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| 1 | You’ll go your whole life fantasizing about girls you were too afraid to meet.I do offer products and services because I do this for a living. The approach anxiety guide mentioned in this post I wrote is free and so is the knowledge I share in my posts. What’s your point? | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 02:18 PM |
| -7 | You’ll go your whole life fantasizing about girls you were too afraid to meet.yes, just tap free pdf https://solo.to/charlesocial | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 02:11 PM |
| -1 | You’ll go your whole life fantasizing about girls you were too afraid to meet.I’ve just replied to your comment clarifying it | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 02:05 PM |
| -2 | You’ll go your whole life fantasizing about girls you were too afraid to meet.It is a free guide… I don’t put links directly because the subreddit mods took down the posts in which I did so. | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 02:02 PM |
| -3 | You’ll go your whole life fantasizing about girls you were too afraid to meet.it’s literally free, what do you mean? | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | 31 with alot of gray hairs.I’m 22 and have plenty of grey hair, girls don’t really care and some even think it’s charming. Don’t overthink it. | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do in this situationif he’s really your friend you know what to do | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 11:52 AM |
| 0 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindhttps://solo.to/charlesocial here you go | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindkey is to move fast I believe | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindMe personally no, as I’m the one who pushes them. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:38 PM |
| 0 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindof course https://solo.to/charlesocial | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindWord. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 12:45 PM |
| 0 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindIt’s right here bro https://solo.to/charlesocial | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 12:44 PM |
| 4 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindI guess it’s a part of every man’s path cause I’ve fumbled so many approaches too lol | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidthanks man https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidhere you go https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidhttps://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidof course bro https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 11:16 AM |
| 6 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidI don’t mind it. As long as I’m helping the guys who’re interested I’m good. Also the article isn’t even mine lol, just something I came across and thought would be helpful for the community. Thanks for the support btw! | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 02:36 PM |
| -5 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidhttps://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ got it from here bro | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 01:58 PM |
| -13 | Text/online game is an amazing tool to get you laidof course bro, i got it from here https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-get-laid-guide/ | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 01:52 PM |
| 3 | It is better to be rejected than to regret.You should be teaching us if you’re this good! | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 10:36 AM |
| 2 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Care to elaborate? | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Who said anything about approaching 100 times in one night? I really like RSD too and consider Max to be my role model | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 07:00 PM |
| 0 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Thanks for pointing it out bro this explains a lot lol | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 04:59 PM |
| 1 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Don’t know what it could be | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 04:47 PM |
| 3 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Not a waste of time bro | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 03:57 PM |
| 2 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10I mean 10 as a quantity lol, but yeah this can be true. Was this a long time ago? | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10No problem. Appreciate your perspective either way! | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 03:42 PM |
| 3 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Both should go hand in hand, that’s the point of the post | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 03:31 PM |
| 6 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10No offense but did you read the post? | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 03:00 PM |
| 2 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Yeah you might wanna read the post again, seems to me that you missed the point entirely. | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 12:52 PM |
| 88 | You don’t need to talk to 100 girls. You need to be seen by the right 10Thing with social circle game is that when you befriend girls, even 6s or 7s, eventually they will invite you to gatherings or hangouts where 9s will be, and then 1 of 2 things happen, and I had both happen to me: 1. They have 9/10 friends that will be way easier to open and talk to because you already have a warm social circle with their friends 2. You show up with girls to a venue and that gives you social proof to 9/10 strangers Either way, you benefit from the social circle you built. | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 12:42 PM |
| 1 | I only started improving with women when I stopped taking rejection personallyFeel free to share it with me here or, if you’re more comfortable, in my dms! | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 10:44 PM |
| 1 | I only started improving with women when I stopped taking rejection personallyhttps://solo.to/charlesocial here you go! | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 01:42 PM |
| 6 | I only started improving with women when I stopped taking rejection personallyI’m sorry to hear that man. If you want to get back on it or just vent feel free to dm me, I’m always happy to help and I feel I’d be able to put you back on track regarding dating/pickup. | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 12:42 PM |
| 3 | What actually makes women want to come home with youWhat you’re feeling is more common than you think. The issue isn’t really about your intentions, it’s about how the vibe is being perceived. When a girl senses that you’re hoping for something to happen, even if you’re not being pushy, it changes the energy. Things stop feeling light and start feeling like there’s an unspoken pressure behind the interaction. That’s usually where the whole “prey” feeling she mentioned comes from. Girls are highly tuned into social dynamics. If it feels like you’r… | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 12:30 PM |
| 4 | I only started improving with women when I stopped taking rejection personallyAnd how’s it been going for you now? | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 12:27 PM |
| 10 | Finally beat my anxiety and cold approached. Getting rejected felt way better than regret!Congratulations bro! | /r/seduction | 06/05/25 12:47 PM |
| 1 | How to "seal the deal"?What changed for me was understanding that “sealing the deal” isn’t about making a move at the end. It’s about setting the tone early. If you’re being fun, a little flirty, and creating light tension from the start, then things naturally escalate over time and it doesn’t feel like a switch you’re flipping later. Also, don’t wait until the night’s wrapping up to bring up the next move. Sprinkle it casually earlier. Something like “we should continue this with a drink at mine later”, said halfway … | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:04 PM |
| 5 | Need Advice. I can open fine, but can't seem to build attraction.This used to happen to me too. I’d open fine, get some interest, and then feel it slowly slip away mid-convo. What changed things was realizing attraction isn’t built by “trying” to build attraction. It’s not about saying flirty things or perfect timing, it’s about vibe. Playfulness, boldness, presence. If the convo feels too logical or polite, it starts to feel like an interview. Try teasing more, being unpredictable, saying things just for fun and even exaggerate a little. It shifts the energy… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:03 PM |
| 1 | How does one ask out a serverBest move is to treat her like a regular human first, not a target. Next time you go, keep things light—make a casual comment about something in the bar, ask a playful question, build a vibe. No pressure, just light familiarity. When you do that two or three times, then you can say something like “Hey, I like your energy, would be fun to get a drink sometime when you’re off duty” — and hand her your number with a smile. If she’s into it, she’ll text. If not, no harm done. Don’t try to “convince”… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Doing everything ‘right’ - so why am I still invisible to women?You’re showing up polished, consistent, open… but maybe too refined. There’s no tension, no polarity, no edge. Women feel it when there’s nothing to “figure out.” Most guys in this zone have unknowingly become emotionally available but energetically forgettable. If a girl can sense that you’d make a great boyfriend for someone but not necessarily her, you get stuck in that invisible middle space. Happens more than people realize. There are a couple things I’d want to ask you before I give a more… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:02 PM |
| 2 | How important is social proof?When you’re seen around other women (especially ones who are attractive or clearly enjoy being around you), it short-circuits a lot of the natural skepticism. You’re pre-approved. Girls assume you’re safe, fun, and probably have something going for you. It’s not even conscious most of the time, just instinctual. I’ve seen dudes go from invisible to magnetic just by tweaking their environment and stacking a few mixed social settings. | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:01 PM |
| 2 | tried to talk to a girlYou actually did the hardest part, man… you opened your mouth. Most never even get that far. But yeah, that reaction stings. The truth is, some girls are gonna be cold, some just caught off guard, some having a bad day. Doesn’t mean you messed up. The trick is to build enough reference points that one weird look doesn’t throw you off. What helped me was treating it like going to the gym. Low-stakes reps: ask for directions, make a comment about something random in line, compliment a stranger’s j… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 09:00 PM |
| 2 | 25M strategy for hot foreign girlfriend?If you’re working nonstop, the key is building a passive setup where you meet high-quality girls without chasing. Think social environments that attract the kind of women you like, and just becoming part of the scene consistently. Over time, you become the guy they’re curious about, no apps, no cold approaches, no awkwardness. I’ve built something like that myself. If you want a breakdown personalized for your own lifestyle, shoot me a DM | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 03:48 PM |
| -1 | If your approaches feel weird or forced, read thishttps://solo.to/charlesocial Here you go! Tap free PDF | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Fear of what other people might thinkhttps://solo.to/charlesocial here you go man! | /r/seduction | 02/05/25 10:27 PM |
| 21 | Tomorrow I become the 24 year old virginI really feel you on this. A lot of us have been in that dark spot where nothing seems to click, and it feels like time’s slipping away. You’re not too old, and it’s definitely not too late but I know how heavy it all can feel when you’re in it. If you ever want to talk in more detail or just vent without judgment, shoot me a DM. I’ve worked through some of this stuff with other dudes and would be glad to connect. | /r/seduction | 02/05/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Still scared of approaching girlsI was inspired by your post to make my new post today! Hope it helps you man. | /r/seduction | 02/05/25 02:03 PM |
| 1 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachI hate to “cut it” but this actually happened lol. Not only is he not handsome as he is 5’6”. Keep coping I guess. | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 09:06 PM |
| 1 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approach? I just told you I knew what I was doing. Of course I approached them because they were pretty, young girls. Just didn’t want to convey any intentions that time around in order to keep the stakes lower. | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeMade a post for your situation, check it out! | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 03:08 PM |
| 1 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachThis isn’t a cold approach in the sense of approaching a girl with the intention of getting with her. It was a warm approach because the intention was “just chatting”… Of course I knew what I was doing but the stakes are so much lower in this kind of approach because you just let the tension build within time. | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 02:36 PM |
| 1 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachYes, they did. As we kept going out with them the opportunities came from the girls themselves. | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringehttps://solo.to/charlesocial right here man! | /r/seduction | 01/05/25 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeI’ve written a guide specifically for approach anxiety bro. If you wanna give it a little read it’s right here https://solo.to/charlesocial Also if you feel as if you need some deep help you can always hit me up on dms and I’ll look into it with more detail. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeI’ll make a post based on this exact issue tomorrow then. Thanks for the feedback! | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringePensa comigo mano, por que alguém se incomodaria, assustaria ou ficaria bravo com você por querer começar uma conversa? Eu também pensava assim mas isso nem faz sentido e na prática sequer existe, acredite. E ainda mais no nosso país que é mais aberto e receptivo eu te afirmo que isso NÃO acontece na vida real. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeYeah | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 03:29 PM |
| 6 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeWhat are you doing instead in order to meet girls? | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeOf course! https://solo.to/charlesocial Here you go | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeYes. The amount of over analyzing I’d do was incredible, even got myself guessing minimal details about girls just to excuse myself from approaching. Feels so freeing to let it all go. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeI also think that mid girls try to compensate by having an attitude, whilst the more attractive ones, as you said, are more secure about themselves and don’t need to act all snappy. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 01:39 PM |
| 6 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeThat’s another good perspective. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 01:13 PM |
| 22 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeI’ve come to the conclusion that attractive girls are more receptive to approaches in comparison to mid girls. Don’t know if it’s just my experience but yeah. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 01:00 PM |
| 3 | Confidence isn’t thinking you’ll win. It’s knowing you’ll be fine if you don’tYou’re an e-thot lol | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 12:30 AM |
| 7 | Confidence isn’t thinking you’ll win. It’s knowing you’ll be fine if you don’tSome tough times come for good reasons | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 02:25 PM |
| 9 | Confidence isn’t thinking you’ll win. It’s knowing you’ll be fine if you don’tThat’s a good self belief to have. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 01:59 PM |
| 1 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachsent you a message | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 04:54 PM |
| 0 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachcheck dms | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 04:53 PM |
| 4 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachMax himself is a natural introvert so what you are saying doesn’t make any sense. Also, it didn’t go “magically smooth”, I’ve learned this shit for years lol, of course I’m a good talker, but not naturally good, this was trained in my case. Either way, saying this simply doesn’t work just shows me that you either: Have no idea of what you’re talking about and just want to spread misinformation Actually tried it the wrong way and it didn’t go down well in your case As I said before, I mean no off… | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 04:50 PM |
| 13 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachThis friend of mine is far from handsome and still got with multiple of these girls. No offense but this blackpill advice serves no purpose but to fuck up potential. You said that I’m either very good or very bad, but from the things you wrote what I can say with certainty is that you, my friend, have no idea what you’re talking about. | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 04:17 PM |
| 5 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachYes! | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 01:43 PM |
| 10 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachHere’s the problem with this: As much as you work in your money looks, it’ll only take you so far. Sure, you’ll get matches in dating apps and get laid consistently, but you’ll massively cap your true potential by doing this, for two reasons: Dating apps have a 3/1 ratio of males to females, so the odds of you going lower than yourself are very high. 90% of the guys aren’t at their full looks/money potential yet and waiting until they get there in order to get girls is blatantly stupid. Why wait… | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 01:38 PM |
| 2 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachThis is good advice | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 12:57 PM |
| 16 | Why You'll Never Get Better At GameI deeply regret opening your profile | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Someone said, rejection doesn't hurt, not approaching does...NOT TRUE!!I see you didn’t really like my post… The point I was trying to make there was that you have to experience one of two pains: Rejection: Brutal, the girl rejects you and you feel like shit… and then 1 hour later you’re still alright. You are still you, you didn’t lose a limb, you didn’t harm yourself plus you gained experience and can be proud of yourself for giving it a shot. Or it can go well and you go out with the girl, and end up getting laid… who the fuck knows? Not trying: 100% chance of n… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 10:32 PM |
| 5 | How to stop telling myself I’ll approach today then I end up walking around for 2-3 hours ?What did it for me was: I stopped thinking. Literally. I’d see a girl and just move my body before my brain had time to ruin it. I’d walk straight up and say the first thing that came to mind. The key was putting myself in front of her so I had no way out. No escape. No backing off. After a few tries like that, everything started to change. It didn’t feel like life or death anymore. It was just a conversation. You don’t need to feel ready, you just need to move. If that resonates and you want mo… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 10:28 PM |
| 3 | How do you have a social life in Germany?Bro I’ve helped guys from Germany and yeah, it’s not the easiest place to build a social life, especially if you’re not into the bar scene. But it’s doable if you change the angle. Instead of trying to meet girls directly, start by embedding yourself into scenes where people naturally hang out: language exchange meetups, casual co-ed sports, photography walks, even gyms with classes. From there, the social circle builds organically. Also, daytime approaches can still work but they need to be ult… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 10:26 PM |
| 2 | SeductionEscalation isn’t about making a move out of nowhere. It’s about reading the vibe, leaning in slowly, and letting her feel the tension rise without it ever feeling forced. Start light. Break the touch barrier early… handshake, high five, playful shoulder tap. Then hold eye contact a bit longer. Speak a little slower. Let your presence fill the space. The moment you feel her matching your energy, that’s your window to go a little further. But never rush it. Escalation works best when it feels like… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Any negative thoughts you have about yourself will do harm and harm only, being it “empirically true” or not. If it isn’t something you can change, fine, you have to adapt. If it is changeable, then think about how you can get better in this specific situation. If you ever want to talk about your self beliefs with me and don’t feel comfortable sharing here, I’m always happy to help in the dms. Truly wish you can get rid of this negative thoughts. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Maybe these thoughts are the problem? You can’t ever benefit from thinking little about yourself | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.That’s an interesting analogy, I like it. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Yeah this can be very frustrating but there are other girls out there, I wouldn’t let this linger on for too long otherwise it can get to you heavily. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Both are true, you know? | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.What happened? | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.But not taking the chance is also 100% guarantee of not succeeding. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Perfect! | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.I get your point of view but I’ll always take the chance over the certainty of not getting anything (not trying) | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.I don’t know man, I always think that it is better to try because at the very least you gave yourself the chance to succeed. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Maybe give it time and you might be able to reconnect. Happened to me a lot of times but the most remarkable one was I took this girl out that I’d been talking to for weeks and really wanted to pull. I pick her at her house and on our way to the date venue I crashed my fucking car lol. I then tried to reconnect but she was obviously not as interested. Couple of months went by and I shoot her a dm for her to come to a house party with me, she actually came and I ended up pulling at the end of the… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Brother that’s tough. Have you talked to her since? | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.https://solo.to/charlesocial tap free pdf | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.I had the exact same issue. I overcame it and wrote a guide on how I did it. If you’re interested I can send it over. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.What hurts more though? At the end of the day you have to choose your pain. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Hurts to even think about it lol | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 01:40 PM |
| 6 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Yes. Can’t believe how many opportunities we leave behind because of fear of rejection. | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Rejection doesn’t hurt. What hurts is knowing you didn’t act.Never too late bro | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 12:46 PM |
| 3 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkYes. I replied to a similar comment above. Thing is, in this post, I’m addressing the issues we can control specifically. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 06:05 PM |
| 3 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkOf course! Basically I got into “game” back in 2018 when I was still a teenager because I wasn’t having any success with girls and getting friendzoned a lot. Also, I wasn’t really a standout in my school because I didn’t really have anything going on for me. So I searched the typical “how to get out of the friendzone” videos on Youtube and came across a lot of content that went really deep into seduction and game in general. I then got really passionate about it because I’d start to implement so… | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 03:27 PM |
| 7 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkYes, this is very much true. What I wanted to address in this post, though, is the factors that are in our control. Thanks for adding this. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 03:18 PM |
| 1 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkThat’s interesting. Maybe some biological attraction to the “male provider” kind of guy? | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 03:17 PM |
| 0 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkHaving a nice physique only takes you so far. I’m tired of seeing buff dudes being absolute morons when it comes to talking to girls, but yes, definitely helps. When I began I was really skinny. Got some muscle along the way and it has made a difference in terms of girls being more open to the approach, but as I said, it only takes you so far. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 02:18 PM |
| 4 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkYes. Experimenting is key because what works for me doesn’t necessarily works for you. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 02:15 PM |
| -3 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkNone taken. You have a different point of view based on your own experience and that’s fair. I’ve been on it for a long time now and just sharing what worked for me, and the non apologetic “cocky” attitude really did wonders when I was beginning. I would really like if you could share what worked for you as well so that the guys could benefit from a different perspective too. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 01:29 PM |
| 11 | The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack sparkJust don’t take it so literally, of course. You don’t have to be rude or mean, just unapologetic and free from outcome. Basically free yourself from being so polished as if you are afraid of the girl. | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 01:08 PM |
| 7 | I feel like my approaches are good but i cant seem to get to the first date , any advice?Texting right after an approach isn’t about setting up a date like it’s an appointment. If you hit her with something too dry or straight to the point, it kills whatever spark you built. You wanna keep the energy going. Think playful, like referencing something funny from the convo or teasing her a bit. It’s way more about making her feel something again than it is about locking in plans right away. Once the vibe is back, the date flows naturally. I’ve been through this exact thing before so if … | /r/seduction | 22/04/25 06:13 PM |
| 23 | How to move the conversation towards asking for her number?The best way to ask without it feeling forced is to anchor it to the vibe you already built. Don’t treat it like a formal request. If she’s laughing, vibing, or clearly invested, just say something like: “Hey, you’re actually fun to talk to. Let’s continue this sometime. What’s your number?” Keep the same calm tone you’ve had the whole time. The number should feel like a natural next step, not a dramatic turn. If you’re leading the vibe right, she’ll follow without hesitation. | /r/seduction | 22/04/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | She’s not “out of your league”Shouldn’t be a disadvantage either. | /r/seduction | 21/04/25 11:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I start?Cara me manda uma dm, quero te ajudar. | /r/seduction | 19/04/25 12:48 AM |
| 1 | This is why you are not getting past the kissI pulled a girl from my german class, went to her house for dinner and a couple drinks. We ended up having intercourse and she was very keen to do it again some other time, said she really liked it etc etc. The day after, I had a date with some other girl that I was way more into, and the girl from german class messaged me asking for me to go there again because there was this girl friend of her “I would love to meet”, but I ended up going to the date instead. Looking back now it looks a lot lik… | /r/seduction | 18/04/25 09:31 PM |
| 1 | This is why you are not getting past the kissI might do a post about how to pull to not your place, as this is a very common question that’s raised and might help others too | /r/seduction | 17/04/25 06:13 PM |
| 1 | I have an appointment at the gym tomorrow. Any advice or suggestions?maybe he’s asking about advice on getting gym girls but refused to elaborate lol | /r/seduction | 17/04/25 01:18 PM |
| 3 | She’s not “out of your league”5’10 is relatively tall imo, depending on where you live. Thanks for sharing your journey. I was 140lbs when starting my gym journey last year and bulked up to 170lbs. Shit is I gained a little fat along the way, I’m at 16% BF right now and I’m trying to keep my weight while losing this fat. Goal is to reach the same 170lbs at 10% BF by the end of the year, let’s see if I can make it. | /r/seduction | 17/04/25 10:40 AM |
| 9 | She’s not “out of your league”kind of bullshit guys keep consuming to fuck their minds up | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 10:27 PM |
| 6 | She’s not “out of your league”Goes to show how this fear of “league” is point blank stupid. Congratulations on your gym gains bro. Mind sharing how long it took? I’m on body recomposition diet and training right now and I’d love to know. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 05:49 PM |
| 3 | How to create conversation from nothing with women (especially when cold approaches make you nervous)??Exactly. You’re not calling it out in a confrontational way. You’re just making an observation and easing into the vibe. For example, if she seems a bit closed off, you could say something like “You seem kind of guarded. Long day or just deep in thought?” The key is to say it lightly. No pressure. No judgment. If she opens up, you follow the thread. If not, you just let it pass and keep things relaxed. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 04:22 PM |
| 11 | How to create conversation from nothing with women (especially when cold approaches make you nervous)??Conversation isn’t about having the perfect line. It’s about being grounded enough to stay present and playful. Here’s a simple structure that helps a lot: Observation. Say what you notice. Opinion. Say what you think or feel about it. Question. Invite her to respond. If you stay calm and lead the vibe, the conversation builds naturally. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 04:16 PM |
| 24 | I'm considered handsome, but I can't relate to girlsA lot of guys in your position hit the same wall You’ve got the looks, the body, the profile, but the connection still doesn’t go anywhere That usually means you’re leading with what you have, not who you are Looks get attention, but energy keeps the interaction alive If she doesn’t feel anything real from you, she won’t stay, even if everything else checks out Shift the focus Stop thinking “how do I impress her” Start thinking “how do I make this moment fun” That shift alone changes everything | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 04:09 PM |
| 10 | She’s not “out of your league”Don’t know. I think some people are just physically attractive/unattractive to all eyes. Agree that the female view might differ tho. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 04:01 PM |
| 5 | She’s not “out of your league”? | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 03:59 PM |
| 2 | How to learn at 50? Or is too late?You’ve already built what most guys spend their whole lives chasing Real friends, a good lifestyle, freedom, and self-awareness That’s already a massive foundation What you’re missing isn’t charm or game It’s momentum And momentum starts with small reps Looking someone in the eye without breaking Starting low-stakes conversations Letting yourself sit in that social tension without running from it You don’t need to impress anyone, you just need to get comfortable expressing who you are without ov… | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 03:37 PM |
| 32 | She’s not “out of your league”Spot on, and these women are often loaded with insecurities, putting them on a pedestal just makes things harder. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 03:21 PM |
| 16 | She’s not “out of your league”Yeah I agree that this is common, but even for serious relationships there are a lot of guys dating better looking women than them, I see it all the time. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Going on a date for the first time in my lifeBringing roses might be a bit much for a first date unless you do it in a playful way Like if you bring one and make a light joke about her name, that could actually land well But if it feels too serious or romantic, it might set a weird tone early on What matters more is your energy Try to be present, be curious, and keep the conversation fun Talk about things you genuinely enjoy, ask her questions, tease a little, and don’t overthink it It’s not a job interview, it’s just two people seeing if … | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 12:16 PM |
| 2 | This is why you are not getting past the kissWhat’s keeping you from getting some interactions? Approach anxiety? | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 12:15 PM |
| 2 | This is why you are not getting past the kissWhat was your worst fumble? I fumbled a threesome only to realize it years later… | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 12:14 PM |
| 8 | This is why you are not getting past the kissThat’s tough, not unfixable tho… Been helping a guy in a very similar situation, he’s 29 tho. Today he just had his first successful approach. If you want to hit me up we can look into it in more detail! | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 05:09 PM |
| 15 | This is why you are not getting past the kissThat’s how it’s done. I used to throw the most stupid excuses to pull girls and it fucking worked lol | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Did I mess up, Or do I still have a chance?You didn’t mess up. You hesitated. That’s human. But the window isn’t necessarily closed. The fact that she still looked at you the same way even while with another guy is a good sign. Next time you see her, don’t overthink it. Don’t treat it like a grand move. Just treat it like you’re already someone worth knowing and say something light and natural. Think of it as “I’m giving her the chance to meet me.” That shifts the frame. And bad timing isn’t failure. It’s just timing. I help guys with th… | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 01:02 PM |
| 2 | AdviceYou’re overloading your brain with conflicting advice and missing the real answer… it’s not about fast or slow. It’s about calibrated. Escalation has nothing to do with speed and everything to do with feel. You escalate when the moment allows. That could be two minutes in or two hours in. If she’s showing signs of attraction such as lingering eye contact, proximity, playful touch, teasing, then she’s already halfway there. From that point, your job is to lead. That doesn’t mean you lunge in. It … | /r/seduction | 14/04/25 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Fumbled this attractive girl, how do i deal with this?Happens to more guys than you think, especially when you’re with a hot girl and the pressure kicks in. You didn’t fumble because you lacked skill, you fumbled because you got stuck in your head. The truth is, the night was a win in many ways. She brought you back, made out with you, cuddled and kissed you the next morning. That’s not a rejection. What I’d do now is send her a casual but confident message. No apology, no overexplaining. And more importantly, use this to learn. The next time you’r… | /r/seduction | 14/04/25 09:27 PM |
| 1 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeMaintaining the girls interested during the conversation? | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 08:44 PM |
| 18 | Why not you?All I can say is that if a girl is racist towards you, you are better off without her. That is disgusting behavior and I’m really sorry that you went through this. | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Instant dates changed everything for meNight game também mano, no fim das contas não é uma performance. | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 11:05 AM |
| 1 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibewrong energy = tryhard right energy = spontaneous if I could sum it up, that’s it | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 12:01 AM |
| 2 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeNice to see you’re progressing! | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 12:00 AM |
| 1 | The reason your conversations go flatThis. | /r/seduction | 09/04/25 11:59 PM |
| 3 | Gonna try and approach again today.You got this | /r/seduction | 09/04/25 02:47 PM |
| 2 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeyeah | /r/seduction | 09/04/25 12:10 AM |
| 1 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeAn assumption about the girl, usually something funny to trigger her | /r/seduction | 09/04/25 12:10 AM |
| 2 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeI mean I might post them… no need to be rude | /r/seduction | 09/04/25 12:09 AM |
| 2 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeI might. Would you be interested? | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 10:35 PM |
| 11 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeI’d say in this case you should start off very friendly, in order to not fuck it up. Read the situation a little, gather information (if she’s committed, if she’s open), and then when the time is right and you have received good signals, go for a number or instant date attempt. Make it sound very casual because you WILL be seeing her again and you don’t want a reputation like that in your gym. | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 06:24 PM |
| 14 | You lose the girl not because you say the wrong thing, but because you kill the vibeFor the gym, as it is a space where you are constantly, going cold approach can be very risky. I’m all about warm approach in the gym and even have a “gameplan” for it because it’s very specific. You wanna first test the waters, then escalate in this case. | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Looking to start a rotation but need to know the best way about it?How are the approaches you usually do? As a what do you say and how you say it? | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 12:51 PM |
| 7 | Instant dates changed everything for meOf course… Doesn’t mean you don’t need to try it tho | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:49 PM |
| 5 | Instant dates changed everything for mehahaha love the analogy | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Not being able to closeWhat’s probably happening is your vibe is leaning a bit too friendly or polite, and it’s missing calibrated tension. You’re doing a lot right (flirting, being social, getting numbers), but what separates the guy who ends up in her bed from the one who ends up in her DMs is sexual leadership, a smooth but grounded ability to guide things forward without overthinking. Instead of trying to “close,” think of it like unlocking. You don’t convince her—it just becomes the natural next step. That happen… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.Thanks for the comment, really appreciate it! When I say that things went better when I started pushing myself, I mean better than what I imagined in my head before approaching. I had this feeling that girls would be mean to me, that they would brutally reject me and I was going to be devastated by it. But when it came to fruition, girls were almost always very warm and eager to talk, and if not that, they were polite at the very least. And yeah, that alone made the rest of the interactions way … | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 01:11 PM |
| 1 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.Where are you from and where are you living? If you don’t mind sharing of course. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 09:07 PM |
| 1 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.I’ve been an immigrant in europe until last year for about 3 years and never had a problem lol | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 08:41 PM |
| 2 | need someone to explain me why it happens (regarding cold approach)Sure. I mean they keep texting for validation sometimes, or they end up losing interest within time. Do you think there’s something you are doing wrong? | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:45 PM |
| 1 | need someone to explain me why it happens (regarding cold approach)Happens a lot, man. Some girls text back just out of curiosity or boredom, not because they’re seriously interested. They like the validation or just want to keep options open. The key is to stop getting attached to the reply and start filtering based on investment. If she texts back but doesn’t match your energy or make plans, honestly drop it. You’re not a text penpal. You’re a man with options. I’m curious, where are you from? | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.That’s a very good “technique”. It allows you to put yourself in a social state before it actually matters. Great to see other guys are aware of it as well. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.I’m really happy that my post resonated with you bro! I’m 22 as well. I think you might benefit from the free pdf on approach anxiety I wrote, if you’re interested. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:34 PM |
| 27 | Offline > Online - From 37 to Elite: How World Travel Killed My Tolerance for Mid Dating Apps"Absolutely! Real life will always win online dating. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 02:23 PM |
| 13 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.I used to wait for the perfect private moment too, but honestly, they rarely come. What helped me was realizing no one actually gives a shit as everyone’s in their own head. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 01:45 PM |
| 7 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.I agree that trauma is a big trigger for a lot of men. Some of us had it hard growing up and end up carrying it on to our adult lives. But as you said, although it’s complicated, it is definitely not unfixable. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 12:41 PM |
| 5 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.That’s a really good way to see it. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Most guys don’t have “approach anxiety.” They have pre-rejection panic.Yes! I remember walking up to a girl for the first time till this day, vividly. Almost shat my pants lol. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Was to afraid to approach herThat feeling sucks but it’s also a turning point. What helped me was shifting my mindset. I stopped trying to “get the girl” and just focused on having fun. Just walking up and saying anything was a win for me. No pressure to be smooth. Also, warm up socially before talking to girls. Chat with the bartender or joke with a stranger. Self arousal goes a long way. Keep going. If you want help I’m happy to share what helped me. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:31 AM |
| 5 | Are black pillers and incels taking over this sub?You’re absolutely right. And it’s one of the biggest reasons guys stay stuck the way I see it. A lot of these black pill mindsets sound like truth at first glance, but they’re really just disguised coping mechanisms. It’s easier to say “I’m doomed” than to take responsibility and actually grow. I know a lot of guys who weren’t tall, rich, or model-level attractive, some even had heavy social anxiety (me included) and yet they got results because they took action and decided to learn instead of c… | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:28 AM |
| 7 | How can you deal with being turned onPhysical tension is part of attraction. If you’re turned on, it means you’re present and emotionally engaged. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Does not kissing on the first date that big of a deal to youIt’s not always about the kiss itself, it’s about the moment it represents. If the energy is there and time runs out, no big deal. But if you’re not kissing because you’re unsure or hesitant, that can leak into the overall vibe. Women can feel when you’re holding back and sometimes interpret it as a lack of intent. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:23 AM |
| 8 | Mid 50s doing cold approach?Man, if women are smiling at you, that’s already a good sign. It’s only creepy if you overthink it and hold back. | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 02:04 PM |
| 7 | Mid 50s doing cold approach?That’s completely normal the way I see it. What is it that you think that would make it creepy? | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 01:34 PM |
| 13 | Mid 50s doing cold approach?Why would it be creepy? If you’re sticking to women your age I see no problem in it. Looks to me like a limiting belief of yours, don’t let it hold you back. | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 01:29 PM |
| 1 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 11:36 AM |
| 3 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.I don’t see it that way. As much as I understand the whole “not making girls a priority” mindset, I always say that the partner you choose to share your life with is the single most important decision you have to make. | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 11:28 AM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Getting friendzoned was the reason why I got into learning about “the game” in the first place, and I think it is a starting point for many of us here lol. As for success, I’ve not been successful from the get go, obviously. Especially because I’m not the typical “chad looking” guy, so I had to massively rely on skills. But here’s the beauty of it: By being a non attractive guy, I had to work twice as hard in order to get successful experiences, and oh boy did it go well for me… I’ve been with m… | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Hay alguien que hable españolNo soy hispanohablante natural pero estuve viviendo en barcelona durante 3 años y por lo tanto puedo hablar perfectamente. Si te parece, envíame un mensaje y podemos hablar. | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 10:55 AM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.I second this. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 08:23 PM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Anytime! | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 08:23 PM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Have you been struggling? | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 07:28 PM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Awesome man! | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 04:54 PM |
| 3 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.just reuploaded it, check it out | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 04:18 PM |
| 1 | What kinds of things do you say to her when dancing so that you can escalate and try go in for a kiss?Hey there! I’m happy to share it publicly as well. Reason why I prefer DM is that some guys are better off with tailored help to suit their exact needs. Here you go: Green-Yellow-Red is a simple way to read her response to touch: Green means she’s into it—touch back, lean in, positive signals. Yellow means she’s neutral—not rejecting, but not inviting. Back off a bit, rebuild. Red is a clear no—she pulls away, closes off. Respect it, reset the vibe. Read the signs, don’t force anything, and alwa… | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 04:04 PM |
| 2 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Would you explain exactly what is it that didn’t work? Was it the approach itself? Or the fear of approaching? Would love to hear from you. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Advice for Single Events TonightHonestly I don’t ever have a routine for approaching, but of course there are some little tricks to make it easier. Do you want to shoot me a DM so I can understand your particular situation better? | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:35 PM |
| 4 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.Thank you for that. Breaks my heart to see dudes letting shallow things as height cap their full potential. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Advice for Single Events TonightA compliment can work as an opener yeah, no harm in doing that. I’m talking about what I say during the interaction. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:19 PM |
| 1 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.This is crazy knowledge! Where did you learn all that? | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:13 PM |
| 2 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.https://solo.to/charlesocial here you go | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Advice for Single Events TonightSo basically the way you generate arousal within an interaction is by laying out emotional sparks. These can be negative or positive, doesn’t matter as long as you calibrate properly. Also those are stackable with cold-reading. They work really well together. I’ll give you a practical example: Instead of throwing a compliment to a girl, try making an observation about her, including an emotional spike. Let’s say you notice the girl is really into dogs for example. You don’t say: “That’s really c… | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Advice for Single Events TonightBrother, compliments don’t go so far. Try emotional sparks to generate arousal instead. Ever heard of that concept or want me to explain it better to you? | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 01:20 PM |
| 1 | What kinds of things do you say to her when dancing so that you can escalate and try go in for a kiss?There is a method actually. The green-yellow-light principle when physically escalating is what worked the very best for me. It’s not gatekeeping, but I would like to help you with that via dm because that way I can understand your particular situation better, feel free to reach me anytime. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 01:13 PM |
| 1 | What mindset do I need to adopt for fulfilling experiences with womenThis depends on a lot of factors, it isn’t like a cake recipe bro. First off, how old are you? If you’re uncomfortable sharing any info here, I would absolutely love to help you personally and you can dm me anytime. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 01:11 PM |
| 8 | Do yall think you can date 10'sBrother, this is a limiting belief. I would love to help you out and share my personal experiences as a relatively unattractive guy. Shoot me a DM. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 01:00 PM |
| 7 | Do yall think you can date 10'sWhy would you think you don’t ever have a chance with that particular girl? Mind elaborating more for me to understand? | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 12:10 PM |
| 21 | I used to think I needed to be better looking to approach women. But that was never the real problem.That’s actually a great insight, man. Crazy how much of a difference just asking can make. Makes me wonder how many guys miss out on amazing women just because they assume she’s taken or “out of their league.” Have you noticed if that mindset shift still holds true today with how different dating is now? Social media, dating apps, all that, do you think it changed how often women get approached in real life? Curious to hear your take as an older more experienced guy. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 11:12 AM |
| 2 | 1st Field Report - Feedback?!Yo this was a great field report. You’ve got the core of it already: solid energy, you’re social, fun, and you’re not afraid to go solo, which already puts you ahead of most guys. Loved that you didn’t wait around for the dancer and went out to create your own night. That’s real frame right there. The hookah lounge set was also handled well as you approached indirectly, created social proof, kept it playful, and even used some physicality with the hat move. That’s all solid. Now here’s the part … | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 11:06 AM |
| 8 | I did ItIt is really nice to see this, congrats! | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 10:46 PM |
| 3 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.I’m none of this and still got results, but keep on coping i guess lol | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 08:50 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop feeling odd when approaching girls?This is completely normal even with some experience. I’d say that you’re still feeling uncomfortable due to not being completely detached from outcome/able to practice self arousal and still focusing on what others think. I would love to help you in a more personal way since i’ve been through the exact same process so feel free to shoot me a dm. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 05:49 PM |
| 9 | That girl you didn’t talk to? She could’ve changed your life.As much as I disagree with your point, I see where it’s coming from. I’m a hard believer of warm approach and got the most success out of it when compared to cold approach (percentage wise). But here’s the importance of cold approach: You are able to make connections from absolutely zero. Let me give you a personal example of mine. I went for a couple of beers with a friend in a bar nearby my house. We didn’t intend to get any girls or anything that day specifically, just to catch up. Turns out … | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 04:17 PM |
| 17 | Why do we forget game?It’s completely normal to forget game, and here’s why: What we’re learning in the dating and attraction world isn’t like math or a set of instructions we can memorize and apply forever. It’s not just facts—it’s a mindset, and that mindset is highly dependent on external factors, like your emotional state, environment, and level of experience. When you take a break from going out or get a few rejections in a row, your brain picks up on that drop in momentum and your sense of self. You’ve learned … | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 04:05 PM |
| 6 | I think I need to give up on datingRespectfully, I think giving up is the wrong move. You don’t need to be in the “perfect spot” in life to put yourself out there. Growth doesn’t only happen in isolation, it happens through real-world reps too. Waiting until everything’s aligned can turn into never acting at all. Improve as you go. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 03:02 PM |
| 5 | I think I need to give up on datingHey man, I really feel what you’re saying. Honestly, reading your post reminded me of how I used to feel a couple years ago. You sound like a guy who’s put in the work—fit, financially stable, modern style, even self-aware—but still nothing clicks. That’s rough, especially when it feels like you’re doing everything right and still not getting results. Here’s what helped me shift things. I realized dating isn’t about checking boxes. Attraction doesn’t work like that. Most of us spend so much time… | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 02:59 PM |
| 18 | I did ItThat’s awesome bro. Just out of curiosity, is this your first approach? | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why Does My Anxiety Never Go Away, Even After Pushing Myself?Also redefining fear as excitement goes a LONG way. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 01:06 AM |
| 5 | Whoreprobably because there are tenths of dudes like you in her dms and she picked another one for the day lol happens man, don’t be too self conscious about it | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 12:25 AM |
| 2 | When she says "you're very forward" is that good or badNot really. Shit tests are any behavior that checks your confidence. Sarcasm, teasing, even ignoring you. The goal’s the always same: see if you stay solid or crumble. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Most guys don't believe in seduction, and this puts you ahead of them all!you’d be surprised how this isn’t the case… especially within the southern states | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:56 PM |
| 8 | How Much Does Pickup Overlap With The Rest of The "Charisma Community"?getting good with girls opens so many doors in general… confidence, career growth, etc definitely overlaps | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:55 PM |
| 12 | How to adopt the bad boy personaThe “bad boy” isn’t a costume—it’s a mindset. You don’t need to wear leather or start smoking to be less boring. What you’re really chasing is edge, unpredictability, and grounded confidence. Here’s how to build that naturally: 1. Stop seeking approval. Nice guys filter everything through “will she like this?” A grounded man says what he means and doesn’t apologize for it. Confidence isn’t loud—it’s unshakable. 2. Say no. Mean it. Boundaries are hot. When you stop over-accommodating, you automat… | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Totally new to the game – confused about mindset when talking to girlsYo bro, respect for being self-aware and asking real questions—that already puts you ahead of 90% of guys. Here’s the truth: you’re not doing too much by being yourself. But what matters is how grounded you are while being yourself. You can be playful, open, and emotionally expressive without being needy. Neediness isn’t about what you do—it’s about the energy behind it. Are you sharing because you’re comfortable? Or are you sharing because you want validation? That’s the difference between bold… | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:08 PM |
| 2 | How to practice conversations and communication?this is great advice | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:06 PM |
| 1 | When she says "you're very forward" is that good or badClassic shittest. Would rejoice at it since it’s a good signal. | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 11:05 PM |
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