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People who leave their families instead of working on it ( within reason of course and no crazy/unsafe situations ) are the problem. There are two people in a marriage and partnership, usually there is fault in both sides.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:46 PM
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I’m so so sorry dude. I wish people did not give up so easily especially when you have children.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:20 AM
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This I feel this so hard. Sorry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 08:02 PM
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THISSS. Ffs the way ppl give up not only on their relationship but on their children wrecking their trajectory and stability. I’m sorry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 07:56 PM
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Tell her you guys need to have a serious conversation. Sir her down and tell her to listen to absorb your message and no speaking until you are done. Let her know love her ( bonus if you add the qualities you actually love/like from her) then tell her you do not feel valued or loved because you are constantly disrespected even after you’ve told her to fix this. Therapy for herself and couples therapy would be my best offer and how she responds would really tell you a lot. Sorry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 12:58 AM
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I’m so sorry dude. It’s so frustrating when the people who you thought were going to be there forever and promised they would no matter what end up disappointing you. The way someone can just drop you is beyond cruel. No kids? If not it’s a blessing. We got a kiddo and it’s just so painful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 04:00 PM
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I feel this so much. My son has been deeply affected by this and it hurts me why someone would not on do this to their “family” but child.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 03:20 AM
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Wow sorry what a painful betrayal but Mae sure you quickly get all of this official in case she goes back on it. Wishing you and baby the best. So sad ppl just walk away from their families.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 02:17 AM
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I’m so sorry dude. It’s disgusting when someone decides to leave a family that loves them. You’re an amazing dad and person.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 11:10 PM
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You’re an absolutely amazing dad, man, and person …I’m so sorry dude
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 07:33 AM
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I feel this soooo hard. Always here to chat dude. It’s been almost a year and I still feel like this.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 08:22 PM
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Dude I can be social but don’t really have any close friends anymore. I’m currently lonely and sad af. Oh well. Life goes on. I gotta grind and focus on kiddo and getting my goals accomplished.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 09:54 PM
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I’m so sorry. Hugs
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 09:29 PM
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I’m so so sorry for you. What a gross human she is. We were never married but have a special needs kiddo. It hurts so much that kiddo’s life is forever changed for the worse. For someone who’s supposed to love us, to choose this for us is beyond painful.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 10:16 PM
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I feel this so hard. You’re a good dude. Giving up on your family for what it seems like nothing is such a killer.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 02:16 AM
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THISS!! 100%
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 06:02 PM
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I’m so sorry dude. Ugh the feeling blindsided and that there’s no will to even work on things is frustrating. When they continue a new narrative to make it make sense to walk away from you and the family.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 04:41 PM
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I’m sorry dude. It hurts. When someone who decides to just give up on not only you but the family feels so wicked. You’re a good dude and all the “simp” shit is just you being a fucking human with feelings for the person who you thought loved you, was the mother of your children, and lastly the person who you loved so deeply because you’re loyal. I feel this. Focus on your healing and kiddo. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 12:15 AM
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You are a good dude. You’re giving her the chance to save the marriage by providing guidance and guidelines. If it ever does work out, I’d recommend not only marriage counseling with a LMFT but also individual therapy. Some books aka homework for BOTH of you; the 5 love language by Dave Chapman, John Gottman (8 dates and 7 principles), attached, hold me tight, Come together, listening to brene brown, etc. wishing you all the best dude. The way you have written this all out shows how well thought…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 11:20 PM
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Wow this is spot on. My heart constantly hurts when these all pop into my head.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 01:21 PM
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I feel this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 02:11 AM
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Wishing you all the best. You’re a good father.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 01:56 PM
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Yes. Talk to others. I kept everything a secret because then it’ll be real and probably my ego.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 12:57 AM
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I’m sorry dude 🫂 wishing you the best
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 01:16 AM
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I’m so sorry. 🫂
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 11:31 PM
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I’m so sorry dude sounds hard
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 02:39 AM
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You guys need marriage counseling and a serious talk. If you want this to work out you BOTH need to communicate clearly.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 12:17 AM
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I’m so sorry dude. She is not okay and at least from this recount she’s just abusive and not willing to do anything. She needs therapy and to see what she’s doing. Focus on you and kiddo. Read some books not for your marriage but for you. 7 principles for making marriage work, 5 love languages, 8 dates, attached, hold me tight, etc and you should try to get a therapist possibly a LMFT to help with what’s going on
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 02:32 AM
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Sorry dude
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 02:50 AM
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That’s crazy she did that. Again, she’s only taking it as an insult on her end without seeing how what she proposed was an insult too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 04:00 PM
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lol it sucks. I’ve been reading a lot of John Gottman’s books, Dave Chapman, two other books ( attached and self compassion) and parenting books. Doing therapy, focusing on my son, career stuff, and making opportunities to see my ex ( for our son but also to spend time together).
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 12:09 AM
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Not me. My biggest mistake was thinking he saw things as I did. That we would get to our issues after we dealt with housing/job security and other goals we agreed upon and then he was out. I’m doing everything to get my family back together. My commitment is forever. We have a son together and weren’t married just engaged. He wanted a big wedding while I wanted to save that money for a home and then I’d plan something small.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 11:31 PM
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Oh wow. You can’t force her to reconcile and I know you know that. First, go to therapy, self care, just focus on the kiddo and bettering you ( habits, your goals, health, mental health etc). If you want to read some books read, self compassion, this is how your marriage ends, “attached”, 5 love languages, 8 dates & 7 principles for making marriage work ( both by John Gottman). Also don’t agree to putting her first, tell her it’s your child, yourself and you’re there to support her as a coparent…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 03:58 PM
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Yes but the other person has to want to try and make it work. I feel this wholeheartedly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:24 PM
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I’m so sorry dude
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 12:10 AM
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I’m so sorry
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:37 PM
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I’m so sorry for you. You’re a good person and father.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 09:40 PM
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What has your therapist done to help you speak up. She shouldn’t be monopolizing the therapist session.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 08:27 PM
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Your situation is different than everyone else. If you want to leave and not put in all the effort together as she’s “showing” some willingness to change then that’s because you don’t want to. If you do and want to give the chance to change and grow together fine but have things discussed with a therapist with time expectations and a concrete understanding/plan of action. Also why do you want to leave? Is it because of issues that cannot be worked on or you just simple don’t love them or want to…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 11:43 PM
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I feel like that about my ex. I love him so much and just want him to give counseling a chance. We have a son with special needs and he needs both of us. I know we both love each other but we’re both hurt and had to take on so much in the beginning. He barely communicated the last year about wanting to be done especially since we had a plan to get x y Z done and then we’d go to couples counseling and work on us. But he basically just chose to leave without even telling me or even giving me a cha…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 05:00 AM
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