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Need SupportRaiderCC16/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:07 AM
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Need SupportRaiderCC16/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 04:35 PM
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RaiderCC16/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 12:03 AM
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In reality, unless she has a documented case of being a horrible mother such as arrests for abuse, neglect, drug/alcohol convictions, I doubt you would ever get 100% sole custody. Now you may get 100% legal custody but 50/50 physical custody. What that means is that you would have all say so in the children’s lives such as medical, education, religious, etc. but you would share physical custody with her so she would have them 50% of the time and you would have them 50% of the time. In Ga, there …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 03:14 PM
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Weed is still illegal in Ga so it might help your case. I would talk with your attorney about it. Since you are going for 50/50 it might be something to use out of court such as let her know the evidence you have and threaten to use it unless she agrees to 50/50. She may likely agree so she doesn’t get in legal trouble and have bigger problems on her hands
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:43 PM
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Best I can tell you is start the planning to leave now because she has and is. Get things in order. Start saving money in a separate account. Start preparing yourself mentally and emotionally. 90% of the time, women have been planning at least 2 years before pulling the trigger on divorce leaving us men blindsided and left to scramble. That’s what happened to me. Start planning. It’s going to happen. That’s not the question. The question is when.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 03:27 PM
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My STBX also cheated, not physically but emotionally, and it was hard but I’ve come to learn that I was not the problem and that no matter what I did, it would not have fixed us because she needed so much attention from the village (internet) that I would never be able to provide her what she craved. Now I just laugh at her when she lies saying she isn’t doing it anymore cuz if she did it while we were married, why would she all of a sudden stop? Ha. She’s an addict. And that makes it easier for…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:45 PM
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Run. Run as fast as you can. She will not change. She will manipulate you and when she thinks things have calmed down she will go right back to it. RUUUNNN
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 04:50 PM
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Thanks bro. It’s been rough. But apparently it’s been years in the making for her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 03:20 AM
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My wife is divorcing me cuz of that among other things
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 07:52 PM
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That’s kind of what I was thinking. I have some things I can leverage against her to get her to possible agree to it outside of court but I doubt the courts will agree to it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 12:07 AM
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As always yall come in with the hard cold truth and tell it how it is without sugarcoating it and I fucking love it! Thanks bros!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 05:52 PM
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Solid advice
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 01:34 PM
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I have come to the realization that women are way worse than men when it comes to thinking with the wrong body part. Men may think with their dick when they’re younger but then they mature. It’s the opposite with women. They think with their head when younger but then they start thinking with their Va-jay-jay as they get older.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 04:50 PM
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It was basically that for me too. She listened to her Va-jay-jay tingles instead of being rational and then she let others get into her head and out I went
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 12:01 AM
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I’m going to start doing that.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 04:24 PM
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Truth. Women will have to whole village coming to help her even if she’s in the wrong whereas men are supposed to get over it and get back to work. It’s also very true that women can get the “rebound sex” as easy as snapping their fingers to get over a guy and men don’t have it that easy. That’s one thing that kills me is knowing that my STBX is possibly and most likely out there already talking to her ex’s, coworkers, random guys in the internet and working on getting that rebound lay. However,…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 04:19 PM
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It’s a very real theory
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 04:14 PM
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Looking back there were signs but either I was too blind to see them or I saw them and just pushed them down. My situation was online cheating so may be a little different but here are the things that happened that I should have caught on to - Her getting new boobs- already had fake ones and got bigger and perkier ones Spending more time reading smut books Spending more time away from me and the kids- taking hours long baths, going to bed early, etc Being overly distant Not willing to compromise…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 01:58 PM
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This is an awesome episode. It’s so true. No matter how much we good guys try to do everything to save the marriage- she has already checked out and it’s no use destroying ourselves to try and salvage the marriage when she has been checked out for months if not years.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 01:50 PM
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You need to take steps to protect yourself. She is already 5 steps ahead of you. She most likely is talking to other guys and/or dating them. Get out while you can. It will be hard and ugly but it will be worth it in the end
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 12:52 PM
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Needed to hear this!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 07:01 PM
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Yeah I have all the evidence so I can prove it and she would be barred from alimony
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 02:34 AM
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Yeah I’m very much in a state of shock and blindsideness. What I hate is that in gave her a chance and an avenue to explore her “kink” and she took it ran with it. I’m kicking myself for that too.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:41 AM
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I have an attorney and I am filing on Monday. Asking for sole custody and child support as I am in an at-fault state and hope that the judge will see it through my eyes that she’s willing to entertain Random men at the house when the kids are there she needs to suffer some type of consequence for her actions as right now she’s getting her cake and eating too and that’s not fair. While I realize the judge most likely won’t award me full/sole custody as she’s not an alcoholic or addict, I gotta go…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:34 AM
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I Worry too when the kids are with her in regards to who she has over and what guys are around the kids. I pray she makes smart decisions for their sakes and I just bank on the fact that she won’t let anything bad happen to them but it’s till terrifying and worrisome.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:31 AM
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Yeah I am just going to presume she’s with other people so when in fact the day comes that I do find out it won’t be as painful. It’s so sad that there are so many of us on this thread with a common issue with our STBX and that’s cheating. I don’t even know what 8 months in will look like as I am only a week out from her leaving and it’s been brutal. Thanks for the words of encouragement and advice.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:30 AM
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It truly is.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 10:33 PM
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I’m going through the same thing. I have those exact same thoughts. All I can say is that you will have hard days and easy days. You will grieve the relationship and what could have been just as if someone died. You will bounce around the stages of grief, even repeating some of them. Just remain strong and keep telling yourself that YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. Reach out if you need someone to talk to
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 04:28 PM
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Man that’s rough. Have you tried being petty and making life for her difficult? In order to get her to leave? Not the best advice but it might help you feel better. I know what you mean about losing weight. I lost 10lbs in 5 days
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:36 PM
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That’s good!!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:30 PM
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I can’t even imagine having to do that. I’m separated and she choose to leave. The house is quiet when the kids are at camp (I work from home) and at night it’s filled with their laughter. I couldn’t imagine having her here knowing we weren’t together and were just roommates. Granted my situation is different (she cheated) so I would constantly be thinking who is she on the phone with. It’s easier that she’s not here and I don’t have to see her. Stay strong and hold firm. She wanted out. She nee…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:23 PM
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Depends on the reason for the split. There were some pretty deep reasons to leave on your part. It’s normal to want to go back to what was normal. But if you left, you had your reasons and those reasons are still going to be there if you go back
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:19 PM
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You are not the only one bro. I am just starting the divorce journey and I know I will have these same thoughts as I have them now
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 07:12 PM
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Get an attorney. Better safe than sorry
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 07:11 PM
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100%. I cannot disagree
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:17 PM
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Both can occur however not with me. I’m done. I should have worded my question about divorce better. I meant should I file or wait for her to file.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:24 AM
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Definitely not a cuck. And will not turn into one.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:23 AM
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So don’t wait for her to file. I should file first?
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:22 AM
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Not harsh at all man. I agree with everything you said.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:56 AM
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I see your point and understand it. Looking back the whole indulging in it and allowing the OF and stuff, while I was involved and knew about everything, opened the door for her to step into a whole new world she didn’t know about. Doesn’t change the fact that she went behind my back and to me cheated. If I could turn back time I would do things differently but alas we can’t and so I’m here now and I’m putting my foot down. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, THERE WILL NOT BE …
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:54 AM
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Thanks. I needed to hear this.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:16 AM
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An attorney I talked to actually said that it could set a precedent in my favor that because it’s summer I am okay with her having them for longer periods of time. Her work schedule has her going in at random times like 5,6,7,8 or 9 whereas my schedule is consistent. I have taken the kids and picked them up from school for the past 4 years 99% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:22 AM
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Please elaborate
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:16 AM
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It’s just for the night. She is bringing them back tomorrow. She has to work early Monday morning and wouldn’t be able to take them today camp. I truly don’t think she would keep them from me. But I do see your concern.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:15 AM
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