it on my finger and I couldn’t take it off it was meant to be. I want to upgrade later to a salt and pepper diamond but I haven’t found a stone that sings to me yet. I’m this 👌🏽 close to talking to it like Smegel but I literallyusr it as a reflecting pool. Like a magic 8 ball on my hand lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:43 AM
7

Seahorse fathers for the win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:43 PM
95

He’s talking about her like a product. This is his review even though he has absolutely nothing to do with her or let alone saw her. Like “What this eyeshadow pallet is $120 this shit better do my taxes and fill my tank for $120.” That kind of thing. But this reeks of sugar baby stuff, she just has 2 daddies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:50 PM
145

Let me guess instead of hiring more teachers/adults to supervise and protect the wellbeing of children or even creating mandatory consent education passes they will just ban scissors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:25 PM
2

Yeah classic, “well I didn’t want to play with you anyway!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:38 AM
70

Children are having regression issues during quarantine. Phases you thought they were over are cropping back up and often worse then they were the first time around. Bed wetting, picking fights, acting out and tantrums are all spiking. Pediatricians and child psychiatrist are saying it’s common and these men just need to go home to mommy/daddy and leave the rest of us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:25 PM
39

Has anyone talked to her? The girl is already on Reddit and already having to deal with this bullshit, she should join the community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:59 AM
10

Yes and no. I took criticism from the HVW in my life that have HVM as husbands. I did have a few to many yellow flags in the red flag category. My rules weren’t as nuanced or curated at the time. The pendulum swung to the exact opposite of where I was previously at so it was pure reaction. I ended up mislabeling a lot, my friends would question me and I would just dig in. But I mulled things over and actually adjusted some things. I got rid of a lot of just arbitrary rules. I’m more balanced now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:43 AM
87

Yeah I see no problem with the post/art. Dudes supporting dudes. As long as they get away from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:08 AM
25

Or the secret camera shit or hacked webcams like fuck no where is safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:43 PM
34

Seriously she’ll be taking care of him and his mess as well as the new baby/postpartum recovery/breastfeeding(?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:04 PM
64

I want to see the comment!!! I got my popcorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:36 PM
35

Just straight up “DID I fucking ask?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:32 PM
47

If we had universal education as well as healthcare(mental health included) and childcare then he fuck we need dudes for ever? Kidding... ish. I mean if all the base maslows needs are meet and women never had to consider men because they needed anything other than companionship I think more women will either stay single or start implementing FDS wether they know about us or not. Look how many relationships are a byproduct of fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:27 PM
4

So you want cops to throw victims of sex trafficking in jail? I don’t understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:55 AM
15

Correct me if I’m wrong but I see no problem with this. Decriminalizing sex work doesn’t mean it’s legal or partaking is legal, it just means that women are not criminalized but the men around her are (johns, pimps, traffickers). There’s no reason the polices should be going after women for this and throwing them in jail that’s fucked. As far as this has been explained to me it puts the heat on everyone but the victims. Where before women were being punished for being victims because they were t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:07 AM
6

None so far irl. I have the face for it. If they have virtually Ive never noticed. I’m not a friendly warm person though so that probably plays into it. Usually they tuck tail and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:06 PM
16

A “I’m sorry you went through that it. That must have been rough, I hope your in a better place now” yes I weaponize empathy. It’s my favorite souvenir from the south. Along the lines of “bless your heart” lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:51 PM
7

You mute his phone calls and messages right because that looks like it would be belle annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:29 AM
29

She’s a real life Megara 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:56 PM
4

They are the trigger, but it’s a study they have word things that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:48 AM
3

Hmm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:51 AM
12

“Then dance ya geriatric goblin” me at Home Depot yesterday. Got the wad of cash out and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:55 PM
31

I fucking LoVE ready to glare! That is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:40 PM
17

if possible record the interaction next time. Also isn’t that just illegal in general he tried to get you to prostitute yourself for weed.... can you get a recording of that from any security cameras, if there are any and hopefully it has audio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:36 PM
13

These are the types of profiles that hound you. I never swipe on , like them. But they go through my profile and get to my insta or do a reverse image search and find my other stuff, twitter linked in. You block them on one and they pop up somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:26 PM
36

Nah that feels right. Being put on a pedestal early on is a red/yellow flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:18 PM
6

I figured I’d hate it. I did. So incredibly realistic expectations I guess. I am a romantic person but I don’t see romance in Hollywood or Disney. The only couple I gave any credit to was Morticia and Gomez Addams. I made the decision to never get married or have kids in daycare. If only I could have stayed firm on the former, the later isn’t terrible if you can do it on your own and have resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:31 AM
35

“Sounds like you can use the practice! 10,000hrs to mastery they say!” Is what I say to my siblings when they tried that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:03 AM
7

Thank you! I don’t want to get FDS in trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:39 PM
17

Wait so you saying if someone was describing narcissistic parents on a FDS post I shouldn’t actually write out the “are slash children of narc”. Or do you mean writing out “are slash FDS” on other sub posts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:09 PM
4

I consider her an honorary goth. She hangs with the “devil” making deals, dark hair, purple clothes. It’s as close as Disney could get. She’d fit in with the Addams family lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:58 PM
71

Thanks for bringing in the background info.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:05 PM
19

For that time meg and Mulan were revolutionary. My mom said people were freaking out because meg wasn’t a virgin and whoah boy. I guess it’s similar to the shit people tried to throw when that one guy in beauty and the beast (live action) was gay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:56 PM
25

Oh yeah for sure. I was addressing her character in the movie only. But Hera from myth is... wow. Goddess of pick-me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:25 AM
40

Exactly her position was neutral, she just stop doing her job because he “didn’t have a weakness”. Hades was the one to kidnap her when he realized she was the weakness. She saves Hercules but she was already damned so she had nothing gain, she just believed in him, that he was a HVM. That he was a good person, she was right he killed himself to save her and his sacrifice turned him into a full god. She’s a very gray moral/ethical character, I like her. I still think former pick-me fits better. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:23 AM
95

Wait it’s been a while since I saw the movie. How is she a pick-me? Her past lover/husband stabbed her in the back. If anything she would be a former pick-me. A real pick-me is Hera my god that woman is the reason Hercules had a trail to begin with. She blamed everyone and everything but her husband for her husbands insane amount of infedelity and would see the world burn to get revenge instead of dumping his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:03 AM
10

That’s why I use the government one. It uses Bluetooth and your data is encrypted. The government is already in my pocket anyway, but at least I can keep it out of randos. If a place I have been to has a case I get an alert. If I get a positive test I can tell the app anonymously. Canada by the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:03 AM
41

Learned helplessness. They know it will get done if they just inconvenience all the women around them. Soon as another dude walks into the picture all of a sudden they’re all freaking engineers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:48 PM
21

When I worked with a bunch of men, they tried to get me to do all those things. “Hey radioactivJoy can you do X?” “Oh I don’t know how to do that” “oh it’s easy all you have to do is X, Y, and then Z” “oh sounds like you know what your doing/your really good at that” then walk away and tell someone else that original dude is doing the X thing and he’s really thoughtful and good at it. So he can’t back out of it. One dude cleaned a whole table showing me how to clean a table... their gets woman t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:22 PM
8

If you have a friend or relative that you know for sure isn’t a pick-me you can always have them help create a profile for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:12 PM
21

A day trip to a place your familiar with sure, maybe after a bunch of dates. Overnight? Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:01 PM
53

I almost reflexively downvoted this because I hate it. What the absolute fuck, I hope CPS is all over this woman. There’s no way she didn’t endanger her children and enable their victimization and she needs to be prosecuted as well as that bag of shit she’s protecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:53 PM
13

ANTHONY! Hah! Omg I nearly died choking on my drink when I read that 🤣👌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:00 PM
39

Trauma bonds are no joke, fr glad op broke them. But every time I read references to breaking trauma bonds all I can think of is this scene from spirited away. Wish it was that easy irl. Edit: spelling as usual 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:54 PM
5

Exactly! Glad you have a good therapist as well lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:59 PM
10

It’s because pedo in pedophile is the same one in pediatrics. It’s small children before puberty. hebephile is for children that have started puberty and oblephile* is when they are post puberty but still not an adult. Nepophilia is infants... yeah. Most people call all of them pedophiles. To quell the confusion and to be more inclusive of teenage victims they (the law enforcement agencies and child victims advocates) created a catch all term. The bonus points is because it’s not “pedophile” mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:44 PM
15

This is the difference between parenting subs and single parenting subs. Parenting subs are 80% “my husband/boyfriend isn’t doing anything” I know it’s not just as easy to get up and walk away. In abusive situations it’s one of the most dangerous parts of a relationship. But hell is it not easier to not have to deal with their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:24 PM
37

Exactly you have to be standing on your own two feet before you can even think about guys. They are not your savior, only you can do that op. If you get into a relationship with someone and they turn on you, you need to be sure you always have the ability to walk away. Otherwise things can get dangerous. Also being unstable in your situation is like blood in the water for NVM you have a harder time of it wading through the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:16 AM
30

Is he sitting on the toilet? Edit: that the look my moms cat gives me when he poops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:01 AM
67

The silver lining with deep fakes is you can claim all images of you naked and or engaged in activities are fake. I have literal revenge porn floating around also some deep fakes, I call it all fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:39 AM
12

This feels like a job for Ai honestly. Let the robots do the sorting and gathering of preliminary data and they can hand off to actual humans who can be listening the whole time. They can chose to have the robot babysit the breathers, have a person babysit multiple robots. But also how is it not illegal? Can’t people be charged for calling 911 with false or non-emergencies be fined?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:36 AM
25

Better to send it back as non deliverable. I had to go into the post office and tell them, yes I live at (adress) but I need it sent back as non-deliverable or resident is not at address. I explained the situation and they were incredibly helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:10 PM
2

I am young. Idk is mid twenties young? I just hang out with my grandparents more than people my own age. I have a ton of cousins my own age that are amazing. It’s just every time I venture out of that bubble it’s so far been unpleasant. With the exception of one. I’m an extrovert tough so I keep trying. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:51 PM
17

My mentors are older business owning lesbians. It’s just how it worked out. I am technically an entrepreneur but I get along very very few of others that use that label. A bunch of backstabbing saboteurs. I have no energy to deal with their shit so I hang out with other people that are also to tired to deal with that shit. We’re all collectively to lazy to create drama but we still have energy to support one another. Also once you find one, usually they know people or are friends with others sim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:39 PM
88

I would masterbate before even looking at OLD. Being horny with OLD is like shopping drunk. No bueno.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:46 AM
96

The same guys that say women talk to much are the ones complaining about “the silent treatment”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:43 AM
3

I took the same program she did. It’s extensively covered and I have no idea how so passed or maybe the info fell out of her ears when she graduated? Idk 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:34 AM
8

Nope, I’m super dyslexic and handwriting or journaling never really worked for me. I was also never close to anyone at the time where talking about sex or relationship stuff made sense. I was able to help save my goddaughter though. I learned my lesson and when my girlfriend was with in an abusive relationship I refused to leave like her other “friends” did and I documented everything for her when she didn’t think it was necessary. She had a 3” binder of evidence when she went to court. So yeah …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:20 AM
7

By the time I had confirmed she was fucked she had dropped out of the field. By the time I needed her notes she apparently didn’t take she was already dead from ovarian cancer. The other have dropped out as well. I met one working at wallmart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:35 AM
8

I don’t have a real gut reaction. I don’t feel fear like normal people do so I have to rely on either experience (which I didn’t have) or those around me to sound the alarm. I am the kid that would have hopped into vans because puppies and I definitely sort of kind of did before. The benefit of having a resource like re-edit Is I get to learn vicariously through other experiences and see hundreds of reactions. This specific thread is even better because goal of all the advice is to protect women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:23 AM
5

Yeah I ended up going to school to be a councilor because I didn’t trust anyone anymore so I went to learn how to fix it myself. The person I have now is wonderful, it took a year of testing her to be okay with her. She mainly is a person I have to keep me accountable for the work I’m doing with myself though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:12 AM
18

Wow this is so eerily similar. Everything was chalked up to my inexperience or my fault for existing essentially. It was drilled into my head that this was the natural conclusion of having a body like mine, I should be grateful, this is what real love means. It’s all so absolutely fucked. One of the original counselors during my first escape attempt never even wrote down all the info I gave her so now that I may be needing to get a lawyer involved to keep my child safe it looks like I just made …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:09 AM
18

Oh yeah. In an attempt to educate myself I actually went to college in a fast tract program for counseling/social service work. Nobody there hasn’t had anything happen to them and the majority of them weren’t even fully processed from the trauma. I didn’t count myself among that group because I never intended to use my education in the field. But yeah I would go to maybe 2 people out of the 70+, my classmates were fucked and hope to god they matured if they end up in front of someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:57 PM
26

Someone else posted about pick-me friends being dangerous and I didn’t want to derail her post as I don’t know much about reddit etiquette.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:27 PM
71

“Indeed” “Of course” “I’m aware” “So I’ve been told”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:36 AM
137

“Lois! Lois! Lois! Lois! Lois! Mom! Mom! Mom! Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! Momma! Momma! Momma! Ma! Ma! Ma! Ma! Mom! Mom! Mom! Mom! Mommy! Mommy! Momma! Momma! Momma!” That’s all I see when I see posts like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:19 AM
1

I didn’t either but I still understand the benefits. You plant the seeds of trees who’s shade you’ll never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:35 PM
22

It’s not that girls should stop playing with dolls it’s that boys should also be playing with baby dolls. It’s teaching empathy and compassion for something/someone outside of yourself and both sides need that skill. Just like both sides need critical thinking and science, gendering an aspect of humanity and society negates the whole human experience and both sides suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:15 PM
21

Yeah I was pretty sure the ending with the police report and wink about going out with a bang made it obvious. Edit: I guess from the comments she posted it’s actually not a joke. God damn so close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:03 AM
1

I’ve only ever seen the Facebook age in the opposite direction. Because kids were lying saying they were 18 (or whatever) to get the account. But I mean that’s for 12 ish kids adding 5 or 6 years not this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:34 AM
82

The only person I’m climbing mountains or swimming seas for is my kid and I’ll met my siblings and mom half way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:57 PM
31

It’s always “normal” or “natural” until you start treating them like they treat you. Then they flip shit. But we’re all older now and dump and block instead of wasting our time right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:12 PM
78

I guess he’s trying to prepare her for her new life taking care of another human. It’s a 2 for 1 deal you see? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:24 PM
31

That’s the brain on abuse my friend. It’s a hell of a drug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:39 PM
18

He really seems like a “your a target once your in his line of sight type dude” I had a stalker like that. I just walked past him at a mall. All his little letters were about the fury I didn’t notice him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:36 PM
5

Grace and Frankie is amazing and sweet magnolia is in my list but I am not looking forward to the ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:31 PM
10

They mold a new face ??? No idea lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:27 PM
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I have no problem with this, at least he is isn’t dragging a poor woman down with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:32 PM
21

The young Victoria. The actual history is not as cute but the movie is. Santa Clarita diet on netflix. A zombie wife and husband have to navigate being “normal” parents. Morticia and Gomez Adams in any Adams family. Practical magic Julia Roberts is in it and it’s all about sisterhood and yeah witches. Edit: this is a list of couples that actually have healthy relationships, there’s still drama of course but the way they resolve it all and fight through is refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:41 AM
6

“Yeah that is incredibly weird, most of the men I meet are professionals who know how to properly interact with industry professionals. Perhaps your not cut out to be in (field). “ then I’d screen shot and send it to his boss. I know I would want to know if my employees where out harassing and demeaning people while representing my company. Fucking fire their ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:19 PM
63

Aww he mad lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:54 PM
64

I still remember that “put a donut around your boyfriends dick and eat it” as a foreplay suggestion... like wtf? Very men writing women type tips 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:58 AM
80

You have to be the high end version of whatever your style happens to be. There’s a difference between hot topic goth and Alexander McQueen goth. Just like Angelica Huston as Morticia doesn’t look cheap or lord McLain for that matter. It’s all in the execution. If you look cheap then your going to be treated like your cheap. Does the guy your trying to attract align with what your presenting yourself as?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:32 AM
64

Isn’t it nice when trash takes themselves out though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:12 AM
33

It’s specifically talking about physical abuse outside of sexual situations. Like if a guy hits you when he’s mad and then one day chokes you as well, the next step is usually killing you. It’s how they work up to it. Same with animal abuse and serial killers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:57 PM
3

Thank you I’m just at a détente with my sewing room right now. Nothing fits off the rack my shape is to weird, but I keep trying anyway to prolong the torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:39 AM
2

Oh god no. I just want to be able to buy a shirt from a store and have it actually fit for once. I have to hand make nearly everything and it annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:33 AM
5

100% silk and fits my very particular body type :( I’m gonna end up making my own -.-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:44 PM
4

They don’t fit me right. I need particular darting. So I keep seeing what I can’t have :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:43 PM
26

They need to find a way to reject woman outright so they can continue the self soothing lie that the reason they’re single is because “bitches” and not have to confront the reality that they are in fact the problem. Edit: just wanted to add that this mechanism is also what keeps conspiracy theories alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:52 PM
52

My god I want that emerald cami though! I’ve been hunting for one forever 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:30 PM
1

I get there have been posts by negligent fathers that do the bare minimum and specify they don’t want a single mom on their profile and expect the single way to young for them girlfriend to mother their kids. I just don’t see evidence of that here. I’m not a fan of kids in profiles myself, I don’t do it. If there was something else on the profile op saw that we can’t then I’m open to change my mind but until then this seems neutral with a dash of dad humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:53 PM
15

He didn’t say anything that leans that way. All he says is half kid other half girlfriend. That’s how the guys in my parent group do it so that’s my bias, you have your own bias.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:15 PM
13

No, the other half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:00 PM
15

A lot of restrooms don’t have changing tables even in the women’s bathroom let alone the guys bathroom. When I’m out with my parent group sometimes I have to take my friends baby because it just doesn’t exist in his bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:51 PM
26

I don’t take criticism from someone I would never ask advice from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:04 PM
15

Oooh shit! Yeah xD thank for breaking it down for my dumb ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:33 AM
23

I am so out of the loop on this, are v necks a douche outfit? Like fedoras are to nice guy™
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:04 AM
17

Dump and REPORT him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:05 PM
11

So he knew what he should have been doing all along but actively decided not to because reasons. Idk if you want kids at all, but for the sake of this example I’m going to assume you do. Imagine having a kid with this guy? He’s the dude that doesn’t wake up for cries, you have to ask him to do every little thing and narrate every step every single time because he’s hoping you’ll get frustrated enough to just do it all yourself, but not frustrated enough to leave. That’s how you end up on breakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:02 PM
8

My friend was dating a NVM that previously was semi stalking me and trying to get with me before wearing my friend down. I still went to her place even if he was there. I’m “nice” to everyone, I don’t let others behavior or insignificant status make me lose my manners. Doesn’t mean I treat the goblin the same, id just keep him at the very base minimum and treat everyone else around them with warmth. Being mean takes energy and I have none to give to such people. Being completely ignored I found …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:29 AM
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You get stared by men when they think your vulnerable or pliable. I was an ugly duckling, I am objectively better looking now then when I was in my early 20’s and I don’t get stared at nearly as often. The only times it happens now is if I’m sick or injured and I’m walking around in glorified sweats and haven’t done anything with my anything. That’s when I get swarmed, because it looks like “I’m attainable” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:09 PM
4

Wow are you me? Lmao the thing I found that helped me the most is using my passion and charisma on those around me and not the guy I’m with. Anyone really, the cashier, a friend I run into, the waiter, a kid sitting across from me. Dude I’m with doesn’t get that warmth but he can see it, he can see the passion and the charm. Then I turn back to him and I let the silence hang as long as he wants. I can come off cold, I have a dangerous sexy aura and it can very easily intimidate men. But when the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:29 AM
1

Based on what I heard the breakup was amicable. similar to what you described she couldn’t fit her furniture in her new place, so when she upgraded she came back to get it. He knew this ahead of time and planned nothing and then did nothing after it happened. I heard he said something to her and in a flash of pettiness I can get behind she showed him exactly where he’d be without her intervention. So what I learned is he never spent any money on anything to improve his and her life or improve ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:04 PM
5

Oh I was thinking more along the lines as the boyfriend is the foster pet. But I forgot the humans are called foster parents as well. Brain fart my bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:13 AM
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Wouldn’t it be more like she keeping foster boyfriends until they find their forever homes? Am confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:01 AM
8

I work with his mom in a professional setting. I matched with him later on. I had to ask him because he’s from the community my grandfather came from and my grandfather had 12 brothers and sisters so I had to make sure we weren’t related. I have a very good relationship with his mother and she’s incredible. She thought it was a good match and endorsed it. We had gone on 4 or 5 dates before the apartment thing. He was broken up with his girlfriend a long time before that (I think a year). I’m sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:42 PM
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The fist thought he had from the question “who is your dream man/woman to have sex with?” Was the instructor. He read the question and thought to himself “who do I want to have sex with?” And though the instructor. A couple sentences later he’s like “I never even thought of having sex with her!” Like dude you just did. You admitted it two sentences ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:35 PM
42

Omg! I wasn’t exactly that girl but close. I was dating and this dude and he invited me over for a date since he know how to cook and his complex had this outdoor area he shares with his floor. (I knew his mom so it wasn’t sketch) but me being the anxious person I am arrived in the area three hours early to go shopping. He’s texting me, trying to not get me to show up or to go straight to the outdoor spot and not his apartment. I sense a sore spot so after a little pressure, Well... dude has no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:33 PM
36

Look up neck beard nests if you want nightmares. Some dude are just better at hiding the ugly until your confronted with the mattress on the floor, a lawn chair instead of a couch, styrofoam plates, and a gigantic 8k tv on the wall. Nah imma pass on that, thank you next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:59 AM
2

I’ve been recruiting/Welcoming? a lot of women from the parenting sub. Corona is making things painfully clear to a lot of moms. Their husbands had the halo/Benefit of the doubt when they were working full time. Now they don’t have that excuse to fall back on and their true natures are being laid bare and it’s uuuuugggly. It’s hard not to go full Shia LeBeouf motivational speech about how they need to leave the damn man child. C’mon just do it! Do it! Don’t let your dreams stay dreams! Dooooo ii…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:42 AM
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I didn’t downvote you? If you can tell by reading the other comments and likes a lot of us have experience with guys that have a naked mattress on the floor. Those guys think it’s fine, and I think it’s fine to have a standard that a guy I’m interested in to have a bed frame. It’s one of those pesky high standards of mine. I really don’t know why you brought Japanese futons into the discussion, that’s not at all what the meme is referring to. This meme just isn’t for you and that’s also fine. Ed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:32 AM
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Their $12 at junk/thrift stores. I had to start all over once, habitat for humanity and kajiji were my bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:12 AM
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Twin beds aren’t for multiple people, that’s why it’s called a single. Full or doubles are totally fine. Keeping beds on floors is asking for mold and mildew, which can be straight up deadly. Japanese Futons need to be put away everyday and get moved as well as put outside to be aired out. That’s not what these guys are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:48 AM
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The original was a blank version created by Russian artist Alena Sofronova.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:57 AM
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Yikes. I’m sure her man is fine with her sticking it up his ass whenever, whether he’s sleeping, doing dishes or cooking. She his rider after all, his other half. That’s how that works /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:40 AM
28

For real idk how that keeps getting glossed over ewwww times a million.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:21 AM
9

Omg lmao. I have met many a fine lady and even the day after tastes like pure metal and wow. Even with my dedication to my craft that was difficult, hopefully he has a dental dam or poor taste buds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:08 PM
10

Why did you say sorry? Or do I have it mixed up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:55 AM
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Ugh I can’t tell if you got the joke? It’s a towel so you don’t stain the sheets with period blood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:20 AM
9

If it was a woman complaining that men weren’t matching her wit and conversational needs because they were an average joe but otherwise being nice and respectful, then yeah I could definitely see that. It would be rude and pretentious in that case. But it’s dudes she already talked to, decided weren’t worth her time or she just was busy at work and their great idea to win back her attention is to whip out their dongs. I think we can all agree the side that flashes unconsenting parties with their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:16 PM
3

Oooh I was quoting different part of the post I don’t think google cared where in the text I got the quote. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:06 PM
5

I was thinking needle point style but this is also cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:15 PM
5

I was going to illustrate it. But I’m having a hard time finding the source. I’d like to give her credit for the quote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:14 PM
9

That’s why I stopped scrolling through the regular dating subreddits. Unsavory guys were just giving each other tips on how to hide the ugly. I’d rather see this crap at first glance so I don’t have to waste my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:05 AM
5

Seriously spf isn’t a tool of the patriarchy to make you feel bad. Cerave and the 1nkey list are hella cheap and effective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:00 AM
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I would normally agree but you’d lose the opportunity to see how he handles straight rejection. It’s a good shit test even if op did want to kiss him as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:53 PM
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It’s an analogy, not literal. You can either accept how things are or do something to get the best out of the body you have. I don’t want cancer, if preventing that leads to becoming an immortal goddess along the way, that’s a bonus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:40 PM
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It’s the same thing with fitness, it’s easy to fall into genetic fatalism. You can blame your genes or you can acknowledge that drinking 2 liters of coke, having a diet full of very processed foods and a sedentary lifestyle is contributing to something and not at all optimal for your body. Using skin products that staving off damage is healthy, optimal and is preventing cancer. Skin care MARKETING is sexist but the act of caring for you skin is just healthy, like brushing you teeth or wiping you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:19 PM
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Skin aging is 90% sun damage. Using products that block uv rays, help with cell turnover and free radical damage is a good way to prevent cancer. Guys SHOULD be using more products as well to keep their biggest organs healthy. The skin is also our first defense against infection and viruses, making sure it’s healthy and can do its job correctly and optimally is in our best interest. Melanoma is incredibly common and the sun is a gigantic death ray destroying everything in its path and I respect …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:07 PM
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I never took it as looking younger than your age but just looking your age a healthy person. Most people just look older than they are because of poor diet/sleep/skincare and were used to seeing that so when someone is healthy they are perceived to look younger than they actually are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:15 PM
4

She doesn’t like it, doesn’t want it, why keep it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:42 AM
27

It’s not a one and only thing it’s ranked choice. Which of them is most important or special in your eyes. If you and your partner rank them in completely opposite ways it leads to confusion and miscommunication. I love giving gift but I hate receiving them. Which can be confusing for people until I explain it. The love languages just gives you the language to articulate what order of things is optimal for you to feel loved and secure in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:38 PM
25

Seriously who does that? Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:30 PM
42

It’s actually how a lot of Native American societies were set up. That and a general matriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:34 PM
122

Move into a mansion with a bunch friends golden girls style. Everyone has their private quarters with a bathroom and Kitchenette. There’s common areas with a full kitchen and living area, maybe a pool and gigantic backyard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:05 PM
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I know mgtow and redpillers plot a lot of brigades to bring spaces down while pretending to be women. For men going their own way they can’t seem to stay away from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:50 AM
36

Was it actual women or guys larping as women again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:35 AM
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Also I never understood why? What does that information serve to do? Nothing outside of fantasy. The only person that should be asking people about their underwear are doctors/gynecologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:33 PM
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I met a bunch of really amazing men. It just didn’t work because our futures didnt align. I have a very particular vision of my life. I have land and will be building my forever home so I can take care of my grandmother as she gets older. I don’t mind going on vacations or having property in another country that we could visit. But my home is my home, I’m not leaving. I seem to attract/be attracted to men with careers or jobs that can make them move to a new country or across the continent. Ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:35 PM
4

Honestly the little mermaid kinda reminds me of Zuku from avatar the last airbender. He thought he need his father to restore his honor my catching the avatar. Spoilers. In the end he moved beyond his father and got his honor back himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:48 PM
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I just act like it’s something they didn’t know and are sharing it with me like a child shared a new discovery. “Oh yeah you didn’t know that?” Works better in person of course, you need that facial expression, voice, and body language to really drive it in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:31 PM
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Dude no that’s not the point of the story. Mermaids like about 300 years but they have no souls, so when they die there’s no heaven for them they just turn into sea foam. But if they can get a mortal to love them and marry them they will get a soul of their own. So she wants to live forever and goes to a sea witch who tells her her plan is stupid but tells her she can make a potion that will give her legs. But! The transformation will be incredibly painful and her feet will feel like knives and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:22 AM
12

Eww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:30 AM
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Oh so like how they can’t hear babies crying, or how their eyes can’t see the pubes on the sink, or the dirty clothes on the ground? Riiight. Brains pay attention to what they find important. Single fathers have no problem hearing babies cry and real men have no problem seeing dirt in their house to clean it. I have an actual audio processing disorder. That just mean I have to try harder to absorb and decode language than the average bear. The music sounds is actually how I describe it to people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:26 PM
17

I keep a card in my wallet. It devides the Ernest from the fishers real quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:10 AM
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If you’ve ever read any incel/mgtow stuff they basically say it outright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:43 AM
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I can see how your confused, we are all prisoners to our own perceptions after all. I don’t keep men in my house, probably never will. With a FWB situation I get all the benefits of a boyfriend without any of the negatives. Consistent amazing sex between two people that care for and respect each other is like an Alex gray painting. He is a HVM I wouldn’t be with him in any shape or form otherwise. I just don’t want what he wants. He wants marriage and children and I think that’s gross. Maybe one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:12 PM
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I see your not familiar with the darker arts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:38 PM
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I’m not conventionally attractive and that’s fine by me. I don’t think conventional is all that attractive. I’m “exotic” (barf) but it’s true. I have an otherworldly quality that’s difficult to pin point and I’m incredibly captivating. My friends say I look like alien royalty and I find that suits me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:56 AM
1

Is there crossover there with r/nofap ? It seems like most of the guys there have figured out how terrible porn and excessive masturbation is for themselves and their relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:30 PM
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I think non-vanilla has its place and the acrobatic stuff is fun to try and you get a laugh out of it. The weird experiments give an option for giggly bonding moments. Kinda breaks you out of a routine and have fun with things. Like those tantric position of the day calendars, it’s cute and who knows you may find a gem. The difference is that it’s not the ONE AND ONLY thing that can get you/them there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:17 PM
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Damn that’s some good calculations. Get to the thank you ma’m quicker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:10 PM
5

Very r/im12andthisisdeep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:52 PM
16

Not even actual ugly guys. If their actually good looking but feel ugly, they still act the same as a ugly dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:08 PM
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A book this reminds me of is ”who cooked the last supper.” it's about the invisible work of slaves and women and how they made possible the Renaissance men we idolize today. You don't become great philosopher, business leader, fluent in 8 languages and master of instruments if you have to make your bed, do your laundry or raise your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:51 PM
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Da fuck? If I was blind I’d still consider that a red ass flag lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:17 AM
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It’s so weird, my community is the opposite families with all boys are considered “dead” you’d have a curse of all boys so to speak and the family dies out. Families with strong energy have lots of girls 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:14 AM
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Well it’s not impossible, but definitely not common. Orgasms are nearly completely mental for me, the physical helps for sure though. So making out would often be enough for an orgasm for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:57 PM
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They are somewhat helpful when picking people though. Since it’s popular, most guys that can will or have and I can better avoid them. Body hair is gross. Chest hair? Shoulder hair? Back hair? Guys with furry leggings? Nah no way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:21 AM
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I don’t want to get married. I have absolutely no use for it. I already have a kid, maybe I’ll add another. But where I live if you live together they get all the “benefits” of marriage should we breakup. So yeah fuck that. I have a lot of land and an estate so I’m not risking my stuff for companionship. My sorta boyfriendish person jokes about getting houses close together but he would actually have to be about 15-30 minute drive away because he wouldn’t be able to get a house closer. He could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:29 PM
21

r/badwomansanatomy ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:39 AM
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The male friends I keep are like long lost brothers. Someone asked if we were dating and we both went “eww gross” not that he’s bad looking or sleezzy. It’s just no... he looks out for me and I look out for him. We never had sex or had any “moments”, we booth just bonded over something kinda super traumatic and we build snowforts and get over protective when we think each other is being disrespected. My actual sibling are way younger than me so it’s not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:04 PM
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Women get to live when they get respect from men. Where not 100 out of that world yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:17 AM
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I’ve never seen the appeal. But all the parties I’ve been to the girls would range together and the guys would dance not quite in a perfect circle the only time I’d dance with a guy is if it was kinda dance battle ish. The only people I’d grind with were other gays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:18 PM
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He thought he wanted a HVW but realized he can’t actually handle that and chose someone that will be dependent on him and look up to him. No idea how to word that so it doesn’t sound like I’m intentionally dragging the GF but the dude should have just gotten a dog. Save her and you the trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:47 PM
6

You can’t help drowning people. That’s for highly paid trained professionals to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:37 PM
13

Ego, it’s a power thing. He wanted to be the one to fuck you up and humiliate you. He knew you had feelings. You obviously came to your senses and cut ties. After the cut he’s floundering in the deep end and crying out just so he can drag you down with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:26 PM
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Pick a fake insecurity and see how he uses that information. Something you don’t care about or only care about in the smallest bit. So if he ever tries to stab you in the back with that info you can just laugh and walk away unscathed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:09 PM
3

I have an heir to my throne already. She being primed to carry on my legacy companies and non profits. I technically could retire at 35 but I would be so bored. I think I want another kid but my resolve isn’t 100% so I haven’t done anything about it other than keeping my body primed and healthy just in case. My FWB dude knows the deal. He’s offered me a child but... I’m in a critical juncture of my business and I’m not comfortable enough to take a few years off. I’m focused on my current heir an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:31 AM
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That last sentence is fucking creepy as all hell. You want to groom the perfect man from a young naive inexperienced boy... riiiight. In what world is that sane or in anyway inline with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:51 PM
4

I don’t have a son, but I have a really good relationship with my brother. There was a period where I wasn’t able to be in his life to much and when I care back I could tell he was watching some toxic YouTubers and I had to slowly turn that ship around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:43 PM
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It’s post like this and my relationship with my little brother that make me think there should be a separate sub for FDS moms. I know the whole thing that people are bashed in the head with is never mother men, but a lot of women are literally the mothers of boys and future men. Or in a general parental role be it aunts or older sibling type dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:58 PM
5

Nah don’t do that to Smudge he’s innocent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:56 PM
2

Did he contact you on the app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:23 AM
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That’s how I got out. Soon as the flags dropped I just smiled and said okay ☺️ started squirreling money, updating my wardrobe, education, taking the gym even more seriously, got my kid into private school until half a year later when he wanted to “have a talk” about “taking a break” I just smiled and said okay ☺️. Bitch bye. Then picked up my kid and moved into my new house. He had a girlfriend on the side he was hoping to transition to after. She found out about me and dumped him. The apartmen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:53 PM
21

Do I have to use my girlie promo model voice or can i keep my natural baritone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:58 AM
8

Go on the trips with dreamish dude and find your actual man on vacay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:25 AM
14

Those pictures/prints are from after the war. Rosie the rivière is more accurate. Women were nurses on the frontline and took over every single job left from the void of men back home. When men came back they wanted their jobs so they kicked women out and started propaganda to tell women that their place is in the home making babies and food. That when those prints are from. I get that’s not the point of the meme but. C’mon. The answer was right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:52 AM
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There’s a ton of nun sex scandals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:42 AM
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My bad. I forgot there’s about a bajillion spectrums lmao. But yeah a high functioning psychopathic friend is the way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:54 PM
3

Sociopathic spectrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:47 PM
9

Honestly the best solution is to get a friend that’s in the spectrum. Some people have a magnetism about them that attracts all kind of terrible people and the best defense is to have a friend that can sniff them out right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:41 PM
25

I hate this whole masculine and feminine garbage. I am who I am. In the same situation with the same interaction I can be perceived to be incredibly feminine or incredibly masculine. People find what they want to like or not like about me. All that matters is I jive with whoever I’m with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:53 AM
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HVM have no problem with FDS because it’s not a threat to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:41 PM
3

HVM are the minority so of course good SAHD would be rare. But the whole point of this sub is to wait for the right one and not settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:58 PM
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1)not every woman wants to breastfeed 2)most places outside of the US have parental leave for mothers and fathers. It’s for mothers to recover as well as fathers to bond and they get that time even if they adopt or hire a surrogate. 3) Women are raised to be nurturing. 4) The gender pay gap is the result of women taking time off work to raise children. Until men are culturally obligated and expected to take time off work to raise children it will stay that way. This of course is related to women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:48 AM
22

It’s easier to leave now than it is later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:58 AM
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If a guy told me he “doesn’t do casual sex and I expect to be courting you so you will not be paying for dates. If your not okay with that then I’ll innate you and wish you well” right off the bat Id be like wow this dude lacks social tact and unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:53 PM
31

You mean you don’t like having sex with a regular person that you know is safe and has been trained to your body and needs on speed dial to entertain you whenever you want like a sexual door dash? Because it’s fucking great on my end. I am a highly sexual being I’m not waiting around for anyone to get what I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:41 PM
8

That’s why you need to date multiple med and make them all wait. They either self select out or you demote them. Last man standing is golden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:07 PM
6

People that know enough to know how much they don’t know vs people who know so little they don’t understand how much they don’t know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:23 PM
5

They already can? They just have to relinquish their parental rights and then kid not their problem anymore. But they don’t so....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:05 PM
7

Same with guys that have a biggish or big dick. They think all they gotta do is put it in and nothing else 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:20 PM
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I think the majority of her judgment is because she went out her way to poke the bear the next day. He’s obviously unhinged she knew that from the conversation she had, no need to text him how he’ll never attract women with his attitude. Unless there’s a part she’s leaving out where he initiated and she’s failed to mention it. But the fact he threatens to call the police because his fee fees are hurt just shows exactly who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:10 PM
9

“My love is like whoah” by Mya. Technically the lyrics aren’t 100% perfect but whateves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:20 PM
13

I tend to ask people why they swiped just to see if there’s something I can be adjusting to get the results I want. It’s all part of branding, the feedback is helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:10 PM
1

All the schools in my area make you carry cash. I take my siblings out for a fancy lunch every now and then though since their surrounded by food places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:50 PM
1

Defend yourself if you have to even if it’s a girl isn’t the same thing as go out and beat up girls. You wanna get stuck on that one point. Most adults don’t go around assaulting one another but if he grows up and everything else fails and he has to punch a person in the shoulder to get away then yeah? Why not? It’s his body and he has a right to keep it safe and unharmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:39 PM
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No, there are women that hate being mothers and regret having children. They were sold a lie that their life is less than or incomplete without a husband and children. They get to the other side and it’s not what they expected. Also is supper fucking taboo for mothers to admit to wanting a do over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:31 PM
4

Have you ever looked into CBT or cognitive Behavioral Therapy? It’s actually rather simple. To summarize it very simply it’s becoming aware of how your “talk” to yourself (your head voice that narrates) assessing and giving it a new perspective. It’s one of the few therapies you can do for yourself and theres a book available that has been clinically tested and a has very good success rate. That can be a part of your emotional support repertoire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:47 PM
5

When you say bodies that are limited, I’m not sure if you mean a disability or lack of conditioning. But Jessica out of the closet talks about body positivity when your body isn’t very cooperative or comfortable to be in. I’m not physically disabled but I absolutely love her videos and her perspective. But personally I date myself. Things I would do for a SO I do for myself. Take myself out to a nice dinner, buy my favorite chocolates just cuz, paint on a canvas to brighten up my living room, se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:30 PM
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It’s deleted but I’m pleasantly surprised the comments were empathetic and supportive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:46 AM
17

Yeah it’s just for the memes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:33 AM
9

Well vaginas have a lot of variation as well. I have a short vagina. No matter how turned on I am it bottoms out at 5.5”. So 5.5” and 6” is what I aim for if I want that full feeling, but my sweet spot is only 3” in so... even with the extra inches most guys are barely in. circumference is a bit higher on my priority now. There’s no angle that doesn’t hit the spot. Downside is it’s a bit overwhelming. But the biggest difference I noticed going from a lengthy guy to a shorter but girthy dude is m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:41 PM
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Idk I wouldn’t really consider that’s stuff because that’s just what I do for myself. It’s definitely a part of it but it’s not a perfect 1:1. Kinda reminds me of those SAHM breakdowns infographics. I was a stay at home mom, shits hard, but it wasn’t comparable to being a full time chef, nurse, educator all rolled into one. Pretty is a skill. But I don’t think the direct dollar amount is the point. The point is men have no problem spending money on people/things they value, whether the woman is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 01:54 AM
6

Are you looking for shit tests?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:15 AM
40

My god, I want to do a “social experiment” so bad lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:11 AM
20

Like when people “hack” into their friends Facebook 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:42 AM
1

Did you read the no fap sub? Pretty interesting stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 11:18 PM
3

There no point in continuing to talk to you when I wasn’t even talking to you in the first place. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 09:03 PM
8

My god. We are all making decisions based on our experiences and history. Being able to tell her situation is bad is a privilege of experience. I’d rather lead with empathy. She’s human and so are you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:24 PM
14

Yeah I bit the bullet and bought the boujee gym spot. I’m not a model anymore so it was difficult to justify the price but whatever. The normal class well kept guys, I don’t get leered at the same way. on top of that I get to workout when it’s closed to everyone else if I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:05 PM
1

...I bet you think this song is about you don’t you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 01:47 PM
17

But you figured it out, so your further than when you started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:57 AM
8

Can there be an outreach campaign for situations like this? Those poor women (in other posts similar) are being bombarded with negativity and being fed lies on behalf of their abusers. FDS needs a refugee portal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:01 AM
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It’s scares people because they want to believe they’re somehow perfectly immune to such things. So instead of empathizing they lash out, even if they themselves were in a vary similar situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 01:55 AM
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Being able to tell situations are bad is a privilege of a loving, stable and supportive family and or experience. That’s why abusers pick young, niece women with less than stellar pasts. It’s so easy to clear the bar initially and get them wrapped up in their world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 12:12 AM
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I’ve never had someone I’m interested in go cold if I flirt with them. But the other element is fear I guess because apparently I’m a scary person. My interest is terrifying and it doesn’t mater what words I use my energy says fear me or I’m not interested. Maybe your coming off to “cute”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 11:38 PM
1

I mean a big part of that is messaging first and being aggressive is a very bot thing to do. So they probably think your a bot as well. Which according my dudes is a very common thing now lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 11:29 PM
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But most things are a waste of time. Candy crush is a waste of time, setting off fireworks is a waste of time. Dealing with fuckboys and their tactic make dealing with actual HVM way easier. Messing with FuckBoys is like sharpening your claws, it keeps things sharp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:01 PM
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I never went on a roller coaster before, but my friends rave about them think it’s hella™ fun and I was curious so I went to the park and got on one. I hated it. But I wanted to give it a fair shake. Maybe it was the that particular coaster. I’ll try a completely different one. Still hate it. Have I resent coasters before? Yes. Would I ever again? No. Also from that experience I can reasonably conclude I also won’t like the drop tower, or skydiving.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:12 AM
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“So now in regards to the idea of being sex positive. On one hand the sex positive movement has put girls in danger of rape/sexual assault, boundaries have been erased, they're expected to fuck a dude within the third time meeting him at the latest, putting up with the negatives of birth control, no condoms therefore more STI's resulting in life long illnesses and pregnancies and abortions, the cosmetic & aesthetic maintenance to fit the porn ideal of something in between a 12 year old child and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:43 PM
-3

You say your not sex positive then go on to describe being sex positive. Pleasure positive as you write it is sex positivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:27 PM
19

I apparently got permanently banned because I commented “I am the captain”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 03:52 AM
8

Yeah they missed the whole thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:05 AM
0

Y’all don’t need it. It’s like being jealous of someone that’s half blind. I hang out with mostly empaths. Or people that feel things waaaay more then normal, because life is about balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 12:10 PM
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That’s exactly the eye roll shit right there bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 12:07 PM
4

Just did the googly. So... is it actually a group of psychopathic/narcissistic/Machiavellian women? I mean I’m a psychopath and the worst thing in the bloody world is hanging out with other psychopaths lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:48 PM
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She’s not dumb. Everyone has the neural network in place to disassociate. It’s a survival mechanism like fight or flight. It’s being triggered but obviously from the outside we can see it’s not a great time to be disassociating and merely surviving isn’t living. She really needs a professional to help unravel the layers, it’s a fucking messy process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:26 PM
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So disassociating is her escape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:54 PM
2

Obviously it’s a lot of practice and feel free to get up and leave if your calculations were incorrect*. I’ve tested hundreds but only done things with a tiny portion. So even though my energy is very sexual, I’m actually a bit of a prude. *if it’s safe to do so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 06:13 PM
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I wouldn’t even get to the hug part. I just wear the heels I know put me at 6’ check them, laugh and leave. The ones that never mention their hight are fine. Then it’s just how they react to being shorter than me. Because your absolutely right insecure men are dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 04:51 PM
6

Wasn’t there a private discord server, would there be a space for that there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 02:36 AM
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I’ve picked people that are physically intelligent especially with the hips. Muay Thai, jujitsu, dancers ets. If your fit yourself you can start to tell by how people walk and carry themselves. Basically looking for a balance between flexibility and strength. If they pass that then on to testing. I’m really good at orchestrating meet cutes so I carry that skill over and “fall” into them. How do they handle you and move with you? Do they behave like a limp noodle? Are they an iron mountain with n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:54 AM
3

All of my sexual partners were dope as fuck, or maybe I’m just a really good coach? The worst one I had was apparently still slightly above average based on the stores I hear anyway. But I test them before we ever get to that point so imma pat myself on the back for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:23 AM
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Then you get the dudes that try to get a gf as a replacement for every relationship in their life. They want an everything GF like their dumb ass three in one shampoo, conditioner, body washes. Their lonely so they think a gf is the answer instead of a stable network of friends. They can’t maintain those relationships so they try to trap anyone they can. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:00 AM
0

For real. I’m the close female friend. If a woman insulted me by insinuating I had malicious intent or some other concocted drama like wtf? Imma be the best man at your wedding and your kids Aunty get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:38 PM
2

That and asexual people can still get horny and aroused. That’s usually closer to demisexuality. Some people are all the way to the right and are sex repulsed so people that are just “meh” about it. I still think op should visit the asexuality subreddit anyway. They talk about dating and cover exactly this question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 10:25 PM
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I get that but unless you genuinely enjoy the taste of rusty metal it’s usually a no go for a bit. Source I have a vagina and also enjoy other vaginas. But hands and dicks cant taste so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 02:26 AM
3

Fo real... I know people that did the dating, married and pregnant a year and a half and thier miserable. The guy they thought they had wasn’t. That and I make my own money and like hell I’d give someone I know for a year that amount of legal power over me ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:21 AM
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This sub isn’t against FWB it just differentiates between men that are relationship material vs those that are FWB material. I personally have a designated FWB and I take the F part of that seriously. I mean I’ve meet his parents and they tease him about locking that shit down but we’re both not looking for that and logistically it wouldn’t work out even though he checks 99% of the boxes. He treats me very well and I respect him and I find it useful to have an example to work off of when I’m loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:52 PM
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Logic, it’s easier to catch things when their all together. Unless thier all on alert together then that’s like a zebra herd and it’s a safe space right. Let your guard down, don’t worry about it. It’s also not a crime of convenience he drove from a few states over. Happens all the time. If he was the cable repair dude I would have let him walk right in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 04:11 AM
1

Did you miss the part where people are saying having more genders will cause sexual assault to rise as if it’s some natural law like gravity? I’m pointing out that it is in fact unrelated to one another. Otherwise my that logic the americas would have been awash in the subjugation and exploitation of women because trans women existed and were respected in society. But it wasn’t. Correlation doesn’t equal causation dude. That’s not how it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 04:05 AM
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I’m a woman and I have concerns, why are mine illegitimate and your sacrosanct? I had a stalker dude threatening me and sneaking into my house, him wearing a dress may have actually made the police actually give a fuck because maybe they Think trans individuals are eww as well but I really could give zero fucks how someone that is trying to do me harm identifies. It changes nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:59 AM
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Rape was a white man import bro. Also sex slavery and child sex slavery. But you know, whateves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:54 AM
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I know for sure gathering women all together is a better target for predators. That’s why pedophiles become teachers, clergy, scout leaders and stepparents. Also, you let men willingly into your lives, most people on here are straight. Most assault and rape is committed by known entities, trusted entities, loved entities. The call is coming from inside the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:52 AM
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Rape and sexual assault didn’t exist my culture, there wasn’t even a word for it. It’s not that deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:17 AM
4

That’s right nothing bad ever happened to women before trans women started publicly transitioning since the climate around lgbt rights has improved in the last decade... ooooh right, no. Regular men were already hiding cameras in hotels, in public restrooms, in your apartment in your homes. You know how they did it? By walking right in with their manly bodies and manly facial hair and super manly man voices and everyone lets them right in without a passing thought because they work there and the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:14 AM
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I didn’t say you said that.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 01:51 AM
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60 million people isn’t a “small tribal society” I never said they think they are bio women. I said they identify as women. There are up to 5 genders in many ancient civilizations, it’s only weird if you think only white is right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 01:45 AM
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People “identifying” as women has been a thing since the dawn of mankind. It’s only rather recently that it became taboo and forbidden. Hopefully one day we can get back to nobody giving a fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 01:32 AM
8

Seriously FWB is the way to go. Sex is way better imo when you have a designated person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:20 PM
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“Go ahead and sleep with as many people as possible if you want but don’t expect anything more then that to come of it” is what you should have taken away. Most advice here is in regard to more committed relationships. But the idea is to never settle for less then you want. If you want a string of one nights stands then... fine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:05 PM
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Technically vaginal wall and vaginal cavity is a thing but doesn’t mean it should ever be said outside of medical context... just eww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 07:40 PM
3

How did you come to that conclusion exactly? I don’t understand how women bearing the burden of humanity is negative toward people that opt out. Edit letters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 10:59 PM
3

That’s actually happening in Japan right now. In a way. Career women are refusing to have children because they will by forced to quit their jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:04 AM
4

Likely doesn’t mean you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:03 AM
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Yeah I’ve heard of them before but so much can happen in 9 mos and it’s hell. I wouldn’t want to wait till the end. I hated being pregnant, birth was fine but pregnancy was murder. That and my body has been basically back to how I want it. I consider myself incredibly lucky, but each pregnancy is different maybe I’ll want/need a tummy tuck or a boob job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:57 AM
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I’m not in my 30’s but I had a kid and have no real drive to ever do that again. the only * I’ll take is if they pay me $100,000 upfront as a sort of retainer fee incase they fuck up so I’m not thrown off. I am a great mother, I made a beautiful, confident, and creative child and guys really think that if you did it once then you should be open to doing it again. Nah. I have my heir lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:26 AM
5

“The best kids are the kind you give back”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:20 AM
6

Yup. He really helped me reestablish my worth and boundaries. I have a relationship with a guy I can use as a guideline for the people I date. “Would dudefriend treat me like this? Speak to me like this?” I can just look back to how comfortable I am with him and if it’s anything less then that I just nope the fuck out of there. A few times he was my get away car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:03 AM
1

FWB with the guys that aren’t relationship material. Boom traditional advice with a mix of sexual empowerment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 01:26 AM
7

Yeah but then they won’t have as much opportunity to fuck up and then I’d have wasted way more time actually going out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:18 PM
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Idk I like the unconditional love, connection and support of a quasi boyfriend so I can play the field. It’s only bad if you hoping it will change into something more permanent or committed. Like it’s nice to have a good looking plus one to go to events and help you network while your schmoozing the big wigs in your field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 07:09 PM
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She lied about the existence of a whole sibling, had an affair with a married man and cheated on an ex. That’s not somebody I would want to be serious with without some serious discussion either. If she was comfortable stepping out and crossing marital boundaries before how do I know she won’t justify it to herself in the future?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/19 01:52 PM
2

Did you not read the beautiful stories in the comments?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 02:46 PM
1

Pursuing a man isn’t unladylike. Dita von Teese can do it and she’s a literal goddess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/19 03:24 PM
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