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You have to establish, in your mind, your boundaries. Are you okay with her talking to other guys? Being playful? Touching? Whatever your limit is, set it and stick to it. And remember it goes both ways. Don’t just sit there while she gets attention and flirts and drinks. Go do the same. Be friendly, chat up other girls. But don’t try to make her jealous. Don’t do things that are clearly fucked up and crossing a line.
/r/seduction14/09/22 01:20 AM
10

This is not true. There are plenty of loyal girls out there. You’ll come across great and shitty people of both genders. OP, don’t carry the baggage from this situation forward to your next relationship. The next girl is not guilty of this one’s crimes.
/r/seduction11/09/22 08:58 PM
2

Sorry you’re going through this. Take the time you need to process and heal. You should cut her off entirely. More importantly, I hope you realize that things will improve. You’ll get over this and move on and find someone else. You’ll eventually be able to think about this and not even flinch. But for now, it’s okay to be sad. Just be kind to yourself.
/r/seduction11/09/22 08:55 PM
1

What are some things guys have said/done that have been instant turn offs, even if you were already initially attracted to them?
/r/seduction10/09/22 08:18 PM
5

You used to bring nothing to the table. Now you do (potential interaction with hot girls). Do you prioritize people who bring you value over those who don’t? You had a wingman; why? As you said, to rely on. You talk to hot girls, not gross ones, right? You avoid dudes who don’t benefit you, right? It’s a waste of energy to hate anyone because of this shit. It’s human nature. I keep people around me who bring value. This entire post feels like a humble brag.
/r/seduction09/09/22 09:36 PM
3

I, too, will jerk off to his wife.
/r/seduction02/09/22 12:11 AM
3

You’re not saying anything wrong. Not sure why you’re catching so much hate. People are allowed to have preferences and it’s okay to be picky. Wild to say that means you’ll end up hating your wife.
/r/seduction31/08/22 03:13 AM
2

No lol, I’m not Jewish.
/r/seduction31/08/22 03:06 AM
1

Sometimes, but not always.
/r/seduction31/08/22 12:59 AM
47

Agree, the good body thing pairs really well.
/r/seduction30/08/22 06:17 PM
193

I’m an attorney of the ‘prestigious’ variety. Definitely has an impact on dating. It makes things nmuch easier and gives me instant credibility. The downside is a busy work schedule. I’ve bailed mid first date for work, though the girls have always been cool about it. There are also some that won’t even look at guys who aren’t ‘prestigious’ like me, through there are prob similar preferences for various lifestyles.
/r/seduction30/08/22 05:00 PM
1

They’re not moving in on the girls because you’re black. They’re doing it because you’re 40, overweight, and under height. They perceive themselves as more attractive than you and figure they can seal the deal with less effort.
/r/seduction23/08/22 12:35 PM
2

Reading your comments and post history, you definitely have some racial issues. I doubt it’s the other people. It’s definitely you. You’re somehow already talking about the police being against you in a post about meeting girls. You made it a point to flag that you pick up white girls. You should do some introspection. It sounds like you have some really unhealthy thought processes.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:52 AM
7

No one is ruining your anything. You are not the main character. People are seeing girls they like and talking to them. You have no idea how it ends for them. They’re thinking of the girl, not you. It’s a marketplace dude.
/r/seduction23/08/22 04:50 AM
1

I’d assume she’s straight unless you have evidence otherwise.
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:38 AM
0

It’s not hard to get for them. It’s hard to get for you. They have more options, so can be picky.
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:18 AM
3

Sorry, I misspoke. What I meant to say is what I wouldn’t show her any sex scenes. I have a feeling your paranoia regarding a “sexual harassment kind of scenario” is rooted in experience.
/r/seduction16/08/22 02:28 PM
5

I definitely would not show her “good sex scenes.”
/r/seduction16/08/22 12:43 PM
2

Lol
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:47 AM
0

Don’t disagree with you there; there’s certainly some value in just having a nice experience or an enjoyable conversation.
/r/seduction11/08/22 08:35 PM
-4

I don’t see any value in giving 3 hours to a girl who you can’t actually pursue unless you’re genuinely looking for friendship.
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:38 PM
1

Having reasons for having a shitty attitude doesn’t obviate the effects of having a shitty attitude. I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences, but it sounds like you’re caught up in a bad cycle. To your second point, could you give us an idea of what you did for a year? Like generally speaking, what did your diet and workouts look like?
/r/seduction11/08/22 12:31 PM
5

Just glancing through your comments, it sounds like your shitty attitude plays some role in not getting laid. But also, learn to exercise and diet properly and you’ll put in muscle. It’s not hard to main an extra 10 pounds of muscle and low ish body fat so you look good.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:55 AM
1

Idk I don’t think that’s a fair characterization. I’d much rather be with an American girl than someone from another country.
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:10 AM
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I would text the day of like an hour or so beforehand, just saying something like, “hey, getting ready now then I’m gonna head out.” Also, I see people here post often that texting is only to arrange dates, but I don’t fully agree with that. There’s a lot of time between now and Saturday. I’d try to hit her with a couple of strategic texts, maybe on Wednesday and Friday. Just little things to remind her you exist and so she doesn’t feel you’re not disinterested. Some picture that relates back to…
/r/seduction01/08/22 11:03 PM
1

Definitely not Xanax, that’ll just put you to sleep. Unfortunately I’m not familiar with the others you listed.
/r/seduction31/07/22 01:52 PM
1

Adderall.
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:25 AM
1

Just say you’ve been busy. Don’t let her know you’re playing into her pulling away. Brush it off.
/r/seduction30/07/22 11:11 PM
1

Just say you grew apart and realized there was no long term potential.
/r/seduction29/07/22 08:39 PM
3

My go to is a kiss on the cheek. But I come from an Italian American background where that’s the norm. I also wouldn’t do that in a professional setting.
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:59 PM
5

Keep it friendly, but brief.
/r/seduction28/07/22 12:41 PM
69

You’re mostly gonna get Pepsi guys around here, but the basics are really the same. Just find the soft drink aisle and grab a pack.
/r/seduction21/07/22 07:14 AM
1

Yes, you should be pursuing women. You should also work really hard on your weight. Get in shape. But most importantly, try to understand that that would have been her reaction to just about anyone who isn’t Brad Pitt. I know it hurts, but understand it wasn’t personal to you. That line was written in her head and ready to be spit out before she ever saw you. Sorry you had to deal with that. Don’t let shit like that ruin your night. Bounce back and recover.
/r/seduction20/07/22 12:24 PM
6

I hook up with this chick who is a special ed teacher and loves to tell me about her students, and yet this comment is the most retarded thing I’ve heard all week.
/r/seduction19/07/22 11:10 PM
7

No; she’s not testing you (I don’t think). It’s just a general test to see how you handle a situation like this. Don’t get unreasonable and jealous over one tiny thing. Think of it as life testing you.
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:59 PM
18

Just say okay. She’s not testing you, but this is still a test of your character and confidence. Pick her up at 7:30.
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:44 PM
0

In my mind, you abused it. Nice to fall back a bit and let her chase, but no one is going to do that forever. You have to give a little too. In my opinion, you should text her like your normally would and not even reference the fact you haven’t spoken in 5 days. Just pick up where it left off. If she asks, say you were slammed with work or something like that.
/r/seduction18/07/22 04:30 PM
2

Ya well if you’re being set up by her friend you’re probably already in a good spot. Good luck! Hope you like her and it goes well.
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:24 PM
1

Agree if she’s saying she comfortable with double date, do that. But if it’s just up to you, I’d say just you and her. The double date move feels like if artificial and awkward. Almost like an audition.
/r/seduction17/07/22 03:05 PM
1

That’s not what I mean by masculine. It’s hard to explain. It’s more like having a little bit of a bad boy to your personality. Not to the point where you’re cringing, but the same flavor of that makes sense.
/r/seduction17/07/22 06:57 AM
3

Lol why can’t you understand that it’s in addition to other things, not instead of?
/r/seduction17/07/22 06:53 AM
1

Don’t do double date. Just do you and the girl getting drinks.
/r/seduction17/07/22 06:32 AM
2

This is how I met my current girl. Just play it chill, like you’re not sure. She’ll chase you if she’s interested.
/r/seduction17/07/22 06:15 AM
9

This is good advice. Make yourself interesting; have a personality aside from just wanting a girl.
/r/seduction17/07/22 01:30 AM
1

To the extent anything was misunderstood, what makes you think it was purposeful?
/r/seduction17/07/22 01:28 AM
6

This is like saying you weren’t born muscular, so by going to the gym and cultivating muscle, you’re no longer yourself. This is wrong. You can be yourself and remain true to yourself and yet cultivate confidence.
/r/seduction17/07/22 12:10 AM
2

The theory that the average girl is single for one week out of every seven years (0.27% of the time) has no merit. Zero. You have to actually be retarded to think that. You are scaring these poor girls. I have family in NJ. You are going to end up harassing the wrong girl and getting your teeth knocked out. Just stop dude.
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:45 PM
1

None of this is trolling lol, literally every single person is saying the same thing to you. You’ve been rejected so consistently and so thoroughly that you actually believe girls are only single one week out of every seven years. I’ll say it again: you think girls are only single one week out of every seven fucking years. That’s how hard you’re getting shot down. Jesus fucking christ lmao
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:23 PM
1

Keep stalking girls in branch brook park; I’ll wait til I see the article in the Star Ledger that Newark PD lit you up.
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:16 PM
1

It’s hard to give a one size fits all answer for all the ethnicities you listed, and most of my experience with nonwhite chicks is with Latinas, so take it with a grain of salt. But I think you’ll have more success if you emphasize your masculinity. Lead them and be forward. Be confident and a little cocky. Less about being witty and trying to impress outside of the aforementioned confines. Treat them as feminine and realize they want to be lead. Also, realize that you’re starting with an advant…
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:13 PM
5

No, I gave you a ton of advice lmao. You’re literally striking out viciously and then getting mad at the girls. You’re creepy af, which is why these girls are getting rid of you at the first opportunity. Telling you you’re doing it wrong isn’t “talking shit.” Learn to take constructive criticism or keep getting rejected you dickless loser lmao
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:05 PM
3

Lol I know exactly what you explained, which is you being painfully rejected for being creepy and desperate af. And then you lash out when you’re given tough advice. Tell me which park this was in NJ, I’d love to come spectate.
/r/seduction16/07/22 04:27 PM
4

You are literally following girls in the park lmao busting out “advanced tactics” aka asking strangers on dates. I’m telling you to stop these things for your own good. Here’s a secret: all the girls you’re approaching aren’t actually married or in relationships. They’re just trying to get you to fuck off.
/r/seduction16/07/22 03:46 PM
0

These are the kinds of posts that people here need to see. 100% accurate.
/r/seduction16/07/22 02:30 PM
3

Idk man, both of us talk to girls, but they’re only all married or engaged or confusingly “seeing someone” for one of us. Where in NJ are you?
/r/seduction16/07/22 02:12 PM
5

Dude this post is borderline autistic. Stop following girls in the park. Stop pretending to not know what it means when a girl says she’s seeing someone. Stop pretending “ejecting” is an option after you get rejected. Stop pretending girls in the park actually want attention from some random stranger that isn’t worthwhile enough to not be following girls in yoga pants in the park. Someone is going to call the police and you’re going to end up on a list.
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:27 AM
1

This post is hard to read. People like you are an example of the potential ill effects of this forum. It doesn’t matter what car you’re in or what brand hat you’re wearing. The whole “theory” thing is ridiculous. You’re sitting here feeling bad for yourself for not waiving at a stranger on the street. Get out of your head and just live your life.
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:01 AM
14

Obviously I’m not speaking in absolutes, some don’t, but in general I think you’re wrong about that.
/r/seduction12/07/22 02:33 PM
15

Do you, as a man, realize the power you hold? Based on your post, I’d say the answer is no. Women control who has sex. Men control who has a relationship/marriage. The market is not skewed.
/r/seduction12/07/22 02:16 PM
0

You’re not continuing any logic, your supplanting your feelings in place of my objective logic. I’m not racist; you can speak for yourself. Want to know the sad truth? You’re mad you’re not white. Which is sad. You should love yourself. You can keep going with this, but you’re overly emotional and not able to tease out the objective realist. I can’t fix that and, candidly, I don’t care to. The overwhelming amount of feedback here is testament enough to the truth.
/r/seduction12/07/22 01:18 PM
0

You’re putting words in my mouth and making illogical points, but I don’t have time to work through that. In your post history, you said you were looking for a white/Asian/Latina girl. No black chicks? You are racist. You also said you’re half white/half Asian. One of your parents is racist.
/r/seduction12/07/22 01:06 PM
1

OP isn’t writing off an entire ethnic group, but even if she was, that’s not racist. It’s still a preference. You can say I’m not attracted to Asians or overweight people or short people or bald people or people with bad teeth or people with brown eyes or people with big ears, etc. That is all just a preference and trying to pretend it’s not true is just lying to yourself. Weird for you to try to call people racist and then immediately try to make this about my race. Your life must be so tiresom…
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:44 PM
3

No, a preference is a preference. There is absolutely zero racism when it comes to attraction. Your position is the racist one.
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:34 PM
1

Don’t tell her you’re a virgin and do get out of your own way. You’re too in your own head. It may be a little clumsy but odds are she’ll internally blame herself for that. You’ll be fine.
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:57 AM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction11/07/22 12:14 PM
5

This is the right answer.
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:58 AM
-1

I think this is actually a pretty good idea, provided you do it very rarely (like once per girl) and otherwise don’t play games.
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:44 PM
1

I think you’re too inside your own head on this one. You’ve improved yourself, which is awesome. People have taken notice. Why were they supposed to settle for a lesser version of you? Why are they at fault for wanting something of a higher quality? Why are you denying yourself the opportunity to reap the rewards of your hard work? What if you were selling a car and it was all fucked up, so you listed a low price; and then you had some work done on it. Would you keep the low price? Should the bu…
/r/seduction06/07/22 04:49 PM
1

Lmao did you just say I didn’t understand you and then repeat my points that (1) he did give you advice and (2) that specific advice is difficult to give across a generational gap? Busting your balls on the horny stuff.
/r/seduction06/07/22 04:20 PM
0

I think being exclusive with someone you’re not fucking is actually absurd. I also think spending 2 months with someone you’re not fucking is absurd. You can do what you want, but it blows me away that you’re willing to invest another 2-3 weeks. Even if it happens tomorrow, is the juice worth the squeeze? Feels like you’re chasing her.
/r/seduction06/07/22 02:56 PM
35

Your first line is that your dad didn’t tell you shit, but based on your second para it sounds like he gave you some really solid advice. I think dating is so culturally informed that it’s almost impossible for one generation to give detailed advice to another. They didn’t grow up in the society were in now; dating and relationships are so, so different today than in our fathers’ generation. They just don’t know what it’s like. Do you think you could give detailed advice to someone from your fat…
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:28 PM
1

You’re not exactly wrong, although I wouldn’t say women are “entitled.” But, consider the fact that using tinder requires almost zero effort. You can do it from your bed. So of course there’s a lot of competition and bunch of other things you could criticize.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:04 PM
1

It’s not a women thing. I’ve cut girls off for little things that I don’t like. I’m not “ruthlessly unforgiving,” I’m just a person with preferences who values his time.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:50 AM
1

You don’t have 3 things you could do. You have one: not fuck her. And it’s not a choice. The second you sent the “I miss you” text, you sealed your fate. Learn and move on - and stop harassing the poor girl.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:45 AM
1

Hard disagree; don’t listen to this. Tinder works.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:36 AM
20

Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:25 AM
2

You’re not wrong, it was kind of a dick comment. I hope you find the kind of answer you’re looking for, but my view is that things like that play a very minor role, if any.
/r/seduction02/07/22 12:09 AM
1

Well you’re going to want to bring at least basic tactical gear in the event of an armed conflict. So boots, rope, flashlight, sat phone, multi tool, and at least 3 days worth of food and water. I assume a Kevlar vest is part of your standard outfit day or night. You should also concealed carry, which is thankfully going to be easier given the recent scotus ruling (I recommend a 45 for the stopping power, but a 9mm can also do the job if you’re worried about recoil). Beyond that, you’re going to…
/r/seduction01/07/22 01:56 AM
3

His pricing schedule is absurd. You pay by the lick when it’s his asshole and by the quarter hour when it’s your pussy? What if you rapid fire lick his asshole; no way he’s keeping track of that sufficiently enough to produce a reliable invoice. Economically speaking, you’ll be getting the most bang for your buck if you have him eat you out for 15 mins. That should be more than enough to cum. I figure the average oral exchange translates to about 1.5 licks per second, so if you were to eat his a…
/r/seduction01/07/22 12:24 AM
1

This is a silly post. But the answer is adderall.
/r/seduction01/07/22 12:17 AM
2

It’s probably your wardrobe. Get clothes that fit you well; tight in the chest and arms. Check out cuts t shirts. Hopefully your account name isn’t a statement on your sex life.
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:58 PM
3

Agree with this. Was there something you laughed or joked about that you can somehow reference? The move should be to get her laughing and remembering how she felt when she was with you. Then, ask if she wants to get drinks Saturday (scheduling might be weird since there’s a holiday; just be guided accordingly).
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:53 PM
1

I know it comes across as unfair and maybe even counterintuitive, but the difference is predicated upon the fact that it’s much easier for women to have sex as compared to men. Separately, sex is inherently riskier for women, so heightened promiscuity causes at least the appearance of poor decision making and risky behavior. A key that opens many locks is a great key. A lock that can be opened by any key is a shitty lock.
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:35 PM
2

Promiscuity is a turnoff for legitimate reasons. Not that every girl has to have the past of a nun, but it’s hard to ascribe much value to something so easily attained.
/r/seduction29/06/22 07:43 PM
51

There are shitty people in the world. Unfortunately you stumbled upon three of them. I’m sure what they did was hurtful, but don’t let it rattle you. It’s okay for him to have a preference, but the way all three of them reacted makes me think they’re not very happy in life. It’s not a reflection of you. Here’s how I think you should react in a situation like this: make a face that’s kind of half confused, half smiling; like you’re surprised and embarrassed for them. Laugh a little and say someth…
/r/seduction29/06/22 02:02 PM
1

Excellent perspective.
/r/seduction26/06/22 04:40 AM
4

When you give something your energy, you breathe life into it. Similarly, you train people how to treat you. Don’t play into it when she acts like this. Tell her once she misunderstood, and that’s it. Ice her out after that. She will learn.
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:36 AM
1

Assuming it’s nothing egregious, just move past it. Pretend it didn’t happen. People do stupid/awkward shit all the time. Just put space between that memory of you and her current image of you. She’ll get over it: either she’ll genuinely just forget it or she’ll cut you some slack. But learn from it. You can’t constantly say stupid shit and get away with it.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:00 PM
78

Have you considered fucking your brother to get back at her? Show that bitch how it feels.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:58 AM
14

As long as you have a neutral third party present calling balls and strikes, you’re good to pop on some porn.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:51 AM
15

These are a lot of serious issues. Def above this community’s pay grade. I personally don’t believe you’re beyond hope (it’s a big world out there), but I think you’d have to make some pretty drastic life changes. And you’d have to manage your expectations. I think you should find a really good therapist who will work with you in building the foundation you need to make the appropriate changes. My only concrete advice at the moment is to start working out and look for a better job. Good luck.
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:58 PM
3

Well said, and probably an amalgamation of all of the reasons you listed. Whatever the case may be, there’s no reason to be an argumentative asshole to someone trying to help someone else out. The kid is fucked and neither of us are equipped to remedy that.
/r/seduction19/06/22 10:48 PM
1

I’m sorry that you have to deal with this challenge. Unfortunately some things are just harder for some people than others - and it’s no one’s fault. You will have to put in more effort than average to compensate for your circumstances. But don’t give up! You have other great positive attributes. I’m confident that you’ll meet someone who doesn’t take issue with it. And, I think you’ll develop a lot of strength by working through and coping with this. Keep working out, keep pushing forward. Don’…
/r/seduction19/06/22 09:14 PM
1

For someone like you, yes, that is too much to ask. There are millions of people who die alone every year - virgins/no kids/never married/etc. It happens every day. You’ll likely be one of them. No amount of advice or resources can help you; you’re beyond repair.
/r/seduction19/06/22 05:29 PM
2

Giving someone advice doesn’t mean the issue at hand is my problem. That’s lazy reasoning on your part. Moreover, I was giving the OP advice; you just decided to interject and look for conflict. That’s why you get rejected so much irl. You’re an annoying contrarian with low self esteem. You also don’t come across as particularly intelligent, but that’s a secondary issue for someone like you. Again lol idc if you use this forum or some other resource — you can do whatever you want. It seems like …
/r/seduction19/06/22 05:18 PM
2

The only laziness here is on your end — you’d rather feel bad for yourself and be pugnacious with strangers online than actually make whatever changes are necessary for you to have the results you want. It really doesn’t make any difference to me what you do. Keep doing what you’re doing if you like. You not being able to get laid is your problem, not mine.
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:12 PM
18

Well it sounds like he certainly gave you some powerful feelings and emotions.
/r/seduction18/06/22 11:15 PM
3

He describes it as an LDR, wouldn’t really qualify it as a fwb.
/r/seduction18/06/22 11:07 PM
13

I take this to mean - they want you to give them / cause them to feel powerful feelings and emotions. Which I think is very accurate.
/r/seduction18/06/22 10:31 PM
3

I’m getting it from my interaction with you and now your admission that you’ve had no success. Just because you weren’t aware of those attributes in college doesn’t mean that you didn’t have them. Honestly, looking at your prior comments and all this, your personality is total trash. You’re annoying af, probably a huge contrarian irl, likely think you’re much smarter than you are, and I doubt you have anywhere near enough positive attributes to make up for those shortcomings. Stop being so bitte…
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:05 PM
1

Be nonchalant and don’t psych yourself out. She is most likely feeling the same way. I would broach the subject very casually. Maybe you say something like: ya know I’m really having fun with you, to the point where no one else has been catching my eye and I can’t see myself becoming interested in any other girls. Then you kind of just let her respond and let the convo flow from there. Again, I think there’s a good chance she’s feeling the same way.
/r/seduction18/06/22 07:29 PM
2

You are taking the wrong lesson from this. Likelihood of success is relative. The key takeaway is that more opportunities equates to higher chance of success. You come across as super desperate and pedantic. Not trying to be rude, but it’s clear that you’re bitter. I think that eventually those attributes will fade, and then you’ll start seeing some actual success.
/r/seduction18/06/22 06:39 PM
3

Super interesting post. Appreciate you making it. I’m in big law and work with all the big funds. Dying to know which one you’re at. Feels kind of like an Elliot move to me.
/r/seduction18/06/22 04:53 PM
1

Kind of a silly question. Obviously there is no magic number. More is better. Think of it like buying lottery tickets.
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:40 PM
1

To answer your post: it’s just a numbers game. You have to put yourself in social situations where you’re likely to meet girls. The more you interact with, the better. But I think there’s something more important to address: your height. There is nothing wrong with it. You are not short. Girls certainly don’t think you’re as short as you do. Yes, there are some girls that prefer taller guys, but there are also some who prefer shorter and probably the majority don’t really care either way dependi…
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:32 AM
2

I’ve actually found most chicks to be pretty straightforward. No more or less than guys, all things being equal.
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:24 AM
3

Agree with this timeline.
/r/seduction16/06/22 09:45 PM
3

It’s a moot point given the update, but I think this is way too wordy and awkward. Highlighting her “figuring out her schedule to go out with me” kind of comes across as salty. I’d say something like - hey sorry already made plans, how about [day]?
/r/seduction16/06/22 09:33 PM
1

I think that’s a good idea.
/r/seduction16/06/22 09:30 PM
1

I think you should text her a couple of times in the interim. Just to remind her you exist and to give her a reason to believe you’re interested. You have a 7 day gap, so maybe 2-3 texts separated by a couple days each. Nothing big, just little bs. Something relevant to an inside joke or maybe a meme.
/r/seduction16/06/22 09:04 PM
2

lol at “Hispanic woman from the taco place.” That aside, your post is pretty hard to follow and it kind of seems like you’re going through an episode of mania. I think you need to calm down. You ended on a question so I’ll try to answer it: you should do what makes sense to you. Idk what you’re trying to convey when you say taking a house or a woman, but if you see someone you like then you should talk to them. Don’t hold yourself to some kind of numbers game, just chill and do what makes sense …
/r/seduction16/06/22 08:54 PM
1

Lol dude do you like watch movies and try to emulate the characters? You sound like someone with no real world social experience. But my offer still stands. Pick a bar and show me how it’s done.
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:10 PM
1

Lmao there is no doubt in my mind this is a troll account - what a weird fucking thing to do. You’re literally all over every post with ridiculous shit. I live right outside midtown; I’ll pay for your drinks all night to watch you go up to girls and say you’re a sex pervert. Pick a bar dude lmao
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:39 AM
4

Absolutely not, 30 minutes is nothing. Horrible advice. Just let it go naturally. If things start to feel stale then call it a night. If you’re both having fun, keep going. I find the average for both first and second dates to be a few hours. This is assuming you’re getting drinks.
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:32 PM
2

Yeah, that’s what I would do. Ask how the party was. Say you did something fun on Sunday. But fall back a bit. Don’t let it be awkward. You’re in control, just don’t feel awkward and move past it. It takes time to develop that mindset, but it helps. Never be controlling, but always be in control.
/r/seduction14/06/22 02:59 PM
1

Yeah, the emojis make more sense in the context of a language barrier. I wouldn’t call her out; I don’t see any benefit to that. Either you’re right and she’s still not interested or you’re wrong and now you look needy. Agree with you on the vacation front. She probably very consciously doesn’t want to make the whole trip about some guy. Just roll with it and see how she acts by the end of the week and you’ll have your answer.
/r/seduction14/06/22 02:35 PM
3

This is just me, personally, so take it with a grain of salt. I think you use wayyyy too many emojis. I use like one every 5 texts at most. I also think you just say too many words via text. I would dial that back a bit. In terms of what to do next, I think you should fall back a bit. See how she’s acts throughout the week. If she doesn’t mention hanging out, float it again on like Friday. If it works, great. I’d never mention her ignoring the initial invite. If it doesn’t, move on. My rationale…
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:23 PM
3

Totally agree with this post. I don’t think canned “lines” will ever really work. It has to be contextual and tailor made for that person. And it definitely can’t be anywhere near as creepy as the examples you listed. It’s really just about talking to people and being witty.
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:14 PM
2

His name wasn’t Herman lmao
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:09 PM
1

Ya lol keep deriving sweeping conclusions from zero evidence, dummy. Super low self esteem and it shows.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:26 AM
36

I don’t understand the hugging lol
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:15 AM
1

Which is a ridiculous position to take
/r/seduction14/06/22 04:29 AM
2

Lmao you have literally nothing to base that on. Just straight hating.
/r/seduction14/06/22 02:00 AM
2

Lolol a fine subterfuge, I hope it works!
/r/seduction13/06/22 11:53 PM
2

A massager for, as far as they’re concerned, multiple strange pussies!
/r/seduction13/06/22 11:23 PM
7

I can see this if you’re in a relationship, but absolutely fucking not do not bust out a fucking vibrator with a casual hookup lmao. First of all, you look pretty creepy. More importantly, they’re instantly going to think it’s dirty af and has been used on other girls. It’s fucking weird, do not do this lol
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:07 PM
3

Thanks for making me convert your bs Euro measurements to freedom units. Honestly a lot has been said here and I feel like you really aren’t going to have a tough time as you get older (assuming the accuracy of your reporting). I would add two things: Be more social. With everyone: guys, girls, young, old, etc. Just strike up little conversations wherever you go, doesn’t have to be substantive. Try to focus on being witty. I interact with a ton of people every day just going about my life and I’…
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:01 PM
1

You may have said this elsewhere, but what’s your height/weight/race/location?
/r/seduction02/06/22 08:51 PM
0

The offer is also open for dick pics
/r/seduction29/05/22 05:15 AM
6

You’ll never mog anyone
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:13 AM
-4

Go ahead and message me one and I’ll do the same. My body pic is already in my posts. I won’t publish face pics - I promise I have way more interest in anonymity than you do lol I’ll report back to this group with an unbiased assessment.
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:07 AM
17

Post the pics cuz, put your money where your mouth is.
/r/seduction28/05/22 10:48 PM
3

Agree they like to know that, but it’s a bit much to demonstrate that by inviting them both to the same event. Comes across as socially awkward. Again if it happened to me, I wouldn’t give them another chance. Too weird for my taste.
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:44 PM
5

No, the second. Totally agree with dating around. But inviting them both to the same event honestly comes across as kind of weird imo. If a girl did that to me, I’d think she was weird and just avoid her.
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:18 PM
6

It has never happened to me, although I’m sure you’re right that it does happen. But what I’m saying is that you should at least consider how you’d feel in that context when considering doing it to someone else. Personally, if a girl did that to me I’d just politely leave and then never talk to her again. It would strike me as pretty rude.
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:11 PM
24

This is all true and logical, but I think you should also contemplate how you’d feel if a girl invited you and another guy to the same event. Contemplate further what the comments here would look like in response to a post relaying such story.
/r/seduction28/05/22 05:27 PM
1

You don’t sound terrible. But don’t do it. Give the relationship a fair chance. And don’t do that to her. She’ll be hurt if she finds out. Don’t be someone’s worst memory.
/r/seduction21/04/22 02:44 PM
1

Some girls are like that, they never text first. It’s not all bad. It lets you control when you talk. It all happens on your terms. I’ll look at your other post, but I get it. Can be kind of awkward going in for a kiss. A few drinks usually takes that edge off. I think it’s also helpful to just assume she wants it. And if she rebuffs your attempt, don’t let that bother you. It’s totally fine.
/r/seduction06/04/22 04:21 AM
1

You wouldn’t ask her that if you told her she could be there, which is what OP did. I also wouldn’t describe that as a game. She’s clearly telling OP what it is: “I am not interested in touching you, but I am interested in sleeping here.” If anything OP was playing games. Totally agree consent isn’t static. Idt there’s anything wrong with taking a couple of bites at the apple. But consistently saying no is not a mixed message lmao. And I also think that eventually you have to know when to stop. …
/r/seduction06/04/22 03:27 AM
1

I’m not trying to make you hopeful lol I’m trying to explain to you why you’re objectively wrong. You’re not helping yourself. It’s okay that you never learned to socialize. But when someone who did tells you to be more light and playful and your response is “I’m just not into it,” that’s something different. That’s willful, intentional ignorance. That’s actively taking steps to ensure that you fail. Also, don’t place so much emphasis on being “normal” or whatever. Let your own quirks come to th…
/r/seduction06/04/22 12:26 AM
1

Totally agree with you on the biological front. Not much you can do to change it. But that’s a small piece of the pie. And the vast majority is in your hands. You might not be a light and playful person, but you’re choosing not to act like one. I don’t like working all day. I don’t like going to the gym. But I do it. You get to choose. You’re clearly not happy with the way things are going for you now, so why not change it up? What do you have to lose? It’s really just a matter of busting balls.…
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:58 PM
3

It sounds like you should take that PUA stuff and dial it back about 90%. You’re going too hard in that direction. It’s probably coming across as inauthentic and they pick up on it immediately. I personally have never looked into the PUA stuff, but it’s probably all predicated kernels of wisdom. And that’s all they are, kernels. Don’t try to make that your whole identity. And on that note, work on your identity! It’s not too late to figure out who you are. And it’s not a bad thing if that takes …
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:55 PM
1

We all have to fuck around and be playful to have sex. But Don’t just be light and playful. Be savvy enough to understand what you have to present to get what you want. We’re all wearing masks. It’s 100% in your hands. It’s what you make of it.
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:06 PM
2

It’s not really about drama, it’s more so just being light and playful. Definitely dial it back with the compliments/validation. In fact I typically don’t give any physical compliments until the second date unless we end up hooking up before that (which is something I almost never do). But dude, why are you being so hard on yourself? I know everyone has their own shit going on and it might not be so easy to snap out of it sometimes. But try to just put that all down for a bit. I bet it’s bleedin…
/r/seduction05/04/22 09:52 PM
2

Yeah dude honestly that’s a pretty backwards way of looking at it lol. She told OP she wasn’t interested in getting physical and he still said yes, she could sleep over. He made the call. And it’s not like she asked in some flirtatious context lol she just realized at that moment she had no way home at 1 am. I mean I’d ask if I could sleep there too depending on how far from home I was. That doesn’t mean I’d let OP fuck me. There aren’t any conflicting messages at all. Zero. She told him at leas…
/r/seduction05/04/22 08:19 PM
2

Can you figure out some independent reason to text her? Like if she talked about something a lot or you busted her balls about something, can you “coincidentally” come across that thing and send her a pic and say something like, “aren’t you the one who’s obsessed with X” or whatever. Or maybe it’s like you’re just happened to pass by where you went last time. Just a pic and a quick comment - the notion is you bumped into something that reminded you of her. Then assuming she just responds normall…
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:58 PM
8

I don’t think this is right at all. She wasn’t fucking with him lmao she made clear early on she’s not doing anything physical. More importantly, it was 1 am and she had no way home. She wanted a place to sleep. Someone not wanting to fuck you within 12 hours of meeting you isn’t trouble, games, or a red flag. Not saying OP did anything wrong here. Just that she didn’t either. Although it sounds like OP should have backed off way earlier. If a girl refused to even kiss me then I wouldn’t try to …
/r/seduction05/04/22 12:21 PM
6

Just treat her normally. Maybe don’t try so hard because she’s a little more experienced and will see through it. A little nuance might help here more than with younger girls. Just take her out for a drink and entertain her the way your normally would. She’s still just another person. One thing I’d note though: I wouldn’t exactly qualify 35 as “older” (although I understand she certainly is restive to you). But she is in the sweet spot for wanting commitment and kids, so keep that in mind.
/r/seduction31/03/22 05:30 PM
1

Oh no lol I meant the male bartender complimented me on the girl I was with - like said she’s hot. I’m probably slightly above average at best in terms of looks.
/r/seduction31/03/22 12:35 AM
1

Yeah, not super model caliber by any means, but definitely hot. Bartender complimented me on the last one, so that was a good sign lol
/r/seduction31/03/22 12:15 AM
2

I’m just saying Idt I’m top even 15% and I’ve had success
/r/seduction30/03/22 11:16 PM
1

I’ve had pretty good success just using tinder casually. Very low effort. But I’m in nyc, so that’s probably a big factor.
/r/seduction30/03/22 11:15 PM
2

Idk, I live in NYC and don’t find dating to be very difficult. And I only use tinder
/r/seduction19/03/22 04:45 PM
3

Are you considering that maybe you’ve conflated your feelings for her with her feelings for you? Sometimes you like someone and have a good time and just assume the other person is feeling the same way. And since you like her, you subtly act in different ways which prompts her to respond in such a way that you assume she likes you the same. I’ve been there. It’s hard to guard against.
/r/seduction19/03/22 04:37 PM
2

I think you should be a little honest with yourself: you’re a little bit jealous of him. Which is totally fine! You should be jealous of people who are succeeding; it drives you to be better yourself. So with that in mind, don’t worry about putting him in his place. Instead, worry about elevating your own place. And it sounds like you’re working on that, so keep it up. And in the meantime, just be happy for your friend. Maybe his success is transient, maybe it’s not, but it has no impact on what…
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:47 PM
5

You’re 28. Don’t give yourself a final destination before you’ve even had your first stop. Don’t kill yourself. Take a breather from all this stuff and don’t force yourself to think you should be doing something that doesn’t resonate with you. You’re going to hit your stride and you’ll look back on this post and feel extremely silly. I only have one piece of advice for you: stop trying so hard. Take it easy, it’ll work itself out. The second you actually step back, things will fall into place. J…
/r/seduction03/03/22 04:18 AM
6

You don’t need professional help. It takes different amounts of time for different people. That being said, you could probably speed the process up by talking to a new girl. Also, don’t say “never again.” It’s perfectly fine to get and act on feelings for other people, coworkers included. You know how many people meet their spouses at work? This one rejected you. It won’t be the first time. It’ll happen again and it’ll hurt again, but that’s okay. Because sometimes it’ll hit and that’s what make…
/r/seduction02/03/22 05:55 AM
2

Don’t mention going to your place. Just say, “Got any plans this weekend? Let’s grab a drink one night”
/r/seduction15/02/22 02:47 AM
1

Text that girl right now.
/r/seduction15/02/22 02:07 AM
1

Tell her no worries. And then actually don’t worry about it. Don’t be cold or mad or whatever else. Pretend like there are 3 others who can easily take her place. Go back to chatting normally and set up a bee date in the normal course.
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:38 PM
1

You’re not wrong that the ones who are down will make it easy. But shit isn’t binary. It’s not they’re down or they’re not. Maybe they dk. Maybe it fluctuates. Maybe they were and then some other guy came into the picture. Like she’s a girl, you know a bunch of guys are trying. Imagine if you had 5 girls trying to hook up with you, all reasonably equivalent. Would you be holding out for that one rando you talked to 2 weeks ago, or would you go with the chick who’s hitting you up right now and is…
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:34 PM
1

Here’s a quick story I think is insightful. I matched with a girl on tinder about a month ago. Chatted very briefly, I gave her my number and told her to text me. She said okay. Later that night, no text. I’m back on tinder, I message her again just continuing our convo. She says oh sorry, I forgot to text, and then texts me. I set up drinks with her and we chat normal, she’s interested but honestly I’m the one who has to text first every day. And that’s fine with me, it means I control the cade…
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:29 PM
1

I mean it really depends on your dynamic but I would keep it crisp. Maybe start with something about tinder like, “lmao saw you on tinder, I’m awaiting my super like” and follow that up with “let’s grab a drink Friday” or whatever day.
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:21 PM
1

Hit her up. You’re overthinking this and most of the comments here are a bit too egocentric. Let’s be real - she’s a single girl on tinder; a bunch of guys are hitting her up. Unless you are a 10 or super rich or something similar, you’re just not special. That’s okay, neither am I. But she’s going to go with the path of least resistance and fuck the guy that hits her up. Don’t worry about “holding her to her word” or “double texting” or whatever. Your goal is to fuck her. That won’t happen by s…
/r/seduction14/02/22 04:16 PM
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