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FIELD REPORTRainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 05:42 PM
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FIELD REPORTRainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 08:36 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGERainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 01:33 PM
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ADVICERainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 08:06 PM
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ADVICERainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 03:11 PM
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DISCUSSIONRainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:21 PM
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DATING ADVICERainbowKitty77/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 01:08 PM
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A: My ex used to say he found it sexy how polite I can be. I've also got compliments on my voice and hair. I'm a natural redhead. B: I don't have a partner, but my ex used to say I'm the smartest girl he'd ever dated. That I kept complaining to a minimal. That I can also be funny. I'm really shy, so not very many people see my sense of humor.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/24 06:55 PM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 10:42 PM
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I got cheated on five months ago and now I'm in nun mode. It is healing. Much more so than jumping back into dating.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 10:53 PM
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My love language is words of affirmation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 10:46 PM
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My ex liked this kind of stuff but not excessively.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 06:14 AM
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When I was younger I had a crush on pretty much every guy I knew at one point or another. I'm at a point now where I hardly ever crush on anyone. I tend to go for people who would go for me 8/10.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 01:49 AM
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I guess I just had enough of the relationships where we had nothing to talk about because we had nothing in common besides we were attracted to each other. Or I cared about/disliked the guy I was dating. To me a partner should be a best friend plus more. Not simply a best friend but why wouldnt I want to genuinely like and be close to the person I'm in a relationship with?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 03:37 PM
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I dont think of it as considering them the same.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 02:28 PM
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I knew when I was 18 I wasnt ready to marry anyone. I met my first love that year. We weren't together very long but he insisted he wanted to marry me. I didnt feel like the person I was at 18 would be the same person I am at 28 and I was right. I think 25 is about ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 05:55 AM
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I disagree with this. My ex and I were really close friends before we got together. We continued to say we were best friends while being together. Yes it sucked losing my best friend too. I also have a female best friend that I didnt lose tho. I would never date a guy again that I wouldnt consider my best friend tho.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 05:45 AM
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I found red pill on Google somehow and read up on it. Then moved here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 06:05 AM
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It is fascinating to see how many men frown upon it lol. I don't believe in sex outside of love tho.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 09:59 PM
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I would say if shes only been with 2 then they were most likely more serious anyway lol. What do I know tho? I've had guys tell me my number of 1 at 27 almost 28 is too low. I wasn't married but we lived together and I had a ring.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 08:11 PM
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I think people as a whole forgot how to be grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 07:02 PM
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That was my aim too. I'm not saying that shouldn't be the goal. Just in case things don't turn out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 11:06 PM
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As you get older the pool of men who expect a virgin get smaller. I'm not saying any man wants a woman who's been with 20 men. But if a woman is 30 for example and has been with 2 or 3 I'd say it's usually ok.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:57 PM
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I dont know any men who are willing to wait for marriage. However I know men who are willing to wait until you're in love and the relationship is solid.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:50 PM
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When I was with my ex and we first moved in together I complimented him so much because the man can fix so many things and genuinely likes to. Amazes me that women could nag that a man doesnt do housework if hes willing to do the yard work and fix things.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:31 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 07:10 PM
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I decided to take 6 months from dating. 3 months into that. I feel healthier mentally lately.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 07:03 PM
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A little over three years. He ended up getting back with his sons mom briefly.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 06:53 PM
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Yes I resented it but a lot of the resentment came from a place of my dad not being involved at all. I felt like my mom wanted me to immediately accept my step dad as my dad and it wasnt possible for me. I imagine it would be way different for a kid with an involved parent.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 06:46 PM
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Usually with my ex I did. Hardly ever was I not in the mood tho.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 06:37 PM
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I lived with my ex. We never got married but we were engaged. We learned so much more about each other living together. It wasn't all good tho. I wouldn't live with someone I didn't see myself marrying but I wont wait for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 06:35 PM
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I know it's not common around here to say this. My mom married a man when I was 11 tho whom shes still married to. Whom has been more of a dad to me than my bio father. She absolutely let him make rules for us tho. Not all of them but more often than not. He also disciplined my brother and I.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 06:23 PM
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Congratulations dear
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 07:48 PM
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I dont think theres anything wrong with it as long as the man has clear boundaries with his ex. My ex fiance would not set boundaries with his sons mom and was pretty beta about the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 04:49 PM
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I love the way you said this!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 03:33 AM
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To me Megan Fox is a 10. I'd say I'm about a 3 or a 4. Heavy but I have a cute face. My hairs naturally red so its eye catching. My skins also not bad. However I have bad teeth. My eyes aren't an amazing color. My legs aren't long. Etc.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 08:55 AM
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I love the butterfly one. Too many people think they SHOULD go away.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 01:02 PM
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I'm definitely not over it. I just hate reactions when I say that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 06:26 PM
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I feel like I'd probably do that lol. I'm 27 tho so I'm worried about how much time I really have too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 05:18 PM
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Baggage of what? I honestly don't have a lot..
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 03:19 AM
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I got back into reading since he left. I used to love to. I don't know. When we lived together it would feel weird to read when he was home. I've also been working on figuring out how much I want to drink. I near cut out alcohol for awhile. Now I drink like once a week. Weirdest thing we broke up in March for like two days. I made all these goals. We got engaged in April. By June, I had let all my goals slide for him. I definitely didn't focus on self improvement enough. I've improved myself alr…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:25 PM
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I meant more like a lot of people act like I should accept a date with anyone who asks or I'm not trying hard enough to get over my ex. I just don't see the point of that. Then am told I'm being weird.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:14 PM
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I don't feel I've used anyone for validation. I don't see why I should give up meeting new people. I'd consider a date if someone sparked my interest. Just haven't found anyone who has.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 08:32 PM
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Congrats
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:56 PM
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That's awesome! I love fanfiction tho I was never good at writing it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:53 PM
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You write? That's awesome! I used to. I might even try nano this year. I rented a movie last night. That's really all I've done this weekend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:50 PM
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Omg congrats on your pregnancy!
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 06:27 PM
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I used to be wild about a friend of mine. He liked me too but the time wasn't right. Anyway he always dates girls with similar looking faces and long, gorgeous dark hair. I don't have dark or very long hair. My face doesn't look similar either. I don't know what attracted him lol. I still think about it occasionally.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 09:01 PM
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I didn't really think about it when I got with my fiance. I'm about a 3. My fiance is objectively a 7 or an 8. His son is absolutely adorable. I'd say we'll have cute kids.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 07:39 PM
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My fiance has one female friend he regularly texts. She's older. I trust him not to cross the line with her. She also lives far away. I also have one male friend but we barely talk. We also have friends that are married. I prefer to not talk a lot to men and for him to not talk a lot to women.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 07:30 PM
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My fiance and I had a day like this. It was also the day we first kissed. Could be a good sign.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 02:40 AM
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Not a timeline exactly but a goal he wants to work towards before we have a baby.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 11:27 AM
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I cried last night because my fiance told me that he doesn't feel we're ready to have a baby.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 04:08 PM
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Probably more religious men wouldn't mind. I don't think most men want to wait as long as until marriage but a lot of men will wait some time. Not every one likes a one nighter.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 07:31 PM
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I used to be friends with a guy who dated a woman for seven years. She truly believed he was gonna marry her one day. He never did. He left her for a younger woman and married the other woman within two years. I made up my mind watching that. Itd never be me. If my fiance couldn't propose in five years I would have walked. I never told him that but I made it clear I want to get married. He proposed a few months ago. We've been together for three years.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 07:16 AM
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It is!
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 02:53 AM
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I've never been pumped and dumped. However I've done things and then been dropped. Honestly one guy finally had enough of me saying no and left. I was with someone who didn't want to rush me not too long later. I was sad but not overly so. The next guy I loved so much. I thought I could make him love me too. Took forever to get over.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 02:00 AM
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I believe this to be a real thing. I know when I'm feeling more insecure I tend to post more "omg I love my fiance!!" Stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 04:56 AM
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I think whoever stays at home should do 90% of the housework especially if there aren't kids involved. If there are to me the working parent still has a duty to play with/help out with the kids. However they shouldn't have to come home and clean everything either still.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 05:27 PM
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I drink. I also usually drink to get a buzz. Very rarely will I drink a shot or a glass of wine and leave it at that. I drink once every week or every other on average.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 12:10 PM
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I think most of us want a man who works just as hard as we do in our relationships just in different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 04:02 AM
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I feel like perhaps she means if I call my fiance names then I shouldn't leave because he calls me names for example. We don't do that very often in a serious matter. What you're describing is verbal abuse. Simple arguing isn't even tho we're led to believe it is.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 02:36 PM
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My bio dad isn't much to brag about so I won't. I'm sorry. My step dad has been in my life since I was eight. He's been the best father figure my brother and I could have ever wanted. He's also a good father to my step sister and step brother. He works incredibly hard every day. My fiancee is also an amazing father to his three and a half year old son. He loves him so much and it shows in everything he does. I can't wait to have babies with him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 04:53 PM
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Don't insult someone who rejects you. If they insult you just move on.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:57 PM
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You act like I did when I was 16 honestly. If a guy likes another girl's picture it doesn't necessarily mean anything. Also you need to work on how you handle rejection. It's unattractive for someone to get mad if you nicely turn/let them down. Not all women are like this. I get jealous and needy too. Gotta tone that down a bit tho.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:21 PM
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If I had to guess he's hiding how much he's drinking. If my fiancee and I are arguing a lot or he's mad at me, he tends to hang out in the living room or on the porch. I've learned if I let him have some space he comes back toward me tho.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 08:44 PM
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Deliberately. I read about the red pill years ago. I thought it was gross. Then I don't know why but I decided to look back into it. This time I opened my eyes. My man isn't red pill but he's traditional in a lot of ways. RPW helps us a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:10 PM
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Probably wiser than trying to wait.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:24 PM
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That sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 11:19 PM
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It was kinda embarrassing to be honest. I was in my early 20s. Being a virgin wasn't seen as cool.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 11:15 PM
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My boyfriend and I were friends first. I had a friend at the time who made my status common knowledge. I asked my boyfriend if it bothered him and he said no. He's the only person I've ever been all the way with. Only done more than kiss two others.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 09:38 PM
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When I was 18, I met a guy. We had a short thing but I fell hard. I didn't date a guy or want to for almost two years. Most I did in that time was hold hands. Everyone around me wondered what you are. I was holding out hope tho. I had a fantasy that he'd come back and love that I waited. Never happened. He's married now with two kids. I'm engaged to someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 02:05 PM
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I give my man space. That works the best for him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 02:37 AM
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Probably not no.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 10:35 PM
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Friends? Sure. Like talk occasionally or hang out in groups. Close? No. I've only had two close guy friends in my life that were into women. One had a crush on me forever. One I'm engaged to now.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 06:19 AM
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Similar thing happened to me at 19. I thought I'd never get over it. I did. It just took time. Now I see it wouldn't have worked anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 02:38 PM
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The first guy I ever had oral sex with HATED me having no experience. He was my first kiss even. I was 18. The second guy LOVED my low amount of experience. I was 19 then. My current boyfriend doesn't seem to care either way. He's the only guy I've ever shared everything with. They all wanted to know tho so I told them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:22 PM
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It's basically a woman that a man uses for sex/sexual things.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 08:21 PM
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I was 18. He was 25. I thought he'd be mature. He wasn't. I was a plate essentially. I suspect he was married or something to someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 07:17 PM
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I love to write. I also like to read. Most of my passion is my family. My mom, step dad, nieces, nephews, little cousins, and most importantly my boyfriend and his little boy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 08:16 PM
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My biggest thing is learning to apologize. I hamster for awhile. Calmly express my negativity to him and then like an hour later apologize. He never gets mad. I feel better apologizing tho.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 01:13 PM
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The guys on TRP aren't generally advocating for relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 08:01 PM
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Eh it's pretty common around here for guys to be FOR marriage so I'd assume it was me without explanation. The bottom just seems like no trust in me/us so I wouldn't push to marry the guy but I'd also be kinda hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 11:55 AM
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I don't think it's wrong. I'm 27 and still learning my limits personally tho so I'm working on cutting back. Haven't drank in over two weeks now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 03:09 PM
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If the guy had genuinely good reasons not to marry I would consider his point of view. If he'd shown me he was serious about being with me. Like if he didn't believe in marriage at all. Wouldn't marry anyone no matter what.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 01:51 PM
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I hope this happens. Love the idea. I love gratitude lists in general.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 01:08 AM
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I COULD compromise on marriage but it would take a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 12:52 AM
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I don't see the harm in mentioning that it upsets you. Men act differently around their friends tho. Don't worry too much.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/18 10:17 PM
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I meant when you guys are alone does he?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/18 10:09 PM
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Does he do it all the time or just in front of friends?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/18 09:31 PM
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It's possible.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 11:08 PM
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Blaming stuff on you is weird imo. The sexy stuff is pretty common.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 07:31 PM
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Mine knows about a week before that it's starting soon. I don't know if "should" applies. I just know he knows.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 04:48 PM
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Neither of you are mature enough to be married.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 04:02 AM
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One RP concept I have down pretty well while most I struggle with. My boyfriend will randomly bring me home surprises that may be like a cup or some treat I like to eat. I gush like they're big expensive gifts tho. It's so sweet!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 03:55 AM
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I don't think any woman is to blame if she's raped. I don't care how she was dressed or how drunk she was. However some people nowadays think regret means they were raped and it just doesn't work like that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 06:20 AM
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I used to love Cosmo Girl and Seventeen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 05:34 AM
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I stumbled upon the red pill on Google or somewhere. I looked it back up a few years later. Found TRP on here. From there, this sub. I'm probably the most liberal person in the world. I love so many aspects of this sub tho. Especially the own your stuff part. I hold myself accountable for my own actions and expect other people hold me accountable for mine too. Most more feminist types blame the man 8/10.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 04:12 PM
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Bit awkward but through my ex. We were setting him up with a friend of mine at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/18 09:28 PM
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I've been with my boyfriend for over two and a half years, and he still gives me butterflies. It's like when he's around there's no one else but he and I. Just him coming home makes me smile. His chest is my safe spot. He feels like home honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/18 08:42 PM
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My boyfriend is talking about cooking. I'm making him a list of reasons why I love him. Also getting him a gift and buying lingerie for the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 10:48 PM
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I'm an unattractive woman who's been in love and loved in return for over two and a half years . It hasn't been a Disney movie but it's been a fun ride. Part of my problem before was always assuming guys didn't want me or thought I was ugly.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 10:44 PM
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Love this. Glad you enjoyed your birthday celebrations! I've also smoked before. Not in two years and it was never really my thing but I tried it a few times.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/18 07:17 PM
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What about your personality, goals, and things?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 03:30 PM
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Focus on improving yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 05:47 PM
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My problem in a nutshell. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 03:34 AM
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This is a thing my boyfriend has said too. He says too much of a good thing isn't always good tho. We cut back from once or twice a day to once or twice a week when he got a new job.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 03:55 PM
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My boyfriend is the only guy I've ever had intercourse with. He knew upfront. Made it clear he likes it. Men don't mind.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 08:31 PM
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I disagree. My boyfriend wanted to go when we first started seeing each other. We ended up drinking at home instead. It wasn't solely to take me home and into bed either because we didn't sleep together that night. I enjoy bars tho I haven't been to one in around a year.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 02:31 PM
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I just don't wanna look like I'm using him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:42 AM
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I think he knows that I know he can afford it. I've had problems in the past with guys offering and then calling me a gold digger later. So I want to be careful to not come across one to him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:34 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 11:52 AM
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I just don't know what that is to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 05:42 AM
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Thank you. I'm not very good at any kind of verbal expression. I told him thank you of course tho.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 12:07 AM
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I'm not very good at getting sappy but I wanna try for Valentine's Day.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 10:20 PM
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He's very into the man doing certain things and the woman doing certain things. Since he works way harder at his job than I do I'm willing to help out elsewhere however I can. I wouldn't say he's exactly red pill but I wouldn't say I exactly am either. I like the "owning my stuff" part of it the most.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 09:37 PM
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He swears people judge him for stuff like that? I'm not sure if that's true or not. I've never heard of it but most people I know are more against men. Like one time we went to the store. I carried out the pop. He swore people were looking at him wondering why he let me carry the heavy stuff?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 09:11 PM
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I might do that! I also thought of asking if he just wanted me to cook for Vday. Thanks for the idea. I'm just learning to bake. Have tried cake, muffins, and brownies.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 09:08 PM
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Thank you! I will ask him what he thinks about it. Usually if I offer to pay he says no.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 08:59 PM
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Congrats on your baby
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 08:17 PM
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Yeah it's usually depression.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 04:39 PM
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That's awesome
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 11:05 PM
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Yes agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 06:04 PM
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By that last part I mean he holds door, pays the bill for dinner most of the time, opens car doors, carries heavy stuff, always made sure I got home safe. I've had boyfriends in the past leave me to my own devices at 4 am.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 05:49 PM
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I'm bisexual so I'm extremely for equal rights. I didn't get into tradition much until I got with my boyfriend. His parents taught him a certain way. He doesn't strictly follow everything but does in some ways. And it makes me happy to follow that way too. It also makes me happy I don't have to tell him how to be a gentleman.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 05:45 PM
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I'm pretty liberal admittedly. I think there is a bad way to say someone's fat but I also don't think there's anything wrong with someone saying "You can eat healthy. Work out. I'll probably not get a model man At this weight." Etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 05:03 PM
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I don't think I've seen anything offensive to me here yet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 04:36 PM
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I'm overweight. I also enjoy being here. Even if a woman is a ten physically she has things to work on. I like that here were encouraged to fix ourselves. I'm definitely not perfect as is and dont need to be told I am.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 04:28 PM
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So my boyfriend isnt the only one who said when he bought the ring lol? I know he picked it up recently but I have no idea when he'll propose.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 11:30 PM
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I vote and try to keep up with important things. I don't really talk a lot about politics tho.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 04:24 AM
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Lol it's entirely possible. I never had much of one so I'm not used to it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 04:33 PM
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I think it was betty Crocker brand but I dont remember. Cream cheese like he asked for. Again he didn't say it tasted bad. He said I didn't use enough.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 04:04 PM
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Well if my s/o thought it sucked he would have said eww babe this is gross! Not "I think I actually like yours better except for the frosting. Just wait til it cools down next time to put it on. I assume that's what happened."
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 03:53 PM
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I didn't take it as I suck? I took it as put more icing on it next time. His sister did put way more on her cake than I did.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 01:48 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 03:20 AM
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Aww that sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 02:58 AM
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Second time should definitely be better. I just made one out of a box mix lol. Usually my stuff in the oven is too soft on the inside.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 02:44 AM
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That sounds delicious. White cake with cream cheese frosting.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 02:40 AM
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I hope to get better at it. My muffins didn't go quite as well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 01:51 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 12:08 AM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 09:36 PM
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Yeah that shouldn't be a worry lol. Just not sure how to put a pic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 09:17 PM
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I do have pictures of what it looked like after I made it lol but I'm not sure that would convince you it tasted good.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 08:59 PM
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I think sometimes people place too much importance on looks honestly. I don't know how many gorgeous women I've seen with a meh guy and I've even seen it the other way around. I do think looks matter. I'm shallow and love having a man who looks good. That's the first thing I noticed about him but that's not what I fell in love with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 08:56 PM
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Yes a 4/10. I think my personality makes up for some of it. I also honestly think part of the reason my boyfriend got with me was the chase. I made it clear I liked him but that I didn't want to jump into bed or a relationship right away. Usually women put out early on for him and then turned out to not be the best girlfriends. Naggy and cheaters.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 05:26 PM
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I know mine is pretty low. My RMV is much higher. I usually attracted good looking guys. I feel like honestly guys date down. My boyfriend is a ten in my eyes and objectively a seven. I'm a three or a four on a good day. I'm not sure what it's based on to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 04:03 PM
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My boyfriend absolutely comes first. I wouldn't choose my friends over him if he was sick.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:10 AM
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I'm pretty good at stfu lol so I already do the not trying to ruin a happy moment thing. I never actually considered not telling him the bad parts of my day first tho. Will have to try.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 05:35 PM
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My boyfriend who will hopefully be my husband is a grown man who's perfectly capable of taking care of himself. My child won't be especially under teen age. As far as the wants I think it'd be nice to provide my child with everything he/she/they want but that's not realistic. And the child can't learn that an entire household can bend to an unnecessary want.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 08:10 PM
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I'm going to be odd one out and say that my future child's needs will absolutely come before my future husband's. Wants? Depends on what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 07:45 PM
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Piggybacking on this. Very well that you found out now. I don't know how many times I've been strung along in this regard.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 04:11 AM
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I don't know if I'd say it's immoral but being realistic the man for you probably is a divorced father/single father/etc. I feel like that's reality anyway as we get older. It's unlikely you'll marry someone at 35 or 40 who's never been serious with anyone before.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 01:49 PM
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Shy people can come off as cold/unapprochable/not interested/intimidating.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 07:44 PM
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Are you shy/introverted?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 07:35 PM
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There are men who appreciate smart women. Not show offy smart but smart. There are even men who like more vulgar women. I feel like what's most important to a man is a soft place to land tho. Are you caring and attentive?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 04:29 PM
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Yeah. I've always known I wouldn't chill forever without certain goals being met so I guess that's part of it. I watched a friend of a friend go about seven years without even a real proposal and decided I wouldn't be able to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 12:26 AM
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According to my boyfriend it is possible to have too much. I don't know personally because he's my basis on a lot of things like that lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 10:13 PM
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I wouldn't say we really ever discussed a timeline. Does that mean we should? I've been upfront about wanting marriage tho from about five months in. He actually started the discussion. Actually after some thought we did discuss a timeline. I just forget about it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 06:02 PM
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I've been considering cologne. Thank you. I also thought about socks or a shirt but that could be boring lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 03:11 PM
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He's really into rpg video games. He also likes to fix things. Not really a drinker. Trying to quit smoking. Also into smelling good lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 03:07 PM
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I still don't know what to get my boyfriend lol. I want to get him something practical but not boring.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 11:58 AM
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I tell him that I'm here for him and want to help any way I can. My man doesn't show sadness very often tho.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 11:54 AM
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You can do it! Have you tried online dating? Or through family/friends? I met my boyfriend through friends.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 03:06 AM
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You will! Do you see a therapist or do have any tricks to help yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 02:56 AM
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Shyness is a killer. I'm not particularly attractive but I met my dream man when I let myself open up to him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 11:43 PM
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The coffee sounds like something my bf would be into. Thanks for the inspiration.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 10:49 PM
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I love the self improvement aspect. I'm NOT perfect and it's so nice to be able to admit that. I like working toward my goals.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 10:43 PM
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I think that men kind of say "I made the name a good/respectable name even if my dad didnt." I just don't feel that way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:47 PM
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I'm not close to my father. He didn't raise me past eight. His last name is some thing I can't wait to shed. If my boyfriend and I get married I'll definitely be taking his last name. He also really wants me to. I thought about hyphenating since he has a sister with a similar first name to mine but he doesn't like the idea. Honestly neither do I.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 02:59 AM
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Love the first one.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 10:08 PM
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I relate so much to the first part.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:23 PM
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This is a big one I think. I'm not so good with it yet but this was inspiring.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:11 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:53 AM
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Yes we've had rough points. To be honest though I always liked him, my bf chased me a lot until we ended up together. I was scared to give him a chance after my first love ended badly.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:47 AM
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I'm happy so not sure this counts. I used to be the type of girl who didn't think I was supposed to bring anything to the relationship. I wasn't going to cook and clean type. I still cant cook very well but I fix food for him. I fix his coffee. Lay out his clothes. Wash them. I have a cleaning schedule. I also try to lay off insisting I'm right with everything.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:37 AM
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My boyfriend had a depressive episode after he lost his father. He wanted a lot of space. Well over the last week or so, he's been more attentive and needed less time to himself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 12:41 PM
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My step dad really stepped up for my family. He was the father figure I needed and the husband my mom deserved after the abuse. My boyfriend is hard working, funny, and smart. They're both amazing examples of men.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 11:08 AM
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My step dad really stepped up for my family. He was the father figure I needed and the husband my mom deserved after the abuse. My boyfriend is hard working, funny, and smart. They're both amazing examples of men.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 11:07 AM
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People think it's cute honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 12:34 AM
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Does n count include oral? I always thought it was just penetration.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 03:29 PM
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I don't understand why you believe he absolutely can't do it. Like why can't he learn to?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 02:59 AM
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This is all great advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 03:00 PM
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Shyness can come off as coldness. Definitely be mindful. Maybe send out some signs you're interested?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:28 PM
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Sorry internets glitchy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 06:15 AM
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We were in a relationship for his last two but long distance so we didn't get to properly celebrate.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 11:26 PM
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It's totally possible he thinks you aren't/wouldn't be interested. How approachable are you? I know I'm not at all lol. In the past I liked guys. They liked me too but I didn't find out until later. They said they didn't think I'd like them. Mean while I thought it was their job to put themselves out there
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 09:51 PM
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This is his first birthday that well actually get to spend together so I'm not sure yet. Following for good ideas lol.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 06:22 PM
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This is his first birthday that well actually get to spend together so I'm not sure yet. Following for good ideas lol.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 06:21 PM
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This is his first birthday that well actually get to spend together so I'm not sure yet. Following for good ideas lol.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 06:21 PM
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In my first relationship he was seeing someone else without telling me. That was an absolute dealbreaker to me. In my second he just never had time for me. I've always required a lot of attention. In my third I was a stupid teenager. We were actually really good together but I just didn't appreciate him until it was too late. My fourth and fifth more or less left me. My boyfriend and I first said I love you like two months after we met. We had our first sexual encounter before we dated but we'd …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 03:12 PM
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I met most of mine on a site that's pretty dead now in self help sort of forums.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 03:05 PM
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I do! I'm horribly shy tho lol. Most of my close friendships are online.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 01:41 PM
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Writing down or just saying aloud things you like about your appearance may help
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 08:00 PM
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I can sort of understand where you're coming from. I hate a specific body part. My boyfriend is always tell ing me how much he loves mine. It makes me feel a bit weird because I don't get the attraction. I've learned to see it as a good thing tho. I know compliments are hard to take. You're used to insulting yourself. It's time to change that tho!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 01:28 PM
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Has he seemed receptive to change?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 12:58 PM
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I understand what youre saying. I just wanted to point out usually it's men who don't like me not being ultra feminist which is a little awkward. Also I'm pretty liberal. Just have noticed society has this weird attitude about men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 07:39 PM
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Is this something you've brought to his attention?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 07:35 PM
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My boyfriend is pretty conservative but he doesn't know I look at RPW stuff. Also you do have to be careful. A lot of people I've interacted with get mean if someone doesn't have ultra feminist views.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 11:01 AM
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Honestly my significant other manages with dinner and the house not being spotless. I almost never turn down sex. He's grumpy for awhile if I do tho. I think it's a bit natural. That being said overall do you feel appreciated?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 10:56 AM
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You should tell him what you need emotionally. I also think some one can have a preference and fall in love outside of that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 07:33 AM
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Eh I have friends who text things and say dont tell anyone not even your boyfriend. I just delete those parts. It'd be way easier to trust him if I could see his phone and verify that the stories in my head aren't true.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:06 AM
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The thing is as much as my mind tells me I'm a psycho I don't behave like one. I dont ask where he is because I always already know. I don't even often ask who's talking to. He's giving that information freely now where he used to not so I'm not trying to change that. The phone is the only thing. I believe we should have open access. He believes I should ask to look. Sort of defeats the purpose. I'm not going to ask to look. He and I have been discussing me going to therapy. He thinks it'll help…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 01:53 AM
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I already know why I stay. I just don't know how to "just trust someone." Never have. I keep telling myself to "just trust him" but then my mind creates things. That s the thing I need advice on. How I begin to completely trust. There's some level of trust. Just not complete. I still have urges to go through his phone. Never found anything the two times I looked but I still get the urge.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 01:43 AM
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No it was directed to you. You're telling me essentially there's no way to work out our issues. Yet there's always a way from what I've seen.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 01:37 AM
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I don't believe that. When my ex actually cheated on then left me I had to think about what parts he and I played in it, and learn to do better in the next relationship. Same thing with this except I refuse to leave over things that happened two years ago. Insecurities are something people can get over. Relationships can even move past infidelity. It's just that most people don't want to put work into anything.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 01:33 AM
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He did give it to me. I do believe he's changing. People seem more determined to argue that he hasn't than tell me how I can help myself get over these things. Even if I was single I'd have to.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 01:14 AM
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I meant that don't know him. I was typing quickly and didn't realize. I care because it's constant and pestering. They refuse to see why I won't constantly drudge all this back up. He isn't aware most of this upsets me anymore and I don't see a reason to say so.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 12:47 AM
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I don't know what I believe because there's always people trying to bully me into believing their way. Any time things go good for us people that don't even know us throw seeds of doubt at us.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 12:38 AM
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He has acknowledged most things he's done were wrong and apologized. Nowhere did I say he didn't.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 12:20 AM
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I can see that. I just dont think deep down in my heart that he's wrong for me. That could change. Nothing's ever certain. Of course I'm not extremely RPW either so I believe in soul mates too. I also believe he's mine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:52 AM
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I'm not sure how long the engagement will be but I'm sure it won't be super short. I agree. He's not going to stick around for years if he doesn't want to. I just don't want to be 30 and not married.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 02:43 AM
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Honestly there are always things that you can improve about yourself. It sounds like you want out with good reason so you should get out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 11:18 PM
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The thing is nothing physical ever happened that I know of. I'm not one to believe in "emotional affairs" unless they're way more than just feelings for someone else. If it had been physical I would have had to leave. He doesn't treat women like just spread legs. All of his exes say that and I've seen it. That s my point. I can't picture my life without him in it. I've tried when things have gotten hard. Never succeeded. I see no reason to not try with him. Women who got physically cheated on wi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 09:30 PM
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He IS changing. If he wasn't at all that would be different. He is talking to other women yes but from everything ive seen and heard it's just friendly. If ever I got proof it wasn't that would be different. I can't rationally expect him to never have a friendly conversation with a female again. The ring is proof that's he working toward the plans we made. He's the only person in my life who's seen how bad my depression issues can get and stuck around. He's one of the most fun people I've ever b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 02:52 PM
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It's common here to have a kid by 20-22. Anyway I love him and want to work on it. I don't believe he'd be buying a ring if he didnt want to work on it too. He IS changing. As I keep saying most of the secrets were two years ago.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 01:56 PM
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It actually doesn't bother me to "marry a guy who has a kid with another woman." I'm 26 almost 27. It'd probably happen no matter who I married. Most people I know already have kids.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 10:54 AM
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I highly doubt it. We live together so I would have noticed. As I said before he's a good dad. He wouldn't just abandon a child. He's opened up to me a lot about his past since then. As I told someone else, it was only eight days of us being a couple that he thought I didn't know. I'm worried my op made it seem longer.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 03:28 AM
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There's not going to be a person I trust without working at it. My first love cheated when I was 19. I've had two more than casual relationships since. Didn't trust either one at all. Yes my boyfriend gave me reasons but my ex before him didn't. I was just always sure she was doing something wrong. Either way it'd be a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 02:04 AM
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If I were to say anything positive about him every one would tell me to "stop making excuses for him." There are a million reasons why I stay. He's also soon to be my fiance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 01:00 AM
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She also constantly raves about what a good guy he is though she sees his flaws and how much she knows he loves her son.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 10:37 PM
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The way he describes it is she was more of a plate. She thought they were more serious than that from what I can tell but they both saw other people during the time she was supposed to be head over heels for him. I think it ultimately boiled down to she's younger than we are and lives at home. Her parents love him just not for her. She's told me this. Not him. It was very clearly not a case of he got her pregnant and ran. That's all of it I care to know.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 10:27 PM
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He isn't terribly mature though he's matured a lot in the past two years nor is he very secure. I honestly kind of chuckle every time I say this. My mom doesn't like anyone and she adores him. She knows what's happened between us too. I don't hide it from her. My best friend though she's my age also has a high opinion most of the time with our relationship. My step dad also loves him though I haven't confided a ton in him. He knows some of it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 09:38 PM
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Considering most of this stuff happened almost two years ago and there's been one instance in which he tried to hide something since that I know of I believe he's trying to change. I'm not sure anyone was clear this all didn't happen recently.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 09:19 PM
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I don't think I should just accept that he keeps secrets. It's something he's working on NOT doing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 09:05 PM
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Thank you. Well when him hiding his son happened we talked about it. He explained his reasoning and didn't try to justify it. Then he started not keeping stuff from me. When he hung out with his ex behind my back, I asked him. He admitted it. He was really defensive but I don't think it's happened again. Most of the issue there is she keeps drudging it up. He's since said he shouldn't have done it. Just every time she comes with some new drama at me as they don't talk it upsets me. To him it sho…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 07:15 PM
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I'm not sure how me being upset about him keeping secrets is solved by encouraging him to keep more.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 06:12 PM
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I feel like my post got misunderstood honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:31 PM
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I'm not disagreeing that he should have told me. People have conflicting views on when though. Most people I know DON'T say it up front. Again I'm not disagreeing. It's just how it is around here. Our parents teach us it's impossible to find a mate if we're a single parent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:05 PM
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Unfortunately not
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:02 PM
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Also you always give me advice. Thanks for putting up with me lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:00 PM
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From what I understand they mutually decided to end it. I've never asked because it doesn't really matter to me. To be clear we got together March 2nd officially and I told him i knew about his son on March 8th. Yes he should have told me obviously but we weren't really at the point where I was thinking he, his son, and I were definitely going to be a family. It was very early days. So he saw his son but not while I was around. He does have a lot of female attention and has since I've met him. I…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:59 PM
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For some reason Reddit didn't notify me about all the comments. I'm rather disappointed in this though. Everyone said leave him even though I said I'm not going to. I'm also uncomfortable being told I'm being used when I'm not sure what he could use me for lol and that he's a bad parent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:30 PM
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I don't ask who he talks to. He just tells me. I'd rather he tell me. I'm not going to constantly ask though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:28 PM
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I feel it's a little odd when people always assume that the woman got left. Like a mother can't leave the father even though it happens every day. He's actually really good with his son. This doesn't have a bearing on his parenting skills.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:26 PM
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Actually since I've learned there's no reason to say don't hang out with/talk to so and so. I don't appreciate it so I don't say it anymore. That I will agree with.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:22 PM
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I've only done things with three guys. Only went all the way with one. So I know how you feel. Anyway I've found that men like to know you're enjoying it. Enjoying pleasing him and being pleased both.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 12:05 PM
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That s so cute and sweet
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:55 AM
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As cliche as it sounds my boyfriend is absolutely my best friend. We were friends first though he made it clear early on he had intentions of marrying me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 07:06 PM
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Men seem to shy away if she's been married.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 12:46 AM
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Yes. I also would wonder what was special about us if he'd been there done that more than a few times.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 05:05 PM
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I guess it wouldn't really be how many times they've been in love per say as how many women they've say married for example. If he's been married five times and all five ended that means he either leaps without looking and doesn't vet properly or he doesn't try to make a commitment work.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 04:48 PM
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It's not unnatural no. A lot of women share your sentiment. I'm different tho. Not super important how many women a man has been with sexually. More important to me how many times they've been in love.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 10:56 AM
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I haven't brought up any of it as I said and don't plan to for at least three more weeks. Though he's the type that most of the time likes to hear about my spazzing hamster lol. He asked what was wrong yesterday and I brushed it off as best I could.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 01:59 AM
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I wasn't sure how to respond because I'm not treating him how I'd expect to be treated. I'm trying to figure out how he wants to be treated.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 08:05 PM
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I mean I haven't been there exactly but close.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 07:27 PM
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I mean I haven't been there exactly but close.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 07:27 PM
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I'm not happy being an emotional overthinker so I'm not trying to accept that about my self as much as trying to dial it down
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 05:13 PM
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It definitely wasn't a slight at other women lol. Just love the word as I'm really bad at over thinking like crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 05:01 PM
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I guess its hard to get used to him not needing the alone time that I do. I like time to recharge. He likes to be around me even if we've just had a fight most of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:53 PM
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I've tried to do that. He's been more cuddly lately.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:45 PM
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I haven't really said anything to him about his loss other than I'm sorry. I don't really know what else to say. I don't think he really expects me to say much.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:41 PM
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I already put his clothes out in the morning. We live with my parents. I'm not normally who cooks. Before he got something else I considered just sitting a grilled cheese in front of him but I didn't want it going to waste. I'm just really worried him going back to work is going to be super hard for him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:24 PM
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I feel naggy because I've had to push him to eat. I told him i had a craving last night for something he doesn't like. He insisted I get it. That he wasn't going to eat. So I kept on until he ate. I feel bad about that whole exchange but he's barely ate.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:16 PM
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I feel like the worst person in the world because here's this wonderful, gorgeous man that I'm insanely in love with grieving and I still wake up thinking about our fight. I haven't mentioned anything about it though. I don't feel like I should for at least three more weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:12 PM
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If he's outside I either sit out there with him or come in to watch tv. Then come back out when whatever I'm watching is over. If he's in the bedroom usually he leans back on me or grabs my hand if he wants affection. I feel smothering. Other people tell me I am too. But he says that's what he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:06 PM
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I feel like maybe I'm not asking those things enough.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 03:56 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean by don't pry?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 03:51 PM
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To be clear I have expressed a few times that I want more time but I've never said anything to him about not liking the phone use. We had a similar problem with the Xbox when he first moved in. He's asked me to tell him when I want him to stop playing but it feels demanding to be like "I know you enjoy that but stop for me!" Anyway so not saying anything won't be hard. I'm sure I do need to be more appreciative too. I'm also not trying to get his attention or punish him by not cooking often or n…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 05:39 PM
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I'm not in bc so it can't be that. I've "Been sad" since I was 14.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:21 PM
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And I'm aware men do cheat. I keep my eyes open but I've found no proof.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:15 PM
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He's never said I'm a shrew lol. He's told me I have an attitude though and I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:14 PM
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I feel like me not wanting him on it could be controlling. There's no rational reason I don't want him on it. I mean I want more time together and I asked him for that today. Otherwise it's just insecurity. I do want to clean more yes. I've gotten so lazy. I also want to cook more but I'd be just as happy with someone else doing that. Little things like being told more than once annoy me. It's part of his personality to say I want xyz more than once. I don't want to have a major fight because of…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 08:03 PM
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Again nothing I've said has indicated we have any problems there but thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 07:01 PM
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I'm interested to know how you gathered from any of this I'm denying him sex. Post said nothing about our sex life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:54 PM
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I'm going to have to respectfully disagree. He isn't shy about asking for what he wants but I have boundaries and he respects them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:40 PM
1

I give him massages when he asks. Got to work on doing them harder though admittedly. I'm kinda shy about offering one without him asking though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:26 PM
1

Yeah, he's told me it's problematic if I'm on my phone. I cut way down on use while he's home as a result. No big deal. I don't feel I have the right to ask him to cut down his phone use. I just don't want him to be talking inappropriately to someone else and I worry he is. As far as asking what he wants he's told me. He wants me to clean more, cook more, and have less attitude. An example of attitude would be we were sitting outside one day. He said I need my time sheet. I've got to get it turn…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:05 PM
1

He says the lock on his phone was because of people he works with. He's expressed before that someone said if they ever found my number or social media they'd talk to me to get a reaction or some other nonsense. But I dont know. That sounds immature. He says he doesn't care if I look at his phone. He just wants me to ask first but in my mind that defeats the purpose. At any rate I used to have a lock on my mine because of other people so I don't really mind. Before the breakup I had been telling…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:59 PM
2

Interestingly enough I have been thinking about getting back into journaling. I kept one faithfully on paper for years. Then I used an online one but got discouraged. Definitely need to go back to paper.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:02 PM
1

I've never been officially diagnosed but I believe I do have depression. I don't believe my feelings are his fault. I do believe he pushes for a response though. He's seemed to get a bit more attached to his phone recently. He has new games on there so logically I think that's it but emotionally not quite there. He also recently put a lock on it which makes me nervous but I've been known to snoop before. In my snooping I've never found anything that pointed to cheating. Comments I didn't like? Y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:53 PM
3

In the past he did some things I asked him not to. When I confronted him he admitted to them. I wouldn't say he was unfaithful though. I had an orbitor. I saw him as a close friend but he kept trying to break up my relationship. I wasn't unfaithful though. He doesn't like me to use my phone while he's asleep. He thinks it looks suspicious. He also doesn't like me talking a lot to other guys. I sleep when he does now even though I think the phone thing is absurd. I also no longer have close guy f…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:33 PM
3

A friend would be a dealbreaker
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 11:43 AM
1

I'm in a committed relationship. However: Pros. I'm sweet. Smart. I make my boyfriend laugh. Caring. Have a nurturing side. Love taking care of him. Pretty submissive towards him. Cons. Don't take very good care of my body/appearance. Depression. Attitude sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:16 AM
2

It doesn't bother me with my current boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:35 PM
1

I think he kind of needs to know. I wouldn't like my bf hiding something like that from me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 02:00 AM
1

Shower helped me get more comfortable with my bf seeing me naked. Anal isn't something you ever have to do. And I still feel weird about the other so not sure what to suggest.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 02:22 PM
1

Honestly we werent together the first time. Wed been best friends that were falling in love for four years tho.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 02:18 PM
3

I don't know. SMV isn't everything in a relationship. For instance mine isn't very high. My boyfriend's is. I know when we go out people wonder why were together. I try my best to treat him really well tho. I'd say my RMV is much higher than my SMV. I don't think all men are settling.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 12:30 PM
2

Sorry for the late reply. Honestly we were only 19. He mostly wanted a hookup. I didn't. We were long distance and he wasn't really seeking that kinda relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 09:55 PM
2

Sorry for the late reply but my boyfriend and I use to do that too! He still occasionally calls me cupcake or kitty.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 09:53 PM
3

I have one close friend and a couple of friends. I live in WV.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:41 PM
3

Sounds like normal cold feet from what I've heard.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:10 PM
1

I think it could be too soon. My bf and I progressed quickly but we were best friends for years before we started dating. I don't feel you really know someone in less than a year.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 10:18 AM
2

My boyfriend's phone doesn't have a lock on it. Mine does but he knows it. My boyfriend goes through mine whenever he wants and he's told me I can do the same. I only did it once tho. Anyway he brought it up.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 08:51 PM
1

Financially I'd be fine. Emotionally I'm not so sure.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:43 AM
2

My boyfriend isn't​ aware of the red pill to my knowledge. Never dated anyone who was. However my man's pretty traditional.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 02:07 PM
9

When my first love cheated I tried everything to understand why he did it. A lot of people didn't like that I did. I never condoned it but I tried to learn from it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 12:40 PM
1

I just realized I do this often. I also often say I didn't know that tho.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 08:39 AM
1

I've always thought a year or two then engagement. Then another year or so until the wedding. My boyfriend asked me to marry him less than a year in though and we've extended our wedding plans.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 08:26 AM
3

I've always thought a year or two then engagement. Then another year or so until the wedding. My boyfriend asked me to marry him less than a year in though and we've extended our wedding plans.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 08:26 AM
1

I read Reddit a lot for the drama too. I don't see it as a bad thing.
/r/RedPillWives04/06/17 01:29 AM
3

I remember feeling that way after my first love and I ended. It took four years but I finally got swept off my feet again. You will find someone else. It just takes time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:21 PM
1

My bf and I started out as friends. We had sex before we became official but we'd known and cared about each other for over four years prior. My idea btw not to be official at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 10:06 PM
5

I don't know why something not serious cant develop into seriousness. When I met my bf I had no idea we'd date let alone be making long term plans.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 10:01 PM
1

I believe people should live together before marriage. My boyfriend and I have been living together for a little over a month. It's only upped his talk of marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 03:16 PM
4

Honestly I don't date much older. My biggest age difference was seven years. It was a bad experience.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 03:01 PM
3

Honestly most women I know get used only when they put out too early. Then they know they're being used but think it's not as simple as just don't give in too fast. Just make a guy wait a bit. He can.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 10:33 AM
2

My boyfriend and I call each other babe. He also occasionally calls me babygirl. I love that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:44 AM
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I say I wouldn't tho maybe I could. It'd depend.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:39 AM
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I say I wouldn't tho maybe I could. It'd depend.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:39 AM
9

Love this. I'm also liberal but love reading and applying some rpw behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:37 AM
1

My parents divorced when I was eight. My dad was abusive. Not a healthy marriage or divorce by any sense of the word. It's effected me socially. Didn't really in school.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 04:05 AM
1

I think it's an individual thing and depends on how you define need
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 01:31 PM
1

I have before but I wouldn't now. I have a guy friend but my bf has asked me to dial back our friendship. So I'm working on that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 12:38 AM
1

Agreed. My mom told me as long as I'm happy doing it work whatever job I want.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 04:17 AM
1

What I gathered from this is that it's normal that my boyfriend's SMV is higher than mine? It's pretty much a fact too not just my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 05:23 PM
4

One/some of your students could grow up to do big things though and then you had a hand in that at least in a small way. I agree it's a different kind of intelligence. I think you should be proud to be a teacher tho. Teachers are important.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 05:17 PM
7

I see their point about the women in fairytales sacrificing too much of themselves for a man. However I never watched The Little Mermaid and thought I should sacrifice my voice for a chance with a guy I liked. I enjoyed that we're both redheads. That she liked to sing. Her relationship with Eric, her friends, and family were also something I liked.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 04:49 PM
6

How does being a teacher mean you aren't smart? I would think you'd have to be intelligent to be a successful teacher.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 04:42 PM
1

That is so awesome :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:17 AM
3

I melt when my boyfriend looks over at me and says "you make me happy."
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:14 AM
7

Honestly I don't think a "stay at home wife" unless the husband has a GOOD job is practical in today's world. I think a "stay at home mom" is way more practical. Not always doable but practical. I hope I can be one when I have kids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:11 AM
2

I think some people tend to think that one can't possibly know what they like unless they're with a bunch of different people. It's not my belief tho.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 04:40 AM
1

Sounds like you need to work on standing up for yourself. If ever again a guy starts coming on to you even walk away or firmly say no. Doesn't matter who he is. You are allowed to say no.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 10:01 PM
1

I guess I'm just having trouble understanding why you didn't stay far away if it felt like rape? I mean after the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 09:46 PM
3

I think step one is taking responsibility for your actions. You slept with this guy because you WANTED to. If it was rape you should have stayed far away from him after the event.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 09:19 PM
2

Can't disagree there.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 08:58 PM
3

I hear the "be more demanding" thing a lot. I didn't settle down with my first boyfriend. However I am aiming to settle down with my first serious boyfriend. It's something people tell me I'll regret but so far I don't see why. Oh my I hear every day on how it's perfectly fine for a female if she's not getting exactly what she wants from a relationship to have fun on the side. Seems like a woman could just leave or have a discussion if that was the case to me though. My boyfriend and I are curre…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:58 PM
2

I see what you're getting at. Alcohol is certainly a habit I wouldn't encourage anyone to pick up if they haven't. I was never an addict but I stopped about a month ago for personal reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:53 PM
1

I have drank and tried other things. I don't think that makes anyone a bad person. I know RPW kind of advocates against it tho.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:54 PM
2

Even still a grown man who won't pick up after himself? Yikes. I hope for their sake Lucy does.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:13 PM
1

I don't think guys want a girl clinging to them 24/7. However I don't think guys want a cold girl either.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:07 PM
4

It just read to me like you were saying Barry is the way he is because of Lucy. I was wrong tho. Even if Barry is the World's Greatest Father, the girls still need their mother. Hopefully she'll see that in time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:00 PM
3

My boyfriend and I had been dating for a month or two when he asked if I had any fantasies. I told him about what I wanted to try and we started going from there. Sometimes I wonder if it makes him see me differently. He's never given me a reason to think so tho.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 05:57 PM
2

I'm a bit confused on how you seem to blame her for most of this. I wouldn't leave my girls with Barry if I were Lucy. I also wouldn't stay with Barry if I were Lucy. She acts like his mother because he clearly acts like he needs one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 05:49 PM
4

I am grateful for my amazing bf calling me last night and making me smile. I am grateful for my friend being there to talk to me. I am grateful for my dog for being my constant companion. I'm a glass half empty type of girl can't lie.
/r/RedPillWives29/03/17 07:56 AM
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He lets me hug all over him even when he's mad. He never leaves me alone anywhere. He's the only guy I've ever felt safe with. He makes sure I know he wouldn't let anything happen to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/17 07:49 PM
1

That's the impression I got
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 05:02 AM
5

Eh I sort of think rpw says focus on putting yourself first and making yourself the best version of you before catching a man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:06 AM
2

I've had that experience with guys I've dated. Best thing to do is just show him you're not with him for his money
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 03:04 AM
3

Honestly if you won't be happy doing it don't
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 02:54 AM
3

This is my first LTR and we got together when I was 24. I am a shy person and never wanted to be a plate. It happens.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 11:31 PM
1

Honestly focus on all those good things you're doing first of all. Then focus on maybe joining a group or something to meet new guys.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:56 AM
2

Honestly if your core beliefs/values are different I don't see it working long term.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:51 AM
2

My parents taught me to be independent and find a job I like.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:41 PM
1

I didn't necessarily mean sleeping with each person tho.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/17 03:32 AM
1

I dont think when you're single\not serious it is a bad thing. However in a serious relationship it isn't okay.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 08:23 PM
7

Maybe it just feels like it because he treats me better than anyone else ever has
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 09:31 PM
5

I honestly kind of like it. Like my bf calls me on my crap but he also tells me how great I am.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 08:37 PM
2

I'm glad you left. A friend of mine was dating a guy but not exclusively. she found a hair tie in his room. He told her it was hers up until they broke up. Then he admitted it was someone elses.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 05:39 PM
3

honestly doesn't sound like you're vetting too harshly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 05:37 PM
1

That's a good tip. I am definitely someone who loves words. my boyfriend and I are both people who show love through doing things for each other tho. anyway I have the tell me I'm pretty moments sometimes. so I might steal your idea.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 06:18 AM
11

hmm it sounds like he doesn't understand how serious this is. I would try talking about it again if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 06:14 AM
5

You told him to look for another girl so he is. Please don't let it offend you that he was straight up with you. He did you a favor. you don't want to be a plate and that's all this guy wants.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 04:05 AM
1

honestly this might be out of place advice here but I'd just tell him you want a relationship. If he does too he'll say so. If not it's best you know now.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 04:34 PM
3

I didn't wait until marriage but boy can I relate to this. I just mostly wanted you to know you aren't alone. what else do you like about yourself? its best to like qualities in yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 12:56 PM
3

I think you should be careful because this is your first relationship. However I've never bought into the older men are always taking advantage of younger women theory. I don't think she's necessarily right in other words.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 11:06 PM
1

It was basically just about things I want to be able to do next time we're together lol. Followed up with some romantic stuff about how I love him and can't wait to marry him etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/17 12:42 AM
1

Yes I believe that it is.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 05:54 AM
3

Honestly this is a perfect time to work on you for you. If you need to cry. Just also work on fixing whatever flaws you feel you have.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:59 AM
30

It honestly sounds like something else is going on. Time to ask if you guys can talk about it and see if anything else is wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:48 AM
2

I wrote my boyfriend a sexy letter.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:46 AM
1

Thanks! Short stories usually romantic.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:45 AM
3

My boyfriend drew me a picture and got me a card and a letter. I was happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 09:36 PM
2

He has asked me to change one or two things about myself. More of the you're still pretty shy with me, can you try not to be variety. Of which I don't mind changing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 08:28 PM
1

I am a part-time caregiver. I also ghost write on the side.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 08:20 PM
3

Eh it honestly sounds like he's trying to change you to me. If you wanted to change that'd be one thing but it sounds like you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:57 PM
2

I love this. I feel like it more suits who my bf is.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:48 PM
5

I do believe in soulmates. I believe my boyfriend is mine. That being said that doesn't mean I can stop putting effort in my relationship and keep him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 09:24 PM
1

Lol yes. I'm also really sensitive so if I think of something mean I immediately think would it hurt feelings if I said this? Best not say it. If I ask my boyfriend he's like 'yeah nothing about that was mean' tho.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 12:04 AM
1

I'm a sweetheart. I'm easily one of the nicest people you will ever meet. Literally don't know how to be mean 90% of the time. I'm good with kids and animals. Everyone's pets and babies love me. I'm a good listener. I don't talk very much at all so everyone knows instinctively that I'll listen and not spread their business around. I take care of my boyfriend's emotional needs. He often remarks that I always know how to make him feel better. I'm a pretty good writer. I have a side job as a ghost …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 08:59 PM
3

No problem. Honestly if she's this obsessed she's probably missing out on other chances for men who will go out with her. You could add that too.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 02:46 AM
2

This is one of the RP things I agree with. I'm making a conscious effort now to not badmouth him. Of course it goes along with owning my faults/issues in my relationship which I feel is very important.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 12:44 AM
6

Sometimes it's hard for people to realize someone doesn't like them/not everyone is meant for them. Maybe encourage her if he's single to ask him out and see what happens. If he says no it's time to drop it. If he has a girlfriend tho maybe it's time to drop it. That's too messy of a situation.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 12:40 AM
2

Hello I'm 26/female/in an LTR? It hasn't even been two years lol does that count? Anyway I mostly lurk to see what I agree with and can apply to my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 11:04 PM
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