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All of you are right about the validation sex. Its been pointed out in the past by others. At what point does wanting sex in your marriage and not getting it become a deal breaker? I ran dread. It worked more often than not most of the year. Without getting all she/her, I don't see a way to fix the current situation. You're also right that ultimately it's my call. Fix the man. I've been working on the man. I've got a ways to go. But there's been progress. My flaws will follow me relationship to …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 03:06 AM
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OYS 25 43, young kid, married 8, together 14. 5'10", 198.8 lbs. Lifting Bench 253 5x5, squat 255 5x5, ohp 135 5x5 Lifting 3-4x weekly. I've plateaued on bench and actually regressed on squat. Varying my exercises a lot to work on different muscles. Instead of squats, leg press and similar machines, etc. Still benching at least 2x weekly, it's my favorite. Going to start 8x8 program when I return from family vacation mid-next week. Goal: To get fucked 2-3x weekly. This used to happen in my marria…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 08:01 AM
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Somewhere I got lazy. Wife took an early AM job and just isn't available. Is it my fault? Hers? Who cares. Control what I can. Lifting is stable. Weight is good, could be even better. Clothes and grooming are good. Career is okay. Pay is good but hours suck. My personality and frame are still shit. I need to be social. Sociable. Get fun hobbies. Better beta divorce. I know the concepts, but having the balls to apply them is different. I'm going to do weird shit and you're going to call me a reta…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 07:35 AM
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I've found that only works if they're post-menopause.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 05:43 PM
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Why? Like I know I'm dense. I have major work to do. There will always be something. But I'm not going to let the perfect get in the way of the good. Three people have told me the same thing. Is the message I don't have the frame/tools to manage it? Fine. Let me fail. I'm already putting myself out there. I may go down in flames. Game is my weakest area and reading abstract concepts and going back and forth forever with a wife I don't particularly like (so I'm not really into leading her, workin…
/r/askMRP18/11/21 04:12 PM
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My action at this point is to meet new women. There are a lot of things I need to work on regardless. Reinforce purging myself of nice guy behaviors such as covert contracts. Assertiveness training. Further developing my ability to get what I want in my current marriage. All of that is beside the point. Very specifically, does it hurt more or help more to be married when dating?
/r/askMRP18/11/21 03:58 PM
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OYS 24 43, wife 43, young kid, married 8, together 14. 202.4 lbs, 5'10" I felt something I haven't felt in a long time. Pissed off/frustrated with work. Like I was with my marriage when I found these tools. What have I done with it? I've updated my linked in profile. I've updated my resume. I've started placing more emphasis on projects/tasks whose success I can speak to in interviews. I've started browsing job postings, looking for something that matches my skillset. More to come. Finances/bedr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 03:26 AM
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Can you please restate this in English?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 08:55 PM
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OYS 23 42, young kid, married 8, together 13. 5'10", 201.6 lbs Bpress 231, squat 265. Lifting heavy 3-5x a week. Lifting failure My attempt to go lower in weight every other set of compound exercises hasn't resulted in me being able to lift more. But I've read it will help with form and definition, so I'm going to stick with it. To increase lifting power, I've incorporated working out my upper body in other ways. Incline press, decline press, lateral raises, rows. If my bench press is only as st…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 08:51 PM
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OYS 22 42, young kid, married 7, 5'10", 204.2 lbs Lifting I've plateaued at 247 BPress, 255 squat, and 135 S Press. I think my upper body plateaus in particular are due to a lack of endurance. I can do 253 lbs 5x5 some days, but not the majority. I'll get through 2-3 sets and then have to deload. I've started deloading every other day I do those exercises. 80%, 5 reps of 8 to build endurance. I've only done it once so far. Felt great afterward. A satisfying sore and tired that comes after a full…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 02:27 AM
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I hate this, but you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 06:07 PM
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OYS 21 42, young kid, married 7, together 13. 5'10", 204.2 lbs. I had a dead bedroom I was freaking out about, but it's fixed for now. I found a lot of problems to fix under that. They have not been fixed. Lifting BPress 247 5x5, OHP 135 5x5, Squat 255 5x5. Found out my max bench, 1 rep, is 275 lbs. I'm being more experimental in the gym now that I'm okay with my upper body (for now). I am going to start toning my abs now that I'm losing weight. I'm going to keep lifting heavy to help manage any…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:07 AM
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OYS 20 Stats 42, young kid, 5'10", 207 lbs Lifting: BPress 247, squat 255, OHP 135. Started doing pull ups in between sets of squats to add on another compound exercise. I didn't think it was doing anything until my upper back was sore the first day after. Wins and losses I started my tooth alignment program to fix my teeth. About 2 weeks in. Invisalign. Pricey, but I like the idea of them better than metal braces. They're not uncomfortable, but gums sometimes feel sore when I take them off. I e…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 02:24 AM
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I hear you. Edited above.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 05:56 PM
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OYS 19 42, W43, kid, married 7, together 14, 5"10, 205.6 lbs. I got myself rule 9'd again. I'm back again. There is a lot to report in other areas. But I need to focus on the following: Reset I haven't been honest with this community. I haven't been honest with this community because I haven't been honest with myself. Which is the whole point of NMMNG. Don't lie to yourself about your wants and needs, or else you'll be miserable. I know this because my actions aren't congruent with my stated goa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 01:23 PM
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OYS 18 Stats 42, W 43, young kid, married 7, together 14. 208.2 lbs, 38.5" waist. Lifting BPress 247, Squat 245, OHP 135. All 5x5. Seeing gains again on bench after adjusting grip. Diet I'm getting a feel for what is enough food, and getting comfortable eating bigger meals but snacking less. It seems to be working. Average weight for past 7 days: 208.5. 7 days before that: 209.9 Interesting thing: I worked a very long day and ate a huge lunch, about 1100 cal (daily goal is 1700). When I weighed …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/21 02:39 AM
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Why do you need a third party (such as a counseler) for you to be honest with your wife? You're looking to offload responsibility and blame for making your wife unhappy onto someone else. That alone will make you feel emasculated and turn your wife off. The roots of your unwillingness to perform inside the bedroom may just be the same as your unwillingness to stand up for yourself outside of it. Are you anxious about asserting yourself in the bedroom? Do you quietly seeth at night after she fail…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 02:31 AM
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OYS 17 42, W 43, kid 5ish, 5'10", 209.8, married 7y, together 14. 39" waist. Lifting BPress 242 lbs, OHP 135, Squat 245. I had a bad day lifting today. Wasn't feeling it and never got on track. I failed twice on BPress (safety straps were in place) at 242. Not sure why. Got plenty of sleep. I'm worried it's my diet. But maybe it's because I just did 5x5 OHP. Still, gains have been slow and uneven. I've going up on squats and going down on bench. What am I doing to get control of my life? Deadbea…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 06:28 AM
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On the vaccine thing. The worst that can happen is either I set a precedent where she thinks it's okay to unilaterally make terrible decisions without my input, or we get divorced. Beung honest with myself, I don't want to blow up my marriage. It's part gambler's fallacy, part scarcity. I've invested 18 months into making the marriage good enough for me, sans this one thing. Also, I don't know if I want to comb through the leftovers if I leave my wife. Like I've got a loyal 6-7 in hand, but what…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 04:54 PM
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My reply is usually the simple “OK”, or “I’m not going to listen to you criticize me anymore." This is a good reply: plain, direct, and non-needy. Are you following up with walking away and keeping her from reigniting the conversation? "then we should talk about next steps (ie divorce),” Are you trying to escalate the conversation or call her bluff? I can see it going both ways, depending on HER reaction. Not sure if that's a good tactic. This BS is usually followed up in the morning by, “sorry …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 06:16 AM
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If you've got nothing to hide, then why did you DEER?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 05:24 AM
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Work on your writing style. It's too vague to be descriptive, and there was a looong paragraph in there that I think was important, but I glossed over because I'm not parsing through it. Also vague are your goals. Let's look at the fitness ones: (1) Raise my SMV 2 points higher. What does that mean and how will you measure it? (2) Build bigger, well-defined muscle and get stronger. Suggestions: Bench xxx lbs. Get to x% body fat. (3) Cut body fat See #2 (4) Get out of the house 2 hours a day for …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 05:22 AM
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OYS 16 Stats 42, W43, kid 5, married 7, together 13, 5'10", 209.2 lbs. 39.25" waist Lifting BPress 242, squat 245, SPress 125, skull crushers 100. Reading It's been an eventless week, relationship wise. Wife has been pleasant and is actually going out of her way to cook for me, massage my neck and shoulders while I'm under the weather, and be very sexually available. Again I don't know why, but I think she's doing everything she can to not get the kid vaxxed. The trap here is not getting complac…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 05:04 AM
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OYS 15 Stats 42, W43, kid 5, married 7, together 13. 5'10", 211.2 lbs. Waist 39.25. Stay puft, Red Coquette. Lifting BPress 242, squats 235, OHPress 125, skull crushers 100 Went down in BPress. Correction of form. Wasn't pulling down to chest. Home/goals I have dopped the ball big time over the past few weeks. My diet went downhill. I stuffed my chubby face with ice cream every day when dealing with family stuff last week. Would I make the tradeoff again, for a week? Maybe. But there are long-te…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 02:28 PM
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Lmao you're lost.
/r/seduction13/07/21 01:17 AM
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How should I know? Girls generally don't initiate, period. Go read Mystery Method or something and then see how you do.
/r/seduction12/07/21 11:56 PM
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That's because girls are risk adverse. Even if they weren't, why would they act that way when they're getting offers from guys on the regular? I humbly suggest to stop naval gazing and re-calibrate your expectations with reality.
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:31 PM
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OYS 14 Stats 42, wife 43, kid 5, 5'10", 212 lbs. 38.75" waist. Lifting Squats 235 5x5, bench 248 5x5, skull crushers 100 5x5, preacher curl machine 155 5x5 Family I let my wife comfort me a bit too much for four days and she started getting bored of me, and then a bit bossy. So I stopped being needy and got focus again. She's responding well but is being more shit testy, teasing me about not paying attention to certain funeral details and such. I've been getting defensive. I should have fun with…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:46 PM
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OYS 13 Stats 42, w43, kid 5. Together 7, married 13. Lifting Bench 242, incline press 185, squats 225, s press 110, skull crushers 100 This little piggy Bought an electronic scale. 215.5 a week ago. 214.1 today. Weighing myself first thing every morning to minimize variables that could throw it off. I keep avoiding counting calories. It's lazy. But I think if I can teach myself not to eat things without logging them, that will keep me from shoving 9 chips in my mouth and saying "eh, it's only 12…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 01:49 AM
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I disagree, but whatever. It's something I wanted to enforce when my kid was born, but didn't. It's something with almost zero risk that will virtually guarantee my kid won't get something worse than autism.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 11:41 PM
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Nah. I'm talking about all vaccines. Polio, Tdap, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 11:03 PM
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Thank you. I'll check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 05:02 PM
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OYS 12 STATS 42, W43, kid 5, 5'10, 215 lbS. Lifting BPress 242, S press 115, Squats 205, skull crushers 90. The talk The fucking vaccination talk. I think a lot about timing. Probably too much, It becomes an excuse for inaction. What's the right time to initiate? When is the right time to talk about a raise? When is the right time to tell her we're getting the kid vaccinated? I waited over a week to talk to her. It didn't matter. While I was stalling, I got feedback from different sources. Here,…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 04:47 AM
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Shame is how I plan to get her onboard in the likely event she doesn't follow my lead. She simply doesn't on all child care issues, and that's my fault for letting her do it all for 5.5 years. I haven't been able to flip that dynamic yet. Vaccinations are a proxy for that. The fallout from shame, I think, will be her feeling hurt for a few weeks, and then eventually adapting. Or she freaks out and I'm in divorce court. Either way, I don't see a better path to persuasion. My original plan was to …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 06:19 PM
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I have fairly defined arms, shoulders, and pecs. I'm as lean up top as I have ever been, and I now get semi-regular comments from friends and acquaintances about my build. But I still have too much belly fat. I have to suck my gut in to see any abs. I think my BF% is between 17-19%, based on when I got it measured when I was 220 lbs. I got a caliper a month ago, but haven't used it yet. Thinking that will be a better measure than weight, but I still have work to do. I eat way too many sweets and…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 05:34 PM
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Good thinking. That's what I'm hoping me doing all the work (making appts, etc.), will accomplish.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 05:24 PM
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The best I can tell, it was made out of fear. Her justification changes. Sometimes it's fear of adverse reactions in general. Sometimes it's fear of egg allergies. Sometimes she's okay with it but wants to read some more about it. Sometimes it's mistrust of pharmaceutical companies. I think the last one is most congruent with her behavior. She's just not a trusting person. So reason won't work. Thus, shame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 02:32 PM
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Ok.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 02:28 PM
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OYS 11 STATS 42, w43, kid 5, 5'10", 214 lbs. Married 7, together 13. LIFTING BPress 240, squats 205, OLift 115 (easing back into this), Skull crushers 90, seated preacher curl machine 150. My MAP I need to list the things I need to achieve in order to have a better life. There are too many to keep organized just in my head. Get kid vaccinated. Difficulty: 2. Difficulty while preserving marriage (is this what is meant by using red pill tools to achieve a blue pill goal?) 6-9. Time investment: hou…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 01:32 AM
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OYS 10 Stats 42y, wife 43, kid 5. 5'10, 212 lbs. married 7, LTR 13 Lifting BPress 230 (5x5), squats 175 (better form than before), skull crushers 80, seated barbell curls 80 (forearms need work) 60 DOD: Social life I'm actually making an effort to learn how to better relate to people, beginning with just talking to them. I've started being friendlier and warmer to strangers, even co-workers. It doesn't come naturally at all to me, and I know I'm going to have to constantly read the room and reca…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 03:45 PM
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OYS 9 42, W 43, kid 5. 5'10", 214 lbs. Married 7, together 13. Lifting Squats 185 (for now), B Press 220, skull crushers 80, seated bicep machine 145. Wall of tasks I've come to a point where I'm collecting tasks and ideas and not taking much concentrated action. I'm spread too thin. My failures right now: Taking way too long to read NMMNG and complete exercises. Weight has been 213-215 consistently for weeks. I haven't started the process of evaluating my finances and budget yet. Lifting has be…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 12:56 PM
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I need to wrap my head around that. To rephrase and simplify for my sake, I say IDGAF, but I'm talking about it, so IGAF, and don't realize it. It's incongruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 06:06 AM
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I don't think so. Her friends aren't adventuresses. It's always a possibility, but I don't think it's gnawing at me. Like there aren't any other signs. Like sudden disrespect, or her giggling while looking at her texts. If her behavior was like that, or suddenly different from the norm, then my gears would be turning.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 05:39 AM
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42, W 43, kid 5. 5'10", 214 lbs. Married 7, together 13. Reading Almost done with PFP. Currently in chapter 18 about ASD. Last thing I highlighted: "ASD can be noticed when a woman shows signs of general uneasiness in conjunction with an increase in her arousal." So anxious, but also clingy? Started reading The Mystery Method to help with game. It's remarkable how familiar the material is. Congruence tests, not being judgmental, etc. I think what I need is a template to guide me though interacti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 04:55 AM
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Monster trucks and R2-D2.
/r/seduction05/05/21 01:53 PM
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I'm going to flesh out some thoughts I'm having here. Stats 42, W 43, kid 5. 5'10", 214 lbs. Married 7, together 13. Reading About 75% finished with Practicial Female Psychology. It's the first book I've used the Kindle highlighter feature for. Last big idea for me: "It is vitally important that you focus on the process of your verbal interactions with women, much more so than the content." For me right now, that means STFU, don't lose composure. Don't try to be too clever when I do open my mout…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 11:15 PM
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What are the long term gains? Is it your most viable opportunity in your field? Do you accept the trade off of time vs pay? And if it turns out you really like the job, is there any reason you can't move closer to work?
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:06 PM
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This speaks to me a lot harder than my ego wants to admit.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 05:01 PM
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That's your venue. I had roommates when I met my wife, and dated girls before then. If she had genuine desire, she'll accept the opportunity to be alone with you. Also, she won't be turned off by it unless you're weird about it. Own it.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 02:51 AM
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What do you mean you don't have your own place? Like do you live with your parents or with a roommate? Do you have a bedroom?
/r/askTRP28/04/21 01:49 AM
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OYS 6 I'm going to write about a lot of things here, so I'm going to be concise while jumping from topic to topic. Stats 42, wife 43. Kid 5. Together 13, married 7. 5'10" 214 lb Lifting Bench press 215, Bicep curl machine 145. Seated dip 170. Lat pulldown 135. Leg extension 175. Mostly machines, sans bench press and some dumbell exercises I'm still figuring out. Im trying a variety of machines, focusing on shoulders/biceps/triceps 2x week, and lower body/back 1x/week. My arms and shoulders are s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 11:32 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. Light on details: I'm purposefully being concise because my first few OYS's tended to be wordy and messy. So I'm making it a point to leave out things which I don't think add any insight here. Perhaps I'm overdoing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/21 04:04 PM
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Fill her with water. Jump on her belly.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:24 AM
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OYS 5 stats 42, wife 43. Kid 5. Together 13, married 7. 5'10" 215 lb Lifting I'm sticking to machines and the bench press until the sharp pain in my back goes away for at least a week. The spirit is the same as SL. Up my weights a little each time. Bench press 215. Bicep machine 135. Seated dip 160. Lat pulldown 125. Leg extension 160. Reading Currently: Practical Female Psychology. 60 DOD: Hygiene My biggest problem here is my smile. It's yellowish and not straight. I've set up a dental consult…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 10:53 PM
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OYS 4 Stats 42, wife 43. Together 13, married 7. Kid 5. 5'10" 215 lb BRow 132. OHP 105. Bpress 198. Squat 175. DL 176. DL form needs work. I hurt my back for second time in two weeks. I am going to take it easy on back exercises for at least 1-2 weeks and return at lower weights and more reps. In the meantime, I'll fill the time by lifting weight via machines. 60 DOD Eating I'm drinking multiple sodas a day again, and eating fast food multiple times per week because I've been too lazy to properl…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 12:19 PM
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OYS 3 Stats: 42yo, wife 43, married 7 years, together 13, 5'10", 215 lbs, 5yo daughter. Lifts: Barbell Row 132 Bench press 209 Squat 155 OHP 110 DL 176 60 days of dread I went to the gym three times this week. I tweaked my back and am taking it slow, but I haven't quit and actually did some barbell squats at a lower weight post back injury. I joined the Strong Lifts subreddit where I will get feedback as needed for this. My dedicated days are Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. home I was going to wr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 12:26 AM
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I'm among the last people here who are qualified to guide you, but your problem seems obvious to me. It sounds like your marriage is a giant covert contract where you bend over backwards to elevate both of you, with the unspoken expectation that she reciprocate, somehow. But she's not, because covert contracts don't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 12:08 AM
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OYS 2 Stats: 42yo, wife 42, married 7 years, together 13, 5'10", 215 lbs, 5yo daughter. Got flaired in MRP after first OYS. Lifts: Bodyweight exercises 3x this week, made it to the gym twice. Standing bicep curls 70. Wrists give out first. Advice? Barbell Row 100. Thinking this should be way higher. Bench press 198 Squat 155 It's shitty, but I have to start somewhere. Any pointers would be appreciated. Goals: Get my mental shit together so I'm not treating people around me like garbage and blowi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 11:09 AM
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OYS #1 Stats: 42yo, wife 42, married 7 years, together 13, 5'10", 215 lbs, 5yo daughter Lifts: none. I joined a gym a month ago, spent 2 days there getting the forms for strong lifts 5x5 down with only the bar or minimal weight. Haven't went since since I'm at work from 6A-9P most days now (dealing with fallout of challenging mass software transation). Have been working out at home using bodyweight exercises 5-6 days week for 6+ months. Still able to keep that up with current work schedule, only…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 11:04 AM
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Legit I'm pretty sure you're going to eat me alive. OYS incoming anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 09:31 PM
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I'm protecting my ego. I get it. I'll start. Probably could have helped me avoid this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 06:56 PM
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What's the root cause of me losing frame? I'm re-reading the nice guy books to help me get my shit together. Do I just need to complete my journey?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 05:04 PM
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Just stop giving your validation away for free and don't be needy. Women love attention, but if you give it all up for free up front, she's not going to respect you in the morning.
/r/seduction21/03/21 09:56 PM
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The stay plan is the same as the go plan.
/r/askTRP21/03/21 02:51 PM
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Basically you're asking what you should do with your money. I dunno. What are you going to get out of it? Does it seem like a good idea to take out a loan equivalent to 42% of your current savings to put a dent in someone's medical bills? Can you start a Gofundme instead and get the same results? You need to ask yourself what you're getting out of this. If it's a covert contract: she likes you better, her family likes you better, you gain some kind of reputation as generous, etc., don't do it.
/r/askTRP20/03/21 09:28 PM
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When it suits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 02:52 PM
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He's controversial because he opposes woke grandstanding. To answer your more interesting question, I think JP has some great political and psychological insights, which are useful when you're trying to figure out general human behavior. But I think his relationship models center too much around negotiation, which is a recipe for a gynocentric dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 05:48 AM
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Super Man Vision. After you've internalized all the RP concepts, you start developing a sixth sense which allows you read women's minds.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 09:45 PM
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Women typically disqualify themselves if they think a guy is way out of their league. So a girl who's self-conciously a 5 will avoid guys who are 8's. It's like when you start getting your shit together and homely girls start ignoring you in a good way. I think Pook alluded to this. Average girls are intimidated by very high quality men, for the same reason they avoid blue pill men. The pressure on them to be more than what they already are scares them off. It's too much effort to be blue pill g…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:56 AM
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You're taking it too seriously. Read The Book of Pook (again?). It'll teach you that you're supposed to be having fun. Once you're having fun, no matter what she does, (1) it'll give you stronger frame because you won't be concerned with what she does, and (2) it'll put her in a position to follow your lead and be happy with you, or be miserable and left behind.
/r/askTRP18/03/21 06:10 AM
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Do you want to sleep with her? Then stop trying to read her mind and escalate.
/r/askTRP18/03/21 01:11 AM
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I'd say the #1 thing is purging yourself of unattractive behaviors. Don't be a "nice guy." Don't be needy. Don't engage in validation seeking. Don't be more emotionally invested in her, than she is in you. Don't pursue if she's not showing any interest. Don't be an orbiter.
/r/seduction18/03/21 12:13 AM
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Look up the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder (KINO). I forget if it's sidebar, but you should be able to find it online. It's only 26 pages.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 08:17 PM
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Nope. Now don't get me wrong, women are great at sniffing out male vulnerability and neediness. And an average woman can run laps around an average guy in terms of short-term relationship experience. But I think women are generally confused and intimidated by male sexuality, to the point that being asked out or incidentally exposed to tone deaf jokes can feel like real harassment. I also think of women who try to maintain dead bedroom relationships by doing everything but having sex with their g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 03:56 PM
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Your first plan is best if want to make a bit more effort. When her words don't match her actions, her actions are the truth. All the others are playing into her frame. And definitely don't sperg out on her.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 04:28 AM
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Look at it this way. If you stopped being supportive, there's a chance your dude would be miserable. If you stopped having sex with him, I guarantee he'd be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:48 AM
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Yep. And if your LTR is going above and beyond her usual to do nice things for you, she's trying to give herself space to turn you down in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:44 AM
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Morality isn't your problem here. It's up to you to decide what your boundaries are. I suggest not taking this shit too seriously. Read the Book of Pook. Be the fun, high-value guy, and the opportunities for sex will come.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 10:30 PM
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Being honest about what turns women on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 07:44 PM
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Preselection is essentially a mental shortcut women use to help vet men for quality. If other women think a guy is attractive enough to fuck, swoon over, or date/marry, that's pre-selection. There's also a status dynamic in play. If other women want to fuck you, and she's the one who actually gets you, she gets to flex on them just by being with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 07:20 PM
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I wouldn't waste your time. Attraction is visceral. You're not going to game a girl with low interest and make her high interest.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 05:47 PM
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Translation: How do I maintain a relationship with someone I don't want to be in a relationship with?
/r/askTRP15/03/21 02:20 PM
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Repeat after me: "I don't date girls who have guys for best friends."
/r/askTRP15/03/21 05:34 AM
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Don't try to read her mind. You'll probably get it wrong. Just pay attention to her behaviors. If she flakes again, stop wasting time on her.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 05:32 AM
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They do love sex. They also don't operate the same way men do. It's sexual market value, not physical market value. This can result in ONS, friends with benefits, etc., but the dynamic is different for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:32 PM
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Female sexual desire is more than about looks. Stop conflating men with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 08:56 AM
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How women can attract men: Look hot. Be available. Don't be too weird. That's the long version.
/r/seduction13/03/21 02:54 AM
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Lol. Pre-selection if you care to shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 11:43 PM
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Men are at their most attractive in their mid to late 30's. That doesn't mean they garner the same attention as most any women under 40, because women experience an abundance men can't even comprehend. Also, don't conflate male sexuality with female sexuality. They're going after different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 03:25 AM
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It might apply in terms of being able to get high quality men to commit to them, but in terms of just sex, no. A typical hard 4 can go on Tinder, and if her standards are low enough, she can get laid in 24 hours. That's not true for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:35 PM
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One. The Sex God Method is popular in TRP. Two. With that said, if you're the kind of guy who's preoccupied with how to make women happy, that's not a reward, it's a punishment. Basically you're making her responsible for your validation. If you're trying to please her, and she doesn't like what you're doing to her, it's a massive turn off becaue all of a sudden she feels pressure to pretend she does like something she actually doesn't like. Better to be a bit callous and give her to space to pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:18 PM
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AskTRP > Community Info.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 05:17 AM
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I've been practicing flirting on my wife, with varying results, so take it for what it's worth. Flirting and frame are intermingled. Flirting is essentially giving off a fun, suggestive vibe, and allowing a girl to fall into that frame. Women mirror your moods. Sexual energy will beget sexual energy. Friend energy will beget friend energy. With that said, you're not validation seeking. Dont force it if she's not being receptive. I also wouldn't spend too much time trying to warm her up. Flirting…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 04:09 AM
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Have fun with it. Tell her they're your harem. Or maybe your kids, if you're an older guy. Keep it light and keep it ridiculous. A&A.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 12:37 AM
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You mean your dating pool is shallower, and more saturated with leftovers? I can see that. With that said, age and looks still matter to guys. Just focus on what you can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 03:01 PM
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Why are you texting her so much that not replying quickly is weird? Why are you mate guarding? And if you want to keep fucking her as a plate or an LTR, ignore her bitchiness and have a goldfish memory. The next time you see her, be in a great mood, regardless of what she does. She'll either follow along or she won't. And if she won't, is the juice worth the squeeze?
/r/askTRP09/03/21 11:57 PM
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I think you're trying to draw a distinction between preference and sexual desire that isn't there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:46 PM
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Lol you have an account just for this sub? Like what kind of shit do you plan on saying here?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:43 PM
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See, I don't think that's true. In fact, I think it's backwards. It's not that a high n-count ruins women. It's that damaged women have a high n-count. Like they have BPD, self-sabotage their relationships, or no one who gets close to them will wife them up. Think of it as a symptom, and not a cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:39 PM
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Well, yeah. In general, women date up and across. Men date down and across. This is RP 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 11:01 AM
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Let her bring it up. You're the prize, right?
/r/askTRP08/03/21 02:43 PM
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"She texted me back after I said “yes it was a really fun time and I’d rather you talk in person” she goes “I was going to...but I got distracted”... should I give her s little sweetness here? Like, “it happens baby talk to me about it next time we see each other”..." Don't make excuses for her. Just drop it let her bring it up again in person if she wants. One thing about all the LTRs I've had is that women need comfort in the moment, but there's a window. And if you wait too long to give it to…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 01:48 PM
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Don't overthink this. It's a comfort test. She wants to know where you guys stand. It's not beta bait because she's fucking you already. And it's not a shit test based on what you're sharing. She's not making demands of you. She's just anxious about not being used as a fuck toy. I would throw her a dash of comfort to keep the oochi tap flowing. I would get the idea of punishing girls for bad behavior out of your head. If you need to "punish" her for stepping out of line, you're too emotionally i…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 12:54 PM
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Yeah? How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 02:12 AM
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Women and blue pill men are both really good about lying to themselves about what makes women happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:47 AM
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I don't know what's unpopular about this. Like are there a lot of people who think mothers are great at viewing their sons and their sex lives objectively?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:45 AM
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So you want to red pill them, mostly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:44 AM
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Red pilled women. They actually know/care about what interests men, and they won't lie to Sally, who's 42 w/three kids, by telling her that's she's just as much of a catch as 25 year-old Nancy who has much less baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:11 PM
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Read the post by Warlock itiswr1tten linked to. In short, beta bait is something specific women do to get free validation. Like posting suggestive pics online, or fishing for compliments. Once you respond within her frame, she gets her feelz off and you're left holding your dick.
/r/askTRP07/03/21 08:43 PM
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Fuck the lockdown, you should have met up when you had a chance. If logistics are an issue, have her meet you or meet halfway.
/r/askTRP07/03/21 08:31 PM
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Is this just a hypothetical, or do you have a real problem? Assuming the former: it takes more than alpha behaviors to keep your girl in check. You have to throw her some comfort from time to time. So you can be on point 200% with your alpha behaviors, and she could still leave if she's desperate for comfort, and isn't getting it.
/r/askTRP07/03/21 08:24 PM
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Agreed. When you're offered sex at every turn like women are, you'd have to to learn to be somewhat avoidant in order to just live. And if all women have to be somewhat dismissive/avoidant, then AWALT to ensure you're always taking that into account makes sense. The problem with avoidance is that is that it eventually drives vulnerable/anxious men away, the type who more readily offer commitment. Until the epiphany phase where women settle for a beta bucks who doesn't turn them on like more asse…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 12:57 PM
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I also think it's the opposite. TRP is almost like training for anxious men on how to be avoidant, so they can better attract women. So much of the TRP is focused on putting a lid on your emotions. Spin plates to avoid being too attached to one person. Mentally prime yourself for disappointment ("she's not yours, it's just your turn"). Withdrawing attention, affection, and if necessary, commitment in order to fix dead bedrooms. Purging "her" from your field reports. TRP is effectively engaged in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 12:34 PM
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It's really up to you, bro. What are YOUR standards? Personally, I have like half a dozen deal breakers, and then everything else is really a matter of if I want to put up with it for the rest of my life. Any more I think would be unreasonable, and too hard to manage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 05:46 AM
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Pook may be able to help you. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=28956 "...embracing one’s sexuality means enjoying it. You do not look at the woman as work or as a riddle to be solved. No, you go in and have FUN."
/r/askTRP06/03/21 10:37 PM
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You misspelled "blue pill."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 08:53 PM
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Oh. So you're needy. That's extremely unattractive. If you need her attention, she's going to smell it from miles away. At that point, you've already lost. You have to come to terms with the fact that while it's better to be getting romantic attention than it is to be alone, it's also better to be alone than it is to be simpy. Start lifting. Learn game. Get your self esteem in order. By the time you get it together, you'll have more of an abundance mentality which replaces need for companionship…
/r/seduction06/03/21 08:45 PM
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Why are you spending so much time texting her?
/r/seduction06/03/21 06:21 PM
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Yes. Pre-selection is like magic. It's why guys in relationships have an easier time attracting women than guys who are alone.
/r/seduction06/03/21 06:21 PM
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I'd say it works even better for avoidant attachment styles. You have to push/pull like crazy to slip under their B shields, but also avoid tripping their avoidance mechanism.
/r/seduction06/03/21 06:13 PM
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Because most women, even average looking ones, get blasted with at least occasionally with unwanted attention from thristy guys. So it's hard for them to get excited about even more attention. Also, too much attention puts pressure on women to reciprocate, and they haaate that. If you're aloof, but friendly, you're signaling that you're not thirsty, but you also don't hate them. You're also taking pressure off of girls to be responsible for your feelings. This allows girls who are naturally attr…
/r/seduction06/03/21 06:09 PM
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"Experiences." Women want experiences. Like the aging babies in The Art of Seduction. No amount of variety can be too much for them.
/r/askTRP06/03/21 03:09 AM
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I'm 42 and am in the best shape I've been in perhaps ever, on the lean muscle front.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 06:26 PM
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You can't negotiate desire, and she might already have moved on (light switch effect). But if she's willing to be alone with you in a room, you might be able to rekindle her desire by starting an argument and giving her space to emote. It doesn't matter if her emotions are negative or positive. The heightened emotional state is what drives desire. The key is keeping your shit together when she's doing it. It's a Hail Mary, and a hundred things could go wrong. But if she's still into you, when sh…
/r/askTRP04/03/21 03:04 AM
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All relationships are transactional on some level. When guys realize this, they stop giving away comfort for free, especially when their girl is being bitchy or frigid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 01:19 AM
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"We ended up back in the conversation of how she was in love with me and I ended up saying "I have feelings for you too"." "As soon as I said that, she started saying that she doesnt want to be exclusive, it was not a good time for her..." You declared feels for her. She shit tested them, partially because you no contacted her for almost a week after she was pleading for comfort. You failed it by entering her frame and agreeing that you shouldn't be together. I'm thinking you should have been an…
/r/askTRP02/03/21 11:52 AM
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She is no longer that person...right now. Wait until your next serious disagreement, and her only coping strategies are manipulation and cheating.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 11:31 AM
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Fuck their crushes.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 05:08 AM
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Because the American right uses the same 22-year old Matrix analogy. It is what it is.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 05:07 AM
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How long is your LTR? Set boundaries once and be prepared to enforce them. The extra playful/flirty stuff is a problem. It means she doesn't care about how she's coming off to you.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 05:05 AM
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Being fun and outgoing is better than being broody. Remember, feelz before realz with girls. They don't want some serious dude who won't give them "experiences." Just don't talk too much; give her space to chase you.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 07:49 PM
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Totally unredpilled? Nah. This is in line with Pook. You're having fun, and not taking things too seriously. Maybe you were treading water with the "that was a bit rude," but obviously you recovered.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 01:36 AM
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Hit her in the head with a wooden club, cave man style. Drag her to new location. Note: The club must be made out of oak, or it's not alpha enough. Read the sidebar. Legit, just let her know you're moving, you want her to come with you, and it's happening by (date). If she doesn't come, she doesn't come. Don't sabotage a promising opportunity for this girl.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:27 AM
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One. Parroting everyone else here. Just next her. Two. As far as what's going on, it sounds like she's anxious about you not being her friend (i.e. free validation vending machine) anymore. Maybe she's afraid of you freaking out, and thinks she needs to relate to you in a friendly way to calm her nerves. Whatever it is, she's not fucking you. Next.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:17 AM
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Beta is comfort and safety. And you need a little bit of beta/comfort behaviors in seduction, especially LTRs. But here's the deal. If you're not putting yourself out there as a sexual being, and all you're offering is comfort, you're just not going to get laid very often. Other notes: being needy isn't an alpha (tingles inducing) behavior. Nor is being tone deaf (pushy). But refusing to assert your own needs and desires isn't healthy, either.
/r/seduction28/02/21 04:48 AM
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The wall refers to SMV. Men don't care about how much money women make. So as women age, they're still less attractive to men in general. It's not hard and fast, but it's still a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 11:07 PM
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Strictly. You can't game girls at work without risking getting fired. You can't cleanly manage your relationships because you may have to interact with them a certain way. You can't create distance when needed. You can't escalate without risking harassment charges. You will have to deal with jealousy and rumors and people saying you treat her better because you're fucking her. If she thinks you treated her like shit, then she runs to HR and that becomes a nightmare. And if you get all blue pille…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 10:26 PM
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I think its because men have been shamed into thinking their sexuality is inherently predatory and/or toxic. So we preemptively disregard advice that directly addresses male sexual strategy as misogynistic. What's left is advice from self-interested women, and blue pill "nice guys." Neither or which are helpful. Women will tell us to engage in simpy comfort inducing behaviors (ex: be my friend first), and also something something "be yourself." Basically they want free attention and validation f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 05:44 AM
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Nah. If girls got attached to comfort like that, blue pill guys would be drowning in pussy. She might be getting wrapped up in the push pull of you giving her a little bit of comfort, and then withdrawing. If you were giving her too much comfort, she would be taking you for granted.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 08:50 PM
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It depends. If you're not fucking her, it's beta bait. She wants free validation and if you give it her, you get nothing. You already get that. If you're in an LTR, occasional comfort is needed. Basically if you give a girl zero comfort, she's going to spazz out. Like a Main Event in dread. If it's a plate, you kind of have to feel it out. Step one is to define your goal. Do you want to promote her? If no, don't spend too much time absorbing her feelings. If so, I would give her some comfort and…
/r/askTRP25/02/21 08:46 PM
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Typically I reject conspiratorial arguments. Most people just aren't that invested in group hatred. Not because they're kind, but because what's the point? So already I don't buy that feminists, of which there are probably millions to tens of millions in the U.S., care about emasculating men writ large. Though certainly there is a small percentage. Then there's the ideology itself. Again, I'm defining feminism as essentially gynocentric leftism. And I'm fairly well versed in it. My intro to poli…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 08:11 PM
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I don't think there's an agenda to emasculate men, because I don't think feminists (read: left wing feminists) really comprehend what emasculation entails. They have a totally gynocentric ideology. With that said, with feminism being a cynical power game in the name of women, one of the byproducts is the emasculation of men (in particular, criminalizing tone deaf expressions of male sexuality as a civil rights offense-harassment). All the more reason to be be RP so you're aware of how women resp…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 05:13 PM
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Wut?
/r/askTRP24/02/21 04:38 PM
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I get it. The way I see it, you can't ever be 100% precise in a community that A) is focused on sexual strategy for half of humanity vs the other half, and B) loves to create clever neologisms. RP principles are supposed to work in most cases, but you can't be autistic about it, or you'll get it wrong, get frustrated, and go MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 04:36 PM
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Agreed about Cracked, which is just a left wing ring of intimate servicing. Reading the second half of your comment, I thought of something Rian Stone (I think) said. Proponents of the red pill take it seriously, and not literally. Critics take it literally, but not seriously. I see that playing out in this whole thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:25 PM
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People aren't alpha, their behaviors are. In particular, behaviors which make women...feel desire. You can probably get away with calling guys who exhibit a lot of these behaviors alpha, but it's a bit misleading. Nevertheless, we need a word to describe behaviors which attract lots if women. Why not alpha? It even comes in a set. The word beta describes behaviors which make women feel comfortable, but not we...desire. You kind of need both to sustain relationships. Like 90/10 A/B, depending on …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:19 PM
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Nope. It's degrading. I'm like 99% sex positive, Camille Paglia, in regards to women. But I've never bought the ideal of a happy prostitute. It would be like a guy being paid to offer women simpy comfort and validation, knowing it's purely transactional. And none of the clients will offer intimacy in return unless they're really damaged. The emotional damage it would take to drive a girl to that point, and the continued abuse/scarring that's part of the job, is depressing to think about for stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:18 AM
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I think of the RP as like creative writing. You learn the rules up front so you have the fundamentals down, and then you get to break them-if it makes sense. Besides, if you read everything on all the RP sidebars, including the books, you're going to get contradictory advice. Use your head. The only hard and fast rules if you've been in this space for a while are rule zero, make sure you're here to increase men's sexual power and options (or GTFO), and read and understand the sidebar. Like the r…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 01:02 AM
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I think smart people are smart enough to convince themselves that their intelligence is what's making them unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 11:52 PM
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Young or old. Someone else here put it that way a while ago. Thought it was succinct and clever. Take a lot of this stuff seriously, but not literally.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 10:45 PM
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Yes. Freaked out over the IOIs, pre red pill. Stuck around cause of trad mental model (then 4YO kid). Sperged out looking for solutions. Found dread. Applied the fuck out of dread. Turned around bedroom in 4 months. Respect in 6-8. Main event around month 8. Happy with results for now.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:45 PM
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Who said anything about sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:45 PM
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Women are disgusted by weak males (virgins, creepers, etc.) while men are usually just disrespectful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:19 PM
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Two things, same year. When my straight laced trad con wife threw IOIs at some dude, talking about smoking up with him. When one of my co-workers, also trad to some extent, went head over heels for another married co-worker with multiple kids. 16 to 60. Lesbian to straight. AWALT
/r/askTRP22/02/21 06:19 PM
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For starters, no one is perfect. And any woman who is chasing perfect is likely an alpha widow or someone else destined to live the domestic ideal vicariously through their nieces and nephews. You have to be high value, but also attainable. Women self-select for guys they think are just above them. 7's (edit: all women who think they're 7's) pine for 8's and 9's. So any girl with a sliver of self-awareness is going to ignore guys way out of their league. It's like they're intimidated by them. It…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 01:39 PM
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It's probably fine in the short term, especially if she likes to have sex a lot. Her bringing lube is a good sign. In the long term, it's going to end up in dead bedrooms type relationship because she seems to want total control over the bedroom dynamic. Long term, you're going to have to game the shit out of her if you want to have sex on your terms sometimes. Dread game and all that.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 05:04 AM
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I think women do love their LTRs in their own way, but it's post hoc justification of their tingles and maybe their desire for comfort being temporarily satisfied. Guys will fall for their LTRs when they're younger, and then the wife goggles go on. We believe in love for the sake of love. We get so ego-invested in the idea of being in love, we'll cling to women and make excuses for their crappy behavior as long as we have their simple companionship. That's usually enough to satisfy us. Men love …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:37 AM
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Sure, but would she be settling by being with a guy (any guy) shorter than her?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:22 AM
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It sounds like a massive hassle. Twice as much shit to organize, clean, and maintain. Where is the spatula? Your kitchen or mine? And if you think dead bedrooms and jealousy are a problem now, wait until you're sleeping separately every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:21 AM
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Guys will mess up a good thing looking for cheap thrills outside of their LTR. Women will monkey branch when they think their guy isn't the shit anymore, and they've secured a better potential option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:13 AM
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I think this is true in a narrow sense, and is a big reason why so many men are blue pill. They pedestalize women and romance. They end up relying on women for validation and guidance, and consequently, become dependent on female charity. This results in a weird dehumanization of women as mysterious validation objects, instead of real people with real desires and real flaws. When the blue pill nice guys realize that women aren't playing the role of doting Mommy, they sperg out, or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:36 AM
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Anything you do in order to seek approval from others. Like showing off how smart you are, humble bragging about your "old" designer watch, or hovering over your crush just in case she notices you. If you wouldn't do it if people didn't react, it might be validation seeking.
/r/seduction22/02/21 02:30 AM
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When she turns you down, don't act butthurt. Instead, do whatever you would do if you lived alone. Have a go bag for the gym, etc.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 11:33 PM
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Lots of inspirational quotes and such in their profile. According to psychologist Sam Gosling, highly nuerotic people use these to help self-regulate.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 11:21 PM
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He's indifferent to whether or not she likes him. And he doesn't have any validation seeking behaviors. With that said, he's still fun and attractive.
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:02 PM
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Lmao. Next time you bring a female friend out, don't let her be your wing woman, she will have no idea what she's doing. If she insists, leave and let her take an Uber home. The best she can do is let other women see you interacting with her in a friendly way. Make her laugh and light KINO. Her best role here is communicating pre-selection.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:34 PM
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Plate is a specific description. I'm fucking this girl, but it's not serious. She's a plate. Again, if you're so emotionally wrapped up in women that you generically refer to them as whores, etc., you're doing it wrong. Which isn't to say those can't be specific descriptions as well. Outcome independence is contingent on indifference, not anger.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 01:59 PM
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I would tell them two things. One, refusing to pedestalize women isn't misogyny. Two, if you hate women, you're too emotionally invested in them, and you're doing it wrong.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 01:47 PM
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No* There are alpha (attraction-inducing) behaviors. There are beta (comfort-inducing) behaviors. I don't know what sigma behaviors are.
/r/seduction18/02/21 03:06 PM
2

Why do you have to dread this girl? Is she withholding sex?
/r/askTRP17/02/21 09:16 PM
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Why shouldn't I run dread 9 months, or even forever? It's about me, and not her, right? It's not a punishment, especially if she likes the man I've become. And she tells me she does. Dread right now is me increasing my SMV via exercising and working on frame/outcome independence. It's also me walking away when she's being occasionally shitty, like she was last week. Like every time she turns me down, the aim is to act as if it didn't happen and go do whatever I would do if I lived alone. Dread i…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 01:56 AM
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Why do you care? That reflects a lack of options. Hit the sidebar, get over your oneitis for damaged girl, and bring home women with fewer issues.
/r/askTRP16/02/21 11:17 PM
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Legit, time and distance. If after keeping yourself too busy to care, and fucking/gaming other women, then just calm down and give it time. She's not a unicorn. Learn how to look at her like an annoying little sister.
/r/askTRP15/02/21 09:28 PM
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Already doing that. I even make him wear those jeans that don't cover the butt.
/r/askTRP14/02/21 07:51 PM
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I've been dreading her for 9 months or so. Sex 2-3x weekly since we turned the corner. Things have slowed down since she started a craft business and this week it only happened once. She says she's too busy. She turned me down when I made a move a few nights ago, so I kissed her on the forehead and went and read a little bit. But here's where I think I fucked up. I texted her same night trying to arrange "date night." That's my way of getting sex without activating her ASD. We don't do anything …
/r/askTRP14/02/21 05:37 PM
8

That's really tough. I'm against abortion, but I can see some guys abusing this just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 07:22 PM
1

Sounds like your area of expertise. I should make time to check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 04:10 PM
1

Interesting. I always thought of excessive permissiveness as a lagging indicator of an insecure culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:42 PM
1

I'm re-reading No More Mr Nice Guy to help purge self-defeating behaviors. I'm reading Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards. I've followed her for a while now and I like how she integrates social psychology into her work. I'm re-reading The Book of Pook because it's kind of an esoteric creative writing exercise, and I didn't absorb much the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:26 PM
3

Very obvious reasons. Good book.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:19 PM
2

Don't worry about the hive. You can't control it, and female power dynamics are too evolutionary and subtle to be worth trying to wrestle with. The best thing you can do vis a vie her friends is be quiet. Non-threatening, but also not creepy. As for how much power it has over her, it depends. If she's not emotionally invested in you yet, yeah, social pressure is going to win out. Women hate rocking the boat. But when she is emotionally invested, it's a whole other ballgame. Once they're vested, …
/r/askTRP12/02/21 05:53 AM
4

Lol. I've been looking at it for almost a year. Also, alpha and beta aren't people, they're behaviors. Also, your self worth isn't based on money or how many women you have sex with. These are RP principles. What have you been reading? And if a woman doesn't want to fuck you, you know what the RP says? Emotionally divest. Don't be fucking weird, just go away. You can't negotiate desire. Hard next. There are literally millions of women on Earth. Find one that will make an effort. Even dread is fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:24 AM
8

Uh. Rape is antithetical to the RP. You can't negotiate desire, right? Sounds like your dude was toxic no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:11 AM
9

Eh. The red pill saved my marriage and made me a better, more effectively moral man than I've ever been. It's positive masculinity tempered by an extreme aversion to the romantic nonsense which is killing men in the sexual marketplace. My wife likes me better. My guy friends like me better. Other women like me better. Most importantly, I like me better. After being introduced to the RP, I've never felt so empowered, and I'm still internalizing some of the fundamentals. Once I truly internalize f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 01:28 AM
3

It feels like I've been running dread for forever. But this isn't part of it. Being aloof, being attractive, being not needy: These aren't punishments. They're rewards. When I stopped being vulnerable, my wife thought I was taking anger management classes, and commented several times how much she liked whatever it was I was doing to keep my shit together. If I wanted to punish my wife, I would start acting all simpy and then demand she treat me the same way she's doing now. Dread or no dread, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 11:26 AM
1

I'm probably too old (42M) to really take advantage of it, but I would do it for like a year just to experience how easy it is to get sexual attention with a traditonally female experience. Hell, women need sexual harassment law to get a break from it. But I wouldn't do it long term because women have less control over their SMV than men because it's so contingent on their youth and appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:28 AM
1

Wut? I think your logic is backwards. Nothing about being sub in bed suggests being dominant professionally. But, if someone is professional, buttoned up, and in charge all week, hell yeah I'm going to guess they enjoy being sub in the bedroom because that's a release from a restrictive life. Their personality is the same. Their behaviors in certain contexts can be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:21 AM
5

I stopped showing vulnerability to my wife almost a year ago. Helped fix our struggling bedroom and she's never been a more attentive spouse. Your girl can respect you, or she can be your mommy. You can't have both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 12:12 AM
2

Dude. Rian Stone just released a short video about sketchy behavior from your girl. Watch it. Basically, the appearance of impropriety is just as important as cheating. Dont mate guard, but I would make it clear to her that you don't date anyone who cares so little about you suspecting her of cheating. https://youtu.be/_J0QmbNcpwo
/r/askTRP10/02/21 12:01 AM
6

One. It doesn't matter what people here want to hear. You should be getting shit done and working on yourself because it benefits you. Two. I don't think her telling you she's not feeling well is beta bait. Her actions suggest that she's feeling a bit anxious about your breakup. Even if it is beta bait, I would apply light amused mastery. If she needs an oak to lean on, you being detached and holding your shit together will make her wet. If she's just trying to bait you into giving her free vali…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 08:59 PM
1

Social psychologist Sam Gosling observed that "high neurotics tend to have more self-help quotes and inspirational messages in their office space and homes. They use them to self-calm and self-regulate." If your girl has a wall full of inspirational quotes, she's a little crazy.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 12:32 PM
1

Dead bedroom and shitty wife. The red pill actually offered tools that helped me, and indirectly saved my marriage.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 12:19 PM
0

Masculine is more of a personality trait. Bossy/nagging. Resistant to guidance. Lacking empathetic gestures. Impulsive. Direct. Short tempered. Doesn't like to embrace others. I tend to attract women like that for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 05:50 AM
1

Marriage was down and up for years after kid was born. We would argue and dance around the divorce talk all the time. Once it happened when we went for a walk on Christmas. Went through a dead bedroom spell. One night she didn't just say no, she was nasty on another level. Red flag, right? Turns out she was messaging IOIs to some dude and saying things she's never said to me. I lost my shit and confronted her. She deflected and denied even though the evidence was right in front of us. She, she, …
/r/askTRP06/02/21 03:58 PM
1

You're too invested in their bad decision making. Why do you care so much?
/r/askTRP06/02/21 03:18 PM
6

One. legit, it sounds like she would have been down for anal. Do you have lube on hand? If not, get some. Two. After it was became clear she wasn't going to have the PIV sex you wanted, you should have stopped and started doing whatever you would be doing if she wasn't there. I have three hard and fast rules for these situations: Don't appear butthurt. Don't talk to her about it. Stop giving her free attention. All three are about "not being unattractive," which should have been the one and only…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 08:29 PM
1

Have you tried closing the pop-up?
/r/askTRP04/02/21 05:43 PM
1

It's also in the sidebar here.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 04:26 PM
3

They're flexing, and they're probably doing it for other women. "I'm a slut for Chads, so what?" Subtext: I do what I want. See? (BTW, I'm sleeping with Chad. What are you settling for?) "Look at all these nice guys pining over me." Subtext: Look at all the attention guys give me. Do you get that much attention? It's validation seeking with a mean-spirited twist. I avoid these women because they actively resist being pleasant and kind. You can't gloat on Tik Tok about how you made dinner for hub…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 10:42 AM
13

Open relationships sound like spinning plates with extra steps. It's a hard "no" boundary for me. What's the point of an LTR if it's not exclusivity? What do I say about the mother of my kids bringing some other dude(s) around, embarrassing me in front of the little ones? I get abundance mentality. But all the abundance in the world doesn't make it any less true that you're basically inviting your girl to take your comfort for granted while she's getting railed by Chad. How do you hold frame and…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:26 PM
1

Glad I could help. Reading the sidebar is like rules 1A-1Z here.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 05:56 PM
11

Forget the who, what's their point? Do they even understand it? Properly understood, TRP is just a toolkit. It's not an ideology. So it's okay to say hey, this tool doesn't work in this situation, or I think it's just broken. I've seen numerous posts from randos here disagreeing with "texting is only for logistics." Is that the "official" RP take? I dunno. I do know there's stuff in the sidebar that's more nuanced than that. But if you're taking this stuff 100% literally, you're doing it wrong. …
/r/askTRP03/02/21 01:03 PM
2

Side bar. How to use dating sites. Pay special attention to the messaging (via the app) and texting sections. It's a little more nuanced than 100% "texting is for logistics only."
/r/askTRP03/02/21 12:47 AM
1

It means being aware of, and accepting that there are differences between men and women. It means acknowledging the practical effects of those differences on intersex relationships, particularly concerning sexual strategy. It means purging neediness and validation seeking out of your own behaviors. It means practical self-improvement on several fronts: physical, emotional, and financial. It means you are owning your own shit.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 05:48 PM
3

Girls hate boring, needy, and tentative. There's no emotional charge there. This doesn't automatically mean they like the most toxic guys, but if there's three things the guys you are describing aren't, it's boring, needy, and tentative.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 03:50 PM
2

Anytime you have to communicate to your girl that she's acting badly (and she already knows it) you're basically begging her to not do it. With that said, women are experts at plausible deniability. That's why you have to be the one who escalates and give them excuses to have sex with you when you're getting LMR. So communicate one time that this is a boundary of yours. Be clear. Be calm. Follow up with a joke, if you want. And leave it at that. She won't be able to pretend she doesn't know anym…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:30 AM
1

Just be smart about it. If she seems like the kind of girl who will stalk you at work or set your car on fire once she realizes you'll never wife her up, avoid her. The other stuff will just make her unpleasant and flakey.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:48 AM
2

Just let your distance naturally play out. From a sexual attraction standpoint, you being independent is a reward to your girl, not a punishment. Don't give in to the urge to preemptively excuse your behavior, because you will also be tempted to spill your guts. Women hate being in charge of our feelings. Also, never assume what your LTR is going to do. Focus on your own behavior, which you can control. If she presses, just tell her you're dealing with the family headaches she already knows abou…
/r/askTRP23/01/21 01:53 AM
13

Dude. This isn't about alpha and beta, or colored pills. Some guys are just legit evil, or just don't care.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 07:45 PM
6

I mean, it's a terrible crime, and it happens. No idea how prevalent. Always assume the numbers being given to you by advocacy groups are at the far end of the statistical bell curve because those will have the most emotional impact. But the feminist approach to combating it has been twisted by left wing assumptions about sex and power. That's the subtext behind "rape culture." So take what you're getting with a grain of salt and think critically about it.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 07:29 PM
1

AWALT. I refused to believe it at first, but analyzing the women around me from a RP POV drove it home.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:57 PM
0

Own it. Get ahead of it and be honest with him. You have nothing to be ashamed of here.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:50 PM
5

Perfect is boring.
/r/seduction20/01/21 01:47 PM
4

You may be right about texting too much. But just in case, I would escalate to a meet ASAP and see where it goes.
/r/seduction20/01/21 06:31 AM
1

Kid, you're killing me. Just think 6/10. Read and read some more. It'll sink in.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 12:23 AM
1

Men love romantically-we can talk ourselves into loving an hb6 with little else to offer. Women love guys who are their best option. They don't talk themselves into loving low quality men. It's all about hypergamy for them.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 12:17 AM
3

Search the red pill in reddit. It won't let me post the path, but it's straightforward.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 12:08 AM
3

This is useful! Post things like this for clarification. Not open ended stuff like above. My take on Rollo's post is that men love idealistically, and women don't. Women aren't romantic. Basically all the stories about the guy earning affection from a woman by crawling through glass to win her over are androcentric. Women aren't turned on by that. They don't want you standing outside their window with a radio like John Cusack, proclaiming your affection. Women get zero value out of that because …
/r/askTRP20/01/21 12:03 AM
2

There's no magic pill. You have to humble yourself and do the work. No one else will do it for you. Read the free source material. The Book of Pook is free online. I wouldn't be surprised to see The Rational Male converted into a free PDF. Read the MRP side bar. Read the quarantined sub's sidebar. Some of it won't make sense or click the first time. Some of the links are dead. That's okay. Read the live ones. Be humble. Go do the work. Come back when you've at least done the reading.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:19 PM
35

Number 2 lied to herself about what you were giving her, and feels embarrassed now that it's apparent. She may never come around again. She might reach out with pics with her and another dude in some vain attempt to secure cosmic justice. Or she may just cave and come around again. None of that is your concern. Plates break when they drop. Don't pick it up again unless you want to deal with attitude and unholy ASD.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 10:19 PM
12

You're probably right. Reponse to both is to be unaffected.
/r/seduction19/01/21 06:10 AM
23

Dude. Women dngaf if you're taken. I've been RP a while now, and it still impresses me.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 05:57 AM
3

Are you sure you're not an "I'm so bad" nice guy? I'm not dismissing everything you're reporting, but being manipulative is a classic nice guy behavior. So is being able to cite ways you haven't acted so kindly (for "I'm so bad" nice guys). Also depending on how the tests are worded, they're subject to self-reporting bias. You could be right about being too dark triad, which is an overcorrection to being a simp anyway. But have you at least tugged on this thread?
/r/askTRP18/01/21 09:06 PM
1

You know the answer here. But why haven't you blocked her number yet?
/r/askTRP18/01/21 04:01 PM
2

Are you idealizing your oneitis? Legit you sound a bit alpha widowy.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:36 AM
8

I still have some simpy beta behaviors I pull out during an LTR, because you can't keep a girl on lock with 100% alpha game. Small doses of beta (comfort-inducing) behaviors are necessary. If you go all alpha, all the time on your LTR, sooner or later she'll be trading heart memes with some non-lifting BP asshole who couldn't get her wet if he threw her into the ocean.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:01 AM
56

Good on you. That's why you pay attention to actions, and not words.
/r/seduction17/01/21 08:56 PM
5

Don't communicate directly with women when they're trying to FZ you. So when they come around complaining about their ex, don't go hard. It's beta bait. Say "that sucks," and be done with it. Let her imagination do the rest. You have to be at least somewhat approachable before she will emotionally invest. You can do that without being her friend.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 07:00 PM
3

Rian Stone. He made his name on the MRP/LTR side of things, so that's his strength. He's fluent in RP concepts, yet also thinks critically about them. He's great at using RP as a guide, and not an ideology. Yes, there aren't a lot of new RP concepts, but Stone is excellent at analyzing them. For example, watch his 20 minute video on "She's not yours, it's just your turn." My biggest issue with Stone is that while he isn't a left-wing ideologue (you can't be in androcentric spaces), his political…
/r/askTRP17/01/21 06:05 PM
0

You said yourself that she's an HB6 who gives you more resistance than similar girls. Next and if you're so inclined, give her one more shot if she comes around. Otherwise, value your time.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 01:34 AM
2

Run, don't apologize. Don't talk to her again.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 03:53 AM
7

Just tell her you'd rather be alone today. Don't DEER. But she might be in the mood if she's apologetic. Don't step on your own dick if sex is your goal.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 09:36 PM
3

Sidebar: Doorknob game.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 06:20 PM
1

If she's sharing this, she's trying to get a rise out of you. Just maintain frame while she tries to dance into your head. It obviously keeps her occupied and interested.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 06:17 PM
11

Just have your shit together and stay disciplined. You're not going to be the biggest cock on the block on day 1, so be humble enough to adapt to your surroundings.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 06:14 PM
1

It's likely ASD or a shit test. Sidebar can say it better than I can.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 11:26 PM
4

She's a customer. Treat her like any other customer. If you want to trade your dignity for whatever $ she brings in, do that. If not, you're the owner, ban her. She's probably treating your employees the same way.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 11:22 PM
3

AA or ignore. Much of the time they're not serious, it's just beta bait. Treat it like any other compliment fishing expedition. "I don't know, but how many calories are in that glass of wine?"
/r/askTRP14/01/21 08:55 PM
2

AWALT. Keep it wrapped and don't get sucked into her world.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 08:43 PM
1

Alpha and beta are behaviors, not identities. Starting jealousy drama over text doesn't seem like a behavior that would get her wet. Sounds too much like mate guarding. If she's with other guys, and she's just a plate, who cares? At least you know not to promote her.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 08:41 PM
1

Wut? Why is it your responsibility to build her up? If she can't be bothered to do it herself, then she's not going to maintain higher value anyway. It'll be like one of the fixer upper restaurants on reality shows, which get better for a few weeks after some asshole comes to town and tells them everything they're doing wrong, but then revert back to their old habits.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 01:56 PM
1

Intelligence, loyalty, and a touch of sexual energy. Good flirts turn me into a fucking simp.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 01:50 PM
1

Two likely scenarios: One. It's beta bait. She wants an ego boost while waiting for her future husband to come around. Two. She wants you again. But her ASD is on overdrive because of your history. She's also acting as if she's approaching the wall. Is the juice worth the squeeze?
/r/askTRP14/01/21 01:42 PM
1

If you can't figure out what she's trying to say, just ignore it. That's a better option than overthinking and likely getting it wrong anyway.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 01:23 PM
2

Walk away or Amused Mastery. If she's upset to the point of tears, holding calm frame is like catnip to her. AA can work, in theory, but for me, it tends to come off as dismissive when my girl is angry.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 01:19 PM
1

Chad is Chad because he exhibits alpha behaviors. Behaviors that make women wet. Being decisive. Being daring enough to be inappropriate. Being wanted by other women. Not worrying about losing any one girl because there are plenty more he can get. Chad doesn't care what she thinks. Chad doesn't pretend to like sushi becaue she does. Chad doesn't care if she frowns upon him for being a player. Chad can be a provider, but he doesn't have to be. Sometimes he smokes pot all day and wears a tracking …
/r/askTRP13/01/21 07:02 AM
4

The Red Pill is a set of tools, that's all. Some guys have some of these tools already, without having to wrap their heads around the theory. Terms such as hypergamy, alpha widow, and beta bux are alien to them. I have one friend who's a natural seducer. He builds easy relationships with women, isn't afraid to be strategically inappropriate, and follows something like a 2 for 3 text rule. He's not RP. I know because I blabbed about TRP to him when I was just starting to really get into it. I was…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 06:36 AM
2

Learn dread. Apply it to the bedroom and the bank account. Once you get a main event, reset boundaries. If she doesn't work with you, the stay plan is the same as the go plan. Not that you know what any of that means right now. Read: Start with Athol Kay-Married Man's Sex Life Primer.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 12:13 AM
6

Beta stipends? Do you even rhyme, bro?
/r/askTRP13/01/21 12:10 AM
1

Becaue clinginess suggests low value. It's the same as neediness in guys.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 12:05 AM
3

I thought the 7 year itch was related to kids. Like the kids are super dependent the first 5 or 6 years, and then all of a sudden the kids are in school and the wife gets bored.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 12:03 AM
5

I dunno, but did anyone catch how Daniel's ex, Kamiko, was alpha widowed by him in Cobra Kai season 3?
/r/askTRP12/01/21 10:04 AM
2

Don't overthink. Just wear tight pants if you want to do that. Or get him some KFC.
/r/seduction12/01/21 12:12 AM
1

And what are you getting out of it? Closure? Saving face? What's the end goal, bro?
/r/seduction11/01/21 11:51 PM
1

All your apology did was remind her of why she needed her space.
/r/seduction11/01/21 11:31 PM
2

Ignore as if it never happened. The objective is indifference, not anger.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 04:43 AM
2

Three things: One. AWALT. 16 to 60. Lesbian or straight. I didn't want to believe this one. It takes a bit of nuance. Obviously some women are more anxious, experienced, etc. But fundamentally, all women are repulsed by neediness and weakness, and attracted to alpha behaviors-that's what makes them alpha behaviors. And no matter how they present themselves publicly, they will act as if. They will treat needy men like dirt even if they're married to them, have worked with them for years, and/or t…
/r/askTRP10/01/21 01:07 AM
1

"If something instrinsically changed, would she tell me?" No. Women typically aren't direct.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 09:46 PM
10

Don't compromise for her. Do it for you. You are your own judge. If your cognitive dissonance over being a hypocrite bothers YOU, stop doing it. If it's creating real problems for you (girl doesn't trust you, boss won't promote you), adapt. Simple, but not easy.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 05:38 PM
2

Indifference is the only answer. Act as if it never happened.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 08:28 PM
1

Lmao.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 08:27 PM
2

So they're cleaning up your contacts lists for you. Free labor.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 01:55 AM
2

Are you ego-invested in this ideal? Maybe you need to learn more about raw human nature to learn how not to idealize humans.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 01:50 AM
1

Rian Stone. He's well versed in the fundamentals, and has mastered the art of the 10-minute YT video.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 01:38 AM
6

Pay attention to her actions, not the verbal manifestation of her justification hamster. See if she really wants to come over. See how she responds to escalation. Then you will have your answer.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 01:29 AM
2

Because you're too emotionally invested. Spin plates and learn how to be indifferent. It's simple, but not easy. Do it anyway. Be disciplined and focus on your mission.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 01:22 AM
12

Gah. This straddles the line between shit and comfort tests. It's probably a bit of both. She is anxious about the comfort you're giving her, to the point she is being direct with you about it and is willing to talk about it in person (with some coaxing). But...her focus seems to be as much about your behavior as her feelings. She says that YOU need to show affection. She says YOU need to text her because she's trying to control the medium. Even though she's being needy, she still wants to be in…
/r/askTRP03/01/21 01:47 PM
22

Any girl? That's bullshit. You can make yourself more attractive in general, but if you're not a girl's type, you can't negotiate her desire. That type of thinking is how blue pill guys get caught up pestering/harassing women they should be nexting.
/r/askTRP03/01/21 01:16 PM
3

If you're sorry you promoted her, why are you keeping her around? You're more emotionally invested than she is. As long as that is true, she's going to play you like a fiddle whether or not you have kids. Walk away and see if she chases. If she doesn't, move on.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 01:31 PM
1

Not a follower, but I read your last long post. Excellent nesting doll metaphor. Can you give more details about how you use your voice to get others to listen more closely?
/r/seduction30/12/20 08:43 PM
3

It sounds like he was trying to be playful. If it bothers you, let him know.
/r/seduction30/12/20 08:36 PM
1

I think women can occasionally compliment guys and be flirty about it. Just don't come off as needy or lay it on too thick.
/r/seduction30/12/20 05:47 AM
1

Here's my current understanding. A&A isn't falling into her frame. It's playfully highlighting how ridiculous her shit test is. And that's it. It not the foundation for a new conversation. It's a rejection of her premise with a smiley face. Ex: You're too thin. Response: Shit. That's why I keep slipping through the shower drain. You don't have to be hilarious. Just light and dismissive.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 04:34 PM
1

Stay cool. Don't get too cute when texting. Just acknowledge her feels and follow up with logistics the next time you want to meet.
/r/seduction27/12/20 05:42 AM
13

Yes* It doesn't mean everything is a lie. But when actions and words contradict each other, the actions are the truth.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 04:02 AM
2

You can't. He has to come around on his own. If he comes to you complaining about talking to Sally for months online, only to for her to tell him he's a good platonic friend, share some wisdom with him. Maybe he'll internalize something. Otherwise, let him make his own way. Forcing others to act a certain way, even if it's clearly in their best interests, is antithetical to everything I know about TRP. You can't negotiate good decision making or something.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 04:12 AM
7

If you're a clown, and someone is paying you lots of money to make them giggle, yes. In any other context I can think of, it's legit cringy AF.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 04:02 AM
3

Listen to this man. Your focus should be on you. She should be reacting to your needs. But you're focused on her. Stop it. You're already in her frame. Ignore her comments about stoicism. Or use A&A. Or amused mastery. The fundamentals are your answer. If she still pleads for comfort, and it's worth it to you, give her a little bit. But don't get all beta, because she doesn't know that's going to dry her panties before March comes around.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 03:58 AM
3

I've never heard that. I have heard that some women are intimidated by "good" men. Like the idea of having to keep up with a high-achieving guy is too scary. But physical attraction is visceral. When people are truly attracted to someone like that, they don't think that rationally.
/r/seduction25/12/20 11:34 PM
19

Chateau Heartiste. Jumbotron rule of texting. His words. RS just did a video about this, too. If it were given a public airing, let’s say on a blog or a sports stadium jumbotron, you should feel comfortable with what you have written for the world to see. You should not feel an urge to wince, because it will be clear to everyone reading it how alpha you are. If the thought of someone other than you and your girl reading your permanently archived romantic exchanges makes you cringe with embarrass…
/r/askTRP24/12/20 03:32 PM
7

Time, really. While you're waiting, keep yourself busy. Follow your mission. Make sure your mission isn't women. Spin plates and interact with other women to speed up the clock. Even if you're not into them, IOIs from a hard 5 will fill your simpy validation meter a little bit. Sex works even better.
/r/askTRP24/12/20 05:36 AM
7

You're overthinking it. Could be a thousand things. I would generally caution against being complacent. Being clever and energetic might get you status when you're 23, but you need to develop real substance to hold value when you get older.
/r/askTRP24/12/20 05:30 AM
3

Okay. So you tried to escalate with this girl, and she didn't buy in. Shit happens. You have two plates, focus on them.
/r/askTRP24/12/20 01:04 AM
5

You're starting early, which is good. Everything feels weird the first few weeks you do it. Keep it up and approaching should become second nature to you.
/r/seduction20/12/20 01:19 AM
3

Just do it. Worst case scenario, she says no and you learn a few things.
/r/seduction18/12/20 09:09 PM
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I would say that women's appearance can give them the easiest path to intimacy, or the hardest. They can work on being seductive like Cleopatra (who was not cute) but mostly they're bound by their looks. That's one reason age hits them so hard on the dating market, and earlier. Guys, for better or worse, have an exponentially larger margin for error on the looks front, but no guy, not even a rich one, is going to be rolling in women if he's creepy or needy. No man is going to have it as easy dat…
/r/seduction15/12/20 01:44 PM
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https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/4380/beware_of_beta_bait/574977/
/r/askTRP08/12/20 10:33 PM
1

Found it. Thanks.
/r/askTRP08/12/20 07:57 PM
1

What are your expectations? You said that you are pretty good at sealing the deal with women who like you, but then women aren't attracted to you? Not everyone is going to like you. Next and move on. You can't negotiate desire. Otherwise, lift, hold frame at all costs, and don't act unattractive. Imagine you are lying in bed with two other women, but are amused by the one you are talking to. What does that feel like? Act as if.
/r/seduction06/12/20 08:33 AM
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I think you just answered your own question, bud.
/r/seduction03/12/20 04:12 AM
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How old are you? Your SMV is highest towards your late 30's, regardless of her age. Why aren't you spinning plates? Yes, protect yourself from oneitis. She won't care if you're taken. Pre-selection, right? If you're right about her interest, logistics are key here. How are you going to get in the same room alone with her? If she sleeps with you, you've seduced her. What am I missing here?
/r/seduction01/12/20 02:58 PM
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Attraction is primal, so as long as you're not pushing her away by arguing with her, there's no reason it can't work. Just shut up about your POV.
/r/seduction24/11/20 08:20 PM
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Don't be butthurt about being rejected, but respect yourself, too. Basically, ask youself if it's worth being her backup option. For me, that would mean light flirting/something casual, but not something serious.
/r/seduction24/11/20 04:01 PM
1

You really, truly have to develop an IDGAF attitude, or else you're going to self-sabotage almost every time. Two perspectives have helped me develop the correct mindset. One, the purpose of the game is the game. Yes, it's a lie, sort of, but if you learn to take pleasure in the chase, and not be distracted by the end goal, it'll keep you from getting the feels. Two. Have an abundance mindset. So what if this plate drops? You can't control what women are attracted to. Some women think Geroge Clo…
/r/seduction24/11/20 03:07 PM
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Sometimes the right answer is the most obvious one. THX.
/r/askTRP20/11/20 04:14 PM
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That's why you work on yourself first, which is a staple of the few PUA forums I am familiar with. Once you are confident in who you are, sans relationship, there is no faking it. To reiterate: Faking confidence is stupid advice. I suspect the majority of PUAs would agree.
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